Tulsa Family News, October 15-November 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 11

Title

Tulsa Family News, October 15-November 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 11

Subject

Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities.

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Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9).

The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level.

This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission.

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Tulsa Family News

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Publisher

Tom Neal

Date

October 15-September 14, 1996

Contributor

Mac Guru
James Christjohn
Phyl Boler-Schmidt
Barry Hensley
Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche
Steven Scott
Gerald Miller
Lance Brittain
Kerry Lewis

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Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News

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Tulsa Family News, September 15-October, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 10

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English

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https://history.okeq.org/items/show/528

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Oct. 15 - Nov. 14, 1996, vol. 3, no. 11
Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual & Trans Communities
Clinton Signs DOMA
WASHINGTON (AP)- President Bill Clinton signed
the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) into
law shortly after the Senate. He made his official September
20 written statement on the matter public at a
campaign stop in South Dakota and signed the bill upon
his return to the White House. Clinton said thatDOMA
would allow each state to make its owndecision regarding
the legitimacy of same-gender marriages and also
establish a federal definition of marriage.
Emphasizing that it would not impact existing or
future civil rights protections fromdiscriminationbased
on sexual orientation, Clinton wanted to be dear that
DOMA should not be "an excuse for discrimination,
violence or intimidation against any person." He also
called on the Co~igress to pass the Employment Non-
DiscriminationAct(ENDA) inits nextsession. Through
procedural maneuvering, ENDA came to a vote in the
¯ I
PLWA’s Iindict HIVRC
Care Org, May Be In
Violation ofOK Statutes
Senate alongside DOMA on September 10 only to be
defeated by a single vote. " much need for too few funds, and speaks of her staff as. greatly
Clinton ’L~~1l,~1~g~| ||’~.....
ov~orked.; deeply cariii~-iii-di~i~lual~. DUeto Client confide~tiality,
obligations of the agency (and of TFN to our sources), very little
WASHINGTON (AP) - When it was first displayed in
the nation"s capital in 1988, the AIDS quilt was about
a city block long. With eight more years of deaths from
the .epidemic, the colorful patchwork remembering the
vlcums now stretches nearly a mile from the Washington
Monument to the foot of the Capitol. Even so, the
full quilt -- on display this weekend for the first time in
four years -- commemorates only about 11 percent of
.Americans who have died from AIDS.
The quilt, bearing the names of more than 70,000
people on 38,000 panels, is the centerpiece of dozens of
weekend events sponsored by several groups, designed
to again focus attention on the epidemic. Hundred~ of
thousands of people are expected to see the quilt over
the long Columbus Day weekend.
Friendly crowds greeted President Clinton and his
wife I-Iillary Rodham Clinton when they strolled, sometimes
handin hand, through sections ofthe sun-dappled
quilt in late afternoon. The Clintons, both with somber
expressions, stopped for a minute or more to inspect
several individual quilt panels. Returning briefly to
campaign mode, Clinton waved to the crowd as he
walked back to his car.
Earlier Friday, with throngs see Quilt, page 11
COMING SOON!
Leather + Healing-Workshops,
Our House Craft
by Tom Neal, TFN editor
Several persons living with AIDS (PLWA’s) have come forward
with allegations ofmismanagement, poor performance, and claims of
bias or retaliation against clients at the HIV Resource Consortium
(HIVRC). The Consortium is a primary source for housing, medical
and other aid to PLWA’s and is also a United Way agency.
The clients (most of whom requested anonymity for fear of future
harassment from the agency and who contacted TFN individually
over a.several month period) voice similar complaints. Many of these
center onHOPWA, afederal programintended to assistPLWA’s with
their housing costs. Most of the complaints allege an inability by the
HIVRC to write checks to landlords in a timely fashion. Typically, the
clients’ rent is due on the 1st and these PLWA’s pay their share on
time, only to find that the HIVRC has not paid its share until late in the
month. As aresult, somePLWA’shavebeen charged late fees, or even
served with eviction notices.
One client, who did not fear to be identified, Bruce Begley, noted
that the uncertainties about housing increase the stress that PLWA’s
are already living with to the detriment of their health. Another client,
JR Pilant, who is legally fully disabled by HIV/AIDS, tells of having
to pawn many of his belongings just to keep himself from being
thrown out on the street this month.
Begley and other clients allege that that agency Staff threaten clients
with reduced or no services unless the client acts in a manner the staff
wishes. Begley also states that he has requested a copy of his own
HIVRC file for months now, even hiring an attorney to get the
agency’s cooperation but with no success up to the time he was
interviewed.
Another client characterizes the HIVRC as "most definitely not"
client-centered. He gives an example of a therapy support group in
which he claims the facilitator spends 2/3 or 3/4 of the time lecturing
the clients rather than letting the clients discuss their issues. This
client notes that although the group is all Gay men, thefacilitator (who
is not Gay) tries to squelch any discussion of issues of sexuality.
Agency chief,~ Sharon Thoele, in a 3+1/2 hour interview, paints a
different picture. She characterizes the problems as coming from too
discussion about specific eases was possible. Thoele spoke oftheneed
to get the state ofOklahomato begin to allocate adequate state funding
for HIV/AIDS. She noted that the state’s contribution to HIV/AIDS
is only $206,000, an amount see HIVRC, page 11
Health Org. Fears Rape
Drug Now in Gay Clubs
HOPE, HIVOutreach, Prevention, Education staffandTulsa Police
are advising Gay and Lesbian citizens to exercise caution in public
situations where their drinks, alcoholic or otherwise, could be tampered
with rohypnal, the so-called date rape drug. HOPE staff have
received several reports by individuals in Tulsa who claim they were
drugged and then sexually assaulted. Tulsa police advise citizens not
to let anyone buy them a drink and to watch bartenders acttmlly make
the drink. The police add that if they have to leave see Drug, page 3
BOO BASH! RAIN, Regional AIDS Interfaith Network will hold its Boo Bash
costume party fundraiser at the Silver Star on Oct. 26. see Boo, p. 3
TULSAN TO LEAD PFLAG
Bazaar, OK Mr. Leather®,
Red Ribbon Treefest, Pride
of Joplin, IAM Spirituality
Forum, Youth Leadership
Tulsa, Sunday at the Center
+ more. see Community Notes, page 10
Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays, known around the
world as PFLAG, have just elected
Tulsa Chapter co-founder Nancy
McDonald to serve as president of the
national organization’s board ofdirectors.
Ms. McDonald, known by some
in the Tulsa Lesbian and Gay commuuity
as Saint McDonald for her passionate
and tireless commitment to
Gay & Lesbian, and HIV/AIDS issues,
replaces Mitzi Henderson of
Menlo Park, California. PFLAG now
has members and chapters through out
the United States.
: Organizers ofTulsa’s new Pride Center will
¯ hold an open house on Sat. Nov. 2 at 7pro. ¯
While HOPE staff are moving into their of-
" rices before the 2nd, minor repairs to the
: buildingmechauical systems have delayed the
formal opening. Info: 743-4297.
New Pride.Center in Gay-friendly.Brookside
: Walk for Life Raises 8K
: Although many of the Walkfor Life’s usual
¯ supporters were in DC for the the Quilt, orga-
¯
uizers Beverly Stanley and Steve Eberle were
¯ pleased with the results of the 10/12 event
: which raised $7,433 with a pledge still ex-
¯ pected from the Band-AID event from last
¯ May of $1,000 for a total of $8,433.
¯ Several Walk teams and individuals were
¯ recognizedwithawards: PhiThetaKappamem- ¯
bets from several communitycolleges,includ_
~ ing Tulsa Community College and West At-
: kansas Community College. Also recognized
¯ weretheScottRobisonPharmacyDreamTeam ¯
(the pharmacy were also corporate sponsors
" with radio station KRAV), Charles Faudree’s
Team ofHappy Feet, Sam Majors-Hardy for
his volunteer work, Jimmy Flowers who re-
" ceived the Foot with a Lot of Soul award and
¯ Herbert Lewis who was again this year’s top
¯ individual fundraiser.
HOPE Benefit
Halloween Nite
I-INSIDE ¯
EDITORIAL/LETTERS/DI RECTORY
¯ COMMUNITY PHOTOS
¯" NEWS BRIEFS
¯ HIV/AIDS & THE LAW
ENTERTAINMENT
¯ CALENDAR
COMMUNITY NOTES
¯ EUREKA HAPPENINGS BOOK REVIEW/MEANT TO BE FIT
¯ RESTAURANT REVIEW MINDSPACE
CLASSIFIEDS
GaycomedianJason Stuartwillbe at the Tulsa
Comedy Club Oct. 30- Nov. 3.
P. 2
P. 3
P. 4
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918.583.1248 Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal
Entertainment Writer + Mac Guru:
fax: 583.4615 James Christj0hn
POB 4140 Writers + contributors:
Tulsa, Oklahoma Phyl Boler-sehmidt, Barry Hensley
74159-0140 Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche
Steven Scott. Gerald Miller,
TulsaNews@aol.com Lance Brittain. Kerry Lewis
Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the~entire contents of this publication
are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be
reproduced either in whole or in part~th~i~iit written permission from the publisher.
Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation.
Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be
signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence
should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each
edition at distribution points. Additional e0pies are available by calling 583-1248.
The Good, The Bad and The Ugly
Editor’s note: this is the first opinion piece in an irregular
.series focusing on local issues for Lesbian, Gay, Bi and Trans
people, ourfamilies andfriends. Over several years ofpublish,
ing, reports ofbias incidents, sadly, more negative thanpositive,
have come to our attention. The goal is to let you know what’s
going on so that you can decide what action, ifany, to takefor
yourselJ. You may agree with our assessment; you may not. You
may want to contact the "’offending" entity; you may not. You
may want to write to us, disagreeing or agreeing. We welcome
yourfeedback. The bottom linefor us is to get involved and care
about our community. We do.
Wake up and smell the coffe!! Local coffee chain Java
Dave’s used to be rather Gay friendly, especially at the 15th &
Peoria and Brookside locations. But more than a year ago,
according to a Java Dave’s employee, owner Dave Neighbors
received a call like this: "Dave, I’ll like to bring my. family down
