[2005] The Star Magazine, August 1, 2005; Volume 2, Issue 08


[2005] The Star Magazine, August 1, 2005; Volume 2, Issue 08


Politics, education, and social conversation over LGBTQ+ topics


The Star Magazine’s first issue began February of 2005. Before this issue was Ozarks Pride (2004) and The Ozark Star (2004). Follows is The Metro Star (2008).

This magazine discusses topics of AIDs, education, politics, local and national civil rights of the LGBT community, and advice for relationships and places to visit.

This collection is PDF searchable. Physical copies are also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission.


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August 01, 2005


C.D. Ward
Greg Steele
Josh Aterovis
Michael Dee
Douglas Glenn
Libby Post
Paula Martinac
Andrew Collins
Michael Hinzman
Jack Fertig
Liz Highleyman


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Scott C.row, Managing Broker
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Grand Lake, Oklahoma.
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Fire Destroys Gay Bar.
When a friend suffers a loss we feel
that loss ourselves and want to reach out
and do something to help ease the pain.
Such is the feeling we at the STAR have
for Kelly Crissman and his staff at Studio
716 in Fayetteville.
On Saturday July 16th during the
early morning hours Studio 716 was·
broken -into and set fire by an· arson. The
Club was a total loss. Crissman said the
investigation had ruled out ii#e·•crime as a
motive. He and investigatotJ 0slispect the
arson may have been a disgrifo.tled exemployee
and would not .i:Oriiment
further on that possibility. •
"The building owner pilμlS to rebuild
the space and Studio 716 \Vilh:eopen in
the same location bigger aifd ;better than
before, we aren't sure abqilt,the time.
frame for the reopening. y, take
months for construction .. ·. . efurbishing
the club" said Crissman.. . ... ·
Studio 716 had been iri: btisiiiess for
over 2 years and was F~yett~e's only
gay club. .· ..
Kelly Crissman, a big!} .erpfil~ leader
in the Fayetteville q.1;~;:tc't1~niunity was
the major sponsor of the dities··2nd annual
Gay Pride Events ancl Pai;lde this .year.
With NW Arkansas's struggle with gay
rights and homopl:iobia in the area,
Crissman has be~n a voke and activist in
efforts to unite riot only the GLBT
community but the main stream population
as well.
We applaud Kelly and his su
for making a difference in our .. .. .
nit-y and look forward to a new Studib
C.D. Ward/Editor
'The United Church of Christ is sending a
powerful and historic message that all
families should be loved and cherished,' said
HR C President Joe Solmonese
July 4, 2005
WASHINGTON - The General Synod
of the 1.3 million member United
Church of Christ today approved a
historic resolution endorsing marriage
equality for same-sex couples at its
biennial meeting in Atlanta.
Approval of the resolution makes the
United Church of Christ the largest
Christian denomination to endorse
marriage for same- sex couples. The
Human Rights Campaign's new
Director of Religion and Faith Programs,
Harry Knox, a United Church of Christ
member was in Atlanta for the vote.
Human Rights Campaign President Joe
Solmonese made the following statement
" The United Church of Christ is
sending a powerful and historic message
that all families should be loved and
cherished. The United Church of Christ
took an important step forward today.
Its call for full equality in all spheres of
American life will be remembered and
honored by future generations. The
marriage resolution is a beacon to
millions of people of faith worldwide
that &milies are strengthened
with love but weakened by
discrimination. While marriage equality
under the law should never impress
houses of worship into recognizing
unions between same-sex couples, we
hope more and more peopie of faith
demonstrate important values of
understanding and fair-mindedness."
Marriage in Canada
A bill granting full marriage equality
to same-sex couples in Canada became
law on July 20, 2005. Marriage licenses
are now available to same-sex couples
Since marriage laws in Canada do not
have residency requirements, same-sex
couples who travel from the United
States to Canada could also get married
Canadian marriage for U.S. couples.
It is unclear whether the U.S.
government will recognize the legitimacy
of Canadian marriages between same-sex
couples who return to the United States
and try to exercise their rights, such as
filing joint income taxes or claiming
Social Security survivor benefits.
The Human Rights Campaign suggests
checking with an attorney to get legal
advice about your situation before
deciding to marry in Canada. Couples
should also read the marriage advisory
issued by the leading gay, lesbian,
bisexual and ttansgender legal
organizations on this topic.
Legal requirements.
Io British Columbia, Newfoundland
& Labrador, Nova Scotia, Ontario and ·
Yukon Territory, applicants .for a
marriage license must be 19 or older. In
Alberta, Manitoba, New Brunswick,
Prince Edward Island, Quebec and
Saskatchewan, they must be 18 or older.
In Manitoba, Saskatchewan and Yukon
Territory, there is a mandatory 24-hour
waiting period between when the
marriage license is issued and when the
ceremony can be performed. Quebec has
a 20-day waiting period, while Nova
Scotia has a five-day waiting period.
Newfoundland & Labrador have a fourday
waiting period between the
application and the issuance of the license
and an additional four-day waiting period
between the issuance of the license and
the marriage.
There is a one-year residency
requirement for divorce in Canada, so
couples thinking about getting married
there should take that into consideration.
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by Andrew Collins
Retreats of the
When you're choosing a
romantic place to stay in the rugged Southwest, where you're ~ever far from
sweeping desert or mountain vistas, it's ~ometimes .hard. to dec:de wheth.e_r to ;hoose a
room with a dazzling interior, or one with a dazzling view. Ot course,. 1t _YOU re
lucky, you'll find a charming place to stay that offers plenty of dazzle :ns1de and out.
Here's a sdecticin of gay-friendly country inns and ranches located 1n some of the
Southwest's most breathtakingly beautiful areas, from the red-rock terrain around
Moab, Ut:lh, and Sedona, Ariz., to the verdant countryside of the Texas Hill
Country, to the evergreen-studded mountafos of northern New Mexico. All of the
accommodations mentioned welcome a mixed gay/straight clientele, and a few are
lesbian- or gay-owned.
El Portal - Sedona, Arizona .
Nestled amid the spectacular red-rock canyons, buttes, and mesas of Sedona, about
two hours north of Phoenix and two hours south of the Grand Canyon, El Portal
which. opened in summer 2003 - has quickly earned a reputation as one of .the premier
small lodgings in the Southwest. What sets this elegant 12-room_ property ap,ar.t from
other new constructions is the care that owners Steve and C:onrue . , .afic10naaos
of Arts and €rafts design, took to build El Portal exactly in period s . . The Arts
and Crafts movement which flourished around the tum of the 20th century,
emphasized fine ctaft;manship, clean lines, organic furnishin~ arid archite:tu~e, and
natural materials: This intimate gem of a hotel features reclaimed oak and Jumper
bearils, Utah river rocks, art nouveau stained glass, and actual Tiffany, Roycroft, and
Stickley furnishings. . .
Stylish though it is, El Portal is a low-keyed place where guests mingle each .
evening over complimentary wine and hors d'oeuvres in the ho~ey lobby. Food, m
fact, is a big part of any visit here - a full breakfast, where you . might sample
blueberry buttermilk pancakes with blueberry-cinnamon compote an~ coconut
butter, is included. And an elaborate prix-fixe dinner ~$45 per person) ts served on
Saturday nights, presented to the sound of live classicai guitar musi_c. .
