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Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Feb. 15 - March 14, 1997, v. 4, no. 3 Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Marriage Update i OKCongressm.an Denies Attack Gays Speech WASHINGTON - The Human Right~’ ~pai~ (HRC), the : nation’s largest Lesbian/Gay civil rights and political lobbying : organization issued a statement raising concerns about possible anti-Gay bias in the Republican response to President Clinton’s : State of the Union address. The Republican response was given : by Oklahoma Congressman JC Watts whose district includes HRCExecutiveDirectOrElizabeth Birch cal]~l Upon Watts to clarify apassage ofhis speech inwhichheseemedto bejustifying faith-based discrimination against gay people. After calling for an end to racial discrimination and asserting that "America must be a place where we all.., feel a part of the American.dream," he said: "It does not happen by trying tommrich against poor or by using the politics of fear. It does not happen by reducing our values to the lowest common denominator, and, friends, it does not happen by asking Americans to accept what’; immoral and what’s wrong in the name of tolerance." (emphasis added) Birch said,"Iamconcerned thatCongressmanWatts may have made a thinly veiled appeal to the very politics of fear which he had deplored in his previous sentence... Like other faith-based differences, sincere religious disagreements .over the issue of see Watts, page 2 ’.Moving. Toward :1 clus=veness : :Unitarians Walkthe Talk ~LSA - For Darryl Matkins and his partner of more than 12 years, the Rev. Chester McCall, ." ;fOrmerly San Francisco Bay Area residents, Tulsa Norman and south-central/south-west Oklahoma. The concerns ¯ 4ias been a big adjustment - not just in terms of ofHRCwereechoedbysomemembersoftheTulsaLesbianand : .Jc~einganopenlys~e-genddrcouplebutevenmore Gay community as wall..... .’.-.ib terms of.the-city s morebv~rtracis~il~ " ¯ : McCall began as an interim pastor with The ¯ Unitarian Church of the Restoration at 1314 No. Greenwood last Septemb,.er. MCCall, who was ordained in 1979in the United Church of Christ (UCC) before becoming part of the Unitarian-Universalist (UU) tradition, notes that he came into the denomination in response to the efforts of the UU’s actively to recruit people of color into. the traditionally ¯ The Rev: Chester McCallof "White" denomina¯ tion. And as an the Church of the Restora- ¯ tion & his partner of 12 o. penlyBisexualman ¯ years, Mr. Darryl Matkins. ~n a longterm relationship with another : Bisexual man, McCall also helps the UU’s work : toward their goal of an inclusive church where ¯ Lesbian, Gay, Bi and Transgendered persons are : welcome both as members and in the ministry. : Cht~rch of the Restoration is unusual in Tulsa for : being oneof a handful of congregations in the city that are purposefully interracial. Even its name is symbolic of the role it hopes to play in trying to : bridge the racial and other differences that have ~.~. R~rur_’6~ ~6-nsdrtiumi ~aihyHinkle ofPFLA~ andKathy Bird ¯ since the !.921 *Race .Riot". It ~is an extension ¯." Of RAIN along with Melani~ Spector (not ~hown) spoke about ". church; Which means it’s supported both by its ¯ homophobia at the Feb. AIDS Coalition meet.ing..Photo: TFN "- congregation and with assistance fromthede~Omi~ : AiDSCoalitionHolds i Homophobia Panel!.. TULSA - The AIDS Coalitioh~0iTulsa presented aprogram on " -Homophobia at its,Feb~monthly meeting. Mdanie Spector :. oftheOklahoma Srate. Dept. 0fHealth suggested ,theprogram.and. ¯ brought a Video, GayLife & Culture Wars, featured interviews ." with Lesbians and Gay men, and parents in Oregon during the : anti-Gay referenda there. The Coalition first.watched the video. ¯ Afterwards apanel presentedadditional information. BobHulscy ¯ ¯ of the HIV Resource Consortium spoke about what it was like to " see Panel, page 12 : NatiOnal BiaCkOrganization ChallengesChristian Coalition : nation. McCall was askedby the former andfound’" ihneg p~aosidtodr.~ovfftfhnet.Cth6ui.rbceh~op~f tshtoerR, etsotowrahtiicohnwMhCetChaelrl respbntled, "ate youcrazy?!"’ Butnot long after, he found himselfon a plane to Tulsa and was asked to serve as pastor for a year. This period meets his denominational requirement for a year of supervised-. service--tO h .coh~r-~gafion~--and helps-the Church 0f the R~esto~ation ihrough the period of adjustment after seeing its founding pastor move on. McCall’s advisors are the Rev. John Wolfe of All Soulsand the Rev. Jim Issacs of Tahlequah. And .~hile it se~ms to McCall that his congregation has~adjnsted fairy ,well to.havinga nomheterosee Talk ,.page 12 Comilng Soon! : shanti,s--Mar li Gras, IAM : Membership-Drive, Pride i Ce.nter Video ~ghts, PFLAG : Spaghetti-. Dinner with OKC ! Metro ChOrus +7’ TresPasses" .o . . s_ee Soon,.page 3 INSIDE - EDITORIAIJDIRECTORY US & WORLD NEWS H.~E~.LTH NEWS ~,.. HF.~LTH & WELLNE~ P. 2 P. 4 P. 6 P.7 P. 8 P..9 P. IO ¯ WASHINGTON ~- The leaders of a national Black lesbian and : Gay organization today responded cautiously to dements ofa ¯ recentlyly announced plan by the right-wing political/religions : group, The Christian Coalition and called on the group to take ¯ honest, constructive steps to heal the wounds of division that it : has fostered. Keith Boykin, Executive Director of the National ¯ Black Lesbian and Gay Leadership Forum, said the recent ¯ announcement of the Christian Coalition’s Samaritan.Project is : only a "first step" in reconciling the religious right’s.history of ¯¯ indifference toward blacks, the poor and the.inner ¢ities~ ,The Samaritan Project includes an 8-point planf0r strong f~amilies, ¯ safe neighborhoods, charitable giving, racial justice, hndrevital- : izi~g the church. Despite the plan’s positive rhetoric,~Boykin P. 11 P. 1.2 P: 13 P.~i4 Hawaii May Add.Marriage Ban to Constitution? HONOLULU (AP) - The state Senate Judiciary Committee has approved two bills aimed at resolving the same-sex marriage issue, following the same approach taken by the House recently. One calls for a state constitutional amendment to ban same-sexmarriages. Theother, activated o.nly ifHawaii’s voters ratify the amendment, would give same-sex couples many of the same rights and responsibilities of married Couples, but going much further than provided in the House measure. What we have attempted to do is to.craft a constitutional amendment that will accomplish the objective of limiting marriage to couples of the opposite sex while preserving what we know to be our citizens" commit- ~ncn~. to. ~aimess~ tolerances.ands! equality,~,~said~Sen,- amended House bills now go t..0...:~he Senate floor for likely approval before going:~0n to a House-Senate conf~rehce committee tO resoI~e differences. The committee action came following a five-hour hearing at which opponents"and supporters of samegender marriages reiterated the argumetits.that have marked the debate since a 1993 state Supreme Court decision. Thehigh court said the equal protection clause of Hawaii’s Constitution requi~ed that same~sex marriages~ belicensedu~l~s~ti~ sia~e ~uld show acompelling state interest not tolicense them. " Debi Hartmann, chair of the Hawaii’s Future Today group formed to oppose same-sex marriages, told the committee that since marriage is a public policy issue, it should be decided in the Legislature. Attorney Dan Foley, who represents three same-sex couples who sued the state after being denied marriage licenses in 1991, denounced the proposed constitutional amendment. The Legislature is preparing to send voters an amendment "to deny rights to citizens of this state...despite overwhelming and undisputed evidence that same-sex marriages would benefit families and children in this state," Foley said. Underthe SenateJudiciary Committee’s action,alaw extending many of the rights and responsibilities now given married couples to same-gender couples world go into effect only if Hawaii’s voters approved the constitutional amendmentbatming same-sex marriages in the 1998 general election. Committee co-chairman Matt Matsunaga said. the rights package for same-sex couples were those "we believe that virtually any fair minded citizen would agree should reasonably be extended to others." Democratic members Robert Bunda and Norman Sakamoto voted against both bills while other four Democrats voting for them, including Sen. Wayne Metcalf, who was sworn into the Senate two hours earlier as a successor to Big.Island Sen. Richard Matsuura, who resigned due to illness. Matsunaga said the bill allowing same-sex couples to regist~ as :."reciproca! .beneficiar~’.es". with the. state Departm’~ent,of Health~.ngludes a " cautioned that the black.community and the gay community still have much reason to be skeptical.Jesus warned us, Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but -ENTERTAINMENT/ARTS inwardly they are ravening wolves. Ye shallknow them bytheir COMMUNITY CALENDAR fruits. (Matthew 7:15-16) ~ Boykin said that the Black Lesbian and Gay LeaderShip Forum GA’Y HISTORY wonld be closely watching the frnits of the Christian Coalition to ¯see that,their.d~edslmatch their words.: Heals0 kunounced,two,,-: RESTAURANT REVIE~W~LASSlR~DS . . see Black, ~age 3!: : Writers Issued on or before the 15th ofeach.mpnth, the entire contents of this publication ,are protected bY US:e0p2~i,Tgh~ ~19ff6 by?Tulsa Family News and may not be .re!~ueed eiihe.rinYwhq:lj~r.-~i,fi-P.a.~..~!thou! .,wxiRe~...Permiss!_o,n_from ~,hep.ub!is..her., Pdblicadon. 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PamPryor,press ! secretary and headof Watts"DC office , . no.ted.that she Was With the Congressman : When he was asked by a reporter ff the ¯ remarks,".., what’s immoral and what’s wrong.. ?’ referred to Gay and Lesbian citizens. " ~ Pryor related that the_Congressman Statdtthat-he hadinmiiMisgues like late. term abortions,and even Ebonies, and fitd not intend the remark to beunderstood as referring to Gay and Lesbian taxpay,e~,~... FurtherWatts added, that inhis,,of~ce, if you can play, you get auniform -imp,!ying that Congressman Watts does not diss criminate in his office. However; Watts" office has been asked to sign HRC:s nondiscrimination pledge edlmpaign and has declined to do so. TheHRCnon-discriminationpledgecampaignbeganinresponse to comments by then-Oklahoma Representative Jim Inhofe (now US Senator) thathe would refuse to hire Gay employ- ¯ ees in his office. ¯ Pryor also noted that Congressman ¯ Watts- is an ordained-Southern Baptist : minister and could be~ expected to hold .- view in line with those of that Protestant : Christian denomination. However, Pryor ¯ vetoed- a measure banning ~ame sex marriage.--The bill:. --: ¯ applied not only to same-sex mamages,- but also to- : heterosexual, couples living together. dress the expressed concern by some that o~r state might : Communities in Colorado can acknowledg~ domestic i becomeamarriagemillforsame-sex coup!es,"Matsunaga : partnerships. In Boulder; 53 couples,including four hetsaid. The House measure would give same-sex couples . erosexual couples, have registered with the domestic " registered with the state rights for hospital visits and.to " ,p,armership registery there. But that registery provides ¯ make health decisions for each other, joint property ¯ nolegal rights andr~ponsibilities’~ .as ffascoe~sbiilldid. ¯ rights, inheritance rights and the right to sue for wrongful "- Mary Celeste, an attorney, said she and .her parmer " death. The Senatemeasure includes thoserights andadds : raised three children during their 12 years together. She ¯ several key economic measures, including state retire.- ~ said all committed .couple~s should have .,Mol .the legal. ~ ment benefits, state tax benefits and workers €ompensa-’ ~ ~ s.thnding 0f bet.er0sexua[ married ~c.buples~ ~~ai~. ntt- i fion benefits. Excluded were areas that- might create : ’ noyel. This_is:somethi_"ng .we.und~ts~d~ We khow ~w.hat ~ i. federal or interstate conflicts, such as social security, government housing.programs, resident military benefits and state Social service programs. NM Women Seek Marriage License SANTAiCE (AP) -Two women who applied foralicense. to marry each other say their action was basedin part on. principle. "I don’t understand why we should be treated differently than any other committed couple," said Patti Levey, 37, who showed up at the SantaFe County clerk’s office Tuesday with Beth Saltzman, 34, to apply for a marriage license. The clerk’s office mined down their application, saying the attomey general needs to issue an opinion on the legality of same sex marriage in New Mexico. After County Clerk Rebecca Bustamante rejected the application, Ms. Saltzman said she and Ms. Leveyl had been discriminated against. Aside from a reference to bride and groom, and male and female applicant on themarriagelicense application, ~ benefits to employees with domestic partners, many Of tRaaklephfoRureasdp,eBciofyickisnt"eepnsc,to0uaracgheiedvReeScodci’salos.ragnidmeiczoatnioomn tioc nothing in New Mexicolaw specifies a married couple whom are homosexual.~Companies and employees alike ¯ justice. First, he asked that Ralph Reed meet with memmust be aman anda woman. Kay Roybal,spokeswoman " say the policy improves morale and can- sharpen the bers of the black lesbian.and gay ’community to,discuss for Attorney General Tom Udall, said state attorneys ¯ recruiting edge. But nobody forced the decisions. NowI " how we can overcome the barriers,that have excluded our would have to research case law on the subject, the City of San Francisco has told United Airlines ithad ¯ State Sen. Leonard Lee Rawson, R-Las Cruces, said " toobeyanordinancereqniringcompaniesdoingbusines~ cooperation, Second, hecalledfortheChrisdanCoalition he’s concerned that if New Mexico doesn’t take a stand ,- with the city to offer spousal be~xefits tO their workers’ :. itnoceluxdpaenSdotchiaelSJcuosptiecoeffoitrs a"lRl apceioapl lJeu,sitniccel’us’dcinamg pleasibginantos on sam.e sex marriage, the courts ~’will nile liberally and ¯ unmarried and same-sex partners.- ¯ and gays¯ ~The Christian Coalition should support the a¯ ccept gay marriages." Rawson expects a bill to be ............ ~ ......... - - .- ~, . . . .... ~vlary Jo nottanu, a umtea s oKeswoman, sale that xa .introduced ~.n th.e 1997 s.eSSlO.n ~at w..ould .r..e~o~gmze a_ ." UnitedofferedbenefitsinSan~Pr~cisco, itwouldhavet6 ; Employment Non Discrimination Act, which outlaws heter¯osexu. al umon as. the only legally vahd " term ot : offer them worldwide. Unitedhadno estimate of What .: etimonp,!,oBymoyeknitnsdaiisdc..rTimlfiirnda,,tBiogny.Mbans~ed.al~o.dn~tsheex~u9arlumorcieanlltesdmamage m New Mextco. - - " Such ~ompliance might cost United alread cdm lies-"-. : ,. -~ o~ - ......... . ..... ~€ P . foranendtotl},,~ChristianCoalifion.)sinflam_matoryanfi- ~ ~ ’ ¯ " " .,, . ~ with.a New Zealand. Human.Rights. Commission ruling .- gay rhetoric. If they really, want .to ~help~com..rnunities, - Maine Gov, Supports Marriage " .- banningbenefitsthatapply,0nlytoinarriedcouples;Thiit ~ .theyfirst.n.e .. to stop the. hatefut,r,hetorie thath,as kept gAeUstGedUtShTatAh,eMwaoiunled (nAoPt o)p~pGosoeva.cAitnizgeunsim~gaa.thivaestoSbuga?r. :i ..t.eriaflriyn,g ..la.Xn.dm~Uaitns i.Nteedw.n~.oZwehlaalnldoewrss.t9~tsn.oemminp~loatyeeaens y~in~Ne.efwi-.. ~"-. pwehooplseindciev1id9e9d4~hagaasiln.set,do~ne,,l_ogtha.edre~~.¯s‘.shaipjdF;Moraut~m.,d~y,~.,C~aa~ll,etro, recognition of same~sex marriage in Maine, despitehis ~ Zea!andtofollowsmL . .. i " " ~ ’ : "i Resist"eampaign.Fourth,.theFornmmgedtheChrisdan concern that the effort may be constitutionally flawed. " - .In San Francisco, United.employees say they watit ~ :.. Coalition to renounce,the.elem~n.ts ofit,sS.am_aritan Plan King’s comments came Tuesday as Concerned Maine ".’" be able to offer benefits tb their ~ho.sen families, straight .. that will cause further econgmic, injusti~.. Families filed what it Said were 62,157 signatures with..: .ornpt, married or not2 .,It’s. about.equal_i~," says Kenf .. : The Samaritan Project bills itself as. *’a bold, and-comdecfions officials. Ifverified, the petitions would force a ¯¯ Bloom, a flight attendatit w_ho. ha,s,.w.or.k.ed.2.2.y.ta-rs..f,o, r ..¯ passionate,~.p,lan ,t~oeombat-poy~rty .and. res,to~e hope." referendumon the same-sex marriage ban unless it wins ~United and hopes-to one oay ¯o.n.e~r.ms o. enents~to ms : However, there, s ..nothi.ng bol.d 0r.qompassionateabout approvalin the Legislature. TheConcerned Maine Fami- : partuer~ l~dike Owiibdy. - . - - ~ " .balancing:the budget On the backs of.the, poor,", Boykin lies proposalincludes languagedeelaringthat’!personsof : - If United we!~e to adopt,such a policy in.this coun.try,?it ¯ said. "What kind of good. S.amari.tan.wonldabandon the would be the first major U.S.-b~ed airline to do. sol requirement for both partners. ’q’his is intended to adthe same sex may not contract mamage." It also.would require the state to refuse to recognize such marriages performed in other states. King, moreover, volunteered that he percei~Ved "an issue of whether a state can do something like this,’~given constitutional language promoting state-to-state cooperation. "Clearly this would end up in the Supreme Court," King said. In sketching his attitude toward the initiative, King noted that he had been a strong supporter of so-called gay rights legislation aimed at oudawing discrimination against homosexuals in anumber of areas. In 1995, Concerned Maine Families spearheaded an unsuccessful campaign to restrict gay rights in Maiite. CO Legislature KillsDomestic Partnership- DENVER (AP)-A bill providing legal status to couples who live together but are not married was killed on Wednesday by a legislative committee that acknowledged there are problems, but said the measure was a step too far. "Politically for me it’s a difficult vote, morally for me it’s a difficult vote. I’m not prepared to vote for it right now," said Sen. Ed Perlmutter, D-Wheat Ridge. After hearing several stories of partners losing their rights in relationships after their loved ones died, the Senate Judiciary Committee voted 5-3 against SB161, which extended legal rights - such as power of attorney and visitation rights - to domestic partners. The bill, by Sen. Pat Pascoe, D-Denver, comes a year : the problems are and this is the remedy," she said. Sue ¯ Co.~gratulationstoDonfshaPowell, thenewMiss Sooner ¯.. AndersonofDenv.er, toldthe’comm!tieehowherparme~’~ ~. Siate USafA~997!Sh~ islsden~he;,e ~,~th l~o~iJy~James, 1st : family kicked her outof their house after she called ~em" "i" ~d/merSup, Eb~nY Hail, 2nd umfer:@, MCParis Grey : to tell them their estranged-dhughter had died of leulee- . and -t~e otl~e’r fdbu~tu~ ~Omestdi~is at t’ha Silver Star¯ i mia. Anderson left wi~ just.a b~g of her clothes and. ’ ; i " " on’to c6~,’pete:’ihih~ Miss "Oklahoma nothin,,g, elsetheyhadaceu~nnlatedi~thei~6yearrelati0n: ".~ ~ S be hd~l Feb~ 22 ~ ~3 :at "the Star. : ship. Ultimately Iwas not inanyposiiion to do’any-’ :" I " i I : ~thing,"shesaid."ThiskindofsituadonisnftOKandthis .’ 1 I I : bill is a start’toward addressing these issues." ~ : ¯ ’ ’ I I ¯ "Sen. Sally Hopper, R=G01den, voted against ille bill; : " [ I [ ¯ ,s,a.yingshedidn’tlikeitsimpactonheterosexualcouples. ~ -othermeasuresto-iiesi~ondtotlie~amafiiaftprpjtct.-First, ¯ We are encouraging people WhO ~e ntt married tO live .. tbe Forum willtakeup the is~ueot~ th~ religitus right in together who -could get married, she -said.~ "We are ¯ the black cOrnmuaity at’its Tenth Anntml"National. Conmaking this so legal and SO acceptedT~ ~ ference going on,through Sunday in Long B~a6h~Califor- : " " " : nia.Se~on"d, the FOrum will distribute to ~hiircheS nafion- : Airline: City’s Domeetic Partner Law " -Wide’copies of a he~¢award:winning documentm’~ film ! ~ Would:Have Global Effects~ ’ . ~.: ~-calJed":Al~G°d’~-sCMl~en"’:W~chyes,-Pg~ds’t° therole ¯ sAN FRANCISCO (AP)-Disney-s done it. so have ." ofthe radical-reli~tus fighf in th~blackChurch: : ¯ ¯ - - In a F~brtmry 4 letter,to Christian Coalition director ¯ Levi Strauss, IBM and American Expres.s. All offer " : Several international airlines already have more.indu- .. sive b¢.nefits. Qantas Ai~.ays,.forex~tmple, has .offered benefits and travel passes, to i.ts Australian employeds’~ ~." "nominated beneficiaries" for years. In Israel, a 1994: ¯ laws.nit forced E1 A1 io offer :d~mesticlp~qner henefits.i. AndAir Canada has .fffereddomesticpartner benefits to its !8,000 Canadian employee.s since e~ly:last year.. " This is not alightmatter foreither the:city or the airline. ¯ Uni-ted is amajor p!ayerin San Francisco; itsfacility hefe,: : the company’s .major mainfenan,ce hub and gateway to trans-Pacific flights, .employs about 20,000 peo.pie -= ¯ almost one-fourth of.all United dmployees worldwide. ¯ United traffic is 40 percent Of all airline business at the " San Francisco airport. . ." Wyoming Against Marriage CHEYENNE, Wyo. (AP) - A House panel moved for- ¯ ward a controversial bill that would prohibit same-sex marriages in Wyoming. Just minutes before the House : Labor, Health and Social Services Committee voted to send House Bill 94 to the House floor, several speakers spoke on the measure that some called a way to preserve tradition and families, while others called it an embarrassment to the "Equality State." ¯ The bill would invalidate same sex’marriages in Wyoming and would not allow the state to.honor Such mar- -" riages if or when they are recognized in oilier states. role of government in helpingtheneedyT’ he asked. Boykin called on the religious xight to.embrace new challenges~ .including. preven,’~t~ng 1he. Spread Of HIV/ AIDS, the leading..cause of death-forAfrican-Americans between the ages of25and44~ ’,’! wartt to see.theChristian Coalition fighting for Medicaid funding .and health care for the 37 million uninsured .Americans.,’-’ he said. The National Black Le.sbian and .Gay :l_:~adership Forum is the only n_atignalorganization dedicated.to the nation’s two and a half mi!lion Mrican-American Gays and Lesbians. Establi.sh.ed in 1988,,the-Forum works to empower Black Lesbians and.Gays by.developing their leadership skills, increasing their .visibi.!ity~ an~d b~uilding bridges between,their various.communities.. . . As us~ua!, Tulsa.community ~rganizatious a, range of activities upcoming. Shanfi Tulsa will hold iis 10th annual Mardi Gras fundraiser on Sat: March 8. Call 749- 7898 for info. Interfaith AIDS Ministries 0AM) ~has kicked off its annual membership drive and its.ts due,,ues are so modest that none of us have any excuse not to,join~ Low income is ONE DOLLAR/year, individual.i~ $5/year and house: hold is $10/year. They do good--w0rk and provide HIV/ AIDS education and aninfo, line. Infact, diey we.r~ doing a highly effective 24hour .ilffo..line.for almost no.money -.. :,.--. ~see S~dn, page lO t ay uops Hecrulzea ’SAN FRANCISCO (AP). = A- large-scale natioftal ¯ CAMBRIDGE, Mass. (AP)- The Cambridge Police consumer survey of gay menandlesbians says popu- ," Department wants gay men and women to know they ~ ~-"--,,I lar entertainment, sport utility vehicles, computes : are .welcome to apply for jobs as police officers. and financial planning scored high on their lists;.Of ¯ Police officials said gays will, not be given any hiring interests:The homosexual.codmaffnity iSlargely well~ :., preference but they won’LJ~c:.discriminated against, R$ON LEA ANN MACOMBER educated- and. affloent,with a household income ex= either. " .... ~ Realtor Associate ceeding $10.0,000 for 21 percent of the market, the ~ -"A. lot of people feel-they aren’t.welcome in some Res: 582-7672 survey said. Some 22 percenthave graduate degree~ ¯ cities and towns," Frank Pasquarello, spokesman for it-=f,~d~ and 58 percent hold management positioi]s. ~ the department; told the- Boston Herald.."We are q’his’ study confirms the affluence and. spending :: addressing that by making sure members of the gay patterns for which there previously has been only ~ and.lesbian community feel they are welcome. Every aneedotalevidenee;"saidRebeecaMcPheter~s;presi- , group is welcome,~’ he said. . dent andCEO of Simmous Market Research Bureafi ," HesaidPolice Commissioner RounieWatson met ~64~ E ~st Street ¯ Suite ~70 ~Tulsa, Oklahoma 74~4 in New York, Whieh conductedthe survey. ¯ : with gay activists, who asked for a special appeal to Off: 9~ 8-749-8374 ¯ Fax: 9~ 8-747-~ 795 Adverting-agency .Mulryan/Nash; a New- York - gays.. The departmentissued astatement last week agency aimed’a~ gay icoustimers, eonimissioned the ~ inviting:gaydto apply: ’q’his i~ an invitation. This is survey. The intent Was-tO index the .market: The ." notaguarantee~0fajob,"Pasquarell0said.Hesaidhe pollsters surveyed 3,896 gay men an~women’acrogS i did not know ofany openly gay, officers in Camth~ country, then combined the results for meh~and bridge, but-added, "W~ couldcareless if sbmeone is W.ome~ in ~ totals. Not~tirprisingl~,; "nearly" 90 9~,l~y gay, as4ong as they do their job." " - , p~r~eiitoftho~epbJIedsaiff~eypfefei:h’ot~ls,:re~.t~d~ .:’ q’l~el~sbian-gaycommuuityinCa~nbridgedoesn t rants .atidotherbtl~inessesthiit~aarket’to°ga~ c0nsmfi: really see itself represented on the police departers~ Theyfilstfa¢tr travd’~p0t~ ~n~’~y-ffielidl’y~ ment," said Robb Johnson, WhO liv.es in Cambridge "’The report showed gay- eonsnmefs,:ar.e 16yal. to andisanac~vis.t~.Wi~theFenw.ayC0mmun,i,’tyH~ealth product brands that adverfise i,n the gaypr’ess; such~ C~at.eri "It s in¢.umbent,dn the.eity to create an Ab~dt~.v0dkfi~~Tahqueray gin and Subaht. Some 72 enviionmemwhe.’r,e,"tfficer~ €enid come out orcornpercent of those suryeyed’ had attended-liv~theatet ix~t¢ forlth~ exam, he said. ¯ ’ : ¯ " ’ Within-the past-year, nearly’dtuble..the 37 percentof ¯ ~ ~ " "--" ° " ’~ "~ " " " ..... " ’~ ’ "’ " " th~U~S:populfifion~s’~i v~htte. Atld:20i~etcefit 6~gay !un|tea~ Teri Schutt Realtor ! 834-7921 Specializing in men and lesbians reported seeing at least two feature ¯ Family Homes films in the last mpnth, more than three times the 6." , ’ i.P..artner Benefits? pe~ce.nt 0fAme~aus in,ge~neral:- .: ~ ~: , ~ i ; SAN FRANCISCO (AP)~-.United Ai’flines moved a No.n,Diserimi.nati0 n ! small~stepcloser.toofferingdomesticpartnerbenefits R~x, POV,LrOm, 7474746 tO employees by sending a letter to a city supervisor :fOr .californ:ia Sch001s- " saying it was.Studying thelaw to see if compliance is ¯ possible..But the airline still has not committed to SACRAMENTO (AP)’-: A lawmaKer who whs the : offering ~mployeesin registered::domestic,partuer- BROOKSIDE fir:~0penlygaymemberOftheC.alifomiaLe~islamre : ships the same benefits as married couples. - " . .:. is trying again this year to ban discrimination-against Theletter,.receivedThurs~y, is thelatest develop- ghy~..andle~bia~.S-in:publidedueatioh: : " - . " merit in a stalemate between~United and-the city over JEWELRY ~ The ~bill introduce" by. As~embl~woman" Slieila " San Francisco’s new domestic partners" ordinance. Kuehl,.D-Sfin~ Moniea, wtuld prohibit bias bhsed ¯ Thenewolaw requires’ companies doingbusiness with 4649 So. Peoria. off sexual orientation in’seho_ol employment; cturicti, " the city to offer Spousal benefits to their workers’ turn and-the treatmetit-of students On campus. : unmarried, and same-sex partners. A similar bill failed.last year when Republicans United officials said inthe letter that"they are controlled the AsSetnbly. But Democrats ate back in ¯ going tb-take a.full-analysis of the-:legislatiOn~ and ¯743-.5272 poWer this- year,, putting theissuein the lap,of Gov. ~; make a decision on whether they will be able to Pete WilSon; .~.Republican who-has both. supported " implement it,Y Supervisor Leslie.-Katz said. ’¢Fhey Comer Of and opposed gay-dghts ihitiativesin his six ygarsas : have not taken a position as to .the feasibility of chief executive: ~Wilson has taken.no position:on the ¯ compliance," she added. ¯ 48th & Peoria bill4whieh hasn’.tyet facedits first committee testin " ¯ The_airlinehad to consider 0ffering.domestic part- 9:30 -5 pm - ¯ theAs~embl’y.. Bat:both sides" ~r~ predicting~that ,the : net benefi,ts when the =Board of-Supervisors’ Govern- Mo~dpY - Friday governor will.comeumierinteusepressurewhenhis : ment Efficiency and Labor Committee senta $13.4 tumcomes to decide tbediatt~r: ’ ¯ million United lease~back to,the ~irports Cornmis " ’%Ve ate ~,~ry seri0us’fibtu( the4obbying-w¢ _d.0~" : sio~-in:=Jan~uary~ .The .aiditxe~whiCh.makes up 40. sa~dL~llefiMeCOi;miek/al~iSlati:ve-adVO~atef0iLife ~ percent-0f:the airport’s business; Wanis a ~-~e~ .... -~,,__ ~7 Lobby; a gay-rightS group ~:that~ reCenfly~ attracted ¯ lease for anew kitchen-ahd maintenance center. more than 500yomig people tp’a Iobbying day at the : Uuited says that if if were to offer domestiepartuer ~-~7’~:7 Capi-tol..i’.q]iegayand’le~bia~communityisgoihg-to" b.enefitstoits.l.7,000,1ocalemployees, itwonldalb~ ve.~active on-thi~ bilLWe ~anmobilize’ ¢omm-u: " most surely have to offer.them to its 80,000 workers nltie,:t om allov=.the tat .:"’ " " - . ¯ : n tionwide. Sa uncisco’S dOm s :p =ers ordi MCC of Greater Tulsa Assem~blymanSt~veBaldwin,’aLaMesaRepub~-" nancetakes eff~t.June.1; and the-~ity has shown - , eamwho wfl!.:help [ehd tliebpp0s.ititm, said~Wiison s ! some flexibility~ in, the ,deadline., ,On- Montlay; the. :"Whore God Up,lifts All People" mixe~.re~x~rd o,~ g’ay’is~ues wil}imike’the lobbying al~ " Board.of S.uperyisors .g-awPacificBell;MobileSer-- " " the~mote~intense: .The~Anahdm~.b~sed:~fadhional- .~ vices two yea~s.tO comply .with=the law>The firm is- " ’ " " X/allies ~.talitio6 iS:prel~ariffff tO i~rim ~l’5;000:tabloid~ :: erecting cellular photie equipment on a fire station. newspapers to ain’t ~hikehgoers’statewfdeabout th~ : ". .....- "...... - "- "’ 162:J-N.-Maplewood bill. ’Nou’ ]l see awhole cnltural war goin~,g on when " !~.G~ -’=-- Tulsa, Oklahoma 838-1715 KuHff~: li~i~a’[li~ ~a~~isgri~i-h~ust "~ whetherltomosexuals shonld-be barred from,being " ~ gays an~d lesbiam in,the ,~chools is .!~.Tv=asive. But- ~ traineO~ as teachers la~ :sparked a rare outburst of pr~o~,f ~s. s..¢~9~.~t:~.e .gays.:m ge~era!..a~0 yo.ung ¯ intolerance of gays. - ~- thei.r.gfie~s~she3aidS~h~feS’.stiry~.#s.~ht.win.~ outspoken.supporterof theban, even-said that gay " : ¯ ’ ¯ . . th~afyo_.tin~;g~ ak~’~blc~J’,ikely i~’d~01J0ut ~f s~h.0o~ men ,are. ,sick -~--both: physicallyand :mentally"- and 7..-:An Affirining. Liturgical" ahffnioiq I~~1~. fo Idll .~,em~~d~,e~.th,an~e:h¢i~rt~i prone-to.becoming maleprostitutes.. The comments ’ ~..e.~ualS’.. " i ," _° ?- -i~’:’-. ’ ~: ’ - 7......... 7 ":, added,to-a debate ,,m_."ggered this ,mon,th by thedis-elomeetina at The ~arden ? The bill ,ffg~d:a~ld ~s~fi~l.’hri.~t~6o tg"th.<fiSt b[’ surothat ,Thailand; S 36 teachers colleges Wonldnot t~iii~..~t~c~’ frtr~~a:i~li~ ifi,~M.o,~’p~* accept gay studentS in the belief, that homosexuals ~8~v g ~’em-ia , ~ua¢o~na of ~M~fa.~:,7~..~"w..b~.eIev~te~i~,tle tothe’!9~! serve as poor.~ole models:f0r.youngsters,-.- ;. :. ~ss Satua-day e~enin~ at"6pm how a~etro~edirace,~9.~, ~olO.r’;’.rdigi0n; ag_e; .di~iI~.-t.. . 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Service 11:00 am Wed. Service 6:30 pm *,.Wed. 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group To do justice, love mercy & to walk humbly with our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E_=;~__ South Min~o ® Tulsa, OK ¯ 74146 * (918) 622-1t41 - the collective name for the teacherscolleges - recently announced it would not admit.gay students. "Homosexual teachers would affect young students because youngsters look at their teachers and absorb things,, said Sirote Pholpuntin, director of aBangkok branch. "Those who wotti~r i~ach young studba,t~ should be idealistic and perfect, they should be nor- Representatives of about a dozen activist and academic organizations wrote a letter to the education minister protesting that thebanviolatedhumanrights and academic freedom. They also said it was against the tenets ofthenational religion, Buddhism-"which teaches people to be merciful." Scoffed Suldaavich: "I’m not goingto allow afew people to determine the course of national.education, They cite human fights. That’s nonsense." His stand earned him a sharp rebuke in a Bangkok Post editorial, which said his comment,was silly and unealled for and most of all, it showed an. appalling lack. of sensitivity for someone holding the post of national education chief." Nevada’s Gay Legislator CARSON CITY, Nev. (AP) - Freshman Assemblyman David Parks may be the first openly gay person in the NevadaLegislature.But Parks,whohas worked in local government and lobbied.for more than 25 years, is no. stranger to. the legislative process: He noted that his reception at the 1997 Legislature has beenwarm and that his sexual orientation hasn’t been an issue: Born in Boston and raised in New Hampshire, Parks, D-Las Vegas, came to Nevada via the U.S. Air-Force. Parks spent his entiretour of duty in Nevada, intending to leave the state when his time was up. Like many, he said, he wound up staying. ~’I like the desert and I don’t mind the summer heat," he said. "And I always remember,the last night I spent inNew Hampshire, when it was minus 17 degrees." Parks also made his mark as an AIDS .activist. For eight years, he recommendedpolicies as a memberof the Governor’s Task Force on AIDS and has also served as a trustee for Aid for AIDS of Nevada Inc. His long record of experience gave Parks an edge when former Assemblyman.Larry Spitler asked ~m to run for office, o= "At the time, I-said, ’Larry, that’s just not onmy radar screen~’ "Parks said:’~Becanse I was openlygay and very up front aboutmy personal life, I-just didn~’t see myself running for office." Parks expected and encountered some ~negative campaign tactics. His opponent, Republican Tony Dane, admitted partial responsibility for a mailer that included a.newspaper reprint about a 10-year-old boy who rapedtwo other boys. The article was wrapped around an .endorsement of Parks by The-Bugle, l_as Vegas’ gay newsmagazine.. - At the time, Gov, Bob Miller blasted Dane, saying it was some of the worst,nagativecampaigning he’d ever seen. "(Dane) did it because he ,didn’t have a strong r~¢ord ofhisownaccomplishments to run on," Parks sai& ’l’m sure there are many better placesto be gay than. Newd~, but as diverse as Las Vegas is; being gay isn’t that mtmh ofa problem:,~ Anmt -Gay LawChalien- . - .g.ed ATLANTA (AP) - A-federal appeals cour~ will consider an Alabama law Imnnlngh0mo~xual-student groups from receiving statemoney in a dispute being billed asan important free-speech case by civil A three-judge panel of the 1 lth U.S~ Circuit Court of Appeals hears arguments today on a decision that threw out the 1992 law as~being unconstitutional and discriminatory. Conservative critics say homosexuals should not receive any public supportsince.Alabama still has laws against sodomy. The state is appealing the 1996 ruling. "It’s important that we not use state funds to allow the promotion of homosexuality,’" .state Sen..Bill Armistead, R-Columhiana, said Monday. But civil libertarians call the law an infringement on the free-speech.rights of homosexuals: .No other state has such alaw, said theAmericanCivil Liberties : Union attorney who-will.argue on behalfof a gay : .sm~dent group. ’q’here’s been aresurgence ininterest ¯ m, gay and lesbian groups on campus,es~ both in .* colleges and high schools..We think it’s critical to ¯ hold the line .for these groups,".~sm’d Matt Coles, : dir~ector .of the ACLU’s Lesbian, and Gay Rights : Project.... : The st,qte ischall~nginga year-old deqi_" sio!~by U,S. ] Distxict Judge Myron.Thompson, who cal!ed-the, law ¯ unconstitutional anda,"n,3k,ed" form of discri_mina- ~ tion. The statute prohibits groups.f~om using public : facilities or receiving..public money ,if they ’Toster" ~ and "promote" acdyities: prohibited by the state’s ¯ sodomy and sexual.misconduct laws. ¯ TheGay, Lesbian, Bisexual Alliance at the Univer- : sity of South.Alabama, !bcated in M~)bile, sued over ¯ the law after it was denied student.activity money : became of the statute.~ . ¯ : ~ Thompsonrul~iastyea~as then-Attorney General : Jeff Sessions and conservative activists considered ¯ ways to block a regional conference for homosexuals : at-the University. of Alabama. The decisioneffec- ¯ tively Mocked Sessions from citingthe state law to i challenge the meeting,.whieh was held at the student ¯ center in Tuscaloosa. : Armistead said abill will likely beintrodueed in the ¯ Upcoming legislative session to ban the use of public funds byhomosexual groups."’We are sort of waiting : on-the outcome of this (case) before we proceed," he : said... Mixed Review For Super BowlAd with Transexual NEW, YORK (AP) -.Holiday Inn Worldwide got gripes as well ascheers Monda~ for its.Super Bowl ¯ commercial that tried to dramatize the chain’s reno- .’- vafion program by showing a ~mssexual at a Class : reunion. ¯ About two dozen people called corporate head- : quarters about the commercial, said Craig Smith, a : spokesman for theAtlanta-based hotel chain. Half of : the callers likedit and the Other half didn’t. About 30 calls also came in. ftqm_fr.anchi~s.e¢.‘~,. ,.and-were., 5:to.- 1 !o in supportbf the ad, ~icxiording to Gm~ Sch~ihet; h_~d : of the.hotel’s franchise.ownergroup. : The commercial showed a woman .striding into,a : hall, for a class reunion~ drawing a.dmi_ring glances, as ¯ anarrator notes what,i~ cost_,forher new nose, lips and ¯ cbest. Sbe,even.tually runs into an,old ~lassmate who : insists on guessing hername.The,manshudders as he ¯ reeogm’z.es her as--Bob Johnso~ ~from the old days.. ¯ "It’s amazing the. changes -you ,can make for a-few ¯ thousand dollars," the naff_at_or, says. The hotel chain _. is promoting its own $,1 billion renovation program. ¯ ’q’bere have been people who felt it was :a v.eTy i creative approach and funny~ andthere were thos,e, who did h~t .like-the .creative ~treatment we took, : Smith said: "If we offend~xl..anyone with the treat- " m_ent_ we took,we apologize.’; But Smith also said he i was speaking for himself, .and not necessarily the ¯ company, when.offering apologies. i -Hesaidcompanyexe,enfivesplantomeeXthi~w~k : .NJ. Episcopal iDi cese "i BacksGaYMarriage :: NEWARK, NJ.’ (AP)=-.600 delegate~ _t6::th6 123rd aimua~ ~n~ntion~f the~is.c0p.al.Di~"o~c~4.e ofNewa~ kepproveda standard li.turgy forblessing same:sex marr‘iages. ~e deiegat~:ap-_~V~ t~ ~e~olution in minutes, wi~~ii-tmlly no ~bate. It asks the national governing body of the denotnination to develop’rites - for blessing unions between, people of the Same ~nd lesbian couples. :’We ~:e discussed same-sex : dnions sine~ 1987 in this diocese; it’s not exactly a ¯ n~w subject," said Newark Bishop John S. Spong. It s not a big issue. It s Just one more lllustratmn of ¯ " ar~u,~bly one of the mo~stlibePal’in~ the naticm; ~ell ¯ ahead of the national church organization. ~ :~Tre~tmen~s HONOLULU(A’P) -~Alocal:researcheris smd~whe~eracupmc~e~relieve AIDS¯ pa~ems’ ~plaints 6f ~nsmt pMn-~d, nmbness. Since Sept~r, phy~ ~y ~n~ck~~l~king fog32 volutes ttrest out,~eMter-- native~ent;Sof~,.SheOdy hmme patients2 She is conducting ~e t~t by ~mp~ng hMf ,of h~ pafi~ who get acup~c~e, ~d ~e:-o~ .h~f who ge f~e~ent~i~aw~kfor~ow~B. ~tors’have"~t~g for.~~" five waystO,~tHIV patients.who oft~ ~mplMn of~nmb~e~s,:b~ng ~d pM~ in ~eir f~L t~ga ~d ~:-:Anm~r:6f" : Danvers, Mass:i,~ company that runs : Fu~dkers hamburger restaurants, has ¯ re~iairM its 23~000 &mployees. tO learn: : ab~,u~tMDS sinCe 1988 after an employee ¯ marridl a m’ah with HIV.’Co-work~ffs ¯ shunned her and customers boycotted the : deli where she worked. The company : sticks p~_a~a_,phlets on AIDS-and HIV in employ~s, orientation packets ~and dis-- tributes:: them at training workshops¯ DAKA :also h~s set up an anonymous AIDS hofline, mannedby people outside the coml~any, that direct* callers to testing ¯ lalJ~sanffcounselors. "The more frank you : are a~_t the disease, the less’of a~sligma it ig, ~aid WiHimn ,H, ". Baumhauer, DAK~’s :chairman, an&’ chief executive; padenta4nHawaii and’ii~themainland sa]i~ : "If tl~.. C~EO says.it’s OKto talk. abo~t it,- - theYP~efer reli.ef.fr.om.~.acu-o.unemre be-’ .~"" t"t se~n’ds"a’poweff.ul’m.essa.g ..¯ " readycause .the- usual patn medicataons act as- : - But some busmesses~ Just aren t~ sedatives. They s~y sedatiwes make it dif-. ;- to.ta!k~aboutit. "Companies h,,ave so many ficult tO funetion~auring’theday. ~/oth~’~things on-their :table," said Barry AIthough °mainlar~d ~ patients :are alsb~ ’ IAWt~i~’~ spokeaman for-the :Alexan-. trying-o~at this:’e~tem styleof’healing,, :. dria,..Va,-based Society for ~Human Re- Kindrick saidHawaif is an ideal place to .’. ~ource" l~lanagement, a,,nafional group of study: it .becaus~ .people .here are m~r~e : ~e~s6nnel managers.. They -haw ~rofit " tolerant ofAsian healing practices. -,. - 1~ margins t0.wbrryabout, theyhavesexual ¯ harassment, diversity concerns., ~l~here’s AiDS~l=.clueation .n.. so muehvymg for the,rattention:. M ¯ ¯~’....’. : Barnes,. ,a New York ,~ity lawyer and rh,= ~t/~r-knli~o.~ :- r~nner.alDS lo~b~st; saiasome compa..... =,’ ¯ ~.~.~ ...= = ~°",~i~:’,.~, ---: ’ ~ ni~s ~imoly don twant to mention asexu-, ATLANTA~(AP) ~ l~!.ar~King, an A,.I~ : :~ally t~an~n~itted diseaseat the conference educator, makes llis li’¢i~g ~b~ ,valldng ~ tat;ie. ~There sill}canbe~Mot of,moral,and into corpprate bo~09.ms~~f~l of hostile ,. ’~: :~eligi0usiybased res!~,tance4n?the work-’¯ exec~fivrs-.,with, ~eii~!.~ ::~0ssea: .~,:~a~.,,~, said Bame*~ ’ I- would not under~ ’q’hey’rg-a~raid:-~O~y-:~q; " to see" ~-~standwhvvouw,otdd nee21,~o show in the condo~. ~ey’~~~Z:~e ~o~_ng ." worl~lacetheuseofacondom,butthere ¯ to se~ ~x~p~.licit~t~ality.,,~d~g, who . noreasonthatanyoneshouldhaveamoral~ has the-y~s ~Lh~50~_.s~s~ i~~_~.~, ,~e0p ..;o-~objecfion to,simply knowinglthefacts. ~ have.~a~isi~.0.~a~9B~iBy:otv.ed..~!DS:~:~:,~ The promise, of poweffu~ .:neW" dmgs: " as being: fil.t~iib~r"".~..anal~l~ed.~.al~:. :7 " that hal* th6 ¯pro~resg ~of the :AIDS’: virussorts~ a~g~h~:~the~.it;s~.be~.~eoL:,. ~and make .patieats -10ok: and.f~el better. fear.qgn~k!.0.r.~..n.-ce..0., rjq: .s.t.a.l.a..c.k..o~.=i=..n....tc. .re..s.t.,,...:. nmy~"vemanagers~th~ideait~snolong,,er AIDS educaUonts still strugghng to get a i ira issue’they should worryabout. In foot !n. ~efl.~oo,rj0~.~~CQ..r~of~t.e..._ ;J~f~,e~,~’,c~.-[-,1997;it-doesn’t appear.to..be’asLbig’of~,a, even though the.dis.ea~,e is ~,e ~,o: ,~ ~!ier~. ¯ problem,:’. King-said. "Compames ofm0rethanhalfofthgnation-s WorKIorce.. ,: say, "Oh yeah, isn,t there a.eure for mat Four years a~d, theC,dnt~s for ~sease .- now or something. Don’ttheyhave drugs Control and Prevention’Jauncbed Busi- i - ¯ ¯ w~"’ ’ to treat ~t no .. ness Responds.. t9 AIDS,’~ a progr.am to ¯ BellSouth Colp.4n Atlanta adopted an make it easy for eompanies to teach their ¯ . AIDS policy in -.1989 .and has had no employees theba~ics~fAiDSandhow to reason to go beyond that, said spokeslive with it on the" jdb: The CDC says ;. woman Gaye Clark. The policy defines about one in six businesses across the ¯ .AIDS, explains.how it is spread, and outcountry have actuallystarted a pro.gram. ,: lines employeesr right to privacy. "We didn tseetheneedformandatoryclasses, Jeffrey A. 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Remember the old adages that Grandmaused to tell us, "anounceofprevention is worth apound ofcure," or, "an apple a day keeps the doctoraway7’Manytimes the most simple of solutions, is whatwetend to overlookmost often. Perhaps .we have become so advanced that we are bypassing our basic iustincts~ ’Tou are (or arch’0 what y~u eat,’: as the.old .saying goes..:so, Tulsa, what are you have the time and money to devote :,tO al! of.this!" But; hey, thisis alifelong contract, this optimumhealth stuff, and it .can get~expeusive. Gym memberships,healthy choices at the grocery s~tore, vitamin and. mineral supplements, eight hours of sleep every night, etc. Well, by golly, aren’t you and those you love worth it? Because, ifyou don’t take the time and money to.stay at an optimum health level, all-the things you have worked for and continue to workfor (like retirement funds) are going to be uSedtomakeyour doctor’s house-payment and your pharmaei~t’.s car payment. Have I~jarred~ you. from your cou~ch yet?! Nutrition, physicial exercise, and sleep ... add up to 100~ oPtimum ]~e~lth. Are you. partieipatingln aft tl;ree fro~its ;n order tod0 your fair sl,a, e aga;nst &sease?! Okay well, . how ....about.: These programs outlined tWO~ ,One.~ abov~ obvitusly require a lifestyle ofco~~hange. Zero~ -TherehreMotof newthinkeating?~ .. - .... " ~’hng’".l~ealth;professionals Nutrition is said toplaythegreatestrole ~’~ available :f& ~0molfatious 6nLnua’ition; in our overall.health. Optimum-health is : fitnesS, ~idrest~ D~d’t ~inkthat yoUare maintainedby proper nutrition (50-60%), .: going to have to hirea .Chef, :a physical physical exercise(30-40%), and from_an .~ trainer, ora nulsseuse in0rder to ac~om adequateamountofrest (RapidEye,~ove~ : :plish your~goa! of~beconiing "I-!ealthids.t~. meritsleepopatterns ~ -’,Mremnsleep,,, :10~%).~ , :~-~ulsah ~f-~ili~~~-"~ ~ezabo~:&~lei~ Nutrition, physicial exercise, andsleep, i’ ti0ne21hehlthpr.tfe’ssi0nals;hbv~evei,lean therefore,addupto 100%optmumhealth.." .be utilized in 0rd~r,to gei siai’t.~.~a~.d ~tay Areyou participating in all threefroms :. on target! St...here s toa pgsitlvefy flew in order to do .your fair share against .. you! Andrera~mb~t~,~quaIii~w’ill’i~rb,a~e disease?! Okay, well, how about two? ; .the quanlty 0f y0tir’lffd.~ ’:f i(.. One? Zero? Uh-oh, so maybe we should : Dr. MichaelGo~’rnaapracticks ~n T.ulsa shift the burden of healthcare’ s respousi- ¯ at 4775 S. "Harvard;-~itk: C, 712~5514) bilities off of our doct0rgcsurgeons, tec~,h- ;. Heis a Board Certified Chiropractor and nology, and medicine to ourselves, Let s-: ~Accupuncturist, hglds dB.S~ ~n Nutrition. takeourfairshareofresponsibilityforour :. and is an active b~dybhilder. ~ " own health care..After all, do you think .- Dr. Gormanals6 do~s fitness, nutriyou are sick because-you haven’t taken : :tion, and supplement counseling. Without treatment, an IHV-infected mother in the United States faces about a 25 percent risk of passing the virus to her child before or during birth. In poor countries, the risk is significantly higher, perhaps around 40 percent. Giving pregnant womenthe drugAZTcuts this risk inhaiti but the treatment is too expensive to be widely used in poor countries. So doctors are looking for ways that will be cheaper and better than AZT. Most of the studies now starting involve various combinations ofdrugs thatincludeproteaseinhibitors, the HIV-blockingmedicines thathave revolutionized AIDS care over the past year. One of the simplest regimens, however, uses just two doses of a single drug, nevirapine. The idea is to give apill to the mother when she comes to the hospital in labor, the other to the baby soon after birth.- Dr. John Sullivan of the University of Massachusetts Medical School said this treatment would cost about $2 - Cheap enough that ifitemational health orgamzations could offer it eTcerywhere. "If this is a success,.-it is ~definitely translatable into the developing world. We are very ¯ excited aboutthis," Sullivan said. Sullivan outlined his plans for the study Sunday at the fourth annual Conference on Retroviruses andOpportunisticInfections. Thegoal is toreducemother-to-childtrammission of the virus down to 5 percent or 6percent- abouthalf the ratenow achievable with AZT alone. Doctors hope to enroll 800 pregnant women in the United States andEurope and have resultswlthin a year."’The goal is to do this study as ,fast as possible so we can get an answer,’ said Sullivan. The treatment is unlikely io do any good if the baby catches the virus ’from the mother while still in the womb~ However, doctors believe about two-thirds of these infections occur duringdelivery,when the treatment may be able to st~p the virus from becoming established. "What we don’t know is whether by increasing the intern sity of the treatment, we increase the rate of success" over AZT alone, said Dr. Robert T. Schooley of the University of Colorado. "My gut feeling is this will ~ have,an effect." by James Christjohn - i ". At Philgrook, ’q~ne Oklahoma Scene:- ffyouneedalaugh, ThdTulsaComedy ." Printmakers of the 30~s and4Or-~’ iS’On Club is ~eplace to go! Tim Jones, from "Dear John", "Am¯flea Unseen: "Evening at the Imprdv", "Comic S~ip Live’:,a~t People & Phee",, Showtime, appears 2/26-3/ . - - r. - 2; Basile, "a teddy-bear. . continues_~,Pn: stuffed with high ~plo- exltlblt ..4 0. styes" (Should I s~iy~ it? Naw, too easy.), Wilose In partleulai’; the credits include HBO and Showtime, appears 3/5-9, exhlbit-ineludes Mark Pitta, a regular on the some women ’q’onight Show", and ,Totally Hidden’Videos’:’ is at artlsts and the club 3/12=16. Formusic ofaCeldcbent, artists ofcolor - Reeltime plays the PAC 2/ 28 (596-7111);andifyou’re .W]~o once were in an operatic draaaama- almost entirely queeny mood, Tulsa Opera’s Vrhe rearl Fish- .~ excluded :from exhibit through .May 11, and it features some inter-. esting imagery. The artists in this exhibition are from the northeastern part _of Oklahoma. Through. June 29, Philbrook celebrates 100 years of.the visual arts in Tulsa, a historical overview of the organizations~ that have played important roles in the growth of the arts in Tulsa. And "Oklahoma Portrait: Photographs by Russell Lee" is also running through.May 11. "America Unseen: People & Place", continues on exhibit through March 9. The exhibit exers" take a dive 3] 1, 6; & 8 .......1 plores aspects of Ameri- (596-7111)i B6th are at the" ¯ ~"the Amerlean " ’ ban pictdrial art from the Performing Arts Centef art scene. ’20’s- ’50’s, and includes (PAC)r 3rd & Cincinnati, downtown¯ , -, Also, iwoula: If you’ve spen~ "time at " - ’ ~- local diners, and can’t get call your e¯ nough of it there, .1..o~al ~mpresan" os, C,eI,eblityA,: ~t-’" , . .._.- ..~ .:, ,_ ,,.~. tra’ctions, ar~bringing ’ to aicbUD|e 0t Greaseto thePAC;3/tT-22 " - " *- .... (596-7111). Elsewller~-m: ’~ ima~es.wlth ¯ ’ 5his cguntry"~am’ organiza7 hom0-sensual /ions ar~ waking up’to the ~ fact that.Ghys &-lLesbiims ...’. "inter~"pr’ e"ta’t"ions:" are a prime entertainment : ~ .works by Norman Rock, .well,~John Steuart C_ufi,y, .Th0mas.Hart Benton~-Fxlr ward Hopper, Walker- .Evans, Dorothea Lang’, Isabel Bishop, & ?Thi~ exhibivreally merits- several viewings. Not -:only .are there interesting . works .by more famous artists, there are equally interesting works by artistswhoaremuchles~ web Eilis Egan, ChrisKe~:~nny H~yes, 8 p.m. John H.~. Williams Theatre Tulsa Performing Arts Center / Tickets $12 Call 596-7111 ¯ .’Store ¯ :.o .’~". .... ....-7:: . -. " ¯ Open~ at Noon,.Tues-Sat. €. Dinner Meetln¢ week. We had a very good dinner there, iff3~i ,I:~.t~~.e n~w .ap..d~dition~,. : Beginning Jan. ] 7 : I’m sure our restaurant critic at large . ~fo6fa~ewasimpres~!ve, a,n_,_dffy0u,haven t _ ~ ’ ’ " ¯- (we’ve tried re.~tiiiints;;butlhe just~keeps, :!, 7s~nfii,dt~s:worth the buoks - agMn. A~.~d ~ ,. ..... ¯ ,b,reaki~ng ~,~give us. ~simighff.ul~.d-,!~li!l.:~.nk. \Hans and L.uke are ~ueer, no ¯Gifts v Cards v Pride Merchandise ¯ . _ |o, ,:: The ~p)scop~I Church ~SUNDAYS’ :~~’ ~:" ° ~ Bl’..ess the Lord AtAII Times Christian Center- Sunday School-9:45am, Service- 11 am, 2627b East llth, 583=7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist),~S~rvice = 6pro, 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Community Uni~.~an Universalist Cong.rggation Service - 1 lain, 1703 E. 2rid, 749-0595 - Lesbian Heaven Fa~ly ofFaith l~etropoUtan Community Church Adult Sunday School; 9:15 Service, 11 am, I~5~51:E S: Mingo, 622-1441 Dinah Shore Weekend Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Palm Springs, California Service, 10:45am~. 1623 North Maplewoo~, Info:-838-1715 March 27 - 31 PrimeTimers ~- ,- Social group for~ me.n, 1st Sun/each too. 4~6pm;:Pr[de ccn,ter, 1307 E. 38th University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/TransgenderedAlliance Gay Games 6:30 pm at the Canterbury Center, 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 Amsterdam ’98 ONOAYS " - Start Planning Now! l-nv T~ang cii.i~ Free& anon~ons te,~ng~ ~o ~ppo~nt~nt r~qnir~ Walk in testing: 7-~:30pm Resu!~: 7-gpm, Info: 742-2927 Limited Availability PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays July 31 - August 8, 1998 2rid Mon/each too. 6:30pm,-Fell0wship €o~igregational Church,2900 S. Harvard . ~ Gay &Lesbian Book Discussion.Group,~Borders Bookstore Womens Literature Discussion Group, Borders Book~store 3rd.!V[on/each month, 7:30pro, 2740 E. 21st~ 7_12-9955 ~TUESDAYS~ .. -_ ~ ..... UIV+Support Groupr~IV,Resource Coiis0i-tiuni’.l:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1, Info: Wanda ~72~74!94 IGTA member’~;~~- iSh~ii-Tulsa, In’~. HIv/AIDS Support Gr6up;:ar~,dzl~riends&Family HIV/AIDS 34LOt~o,o ¯ . Suppgrt Group -7 pro, Locations, call: 749-7898. I ntornational: v. 0 Center Community Meeting, Feb. 18,~7-pm; ~1307-E. 38th; 2~id ft., 743-4297 formoreinformation._ i~,,. WEDNESDAYS . . :,~..~*.:-. ~ B! Lord At All TimesoChristian Centi~r -.-,: i~ 545~;E South Mingq. Call,622d~4:l forinf~’-" 7 READ ALL ABOUTIT : Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library One area often overlooked in the gay commlmity is the specialsituation of gay and lesbian African- Americans. There is finally l~ginning to be some recognition of this ignored group, and Keith Boyldn’s new book fills an important need. ’One More River to Cross" is divided into chapters on various topics, including "Black Homophobia," "Gay .....R~cism," "Faith in the Lives of Black Americans," and "Are Blacks and Gays the Same.9" In discussing black homophobia, Boykin reviews how some black leaders, including Eldridge Cleaver, Frances Wesling and Minister Louis Farrakhati,have associ- In 19zt8, "The in the Army wouk[ create disltarmony and drive away whites." In fhe 1990’s "hiding behind the amorphous, eatehSall .pln-a.se of ated homosexuality With the unit co~tes~on, decline ofthe black commu- .supporters nity. In one of the more improbable examples~ Boyldn.1~~ne~ay ban qsu~oAteslic+on(tarouvtehrsoiarlOWf’qr+itheer ++ +.i.+ila+,_sxl~~x.uaenSdtat.... Blackw~man:s Guide to Understandingth~ Blacknm")i "Gavs,servln~ as she claims that ~ black, male homosexuals .~i¢o0k; openly~ woum sew andbake andare-deter- make Otlter mined :td be+~ betterwom~m ’ thn..an the w+m+h’ t~iey + s01dier" feel ~o+~." Many inuring top+ its are cited here, including - homophobiain rap music mid . ,able. instances+of black magazines~ and parade organi~r~:reject~ .... "-- ingparticipationbyblack, gay ¯ several otlter groups; ,, In the chapter on Gay’Rat- " ism:’ Boykinpoints to several -----~Uonat gay terms such as the Human Rights Campaign and National Gay -a.na ~ay are and LesbianT~ Force, and intere]~an~eis astounded that, although they claim to stand for equal- able. ity for all, they have Very few black employees, The media, also, is a target: "Likeits heterosexual counterpart, . long before other groups ,got state grants to do the same thing. A~A on March 6, 7, & 8, Trespasses, a playbylocal Pro-Choice activistandcommtmity friend, Barbara Santee is being performed at Heller Theatre, 53288. Wheeling at 8pm. Admission is $6, $57for students and seniors. Trespasses is .billed as "a deeply disturbing protrait of family betrayal and incest" with mature themes and language. It has been chosen to representHellerTheatre attheOldahomaCommunity Theatre Festival in Stillwater on Marc~ 15. Info: 746-5065. Lastbuthardlyleast,don’tmissPFLAG Tulsa’s 1st annual Spaghetti Dinner featuring OklahomaCity’s MetroMeus Chorum The Chorus has performed several times to benefit PFLAG and gets rove the white gay med~,’~ usually projects Eurocentric images ~ beauty that transmit messages of inferiority to blacks and others who do not fii the white stereotype." "Are Bliicks and Gays the Same?" includes an interesting quote fromTexas Senator John Tower, commenting on the 1964 Civil Rights Act: "(It would...) deny to millions of employers andemployees any freedom to speak or to act on thebasis oftheirreligious convictions or their deep-rooted preferences for associating or not associating with certain classifications of people." Boykin’s comment: "rhe complaints ring as loudly today against homosexuals as they did yesterday against Afriean Americans." The same argument occurs with the recent gays in the military controversy, as integration of the US Armed Forces in the 1940’s is disenssed. In 1948~ "1the presence~ of black soldiers in the Army would create disharT, mo~and driveaway wtiites.’ In the 1990 s vermon, ~iiding -behind the amorphous, catchall phrase of ’unit cohesion,’ supporters of the gay ban arguethatlesbians andgays serving OL~mly Would make other soldiers feel uncomfortable." Boykin cites several other instances where the terms "black" and "gay" are interchangeable. The eorrelationbetween the civil rights movement and the " ixtstallees gay fights movemememerges as the most intri " where the the chapters peak the reader’s curiosity and interest, they pale in comparison to the sections on these similar movements for equality.. Checkfor "One More River to Cross" atyour localbranch library or at the Readers Services depart: ment (596-7966) at the Central Library. : reviews. This will be at All Souls Unitar- ¯ ian Church on Sat. March 22 at 6:30 and : reservations are mandatory! Call 749- : 4901. ¯ Other upcoming programs of interest ~ include a conference, "Facing the HIV/ _" AIDS Crisis" seheduledforApril 18atthe Rogers University (UCT) Conference i Center from 8:30 - 4:30. This event is ; being organized for and by the African- , American community to address HIV/ : AIDS within that’ community. For more ¯" informationortohelporganizeorsponsor : the conference, call Beverly Benton at ¯ 622-6059. ¯ Also, Project Get Together (PGT) has : an insurance continuation assistance pro- ", gramfor qualifiedindividuals riving with ¯ HIV/AIDS.TdsaCommunityAIDS Part- ¯" nership is the sponsor. Call I~T at 835- : 2910 to see if you qualify for help with : your insuran~ premaums. Kelly Kirby CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation ¯ Lesbians and Gay menface many special tax situations whether single or as couples. ¯ Call us soonfor sensitive & timely assistance. ¯ Electronic filing is available forfaster refunds. 747 -5466 Eureka Springs is perfectfor a Winter Get-away! PAGES INFORMING THE LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAl Complete gay-friendly resources and businesses: lawyers, therapists, travel services Help lines & HIV/AIDS resources. Listings broke~ ;ENDERED COMMUNITY SINCE 1973 bars, bookstores, dentists, doctors, Media, Religious groups, Index & fast access phone list. Nationwide resources includin mail order companies, etc. s and Provinces. CT, DC, DE, ME, AL, AR, AZ, DE, DC, FL, GA, HI, KS, KY,, For an application (212) I ~ind us at A ERN MIDWEST: $10 MS, NM, NC, OK; SC TN~+~. Virgin Is. & Puerto Rico. ;elf-addressed stamped ’ 10014 Y Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice-& Equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law &:l~ankruptcy 1-800=742.-9468 or 918~352 128 East~Broa.d~ay, Drumright, OklahOma Weekei~di:i~i~d:~Ve~i~"g appointments are avaiiab~. ~: Seat Of Power. ’97 DIAMANTE LS " € HiTSUBISHI HOTORS Built For LivingY $.2 8,.8 8 8 HIV/AIDS and Confidentiality Ignorance about HIV/AIDS still persists almost two decades-into the known life of the disease. This ignorance sometimes translates into bias, stigma, and, at times, outright discrimination from close family and friends to complete strangers. As a result, you have the choice to keep your HIV status confidential. Oklahoma law protects-this right of confidentiality by allowing disclosure of information regarding your HIV status only in afew limited circumstances. Your HIV status can belegally disclosed when: 1. yonsignawrittenauthorization which specifically allows another to obtain this info~nation; 2. a court orders the release of this information; 3. theState Department ofHealthdetermines that it is necessary to to protect the health and well-being of the general public; 4. there has been risk of exposure to emergency medical technicians,paramedics, fire fighters, peace officers, correctional officers, or health care workers; 5. you are a health care worker and the State Department of Health determines sexual pastor, heacknowledged that there had ,been Some controversy in the congregation about offering him the interim position. In fact, the issue became public when one member wrote to The Oklahoma Eagle, Tnlsa’s African-American owned weekly newspaper, suggesting in only semi-veiled terms that a only heterosexual pastor would exert a "positive, wholesome and.., healthy" influence on her,grandson, and that itmight be better to leave, the position open than to chose McCall. McCall notes that he and Darryl have never even seen the letter .to the editor and that the congregation seems to haveresolved thoseissues - at least fc interim gregation might not have made an offer to him if it were for-a longterm position, rather than an interim one. In addition ~to the challenges of the congregation, there is the impact of the racism of Tulsa. McCall grew up in the Bay Area in East Palo Alto where there was physical :segregation; but was surprised inTulsa that segregation is notjust aphysical issue, but:one deeply partofthe cfilture. He sees~racism manifest itsdfin the emotional and spiritual life, as.well-as fp~isnicgallikliefethoefreth-aerceiatyt l-eatsot ttwheopTouinlstao’sf ~-. - one Black and one White,Matkius says he wasn’t quiteso suqnised, .siace he’d spent time in theCarolinasandhad seen a similar culture.’Still’, they sver¢.,surprised by some of the racist assumptions that were made when they leased their house. Both say that it’s difficult t3 deal witha place that refuses even to acknowledge that these issues exist, let a!one talk con, struefively about them., And the~oppressiveness oftheculture, aloag with thelack ...... of’genuine equality, explains muchof the anger and~ hostility .of-Tulsa’s minority Howcver~ both, Magus. and,McCall wel.come~opportunity to live openly as ~ c,~uplemthe~ profe~ional and commuthat disclosure of your HIV status is neeessary to monitor your ability to comply with universal precautions and appropriate infection cotatrol practices. You HIV status cannot otherwise be disclosed by someone else. If so, a person whonegligently,knowingly, orintentionally discloses ,your HIV status may be sued for damages, including, economic, bodily or psychological harm which is caused by the disclosure. In some cases, punitive damages may be awarded. Exercise your legal rights. Unless a situation falls within one of categories listed above, you do not have to disclose your HIV status. Be aware of who could directly affect your life with this information - such as your employer or your landlord. Tell only those people you want to know. Ifyou are H1Vpositive or have AIDS and you have a legal problem you may qualifyforfree legal assistancefrom an attorney on the pro bono panel of the AIDS Legal Resources Project. Call the Project collect at (405) 524- 4611 for more information. This column,is made possible through the contributions ofprofessionalservices bymembersofthe Oklahoma Bar Association. ¯ nity fife. McCall came out~ acknowledg- ¯ ing his bisexuality almost 5 years ago and ¯ dealing with the experience of [ homophobia is somewhat new. He says ¯ that when he was growing up, sexual : orientationjust didn’tseem to be anissue. ~ You were "in the life" but that was not a ¯ derogatory term but that as more Black ¯ Americans have become middle class, ~ homophobiaseems tobemore ofanissue. : He has experienced oppression more in ¯ terms ofrace untilheandMatkins came to ¯ Tulsa. : Both Matkius and McCall are commit- ~ ted to being in Tulsa 100%, hoping to ¯ provide healing and hope for the commu- : nity to get beyond segregation and ¯ homophobia. McCall makes it possible for McCall to pastor to The Church of the Restoration. In addition, Matkins. has volunteered to head the church’s jail ministry. McCall recalls the image of the pastor’s spouse whois much putupon and little appreciated buthe says Darryl gave up "everything" in the Bay Areato supporthim~andasks,really what difference is. there between them and a heterosexual couple in terms of love and devotion? . ¯ ~TheRev, Cheste~,M~.?allhasdonework around the issues ofgriefand death and disYisunegs.aAswnyeollnaes iwnoterrkesshtoepdsionntaolpkpinregswsiiotnh himaboutthese issues maycallhimat The Church ofthe Restorationat 587-1314. live in Oregon during the period of the anti-Gay referenda. Community activist, Jimmy Flowers shareddetails of his confinement in an mental institution and the inlmmane_treatment he experienced just for becans~e he is Gay. Kathy Hinide, copresidentofPFLAGtalked about herGay son and taen poa m orgamang. Kathy Bit&with RA.!N, told her story of being ~Me,tli6di~tpastor who was forced 6ut h6r jbb for b~ng Lesbian. 