to 15th & Peoria, when are the ’faggots’ not there?" Since that
: time, flyers, information, and newspapers fromjust our eommu-
¯ nity have been banned by Java Dave’s, although any and all
¯ information from almost anyone else in Tulsa is welcome. Java
: Dave’s staff claims that Gay people are still welcome. It appears
¯ to us that we’re welcome as long as we’re not too visible, or we
¯¯ don’t get uppity and actually want to be treated equally to other
customers. In our opinion, the coffee’s better atGold Coast, 35th
¯ justoffPeoriawherewe’rereallywelcome.I’lltakemycupofjoe
¯ without a helping ofbias. Thankyou. ¯
Want to letDaveknow whatyouthink? Call Executive Coffee
¯
Service at 836-5557 or better, fax them at 835-4348.
: Brookside by Day has long had a Gay following, but most
¯ probably don’t know that the restaurant’s owner, Kyle Phillips, ¯
was accused of serious harassment of his former next-door
: neighbors who were highly regarded professionals, and by the
: way, also Lesbian.
¯ The dispute appears to have begun with typical neighbor sorts
: of conflict. The situation escalated see Watch; thispage
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine 832-1269
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896
*Lola’s, 2630 E. i5th 749-1563
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria 749-451’1
*’St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 33221-L E. 31st 745-9998
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan’ " 834-4234
*Samson & Delilah, 10 E. Fifth. 585-2221
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S.Main 585-3405
*TNT’s, 2114 S._Memorial . 660-0856
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd - ... 584-1308
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134
Tulsa Businesses,, Services, & Professionals
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor :~ 746-4620
*Assoc. in Med.& MeAtal Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Assoei~ates; Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
Brookside Jewelry, 46~9; So. Peoria 743-5272
*Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521
Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates
1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning; Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556
Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595
Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial 622-3636
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
Express Pools & Spas, 6310 S. Peoria 743-9994
Foxlinx, Computer Consultation 690-2974
l_z~me M. Gross, Financial Planning 744-0102
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
Imaginations, Lincoln:Plaza, 15th & Peoria 58a. a.606
*international Tours " 341-6866
JD Images, Photography 621-5597
Kerfs Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 14011, 74159 747-5466
Loup-Garou, 2747 E. 15 .742-1992
Lean Ann Macomber, Realtor Associate 671-2010
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31st 663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 P1 664-2951
*Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard 747-6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672
Pet Pride, Dog & Cat Grooming 584-7554
Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626
*Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337
*Scribner’ s Bookstore, 1942 Utic,a Square 749-6301
Scott Robison’ s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations 743-2351
Southwest Viatical 747-3322, 800-305-6384
Thomas Chiropractic, 4138 S. Harvard; Ste. C-1 742-8868
KellieJ. Watts~ attorney : _ 493~1959 405:840-FACE (3223)
: Fred Welch, LCSW; Counseling 743=1733
: Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
¯ AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 1071, 74101-1071 579,9593
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 583-7314
*Bless The Lord... Christian Center, 2627b E. 11 628-0594
*B/L/G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr: 583-9780
~Chapman StudentCtr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI. & Florence
*CommunityofHope UnitedMethodist, 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800
Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595.
Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay.Catholics/Episeopal. 298-4648
*Family ofFaith MCC, .545.1-E So. Mingo . 622-i441
*Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
*Free SpiritWomens Center, call for location &info: 587-4669
Friend ForAFriend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
¯ Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-American mens group)
¯ POB 8542, 74101, Call c/o TOHR @ 742-2927
: Indian Health Care, Save the Nation 58"! "!983
: Interfaith AIDS MiniStries 438-2437, 800-284,2437
¯ *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplew0od 838-1715
¯
*HIV Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 749-4194
: NAMES PROJECF, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 748-3111
¯ *our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960
: PFLAG , POB 52800,. 74152 749-4901
¯
*Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 58%7674
¯ Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 583-1410
¯ *R~A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
." Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 665-5174
¯
St. Jerome’s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, 646-7116
¯ *Shanti Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services 749-7898
¯ Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, POB 2687, 74101 743-4297
: Technicians, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
: T.U.L.S.A~ TulsaUniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
: *Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor
¯ *Tulsa Community College, Metro & NE Campuses
¯ *University Center at Tulsa
EUREKA SPRINGS
Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy 23 South 501-253-7734
Beaver Dam Store, i/2mi. N. ofDam Hwy. 187 501-253-6154
*Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457
DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807
*Emerald Rainbow, 45 &1/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445
Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776
King’ s Hi-Way,96Kings Highway,Hwy. 62W 800-23 1-1442
MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337
McClung Realtors 501-253-9682
Positive Idea Marketing Hans 501-253-2401
Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659 800-624-6646
Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001
The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281
OKLAHOMA CITY
Face Beautiful Euroclinical Day Spa, 7108 N. Western, Ste. D2
¯ cently picked up your publication. I was
: impressed withthe informativeness ofthe
¯ paper and learned a great deal, hopefully,
: it "broadened my horizons."
: I wouldlike to makeacommentregard-
¯ ing the article on San Francisco Giants
pitcher, Mark Dewey. I make this state-
" ment based only on what I read in your
." paper, as I had not heard of the incident
¯ prior. I realizeit must be frustrating when
¯ there are individuals who publicly oppose
: your views, however, I think we all need
¯ to understand we all should have that
¯ right. Just as you ask theAmerican public
: to understand your right to have an alter:
: hate lifestyle (in their eyes) we must also
¯ recognize the rights of people opposed to
¯ our views. Had Dewy been violent or
¯
displayed unnecessary hostility concern--
: ing his beliefs, I would say he was wrong,
¯ but all he did was refuse to participate in ¯
an event that was contrary to his beliefs.
: He has that rightjust the same as you and
: Ido.
: Along this train of thought, the Gay
¯ community members do not want to lose
¯ their jobs or careers over their beliefs,
: therefore, why should Dewey lose his job
¯ for his beliefs? I hope I have made my
: point without angering anyone, because
: that is. not my intention. I just feel that
: both viewpoints should be allowed to be
¯ expressed without hate, violence, judg-
: meat 0g 10ss of carex~-r Status. In addition
¯ . from what I read in your paper, that is
: what theGay commuuity desires as well.
¯ Is that aeorrect impression?
¯ Again, I would like to express my ap-
." preciation for several well written infor-
¯ mative articles.,
¯ Good job! - Lynelle Dawson
I am a heterosexual woman that re-
¯ with Phillips andhis wifeverbally harass-
: ing the women using Specifically anti-
: Lesbian epitaphs.
¯ At one point, Phillips allegedly engaged
¯ in physical violence, with the result that
: court-ordered mediators instructed
: Phillips and his wife to "cease and desist"
¯ all of their harassing actions. The victims
: finallymoved, notjustfrom theirhome of
.: many years, but completely out of state.
: Our two cents? We like the food at
¯ Route 66 - where Gay &Lesbian people
: get just the same as everyone else: good
¯ food that’s worth the wait for a table.
: School Bond Election: In our last is-
: sue, you may have noticed a letter to the
¯ editor urging folks to vote against the
: school bond election. What’s significant
¯ about that letter was that it was the only
: communication from either side of the
: issue to eommuuity media or organiza-
¯ fions.AlthoughtheorganizersoftheVote
: Yes campaign include Mayor Savage,
: Barbara Gardner, pres. of the Tulsa
¯ ChamberofCommerce, and others who
: actually know that there really are, gee,
: Gay people in Tulsa, the Yes organizers
¯ managed to run a totally Gay-free cam-
: paign.
¯ As far as we can determine, although
: mailings were donetoeommtmityorgani-
." zatious offering Yes editorials and speak-
¯. see Watch, page 7
-~ast with Friends organizers relax after the .capacity
crowd at the Doubletree Downtown made the benefitfor
THE NAMES PROJECT a success.
Members of Tulsa’s Native American Gay & Bi men’s
group at the Doubletree NAMES PROJECTevent.
their drink alone for any~me, thenjust to get ano.th_er one.
q’FN visited with seve~ Tulsa club owners who expressed
their commitment to insure their patrons’ safety.
Kathy Bird, E. Okla. Coordinator for RAIN, Regiona-I
AIDS Interfaith Ministries displays this year’s holiday
tree ornament that RAIN will be usingforfundraising.
Comedian Suzanne Westenhoefer, who wowed them at
the PAC, is joined by representatives andfriends of the
event’s beneficiary, Black&WhiteCharities.From left to
right: Jeff Wheeler; Steve Wright, Suzanne, Neel Zink,
Mark Lackey of Cnisine by Design, and Kristi Abeny.
Other sponsors include Central Park Condominiums,
Tim Williams Catering, and The Wild Fork. Central
Park’s Andy~Osborn.provided a display and information
on the condo,miniu.~ renovation proJec.~_ . .
Summer may be over but Tulsa’s Lesbian and Gay volley
ball league is stillmeeting. You canfind them atHelmerich
Park, 71st & Riverside on Saturdays at 2pm.
Some of the Walk for Life participants join organize~
Beverly Stanley after the event in Boulder Park.
Prizes will be awarded and a light buffet will be served
also. RAIN provides HIV/AIDS education & volunteer
care teams fromfaith communities for pLWA!s.
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918.583.1248 Publisher + Ed~0r: Tom Neal
fax: 583.4615 Entertainment ~writer + Mac Guru: James Christjthn
PUB 4140 Writers + contributors:
Tulsa, Oklahoma Phyl Boler-Schmidt, Barry Hensley