Rooms are oversized and indrvidually decorated; most have ternfic views of. the
red-rock mountains nearby, and many have firepiaces and private patios. Modern
amenities include flat-screen TVs, DVD players, and high-speed Internet. Guests also
have use of the gym, pool, and spa at the luxury Los Abrigados ~esort, which. is just
next door. A rarity among small, posh retrears: El Portal Sedona 1s pet-foendiy.
Lodge at Creekside - Wimberley, Texas . _ .. ·
little Wimberiey mav not be especially famous outside ot Texas, but thls
picturesque village in th:, he~~ o! Hill Country ha,s a lot going for i:, incI,u~ing a lush
setting on the Blanco River. In !ess than an hour s dnve from Austill ana ~an
Antonio, has a bounty of art galleries and charming boutiques, and is close to gte2t.
rafting, hiking., swimming, and fishing. It's also close to one of the state's most scenic
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drives, the so-called Devil's Backbone
(Hwy. 32), a winding ridge-top road
offering brilliant vistas of the rolling
This popular arts enclave is also home
to one of the state's most charming gayfriendly
country inns, the Lodge at
Creekside, an upscale 6-acre compound
consisting of eight nattily furnished
cabins, a two-room suite, and a threebedroom
house; all units are outfitted
with jetted tubs and wood-burning
stoves. A big, hearty breakfast is served
in the main dining rooms, but there's a
much more romantic option: your
breakfast delivered right to your cabin in
the morning, packed inside a charming
wicker basket (the lodge also serves
gourmet dinners by prior arrangement).
This place may be rustic, but it's
definitely not without modern
conveniences - cabins have private
phones, VCRs, microwaves and
refrigerators, and wireless high-speed
Outdoorsy types enjoy the property's
location along crystal-clear Cypress
Creek, a lovely spot to dip your toes in
the water. Culture vultures like that it's
onlv a quarter-mile walk to Wimberley's
quaint town square, where you'll find
cafes, shops, Wimberley Glassworks
(where .you can see talented glass blowers
at work and buy their artful finished
creations), and the Corral Outdoor
Theater, which shows movies all summer
Mayor's House B&B - Moab, Utah
A hub of mountain-biking, hiking,
outdoor photography, and off-road
driving, Moab is also the closest town to
stunning Arches and Canyonlands
national parks, both of which are famous
for their fantastic red-rock formations.
The town of about 6,000 residents lies a
little more than four hours southeast of
Salt Lake City, seven hours northeast of
Las Vegas, seven hours northwest of
Albuquerque, and six hours west of
Denver. Although it's in a relatively
rural part of conservative Utah, the townis
also comparatively progressive and
quite gay-friendly. . . .
The Mavor's House B&B, whtch 1s
gay-owned, ;its on the east edge of town,
within walking distance of several
restaurants and shops. The pace at this
casual and contemporary five-room inn is
~low and easy, and there are several
cheery spots where guests can relax and
mingle, including a large, open gatheri~g
room and an expansive deck surroundmg
a big swimming pool.
Rates here start at just $80, for t..he
cozy but pleasant J\1iner's Room, but
even the huge Master Suite - with its own
private entrance off the main deck is a
fine value at $130 nightly. Friends
traveling together can also book the
Bunkhouse, an 1,100-square-foot cottage
that can sleep up to eight guests; it has a
kitchenette, large-screen TV, and DVD
Rancho de San Juan• Espanola, New
Although this supremely elegant
hideaway is technically located in rather
mundane Espanola, it's actually a good 10
miles north of the downtown area, set at the
foot of Black Mesa, in the Ojo Caliente River
Valley. It's within easy driving distance of
Abiquiu's magnificent red-rock cliffs, which
so inspired Georgia O'Keeffe. Northern New
Mex:ic~'s artistic and cultural hubs, Santa Fe
and Taos, are also each within an hour's
This completely secluded mini-resort,
New Mexico's only member of the
prestigious Relais & Chateaux hotel group,
sits along a 225-acre spread and consists of 17
posh casitas and suites. Many rooms have
kiva (beehive-shaped) fireplaces, which are
typical of New Mexico adobe houses. The
Black Mesa Suite has French doors opening
onto a private patio, and the Buena Vista
Suite has a massive bay window affording
astounding views of the Jemez Mountains.
Although Rancho de San Juan is a good
distance from most dining options, the inn
has its own exceptional prix-fu::e restaurant,
serving outstanding contemporary American
fare. The restaurant is open to nonguests, too,
bv advance reservation. Guests can also opt
f~r in-suite spa services, wirh options ranging
from Swedish massage to an herbal mineral
One of the most unusual draws here is an
intricatelv carved sandstone shrine up a short
trail behind the property. Buiit into a cliff,
the shrine consists of several cathedralinspired
chambers with v:.ulted ceilings and
tall windows - it's a wonderful place to catch
your bi:eatn and admire the stunning New
Mexico countryside.
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Marriage Rights
Canada. A bill granting full marriage
equality to same-sex couples in Canada
~ecame law on July 20, 2005. Marriage
licenses are now available to same-sex
couples nationwide.
Belgium. Belgium, which passed its law
Jan. 30, 2003, recognizes same-sex
couples equally in tax, inheritance and
other marriage benefits but stops short of
allowing same-sex married couples to
adopt children together. The law
stipulates that only couples from
countries that allow same-sex marriages
can be married under the law.
The Netherlands. The Netherlands
which in 2001 became the first country
to extend marriage rights to same-sex •
couples, gives such couples exactly the
same rights as heterosexual couples,
including in tax, inheritance and
adoption rights. The law requires that at
least one member of the couple be a
Dutch national or live in the
Spain. The Spanish Parliament approved
legis~ation on June 29, 2005 legalizing
marnage for same-sex couples in the
country. Under the law, gay and lesbian
parents would also be permitted to adopt
children. The law went into effect on
July 3, 2005.
"Simple fairness means the same rights,
protections and responsibilities for
everyone," said HRC President Joe
WASHINGTON - The Oregon Senate
made history today by passing SB 1000 - a
bill that would grant critical rights and
protections to same-sex coupies and their
children as well as ban discrimination
against gay, lesbian, bisexual and
transgender people.
"Simple fairness means the same
rights, protections and responsibilities
for everyone," said HRC President Joe
Solmonese. "By passing this import-ant
legislation, the Oregon Senate has said
that every family needs the same rights
and protections and that no one should
face discrimination simply because of
who they are. These are American values
that should be enshrined in our laws."
HRC is working closely with Basic
Rights Oregon - the statewide GLBT
advocacy group - on a coordinated
grassroots strategy for the passage of the
civil union and anti-discrimination bill.
This effort has included on-the-ground
staff support and generating constituent
contacts to legislators.
"The Senate's historic vote today
reflects the values of an overwhelming
majority of Oregonians who believe that
discrimination against gay and lesbian
people and their families is wrong," said
Roey Thorpe, executive director of Basic
Rights Oregon. "Now is the time for
Oregon to take this historic vote one
step further by not only condemning
discrimination, but prohibiting it in the
The bill will now move to the House
where a "reciprocal benefits" bill has
been introduced that only grants a· few
rights to couples and does not address
discrimination protections tnat are a
critical part of SB1000.
"Fair-minded leaders must ensure that
protections are not Handed out
piecemeal," said Solmonese. "Given
Nike's historic support; Gov.