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(A word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space.) Send your ad & payment to POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 with your name, address, tel. numbers (for us only). Ads will run in the next issue after received. TFN reserves the right to edit or refuse any ad. No refunds. Volunteers Needed! For The Pride Cente~- :~ Volunteers are needed to help with June Pride Ev+ents and to help with minor buildin~ repairs,~and to act as Center Sitters.to extend the hours that the Center i~. open. Info: .call 743-4297. Director of HIV Program: Testing clinic and outreach program to high risk populations. Supervise staff of +/- 10 and 20-25 volunteers. Needed: grant-writing & people skills, not-forprofit & HIV education or counsdingt testing experience a plus. Familiarity with other HIV care organizations desirable. Finfincial & writing skills for reporting to funding agencies needed. Resume to: HOPE, attu: Deb Trevino 1307 E. 38th, Tulsa 74105 you ,live in small town or rural area? Are you attracted to other men? Do you feel like you are .,, And if you’d like to mee i-Others!ii!: come to our rural mens o sc.usslongroup every 2nd & 4thSaturday+ 7-gpm:::: For more info,, contact. Bobby or Jeremy 712-1600 or 800-282-8165 ~by Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche TFN Food Critic One of our good ~friends of the lesbyterian persuasion grew up in Rogers County,justnortheast ofthe Tulsa metropolitan area. Consequently, she has introduced us to several surprising restaurants in Claremore that are actually worth the SlS~cial drive over from Tulsa jttst to eat Main StreetAmerica food. For the last ten years, shdhas raved about anothernight~pot on the banks of the Verdigi’j’s River in Catoosa, but for vail: ous reasons over the last de: cade, we were never able to : menus and saw the prices being asked. ¯ This has to be one of the most expensive : restaurants we’ve ever seen in the Tulsa : area. Bdt, our Lesbian hOstess and tour ¯¯ guide assured us that it .wasn’t a joke - "Molly:s has always been expensive." She said. ’q’hat~s how they keep out ~the riff-raff." We weren’t aware that Catoosa had a riff:raff problem. Which started a long con- .versation as we Were regaled ’ ~vith the Story ofour hostess’ previous ill:fated marriage~to .a gentleman high schooolfootball star:. (isnrt it terrible hfw so.many ,straight men’s lives Molly’ Landln¢ _+ 3700 Highway 66, Catoosa Hour: 11 am - Mon._ coordinate our. Schedules to Saturdays +-+ allow a’visit. WeU, finally, in- +: +~.r + :+’ 0ur state of mourning forthe ~oOn -~10=pm now-closed and lost - .Cuisine: Montrachet, and in.our quest fop anew romanticplace for StealS,ousi~ those Very Speciat Dates, we w~id~ chicken, reached theirzenithonthehigh school athletic field?):-We th0nghrthat Was why.we were beginning to feel. nauseated and light:headedebufitmmed out merely to be amomentary case.6fcarbon imonoxide poi= joined her at Molly’s:Land=. quail"& shrimp, soning and oxygen depfivaing. " - " - " + : + - ’ tion-theldtctlengrill.v-entila- Molly’sLandingislocated .~ Dress: Cas~a|, ! tion+system whs havingsome on the nortkside of Route 66, Payment: i- +~ Soi’tofmalfuncfiOnthateaused right on the west bank of the- r’,. ~ n ~ .. not onIy thefoods to be mes " ~,..,a~n~ all major . ; ’ . . Verdigris River. Fortunately; " i+ "* + + r’qmte~smoked,~bu,t th+ diners if one is looking; there a~e ,--+ credit cards+ ..... as well. The staff s initial resigns marking thetumoffinto ° no eh~hs..:.J :,, +sponset,o that p~ob!em (+tumthelargeparkinglot: Fromthe -. ~ ~! ~, ¯ i + ’Jng the heaters oil ~high) exterior, Uo.lly~s ,looks like + + .ru~ +~.._r~ .+ ? )r~ (!:pr~+ed fruifless~o ~md~ great big, old log cabin-that Non-sm6ldng+"7+ :t~t~-h+"6~g ~:a3O~ were ~warted by,plastic+coyhas had countless interesting, random, and eclectic addi- ag ~ + e+n+"ngs~w~.n.ten.zm.g.the.0pentions. And, that’s exactlywhat ¯ mine., rags, but t-mallyenoughextethe building was and is. " -Co~t~:.... riot doors were opened to al, Upon entering the facility, ’Very " * " low,the air Ion.clear a~bit. - one is struck by the over- expensive But;we.di-gress. All of the whelming amount of "stuff" Rating:_ . .appetizers on the menu were thatiseverywhere.Collectious C llst $~.95. 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Whatcould packed with juvetile revdlers in their :. firstadultdinlng expelience. Alas,itwon’t i fulfdlmtheenmt pwbistshibtlheeinwleoanvdeerfulatruellyegantSenSees_Of : tablishmentserving exquisite foods with ¯ maximum style; and will most assuredly : leave them financially destitute. What a : to catch our own. drop-in basis for several evenings a week. Please return this form to the Pride Center 1307 East 38th, 2nd ft. Tulsa 74105 918-743-4297 Call The 900 number to respond to ads, browse unlisted ads~ or r’ef~rieve mlessages.Onlym~$l~’.i.’9f9i-.puer.te..’ 1 8-~:-Cu~tomerSe~i~:~15;281~3 1 83 1) Call: F~X FRIEND You’vegot a friend right,, here. I’m a 42 years old, Gay male ’5 8, 1701bs. I’m into sports, music, and am very flexible. Let’s hove same fun. (Tulsa) e26409 SHOW ME THE .WAY I’m a masculine, Bisexual curious guy, and I’m o little nervous about this. I’m 21,5’7", 1951bs, with a worked out body, Black hair, and Brown eyes. I need you to show me the way. 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I wouldlove to be you~r gi~friend (Tu s~) MADAME X I’m a ~ut~ and~feminine Tr~sve tite, dark hair, Green eyes, 5’2, 1301bs, early 30’s. I seeka ma~ed ii~entlemah ~no is n~uline and dominant. You must be.yery . discreet. (Tulsa) e!7693 - I~M LOOKIN~ FOR A REAL LOVE I’m looking for someone to spend quality lirn~ with. I prefer Block man: (Tul~) ~’i7745 -~: TAKE IT UKE A MAN I~m a toto!l~.~hat master. 6ft, 1801bs muscular and (Tulsa) "~1 AFTE~R,N~,N DEUGHT I’m a Bi, White rnol~, mid 30 s, 5 I’m leaking for.ddaytime friend. (Tul~a)~ old stedenl, from Tulsa. I love movies,, sports, and going out. I’m seeking someone clean-cut, conservative, and discrete. I hove.yet to come 0ot, so discretion is most im~rtant.c0me share my values, and discover togelher what SECRET LOVER Fm a Black, Bis married.guy. I’m looking for other Bi or Gay guys for discreet meetings. (Tulsa) ~15722 GIVE ME A HOLLER I’m 33 yeqrsold, 5’8, ,150~bs, Brown hair. I!ike spor~, mavie~ th~ ont6bors. 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(Tulsa) e2S!61. : .’. 6ft, 2001bs heallhyi0ndverysensUPa; |.,.:|am. ’:- -2~5dtore45wmhaoscaurleince’.,ofLtuinto~heacl:g~arne’"s I-fyo¯uare ma and mare~’m a55~ ’ -. , !!r~, ~un, ~u~g~ng~:U~ aown ~rSrS~’ r.-’-’, .... " , ~.,-- THE SECRET SHARER Can you help me find open to try all thingS, Age and race are not ~ ’.. " ~ ,:-. ~ ~:?.T:~E~" ~-~ ~-~- year o~a promss~ona~, tmusKogee| /u~- . . . __ a dominant B~ or Stra,ght guy who wants to Jmpo~ant. [lulsa} ~2~391 -: L!maybe’mere. :(T~IS6)~ @~J S031 JET SKI WITH ME I’m a very muscular, 23 year hove a discreet relotionshipe. I’m an attractive, CHICK YO" UR STRESSO"M|TER I,m~a. cut’e, ’ " ¯~. " ".. " --. old, with a flattop and Brown eyes. lliketo Bi, White mole in my 30’s, 5’2,1281bs. (Tulsa) COUNTRY BOY FOR SURE’ I ve in Bi, Whitemale, ~hat s5~3,1281bsand ¯ -~ma j,m~l~.~rs61d.Brownh~ir Bho~h~-i " waterski, jet ski, and fish. 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I’m mast i~te~ted in I’m26 5’9 with Bro~nhair andBueeyes I BEHIND CLOSE DOOI~ ’ma~ want a long term relationship and don’t think VII ’ ’ . ’...... .... other Gay,White males, between 21 and 45, who find it at the bars. I hope to meet anotherWhite can sense that you are out there. Call now. ~’~Wh~male5’7 1851~s B-~a~...... (Tulsa) ~211 ! 1 --/ ’ " ....’-’~" are willing to go slowly, fl’ulsa) w2374g male between 25 and 40 who’s in shape and heard, ~ustache. I wo01d like to meet othei-’men still has mast of his hair. [Tulsa) ~24870 MY FIRST EXPERIEI~CE I’m 28 years old " 26 to 45 who are int0-~a’nto~y play be~iedd~r,ed:~ Single White male, 6,1951b, Bmwnhai~,.;’-- dears’ B[u~e~llar tap’men are a Plus" You should Hazel eyes, muscular legs. L6oking to meet not be a~aid to he aggressi.ve. (Tulsa) el ~977 IF WE TRY This attraclive, Gay, White male, seeks companionship, and a relationship, with a sincere, Gay, Block male, belweee 18 and 30. I’m 5’9,1651bs, with Brawn hair, and Blue eyes. 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Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1997] Tulsa Family News, February 15-March 14, 1997; Volume 4, Issue 3 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource February 15-March 14, 1997 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Mac Guru James Christjohn Lance Brittain Dr. Mike Gorman Barry Hensley Jean Pierre Legrandbouche Kerry Lewis Stephen Scott The Associated Press Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, January 15-February 14, 1997; Volume 4, Issue 2 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa(Oklahoma)---newspaper Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/532 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1997 African Americans AIDS Coalition of Tulsa AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV education AIDS/HIV reporting AIDS/HIV research AIDS/HIV treatment Anita Bryant arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars businesses children churches civil rights consumer survey Dave Fleischer Dr. Michael D. 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Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Jan. 15 - Feb. 14, 1997, vol. 4, no. 2 Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Marriage Update Wash. St. Governor Supports Gay Marriage OLYMPIA (AP) - As one of his final acts, out~goi.ng Gov. Mike Lowry is sponsoring legislation to a_utho.nze same-sex marriages. The bill is doomed in the Legislature, wheremajority Republicans intendtopass abanon same-gender unions. But a Lowry spokesman said Thursday the governor considers the ban blatant bias and hopes to begin a dialogue that will eventually end discrimination against gays and lesbians. Rep. Ed Murray, D-Seatde, the only openly Gay member of the Legislature, will introduce the Lowry bill.in the House. The senator from his district, Democrat Pat Thibaudeau, will sponsor an identical bill in the Senate. Their 43rd District includes Seattle’s Capitol Hill,whichhas the state’ s heaviest concentrationof gay couples. Murray and Thibaudeau also will sponsor legislation aimed at barring discrimination in employment based onsexual orientation. Lowry also has givenhis endorsement to the bill, which is a pordon of a perennial antidiscrimination bill that Gay civil rights activists long have sought. Rep. Bill Thompson, R-Everett, will again sponsor a bill to ban same-gender marriages. His plan would I N.O..W. Plans Gay::Arkansas c,v,, Rights ¯ Ma r r! ag,e. Panel Proposed for Gays TULSA Tulsa s newly rewved chapter of ii gions, legal and political aspects. Those attending wi,ll have an opportunity to ask questions. Northeastern Oklahoma .s.contac.t person for the National Freedom to Marry Coalition will attend ¯ also. The National Freedom to Marry Coalition is co-ordinated : by Lambda Legal Defense and Educational Fund, the national : legal organization that helped the Hawaii litigants and their : attorneys. The Coalition includes groups working on same- . gender marriage issues across the US. : Formoreinformation or to become a co-sponsor, please call or : write NOW at 365-5658 or POB 14068, Tulsa 74159. ’the National Organii, zation for Women will host a post-Valentine’s Day panel focus- : ing on same gender marriage as part of a national campaign by : NOWto raise awareness about marriage issues. TheNOWpanel will be held at Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 So. : Harvard at 3pro on Sat., Feb. 15. The panel is.co-sponsored by : Fellowship Congregational Church, PFLAG - Parents, Families : and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, and by The Pride Center and ¯ Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. A number of other Tulsa congregations will likely also be co-sponsors. ." NOWmembers note that they are still finalizing some details of the program but it will feature a same-gehder couple who’ve ¯ had a marriage ceremony, as well as speakers addressing reli- Pride Center Begins i Pledge ’97 Program : TULSA- President ofthe-PrideCenter, Deb Shames, announced ¯¯ thekickoffofPledge’97,aongoingmembershipandfundraising ¯ campaign to support the Pride Center, Tulsa’s home for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans communities. Statues notes ¯ that that Centeris in sound financial shape due to the kindness of : : groups like the Prime Timers, thegenerosity of individuals and : ¯ the sound management of the ’96 board of directors. However, : ." she adds that utilities.and minor repairs remain and as more , ¯ community groups nse the facility, thecostrises and the need f0r "_ ¯ suPportinereases. ¯ : Communityleaders, DennisNeillandtheRev.LesliePeurose, : : have agreed to serve as two of the honorary chairpersons of " i Pledge ’97. Neill who helped found Tulsa Oklahomans for : ¯ Human Rights, the parent organization of the Pride Center, is : : well respected for his leadership with the City of Tulsa’s Human , ¯ Rights Committee and the Rev. Leslie Penrose, pastor of the : ¯ United Methodist Community of Hope see Pledge, page 3 : simply declare marriage to be a union between a man " . and a woman, mirroring both new federal legislatign " Say No TO Hate Did NOT : and a 20-year-old state court ruling: The issue was the No. l priority of religious conservatives in the Legisla- :AnnroveCallforWorkplace ture last year, but Thompson’s bill died in the Senate, :--rr ----- " Protections for Gays! Republicans took over the Senate in the November " ¯ elections, and Majority Leader Dan McDonald, R- ¯ TULSA - Contrary to earlier reports, Tnlsa’s Say No To Hate Coalition did not adopt a statement calling forjob anti-discrimination protections that included sexual Orientation along with race, religion, disability, gender, etc. According to Deborah Levine with the Community Relations Committee of Tulsa’s Jewish Federation, the member organizations of the Coalition did not reject the statement but some members did havequestions about some of tli~ language. These objections put the statement on hold until the Coalition can meet again and revise the language. Whenasked, Levine stated that she did not think the objections were to the inclusion of the term, "sexual orientation". This phrase is needed in order that Gay and Lesbian persons be protected from anti-Gay bias in the workplace, see Jobs, page 3 : IXITLEROCK (AP)-Twolegislators have agreed : to help a gay fights groupget basic civil rights for ¯ gays and lesbians written into state law. Sen. Mike ¯ Everett, D-Marked Tree, and,Sen. Jim Argue, D- ¯ Litde Rock, are joining with the Arkansas Noni Discrimination Alliance tomake it illegal to dis- . criminate against someone because of their sexual ¯ orientation in such matters as jobs and housing. : "It’s the right thing to do," said Everett. "I know : this issue. I have some experience with it because ¯ my son’s gay." Arguesaid it was an issue of basic : fairness. "And I think there’s substantial public : support that a person’s employment ought to hinge : on their job performance rather than their sexual ¯ orientation." : The alliance was formed after proposals to ban ~ same-sex marriage were filed for the legislative ¯ session. The alliance opposes the proposals but ." discovered through apoll that there’s little support ¯. for same-sex marriage. "Sowedon’tintend to press ¯ that issue," said DebraBailey ofLittle Rock, devel- ¯ opment coordinator of the Arkansas Gay and Les- : bian Task Force, a founding member of the alli- ¯ In 1995, Attorney General Winston Bryant is- " sued an opinion that people of the same sexmaynot : marryin Arkansas, althoughArkansas law does not ." expressly prohibit or permit same-sex marriages. Ms. Bailey said that the alliance will focus on ¯ discrimination in jobs and housing. Everett and ~ Argue plan to offer the alliance’s proposal as an ¯ amendment to the legislation to outlaw same-sex : marriages, see Bill, page 3 Revision of OK Hate Crimes Laws Proposed TULSA- It’s that time again. The Oklahoma Legislature is about to re.convene and Lesbians and Gay political observers in thestate anticipate that several well known Gay-hating legislators will introduce one or another bill attacking Lesbian and Gay citizens as they usually do.. Longdme observers of the Legislature are particnlarly concerned that new Speaker of the Oklahoma House of Representatives, Loyd Bensen, .may allow more anti-Gay legislation to get a hearlng. Typically any anti-Gay bill only loses if it is bottled up in committee. Many legislators believe that any vote that could be characterized as pro7 Gay is enough to get a legislator defeated and therefore, vote for anti-Gay bills even though they may not really support them. And then, there are enough who really are hostile to Lesbian and Gay citizens. While Tulsa has no formally organized political action committee, several Tulsa area political activists have identified see Hate, page 3 Coming Soon! Activist Honored: ¯ Community Unitarian Universalist Church will ¯ host a workshop on operating by consensus. The : workshop will belead by C.T. Butler, the author of ¯ On Conflict and Consensus. The first session will : be on Sunday, Jan. 19 from 9-10:30am and the ¯ second will be on Monday, Jan. 20 following a ¯ poduck dinner that begins at 6pm. The workshops ¯ will be held at Community of Hope, 1703 East Second Street. For more information, call Judy McCormick at 298-4495. see Coming,page 12 INSIDE Bellevue, says passage ofthelegislationis certain. "We ¯ are hoping it will be a litde less confrontational this ~ year," he said in an interview. "We’re not out to bash . anybody, butwefeel theinstitutionofmarriageis avery : fragile thing.andwewantto shore itup." He said the bill ¯ will be sent to the new governor, Gary Locke, who is ; sworn in next Wednesday. Thompson said he hopes Locke will follow the lead ofPresident Clintonand sign : the measure. If Locke vetoes it, it’s quite-possible ¯ enough Democratic votes can be rounded up to over- : ride, Thompson said. . The last resort would be #acing the measure on the ¯ fall ballot as a referendum for the people to decide, he said. "Wedon’twantto go thatway ifwedon’t have to,7 : Thompson said. He said he sympathizes with critics’ ; worries that it would be a divisive issue if it goes to the ¯ balloL AtaThursday news conference in Seattle, Locke " repeated his distaste for the ban bill, but stopped short " of saying he would veto it, saying he would want to see ." its exact wording. During the campaign, Locke said he ¯ would sign a Murray-style bill. Murray conceded his own bill is not acceptable to a " majority of voters, but predicted ~e,ban wouldn’t pass ¯ muster, either. But he said he didn t want to cede the legislative arena to the foes of same-sex marriage. "I realizethis willbe seen as extremeby some, but the anti- " same sex mamage bill is also extreme," he said in an." interview, see Marriage, page 3 TULSA - Longtime fundraising activist and Follies Revue ¯ founder and performer, Linda Stevens, was honored by Wash- : ington, DC’s Whitman-WalkerClinic this fall. The Clinic, which : provides HIV/AIDS care for the nation’s capital, recognized ¯ Lesbians across theUS for their long-term role, an.d their strength and commitment, in fighting the battle against HIV/AIDS. " Stevens’ name was added to the Lesbian Honor Role which is ¯ permanently displayed at Whitman-Walker Clinic. Stevens Was nominated by John Coney, who s been part of the ¯ Follies since their first performance.. Follies Revue, Inc. which " raises funds for local HIV/AIDS care andprevention will hold its . 9th performance in 1997. EDITORIAIJLE’R’ERSR)IRECTORY P. 2 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 ENTERTAINMENTIARTS P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW/MEANTTO BE FIT P. 10 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 11 HIWAIDS & THE LAW/MINDSPACE P. 12-1:3 CLASSIFIEDS P. 14-15 918.583.1248 Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal Entertainmeqt Writer + Mac Guru: fax: 583.461.5 James Chris~ohn PUB 4140 Writers + contributors: Tulsa, Oklahoma - Phyl Boler-Schmidt, Barry Hens]ey 74159-0140 Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Stephen Scott, PME, Gerald Miller tulnews@ionet.net Lance Brittain, Kerry Lewis by Tom Neal, publisher/editor It’s that time again when the Oklahoma Legislature begins its periodic, absurdist comedy. This performance usually ends in disgrace for the people of this state, especially those of us who are Lesbian or Gay, Bi orTransgendered. It ismosttragic for People Living with AIDS (PLWA’s). One issue that’s come to light from TFN’s coverage of the HIV Resource Consortium (I-IIVRC), is that the State of Oklahoma through our legislature, provides a tiny, tiny amount of funding ($206,000 according to HIVRC Executive Director, Sharon Thoele) for HIV/ Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permissionfrom the publisher. Publication of a name or photo d~s~not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property_of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. So, it al?pears that the State of Oklahoma is spending fewer dollars annually on HIV/AIDS care than it spent to put AIDS eare/services. Though this amount must not include the budget for the HIV/ STD SectionoftheOklahoma State Dept. of Health, who help administer federal HIV/AIDS dollars, the amount is hardly adequate to the need. Thoele stated that this amount was contributed begrudgingly, because the State of Oklahomahad to give something in order to receive the federal dollars. And almost all of the dollars going to HIV/AIDS care are federal. Thocle also notes that this amount has not increased since the early 90’s, although the case see next column Guy. Frank Keatlng on his leather overed airborne toilet seat! 832-1269 744-0896 749-1563 749-4511 749-5678 745-9998 585-2221 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 585-3134 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Samson & Delilah, 10 E. Fifth *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston : Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities " AIDS Walk Tulsa, PUB 1071, 74101-1071 579-9593 ¯¯ Black & White, lnc. POB 14001,Tulsa74159 583-7314 *Bless The Lord... Christian Center, 2627b E. 11 628-0594 ¯ *B/L!G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 ¯ *Chapman Student Ctr., University ofTulsa, 5th Pl. &Florence ¯ *CommtmityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703 E.2nd 585-1800 _" Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 ¯ Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648 : *Family of Faith MCC, :5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 ¯ *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. 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Main 501-253-7457 : DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253- ¯ 6807 see Jim, page 12 ", *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 ; Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, PUB 429 501-253-2776 ¯ King’sHi-Way,96KingSHighway,Hwy.62W 800-231-1442 -" MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 ¯ McClung Realtors 501-253-9682 ¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-253-2401 ¯ Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659, 800-624-6646 ¯ ¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001 OKLAHOMA CITY : Face Beautiful Day Spa, 7108-D2 N.Westem 405-840-3223 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Baleh & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712--9955 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 *Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521 Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E 15th 749-3620 *Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595 Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial 622-3636 *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337 Express Pools & Spas, 6310 S. Peoria 743-9994 Foxlinx, Computer Consultation 690-2974 Leanne M. Gross, Financial Planning 744-0102 Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440 *Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111 Robert Holland, Attorney 494-0484 *International Tours. 341-6866 Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750 Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070 Kelly Kirby, CPA, PUB 14011, 74159 747-5466 I_angley Agency, 1104 S. Victor 592-1800 Lean Ann Macomber, Realtor Associate 671-2010 *Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-3112 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31st 663-5934 *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Pl 664-2951 *Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard- 747-6711 David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 Pet Pride, Dog & Cat Grooming 584-7554 ’The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor 743-4297 Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626 Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations, 743-2351 *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 Southwest Viatical 747-3322, 800-305-6384 Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counsding 743-1733 : 10ad has increased by.four times. She also : noted that even if the amount were in- ¯ creased proportionally to the caseload, : the original amount wasnot adequate. : So, it appears that the State of Okla- ¯ homa is spending fewer dollars annually : on HIV/AIDS care.than it spent to put ¯ Gov. Frank Keating on aleather-covered ¯ airborne toilet seat[ And claims of bud: ¯ getary shortfalls to the contrary, there ¯ seems to be some state money left some- " where. ¯ A reporter for The Daily Oklahoman i .(OK.C’s daily newspaper), :who special- , lzes mcomputer analysis of slate government records, toldTFN that in addition to the couple of billion in our state’s regular budget, that there are "special" accounts of state dollars that are not included in the regular accounting. Unless, my middleaged brain slipped a digiL he said these special accounts amounted to $800 million. That’s in addition to other billions! $800,000,000 versus $206,000. Imagine a tiny fraction of $800 million, sayg8 million, to makesure that PLWA’s could actually get these new lifesaving drug combination therapies, or to see thathousing and food needs were met. Sadly, you and I know that this is not likely. Contrast the State.ofNew Jersey under rising Republican star, G0v. Christine Todd Whitman. New Jersey has a budget just for drug assistance alone of $9 million. Yes, they are a wealthier and more populous statebut still thatamountdoesn’t include any of the other State of New Jersey dollars for other HIV/AIDS care needs. So why don’t we, as a commlmity of Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals, Transgendered persons, our friends .and allies set as our goal for this legislature to try to increase our state’s contribution, at least in proportion to the increasein caseload. Thatwouldbearound $800,000. Whatthe hell, let’s just round it up to one million. Imagine a million Oklahoma dollars for HIV/AIDS care! But for this to work, eachand every one Of you reading this will have to stop waiting for someone else to do this work. You can’t just wait for Nancy McDonald or Kelly Kirby or Janice Nicklas to speak ou.t on these issues. Each of you Will have to call your representative and your senator to say that you care about this issue and thatyou want to see an increasein State of Oklahoma funding for HIV/AIDS care. Ifyou don’tknow your representatives, just call the Election Board at 596-5780 and give them your address. And after you’ve called your representative (or better, write them; best ofall ask tomeet with them.), askyour friends, family and acquaintances to do the same. I’ve talked withmy representative and meet withmy senator next week. Please do the same. Tulsa Family. News will continue to provide coverage of issues of concern to Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals, Transgenderedpersons, ourfriendsand allies during this upcoming session ofthe Oklahoma Legislature.Readers should expect thatOneOr another ofour representatives will introduce bills, attacking our communities. We encourage you to develop a relationship with your representatives to help prevent these bills’ success. ’~Sometimes the only way to answer a~! extreme measure is to introduce anoth~ extreme measure." Mtirray said citizerts might react by urging lawmakers to write middle-groundlegislation such as theantiemploymentdiscriminationbill. Murray’s bill would authorize a civil marriage contract to provide the same marital benefits that heterosexual couples get, such as the rightofinheritance, health coverage, or to visit a spouse in the hospital. Lowry’s press secretary, Jordan Dey, said the governor believes the civil contract approach avoids some of the moral or religious overtones of church weddings. HesaidLowry doesn’tmindlaunching an uphill fight. ’q’he governor has stood against discrimination ever since taking office, and this is another case of discrimination, pure and simple; denying people a legal benefit that is-available for heterosexual couples," Dey said. "It is important to do the right thing, whether you lose the first time, the second time, the third time. This may take a year, 5 years, 10 years, but at some point we will be free of discrimination." MississippiAgainst i Gay Marriage JACKSON, Miss. (AP) - Mississippi’s constitution, which once barred people of different races from marrying, may be changed to also prohibit same-sex marriages. The House andSenate are working onproposals thatwouldkeep Gay couples frofn wedding. The legislation is m response to a homosexual rights case in Hawaii. While a bill that unanimously cleared a Senate committee Wednesday makes same-sex marriages illegal, the HouseConstitutionCommitteeis expected to go even further, putting a ban before voters in a constitutional amendment. "I don’tthink there’s athreatthatpeople are going to flock to Mississippi to solemnize a same-sex marriage any more than they would flock to Minnesota or North Dakota," said Rep. John Reeves. But Reeves saidmostMississippians wantthe state to be on record as supporting only heterosexual marriages. He said the constitutional change would preclude gay couples from filing suit claiming a marriage law is unconstitutional. The Senate bill would ban gay marriages in Mississippi and bar the state from recognizing marriages from other states. Rep. Pat Miller said she is not convinced the issue is important enough to become part of the constitution but she expects theHouseand Senatetoban samesex marriages because "people... will consider it a vote against homosexual relationships." Gov. Kirk Fordice, in anticipation of that ruling, signed an executive order in August banning recognition of same sex marriages. Senate Judiciary Chairman Bennie Turner, D-West Pint, asked if the bill was needed, said: "95 percent of what wepass is notneeded." Rep. MarkFormby, R-Picayune, said lawmakers are following public sentiment. "It’s not a fear factor, or any kind of phobia. To me, it’s not even finances. It’s a pro-family matter. The majority of Mississippians do not approve of that kind of thing" : port MOnday in the Legisla-tur~ in0nti~- ¯¯ afterCongresspassedalawallowingstates torefuse to recognize same-sex marriages : from other states. ¯ HouseMinority Leader Steve Sviggum, ¯ and the sponsor of aHouse bill, noted that ¯ US Sen. PaulWellstone, andPres. Clinton ¯ both endorsed a ban on same-sex mar- : riages. "I can’t imagine the legislators of ¯ Minnesota getting to the left of Sen. ¯ WellstoneorPres.Clinton,"Sviggumsaid. ¯ State law requires marriages to be be- : tween members of the opposite sex, al- : though it doesn’t specifically prohibit ¯¯ same-sex marriages. ¯ Sen. Tom Neuville, who sponsored a Senate banbill, said the Minnesota Legis- ¯ lature should act so it will not be forced ¯ under the U.S. Constitution to rex~gnize -" gay marriages performedinHawaii. "Mar- " : riage is an institution between men and : women . . . it’s the best institution for ¯ raising children and avoiding poverty." ¯ Marriage also is a contract, which : Nenville believes could be exploited if " same-gender marriages were legal. For ¯ example, if a man had cancer, he could ¯ marry a male friend for health insurance : benefits, Neuville said. "It will cause all ¯ sorts of social chaos," he said. ¯ , BuLAm-~-D~,ui.....ecuuve alrector of the Gay and Lesbian Community Action Council, said abuse is unlikely be- : cause of the harassment gay couples face. ¯ "Peoplearen’t going tojnst do this so they ¯ get some sort of a deal," she said and ¯ , added that the council would vigorously fight the proposed bans. Both she and ¯" Senate President Allan Spear, who is gay, ¯ believe the matter ultimatdy will be de- : eided by the U.S. Supreme Court. Minnesota Too? ST. PAUL (AP) - Proposals to ban gay marriages were winning high-profile sup- : Wyoming Anti-Gay i Marriage Bill ¯ CASPER, Wyo. (AP) - About one-tenth ~ ofWyoming’s lawmakers have filed abill ¯ that would explicitly declare same-sex ." marriages void in Wyoming and sped.fy ¯ such marriages from other states are m- : valid in the Equality State. One of the : bill’s sponsors, Rep. Rodney "Pete" ¯ Anderson, R-Pine Bluffs,triedunsuecess- ¯ fully to introduce a bill last year barring : same-sex marriages. : Wyoming’s bill - House Bill 94 - : wouldn’t viol.ate Wyoming’s Constitu- ¯ tion, which guarantees equal political and : civil rights to men and women, Anderson ¯ said. That’s because state statutes already : make specific that marriage is between a ¯ man and a woman, he said. "We’ve de, ¯ fined marriage," Anderson said. "We’re justsaying our defmitionis going to stand." ¯ Same-sex marriage should be illegal : because of the economics involved and : because "I don’t feel it’s according to ¯ nature," saidbill co-sponsor State senator ¯ Dick Erb. "As I told a group of high ¯ school kids, ifyou were arancher and you : had a gay bull, what would you do with ; him?" said Erb. "One kid said, ’I’d take ¯ the sucker to the packing plant,"" ¯ Anderson said he believes homosexu- : als shouldhave equal rights under thelaw. ; But he said his main reason for sponsor- , ing the bill was economics - "so our ¯ companies will not have to give health : insurance to (spouses in) those kind of : marriages." "I like those people," said ¯ Anderson. "I don’t like their lifestyle but I don thave aproblem w~th~t.., we re not : saying they can’t live together, we’re ¯ just saying they can’t have the same privileges or responsibilities a man and a ¯ woman have in marriage in the state of ~ Wyoming." Theamendment would say that nothing in the legisl~ition would prevent employer~ from "extending benefits to persons v~ho are domestic partners of employees or allow employers to discriminate against employees because ofsexual orientation." People discriminated against "because of sexual orientation, real orperceived," shall have the same rights to seek redress as employees covered by the state’s civil rights law, which was adopted in 1993. David Ivers of Little Rock, an attorney and founder of the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, said he gets calls from people saying they were fired for being gay. "They are simply amazed or shocked to find out there is no legislation protecting them. They assume that if they haven’t done anything wrong, that they have a right to file a lawsuit and get reinstated," he said. reform of Oklahoma’s Hate Crimes Stat- ¯ ute as akey part of their !e~slative agenda for the Lesbian]Gay community this year. These activists also mentioned increased funding forHIV/AIDS carefrom the State. Oklahoma’s Hate Crimes Statute penalizes crimes against individuals or organizations that are motivated by racial or religious bias but does not recognize crimes that target individuals or groups because oftheiractual orperceived sexual orientation. : One state representative, speaking on ¯ condition of anonymity, recalled that the : original hate crimes bill may have included sexual orientation but that that : language was removed to help get the bill ¯ passed. She noted that just getting a bill ," addressing racial and religious issues was ¯ an accomplishment given what she char- : acterized as a lack of much tolerance by ¯ Oklahoma legislators for minority citi- ¯ zens. She added the bill’s passage was a ~ much a testament to the skills and charac- ¯ ter of former representative Vicki Miles- : Lagrange who’s now a federal judge. : A spokesperson for Tulsa Oklahomans ¯ forHumanRights (TOHR) stated that the : organization which is a member of the ¯ Say No To Hate Coalition will be asking ¯ other Coalition members to lobby ae- ¯ tively for an expansion of the Oklahoma ¯ Hate Crimes Statute. Other members of ¯ the Coalition include the National Con- ¯ fereuce (of Christians and Jews), Tulsa : Metropolitan Ministry, the City of Tulsa ¯ Human Rights Commission, the Jewish ¯, Federation and several others. ¯ The Pride Center has agreed to act as a : contact point for those who are interested ¯ in addressing these issues. Callers should ¯ leave their names and numbers for the ¯" Hate Crimes issues list with Deb Trevino ¯ at 743-4297. i Related Stories: Colorado Hate Crimes Bill DENVER (AP) - A bill to expand Colorado’s hate crimes law to protect : homosexuals has been introduced in the ¯ Senate. It’s the second session in a row ¯" such legislation has been filed by Sen. ¯ Dorothy Rupert, D-Boulder. "It’s going ¯ to be tough fight, but I think weneed to do this," Rupert said Monday. The bill died ; last year under election-year pressure to ¯ protect moderate Republicans. ¯ "I wanted so much last year to have a ¯ floorvotebutwas persuadednottodoso," state’s 1988 ethnicinlimidationlaw makes it a crime to single out anyone for criminal action because of race, color, ancestry, religion or national origin. SB 10ft would expand the law to include sexual orientation, age, and physical or mental disabilities. Wyoming to Consider Hate Crimes Issues. CASPER, Wyo. (AP) - Religious and humanrights groups that wereunsuccessful in past attempts to pass a law enhanc- ¯ ingpenaldesforhatecrimes will try again this year. Janet deVries of the Natrona : County Grassroots Project said the Wyo- ¯ ruing Grassroots Coalition ~ a group of ¯ human rights organizations with offices : in Natrona, Albany, Laramie, Sheridan ¯ and Teton counties - has teamed up with ¯ the Wyoming Church Coalition to sup- , port a bill in the legislative session. ," Thegroups are seeking lawmakers from ¯ both sides of the aisle to sponsor abill that would increase penalties for people who ¯ commit crimes motivated by bias based ," on race, religion, disability or sexual ori- ¯ entation, she said. The Wyoming Church : Coalif!on~dpressed simil~ bills in the : 1994 and 1995 legislative sessions. ¯ Chesie Lee, vice chairwoman of the : Church Coalition said the proposal has ¯ gained bipartisan support. She said she ¯ believed the bills offered in the 1994 and ¯ 1995 sessions could have passed if they : had made it to a final vote. ¯ Ms. DeVries said increased penalties ¯ for hate crimes are justified because such ¯ offenses affect groups of people rather than individual victims. "If a Jewish fam- ¯ ily has a swastika painted on their house, ¯ it terrorizes the entire Jewish commu- ¯ nity," she said. She noted the bill applies ¯ only to crimes and not speech, which is ¯ protected by the First Amendment. : The state Department of Investigation ¯ said there were 13 crimes in Wyoming ¯ involving bias in 1995. Casper Public ¯ Safety Director Art de Werk said a hate : crime law would give officers a new tool ¯ to help reduce crime while "making a ¯ statement by warning people that there : are enhanced penalties" for committing ¯ such crimes. ¯ on Lesbian]Gay and HIV/AIDS issues. ¯ Several others have beeninvited tojoin as ¯ wdl. ¯ Individuals, families,andorganizations : are encouraged to become members. : While the Center is open to all who share ¯ the values of the organization, only mere- ¯ bets may vote and will receive informa- ~ tion, newsletters,etc.Thosememberswho ~ make a pledge will be recognized at the ¯ Pride Center unless they specifically pre- : feranonymity. For apledgepacket, please ¯ call the Pride Center at 743-4297. ¯ term would also protect heterosexuals : against workplace discrimination but it ," is rare for heterosexuals to be.the target ¯ of workplace bias. ¯ At press time, the Coalition did not ¯ have any meetings scheduledbuthadbeen ¯: asked by a representative of member or- : ganization, Tulsa Oklahomans for Hu- ¯ man Rights, to schedule a meeting to : address this issue. is also well knownfor her advocacy work Strictly speaking, the inclusion of the City,to Businesses: Equal Benefits Required SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - San FxTmcisco is about to make a unique demand on thousa~tds of companies - extend health insurance and other benefits to their employees’ same-sex partners, or forget about doing business with the city. A new ordinance will affect many of the roughly 10,000 U.S. companies that contract with the city to provide everything from banking services to office supplies. Critics call the policy ill-conceived and costly, approved without ample study or public notice. "We don’ t think it’s good public policy for the city to tie its hands in the way this ordinance mandates," said Dennis Wyss, a spokesman for Bank of America, the nation’s third-largest. "We think San Francisco taxpayers get the highest-quality services for theirmoney when the city keeps its options open." SupporterssaY it’ s abasic anti-discriminationmeasure aimed at granting all unmarried domestic partners - although most of them in San Francisco are same-sex couples - the same rights enjoyed by wedded couples. "It would be important to me even if I dida’ t have a partner, simply as a moral matter," said Joe Leslie, a 52-year-old assistant vice president at Bank of America who, with his partner Michael, stands to benefit from the policy. Leslie said he and Michael are "as loving as any married couple that ever walked this Ear~," --.rod.for co-workers’ to receive better benefits is simply unfair. "We do the same work, our spousal status is virtually the same. (Yet) they get benefits I don’ t get," Leslie said. The Gap, Levi Strauss & Co. and the Walt Disney Co. already have started domestic parmer policies. In San Francisco, Bank of America officials have discussed such a policy but have not enacted it. "If it’ s good enoughfor Mickey Manse, it’ s goodenonghfor San Francisco," said city SupervisorTomAmmiano, the measure’ s co-author. The city’ s Board of Supervisor gave the ordinance unanimous approval after considering it sincelastFebruary. MayorWillieBrown signed it in early November. Brown and .Amrniano said it is the first such city ordinance in the nation. Ammiano said politicians in some other cities, including New York and Seattle, have inquired about the measure. HateCrime Protections? COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) - Protecting gays from violence is the right thing to do, one lawmaker says. But a lobbyist for a top state official says adding such language to ahate crime bill would divide the General Assembly and torpedo the legislation. Lawmakers, who open the 1997 session in two weeks, are expected to consider two versions ofabate crime bill. One offers protection against crimes motivatedbyhatred ofgays’ sexual orientation; the other does not. Both bills, which are expected to be introduced early in the session, would stiffen prison sentences when prosecutors prove the crime was moilvated by hatred because of race or religion. Crimes against blacks, including recent church bumings, prompted the legislation. But state Sen. Darrell Jackson, a black Columbia Democrat, says the measure should go one step further. "I look forward to convincing people that you don’ t have to be a supporter of gay rights to believe no one should have crimes committed against them because of their sexual orientation," Jackson said. CamCrawford, lobbyist for state Attorney General Charlie Condon, said Condon does not want to inelude gays because the issue is so divisive it would kill the legislation. "Nobody has demonstrated to us that there’ s a problem with (people being attacked because of) sexual orientation," Crawford said. "If they can show us a problem, then we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it." Federal statistics show four South Carolina hate crimes against gays in 1994, compared with 23 racial hate crimes, two motivated by religion and one motivated by etlmicity. Tony Snell, co-chairman of the South Carolina Gay and Lesbian Pride Movement Said the group is gathering information for legislators. Many gays either do not report attacks to police or do notreport themotivation for the attacks, Snell ¯ said. Some gays arein the closet, while others expect ," to encounterbias from police. "I know people who : havebeen attacked, and even shot, whowill notreport ¯ it as a hate crime," Snell said. = ¯ HIV+, Gay aWmaker -" CHICAGO (AP) - Being gay and HIV-positive has ." shaped some of Larry McKeon’ s views, but the state ¯¯ representative-elect says there’ s alotmore to him. "I ¯ bring a lot of things to the table. Being HIV-positive isjust one ofthem," says McKeon, who willbe sworn : in as a member of the House when the 90th General ¯ Assembly opens Jan. 8. Gay activists, who say : McKeon is the state’s first openly gay legislator, : cheer his election as the start of a new era in Illinois : politics. ¯ Rich Garcia, executive director of the Illinois Fed- : eration for Human Rights, said McKeon won the : respect of many as Mayor Richard Daley’ s liaison to ¯ gay andlesbianleaders. "I predicted either the mayor ¯ would hate him or he would deny this community," ¯ Garcia said. But McKeon won the mayor’ s trust and ¯ the trust of divergent factions within the city’ s gay ¯ and lesbian community, Garcia said. McKeon, 52, a former lieutenant in the Los Ange- : les County Sheriff’ s Department, says he just wants ¯ to be seen as a hard-working man whose sexual ¯" orientation is irrdevant. That may be difficult in the ,, ¯ o~m,._~,^ut,._.,..............h,.=.,-,.=..la.w..m.n..k.e.r~. roufinely re’’3e~t Pr.ogay legislation, but McKeon’ S straightforward sty|e ." andworkhabits shouldhelp, friends say. "Justbybim ¯ being there, he’ll be saying to people, "Look at me, ¯ rmjnstlike everybody else," said Rep. Carol Ronen, : D-Chicago. ". McKeon says fears of some constituents that he ¯ will represent ouly a"gay agenda" are unfounded. He : says he cares most about healiug society’ s problems ¯ - the focus of his campaign literature. And while ¯ living with the shadow of AIDS has helped shape his : opinions, McKeon says, "it isn’t the essence of who : Gay Dad Wins Court Fight : SEATTLE(AP)-Orderingagayfathernot to display : affection with a partner in front of his four children ¯ was going too far, a state appellate panel has ruled in ¯ overturning portions of aWhatcom County Superior ¯ Court decision. "We hold that the trial court erred by ¯ restrictingWard (Wicklund)’ s conduct based on his sexual orientation," said a Monday ruling from the : state Court of Appeals’ Division 1 bench. ¯ ’q’he evidence showed only that the children expe- ¯ rienced difficult), adjusting after their parents’ sepa- ¯" ration," three justices wrote. "But where the only : harm is adjustment, the remedy is counseling, not ¯ restrictions on the parents’ lifestylein terms of sexual : orientation." The court reversed those restrictions, ¯ and similar ones imposed on the children’s mother, ¯ Corrine Wicklund. She had been ordered not to par- ¯ ticipate in displays of affection-"handholdiug, ldss- ¯ ing, etc." - with a significant other in front of the : children"unless the parent is married to the person." : The appellate judges found the trial court had abused its discretion by restricting parental rights on ¯" grounds of sexual preference. There was no evidence ~ thatWicklundbehaved inappropriately in front ofhis ¯ children, they noted. "Problems with adjustment are ¯" the normal response to any breakup ofafami ly," they : wrote. "But restrictions on a parent’ s conduct de- " signed to artificially ameliorate changes in a child’ s ¯ life arenotpermissible. "Iftheproblemis adjustment, : the remedy is counseling.... The trial court should ¯ have considered whether to order counseling and ¯. should not have entered improper restrictions on Ward’ s conduct." " Psych.ologists Support ¯ Gay H=gh School Groups ¯ TUCSON, Ariz.. 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That law allows.school districts to deny access to clubs that "materially or substantially encourage criminal or delinquent conduct, promote bigotry or involve human sexuality.Y Baker said banning gay support groups effectively sanctions harassment against homosexuals. "It could take away the one place where gay students can talk to someone," she said. Gay teens are at high risk of depression and suicide because they feel isolated, the association said. ’‘The purpose of the support group is to provide a safe place- a place to be who you are," saidTam De Witt, aTucson High School nurse. "It’s a group for people to gain support and friends." Schottel’s proposal targets groups like those at Desert View High School in Sunnyside Unified School District and Tucson High Magnet School in Tucson Unified School District. Both groups were studentinitiated. Montana’s First Lesbian (or Gay) Legislator HEI .ENA (AP)- Rep. Dianesands, longtime activist for. homosexual and women’s rights, wants to be known for more than being Montana’s first openly gay legislator. "This may be naive," the Missoula Democrat said, "but I think it’s irrelevant." Listing her partner, former legislator and Missoula CountyCommissionerAnnMaryDussault, in abooklet summarizing the background of all 150 lawmakers shouldn’t be a big deal, Sands. said. "I am who I am." "I guess I’ll wait and see if it’s going to be a problem," she added in the midst of her first week as legislator. "Hopefully, people will realize I’mjust an effective legislator and a nice person." Sands, 49, grew up in a cauldron of discrimination and injustice on an eastern Montana Indian reservation. Shehas made acareer out ofbattling thoseforces ever since. After three decades of advocating civil, racial and sexual rights, Sands was appointed to the House District 66 seat vacated by Mike Kadas last year after he was named mayor of Missoula. She was unopposed in the November election. House Minority Leader Vicki Cocchiarella, DMissoula, said Sands’s familiarity withissues and the Legislature is impressive. So is her ability to get along, she added. "Diane is one of thefew people that I have encountered who, as a lobbyist, has always been real receptive to others’ ideas," Cocchiarella said. Her openness about her sexual orientation "will be a liability if other people don’t give her a fair chance," she said. "If people want to make a b,!g issue of it, then that’s the kind of people they are. Montanans Still Want to Ban Gay Sex HI~.! .ENA (AP) - A majority of Montanans want to keep on the books a state law prohibitinghomosexual sex, and a plurality favor a law banning so-called partial-birth abortions, anew poll has found. The poll was conducted for the Lee Newspapers of Montana on issues likely to face the Legislature that convened Monday. The Lee poll indicated that Montanans don’t want to strike from the books a law prohibiting homosexual sex. Fifty-seven percent of those polled want the law to remain intact, compared to 31 percent who wantitrepealed. The poll also showed that 52 percent of those queried want the 1997 Legislature to enact a law outlawing homosexuals from getting married, while 39 percent opposed such a measure. It showed ¯ that 46 percent of those questioned ~avor, a gtate’law ¯ to ban late-term or So-called partial-birth abortions, while 32 percent oppose such a measure :Harassed Teacher Dies GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (AP) - The stress from ¯ months of anti-homosexual sentiment in a small, ¯ conservative town could have contributed to the ¯ death of a gay teacher, apathologist says. Dr. Stephen : CoMe said Gerry Crane, 32, had a floppy heart valve, ¯ a condition that usually is not fatal. He died Jan. 3, a ¯ week after suffering a heart attack. "In a small per- : centage of patients, (the valve) can be lethal," said ¯ Cohle,. who performed an autopsy. CoMe also found ¯" scars in the heart muscle. As for Crane’s experience : inByronCenter, aGrand Rapids suburb, "itmay have ." put him over the edge," the doctor said Tuesday. ¯ Crane resigned last summer as music teacher at : Byron Center High School, saying the anti-gay atmo- ¯ sphere in town was like "ingesting poison." The ¯ school board had considered firing himinDecember ¯ 1995. Instead, itcondemnedhomosexualityandprom- " ised close scrutiny. [ Morethan900people, including some students and ¯ teachers, attended Crane’s funeral Tuesday at : Westminster Presbyterian Church in Grand Rapids.. : "He taught our children to sing, and in a world where : ugliness is gaining on us, can you think of many ¯ greater gifts?" the Rev.WilliamEvertsberg said. He ¯ said Crane and partner Randy Block had a strong ¯ relationship. In a subtle jab at Crane’s opponents, : many of them religious conservatives, Evertsberg ¯ said: "Maybe we’ll learn family values from people : who aren’t supposed to have any." ¯ Crane’s friends advised Byron Center Principal : William Skilling to stay away from the funeral. In ¯ Skilling’s evaluations of Crane, before his homosexuality was learned, the teacher was praised as a ¯" "role model for our students." But by last June, a ¯ monthbeforeCraneresigned, Skillinghadthreatened ¯ to recommend his firing if he mentioned anything in : class about homosexuality. "Ellen" Comes Out - Sort Of NEW YORK (AP) - At a rock ’n’ roll fantasy camp with David Crosby, Bonnie Raitt and Aaron Neville, theTV character"Ellen" belts out a song with an eyeopening last verse: "By the way, I’m gay. It’s OK. I’m gay!" Just don’t expect to See this particular episode on ABC anytime soon. ABC executives have confirmed the monthsdong rumor that they are considering a story line on"Ellen" where comedian Ellen Degeneres’ character reveals she is a lesbian. During a show taping Friday, Degeneres cut three takes of a segment where she sings a song, "I’m Scared of Being Afraid," according to Touchstone Productions, which makes the show.The third take included the unscripted "coming out" declaration, which sources said was greeted by wild cheers. ATouchstoneofficial saidprivately thatDegeneres was blowing off some steam after hearing that her show was-being taken off the air during March and April to make room for a new Arsenio Hall comedy. "It’s not intended for a telecast. It is not going to be on any telecast," said ABC spokeswoman Janice Gretemeyer. ABC Entertainment President Jamie Tarses said last week that a"coming out" episode was being worked on, but that the network wants to see if it works creatively beforemaking a decision on going ahead. The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, whichmaintains an"Ellen watch" pageon the Worldwide Web, criticized Tarses for "waffling" on the story line since rumors began last fall. "We hope they stop dragging their feet," alliance spokesman Alan Klein said Monday. ’’The American public is ready, willing and able to see this as soon as possible." cnentust to earcn for AIDS Vaccine CAMBRIDGE, Mass. (AP) -~Ever since the HIV virus and AIDS were detected, thebulk of scientificresearch has focused on treating those already infected- not or finding a way to halt the spread of the disease. Now, the National Institutes of Health has commissioned a Nobel prizewinning MIT professor to help breathe new life into the search for an AIDS vaccine. "There are thousands of people infected daily and our goal would be to prevent thoseinfections," said David Baltimore, who will spearhead the new NIH committee. About a year ago, a study by 114 scienfists who supportedAIDS research set out a series ofguidelines for theNIHresearch program. Tops on the list was reinvigorated AIDS vaccine research, said Dr. William Paul, director of the NIH’ s Ofrice of AIDS Research. "We will only be able to conquer this disease ifwe are able to devdop a vaccine," Paul said. "We need good drugs, but we recognize that treatment isn’ t going to solve our problems." New drugs to treat symptoms of AIDS have shownpromiserecently. Combinations of drugs called protease inkibitors have been slowing symptoms and giving hope to HIV-infected patients. Still, there’ s been no sign of a cure. Since 1988, more than 15 AIDS vaccines have been tested, but so far none has proved successful. Although several vaccines are in early stages of clinical trials, it’s too soon to tell whether they will work, Paul said. "But our position is that we cannot rely on that. This is too important a problem not to be planning for the eventuality that these vaccines maynotbe as effective as we would wish," he said. Enter Baltimore, who won the Nobel Prize in 1975 for his discovery of the reverse transcriptase enzyme - the basic enzyme by which HIV is able to multiply. NIH’s top AIDS scientists hope Baltimore will help guide them to a cure. "He combines both rare insight with a very strong technical background," Paul said. Attempts to find a vaccine have so far followed the approach of vaccine developmentforothermajorillnesses. Butwhat worked for polio andmumps has not been working for AIDS, said Didier Trono, a molecular biologist at the Salk Institute for Biological Studies in San Diego. Baltimore plans to assemble a panel of experts to come up with new approaches to finding a vaccine. It’ s something Baltimore has been thinking about already for more than a decade; in 1985, he headed a national AIDS panel that recommended an increased research effort. The Nobel laureate will continue as a professor at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, splitting his time between Cambridge and the NIH. In 1996, N!H spent $109 million on AIDS vaccine research and has increased funding to $129millionfor 1997; theNIH spends $400 million each year on research for AIDS treatment. Since the onset of the AIDS epidemic more thanadecade ago, 29millionpeople worldwide have become infected, Paul said. Currently, theleading cause ofdeath in the world is tuberculosis, with an estimated 3 million people dying annually. But with 3.1 million new HIV infectious each year- and still no cure-it’ s simply amatter of timebeforeAIDS becomes the world’s number one killer, Paul said. In the United States, roughly 80,000 new AIDS cases are diagnosed each year. For his part, Baltimore remains opti- ¯ misdcanAiDS vaecine will eventuallybe ¯ found. But,he said,"Ihavenoidea whether ¯ we’regettingcloseornot.It’ soneofth..os~ ¯ things that you only know you have v~e~ : you have it." i More Moms with i AIDS But Fewer i Babies with HIV ¯ COLUMBUS,Ohio (AP)-Manyexpect- ¯ ant women infected with the AIDS virus ." now are being treated with the drug AZT ¯¯ duringpregnancy, labor and delivery, and that has contributed to a drop in the hum- ; ber of babies born with HIV, state health ¯ officials said. ~ "This is one of the few true preventive ¯ strategies thatweactually have," Dr. Tho- ." mz.~ Halpin, chief ofpreventive medicine ¯ for the Ohio Department of Health, said : last week. ¯" But thenumberofwomendiagnosed with HIV still is increasing. Health officials ¯" said screening, testing and education also have contributed to the decrease in HIV : births. "We are seeing mixed (rends here," said Carol Lyune O’ Neil, health program ¯ coordinator with the Columbus Depart- . ment of Health. ’‘There is a low rate in ." pediatric cases ... but more and more ." women are being diagnosed." ¯ A 1994 study by the National Institutes of Health showed that AZT could reduce ¯" HIV transmission during pregnancy by as ¯ much as 70 percent. In November, the ¯ state Health Department released guide- ," lines for preventing perinatal HIV transmission and HIV testing of pregnant women. ¯" The department recommended that all : pregnant women and any women considering becoming pregnant should receive ¯ HIV educationandcounseling. Also, they : should be encouraged to be tested for the ¯ AIDS virus. ¯ Dr. Michael Para, director of theAIDS clinical trials group at Ohio State Univer- ¯ sity Medical Center, .said although AZT ¯ appears to prevent transmission, the : mother has to be diagnosed with HIV in ¯ the first place. ’’This is one of those things ." that will require vigilance," he said. "One : has to stay on top of it to make sure : infections in kids doesn’ t go up." ¯ HIV-infected pregnant women should not be coerced into receiving AZT, but : they should beinformed ofits potential to .. reduce the risk of HIV transmission, authorities said. ¯ HIV can be transmitted from mother to : baby during pregnancy, labor, delivery ¯ and during breast-feeding, and transmis- ¯ sion occurs about 25 percent of the time. ¯ Physicians will have to better screen pa- : tients and provide HIV testing, Para said. ¯ ’‘The number of infected kids are down ¯ this year," he Said. "But they won’t be : down next year if you don’t watch it ; closely." i AZT &Cancer Link? WASHINGTON (AP) - A study that found high doses of the AIDS drug AZT can cause cancer in the pups of pregnant mice has prompted federal health officials to re-evaluate the use of the drug among pregnant women who are infected with the virus. A committee of AIDS and cancer experts will meet next week at the National Iustitutes of Health to develop recornmendadons on the use of AZT. But for now, Are You Bored? Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American? TNAAPP is Here to Help! t t Evening Meetings Are Held Every Wednesday in Tulsa Call 582-7225 Ext. 208 For information on meeting time & place Meet others and be part of a supportive social group! t Jeffrey A. 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HOPE HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education formerly TOHR HIV Prevenffon Programs 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights. health officials said Tuesday, pregnant women who,are infected with the AIDS virus should’continue taking the drug. ,-:hVhether the drug will have the same effect on human babies is uncertain because pregnant women take much lower doses of the drug, she said. A panel of experts will evaluate the issue at a meeting Tuesday and come up with recommendations, she said. Federal health officials now recommend AZT for pregnant women who are infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Thedrughas been shown to significandy reduce the transmission of HIV to newborns. Randall said that babies born towomen taking AZT .are being medically monitored and none has been found to have developed cancer. But she said the children are no older than 4 and must be monitored for many more years to get definilive answers about the effects of AZT. Dr. Jack Killen, director of the AIDS division of the National Imdtute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, Said, "At this point, we’ re trying to figure out what these findings mean, precisely, and what the implications are... I think it remains very, very clear that the benefit ofAZT in this setting vasty outweighs the hypothetical or potential risk." Another recent study, at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York, indicated that HIV-infected women reduce theirrisk oftransmitting HIVduring childbirth by two-thirds if they take AZT. AIDS Drugs for Kids WASHINGTON (AP) - A special program from a drug company offers children infected with the AIDS virus free doses of an experimental drug known as a "protease inhibitor." It is the first time American children could get this type of medicine outside small doctor-run tests. Agouron Pharmaceuticals is seeking Food and Drug Administration approval of its Viracept, known chemically as nelfinavir. If approved, the drug could become the nation’ s fourth protease inhibitor, a powerful class of AIDS drugs credited with revolutionizing AIDS care. Yet none of these drugs is available in pediatric form, sparking protests from parents who say they’ re watching their ~hildren die. Agouron last month became the first company to seek simultaneous FDA approval for adult and child forms of a proteaseinhibitor. While theFDAisevaluating the drug, it gave Agouron permission to run an "expanded access" program offering Viraceptfree to any HIV-infected child age 2 to 13. The pediatric version is apowder that can be mixed into milk, formula or soft foods such as pudding. Right to Die Case WEST PALM BEACH, Fla. (AP)- The last living patient in a lawsuit seeking the right to diesurvived to take the stand and tell of indescribable pain and suffering and why he should be allowed to die with Charles Hall is, suing the state for the right to die. Herolled his wheelchairup to a courtroom microphone Monday to tell his story of pain and a ravaged immune system. ’:I can’ t even describe the pain," a haggard and pale Hall said. ’q’here are some days I don’ t even remember. I don’ t think anybody should have to suffer." Hall barely survived a bad bout with the ¯ A 128-year-old law is the only thing : standingbetwecn Hall andadoctorwhois ¯ willing to give him alethal dose of drugs. : The doctor isn’ t willing to violate the law ¯ - a felony punishable by up to 15 years in ¯ prison- and Hall t01d aWest Palm Beach -" judge he shouldn’t have to. Circuit Judge ¯ S. Joseph Davis will decide whether or not Hall and his doctor should be able to decide to end the AIDS patient’ slife. ’q’he resolution will have a profound impact onhow people die in our society,’" said Michael Gross, the Florida assistant attorney general representing StateAttorney Barry Krischer of the 15th Circuit in WestPalmBeach. Suicideremains acommon law crime for good reason, Gross said. The state has no way of evaluating theindividual’ s motives andcompetency~ and it must protect vulnerable citizens from abuse, he said. The U.S. Supreme Court sent a message when it allowed the removal of life support and noted that such action was disdncdy different from introducing alethai agent to hasten death, Gross said. Extending the right of assisted death to terminally ill patients could later be applied to minors and the mentally incompetent, he warned. Hall, who contracted acquired immune deficiency syndrome through a blood transfusion, takes up to 40 pills a day for pain and to stave offpneumonia and other viruses that routinely attack his weak immune system. During his testimony, Hall listed the health problems that promise to cut his life short: a brain cyst, hepatitis B, no feeling in his bladder, herpes, arthritis andpartial blindness. Hall wants thejudge to issue an injunction to stop prosecutors from charging Dr. Cecil Mclver with a crime if he assists in Hall’ s suicide. "The two of them want to be left alone and free from government interference," said Hall’ s attorney, Robert Rivas. Hall and his lawyer are arguing that the Florida Constitution grants special privacy rights entitling him to choose physician- assisted death. Coincidentally, the U.S. SupremeCourt will hear similarlegal argumentsWednesday in two right-to-die cases. The trial is taking place in West Palm Beach before Davis because it’ s the seat of thejudicial circnit where Mclver pracrices medicine and would be prosecuted. The trial, which began Monday, is expected to wrap up next week. Elizabeth Taylor Benefit for AIDS PASADENA, Calif. (AP) - Elizabeth Taylor’ s upcoming 65th birthday will be celebrated with a televised star-studded bash fcaturing never-before-seen footage of the actress’ s life and career. But Miss Taylor said Wednesday that it~s neither her life nor her career that will be the toast of the night. The black-tie gala- "Happy Birthday, Elizabeth" - "A Celebration of Life" - will benefit the Elizabeth Taylor AIDS Foundation for distribution to a varie~ of AIDS research and treatment orgamzafions. Among the celebrities will be !ongtime pal Michael Jackson, who is composing a song entitled "Elizabeth" especially for the event. Other celebrities taking part include Whoopi Goldberg, John Travolta, MagicJohnson, Roseanne,Tim Allen and Ellen DeGeneres. The twohour gala will be taped Feb. 16 at the Pantages Theatrein Hollywood. It will be broadcast on ABC later in February. by James Christjohn ~ Happy New Year! Hope eeeryone survived their familial visitations over the holidays, if you had to make them. Going home to my family is much akin to appearing as Saturday Night Live’s Smart Smalley in "Smart Saves his Family". Well, maybe not quite that bad, but dose enough. Let’s just say I have gotten in : last 5 years. ¯¯ Arrive at the B~ady Theatre at 7p,m£or.... cabaret seating ($75.00 per persod, in- " dudes buffet and 2 drinks), and 8pro for ¯ regular seating ($25.00 per person). The : show begins at 8pro,andCDsofRichard’s ." recordings will be sold. $10.00 of each ¯ CD purchased will be donated to Inter- : faith AIDS and Our House. Tulsa Opera touch with my "Inner. Stuart". Truthbe told, IAM Stuart Smalley...without the sweater. Which is kind of scary, but that’s...OK. Because I own my scariness...Andthat’ s...OK. Told you I was scary. And no comments from the peanut section! (And that indudes you, Mr. Editor!) Philbrook Show The Philbrook Museum ofArt,2727S. Rockford, is pleased to present "America Unseen: People & Place", on exhibit Jan. 19- March 9. The exhibit explores aspects ofAmericanpictorial art from the ’20’s - ’50’s, and includes works by Norman Rockwell, John SteuartCurry,Thomas Hart Benton, Edward Hopper, Walker Evans, Dorothea Lange, Isabd Bishop, & others. TheSentimental Journey Big Bandwill perform Feb. 2at3pminthePatti Johnson "America Unseen: P oph & Place", on exhibit Jan. 19- March 9. The exhibit explores aspects of American pictorial art from the ~20’s -’50’s, and inehdes works by Norman Roekwefl, John Steuart Curry, Thomas Hart Benton, Edward Hopper, Walker Evans, Dorothea Lange, Isabel Bishop, & others¯ ¯ las. I enjoyed can provide more info at 582-4035. Local Author Mark Shepherd Local author Mark Shepherd has been kind enoughtoinformTFNthat the first book in a new fantasyanthology series he has partidpated in, specifically created for the gay/lesbian audience, will be arriving in bookstores this year. WhiteWolfPublishing will be releasing the "Bending The Landscape" series. March 1997 will see the release of ’.’Bending The landscape: Fantasy", followed by "BendingTheLandscape: Science Fiction" in March 1998; and "Bending The Landscape: Horror" in March 1999. (Saving the family holiday stories for last, eh?). Markhas abook out, ’~Elvendude", that is a great read, especially if you’re familiar with Dalhall. Ticketsmay bepurchased at the door it immensely, and it has for $6.00. Two gallery talks will be given for "America Seen", Feb. 27 at 5:30pm & March 7 at noon. Each Sunday in February, "America Seen" will bepresented via guided tour at 2pro by experienced docents. On Thursday, Feb. 27, a special evening of entertainment is planned. A lecture/performance by Dr. Guy Logsdon on the life and times of Woodie Guthrie will take place at 7pro. A print sale will occur on that evening and Friday as wall. For info, call 748-5307. Tulsa Ballet Theatre Tulsa Ballet Theatre presents "Le Tricorne: ACelebration of Spain", staged by Susanna Della Pietra, premiering in OklahomaFeb. 7-9 at the PAC, accompanied by the Oklahoma Sinfouia. Also on the bill are The Four Temperaments by Balanchine, and the Pas de Denx from Sylvia, staged by Victoria Simon and Frederic Franklin, respectively. Tickets range from $9 to $57. For reservations/ info call TBT at 749-6006, or the PAC at 596-7111. Tulsa Opera Interfaith AIDS Ministries Our House Mark February 15 on your calendar for the "Cabaret Night with Richard Lalli & GaryChapman: Songs in theKeyofLove" concert, benefiting the Tulsa Opera. Mr. Lalli and pianist Gary.Chapman will be performing songsfromthe 20’s -40’s,and may feature the works of Cole Porter, Irving Berlin, the Gershwius, Harold Aden, Sondheim, Kern, Weill and Bernstein; as well as Ives, barber, Copland, and Carter. Both Mr. Lalli and Mr. Chapman have performed at Jessye Norman’s annual holiday, party for the _- become a favorite addition to my perma- ¯ nent collection. He has also co-written a ¯ fantasy book with another local favorite, Mercedes Lackey. Check them out, er, ¯ better yet, purchase them (Sorry Mark, : Mercedes, bad choice of words) at the ¯ local bookstores. Mark also has a new ¯ book0fhis ownon the way, and I willpass ¯ along that info as soon as I know more. : Support our local authors!!! : Borders Books & Entertainment : Borders Books and Music has a lovely ," series of musical performances in their _" care lined up for January. On the 17th at ¯ 7pm, TirkWilder, known for writing the ¯ theme to "Walker: Texas Ranger", will ¯ make an appearance; on the 18th, The : Light Crust Doughboys, the oldest country band in the world, will perform west- : em swing at 3pro, and at 7, the Larry HammettTrio willjazz things up a bit. On ¯ the 19th at lpm, David Flores and Steve ¯ ¯ Bake. r provide their comtemporary jazz ¯ stylings, and at 4pm, the Steve Hamm ¯ String Quartet will provide a classical ." atmosphere. Onthe24th, Whirligig whirls ¯ into town at 8pm, and the Will Campbell : trio perform at 2pm on the 26th. Poets, on ." the 30th at 8pro, bring your stuff to the ¯ cafe for Poetry Reading night. On the : 3 lst, dosingoutthefirstmonthofthenew ." year, the Mimsies will givesus some : acoustic funk at 8pm. Best of all,it’s free! ¯ Broken Arrow ¯" Community Playhouse. ¯ BACP presents "Laundry and Bour- -" bon" & "Lonestar", two one-act corn- ; edies, lmnning 2/7-2/16. Tickets are $6- ¯ $10, and can be reserved at 258-0077. : Community Support Groups? : If anyone in the community is inter- : see Jim, page 12 Exhibition made possible by the Helmerich Foundation and the Oklahoma Arts Council ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ 00000o0000000000000 ¯ 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ¯ in the Pride Center ~ 743-4297 : Th.e V Pride Store Open at Noon, Tues-Sat. ¯ Beginning Jan. 17 o ¯ ¯¯ Gifts ¯ Cards ¯ Pride Merchandise ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ 0 ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ 0 ¯ ¯ ¯ 0 ¯ ¯ ¯ MINGO VALLEY 9720-C E. 31st St. 663-5934, Daphane Cooper ROBERT HOLLAND Attorney at Law General Criminal & Civil Practice 494-0484 6966 South Utica Avenue, Tulsa 74136 Songs in the Key ofLove Saturday, February 15, 1997 8:30pm, Brady Fheater A Cabaret Night with Baritone Richard Lalli & Pianist Gary_ Chapman to benefit TULSA OPERA Cabaret Seating at 7pm, $75 with Buffet Call Tulsa Opera at 582-4035 Regular Seating, $25 thro’ Brady Box Office 582-7239 & Dillard’s, 800-654-9545 ALSO CD’s by Richard Lalli will be available & a portion of sales will benefit Interfaith AIDS Ministries and Our House ~/~o FOUR TEMPERWAiMthENthTeS ba,rtdillPiaasndtedeDseiguxnsfroomfPiScYaLsVsIAo Tulsa Performing Arts Center. with the Oklahoma Sinfonia TICKETS $9 - ~57 Discounts available For tickets call: 749-6006, 596-7111, 584-2000 Performance sponsored in part by The John Steele Zink Foundation, Sarkeys Foundation and Texaco, Inc. 1996-97 Season sponsored in part by T U L S A PHILHARMONIC ~SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2627b East llth, 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodis0, Service - 6pro, 1703 E. 2rid, 585-1800 Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation Service- 1lain, 1703 E. 2nd, 749-0595 Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Service, 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Service, 10:45am, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715 Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Network (ORYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 PrimeTimers Social group for men, 1st Sun/each mo. 4-6pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th University, of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/T’ransgendered Alliance 6:30 pm at the Canterbury Center, 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 ~ MONDAYS HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appoinlment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm Results: 7-gpm, Info: 742-2927 PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays 1st Monday/each mo. 6:30pro, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2rid Monday/each month, 6:30 pm, 4154 S. Harvard, Info: 749-4901 I~- TUESDAYS HIV+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-l, Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. H!V/AIDS Support Group, and Friends & Family H!V/AIDS Support Group - 7 pro, Locafious, call: 749-7898 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pro, 241-2282, $4, Sand Springs Skate Pride Center Community Meeting Feb. !8, 7 pm 1307 E. 38th, 2nd floor. Info: 743-4297 (=IP WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2627-B Fast llth, Info: 583-7815 Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer - 6:30 pro, Choir Practice - 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. TNAAPP, Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men - 6 pm Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, 582-7225 or 584-4983 I~" THURSDAYS Co-Dependency Support Group - 7:30 Family of Faith, 5451E S. Mingo, 622-1441 HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pro, Results: 7 - 9pm, Info: 742-2927 Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Network (ORYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 Tulsa Family Chorale, Weekly practice - 9:30pm, Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group, 1st & 3rd Thurs. 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G, 3-4:30 pro, Info: 749-4194 l~" FRIDAYS SafeHaven, YoungAdults Social Group, 8pm, 1 st Fri/eaehmo. Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th I~" SATURDAYS Mixed Volleyball, No winter games - call 58%6557 for more info. " St. Jerome’s. Church, Mass - 6 pm Garden Chapel; 3841 S. Peoria, Info: 742-6227 Narcotics Anonymous, Confidential support forlrecowering addicts -~ 11 pm, Community:of Hope,1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 . " - I~" OTHER GROUPS The Technicians, Leather organization, info: 621-5597 T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222 TCC Gay & Lesbian Student Association, Southeast Campus. Info: 631=7632 SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network, info: 832-2121 Womens Supper Club, info: 584-2978 Enjoy "A Musical~"with the Tulsa Philha,vrronic on Thursday, Fe~eary 6 or Saturd~ F~,ua~y ~.~at ~p.m. ink Patti Johnson Wilson Hall of the Phil~ook Conductor Search FinalistAndre’ Raphel Smith will lead the TulsaP~in selections from Mozart, Res~/_’~.~ (The Birds) and Britten. Call 747-PHIL to reserve your seat, READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library The simple action of moving to a new neighborhood results in profound ramifications for the attractive protagonist of Greg Bills’ new novel Fearful Symmetry. Peter Keith, the artistic twentysomething heroandnarrator, has finally found a new condo in Los Angeles within his budget. On moving day, Peter is intrigued with ahandsome neighbor, Chaz Lambent, who is shamelessly hosing himself down after a run with his dog in the California su~ Chaz,andhis wifeMuriel, immediately latch on to Peter and begin showering himwith generosity. Unaccustomed to such attention, and on the rebound from afailed romance, Peter’s emotional state allows him to be drawn into the Lambent’s world of fashion, theater and high dollar collecting. The Lambents are the darlingsof the in-crowd, throwing excitingparties and relishing their position as an admired, and "desired, couple. Their appeal, though, has a darker side. Peter’s infatuation with the " he becomes entangled in their eccentric ¯¯ sexual web, and he begins to realize that they are mentally disturbed and danger- On moving day, Peter is intrigued with a handsome neighbor, Chaz Lambent, who is shamelessly hosing himself down after a run with his d~.o$ in.the Calilorma sun. Chaz, and his wife Muriel, immediately latch on to Peter and begin showering him with generosity. ons. They are so engaging, however, Peter foolishly allows the Lambents to take advantage of him and only by finally cutting off all communication with them does Peter save his sanity and his life. This book is a page-turner, as thereader sympathizes with Peter’s character as he becomes embroiled in the Lambent’s destructive lives. But, occasionally, given what Peter knows about his neighbors, and considering how bright he apparently is, it is improbable that he would allow himself to be continually controlled and abused, physically, sexually and mentally. If the reader can overlook this unlikely scenario, and simply enjoy the bizarre events that keep Peter absorbed, this is an intoxicating read that is reminiscent of some of Dennis Cooper’s writings. Check for Fearful SymmetryandGreg Bills’ othernovd, Consider This Home, at the Readers Services department of the Central Library, or give them a call at 596-7966. You can also order it through your Lambents slowly rams to distress when " local branch library. II PAGES INI~ORMING THE COMMUNITY SINCE 1973 - Complete gay-friendly bookstores, denlisls, doctors, lawyers, therapists, travel services, printers, Organizations, Media, Religious groups, Help lines & HIV/AIDS resources. Listings broken Index & fast access phone list¯ plus complete cit! publications; mail order companies, etc. znd Provinces. CT, DC, DE, ME, MD, MA, NH, AL, AR, AZ, DE, DC, FL, GA, HI, KS, ~ ~10 post~aratepmo seclion for women. ¯ Virgin Is. & Puerto Rico. =or an 10014 (212) ~nd us at A ;HT ’ othersl where pets are treated like people * Bakery Treats * Bed & Breakfast (boarding) * Salon * Pet Supplies: Science Diet, IAMS, Nutro Dog Food THE DOG HOUSE BROOKSIDE 3311 S. Peoria, 744-5556 by Stephen W. Scott, PME Did the holidays get to you?Amassage may be just what the doctor ordered to reliveyouofthis problem. The holidays mayhavebeen a seasonfor giving but don’tforget to give to yourself. Massage is one of the most useful and easily obtainedforms oftreatment in the field of physical spatherapy andoverall health. Let’s consider the benefits of massage therapy. In this post-holiday season; treat yourself to one of the f’mest experiences life has to offer- agreattherapeuticmassage. Once you have had one, it’s easy to get hooked, and soon becomes difficult to imagine life without a massage on a regular basis. A therapeutic massage is simply the systematic healing art ofmanipulating soft tissue (skin and muscle). This manipulationcanresultin arange of benefitS to your 0ver-idl health and well-being. Studies conducted in the united States and throughout the A therapeutle massage is simply the systematle healing art of manipulating soft tissue..¯ This¯¯¯ eall rP~odt in a range of benefits to - your over-aft health and well-being. ¯ When used as a consistent, systematic ~ regimen prior to emergency conditions,. ¯ therapeuticmassagewillprotectthebody’s own natural prevention and healing processes. Benefits of therapeuticmassage include an increased efficiency of the immune system, increased blood and lymphfluids, increased respiratoryefficiency throughdeep breathing, substantially reduced effects of stress and stress related problems, a reduction in blood pressure and reduced tension-relatedhead-- aches. Massage also reduces muscle spasms and stiffness, reduces the healing time of pulled muscles, sprains an swelling and speeds the removal of metabolic waste products, allowing more nutrients to reach the cells, Massage promotes better posture, helps to provide complete body and mind relaxation, improves muscle tone and helps preventordelaymnscular atrophy resulting from forced inactivity; hdps return worldhavefactuallydocumentedtheben- : venous blood to and reduces strain on the efits of therapeutic massage: feeling bet- ¯ heart, and helps to eliminate edema ter. That, in fact, is the goal of every : (dropsy)of the extremities. ,h,ea~i_~g art known to man. With all the : This is just a sample of the many benbody scoinplexsystemsinworkingorder ." efits of therapeutic massage therapy. In an inbalanCe with each other~ the 13ody is ¯ thenextartide,we willloo~athow tofmd healthy and, consequently, feels good. ." quality massage. 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Limited Availability July 31 - August 8, 1998 IGTA member Call 341.6866 tnternationa TourS or=oreinio, on. by Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche TFN Food Critic Days of snow and ice and brisk prairie winds canmake even themost devoted Oklahomaphile a bit testy, and this Januaryhas been one of those more challenging times¯ The people of Europe often f’md the need to escape winter’s grasp as well, and they most generally go on holiday to the sunny Mediterranean. A Mediterranean cruise might not be in the budget for an evening s entertmnment, so we have to just pretend, and look for a Mediterranean regional restaurant to get that je ne sins. qua atmosphere for a relaxing, fun evening. When we thinkofMediterranean, we think of Greece, Italy, Spain, and France: We’re really not in the mood for a gyros sandwich, so there goes the Greek option, andTulsadoesn’thave a-Spanish restaurant (Mexican isn’t the same, and, by the way, for those ofwho going to seeEvitaand then doingMexican, Argentine isn’t the same, either). French would be a wonderful comfort food in the winter, but, alas, the talented culinary triumvirate of Curt Herrmama, Marjorie Alexander, and Thomas Radcliffe had their last weekend at Montrachet, and have left the restaurant to develop theirown gourmet take-out food concept. So, there isn’t a decent French restaurant in town any more. That leaves us with Italian. Shall we go to the faux-Italian, market study driven, ¯ Olive Garden for cardboard pasta and wallpaperpaste sauces (theydohavegood salad and breadsticks)? Maybe a little ¯ overcooked spaghetti at a pizzajoint?We : think not. But, voila!, there is a rathe " secret,unknownItalianrestaurantinTulsa whichoffers delicious, madeto orderfood with trained staff and elegant service. And, surprisingly, it is hidden away in a shopping center in east Tulsa. Ti Amo hides on the end ofa strip mall, ¯ east of the Albertson’s grocery store at : 21st and Memorial. It’s a bit hard to f’md, but it’s well worth the effort. ¯ With a menu having a wide variety of styles "representing the whole of Italy," ." Ti Arno’s forteis Sicilian style cuisine. As " you know, the island of Sicilly is in the Medit.err~ean, offthe boot of Italy. It has " an ancient culture and cuisine, and due to it’s island isolation, has preserved more authentic old Roman style cooking techniques than the main country of Italy. And, sitting in a major ancient shipping : lane, Silicianos have ofthadexotic spices, such as saffron and curries, toincorpomte ¯ into theirrecipes. Seafood tins also played an Important role in the Sicilian diet. : All diners are greeted with a comple- ¯ mentary dish ofbmscetta,, whichis a slice oftoast topped with agarlicky tomato and : olive oil salsa. Fresh soups aremadedaily- -the zuppa di giomo--and lovely fresh, ¯ green salads are served family style. Thebiggestchallengeis seleetingone’s entree. Just want a simple plate of spa- Ti Amo 8151 E. 21st Cuisine: Italian Ambiance: Dressy Luncheon: Mon.-FrL 11-2 Evenings: Mort-Thurs. 5-9 Fri-Sat. til 10 Sundays ll-9pm Reservations advised on weekends. Smoking Area? Not distinct enough from non-smokind. Full bar aria wine list. Payment:. Cash, Amencan Express, Diners’ Club, Visa, Mastereard. No cheeks. Rating: A list ghetti? Well, which sauce? Pesto? Napolitana? Bolongese? Marinara? Carbonara? Aglio? These are the authentic recipes. And, as with any respectable Italian restaurant, pastaisn’tlimited to spaghetti. the tortellini alla pauna is a delicious pocket of pasta stuffed withricottacheeseand sauteed in a cream-cognac sauce ($8.95). Particularly mouth-wateringin therigatoni con gorg.onzola, big tubes of macarom sauteed with fresh broccoli and served in a creamy gorgonzola cheese sauce ($9.50). You can get a fettucine Alfredo ($8.95) or a fettucine vongale ($8.95), whichis sauced with ared or a white clam sauce. Keep in mind that all of these sauces are made the traditional way, with fresh cream and butter and freshly graied Italian cheeses - none of the thickeners and extenders you see in lesser restaurants. The lasagna al fomo is a hit controversial. It is dry. But, it’s supposed to be dry, because that is the Sicilian way. So, don’t expect one of tho~e huge, gooey mounds like they serve at the Spaghetti Warehouse. Whilerecognizing their salute to lasagna tradition, personally, we don’t care for the lasagna. Especially, since there are so many other truly wonderful dishes from which to choose. Meat based entrees alsoabound. Thechickendella casa ($10.95) is a flavorful chicken breast with green peppers,mushrooms, and asparagus in a white wine ~?mesancream sauce. Vitello allaTiAmo 12.95) is a fork-tender piece of veal sauteed in a cream sauce with artichokes and walnuts. Worth every calorie. The shrimp coriana ($12.95) features figs and ¯ peppercorns. An orange roughy fillet : ($12.95)is preparedmeuniere and topped -" with pesto butter. One can also have the. exquisite filletto bordelaise ($14.50), a gently preparedbeeftenderloin withmushrooms, burgundy, sundried tomatoes, and herbs and spices. For dessert, several selections are always available, but the signature item is strawberries alia TiAmo. Much like a cherries jubilee, the strawberries-are cookedin a variety ofliqueurs andpoured over a big scoop ofvanillaice cream, then topped with whipped cream. Always save room for the strawberries. Service at Ti Amo is generally pretty good. They strive foranefficient andwall trained work staff appropriate to a"white tablecloth" restaurant. The ambiance is a little on the/.,as Vegas side, with large, round, red vinyl booths lining the walls of the main dining room, but regular tables are available, as well. There is a full bar, and a decent wine list, though one not featuring as many Italian wines as one might. Ti Amo is a restaurant well-deserving of it’s name, which in English, is translated, "I love you." Once you fred and experience this place, yon’ll loveit. It’s an Italian adventure well-worth the search. Who Decides What Happens to Your Body? Disposition ofbodily r~ains canbe an emotionally difficult subject. Many biological families agree to carry out the expressed wishes of their family members withHIV/AIDS. Unforttmately,family members sometimes disagree about the disposition of bodily remains, espedally whether to be buried or cremated and whether or not ashes should be interred. Such disagreements can be very stressful both for the person with H!V/ AIDS and to his or her survivors. Oklahomalaw has no specific law governing instructions for the disposition of bodily remains. However, generally, the legal spouse or next of kin holds the right to possession and custody of the body for burial o~ cremation. Other states have specificlaws designed to givepersons the right to express a preference for disposition of the body after death. In light of these practical and legal problems, if you have a preference about the disposition of your body, you should make a dear, written expression of your wishes. You may choose to include funeral and burial instructions in your Will. While such instructions may not be leers; or a suicide survivor’ s group (for who have suffered the loss of a loved one due to suicide), let me know: Any mental health care professionals who might care to offer advice or suggestions on starting up any oftheabovegroups wouldbemore than welcome to call me at 583-1248. Actually, I have an affirmation for the column : "I have the choice to livemy life in wellness., or to get sick and wallow in all that attention." - Shanti Goldstein. (and it s so appropriate for a friend I ve been dealing with lately - meow! .I must stop, reading the restaurant rewews - they rehaving aterribleinfluenceonme! ) But seriously folks, I have had a major go-round withamajor depressive episode recently and it was not fun. And while there are many wonderful support groups out there, I would feel much more comfortable with Gay/Lesbian comrades. Here is some information regarding depr.essio.n I’ve found helpful. What depress~ on ~s: * Depressionis anillness, in the same way that diabetes orheart disease are illnesses; * Depression is an illness that affects the entire body; * Depression is an illness that I in 5 people will suffer during their lifetime; * Depression is the leading cause of alcoholism, dru~ abuse and other addictions; * Depression is an illness that can be successfully treated in more than 80% of the people who have it; * Depression is an equal-opportunity illness - it affects all ages, all races, all economic groups and both genders, and all orientations. Women, however, suffer from depression twice as muchasmendo, as do Gay folk compared to straight. * About half of the people suffering from depression do not get proper treatment; * Untreated depression is the number one cause of suicide; and * Depression is second only to heart diseasein causinglostworkdays inAmerica. What depression is not: * Depression is not something to be ¯ gaily binding, it is a written, witnessed : and notarized Statement of the client’s : wishes which puts the personal represen- ¯¯ tative of your estate in a much stronger position tomake sure that your wishes are ." carried out. Oneproblemwiththis method ¯ is that theWillmay notbe available at the ¯ time of death and may be discovered too ¯ late to be useful. : Anotheropfionis to express yourwishes "~ in a separate signed and witnessed docu- : ment whichnotonly contains instructions ¯ as to what is to be done with your bodily ~ remains, but also provides someone with : the authority to carry out your instrac- : lions. The designate person should then ¯ be given a copy of the document, which ¯ should be put in a place that is easily "- accessible twenty-four hours a day. Fur- "¯ therprotection canbeprovidedbypreparing aburial orfuneral plan, andby making ~ specific arrangements with a particular ¯ funeral home. : If you are HIV positive or have AIDS, ¯ and you would like legal help with the ¯ Disposilion of Bodily Remains or other : HIV/AIDS-related legal issue, ask for ¯ Darlene Shadid at the AIDS Legal Re- : source Project at (405) 521-1302 (collect : calls accepted). ¯ ashamed of; ¯ * Depression is not the same thing as feeling blue or down; ¯ * Depression is nota eharacterflaw orthe signbf a weak personality; ¯ Depression is not a mood someone can snap out of, (Would you ask someone to sndp out ofdiabetes?) and ¯ Depression is notfully recognized as an illness by most health care insurance providers. Clinical depression is sometimes referred to as a major depressive episode. Episodes are usually a result of Major Depressive Disorder, but they can also be associated with other disorders. It appears that clinical depressions can be caused in ¯ a number of ways. ¯ Clinical depression is not j.’ust feeling ¯ unhappy. A clinical depression can inelude a low mood, hopeless feelings, and ¯ loss of interest or pleasure in almost all ¯ usual activities andpastimes. Some of the ¯" common symptoms are a feeling of deep ¯ sadness for at least two weeks without ¯ letup and any five of the following: ¯ * Trouble sleeping or sleeping toomuch; ¯ * Not caring anymore about work, hob- " bies, friends or sexual activity; ¯ * Self-recrimination for things in the past ¯ or present; ." * Feeling tired all the lime or finding : everything an effort; ¯ Having trouble concentrating ormaking ¯ decisions; ¯ * Loss of appetite or loss of weight; : * Eating more than usual and gaining ¯ weight; : * Thoughts of suicide or considering a ¯ way of dying; : * Frequently ~eeling on the verge of tears ¯¯ or weepy; * Waking up early in the morning, with ¯ difficulty returning to sleep; ¯ * Feeling worse in the morning; ¯ * Feeling anxious or irritable; ~ * A gloomy view of the future; ~ * Physical pain or headaches; and ¯ * Cravings for certain foods ; ¯ Most people experience these syruptoms for months before seeking treat- ¯ ment. Being depressed is painful and it Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice & Equality for Gays & Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. D nn_er_ VIeetin [I I Ido./RSVP: 66 - 17 II MINGO VALLEY 9720-C E. 3lst St. $42.50 - 663-5934, Daphane Cooper Eureka Springs Winter Get-away! NEGATIVE Even if you test HIV negati}/e, AIDS has touched your life. What’s the point of staying negative if your lover or your friends already have HIV? have to use condoms for the rest of your life? sometimes take risks that you regret the mornin<] after9 about the issues o! power and trust in a relationshTp? " How has homophobia affected your self esteem? Interestedin a discussion group forHIV-men beginning In Tulsa, call 712.1600, Outside Tulsa, call 1.800.282.8165 Brought to you by HIV Outreach Prevention Education (formerly TOHR HIV Prevention Programs), and Planned Parenthood of E. Oklahoma & W. Arkansas and The HIV Resource Consortium Kelly Kirby CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation Lesbians and Gay men face many special tax situations whether single or as couples. ¯ Call us soon for sensitive & timely assiszance. ¯ Electronicfiling is available forfaster refunds. 747-5466 4021 South Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 Do you live in a small town or rural area? Are you attracted to other men? Do you feel like you are the only one? And if you’d like to meet others, come to our rural mens discussion group every 2nd & 4th Saturday, 7-9 pm For more info., contact Jeremy or Brian 712-1600 or 800-282-8165 " the bottom is expected to have a will of ¯ his/her own and to know when to express ¯ ’itas well as whento relinqnishit,a"Daddy/ ¯ boy" relationship is probably what you ¯ want. The participants are allowed to, by ¯ the parameters of their relationship, show ¯ genuinely their love for one another. Age is not a determining factor in this type of relationship. "Daddy"may be the passive or active, dominant or submissive partner. It is all open to negotiation and discovery. A"Daddy"may havemore than one "boy" as well as the "boy" havingmorethan one "Daddy". scott smithertun, who is no longer with us, had this to say in Leathersex, "i have the freedom to play, a safe place to do it, and a ’Daddy’, whichmeanslots of love and a nurturing relationship wiih a lot of growth." A "boy" can be any age. Part of being a "boy" is giving up decisions. "Daddy/boy" rela- SM at all. What is needed ¯ -is a strong figure - a"Dad" and someone who wants to be more like ¯ "Dad". "Daddy/boy" relationships cannot : exist without love. A "Daddy/boy" rela- ¯ tionship can take you right up to the edge ¯ of a Master/slave relationship. But it ¯ doesn’ t have to go that way. In order for a _" man to be a "boy" he must have honesty, ¯ a sense of fun, and a need for a strong ¯ "father figure" in his life even if he has a ¯ good relationship with his father and a : desire to learn from and be like "said ¯ strong person". ¯ The satisfaction a "boy" gets out of : being a"boy" is thejoy of ajob wall done ¯ and the love of a good"Daddy". In terms ¯ ¯ of collars, a"boy" shouldwearwhat their "Daddy" tells them to. A "boy" should ¯ never wear someone else’s collar or locks ¯ without"Daddy’s" permission. Ifyou are : happy being a "boy", and you are a man, ¯ your manhood is assured. Manhood sire- ¯ plymeans youare ahuman male, and you ¯ ~ need to be that "boy". A "boy" is not always in "boy mode". There are times : when Daddy doesn t need me in : mode", but it is dependent on "Daddy’s" ¯ needs, not mine. A "Daddy" can expect ¯ undying loyalty from a "boy". ¯ There will be two or three more col- * unms in this series and i hope this series : will help you better understand one view : of leather relationships. Until next time... lance brittain (editor’s note: in this column, the terms "boy", "girl ", etc. are used symbolically to refer to the balance ofpower in relationships only between consenting adults. Neither the writer nor this newspaper encourage or condone any inappropriate or illegal behavior involving minors.) One would be surprised at thenumerous versions of relationships in the leather community as wall as the characteristics. One thing that is of importance is the fact that there is no one set definition for how these relationships should be defined. The parties involved make the rnles as they go along for what is right for them may not be right for others. Also, gender is not specific. Leatherpeople people can choose to live together, choose toberoommates with no sexual contact or other, more formal relationships. Some of the posslolnue~ ~C: ......... Mistress/slave","Mommy/ Daddy/boy/girl", "animal/ owner" and leather families. One of the situations may involve two people who only participate in leather in private. Another may be the couple who participate in leather on and off. They might have leather weekends as well as "vanilla" weekends. Sometimes, one memberof acouplemay develop an interest in leather and after talking it over with his/her partner, may decide to venture out to take care of their needs. Another possibility is to bring a third into the relationship which can be on the same level of commitment or not. The "Daddy/boy" arrangement seems to be the relationship of choice for many leathermen. Joseph Bean, author-of "Leathersex", feels that people who are destined to he"Daddies" tend to bepeople who do not have a deep need to be perceived as extremists or outsiders. He also feels that a person destined to be a "boy" must share their"Daddy’ s" willingness to be in a leather relationship that does not seek outwardly to outrage. If you want a relationship where the "Top" is dominant not only "by definition," but also because of his strengths and the admiration the "bottom" has for him; where there is respect flowing both ways within the relationship; where one party admits to learning and both parties are accepting ofgrowthandchange; where may feel like it will never end. Without treatment symptoms can last for months, or years. Proper treatment can help over 80% of those who sufferfrom depression. Some depression will disappear eventually without any treatment,, though this can takemanymonths or sometimes years. .Currently there is no sure way of predicting when an episode of depression will end. Treatment may be recommended, rather than simply waiting. Since depression may be caused by a combination of factors, a combination of One would surprised at the numerous versions ot~ relationships in the leather eommunlty ... the {act [is] that there is no one set de~nltlon for how these relationshi.~s should be ddined. The parties involved make the ru!e~ ~ they do ¯ treatments may be necessary. Some of ¯ theseare psychotherapy, behaviortherapy, ¯¯ and medication. An individual treatment is organized between patient and doctor. : Psychotherapy is a method of talking ¯ about your concerns with your therapist to : identify problems and seek solutions. ¯¯ Cognitive-behavioral therapy focuses on the negative beliefs and behaviors com- " monly seen in depression. 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The Pride Center provides a meeting place for the Prime Timers, Friends in Unity Social Organization, Safe Haven, ORYAN-Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Network, Tulsans for Equality, Rainbow Business Guild, Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights and others, with new groups everyday. Your membership and your pledge helps to keep the doors open: Annual Membership in the Pride Center: Individual $20 Household/organizational $35 Sustaining $100 Student/limited income $10 Please also consider a monthly pledge to the Center of $5, 10, 15, 25 as you are able. ~ Please send me/us a pledge book for $ .per month. Name: Address: City, state, zip code: Day phone: Eve. phone: E-mail: Volunteers are needed to help finish scraping floors and painting as well as to serve as Center Sitters to help us be open on a drop-in basis for several evenings a week. Please return this form to the Pride Center, 1307 East 38th, 2nd fl. Tulsa 74105, 918-743-4297 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1997] Tulsa Family News, January 15-February 14, 1997; Volume 4, Issue 2 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Dec. 15, 1996- Jan. 14, 1997, v. 4, #1 Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Dr. Elders Urges Black Churches to Fight AIDS OKLAHOMA CITY (AP)- Black churches must join forces to educate their communities about the dangers of AIDs and the need to practice safe sex, Dr. Joycelyn Elders said Saturday. Elders, the former surgeon general:, told a gathering at Mount Carmel Baptist Church that one out of every 350 black men is infected with the HIV virus, compared to one of every 800 white men and one of every 650 Hispanic men. Among women, one of every 1,000 black women is infected, compared to one of every 15,000 white women, she said. New medicines and treatments have nearly turned the deadlyvirus into more of a chronic disease people can live with for years, Elders said, but the numbers will keep g~owing unless youfig people are educated. Beside~ education, Elders emphasized the use ofcondoms and providing dean needles to drug addicts as deterrents to transmitting the disease. She applauded four teen-age girls who told the group they took vows of abstinence, but said 70% of those vows are broken by the time high school is finished. ’€I’he vows ofabstinence are broken far more easily than the latex condom is," Elders said. "When I was your surgeon general, I tl~ink you remember people would call me th~ condomqueen. Well, I Want you to know, I put the crown on my head and sleep in it:" see Elders, page3 :HAWAII HONEYMOON? ¯ HONOLULU (AP) - Joseph Melillo believes waiting six years ¯ to get ,m,arried is long enough. "That’s an awfully long engage- ¯ ment," Melillo said.Wednesday ~p~r~0judge put on hold the first ruling inAmericanhistory that all’~ws g~y marriages. Melillo and ¯ his partner, Pat Lagon, will have to wait at least another year: The ¯ staywill remainineffectuntil arulingby the state’s highestcourt. ¯ That court ruled in 1993 that Hawaii’s ban is unconstitutional ¯ unless the state could, show a compelling government interest in ¯ preventing gay mamages. ¯ In. issuing the stay to his own ruling, Circuit Judge Kevin Chang said there would be confusion if gay couples got married ¯ and then the high court overturned his decision. "We kind of ¯ expected it, but we’re not happy with it," said Melillo, who sued ¯ the state along with Lagon and two lesbian couples. Chang said Tuesday that the state had failed to show any ¯ compelling state interest in denying gay couples the right to ¯ marry, and he ordered the state to begin issuing themlicenses. It was the first such ruling by a judge in the United States. ¯ The dispute prompted passage of a federal law signed by ¯ President Clinton that says the federal government will not ¯ recognize gay marriages and allows states to refuse to recognize ¯ such unions licensed in other.states. In addition,16 states have ’ passed laws denying recognition of gay marriages. ¯ DeputyAttorney General Rick Eichor sought the stay, arguing ¯ that allowing couples to marry immediately would undermine the state’s case. "If hundreds, or even thousands, of gay mar- " riages take place, the Supreme Court probably won’t even hear ¯ the appeal," he said. Eichor also argued that the three gay couples who sued for the right to marry would suffer no real harm if their : right to marry were delayed. Dan Foley, the lawyer who represented the couples, said he ¯ found that argument incredulous. He said his clients already had suffered from delays in the case. "I hope it won’t take long to ¯ convince the Supreme Court that Judge Chang’s ruling was i correct," Melillo said. And nearly two months before the opening of the state Legis- ¯" lature, same-sex marriage already has become an issue. : Newly-elected Rep. Bob McDermott on Thursday called for ¯ Senate President Norman Mizuguchi to replace Matt Matsunaga ¯ and Avery Chumbley as co-chairs of the Senate Judiciary Corn- : mittee. Matsunaga and Chumbley both opposed a constitutional ¯ amendment banning same-sex, marriages. Matsunaga, who won re-dection despit~e being targeted for his stand on the issue, says : the matter should be left to the courts. ," McDermott said heis concerned .that legislation prohibiting ¯ same-sex marriage will not be given a fair hearing in the Senate ¯ Judiciary Committee. Samer~ex marriage was a factor in McDermott’s ouster of Democrat Len Pepper in the Nov. 5 : general election, see next column ¯ US & World Reaction: Arkansas ¯ LHTLE ROCK (AP) - Moving to follow a new federal law, lawmakers filed legislation Friday that ¯ would ban same-sex marriages in Arkansas. The ¯ measure was among the first bills pre-filed in the : House to be ,introduced in the Arkansas General Assembly that convenes Jan. 13. ¯ Arkansas family law defines marriage as a civil ¯ contract between consenting parties. A provision relating to issuing a marriage license to under age ¯ persons contain age requirements for the male and ¯ female, the only reference to gender. The proposed ¯ bill would declare that "marriage shall be only : between a man and a woman" and would void ¯ marriage betweenpeople of the same sex. The state ¯ wouldnotrecognize same-sex marriages performed out of state by people who move to Arkansas. "What (gays) do in the privacy of their own ¯ bedroom is their business, but I don’t feel like it’s : something that I want to recognize as being legal ¯ and right" said the lead sponsor, Rep. Doug Kidd, : D-Benton. "The state of Arkansas should not rec- ¯ ognize that as a marriage." ¯ Dehra Bailey of the Arkansas Gay and Lesbian ¯ Task Force said the state’s homosexual community ¯ Was not surprised by Kidd’s bill and would fight it : as a matterof social justice. She said homosexuals ¯ "absolutely" have a moral right to marry. Ms. ¯ Bailey said. "Whether or not a person chooses marriage to sanction their relationships, all people ¯ should have that right." ¯ Colorado ¯ DENVER (AP) - A Colorado state lawmaker has ¯ announced plans to reintroduce a bill in the 1997 ¯ Legislature that wouldbanrecognition of same-sex marriages in Colorado. ¯ The announcement by Rep. Marilyn Musgrave, ¯ ¯ R-Fort Morgan, came just a day after a Hawaiian court ruled that state must issue marriage licenses ¯ to same-sex couples. The same bill was approved last yearby the Colorado Legislature, but vetoedby : Gov. Roy Romer. The Hawaii ruling still must be appealed. But that doesn’t matter to Musgrave. ¯ Musgrave’s bill banning same:sex~ marriages ¯ was appr0vedinbothho~es earlierthis yearlarge.ly ¯ on a partisan=line vote with most Democrats in ¯ Opposition. Gov: Roy Romer-vetoed it in March, ¯ saying it was unnecessary because Colorado law didnotrecognizesuchmarfiages, see Hawaii, p. 8 Murderer Gets 50 Years ¯ Evergreen SpiritAwardsGiven " Coming Soon! PONTIAC, Mich..(AP) - The man convicted of killing " TULSA - The AIDS. Coalition. of Tulsa presented its 1996 * Evergreen SpiritAwards recognizing individuals fortheir contributions to HIV/AIDS care. The organization recognized Amy Graham and Nancy Nelson of the American Red Cross, Jack Arnold of Tulsa Public Schools, Anne Kozak and Jean Derry of the Oklahoma State Dept. of Health, Claudette Peterson of HOPE, Patti Handyof Associates in Medical & Mental Health, Sharon Thoele of the HIV Resource Consortium with Spirit Awards. The Richard Shackelford Award went to Derrick Davis of FUSO and the Truman Geren Award went to the late RF Renfro. These awards were presented by Phil Wiley. The award to RF Renfro will hang in the Renfro Room inThe Pride Center. HIVRC Records Turned ¯ Holiday services will be held at Saint Jerome at ¯ 11:30 on Christmas Eve with Mass at midnight. : Family of Faith and Greater Tulsa MCCs will join ¯ together for a candlelight service at Family ofFaith ¯ at 1 lpm. Also Community of Hope United Meth- ¯ ¯ odist will hold its candlelight service at llpm. Ongoing till mid-January, Community of Hope : will offer a grief support group that meets on ¯ Tuesdays from6-8pm. Forinfo. call Leslie Peurose ¯" at 585-1800 or Bob Hulsey at 749-4194. "- RAIN, the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network : will provide volunteer training on Jan. 13-15 from ¯ 5:30- 9pmatHarvardAve. ChristianChurch,5502 ¯ S. Harvard. $25 with some scholarships available. ¯ Registration by Jan. 10. Call Stephen or Kathy at i Over On Nov. 20- More 749-4195 for info. Another training will beat ¯ Conners State College.in the Classroom Building ¯ Documents to. Follow #210onJan.24-25.Registrationisrequiredby Jan. :21.CallStephenorKathyat749-4195orPhiTheta ¯ TULSA-The H-IV Resource Consortium (HIVRC) provided its ¯ Kappa in Warner at 918-463-6302 for info. ¯ minutes to Tulsa Family News’ attorney on Nov. 20 and has , : - agreed to provide accesstoother public documents this month as " INSIDE : well as agreeing to futherinterviews with counsel for theHIVRC : ¯¯ - and Tulsa Family Newspresent. ¯ ¯ . . TFN publisher, Tom Neal, appl,auded the agency fo~ its coop- : EDITORIAL/LETTERS/DIRECTORY P. 2-3 " eration. "It has ialways been Tb2q s hope that the agency could " NEWS .... P. 4 HEALTH P. 6 provideexplanatiousfortheallegatiousofthepersonslivingwith HIV/AIDS & THE LAW P. 10 AIDS (PLWA’s)," Neal added. ,We hope that the problems ¯ BOOK REVIEW P. 10 really just turn out to be communications difficulties rather than : EUREKA SPRINGS P. 11 anything more serious. We expect to provide followup coverage : RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 12 next month." , CLASSIFIEDS P. 14-15 a gay admirer who revealed a crush on him on "The Jenny Jones Show" will serve at least 20 years in prison before he is eligible for parole, lawyers said. Judge Francis X. O’Brien on Wednesday sentenced Jonathan Schmitz to 25 to 50 years for murdering ScottAmedure. DefenselawyerJames Burdick saidhe’ll appeal. Schmitz shot the 32-year-old Amedure to death three days after they attended the show’s taping on March 6, 1995. The show was not aired at the time but was played in court and televised as part of trial coverage. Amedure’s family said Schmitz, 26, Should spend his life in prison to make up for each day they will. spend withoutAmedure. "Thereisn’taday that goes by where I don’t mourn for my sonrs life," Amedure’s mother, Patricia Graves, told O’Brien. "I hope every time he opens his eyes he will See Scott’ s body as he lay dying.~’ AllynSchmitz, Schmitz’s father, said thejudge didn t consider thedamageto his son’s psychefrom appearing on the show. Witnesses said Schmitz believed he was going to meet a woman.admirer on the show and was humiliated when the admirer turned out to be a man.. "He was the guy who .,. was basically hauledinto (an) ... imraoral,.sexual-perverted thing that totally devastated him mentally to the point-that he couldn’t even function anymore." Schmitz had been fighting alcoholism, .depression and a thyroid condition when the show’s producers ¯ambushed him.., the defense said. "I don’t disagree with counsel that you are suffering some medical illness," O’Brien told Schmitz. But, he added, "You still have to be accountable to society." 918.583..1248 fax: 583.4615 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-014o tulnews@ionetnet Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal Entertainment Writer + Mac Guru: James Christjohn Writers +.contributors: Phyl Bbler-Sehmid~ Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Steven Scott, Gerald Miller, Lance Bfittain, Kent Lewis ¯ Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Pt~bolrireeastpioonnodefnaeneaims aesosrupmheodtot0dboeefsonroptuibnldicicaatitoenthuantlepsesrostohne’rswsiesxeunaol toerdi,e.mntuatsito~n . signed & becomes the sole property_of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be’sent to the address above. ~Eaeh reader is entiiled to one free copy of each edition at distribution.points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Tom Neal age, were a recovering alcoholic, or simply didn’t know where any of these places were, you were out of luck. Because of significantly different editorial and advertising policies, from T.H.sa Family News.(TFN) has my .a,pp~re- ." ciauon, support and gratitude forit s Oc- ¯ tober article focusing upon failures of : Tulsa’s HIV Resource Consortium -" (HIVRC) and for following up with both : ’pro’ and’con’ responses appearing in the ¯ November issue¯ : However, I also applaud any and every_ : one who word volunteer themsdves to i public oversight by serving on any Board of Directors of any service group such as the HIVRC. This is the first issueofour fourthyear. During these years., our Also, HIVRC’s salaried Director, goal has been to bring the Tulsa Lesbian, Gay, Bi & Trams communities (and our families andfriends, and any other inter~ ested readers out there), the best community newspaper we can achieve. We strive for fair and accurate reporting. We strive to cover all of our very, very diverse communities. That means we are a newspaper for "’bar" people, the wealthy and well-connected, drag divas and leather folk - in short, for all. We are a newspaper for those who are way out of the closet, as well as for those still hiding. ¯ One of the tl~ngs which has helped to make us a paper for all ts our accessibility across the city. Prior to TFN, if you wanted a Gay newspaper (albeit one from out of town), your options were to go to an "erotic" bookstore,, a dub, or one or two other locations. There’s nothing wxong with these establishments (and we’re very grateful that they welcome us) but if youwere under ." ,OtherP..,~in,the, ragion (policies now being imitated in Okla_ i SharonThoe.le, certainlyhasmydeserved ¯ nomat:~ty),TulsaFamilyNewsiswelcomeandavailableaeross .appreciation for even attemptingto per- ." the city, in locations accessible to many more people. Havinga ¯ form the undo,ubtedly impossible tasks of ¯ paper available and visible is progress for a community that has i Serving Tulsa s PLWA’s and HIV with : ~forced traditionally to be hidden. ¯ complete satisfaction to all. It will.never : sprogressh not come ily. For door w:eopened,. ! happen. : tac~ ano msenmmauon mtrying to get the paper in moreplaces; ! ...IfI dneverbeen amemberofaboardof : in trying to get more advertising, and in trying to buy basic : ddinryecotofrsth,neoerxepveenredxitpuerreieonfcepdumbleidcifausncdrus-, ¯" services for the newspaper. We also continue to face diserimina_ :. then I might be somewhat less under- : lion from.some in our commRuity. ¯ ¯ ¯ standingof the feelings of theboardmem-. Itisnotaneasyjob.NorisitweHpaid.Manyofthefolkswh~se . bersor~eservicegroup,sadmlnistrator ¯ work you see in this paper donate their efforts. Certainly, as : when an "outsider’ brings them to task as : publisher.and editor, I could go out and get a job doing almost : TFN’s publisher has done. :. anything else andmake bettermoney- and actually get benefits, i ~ But, whomevermaybe connected with _" not to mention major stress reduction, see Editorial, page3 : HIVRC who may be fceling insecure and ¯ unappreciated due the criticism (whether : justified or not) there are those Tulsan’s Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities : who feel much, much worse- every day ¯ ¯ - those persons living with AIDS/HIV ¯ AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB "1071, 74101-1071 579-9593 .. and those of us who love them and are ¯ Black&White;Inc. POB 14001,Tulsa74159 583-7314 . scared to death oflosing them ¯ *Bless The ¯Lord... Christian Center, 2627b E. 11 628-0594 ¯ : :B,-,_/_L/_G___Alli_’,,.an,ee, U~v.°..fTulsaCanterburyCtr. Nevertheless, simply stated, it is public 583-9780 i money that HIVRC is spending, andtax_ ." ~.Alapmml ~maent t.lr.,University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence . payers and benefactors can reasonably ¯" *CommunityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703~ 2rid 585-1800 " ~ C_ommunityUnitarian-UniversalistCongragation 749-0595 i expeetaccouhtabilityofservicesandmost : Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648 : certainly to be given access to public : *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 . information upon request. It is both un- ¯ :~ello_ws.l~.’p_Congreg.-Church, 2900-S. Harvard necessary and unfortunate that such a 747:7777 : .simple matter had to become a public ¯ rree~pmtWomeusCenter, callf0rlocation&info: 587-4669 ¯ ;¯ Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 ¯ ~ssue at all. But, if that’s what takes then ¯ 747-6827 ¯. so be it! Tulsa needs a responsive AIDS Friends in Unity SocialOrg. (African-American mens group) . consortium, or none at all. POB 8542, 74101, call cJo HOPE @ 712.1600. : I have no doubt that TFN’s focus upon : HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education, 1307 E.38, 2ndfl. ¯ ¯ and inquiry ofHIVRC is fullyjustified if d~12-1600’ HOPE Anonymous HIV Testing Site, 742-2927 ¯ : In--.’an Health Care, Save the Nation 584-4983 " the newspaper is to fulfill its own ¯ sibility to it’s readers. And, TFN’s pub- . Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 : lisher has proven his commitment to the : *MCC of Greater Tulsa,. 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 ¯ ." *HIVResourceCtr.,4154S. Harvard, Ste. H_l 749-4194 : .cbosmenminunTiutlys..at.hlrohuagvheonuetvtehrehtaidmtehehoechcaas- .." NHAMEHSouPsRe,O1J1E1C4l1S".,4Q.1u5a4koSe.rHarvuard, Ste.r : PFLAG , POB 52800, 74152 584-7960748-311I .: Slon to.talk with Mr. Neal about such ¯ 749-4901." matters,bu[disappointmentswithHIVRC Planned Parenthood, 1007 S Peoria ~o~,.-,~,,, ¯ were being-publicly expressed long be- *The Pride Center,- 1307 E "38, 2nd floor, ~’~ i fore TFN beg.an its ~,s_tribution in Tulsa. ¯*~R.A.I.N..R~Onal AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4-195-: s----~ -~ ’ :’ g : ~nsmer commencing Rainbow Business Guild; POB 41067415~ r.~iT~: ¯ ¯ om.~ ~aamagegontro~ measures as soon as .S~,JerOm_e’s Catholic Church, 3841 ~. Pe~ia, ~:~ i .fPo°rS~le’ -by:pr°vidin,g the,m!nutes in.a ~hanti Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services 749 "moe ¯ ’, un~.gnt ~n),~nn.e_r; acknowledging inad- .Tu.ls.a O.k.la..fo.r H. uman Ri.ghr.s.. POB 2687, 74101. _ ..74-3--.4.2.9.7 .." ~".~.eq...ua.c~es ot the Consortium in the past; lecnmcmus ~ , . . ~~, : "~ ,, 584_~ar~o e,- ~mu, comini’.".u.ng" -to i"mprove m-.e.s.lm.a.uo" n TULSA Tuls .... :"~: ...... :.. ! ,-,,,o ~. "m the future. :She, other memberS of the : ..... a. um~orm/Leamer ~eeKers AssoC.’" 838-1222 ~,.: ~ . . - .... ~ ¯ :, ..~oard, the HIVRC Director and the Tulsa Clubs & Restaurant~ *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E Pine *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630E 15th *GoldCoast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L ~ 31st *Silver Star Saloon; 1565 Sheridan *Samson & Delilah, 10 E. Fifth *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd - *InterurbanRestaurant, 717 S. Houston 832-1269 744-689( 749-1563 749-4511 749-567~ 745-9998 834-4234 585-2221 -585-3405 584-130~ 585-313, Tulsa Businesaes,lServices, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 *Borders Books & Music, 274OE. 21 712-9955 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-527~ *CreativeColleetion, 1521 E. 15 592-1521 Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 ." *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 ." 744-5556i " 665-659 . 622-3636 838-8503 743-9994 690-2974. 