74159-0140 Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche
Steven Scott, Gerald Miller,
TulsaNews@aol.com Lance Bdttain, Kerry Lewis
Issued on or before the 15th of each month, th6 entire contents of this publication
are protected by US copyright 1.~9~6,hy Tuls.a Family News and may not be
reproduced either in whole or in pa~%ifli~Ut written permission from the publisher.
Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation.
Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be
signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence
should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each
edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248.
The Good, The Bad and The Ugly
Editor’s note: this is the first opinion piece in an irregular
series focusing on local issues for Lesbian, Gay, Bi and Trans
people, ourfamilies andfriends. Over several years ofpublishing,
reports ofbias incidents, sadly, more negative thanpositive,
have come to our attention. The goal is to le! you know what’s
going on so that you can decide what action, ifany, to takefor
yourselJ. You may agree with our assessment; you may not. You
may want to contact the "offending’" entity; you may not. You
may want to write to us, disagreeing or agreeing. We welcome
yourfeedback. The bottom linefor us is to get involved and care
about our community. We do.
Wake up and smell the coffe!! Local coffee chain Java
Dave’s used to be rather Gay friendly, especially at the 15th &
Peoria and Brookside locations. But more than a year ago,
according to a Java Dave’s employee, owner Dave Neighbors
received a call like this: "Dave, I’ll like to bring my. family down
to 15th & Peoria, when arc the ’faggots’ not there?"- Since that
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630 E. i5th
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
~St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3322bL E. 31st
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Samson & Delil,ah, 10 E. Fifth
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Mai’n
*TNT’s, 2114 S._Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston ’
832-1269
744-0896
749-1563
749-451’1
745-9998
834-4234
585-2221
"585-3405
660=0856
584-1308
585:3 i3J€
Tulsa Busin_esses,. Services, & Professionals
Dennis C. Amold~ Realtor. ¯ 746-4620
*Assoc. in Med.& Mehtal Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates; Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksdlers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
Br.ookside Jewelry, 4649’ So. Peoria 743-5272
*Creative Collection, 152i E. 15 592-1521
Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates
1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney - 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556
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: time, flyers, information, and newspapers fromjust our commu-
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¯ information from almost anyone else in Tulsa is welcome. Java ¯
Dave’s staff claims that Gay people are still welcome. It appears
: to us that we’re welcome as long as we’re not too visible, or we
¯ don’t get uppity and actually want to be treated equally to other
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Want to letDaveknow what youthink? Call Executive Coffee
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¯ Brookside by Day has long had a Gay following, but most
¯ probably don’t know that the restaurant’s owner, Kyle Phillips,
: was accused of serious harassment of his former next-door
¯ neighbors who were highly regarded professionals, and by the
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I am a heterosexual woman that recently
picked up your publication. I was
impressed with theinformativeness ofthe
paper and learned a great deal, hopefully;
it "broadened my horizons."
I wouldlike tomakeacommentregarding
the article on San Francisco Giants
pitcher, Mark Dewey. I make this statement
based only on what I read in your
paper, as I had not heard of the incident
prior. I realize it must be frustrating when
there are individuals who publicly oppose
your views, however, I think we all need
to understand we all should have that
right. Just as you ask theAmerican public
to understand your right to have an alternate
lifestyle (in their eyes) we must also
reeoggi."ze the rights of people opposed to
our wews. Had Dewy been violent or
displayed unnecessary hostility concerning
his beliefs, I would say he was wrong,
but all he did was refuse to participate in
an event that was contrary to his beliefs.
Hehas that rightjust the same as you and
Ido.
Along this train of thought, the Gay
community members do not want to lose
their jobs or careers over their beliefs,
therefore, why should Dewey lose his job
for his beliefs? I hope I have made my
point without angering anyone, because
that is. not my intention. I just feel that
both viewpoints should be allowed to be
expressed without hate, violence judgment
o~ loss of career status. In addition
from what I read in ~our paper, that is
what the Gay community desires as well.
Is that a correct impression?
Again, I would like to express my appreciation
for several well written informative
articles..
Good
with Phillips and his wifeverbally harassing
the women using Specifically anti-
Lesbian epitaphs.
At one point, Phillips allegedly engaged
in physical violence, with the result that
court-ordered mediators instructed
Phillips and his wife to "cease and desist"
all of their harassing actions. The victims
finallymoved, notjnstfrom theirhome of
many years, but completely out of state.
Our two cents? We like the food at
Route 66 - where Gay &Lesbian people
get just the same as everyone else: good
food that’ s worth the wait for a table.
School Bond Election: In our last issue,
you may have noticed a letter to the
editor urging folks to vote against the
school bond election. What’s significant
about that letter was that it was the only
commtmieation from either side of the
issue to community media or organizations.
Although the organizers ofthe Vote
Yes campaign include Mayor Savage,
Barbara Gardner, pres. of the Tulsa
Chamber ofCommerce, and others who
actually know that there really are, gee,
Gay people in Tulsa, the Yes organizers
managed to run a totally Gay-free campaign.
As far as we can determine, although
mailings were donetocommunity organizations
offering Yes editorials and speaksee
Watch, page 7
Attitudes Towards
Gays Softened
CHICAGO (AP) - A new stud~ says
more Americans are tolerant of gays, but
more than six out of 10 still believehomosexual
rel~itions are always wrong.The
study, released Monday, was based on the
General Social Survey conducted almost
every year since 1972 at-the National
Opinion Research Center at the University
of Chicago.Researchers asked 2,904
people across the country whether sexual
relations between two consenting adults
of the same sex are always wrong, almost
always wrong, sometimes wrong or not
wrong at all. Sixty-one percent said homosexual
relations are always, wrong,
while 28 percent said not wrong at all,
with the rest split between the two milder
choices.
When the question was first asked in
1973, 73 percent said gay relations were
always wrong and 11 percent said they
were never wrong.The margin of error
was plus orminus 2percentagepoints.The
disapproval rate for gays was always 70
percent or hi.gher until 1993, when it fell
to66percent. And thepercentage ofpeople
who said gay relations were not wrong at
all neverrose above 16percentunti11993,
when it hit 22 percent. "More and more
people arerealizing thattheiruncle, cousin,
neighbor or teacher is gay. When that
happens, lots of the negative attitudes the
peoplehad aboutgay folks go right outthe
window," said Rick Garcia, executive director
of the Illinois Federation for Human
Rights.
Soldier to Appeal
to Supreme Court
OMAHA, Neb. (AP) - A former Offutt
Air Force Base officer who is gay lost his
appeal to be reinstated and saidhe plans to
take the case before the U.S. Supreme
Court.Rich Richenberg, 38, who was a
captain when the Air Force discharged
him in December; will appeal his lawsuit
to the Supreme Court, saidTom Kayser, a
Minneapolis attorney.
The 8th U.S. CirCuit Court.of Appeals
of St. Louis ruled 2-1 againstRichenberg’s
¯" lawsuit Thursday. It was the latest legal
¯
setback for Richenberg, who has been
¯ challenging the.military’s policy on ho-
¯ mosexuals (known informally as "don’t
ask, don t tell, allows gays to rematn in
¯ the military as long as they don’t disclose’
¯¯ their sexual preference) for about three
years. Richenberg disclosed his homo-
¯ sexuality in a May 1993 letter to a corn-
¯ mander. Kayser saidhis clienthas astrong ¯
legal case worthy of Supreme Court
¯ consideration.’q’he issue is whether we
: are going to have government-sanctioned
¯ bigotry," Kayser said. "Rich is an out- ¯
standing person. Theevidenceis such that
¯ he is being discriminated against by the
¯ U.S. government."
Lucas On Barby’s
i Homosexuality
: OKLAHOMA CITY (AP) - U.S. Rep.
¯ Frank Lucas mentioned his opponent’s
: admitted homosexuality in aletter to sup-
. porters asking for more money for his reelection
campaign.Lucas; a Republican,
¯ had said he would not discuss the issue in
: the campaign. He said Tuesday that the
¯ letter was sent only to supporters and he
¯ won’t change his public stance of not
." discussing DemocratPaul Barby’s homo-
. sexuality. Barby had acknowledged to
¯ Democratic leaders in July that he was
¯ gay, saying he hoped that it would not
¯ become a campaign issueif he acknowl-
: edged it. In a letter dated Sept. 27, Lucas
¯ wrote, "Some people have even said that
." he doesn’t stand a chance of winning
¯ because he has admitted publicly that he
¯ is ahomosexual." The two are runningfor
the 6th Congressional District, whichcovers
much of western Oklahoma.
F!lm Urg.es School
Discusston of Gays
: CONCORD, N.H. (AP) - Children are
¯ never too young to learn how to respect
: people who are different from them, in-
: cluding homosexuals, according to adocu-
¯ mentary shown over the weekend
ANew Hampshire gay educators group
sponsored the premiere of "It’s Elementary:
TalkingAboutGay Issues in School"
on Sun,Lay at the Concord City Audito-
,,,ri~m. About 100 people, mostly educators,
attended the film’s opening at the
Concord City Auditorium.
The documentary, expected tobenominated
for an Oscar, takes viewers into six
classrooms around the country where
teachers and students,grades one through
eight, openly discuss gay and lesbian issues.
The film opens with U.S. Sen. Bob
Smith giving a speech before the Senate
about withholding federal funding from
school districts that discuss homosexuality
in the classroom. A very angry Smith
waves his hands around and yells, "We
must protect the taxpayers by keeping this
trash out of our schools. And that’s what
it is. It’s trash." The filmmakers contrast
Smith’s comments with those by young
students,whoreact to homosexuality with
comments like, "What’s the big whoop?"
¯ or, "They’re gay. Well so what."
The filmmakers stressed they are not
¯" trying to teach children about sex, or encourage
them to become gays or lesbians.
¯ Instead, their goal is to teach children to
¯ respect people who are different from
¯ them, eliminate negative stereotypes of
¯ homosexuals and prevent future violence
and suicides among gay people, espe-
