[1994] Tulsa family News, December 1993-January 1994; Volume 1, Issue 1

[1994] Tulsa family News, December 1993-January 1994; Volume 1, Issue 1

Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa's Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities.

Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued between Dec. 1993-January 1994.

The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, military, law, charity, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level.

This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission.

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TULSA FAMILY NEWS
Serving Tulsa's Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities — Our Families of the Heart
Volume 1, Issue 1

HIV Exposure Lawsuit Could Give Final Blow To Sodomy Law
By Tom Neal, Tulsa Family News reporter
A ruling by Oklahoma district level judge, Melinda Monette on a civil lawsuit filed by Drumright attorney, Tim Daniel, may strike the killing blow to Oklahoma’s "sodomy" law. The lawsuit seeks damages from the estate of a Gay man allegedly for knowingly exposing the plaintiff to risk of HIV infection (human immune-deficiency virus) during the course of a two-year sexual relationship. It is alleged that the decedent knew he had been diagnosed with AlDS (acquired immune deficiency syndrome), concealed his health status, and knowingly enegaged in sexual behavior that exposed the plaintiff to high risk of infection. Exposing another person to risk of HIV infection without full disclosure is a violation of Oklahoma law.
Tim Cheek, attorney defending the estate of the decedent, challenged not the facts of the plaintiff's case but challenged the plaintiff's right to sue. Mr. Check claimed that the plaintiff, a person admitting to violating Oklahoma's "sodomy" statute, a felony crime, has no right to seek damages for an injury that occurred during "the commission of a crime" — i.e. the violation of Oklahoma's "sodomy" statute, ".... [the] detestable and abominable crime against nature, committed with mankind or with a beast, is punishable by imprisonment in the penitentiary not exceeding ten years...."
Legal scholars have questioned whether Oklahoma's "sodomy" statute still applies to homosexual conduct. In 1986 in a case concerning heterosexual conduct, the law was found to be unconstitutional. In Post vs. the State of Oklahoma, the Court of Criminal Appeals of Oklahoma found that "'natural repugnance' [on the part of many for certain sexual acts] does not create compelling justification for state regulation of 'abnormal' sexual acts involving consenting adults, and thus, application of....[the OK sodomy law]....to allegedly private, consensual acts violated defendant's constitutional right to privacy...."
Attorney Daniel suggests that the case, Post vs. the State of Oklahoma, logically should apply to homosexual conduct as well as heterosexual conduct but add that in our system of law these issues are determined by successive court tests. As a different circumstances are examined by the courts, the application of a ruling is better understood.
Some of the legal support for overturning sodomy laws was lost in a US Supreme Court ruling, Bowers vs. Hardwick, also from 1986.  This case found that homosexual conduct is not protected under the US Constitution’s implied right to privacy. Legal experts have characterized this 5-4 case as poorly reasoned, being more informed by traditional prejudice than by sound legal principles. Former US Justice Powell, who provided the "swing" vote to continue to criminalize private, consensual homosexual conduct, has since recanted his vote, saying he made a mistake.
In his response to attorney Tim Cheek, Mr. Daniel argued that his client should not lose "the most fundamental right, that of a fair hearing in court" because the client is Gay and engaged in homosexual conduct. In challenging defense attorney Cheek, Daniel claims that the ruling in Post vs. the State of Oklahoma applies to homosexual conduct as well. Daniel further states that the Bowers vs. Hardwick decision is the product of a sharply divided US Supreme Court and does not represent "settled doctrine." Daniel adds that while the Bowers vs. Hardwick decision does allow the state of Georgia to keep its "sodomy" law, it does not require Oklahoma to reinstate its "sodomy" law which has already been found to be unconstitutional.
Judge Monette ruled in favor of Tim Daniel's client, ruling that the decision of Post vs. the State of Oklahoma does apply to homosexual conduct. This means that homosexual conduct is no longer criminalized in the state of Oklahoma unless a higher court reverses Judge Monette's decision. Atty. Cheek said he would seek such a ruling from a higher court, up to the State Supreme Court if necessary. If Judge Monette's decision is upheld, Oklahoma's "sodomy" law will be clearly unconstitutional and Tim Daniel's plaintiff's case will go to trial like any other civil damages case. At press time, no further action had occurred. An appeal to a higher court and further rulings can be expected within the next several months.
Attorney Tim Daniel