Kulongoski's steadfast backing, and
endorsements from business and religious
leaders from across the state, the
legislature should hasten the passage of
Oregon voters passed a constitutional
amendment in November exclU:ding
same-sex couples from marriage, but did
not deal with the issue of civil unions.
"Supporters of the amendment argued
that the legisiature should consider civil.
unions for same-sex couples," said
Solmonese. "It is time for them to make
good on their word."
MCC Responds To
Anti-Gay Stabbing Attack
At Jerusalem Gay Pride
From: The Reverend Dr .. Troy D. Perry
Moderator, Metropolitan Community
July 5, 2005
Along with people around the world,
I am horrified at the religiously-inspired
attack that injured three marchers in
Jerusalem's Gay Pride Parade.
This violent incident is yet another
reminder that homophobia in our world
is often motivated by religious
intolerance and religious
fundamentalism. The attacker who
stabbed the marchers was quoted as
saying, "I came to murder in the name of
It is worth noting that this attack did
not happen in a vacuum. Jewish,
Christian and Muslim religious
fundamentalists both in Israel and the
U.S. have carried out an unrelenting
months-long campaign to vilify and
demonize gay, lesbian, bisexual and
transgender people. They have attempted
to impose their narrow religious views at
the expense of the basic human rights of
LGBT people.
I call upon Israeli authorities to
investigate beyond the lone attacker.
Religious leaders .who have misused their
spiritual authority to inspire violence and
hatred against LGBT people must.be
held accountable for theii; role in
fomenting and inciting this incident.
I am deeply saddened that anti-gay
religious leaders have twisted a positive
spiritual message of love for God's
diverse creation into a hate-filled message
far removed from the deep, genuine
spirituality of faith, hope and love for all
of God's creation.
Today, I join with people of goodwill
around the globe in sending my prayers
to the three victims of this horrific
attach, and to the LGBT community in
Jerusalem, whose parade of love, pride,
and equality was met with.hatred and
I call upon all faith communities to
reject negative spirituality that
demonizes those who are different and
that invariably leads t0 division and pain,
and to redouble our prayers for an end to
homophobia in our world
'Reverend Perry's ministry has healed and
brought hope to countless souls,' said
HR.C's Harry Knox.
WASHINGTON - As the Rev. Elder
Troy Perry, moderator of the Universal
Fellowship of Metropolitan Community
Churches, preaches his final sermon as
moderator this evening, the Human
Rights Campaign expressed gratitude for
the reverend's ministry. Perry will give
the sermon to the denomination's 2005
General Conference in Calgary, Alberta,
"Reverend Perry's ministry has healed
and brought hope to countless souls,"
said Harry Knox, director of the HRC
Foundation Religion and Faith Program.
"It's appropriate that his triumphal last
message of hope to the denomination he -
founded will be delivered at the same
time Canada celebrates marriage equality.
Troy and the UFMCC were pioneers in
the work to bring equal rights to samesex
couples and have worked tirelessly to
see it become a realitv. When Revere~d
Perry started the chu;ch in 1968, he
broke ground that is bearing glorious
fruit today. His was the first voice I ever
heard proclaiming God's unconditional
love for lesbian, gay, bisexual and
rransgender Christians like me. Reverend
Perry laid down the foundation for the
work we are all doing now to amplify
the voices of clergy and lay people who
believe in justice for LGBT folks. Mav
his retirement be as rich and rewardin'g
for him as his gifts of ministry have been
for others." -
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Boys Can Sing
SopranQ, ,<says
~Texas Mlisic AsJociatiori. Plav~ the
Same Old Tune: Discriminati~n~
WASHINGTON DC, Ouly 7,2005)
Mikliael Rawls, a rising Texas high
school. senior, won't be performing
before music college recruiters next
school year. He won't even have the
chance to audition for an elite ensemble
of Texas high school singers. The Texas
Music Educators Association eliminated
tl:μs possibility for Rawls when they
rejected his audition request: for a
soprano position, which is traditionally a
girls' part.
"The Texas music association is
denying this young man of his right ro
equal opportunity to try out for the
choir and develop his musical talents.
And it's not because he. doesn't sing well
- it's because he is a boy," said Riki
Wilchins, Executive Director of Gender
Public Advocacy Coalition
(Gender PAC).
The music association began
prohibiting boys from singing soprano
or alto, and girls from tenor or bass two
years ago, according to the local ·
television news station, KXAS-TV. The
association, which claims to offer quality
musical experiences for students and to
cultivate universal appreciation and
lifetime involvement in music, has taken
a step backward by denying Rawls the
chance to capitalize on his strengths and
Rawls, who sings in an octave and a
half higher than most boys his ag~, has
earned several distinctions for his singing
including first place as a soprano in the
University Interscholastic r.eague's
competition for two consecQtive years.
He hopes to pursue a joint 'degree in
vocal performance and liberal arts from
the New England Conservatory and
Harvard University after high school
Rawls often a part called
. wiis ; popular
group~:l'.t vias:
· , when
times until an it
about 60 years ago. tdaay men can be
found singing coui:ttert,enor in music
schools across. the countrv. .
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"Music education, like all education.
should be about helping young people -
realize their full poteriti:il and achieve
their dreams. Discrimination against
male or female students is just plain
wrong," said Lindsay Bond, ·
GenderPAC's Youth Program
The Gender Public Advocacy Coalition
(GenderPAC) works to end
discrimination and violence caused by
gender stereotypes. Visit us at
contact: 202-462-6610
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TULSA, 0 K_ The Bamboo
Lounge inaugurated their
new outdoor stage with the
fabulous Rachael Sage in
concert Saturday evening
July 9th to a delighted and
packed house. The 2004
Independent Music Award
\'finner was in Tulsa
promoting her new CD
"Ballad$ & Burlesc1ue'' Self-produced by S:ige and mixed by Kevin Killen (Kate Bush,
Elvis Costello. ~\late Cohn), Ballads & Buriesque features ten tracks of "rich vocals,
sparkling piano and yearning poetry" Tli\iE OL'T NY. "Sage is the music world's
best kept secret'. Q i\11\G:\Zlls.JE. "BALLADS & Bl1RLESQUE" is Rachael's 6th
album release and can be purchased at Barnes & Nobie or Borders stores in Tulsa or.
the four States Region.
Rachael Sage is truly a renaissance performer. Self-taught on the piano from age 5,
she went on to stuck at The School of American Ballet in her adolescence. She later
earned a degree in Drama from Stanford l'niYcrsity. Following a one-year stint with
New York Cit\''s renowned Actors Studio. she redi,co,·ered her passion for music
and took the l'sie\,. York Cit\ li,·c mmic ~cene br storm.
Sonja & Friends at the
Hollywood Hotel, OKC
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more same-sex couples · ·· · · ·
According to the 2000 64% of
gay couples owned houses. up
from 52% in 1990. However, compared
to the straight world, that number is si:ill
a bit low: 78% of heterosexual married
couples own homes.
"Discrimination may be one factor in
that, but vou could think of other
reasons ;hy that might occur," said
Gary J. Gates, a research associate at the
Pooulation Studies Center of the Urban
ln;titute in Washington, D.C. Gays and
lesbians tend to live in more urban areas
where housing costs are higher and rental
properties are more available.
That's not to discount discrimination.