." cially teenagers.
Several teachers who attended the premiere
said they would like to have more
¯ freedom in their classroom to talk to kids
about issues facing gays and lesbians.
Many of them spoke on the condition of
anonymity for fear of losing their jobs or
causing trouble in their school district.
¯
¯ Wash. St. Politico
Says Gays Die Early
OLYMPIA, WASHINGTON (AP) -
Some gasped and some laughed when
¯ Ellen Craswell tolda Seatfleaudience this
week that homosexuality "cuts 35 years
~off your life." The Christian conservative
candidate’s unabashed views on homo-
. sexuality have horrified and frightened
¯ many, who say sheis using falseinforma-
¯ t.ion to stir up anti-gay sentiment. ¯
But others find cause for celebration
that their anti-homosexual message, part
¯ ofthepolitical landscape for years,is now ¯
coming fromthemouth ofthe Republican
: nominee for governor, whose utterances
¯ are broadcast and printed statewide. ¯
"My gut response is that it is just aston-
¯ ishing that a candidate for governor cites
¯ as fact the fiction that gay people have a
¯" life expectancy that is 35 years less thanit
¯ would be if. they weren’t g.ay. It’s scary
: that she wouldbe willing to ~11 the public
¯ something so untrue and something not
supported by any scientifically credible
¯ information," said Jan Bianchi, the ex-
¯ ecutive director of Hands Off Washing-
¯. ton, a gay-rights organization.
Whatever their reaction, voters fol-
¯ lowing Craswell’s uphill struggle to de-
: feat Democrat Gary Locke are getting a
¯ newlook at a debate that until now has
¯
been confined to legislative fights and
: ballot initiatives for or against gay rights.
¯ Locke is aloud champion of gay lights. ¯
Heco-sponsored unsuccessful state legis-
¯ lation to win civil-rights protections for
¯ gays and lesbians. And, unlike President
¯ Clinton, he also supports same-sex mar-
." riage. As governor, he says, he wouldsign
¯ a measure legalizing such unions if one
¯ ever reached his desk.
¯ "We should be encouraging stable, ¯
healthyrelafionships. Weneed to encour-
¯ age that whether heterosexual or homo-
-¯ sexual," -Locke said to loud cheers and
¯ applause at an appearance with Craswell
at Capital High School in Olympia.
¯ Craswell’s assertion that homosexuals
: shorten their lives by 35 years is a case in
¯ point, she said. Craswell’s information
¯ comes from a published article by Paul
: Cameron, aman well-known for his anti-
¯ homosexual views, Bianchi notes. The ¯
1994articlehas sincebeenknockeddown
¯ by other researchers who say allCameron
showed was that men who contract the
HIV virus stand to die young, something
¯ nobody denies. "Cameron has been discredited
by every scholarly association,"
¯ Bianchi, a Seattle lawyer, said. "For a
candidate for governor to be citing this
: manas asource, that’sjustplainunethical
to me."
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state workers plan to stand up and .be
counted today as productive members of
the gay community and urged their gay
colleagues to do the same.
A group of state workers held a pep
rally of sorts Thursday to prepare for
today’s National Coming Out Day, which
encourages homosexuals "’come out of
the closet" and tell people about their
sexual orientation. The workers an~
nounced the creation of "State Pride," a
support group and lobbying organization
for gay, lesbian and bisexual workers.
"Ourname, StatePride, symbolizes both
our pride in serving the people of Connecticut
and our pride in being lesbian,
gay, bisexual and transgendered women
and men," said Diane Goldsmith, director
of Transition and Women’s Programs at
Manchester Community-Technical College
and one of the group’s leaders.
The organization has more than 70
members at all levels of employment
working in departments ranging from the
state police to the state university system,
members said. Hundreds more potential
members are among the state’s 63,000
employees, the group said.
Members of the group said the state
should become competitive in hiring employees,
and offer so-called domesticpartner
benefits just like some large corporations:
They said they would press for the
benefits to be included in their contracts
during negotiations.
"’If the system is supported by all taxpayers,
thenall taxpayers shouldbe treated
alike, including domestic partners," said
James Hauley, amovie theater consultant
and the domestic partner of a University
of Connecticut professor.
School Defends
Teaching On Gays
MIDDLETON, Wis. (AP)- A parental
complaint about classroom instruction on
homosexuality was rejected because it is
the school’ s duty to talkaboutsuchissues,
an administrator said Thursday.
¯ educating students about injustice and
: attitudes toward agroup ofpeople. It’s not
¯ meant to promote, or condone or criticize
a particular lifestyle," said Johanna
¯ Kaufman, an assistant superintendentwho
¯ heads the committee.
Readings on gay and lesbian orienta-
: tion are part of arequiredliterature course
¯ for sophomores atMiddletonHigh School.
¯¯ Racism, sexism and anti-Semitism are
also part of the curriculum.
" Parents can have their children withdraw
from activities or discussions con-
.¯ trary to theirmoral briefs,Kaufman said.
’°Their kids don’t have to do this but we
¯ have a responsibility to all of our parents
¯ and constituents. We’ve protected their
¯ rights, and said that this is an appropriate ¯
topictoteachhighschoolkids,"Kaufman
¯ said.
~ Kaufman’s committee met with par¯
ents andasked teachers to explainhow the
readings are used. But the meeting with
¯ parents"was not a publicforum to discuss
¯ the homosexual lifestyle,’: she said.
"It meets the challenge of honoring ¯ growingup today, approaching the turn of
parental rights and balancing that with ¯ the century, said Judi Shils, an indepen-
Daughter Freed
From Secret
PALO ALTO, Calif. (AP) - For years,
Candice Sullivan-Speare wanted to tell
her classmates and friends about her secret.
Finally, she has had a chance to get it
out in the open- &move on with her life.
At a packed school assembly at
Castilleja~ an all-girls school, 15-year-old
Candice got right to the point: "When I
was little, I never thoughtmuch of the fact
that my morn was gay."
Whenshe wasfinished telling her experiences
with intolerance, Candice was
fighting off tears, and several classmates
had tears in their eyes as they gave her a
standing ovation. In the front row, her
mother,Teri Sullivan, and partnerAimee
Ames, fought off tears as wall.
Candice’s talk was part of the Diary
Project, inspired by the diary of 15-yearold
Zlata Filipovic, who wrote about her
like in war-tom Sarajevo. The project is
an invitation to young people around the
world to express their hopes, fears,
¯ dent TV producer from Matin County
." who came t~p with theidea for the project.
¯ . .’~,Lwas ~something from the heart,"
"~a~d~’ce said: "After I tell everyone inmy
¯ school this way, I hopeit’s not going to be
[ an issue anymore..Mom doesn’t want me
¯ to fight her batdes, but now it is my ¯
battle." "This is something Candice has
¯ wanted to do for years," said Teri. "Now
: it is no longer a secret. Iam very proud of
¯ my daughter. I have always been proud of
¯ her."
¯ Oakland’s First
¯ Domestic Partners
¯ OAKLAND, Calif. (AP) - Colleen Clay
and Karen Vernon plunked down $35,
¯ exchanged a kiss and posed for photo-
" graphs tobecome Oakland’s first regis-
¯ tered same-sex couple.
¯ They were among 10 couples who reg-
¯ istered as domestic partners Wednesday
¯ under theprogramunanimously approved
¯ by City Council members in June.
¯ Oakland is the eighth city in California
¯ tO have a domestic partners’ registry. In
~ the San Francisco Bay area, Berkeley,
.. Pale Alto, Marin County and San Fran-
¯ cisco also have registries. Santa Clara
¯ Cty. residents _will vote next month on
¯ whether to establish a registry.
¯ Registration allows partners who also
are city employees to receive full medical
¯ benefits for their partners. "It’s a justice
¯ issue as far as I see it," Councilman John
¯ Russo said. Clay andVernon, together for
seven years, already had wedding two
¯ years agoin San Francisco’s Golden Gate
¯ Park. "We did (that ceremony) for our-
" selves, our families and our friends,"
¯ Vernon sai& "But this was a chance to
¯ have our relationship acknowledged in a
¯ somewhat wider society."
¯ Pastor Warns of
:¯ Rising Intolerance
: LINCOLN, Neb. (AP)-A gay pastor said
: politicians who might support g.ay rights
¯ are being frightened by the rising influ-
-" ence ofreligious fundamentalism.’q?here
¯ is a spirit offundamentalismin theair, and
¯ fundamentalismhas atits heart theurge to
: purge," author Mel White told a Univer-
¯ sity of Nebraska-Lincoln audience. "The
: rhetoric of the right is the rhetoric of
~ intolerance, ignorance and fear."
¯ Members of Congress who might have
been reluctant to support the "defense of
¯ marriage act," which denied legal recog-
¯ nition for homosexual marriages, were
_" overwhelmed by fundamentalist influ-
¯ ences and instead helped enact the bill, ¯
White said, An author and filmmaker,
¯ White served as ghostwriter for evange-
¯ lists Jerry Falwdl and Pat Robertson be¯
fore revealing his gay orientation. "I certaiuly
didn’t choose it, and I certainly
¯ didn’t want it," he said.
¯ White is dean of the Cathedral of Hope
¯ MetropolitanCommunityChurchin-Dallas,
which contains the nation’s largest
¯ homosexual congregation. Some 14,000
." people are affiliated with the church. In-
¯ toleranceis leading notouly to hate crimes
¯
against gay people, but to swastikas on
~ synagogues andblack churches inflames,
¯ he said. "We need to rediscover toler-
~ ance,’~ White said.
¯ Maine Univ. Offers
Partners Benefits
¯ BANGOR, Maine (AP) - After years of
¯ negotiations, lesbian and gay faculty at
¯ the University ofMaine System can now ¯
enroll theirpartners in theirbenefits pack-
¯ age. The board of trustees voted recently
¯ to grant health insurance, bereavement
leave, tuition waivers and access to cam-
: pus facilities to gay and lesbian partners.
¯ This makes the University of Maine
¯ Systemthe firstMainepublic employer to
offer domestic partnership benefits, to
: qualified same-sex cohples.
¯ University of Maine System spokes¯
man Kent Price said full-time gay and
lesbian faculty can apply for the benefits.
¯ The partners must meet certain criteria,
¯ including proof that they have lived to-
. gether for at least two years. ’q’here are
¯ increasing number of business andindus-
: tries that are now including this benefit...
¯ Interms of the financial exposureit’s not
that significant," Price said.
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<.Editor’s note: Each month this column
will deal with a legal issue related to HIW
AIDS to help Oklahomans know and understand
their legal rights - Kerry Lewis
Keeping Your
Insurance Coverage
Recent developments in the treatment
ofHIV/AIDS promi ses to extend the lives
of thousands of persons. However, one
nasty side effect of these new treatments
is the incredibly high cost of maintaining
the treatment--estimated to average more
than $20,000 per year.
Now, more than ever before, the availability
of resources to pay the medical
costs has a direct effectonthehealth ofthe
person with HIV/AIDS. The primary
source of funding remains health insur-
¯ ance. This colunm will deal with some of
the ways to keep health insurance coverage.