HOSTILE CLIMATE
New report cites anti-gay public policy incidents in 41 states in past year
By CHRIS THOMAS
GayNetNews Service
A new report on anti-gay efforts across the nation spotlights several dangerous strategies being used by anti-gay groups, and shows how scattered victories can be turned into a broader base of support. "Hostile Climate: A State-by-State Report on Anti-Gay Activity" Was prepared by People for the American Way (PAW), a 300,000-member non-partisan constitutional liberties organization based in Washington, D.C.
According to PAW president Arthur J. Kropp, "While national battles over gay rights have captured, the limelight, dozens of low-profile campaigns against basic civil rights for gays and lesbians have been proliferating at the local level. The spread of anti-gay activity has reached a point where millions of Americans fear their most basic rights are being held hostage to hate politics.
According to the report, 41 states and the District of Columbia have experienced anti-gay activity since the November 1992 elections. A total of 132 state or local battles are chronicled in the report, and ranged from attacks statewide anti-discrimination laws to the vandalism of the home of Melbourne, Iowa, mayor Bill Crews, who had publicly come out just prior to his participation in the March on Washington. Schools are a major focus of anti-gay efforts, and the religious right movement
see Hostile Climate, page 4

TX Welcomes Apple
CUPERTINO, Calif. — Williamson County, Texas, county commissioners who snubbed Apple Computer Inc. at the end of November because of its domestic partner health benefits package for gay and lesbian employees reversed themselves a week on Dec. 7. Just a week before, on Nov. 30, the commissioners had refused 3-2 to extend a $750,000 tax abatement to Apple because of the domestic partners benefits. The second vote that give Apple the $1 million for improvements, also 3-2, involved no change in the computer firm's partners policy, which Apple insisted from the time the issue first erupted here nearly a month ago was not up for negotiation. "Our policy remains clear and we did not waiver," said Bill Keegan, Apple's spokesman in Texas. "We feel this policy is an important component of our business plan. It's a way to attract and retain the best and brightest employees."
–GayNet News Service

AIDS Bias at American Airlines?
November 22, 1993

Mr. Robert Crandall, President

Dear Mr. Crandall,
We were extremely disappointed to lean [sic.] that American Airlines has once again behaved irresponsibly in its treatment of passengers who either have or are perceived to have AIDS or HIV disease.
The latest incident of which we are aware, that of the forcible arrest of Mr. Timothy Holless from flight 50 out of Chicago, is in our view, deplorable. Our understanding of the facts leads us to belive that there was a phenomenal insenitivity to the needs of those who suffer from AIDS, and seems to us as if American's actions may have been violative of both the Air Carrier Access Act and Title III of the Americans with Disabilities Act.
To add insuit to the the [sic.] indignity of your treatment of Mr. Holless, when AIDS advocacy groups sought a response to the treatment of Mr. Holless, American's answer was that the incident does not warrant a response. That is unacceptable.
We understand that American has apologized to Mr. Holless. By that we infer you recognize that you have erred, and changed your opinion that the situtation merited no response. We will now look to see that American implements clear and appropriate guidelines with respect to how the airline will accommodate the needs of future travelers who have or are perceived to have HIV or AIDS. We expect shortly from you a clear statement of non-discrimination and full compliance with all Federal anti-discrimination laws, and we expect you to abide by that anti-discrimination in the future.
Rep. Barney Frank, D-MA
Rep. Henry Waxman, D-CA
Rep. Pat Schroeder, D-CO
Rep. Gerry Studds, D-MA
Rep. James Oberstar, D-MN
Rep. John Lewis, D-GA
Rep. John Olver, D-MA
Rep. Jolene Unsoeld, D-WA
Rep. Anna G. Eshoo, D-CA
Rep. Thomas Andrews, D-MA
Rep. Major Owens, D-MA
Rep. Jane Harman, D-CA
Rep. Tom Lantos, D-CA
Rep. Jerrold Nadler, D-NY
Rep. Nancy Pelosi, D-CA
Rep. Marty Meehan, D-MA
Rep. Neil Abercrombie, D-HI
Rep. George Miller, D-CA
Rep. Nydia Velazquez, D-NY
Rep. Lynn Schenk, D-CA
Rep. Howard Berman, D-CA
Rep. Lynn C. Woolsey, D-CA
Washington, D.C.
The letter above was sent after Timothy Holless was arrested and removed by force from an American Airlines flight on November 14 bound from Chicago to San Francisco. Speaking with Tulsa Family News, Gus Whitcomb of American Airlines public relations department portrayed the incident as merely an effort to insure Mr. Holless' wellbeing.
see American, page 4