744~0102 744-7440 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial. *Elite Books &Videos,821 S. Sheridan Express Pools &.Spas, 6310 S. Peoria. Foxlinx, Computer Consultation Leatme M. Gross, Financial Planning Mark T. Hamby, Attorney, . *Sandra J. Hill, MS; Psychotherapy, 2865 E Skelly Imaginations, Lincoln Plaza, 15th& Peoria *International Tours Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 140H, 74159i - Lean Ann Macomber, Real~.r Associate *Midtown Theater,319 E, 3 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31st ¯. *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51. PI *Novel Idea Bookstore, 5.1st & Harvard David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S Peoria, Ste~ 633 Pet Pride, Dog & Cat Grooming The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor. Puppy Pause II, llth & Mingo *Ross Edward Salon, 1438 &Boston 584-0337 *Seribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations 743-2351 Southwest Viatical 747-3322, 800-305-6384 Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733 745-1111 584-~1606 341-6866 599-8070’ 747-5466’ 671~2010 584-3112 663~593"4 664-2951 747-6711 747-7672 584-7554 743-4297 838-7626 : ’ *Tulsa COmmunity Coll6ge; Metro.8~ NE Campuses : *Univ.ersity Center at Tulsa ....EUREKA SPRINGS - : AutumnBreeze Restaurant, Hwy 23 South 501=253-7734 : Beaver Dam Store, 1/2 mi~ N. of Dam Hwy. 187.506253-6154 : *Jim&Brent’s’Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 ¯ DeVit&s Restaurant, 5 Center St. -501=253-6807. ¯" *Emerald-Rainbow, 45 &U2 Spring St. ¯" Geek ~oGo!,PC Speciali_sL POB 429 501-25325445 501.-253-2-776 i King’sHi-Way,96Kings.IJighway,Hwy.62W 800-231.-.1442 ¯ MCC of the Living Spring - :501-253-9337 ¯ McClung Realtors -- ¯ 501:253-9682 Positive Idea Marketing Hans i Rock CottageGardens. 501-253:2401 50i-253-8659, 800-624-6646 ¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East " 50L253-6001 ¯: The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281 ¯ OKLAHOMA CITY Face Beautiful Day Spa, 7.108-D2 N. Western 405~840-3223 ".’ *Tulsa CityHalL Cafetei’ia Vestibule, ~round Pltor : ¯ HIVRC staffcan then regain ourgratitude - : ’ and~e~peci. Anyless risks theloss to all of- . ¯ .us of any value HIVRC does indeed pro-. . " vide ifan alreadyangry Tulsa politicos of: - ¯ ,.’Conservative’ persuasion seizes the op- : : portunity fo eliminate it like TCAA. ¯ In any case, itseems tomethatHIVRC’s: : aftempts tointimida~, to silence, to make~" ¯ threats oflawsnit and/or exercise policies " : ofstone-.walling requests for information-- :" doesn’t serve anyone ~ and is certainly : not in the best interests of an already under-funded Consortium. Weall have to take our lumps occasional.lyand then go on - it justgoes with the job. Most frequently, we grow a little in the process. - Vernon L. Jones, Tulsa ForUnto Us a child tsbbrnl :Midnight .M s Service begins. at. 11:30 pm-=-Mass at Midnight Celebrate the birth of Our Lord in the liturgical -tradition ofthe ancient Catholic Church. . -~ ..... parish church of st, JerOme - " Meeting at the Garden Chapel .. - ~.-.... : 384t SouthPeoda, Tuisa " ’ tt i~,not, thej~c[g~"ents ~fme~ which .open or Shut fhe.G~tes ofHeaven. St. Jerome .. :However, this -doesn’t mean that the agency is perfect nor that it should be . : REi HiVRC Covaraga .... -above all scrutiny or criticism -as it ~ ! am Writing~in*egard tO your coverage seems yowimpty. . ofthep£obleniswiththeHIVRC.Iwantto We’re ihclined’:to believe thai those thattk’~’~bry0~r continued efforts to " working at the:HIVRCare likely under- ’expose p~Oblen]s’with the ageixcy so that ,. paid t~bugh lye don’t have any proof of they:will.be cor~ectegl~ While at_ the Pride " ~hatl yet. TFNalsa knows other Tulsans Ce~ter rec~ntly~ i 0v~rheard .one of the " who do equallycr~tica! workfor Pers.ons people involved refer to your ego as your : Living with AIDS at even lower sa~qries reasonforpfintingthe~le~;soi U~tl’ei~ : : thdn some oftl~.f~ht ~e_.,_.H....l=V~R~.~Sh~i~lv. ~t~.d ihat" vimr’ ate ~rob~ibl.v Xecelvi’-~ ’~ Servic~worlq unJormnatefy !?.~U~t~ ~."~" Y ~V-~~ ~-~" d---- ~--- x- . .. ~. .:.., " . .~ ’ ~ " " . " " - " " " ¯ " " " eoflsiderable resistance from certain fac- . valued tn our soctely as otl~er worr. tibns. ¯ As for TFN’s response to letters, it is "I am~nOt directly inv01y~l" oraffe~(ed ¯ - - . see Esli~ck, page 12 ~by thi~ issue, ~o I have nothing Of imp0tt {3contribute. I an~ writing primarily io iet y0ii know thatyour conviction reassures . me that if it was an issue that directly ¯ affected me; you would be just as thorbtigh in your coverageand I thankyou for - name Withheld by request -HIVRe Director Responds Your recent diatribe against the. HIVRC i~s board ofdirectors, and exectrfive director- appears wholly without factual basis.. ¯(Spacefor.your"editorial’? ~omments sure Thework I and our writers do isalabor of ¯ love. It’s done because we care that this ¯ r community get a qualitynewspaper.. . As we beginout fourth year, we plextge ¯" that we will continue to improve Tulsa Family News. We will, .to paraphrase "..~ MotherJones, comfort the afflicted and at :. least, ,challenge (if not-afflict) the ~.om- ¯ fortable. We will try to look at.all parts of .:.-the’communities. We will- cOntinue tO -tO appear in letters’withwhichyou are not : write both about- the suecesses in-out to me "our ~ _commumuesasweatways~ave,anuaoout time Would be mueh obettet’ spent inan-.~ .me ~auures as .were i effort to unite rather than diwdeTulsa s o ¯ - ff Y’ou ’think. .w.e n.e.ed.towrite about a¯n " .’-" ~.....-’"- *....mber ’ issue; let us know. Youcan contact us wa of the board of directors of ttIV.RC, I can .... ~’: out ul~ocationtha~thdr[sic] ¯ eallorfaxusattJaeaauressesontmspage~ s¯ tatemth eq ¯ ~’ " " ..... OU ---~ ~ ~ " "~....... :’~ ^--. of this If you hke what we redomg,.or if y or-ani~atibus [xiO activitids or to thwart " aon t, memetus ~now. 2.h0urintefview shouldb;- pr g . . : ~f that- I-meimits [sid] nst llke she does " rather you &lit your letters for length than for us to do so. - - ho~g~ave anything;else, to d0. - .- ." - ~ .’,: .The staff and volunteerso[ the.HIVRC ¯ .~ :at_e~ d.espit.e’ your,90rfim~n’t~ a ~oup nodf : " extremely dedicated,. overworked, . an .~ ~ ~md~rpaidindi~idfials trying t0 do~th~ beast° : job ~ey can wi.thfimited resources against .~ ~ ~m d~,e~’whelnfing situation. I should thi~-: ttm.ty0gand ev-~e~9thern~ember 0fTulsa’s : -gay and .iesbian comm.uni.ty would be ¯ th~lkful that tl~is group o.f perpl~ are out there trying to.secure every ounce, of as- ; sistance to fight.the effects of this disease ; for those in need of that assistance. "- I would grant, you that the staff and " volunteers are .all hummi’ and therefore : subj.ect to mistakes. I also~ believe that : when any ofthem makes a-mistake that it : would-be corrected without prejudice or . vindictiveness towards the one who corn- " . plained. A tremendous need for services ~xists that is.impossible to meet with existing resources. I would assume you would be wall aware of the.gap between needand the resources available and consider the possibility’that some of the corn- ;plaints .you have .heard would be from individuals thatjust do not think they are getting enough of those resources. As a professional investigator it appears t0me that you,are woefull~ short of "making your c,~se I believe ~ou could better useyour time and newspap,er lob- " bying for additio.nal resources tofight this disease and aid those who suffer from it, Ti,m’othy W. Danl " " -AttOrney at Law. An Attorney who will fight for ~ . ,.justice &:Equality for - . -.~.- ~ Gays &Lesbians - Domestic Partnership¯ Planning, Personal Injury,. -- Criminai.LaW: & Bankruptcy ’~ 1:-.800:’742 946,8.or!918-352-.9504 1128 EaSt Broadway,~ Drumright; .Oklahoma weekend and evening appointments are available. President Climon appointed her to’become thenatiori’gtop docior, butfiredhet in 1994 after- she-was criticized for remarks ~i~ut mastUrbation;as an element of htmian s&ualit~. - -- . Elders pointed" fo her willingfiegg °to,, speakabout "unmentionables,’r’Which evenmallyTgot her,dismissed. "I Saidt felt masturbation Was a normal part ofhuman sexualityLthat90 percent ofmen masturbate, 80 percent of women, masturbate and the rest lie," Elders said. Elders denied shehadencouraged teaching masturbation, as was Widely reported, but had only acknowledged it as a means : of-prdventing unsafe sex..;’Nobody needs ¯ to teach.anybod3i thehow to," she said. ¯ "God taught u.~ how-to]’ : She Said black churches were initially ~ resistant to takeonthebattleagainstAIDS’ ¯" because some- found immorality within the .disease.. She recalled one Church in : 1981which wrote in its bulletin that be- ¯ cause the dis ease Was mainly among ¯ white men, there was no need to worry. ¯ She also criticized the polidcs involved in not distributing dean needles to drug : addicts, whichshe said is proven to reduce the’ transmission of the virus that ¯ eaUsesAiDS. ButElders saidshehas seen ¯ andtopromotetmj’tY andharmonyamong ¯ ,aturnaround fimong churches andindeed, Tulsa’s ~ay’ahd:lesbian cdmmunity. Af- : some positive things that have come from terall, ~ie niune Of thi.’s paper-is Tulsa ¯ th,e,~sease’... " ’ i .... .-’ Family,News... ; ¯ , .-..Mike ;,E,sq.ck " I ve seen more-real true integration "Eititor"’s note: manypeople wouta ats- ~ and harmony ardund HIV disease, than agj,~e ~bith your.contention that taking 4 . " monthstoptovlddm~nutesfortheHIgRC I’ve Seen.around anything else in-this ¯ . . - - country~" Elders said. "Maybe it’s going is getting the "fUll cooperatiqn of. the " . to take this disease to make us come to our - agent. Regarding you~" 6ther comments, ¯ :[don "tth)nkTFNhasever’suggdstbdthat knees and begin to deal with real prob- . lems and real. people." t: k; DOn’t ¯" ~eju~ had b~n sch~to be~n ~nsidefing N~ YO~ (AP) - ~en it ~mes to sex, ~e " ~ages We~es~y, before ~e settlement w~ ~- military has two different policies - and that violates the Consttufion’s equal protection mandates, according ~to a lawyer for six,~hom,osexuals currently serving in the armed forces. %Ve d like aplay-by-the rules policy for everyone," said Beatrice Dohrn, after arguments Monday before U.S. District Judge Eugene Nickerson: "(Military officials) have admitted that lesbians or gay men are no more likely to violate the rules than anyone else." Dohm, an attorney with the Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, and Matt Coles, lesbian and gay fights project director for the American Civil Liber: ties Union, are representing the anonymous homosexuals in their challenge ofthe military’s "don’t ask, don’t tall" policy. Last year, Nickerson declared the"don’t ask, don’t tell" policy unconstitutional. But on July 1, a threejudge panel of the 2ud U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals sent the case backfor review, saying itdisagreed with the judge’s conclusion that the policy violated the First Amendment’s free.speech protections. "It is plain to u~ that governmental restrictions on speech that would run afoul of theConsdtution ff imposed in ci,~ilianlife can pass constitutional muster in the-military context," the appeals court said. Justice Department attorney Mark. T. Quinlivan defended the current policy, telling Nickerson "the military does not have to take ’the risk" that sexual tension might result if an open policy toward homosexuals is permitted to exist. He said testimony in Congress by Colin Powell and Norman Schwartzkopf- both retired Army generals - as well as others, found that the sexual tension could have "a degrading impact on unit cohesion." Sexual tensionbetween heterosexuals is prevented, Quiulivan said, because troops are kept in segregated housing by gender, creating what he called "a buffer zone." Alluding to recent mihtary scandals involving ¯heterosexual men allegedlyabusing women, Dohrn said, "The government’s obsession on.focusing on sexual tension really belies a rather liberal policy toward Sexual behavior. ’ROmantic relationships are allowed to go on.’" Nickerson, who .asked mmaerous questions of ~e attorneys during Monday’s.50-minute hearing; did not immediately rule on thecase. He asked lawyers for both sides to.provide additional evidence. The New York case is one of several around the nation challenging the policy, which the Clinton administration adopted-in 1993 as a compromise between.the Views of gay-rights advocates and those taffy opposed to homosexuals inthe military. The policy survived its first Supreme Court test last month when the court rejected the appeal of a former Navy officer dismissed for declaring his homosexuality, The justices rejected former Lt. Paul Thomasson’s argument that the policy is unlawful discrimination and violates homosexual servicemembers’ free-speech rights. Gay Man Wins School Harassment Case . EAU CLAIRE, Wis, (AP) ~ ’Because he is gay, Jamie Nabozny was regularly spaton andbeaten up " in school, subjected tea mock rape and kicked in the " belly so many times he needed surgery. : OnWednesday, the 21 :year:old Nabozny accepted a $900,00Oout-of~court settlement, ending the first " federal trial ofaschool districtfornotprot~,cting agay ~: student from harassment. - ¯ Nabozny says the settlement will help gay youths " in the future. "I think this will send a-very clear " message to school districts," lie said Wednesday. "It " is time it’s stopped.". The agreement cameaday after afederal courtjury ¯ found that three school administrators violated-his ¯ rights, although it found the district as a whole was not guilty of discrimination. - The verdict marked the first" time .school officials " have ever .been held liable for anti-gay violence against a student, said Peg Byron, public education director for theLambdaLegal Defense andEducation Fund, a-gay-fights organization that represented ¯ nounced by Byron andTimothy Yanacheck, an attor- ¯ ney who defended the district on behalf of Wausau ¯ Nabozny claimed in,.~is,,lawsuit ’that the abuse ¯ ranged from name-calliilg to being shoved, beaten, ~ spat upon and even having his head pushedin a urinal ¯ and being urinated upon. The harassment started : whenheentered Ashland MiddleSchool in 1988 until : he dropped out of Ashland High School as ajumor in ¯ 1-993. ¯ Nabozny’s lawyers used Grande’s testimony in an ¯ effort to show tlmt school officials weren’t consistent ¯ in punishing students for harassing others. Grande : was suspended for violations such as calling his ¯ girlfriend names, yet he was never punished for ¯ tormenting Nabozny. His parents said they had many ¯ meetings with school officials only to see their son ¯ suffer further abuse: ¯ ¯ The jury ruled against. Ashland Middle School Principal. Mary Podlesny and two. administrators at : Ashland High School,Principal William Davis and ¯¯ Assistant Principal Thomas Blauert: Timothy Yanacheck, an attorney who defended the district on ¯ behalfofWausau Insurance, said they were "hurt and : disappointed" by the ruling.-"Despite the verdict, ¯ they continue to believe that they responded appro- ¯ priately to the plaintiffbased on the limited iuforma- ¯ tion that they hadavailable at thetime,"-Yanacheck ¯ said. - : -Nabozny earned a general equivalency degree in ¯ Minneapolis after leaving the Ashland schools, al- ¯ though he said Wednesday he hopes to still get some ¯ sort of real high school degree so he can hold an ¯ unOfficial graduati"on ceremony, ¯ Homoseximls have paid a high ,p,~ce in abuse, Lambdaattorney PatriCia’Logu~ said. Now the tables ¯ have turned, and it is prejudicethat h~ proved so ¯ costly," she said. ¯ Yanacheck said the ruling sends a me~sage to ¯ school @nistmtors across the country about legal liability where they migh~ not now suspect that they have any. ’.’School administrators are sympathetic to ¯ kids whoar~harassed by Other kids in school. But for ¯ themost part that’smisbehavior that school adminis¯ trato~s cannot 15revent or control," he sai& The case went to trial afte~ theTth U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in Chicago ruled last summer that ¯ Nabozny did-have enough evidence-to take the dis¯ trict to court, overturning a lower court decision. Lambda is a New York City-based civil rights orga- ¯ nization that represents gays, lesbians and people with HIV. : Gay Alumni Fund ¯ Lesbian &Gay Studies ¯ CHAPEL HILL, N.C. & MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - A ¯: $200,000 bequest by,a UNC-Chapel Hill alumnus is : providing the university’s first courses that focus ¯ primarily on gay andlesbian the.mes; . The new.courses were made possible by a bequest ¯ from Charles Williamson, a 1968:graduate of the School of Medicine at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hi!l.:Williamson;..’~ ,-S.an: F_ranci.~~cO physician, died of AIDS ifi. 1.992 H~e ,lef~ UNC.rCH ¯ half.of his estate, with specificin~truc.tions on.h0w it should beus.ed. .... . , - ~ . ¯- , AlSO, ~e University of.Minnesota has.receivbxt a $500,000 .gift .to support ._the development of.gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender~studies: The.endowment will help create .the. Steven 4-. Schochet Endrwed Center for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Studies and Campus Life. Schochet, a retired computer consultant, created the.fund,to.enco~age "a moreih.umane cultur.eY for gay, lesbian; bisexual and transgendered unigersity students, facult3~ and staff, he sai.d. - .- "Back Whdn I wasin cbllege, th~ecampus climate was hostile tO gay-men,"~he said..’q2tis is my way bf ensuring th~itthings contmue.t0-get better for GLBT ¯ " .people 0ncampu~." -~ ’. - " . . in the Pride Center The 743-4297 Pride Store Gifts ¯ Cards ¯ Pride Merchandise JACOX ANIMAI~.CLINIC Family’s Pet Physician ¯. DR. MALCOLM JACOX M-F7:30-7 - . . Sat 9 -1 Now located in midtown! 2732 East 15th Street Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104 tel: 712-2750 fax: 712-2760 BROOKSIDE : JEWELRY ¯ 46491 s6iiP~oria 743:5272.: .-48th& Peoria . . ~, ’9~30.-5pm - .Monday - Friday & . Open Saturdays¯ Now-fill Christmas MCC of Greater Tulsa "Where God Uplifts All People" 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 "ToIsa, Oklahoma .r.... : : Kdly. 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Arkansas and The HIV Resource Consortium [L CoAmRmeesri.idceanl..ti_C.a.l1eaann.idng Service Kerby Baker (~ 1_8)_622:07.001 1104 South Victor uss [[ Tulsa, Oklahorna74104 (918) 592-1800 Fax (918) 592-4323 DETROIT (AP) - A Gay man paralyzed in a gaybashing attack as a security ~d~sto0d by won a $10 million judgment from Pihl~t~s Sec’ffrity and Investigation, the gnard?s employer. Sean McBride, 28, was shot six times and beaten outside his apartment building in Jamlary 1994 by three men who had taunted him for being gay. His lawyer, Carol McNeilage, said the 20-year-old female security guard watched as. McBride was harassed several times during a half-hour period, and eventaughed at some of the insults. A spokesman for Pinkerton’s, Dereek Andrade, said the company would appeal Thurs.day’~s.v,erdict. "Our position has been and remains that tanrerton acted appropriately and could nothave prevented the incident from occurring," he said. McBride testified he first encountered the three men in the apartment building lobby as he returned from work, then passed them twice more when he went out for a snack. Each time, the men swore and shouted slurs at him. When McBride realized he had forgotten part of his snack, he went back through the lobby. The men followed him outside and attacked him. One of the three.attackers was never caught. A second was convicted of assault and firearms charges and sentenced to up to four years in prison. The third, a juvenile at the time, pleaded no contest to assault and firearms charges and will remain in custody until he turns 21 in July. Topeka Anti-Bias Group TOPEKA, Kan. (AP) - Leaders hailed a year of what they called solid accomplishments by a groupformed in the fall of 1995 to combat the picketing of anti-gay crusader Fred W. Phelps. Concerned Citizens for Topeka Friday re-retted as president during its first annual meeting former Secretary of State Jack Brier, who s,ai,,d, the organization has provided the capital citY with thepromise of a better tomorrow" in fighting "bigotry and hatred." Re-elected with Brier was Topeka banker. Frank Sabatiui, a former president of the state Board of Regents, as chairman of the board. Other officers are Roy Menninger, vice chairman; Jane and Otto Schnellbacher, vice presidents; John Rosenberg, secretary; Bill Hemmen, treasurer, and Randy Austin, president-elect. "A common goal brought us togem"’ er," Brier told about 60 people attending the annual meeting at Washburn Law School. "Fighting bigotry and hatred is not a spectator sport... It’s because there are a thousand of us standing up and confronting these problems that we have succeeded..I thimk., we c.an stand a little taller now and say there ~s nothing to be History: The Struggle for Gay and Lesbian Equal Righnts." , Hooker s, controversial study published in 1957 was dtled, The Adjustment of the Male Overt Homosexual." During a three-year study prompted by herfriendship to a gay student, Hooker used grant money from the National Institute of Mental Health to prove a hypothesis that was shocking to prevailing thinking. Hooker’s theory was that there was little statistical difference between the psychological test results of heterosexuals and homosexuals. ¯ Hooker’s research andher leadership of theNIMH ¯ ¯ Task Force on Homosexuality, led to the removal of homosexuality as a psychological ,disorder from the~ : American Psychiatric Association s Diagnostic ana ¯ Statistical Manual III inDecember 1974. In 1992, the : American Psychological Association awarded her its ¯ prestigious Lifetime Achievement award. : Biased dudge Removed ¯ MONTGOMERY, Ala. (AP) - An Etowah County ¯ judge will appeal an appeals court order that he step aside in a lesbian mother’s divorce case. The Ala- ¯ bama Court of Civil Appeals ruled Tuesday that ¯ Circuit Court JudgeRoy Moore should allow another ¯ judge to take over the case. ¯ The woman, Susan Scott Borden, argued Moore’s overt Christianity makes him a poor choice to preside in the case. But Moore’s lawyer, Stewart Roth of the Montgomery-based American Center for Law and Justice, blasted the decision. "I believe this sounds a warning to everymanandwomanwho sits on abench in Alabama to not discuss their religious bdiefs, not to discuss their views and not to stand up in church and share their beliefs because it can come back to haunt you," he said. Moore had twice rejected requests to step aside filed by Mrs. Borden, who is trying to regain custody of her two children from her husband, James Christopher. Borden. Mrs. Borden rimmed Moore s fai wouldkeep himfrompresiding fairly and thathemay be prejudiced against her lawyer, Janice Hart of W~rior, because of her prior American Civil Liberties Union work. Ms. Hart said she does not expect the case will be reassigned to a judge more amenable to her client’s views, but said she does expect they will ¯ be fair. ¯ In a January ruling that gave temporary custody to ¯ ¯ the childrens’ father, Moore said he "strongly feels that the minor children will be detrimentally affected ¯ by the present lifestyle of (Mrs. Borden) who has ¯ engaged in a homosexual relationship during her ¯ marriage forbidden both by the laws of the state of ¯ Alabama and the laws of nature." :: -Gay Student 6roup . Wed. Service 6:30 pm-,..Wed. 7:30 pm Choir Practice. .... Thurs: 7:30 pm €odePendency Support Group [ To do justice;. ,love mercy.& to walk humbly ,with our.God.,. Micah 6"8::1 Thegroup,whichhasenlisted l:007membersin, : May Lose Funding firstyear andplmis furtherefforts;has wonreversai oI ¯ apolicepoliey ofnotarresdngPhelpsandhis bandof : MADISON, ,Wis. (AP~ - Three students .who o_bpicketers;- gotten the City. Council and Shawnee -~ jected~to the use of fee money to fund groups tot County BoardofCommissioners to adopt ordinances :- homosexuals and environmentalists hav~ wgn ~fo~ limiting picketing, and provided legal assistance to : eral court ruling in their favor. U_.S. Di,s,m,.,,ct.c.o ,, people who had trouble with Phelps. , JudgeJohnShabazruledinfavorof three. Christian Pheklap.sAifsteprar|smtonrinogfuWnseusctbceosrosfuBlalypftoisrtgCovheurrnchoriinn :: ssttuuddeennttsfweehsotsoufeudntdhegurouuivpesrtshiteyyfofirnudsionbgjemcatinodnaatbolrey. Tope ~ ¯ -.... . The oupsindud~d Lr~r Greens andthe Lesbian, 1990, he began Dcketing businelsasre-se; cshiu~rchtehsataantd-..".G.a.y garnd B~. sexual Campus .Center. U~. s"mg f.e: es to¯ xnmwauats homes, msptaymg ,,.g. ~-~...... : ~,,hola;~. or,~,,n~ whosemainobiecfive~s toaavance -o~’i~l~.~iogical goals vio’lates students~ con~ ~fitufionalfightsdespite.the’."viewpointneutral!’way inwhichfees aredistributedtO studentgroups, Shabaz said. imon¢xum,tX.: :.,: ate.~-ofStudents.RogerHoward,Buttlaejuage:s....." " ’-: ResearcherDies .:., ....: decision..could reduce the number and.diVersity’of-- .... ......- ..... ¯ : groups on campus,.Howard said.~ : .. SANTA.MONICA,- Calif,-(AP) - Evelyn.Gentry .:-_ Pete Anderson~ the attorney: who-representext me Hseoxoukaelirt,yaaUndCfLoAundpsiytcwhaoslong0its-at mwenh~otLas!~tu.ddii.esd0rh;odmero~-. ::~ tfmacitvs.eUrsWityB,soaaidrdthoefRruelginegntws_t’arsebs.taas.eend:to.nM..auc,naa,c_oe,n.tt,~,esrteedb,e~e¯ died;affiendsaidThursday.Shewas~v-tiooKerm ¯ ~aid he had.not had-a chance to:rewew:51aaoaz,s. . MondayatherSantaM0ni’cahomeofnaturalcauses, :’ decisionortalktotheuuiversity~slawyers~Hedidn~t said documentary filmmaker David Ha~,g,l,_~d, w.~ : know whether the universitywould appeal. in 1993 produced the Oscar-nominated-t_;nang~ g ¯ Nobel Winner:AIDS Vaccine in 10.Years STOCKHOLM, Sweden (Ap) - A ’winher of this year’s Nobel Prize in medicine predicted Saturday that within 10 years there will be a vaccine sharply slowing the outbreak of full-blown AIDS in in: fected people. Rolf M. Zinkernagelalso said the vaccine .he envisioned would vastly reduce chances that an HIV-infeeted person would transfer the virus to other people’. But 7inkemagel said it would not completely eliminate chances of contracting ¯ tional Institute of Dental Research. : "I like to think of it as a scientific ¯ kibbutz, a place where science is appreci- : ,ated and nurtured for its own rewards," : said Dr. Edmund C. Tramont, a longtime.. ¯¯ friend of Gallo who asked the scientist about starting a new laboratory in Balti- "- more: ¯ The institute,which will be part of the : i UniversityofMaryland.system, will fo- :~ .ens most of its work on AIDS research. But Gallo said he was:interested in other : viruses as well, including minor, leuke- ¯ mia, hepatitis.and papilloma virtmes. : If AIDS ~reeedes a~ a human threat, Jeffrey A; : Beal,-MDthe infection. -~ . - .~ . : Galld: said ;.the institti,.te: would shift its ’ Zinkemagel, a SWiss researcher, spoke : empha~!s."Ithinkacritlealmassofpeople at a news conference with co=winner.Pc- ¯ working on virology is nice to have," ter C. Doherty~.an Australian wh0.is a :~ Gallosaid. ~’YOuwantt0bringabunchof professorinthe Department o,f Immmiol- : people t~ge~er Who do basic’re~arch ogy at the St; Jude’sChildren s Research : witl~ elinlcal ~tpl~fiCafions;~,ith~ all kinds HospitalinMemphis,Tenn:Thetwoman ¯ "bfdiseaseSinnnnd:" : ~ .... were awarded, the prize in :Octobe~ -for ."~ _I-Iis~valsignal~thet~.~ngofnew their studies into.the body’s immune sys~ i";riva!ry’wi~2°hm Hop~’Medieal lnstite~,~ inthe 19"10s..’~. ~. ~::: .... o.~ ’, ,~ . "’iuti0ns;whiehisentrenchedas’aninferna- -. ,HiVwill.notbea~virus~tlmtwe-ean :-t~dnail~;ader’inAIDS~r~sear~hTTheimtieliminate_ ~p!e.tely from,an,. :infected :-.~tdte is still~gfumi~h~lwi~,l,M) equipperson," -Zink~a;said~" ::.,-W* wil! : :.~t;:Whi~.:~ exI~..ts:_W~tia~- nOt~be ablereadily toprevent the inftmtion : m~tei2.SQ. ’,~’m~loyee;S! Wi~::sev~ral completdy, and wewill not-be ~able: to .:years~ !I:,I77,9~..., i. i .". .; ii.?, " ~control the vtrus completely. He sal vaccine would only greatly delay the Outbreak of the AIDS, which ravages the .b~,~y’s natural ability to ward offdisease. ~ ~’ ’I would think.that within the next 10 years, wewill have sdmething reasonable in :termsof thistype: of:vaccine,"~hesaid. --At presenL~ the incubation period of : ~A~IDS.,-can._ b~~ l~0:: ye~s ::or.longer, 7:~nkemagel said.thatany vaccine wbuld keep the viral infection in:check~s0 that full[blown AtDSwouldtake between 20 tO4Oyearsto develop., ~ "’ ’:- Dohetty saidanew cl’affsof.._d~zg,.S called. prOtease inhibitors,now :l~ng used to manage AIDS in wealthy Western countries, are tooexpensivefor vietimsin poor and developing nations.He said that ’qt’s very hard to know" how successful the AIDS vaccine research will be. "But, of course, a vaeca’ ne is the only possibility forcontrollingA~IDS worldwide,"Doherty Gallo AIDS Research Center BALTIMORE (AP) - Months behind schedule and eagerly anticipated, a premiere research center rtm by renowned AIDS researcherDoctorRobertGallo.was opened in late November in Baltimore. The Institute of Human Virology Was dedicated with.two days of. lectures featuring a lineup of Sci~fitific luminaries, with four Nobe!laureates: Dr. David Baltimore, Dr. Manfred Eigen, Sir Aaron King and Dr. Hamilton O. Smith. The opening follows twoyears of courtship by state offieials to lure theprestigious Gallo, a co-discoverer of.the AIDS virus, to Baltimore from the federal National CancerInstitutein Bethesda, whereheworked for 30 years. Gov. Parris Glendening and Mayor Kurt Schmoke have promised $12 million over the next three years to launch the center. Gallowill be joined at theinsdmte by other prominent scientists ~dubbecL’Mae Dream-Team of AIDS research" :by Glendening. They are epidemio!ogist William Blattuer, formerly with .the National Cancer Imtimte, clinicianRobert Redfield,who headed the cancerresearch program atWaiter ReedArmy Institute of Research and Dr. Joseph L,Bryant; who headed the animal program at-the Nai ..OU Do..c.s..,Get " i ~:,Mil, fOr-AIDSCare i .OKLAHOMA CITY (AP.) ~- A group of . :dO~tors at the Universfty of Okiahbma :, ~ Health SciencesCenterh~been,awarded :.. a $1.5 million gr..~t .to provide services - !.::.;forindigent;pedpie with~HIVand ~AIDS. ¯...;t.,~:<~Dr:, Ronald A., Greenfield,: professor : :a9.d’chief ofthe’center’:s.€otlegeofMedi- , e~ne,.was awarded.the’three,year grant to :o implement the program.-He. Said the goal : ~ in:tke:first yearis to provide comprehen- ............. care services~to a ¯ mlmmum of 200 indigent, and. lowAn- :~ come people living withHIV and AIDS. : :- ,"Some ofthese patients workbutdo not ¯ -earn enough to afford health insurance. ~ -This. grant .will help cover the costs, of ~. providing medical .care to people who : "desperately need it," he said Friday, The : , proposed program seeks.to help people in ¯ the Oklahoma City at.ca and surrounding : .-counties. 12-06-96 i Doc Says HIVDrugs :Needed for Kids ¯" MILWAUKEE (AP)-Aph;sician using : experimentalAIDS drugs onchildren says. ¯ the government should make pharmaceu- ~ tical companies market products for pa- ¯ tients of all ages, not justadults who can pay more for them. Two Milwaukee-area :. children about 8 years old began receiv- ¯ ing protease inhibitors amonth ago with , the help Of pediatric AIDS physician Pc- ¯ ter Havens: A third child traveled to the National Institutes of Health (NIH)’ in Bethesda, Md., the only placein the coun- ¯ try studying such drugs for children~ ¯ Protease inhibitors are a new class of : AIDS drugs. Pharmacelitieal companies ;. have obtained-licenses: to.use them only ’. for adults. ’q3rug companie~ need to work :. to develop .drugs for .use .in-children as : wellas adults,"-~Havens said. ,I~ey don’t ¯ because there’s nomoney jnit." Havens : -said he- contacted.NIH -researchers. and : .then ~prescribed treatment, for the two ¯ -Milwaukee-area .boys with indinavir, ~- brandname Crixivan. ~ ¯ "By calling the people Who.have been : doing these (clinical) trials, wehave been -.--Ted. Campbel!::;:LCSW. Sp..eeio!.ized in.?H~. 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At first, the agency thought it would : have only .enough money to cover the ¯ estimated $10,000 anmlal costs for "/5 ¯ people. But additional federal money ini creased that to 132 people. -. The department received 89 apphca- : lions frompeoplewhodon’treeeiveMed- ¯ icaidassistance don’thaveprivateinsur- ¯ ance, earn less-than $14~19 a year and : had a physician’s referral. -Kentu.cky A!DS i Department spokeswoman Nanci ~atul€ Gonder said officials today would go :. Vaccine T a i through the formality of a lottery - draw.- I.VXINGTON~Ky.(AP)’K n kyp - : ing.nfimbers’andassigningth.emtoea.cla tients will particil~ate in testing, of a new : applicant - because agency rm~ reqmre Vaccine thdt mightkeeppegp_le whohav.e . it. .The state came up with the idea for HW from developing AIDS. Abouto~J ~ lottery when it f’LrSt thOUght therewasn t patients ate being recruited by doC_t.o~s.to : .enough money to. cover all appficants. takepart in tes(~ng o.f th_e,v~.~cc’,mo,,at ~he :’ Health.officialssaidthey feltit Was.the Uni¢ersi~ of Kentucky M.e~.~,~1.~r~. falrestwaytoparce!0utthefunds. Butthe They ~wifi b¢~ ~ai-t qf a nati~nwi.d~.^s,~ y i lottery idea was criticized by many, ininvoicing 3,000..~en..tsata~.t~.ut~s,x.w~,’i ._ cludingDavidPeters,directorof~e,,.,AIDS ~ Half will ~v,e .,the v,accme,. W~cn . .~j,~ of theOzarks~’in SpringfiekL~ . ~willl~ agailablein Kentueky,0nly atUK, ~:~ ~- ’I,mthrilledw~menot~going to do this ~ andhalf will get an~utd,ty bgo~" ~t.ey. but . lottery, It wouldhave beena poor way to ~ novadcifie.Dr.RidmrdGre~nberg~~d~r.ec- ~ vrovidehealthcare,"Peterssaid.’L-’hoostot of the Kentucky AIDS Consortium, ~ ~ng people basedon a lotte~ really isn’t -saidTuesday thathe .and0ther~s,ear.fihers ¯. looking.at, those_ who ha,~e- the critical ~:were"franghfwithSkepticism.ye.tlaopp.- ~ needfirst.... . ’ ful that the Vaccinemightwork, atieastin ¯ , Gonder. said..the appficants can start "~ alimited way: : ~" " " ’ ¯ : receivin~ the ~ov,emment~paid-medica- ¯ ...Thecousortiumismadeupof.do~..t.orsat i ~o--~onM~ondayTTheirphysi~’ianwill write ,UK and the University of, I~oms,ville, as.. thepreseriptio~and the p.h"m-ma.cist will , v~ell ,as physicians fromother, parts: ot ! sendthebillditectly to the Health Depart- Kentucky,. Greenberg i,s an associa..te P.~ . ment; Ther~g43 openings-w.ill.be :-.fessor of-internal medicine at the.oh . filledonafirst-come, firS.t£set~,ebasxstor ,medical school. ’‘i’ don’t :Want anybody ! as longas the moneylasts. ..... ,.goingawaythinkingit’sg6ing,towork,": . : Sinee.this is the first time the state has Oreenbergsaidatonepointduringameet- offered financial assistance for protease ing withreporters;atthe_UKeeuter.’Buthe ¯ inhibitors,; it’~S not -dear, whether the later added, ~,‘ifit ,works, it will prevent : $10,000~ annual:imit will,be enough t~ AIDS in H1V ,patients. They would not ¯ cover the costs. ’We arelooking to see if ’develop AIDS:~ ’ ~- " thisisanappropriateeapforthe~program. It’s the first such clinical study everin i Thecapcouldberaisedandwearetalldng Kentucky, where more than 2,100 AIDS to phai-maeeuti,ca~l,~ companies about getcases have beenreported sin~ce reco~ tin~ discounts,’ Gondersaid. keeping began in 1982. Greenberg sat ~eters said he would prefer a medi.cal the vaccine willnot Cure HIV-thehuman review board to determine.who gets me immunodeficiencyvirusthatcausesAIDS, new medication and would like to :see He said the most he could hope for at the income limits raised for individuals. He end of the three-year study would be that also said the state needs to spend more the health of HIV patients getting the money on AIDS treatment. He said the vaccine would not have deteriorated, protease inhibitors, while not a cure-all, So far the vaccine has been tested on are welcome news for people withHIV or small numbers of people, and those stud- AIDS. ’‘it really is lifesaving treatment. ies have indicated some increase in the We can look at it more as a manageable body’s immune response to the virus. It critical illness than a death sentence," ~as developedin 1987 by Dr. Jonas Salk. Peters said. "it is an uninfecting viral materi~; ~t~at hopefully i.. will boost immunity. :.i.ne. ~Man Sues Over material, he said, is "an absolutely killed form of the (HIV) virus." Status Disclosure Patients eligible for the study must be generally healthy, with no "AIDSMiDLAND, Texas(AP)-Amanstricken def’mining illnesses" except for Kaposi’s with the virus that causes AIDS is suing sarcoma, which is a cancer tumor that " Memorial Hospital and Medical Center develops among people with HIV. ¯ for alledgedly revealing his condition. FreddieLeeHawkinsJr. alsohas filedsuit Missouri Has $ for : against diandCounV.ospi al s=ct and Angola Shaw, a nurse at the hospital. HIV/AIDS Drugs ¯ .aw suing for over ,000 in ¯ punitive and actual damages. JEFFERSON CITY, Mo. (AP) - The ¯ After testing positive for H_IV on May Missouri Department of Health says it " 13, he coutends in his lawsult that friends willbeabletoprovidepotentiallifesaving ¯ and relatives of Ms. Shaw began calling, new AIDS treatmentforallofthosesigned : expressing condolences because he was up to get the g0vernment-paid mediea- : "dying of AIDS." tion. The department will have $1.3 rail- Hawkins accuses Ms. Shaw of rev.eal~ lion in state and federal funds to pay for i ing his conditio~ Whenword got out that the new drugs, known as protease inhibi- hehadthedisease, Hawkins claims helost tots, which are used in combination with i manyfriendsandwas unabletofindwork. older medication. ¯ Hospital officials declined to comment ’’We’re very pleased that all who ap- ¯ on the matter. But a few months later, President Clinton signed the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) giving states the ~iuthority not to recognize same-sex marriages that are performed legally in other states. Romer has indicated he likely would sign a bill that was in line with the federal legislation, and his spokesman, Jim Carpenter, said Wednesday that the governor still felt that way. Mississi ppi JACKSON, Miss. (AP) - People who want to outlaw same-sex marriages in Mississippi are monitoring a court ruling in Hawaii. Gov. Kirk Fordice has signed an executive order banning same-sex marriages, but family activists say the orderfrom this summer cannot withstand a legal challenge. State Sen. Dean Kirby, R-Pearl, plans to push abill in the state Legislature to outlaw the marriages. "I just can’t believe the state should recognize same-sex marriages," Kirby said. Massachusetts BOSTON (AP) - Gov. William F. Weld said he would veto any Massachusetts proposal to ban gay marriages. Weld, however, said that if Hawaii’s decision to grant the licenses is upheld by its own Supreme Court, Massachusetts would have no choice but to offer gay couples married in Hawaii the same legal rights and obligations it extends to straight couples. Wisconsin MADISON,-Wis. (AP) - State Rep. Tammy Baldwin, D-Madison, said Wednesday that she will introduce a bill ¯ to recognize same-sex.marriages in Wis- : consxn. "This is a simple matter of fair- ¯ ness, justice and equal rights," Baldwin said. Sen. ScottFitzgerald, R-Juneau, said ¯ he will propose a constitutional amend- " ment declm-ing marriage in Wisconsin ¯ be the union of one man and one woman. Alabama ¯ MONTGOMERY,Ala. (AP) - State Sen. Bill Armistead, R-Columbiana, said Wednesday he has a "marriage protection" bill ready for consideration when ¯ the Legislature convenes Feb. 4. It would make Alabama the 17th state to ban same- " sex marriages. Gov. Fob James signed an executive order saying gay marriages are notrecognized as validin the states. When ¯ James signed the executive order in Au- : gust, he said same-sex marriages violate ¯ public policy and God’s law. .. Nebraska ¯ OMAHA,Neb. (AP)-Acourtdecisionin Hawaii allowing same-sex marriages may ¯ lead to legal ramifications for Nebraska, ¯ according to the state attorney general. ¯ Nebraska has no legislation that recog- : nizes or refuses to recognize gay mar- " riages performed in other states. "We still ¯ need action from the State Legislature," ¯ said Stenberg, who in March pushed un- ¯ successfullyforalaw topreventsame-sex ¯ couples married in other states from hav- ¯ ing their marriages recognized there.. ¯ Montana HELENA (AP) -A Republican legislator says the Hawaii court decision under- . scores the need for alaw prohibiting them ¯ in Montana. Rep. Bill Boharski, R- ¯ Kalispell has drafted a bill for the next ¯ Legislature to ban gay marriage, saying ¯ the Hawaii decision proves "states will ¯ recognize homosexual marriage." Street-Seeking Missile. ~ HITSUBISHI HOTORS Built For Liv ng.’" "97 3000GT $24, 930 you’re positive "/" he’s negative he’s positive ,you’re negative an 8 week program for men (individuals + couples) on relationshipissues: dating, sex, commitment + more hope, hiv outreach prevention education, call 712-1600 for info. Saint Aidan’s 4045 No. Cincinnati, 425-7882 The Episcopal Church welcomes You Winter Gayla ’97 Ft. Lauderdale, Florida February 14 - 17 Beach Party with DJ Winter Pride Parade Festival Boat Party on the Jungle Queen and SW Airlines nowflies there! Aspen Gay Ski Week Fine Skiing & Festive Parties January 25 - February 1 IGTA member Call 341.6866 International Toursformoreinformation. featuring Mick Moloney, Jimmy Keane and Zan McLeod. Friday, January 17 8 p.m. John H. Williams Theatre Tulsa Performing Arts Center Ce/tic Music at its finest! Tickets $12 Call 596-7111 SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 2627b East 1 lth 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodis0 Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Bisexuai/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 MONDAYS TUESDAYS H[V Testing Clinic HIV+ Support Group ¯ Free & anonymous testing : HIV Resource Consortium : mingfingerstickmethod. : l:30pm ¯ No appointment required. ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. 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Prayer & Bible Study 7:30pm 2627-B East llth -Call 583-7815 for info. ¯ Family Of Faith MCC : Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm ¯ Choir Practice 7:30 pm : 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. TNAAPP Tulsa Native American : AIDS Prevention Project ¯ Support group for Gay & Bi Native ." American Men, 6 pm .. at Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd : 582-7225 or ¯ 584-4983 THURSDAYS ¯ Co-Dependency ¯ Support Group : 7:30, Family of Faith MCC ¯ 5451-ES. Mingo,622-1441 : HOPE : I-HV Outreach, ¯ Prevention, Education ¯ Anonymous HIV Testing ¯ Walkin testing: 7- 8:30 pm ¯ Results hours: 7 - 9 pm ¯ Info: 742-2927 ¯ Tulsa Family ChoraIe ¯ Weekly practice, 9:30 pm ¯ Lola’s 2630 E. 15th ¯ PFLAG Family AIDS ¯ Support Group ¯ 1st & 3rd Thursdays ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 ¯ Alternatives : Weekly social events for ¯ LGBT men & women, 7 pm ¯ Info: 646-5503 ¯ ¯ SubStance Abuse Support Group ¯ for persons with HIV/AIDS " ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G ¯ 3-4:30 pm ¯ ¯ Info: 749-4194 FRIDAYS ¯ Safe Haven : Young Adults Social Group ¯ 8pro, 1st Fri. of each too. ¯ Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th : SATURDAYS : Mixed Volleyball for ¯ Fun & Competition ¯ Helmerich Park, 2 pm 71st & Riverside : [nfo: 587-6557 ¯ St. Jerome’s Church : Mass, 6 pro, Garden Chapel ¯" 3841 S. Peoria Info: Father Rick, 742-6227 : Narcotics Anonymous ¯ Meets weekly at 11 pm ¯ Confidential support for ¯ recovering addicts. ¯ Community .of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 NAMES Project ." AIDS Memorial Quilt ." Sewing Bees, 3rd Sat~ of ¯ each month: 748-3111 Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Staff and Board of Directors Wishes Everyone A Happy Hanukkah Merry Christmas and Enjoys and Celebrates Kwanzaa & Yule! May your Holidays be Filled with Joy & Love! This ad is made possible by the generosity of a supporter ofTulsa Family News and by TFN. is delighted to be able to make the space on this page available to theseHIV/A]I)S related chaffties through the generosity of a supporter who prefers to remain anonymous. This space also was offered to the HIV Resource Consorlium via their attorney per their request. Unfortunately, the HIVRC did not respond by press time. Other worthy groups doing HIV/AIDS related workincludeTheNAMES PROJECT, AIDS Walk, St. Joseph’s Home, The Ryan White 3B Clinic, Indian Health Care, FUSO - Friends in Unity Social Organization and HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education. The need is great, the means are ~w -please help as you can. While dollars are ways needed, the gift ofyour time is nolittle thing. Inc. Thank you - Shanti friends & volunteers for another year of love and caring! Mardi Gras Returns to Tulsa Early March ’97- Be There! 918-749-7898 This ad is madepossible by the generosity of a supporter of Tulsa Family News and by TFN. --’Storehouse -- Of Shanti HIV infected or affected? Need someone to talk to? Call 438-AIDS (2437) or 1-800-284-AIDS (2437) Interfaith AIDS Ministries This ad is made possible by the generosity of a supporter ofTulsa Family News and by TFN TULSA AID= r&LJ’J€ ~ I r-his confidential workshop is an intensive weekend experience designed to assist individuals who have been affected by HIV/ AIDS to come to terms with the impact the virus has had on their lives. It is free and open to individuals living with HIV/AIDS, family, loved ones, friends, care-givers, and professionals. The next Tulsa AIDS Mastery Workshop is scheduled for May 16-18. For info., call Red Rock at 584-2325. This ad is made possible by the generosity of a supporter ofTulsa Family News and by TFN. READ ALL ABOUT IT ¯ people along the way, These travels took place in 1992-94, leading up to the Stone- Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library . wall 25 observance. In their previous book, "Are you ¯ Oneinteresting spot is Ovett, Missis- Two...Together? A Gay and sippi, where, in 1994, a les- Lesbian Travel Guide to Europe," authors Gelder and Brandt created a fun, frank andpractical manual aboutthe realities of traveling together as alesbian couple. Similarly, their current book provides a Even a popular bhieaandlicnoeuspblye tmryaindge tonaotpioennaal ~ilm, such as lesbian retreat and conference "Basic T , ,, center, much to theshock of ln$~inef, some of the residents. The loreleased ha 1992 cal county deputy sheriff is and.featuring quoted as being oppose.d,,, to the center because ...it s a wonderful panorama of the eternally .known. fact that ~1 y_o~ v__i_ojoys and challenges of_lesbian . X 1. lent cnme comes zrom nomo- ~iffily life from coast .to ~t.. insane L~esman ~sexuals ...... The authors percezve ~.mat, ~ ;characters, co,pare this with the ir°nicallx’sinceabout~eu-me ~:~,],~G seems ° authors experiences~ atthe ~,of President Clinton stirst dection’~ being ~a lesbian has . ..,.~...~...~ . ~ . a ., ~ DinaliShoreGoldT6~ent suddeul~ becomef.as.hlpnab.l.e ..... !lihe~ a Lesbian party circuit i~i PalmSpnngs, ¢.o a.,,~ ,~ --.California. ’ Aff¢ctiohafely to some in the straight Worm.. 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"¯ inC"hlleaeckGf-oarrttsh~i4seaxntd.Doot.hoer.ruuesonslnmar cisco, to the Mlcmgan womyu ~ Festival, tothe Vidor, Texas city hall. we ~ subjects at youlocalbranchlibrary or call are taken on a diverse journey .through the Readers Services department at the lesbian America, meeting a. variety of ." Central Library at 596-7966. FilingforBankruptcyProtection " the property, ifyouwishtoretainahouse, car, or other secured property but are Many people react to debt problems by i behind in payments, Ch. 13 is suggested. wanting to file forbankrupcfy. However, many persons with HIV/AIDS are al- : Note, however, that it is necessary that ready "judgment-prooF’-- that is, the ". youhavesuffieientincomeforpayments. debtor does not have enough assets to ¯ You can keep certain property e,ven ief: snaetcisefsysatrhiley cnlraoimvi.deBathnekmrupwtciythwriel"gl re.nt1o-t :"i y(g_2ooo)_du~.sf4i;.l,eu_(f~4~)oretbqh~mewtayrni~guhintPttaoC~rr(e~;c10e3iv~oe~ncsn~:~.ao[m.~i tauBtalynkgrruepattceyr pm.rovto~tavoens,f~~om~mng_ ~~eedeist_,oc~ros_n.- , benefits fromSoc¯ial ~ecurity,u, nemp~Ytssiderable pape~vork, and often one or : ment compensaUon, verterans benen~, ~ public assistance, and pensions - regard- m~omre cpeurlsto.~~.gap~opoe~~~.ate~toarpt~~- :. less of the amount. . 8an~uptcy cannot w!pe out ~ow~ is a client with a large number ot mssets and~or jo~ wages taar womu~ ~u - ¯ forchndsupport, alimouy, andsometaxes ~ are not affected. Also, if you fail to list a ~~ jecItftyooguardni~shdmeetnhta.t hank~pt%~ p¯ your ¯¯ d~eifbltinnoytobuerhdaisnclha~arpgtecdy.pLetiotio~~~thoartw~.mebe,nt b toption, yo. .should bo owingly gave false ro.tio t~mine severRl issues, l~or exemp~e,-~m " Y out what kinds of baula’aptcy are avail- ¯ cannotbedischarged-Sthdent.loa~s. °sWthede able, and what are the advantages and ~ toaschoolorgovernmentt~oayamessm disadvantages ofeachofkind?Whatprop~ erty will be exempt from bankruptcy’: Which debts will notbe affectedby filing bankruptcy. ’ _ In all likelihood, you will choose between Ch. 7 and Ch. 13. C°n. ? or "s~aight "baukruptcy" should be considered when there are a large number of unsecured debts that are fully dischargeable and you are notbehindonany secured debts like a house or car unless you wish to surrender loan first became due at least sev.ep y.e~r,s before fding for bankrupcty or untess me : court derides that payment would be an ¯ "undue hardship." i These are only some of the issues that you will have to look at when considering i ~vhether to t’de bankruptcy. If you have : HIV or have been diagnosed with AIDS, ¯ and you satisfy an income requirement, ~ call theAIDS Legal Resource Project toll ~ free at (405) 521-1302. -~vhere pets¯ are treated like pe.ople * Bakery Treats * Bed & Breakfast (boarding) * Salon * Pet supplies: Science Diet, IAMS, Nutro Dog Food #ece#se ye# le e pe#r pet.... THE DO-G HOUSE 33.11 S. 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Meadowsweet acts as an antiseptic see Fit, page. 14 Ijust got backfrom Borders Books and Music,andletmetell you,itis awondrous place. A book, music, and video lover’s delight. And on top of that, for the first time in TFN’s history with booksdlers, were were wdcome to place papers there from the first time we spoke with them. In almost all other media venues, we have had trouble with local management, having to contact corporate headquarters,who then said , I just got "Of course you’re wel- Borders ¯¯ ! bigger, better pieces in "Return of the " Jedi"in March. " ¯ However, at this year’s Defcon (the " ¯ Tulsa science-fiction/fantasy convention), ¯ : I had the chance to ask Star Wars author, : ¯ Kevin Anderson and Lucasfilm spokes- " ." person, SteveSansweet, aboutthe chances ¯ ¯ of seeing gay characters in the new films ¯ TherespousefromAnderson: "NO! There " won’t be any gay charac- ¯ lmck from ters in the Star Wars urn- " Boobs& verse because Lucas " doesn’twantany sexuality ¯ in the series." ¯ Excuse me? I pointed out that in "Return" Leia " ran about kissing almost " everyonebutthe Wookiee, ¯ and in the novels, she and Han Solo are married and have children! Certainly ¯ that didn’thappen without : some kind of sex! The response was a muffled re- " ply, and I explained that " the question was more one ¯ of relationships that just a " simple matter of sexuality. : I, at the risk of having my idea plagiarized, sug- ¯ gested my own story to AndersOn: ThatHancomes " out of the closet, divorces _" Leia, who really loved ¯ Chewbacca anyway, professes his love ¯ ¯ for the still single (and not dating anyone : ¯ ofanysex/species)LukeSkywalker.They " decide to run amok in the galaxy fighting prejudice everywhere, with C3PO and " R2D2 starting "Droids for Gay Rights" " groups allover thegalaxy. ContactGeorge ¯ Lucas at Lucasfilm, POB 2009, San ¯ Rafael, CA 94912-2009, Phone: (415) ¯ 662-1700, to register .your thoughts. ¯ May the Force be with you! In the meantime, go see MARS ATTACKS!, a great new camp space film -" fromTim Burton. Atleast he hires openly " gay production designers, as detailed in ¯ the Advocate article onWynn Thomas in ¯ the magazine’s current issue (# 723). ." Tulsa World regularly does so where ap- ". propriate. And unlike The World, which ". restricts letters to 200words, TFNran the ¯ letters criticalofour coverage essentially : withoutany editingfor length. Becauseo " those letters’ length, TFN responded at : the relevant points rather than at the end, ¯ TFN is happy to help make ourreaders aware of the inadequacies ofHIV/AIDS commonjournalisticpractice to respond editorially. Likelyyou’ve noticed thatThe come!", andthenhadto deal with the hassles of local management and an unfriendly attitude. Infaet,one bookstore still is refusing us a spot in their store, though they allow almost all the other local papers. ~<-Theresa Lynch, General Manager, and the staff at Bordershavebeenmostgracious and wdeoming, and it was interesting to note thatmany ofthe store’s first day customers were members of the Tulsa Gay community. In fact, it looked likewew~eatapartyrather than a bookstore, as many folks as we saw who we knew. Borders has a nondiscrimination clause on Music, & let me tell you, it is a wondrous place. A book, music, & video lover’s delight. Theresa Lynch... and tire staff at Borders ]rave been most gracious & welcoming, & it was interesting to note that many d tLe store’s day customers were members d the Tulsa Gay community. In fact, it looked like we were at a party rather than a bookstore... their employment applications that indudes sexual orientation as well. Butdon’t bother applying, I’mfirst on the list! TFN welcomes Borders and encourages all of our readers to. patronize their business. Their sections on gay studies and fiction arewell stockedandwell rounded. Tell’em we sent If you are avoiding your dysfunctional ~anily this year, Icanrecommendacouple of videos to watch withfriends and family of choosing. Smart Saves His Family was an excellent portrayal of such madness as those of us from this background deal with. It is less acomedy andmore adrama with eomedic moments. The studio marketed it as a eomedy, whichparts of it are but the film flopped largely due to the expectation that it would be a laugh a minute. I came away from this film with a soft spot in my heart for Smart Smalley, and the "Smart Within" myself, as well as an insight that we are all struggling on our own paths, doing the best we can with what we’ve got. And a few laughs. "Home For The Holidays", Jodie Fospaean to dysfunctional holidays, was tan%ther enjoyable film to hole up .with; in much the same vain, with a lovely moral to boot. I do think Robert Downey, Junior was annoying, however. Get gay men to play gay men. by Jep~n-,Bierre Legrandbouche TFN Food Critic It’s hohday time! Sugarplum.~ andfrnitcakes and egg hog and office parties and big family dinners and all sorts of low calorie opportunities abound! And, of course, even though they aren’t prepared this way the rest of the year, all of the recipes must be made with lots of real butter and ofhcavy cream. December is a perfect time to turn to the rather healthier and lighter foods of Asia. Counterbalancing all those rich, Western European artery doggers, Oriental recipes are traditionally lightonthemeat,heavy on the vegetables, have plenty of variety, and overfiow with great flavors. Now, toomuchoily stir-fry can defeat the purpose, so therestauranthas to bechosen carefully for the skill andartistry ofthechef. And, Tulsa is blessed to have a particularly f’mechefatKim Long, a Vietnamese and Chinese restaurant in far southeast Tulsa, which is probably the best in town. Located in a shopping center which includes the ." fluence in the sauces and presentation. ¯ The French were, formany years prior to ¯ American involvement, colonial over- " lords, and brought French culture to the ¯ East.Agood example ofthe Frenchinflu- : ence is the ever popular Vietnamese iced : coffee, a strong, distinctive roast brewed ¯ with an individual drip container, and -" served with .weetened condensed milk 8146 So. Memorial I--IouI~’- 11 - 9 Sun. -Thurs. tfl 10, Fri. and Sat. Cu~slne: C]alnese, Vietnamese Dr~l ~1but Pde~: modest Pa~ent: major credit mrds smo~n~ & non-smo~ln~ s~t~ons Aleohoh Rat~: A llst infamous Ocean Club at 81st and Memohal, Kim Long is a huge restaurant which took over the location of the former southside attempt of Tulsa’s historic Louisiane. Thedecorhas notbeenchanged much, so there is a open and casual ambiance to the multi-tiered and multi-roomed establishment, yet it still maintains a nice restaurant feel. None of those little lanterns hang around, and the place is quiet, even on busy nights. All of the standard Chinese-American foods are offered, and done well. But, so many traditional Chinese regional dishes, .especially fromHnnanandSzechuanpmv- ~nces, appear on the large menu, that it would take a diner months to sample every dish. Prices for the Chinese foods are qnitereasonablefor a restaurant ofthis quality, and only slightly more than one would expect to pay in a Chinese. fastfood type place. Most of the standard chicken, beef, and pork dishes hover around the $7 mark, and-seafood dishes are $9 or $10: These names will all be familar--cashew chicken, kung pao beef, shredded pork with garlic sance, shrimp with lobster sauce. We highly recommend that the more ¯ adventurous diner order from the list Of Chinese specialties. Prices areabithigher, : ranging from $8.55 to $12.95, but the over ice. ThedassicBdChhGi6, $5.95, is a bowl of vermicelli noodles topped with chopped eggrolls, grilled beef, pork, and chicken,andmounds oflettuce, cucumbers, and bean sprouts, all topped with chopped peanuts. A small bowl of fish sauce accompanies the dish as a condiment, andtheknowing epicure will dump the sauce into thebowl andmix all of the contents around with the chopsticks. Pho Diic BiSt is a delicious Hanoi style soup with slices of rare steak, beeftendon, and meatballs. Thesmall bowl, $4.95, is agoodfirstcourse, and the large bowl, $5.95, is almost big enough for a meal by itself. We also like Hope yougotto see"Beautiful Thing, : funding, particularly the shameful pit, : rewarding meal will be well:worth:the at Movies 8 before it passedfrom sight: A ..... tance that our state governmentcontrib- - ¯ extra dollar or two. The. Red Rose-Sealwonderful English film. (made for ~the. : utes..However, the HIVRCshould still be : lops are an excellent Choice,. with~lots of ¯ the G~ Xho Xht, which at $6.95, is a : chicken dish flavored with the pungent : spiciness oflemon grass, accompaniedby ¯ steamed rice and a bowl of.onion soup. : Another delicious example of Vietnam- : ese flavors is in the B6 Tfii Chanh, $7.95, ¯ - which is a combination of thinly sliced beef cooked in lime juice and flavored with mint leaves, onions, and peanuts. The truly brave will try L~uTh[ip CAm, ahugeundertaking for two ormore, where plate after plate of different vegetables, shaved beef, shrimp, crab legs, andsquid are brought to the table, raw. A large pot of boiling soup stock is placed in the middle of the table, and the diners use their chopsticks to select and cook their own dinner in the stock, sort of like a French fondue. It’s a $22.95 investment~ but well worth the fun. Just as a matter of etiquette, when eating With chopsticks; one uses the smaller ends of the sticks to convey foods to the mouth. However, when working with a common bowl or pot, one. switches the ends and uses the largerends ofthesticks to bring foodfrom the common pot to the plate. If all of these individual dishes aren’t wonderful enough, this place .has prob- : ably.the best Asian buffet in this part of ¯ the state. A steal at only $6.95 per person, : a full range of salads, soups, desserts, : condiments, .and.countess Chinese .and ¯ : Vietnamese dishes are featured. Entrees ¯ are rotated, and not thesame.old things UK’s progressive Channel 4) about two -.- " high s~ho~l boys falling in 10ve;it,was :a " real treat tO see such a realistically positive andinnocent film. It was wellwritten. ~ and r well’ dixected.-Hopefnlly it.will be available on video or:at a Film Festival .... ., near us~soon:. I highly.recommend it~ StarWarsfauscanalternatel.y rejoiceor ¯ heldpublidyaccountable., i little straw mushrooms and water-chest- ; everynight.Therestaurantisbusyenough ~ U~ity .is imaginary_ when it~ is.not the ,. nuts in a mildly spiey.Hunan style sauce.: : " the the food turnsover:quickly,.so things carefully built consensus, of most of the ; WealsoliketheBabyandMotherShrimp, :. are always.hot, crisp, and fresh. A good community. Historically, a handful have . a surprising pairing baby shrimp ; balance of hot Spicy foods’ and milder made decisions, affecting, many, many . : braisedinawhitewine sauce withjumbb ;..dishes :exists? chinese pork ribs," fried. people. Thesefolks have imagined that if :. shrimp..sauteed4n a fiery.~ehile ~sauce..A ; " Shrimps, and other expensive-meats apthey agreed,, then all-did; .. - ......... minor disappointment was theCleopatra .r-~.pear,.and. this is. not. your:cut,ratebuffet?_ Tnlsa Family News isdoing ourjob to "~ Chicken, which is breast meat rolledin :.- " And, as.always with thebetter oriental, boycott. The remastered, re-edited,xe- : build honest & genuine unity bypresent~ : sesame seedand served withgarlic,-pep. ; restaurants,expectyourserverstobequiet, ~l~cial effected trilogy is set to come out ¯ ing many views- from,, you & Nancy ¯ pers~ and ginger in a rather- bland white: : polite,, and.~very attentive: Most are-also early-next year .- January will. see. the.: i McDonald to the. PLWA s whofelt that~ : wine sauce. . ¯ : .. quiteskilledatrecommendingdishes,and releaseofStarWarsSpecialEdition, Fab-. i. the HIVRC was not listening to them. It is : Ourfavofite dishes, though~ come from .’:. we often letthemjustobring us dinner. ruary will have"Empire Strikes Back’:’,-!- -precisely through honest; though, some-.: the Vietnamese side of the menu. Part of-. Winterholidaysorsummervaeation,Kim blasting its way off the screens, and:the :- ~ timespainful, dialogue that.we buildcon, ¯ what makes Vietnamese food so exciting :. Long is well worth the long journey to Death Star2 will again explode in.even., sensus &community.. That’s ourjob. _ .: is the juxtaposition.of traditional.Asian ’ ~ Ken and BarbieLand: recipes and techniques with a French in- :- . - . Southwes,.t WHAT IS VIATICATION? Viatication is the process through which a person living with an terminal illness can receive a cashpayment from the face value of their insurance policy. WHO IS ELIGIBLE FOR A VIATICAL SETTLEMENT? Generally, to be eligible for a viatical settlement you must have a documentable terminal illness, and life insurance coverage in either an individual term, whole life, or a group policy. HOW DOES A SETTLEMENT WORK? With your written permission, we gather medical and insurance records with which to determine your policy’s value. Then, a settleumt offer is presented to you. You may always decline the offer with no obligation whatsoever. Should you accept the offer, payment is made directly to you. 