Extending HealthInsuranceThrough ’ :
COBRA. If your employer pro- vides
health insurance, and you wish or need to
leave your employment, you can continue
the health insurance for up to 28 months
through the Consolidated-Omnibus Budget
Reconciliation Act of 1985, also commonly
known as COBRA:
Ifyou work for an employer with more
than twenty employees, you can stay on
your employer’S healthinsuranceforeighteen
months unless are fired for "gross
mi sconduct.’Y You will be required to pay
the premiums yourself in addition to a
small administrative fee.
You can extend your insurance coverage
for an additional eleven months if the
Social. Security Administration (SSA)
determines that you are "disabled" under
its requirements.Toqualify, the SSAmust
determine you are "disabled" as of or
before the last day you work. You must
then send a copy of the SSA Notice of
Award letter to your former employer
within 60 days of receiving it. The cost of
continuing the coverage will be 150% of
the premium but will bemuch less expensive
than having no insurance. If eligible,
Medicaid may pay the premiums for you.
Remember that perhaps the most important
thing you can~do to keep your
insurance at this point is to make every
single premium payment on,time.
New Legislation~ On August 21,1996,
President Clinton signed into law the
Health Insurance Portability andAccounters
from their speakers bureau, not a one
went to any of our churches or groups, let
alone, media. This happened despite a
budget of more than $150k and the serwices
of a high-powered (and likely wellpaid)
public relations company, Schnake
Turnbo andBrookey. It’s kindofhard to
understand how Steve Turnbo can tell
The Tulsa World, "we’re targeting the
entire community" as he did on Oct. 6th
and somehow notcontactany Gaypeople,
groups or businesses in Tulsa. Their excuse
is that none of us are on the list. But
they say they don’tknow whoselisi itis or
why we’re not there. Imagine. Can you
say institutionalized bias?
They’d have a better excuseif this were
the first time that this has happened. However,
after our community got ignored in
the penny sales tax campaign this summer,
Tulsa Family News called Schnake
Turnbo to remind them of as and our
b,ommunity’s existence. Apparently that
ability Act. This law, which does not go
into effect until July of 1997, will make it
easier to continuehealth insurance coverage
when you leave your job.
First, in the past, if you had a preexisting
condition (such as HIVIAIDS),
andyou wanted to change your employer,
you would often lose eligibility for insurance
coverage at your new job. The new
legislationprohibits insurancecompanies
from-denying coverage due to pre-existing
conditions. In cases wherethenewjob
has a group insurance plan, this law will
eliminate the need to pay the premiums
yourself under COBRA.
Second, ifyouhave group health insurance
but you cannot continue to work, the
newlegislationrequires aninsurancecompany
to allow you to obtain individual
-health:insUranceonce you leave yourjob
regardless of your health status. Note,
howbvcr, that the cost may be very steep.
¯ Preventing Your Policy from Being
¯ . Cancelled. An insurance company may
. try to cancel yourinsurancepolicyonceit
: discovers your HIV status (usually after
: you make a related claim). Typically,~the
-. insurance company will send a letter adi
vising you that your policy is being cancelled
because,of misleading information
¯ on your insurance application. The letter
will sometimes beaccompaniedbyalump-
¯
sum cheek.
: What should you do? First, donot cash
: the check. Cashing the check may be
¯ proof that you aceepted and agreed to
: cancel the insurance. Second, call the
: AIDS Legal Resource Project to fred an
¯ at.tomey. An attorney can help you deter-
: mine whether the insurance company had
¯ the right to cancel the insurance. Except
for self-insured health plaus, the policy
~ cannot be cancelled if more than two
¯ years have passed since you signed the
¯ application. Evenifless than twoyear, the
¯ .attorney can help you determine if the
¯ insurance company can prove that the
," information on the application justifies
. cancellation of the policy.
¯ If you are HIV-positive or haveAIDS
and you have an insurance or other legal
: problem you may qualify for free legal
¯ assistance from an attorney on the pro
¯ bono panel of AIDS Legal Resource ¯
Project. Call the Project collect at (405)
¯ 524-4611.
: wasn’t enough for them to connect the
: dots.YoumightwanttochideourMayor
¯ and theChamber for their obliviousness,
¯ if not out-and-out bias. Mayor Savage ¯
can be reached at 596-7411 and leave a
¯ message for Chamber President
¯ Gardner at 585-1201. ¯
That’sthebadandtheugly.Whatabout
¯
the good? Well if you didn’t notice, The
Tulsa Worm editorial page actually has
¯ endorsed both jobs protections and do-
: mestic partnership legislation for Lesbi-
¯ aus andGaymen. Nowitwas donein such
alow key mannerthatyoumighthavehad
¯ to read it twice but it was there.
¯" You might send editorial/opinion page
¯ editor, Ken Neai (no kin to this walter)
¯ yourpraise.Afterall,hetakesalotofgrief
: for being so liberal when often The
: World’s hardly that, that we should rec-
: ognize them when they really are, God
¯ bless them, just being fair.
". The WorM: 581-8300, fax: 581-8353
by James Christjohn ,,
JASON STUART brings his codaedy
to the Tulsa Comedy Club Wed. Oct. 30
- Sun. Nov. 3. This is amust see for all of
our readers, some of whom may remember
seeing him at the "Family Outing" at
the Texas State Fair in Dallas this summer.
Hie canbe seen on Comedy Central’s
"OutThereinHollywood", profiling seven
gay/lesbian standups, which debuted 10/
11, andis co-starring as Mar, the fabulous
producer, in "Gay TV: The Movie", a
farce about a gay man and his straight
sister starting the first gay cable channel,
which should start making the rounds of
theaters this fall. Now, if only we could
get the channel...
Hte’s appeared on Broadway with Joan
Rivers and Sandra Bernhard. He is filming
anew show forFox TV,"Firefighter".
I had the chance to speak with him briefly
and found him to be delightfully charming.
I even got amini preview of the show,
which should have you guffawing - or
shrieking, in some eases.
Heis looking forward to his appearance
here, and is busier than ever. He was on
his way to perform at a benefit for AIDS,
which he does frequently.
He’s been involved in acting since the
80’s, and got into standup in 1983, at the
urging of his manager. Until then, he
never really thought of standup as an
outlet- he didn’t feel hewas funny enough.
Smart didn’t come out publicly until
1993. Stuart when he did, it was on the
Geraldo show - and Geraldo even kissed
him at the end of the show! That’s when
you know you’re becomihg a cdebrity -
¯¯ just ask Bette Midler!
It has changed his life profoundly - for
¯ the better. He has been more successful
¯ than ever since coming out. He says "It is ¯
SO nice to be able to be yourself - to me,
¯ it’s a privilege". No more jokes about
: non-existent girlfriends, he’s found that it
¯ pays, literally, to tell the truth. "My in-
: come has doubled - and so has my spend-
" ing." And he’ s busier than ever, with new
¯ projects coming up daily. ¯
So nice to hear a positive message like
: thathereinTulsa. Heis finding that stand-
" ing up for what he believes in and being
¯ proud ofwho andwhat he is is the biggest
payoff of all.
: During his run, through the kindness of
¯ Stuart and the Tulsa Comedy Club, do-
-¯ nationswillbe collectedtobenefitHOPE,
HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education (for-
" merly the TOHR Testing and Education
: programs) at all shows and don’t miss
¯ Halloween night when half the door will
: go to HOPE as a special benefit.
: For those of a masochistic bent,
¯ Harajuku, thosefolkswhotakeshowttmes
¯ and "disco-ize" them, have released an ¯
album of all the songs you spun your little
: brains out to - "Phantom of the Opera",
"CanYouFeel the LoveTonight", among
: others. (I have to pretend I’m above such
¯ things in order to maintain my artistic
¯ snootiness, but I enjoy hearing this every
¯ once in a while, l get such a laugh when i
" hear Les Miz’s "On My Own" as a disco
¯ song.) It’s a hoot, and a great party disc.
: GUYS ANDDOLLS will bepresented
¯ by the TU 10/17 -27 at the Chapman
¯ Theatre., Info, call 631-2567.
,Costume Party
|he lulsa Cornedy] lUb
Prizes for Best Costumes
the whole
*HIV Outreach Prevenhon Educahon
Free & Anonymous
Finger Stick Method
By &for, but not exclusive to the
Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Communities.
Monday & Thursday evenings, 7-9 pm
Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment.
HOPE HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education
formerlylTOHR HIV Prevention Programs
742-2927
4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2
2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium
Look for our banner on testing nights.
Trumpeter’s Delight!
November 16 - 8 p.m., Tulsa PAC
Featuring Conductor Search Finalist, David Alan Miller
Princi pal Trumpet, Tim McFadden
Tchaikovsky...Overture to "Hamlet"
Arutyunian...Trumpet Concerto
Dvor’ak...Symphony No. 7 in d minor
CALL 747-PHIL!
T U L S A PHILHARMONIC
TULSA O PERA
Presents
La
Traviata
Sung in Italian with English SUNfides projected above the stage
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Call Tulsa Opera (918) 587-4811
or Fax your order (918) 592-0380.
Tulsa Opera is proud to
present Olga Kondina
of Russia’s Kirov Opera
in her Tulsa debut.
TU&SA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CALEND R
SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All
Times Christian Center
Sunday School, 9:45 am
Worship Service, 11 am
2627b East llth 583-7815
Community of Hope
(United Methodist)
Worship Service, 6 pm
1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800
Family of Faith
Metro. Comm. Church
Adult Sunday School, 9:15
Worship Service, 11 am
5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441
Metro. Comm. Church
of Greater Tulsa
Worship Service, 10:45am
1623 N. Maplewood
Info: 838-1715
Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay
Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa
6:30 pm at Canterbury
5th & Evanston, 583-9780
¯ MONDAYS
¯ HIV Testing Clinic
¯ Free & anonymous testing
: using fingerstick method.
¯ No appointment required.
¯ Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm
¯ Results hours: 7-9 pm
¯ Info: 742-2927
PFLAG Family AIDS
Support Group
2rid Mon. of month
6:30 pro, 4154 S. Harvard
Info: 749-4901
¯ OTHER GROUPS
¯ The Technicians, Leather
¯ org., Info c/o 621-5597
¯" T.U.L.S~4. Tulsa Uniform
& Leather Seekers Assoc.
: Info: 838-1222
¯ Gay & Lesbian Student
¯ Association
¯¯ TJC Southeast Campus,
Info: 631-7632
¯ SWAN-Single Women’s
Activity Network
¯ Call 832-2121
: TUESDAYS
¯ HIV+ Support Group
HIV Resource Consortium
: 1:30 pm
¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1
¯ Info: Wanda @ 749-4194
Shanti-Tulsa, Inc.
¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group
Friends & Family
¯¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group
7 pm, call for location:
¯
749-7898
¯ Alternative Skating
¯ 8:30 - 11 pro, 241-2282
: $4, Sand Springs Skate
¯ Grief Group
: Butler/Stumpff
¯ Funeral Home
¯ 2103 E. 3rd St.
¯ Call for time: 587-7000
WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All
Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study
7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth
Call 583-7815 for info.
Family Of Faith MCC
Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm
Choir Practice 7:30 pm
5451-E South Mingo.
Call 622-1441 for info.
: TNAAPP
¯ Tulsa Native American
AIDS Prevention Project
Support group
for Gay & Bi Native
American Men, 6 pm
at Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd
582-7225 or 584-4983
: THURSDAYS
: Co-Dependency
¯ Support Group
: 7:30, Family of Faith MC(
: 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
¯ HOPE
: HIV Outreach,
¯ Prevention, Education ¯
Anonymous HIV Testing
¯ Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm
: Results hours: 7 - 9 pm
¯ Info: 742-2927
¯ Tulsa Family Chorale
: Weekly practice, 9:30 pm
Lola’s 2630 E. 15th
¯ PFLAG Family AIDS
: Support Group
1st & 3rd Thursdays
¯ 4154S. Harvard,749-4901
Alternatives
Weekly social events for
LGBT men & women, 7 pm
Info: 646-5503
Substance Abuse
Support Group
for persons with HIV/AIDS
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G
3-4:30 pm
Info: 749-4194
¯ FRIDAYS
¯ Safe Haven
¯ Young Adults Social Group
¯ 8pm,lstFri. ofeachmo.
¯ Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
: SATURDAYS
Mixed Volleyball for
¯ Fun & Competition
¯ Helmerich Park, 2 pm
71st & Riverside
¯ Info: 587-6557
¯ St. Jerome’s Church
¯ Mass, 6 pm, Garden Chapel
¯ 3841 S. Peoria
Info: Father Rick, 742-6227
Narcotics Anonymous
Meets weekly at 11 pm
Confidential support for
recovering addicts.
Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
NAMES Project
AIDS Memorial Quilt
wing Bees
3rd Sat. of each month
Info: 748-3111
You Can Make
A Difference
Life.
Community Notes& Events
New Location for .Leather 101
& Healing The Spirit
The newly opened Pride Center, 1307J
E. 38th in Brookside, will play ho~t on
October 19, 12-6pro, to ’%eather 101"
and ’~Iealing The Spirit" on October 20,
1-5pro. The weekend is being sponsored
by lance brittain, Mr. Alameda County
Leather 1994 (CA), HOPE, formerly
TOHR, and the Silver Star Saloon.
’~eather 101" will be facilitated by
lance, Brian Jackson; and Duncan
MacLaehlan, Mr. Leatherman Toronto
1996. Topics to be discussed include
leather/SM, coming out, control, power
exchange, roles, and SM relationships
and the law. Other topics of interest are
SM etiquette, toys, safety, risk reduction.
This workshop is for womeuand men
alike who are interested in or curious
about leather/SM. "It’s an educational
opportunity you will not want to miss ...
the information will be valuable for understanding
the diversity of our community",
said Larry Everett, International
Mr. Leather 1995.
DuncanMacLachlanwill present’~Iealing
The Spirit" using his personal experier~
ee with Native Americ~m teachings and
other spiritual resources. MacLachlandescribes
his living withHIV since 1983, as
a healing and a miracle. He does ask that
all participants wear loose, comfortable
clothing and to pleasebring a small object
of personal significance. He adds, "This
workshop will be useful for people who
are affected by HIV including caregive,r,s
and health care professionals .
MacLachlan will be offering the teachings
of the medicine wheel and the seven
arrows, tools for application, thepower of
positive thinking, how to avoid the pitfalls
(New Age and otherwise), and more.
The workshop will include meditation,
ritual, storytelling, group exercises, and
opportunities for sharing.
The suggested offering is $5.00 for
each workshop to cover workshop materials,
but no one will be turned away.
Participants should bring a cushion for
comfortable searing. Juice, coffee, and
water will be provided. Feel free to bring
a snack, pencil, or paper. For more informarion
please call 749-2927, 918-371-
0496, or e-mail mrad94@aol.com.
1996 Red Ribbon Holiday:
Treefest and Gallery Walk
Interfaith AIDS Ministries announces
that Red Ribbon Treefest is changing its
name to: 1996 Red Ribbon Holiday:
Treefest and Gallery Walk.
This annual event showcases decorated
holiday trees and otherholiday items to be
auctionedto raisefunds forInterfaithAIDS
Ministries which provides spiritual, emotional,
and practical support for those in
our community whose lives are touched
by HIV and AIDS. Previous years have
raised about $2,500.
This year’s expanded format will inelude
an "official opening," in the Brady
Arts Gallery District, Thursday, November
21 from 6:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. Additional
viewing hours will be on Nov. 22-
23, and pick-up or delivery of trees will
take place on Nov. 24th.
To help decorate aholiday tree or assist
with this event, call Steven Fendt at 663-
5372, or David Blust at 587-2611.
Oklahoma Mr. Leather. Contest
TULSA-TheSilver Star SalooninTulsa,
Oklahoma will again host the Oklahoma
Mr. Leather, contest on Saturday, November
9. This will be the seventh annual
event producedby the TulsaUniform and
: Eea~erseekersAssociation (T:U.L.S.A.)
¯ as the official Oklahoma preliminary to
: the International Mr. Leather (IML) con-
: test held in Chicago in May.
¯ Oklahoma’s largest leather event, the
: 1997 contest will be emceed by Intema- ,~,
: tionalMr.Leather 1995, Mr. Larry Everett.
¯ Titleholders and dignitaries from around
: the world will be on hand to judge and
¯
attendthis year’ s event, whichis expected
¯ to draw a capacity crowd to the Silver
¯ Star, 1565 South Sheridan.
: The weekend will begin with a shuttle
¯ bus bar crawl onFri. night, which will end
¯ up at the Silver Star where thejudges and
¯ contestants will be introduced. The con-
" test will be Sat. night and will include
¯ great entertainment as well. Judging will
i
use Olympic type scoring and will be
based on Street wear with a Speech,
: Swimwear and Full Leather Image with a
¯ ~ RandomQuesrionandAuswer. Theweek-
: .end will conclude with a Sunday brunch.
¯ Weekend packets which include a dog
: tag, aT-shirt, special offers, program, and
¯ admission to all events are only $25 in
¯ advance. After Nov. 6 the price will be
: $30. Items in the packet may also be
: purchased at the door while supplies last.
There will also be a limited amount of
reserved seating available. ~For more information
or to advertise at this year’s
event, contact T.U.L.S.A. at (918) 838-
1222 ot by mail at PO Box 33076, Tulsa,
Oklahoma 74153-1076.
IAM Spirituality Forum
Interfaith AIDS Ministries is holding a
potluck dinner and spirituality forum on
Oct. 29th, at 6pro at the Reorganized
Church of Christ of the Latter Day Saints
at 4811 So. Fulton.
Our House (2raft Bazaar
Area crafters are donating items that
will be sold to benefit Our House, a place
where persons challenged by HIV/AIDS
can share companionship. This event will
be Sat. Oct. 26 from 9-5pm at 1114 So.
Youth Loademhip Tulsa
Youth Leadership Tulsa (YLT), a program
of Leadership Tulsa, is beginning
and is seeking a diverse group of youth to
participate in a program to strengthen
theirpersonal skills and to introduce them
to volunteerism and community service.
32 sophomores and juniors from Tulsa
area public and private schools will be
selected for the free program. For more
information, call 582-1296.
Sunday at the (2enter
¯ Wondering how you can get involved
¯¯ in political issues that affect Lesbians,
Gays, Bisexuals and Transgendered
¯ people? Tulsans for Equality are holding
: an event, Sunday at the Center from 2-
¯ 6pro to let you know how you canmake a ¯
difference. The Pride Center, 1307 E.
" 38th, Second floor. For information, call
¯ Rick at 744-1916.
: Pride o! Joplin
¯ The Southwest Institute at 701 S. Byers
¯ is the meeting place for a new Gay &
: Lesbian community discussion group.
¯ The group which meets each Tuesday
: at 8 pm is open to all and its goals include
providing support and encouragement to
¯
each other, increasing awareness of the
¯ needs of the eommtmity andlater starting
¯ aPrideCenter.ThefirstprojectisPrideof
: Joplin newsletter. Submissions are wel-
¯ come as is advertising. For moreinforma-
: lion, call Cheryl at 417-659-8808.
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the lesbigay community about their lives, their
as the annum Eureka The "pink loves, their exes, their
Springs Gay Family Re- . kids,newjobs,lovedones
union. It’s a time to sit a pxenle ,..is always who had passed on. New
spellorplayafew games, held at the bla friends were introduced
chat with old friends or around, deals were cut to
makenewones,andatime pavilion attk~ get them housing or
to reunite with an ever- Dam Site Park. needed services,and they
growin.g .family of corn- were broughtup to speed
mon spirit. Only problem on what they needed to
The 1996 event was know to make life work
much like those in the anyone eneounin
this place we call parapast,
butwithanew twist, tered was a dise.
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Downey and Ken Sculley misplacement of In the course of an afternoon,
I was introduced
join forces to put togcther the pavilion. It to 11 new folks, asked to
a fun aftcmoon at Beaver
moved from take care of a newbie’s
Lake, and this year’s gala was
resume to help her get a
affair was no different, its former loea- job, learned of three new
The "pink picnic," as one tlon on the island breakups, mourned the
womancalledit, isalways loss of four family memheld
at the big pavilion at since last year so bers, talked of.two new
the Dam Site Park. Only there was some businesses, met six locals
problem anyone encotm- I didn’t know, and celteredwasamisplacement
initial exeltement ebrated a new car purof
the pavilion. It was while everyone chase. And, that was bemoved
from its former fore we ate!
location on the island looked risk and In the course of a year,
since last year so there
low for ears with it seems we lose track of
was some initial excite- one another, ourgoals, our
ment while everyone rainbow plates or loves, and our lives. The
looked high and low for bumper stlekers. Gay Family Reunion is a
cars with rainbow plates chance to renew our spiror
bumper stickers, its andjoin in a family of
This reporter can not be accused of " friends who care to be there for one ancasual
observance on most days, but at ¯ other.
this year’s picnic, that"s the position I " We really should do this more often!
took, and I saw something incredible. " Join us, in Eureka!
already crowding the black fabric walks :
between quilt panels, Vice President AI "
Gore and his wife, Tipper, joined poet ¯ The state only allocated that funding be-
Maya Angelou and others to read aloud ¯ cause a state contribution is required to
someofthenames displayed on the quilts.." receive federal HIV/AIDS dollars.
AIDS activists protested Friday that the : As part ofa routine requestfor informacombinations
of AIDS drugs they must ¯ tion,TFN requested copies ofthe minutes
take cost tens of thousands of dollars. On ¯ of the HIVRC since the 1st of the year.
Saturday, actress Elizabeth Taylor is ex- ¯ Thoele and staff have repeatedly refused
pected to lead a candlelight march from ¯ to provide that information. Initially, the
the Capitol to the Lincoln Memorial. ." agency simply seemed to "forget" about
Usually, the quiltis divided and travels ; the request, but later referred the request
the country, where organizers say it is ¯ to attomeyCharles Seeger, aboardmemseen
by I million people each-year. Orga- : berwhois simultaneously serving as legal