Tulsa Public Schools Ignore Pro-Gay State Educa. Regulations
By Tom Neal, Tulsa Family News reporter
The Tulsa Public School System has ignored for eight months state non-discrimination regulations that include protection for students based on sexual orientation. On March 18, the Oklahoma State Department of Education adpoted standards of performance and conduct for teachers. These standards were adopted as a result of HB 1017.
These standards state, "the teacher must strive to help each student realize his or her potential as a worthy and effective member of society ....the teacher: .....shall not on the basis of race, color, creed, sex, national origin, marital status, political or religious beliefs, family, social or cultural background, or sexual orientation, unfairly, a. exclude andy [sic.] student from participation in any program, b. deny benefits to any students, c. grant any advantage to any student...."
Jack Pontious, Manager for Human Resources for Tulsa Public Schcols (TPS) told Tulsa Family News that school system had not been aware of the regulations before Tulsa Family News called. Mr. Pontius indicated that Tulsa Public Schools would distribute the regulations sometime before March 1994. In the Tulsa area, the Jenks school system, in contrast, included these regulations at the beginning of the school year with all new teacher contracts.
Tulsa Family News asked the office of State Superintendent of Public Instruction, Sandy Garrett, for an explaination of how it was that the second largest school district in the state not only was not in compliance with these regulation [sic.] but didn't even seem to know about them. Press secretary for the superintendent, John Delanders, initially took this request but failed to respond to further phone calls over several weeks.

Tulsa Family News, December 1993 – January 1994, page 1

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Tulsa Directory
* Asterisks indicate distribution points
Bars & Restaurants
*The Alley, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896
*Cherry St. Bakery, 1344 E. 15 583-8398
*Elearic Circus, 606 S. Elgin 587-8677
*Laff's, 311 E. 7th 583-5233
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 S. Sheridan 834-4234
*Renegade, 1649 S. Main 585-3405
*Time n’ Time Again, 1515 S. Memorial 660-0856
*TNT’s 2114 S. Memorial 664-8299
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
*Whittier Cafe, 416 S. Lewis, 582-2400
Retail Businesses/Galleries
*Indian Territory Coffee Company 1613 E. 15 587-1633
Galerie Europa, 203 N. Main 592-2787
Harry & Mrs. Jones, 1617 E. 15 582-1617
Jared’s, 1602 E. 15 582-3018
Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Pl 664-2951
Novel Idea Discount Books
7104 S. Sheridan 492-0335
3356 E. 51 747-6711
*Phun Stuph, 1519 E. 15 584-7486
*Tomfoolery, 1565 S. Sheridan 832-0233
Organizations
ACT-UP, POB 532 74101
Names Proj. POB 318 74101 748-3111
P-FLAG POB 52800 74152 749-4901
HIV Resource Consortium
*TOHR, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1
Gay Line Info. 743-4297
Shanti Hotline 749-7898
B/L/G Alliance, Tulsa U. 583-9780
Oklahoma AIDS Hotline 800,535-2437
Other
*Tulsa Central Library, 400 Civic Ctr. 596-7977
*Chapman Student Ctr. TU, 631-0000
*University Center at Tulsa
Professionals
Theodore Campbell, MSW
1560 E 21 743-1000
Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy 2865 E. Skelly, Ste. 215 745-1111
Tim Daniel, Atty. 352-9504 or 800-742-9468
Bill Hinkle, Atty. 749-1586
Kelly Kirby, CPA, 9933 E 16 663-9399
John Kirk, Realtor 747-5800, 745-2245
Tom Neal, Designer 832-0233
Buildings/Gardens/Graphics
Religious Organizations
*Family of Faith¯MCC, 500 W. ’A’ Jenks 298-4622
Affirmation (Methodist) 742-8213
*MCC-Tulsa, 1623Maplewood 838-1715
Dignity/Integrity 298-4648
*Canterbury Ministry Ctr. TU, 583-9780