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Title A name given to the resource [1996-1997] Tulsa Family News, December 15, 1996-January 14, 1997; Volume 4, Issue 1 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource December 15, 1996-January 14, 1997 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Mac Guru John Christjohn Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Steven Scott Gerald Miller Lane Brittain Kerry Lewis Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, November 15-December 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 12 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa (Oklahoma)---newspaper Tulsa----Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/530 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 African Americans AIDS Coalition of Tulsa AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV discrimination AIDS/HIV drugs AIDS/HIV education AIDS/HIV reporting AIDS/HIV research arts and entertainment attorneys bankruptcy Barry Hensley Bars bullying businesses churches Dave Fleischer Don't Ask Don't Tell Entertainment Notes Eureka Happenings Evergreen Awards Fred Phelps gay bashing harassment HIV Resource Consortium (HIVRC) HIV/AIDS and the Law homophobia Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Kim Long lance brittain lawsuits Lindsy Van Gleder marriage Meant to be Fit mindspace Murder Native Americans Oklahoma Leather Updates Pamela Robin Brandt performing arts PFLAG RAIN Read All About It restaurants Robert Gallo Roy Moore S&M schools Shanti Stephen W. 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Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Murderer of Gay Man Gets Second Degree Sentence PONTIAC, Michigan (AP)- A TV talks show guest. avoided a mandatory life prison.term for murdering a gay admirer by convincing jurors that ’.’ambush televii"’ SayNoto Hate’ !iYes to Jobs Protections The members of Tulsa’ s Say No .,~ I-Fate Coalition have approved ¯ a statement on workplace discrimination ,that explicitly endorses ¯ fairness for all, including Gay & Lesbian citizens. The statement : reads: "... Say.No to Hate Coalition condemns workplace discrimi- :" nationin allits forms. Fundamental fairness dictates that all individu, i als,irrespectiveofrace, color,nationalorigin, religion, gender, sexual orientation, [emphasis added] age or disability, be afforded equal : opportunity in allof ,An~_,e,dca’s workpl,a~es. : Itisnotaboutso-called specialrights forcertaingroups.Itisabout evaluating each individual on his/her merit rather than making, group ¯ judgements based on ignorance and fear. -" " Disedminationin the workplace diminishes us all. It should never : happen, but it does. Laws are necessary to protectall ofus from such ¯ hateful and hurtful behavior, and to provide recourse in the event i discrimination does infact occur." ¯ The Coalition is made up of the following organizations: the : American Red Cross, Tulsa Area chapter, the Coalition of Hispanic Organizations (COHO), theHumanRights Dept. ofthe City ofTulsa, Intercultural Service Center, Islamic Society, Jewish Federation, Metropolitan Urban League, NAACP, The National Conference, Tulsa Region, Tulsa Metropolitan Ministry, Tulsa Oklahornans for HumanRights (TOHR),Tulsa Police Dept. andTulsa PublieSchoolS, The Coalition was established in 1988 and works to protect theright, safety and fundamental freedoms see Hate, page 10 sion" was partly to blame. . -. - ~: HIVRCThreatens Lawsuit Jonathan Schmitz of second-degree murderin the 1995 ~ Attorney Kenneth Crnmp, representing the HIV Resource Consorshotgun slaying of Scott Amedure, whoh,a~ revealed a ¯ crush on Schmitz during a taping of _the Jenny Jones -" Show?’ Defense lawyers argued that Schrnitz, who had -" ahistory of emotional problems, was ambush,e,~, on the : show and pushed over the edge., JurOrs agreed. Weall -. felt he hada def’mite mental problem ... and the show ¯ i exacerbated that," juror Dale Carlington Said..r . Schmitz admitted shooting Am&ttire three days after : the two attended a taping of the show in Chicago on ¯ March 6, 1995. Defense attorneys say Schmitz,ahet,, ." erosexual; was humiliated to. learn ids secret admirer was a man.The humiliation, combine~[ wfthSchmitz’. history of menta! illness, alcoholism .and a thyroid condition rend~r~tilln incapable offorming the intent to kill, they contended. Dr. Michael Abramsky testified that Schmitz probably did not intend to hurt anyonebuthimselfon the day he shotAmedure. Abramsky, whohad examinedSchmitz about a month after the shooting, said Schmitz’s mind was "bombarded" by thoughts that included killing himself and feelings of anger seeMurder, page11 : Election News Analysis Political analysis & commentary by Tom Neal, editor : Based on Associated Press reports and TFN coverage. : Therecent elections appear to maintain thestatus quo : for Lesbian and Gay citizens. In Tulsa, State Sen. Penny : Williams (D) won over openly anti-Gay candidate . Brian Lehman (R) despite overfly anti-Gay campaign : ploys. Williams’ campaign also enjoyed supportfrom a ¯ number of Lesbian and Gay activists because of her ¯ history offairness. Hercampaign did, however, tell The . Tulsa Worm that she had never supported same-gender marriage despite avote against an anti-marriage bill last legislative session. Pat Woodrum, former director of Tulsa City/County Library System and another candidate with ahistory of " fairness to Gay citizens, lost her race for State Senate. ¯ Her opponent, James Williamson, also attempted to stir ! up anti-G,ay sentiment but some observers think :. Woodrum s loss more likely a reflection of running as : a Democrat in a traditionally Republican district. ¯ In the OK House, incumbent Republican Flint " Breckemidge who represented a midtown district with " a significant number of Lesbian and Gay voters was ." defeated by Mary Easley, Democrat. This might bode ¯ well for Gay citizens since Breckenddge ran a Gaybaiting campaign against former Rep. Bruce Niemi~ " However, Breckemidge toldTFN ofdosefamily ties to ¯ members of the Gay commtmity. Easley, when ques- : doned about her positions on- fairness for Lesbian and Gay citizens, claimed she just hadn’t thought about ° these things: However, her campaign literature touted ¯ her as upholding/the "conservative, family-centered, : see Politics, page 14 " tium, has informedTFN that the HIVRC is ’q~esitant to communicate directly" with TFN despite earlier demands byboard pres. Nancy McDonald for a meeting. Crump forwarded a letter from McDonald, asking that the letter be print,e~!,.,. adding, "ifthis is done, no further [legal] action will be taken ~..’ TFN publisher Tom Neal noted that TFN repeatedly agreed to McDonald’ s meedng demand (and agreed to a date which McDonald later canceled) and that TFN was happy to publish the letter (p.2). ¯ In a separate letter, Crump noted that aTFNreporter was questioning the United Way (which helps fund the HIVRC) about possible ramifications of client complaints and possible open records violations. Crump demanded thatTFNcease suchactivity. Neal responded that "it iS~an.unfortunate-attempt to intimidate TFN from making legitimate press inquiries?’ Dr. Jerry Nida, Commissioner of-the Oklahoma State Dept. of Health stated the HIVRC should comply : with the open records statutes- withholding only strictly ,,c,o,nfidential ¯" information. Andpres.,MeDonaldacknowledged to TFN s attorney .’- that theHIVRCWas obliged to provide the re~ords. To date, however, ~ no records_have been provided. ¯ ACLU-OK To Present Dr. Joycelyn ~ Elders & Honor Nancy & Joe McDonald The American Civil Liberties Union of Oklahoma has chosen Nancy and Dr. Joe McDonald as their Human Rights Project award winners alongwith longtime OKC Gay civil rights activist Bill Rogers. This awardwill bepresentedin theGoldCrownRoomofthe Clarion Hotel, 4345No. Lincoln, at 7pm. TheACLUwill also honorPare Fleisehaker of OKC~s Oklahoma Gazette for her work writing in defense of First Amendment rights, choice issues and Gay &Lesbian Citizens, as well as Michael Salem andJoel Carter, the attorneys who lead the effort to get the City of Edmond to drop seeACLU, page 10 ¯ MCC-GT Passes Financial Review : MCC-Gxeater Tulsa has provided TFN with a copy of a letter from ¯ South Central District treasurer of the Metropolitan Community Church (MCC). Thomas Merrill has given MCC-Greater Tulsa a positive review of its finanCial situation with only light admonishments about betteL.r..~eco~d~ing. Financial discrepancies that had -concerned membe~’~hd:~kediwithTFN (v2, #12, 11-12/95) have been resolved and ~6church has beendeared of any serious charges. Merrill noted thati:there was no evidence ofany misappropi’iation of funds, and bailk deposits were in order as were disbursements. He suggested that the appearance ofmissing funds resultedfromafailure to balance the bookkeeping records with the financial reports. He praised e.mrent treasurer, Norman Henley. for discovering that a loan paymen~ of $1,500 and tithe payments of $2,500 simply had not been reported in finanCial statements. This accounted for most of the "missing" fnn,ds. Merrill particularly remarked on deposit records for as little as $1 which had been dropped from an offering, saying this, was "a testament to the honesty and integrity of your leadership... Merrill added that the church has done an excellentjob of heeding the recommendations of aworkshop that the district provided to the church last March. MCC-GT continues its pastoral search to replace the Rev. Alice Jones who ledthechurch successfully for many years. C’ENTER !EVENTS Dana Tiger Benef,t for ¯ HOPE, RBG Meeting, ¯ Colm mu .n.ity-wide !Potluck, V deo. Night, i BLGTA Formal Dance, : Primetimers & Morel Award winning artist, Dana Tiger, will hold an exhibit of her work at the Pride Center on Sunday, Dec. 8 from 1-7 pm. Tiger who. hails from a family of artists will donate a percentage from sales to benefit HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education whose offices are in the Pride Center. Tiger is a member of the Muscogee Nation and is of Creek]Seminole and Cherokee descent. Her best known work honors the strength and determination Of Native Americanw,~ men. InTulsa, BrooksideJewelryshows Dana S Work and helped to bring this noted artist to the Center. Tiger was to have been joined by her sister, Lisa Tiger, who is known for her work as-an HIV educator. Lisa Tiger will not be able to attend but will have a video as well as a book of essays to which she’.s contributed available. RainbowBusiness Guild (RBG) will have a pizza party at theCenter for its Nov. meeting. It will be a week earlier than usual due to Thanksgiving - on-Nov. I9th at 7pro. All are welcome. Dinner dues will be $S/person. Dec. 7th, TOHR/The Pride Center will host with HOPE, RBG, TU’s BLTGA and other see Center, page 10 ¯ World AIDS Day March : Red Ribbon Treefest + ¯" Walk + DayWithoutArt ¯ This year’s World AIDS Day Memorial : March and Service will be on Sunday, Dec. ¯ 1st. The marchers, organized by Interfaith ¯ AIDS Ministries,will gatheratBartlettSquare ¯ in downtown Tulsa (Sth & Main) at 5pro. The ¯ March will begin at 5:30 andwill end atTrinity ¯ Episcopal, 501 So. Cincinnati for Evensong ¯ service at 6pro. Marchers are urged to bring ¯" bells to ring during the March and will be ¯ provided candles and matches..Organizations ¯¯ are invited to bring their banners. A reception will follow after the service. For info: 438- ¯ 2437 or 800-284-2437. ¯ see World, page 11 ¯ COMING SOON! :Our House Auction ¯ seepage 5 INSIDE EDITORIAL/LETTERS/DIRECTORY P. 2-3 ¯ NEWS P. 4 HEALTH P. 7 ¯" HIV/AIDS & THE LAW P. 7 ¯ CALENDAR P. 9 BOOK REVIEW P, 12 ¯ RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 1:3 CLASSIFIEDS P. 14 918.583.1248 fax: 583.4615 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 tulnews@ionetnet Publisher +,Editor: Tom Neal Entertainment Writer + Mac Guru: James Chri~tjohn Writers + contributors: Phyl Boler-Schmidt, Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Steven Scott, Gerald Miller, Lance Brittain, Kerry Lewis Issued on or before the 15th of each month,~the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1~ by T~!lsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or inp~rt,i~]’fhout ~,ritten permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicatethat person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomesthe so!e property_of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above, ldaeh reader is entitled to one free copy of each’ edition at distribution points. Additionalcopies are available by calling 583-1248." Just a note of encouragementbn your articleon the HIVRC. The concerns that have been brought up form the PLWA’s are true and correct. Please use my name as a former landlord that received funds from the HOPWA grant, as validation of these clients’ concerns. Many people know that I used my properties to house several clients from the RC, so I do hold a lot of Credibility there. The allegations ofmismanagement, poor perf0rmance and claims of bias retaliation against clients are facts, These reasons played a very large role in the decision David and I made to sell our properties. TheRC burned a very important bridge in that arena. We had 12 properties, 6 of which at the time Of the sdl were housed by PLWA’s on the HOPWA program, and we would probably most definitely still be in that arena had the RC been more cooperative to us and more compassionate towards the clients they represent.... You are to be commended for your article, and I support you 100%!!!! - Russell Langley-Stumpff, Tulsa ¯ October 28 1996 ¯¯ In respouse to the article appearmg in theTulsa Family News, Oct. 15, v. 3, no. 11, tiffed "PLWA’s Indict HIVRC, Care : Organization May Bein Violation ofOK Statutes", the Board of ¯" Directors ofthe I-I!V Resource C0nsorfittm are deeplyconcerned ¯ and.distressed at the accusation. : We are a Not for Profit Organization chartered by the-Olda- : homaCorporationCommission. Weadhere to the articulation of ¯ the mission of our organization. We receive funding from the ¯ United :Way, the Federal Government which dispenses funds : through the Oklahoma State Department of Health, the State : Housing Authorityand private donations. Because we are. a ¯ recipient of federal monies through the competitive grant pro- : cess, weare bound by the guidelines as articulated by each grant. ¯ Wemustreport to the granting sources on a regular basis. Weare ." subject to scheduled and non-scheduled on site inspection and ¯ audit ofour records to determine our adherence to all federal and ¯ state guidelines, see McDonald, page 8 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine 832-1269 *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896 *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th 749-1563 *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria 749-4511 *Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard 749-5678 *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st 745-9998 *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234 *Samson & Ddilah, 10 E. Fifth 585-2221 *Renegades/Rainbow Room¯ 1649 S. Main 585,3405 *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial 660=0856 *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308 *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 *Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521 Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 13th 749-3620 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595 Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial -622-3636 ¯ Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959 ¯ Fred Welch, Lcsw, Counsding 743-1733 ¯ Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities ¯ AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 1071, 74101-1071 579-9593 ¯ ¯ Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 583-7314 *Bless The Lord... Christian Center, 2627b E. 11 628-0594 ¯ *B/L/G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 ¯ *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI. & Florence "- *CommunityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703 E. 2rid 585-1800 : Commmlity Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 : Dignity/Integrity-LesbianlGayCatholics/Episcopal. 298-4648 ¯ *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 : *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 ." *Free SpiritWomens Center, call for location&info: 587-4669 : Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 ¯ Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-American mens group) ¯" POB 8542, 74101, call c/o TOHR @ 742-2927 ¯ Indian Health Care, Save the Nati6n 584-4983 : Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 ¯ *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N..Maplewood 838-1715 ~ *H!V Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 749-4194 ¯ NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 748-3111 ¯ *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 ¯ PFLAG ,POB 52800, 74152 749-4901 : *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 58%7674 ¯ Prime=Timers, P.O_. Box 52118, 74152 583=1410 ¯ *R.A I N, Regional AIDS Interfaith Network ¯ Raihbow ~3usiness’Guiid, POB 4106;74159 : I have been reading your paper since it : first started. You have done a very good : job presenting the news and expanding ¯ coverage. ITm glad to see your progress. : After reading your last editorial per- : taining to the HIV Resource Consortium : (HIVRC), I wanted to letyonknow that ¯ you are doing a big service for PWA’s : who have no where else to turn. ¯ Since Ihavehadalittle experience with : both PWA’s and a Consortiumin’Kan.~as :-City, MO, I feel’ this is important. For : .theHIVRCtofunctionitneeds twothings: :: clients andmoney. If they .don’t’have ¯ enough ofeither; they are out ofbusiness. : Maybe the HIVRC needs to be dissolved : and another organization set up that will ¯ not be "afraid" to let the public read the : minutes. Also, maybe too much money is being spent l~mning the HIVRC. If the ConSortium has nothing to hide they should be glad there is someone like you who is interested enough to help the PWA’s. Keep up the good work. This organization should be held accountable. - Cheryl Lenhart, Tulsa 749-4195 .: 665-5174 : *lqite Books & Videos, 821 S: Sheridan . 838-8503 " St. Jerome’s Catholic Church, 38~1 S. Peoria, 646-7116 , Express Pools & Spas; 6310 S. Peoria - 743-9994 : Shhnti H0tlin~ & HIV/AIDS Siei’vices " Foxlinx, Computer Consultation = - . _ 690-297J¢ " " TulsaOkl~ for Hmnan Rights., POB.2687, 74101 ¯ EearmeM. Gross; Financial Pl,nningi, : ,~i ,::, ,-,,~44~0)02 i ~.T.,-~--h~i,’~i.~s’.,l}3~ ~:-~,., Mark T. 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C-1 742-8868 Thanks for Printing the Truth Thank you for printing the truth as you heard it or observed it. I am speaking about the HIVRC an the various complaints leveled against them. I. am also sorry to say that I will not reveal my name and it is not because I am irresponsible in what I say, but I recognize very clearly who is in control of the AIDS Service an thus, funding in Tulsa. I am concerned¯ about repercussions. I would encourage you not to stop your investigation. I think that the clients that have the more need are often the ones at the Resource Center that no one wants to handle. As you know, clients are not always physically attractive with good hygiene and wonderful personalities, some are drug abusers, some are dirty, some do not have any social skills, and some live on the street and some have serious mental health problems. However, they are still deserving ofhelp. Ifthe mental health centers stopped seeing the mentally ill because hey did notmake sense then what would be the purpose of heir existence? Therefore, the Resource Center needs to be sensitive toe people who are really downandoutandnot always easy to help. The must stop intimidating their clients. I was extremely bothered by the secretive nature Of their finances. Anyone knows who works in non-profit agencies ’that all Of those records should be readily available to people.-There should be no -reason to hide that information - unless, they are hiding it because their_ costs are extremely high and the hours of service, units of ~ervice, or numbers Of clients are solow that most people would question Why.they have-arOund halfa million dollar budget- and still are saying they d0n’t :. have .enough money. They ha*e much : more than most otherAIDS service orga- : nizations and they control, pretty much, ¯ all oftheUnitedWayfunds,TCAPfunds, ¯ and state funds. Perhaps Saint McDonald : lias something to do with that since she ¯ " als0 serves on the board of the Commu- : nity Service Council, which is an arm of the United Way. see HIVRC, page 13 5 by Tom Neal, publisher/editor : A handful of people arerather upset :right now. Last - month this newspaper published an-article relating the complaints of some people living with AIDS (PLWA? s) " against the I-IIV Resource Consortium (I-IIVRC) and ¯ added complaints of this newspaper about the agency’ s ¯ lack of cooperation, The article highlighted the concerns ¯ of some HIVRC clients,, the response the HIVRC’d]rec- H I V i: R: C . : torand also noted that the Board of " " :: agency appeared to bein viola-. ~o. ¯ don of a~ Oklahoma state law. l.)~reetors " . .: : The latter is the requirement President: that an agency supportedsub- Nane stantially with public monies abide by open meetingsand .~.teL)onam,~ open records statutes. Accord- Viee-presl"dents: ing to TFN, attor.ney and. also t~_~"re-~ ~~aunaIer"s " mylayman sreadingofthelaw, o. r~ ¯ . theagencyshouldprovidemin- 0~, L,,an - utes of its meetings when re- Phnhet, MD quested. To date, the HIVRC has been asked for meeting minutes repeatedly since the latter part of July and has yet to provide them now more than three months later. Wehave reproduced several letters from the president ofthe organization, her close friends and associates, and the HIVRC’ s attorney. Readers can seefor themselves several strategies for both excusing the agency~ s failure to comply with the law and for attempting to shift "blame from the agency, its staff and its boardof directors, to this newspaper. Most of it is just pure silliness and irresponsibility. The law appears to compel the HIVRC to provide its minutes SecretarT: .Tommy Chesbro Rib Helmerleb Caroline Abbott Geo r e Bdlke Michael Esliek Jeffry Johnson Erie Ramlrez Gene Reid Steve Reynolds Charles Se~.er Suzy Stard~eld MaybelleWallaee Jack Welsh Ned Zink when requested. The law does not specify that the entity requesting the minutes must speak to any specific person in the agency’ s hierarchy: Internal communications are usually the responsibility of the agency. The following is what this newspaper did in requesting minutes: Sharon Thoele is the primary legal representative of the agency in conducting it~ day to day business. Thoele signs checks, and TFN understands, hires and fires staff, etc. For the purposes of state open records requests, Thoele is clearly an appropriate legal representative for the organization. Thoele received several requests from TFN for copies of the minutes. These requests weremade first directly to Sharon’s administrative assistance, Susie Stanford, beginning in late July/early August. The first request was ignored for several weeks. The second request was answered with a message (given by Stanford) that Thoele said that TFN could not have the minutes, and that we. should talk with Charles Seeger who was described as their attorney. During that conversation, TFN requested a list of the board of directors from Stanford which was taxed to TFN. This is so far the only document delivered as requested. ¯ Editors note: this letter was.sent to the H1VRC With copies specifically designated to Sharon Thoele & TFN. This is the first ofmany letters thatwehope will let you know how we the clients are feeling; In hopes that things get better at the Consortium for all involved... There are anumberofus that see but donot say, and yet there are those of us who do and get SH1T. We don’tneed the stress ofhaviffg to run all over town to try and find the help you are responsible for giving...You put yourself in the position of wanting to help, so stop the fighting and start the helping... I was broughtup that "ifyou do it right thefirsttimeyoudon’ thaye to doit over... Oncein a while we can understand but each and every month...If you don’t want to help the[n] don’t hinder us!!! , Youallneedto gettheacttogether see PWA, page !2 TFN talked witti attomey(andi~ehi~iSlSens, board mem- : McDonald-of an important request. It also seems less bet) Charle~ Seege,r and requested copies Of the mi.’nutes. ¯ likely that attorney a~d board member Seeger would fail Seeger saidhe di.dn.t think that there was anything to hide " to do so. And another board member said hedid raise the in the minutes but thatsince they were a private non- " issue at a board meeting that took place prior to the profit~ he di-d not feel that they wer9 compelled toprovid~ ¯ publication of our last issue. them and thereforg, the ,HIVRC would not ,make the ¯ Regardless; the point is that now the agency has the minutes available.- - : opportunitytoprovethatitdoesindeedhaveonlythebest TFN informed Seeg~.that we_understood fr,om our : interests .of its .clients at. hea~.,It .el.aims ~at it.has had attorney that the ag¢ne-y ~as subject fo Oklah0mii s o~en~ " g0odandltS and~eviews. That being thecase~theHWRC recordsstatutesandevengavehim’the~s~.~tute~citati~ns,: .:. shouldha~;e.’nd pr0bidm:~ng’t~0g~’andits flnancial Seeger failed to return at least two sub~equen! callsTr0m :" statements a.vailablefor public_ review along with all TFN andfailed to respond to aletterfromTFN sattomey. ; other records that donotinvolve Strict client or employee -: " Board president Nancy McDonald claims that.she Was ¯ confidentiality issues. ¯ completely unaware of these ~eq~u..e,sts. She also is at- ¯ Itcanprovethatitisreallythemodelvogramitdaims temptingt0 excuse the agency Lg failure to comply with " to be by actively responding to the complaints of those ¯. the law by contending that 0nly a request made to her " clients bra~e enough to confront the agency..It Can begin ~ directly is valid, This is pa~t of.the attempt Of the agency ¯ to address its internal communications Issues which to shift blame for its failures to this newspaper. ¯ .include allegations of breaches of client confidentiality. ¯ However, Seegernever saidtoTFNthatarequestmfst " ~ For example, I am aware ofone suCh]ncidentbecause " be made tOboard president McDonald. TFN also called I br6tight it to Thoele’ sattention’ directly. I could have ¯ board member Tommy Chesbro and asked if he could written abom it but I chose to let them try to fix the : help get the’ minutes: Chesbro was sympathetic, but "- problem instead. Hopefully, it is fixed, but the employee ¯ referred questions back to executive dir.ector Tlioele. " who was accused still works for the agency. Others Our contention is that a request made to the executive " involvedin HIV care in Tulsa say that there are ongoing ; director, the primary day-to-day legal representative for problems of this sort. ¯ the HIVRC is more than adequate notice to.the agency. Other issues include allegations by other HIV service ¯ This newspaper went above and beyond duty to speak : providers that instead of working as a model of organizaalso with board members Seeger and board secretary " donal cooperation, the HIVRC has become the bully in ¯ Chesbro. the service provider arena- better at sucking up HIV care ~ Again, it is not the responsibility of this newspaper to dollars and better at adding staff than at actually provid- : fix the internal communications failures of the HIVRC- " ing care. Other agencies tell tales that imply that person- " ifindeedthatistheproblem.Itwouldseemthatexecutive alities and political connections play more of a role in ¯ director, Sharon Thode, who’ s paid slightly more than how agencies interact and how dollars are awarded than " $30,000 annually, should be capable of getting amessage " do the real needs of the clients. ¯ toherboardandpresidentaboutafaidyimportantmatter. And isn’t that who we all should really care about? . Interestingly, several former HIVRC board members " Why is it that so little of the discussion seems to be ¯ told TFN since the HIVRC story was published that ¯ concerned with the clients? That’s where Tulsa Family ¯ during their tenure, the HIVRC had the following proce- " News beganmore than eightmonths ago- by listening to ¯ dures’. earlier boards had been told by.an attorney that " those to who claim the HIVRC mistreated them. Most of ¯ they werenot subject to the Oklahoma Open meedngs and " them say they tried to work with the agency and were not : records acts, but nevertheless those boards had set a : only rebuffed, but some were treated’in ways that added ¯ policy of operating as though they were. For example, the " to their stress and may have worsened their health. ¯ organization posts its meeting times publicly in advance ¯ in accordance with the law. The question then becomes ¯ this: if the HIVRC’s standard, operating p01icy was to ¯ honor the law (even if they contend they weren’t subject ¯ to it), why did they not honor the open records act when ¯ .TFN asked for minutes? ¯" What we have argued is that if the agency has nothing ¯ to hide, then sharing the minutes shOuld never have been ~ a problem. For comparison, TFN talked with several ¯ executive directors Of other non-profits, some HIV re- : lated and others not. Each of these Said that if .they were ¯ asked for minutes, they would provide.them promptly. ¯ One person in another city, who formerly ran an agency ¯ that is dosdy comparable to the HIVRC in mission and : structure, said he would simply have photocopied the ¯ minutes and turned them over. ¯ Some observers of this situation have suggested that ¯ they find it tmlikely that McDonald was unaware of the request but likely directed Tiioele and Seeger to "stonewall" the request. This newspaper has no proof of such contentious. However, given the seemingly dose working relationship betweenMeDonald and ~noele, whom McDonaldrecently helped to honorwith aSWANaward~ it seems rather surprising thatThoele wouldfail to inform How can I convey my. disappointment in your article questioning the HIV Resource Center [sic]? Professional journalism covers both sides ofcontroversialissues. Why were HIVRC client & staff responses not reported?Why did not younot share with your readers any results ofyour 3.5 hour interview with director Sharon Thoele? [editor’s note: the PLWA’s who spoke with us are HIVRC clients, and last we checked, Sharon Thoele was still on the HIVRC staff. TFN reported that part of Thoele’s comments that were relevant to the original complaints by PLWA’s.] Was your article questioning one program, three programs or the agency overall? The issues and considerations behind all AIDS and non-AIDS social services are ind.,e~l complex.. , . One sources related what I hope isjust a rumor with no merit. After TFN’ s interview with Thoele, she’ s alleged to have expressed anger that I did not reveal who my sources were. Let’ s hope that herintentwas good and that that information would have been used to fix the problems. However, the fear by some clients of retaliation surely doesn’ t stem iust from paranoia. The point of all this is not to besmirch the reputations of the staff or the board of the HIVRC. I hope all involved have only the best intentions and have done the best they can with limited resources. And there is no doubt that there are not adequate funds for the need..However, point of public oversight is that the best possible management and ~tre should be prox;ided within the res.trictions of those limited resources. The questions are: is management up to the task; is it possible that the agency has .grown beyond the skills of those leading it; is itmaximizmg the benefit to its clients; is the board willing to follow both the spirit and~the letter of the law? The answer to all these may well be yes. But those of us whose tax dollars or United Way contributions substantially fund this agency have the right to. expect the HIVRC’ s full cooperation and disclostire. It hash’ t happened Yetbut hopefully it will soon. Concerning your lead story tiffed"PLWA’s Indict HIV RC... once again I find an outright assault in print against an organization that has served as a model nationwide in the administration of HIV/AIDS care and resources. While it is easy to understand that every agency cannot please each client 100% of the time.I am concerned that each client is treated with dignity and respect. In my professional dealings with theHIV Resource Consortium I have found a group of compassionate and caring individuals, staff and volunteers dedicated to delivering service efficiently and effectivdy for very little or no pay. [editor’s note: director Thoele ispaidover $30k which is more than many ordinary people make.] While you stated in your artidethat you conducted a 3 see Phillips, page 8 " 1/2 hour interview see Gillean,page 11 St. Rights Group Forms- BURLEY, Idaho (AP) - If gay rights come under fire in the 1997 Idaho Legislature, Schuyler Enochs will be there to stop it. Enochs, of!Caldwell, was jolted into working for gay and lesbian rights after watching his gay son Karl die of AIDS in 1994. Now he is cochairman of Idaho for Basic Rights, which is forming to block possible anti-gay rights legislatiofi from the Heyburn-based Idaho Citizens Alliance. The Idaho Citizens Alliance plans to file two bills by the end of. November~ executive director Kelly Johatmsen said. One would prohibit public schOols from promoting the ers couldnot counsd gay students, offer Some kinds of diversity training or take classes on dealing with. sexual Orientation. The other measure would prohibff the use of tax dollars to promote the homosexuallifestyle.- That means .students at¯ publicly funded colleges ~ould not prod.uce plays favorable to gays and lesbians, and libraries could not p~urehase mat.e.-- rials about gays and lesbians "In our school we don’ t promote dr~gsJwe don~;.t promote alcohoLase-..~?~It~s detrime~a.t~l~ .~o-th~ir health;"qohannsen said?!Statistieally~ iT:theyengage ~ in the homosexual lifestyl~ they~ 11 die lOto. 15 years younger than they would if they.were a smoker." Enochs scoffed at the ideathat schools canpromote. sexuality. "You can’. t teach it: You’re born thatway~’!. he said.:"What’ s wrong with counseling people.that are homosexual?. Their suicide rote is very high. They need help. They need counseling. They need to understand it isn’t.unnatural. It’~s natural, for them.’r Enochs saidignorance is his group’ s biggest obstacle. - "People just don’t understand that a certain percentage ofyour population is gay or lesbian and they have : turned custody of two young boys to their homo- . sexual father on Tuesday, ruling there was no evi- ¯" deuce he exposed them to "improper influences" by ." living with a male lover. The NC Cohrt of Appeals ’ overturned a lower court _,..~.’~gthat had transferred : the boys from Frederick S’~th to his former wife. ¯ Smith woncustody of the boys, ages 8 and 11, after : heandhis wife divorced in Califomia in 1991. Under ¯ the lower court decision, however, they.have been " living with their mother, Carol Ptiiliam, in Kansas._ : Pulliam’s attorney, Phillip Jackson~ said .the ruling : wouldbe appealed to the state Supr.eme Court. Hedid : noLknow if.the.children would, be retiimed from ¯ ~sas i~nme~liatelyl Smi~ alidhis sbns lived with : his grandmother in H~nderson Cty. from i991-94. ¯ But in 1994, the grandmother moved Out and his ¯ Iover, Ti~Tipton, moved, i,n. Pulliam said the change : in Smith s living, arrangements justified giving her : exclusi,~e ,custody bflthe children,~ : A’ Henderson Cty, ~ .c6,Ui-t agT-eed,, finding ihat’,the. :_ chil~en,were ~Xposed to ~’~t and imprbper ififlu- ¯ ences~’ that could’.xlamAge: them dmotionally and- :. social!y~ ,.~a,t finding-was.’b~.d~0n nothi!zg more. ¯ ~ titan 0~ifii’0ii,.A~s~c~ Jfi~gd. Edward Greend :" wrote for a~’-ji~dke~p~i’i~i : this c~s~e, thee is no evidehee that-the’c.onduct huh or : likdy WlUha~;e a ddeteri0us effec(0fi ~echild~n," ¯ i Greene ~vrote2 Smith~.who coachedhis sons’ tee-ball "~ andbaseball teams,,said h,~ hadhopedhis ease Would i not get mUch attehtion.- Mo~t.p~op.!e’drn’ ~ r~lize I’mgay,"hd sai~l.. "Emworried.. ~61 die,,reperdussiohs for ~e kids.at school and me a.t work.. - i CO school DebatesGay ¯ NewspapersStories no choice, no choice at all," he~ said. Johannsen said : her group already has lawmakers ready to support the : COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo. (AP) - Nearly three: 1997 legislation. . : dozen gay rightsadvocates spoke out at a school boardmeeting Wednesday night in support of a high L,. i € " i.date : school newspaper story about teen-age homosexual- euls,a.lv....-.n.. : ity: The:~article~ tided "Finding True Love," was Calls for-Killing Gays: writtenby Mary Margaret NusSbaum, editor-in-’chief of Palmer High Sel~ool’ S monthly newspaper The PUYALLUP, Wash, (AP) =,A legislative candidate Le~;er. The O~t. 24 article describes the problems who outraged many PuyallupHigh School students. with his inflammatory remarks about gays and integration may end up being a good lesson in the basics of democracy and free speech. Mark.Downey, a, PgpuliSt. Party candidate for.the 25th District ofstate House, Position 1:-, was invitedto speak at the school-sponsored, forum but startled students with his intolerant message. He used quotes from the Bible to say homosexuals Shouldbe killed, and he called multi-cul.tural integration a cancer. "He Said something to the effect that Communists, homosexualsand nonwhites should not be allowed to hold public office," said Matthew Oren,,18. "It was a shoeking thing." Downey contends he ~as contributing to. the marketplace of ideas, Ben.Allison, 17; sM,d that- as a blackp+rson he was offended by Downey s remarks, but he wash’, t sure that Downey should ha~e been banned fromthe forum, "I think he hadaright to come because if he hadn’.t come, no one wouldknow his views;" Allison said./’I was close to hitting him, though." Downey’.s fellow¯ candidates~ Democrat Luanne Green and Republican JoyceMcDon~d, also were surprised.by hi~ comments. Gre~n’sai;d ~he"thofight" MeDonald might,grab,the microphone~away, from Downey."’I said; ’Let it go. The-kids needto under~ stand that these people are out there,’ " Green said. Vice Principal Barbara Pope agreed. "I really believe that he should have been~there," Pope said. "To me, the issue is what are we exposingour kids to. I think we expose and then we talk before and afterwards with them." Oren, who was a student panelist for the debate, described a sttmned silence in the auditorium for the first 10 seconds ofDowney’ s closing statement. That silence quickly turned to screaming and booing that nearly drowned out the-candidate’s remarks. Students and teachers talked about the free speech issues in classes following the forum. Gay Dad Can Keep Kids RAT.F.TGH, N.C. (AP) - A state appeals court re- : teens face in coming to terms with their homosexual- ¯ ity. An accompanying commentary by another stu- : dent supported same=sex marriages. ¯ The articles brought a protest from ¯Will Perkins, chairman of ColrradO’frr Family Values, the ~roup ¯ thatatith0redCol0rhflo’s~anti-gayfightsAmeiidmcnt ~ 2/Which was struck d0wnin May bythe’U.S. ,Supreme Court. Perkins did not attend the meeting. The ¯ controversy over.the a~ti~les led.District 11 school board t6 add a discussion of its student publication policy tO its tegular meeting Wednesday. : About 35 people ~p0ke about the articles, with all ~ but one praising thenewspaper. Gerda Fletcher, .the ¯ mother of a gay son; snide"Freedom of speech must never, ever "be suppressed." Sixteen-year-old Brad : Balof saidhehopes the articles ~vill make otlierS.more ¯ accepting .of gay-teens. "I’might n6t’have as hard ~ time growmg up as I thoughtI wotlld," he said. ¯ Superintendent Kenneth Buruley i said the- district ¯ needs a deare~r,.publicafions policy that does not : violate:the state S smdelit-.free-.pressd’aW~ one_of the ¯ most liberal in. the nadon. He said the district is "~ cons’ulfing an att_0me~y. :tb:mak~ ~,~ure’ any at,tqmptg to ;. defixie,:,~ ~611ey d~n’i g0.t06, ~:st~iel,aW S_a.YS ~it . a student-Wtitteii firtidemugt-nb~t beobs~ie:~ libelous, likely to caus~ a dis.t.drbatice]ffthe s6hool dayoi : lack educationalmerit. ¯ Newspaperadviser Vince Puzick saidNussbaum’ ,S, : article met those Criteria."’I encouraged her to do it,’ : he said ofNussbaum. ’T d do the same article again?’ Nussbaum also defended the article before the board. ¯ She SaidThe Lever tries to avoid filling a stereotypi: : cal niche" by publishing stories on controversial ¯ topics such as gtmcontrol. School officials didnot set : a date for deciding the student publications policy : issue. i CA Bar Urges Benefits ¯ SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - The State Baris urging ¯ Califomialaw firms to offer health benefits to same- : sex couples and take other steps against discrimina- ¯ tionbasedonsexualorientation. ’Thisisthefirststate St. Jerome An Affirming Liturgical CSurc5 Kelly Kirby CPA,PC Certified Public ACcountant . a pro~eas~onal corporation . .....Talk _tO us now about your year end tax planning needs. " ’!747-5466 4021 South Harvard, Suite 2!0, Tulsa 74135 JE,WELRY 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 Comer of 48th & Peoria 9:30 - 5 pm Monday- Friday & , Open Saturdays Now till Christmas ";- MCC Greater Tulsa "Where God Uplifts All People" 1623 N. Maplewood ¯.Tulsa, .Oklahoma 8384715 Auction. 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A state law that took 9~f,~..in 1993 prohibited employmentdiscriminatioi] agaiJ~sthomosexuals. The bar adopted a rule in March 1994 that subjected lawyers and firms to potential disciplinary action for discriminating on the base of mce,-sex, sexual orientation or several other categories in hiring employees or selecting clients. On another front, the state Judicial Council has begun a study of treatment of gays and lesbians in the court system, as lawyers, diehts, witnesses, employees and jurors. Previous studies have focused on women and racial minorities. But the bar’ s Board of Governors decided in August that further step,s were needed after getting a reportfromBmveman s committee on the climate for homosexuals in the legal l community. The report relied heavily on a 1994 study by the LosAngeles County Bar Association that found’inStanceS of dis-- erimination in hiring, workplace ea~ironment, as: siguments, evaluation, pay and prom6ti0n. ¯ The Los Angeles study said 58percent ofgay male lawyers and 68 percent oflesbians "surveyed reported that they had experienced or seen dis~-rimination against homosexual attorneys: Despite the 1993 ban on’ emplo~mentdis~imination, one unnamed legal employer was quoted in the LoS Angeles survey as saying, "We are not interested in lawyers with this type of disability." About 15 percent of all lawyers questioned in therandom survey said their employers discriminated in hiring, 15 percent said their clients did notwantto workwith gay lawyers, and 66 percent reported anti-gay comments or jokes .at work, the report said. In 1991, before passage of the state law and attorney disciplinary rule, a State .Bar study of 14.300 randomly chosen Californialawyers found economic disparities between homosexuals and heterosexuals. For example, gays and lesbians with 10 years of law practice were only two-thirds as likely to be partners in their In’ms, or to make over $100,000 a year, as heterosexuals. The resolution passed this August by the bar’s governing board calls on law firms to adopt, implement and publicize anti-discrimination policies in recruitment, hiring, assignments, pay and promotious. Firms should also maintain a supportive atmosphere rather than onein which gays felt compelled to remain in the closet, the board said. In addition, the board called on law firms to adopt "benefit packages with the same sets of benefits for all employees." Those would include insurance for same-sex partners on the same basis as married couples, in addition to parenting leave, sick leave caretaking and bereavement leave and relocation benefits. Firms were encouraged to invite same-sex partners to social events when spouses were als0 invited. Earlier this year, the bar included domesticpartner benefits in its health package available to California attorneys. Gay Unionsto be Blessed PHILADELPHIA (AP) = A month after Pennsylv.ania passed a law banning same sex mhrriages ,’ ~ state’ s Episcopal Diocese has voted to create ablessing for gay and lesbian relationships. At the diocesan convention Saturday, clergy delegates voted 101-43 and lay delegates voted 75-53 to develop "a rite or rites for the blessing of committed relationships between persons of the same sex." The PennsylvaniaDioceseplans tourge thenational churcl~ to do the same. The combined 176-96 vote "was a surprise to me," said Bishop Allen Bartlett, who had expected a closer margin. The 65,000-member diocese, which has 163 parishes and missions in Philadelphia and four surrounding Counties, will submit the approved resolution to the national governing convention in Philadelphia next year. If the General~ Convention approves, the church’s Standing Liturgical Commission will be asked to devise an appropriaterite. Such a blessing would have no legal standing unless a state legislature chose to recognize it. That ¯ appears unlikely in Pennsylvania. In October, Gov. ¯¯ TomRidge signedlegislationbanning gaymarriages. The Rev. Ruth L. Kirk, who co-submitted the : resolution, said Christian moral codes cannot be ¯ devdoped purdy on the moral codes of the first century. "As I said at the convention: Can God do a : new thing? And can God use the church to do a new ¯ thing? For centtLdes we have condemned gays and ¯ lesbians. It is time to support committed, loving : relationships." ¯ DenverWorkers.Benefits i DENVER (AP) - City officials say only 48 city : workers signed up their gay partners for health ben- . efits by this week’s deadline, far fewer than oppo- ¯ nents ofthenew programpredicted. The City Council : voted overwhelmingly in September to offer the ¯ benefits to partners of gay employees. Open enroll- : ment for the program ended at 5 p.m. Thursday.. ’Tm : a little surprised,"said Fred :rjmmerman, director of : the city’s Career Service Authority. "I.thought it ¯ wonld be higher." " -, ¯ ¯ ¯ Opponents of the benefits’extension had predicted i themove wouldlead toa huge increase in health care ¯ costs’. With48 signing up, the city"s insurance premiums for eligible workers, which total about $12 ¯ million ayear, willincrease by $80,000. Timmerman : said the actual number of .enrollees shows those ¯ predictions were overestimated. "We never had any ¯ fear about it,"he said. Timmerman said he expected ¯ at.least I percent of the 8,500 eligible employees to : signupfor theprogram..The48 whodidrepresentless ¯ than 0.6 percent. i Presbyterian Church : Leader Urges Cease-Fire : GREENVILLE, S.C. (AP) -The top elected official ¯ of the Presbyterian.Church (USA) says church lead- ! ers shonld declare a cease-fire in disputes overhomo- : sexuality that he says threaten to divide the denomi- ¯ nation. "We do not agree at all about what the Bible ¯ means onthisissue," saidJolmBuchananofChicago, ¯ elected moderator of the 3 million-member denomi- : nation this year. "The question becomes for me: ’Can ¯ we find some way to live with that diversity or must ¯ we resolve the issue in a way.., that divides us?’ "he ¯ said. Buchanan spoke Tuesday to members of the ¯ ¯ Foothills Presbytery, which represents 21,000 merebers in 65 Upstate churches. ¯" In the coming months, presbyteries nationwide ¯ will vote on whether to amend the church’ s constitu¯ tion to require thatministers be faithful in amarriage between a man and a woman or live in chastity if single: The church already has a policy statement that bars practicing gays from ordination, but its Book of : Order does not include such a restriction. Buchanan : said Presbyterians tradifonally interpret passages in ¯ context with the whole Bible and through debate within the church. "Everybody knows that ff you are : - willing to simply pick-things out of the text you can ." pretty much f’md justification for whatever position ¯ you want to take on any given issue," he said. : ¯ RI .Police Welcome Gays : PROVIDENCEi R.L (AP).- The Rhode Island State : Police have been trumpeting a recruitment drive that ¯ seeks to diversify the 193-member force, which in- : eludes 14 women, 12 blacks and one Hispanic. For ¯ thefirsttime, arecruitmentad appearedin this month’ s ¯ edition of Options, a newsletter for gays andlesbians ¯ published in Providence. It’ s bdieved to be a novel ¯ step for a state police force. ~ ’‘This is a first that I know of," said Boston Police ¯ Sgt. Norman Hill, president of the New England ¯ chapter of the. Gay Officers Action League. ’‘They ¯ deserve a pat on the back. They should definitely be : acknowledged for their progressiveness." "Really?" ¯ replied San Francisco Police Officer Phil Fleck when ¯ told of the ad. "That’ s proactive for Rhode Island," ¯ ¯ said Fleck, liaison to the department for the Golden State Peace Officers Association, an organization of ¯ gay and lesbian officers. ’’That’s very positive for them to do this thing." Southwest - ca+l WHAT IS VIATICATION? Viatication is the process through which a person living with an terminal illness canreceive a cashpayment from the face value of their insurance policy. WHO IS ELIGIBLE FORA VIATICAL SETTLEMENT? Generally, to be eligible for a viatical settlement you must have a documentable terminal illness, and life insurance coverage in either an individual term, ’./hole life, or a group policy. HOW MUCH IS MY POLICY WORTH? The value of your life insurance policy in a viatical settlement is determined by the specifics of your policy and your unique medical situation. Not every policy is suitable for viatication, but settlement offers typically range from 60% to 90% of a policy’s face value, depending on the specifics of your policy and medical history. HOW DOES A SETTLEMENT WORK? With your written permission, we gather medical and insurance records with which to determine your policy’s value. Then, a settlenmt offer is presented to you. You may always decline the offer with no obligation whatsoever. Should you accept the offer, payment is made directly to you. Youpay nothing else on your policy, andyou owe us nothing. IS VIATICATING MY POLICY THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR ME? Many factors influence whether viaticating your life insurance is the best financial alternative available for you. Southwest Viatical can discuss all ofthefactors with you and your family in person, in detail and can recommend an experienced Certified Financial Planner to assist you in planning the best outcome from your unique financial situation. HOW IS SOUTHWEST VIATICAL DIFFERENT? Today, many companies offer viatical settlements, doing business only by bulk advertising and 1-800 numbers. They transfer your insurance and medical records by mail, and do business from another state. At Southwest Viatical, we believe you should be assured of complete confidentiality and the best possible service by working with us in person, face-to-face. We are involved on a community level, and are responsible directly to our local commtmity. By working with you in person, but at the same time having access to nationwide financial resources, we are able to deliver the best value on your policy available today. And because of our established resources, we. can deliver a settlement in less than a third the time other companies take by mail, typically in fewer than 30 days, We’ll do what it takes to find the best solution for you. Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative 4021 South Harvard, Suite 210 Tulsa, OK 74135 800-305-6384 918-747-3320 Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By &for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay~ &Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings, 7-9 pm Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. H P E" HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education formerly TOHR HIV Prevention Programs 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 . 2 doors east of theHIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights. SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS Serving Tulsan’s Since 194 7 Major credit cards In-store charges or Direct insurance billing for your convenience! 3 locations to serve you: Hillcrest PhysiciaWs Building 1145 So. Utica 582-7144 Utica Square Area 1560 East 21st, Ste. 104 743-2351 The Plaza 8146-D South Lewis 299,1790 New Blood Safety Product Developed OKLAHOMA CITY (AP) - Scientists at the Ol~lfil~tma MedicalResearch Foundation have developed a patented new use for a drug that should eliminate the threat of AIDS in blood transfusions and might be effective in treating HIV-infected patients. The foundation received a U.S. patent Tuesday for a process to introduce Methylene Blue into bags used to collect and store blood donations, Dr. William G. Thurman, president of the private, nonprofit foundation, said Wednesday. "It is our hope that the drug will be as useful in clinical disease as it is in preventing the disease by putting it in the bags used to collect blood," Thurman said. The Daily Oklahoman reported Thursday in a copyright story that the insti~te deyeloped the use that canrender die AIDS virus i]iaet~ve in human blood, making it safe for use in transfusions. Biochemist Dr. Robert A. Fioyd saidhe also believes low doses of Methylene Bluemightbe effectiVein destroyingHIV or reducing the amount of virus in people withAIDS orwhoareHIV~positive. Floyd said OMRFhopes to conduct clinical tri= als with Methylene Blue in the near future. The medication-Methylene Blue also has been used to treat bipolar:disorder, or manic depression, and as an antidote to carbon monoxide poisoning. Floyd said various dosages of Methylene Blue have been studied extensively in humans with no side eff~ts or toxicity levels have been found. Thurman said putting Methylene Btueinbloodtrausfusions andbloodproducts should not significantly add to their cost. NY Doctors Can’t Discriminate ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Doctors-in private practice ca~ be charged under state humanrights laws withdiscfiminationfor allegedly denying medical coverage to people they suspect ofhavingAIDS, New Estate Planning: Revocable Trusts Everyone, regardless of their HIV stares, should take the time to plan their estates to ensure that their wishes are fulfilledregarding thedispositionofproperty, financial management, and health care decisions. Because of the possible physical and mental incapacity, persons with HIV are encouraged to take steps as soon as possible to maintain as much control as possible over their futures. One of the options is a Revocable Trust. ARevocableTrustis an estate planning document created by a person (usually called the "settlor") to transfer property into a trust. The trustmay make the settlor the sole beneficiary of the trust during until the settlor dies. Atrustee is named to manage the property while the setflor is alive and who distributes the property when the settlor dies. The setflor may amend the trust at any time. When the settlor dies, the property is distributed according to the terms of the trust, and any property in the trust will avoid probate when the settlor dies. Be aware, however, arevocable trust will not save aay taxes since th~.trus~t l~’,qL~e..~..~ will York’s highest court ruled today. The ¯ Court of Appeals decided 4-3 that denlists’ offices are"places ofpublic accom- -" modation" and it reinstated discriminalionjudgments against two dentists made ¯’ by the state Division of Human Rights. : The three dissenting judges said their -" four colleagues weremakingnew law and ¯ that the decision would saddle the Divi- ¯ sion of Human Rights with claims the : Legislature did not intend it to have. : The court ruling came in two similar ¯ cases stemmiug from what patients said ¯¯ was denial of treatment by Dr. Dennis Cahill ofBay Shore and Dr. LloydLasser " of Newburgh. In ruling in the patients’ favor, the Human Rights Division had : said private dentist offices are "places of : publicaccommodation" within themean- " ing ofthelaw whichprohibits dlscrimina- : lion on the basis of gender, race, religion, medical condition or o.ther factors. ThalidOmide for AIDS Care ¯ WASHINGTON (AP) - Thalidomide, ¯ whichbecametheworld’smost infamous ¯" drug after causing thousands of horrific ¯ birth defects more than30 years ago,may ¯ soon be sold in the United States - per- ~ haps as early as next year. ¯ While the drug shows promise in fight- ¯" ing someAIDS-related disorders, leprosy ¯ and other devastating diseases, the Food : and Drug Administralion already is taking steps to protect women who could bear children with no limbs or tiny flip- " per-like arms and legs after taking just ¯ one pill in early pregnancy. : .Thalidomide, once sold in 48 countries ¯ as a sleeping pill and morning sickness ¯ cure, was banned worldwidein 1962 after ¯ some 12,000 babies were born with miss- ¯. ing or malformed limbs, serious facial deformities and defective o~gaus. ¯ It was never sold in the United States, ¯ because FDA scientist Frances Kelsey ¯ uncovered signs of toxicity that its manu- : facturerhaddenied. Butlast week, Kelsey, : now in her 80s and still at the FDA, heard ¯ see.Health, page 10 : beincludedinthe setflor’ s estatefor estate ¯ tax purposes. ¯ Arevocable trust is anespecially useful ¯ ¯ document for a person who is presently capable ofmanaging his.or her affairs but ¯ who anticipates becoming incapacitated : in the future. A revocable trust can aid in ¯ planningforincapacitybyhelping toavoid ." the expense, embarrassment and diffi- ¯ culty in seeking a court appointment of a ¯ guardian or conservator in the event of ." incapacity. If all of the setflor’s assets are ¯ placed in the revocable trust, then upon ¯" the setflor’s incapacity, the trustee can ¯ take over management of the trust assets ¯ for the settlor’ s benefit. ¯ There are both advantages and disad- : vantages to the revocable trust. A revocable trust is more expensive and difficult ¯ to ere,ate and administer than a Last Will : and Testament. However, its advantages ". include flexibility, avoidance of probate, ¯ continuity of management of assets. Be- . cause it is unnecessary to publicly file the : trust document in court, the trust arrange- " mentremaius private. The property distri- : bution may be more protected from chal- ¯ lenge than if by Will. recoguizableboardmembers? Itis hardto find good board members for any organization and assaults like this make this task even harder. Devalued the work of employees, volunteers and supporters of the Resource Center. The HIV Resource Center is a national model because of broad based community support. Your incomplete articlemay havejeopardized volunteer support, f’mancial support and the level of client services. (I hope this will not be true.) Is an example of behaviors you have ’written and spoken about working ag~nst -- infighting in the commuility and using. the press to present one ’side of.an zssue_-, and to capriciously defame Others. Showed divisiveness within the gay community at a most inopportune time -- the opening of the pride center [sic], the elections, the fall funding cycle during a time of social service cutbacks; and the appointment of Tulsan Nancy McDonald as national president of PFLAG. I have spent time, money and energy building community within the gay community and building bridges within our larger community. I am joined in this by manypeoplelocally andnationwide. Your behavior ofprinting this incomplete, vituperative article undermined the work we do. You owe an apology to your readers and to the straight and gay community in which you live. I suggest that TFN has a responsibility to cover issues objectively, thoroughly and to work with an editorial board [editor’s note: emphasis added] before going to press. Withyour visibility comjes [sic] a high levd of accountability. TFN has the ability to become a community- building tool. Without an apology and a logic~dly written contusion to this article how will anyone in good conscience trustTFN as this city’s gay paper of record? - Rick Phillips Editor’s response: First, a thank you to Mr. Phillipsfor editing his letter to amore conciseform. Secondly, Mr.Phillipsseems to confuse ourwriting aboutallegedproblems with the HIVResource Consortium for being responsible for creating them. He should know that the HIVRC’S staff, and ultimately, its board members are responsiblefor any actions thatmay dam-. issue, our story on Nancy_. McDonald’s selection asPFLAGnational boardpresident: Howevbr, we dsahave;an obligait ~hen :we local restaurant owner, but he doesn’t seem to like it when we run a story he deems "embarrassing’" to his other friends. Finally, we are amused at Mr. Phillips suggestion that this newspaper work with an editorial board. Thisdesirefor a board of censors appears to originate several yearsago withMcDonaldandTim Gillean when Gillean was TOHR president. It appears that they don ’t welcome an inde= pendentpress which cannotbecompletely controlled by those whofeel that theirs is the "right vision and methods" for the well-being ofTulsa’sLGBTcommunities. As we’ve written before, consensus, and the resulting unity, is built through open and honest dialogue , not imposed. Kelly Kirby rightly pointed out to the would be censors that they had no plac~ telling TFNwhatto write. Ifthis newspaper needs to have a board ~elling us what not to write, then certainly there are those in this city who see the need to closely supervise Mr. Phillips, Mr. Gillean and Mrs. McDonald as well. We have had favorable inspections and audits as to the compliance with each grant reviewed. We also have a yearly audit that is contracted to and conducted with an outside audit firm: this firm is accountable to the Board of Directors. Our meeting notices are posted and advertisedin theAIDS Coalitionnewsletterwhichis distributedby theCommtmity Service Council; this newsletter reaches the communities most affected by the services of the HIV Resource Consortium. Notices are also posted at.the Resource Center [sic]. The meetings of the Board of Directors have been open and will continue to be open to any persons wanting to attend. The only occasions we have closed theBoardmeetings havebeen to act on personnel matters; this would include annual evaluation of the Exec. Director’s performance, and any grievance by staff or by clients which require Board investigation and action. [emphasis added] In reviewing, the meeting attendance records which~nclude the M~mbers of the Board as well as visitors, Ida not find your name listed:as having ever attended age the agency. ¯ ameeting of the Board of Directors. Thirdly, since some board members : Aslunderstandit, yourequestedcopies mayfeel that they were unfairly singled i of the minutes of the Board of Directors out, "weare hap~y to clarify ofu!.