nizers said this may be the last time it is : counsel to the HIVRC.
displayed in its entirety. Some 4,000 new " TFN has informed Seeger and Thode
panels were presented to the project in the ¯ that the agency appears to be in violation
last few days. ," of one or more Oklahoma state statutes
According to statsfics from the Centers " that mandate full disclosure of the minforDiseaseControlandPrevention,
AIDS ¯ utes of the agency. Seeger noted that he
istheleading causeofdeathamongAmeri- ¯ couldn’t imagine that there was anything
can men aged 25 to 44 and the third- " to hide in the minutes but claimed that the
leading killer among women the same ° HIVRC is not subject to the Oklahoma
age. Between 40,000 and 80,000 Ameri- ¯ Open, Meeting Act as a "private noncansbecomeinfectedwiththdAIDSvirus
prbfit.’. Howdver, the statute states that
each year As ofJune, 343,000 Americans "all boards.., agencies, .. in the state of
have died of AIDS. . " Oklahoma supported in whole or in part
AtotherlocatiousinDC, singer-actress by public funds entrusted with the
Cher highlighted a rally organized by the i
or
spending ofpublic funds..." are subject to
Human Rights Campaign on Friday, Oct. the. act. The law calls for fines of up to
11 for "National Coming Out Day ° $50Oand up to a year imprisonment for
(NCOD)," encouraging gay men and les- : violating any provisions of the statute. It
bians to be hone.st about their identities - ¯ is not Clear if only the executive director
and to participate in the colmng election. ; ~or also members of the board could go to
OpposingNCOD, a group called Parents " jail if the agency fails to obey the law.
&Friends ofEx-Gays heldanews confer- ¯ Some members include Erie Ramirez,
ence ,o announce its message that.homo~ " Tommie Chesbro, Ric Helmerich as wall
scxuals Could become heterosexual. " as Seeger.and pres. Nancy McDonald..
¯ This really is a family! And, this truly is
that hasn’t increased since 1991, despite
an increase of4x in the number of clients.
READ ALL ABOUT IT
Reviewed by Barry Hensley
Tulsa City-County Library
At the beginning of the Clinton era,
there were many reports about the large
number ofpeople who claimed to be FOB
(Friends ofBill). These
included childhood
friends, collegebuddies
and various coworkers.
David Mixner is a classic
FOB. Becoming
friends with Clinton in
thelate 1960’s, their relationship
has had tremendous
highs and
lows,bottomingoutin 1993 withMixner’s
arrest at the White House for protesting
the President’s "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell"
policy regarding gays in the military.
"Stranger Among Friends" is the story, of
their roller coaster relationship and growing
up in the sixties.
Mixner’s description of his formative
years brings back an era of civil rights
demonstrations and Vietnam War protests.
However, his activity at the time is
curiously devoid of any gay rights participation,
although the movement was just
beginning at the time. Mixner was deeply
closeted, convinced that of all the liberal
canses hepursued, that was the one part of
himself that he could not share with his
friends or family, fearing rejection. When
his first lover, also closeted, was killed in
an automobile accident, Mixner was convinced
it was a sign from God, condemning
his homosexuality.
Mixner finally came to terms with his
", gayness, and what a change it has been!
~ For the past two decades, he has loudly
¯ proclaimed thatgays andlesbians deserve
." the exact same rights and protections as
¯ other Americans.
~ lost on his old pal,
Mixner has an easy,
relaxed wrltln
style, and his
recollections are
to red.
His message was not
Bill Clinton, and in the
1992 election Clinton
became the first President
to have actively
solicited the support of
the gay community,
using Mixner as a liaison.
Despite their major
clifferences over the
military issue, Mixner
is once again a loyal
¯ -Clinton supporter, pointing out that
¯ Clinton has been the most pro-gay equal-
" ity president in history.
~ Mixner has an easy, relaxed writing
¯ style, andhis recollections are fun to read.
¯ His book is long on anecdotes which,
~ given the number of interesting and ira-
¯ portant people he has worked with and
~ known, give his story a tmique perspective
among current gay oriented books.
¯
Given that this is election season, check
." out "Stranger Among Friends" and dis-
" cover yet another side to Bill Clinton.
¯ Check for this book and others on simi-
~ lar topics at your local branch library, or
¯ call the Readers Services department at
¯ the Central Library at 596-7966.
Other new rifles of interest include:
¯ * ’ffhe Arc of Love: An Anthology of
¯ Lesbian LovePoems" (Editor: ClareCass)
¯¯ * "From A Burning House: The AIDS
Project of Los Angeles Writers Work-
" shop Collection" (EditedbyireneBorger)
Stress Related Acne
by Stephen W. Scott, [’ME
As Summer is winding down, we find
our lives shifting gears, taking us into a
more regimented lifestyle, with school
starting, and for some, new jobs or new
relationships. Fall has arrived, and with
the season, so comes stress. This can
trigger unsightly bumps and blemishes
normally not there on your body and even
more annoying when they appear onyour
face. This is thebiggest problem I address
with my clients at this time of the year.
Ache is only a condition, not a disease.
Itcannotbehealed, only controlled,monitored
or improved. Stress is considered
responsible for a wide array of physical
disorders as well as psychological problems.
Ache is but one of these disorders.
Stress does not cause ache in everyone.
Certain individuals suffer from genetic
predisposition to this disfiguring condition.
YourDNA will determine if you are
predisposed to have acne or not. Other
factors such as stress will eventually "set
up the signal" for the acne to appear. Acne
may appear during a period of just a few
days, weeks, months or years and then a
remission periOd may set nfor anindeterminable
time. In some people, the acne
exists continually, but has ups anddowns.
The evolution of acne, as well as the kind
of lesions that appear can change in the
same individual over the years.
While in the adolescence periOd, an
ache condition might only be at a grade of
1. or 2 (the typical acne vulgaris so common
in teenagers). The condition may
then escalate into agrade of3 or 4, involv
¯ ing inflammation, cysts, or even scarring
¯ in the twenties, thirties, and even forties. ¯
The opposite can also be true when ache
; dissipates into a minor but ongoing ache
¯ condition. Also the severity of thelesions
~ usually varies over rime, either getting
: worse or better. In aene, there is not pre-
¯ dictable pattern for how it will affect you.
~ When a person is under stress, whether
¯ the stress is positive, i.e. due to a happy
¯ event, such as amarriage, or whetherit’s
: negative stress, hormonal changes appear
¯
in the body.
¯ Inthe"fightorflight" stage, yourbody’s
¯ hormonal response when you are under
~ stress, the sympathetic nervous system
." starts responding byincreasingin theblood
¯ glucose levd, metabolic rate, ventilation
¯ (breathing) and heart rate. Also the blood
: vessels in the intestine constricts (cansing
~ poor digestion) and the blood vessels in
¯ the muscles dilate (resulting in increased
¯ stamina). Theseresponses aremaintained
¯
by secretions of the adrenal medulla. The
: adrenal medulla (adrenal glands that are
¯ located above the kidneys) secrete hare-
." pinephrine and epinephrine under stress.
The adrenal cortex secretes male bar-
." manes, which are steroids. The hormones
¯ cause the sebaceous .glands to produce
¯ more oil. The pattern is similar with pre-
¯ menstrual ache.
¯ Understanding that ache is indeed genetic
and that stress can trigger an out-
~ break will save you some disappointment
¯ and frustration. Now you will be able to
¯ focus, not on the miracle cure, but. on a
: skincareprogram thatwill seeyouthrough
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by Jean-Pierre, TFN Food Critic
For decades, the corner of 36th Place
and Peoriain th~ Brookside was occupied
by the wall known Elliott’s Barbecue,
whichfinally closeddownlast year. Since
the last edition of the TFN, though, the
site has been remodeled and redecorated
in classic pink, and has
opened as Tulsds newest
Indian restaurant. We’re
talking Sikh here, not
Cherokee or Creek. An
off-shoot of the popular
India Palace way out
south at 70th and Lewis,
the Taj Mahal has been
opened for the convenience
of midtown pa-
Irons by the brother of
IndiaPalace’ s owner, and
the two restaurants enjoy
a dose relationship and a
similar menu.
Only openfor not quite
three weeks as of this
writing, we’vebeen there
once a week, and plan to
return frequently. Rumor
has it that itis fastbecoming
afavoriteofTFN publisher,
Tom Neal (who,
incidentally, is not__ Jean-
Pierre -- Mr. Neal thinks Route66is good
enough for gourmet, and worse, now a
year after moving into his house, still
doesn’t have a stove in his kitchen).
Food from the Indian sub-continent is
an art form in and 0f itself, and is descended
from a proud and ancient civilization.
Having trained in Paris, we can
generally eat food with European roots at
any restaurant, and then go home and
recreate it from memory. Not so with
Indian foods. European foods are simple
and tend to be flavored withjust one herb
or spice, or maybe a standard combination,
such as bouquet gami. But Indian
dishes are m~langes of many foodstuffs,
flavored with carefully crafted mixtures
of literally dozens of Spices and herbs in
ennumerable combinations. And, no, Indianfood
is-n0t just curry. Plus, curry
powder as we know it does not existin~
India = each cook makes~his or her own
combination of spices to use in th0se’few
dishes Which are curried:
The foodmust feel good in the m0uth~ and
to the fingers, the flavors-must behot :and"
C°~h’et~nmrc~~t~f~,c~6s.~5a~ed~;ef~~on, is a
good way to be introduced to the vast
variety of Indian foods. When choosing
from themenu, thegreatnumb~r ofchoices
really cute) who can explain your choices
to you in English.
For starters, one can’t gowrong with a
vegetable samosa, $2.50, whichis a small
PanaSdp~tYeP~?~eet~fa?MWaid,~2P!25c~,aPc°otam~t snation
of cucumber, yogurt, and mint, the
mulligatawany muglai, alentil soup, or
Bth~£oad~Ta~eOUSP2,.~yato with coconut.
Indian breads are also special. Naan,
paratha, kulcha, and puri are all corn=
pletely different and delicious experiences,
¯. and many varieties are stuffed with veg-
¯ etables or meats.
". Tulsa is fortunate that these two Indian
¯ restaurantshavetheirowntandoors, which
". are special ovens for cooking and smok-
: ing meats. It’s kind of like the Indian
¯ version ofAmerican barbecue. Themeats
Taj Mahal
3629 So. Peorla.
Honr~: Lunch
bu~et, 11 to 2:30
seven clays a week;
Dinner 5 to 10
Sun. - Th.rs.
tll lo:3o Frl. & Sat.
Cuisine: Punjabl
(northw t
Dress: Casual.
P~ees: M~erate.
All maior erect
Ratin~: A l;st
are skewered and simply
grilled, with only very
faint added flavors from
marinades. They come
out of the tandoor with
the characteristic lobster
~.c~°e~l°,r~9P~,iManl~ thethe
imn.t~rt~eti?flogr.~m.d lamb
Other entrees made of
chicken, beef, lamb, and
.shrimp, beating fascinating
names such as shahi
korma, vindaloo (vindaloo
seems tobe anIndian
word meaning "’hotter
than heft’), saagwala,
mattar, jalferzi, tikka
masala, and bhuna, are
casserolemixtures served
similarly to entrees in a