TULSA FAMILY NEWS
Publisher/Editor
Tom Neal

918-832-0233
POB 4140
Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159

Issued on the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1993 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo in no way indicates or reflects that person’s sexual orientation.
Correspondance is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted and becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondance should be sent to the address above.
Tulsa Family News is a [sic.] event & entertainmnt newspaper distributed free of charge in local businesses and organizations.

Why Tulsa Family News?
Hey, girl that one’s cute, is she family? Said with irony, sometimes, said by men, or said by women (though maybe not quite in those exact words), the meaning of family for Lesbians, Gay men and Bisexuals is fluid.
Family is, yes, our birth/adoptive parents and siblings but family is also that tribe of women and men, sisters and brothers (or perhaps just sisters), who welcomed us after we realized our differences from the heterosexual world.
More than many tribes, we are a diverse group. We are separated by issues of gender, of race, religion and ethnicity, by class and by age, and by physical beauty. Sometimes, like biological families, we are cruel and abusive to one another.
But at our best, despised though we may be by HeteroAmerica, we strive for ideals that much of the rest of this country long seem to have forgotten.
For example, I was involved in several of the national planning meetings for this last March on Washington. For all the frustration and hard work of the process, it was characterized by an effort to empower and include persons of all statuses; race, gender, transgender, age, sub-communities: students, leather, religious, etc. No one else in America is even seriously trying democracy of this sort....certainly, not our government.
And perhaps this is not part of our special gift to America: in some Native American traditions, Men Who loved Men & Women who loved Women were known as Two-Spirits. They had special roles as shamans — those who showed the way. Perhaps, we can show the way to a country that often has failed to live the ideals it claims.
We must reclaim family from those who would take it for their use only — who would pervert it for their political and monetary gain. The family historically has been large and messy, sometimes biological but just as often tied together by need and sometimes, love. It has always included us, Lesbians, Gay men and Bisexuals, though not always by those names (spinster aunts and bachelor uncles, and as we know, being married doesn’t make straight).
The family in America has rarely been what the Christo-Fascists have claimed. We know it and they know it to. But demonizing us serves their political purpose. This country has a long and shameful history of slandering various minorities, creating an enemy within to play off folks’ fears so that a few could gain wealth and political power.
We have demonized Native Americans, Blacks, Jews, Catholics, Asians and others. These days, Lesbians, Gay men and Bisexuais are the enemy of choice, and the coffers of the Religious Right, the Christo-Fascists are full.
So this is Tulsa Family News, news for our families of the heart, and for our families that are biological, our brothers, sisters and parents, cousins, uncles, and aunts.
This is the first of what I hope will be many issues. Tulsa deserves to have its own event and entertainment paper. News from Oklahoma City is of interest but is not enough.
This paper follows several other attempts by folks, whom I honor for their hard work. Tulsa Family News can and will be there for Tulsa if you help us. Let us know what you like. Let us know what you don’t like (gently, please). Patronize the basinesses that support us and tell them that you saw their ad — there is a connection between your actions and this paper being here. And if you are a Lesbian or Gay business owner, reach out to your community via advertising. Lesbian and Gay bar owners have long carried much of the weight of helping the community — it’s time for some of the rest of us to share the job. Thanks.
Tom Neal, publisher.
PS, anyone interested in a Lesbian/Gay Indian organization, drop a line to Jesse, c/o TFN.