~lO~ :: and weretoid!torequest them _fr,om the,~ gize. Those who were listdd doho~ hav~ ’ .:~ .Presiden~ of the Board. [editor.s note:l. hny greater responsibility for any prob- : exec. director Thoele and administrative lems that may exist at tl~e ’HIVR~. Ulti- . assistant Stanford directed TFN to speak mately, responsibility falls on al..1 these ". withboardmember andattorney, Charles people equally. We have published the ¯ Seger, which we did.] At no time have I complete board list on page 3, so that " received arequest from you.for copies of readers can know who’s responsible. . : the minutes either verbally or in written Regarding community building, etc. no ¯ correspondence. [editor’s note: this is not doubt, Mr. Phillips has done many good : true. Beside multiple requests via Thoele, works as he proclaims, but he ishardly ". Seger, etc., on Sunday, Oct. 20 (well bedone in these efforts This newsfiaper, ~ : fore this letter of 10/28) at a Tulsansfor and many others, have done equal cam- . Equality event tn ~.ont of-two others, munity building work - much’of it not ... McDonald directecl an acrimonious tipubliclyproclaimed. .~. i radetowardthiseditorinwhichshemade Mr.Phillips recently has been reported . it qu{t_e clear that she was well aware of to savthatifherananbwstgal~er, hdwould ¯ TFN s request .for minutes. TFN made it orin~ "oni~ositive" arti’cl~s: ~would ". clear that we still expected the HIVRC to ~ke for ~mat propaganda, but hardly ". make available the minutes. Also. this reperforms the role ofnews reporang, We : quest has been ,m_ade to the H.IVI~.C’s inour community~for example; in:or~rlast., ¯ not been r~ceivedd.see MeDonala~p, li HITSUBISH! , ~OTORS GOODBUY 1996’s HELLO to 19-9 DEAL N0- Money, ’ t Lltle 001~15 lfalle r~ile ’AmSn 81m0 l/~ ~111~ , ~hl0Air~0ninl 0~0lWlm&R.rSpaW OR CHECK OUT A BRAND NEW ] ’97 ECLIPSE GS No Money Down! -Timothy W. Daniel Attorney at Law An Attorney who will fight for justice & Equality for Gays &Lesbians Domestic Partnership Planning, Personal Injury, Criminal Law & Bankruptcy 1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504 128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma Weekend and evening appointments are available. SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 2627b East 1 lth 583-7815 Community ofHope (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 ¯ MONDAYS ¯ ¯ HIV Testing Clinic - ¯ Fre~ & anonymous testing " ¯ using fingerstick method. " ¯ No appointment required. - ¯ Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm : Results hours: 7-9 pm . Info: 742-2927 PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Mon. of month 6:30 pm, 4154 S. Harvard Info: 7494901 OTHER GROUPS The Technicians, Leather org., Info c/o 621-5597 ¯ T.U.L.S,4. Tulsa Uniform ¯ & Leather Seekers Assoc. Info: 838-1222 Gay & Lesbian Sttutent Association TCC Southeast Campus, Info: 631-7632 SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network Call 832-2121 TUESDAYS " WEDNESDAYS HIV+ Support Group ¯ Bless The Lord At All HIV Resource Consortium " Times Christian Center 1:30 pm " Prayer & Bible Study 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 : 7:30 pm 2627-B East llth Info: Wanda @ 7494194 Shanti-2~ulsa, Inc. . HIV/AIDS Support Group & also, Friends & Family ¯¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pro, call for location: ¯ 749-7898 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate Grief Group : Butler/Stumpff Funeral : Home ¯ 2103 E. 3rd St. " Call for time: 587-7~ Call 583-7815 for info, Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd 582-7225 or 584 4983 : THURSDAYS Co-Dependency Support Group : 7:30, Family of Faith MCC : 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 : HOPE : HIV Outreach, ¯ Prevention, Education : Anonymous HIV Testing ¯ Walkin testing: 7 ~ 8:30 pm : Results hours: 7 - 9 pm ¯ Info: 742-2927 ¯ Tulsa Family Chorale ¯ Weekly practi~e, 9~30 pm ¯ Lola’s 2630E. 15~ : PFLAG Family AIDS ¯ Support Group 1st & 3rd Thursdays ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 Alternatives Weekly social events for LGBT men & women, 7 pm Info: 646-5503 Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G 3-4:30 pm Info: 7494194 ¯ FRIDAYS Safe Haven ¯ Young Adults Social Group ¯ 8pm, 1st Fri. of each mo. ¯ Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th : SATURDAYS ." Mixed Yolleyball for : Fun & Competition ¯ Helmerich Park, 2 pm ¯ 71st & Riverside : Info: 587-6557 St. Jerome’s Church : Mass, 6 pm, Garden Chapel ¯ 3841 S. Peoria : Info: Father Rick, 742-6227 : Narcotics Anonymous ¯ Meets weeny at 11 pm ¯ Confidential support for recovering addicts. ." Community of Hope : 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 ¯ NAMES Project : AIDS Memorial Quilt ¯ Sewing Bees, 3rd Sat. of ¯ each month: 748-3111 ¯ low:income people who have the virus that causes AiDS that it,will sdect 75 of ¯ them to receive drngs to fight the disease. doctors explainthalidomide’ suniqueabil2 i The health department will pick the 75 in .FUNERALS JUST ity to inl~bit a substance that can spur . alottery onNov.27,andawardcachupto NEVER SEEMED jmrmme-related diseases like lupus, lep- " $10,000 for the costly medications. RIGHT FOR MY FAMILY=. rosy and certain AIDS ailments. Thalido- ¯ Those eligible for-the lottery do not midealso stops bloodvessel growth-o.ne : receive Medicaid assistance, do not have THE CREMATION reason for the birth defects ~ making ~t a 1 privateimuranceoreamlessthan$14319 SOCIETY WAS CREATED possible future treatment for cancer and ¯ ayear. Sdectious willbemade from each FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME. the incurable macular-deg~eneration ..that’ : part of Missouri reader a formula.that blinds the elderly. " takesinto account themorbidity ratefrom Early next year, Andrulis Inc. of : AIDS in each area of the state. ~ ~ Beltsville, Maryland, will seek approval ¯ The drngswhenUsed separately arenot for thalidomide to treat the excruciating " effective because the virus quickly builds ulcers that afflict AIDS patients. Then, : up a resistance. Mixing the drugs may We enjoy being ourselves. A funeral seems .ostentatious Cdgene also will seek I~rmission to sdl " change AIDS from a fatal illness to a and Can cost a lot of money. A simple, dignified . " thalidomideto the 150,000 AIDS patients ¯ chronic illness like diabetes, some doesuffering from wasting, orsevere Weight " tors say. But the medicine is expensive - cremation just seems to fit our lifestyle. .. (;rematm"n" tety® B~rthdefects aren t the 0iil~’nsk..Tha- " js there are individuals ~ that. do not now. ~ lidomide a~so ,can severely’damage pa- ¯ ha4e,aecessto.thesemedications andthese ~. tients’ nerve cells, causing a p~ul, in~ i medications need to be accessible,, sat Of Oklahoma . curable condition called p~ripheral . John Hubbs, chief Of- the health neuropathy. - ~ ¯ department’sHIV/AIDScare.ButHubbs .... 2103 East Third, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104-1842 Still, AIDS patients are clamoring.f~r : said the state cannot afford tobuy the 918-599-7337 or toll-free, 800-994-7337 thalidomide. Take the AIDS-related ul- : medicine for everybody who needs it~ or visit us on the Internet at eers, so painful that some patients starve : DarrenWethers,aphysicianinSt, Louis, rather than swallow over the raw tissue. ¯ said the plan is unfair. Wethers, who rehttp:// www.eremation.org/oklahoma/oklahoma-html_______ Studies indicate thalidomide healed the " cently spoke at an AIDS co_nf~en~,’.m For Free Literature, Without Cost or Obligation, sores injust 10 days, said James Learned : "Columbia, said the lottery is a puouc " ~ of the PWA Health Group in New York, " health insult" because it puts "patients in Mail this coupon today[ whichlast year provided thalidomide un- ¯ competition for medi,,cines that they all derground until the FDA allowed more : rightfully qualify for. "As much as we Please contact me. I would like to learn more about patients to use it in research programs: : wouldlike to provide access t,o, al~l~of~_.em, your special final expense program. ¯ ,..,: we just realistically can t do that, Name: - Age: Rural AIDS Care : .ubbssaid. ¯ Address: GREENVILLE, N:C. (AP) ~- Doctorssay i people affected withHIV in easternNorth ¯ City; St. &Zip:. Carolina0ften haVe little choice bm to" ’~ Telephone: live from medical emergency to emer- " community organizations, a comm.unit.~- gency. That’s because thereare few doe- wide holiday potluck. Chose your hol~- tors and dentists in rural areas who are day,beitChrisilnas,Hanukkah,KwaanTa _~......~ ....... willing to care for patients, who often " or Yule, but bring a side dish to this __ mwursetcderiviveeclaoren.g- distances tio urban arleas "" pboeltlpurcokvibduefdfe.ttP" lSea°sftedRrioSnVksPatnodDmeebabtie at Butler-Storm East Carolina, the University 6f North ~ 712-.!600.. Later that evening, BI~.TA Carolina and Duke medical schools an- " will have its end of year Formal (actually n°uncedM°ndaythattheywillw0rkt°::m°sdysemi~f°rmalbutfeelfreet°g°all gethertostre~mlinecareforHIV-infected out if you want to) from 9-2am. $2/per- Funera Home Medicaid patients who live in rural east- : son. All wdcome. Alcohol &smoke-free. ern North Carolina- The three schools " Prime Timers will start meeting at the received a five-year, $2 million federal ¯ CenterbeginninginDecember.Thismeetgrant to track patients in53 eastern coun- : ing will be Sunday, Dec. 8th from 4-6pro Cemetery - Funeral Home - Crematory ties. The goal is provide one organization " (in Jan. the group will go back to firstSun. that will follow all Medicaid-eligible, " of the mo.)~ Also Tulsa’s young adult ¯ HIV-infected adult patients to make sure ¯ see Center, page 12 At Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home, you and your family their needs are met. The researchers will " will be treated withdignity, compassion, andpride- Whether begin enrolling about 600 Medicaid pa- ; tients next fall. Eventually, researchers " it is your given or chosen family who needs our services, expect to enroll about 1500 people in 53 . eastern counties. " s.ectarian symbols from its city seal. you can be who and what you are, and you will not be "ButyouthrowHIVontopofit, andthe " Some Tulsa board members of the remoteness of ... where people live in : ACLU include Barbara Santee, and Bill discriminated against. rural eastern North Carolina, it does not ¯ Hinkle, , - We offer our exclusive $2820, complete funeral plan, no lend for seeldng treatment or main~tai.n!n.g i Dr. Joycelyn Elders~ former Surgeon treatment because of the obstacles that . General of the United States under Presiadded costs. If you have a policy some-where else, you can yo,’ll encounter," the patient says inona ¯ dent Clinton, will give the evening’s ad- transfer your policy to us, andmay be due a cash refund if videotape. The Centers for Disease C - dress. The event is $50/person. For more trol and Prevention has identifi.ed the ~ info. leave a message at 405-524-8511. you paid more for what you have now. southeastern United States as an tmpor- . tant epicenter for the spread,of~0i0nf.0% ¯ Our journey through life should be done with pride; tion, with about 126 peopte in xuu, infected,includingthosewithactiveAIDS- : shouldn’t our journey through death be.done with pride as In 1995, the national rate of HIV infec- : well? For more information, please call 918-587-7000 for tion, including active AIDS, was 27.2 in. of all our citi.zeus. Kelly Kirby serves as 100,000. In other areas of the country, TOHRrepresentadvetotheCoalifonand HIV is concentrated in urban areas. But :¯ sweorvrkessbayscocou-scehuasiurs. wSiitnhceeacthherepCroeasleintitoan- _ all of your pre-need arrangements. many of these new I-IIV-infected people . tive taking proposals back to his or her (insurance policies are available with no health questions as~.d) areliving in Southern rural communities, ¯ where there are no coordinated care pro- ; organization for approval, this decision grams, the researchers said. ¯ representsnow the positionof each orga- 2103 East Third ; nization. Kirby noted that this statement ¯ which is inclusive of sexual oriention, Tulsa Oklahoma 74104 AIDS Drugs Lottery : represents ongoing "behind-the-scenes" 918-587-7000 COLUMBIA, Me. (AP)- Thee Missouri : coalitionbuilding~nsdsapplauded~C°a- D.~p~.et.X.t,~[,Health.has,gqtified 2,6397/,,i litionfo,r,taldng.thi~ s. tep, , .".’.’ ....... , , ,, . " ~ ..........~ ~’-.... ,’,"~ ,’,’/’"’ A DiNiNq PIFAsURE COCONUT BEER BATTERED SHRIMP PRIME RIB FRESH CLAMS VEGIE STIR FRY COQUILE ST. 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I personally contacted the president of the HIVRC board only to learn that.the editor ofTFN nev~ requested the minutes._Why continue to attack someone on unfounded reasons’ ~ ¯ , [ ditor s note: as aperson with experience with non-profit boards, as a chairperson, a member and-an employee, this notion that a request is only valid ifmade . to McDonaldhas no basis in law or common practice. Gillean ought to be condemning Thoele, Stanford, orSeegerfor failing to forward the request, ifindeed they didfail to do so.] As a grand finale to your tabloid piece you suggested that perhaps board members could be freed and evenjailed. Men- . tioning only five of the total board members sound like.some sort of personal attack on your chosen five. What about the other members of the board? What kind ofjournalismis this? I cannot understand what benefit it is to our community to attack the very people who are giving their precious time an [sic] energy as volunteers to create a better community for all ofus. Why should anongay person ". be willing to give their time and money to our community when they are attacked i personally and threatened by your publi- ¯ cation? Why indeed should a gayperson ¯ volunteer and be subjected to this kind of " attack? ¯ [Editor’s note: board members shouM i understand When they acCeptpublicposi- ¯ tions that they will have to be accountable ". for the agency which they supervise, i Gillean might also read the OKstatutes.] . I would like to say to the people who were attacked by this article that I appre- i eiate all you do. Please don’t stop now. To " the individuals who feel they have been : mistreated by the organization, there are ¯ much better ways than through the tab- " loids. ¯ [Editor’s note: several oJ those who ¯ spoke to TFN did so only after repeated " efforts to work with the HIVRC.] ". The editor at TFN must issue an apol- : ogy to the five board members attacked and to the readers for not completing i proper research before publishing your : article. -Timothy E. Gillean ¯ Editor’s note: just after receiving this ". letter byfax on Oct. 28th, IcalledGillean to givehim theopportunity to clarify in his i own words, his close ties to HIVRCboard president McDonald. I left a message with his assistant, Brian, asking Gillean to call TFN. To date, he has not done so. Readem may want to consider thefol- : lowing~ Several years ago, Gillean proposed a board ofcensor-sfor TFN. Later i when TFN ran an editorial he and ¯ McDonald did not like, "Gillean used his ¯ position as TOHR president to retaliate ". against TFN, to the detriment of TOHR. " After his bid for a 2nd term as TOHR ". presidentfaildd, hejoined thePFLAG & : Community Service Council boards, or- ¯ ganizations with which McDonald is " closely associated and allegedly at : McDonald’s behest. The minutes are available for review to ¯ anyone, attending-theBoard Meeting;and : to anyone requesting copies through .the : appropriate channels. If copies are re- . quested-the individual must pay for the i co.p.ies as we attempt to be good stewards ot the monies available tous. : We .are deeply distressed by the article : .aP.peanng in the Tulsa Family News and mvzte you to attend our next Board meeti ing, scheduled for Thurs. Nov. 21 atnoon ¯ at the HIV Resource Center [sic]. If you : wishtorequestinformationfromtheBoard : of Directors regarding minutes or other : appropriate public information, I forward _- to receiving your request. Thank you ¯ We are asking you as Editor of Tulsa : Family News to print this letter in its : -entirety next edition of your newspaper. .,~ Nancy McDonald, President toward Amedure. However, ifJonathan Schmitz was able to-form the intent to commit suicide, he also would have been able to form the intent to commit murder, a psychologist testified Tuesday. Dr. Carol Holden was called as a rebuttal witness by the prosecution. Oakland County assistant prosecutor Roman Kalytiak pointed out that Schmltz never referred to suieide during hiss911, call or during police questioning. x ne jury fotmd that Schmitz, 26, acted without premeditation and did notcommitfirst- degreemurder. Hecouldgetanywhere from eight years to life in prison with the possibility of parole when he is sentenced Dec. 4. First-degree murder carries no hope of parole. The segmentofthe "JennyJones Show" was never aired but was played for the jury. In it, Am~_ur_e,,outlined fantasies of Sehraitz involving whipped cream and ~champagne~" Schmitz reacted withanembarrassed smile butno apparent anger. He turned away when Amedure put an arm around him and tried to kiss him. "I’m definitelyaheterosexual, Iguess youcould say," Schmitz said. The 1996 RedRibbonHoliday: Treefest and Gallery Walk will showcase holiday trees and other holiday items. These will be sold at auction to raise funds for Interfaith AIDS Ministries which provides spiritual~ emotional, andpractical support for those whose lives are touched by HIV andAIDS.This year’s format will include an "official opening," in the Brady Arts Gallery District, Thursday, Nov. 21 from 6-9 pro. More viewing hours will be on Nov. 22-23, and pick-up of trees will take place on Nov. 24th. PhilbrookMuseumwill shroudits Rodin sculpture ofAdam on Dec. 1 in honor of Ds..ema3ya" Wpriothfeosustz.Aonrat.ls"aCnoduanrttlseuspspaorrtitsetrss,hmavuedied.., from AIDS. Wecan.only guess at how many works of art will be denied to us by this disease that respects neither people nor creativity," noted Richard Townsend, Hardman Curator of European and American Art. 3 READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley : The id~ that the gay rights movement is foreverjoined to "leftist" politics gets a : thorough trashing in Brace Ba,w,er’s n.e.w ¯ compilation, "Beyond Queer.’ At this point in history, some centrist, and fight of center, authors are proposing a new ¯ approach to winning the battle for gay ¯ rights. Their perception is that, histori- " cally, the movement has tried to claim "victim" status, and that this will not be a successful strategyfor winningfull equality for gay and lesbian Americans. Editor Bawer is well known, having written eight books, including the provocative" A Place at th~ Table." Here: he has compiled forty essays by a variety of authors, including former New Republic editor Andrew Sullivan, San Francisco Chronicle correspondent Carolyn Lochhcad and heterosexual Chicago Tribune columnist Stephen Chapman. Describing the authors,Bawer states "though many of us have been tagged in the gay press as ’gay conservatives,’ few of us wouldbe consideredconservativeby anyone- who objectively examined our politics; we variously call ourselves liberals, moderates, libertarians and communitarians- or we eschew such labels Stogether as increasingly irrelevant iff a post-ideological era." Bawer’ s intent is to present an alternative to what he sees as a radical, in-yourface activism. Bawer initially cites "an episode of ’The Charlie Rose Show’ devoted to the twenty-fifth anniversary of the Stonewall riots, (when) the radical lesbian activist Donna Minkowitz told me: ’We don’t want a place at the tablewe want to turn the table over.’ That line pretty well sums up the attitude of many leftist gay activists toward both ’the system’ and gays who seek to work within it." In essay after essay, the authors explain their positions with rifles like "Why Outsupport group will be at the Center earlier that afternoon. Last but not least is video night at the Center. The inaugural video will be Wigstockto be shown on Sat. Dec. 14th at 9pro in the Renfro Room. Popcorn and pop will be available. It’s free (though donations are acceptedforthe Center) and three of Tulsa’ s most fabulous drag divas may appear: Christina, Dolly Love and grand diva, Sensuous. January’s video night should be the 2rid Sat. also. Call to RSVP with Debbie at 712-1600: On Nov. 2rid, the Pride Center held a grand opening with about 70 people attending. TOHR/Pride Center president Deb Statues held a brief presentation of certificates to recognize thosewhohelped with the Center. More than 50 individuals were honored, in particular, Kelly Kirby and Tim Gillean, former TOHR presidents, and now-closed Agape Christian Fellowship for its donation of chairs and tables. Statues also announced the decision to name the rooms in the Center. The lounge/library was named the Pfimetimers Loungeinrecognilionoftheir generous support of the Pride Center. The largest single gift came from this group. ing Doesn’t Work," "Sleeping with the Enemy" and ’!Here Comes the Groom: A (Conservative) Case for Gay Marriage." In,"A Gay Right Agenda," author John Berresford’ s conservative response to his liberals friends’ stance is %..I amas much in favor or basic civil rights for gays as they are. Where we differ is in the need for group-based remedies and in perceiving ourselves as victims whose main recourse shouldbe coercion by the government." Berresford’s answer is to "come out whenever it is reasonably safe. The best way to explode the myths about us is for.each of us to become known as .just anotherhumanbeing with~esameneeds, goals and drives as other human beings - : except is a single respect that poses no : threat to anyone else." He also believes ¯ that ’-’we should lobby for the right to : marry. Domestic-partnershipslegislation ¯ makes us an officially sanctioned class of ¯ oddities and freaks." : Thethreatof_be,,,ing seen simply as "oddi- ¯ des and freaks is the thought behind : Bawer’ s rifle. Insteadofbeing"acclaimed ¯ by a minority of gay ,,p~.~ple as ,a,,suppos,~ edlyaffirmativelabel, theworo queer, ". to Bawer, is "not so much to be homo- : sexual as it is to be a socially marginal ¯ rebel, defined primarily by his or her : sexuality, who is perpetually andintdnsi- : cally at odds with the political and cul- : rural establishment." ¯ Can these ideas bring the gay right hnd : left together toward acommon goal? Can : Bawer’s "we’re just like you" approach ¯ alone actually win the hearts of straight : Americans? What about the wide variety : ofpeoplein the gay/lesbian/transgendered : community whomaynotmeetthe squeaky ¯ clean image Bawer promotes, but who : still s_eek equality under the law? COuld : the answer, perhaps, lie somewhere be- : tween Bruce Bawer and Queer Nation? ¯ Check with your local branch library : for "Beyond Queer," or call the Readers :- Services, Central Library at 596-7966. The small conference room was named the Stariott Conference Roomin honor of Midge Elliott and Deb Statues. The me- : dium size room was named the Renfro ¯ Room in honor of the late RF Renfro, a : leader of FUSO, the Friends in Unity : Social Organizationand anHIV educator ¯ who worked with TOHR/HOPE. : The largest room was to be named in ¯ honor of two individuals who provided :- signifi.cant "sweat equity’, in tearing out : tffo plaster&lath walls .to make the room ¯ and in honor of one of those two who’s ¯ donatedmuch of the furniture that s in the : Center. Thelatter manpreferred not to be ¯¯ recognized but asked that the room be named in honor of Pat Padgett, a PFLAG ¯ activist. Therefore, that room is now the ¯ Neal-Padgett Hall in recognition of gifts ¯ that made the Pride Center possible. ¯ or let someone else run the show...You : can care with out being cold, get things : done right and.get on with it please!!! ¯ It seems to us that everyone is just out : for themselves, but after seeing and hear- " ing firsthandweknow why...It is the only ," way we have of getting your attention... ¯ Thank you for Your Time - PWA Tulsa/N. E. Oklahoma Jeffrey A. Beal, MD Ted Campbell, LCSW Specialized in HIV Care Providing Comprehensive Primary Care Medicine and Psychotherapeutic Services We have many insurance provider affiliations - ifyou belong to an insurance program that does not list us as providers, call us and we will apply. 2325 South Harvard, Suite 600, Tulsa 74114 Monday - Friday, 9:30-4:30 pm, 743-1000 Are-You Bored? Are You Gay or Bisexual? Are You Native American? ] TNAAPP is Here to Help! f Evening Meetings. Are Held Every Wednesday in Tulsa Call 582-7225 Ext. 208 For information on meeting time & place Meet others and be part of a supportive social group! * Bakery Treats * Bed & Breakfast (boarding) * Salon * Pet Supplies: Science Diet, IAMS, Nutro Dog Food THE DOG HOUSE BROOKSIDE 3311 S. Peoria, 744-5556 Saint Aidan’s 4045 No. Cincinnati. 425-7882 The Episcopal Church Welcomes You Winter Gayla ’97 Ft. Lauderdale, Florida February 14 ~- 17 Beach Party with DJ Winter Pride Parade Festival Boat Party on the Jungle Queen and SWAirlines nowflies there! Aspen Gay Ski Week Fine Skiing & Festive Parties January 25 - February ! IGTA member Call 341. 6866 International Tours:ormoreinformation. by Jean-Pierre, TFNFo~d Critic : will order a full combo for each two We all have that "special" friend visit- ¯ people at our table, and then an extra ing from out-of-town -- you know, the : pound of shrimp. The combo itself can prissy queen who is the finicky Miss ¯ also be ordered in any ratio of crab to Manners sort-whoneeds anintroduction ¯ shrimp to crawfish. Sometimes wewill to thereal lifein Tulsa. And, we’vefound " also order sides of coleslaw or cornbread just the perfect place, to’ Boilln~ .P.o~ sticks. A word of warntake that friend. Caju~ ing. The combo is avail= Ther6 is a special res- 19-01 So. Me~orlal able either mild or hot. tanrantinTulsawhereone Hour.: The mild is quite warm. can suck head and pinch The hot is fiery. And the tail with abandon, where 11 - 10 Sun. -Thurs. crab boil permeates evone can eat with one’s tll 11, Frl. and Sat. erything, even the potafingers, and where one Cuisine: ’toes and comon the cob. can bejust as downhome So, keepplenty of iced and comfortableas pos= Cajun se~ood tea on hand, or maybea sible(~l wh~l,e f~iing .... .Dress:,"Very casual : - pitche~:ofbeer($4.75)~to isasmaliplacefitihecor- _ . l-’aym~e..nt: ;. This is not an elegant her ofi2th and Memorial. Major credit cards, white table cloth restauin a rather run-down and no e]aeel~s rant, and the staff makes ~derilict Strip mall. This is ~,SmoklI no pretense in that dire,ca very laid back, genuine ~.: tion. Sometimes one has white trash-cookin’ kind x’~on-smokin~ of place; full of atmo- seetlon, l~ut smoky a warm and friendly waiter or waitress, and sphere mid bayou boys Alcohol: II.9-Z i~eer Sometimes one has the and giftsfrom all walks of feeling that itis that waitlife. Decoratedwithtaste- & wine cooler" only tess’ time of the month: ful tape-patched, red vi: Ratln~: A llst But, the staff is usually nyl seating in each of the quite congenial and enformica: topped booths, and with black " tertaining. vei~et art alid posters adorning the classic ¯ The one main area needing improve- 1960’s panelling on the walls, the noise " ment here is the housekeeping. While the and aroma of the kitchen greet patrons as ¯ grungey feel ofthe diningroommaybe an they enter, and there is no doial~t in’one’s ¯ attempt to recreate the authentic dirt of a minduponenteringtheestablishmentthat " backwater Cajun swamp dive, theycould this is a seafood restaurant. ~ at least clean the restrooms and make sure Menus are presented printed on paper ¯ that supplies are stocked and fixtures placemats. Lots of fun things appear on . working. On ourlast visit, themechanical the menu, like ’q’asty Fried Shark Bites" " towel was broken and filthy, and the toilet for$1.50,CajunDogfor$3.95,jambalaya : was running constantly. The finger bowls " for.S2.75, red beans and rice for $2.75, ¯ aren’tquiteenoughforthefastidiousdiner blaCken~dchi~k’strlp,’a for $6.50, ablack- " to cle~tip~ so the trip tothe tinyrestrooms ened fib-ey~ :s~ak ~0r $9.95, arid even " alligator for $8.95 But, nobody ever gets ¯ For those so inclined, the Boiling Pot those things. : features their house band on Saturday People come to the Boiling Pot for the " nights, whichplays aloudmix of country, Combo. The combo ($1~95) is a big pot ¯ bluegrass, andcountry rock, and packsin of shrimp, crawfish, crab, sausage, new ¯ the crowds. potatoes, quartered onions, and half ears : ~ The Cajun Boiling Potis where a group of corn on the cob which is boiled in a " of:frie~ids caugo for a casual good time. spicy crab boil and served~ Well, sort of served. It’ sdumped onthe table.CMtop of ing roffd~. No, this isn t aft elegant place~’ a big sheet of butcher paper. As soon as: btit it’s n~t supposed to be. And, while it’ the ~ood co0!s~enough :to handle, one " doesn’tappearas cleanas we’dprefer, in di~es in to shell the shl~mp, pinch the tails ¯ the dozens Of times we’ve eaten there,. offthecrawfish, su~kthejuices Out of the : we’ve never gotten food poisoning cerheads, d_nd squirt i~etchffp containers of " tain~noted Tulsa four diamond hotel rescocktail sauce all 0~er ~e place: When " taurants): The important thing is that if one’s hands get suffibienfly messy; a!arge one likes boiled shrimp, the foodis great. ’r611 of ii~pdr.’~tbw~l~:.6~ th~ thblesefV~ ~S : And; Wli~it’ ~ore can on~ ask from a nhp.ki~ ~O;~ffe ~n&ifibn .thai ~e’y: don’i: dt~vilh:bm~~urant than t6 liitve great use silverware. Until one has had the : food atinexpe~nsive i~rices?. Boiling Pot experience, it is difficult to ¯ Go suck somehead and pinch some tail. imagine how fun and how good the peel ." and eat can be. Theproprietors bringregular shipments of seafoodup from the GulfofMexico, so i the shrimp and crawfish are fresh and ." firm. The crab, though, seems to have " McDonald get by with falsifying her rebeen shipped on ice or frozen, since the ." sume when she worked for the Tulsa shells lack the crispness of never-frozen ¯ Public Schools because she did so many crab. The crawfish, of. course, is 0nly ; nice things and worked so hard. I guess it available in season, which is December _" meansitisallri.’ghttobedishonestaslong through June, but those little underwater as your cause is good. Is it really? carrioneatershaveneverbeenhighonour ." People get hurt when they get in her list of gourmet delicacies. We prefer the : way. That seems very unfair. Can the shrimp, which is some of the best and : media [mainstream media] help you with most economical shrimpin Tulsa, at only., these efforts? Thank you for being there $8.95 a pound. ¯ for these clients! 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I~1 Yes! ! am interested in coming to the TIVAAPP retreat Address: City: State: Zip: Telephone: Cut on Dotted Line #z Hail to: TI~P, 915 South Cincinnati, Tulsa, OK 74119.2000 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, November 15-December 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 12 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. 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Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document Sept, 15 - Oct. 14, 1996, vol. 3, no. 10 Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities ENDA DOMA WASHINGTON- The U.S. Senate voted on the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), two key pieces of legislation affecting gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Americans. The Senate passed the anit- Gay DOMA bill, 85-14, as was expected. The Senate then voted 49 to 50 to defeat ENDA. Oklahoma’s senators, Don Nickles and Jim Inhofe, both noted for their hostility to their Lesbian & Gay constituents, voted against ENDA and for DOMA. Nickles was the Senate sponsor of DOMA and Inhofe an original co-sponsor. TulsaOklahomans for H~_~man Rights (TOHR) issued a statement strongly condemning their votes, particularly criticizing Inhofe for his refusal to meet with Lesbian and Gay constituents, community leaders or Gay press. Sen. Nieldes sent a letter to colleagues calling for a vote against ENDA because it would "promote sexual promiscuity". He also equated homosexuality and bisexuality with bestiality, pedophiliaand adultery, and suggested that local school boards should be able to fire or not hire staff who express opinions advocating homosexual or bisexual relationships. The measures had became hopelessly entangled in a series of political moves, counter-moves, and countercounter- moves. DOMA, which has already cleared a House vote, would define marriage as a legal commitment between one man and one woman. The effect would be to deny any federal benefits to married samesex couples. No state currently recognizes such marriages, but a lion of the work of several TOHR boards and longtime community supporters. Tim Gillean, former president of the organization, was recognizedinparticularforhis leadership. ’‘This project has been the dream of many but without Tim Gillean, we would not be where we are today," noted pres. Debbie Starnes. The Pride Center will be open to all community organi zations andindividtmls who share its goals which include ending discrimination and oppression based on sexual orimany but without oR.]DE CENTER N ON BROOKSIDE OCT. 4TH ¯ Officer ’ - ..... _" Many community organizations have enabout to i dorsed this project. Prime Timers has donated Bisexual i $1,000 for The Pride Center and Rainbow Brookside Business Guild, The Black &White Charities, Rights (TOHR) and Inc., PFLAGleaders, Bill &Kathy Hinkle and foot center open in October. pastors of the churches that reach out to the A spokesperson for the or- community support The Pride Center. ganization noted that The " Part of the 3,500 s. f. of The Pride Center Pride Centeris theculmina- been the dream o~" " will provide offices for HOPE, HIV Outreach, ¯ Prevention, Education which are the preven- ¯ tion programs of TOHR. HOPE’s director, T;m G;llean, [former pres.], we would not be where we are today," - Deb Starnes Pride Ctr. Pres. entation. Officials stated that The Pride Center opens with a modest budget and will be supported by individual and organizational mem- .berships, as well as byindividual pledges. Membership is $20/yearfor individuals and $35/year for couples. Pledges range from $3-5/month up to $100/month with most at about $15 to $25 Statues added, ’"dais is a way for each and every member of the community to make a difference. We appreciate those individuals who can pledge hundreds but the support of those who can just help with a few dollars a month are equally important. This is a center for all." Fellowship Congregational i Welcomes Lesbians & Gays ¯ Another Tulsa "mainline" Protestant church has become an offi- ¯ cially welcoming congregation to Lesbians and Gay men. Fellowship ¯ Congregational Church joins a number of "open and affirming" ¯ churches that are part of the United Church of Christ (UCC) denomi- ¯ nation. ¯ The leaders of this church of about 200 near 31st and Harvard ¯ characterized the year and 1/2 process of becoming a welcoming ¯ congregation as both stressful and as exciting. The issue first seemed ¯ to rise about 3 or 4 years ago. The church which as a tradition ofbeing ¯ involvedin socialjusticeissues realized that they had a certainamount ¯ of ignorance about homosexuality. Over the year and 1/2, at a series ¯ of events, the congregation had the opporttmity to personalize the : issues. A divinity student who had ties to the congregation came back ¯ to preac.h and also came out as Gay. see Fellowship, page 3 ¯ Claudette Peterson, was estatic at finally hay- ¯ ing adequate space for her staff. The highly " successful programs now have seven staff ¯ members and additional volunteers who can : not fit.into the current spaces near the HIV ¯ Resource Consortium (HIVRC). Peterson ¯ notes, however, that HOPE will continue its : HIV antibody testing program at ’the HIVRC ¯ with which it works closely. ¯ A workroom and a conference room of The ". Pride Center will be available for community ¯ organizations that do not have their own of- . rices. The site has adequate parking at the ¯ building which is unusual for Brookside with : even more overflow parking nearby. The Cen- ¯ ter will be accessible to those with mobility ¯ disabilities. ¯ Additionally, ThePride Center will behome ¯ to The Pride Store. The Pride Store will serve ¯ community needs rangingfromgreeting cards, ¯ rainbow stickers, flags and other Pride items, ¯ news magazines, t-shirts, etc. Gay business : owner Tom Neal is volunteering as a consult- : ant and is donating merchandise from his store ¯ tomfoolery] see Pride Center, page 3 ¯ Community Leader Lost : see Community Notes, page 9 National Coming Out Day Workshop, Leatherstuff, Bible + Homosexu,a,lity Study Group, Two Splrlted Mens’ Group + TU/BLGTA Safe Haven, RBG Dinner Gay Comedy Jam, IAM Street Carnival, Lesbian Comedian, AIDS Mastery ComingSoon : OKLAHOMA CITY- Oklahoma’s Gay community is in shock from ¯ repo~tsofabrutalkillingofagaymaninthesmalltownofWoodward, ¯ near the Oklahoma Panl~mdle, by two men whom witnesses say later : bragged they had ’~ust killed that queer." It is the second vicious anti- : gay murder in the state this year. Police say Albert J. Bixler was ¯ apparently beaten to death with a car fire jack and his body dumped ." inatrashbinby Shannon LeeJones, 23, and MarkJones,30. Bothmen ¯ live in Woodward but are not related to each other. One witness at an i apartment building where the two suspects were staying told police ¯ she overheard Shannon Lee Jones say, "The queer son of a bitch got ¯ what he deserved." Shannon Jones is being sought by police on murder charges. Mark Jones, 30, is being held on murdei charges. ¯ Authorities have also issued amaterial witness warrant for a thirdman whom they identified as Clifford Green, who sometimes goes by the name of Clifford Beard. Only a week earlier, two Guthrie, Okla., teenagers, identified by police as skinheads, appeared in court in Oklahoma City to face ¯ charges of murdering Charles Meers earlier this year. Alexis N. Perryman, 18, and Nicholas J. Karlin, 15, have been charged with ¯ brutally beating Meers, stabbing him, shooting him, and then dousing his body and home with gasoline and setting them on fire in an effort : to cover up the killing. case pending in Hawaii see ENDA/DOMA, p. 3 " Oklahoma’s ’96 Anti-Gay Murders INSIDE EDITORIAIJLETrERS/DIRECTORY P. 2 NEWS BRIEFS P. 4 HEALTH BRIEFS P, 6 CALENDAR P. 9 EUREKA HAPPENINGS P. 11 BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT P. 12 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 13 CLASSIFIEDS P. 15 ¯ " Robert Fitzgerald Renfro, known as RF or ¯ just as Renfro, one of Tnlsa’s most respected ¯ community leaders and HIV/AIDS educators ¯ died at St. Francis Hospital on August 23 after ¯ a brief, though severe, illness. ¯ A Celebration of Eternal Life was held at Shiloh Baptist Church with the Rev. Eddie ¯ Cook preaching and the Rev. Melvin Bailey, : host pastor, see Renfro, page 3 918.583.1248 fax: 583.4615 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TuisaNews@aol.com Publisher + Editor, Tom Neal Asst. Editor + Mac Guru, James Christjohn, Writers + contributors: Phyl Boler-Schmidt, Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Leanne Gross Steven Scott Gerald Miller, Lance Brittain Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the punisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Phyl Boler-Schmidt A number of months ago, I reported on a rather suspicious death that occurred here in Eureka Springs. It was a death that struck terror in the hearts and minds of many lesbigay cidzens because the victim was known to be aGay man, andhe was killed by a teenager who suggested tO police that he did the deed in selfdefense againstacts the description of whichI Would probably incite major homophobic responses from the police. It.appeared at that time that investigation of the.death was being permanently swept under the rug. However, Iamhappy to reportthat the death ofChris Klein will not go unpunished, or at least untried. Anthony Fleetwood was arrested in August .and charged with 2rid degree homicide, some seven months after the slaying. Bond was set at $30,000, and if the bond is raised, Fleetwood risks losing the services of the Public Defender appointed by the court. DNA and serum test results were finally completed and failed to back up Fleetwood’ s story, a story that said, in part, that after polishing off a 12 pack see Justice, page .3 by G. Miller, M,A. Last month I gave some simple advice on dealing with the outside forces in your life. The aim of that little treatise was to get you thinking positively about ways to improve you daily existence byhandling the external forces you confront This month I want to spend a little time on how to get your personal force into the positive mode. This will sound way too simple but the truth usually is simple¯ Youcan either choose to see your life as positive or negative. You . make that choice every morning of every day, When you head to work, understand what it is you are doing. If you’ re lucky you go to ajob that challenges and fulfills you, or you are going to ajob which permits you to earn a living. The income from that job provides the where with all.which allows you to do the things you want to get enjoyment out of life. So while thejob itselfmay not be the most enjoyable thing in the world, it is the springboard to enjoying the other areas of your life. 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Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626 *Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337 *Scribner’ s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 Scott Robison’ s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations 743-2351 Southwest Viatical 747-3322 Thomas Chiropractic, 4138 S. Harvard, Ste C-1 742-8868 Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959 Fred Welch, LCSW; Counseling 743:1733 ¯ Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities ¯¯ AIDS Walk Tulsa; POB 1071,74101-1071 579-9593 Black & White, InC.-POB 14001,Tulsa74159 583-7314 ¯ *Bless The Lord... Christian Center, 262To E. 11 628-0594 ¯ *B/L/G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th Pl.. & Florence ¯ *CommunityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703 E. 2rid 585-1800 ~..Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 : Dignity/IntegrityrLesbian!Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648 ¯ .*Fmnily of Faith MCC; 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 ¯ *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 ¯ *Free SpiritWomens Center, call forlocation &info: 587-4669 ¯ Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 . Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-American mens group) : POB 8542, 74101, call c/o TOHR @ 742-2927 Indian Health Care, Save the Nation 584 4983 ¯ Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438:2437, 800-284-2437 ¯ ~MCCbfGreaterTulsa, 1623 N:Maplew0od 838-1715 ¯ *I-IiV Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 7494194 :. NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H’-I 748-3111 : *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960 ¯ PFLAG ,POB 52800, 74152 7494901 ¯ *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674 ." Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118 74104 : *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 7494195 .~ Rainbow B,usiness Guild, POB 4106, 74159 " 665-5174 "" St.Jerome s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, 646-7116 ," .~Shand Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services 749-7898 ¯ Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, (TOHR) POB 52729, 74152 7434297 ! Technicians, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308 ¯ T.U.L.S:A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222 ¯ *Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor ¯ *Tulsa Community College, Metro & NE Campuses : *University Center at Tulsa : EUREKA SPRINGS ¯ Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy 23 South 501-253-7734 ¯ Beaver Dam Store, 1/2 mi.N, of Dam Hwy. 187 501-253-6154 : *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 ¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 ¯ *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 ¯ Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776 : King’sHi-Way,96KingsHighway,Hwy.62W 800-231-1442 ¯ MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 ¯ McClung Realtors 501-253-9682 ¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-253-2401 ¯ Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659 800-624-6646 ¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001 The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281 Opposes School Tax Increase Tulsans who pay property taxes just felt a significant bump this spring, and if the October 8 bond issue passes, we’ 11 get ajolt. Renters, you won’ t escape either- .your landlord will have to pass on the cost increase to tenants. But isn’t the bond issue for a worthy cause - Tulsa schools? The school district’ s demanding $94.5 million for a district with about half as -" many students as ithad 20 years ago. Last ¯ year they said they needed $89 million : from us, but they have "upped the ante" ¯ because they claim buildings have dete- -" riorated that much since last year. Yet ¯ they have sold two of their 18 unused ¯ properties in the meantime- where are ¯ the millions from those? They also claim ¯ that they need chairs and textbooks, but ." many parents tell me the P.T.A.’s have ¯ provided those since last year in various .. school~. They made dire predictions, that our property taxes would fall if we didn’ t "support our schools"- but values are up. And does each classroom really need tele- ¯ communications and a telephone as re- , quested? I’ think not, We all want our ¯ schools to be fine ones. But each person has to ask, "What benefit will I see from ," yet another tax hike?" Vote NO Oct. 8. - Leah Farish Editor’s note: TFN neither endorses nor ¯ Opposes this vote. We encourage readers tb consider carefully and to vote. ¯ We applaud those represented by the ¯ letter above [or reaching out to Lesbian ¯ and Gay voters. This community is usu- ¯ ally simply ignored though we are af- ¯ fected- as parents, as teachers, as ¯ homeowners and tenants. In a tight race, ¯ minority communities can make a differ- "~ ence. The writersees that. Thesupporters :. of the bond vote have made no effort to ¯ reach out to this community. ¯ Carbon Copy - Full Text ¯ Editors, The Tulsa World ~ Why are we afraid of same-sex mar- " riage? Is it change? Without change, we ¯ can not grow. Why are we afraid of any¯ one or anything that is different fromus or our views? What would the world be like ¯ if we were all the same? ~ Marriageis acommitmentbetweentwo ¯ people who love one another. Single-par- " ent homes, illegitimate children, abusive : spouses, alcoholism, joblessness and : multiple marriages are aspects that are ¯ tearing the family and marriage apart. Please tell me where same-sex marriage ." will destroy the institutions of marriage _. and family. And is it wrong for a married ¯ couple not to have children and go against the marriage is for.pro-creation theory? : Heterosexual couples enjoy the right to ¯ tax breaks, spousal benefits, and hospital ¯ visitations. Same-sexcouples donot. Isn’ t ." this discrimination? Have we forgotten ~ about the Constitution? Doesn’t it give ¯ every American the same basic rights? ." When will the politicians realize they ." arenotsupporting every American?When ¯ will they realize they are teaching hate ~ and discrimination? Where is the love ¯ they supposedlyhavefor Americaandit’ s ¯ people?Whyhas the government decided ¯ it should dictate what our morals will be ¯ and how we will define marriage and ¯ family? ." We are all human beings. The hatred ¯ and discriminationhas to stop. I urge each ¯ of you to please look deep into your soles ¯ and bring out the love God intended us to ¯ share with one another and bury the hate. ¯ America will be a much better place. " - Lance Brittain. Collinsville something in terms of what else it is you want to ¯ accomplish. " The same thing is true of your personal rdationship. If you spend all your time finding fault with ", your companion, then each day will be a trial. If on ¯ the other hand you recognize what good things come from the relationship, and understand how " important that contributionis,thenyour daily inter- " action will become more positive and enjoyable. Don’t forget the reverse of that statement is also ¯ true. If you are doing some trivial thing which ¯ obviously makes your co.mpanion nuts, quit doing it! Making a concession m a triviality is nothing ¯ compared.to slowly poisoning a rdationship over ¯ sbmething which is probably of little meaning to " you anyway. Sit down in a quiet moment and start looking at your reactions to the things you experience each day. If you are spending most of your time being angry or upset or unhappy, figure out why. Is it that someone is purposefully trying to make your life miserable, or are you doing it to yourself? There was a time when the slightest suggestion that I was not competent enough, or smarL or clever or handsome or whateverwould sendmeinto ablack funk. Finally I ~at down and took stock ofwhat was rea~_ly going on. No I am not the smartest person in the world, but I’m smart enough: Yes there are some things at which I am totally incompetent. No, I am not the most handsome person, but then neither am I Frankenstein. What I lack in smarts, I make up for in common sense. What I am incompetent at, I make up for by being very competent in other areas. While I may not be Porno Star material, I have an excellent dry wit! Make your own inveiitory of all the positive things about yourself and recognize that everyone is deficient in some area. You don’t have to become a Saint, but if you will start to be reasonable about who and what you really are and quit trying to be something else, then life gets much less complicated and much more fun. Better than that, you will begin to feel better about yourself and life in general. Then you can start doing the things in your everyday world which actually make things better for yourself and others around you. Now here is the biggest secret abouthow to make your life more fulfilling and enjoyable. Learn to say, ’I was wrong!, sorry. My mistake, sorry!" Whenyou screw up,just admityou screwedUP and get down to work correcting the screw up. Fixin.g a mistake is much less time and energy consmmng than trying to cover up that you made a mistake. Admit that everyone screws up from time to time. Quit trying to cover up your mistake, or bludgeon someone rise for their mistake. If you fall into the trap of the one-upmanship game, you will regret it in the end. There is nothing hard about finding the enjoymeat in Life. It is only when.we set unreasonable expectations of ourselves and others that we make life hard. I had some very wise people try to get this across to me years ago, but I couldn’t grasp the concept then~ Perhaps it is only with lime that we come to these realizations. Or maybe it’s because we are so ego-centered that we can’t see the simple truths in front of us. I don’t know, maybe I’m not smart enough to figure that one out. But I have figured out how to be more positive about myself, about my place in the word and about how to get the most out of enjoying the word as it exists around me. I remember a short quote from a 19th Century Americanpoet, possibly Stephen Crane or Stephen Foster, I could be wrong about the name. I may have the exact quote a little wrong, but don’t miss the point. A man said to the Universe, "Sir I exist." and the Universe replied, "Sir, that fact does not createmmea sense of Obllgatton . Your exlsten is up to you to make ofit something. Youcanmake it negative, combative and endlessly hard, or you can make it something else. What you make it is up to you. Copyright © 1996 Gerald Miller Organizers and featured speaker at the recent fundraisin~g dinner are: Martin Newman, MarkGoldman, and[3ill Stoskopf of Black & White Charities, Nancy McDonald, of PFLAG, speaker Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Human Rights Campaign, Kristie Suttee, Steve Wright, and Mark Wright, also ofBlack & White Charities. This yearPFLAGbeganitsSWANawards to recognize those in Tulsa who have stood up for fairness and for justice. The recipients are the Rev. Russell Bennett, pastor of Fellowship Congregational Church. His congregation has recently become an officially wdcoming one for Lesbians and Gay men. Eddie Faye Gates, a wall respected educator &writer is honored for herleadership ontheHumanRights Commission. Dennis Neill, an attorney, also served on the Human Rights Commission and with the ACLU and was founding president of TOHR. Lisa Pottorf of Youth Services was recognized for her heroic work with and for Lesbian and Gay young adults. Sharon Thoele, director of the HIV Resource Consortium, is known for her commitment to HIV/AIDS issues &THE NAMES PROJECT. That business successfully served the community for two years from a space leased from The Silver Star. The Pride Store will-benefit The Pride Center and HOPE prevention programs~ Director Peterson anticipates that the Store will be staffed by volunteers but that The Pride Store possibly also may be able to provide appropriate work opportunties for persons living with HIV/AIDS. Other office space will be available for seminars, video showings and exhibits. While not all details have been : resolved, it’s hoped that part of the space can be used for "_ Lesbian and Gay young adults who have few other safe : places to go. Pride Center organizers note that volunteers are needed for clean-up, painting, minor repairs to get the Center ready to open. Later, those with strong backs and a few vans and pick-up trucks will be asked to help move the prevention program offices. To volunteer or for more infolmation, call 743-GAYS (743-4297). is expected to lead to the legalization of gay marriages in that state in the next year or two. Civil libertarians have argued that " DOMA is highly questionable because marriage has always : been a state issue that Congress has never before touched. The ¯ Constitution’s "full faith and credit" clause makes it question- ¯ able whether federal legislation can impose such restrictions. ¯ Activists and several members of Congress were quick to ¯ criticize DOMA as election-year political maneuveringaimed ¯ at embarrassing President Clinton, noting that one of the origi- ¯ hal Senate co-sponsors of the measure was Bob Dole, the : Republican presidential candidate. Clinton drew fire from : rights activists when he quickly said he would sign DOMA - at ¯ leastas itwas introducedin theHouseearlier this year. But since : then, the measure has gone through several changes in the form : of a bewildering set of amendments. The capper in all this, of ¯ course, was ENDA, the anti-discrimination amendment that ¯ was supposed to be tacked on to DOMA by Seas. Edward M. : Kennedy (D-Mass.), James Jeffords (R-Vt.), and Joseph : Lieberman (D-Conn.). ¯ Inan 1 lth-hourmmof events, Senate Majority Leader Trent ¯ Lott of Mississippi announced that ENDA would be voted on : separately from DOMA. The eomplex political mish-mash the : Republicans and Democrats had made of DOMA and ENDA ¯ had created so many objections from both sides of the aisle that : Lott moved to extricate the two measures from each other. ¯ Richard Tafel, executive director of Log Cabin Republicans ¯ noted of the close vote onENDA, "I’his sends the message that : the 105th Congress will be ready to pass some form of non- : discriminationlaw to protectgays andlesbians." said. ’q’he real ¯ surprise is we now have 8 Republicans who support ending : discnnnnalaonagamstgays mthe workplace. We rebegium g ¯ to see what happens when the gay community works with both : parties. I’m sure we can bring on more Republicans in the next ¯ Congress, we had a couple on the fence on this vote. This vote ¯ proves working with Republicans instead of writing them off ¯ benefits the entire gay and lesbian community." ¯ MelindaParas, executive director, National Gay and Lesbian ¯ Task Force commented, ’~foday is a historic moment for ¯ lesbian and gay people, despite the outcome of the Senate votes. : In spite of the intolerance of many Republican and Democrat _" lawmakers, weknow wehavefinally broken the legislative log- ; jam that has blocked Congress from even discussing our civil ¯ rights in aserious manner. Weknow we will have tolose a few i votes.before we win the battle. We lost ENDA by only two votes. We know that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender ¯ equal rights have taken center stage in American politics, and ¯ we can never go back to the days of silence." Renfro was a founder and leader of FUSO, Friends in Unity Social Organization, Inc. a non-profit that seeks to educate African-American men of diverse sexual orientation aboutHIV/AIDS. Healso served withmany groups, including TulsaAIDS Walk, AIDS Coalition,TOHR, the Community Planning Group, Tulsa Pride Picnic and more. He was an ordained minister, active in his congregation, Bless the Lord at All Times Christian Center. Friends and family expressed shock and sorrow at his sudden death. Most did not know RFhad been living with HIV/AIDS for 10 years. Donations inhonor ofhis memory may be made to FUSO, c/o TOHR, POB 2687, 74101. At other events, they had the chance to meet parents of Lesbians and Gays. The task force for this issue lauded the leadership of their pastor, Russell Bennett. They praised, in particular, his balancing the need to push the church forward but without getting too far ahead of it as wall. The group noted also that Pastor Bennett had performed, with their knowledge, a couple of holy unions, or blessings of same gender couples. The United Church of Christ is the only mainline Protestant denomination that ordains openly Lesbian and Gay persons as amatter ofpolicy, and therefore shouldbe expected to be friendly to Lesbians and Gay men. However, in the Congregationalist tradition, it is up to the individual congregations to implement these policies and to call individuals to ministry. Fellowship is the only UCC church in Tulsa though there are some others in the staie_. Some members of Fellowship Congregational asked why it was necessary to adopt an official policy of being open and affirming since they felt that that was what they’d practiced all along. Other noted that in these days when politics and religion are so mixed togeth,, r, that their congregation needed to stand up and be counted. That is since so many ugly thingswere being presented in the name of religion, they hope to counter that ugliness. They hope that their actions will inspire others to have the courage to do something similar. Services are at 10:30 am. Info: 747-7777 of beer with Klein and falling asleep on the couch, Fleetwood awoke to find Klein ejaculating on his face and tee shirt. This was his motivation, he said, for pointing a .410 shotgun at Klein’s face and pulling the trigger. Tests showed that sperm found on Fleetwood’s tee shirt, confiscated the night of Klein’s violent death, "...could not have been that of the victim but instead was consistent with the blood" of Fleetwood. Newly appointed Eureka Springs Police Chief Earl Hyattwas aninvestigator withthe Carroll County Sheriff’ s Office at the time of the slaying and worked with Eureka Springs Investigator Morris Pate at the crime scene. If convicted, Fleetwood faces a five- to 20-year prison term for the Class B felony. Lesbians’ Killer: It" Was ’Hate Crime’¯ MEDFORD, Ore, (Aug. 20)- Rol~rt J. Acrement, the California man who is charged with the December 1995 execu: tion-style killings of lesbian activists ¯ Roxanne Ellis and Michelle Ab’dill, told " the San Francisco Chronicle in a prison interview that he killed the two women because they were lesbians, not in a botched robbery attempt as he had first claimed. Acrement also sent aletter to the Stockton (Calif.) Record telling the paper in the city where he was arrested that he had earlier in the year killed Scott George because themanhadmadea sexual pass at him. In his letter, Aerement, 27, said he Lesbian Loses Child to Killer Dad TALLAHASSEE, Fla. (Aug. 30) - The Florida Court of Appeals has upheld a lower court ruling that ordered Cassey Ward, age 12, removed from the home of Mary Ward,~her lesbian morn, andhanded ¯¯ over to the custody of her father, John Ward. . The father called the court .ruling a "victory for my daughter and every other child in this nation ffho may be faced with ~ being raised in a household in whichho- ¯ mosexual role modeling distorts.and per- " verts, or is like to distort or pervert,.soci- ¯ etal norms thathave been established and ¯ recognized from the beginning of eivili- ¯ zation." had invented the robbery .motive in the ~ : Mr: Ward was convicted of killing his slayings Of Ellis arid Abdilli who were ¯ fir~twffein 1974;firing.12bullets,during ,f,_0und shot througla tile head, b~.cau~e he : aright over their daughter. He-pleaded ¯ was nervtus about inmate reacti0n~ to. : guiity to.sec0nd degree~urd~ran~] ~erved my reason fbrkilling~’ whiehhe said was - ¯ .eightlyears.in.prison. - ~ . .. ~ . a "hate crime." - i ~ , = ~ ~ " The~thr~e-judge appeals_ panel ins~stexl Acrem~nt wen’t ori in th~ letter to say, " that its =decigionwasn"t based on mother however, that now he doesn tcare wha .anyone thinks - :inclbdingthe’ji~ that Will decid,,e his-fate~ "They cankilt me forall !care,. the letter:s~y~i ":/i" :) Neo-Nazi" -Judged Guilty of Murder HOUSTON (Aug: 29) = After deliberating fortess than 3 hours; a jury has found Daniel C. Bean, 19, guilty.of the January 4 kilting of Frederick Mangi0n~ merry because he was gay.~Bean, who pblice said belongs to a neo-Nazi group known as the German Peace Corps in Washington state, was found guiltt of stabbing Mangione 35 times with a large knife outside a suburban bar where they met. Evidence given during the trial indicated that Bean and his stepbrother, Ronald H. Gauthier, 21, both bragged to patrons in the bar that they were going to assault someone who was gay. Police also told the court that the two menlater boasted of brutally stabbing Mangione. Beanfaces a maximum life sentence for the killing. Gauthier is still awaiting trail. ¯ Mary Ward’s- sexual, orientation, but on ¯ the"best interes~ts of thelchild ’: Activists : -were quick ’.to point ,out,-howe~er, that ] Judge Joseph Tarbuck, whosetowercourt ¯ ruli~gwas beittg revie~ved by the appeals :. cour~,.clearly istated in hivcustody decision. thathe wanted the gift takenfromher . " .morn and handed over to heri convicted- ¯ kiil~r dad to give bet a chance to live in."a ¯ non-lesbian world.’" John~ .Ward ctiallenged the mother’s ¯ custody after.she applied for anii~crease ¯ in child support. Attorneys representing MrS. Ward have Said slle Will pr~obably ¯ appeal the ruling to the state supreme ¯ court. ¯ D.P.’ Benefits Come ¯ From Court Ruling PORTLAND, Ore. (Aug. 9) - AnOregon ". statejudge has given the gay rights movement a surprising victory in partnership ¯ benefits. Thejudge has ruled that Oregon ¯ must offer insurance benefits to gay domestic partners of state employees. In ¯ issuing the ruling, the judge said it was ~ "beyond debate" that gays and lesbians hav~ been discriminated against. Law- ¯ yers for the state and attorneys for the " three lesbian couples who filed a lawsuit ] on the issue say they believe the ruling ~s ¯ the first of its kind in the nation. ¯ State Rep. George Eighmey, who is " ¯ gay, praised the decision, saying "it’s a ¯ big step in the fight direction." But Lon " ¯ Mabon, the leader of the anti-gay-fights " : group the Oregon Citizens Alliance ira- ¯ ¯ mediately said the judge is "flat Out prohomosexual" and was trying to destroy ¯ the notion of family. The statehas 30 days to decide whether to appeal. ¯ SchOol Censorship i=. EffortsContinue : : -WASHINGTON.(Sept. 4).-According to ¯ ¯ the 14tk annual report on school, censor- " ship; People for the American Way says ¯ there were a record 475 attempts last year ¯ ¯ to restrict books, classes or educational " proced_ures that opponents claimed were .. too sexually explicit, too violent,too raciM,. anti-religious,, an,ti-family, ¯¯ .unAmerican. ~ or all these things. . A~cording to.the report, the things~bjected, to last year ranged from accep.ted ¯ classics inliterature to Halloween partles. " _In-.41% .of the,cases, .th6 rep0rt~ .says, : -school officials bowed to Objections and ¯ rembved matelials or restricted activities. ¯ The" report, "Attacks on the Freedom to, ¯¯ _ Learn~" cites-conservative Christians mid especially members of the Christian Coa- ¯ lition as chief objectors in mostof the ¯ . cases it reported on. California, which has the largest num- " ber of public school students of any state ¯ in the country, also led in the number of ¯ ¯ attempts to restrict materials or classes, with 56 incidents reported by the group. ¯ Carole Shields, president of People for ¯ . theAmericanWay, noted thatmany ofthe ¯ school.materials objected to mirrored ha- ¯. tional debates on issues, such as racism poverty, homosexuality, crime, drug and alcohol abuse, and AIDS. : "We must analyze this report and de- " cide as a nation: Will we bequeath to our ¯ children the tools and information they ¯ need to address these complex issues as ¯ they growinto adulthood?" Shields asked. "Or will our gift to them be ever-narrowing horizons of thought and speech?" California to Ban Gay Adoptions? SANTA ANA,~ Calif. (Sept. 5) - At a public hearing, the state department of social services listened to testimony on Tire 22, aproposed regulationthat would recommend adoptions in California only for married coul~les. Despite the ob_vio.us ¯ restrictions ongay andlesbiancouples the ¯ proposed regulation would impose, state Officials denied it was anti-gay. "We’re not talking about sexual orientation," said Janice Ploeger of the state health and welfare departme.n,t. "This has to do with marriage andwhat s in the best interest of the child." Butrights advocates strongly disagreed. Tara Rose,31, testified at the hearings on the regulations that she was raised by two ¯ mothers’, but adoption was impossible while shewasgrowingupand she sees the regulation as abig step backward in Call- - fornia. "ff we’re talking about-marriages -. only.that’s one issue/’ said Rose. "But this is’ discriminating agaiast gay and les- ¯ bian parents." ¯ The new rule could go into effect next -- October around the time partners Lisa "" Pratt and Julie Thompson .will be adopt- " ing a second child, six-month-old Katy. ¯ They told the hearing that they’re con- - cerned the child won’t get the same ben- " efits as. their daughter Elizabeth. Even if ¯ the regulation goes into effect, the final ¯ decision will bemadeby thejudgein each ¯ adoption case, state officials say. There were some6,000 adoptions in the state in ¯ 1995 according to state officials,andabout a fourtli of them were by single parents, ¯ straight and gay. :City OK’s $1.2 m for Gay Center : SAN FRANCISCO (Aug. 12) - The San ¯ Francisco board of supervisors voted : unanimously to lay out $1.2 million in ~ city funds to buy property for a 5-story ¯ proposed Lesbian & Gay Center. The P AlrERSON REALTORS~ LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ¯ Suite 170 . Tulsa. Oklahoma 74114 Off: 918-749-8374 ¯ Res: 918-582-7672 ¯ Fax: 918-747-1795 MCC of Greater Tulsa "Where God Uplifts All People" 1623 N. Maplewood Tulsa, Oklahoma 838-1715 Community Cleaning A Residential and Commerical Cleaning Service Kerby Baker (918) 622-0700 Call for Free Estimate BROOKSIDE JEWELRY 4649 South Peoria 743-5272 Comer of 48th & Peoria 9:30 - 5, Mon. - Fri. board approved the funds to purchase a rambling Victorian house in the city that center backers will renovate to house the community facility. Total costs for the proposed center, whichis planned to have a book store, gift shop, meeting rooms, and a 200-seat auditorium, are expected to run about $7.3 million. ¯ The religious group charged that Disney : had abandonedits "commitment to strong ¯ moral values" and was promoting gay- . themed books and films. Walt Disney ¯ Company officials declined to comment : on the group’ s call for a boycott. Earlier ¯ this year, the Southern Baptist Conven- ¯ tion called for a boycott of Disney be- ¯ cause the firm has recently extended do- Calif. County OKs ". mestiClesbian workers.Partnerbenefits to its gay and Intel Offers Benefits : SANTA CLARA, Calif. (Aug. 16)- Intel ¯ Corporation, the computer chipmanufac- : turer whose Pentium processors run rail- ¯¯ lions of computers throughout the world, has announced that starting in 1997 the : same-sex parmers of its workers in this : country will be eligibleforthesamemedi- ¯ cal, dental and other employees benefits : thatthe spouses ofits workers have access : to through the giant computer firm. ¯ The company said it had jbined with ¯ ¯ scores of other U.S. high-tech firms in extending thebenefits package to thepart- : hers ofits gay andlesbian workers to help ¯ "attract top talent and retainkey perform- " ers" in the very competitive industry. i HRC Fights Helms : DURHAM, N.C. (Aug. 24) - The Wash- " ington, D.C.-based lobbying group Hu- ¯ man Rights Campaign has launched a : campaign in North Carolina to persuade ¯ undecided voters in the state’ s U.S. Senate race this November to dump Jesse Helms. HRC says it will be operating phonebanks and direct mail campaigns to convince swing voters in the state to vote lently anti-gay memberofCongress. HRC xs expecting to spend some $220,000 on the anti-Helms campaign in North Carolina. Town Reconsiders Rights Measure SAUGATUCK,Mich. (Aug. 26)-Months after the city council tabled a proposed ordinance that would add sexual orienta- Dom. Partnerships SAN JOSE, Calif. (Aug. 14) - Following a tense, prolonged and sharply divided late-night debate, the Santa Clara County board of supervisors refused to bow to organized conservative religious opposi- ’tion andunanimously approved settingup a county-wide domestic partners registry. Religious opponents lined up to speak out against the proposed registry during the nearly 6 hours of public testimony, charging that it would undermine the traditional family, and said immediately after the board vote that they would launch a petition drive to put the issue before the voters this November. Nearly 2,000 people attended the packed board chambers, an adjoining auditorium, and spilled onto the sidewalks outside the county government building. SantaClara County, with some 1.4 million residents, is the home of many highteclmology firms that already extendbenefits to the same-sex partners of their employees. Approval of the measure makes Santa Clara County the largest government entity in the state to OK a ." parmership registry. "" : 2nd Church Calls ! for Disnev BOVe_ott though it’ s best known for its wholesome " family films likeAladdin, theWaltDisney ¯ Company is facing another threatened : boycott by a conservative religious orga- . nization. : The Assemblies ofGodis urgingits 2.5 : million members to stop going to Disney ¯ films, buying Disney products and going " to the company’s popular theme parks. ¯ ’tion to its anti-bias protections, the council has now voted by 6-1 to undertake the issue once again. The council voted to create a committee of 3 council members and 10 city residents to discuss including sexual orientation in its anti-bias protections and to report back to the council. Anti-Gay CO Org. Opposes Partners’ Health Benefits DENVER (Aug. 28) - Will Perkins, the used-car dealer and head of Colorado for Family Values which backed the state’s unconstitutional Amendment 2, told Denver’s city council that they shouldn’t extend health benefits to the partners of gay and lesbian city workers, calling the move an "economic jihad." Perkins broughtwithhim Paul Cameron, the discredited psychologist who was removed from the American Psychological Assn. forfudging statistical data. Even so, Cameron insisted studies he did using obituaries indicates gay~ and lesbians are high health and violence risks. A spokesperson for Equality Colorado, a gay rights organization, said Perkins’ group is a "fringe anti-gay organization" and said Cameron offers nothing but ’*oogus anti-gay statistics." The council will take up the question in a vote in September. Lawsuit. Follows " PBS/NPR Extend "Partner Benefits ¯ City Distributing Inc. : River City Distributing was targeted ¯ for the boycott, bar owners and activists ¯ said, because of Mrs. Shedd’s involve- " ment in Kentucky’s Eagle Forum, the ¯ anti-gay groupheadedby Phyllis Schlafly. : They also noted that Mrs. Shedd served ¯ on the state Republican Party’s executive ¯ committee the year before when it unanii mously passed a resolution in favor of reeriminalizinghomosexuality inthe state. In addition to the popular bars and res- ¯ taurants involved in the protest, the boy- : cott was also being supported by Kentucky’s Fairness Campaign, the Pro- . Choice Coalition, the Metropolitan Community Church and the Louisville Chapter : of Parents-Friends of Lesbians and Gays. ¯ Organizers said at the time that the , boycott could cost the distribution company as much as $15,000 per week in lost ¯ sales. Just months after the River City ¯ boycott was announced, Miller Brewing : severed its relationship with Shedd, who ¯ has also sued Miller. The boycott itself ¯ was ended earlier this year after the orga- : nizers declared it had been a success. : Now the Shedd family has filed a wide- ¯ ranging suit, charging the bars, restaurants, and organizations with conspiracy, interference with contractual relations, criminal harassment, defamation of character, and other aetious that the family is seeking unspecified damages for. ¯ Sucessful Boycott : WASHINGTON(Aug.20)-Without.any : ....... ¯ LOUISVILLE, Ky. ~Aug. ~u)-Aecord- ": f~a,nof~aar,e~,ath~e.,,C,¢li;ntototnoAthdemsianmisetr-asteixonoalarats : ing to a report in The Letter, a Kentucky ¯ ~_.~?,,~;.~’~ o,,.~,,,,,~ ...........~-,-~--~:----~..... : :y~,~_,,_.,,n~ v,~v~.,.m~- ,~yu,,~,,, : casting Svstem(PBS) and National Pub- " the state s most prominent conservauves . licRa~io~NPR),thefirstfedemllyfunded ¯ has filed a massive and complex lawsuit : againstnearly every gay andlesbianbusihess and organization in the Louisville ¯ areaover a 1995 boycott launched against ¯ a firm co-owned by the family with the Miller Brewing Company of Milwaukee. Nine local gay bars and restaurants launched the boycott in August 1995 because of what activists called the "right wing activities"of Donna Shedd, whose husband David was president of River ¯ agencies to offer such benefits. ¯ Donald Wildmon, president of the farright anti-gay American Family Assn., : immediately denounced the move by the : two public broadcasters as a "misuse of ¯ tax money". "Bill Clintonis willing to use ." tax dollars to support the radical homo- . sexual agenda and promote homosexual ¯ marriage," Wildmon said in a press state- . ment condemning the PBS-NPR move. St. Jerome An Affirming Liturgical Church meeting at 7fie Garden Chapel 384J S. Teoria if" "flu[so., Oklaf/unna ~fass Saturday eveni~s at 6pro 7he ~,v. :Talfier Rick Ho~ngsworth, Pastor Ehe :Xev. Deacon Debbie Starnes (918) 742-6227 ¯ OUICK SERVE ¯ PATIO BAR Traci.Huntsman Owner "QUALITY WORK UNBELIEVABLE PRICE" FOR APPOINTMENT 743-7141 3225 S. Yale Tulsa, OK 74135 Kelly Kirby, CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation 4021 South Harvard, Suite 210, Tulsa 74135 747-5466 Sun. 9:15 am Christian Education ¯ Sun. Service 11:00 am Wed. Service 6:30 pm ¯ Wed. 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group Rev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor To do justice, love mercy & to walk humbly zoith our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South~74146 " (918) 622-144~ HIV May Be Eliminated CHICAGO (Aug. 10) - A report in the Journal of Infectious Diseases suggests that HIV could eventually be "flushed out" of its hiding places in the body’s lymph nodes] Researchers at the Chalucet Hospital in France reported that after intensive treatment with antiviral drugs, the amount of HIV identified in blood and lymph nodes of patients had decreased significantly. The French scientists said that ff HIV replication in the body can be halted entirely through medical therapies, they believe infected lymph .node and other body cells will eventually be replaced by new, uninfected cells. The finding, if substantiated by other research, could be important because one concern AIDS experts have expressed recently is that even with powerful new anti-HIV drugs that appear to dramatically reduce infection, continual drug treatment might be needed if the virus cannot be entirdy eliminated from the body.. HIV Infects More Blood Cells LONDON (Sept. 6) -According to a report in the medical journal Lancet, researchers at the University of Edinburgh in Scotland have confirmed that a second set of blood cells - CD8 cells - is also vulnerable to infection by HIV and may play a crucial role in how the virus develops. It has for some time been know that HIV progressivdy destroys CD4 T-lymphocytes, the cells that the body produces to fight off infections. But scientists had previously believed that CD8 cells were immune from HIV infection,,,possibly because of structural differences in the cell itself. The Scottish researchers re- ¯-,~r+ however, that 5 of 16 people with AIDS that they studied had CD8 cells infected with HIV at high levels. The researchers said the next step is to discover whether the virus destroys thebody’ s CD8 cells or simply invades them until they become active later. British Rights Group Wants Aversion Therapy Ended in UK LONDON (Aug. 9) -The British say rights organization OutRagehas formally asked the Royal College of Psychiatrists and theHome Ministry’s health secretary to issue guidelines barfing the use of aversion therapy, to set up a board of inquiry into how extensive the treatment has been and continues to be as an attempt to "cure" homosexuals, and to offer a public apologyandcompensationforindividuals who have been harmed by such treatment, either physically or psychologically. The continuing use ofaversion therapy, often involving electro-shock treatment and psychrtropic drugs, was the recent subjectofaBBC-TVprogram and shocked many in the country who were unaware that such attempts to "cure" homosexuals were still being used, at least occasionally. In a letter to the health secretary, OutRage called the government sanctioned use of aversion therapy "scandalous" and"barbaricpseudo-medicine" that had "caused untold suffering and harm to ual~own numbers of gay and bisexual people." Twins Studies Suggests Genetic Factors in Sexual Orientation TORONTO (Aug. 12) - Researchers reported at the annual convention of the AmericanPsychological Assn. thata new, large-scale study of twins in Australia adds further suggestive indications that sexual orientation among gay men is in fact a hereditary factor, although it failed to find a similar pattern among lesbians. The findings were based on a study of some 4,500 sets of twins, fraternal and identical, in Australia. Lead researcher Dr. J. Michael Bailey of Northwestern University reported that about 20% of the twins studied identified their sexual orientation as other than "strictly heterosexual." Of the 312 sets of men who were identical twins, who are formed from a single egg, nearly half had the same sextml orientations. Among fraternal twins, who are from 2 separate fertilized eggs, having the same sexual orientation was significantly less likely, Bailey reported, saying that the f’mdings were "consistent with the idea that there is a male gene for sexual orientation." Although the study was one of the few that have included women, the researchers reported that they could not find enough identical twin lesbian sisters to indicate a statistical relationship between possible genetic factors and lesbianism. Oral Sex Riskier Than Previously Believed PHILADELPHIA (Aug. 14) - According to a study published in the Annals of Internal Medicine, University of Washington researcher Timothy Schacker reports that even people who are engaging in lower-risk sexual behavior are continuing to become infected with HIV. The 3- year study of 46 people found that while nearly halfhad had sex withjust 1 partner during the month prior to infection, oral sex, which has been generally considered lower risk for transmission, was the most common form of sexual contact among the patients in the research. Schacker and his ~olleagues in fact were abi~ ~6 ;~3,~’~[~.- cally pinpoint 4 cases in which oral sex was the only possible route of transmission. The report is the 2nd recently to indicate that oral sex appears to be a higher-risk behavior than has been previous believed. NJ Offers 3 Protease Inhibitors Free TRENTON, N.J. (Sept. 4) - New Jersey state health officials have announced that the state will make3 importantnew AIDS drugs available withoutcharge to patients who earn lessthan $30,000 a year and are either tmiusured or do not have policies that will cover the costs of the new drugs. The drugs include 3 of the new protease inhibitors: saquinavir (Invirase by Hoffmann-LaRoche),indinavir (Crixivan by Merck & "Co.), and 3TC (Epivir by Glaxo Wellcome). The drugs have been shown to be able to reduce detectable levels ofHIV dramatically inmanypeople infected with the virus. State health officials warned, however, that ifdemand for the new drugs outstrips the state’s ability tounderwrite the giveawayprogram, some restrictions - such as co-payments or deductibles - may be added later. The free ~rug plan is being paid forfrom the state’ s 9 million AIDS Drug Distribution Program. About 1,700 state residents currently getAIDS drugs withoutcostthrough the program. More Women Being Tested ATLANTA (Aug. 3 i)-The federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that the number of women in the U.S. who are being tested for HIV has been rising dramatically for the past few years. Between 1991 and 1993, the CDC reports, the percentage ofwomen 18 to 44 Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By &for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings, 7-9 pm Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. HOPE HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education formerly TOHR HIV Prevention Programs 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights. SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS Serving Tulsan’s Since 1947 Major credit cards In-store charges or Direct .insurance billing for your convenience! 3 locations to serve you: Hillcrest Physician’s Building 1145 So. Utica 582-7144 Utica Sq uare Area 1560 East 21st, Ste. 104 743-2351 The Plaza 8146-D South Lewis 299-1790 Jeffrey A. Beal, MD Ted Campbell, LCSW Specialized in HIV Care Providing Comprehensive Primary Care Medicine and Psychotherapeutic Services We have many insurance provider affiliations - ifyou belong to an insurance program that does not list us as providers, call us and we will apply. 2325 South Harvard, Suite 600, TulsaF/4114 Monday - Friday, 9:30-4:30 pm, 743-1000 Art Show & Sale 10 am- 7 pm, Sept¯ 28 & 29 0UR HOUSE 1114 South Quaker Everyone is welcome to come and enjoy beautiful works donated by local and nationally recognized artists to help friends living with HIV/AIDS. All proceeds from the sale go to helping our friends living with HIV/AIDS. Forfurther information, call 665"-1339 / herry Street Psychotherapy Associates N 1515 S. Lewis (918)-743-4117 ~,ears of age who had been tested for the virus increased some 60% overall. The agency reported that a 1993 survey of more than 6,000 women indicated that 31.8% said they had been tested. A similar surveyin 1991 of 13,000womenfound .that just 18.8% said they had been tested at the time. HIV Programs Widespread in Schools, but Often Don’t Teach About Condoms ATLANTA (Sept. 5) - According to a survey by the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, some 85% of the nation’s public middle and high schools teach required HIV prevention classes in 39 states plus the District of Columbia. That’s the goodnews fromtheCDCstudy. The less-than-good news was that only about61%ofthe school districts provided in-service training for teachers; about54% said they taught students the "basic facts about HIV/AIDS"; only about a third of all the teachers involved in school AIDS education programs said they had any training about HIV prevention during the 2-year period before the survey; and only 37.1% of the instructors said they taught their students the "correct use of condoms." In issuing the report, the CDC said one obvious and important area that needs improving in the country’s HIV/AIDS school education programs is increasing the percentage of teachers who both teach preventioninhealth education classes and who regularly receive in-service training on the subject. Younger Inner-City Women at High Risk for HIV Infection CHICAGO (Aug. 15) - Two just-published studies in the American Journal of Public Health report that younger urban women are at very high risk ofHIV infection. A Medical College of Wisconsin study estimated that about a third of all younger inner-city womenare at high risk ofHIV infection, mainly because of risky behavior like IV drug use by their sexual partners. The researchers also reported that while most of the women had a fairly good knowledge of HIV transmission risks, they were poorly informed about the correct use of condoms and lubricants during sex. Another study of younger urban women in the same issue said that high rates of syphilis among thesewomen who are drug users is an indication of the high-risk sexual behavior they are also engaging in. Both groups of researchers said HIV prevention programs aimed at theseinner-city womenare needed tohelp reduce growing infection rates. : ’Playboy’ Surveys College ¯ Students Attitudes on AIDS ¯ CHICAGO (Aug. 25)-A Haybo.y maga- : zine survey reports that 9 out of 10 college ¯ students are sexually active, that sligh.tly : more than half say their sexual behavior : wouldn’t change if the AIDS epidemic : disappeared, and thatjust over a third say ¯ they’ve been tested for HIV. : The survey, published in the October : issue of the magazine, reports that 66% of ¯ women and 49% of men in the more than ¯. 1,000 students surveyed say they wouldn’t : change their sex lives much if the epi- : demic wasn’t a factor. The magazine also ¯ reports that 39% of the males and 35% of : the females in the survey said they had ¯ been tested for HIV, and that 27% of the : men and 19% of the women said they ¯ knew someone with the disease. Some : 63% of the males and 79% of the females : surveyed also said they believe their ¯ chances of contracting HIV/AIDS was ". either unlikely or barely likely. The sur- : vey also reported that 57% of men and ¯ 71% of women said they had only one ¯¯ sexual partner during the previous year. ¯ The magazine also found that condom use appears very highly corrdated with a ¯ steady relationship. While 41% of the ¯ males and 54% of the females reported : being in a steady, monogamous rdation- ¯ ship,40% of these students also said they : do not use condoms. Only 6% of the ¯ students surveyed who are not in a too- ¯ nogamous relationship said they don’t : use condoms. : Psychologists Delve Further ¯" into Sex & Biology TORONTO (Aug. 13)-Dr. James Dabbs, ¯ a psychology professor at Georgia State ¯ ~Uuiversity, reported at the annual Ameri- : can Psychological Assn. convention that ¯ in studying testosterone levels of 28. les- ; bian couples,it was the sdf-definedbutch ¯ partner in the relationship who consis- ¯ tently had the higher levels of testoster- ¯ one, the "male" hormone that all women ¯ also have in smaller amounts. Dabbs re- : ported, however, that despite the higher : levels when compared to their partners, : none of the women in the study had sig- ¯ uificandy higher testosterone levels than : women in general. ¯ In another study presented at the APA ; conventionby RayBlanchardofthe Clarke ¯ Institute ofPsychiatry inToronto, aniden- ~ tifiable group of men are predominately ¯ or exclusively attracted to genital males ¯ who dress and act like women- transves- : rites or pre-operative transsexuals. A1- ¯ though Blanchard said that these ¯ "gynadromorphile" men he studied were ." sexually attracted to cross-dressers, they ¯ were not attracted to post-operative trans- ¯ sexuals - men who have been surgically ] and hormonally changed into genital fe- ¯ males - and considered themselves "bet- : erosexuals of some stripe." Ex-Boxing Champ Says HIV Not ’That Big a Deal’ : KANSAS C1TY, Mo. (Aug. 26) - In an ¯ interview with the Kansas City Star, "¯ former heavyweight boxer Tommy ¯ Morrison said being infected with HIV "doesn’ t seem like that big a deal" and : that he is not taking drugs his doctor has ¯ prescribed to combat the virus. Morrison, ¯ who has also appeared in a few films ; including "Rocky V" where he played a ~ featured role as a boxer, announced that Serving a Diverse Community ; he is HIV-positive earlier this year. AIDS FederalHousing Grants. WASHINGTON (Aug. 24) - The U.S. Dept. of Housing & Urban Devdopment (HUD) has announced some $7.8 million inhousing grants to non-profitagencies in communities in9 states that offer housing assistance for low-income people with AIDS. Community-based non-profits in Baltimore, West Hollywood, Calif., San Francisco, Savannah, Ga~, SantaFe,N.M., Tucson, Ariz., New York, Philaddphia, Burlington, Vt., and Seattle are expected to receive HUD grants of various sizes The federal funding was established in 1992 as part ofHUD’ s Housing Opportunities for Persons with AIDS (HOPWA) program to help agencies that provide housing assistance and related support service to people with HIV/AIDS. The AIDS Legal Resource Project by Darlene Shadid Being HIV positive means facing new challenges and new issues. In addition to the personal, medical, and other quality of life issues, youmay face extraordinary (or evenmundane) legal demands for the first time. The AIDS Legal Resource Project may offer a solution. The AIDS Legal Resource Project was created more than three years ago to empower people with HIV/AIDS with the knowledgeand assistance needed to maintain control over their lives. The Project offers free and effective legal assistance to those who qualify by connecting them to one of the more than 150 attorneys statewiad wh6 have agreed to serve on a Pro Bona Panel. Attorneys on the Project’s Panel offer help in several critical areas. Perhaps one of the most important (yet one of the easiest) is estate planning. For example, a Power ofAttorney can be drawn up which allows you to choose exactly who can make decisions about almost any matter related to your care. Other documents include an Advance Directive For Health Care (Living Will), a Final Will and Testament, and Disposition of Bodily Remains. ffyou have been de~ed Social’Security benefits, an attorney can l~elp collect the necessary documentation for the Administrative Hearing. In fact, havin an attarhey present at the Hearing increases the chances of being awarded benefits by more than 50%. We also give advice regarding other state and federal entitle- In the past three years, the AIDS ¯ Legal Resource : Project has provided : legal assistance to ¯ more than 584 ellents i with attorneys from ¯ around the state. i One of the recent i successes is a preee- : dent-setting ldwsuit ¯i in .which a FtIV n.ega- txve man sued : former employer after i being fired because ¯ his partner was HIV+. ment programs. We also assist clients who have been unfairly denied health, life or disability insurance. Informationis available onhow to keep and extend insurance coverage ¯ after work is no longer possible. ¯ If you are fired from a job, denied ." housing or equal access to health care ¯ because of your HIV status, an attorney ¯ can file a Complaint with the appropriate ," authorities. If necessary, the representa- ¯ don-will continue through the various ¯ stages of the process, including litigation ¯ and settlement negotiations. ¯ Family law matters such as adoptions and child custody can be handled by an ¯ attorney in that area when HIV/AIDS is ¯ directly involved. Finally, we can help ¯ end harassment by creditors. ¯ In the past three years, the AIDS Legal : Resource Project has provided legal as- ¯ sistance to more than 584 clients with ¯ attorneys from around the state. One of ." the recent successes isaprecedent-setting ." lawsnitinwhich aHIVnegativeman sued ¯ his former employer after being fired be- " cause his partner was HIV positive. ." If you are HIV positive or have AIDS ~ and you have a legal problem you may ¯ qualify for free legal assistance from an ¯ attorney on the pro bona panel of the ¯ AIDS Legal Resource Project. Call the ¯ project collect at 405-524-4611 for more ¯ information. ", This is thefirst column in a series writ- : ten to help Oklahomans with HIV/AIDS ¯ know and understand their legal rights. ¯ Starting next month, each column will ¯ deal with a legal issue related to HIW ¯ AIDS and will be written by a local attar- ¯ ney who is on the Pro Bona Panel of the " AIDS Legal Resource Project. Clinton Wows ’Em CHICAGO - This year’s politicking got underway in Chicago with theAug. 16-18 OutVote ’96. The Human Rights Campaign, sponsor of the gathering, called it the "first lesbian and gay national political convention." Just a week before the Democrats held their convention in Chicago, the President addressed the some 500 OutVote in a pre-taped video speech. "l’mproud ofthe accomplishments we’ve made," Clinton said. Tacidy acknowledging the sometimes strained relationship between Clinton and the gay and lesbian community, he said: "All Americans face a critical choice this Nov. I believe we must put aside our differences and focus on what unites us, on our common ground....in 1992, I told you about my vision forAmerica - a vision you were and are verymuchapart of. I’m especially proud to be the first president ever to endorse a civil rights bill that specifically includes gay and lesbian Americans." Community Events BAPC Quilt Performance If you missed this highly acclaimed performance as part of the Summer Stage Festival, you can see it on Sunday, Sept. 29 at 2pm at the Tulsa Community College, Southeast Campus Performing Arts Center on 81st St. near Hi. 169. Tickets are $S/adults, $5/students. Info: 595-7182. Wro~tling Enthusiasts Sought A wrestling enthusiast seeks similar individuals interested in forming a wresfling club for recreational matches. He is also seeking an experienced coach. Call Keith at 918-438-8340. Direct From Her HBO Special ,On Tour Fro,u Her Sold-Out P-Town Su,u,reer Shows! ALL blEW SHOW! IN CONCERT ONE NIGHT ONLY! SATURDAY OCT. S 8 PM 110 East second St. TULSA 5howAnd ticket Information: (91 8) $96-71 1 1 Advance Ticket Purchase Is Strongly Recommended Tickets Available At: The Tulsa Performing Arts Center Box Office Location And Al! Carson Attractions Locations A Portion Of The Proceeds Benefit Black & White Charities, Inc. TULS FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CALENDAr, SUNDAYS Agape Christian Fellowship Services, 10:30 am 6540H East 21th pager: 594-9692 Bless the Lord At All ¯ Times Christian Center ." Sunday School, 9:45 am " Worship Service, 11 am ¯ 262T0 East 1 lth 583-7815 " Community of Hope ." (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm .. ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 ." Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 HIVMTOeNstDinAgYCSlinic TUESDAYS WEDNESDAYS I-HV+ Support Group ¯ Agape’ Christian : Free & anonymous testing " HIV Resource Consortium " ¯ using fingerstick method. Fellowship 1:30 pm . Service, 7 pm ’" WalkNa°prpeoteiqnsttiumngei:nrt7e-8d:3.0inrm :: 41 54 S. Harvard, Ste. H_I Sheridan Center, Suite H ¯ Results hours: 7-9 pm Info: 742-2927 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay . Alliance. Univ. of Tulsa " 6:30 pm at Canterbury . 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 Mixed Volleyball for Fun & Competition Helmerich Park, 6:30 pm 71st & Riverside Info: 587-6557 PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Mon. of month : 6:30 pm, 4154 S. Harvard ¯ Info: 749-4901 -" OTHER GROUPS ¯ The Technicians, Leather ¯ org., Info c/o 621-5597 ¯ T.U.L.S~4. Tulsa Uniform ¯ & Leather Seekers Assoc. ¯ Info: 838-1222 ¯ Gay & Lesbian Student Association TJC Southeast Campus, SWANI~2.."oS:in6g3l1e-7W6o3m2 en,s Activity Network Call 832-2121 THURSDAYS Co-Dependency ¯ Support Group 7:30, Family of Faith MC( Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 ¯ ¯ 5451-ES.Mingo,622-1441 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 " ¯ HOPE ¯ Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. ¯ Bless The Lord At All ¯ HtV/AIDS Support Group " Times Christian Center " PrevHeInVtioOnu, tErdeauccha,tion ¯ & .¯ Prayer & Bible Study " Anonymous HIV Testing ¯ Friends &Family " 7:30pm 2627-B East llth ¯ Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm " " HITV/AIDScpaml,lSupp°lrotfcoatrion:Gr°up Call 583-7815 for info. ¯ Results hours: 7 - 9 pm 749-7898 ¯ Info: 742-2927 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate Grief Group Buder/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 Family Of Faith MCC : Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm " Choir Practice 7:30 pm : 5451-E South Mingo. . Call 622-1441 forinfo. : TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd 582-7225 or 584-4983 Tulsa Family Chorale Weekly practice, 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS : Support Gl:oup ¯ 1st & 3rd Thursdays ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 ¯ Alternatives ¯ Weekly social events for ¯ LGBT men & women, 7pm Info: 646-5503 Substance Abuse Support Group : for persons wi th HIV/AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G ¯ 3-4:30 pm : Info: 749-4194 : SATURDAYS : St. Jerome’s Church ¯ Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel : 3841 S. Peoria ¯ Info: Father Rick : at 742-7122 ¯ Narcotics Anonymous ¯ Meets weekly at 11 pm ¯ Confidential support for ¯ recovering addicts. ¯ Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 ¯ NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt : Sewing Bees : 3rd Sat. of each month ¯ Info: 748-3111 Community Events Interfaith AIDS Ministries Old Fashioned Street Carnival I_AM will hold the 2nd of these fun events on .Sat. Sept. 21 from 10 am to 6pro .at SouthminsterPresbyterian Churchparkmg lot (near Concessions) at 3500 So. Peoria. JoinIAMfor this day offun for all ages. Info: 438-2437. Rural Men’s Group H.OPE,H1V Outreach, Preven’tion, Edu_ cation, is sponsoring social/discnssion group formen whohave sex withmenand who live-outside Tulsa. The group will meet the2nd&4th Saturdays each month, 7-gpm at the Gathering Place, 4154 So. Harvard, Suite E-3. Upcoming dates are 9/28, 10/12, 10/26, 11/9, 11/23, 12/14 & 12/28. Call Brian or Jeremy at 918-742- 2927 or 1-800-282-8165.. Tulsa AIDS Mastery Project This group will present Tulsa’s 1st Mastery workshop on Friday, Sept. 20 - Sunday, Sept. 22. This is anintense week- " end experience designed to assist those ¯ individiduals who have been affected’by " HW/AIDS tocome to terns withtheimapct " faaflc~c~!.l.flltaaetvoirrsuswhaeslcroamdoenitnhdeiivrliidvueasi.sTrlaivininegd ¯" with ,HIV/AIDS, family, loved ones, ¯ friends, earegivers, and HIV/AIDS professionals. The weekend is free because ¯ this event is sponsoredby a grantfrom the ¯ Tulsa Community AIDS Partnership (TCAP) but donations offood, beverages are needed. Info: Melissa @ 584-2325. Two Spirited Mens Group : The Tulsa Native American AIDS Pre- " vention Project is sponsoring a group of Gay, Bisexual or Two Spirited men f-or a weekly group to explore their roles in traditional Native American culture and i I~v~i~.g-heal.~y lives. Tommy Chesbro, " ¯ ~xx~ coordmatoreforindianHealthCare ¯ Resources Center of Tulsa, notes that the , : group helps provide peer suport forliving : a life in balance physically, mentally, " ." emotionally and spiritually. The group is ¯ open to men living with HIV/AIDS as ¯ well as those not infected. It is specific to men but Indian Health Care would like to , work with women also if there’s interest¯ ¯ The Two Spirit Mens Group meets on " ¯ ~W~ednesdays at 6:30 pmat Commtmity of r~ope Church at 2rid & Utica¯ Info: " ¯ Tommy, 918-582-7225, or write, ¯ ¯ TNAAPP,915 S. Cincinnati,Tulsa74119. ¯ ¯ Bible & Homosexuality Study ¯ Community of Hope will pilot a new interdenominational Bible seminar, on . Wednesdays from 6:30 to 8:30for4weeks beginning on Sept. 18. The study has been developed by the United Methodists Rec- ¯ onciling Congregation Program with " .Welcoming & Affirming Baptists, Dig- " nity/Integrity (Catholic & Episcopali~t~), " GLAD (Disciples of Christ), Reconciled in Christ (Lutheran), Supportive Congregation Network (Mennonite), and More Light (Presbytwerian). Leather and Healing Workshops The weekend of October 19 and 20 will be a busy one in Tulsa as lance brittain, Mr. Alameda County Leather 1994; H.O.P.E., formerly TOHR, and the Silver ~aaCh" le~,,der, w_ith special guest Duncan " rows, tools for application, the power of 19a9c6L. aAcms aGnu, yMBr.aldLweainth,earmutahnorToofroTnietos ¯ positive thinking, how to avoid the pitThat Bin.d, states ’~f you try to find your falls (New Age and otherwise), andmore. way in the SM/leather scene by yourself, The workshop will include meditation, you are doing it the wrong way--there is ritual, storytelling, group exercises, and opportunities for sharing. no need". ¯ ¯ The suggested offering is $5.00 for ~ikTehisw.whoorkasrehoipntiesrefostrewd timneonrancudrmioeuns ¯ reiaaclsh, winoforkrmshaotpiotno, caonvdefruwtuorerkwshoorkpsmhoaptes-, anout leather/SM. "It’s an educational but no one will be turned away for lack of oppormmty you will not want to miss. ¯ funds. It is suggested that the participants Whether it’s your cup of tea or not, the _bring a cushion for comfortable seating. information will be valuable for under- ¯ Juice, coffee, and water will be provided. standingthediversityofourcommunity,,, . Please free to bring a snack, pencil, or heralds Larry Everett, International Mr 7pa~p,er.t~F_or more information please call Leather 1995¯ "So co.~.~.,u.o.ut.an.d ex-" " plore with us", sa s lan ’+~-zv2/, 371-0496, or e-mail S " Y ce" " mrac194@aol.com. unday, .O,c,t. 20, Duncan Ma~c,,La,chlan will present ’Healing The Spirit ,. It will Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa be held 1-5pro. Duncan states, ’Native D/I, agroupforLesbianandGayCatho_ American teachings and other spiritual lies and Episcopalians will meet on Oct. 12, and then on Nov. 9th at 5 pm at St. learnreS°urceStolivehaVebettermUChwitht° offerHiV. USspirituawlaeS ¯ Dunstan’s Episcopal Church, 5633 E. 71 st traditions teach us that the source of all " TO National Coming Out Week ¯ h.ealin.g.is spiritual." He also asks, "What ¯ Oct. 8: A Roundtable discussion of does t!us mean? How can this knowledge "Sexuality: Nature vs. Nuture" 7:00 pmin ¯ be applied in practical ways?" ¯ the Chouteau Room of Allen Chapmafi ¯ Duncan is a workshop leader, group ¯ Activity Center facilitator, counselor, and educatorliving ¯ ,Oct. _9: Panel discussion concerning in Toronto. He describes his living with aoout Gay Marriage, 7:00 pm in the ~IV. since 1983.,asahealingandamiracle. " President’s Loun e, Cha man ,-, g P r~e is very enthusiastic about passing on uct. 10 (National Coming Out Day): ¯ what he as learned and likes to make the Unity Party on Sharp Chapel Plaza, TU Star, .Sal~oon combine community spun- " ~work,s,hop a safe andnurturing experience " Campus. All campus groups are invited to ,s°rsmp Ior two,, very,,different, workshops,. Ior ml participants with his warm and .a,tt.end and will receiv.e letters concerning ’~’Le.ather 101 and Heahng The Spirit" inclusive style. He does ask that all par- /~oth workshops will be held at 4f58 SI .ticipants wear loose, comfortable cloth- ~m~ event. 3:00 pm w~th speakers at 5:00 .Harvard, suite E-3 in ’The Gath~,q,, " mg and to please bring a small obj~t of " During Naffonal Coming Out Week, Place" at the H.O.P.E. and R-e~o~r’~C~’~a~_ pers,o.hal significance. Duncanadds, ’This " BLGTA will be taking donations in supsortium building. " womshop will be useful for people who ¯ port of Breast ~2ancer Awareness Month, ~ ’Teather 101" will .be held Saturday, " are affected by HIV includi,n~ caregivers in October. Info: BLGTA at the Canteroct. 19, 12-6pm and will be facilitated by and health care professionals ’. bury Center for United Ministry at 583- ¯ Duncan will be offering the teachings " 9780 and leave a message for Maureen lance, Brian Jackson, a H.O.P.E. out- . of the medicine wheel and the seven ar- ¯ Curtin or Rob Crenshaw. WHAT IS VIATICATION? Viaticafion is the process through which a person living with an terminal illness canreceive a cashpayment from the face value of their insurance policy. WHO IS ELIGIBLE FORA VIATICAL SETTLEMENT? Generally, to be eligible for a viatical settlement you must have a documentable terminal illness, and life insurance coverage in either an ~hdividual term, whole life, or a group policy. HOW MUCH IS MY POLICY WORTH? The value of your life insurance policy in a viatical settlement is determined by the specifics of your policy and your unique medical situation. 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Gay Mecca. ofthe Ozarks by Phyl Boler-Schmidt " able, or you can bring your own. The Gay It’s Jazz Festival timein Eureka Springs, ¯ Family Reunion is always a fun event, a and the excitement is building as the 12th great way to meet and greet new folks and annual event approaches. This year’ s dates ¯ to spend lime with family toward the end are September 19th - 22nd, and both big ¯ ofthehectictouristseason. Plan toattend. name and local talent will be performing , For those of you looking for complete all over town. hair styling and other sa- Featured artists for JazzFest include Stanley Turrentine & Band, Allmad Aladeen & The Deans of Swing, Emie Durawa & Los Jazz Vatos, andGrady Nichols & Moment’s Notice. All will be performing at the Historic Eureka Springs City Auditorium Small clubs will host a number of local and big name performers as well, and nightly there will be a post-performanceparty at the top of the Basin Park Hotel in the ballroom. These events are hosted by the Eureka Springs Jazz Society and will feature performers from the JazzFest ticket. There is still time to get tickets for the scheduled events though JazzFest is always one of the hottest tickets tobehadduring the Eureka Springs season. For reservations and information, call the Jazz Festival Hotline at 501-253- 6258.-TheJazz Festival canalso bereached via e-mail atjazz@nwark.com. Complete information about the 12th Annual Eu- .--_~bo q.,qn.~ t.~’~’7 Festival is available online at: http://www.eureka-usa.com/ events/creative/index.html Also coming up fast is the annual Eureka Springs Gay Family Retmion, to be held this year on Sunday, October 6th starting at 2 pm at Beaver Dam Site Park. A canoeing event will be held that morning beginning at 11. Rentals will be avail- It’s Jazz Festival time in Eureka t.... year s dates are September 19th - 9.2nd....AnOther musical hot ticket hits town the weekend followina JazzFe t. The ~gth Annual Ozark Folk Festival comes to Eureka SprlnCs from September 96th- 99th. Ion services, we have a new family cutterin town. Tymythy Aieran is affiliated with the Holiday Island Hair Salon at 92 Woodsdale Drive and performs the full range of salon services - haircuts & styles, perms, color, manicures, pedicures, w.axin.g, facials, and ear piercing. To contact Tymythy, call 501-253- 9712. Another musical hot ticket hits townthe weekend following JazzFest. The 49th Annual Ozark Folk Festival comes to EurekaSpringsfrom September 26th - 29th. A full board of performers is scheduled, including: Peter Rowan, Townes Van Zandt, Joe Cart & Alan Munde, Crow Jolmson, Still on the Hill, the Jones : Brothers, Charles C. Hammer, Doe Broth- . ers, Jim & Kim Lansford, and Richard ¯ Johnson & Doug Reid. For more information on the 49th An- : nual Ozark Folk Festival, call the Eureka ¯ Springs Chamber of Commerce at 501- ¯ 253-8737. ]ae season IX wlaum~ u,,,,u, ..... ¯ biggest Ozark attraction of them all is yet ¯¯ to come. Plan to visit ourVictorian utopia in October to watch Mother Nature show ¯ off in all her spendor. There’ s nothing to " compare with the autumn colors in the ¯ Ozarks. : See you in Eureka! Exciting Reaching OUT to all People Rev. Clay Cody Sunday Services, 10:30 am 6540-H East 21st . pager: 594-9692 The fime nas come to ~ or ~onduct such cer- I " [ marriage._D~.et . .: ]~e ~ree to take posl- itspositiononotherre- | | tivities of me rtawan ¯ ¯ "1.1 li ons or on cmzens Supreme Court, same- tlon$ on issues l~ke "gi " " | " ¯ soon . . - followingnoorganized | / sex mam:a_ge may same-sex marrxa e~ religion." / be legal m that state. " ~ ~ :,, "tally there is a " The backlash against_ and the state cannot trom this, the Defense of portion of the Lesbian MarriageAct, willsoon require religions to and Gay community approve of or eo~duet such become law and will prevent other states from having to recognize same-sex marriages fromHawaii.The debate, however, will not end there. Author William Eskridge, a Washington DC professor and lawyer, has addressed the issue as aproponent of same-sex marriage. Hisbookexamines constitufional issues, court eeremonles. Butnelther can one religion force its pos~.tlo.n on other relldions or on clt e following no organized ren~on. decisions, the history of Lesbian and Oay commumty~ .-.reranstream" objections to same-sexmamages. Eskridge discredits many of the standard arguments agains__t. same-s.ex fiages, including one ot- me most popmar viewpoints which concerns the ihability of same-sex couples to conceive children. It is hard,to, dispute the author’s logic in this area: A state could and, to be consisthat also is against the idea of same-sex marriage, though not for the above reasons. They feel thattheimtitution of marriage is a flawed,patriarchal system that Gay and Lesbian couples should avoid. Eskridge gives a good overview of thesepositions, exploring not only the ,marriage- is-rotten" argument, but also the "alternatives tomarriage" view (domestiepartnerships) andthe antiassimilation perspective which suggests that formal marriage would "dedaw the ~radieafism of the gay liberation moveand has an appendix tiffed "Letters from the Faithful on the Legal Recognition of Same-Sex Marriage." It includes selected tent, should prohibit mamages in which__..,"..le.t.te.r..~..£.r..~..~...m....l.,.~.~ r~X-.V-~,~-d-o-~,~m~,u~, ~Or:bo~p~~r~~-t~rii~ qr-impo~ " inducting those representing Catholics, tent. If procreation is the essential goat ot Methodists, Presbyterians and the Jew.ish marriage, why should postmenopausal ; faith.Theselettersdefendsame-sexumons women be allowed to marry? Surely, discrimination against sterile, impotent or aged couples would be lmaeceptable to citizens of many different perspectives." The often used religious argument i.s also addressed. Eskfidge’s reasomng is that "state espousal of one religion’s beliefs risks state supression of another : by citing avariety ofreligious doc.u~ent.s. ¯ The battle over same-sex mamage ~ : sure to continue for years to come an : Eskridge’s book is an informative and ¯ interesting addition to the debate. Check : for ’q’he Case for Same-Sex Marriage" at ~ the Readers Services dept. of the Central : Library (596-7966) or at thelocallibrary. by James Christjohn " SUZANNE WESTENHOEFFER brings her umque brand of queer comedy to Tulsa 10/5 at 8pm in the Williams Theatre, PAC. An outspoken (no pun intended) Lesbian, her humor has a broad appeal (sorry, that one really w.as un~conscions). Her resume is ~mpress~ve, irqm her own ground breaking HBO show (nominatedfor anACEaward, thel~,mmies of cable), ’Out there on Comedy Central", ’mainstream’ shows such as "evening at ~,e Improv" & ’X~aroline’s Comedy hour , and more. She is hilarious, so this is the must-see for October! Info. call the PAC at 596-7111. CAROL CHANNING will be appearing in Hello Dolly! at the PAC 9/27-29, and trust me, this is a show that must not ben~,’_ssed! Forgetall the disp..~g~ng things, you. ve ever heard about tins snow, ana completely disregard any other version. Ms. Channing is the real thing, and this show is magic! I was surprised at how effective it was when Ms. Channing took the stage. Only one lady has the charm and charism~a to pull it off, and this is a chance that shouldn’tbe missed. Tickets: 596-7111. And Ms. Channing is as gracious & charming offstage as she is on! CAROL BURNEIff comes to town October 13 for a question and answer session at thePAC. I’m sure I’mnot alone in claiming that her show was a bright spot in an otherwise dark childhood/adolescenee. It was the Carol Burnett Show that fueled in me a fire to perform, and to take people out of their troubles, even if only for an hour or two, and make them laugh and think. Thank you, Carol, for the inspiration, the dream, and the laughter. GUYS & DOLLS will be presented by the University of Tulsa’s theatre department October 17 -27 at the Chapman Theatre. For ticket info, call’. 631-2567. BACP presents ’ffhe Taffetas" a 50’s girl-group musical revue, 9/13 - 22. Info: 258-0077 Andthey have a web site: http/. / WWW.Geocities.com]Broadway/1646 TheatreTulsapresents ’q’heTorchBearers" starting 9/20. Info: 596~7111. (Got that number memorized by now? I do.) 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Call 341. 686,6 International Tours for more information. IGTA member. Enjoy POPS LIVE! with the Tulsa Philharmonic on October 4-5, beginning at 8 p.m. at the Tulsa Performing Arts Center. The concert features Maureen MeGovern. Hear this legendary singer with the five-octave range! Call 747-PI-IIL for tickets and information! by Jean-Pierre, TFNFood Critic ¯ pet peeves is a kitchen staff too lazy to Nested ataprimecomer ofUticaSquare ¯ remove the entire shell from the shrimp. next door to the Polo Shop is a long time ¯ How is one expected to gracefully eat a popular restaurant site, in this declension " dish with a thick sauce and an incomknown as Capistrano. Previous on-site ¯ eateries have included Santa Fe, French, plet,ely shelled shellfish? Does one dip one s fingers into the hot sauce to grasp and Italian cuisines, and those ghosts continue to the shrimp by the tail and haunt the current menu. It’s hard to categorize Capistrano, though, since it bills itselfas arotisserie .(a restaurant specializing in roasted or .broiled meats), but only has one rotisserie item on the menu. It bears-a passing allegian.ce to F~en~hfoods due to its close a~sociations with its Owner’s other Tulsa restaurant, The.FTe.nch Hen, but the preparattons are certainly not, French (of course, we’ ve also made that observation about the French ’HEn, but that is the subject of another review).. We can 6nly call Capistrano eclectiC. Ecldcfic might also describe the service here, too, though esoteric also fits. Certain customers and tables seem to get a lot ofattention, while others are left to flounder unattended. The al fresco tables are particularly a service wilderness. Some of the staff is definitely friendlier than others,and all of them seem to be lacking in training in the finer points of service. Our waitress was also totally ignorant as to the .preparation technique and Ingredients of the menu items. Nevertheless, Capistrano remains a busy restaurant filled with upseale Utica Square shoppets. Where to start? Try to think of every cuisine and every culinary fad item, and then expect it to appear on the Capistrano menu. Soups include a limed chicken tortilla, a clam chowder, and a soup du jour, which on the evening of our visit was a spicy tomato, which we found rather thin and tart. Appetizers include baked brie with sun-dried tomatoes, snails, and a brick oven pizza. Salads include the Caesar, a broiledmozzarella, nicoise, oriental duck, andalderwoodsmokedsalmon, plus a vegetarian medley presented on a bed of greens. The nicoise, duck, and salmon salads come in two sizes, small for $8.95, and large for $14.95. Pastas are important menu items, including fettucine ticino, a pesto, and an angel hair with salmon. We chose to split the fettucine Riviera ($12.95) as an appetizer course, and were generally pleased with the result. The fettucine was cooked to the proper degree of al dente doneness and was sauced in a rich and delicious lobster cream, redolent with parmesan cheese, and sprinkled with bits of lobster meat, scallops, and three whole shrimps. The dish was marred only by the presence of the tail shell on the shrimps. One of our Capistrano Rotisserie 171~8Utlca Square ¯ Hours: Lunel,, 11 to 2:30 Dinner 5 to 9:30 closed S.nd~ys .Cuisine: Eclectic Dress: ’C~uM Prices: Expensive Pa~ent: A~ ~o~ No~-Smo~ Section: Alcohol: Ratln~: convey it dripping to the mouth? Or does-one use one’ s fork, riskingmouth lacerations from sharp bits of tail shell, and then later gracefully and elegantly spit out the offending bits? This .wasn’t the first time we’d been to Capistrano, so we passed up the signature Santa Fe Blue Corn Plato ($9.95), the rotisserie chicken ($10.95), the pan grilled brooktrout ($12.95), and theloin oflamb daily special ($21.95). We wish we hadn’t. Instead, we tried theGuthriepanfried steak ($15.95), which is the Capistrano answer to traditional Oklahoma chicken fried steak. This "dish" was a piece of round steak served with new potatoes and sliced mushrooms, absolutely drowned in the most offensive brown gravy we’ve ever tasted. Flavored with Worcestershire sauce, the gravywas overpowering with the anchovy-vinegar Worcestershire flavor, and the taste would not leave the mouth, even afternumerous washings with the $6.50 a glass wine. Our companion tried the toumedos au ¯ poivre ($17.95), ordered medium rare and received medium and ¯ almost cold. It was a small piece of dead ¯ cow with pepper on it. Our dessert was a bread pudding in a : Jack Daniels sauce, which our waitress .- announced was a Jack Daniels "bourbon" ¯ sauce, even though our table all knew that ." only Bourbon County, Kentucky, pro- . duces bourbon - Jack Daniels is Tennes- ¯ see whiskey. But, good whiskey notwith- ¯ standing, thebreadpuddingwas dry, bland, ¯ and rubbery. We also tried the creme ¯ brulee. Creme brulee is a milky custard with a sugar crust that is caramelized and ¯ toasted under the broiler immediately be- ¯- fore serving. Our sugar crust was burned ¯ black. But, the underlying custard was smooth and very tasty. ¯ Ah, the sacrifices we make for our ¯ readers! This simple little dinner for two ¯ endedupcosting us $76. Wewere shocked and appalled. Shocked and appalled not ¯" only because of the price, but because of ¯ the quality of food we received on the night of the review. We’ ve never been so ¯ disappointed with their food before. ¯ If one is shol~ping and hunga3, while on ¯ the west side o[ Utica Square, stop in at ¯ Capistrano for a bite to eat. The outside ¯ eafe seating can be pleasant. Just hope ¯ that those legendary birds drop by laden : with cash. Black boots,jeans, black belt, tank top ." and armband, i am ready to go and the,¯ nerves are setting in. Will i be accepted? What will it be like walking into a leather " ¯ ¯ bar?Will ~bemovermy head.9"These are ° a few of the thoughts that raced through ¯ myhead as i embarkedonmy first venture ¯ to a leather bar. i knew i had to fulfill this " yearning that was growing deep in my " soul. Little did i know that i was about to ", begin the journey of my life with no , turning back. Upon arriving at The SF Eagle, i saw a : line ofhuge,beautifnl motorcycles, i never ; knew a sight, such as this[could get my heart to racing so. i made iny way to the : patio and all i could see was a sea of ] leatherdad.men. The day was hot and the ¯ air smdled of sweat, leather and cigars, i " was in heaven. But then reality set in. : What was i supposed to do? Look? Ap- : proach someone?i waslost. Thisis where ¯ my training began, i had foundmy home. ~ My family. ¯ Basic training taughtmethat not every- : oneinleatherwas intoSMand vice-versa. ¯ Leather relationships ran’the gamut from " monogamous with leathersex only, to " Daddy/boy or Mistress, Master/slav.e and : that these relationships did not always involve pain..Leather involves scenes " which Race Bannon, author of1~earning " the Ropes, says, a scene is a comblnatton ¯ of mental, physical and/or environmental ~ components, with an exchange of power . as a key element, thatmix in such away as to produce a satisfying experience for all participants. Scenes canhappen anywhere as the focus inSMis the mind. Sexmay or may not be part of a Scene. SM has been : defmed as theater, where you create your own fantasy and as music, where you ~ ..... create your own score". ¯ i learned about networking, negotiat- ". ing and feedback. Networking is about ¯ finding out who is safe and who is not, : building a circle of friends and acquain- : tances to help you and attending parties, : workshops and club events. Educating oneself is important and no question is ~ ridiculous. Negotiating a scene helps " both parties get what they want, feel each other out and not get in over their head. Feedback, such as safe words, helps everyone involved to know how thin.gs are going. Safe words such as red, yellow, or green can be used for checking out the scene, halting the momentum for a while, or stopping the scene all together. "Safe, Sane and Consensual" is the leather creed. Safety is of utmost importance inleather and includes not exchanging body fluids, getting to know your partner and not trying anything you are not ready for. Sane means trusting your gut instinct and not involving alcohol or ..... drugs as they can impair your.j.ud,gment, causeharmandincrease yourriskoI sexually transmitted disease. Consensual stems from all parties involved should consent to everything that is transpiring. Communication is the key. But most of all, have fun. Through my experien~s, i came to realize leather is lovemaking. It is safe and non-demeaning as it is a carefully ....negotiated, safe, and caring exchange between partners. Leather is not about pain, but sensation. Leather has helped me become a stronger person and to understand the true meanings of trust, honor and love. Lastly, leather h,a,s taken me to a heigh,t,. see lance, Mina ~pace, no. one, page 1~ World War II seems to be when leathermen emerged. The men, coming back from war, were used to strict orders of rank and respect; the camaraderie, and theman-to-manbonding in the absence of women. Some were able to adjust while others yearned for the unspeakable. Themenbeganhanging out at the shipping yards, loading docks, and the bars of the larger port cities. Soon, groups of men begancoming together and "hanging their colors" in their "home bar". Motorcycles came onto the scene largely due to the appreciation the American soldier~ devdoped while serving’in Europe. rBike clubs emerged and the followers came from far and wide. Uniforms had their beginning when themenwore them out to display their rank for those who understood their insignia and would give them the respect they called for. Between the 1960’ s and 1980’ s organization, less secrecy, and the leather network helped increase the growing numbers of leatherpeople. From the 1980’ s to the present the Old Guard, which is well defined, and the New Guard have been combining the two philosophies resulting in a stronger leather community. Fetishes and the educating of others have grown and brought about a more diverse and stronger tribe. SM stands for sadomasochism or the deriving of enjoyment from the infliction and/orreceiving ofpain. SMencompasses ¯ many forms. Pain is not the key clement ¯ here, but the exchange of power is. This. ¯ exchange is totally voluntary. It defines ¯ the roles and the relationship. The bottom relies on trust then expresses his desires and finally gives up his power to the Top. This exchange continues throughout the scene as the Top watches the reactions of the bottom. The bottomis controlling with his/her actions. Areyounow asking yourselfhow I take action with my curiosity? Joseph Bean, author ofLeathersex, describes it as: Taking action is like lowering yourself into a tub of hot water, one timid body part at a time, only to discover it Wash’ t all that hot after all. Sojustgoforit. Leatherlifestyles celebrate and affirm sexuality. Be honest andlisten until youunderstand the image! reality, fantasy/foreplay give-take flows. Also realize that you are play~ng a ro!e and wearing a costume. Leatlaerpeopie are playing their roles for themselves, for something powerful within and are looking for aproper counterpart. Please donot wear cologne, loud colors, use a loud voice, or disturb a scene. It is not proper etiquette. Dressing for Action is not all that involved. A tight fitting t-shirt, jeans, black belt, and black boots will suffice. Leather and accessories are expensive so play by the motto "Performnow, reward yourself later". Do not be afraid to ask questions about what is appropriate for you and your role. Collars are worn to imply that you are owned or taken. If you are not ¯ owned, but would like to be, thread the ¯ collar under the right epaulet of your ¯ jacket. ¯ Communicating with clothing can be ¯ misinterpreted. Please take the time to ¯ learn thehankie colors and their meaning. ¯ Do not mistake interests for requirements " and don’ tassume that yourmessages have : notbeen misread. Take all these things as ¯ points to be considered and discussed see lance, Mind Space, no. two, page 15 Do you live in a small town or rural area? Are you attracted to other men? 