An HRC article on homeownership
reports that many gay couples have faced
discrimination while shopping for a
home - and Federal law offors no
protection. The Fair Housing Act (fitle
VIII of the Civil Rights Act of 1968)
prohibits discrimination in the sale,
rental, financing of, or other housingrelated
transactions based on race, color,
national origin, religion, sex, family
status, or disability, but it does not
protect against discrimination based on
sexual orientation or gender identity.
This discrimination could take several
forms. Some couples were turned down
for housing simply because they were
gay. Others have been told they cannot
put both partners' names on a
homeowner's insurance policy, which is
important to do if both partners share
ownership of the home. And still other
couples have been discriminated against
when filing a claim as some insurance
companies have attempted to refuse
claims or cancel policies on the grounds
that the owners are •~unrelated."
· · While there are no Federal·
protections, fourteen states. artd the
y.Dfatrict bf Columbia have paisel:lliws
that provide civil rights protections
including protection from discrimination
in housing for gay, lesbian, and
bisexual people. They are California,
Connecticut, Hawaii, Maryland,
Massachusetts, Minnesota, Nevada, New
. hii: . . :0, oil dtid
Wisconsin. df those, only California,
Minnesota, New Mexico and Rhode
Island include protection for transgender
. peopie. It1 a~<#;ioli, ther~ .·ru:~ .?:1P:~.~'l:han
· 240:local, ·thaep;oJi,ibtt·
of these also
ck-'with vour
local go . i~formation.
Even if you',refortui:~te enough to
live in one of these states or
municipalities, you'm.a'fnot be protected
from all forms of discrimination. For
example, while Maryland prohibits
discrimination in housing, gay couples
still face an unfair transfer and
recordation tax. This past legislative
session, a bill was passed that would have
eliminated what is called the "gay tax" on
homeownership by exempting ·
committed same-sex couples from .the
taxes involved in transferring the title of
a home owned bv one member of a
couple into both· members' names. The
Republican governor, Robert Ehrlich,
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vetoed the bill, along with another that
,vould have created a statewide a registry
of life partners granting eleven rights
dealing with health care and end-of-life
arrangement~, most of ,vhich cannot be
achieved through ac!Yance direcri,-e,
power of attorney, or will.
But what if, like Jon and I, you decide
to make the leap to homeownership in
the face of discrimination. What should
you be looking for?
#1: Gay or Gay-friendly Realtor
Your first step will be to find a gay or
gay-friendly iealtor. You want someone
who will understand vour circumstances
and lifescyle. This may be easier than you
think, th;nks to the s~rvices of online ·
referral services like GayRealEstate.com
or HomeLounge.com. Our agent, while
straight, was not narrow. He treated· us
like any other young couple searching
for their first home.
#2: Your Dream House
Once you have a realtor, be sure to tell
him or her exactly what you are looking
for. Don't be afraid to be specific, but
also be realistic. If you have a list of
twenty things you're looking for in a
house, what are the chances of finding
one with all twenty? You may have to
decide what vou can and can't live
without. For' instance, Jon and I wanted
an older, two-story house with a big
backyard for entertaining, preferably in
the councrv. Unfortunatelv, there wasn't
much that ,fit that description that fell
within our price range. When we were
shown the house we ended up making an
offer on, it was perfect except for the fact
that it wasn't in the country.
We decided tl1at the gorgeous hardwood
floors outweighed the in-town setting.
#3: Location, Location, Location
Wbe1, \'OU find a house vou like, be sure
to lo<;k into the location: Will it be a safe
area for a gay couple to live in? Get a
crime report from the police department
(or online if it's available). Talk to your
potential neighbors. Educate yourself
about the area. More and more gay
couples are moving out of traditionally
gay neighborhoods. We were a little
wary of the area our house was located
in ... until we talked to the neighbors. A
fifteen minute conversation with the lady
next door really eased our minds.
#4: Protection
Once you've found the right home in the
right neighborhood, don't forget to get
the right protections. There is much
complicated, additional legal work
required to ensure the survivorship rights
of both partners in the event of breakup
or death. I know, this isn't what you
want to be thinking about in the midst
of such a joyous occasion, but you need
to plan ahead for all possibilities. In
addition to certain title provisions, other
legal documents may be needed. Be sure
to consult an agent experienced in such
areas, or find a good attorney
knowledgeable in LGBT law.
Now that all that's out of the way,
it's time to stare planning your
housewarming party. Be sure to im·ite
everyone you know. You get more
presents that way.
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. Friday andSaturday DanceParty- 21 to enter
9 p till 2 a .;, Ulu'-sdav - SUnday nights
Sunday Ni~ come
enjoy tie anlcs of Caia
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Monroe, Kandy Kain,
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Emks 10ail'S it up for a pork
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omentics Author's
Scott & Scott
Scott was scoping the boys on the dance
floor. Scott was looking for friends that
fortunately never showed up. One glance
led to another, and soon they were
shouting over the booming sounds of the
latest dance remi.""t.
"What? I'm Scott''
"Vodka tonic."
"No! What? Me, too!"
And we found even more things in
common: Fireplaces and red wine.
Mountains and lakes and sunrises over
the ocean. A cup of coffee and
a morning full of writing.
It was a good start, and now a few
years later, we're still together. Prom our
place in Boston to California wine
country, from St. Croix to Bourbon
Sttcet to Key West.
We've been all over, weathered a
.few storms, and come away convinced
othet gay men share our love for
romance. And we want to share .it with
A common name. A common dttam.
A common love. That's what Romentics
is all about. .. .......... continued pagt.•29
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ast Out
Liz Highleyman
Summary : Past Out is a retrospective
of key moments, personalities, and
subjects in LGBT history. Each
installment brings the past to life by
exploring the diversity of the gay past
and its impact on the queer present.
July 1865 (140 years ago
this month): Military
surgeon Dr. James
"Miranda" Barry dies in
London, England.
Who was Dr. James "Miranda'' Barry?
Dr. James Barry was a celebrated
military surgeon and medical reformer
whose sex and gender identity ,vere the
subject of much specuiarion both during
his life and after his death. To this day.
it is not known whether Barry was a
cransgender man, a person with an
intersex condition, or a woman who
cross-dressed in order to follow her
Barry is thought co have been born
around 1795, but little is known about
the exact circumstances of his birth and
early life. Even his original name is
uncertain; some researchers believe it
was Miranda Stuart or Margaret
Bulkley. Barry is said to have been
raised by a single mother and supported
by a circle of bohemians and radicals
who were friends of his uncle, the Irisn
painter James Barry. Among chem were
the Earl of Buchan (David Erskine), an
early proponent of women's rights, and
the Venezuelan revolutionary General
Francisco de Miranda, who encouraged
Barry to dress as a boy and enro;I at ~he
University of Edinburgh IVfcdical Schooi
as a young teenager.
Barry graduated in l 812; today, he is
regarded by many as che first woman
e,·er to h"\-c rccei\·ed a unin:rsity medical
degree. He then did an apprenticeship in
London with renowned phvsician Sir
Astley Cooper. Despite having a delicate
phvsiguc and being barely five feet mil,
Barry joined the British Army around
1813 as a hospital assistant. He served in
several oyerseas posts, arriving in Cape
Tuwn, Sonth Africa (then a British
coiony), around 1816. Though he often
bucked his superiors as he sought to
improve local health conditions, he
quickly rose through the ranks and was
named medical inspector. He became
known for his talent as a surgeon, and is
credited with performing the first
successful Cesarean section using modern
Western techniques.