Chinese restaurant, most
costing about $10.95. As
one might expect in an
_" Indian restaurant,a great number of veg-
¯ etarian dishes, mostly priced at $7.95, are
: also available. One of our favorites is the
". saagpaneer, which is a creamed spinach
¯ mix with chunks of freshly made cheese,
: andis the only way we willvoluntarily eat
: cooked spinach.
¯. All of the entrees come with classic
¯ and is often scented with saffron, the
: world’s most precious and expensive
." spice, and mixed with fruits, nuts, and
: vegetables.
¯ KheerBadami,$2.50,isastereotypical
: Indi.anri.cepuddingdessert.TheTaj Mahal
: version ~s a bit on the soupy side, but still
i ~eentsY~nt~d~kC.hpTismthc~ cardamomflav°r °f cx?’n-lce
". c~eam, $2.75, andmangoicecream; $2.50,
: ale also available.
: to Tulsa. The service is still not quite as
: p01ished as thatat its Sister restaurant, but
¯ continues to improve. NeVertheless, it is
: worth a’special-tfip to try out the Indian
: foods, and enjoy the ethnic ambiance.
: And, fbr you less adventuresome readers,
¯. alway~ remember that the kitchen can
¯ adjust .the temperature of the Spice from
: very mildt0challengingly hot.
Welcome to Brookside, Taj Mahal!
:
:
of an acne conditions and insure that your
skinmakes it through looking healthy and
: unblemished.
Next month’s column will focus on
¯ how to find a skin care program that’s
: right for you.
". Stephen W. Scott, PME is a native of
". Tulsa. His is president and founder of
¯ Face Beautiful & FB for Men, a Euro-
". clinical dayspaspeciali~ing in treatments
: for the skin, body, hair and nails, located
¯. in OKC. He is also certified in fitness,
¯ nutrition and massage. 405-840-3223.
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Leather/SM and the Law
by lance brittain
Can you be arrested for practicing
leathersex? Is it because this is Oklahoma
that most people believe it is illegal to
participateinthis type of activity.9 i would
like to answer your questions and put any
fears you may have to rest. With the help
of Timothy
Daniel, Attorney-
At-Law, i hopefully
can easeyour
minds and stop
thosenasty rumors
that have made
their way around
town throughout
the years.
While reading
this column, i ask
that you have an
open mind and remember
that
leather/SM encompasses
many
forms and does not
only involve pain
and power exchange,
but that
therearemanylevels
on which the
leatherlifestyleevolves. Theleathercommunity
is one of many within the gay
community just as the gay community is
within the world as a whole. We all are
different and enjoy different aspects of
life, so to discriminate du~to these differences
is no better than the heterosexual
groups whichdiscriminate ag~nst the gay
community, i have seen the need for a
colunmdiscussing thelaws and theleather
lifestyle in recent months and have personally
dealt with the controversy, fear of
the unknown, and discriminationjust last
week.
Common sense will .help you understand
indecent exposure and obscenity
as it is illegal for any person to willfully
and lewdly expose one’s self or any private
parts in any public place, or in any
place where others are present that are
offended or annoyed. What this means is
that showing your genital areas in public
can get you arrested. One should have
respect for others as common courtesy. If
one procures, counsels, or assists anyone
to lewdly expose themselves, or to make
any otherexhibition ofthemselves topublic
view, or to the view of any number of
people, which can be seen as offensive to
decency, or is adopted to excite vicious or
lewd thoughts or acts is illegal too. Fantasies,
simulated (or no0 production numbers
for entertainment, and workshops
may take place which most likely have
been publicized with details of the actual
event. Once a patron has stepped into the
event they have consented to what is takingplace.
Ifthey arrive andhavenotheard
about what is taking place, they can excuse
themselves for that period of time.
Fantasies are not presented for inticing
someone togo out and act on while workshops
are for educational purposes and to
ensure those participants play safe and
know what they are doing.
Assault is any willful and unlawful
attempt or offer with force or violence to
seriouslyharm someone.A batteryis any
unlawful beating or other wrongful or
physical violence or constraint, inflicted
on a human being without their consent.
To constitute a battery, there must be an
actual touching, however slight, of the
Mr. Tulsa Leather ’96-’97 Chosen
Sept. 20th was the night to be at The Silver
Star Saloon asJamesMurraywasproclaimed
Mr. Tulsa Leather ’96-’97 by Ron Greenwood,
producer. 1st & 2nd runner-ups were
Curtis Bass & David Shook. Murray goes on
to the Oklahoma Mr. Leather® 1997 contest
on Nov. 9th at The Silver Star. Judges were
DavidBridgman, lance brittain, TJMcKenzie,
Gary Stephenson, andSteve Fendt. Mr. Tulsa
Leather ’95- ’96, Vie Reyespassedon hissash.
: person assaulted. Something to note is
¯ that "battery" includes assault, but "as-
¯ sault" doesn’t include battery. Numerous
¯ instruments are used in leather/SM play
¯ and to others they can be deemed as dan-
" gerous. The law states it is illegal for
¯ anyone, with the intention to cause bodily
: harm without iustifiable or excusabl..e
cause, to commit
any assault, battery,
or as sault and
battery upon
another’s body
with any sharp or
dangerous
weapon. It also is
illegal to shoot,
without such
¯cause, at another
with any kind of
firearm or air gun
or other means,
with intent to injure
any person
without the intent
to kill. This is another
action that
common sense
tells us not to do.
Maiming is
premeditated de-
: signtoiniureanother, inflictingupontheir
¯ body any injury which disfigures their
personal appearance or disables anymem-
¯ ber or organ of their body or seriously
diminishes theirphysical vigor. "Premeditated
design to injure another" does not
mean.that there must be a design to maim
person injured in exact way o_r to extent
actually I3erpetrated. It is im~aterial by
what means or instrument, or in what
manner the injury was inflicted to constitute
maiming. To constitute maiming by
disfigurement, the injury must be able to
attract observation after healing. If the
injury can onlybe seenupon closeinspection,
then disfigurement is not the case. A
premeditated design to injure, disfigure,
or disable maybeformedinstantly before
inflicting the wound as long as it is sufficient
to be maiming.
Leathersex is lovemaking. Real
leatherpeople do not want to cause harm
to anyone and only participateinleathersex
out of love. Please remember the leather
creed when you are playing: "Safe, Sane,
Consensual, and Fun!"
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(lulsa) =8z~06
NORTHEASTERN OKLAHOMA
I’m Bi curious and into cross dressers,
Transvestites, Transsexuals, and B&D.
Call me. (Tulsa) =8871
LET ME WORK ON YOU
I m a White male m my m~d 40 s, 6ft,
Black hair. Blue eves. mustache~
2091bs.
Call me. (Tulsa)
=10561
COWBOY RiDE I’m a 32
year old Gay White male, 6ft,
1621bs, Brown hair, Blue eyes I would
like to meet a man 25 to 35. If you
want a good time call me. (Tulsa)
=10886
UKE A VIRGIN} want to g ve the all
mate thing a try. I ve never~n With a
g y before andl m real curious. Cal!
me. ITulsa) =10452
YOUNG PUPS WANTED !’m a 21
year old Bi White cowboy, 6ft, 1971bs,
Brown hair, Brown eyes. I’m seeking
Ga~ or Bi men 18to 23 in my area.
Callme. (Tulsa) =10526
OUI"~OOR BEARDED GUY I’m a
White male. I’m drug and alcohol free.
I’m 6’2, 1901bs, Brown hair, beard,
mustache. I love the outdoors. (Tulsa)
=8171
GENTLEMEN START YOUR
ENGINES I’m 40 years old and
would like to meet someone around my
age. Call me. (Tulsa)
BIG MAN I’m 20 years old. I would
like to meet guys 18 to 25. I’m 6’6
2751bs, Blond hair, Blue eyes, ve~’
masculine. Ca!l me. (Tulsa) =86~8
PLAYMATES WANTED I’m a sing e
guy looking for discreet safe play. I’m
39 years old, 5’6, 1301bs, short’Blond
hair, beard, hairy chest. Call me.
(Tulsa) =8677
LOOKING FOR FRIENDSHIP I’m
28 years old, 2001bs, 6’2. I’m looking
for friendship and a possible
relationship. I’m new at this and ’m
looking for friends. Call me. (Tulsa)
=5023
OUT AND ABOUT I’m a Gay White
male, 5’9, 1351bs, Blond hair, Green
eyes. I’m looking for someone 18 to 25
who is clean cut. I enjoy movies, music,
dancing, going out, etc. Call me. (Tulsa)
=6297
RELATIONSHIP ON MY MIND I’m
24years old, 6ft, 1911bs, good
looking, Brown hair, Brown eyes,
swimmers build. I’m very mascu ne and
clean cut. I like cam,ping, fishing,
hiking, sports, etc. I m looking ~or
someone 18 to 23 for a relationship
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ENJOY LIFE I have Brown hair,
~ chest. I’m 5’11, 33
living
j~ movies, counlry
music, two stepping, dance music, etc.
for an ~onest and sincere
(Tulsa) =7137
HOT FUN m a Gay White male, 30
1751bs, Brown hair,
~ looking for a clean
to 35 for some hot fun.
=7251
T,,A,LL COOL ONE I’m 20 years old,
6 6, Blond hair, Blue eyes. I would like
to meet same other young men 18 to
25 who are Bi, Gay, Straight, etc. If
you. are interested please call me.
(Tulsa)
BI’CURIOUS I’m 45 ~ears old and I’m
Bi curious. I’m new at this and kind of
shy. I’m looking for other Bi curious
guys or may~ a good teacher to
experiment with. Call me. (Tulsa)
=7929
MAN WANTED I’m 6’1, 1651bs,
Brown hair, Blue eyes, straight acting
Gay White male. I seek an aggressive
man 19 to 30 to get together with. Call
me. (Tulsa) =4374
VERY CU~ 5MIL~ I’m an altractive
Gay White male, 6ft, 1451bs, dark hair
Green eyes, medium build, versatile, ’
very cute smile. I seek attractive .Gay
White males !8 to 36 for friendship
and possible relationship. You must be
outgoing (Tulsa) =4639
NORTHEASTERN OKLAHOMA I’m
25 years old, Gay White male, 6’2,
2101bs, Brown hair, Blue eyes. I like
movies, music, long walks, etc. I would
like to meet a sincere Gay male in my
area for a discreet long term
relationship. Call me. (Tulsa) =1188
B! m 48 year old B~ curious
male Iookin~ for teachers
Call me. (’[ulsal
=331~5
PUPPY I’m 19 years
.o,ld, Black curly, Blue eyes, 6fi, 1651bs.
!’m ve.ry outgoing. I’m. looking for
friends. Callme. (Tulsa) =33419
SATISFY MY CURIOSITY I’m 21
years old, Blonde hair, Blue eyes
I’m looking for a Bi curious or Bi
Fema e to spend time with I% new
at lhis andwould like to r~eet
sameane. Call me. (Norman)
=24822
GOIN~,BI WAY? I’m 18years
old and I m looking for a Bi (emale
for friendship and other things. I live
in South Arkansas. Call m~.
(Oklahoma Cityl =21820
iBI AND B! Bi Female, 5’4", 115,
ibrown hair, hazel eyes, seeks same.
iNo exceptions! (Oklahoma Cily)
i=22358
TOUCHING AND HOLDING
GBF, seeks Bi or Gay females for
[un and friendship. Please get in
touch with me. (Oklahoma City)
=3610
THE ~NDOW OF UFE I’m a
arofessional and I en oy the positive
,vindow life. I’m looking for
~omeone 30 to 55 who does the
same. I’m looking for a non smoker,
no addictions or ~drugs. t love my
life and my two small ch dren. Call
me. (Tulsa) =32171
TENNIS ANYONE? Woman,
recently moved to Tulsa seeks tennis
player 40 to 60 3.5 level for weekly
game in Tulsa. Call me. (Tulsa)
=15341
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Marble Lobby
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Tulsa Family News, “Tulsa Family News, October 15-November 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 11,” OKEQ History Project, accessed May 17, 2021, https://history.okeq.org/items/show/528.