Next Month
First in a Series: Interviews with City Council Candidates on Our Issues New Feature: Local Heroes

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Tulsa Family News, December 1993 — January 1994, page 2

PROUD OF HIS PREJUDICE
The editodal reproduced above is from The Grove Sun, Grove, Oklahoma. It was faxed directly to Tulsa Family News with permission to reprint.
Should we laugh or cry after reading this editorial by its publisher, M. Gerald Stone? The view is so extreme and so ignorant that at first it is hard to take it seriously.
Sadly, though, we recognize that M. Gerald Stone is not being facetious. He’s serious when he suggest [sic.] that "sex between males is the main cause of the HIV virus." It seems that Mr. Stone is not one to let 10 years of medical evidence from around the world get in the way of his prejudice. He adds that "faggots" should not come crying to the government and the taxpayers for help in fighting the HIV epidemic.
Excuse us, Mr. Stone, but last we checked, Lesbians & Gay men were still citizens. We know that we are certainly paying our fair share of taxes (probably more) and we know it’s our government too, no matter how much that government treats us as 3rd class citizens. It’s our right to call on our government to try to prevent further suffering by finding treatment for HIV related diseases, including we hope a cure ultimately. It's our right to be angry at our government who during the past decade did so much less than it could have done precisely because it was dominated by men who think like you — though most of them were somewhat more subtle in expressing their bias.
Now, we recognize that it is your right to express yourself and we defend that right, no matter how churlish that opinion is. But we can’t help but wonder as we approach this sacred season — when Jews celebrate the miracle of the lamps, Pagans the lengthening of the day, and Christians, a man who called out for compassion, could you not put aside at least some of your hate? And as a journalist, couldn't you at least check your facts?


Timothy W. Daniel
Attorney at Law
Estate Planning, Adopbons, Personal Injury
Criminal Law, Bankruptcy, Workers Compensation
1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504
128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma
Weekend and evening appointents are available.
Know Your Rights!