With his delicate features, red-dyed
hair, flamboyant outfits, and high-heeled
shoes, Barry developed a reputation as a
dandy. Writer Charles Dickens once
described him as "uniciue in appearance
and eccentric in manner," while another
contemporary said he was "completely
devoid of all the outward signs of manly
Yiriiity." Among his peculiar habirs, it
was noted that Barry would only undress
in complete privacy. He also became
known for his short temper and lack of
diplomacy. While his quarrelsome manner
frequently got him into trouble, Barry
usually escaped serious consequences due
to his medicai skills and his friendships
with higher-ups.
Although flirtatious with the ladies,
Barry was rumored co be homosexual,
and he fought at least one duel to defend
his honor. Around 1820, Barry entered
into a close relationship - and quite likely
a love affair - with Cape Town Governor
Lord Charles Somerset. The two were
accused of llOdomy, after which the
governor was recalled to London and the
young doctor temporarily left the cape for
parts unknown - some say to conceal a
pregnancy, although another theory holds
that Barry lived briefly as a woman with
Somerset in Britain. ·
Barry resurfaced in South Africa,
where he remained until 1828. He then
went on co serve in several island posts,
including Mauritius, Jamaica, St. Helena,
ti1e West Indies, Malta, a:1d Corfu. It i~
rumored that once, while Barry was
suffering from yellow fever, a doctor
discovered his birth sex, b~c Barry swore
him to secrecy.
In 1857, Barry - by now promoted to
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Inspector General of Army Hospitais
was posted to Canada, a move he disliked
due to the cold climate. Two years 'later,
after a bout of influenza, he was
pressured into retirement and returned to
London, accompanied as usual by his
Jamaican manservant and a poodle
named Psyche.
Barry died in London during a
dysentery epidemic in July 1865.
Although he had asked to be "buried in
his bed sheets without further
inspection," a nurse or maid preparing
the body dairned Bariy was a .woman
and had stretch• marks indicating a past
pregnancy. 14:is. ,8octor, however; said he
thought Barry might be "an imperfectly
developed man,"
.Aftet his death, Barry's sex continued
to provoke controversy. An article in the
A .... · :!Z~· . ,2lJ.d:. .
it had bvious
all along that Barry was a woman: "the
physique, absence of hair, the voice, all
pointed in one way, and the petulance of
temper, the unreasoning impulsiveness,
the fondness for pets were in the same
81 in
an bla. .. • . . encl/ of ·Bliri:y's said he >
nev~'-~'c:if"tlie5is}ight~st suspicion of h~r
sex."·. :, . .. ·
. 1'{qtc •t han(ir c,eo:tizj, later,; :Baa:j's •..
"reil'.' sex: remains a .tiiystcfy'. Bu,t, asks
Harvard literature professor Marjorie
Garber, "If a person lives hi.a or her life.
consistently undet a gc:ncle,r'ili~ntiiy' .•
different froth. tjut rey:i;al,.~d 1# ·.· •. . ... .
anatomicaFfu:spectioti after·death; what is
the force of that 'reality'?"
For farther reading: .
Holmes, Rachel. 2003. _Scanty
Particulars:. The Scandalous Life and
Astonishing Secret of Queen Victoria's
Most Eminent Military Doctor_
(Random House).
Rose, ]:one. -1977. _The .Perfect
Gentleman: The Remarkable Llfe of Dr.
James Miranda Barry_ (Hutchinson).
· Spain's first gay
ma. e.
Two Spanish men have become the
first gay couple to be married since a
new law allowing same-sex marriages.
July 11, 2005 MADRID_ Emilio
Menendez, a Spaniard, and Carlos
Baturin German, from the US, tied the
knot at a ceremony ju~t outsfde Madrid
. ':r'he-co1.1f?le,have bs~ . . er fqr.30
years • . •. .. • . O .. • C • • • • 'saicl:
"Today :we 'are even niore a family."
Spain)s yt~_:third E}lfbJ>e~ m.tion,
after the Netherlands. a0<f,Belgium, to
legalise samc:~:sc:x marriages.' ':fhe law
allo~s ~y couples to adopt children.
The wedding ceremony in the town
o; Tre_s .C::~ti)s ~~· 11. fa'911y
friends and 'journalists . 11 as Pedro
Zerolo, the governing Socialist Party's
top official for social issues.
State television showed footage of the
couple smiling and displaying their
wedding ·
Spain's lower house of plirliafuf'.nt
yoted)n favour of the bill 60 30}llile,
•• ~.ove~g its rejectjon by.the.upper ::?~~i;sE::~. •,° J:Vd"a"k the
· ¥adrid:raD:y:;~s~ the l>ilPl5~~a.it was
um on
!luJ!iiul to. th~ ~Ji. Jiliego. ~ m2gazine
Btiiz, May 13. ·
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_Libby Post is the founding chair of
the Empire State Pride Agenda and a
political commentator on public radio,
on the Web, and in print media.
OK, I admit it.
Lesbian Notions
by Libby Post
Bye, Bye
B.I ?•
When I saw the "Gay, Straight or Lying?
Bisexuality Revisited" headline in _The New
York Times_, my die-hard "how-could-awoman-
to-men" dyke heart skipped a beat.
But then, seconds later, liberal guilt set in
and I read the article.
The reporter, Benedict Carey, writes about
a new joint study from Northwestern
University and Toronto's Center for Addiction
and Mental Health that "casts doubt on
whether true bisexuality exists, at least in men."
Described as "the largest of several small
reports" (are the researchers having a "size" problem here?), the study used a tiny test
group of 101 young adult men whose sexual identity roughly broke down in thirds
33 said they were bi, 30 said they were straight, and 38 said they were gay.
A penile plethysmograph, also known as a PPG in the sex research world, was
used to measure "genital arousal patterns in response to sexual images of men and
women.". The article didn't detail how the PPG was attached - I'll leave that to your
active imaginations. Wl:iat thej found, however, was that, as expected, the straight
guys got it up for the images of women, and the gay guys did the same for men. The
unexpected finding was that three-quarters of the self-identified bi guys responded
only to the images of men. And from these results the conclusion was made that
bisexuality, at least ·in men, does not really exist.
Now, the response to. the article, the headline in particular, has been vociferous.
Tue _Times_ has. been flooded with. letters to the editor tanging from: scientific to
sarcastic. . . . . . . . . ·.
Stanford biology professor Dr. Joan Roughgarden:wrote, "In the 300 or more
known vertebrate sp'c::cies with natural homosexuality, all combine heterosexual with
homosexual relations. Humans are. not likely to differ in this. regard ... 11he data in the
article show that 20 percent of the pool having ·s.lUDl!-'SCX relatiqns do identify as
bisexual. These people surely aren't all lying. Instead, ·psychologists should add a
fourth possibility to their list: namely, that they are wrong.''
Catherine Gaffney from that city of brotherly love,· Philadelphia, wrote, "If our
sexual preference were best detected by who [sic] we look at in pornography,
wouldn't pretty much everyone be attracted to mildly unattractive peopie who live
on the West Coast, and lack acting talent?" (I wonder if there will be an organized
response from adult film makers to this one.)
The Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) and the National
Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) have both galvanized their forces. GLAAD
found the headline to be sensationalistic and derogatory. They even asked the
_Times_ to change the header on their online edition. The answer was no. GLAAD
wants folks to write more letters fo the editor.