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The officer willjust politely give you athumbs-up, so don’t worry. Taurus(Apr. 20-May20): These must not bethehappiestdaysf~ourdearLesNessman, newscaster at the fabledWKRPin Cincinnati. Not only did he get kicked out of the locker room because they thought he was gay, now he"s gota whole city screaming to get him off the air. Les knows better, though, and you might t~his techniquenexttime there’s some static on your dial: grab one of your Buckeye News Hawk awards and tell Herb to sit on it. Gem|hi (May 21-Jnn. 20): Let’s clear.one thing up right away. I’m so direct with you only because I care, not becans~ anyone’s paying me.on the side to feed you false advice. It’s tough, though, because some rather lu- Crative offers have come myway, but I’ve humbly placedmy honesty toward you ahead ofmyneedtostopeating macaroni andcheese. Not everyone elsemay be as magnaminous as I, so be sure tobuys lots ofgrains ofsalt to take with the advice yon receive. Cancer (Jun. 21-Jul. 22): I hafta get something offmychest aboutNAFTA. It was quite a laffla see thatFerengi guy debating the vicepresident. I toldmywhole stafftawatch, and it quickly became obvious that hardly anything _ rhymedwith NAFI’A. Consider your own trade tariffs’right now; hecause someof them maybe too high.and might.be inhibiting the free fl0w of happiness across your borders. If anyone offers ,you photos of Messrs. Smoot and Hawley, just decline and say :that they make a marvelous couple. Leo 0nl. 23-Aug.,22): Here are myTop 3 reason~ (intellectual property lawspreventme from doing: 10) why you should t~j. to have more fun this.week: 3, Yon’vebeen abump on. a log for so long you’re getting wood rot; 2. That churning noise in your stomach has nothing todo with mass quantities of melted. processed cheese flav0r.product;andNumber. One: Thanks to this advice, your world will be.- flooded with people all having more, fun; and : one 0fthem has a very special type of fun.all - planned.out for you. Virgo (AUg. 23=Sep, 22): You walk into the waiting room, Ralph Edwardsjumps out from behind the chair and screams, "This is your life," and yourf|rstinstinct is to runback to the parking lot, head between your legs. Since. you’re probably, not (yet) a well-known star, though, you can do better. Haven’t you been iseoretly wishing for a sneak peek at the. next couple.of chapters? Ofcourse, that may send you packing for the parking lot, but at least you’ll have a. chance to rewrite the book. Libra (Sep. 23-Oct. 22): Winter is"he~! Grease those skids, oil those chains, brush those gloves; and wash the mask. Someday you may want to take up outdoor activities as well but, in the meantime, be sure to.buy your lift tickets early. The forecasters say it’ s going tobean above,normal season,so startplanning those controlled avalanches now to keep ev- ¯ erything under control.. Scorpio (Oct~ 23-Nov: 21): The ancient ways seem to be what you need this week. So iim¢ to mature, and the test is whether or not I lit some. incense, turned down the lights, you can sit them and wait fortime to takeits an’anged allmy stones in perfect concentric com~.-YourmOstinnnataminvestmentsmight circles, andstarted to chant some Bulgarian just pm(ince the most intcresL folk music. After [was politely reminded that Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): .Sometimes. I Foley:s~d ,notapproveofsuch behavior in its wonder about people who think there’s nothfurniture :idepartment, the answer appeared ingmoretolifethanquietcandielightdinn~rs, .beforemyeyes.It’s absolutely crysta! clear for. gentle walks along the beach, and cuddling in you this.week. It was therein front of me, frontofthetelevision. I wonder how nice that almost in blackand white. "Elegantinxury can wonld be,.acWally. Every once in a while, it’s be_ yours with low monthly payments." time to trim off the sirens, unload the ammm Sagittarius (Nov..22rDec. 2.0,): What your nition, andtakeoffthe fatigues; somewbereon .world needs n~ght now i~ a little more gay the other.side of your battle line is someone cuitute. Fortanately, I have a few Petri dishes who wants nothing more than what yon want. handy; and.you know exactly where to fred If you’re quiet enough, you might just hear some of those peskycultures that have been them whisper. festering on the fringes of your la,boratory. Pisces (Feb. 19-Mar.- 19): Turn .on the Now, let’sputthemunder this huge ultraviolet " Snuday~moming preachers (actually, please light; grow them to te_n times theirnormal size, don’t, because it would only excite them), and and then watch them explode in a mass of you’ll hear that our country is morally bank- :protoplasmic self-con~ction.. S~p playing rapt.. They’re thinking of something totally inthe lab, and create some new life in the real different, but yourown bank’s assets are critiworld instead, cally low, and you need to take a serious look Capricorn (Dec. 21-Jan. 19): Tax,free atyour policy toward lending to foreign gov: municipal bbnds. I~m not a registered broker -emments. Write off those uncollectible debts, or agent,so I can’t say anything else.about open somenew branches, andmail outa few them without running afoul of both the Secu- thousand free credit-card offers. dries and Exchange Commission and the Gay Astrologers’ Collective~ Local 1. But beware that s6me investments can take a very long