NGLTF's Matt Foreman was "stunned that _The New York Times_ Science
section would carry such a .shoddy, sensationalistic and downright insulting story"
that equates sexual orientation with sexual arousal. The article "defames the truth in
the lives and loves of millions of bisexual men. The Times should be ashamed." A
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plethora of information regarding
bisexuality, the study's inaccuracies, and
suggested action can be found at
While the die-hard dyke heart says
one thing, the rational thought process
that inhibits my brain suggests that,
absent all the sex-role stereotyping that
permeates our society, we'd probably
break down on the following scale - 10
percent of us would be either exclusively
hetero or homo (that includes us
lesbians), and the rest of us would revel
in sexual fluidity.
Clearly, our culture is anything but
devoid of sex-role stereotypes and the
presumption of heterosexism, so this
isn't likely to happen. But the question
that really concerns me is not whether
bisexuality exists but why there isn't a
stronger, independent bisexual
movement with political clout of its
own. The messages of bisexuals and
transfolks can get lost and overlooked
when we're all included under the
ubiquitous LGBT political umbrella.
I understand that while some of the
issues that bisexuals face are the same for
lesbians and gays, some are different. I
understand that the transgender
community must grapple with both
sexual and gender orientation. But I also
understand political reality and how too
many messages crowd each other out.
Just look at John Kerry's failed bid
for president. With a smorsgasbord of
"messages," his campaign never had a
dear and coherent one. What happened?
He lost.
While each of our singular
communities has its own organizations,
perhaps those of us with greater
resources can help those who don't. It is
vital to work in coalition when the issue
calls for it and to maintain our singular
identities. Wouldn't it be more effective
if each of us - the lesbian and gay
community, the bisexual community,
and the transgendcr community - had
our own strong political identity, so that
when we do work together we truly are
greater than the sum of our parts?
If this were the case, -_The New
Yark Times_ might never have equated
bisexuality with lying .
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Dear uncle:
Ask Uncle Mikey
Advice Column!
Well Kittens, Welcome back to Uncles comer
in Queerdom. Uncle exhaustively rejoins you
from the thirtv twioks of pride. Another season
of bringing lo,;e to the masses.
Uncle is proud to say not only did he manage
better than some twinks I could mention
However, went on to give the big bang of the
season on the fourth. While eyes were glued to
. the skv this Fourth of July, let:i™s just say that
uncle ~as enjoying another big bang, and what a
bang it was. I think I will give that boy five stars
I am so over sex. I have been dating several men for a few months. Not one of
them is a good lay, and I am beginning to think sex is just hype. I mean is there no
one out there that can keep up with me? ·
Looking for more
Dearest Looking: . .
Well, well, well, look at you Kitten. Fully loaded with ~11 the a_ccessories lt seems.
You know, maybe you are right. My advice darling; move mto a single flat,_ and h~ve
at it. Since yo.; obviously have way too much skill for Queerdom, do the right thmgGo
do yourself.
Smooches uncle Mikey
Hey Mike: . .
How do you know if someone is truly in love when love JS nothing more th:t11 _an
agreement? I mean it is not an actual condition. People fool themselves mto believmg
they love someone until it goes bad, than it gets ugly. 'Why bother.
True to one
Dear True: .
Utilizing my years of experience, I detect that you are a betrayed lesbian finding hers~f
bitter. Uncle has been around the block sister; now close the mouth, as you know I am right.
Love is a beautiful thing in which the lucky inhibitor of loves embrace finds joys untold. True
love can conquer all, as long as you have the right equipment. Uncle s~~sts that you _forget
about tl:ie wicker furniture she stole and move on with it already. Chalk 1t up to experience
and open your heart, before you find yourself sitting at a table for one, in the romance
Smooches-uncle Mikey . .
Well, what in Chers name is going on out there? I think the heat J~ gettmg t? the
inhibitors of Queerdom. Come on Kittens, put on a happy face. and !f you can t, well
drink until you can. You are ruining a perfectly good b~zz, I have g?mg on over
here. Suck it up already. No~ you delicious, I was speaking to my ,K1~tens. ?ue:tuncle
should not use the v01ce type anymore, as the boy could ha.re nurt hims ..... t
lunging for it as he did.
Dear Uncle: . .
I am having issues with my panner of twenty years. He is acting as if life Is over.
He never wants to see our friends, go out and in honesty, have sex anymore. He puts
around the house, aod garden, acting as if life does not ~:rists an~more. I a~ not ready
to quit. I want to travel, and spend our retired years haVJng fun. He acts as 1f we are
already in the ground. What do I do?
Concerned partner
Dearest CP: ............ continued next page
Kitten, you know the obvious here, as
checking for depression, seeking outside
help to ensure the health of your
partner's mental health. However, I
suspect that this is not what you seek
from uncle. Therefore, here is uncles
advice. Hire a Greek God! Find yourself
the most delectable houseboy you can
find, insisting that he wear only a Gstriog
to work. Go on living and if he
chooses to be a sour puss than let him to
it. However, I am sure once he sees that
you do not care to join him in his ways,
he will rethink this and find himself out
of the gray mist, which he has landed. Be
strong, and makes sure that the houseboy
wears a generous coating of oil. What? I
was speaking of Skin protection Kitten.
Smooches-Uncle Mikey
Kittens as partners, the worst thing we can
do is join our loved one in their pity of
despair. As harsh as it may sound, sometimes
they need to be reminded that life will move
forward. If they choose not to join in, they
may lose out. Tough love kitten. It is the best
gift you can give someone suffering from the
pity party syndrome. Allow them to realize
their folly and than welcome, them back into
the game of life.
However, if they suffer from serious
depression or some other mental health issue.
Seek: professional intervention, and offer
them support. Love is a two way street, and
you should support them through the good
and the bad. Besides, you can always go out
after visiting hours Kittens snicker, snicker I
am a bad boy, somebody should spank me.
Well Kittens, that about wraps up this edition
of the queer life with your humble guide. I
must take my leave once more and make
ready for this evenings a.ffa.k As Uncle sees
the end of pride tricks, he is reminded all
good things must end. Remember this as you
make your way out there in Queerdom. The
right lube can make the difference between
Twiok-a-licious, and Twink:-a-sore-ass
Smooches Uncle Mikey and Tiddles
Unck M,leey is 11. chitr11.cter from FrttLsn« writer
Mich.ul Hinzm,m. Michael h,u Mn 'Writingfor ten
ye,frs. Utilizing bis muiies, 11.nd lift experience to bdp
others in bis community, through humor 11.nd so#nd
itdwce. Mic1Md. 4J!Plied bis stlldy of prycbology 11nd
cmitfoe UTriting, itS t«JJ bis c:tmsifJt! b,,degro"nd in
mental be,f/ti, Dim:t ure to bring 11. neu, styk 11.nd
llf!PTO,u;h to helping others. Michael's other worlts un
be 1Jie-wed at fl1fl1'Cll.g,rylinkcontent.com.
The Tulsa GLBT
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Center is a home for our community.
It's very presence is a visible reminder
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Inside the center the wildly popular
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Quotable Quotes
"Bush hates press conferences because he
can't speak extemporaneously and can't
form a complete sentence without
mashing up the language like a 5-ycar-old
on Ritalin and can't express a nuaoced
multifaceted idea to save his life aod
somewhere deep down in his bowels, he
knows it, and he knows we know it, aod
it makes him mumble and stutter and
secretly pray every moment to his angry
righteous God he could be somewhere
else, anywhere else, like sittin' on the
back porch in Te:xas eatin' ribs and
dreamin' 'bout baseball." -
SFGate.com columnist
Mark Morford, June 3.