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" How.:.: !’To Buy rReal- .Es.tateTogether by Donald Vaughan - will be economically rewarding; " " ¯ COUPLES.:.?A Gay & Lesbian Newsletter -will be.emoti0nally rewarding; " This article is written from a real estate lawyers poitit of vidw. Couples interested in buying realestate together shouldconsulttheir own legal,mx and f’manci~-advisors. - Mostof us were brought up t6 believe that owning a.houie~ with a husband or wife is a. major part. of:the "great American dream." Although Some ofus may Still end up with the cottageonthe hill, formost ofusthe dream has changed.-We, now are more interested in a condo in an.urban center, a multifamily in a city neighborhood, or a vacation home~ to say nothing ofthe dream spouse’s change in gender. Buyingreal estate with our Companion is still a strongly-felt desire for many.of us. This is the f~stin afour-part series ofarticleswhich will explore~ - the process of deciding what type of property, location,-search process and financing to use; -negotiating and closing the deal, moving in, - runningthe place & selling; - the merits of co-tenancy or other legal agreementswhich define the rights and obligationsof the individual owners. Is buying real estate together a good idea? Thedecision to buy areal estate together often times is the~major choice a couple makes after establishing :their relationship. There generally are-~ types of advantages and disadvantages gay and lesbian couples need to con-.. sider in making this_decision. Eager Would~be buyers tend to think of the pros first: Buying rea~ estate... - will give us a solid mteofreturn; - will create equity for us; .- will give us income tax benefits. . And now that... " -prices are a[ rock bottom, whynot? - interest rates are much.lower, why not? Real EState isastatus symbol-both in society at large andourown community. On the other hand consider the cons. Buying realestate can cripple your incomes ifone of youloses your job, nor is it a good way t0’shore up a troubled relationship. It can be a lime commitment for whichneitherofyou isready.ltcan accentuate differences in taste and long-range,personal goals. Ifyou break up dissolving~estate assets can be messy, even with good agrec~ ments in place.. In the second article in this series, we will discuss the general formulas, lenders use to detetminewhathousingexpensesmostcouples can c0mfo~ably afford. An accoantant or financial advisor, can advise a couple as to appropriate savings plans and di~sahility and life insurance programs.which may limit the financial risks involved. Co-tenancy agreements, to be discussed inthe last article ofthis .series; can.define whopays what:if problems with the relationship develop. Buying property together isa seriouscommitment; a detailed plan going in always simplifies the process, not to mention your sanity!-Location; financing and looking for that winning piece. of property will be in future issues.