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July 5, 2005
FORT SMITH, AR_ Western Arkansas
oldest gay club, Kinkeads Fort Smith has
changed ownership and plans many new,
exciting feature's in the months ahead.
"Kinkeads served it's first drink 11 years
ago and has slowly transformed into the
show and dance bar it is today", said new
owner Andy Osburn.
Currently some of the regular events
include wet boxer short contests, Show
Cast Troupe entertainment from professionals,
Miss Up & Coming a monthly
talent search for drag want-a-be's, Kickin
Karaoke a weekly entertaining event.
Osburn, a native eastern Oklahoman
began as a dancer in Tulsa's Club Top's.
He later worked with a dance group
"Male Order Revue" and clubs throughout
Oklahoma and the U.S. Andy is a
graduate of the University of Oklahoma
and maintains his other career working
with his family in real estate deveiopment.
Kinkeads, located downtown Fort
Smith, 1004 1/2 Garrison and is open
Tues-Fri 6pm to 1am, Sat 6pm to 12rnidnight.
For more information vi5it the
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Ten signs you are
dating a Drama
Queen1111 ■
By Michael Hinzman
10) When you go out, he insists that you
drop him in front of the destination, so
that he may make his grand entrance ...
9) He refers to you as his stalker.
8) His prep work for an outing could
give "Tammy-Faye" a run for her
7) You leave the man for seconds only
,;hen upon your return; you find him
sobbing to the cute bartender; how he
was abandoned by love.
6) He has two yippee dogs named Muffy
and Princess.
5) He insists on referring to your
member to his friends as -Thor. .. God of
4) He insists "Queer eye" was his idea.
3) When an ex-lover savs hello at the
club, he calls you a slut while speed
dialing his pack of queens.(fhat are
standing not ten feet away)
2) He refers to his dinner parties as a
production. (Directors chair included on
Au'd the number one way you can tell
you are dating a drama queen;
After sex, he insists you complete a scorecard,
complete with a grading curve ...
Quotable Quotes
"Texam ha·:e made a decision about
marriage, and if there is some other state that
h;.s a more lenient -.;iew than Texas then
maybe that's a better place for them [gays] to
Texas Gov. Rick Perry as he signed a
resolution to amend the Texas Constitution
to ban same-sex marriages, at Calvary
Christan Academy in Fort Wo.rch, June 5.
Voters are expected to approve the
amendment in November.
Page 29 Scott & Scott Continued
Press Release:
Boston-based Romentics announced
the June 15 publication of "Hot Sauce"
by Warner Books. "Hot Sauce" is the
latest in the Romentics series of
Harlequin-style romance novels for gay
men-and the first gay romance
published by a major publisher. On June
12, 2005, the NY Times Magazine featured
Romentics in a multi-page article that
hailed Romentics in these terms:
This Oz is a brave new world of the
gay male romance novel, a world where
there are never cowards, only condoms;
each of the heroes · · · · · ·
has a brain, even if
it takes until the
end of the story fur
one of them to use ·
it; and the abs, if
not tin, most likely
resemble iron. .
"Romehtics is•
the first line o(gay
romance novels:
and 'Hot Sauce;· is
the first-ever samesex
novel-that's one
big happily ever
after," said
Romentics author
Scott Whittier.
'We're proud to join forces with Warner
Books to give gay men worldwide the
chance to read, and dream, about true
"Gay marriage here in Massachusetts
is a major victory," added co-author
Scott Pomfret, "but writing about it in
another great American institution-the
romance novel-is a cultural victory that
crosses stllte borders."
"Entertaining, effervescent ... [Hot Sauce]
is fan, fast-moving, fairy tale stombuilt
for the softhearted gay bea
Publishers Weekly
"Romentics are nor your mother's
romance novels," continued Pomfret. "
'Hot Sauce' is a romance with
testosterone-more action, fights, sex
scenes, hunky heroes and gay drama.
Romentics are for today's contemporary
gay man."
Set in Boston, "Hot Sauce" is a
romantic romp between celebrity chef
Brad Drake and the impossibly
handsome fashion designer and club
impresario Troy Boston. Even as Brad
and Troy consider tying the knot, their
romance threatens to come unraveled at
the hands of Troy's old flame, bleachblond
pretty boy Aria Shakespeare.
When the action turns red-hot and
tempers flare, it takes a wild ride from
Boston's high society to the Bermuda
triangle and back to keep the passions
burning. Is it a recipe for romance or a
recipe for disaster?
Scott&Scott wrote the book on gay
in Boston in
· 2003 at the height
of the debate
over same-sex
marriage in
and dubbed "the
new romantics"
by the Boston
· Globe, Romentics
'.has brought
together for the
:first time the
,market for
paperback fiction
(romance) and
the buying power of the lucrative gay
market. Indeed, Romentics authors
Pomfret and Whittier are real-life lovers,
whose own tale could fill the pages of a
romance novel. From out of the closet to
all the unique elements of gay cuiture,
Romencics follows a not-so-straight path
to happily ever after.
For info on all the Romentics novels,
contact Scott&Scott
(http:/ /www.romentics.com)

American and
Whispered Gay
Resolve in Iraq
Political Commentary
By: Matthew V eritas Tsien
It can probably be assumed that most
gay people are opposed the War on
Terror because most gays are Democrats;
although one out of four gay voters are
consistently Republican and election
analysis of national campaigns in the past
25 years show that a gay crossover vote
will once or twice a decade result in the
GOP getting solidly over 40 percent of
the aggregate gay vote, thus splitting our
community's vote (Whenever the GOP
gets over 40 percent of the gay vote, gay
editors and activists never want to admit
it, but I digress). "
Over the past several months many
gay readers of my column have written
to me from across the country saying we
shouldn't be concerned about democracy
and freedom in the Middle East because
all of these Arab states are homophobic.
But to some gays that may be one of the
very reasons why we would be willing to
fight for democracy and pluralism in the
Middle East. Do we not .care about
persecuted Ar;ib and I;lainic gays as we
promulgate the faulty Vietnam analogy?
Here in South Florida the gay
electorate is overwhelmingly anti-war
and often seer:ri's to be hoping for the
worst even at the expense of the young
American soldiers who defend our
freedom: to .be expressive about our
gayness and pursue domestic goals that
would expand our rights to be included
in the mainstream of' American society.
Such anti-war gays are foolish and
ungrateful .to o.ur y.oung soidiers. Many
oppose the War on Tertor because :Mr.
Bush concludes that state legislatures
rather than the courts should determine
the legality of gay marriage. Yet such an
anti-war stance is not likely to expand
our universe of supporters for gay
marriage if we are seen as a community
that wants to undermine the war effort.
While gays seem to oppose Mr. Bush
on the war by a 3-1 margin, I found in
my conversations prior to the 2004
election day that with enough disarming
coaxing you can get gays to admit in
whispered tones that they supported Mr.
Bush primarily because of his actions in
guiding the war and his response to 9-11.
As I used to say to people, "Bush is going
to get the "whisper vote in the gay
community"; and sure enough Mr. Bush
did get over one million gay people to
vote for him in 2004 just as he did in
2000 according to exit polls done by the
New York Times.