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T H E G A Y L Company American Theatre Co. POB 1265 Broken Arrow ¯ Community Playhouse 1109 E. Memphis . 258-0077 Clark Theatre 11440 E. Admiral Helier Theatre 5328 S. Wheeling 669-6455 Spotlight Theatre 1381 Riverside.Drive 587-5030 Perfo~ing Arts.Trust 101E; Third Show A Christmas Carol December 10-23 $11-16 William~ Theatre, Perf. Arts Center The Best Christmas Pageant Ever December 10-19 $10 BA Community Playhouse Working December 17-19 $5 Clark Theatre It’s Sad, So Sad, When an ElfGoes Bad December21-23 $3 Clark Theatre An Evening ofDance with Locomotion January 7-10 $5 Heller Theatre TheDrunkard December 18 Janna~r 8, 15 $7,50 ~ " SpotiightTheatre Jungle Book January 8 " Studio One, Performing Arts Cent Tulsa Ballet The Nutcracker . 4512 s. Peoria ~ December 16-23 749 .: Ch~,.r~an Music HalL-Perf. A~Center ~North .... Ma Rose . -.. 132N.Gr~nwood December 12÷18: studio.O~, P=fom~g a’ms sched~ isbrouoi-t toyon as as(~,~ of Z~eatre tulsa. l~ext perf--: Tennessee Willlam.¢ The G/ass Menagerie, Jan, 21-30,Call 587-8402 for more info. I F E S T Y L E Paula. Poundstone----Th.e Pop Tart Queen by Lee Moon - IN- Boston Offbeat, eccentric; quirky, hysterically funny, a comedy watershed, an artist, and an inventor, arejust a fewof the words and ways that have been-used to describePaula Poundstone. She fits all of.the,se descriptions and then some. She also possesses an extraordinary, insightful mind a~d a special lalent for interacting with her audience. When Paulahits the stage, she uses all of those elements in her routines. She addresses everything from cats (she has 5), to the persian GulfWar. "I figure if you go to the bottom of the whole thing, tenyears fromnow, it’s gonna turn out that some yellow ribbon salesman somewhere was at the root of the entire thing. I love the idea oftracing it. You know, you go through the Pentagon, :through the ambassadors, through the Emir of Kuwait, and then there’s one little ribbon salesman basking in the Sun... ". She has her own topics as well. On grownups: "You ever.wonderwhyadults ate always asking little kids what they: want to.be when they grow up? They’re looking for ideas!" And on junk food: "Driving a convertible has changed my eating .habits. I used to eat those Hostess Mini Gems with the white powdered sugar on the sides, Now Ifind I’m eating abalddoughnut witha lotofWhitejunk on my face." She-can tell you in exactly how many states.Ring: Dings (which, she says; are far superim" to Ho-H0"s)are sold, and the nutritional ingredients of Pop Tarts.-("Pop Tarts-are a f’me taste treat. They aretruly one offife’Sfiner pleasures..I don’t go.anywhere Withont.,em. I do ’era cold right from the .I~.~ ).’< .... - Withher dead-on perceptionand deadpan delivery, :Paula displays a remarkable ability -to see~hingsas they really am, notas they are. meant to be. Shesays h~er intention "isn’t to upset or bother people; my intention is to entertain. - It’s not like I’m a historian or an expert on anything. Particularly recently,. I guess, I’ve made some effort to be peEtical, but it’s also what interests me lately." While on stage, her body language alone is entertaining as shel-drapes herself over the stool, wraps herselfin the mike cord, or lays on the floor while delivering her material. Because ofher improvisational approach and the relationship she develops with her audience, each show is an experience - no two are alike. Paulawas born in Alabama~("Thankfully, I only spentonemonth there"), raised in Sudbury, Massachusetts; moved to San Francisco at the age of 19, and now resides in Los Angeles. Shecredits Massachusetts as the state where shereceived her first break. "It’s the typical. story of almost every comedian: I was busing. tables at a club in town and they started an open-mikecomedyshow, andIthoughtImight be able to do that. So I did." Based on the audience response when she performed at various clubs, she felt that she had found her niche. Despite frequent appearances on "The.Tonight Show" and~-"Late Night with David Letterman", the¯ 1989 American Comedy Award. for Funniest Female Stand,Up, numerot~ s cable television specials, including her own "One Night Stand - Cats, Cops and StutI"onHBO,"ThePaulaPotmdstoneShow", (HBO’s."talk show With a twist’~), and the nomination foran ACEAward, Paularemalns low-keyabouther success andShehasnoplans to star in amovie or.TV series. "Ijust do What I do. I have neverbeent0 ambitions and one to seek fame or status;" She-likes comed~ because it’s nice,,easy work -- it’s really a SeePoundstone, page 7 EVERY THURSDAY>-EVEN!-NG.7-8:.30PM TulsaOkl~omans:For .Human Rights 4154S~ Harvard;. Ste. H,I,Quadrangle Building ¯SW Comer¯0f41st&H~ard,SWComerof office:building " . FingerStick Method ., " Daytime Testing, Tuesday and, Thursday,by Appointment- Call 74!9’4194 ~ By &for but not-exclusive tothe Lesbian, Uay""&- Bisexual~Communities Family News; December 1-993:- Janua_~. 19i94,;page:6~ 1tIE 3340-South Peoria 2]To Enl~er 744’0896 Tu I sa., O~l. ahom. ALL THE. PEOPLE GO Tulsa Family News, December1993- January 1994, page 8

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