And there is no guarantee that all gay
voters will be attracted to a Democratic
Party whose lawyers and activists seem
more concerned about the rights of
prisoner of war terrorists and Saddam
Hussein, not to mention illegal
immigrants and career criminals, as
· opposed to the rights of ordinary
citizens. Since the gay community is not
universally tied to one party the
following piece of news will likely appeal
to pro-war gays who support Mr. Bush
and British Prime Minister Tony Blair.
Bad news hit Abu Musab al Zarqawi
on June 28. Most Americans, it -seems,
want to keep U.S. forces in Iraq until
civil order is. restored, whico 62 percent
believe won't happen for several years. A
significailt. majority. even want to increase
the size of the U.S. presence or keep it
about the same. With the Iraq war in its
third year ...:_ and with America having
been in a state of war since October 2001
- this new Washington Post-ABC poll is
an encouraging indication about the
patience and resolve of the American
The past few weeks have seen
politicians and pundits cherry picking
whichever bad poll seems to serve their
political ends. And they can easily do it
again with this one. For example, the
poll found that most Americans do not
believe the Bush administration's claims
that the insurgency is losing. In fact,
what a majority of Americans (53
......... continued next page
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percent) do believe, according to the poll,
is that the power of rhe insurgency is
staying about the same (and 22 percent
say it's weaker). Critics may also point to
the finding that a bare majority of
Americans (51 percent) consider the Iraq
war to be a mistake, even though the
very same poll found that 52 percent
believe it has contributed to the longterm
safety of the United States (a 5-
point increase since early June). Every
single one of these findings can top the
headline of a newspaper, only to lea,e
readers \Vith a distorted view of what's
really going on. (Gay publishers of
weeklies promote the same distortion in
their community).
Pollster Gerry Daly, who runs the
Web site dalythoughts.com, makes an
important observation regarding how
phrasing a question can yield different
results. He compares a recent Gallup
poll, which found that a majority of
Americans (51 percent) believe the
United States should set a timerable for
removing troops from Iraq, to the PostABC
poll, which found that 58 percent
of Americans believe we should keep our
forces there until civil order is restored.
Either can be used to support a
particular side of the debate, but what do
they actually say about the American
people? Mr. Daly thinks the public has
yet to form a coherent opinion of the
question of troop pullout and that the
"political battle is· still winnable for
either side." That sounds about right. It's
important to note, however, that the
Post-ABC poll included the phrase "even
if [keeping U.S. Forces in Iraq] means
continued U.S. military casualties."
That's essentially the heart of the matter,
and 60 percent of Americans are still
committed to victorv.
Progress in Iraq ~ continue to wax
and wane, as we rightly mourn each new
casualty. But, underneath it all,
Americans seem prepared to see the war
to a successful conclusion and among
those Americans are more gay people
than the Gay Left would want to admit.
Gay editors, publishers and activists do a
disservice to our young soldiers and gay
patriotic citizens when they suppress or
ridicule knowledge or ___ expression of
support of the war by gay people and try
to portray the gay community as
monolithically opposed to Mr. B:ish and
the War on Terror, and even portray
George W. Bush as an international
Matthew Veritas Tsien
Florida Gold Coast Log Cabin
'0e writer is a former Air Force Captain at
Tm~er AFB, Oklahoma and Director of
Presuient Ronald Reagan's lobbying
organization in Washington, D. C. He also
taught political science at Tulsa junior
College and served on the Tulsa County
Human Rights Commission during 1986-
The Pink Triangle
The Pink Triangle was used by the
Nazis to signify homosexuals. Although,
homosexuals were only one of the
groups targeted for extermination, it is
unfortunately, the group that history
often excludes .. The Pink Triangle defies
anyone to deny history.
In 1935 Hitler revised the German
Law, Paragraph 175, prohibiting
homosexualiry, by including kissing,
embracing, and gay fantasies as well as
sexual acrs. Convicted offenders- an
estimated 25,000 from 1937 to 1939, were
sent to prison and later transferred to
concentration camps. They were to be
sterilized, most often by castration.
Hitler changed his policy on
homosexuality to include death in 1942.
A yellow Star of David under a
superimposed Pink Triangle represented
Gay Jewish prisoners- by the social
hierarchy, the lowest of all prisoners.
Seo es
by Jack Fertig
''Play doctor, Pisces!"
Mercury retrograding past the Sun in
Leo is so Norma Desmond: arrogant
miscommunications, plans gone awry,
and that great line, ''We didn't need
words. We had faces!" Neptune opposes
them, feedin:g confusion. Jupiter and
Venus offer some harmony, but in
weaker aspects. You may charm your
way out of trouble, with some effort.
Don't schedule anything too tightly, and
be ready to forgive screw-ups you may
need such mercy yourselfl
ARIES (Much 20 - April 19): Right now
you can't win at anything, but don't let
that stop you from playing for funsies.
Well, you could be lucky in love,
especially at a gym or a spa, if you can,
manage to be humble and self-critical.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20): Domestic
squabbles feed worries about. your
reputation and opportunities for
advancement. One has nothing to do
with the other, unless you make it a selffulfilling
prophecy. Artsy-crafts~
activities help you keep perspective.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20): Stay home
and have fun with family or close friends.
Going out and expressing your opinions
will just get you into trouble. If_ you
really need adventure, get a forctgn or
surrealist film, perhaps one by Cocteau
or Jodorowsky.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22): Erotic
adventures beckon, but will lead to
trouble. Keeping bu,y around your
home and .in the community will offer
better opportunities for fun and provide
helpful perspectives on crirrent money
LEO OuJ.y 2~ - August ~: Be modest
and sclf.,.ef&cing. Well, do your best.
Expect.rude sw:priscs from your p:umer.
Your big mouth. could orily make 1t
worse. If you need to get something off
your chest. write it as poetry and share it
with a friend.
VIRGO (August 23 September 22):
Your dreams should be especially
interesting now and may even offer
lucrative inspirations. Minor illnesses
could be warnings of far worse ahead -
unless you nip them in the bud.
Nothing's too small to merit looking
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22):
Doing good is its own reward, but
charity performed now will earn all
kinds of extra points. If that's why
you're doing it, your motivation will be
called into question, so be sure to do
something that your heart is really into.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21):
Involve colleagues in efforts to
reorganize at work. This may seem to
create problems, but actually will
uncover already existing problems. Your
boss may need some extra convincing, so
have your evidence ready!
SAGITIARIUS (November 22 -
December 20): Apologies and selfcorrection
will actually help you shine at
work. Despite a bit of confusion in the
short run, the humility and honesty of
the process will earn you great respect.
CAPRICORN (December 21 - January
19): Watch out for power struggles at
work. Your natural · flair for analyzing
such games will help you unravel nasty
little schemes and appear heroic in your
solutions. Erotic temptations carry
hidden costs. Don't let your libido hijack
your brain!
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18):
One would expect arguments to diminish
sexual passions, but nowadays your love
of debate could land you in thrilling
situations! Yield points in intellectual
combat, and you could win on the field
of love.
PISCES (February 19 - Mardi 19): Pay
close attention to your health. Moderate
exercise - review and revise your
routines! - and spas are helpful.
Meditation is especially good for you
now. If you don't need a doctor, play
Jack Fertig has b«n working as a
professional 11Strologer since 1977 and is a
fo1mding member of the Assocwtion for
Astrological Networking.
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