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(insurance policies are available with no health questions asked) 2103 East Third Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104 918-587-7000 by Stephen W. Scott, PME ¯ work hard, stress muscle tissue and then FUNERALS JUST NEVER SEEMED RIGHT FOR MY FAMILY... THE CREMATION SOCIETY WAS CREATED FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME. We enjoy being ourselves. A funeral seems ostentatious and can cost a lot of money. A simple, dignified cremation just seems to fit our lifestyle. Cremation Society® of Oklahoma 2103 East Third, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104-1842 918-599-7337 or toll-free, 800-994-7337 or visit us on the Internet at http ://www. cremation, org/oklahoma/oklahoma,html For Free Literature, Without Cost or Obligation, Mail this coupon today! Please contact me. I would like to learn more about your special final expense program. Name: Age: Address: City, St. &Zip: Telephone: We all want to look our best. If notjust for our health, looking our best can make an incredible difference in our own selfesteem and how we view others around us...in short, Gay or not, it’ s a must. Maybe you have never wanted to be a competitive body builder, but you may still want to feel better about yourself. There are a variety of ways to do that but this month, I am discussing one I truly have passionfor- weight training. Maybe _y.ou already life weights but you can’t figure out why you don t looklike that hot guy (or girl) dancing next to you on a Sat. night. Many times the difference can be narrowed down to a few basic points. 1. Lackofintensity. Too often, many of us just go through the motions of exercise without fully understanding the importance of intensity. I’m sorry to break it to you but weight lifting hurts. You must work out hard and consistently, pushing .yourself to add more weight while keepmg a perfect a form as possible. Intensity is simply trying hard enough. 2. Too much intensity & not enough rest. The number that fall into this category is significantly smaller than the previous one. Unless you’rejuiced to the gills (steroids) or on supplements, you’re not going to be able to work out every day of the week. Normal guys and gals need to Mind Space, no. one ¯ recuperate. The trick is finding out the right amount that suits you. For some, ¯ working out 2-3 per week is best. For the : more advanced, 5 per week is optimum. ¯ 3. Inconsistency. You must commit ¯ ¯ YOurself toworkingout on aregularbasis. If you make working out a priority, put- ¯, ling it ahead of social engagements, you ¯ will make progress. And if you’re only working out three times a week (5 max.) ¯ that lives plenty of time for other things. ¯. 4. Too much time on "shaping" exercises. Unless you’re a professi-on~l body- " builder, there’s little need to concentrate ¯ on various parts of the body. Stick with ¯ the powermovements like bench presses, ¯ squats, leg presses, etc. These are exer- ¯ cises that build size andstrength overall. ¯ 5. Inadequate rest and/or nutrition. If ¯ you follow all these tips yet fail to get ¯ ¯ enough sleep or you eat poorly, what you’re doing is equivalent to swimming ¯ in a cement overcoat. You must sleep an ¯ amount that’s right for you. Eat lots of ¯ whole-grainfoods, vegetables, fruits, and ¯ low-fat protein sources. ¯ 6. Rottenform and time in between sets. ¯ There are various ways to make an exer- ¯ cise easier. Almost all of them constitute ¯ cheating and waiting too long in between ¯ sets. Swinging a barbell up, using your ¯ body weight, momentum and maybe a ¯ ¯ eatapnltmaymakecurling aweight easier, but it will do absolutely nothing to make ¯ your muscles grow. Wait more than 30 ¯ seconds (45 max.) in between sets and ¯ you lose your fatigue/tension and your : muscles can cool down to where you’re at : the starting point all over again. ¯ There are plenty-of other pitfalls to ¯ achieving your best physical shape, but ¯ ~we’vecoveredthemostimportantofthem..~. : Despite the image that weight-lifters ofened awareness of my inner self and has allowed me to stand tall and be proud of whoi am. i would like to here your comments, .any questions you may have, or any subjects you wouldlikeme to talk about. You can e-mail me at mrac194@aol.com or write tomein care of Tulsa Family News. Mark your calendars for September 20. RonGreenwoodproduces ’q"he Mr. Tnlsa l_xather Contest" at The Silver Star Saloon. Until next time...... Author’s note: in the leather community Tops are recognized in upper case and bottoms as lower case. Mind Space, no. two with a possible partner. Here is a tip to remember: A Top flags left and a bottom flags right. You do not have to be all dressed and ." have no place to go. There are the bars, ." dubs, events, dub runs and more. There ¯ are many national events that happen annually and local events you can find out about through the local papers, the community, leather magazines, and the intemet. Always ask. The information is there for your disposal. The world is for your ialdng. Don’ t be afraid. Take one step at a time until you feel comfortableandremember, theleather community is there for you with open arms. This .tribe will help you with your journey. After all, we are all on this journey together. i aminterestedin yourcomments, questions, or topics you would like to see discussed. Please e-mail me at mrac194@aol.com or write to me in care of Tulsa Family News. In October i will be discussing leather relationships. Until then...Play Safe, Play Sane, Play Consensually, but most of all Have Fun! tenhave, they’re involved in a science, and if you treat it as such, you’ re likely to get the results you want. Stephen W. Scott, PME is a native of Tulsa. He is president and founder of Face Beautiful and FBfor Men, a Euroclinicaldayspaspecializing in treatments ¯¯ for the skin, body, hair and nails, located in OKC. He is also certified in Fitness, ¯ Nutrition, and Massage. Info: 405-840- ¯ 3223. How To Do It First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. You may bdng additional attention to your ad: Bold Headline - $1 Ad in capital letters - $1 Ad in bold capital letters - $2 Ad in box - $2 Ad reversed - $3 Tear sheet mailed - $2 Blind Post Office Box - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the ao. of words. (A word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space.) Send your ad & payment to POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 with your name, address, tel. numbers (for us only). 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Confronted with the prospect of an upcoming report in The Advocate about his sexual orientation, Kolbe beat the news magazine to the punch by coming out. Kolbe, who has been a representative to C6ngress since 1984 and has been a frequent GOP point-person on the North American Free Trade Act and critic of White House budget proposals, told the Arizona Daily Star, "I think it’s unfortunate for our society that things have to happen this way." But the 54-year-old Kolbe added, "I’m the same p~rson I was yesterday, and I’ll legislatejust the same way. This should b,e. as irrelevant as the fact that Iambloe-eyed, right-handed &balding." Theupcoming Advocate story reportedly was spurred at least partly by Kolbe’s vote in July for the so-called Defense of.Marriage Act (DOMA), which rights activists had adamantly opposed. In late July, a collection.of activists also took out a full-page ad in the Washington LACK & WHITE PRESENT TOP US GAY LEADER Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), will give the keynote address for this year’s Black & White Charities, Inc. Gala dinner fundraiser. Birch leads the Human Rights Campaign which is the largest Lesbian and Gay political organization in the US. Birch formerly was legal counsel for Apple Computer, Inc. and also for Claris Corporation. Prior to joining Human Rights Campaign, Birch served as co-chair of the Board of Directors of the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF). . Over 260 patrons attended last year’s Gala at Philbrook Museum and a comparable numberis expected to attend the Sept. 7 event at the Downtown DoubleTree Hgtel. Over the years, Black & White Charities, Inc. have raised and donated over $31,000 in grants to other local charities. The HIV Resource Consortium will be the major recipient of this year’s grant. The HIV RC helps to provide services to "approximately 200 clients" with case management, transportation, Another part of the program will be the presentation of the first annual SWAN awards, ajoint program of PFLAG, parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays and Black & White Charities, Inc. The awards will recognize individuals "who through action and example, are helping to create a society see B & W, page 3 HOPE A New Namefor HIV Programs HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education is the new name for an health program that began in the Gay community more than 14 years ago. Claudette Peterson, director of what was known as Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) HIV Testing Programs, announced the new name along with program’s success in getting funding for several critical new outreach programs. Peterson noted that the program had received funding for a"rural" HIV education outreach to "MSM’s" (men who have sex with men, regardless if.they identify as Bi, Gay see HOPE, page 3 Blade ur,gi,’ng "closeted gay and lesb!an members of Congress. to c0me out.. ,Headlined. ,~’A ,calL.to.. con~ ,. science," the ad didn’t threaten to out any closeted : uommunity of Hope Speaks members, butitwas the first timein5 years that closeted ¯ gays in Congress had become a national issue. Kolbe is the fourth member of Congress to publicly admit tobeing Gay - along with Reps. Gerry Studds, DMA, Barney Frank,. D-MA & Steve Gunderson, R-WI. Although Kolbe voted for DOMA, he also supports benefits for same-sex partners, and last year voted to keep the District of Columbia’s Domestic Partnership Act that gives some benefits to the partners of district employees. For Kolbe’s comments, see Kolbe, page 3 Military HIV Discharge Provision Dropped WASHINGTON -.A joint House-Senate conference committeehas unceremoniously dropped a provision in the 1997 defense authorization bill that would have required the discharge of service personnel infected with HIV. The HIV discharge provision was included in the House version of the $265.6 billion defense spending measure by Rep. Bob Doman (R-Calif.), despite objections of Pentagon officials. The Senate version of the bill included no such amendment. "Congress spoke on.this issue already when it repealed Dornan’ s HIV discharge measure in April," said Winnie Stachelberg, HRC’s’ legislative deputy. "Spite and bigotry are th~ only conb,eivable rehsons why Bob Dornan would have reintroduced this; measure after seeing itresoundingly defeated." Thejoint conference committee also :dropped a orovzszon that would have topI~led the don t ask, don t tell" policy in favor of an outright ban on Gays and Lesbians in the armed forces. Out In Sunday Tulsa World ¯ Community of Hope, a : United Methodist congre- ¯¯ gation, took $1,650 advertisement in The Sunday ¯ Tulsa Woddto speak out ¯ as a Christian community ¯ of faith "to call all Chris- " tians to stop using hateful ¯ language" against Lesbi- : ans and Gay men (see ad to ¯ right). The ad specifically : cites the language used by ¯ members" of Congress in ¯ recent debates on the"De- : fense of Marriage Act" ¯ which was co-sponsored ¯ by Tulsa Rep. Steve Largent and overwhelm- " ingly supported by ¯ Oklahoma’s House mere- ¯ bers. ! Acc°rdmg to a statemen=t ¯ gee Ad, p. 11 ¯ Elizabeth Birch, former counsel for Apple, now leads DC’s Human Rights Campaign. Coming Soon! Womens Supper Club RBG Business Fair Gay Comedy Jam Feast With Friends IAM Street Carnival RBG Lake Retreat see Coming, page 11 WE CALL ALL CHRISTIANS TO STOP USING HATEFUL LANGUAGE! UNITED METHODIST COMMUNITY OF HOPE ¯ audience with,over 400 attending on, two nights~. , ¯ : The largest grant ($3,500) went to,the HIV Resource consortium, " ¯ the second largest ($2,500) to the Medication Fund Of the Visiting " ¯ Nurse Association and grants of $1,500 went to Interfaith AIDS ¯ Ministries AIDS information line, Shanti=Tulsa Storehouse, Our " ¯ House, Regional AIDS Interfaith Network, see Follies, page 11 " Sid Spenser Singer Dies Unexpectedly ¯ : , " 1 and died ~’n hospital, see Sp ¯ Follies ReVue Beneficiaries i ’ ’ " ~ Follies Revue, Inc. has announced,the.distrib~tti0n ,of net proceeds t.rom its annu,gl, fundrais~ng peffom!,ance. Thislyear s event raised 4 $14,000 to hel~ l~d agencies that p~ovide direr support t~ persons.,~ ~AL~.Err~I~S/DIR~TO~Y p. ¯ liviongwithAIDS orvHIV ipfe~tion. Fedllies Revoe~ Irnc. has rais.ed ¯ ... . -- . . . ., . :! NEWS’BRIEFS ! $115,000 m its ezght years of servzce. This year s event which was . , P. 4 : hdd at the Doubletree Hotel, Warre~ Place attracted the largest ever " HEAL’rI~ BRIEFS i P. fi ¯ ’ CALENDAR P. 9 Many Gay Oklahomans were surprised and shocked by the news of the death in July of native singer, Sid Spencer, from complications fromAIDS in Calgary, Canada. Spencer, who performed regularly in Tulsa at the Silver Star Saloon, was performing Ot the Alberta Gay Rodeo. He was,~tficken wi,lh pneumoma P. 11 P. 12 P. 13 P, 15 EUREKA SPRINGS ADS BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT RESTAURANT REVIEW CLASSIFIEDS 918.583.1248 Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal POB 4140 Assistant Editor, James Christjohn Writers/contributors Tulsa, Oklahoma Phyl Boier-Schmidt 74159-0140 Barry Hensley Jean=Pierre Legraridbouche Leanne Gross TulsaNews@aol.com Gerald Miller Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property_of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent tO the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Phyl Boler-Schmidt Last December, I decided to take on an impossible project. I knew it was impossible from the outset, but I was determined to be a.voice of reason inthe midst of many voices of confusion. What, you ask, am i talking about? With the brutal murders of Roxanne and Michelle, two lesbian activists in Oregon,my sense ofneeding to do something tobring the warring parties over lesbigay civil rights to the same tablewas literally pushed over the edge. I just had to do something. So, I decided to begin a dialogue on an Internet’.newsgroup called alt.org.promisekeepers. What I wanted to accomplish was nothing different than lesbigay civil rights activists have been working toward since the beginning of our movement. I wanted Christian fundamentalists (and everyone else for that matter) to begin to see us as human beings, to stop villifying us insearch of political advancement, to STOP the violence. Knowing full well I am only one person, see Enemy, page 3 by G. Miller. M_4. Peoplehavekiddedmefor along-time about having an answer for every problem or situation. But it occurred to me lately that what I see as common sense answers are somehow often overlooked by other people. So the following is a beginning set of things for the reader to consider in terms of how to make your daily life less complex and run more smoothly. 1. Don’t go where you are not wanted! Sounds simple and it is. If there are places or people who go out of their way to make you to less than comfortabl~, DON’T GO THERE. DOn’t go to businesses which treat you or your friends badly. 2. Stay away frompeoplewho try to make your life miserablet That includes, parents, siblings, or any form of relative. This also includes associates of friends, or coworkers in your work place. That’s right, COWORKERS. You may have to be around them to work but otherwise steer dear whenever possible. 3. Don’t say you’ll do something when you reall~ don’t want to do it! I used to make myself see Life, page 3 Tulsa Clu~)s & Restaurants *Concessious, 3340 S. Peoria *Lola’s, 263OE. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 832-1269 744-0896 749-1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Brookside.Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 *Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521 Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 7434117 Tim Danid, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 DOn. 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Why are we afraid of anyone or anything that is differentfromus or our views.’? what would the world be like if we were all the same? Marriageis acommitmentbetweentwo people who love one another. Single-parent homes, illegitimate children, abusive spouses, alcoholism, joblessness and multiple marriages are aspects that are tearing the family and marriage apart. Please tell me where same-sex mamage will destroy the institutions of marriage and family. And is it wrong for a married see Eetters, page 3 Rev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor Sunday 9:15 am Christian Education 11:00 am Worship Service. Wednesday 6:30 pm Midweek Service 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thursday 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group 5451-E S. Mingo ¯ Tulsa~ OK ¯ 74146 (918) 622-1441 why I decided to take on the Promise Keepers is Something I really can’t explain. I just needed to do something. My experiencepleasantly surprisedme. And, I’d like to share this experience with you because I think if it worked once, it can work again.Ifmore of us step out and try to communicate with those we perceive as the enemy, perhaps we will make a difference, if not for our generation, at least for those that follow. My original note posted was entitled Opinions on Hate Speech. In it, I asked these simple questions, after outlining the events that had transpired in Oregon: "What are your feelings about this? Can you see why gays and lesbians are horrified when those among you villify us, call us child molesters, say that God hates us, and use other extremely derogatory terminology to describe who we are? Isn’t there some other way to disagree on the subject ofcivil rights legislation?Canyou see why somein yourmovementmightbe resp°nsiblealruenasdtyablef°r incitingpeople ~loe~eC~l~l~’~ for someone to hurt anyway? Isn’t there another alternative?" The immediate response by o~er 20 men who frequent the newsgroup was a defensive knee-jerk reaction. They accusedme of trying to blame Christians for everything. They toldme that a crime had been committed, and it didn’t matter if it was brought about by hatred of gays and lesbians. They tried every conceivable way to convince me that it had nothing whatsoever to do with their faith. It was only one unstablemancommitting a crime see Enemy, page 7 : ¯ sued by Rep. Jim Kolbe (R-Ariz.) on his ". announcement that he is Gay: : ’q’wenty years ago, when I first sought ¯ public office, I made a decision that my : commitment to civic involvement would : mean my public life would have to come : ahead of my personal and private life. ¯ I have, in the intervening 20 years, : sought to fulfillmypublicresponsibilifies ¯ in a manner that benefits all those I have :. represented in either the Arizona Legisla- ¯ ture or in Congress. I will continue that : commitment as long as I am in public : Service. Ilookbackon whatlhaveaccom- : proud of the record I have compiled. : NAFTA was the capstone of this vision. I ¯. have fought to lower the crushing tax ¯ burden on our families by reducing taxes. : I have worked for six years as a member _" of the budget committee to achieve a ¯. balanced budget so we can relieve our ¯ children of the burden of a crushing na- : tional debt. I have worked to keep : Arizona’s reputation as the astronomy i cOatapdivtaanlces intheawssourrlidngbaystrwonilolmgyotnheaWtforward : here. I have argued and won funds to : protect our natural heritage, including the ¯ "expansion of Saguaro National Park. And : justthis weekweachievedthemostsweep- : ing, most important reform of welfare in : decades. There is, of course, much more ¯ but this is a record I believe I can point to : with justifi-able pride. The following ts a press statement is- ¯. [ am just as proud of my record in the ¯ area ofhumanrights andindividual right.s. : I abhor and vigorously oppose discrinu- : nation in the workplace based on race, ¯ religion, gender, or sexual orientation - ." any treatment that is not based on merit. I : foug.h,t to repeal thepr.ovision inlaw which ’. armed seravnicaeus tmomemaubcerdwishcohiasrHge oIfVany-posi-reqmres : five. I support health benefits for domes- ". fie parmers. ¯ I also believe that if the citizens of ~ Hawaii believe it to be in their public ." interest to permit same-sex mamages, ¯ they should be permitted to do so. By the ¯ same token, other states - as Arizona has : done - should be allowed to define mar- : riage differently, and not be required to accept the.definition adopted by others. It .¯ is for this reason that I voted for the so- ." called Defense of Marriage Act when it ¯ was before the House a few weeks ago. °. Now, however, there are some who : have decided that theirdisagreement with : this particular vote warrants their making : public information aboutmy privatelife - ¯ information they may have heard second : or third-hand about my sexual onenta- ." tion. That I am a Gay person has never ¯ affected the way that I legislate. The fact ". that I am Gay has never, nor will it ever, : change my commitment to represent all : the people of Arizona’s 5th District. ¯ I am the same person, one who has : spentmany yearsstruggling torelieve the : tax burden for families, balance the bud- ~ get for our children’ s future, andimprove ¯ the quality of life we cherish in Southern : Arizona. I intendto continue that mission : if the voters of the 5th District, in their ¯ wisdom, decide that I should represent them in the 105th Congress.’" ¯ versity", : The Black&White Charities, Inc. Gala : will begin with a reception at 7pro fol- ¯ lowed by the dinner at 8pro. The highly ~ regarded, Follies Revue Singers will pro- : vide entertainment. Valet parking will be : provided. For more info., call 587-7314. : orheter0sexual) in smallOkl.ahomatowns : and rural areas. In particular, this effort ¯. will target Muskogee, Okmulgee, ¯ Tahlequah and Bartlesville. While it’s ". estimated that the majority of HIV trans- ~ mission/infection is these areas is still ¯ -through male to male contact, a small : survey by the Oklahoma State Dept. of : Health indicates that AIDS cases in rural : Oklahomans is still rising but that men in ¯ these areas may perceive themselves as at : lowerrisk. AndMSM’s whomay be mar- : ried to women may face challenges in : incorporating safersex practices into their ¯ relationships, and even in just getting "¯ condoms in a small town where anonym- : ity is not likely. ¯ The program will work to provide sup- . port groups, peer education and greater ." access to HIV see HOPE, page 11 ". ". WINDSOR MARKET ANTIQUES, ART & INTERIOR DES1GN DALLAS - TULSA GE:T READY TULSA THE ULTIMATE SHOPPING EXPERIENCE COMING OCTOBER 1996 IN THE VILLAGE OF WOODLAND HILLS 6808 SOUTH MEMORIAL, SUITE 300 !TULSA, OKLAHOMA 74133 PLEASE: CONTACT CINDY WATSON AT: (9t8) 254-9766 " NEW LEi SING VIGNETTES TO INTERIOR DESIGNERS, ANTIQUE.DEXLERS &. ARTISANS WITH QUALITY, INTEGRITY& CREATIVITY Zimbabwe Gays Harrassed by Govt HARARE, Zimbabwe (Aug. 2) - Gays and lesbians won a legal battle over the government of Zimbabwean President Robert Mugabe in their on-again, offagain efforts to participate in the nation’s International Book Fair, the largest publishing showcase in sub-Saharan Africa. The country’s High Court overturned a government ban on the Gays and Lesbians Association of Zimbabwe (GLAZ), saying the country’ s censorship laws were being improperly applied. The court said the government had exceeded its authority when it banned the organization withouteven exzmining theliterature the group intended to display at a booth at the fair. The government promptly said, however, that it would examine whatever books, pamphlets or otherliteratureGLAZbrings to the fairand would press charges against the group and its members if the material was believed to be "promoting homosexuality." For the 2rid year in a row, the government tried to block the only lesbian and gay group in the country from participating in the Fair. OnJuly 22, Joyce Mujuru, the country’s information minister, said the government wouldn’ t intervene in the fair to block GALZ from participating. But the next day, government spokesman Bornwell Chakaodza said gays and lesbians "have absolutely no right to publicly display literature and material at a public and cultural event where..,children visit." The Zimbabwean government, last year faced intenseinternational cfiticismwhen it banned the GALZ from the fair. Organizers of the event managed to keep the event in Zimbabwe this year, after making commitments that GALZ would be allowed to set up an exhibit stand at the fair to distribute literature. A spokespersonforGALZhassaidthe group plans to go ahead with its plans to set up a booth at the fair, despite the government’s decision. Organizers of the fair said they were still concerned about the possibility of violence because of the GLAZ booth. Among other things, shortly before the High Court ruling, a leader of Uniyersity ¯" of Zimbabwe student group With close ¯ ties to the President Robert Mugabe told ¯ the fair organizers that gays and lesbians ¯ that-show up at the event will "face public ¯ genocide." In fact, a mob of between 60 and 100 ¯¯ angry students mostly from the University of Zimbabwe showed up on the final ¯ two days of the fair. ¯ On the final day of the fair, a group of students again showed up, and GLAZ ¯ members quickly left the booth for safety. Unsatisfied with simply driving theGLAZ volunteers away, however, the student ¯ mob proceeded to thoroughly trash the ¯ booth and bum the pamphlets that had ¯ been left behind. Although book fair staffers quickly put ¯ the fire out, many of the nearby ¯ publishing booths" also felt threatened ¯ enough to pack up their own displays and ¯ leave the fair, complaining that they were ¯ losirig enormous amounts of money ¯ because of the continued disruptions. : Congressmen’s i Spouses Gang Up ¯ -on Anti-Gay Rep. WASHINGTON (July 30) - Just how ¯ disliked by gays and lesbians is Rep. Bob ¯ Doman, the Orange County, Calif., Republican? Well, earlierin JulyHerbMoses, ¯ the longtime companion of Rep. Barney ¯ Frank (D-Mass.) toldreporters in thecapi- ¯ tal that he has. been helping raise cam- " paign funds for Loretta Sanchez, the ¯ Democratwhois trying to unseat Dornan. ¯" Now Moses has now been joined by Dean Hara, the partner of Rep. Gerry ," Studds (D-Mass.) and Rob Morris, the ¯ companion of Rep. Steve Gunderson (R- ¯ Wise.), in helping raise money for : Sanchez’ campaign to oust Dornan, who ¯ has a fondness for referring to gaymen as ¯ ¯ "homos.,Morris told reporters.that the 3 openly gay members of Congress may _" attendanupcomingfundraiserforSanchez ¯ but hadn’t been asked to be involved in ¯ planning the event. "I think Herb and ¯ Deanand I want to keepBarney and Gerry ¯ and Steve out of it," Morris told The Hill. ’q’his is our project." Scottish Gays Can Adopt EDINBURGH, Scotland (July 29) - A Scottish gay man has won a court appeal that will allow him tO adopt a 5-year-old severely handicapped boy whose morn has told child welfare authorities she doesn’ t want the child. The unnamed man, identified only as a 34-year-old nurse, had earlier this year been told by a lower court that he could not adopt the boy because he is gay, even though the man and his lover have cared for.the 5-year-old for the past 18 months. But a 3-judge Scottish appeals court reversed that ruling, saying there was no legal reason prohibiting gays andlesbians from adopting children. The court said that all the information gathered about the two men and their lifestyle and relationship with the boy "’pointed strongly in favor of the proposed adoption." The child, who was put up for adoptionby his motherjust weeks afterhe was born, is both deaf and unable to talk, and can walk only with assistance. California Hate Crimes OAKLAND, Calif. (July 17) - California has just released its first full-year of data about hate crimes in the state, although authorities and anti-violence advocates agree it probably doesn’t reflect biasbased crimes very accurately. According to the state justice department summary, there were 1,754 hate crimesin California in 1995, involving more than 2,600 vierims. The only previous report for the state coveredjust the last half of 1994 and reported only 672 such crimes. Justice department officials were quick to acknowledge "holes" in the report. Among other things, only 215ofthe state’ s 750 law enforcement agencies reported any information on hate crimes. Some cities reported disproportionately higher numbers of hate crimes, possibly because police there have been more sensitized to reporting such acts of violence. San Francisco, for example, reported 290 biasbased crimes for 1995, while Santa Clara P AlrERSON REALIORSx LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Stre~-t ¯ Suite 170 ,.Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 Off: 918-749-8374., Res: 918-582-7672 ¯ Fax: 918-747-1795 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Where God Uplifts All People Sunday,Service, 10:45 am 1623 No. Maplewood 838-1715 Community Cleaning O A Residential and Commerical Cleaning Service Kerby Baker (918) 622-0700 Call for Free Estimate DISC0 TO DISCO 20TH BUY* SELL* CONSIGN COOL 3213 E. 15th St. O’rlll:E: Tulsa, Ok 74104 (918) 749-3620 ¯ County - which has more than twice the ¯ population - reported just 47 such crimes ¯ during that year. ¯ Some 69% of the reported incidents ¯ included in the report were based on race ¯ or ethnic background; about 18% of the ¯ hate crimes reportedwerebasedonsexual ¯ orientation; just over 12% were based on : religion. According to the state report, ¯ gay men were 4 times as likely as lesbians to be the target of attacks. Lesbian Speakers at Political Conf. WASHINGTON (July 18)- According ¯ to the Washington Post, tennis superstar Martina Navratilova says she’ s head over : heals in love with model Hunter Reno, ¯ who also happens to be a niece of U.S. Attorney General Janet Reno. The Post ¯ quoted Navratilova as saying she loves the blond L’Oreal model "in a way I haven’t loved before" and that Hunter ¯ Reno said the tennis ace is a"very special : person" to her. The younger Reno will be one of sev- ¯ eral noted women slated to address the ¯¯ Human Rights Campaign’s OutVote ’96 scheduled to be held in Chicago in Au- ¯ gust.-Along with Reno will be Chastity ¯ Bono, Candace Gingrich and U.S. golfer ¯ Muffin Spencer-Devlin. ¯ Trans Ex-Husband ¯ Seeks Child Visits ¯ LONDON 0nlY 19) - A [emale-to-male ¯ transsexual who has been married to a ¯ woman for 17 years is appealingaBritish ¯ court ruling that refuses him visitation rights with the couple’ s children. ¯ A court earlier this year declared the ¯ marriage of the couple, who are not being ¯ named, annulled because of "a profound deception" on the part of the husband. ¯ During the divorce proceedings, the wife ¯ in the case told the court that she"always believed he was a man" and had undergone artificial insemination in order to have their children. ¯ But the husband, who is 50, has ap- ¯ pealed the court’s ruling that he has no ¯ visitation rights with the couplers children because he had perjured himself in order to get married in the first place. During the divorce proceedings, the wife, whois 49 years oldnow,had told the court that when she and her husband had had sex, she believed he either had a very small or deformed penis. But, She told the court, they never discussed it and that she never reMized the man was using an artificial penis during sex. ¯¯ accidentally, killin~ Smith. But prosecuting attorney Lee Davis questioned Butler about why she had not : tried to give any aid to the shot.woman or even call an ambulance. Davis also intro- " duced forensic evidence that Smith had : been shot by a pistol that had been held. ¯ only about an inch fromhermouth at the time it was fired. Tennessee Murder Chaplain Booted Trial Winds Up for Bad Att,tudes ORLANDO, Fla. (July 24) - According CHATtANOOGA, Tenn. (July 19)-As to the Orlando (Fla.) Sentinel, John B. the-murder trial of Adriana Butler, 23, ¯ Book, ahighlyvisibleanti-gayministerin drew to a dose, the college honors gradu- ." ate and mother of a 3-month-old infant, " testified ,,that she "never intended to kill ¯ anybody in the October 1994 shooting " death of Cathy Smith, even though she wanted the woman to stop having a les- ¯ bian relationship with her mother, Donna Evans. ¯ Butler said she was opposed to the " "’unnatural relationship" between Smith " and her mother, but socialized with the two women in order to maintain her faro- ¯ ily contacts. Under cross-examination, " Butleracknowledgedthat the three women " had in fact taken vaeatious in Atlanta and " Alabama together, and that they had also ° gone-to a local bar popular with lesbians " and gay men. She insisted, however, that her mother " ’~gave in to, Cathy [Smith] in order to keep the peace’ and told the court that Evans"-" was ashamed of her relationship with " Smith but was afraid of losing her job if " she broke it off. According to Butler, the night of the ° killing, Smith had shown up at her home, where Evans was staying, and an argu- : ment hadbroken out during which Smith had punched Evans in the stomach and " knocked her glasses off. The woman tes- " lifted that she also was hit by Smith when " she tried to break up the senffle outside the house between the two women. ¯ She told the court that at this point she went and got a gun and returned to the driveway where Smith and Evans were, " butbeganwalkingawayfrom Smithwhen ¯ the woman grabbed her and twirled her around suddenly and that thegun Went off " central Florida, has been fired from his post as a volunteer chaplain with the Orange County Sheriff’s Dept. afterhe publicly criticized a deputy sherifffor attending a gay pride parade earlier in June. The Sheriff’s office declined to daborate on Book’s firing except to say that his "inabilityandunwillingness" to workwith gays andlesbians in the department and in the communi,ty at large made him unacceptable in the post. Gay Videos End Coach’s Career ASHBURN, Va. (July 19) - When Jeff Bruton’s wife Melanie sued for divorce, among the evidence presented were accusations that her husband had appeared in a number of popular gay pornographic videos under the name Ty Fox. When Bruton’s employers learned of the reason forthe divorceproceedings, they launched thmeir own.inves.tigation and say that if the enare indeedone and the same, Brnton will.have to resign as aphysical education teacher and assistant coach for football, baseball and wrestling at a Sterling, Va., high school - and possibly his Virginia state teaching certification. Edgar Hatriek, superintendent of schools for Loudoun County, told reporters that teachers"are C"hOSen to bemstmc-" tors as welJ as leaders of our young people...in their professional as wall as ~edesoinsaalnlivaellse.g"aHtieoandodfeda,l"iWfeshtaytlewethhaatvies not in keeping with that." School officials, however, said they have been unable to contact Bruton directly because of the summer vacation, and also said that the gym coach’s phone number has been disconnected. But Steve Thompson, who is Bruton’s agent, confirmed for reporters that his client is in fact Ty Fox and, in addition to modding swimwear and athletic clothing, Bruton also made gay pornographic videos. Thompson also said that Brnton plans to resign his teaching post, which he’s held since 1993, "whether it’s fair or not." Choral Festival Concludes TAMPA, Fla. (July 15) - Festival V, described as the largest gay and lesbian gala in the world, drew to a dose after what organizers considered a highly successful 8 days ofsinging, singing, and still more singing. The Gay & Lesbian Association of Choruses, which sponsors the annual showcase of choruses from around the world, said more than a hundred choruses participated in Festival V, drawing more than 5,000 lesbian, gay and bisexual singers. Poet Maya Angelou gave an openingnightaddress,.. and although therehadbeen ,cgncerns that anti-gay protesters might disrupt the festivities, only a handful of prot,esters showed up at one of the earlier opemng day events. The festival also saw the premiere of several works commissioned for Festival V. ¯ answer you want to hear but...". You will .save.yourself a lot of anxiety and grief by ¯ just being truthful. This includes the so- " cial WHITE LIE. If this is too large a step ¯ then begin with simply saying you prefer not to answer, and stick to your guns. ¯ 5. Quit worrying ~b~.ut what happened yesterday. You can t fix what is already ¯ done. Equally, don’t worry about future situations over which youhaveno control ¯ anyhow. ¯ 6. Start living inside the moment you are in. If someone makes you angry, let ¯ them know it. If someone hurts your feel- ¯ ings, let them know it. If someone mis- ¯ treats you, don’t put up with it. Take action, even if that only means removing ¯ yourself from their presence. ¯ . 7. Us.e some common sense about deal- . mg with everyday life. You are in control of y.our, life far more than you ima "he n t let others take the ~mttattve of dic- ¯ ta.ting your life. They will try to get away ¯ wjth as much as possible. Learn to recogm. ze what you, can effectively handle and what you can t. ¯ Most importantly keep inmind that you ¯ don’t have to win every battle to win the ¯ war. Don’t let others sap your energies. Pick and chose the right time and right ¯ place. Truly you are the Captain of your ¯ ship and the Master of your own fate. .* We make life far more difficult than it ¯ really is and we usually fall into that trap by letting others set the situation and start ¯ the game. Remember the famous "It’s my ball and I make the rules!"? Start thinking ¯ of your life as your"ball" and when others ¯ insiston making thegamemiserable, take ¯ your ball and go home. You can always ¯ find someone else to play ball with. Keep inmind some people aren’thappy unless they are making someone else unhappy, and usually that will mean you. Don’t waste a scintilla of time or effort on those types. Move on and let them eat themselves up. ff they have so little self esteem that they have to tear someone down to feel important, @#$%^ them. Only you can start making your life easier and morerewarding. You have to start today, because each day that passes brings you closer to the great black nothingness which probably awaits us all. Copyright © 1996 Gerald Miller miserable going to social gatherings I .didn’t really want to attend because I felt ~t was my duty. BS! Now I only go where I really want to beand Ihaveamuchbetter time. This also includes favors for other people, just learn to say No in a polite fashion. 4. Don’t lie! Tell the truth when asked a question, even if you know the questioner won’t like the answer. 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Nearly 70,000 people get assistance for AIDS drugs through the program, which is largely paid for with federal funds. The Clinton budget proposal would increase federal spending - about two-thirds of the total program - from $115 million this year to $195million during the next fiscal year. Theomove comes in the wake of medical reports at the international AIDS conference in Vancouv& earlier in July that indicate the new class of protease inhibitors, combined with already-approved anti-HIV drags, show enormous potential for completely suppressing the virus. Patients andAIDS advocates, however, have increasingly warned that despite the heartening news about the new drugs, most people with AIDS in this country would not be able to afford the expensive new treatments. "While new drug treatments offer enormous hope to people living with HIV," Clinton said at the fundraiser, "it is also clear that our work is far from complete." Reform Party’s Lamm Suggests Cut Care for PWA’s NEW YORK (July 21) - Although it got little notice by the media, former Colorado G0v. Richard Lamm, who has declared his desire to be the 1996 presidential nominee of the Reform Party, said on a television news program Sunday, July 21, that the government should virtually write off people who already have AIDS. "I think in a world of limited resources weshould spendmoremoney onresearching the cause ofAIDS and how to prevent it than we should treating the people that are going to die anyway," Lammsaid on the CBS-TV program "Face the Nation." Mark Sturdevant, vice chairman of the Reform Party who has urged Lamm’s candidacy, later insisted the former Colorado governor wasn’t actually saying the country should "pull the plug" on people who are sick, but said that as the country,,, increasingly faced "limited resources Americans "need to start talking about these issues." Lamm raised hackles in-1984 for similarremarks whenhe said the elderly "have a duty to die and get out of the way." Gene Defect May Protect from AIDS WASHINGTON (Aug. 8) -Two separate teams of researchers have identified a genedc mutation that appears to protect some people against AIDS. The finding may-explain why some people infected with HIV remain healthy and virtually symptom-free of the disease for years. The teams of U.S., European and Japanese scientists have found that people with two copies of a certain defective gene - one each from their mother and father - appear to be resistant to the most common strain of HIV in Western countries, the one which is transmitted sexually most commonly. They estimated that ¯¯ only about 1% of the Caucasian populalion has both defective genes. : Theteam tookblood samples from 1,800 ¯ healthy U.S., European, African andJapa- ¯ nesevolunteers.Theyexposedthe samples ~ to the most common strain of HIV in test : tubes. Reporting in thejournal Nature, the ¯ researchers found that all the blood : samples were infected after exposure - ¯ except those from white people with two : copies of the mutated gene. ¯ The second team of scientists, from the : Aaron Diamond AIDS Research Center : in New York, found the same double ; genetic mutations in the blood of two ¯ white males who knowingly had unpro- : tected sex with infected partners, yet re- : main uninfected themselves. ." As these researchers report in thejour- ¯ hal Cell, they could not infect blood ¯ samples from these two men - even with ¯ 1,000 times the amount of HIV it usually : takes to trigger an infection. ¯ The researching findings suggest that : drugs to do this would probably have no ; side effects, since the lack of the protein : target in the Caucasians appears to have ¯ caused them no known negative health- : problems. : Heterosexual HIV : Showing Up in UK : LONDON (Aug. 1)-A much more vim- . lent strain of HIV, believed to be more : likely to spread by heterosexual contact, ." has ~pread from Thailand to Great Brit- " ain, researchers reportin the Britishinedi- : cal journal New Scientist. ¯ The virus .subtype E is widespread throughout Asia, where most of those ¯ infectedareheterosexual,nothomosexual. ¯ As a result, researchers and epidemiolo- : gists believe the virus subtype is more : easily spread via heterosexual sex than ¯ subtype B, which has mainly affected gay : and bisexual men in North America and ~ Europe. Since the first case of subtype E ¯ infection in England was announced earlier this year~ British health officials have since identified 72 additional subtype E infections. ¯ Report" Herpes : ¯ : Virus Linked to KS ¯ CHICAGO (July 30)-Two studies in the : healthmagaT.ineNatureMedicinestrongly ¯ suggests that Jhe human herpes virus 8 ; (,I-IHV8) isthecauseofKaposi’s sarcoma, ¯ a cancer that strikes many people with : AIDS. Using a recently devdoped blood ¯" test for HHVS, researchers say they most ." often found the virus in blood samples of ~: people with sexually transmitted diseases, ¯ a Strong implication the virusis also sexu- ." ally transmitted. 2nd HIV Home Test ¯ Approved; States ¯ Fight Availability ¯" CHICAGO (July 24) -~A 2nd HIV home- : testing kit has now gone on sale after ¯ being approved by the Food & Drug Ad- ¯ ministration. Like the already-approved : Confide test by Johnson & JOhnson, the ¯ Home Access Express test, sold by Home ¯ Access Health, is available via a toll-free ¯ number. But in spite of federal approval ¯ now of2 suchhome tests, themanufactur- : ers sdll face batdes with healthofficials in ¯ some states who are s.harply critical of NEGATIVE Even if you test HIV negative, AIDS has touched your life. 4, What’s the pointof staying negative if your lover or your friends already have HIV? 4,, Will you have to use condoms for the rest of your life? 4, Do you sometimes take risk that you regret the morning_ after? -4, What about the issues of power and trust in a relationship? 4, How has homophobia affected your self esteem? Interested in attending a discussion group for HIV negative men? 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This year the Atlanta Braves will become the 2nd pro baseball team to sponsor such an event when it hosts a "Stepping Up to the Hate Day" in Sept: at the Atlanta-Fulton Co. Stadium benefiting AIDS organizations in the Atlanta area. At the first Until There’s a Cure Day in 1994, opposing team Colorado Rockies wouldn’t even join the S.F. Giants on the field to form ahuman AIDS ribbon until they were brow-beaten into it by Giants’ teammembers andcatcalls from the stands. of violence, not a s.ymbol of a larger societal problem that lS exascerbated by like-minded individuals who blindly follow the ramblings of the likes of Pat Robertson, Jerry Falwell, Patrick Buchanon, etc. And of course, I was bombarded with Bibfieal quotations about the sinfulness of my ways. I knew this would happen, and since I had gone in with my eyes wide open, I knew I was not going to act defensively to protect my position. I wanted dialogue, not an argument. ,So, with each and every note from one of these men, I responded with the same basic premise: "Yourpremisesmaydiffer from mine, and that’s okay.We just need ¯ There are some more modern texts that : to put those on the table sowecan actually know what weare talking about. "Our premises on the Bible probably differ... I don’t know yours, but I win tell you mine. I read the Bible as a historical work. I try to read it in the context of the time it was written and to know which people were being addressed so that I have a context to base my reading upon. I also read other works of the time thathave notbeenincluded in the Canon, and many of these I find just as much validity in. I University Reports ¯ Condom Usage BOSTON (July 17) - According to a survey ofBrownUniversity students,74% of the women who dropped in at the campus clinic in 1995 said their sexual partners used acondom"always or almost always’~ when having sex. A similar survey at the school 6 years earlier found that only41% of the women visiting the clinic rel~rted such high usage of condoms by their sexual partners. rely on as well. In other words, I don’t ¯ think God stopped talking when his book : went to print. I also know that, it is more ~ than possible that the works included in ¯ the Canon have been misinterpreted ¯" through language interpretors and ver- ¯ sion editors, and there is a high probabil- ." ity that the men who chose which books ¯¯ were likely candidates to include in the Canon had their own prejudices and could ¯ have excluded some worthwhile works : and included a lot of repetition. ¯ "This does not mean that I negate the ¯ teachings of the Bible. I just feel that it, in and of itself, is an incomplete guide for my spiritual understanding." ¯ The responses I received after simply : laying my cards on the table about my : own interpretation of the Bible are what ~ surprised me the most. There were no ¯ more Biblical quotations used to try to ¯ sway me. There was no more using of i Chrisdan theology tojustify the villifying ¯ of the homosexual lifestyle.What hap- ~ petted is that we settled into a reasoned : debate. No tempers flared.No hateful ¯ names wereealled. Ibelieve that, although : I did not think my one voice would make ~ a difference, it did. ¯" And, I believe this is why: "I like being able to live my life to its fullest, and I ~ expect you to have that very same fight. It ~ is a free country in which we live, and i freedom of and from religion is one of our hallmarks of liberty... "Our ability to disagree on what God ~ thinks of my lifestyle is one of the ~eat ¯ things about this place we call America. ¯" And, I want to keep that ability for both of us. I don’t want *anyone* to try to tell me :~ I can’t have my way of life, and I sure ¯ would defend your choice as well.Wonld you do the same for meT’ i I would like to propose to all ofyou that : reason really does work. I think it is high ¯ time we appeal to reason in our political ¯" endeavors, not to high emotion. And, I : thinkitis time we quit assuming weknow : howtheothersidewillrespond.Thelouder ". weget, themorethe other sideresponds in ¯ kind. There are reasonablepeople onboth ¯ sides of the lesbigay civil fights debate, i andI,for one, wouldlike to see more ofus .... " step forward ,an~ take leadership roles. Pitcher’s Refusal to Join Game Benefit Causes Uproar SAN FRANCISCO (July 30) - The refnsal ofSanFrancisco Giants pitcherMark Dewey to join with the baseball team m support of an AIDS benefit being sponsored by.the team has outraged political leaders here and at least oneAIDS activist has called on the Giants to giveDewey his walking papers or trade him to another teal!L With nearly 35,000 fans attending the Giants-AtlantaBraves game,Dewey,who is 3-2 with a4.10 earned-run average with 36 strikeouts in 53 innings, refused tojoin players from the two teams on field for a demonstration of support in fighting the AIDS epidemic.A fundamentalist Christian who is outspoken in calling homosexuality a sin. He also turned his red AIDS ribbon sideways in imitation of the ancient "fish" symbol of Christianity. Dewey said he decided to opt out of the on-field display with teammates because some of the funds raised for the "Until There’s a Cure" day event go to promote safer-sex education and prevention programs, which he says are contrary to his religions beliefs. Jon Prevna, who works withProject Open Handin San Francisco, later wrote to Giants president Peter Magowan saying, "I seriously hope you will consider trading him [Dewey] or giving him his unconditional release." The Giants managementhas so far declined to comment on the incident. Black & White Charities, Inc. & PFLAG Lookforward to the pleasure ofyour companyfor The 1996 Black & White Gala with keynote speaker Elizabeth Birch Executive Director, Human Rights Campaign, Washington, DC and Presentation of the first annual Swan Awards Saturday, September 7th Cocktails & Conversation at seven o’clock, Concourse Dinner at eight o’clock, International Ballroom Entertainment by The Follies Revue Singers $125 each, checks may be sent to POB 14001, Tulsa, 74159 Visa or MasterCard, call 587..7314 or 800.458.4682, or e-mail: blkwhtprty@aol.com The Downtown Do.ubleTree Hotel, 616 West Seventh Benefiting the 1996 Black & White Grant Recipient, The HIV Resource Consortium, Inc. TULSA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CALEND R SUNDAYS Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 2627b East llth 583-7815 Community ofHope (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2rid, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. 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Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative 4021 South Harvard, Suite 210 Tulsa, OK 74135 918-747-3320 Home Office Dallas, Texas 800-559-4790 ¯ Booking for 800 253 Geek to GO! ThePC Specialist, 501.253.2776 Phyl Boler-Schmidt Systems & Software Specialist POB 429, Eureka Springs 72632 Books, Incense, Candles and.Rainbows! Plus lots more! (501) 253-5445 45&I/2 Spring Street Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com AUTHENTIC ITALIAN CUSINE FRESH RAINBOW TROUT ofEureka Springs Recommended by The New York Times (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 According to The Gayly Oklahoman, Spencer was born in Ada, and was raised in Tulsaand in Seminole. He attended the University. ofOklahoma and builta career as a country western entertainer, touring the Southwest and working on the Gay rodeo circuit. Friends of Spencer are holding a Celebration of Life on August 17, at the Bunkhouse in Oklahoma City, according to friend and organizer, Mike Busby. The event will feature Sonja Martinez, Deb Roberts,BradRiggins and videos ofSpencer performing. The event will include an auction of memorabilia to benefit HIV/ AIDS organizations. The Gayly also noted that Spencer’s family has requested that donations to HIV/AIDS organizations be made in lieu of flowers. Those who wish to honor the memory of Sid Spencer may do so to the organization of their choice or may send a donation care of Spencer’s father, Sid Spencer, Sr. (RR2, Box 69-G, Seminole, 74868-9614) who will donate those in his SOn’S naule. and two grants of $1,000 each to TOHR Testing Clinic (HOPE) and Catholic Charities’ St. Joseph’s House. On-September 28, Follies Revue performers will recreate this year’s show to benefit RAIN in Enid, Oklahoma. For information about booking Follies singers for corporate or private events, call 437-020L testing. Initially, events for the program will be held in Tulsa because of the conterns individuals may have about attending a "Gay" event near their homes. Petersonadded that attendance is not necessary and that they would like to hear from individuals in rural eastern Oklahoma about what it is like in those areas and how best to get education and services to the areas. HOPE has set up a telephone number, 800-282-8165, to allow individuals to call anonymously. Local callers may ring 742-2927. Peterson also announced that HOPE has .been chosen as one of 75 HIV agencies in the US to participate in a program, "Parmers in Prevention", sponsored by the Center for AIDS Intervention Research, (CAIR) of the Medical College of Wisconsin. The program is funded by the : National Institute of Mental Health andis ¯ intended to bridgeagapbetweenfront]i~" ¯ HIV/AIDS prevention organizations and : research into HIV prevention. OOO00000OO00. OOOO0®O ~ A Friendly Place to Stay ; KING’S HI-WAY ¯ INN ¯ ¯ ¯ 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62 W ¯ Eureka Springs, AR 72632 ¯ (501) 253-7311 ¯ 1-800-231-1442 ¯ Jerry A. Wilson. owner ¯ ¯ O ¯ 0 ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ O ¯ ¯ ¯ @ 0 A number of commtmity events are coming up. Check out the following: The NAMES PROJECT wants you to help by hosting a Feast with Friends on Sat. Sept. 14. Call 748-3111 for info. ¯ Tulsa Womens Supper Club will meet ". 8/28 at 7 at the Spaghetti Warehouse. ." Info: 584-2978. Thenext AIDS Coalition ¯ meeting is Sept. 10th. Call 585-5551. : Do not miss Interfaith AIDS Minis- : tries Old Fashioned Street Carnival on ¯ Sat. 9/21, 10-6 at Southminster Presbyte- ¯ dan, 3500 S. Peoria. : Rainbow Business Guild is having a : business fair on 8/30 (see ad, p. 5) and-a: : lake weekend on 9/21-22, call 665-5174. i Anddo not miss the Gay Comedy Jam[ written by Pastor Leslie Penrose, the congregation struggled to make. sure the ad was "responsible, given that we are a Christian commlmity of faith and not a p.o.litical advocacy group" and"adequate" s~nce members of the congregation are affected by the hate language. The statement notes that "as gay and lesbian persons have struggled in this country - in this state and city- for the right to live in dignity without fear of violence or persecution, to have their committed relationships respected, and to worship with integrity, the dialogue has become inereasingly hurtful and exclusive....we...have wondered where is the other voice of Christianity?" The statement affd~, "...when the church is silent in the face of injustice...that silence becomes complic- ¯ ity in that injustice." Penrose told TFN that so far there has ¯ been little response to the ad but that she : expects that there will likely be letters to : The Worldin response andpossible to the ¯ new Methodist bishop from more conser_ : vative Methodistcongregations. Commu_ : nity of Hope (Coil) has also organized ¯ serveral companion efforts to this ad. ¯ These include a letter and visiting cami Paigu to Don Nickles, Tom Coburn and ¯ Steve Largen.t, a speakers bureau to seek ¯ out other church groups that will listen ¯ and Coil is also planning aprayer vigil to- ¯" be conducted when and if the Senate con- , siders theDOMAbill. Formoreinfo. orto ¯ contribute to this effort, call 585-1800. Living Sprtng ...a community of friends... We welcome you to attend! Services held Sunday evenings at 7 o’clock 17 Elk Street (at the Unitarian Church) Eureka Springs, AR 72632 501-253-9337 READ ALL ABOUT IT reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library In "Immortal, Invisible," editorTamsin Wilton has compiled a lengthy collection ¯ of original essays and interviews analyzi~ ig the history and current state of the lesbian moving image, including f’rims and, to a lesser extent, television. From Marlene Deitrichin"Morocco" in 1930to 1994’s "Woman of the Wolf," this volume explores the important differences between "gay films" and "le:s.bik.a~ film,s" and why lesbian and gay male ,tim mar- .....~rs will probably never agree on a generic "queer cinema." " These are more than just simple movie reviews. The contributors explore the.s.ocial, political, historical and, in some mstances, religious aspects of these films and the text is not always light reading. Obvious popular films, such as "Personal ~ Best" and the notorious "The Children’s Hour" are supplemented ,b,y true~hous,e, lesbian films, including Desert Hearts and "Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit.!’ The seventeen contributors exhibit a wide variety of qualifications, frofi~film makers"and producers (Penny Florence and Susan Ardill) to a postgraduate student (Louise Allen) whose research is concerned with "lesbian readings of kd lang, and the emergence of country and westernlesbian culture."The authors endlessly debatewhatconsritutes lesbianform : and content. Should only films which ’ have lesbian relationships and characters beindudedin"lesbian cinema," or should : an"out" lesbian film maker also have her : film included even though the subject ¯ matter or treatment is not lesbian-spa- ¯ eific?Thereis averyinterestinginterview ¯ with lesbian film maker Greta Schiller, ¯ whoserecent efforts haveindudedawon- : derful documentary, "Maxine Sullivan: ¯ Love To Be in Love," about the hetero- ~ sexual jazz legend. : Some wall knownnames are ignored or ¯ marginalized in this volume. Barbara ¯ Hammer, whose short films have raised : more than one eyebrow as they challenge ". the "heterosexist authority system," ¯ is mentioned only a couple of rimes and given one short quote. ¯ There are many unfamiliar but intrign- ~ ing films discussedhere. They are ones to ¯ keep in mind as you are traveling to other : cities where progressive theaters may be : taking the opportunity to broa..den~ the h~o- ~ rizons of their communities, veruaps me ¯ ThirdAmmalTulsaGay andLesbianFilm ~ Festival organizers willincorporate some ". of these rifles into their schedule next ¯ snring. "Immortal, Invisible" is one of the ~ few books published that specifi- : cally discuss lesbiancinema, but there are ¯ also many other books regarding gay/ ¯ lesbian topics at your local branch library : orat the Readers Services department at : theCentralLibrarydowntown(596-7966). James Christjohn ybYeal Gaycomedyis comingback to:Fulsa on S~pt.’16th& 17th, at thePAC. The Gay Com~:ly Jam. Freedom Tour features acclaimed openly Gay comics,, Scott Kennedy and Kevin Maye, who ve been seen on HBO’s Comedy Channel and -written of in The Advocate. Their show, Gaylapalooza (last February with two other comics) played to a full house at th~ PAC’s Williams Theater and benefited Black&White Charities as does aportion of this appearance. Tickets are $12 in advance and $15 day of the show, and are available by calling 481-0558. Broken Arrow Community Playhouse announces that auditions for its Halloween producrion, two one-act plays, will be held Sund,a,,,,,y, August 18, at 6pro;, The pIays¯.are . Sorry, wrong Number , directed by Todd Murray, & "Black Comedy", directedby Jenny Jackson. Theoneacts will be performed October 11 - 20. "Sorry Wrong Number" requires afemale character, and 3-4 addirioual actors who can perform a variety of character voices. It will be staged as a radio drama. "Black Comedy" requires 5 men &3 women. Audj’rious will consist ofcold readings from the scripts and someimprov. Audirious willbeheld at the playhouse, 1800 S. Main in the Main Place complex. 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Address: _Age: City, St. &Zip:__ ~ Telephone: bYAugustJean_Pierre,nightsTFNinOklahomaCFr°°itdiChave ." of a salad & side dish or a cup of soup. ~oaY~s’ ataba~nutt~o9 hot .a~.d Sticky to .reallal~ " We started with a shrimp and lobster nne cmsme, but a new res- .bisque that was rich and quite rusty, with ctauulirnaanrtyhsecerenei.nMTicuhlsaaelhas heated up the " el,noUtsn.Kofs wofholol.be,stsemr atallilsmhreiamt.pTahnedresewvaesraal Fusco’s new venture, definite bite from cay- Flavors, fills out the space in a strip mall M;ebael Fi15co ~ enne pepper, but it was alsohome to Novel Idea Bookstore & Mexicali Border Cafe, near 71st and Sheridan. The wellknown Fusco used to be chef at Bodean’s, and openedFlavors this summer as his own place. Halfofth~ restaurant is a section of dinerstyle booths with white tablecloth covered tables. The post-modem decor features a black and white checkerboard floor, a visible kitchen window, and popular music playing over the speakers. The other half, behind a wainscotted glass wall, is aformal dining room with pale purple walls, carpeted, formal tables and place settings, and more sedate, classical music playing in the background. There is .also anotherformal din- Hollr$: IX/Ion. - Fr~., 11 to Dinner 3/][on. - Sat., 5 to 10:30 dosed Sundays Cuisine: New Amerlean Dress: Dressy Prices: Very Expensive Plastic: Non-Smoldn$ Section: Yes Alcohol: FMI bar and w~ne mgroom behind French doors for private par_ ties. The samefood and menu is available on either side, and there is no official difference, though we noticedmost gendemen in our section wereinjackets and Ratln~: ties, while the diner Side patrons were more ca_ A l;st sually attired.. Even though our visit was on a Monday night, both sections of the restaurant were nearly full. In addition to the small menu ofregular items, a blackboard reminiscent of Bodean’s announces the specials of the evening. Several selections of fresh fish are available, plus offerings of beef, veal, pork,and duck. Entrees include a choice no.t what we would call spray. Our salads came FLAVORS on huge plates (larger ~a~a~n the service plate!) 6104 E~st 71st Street wedgceosnsisted of large of iceberg lettuce with a.scattering of .thinly sliced purple omon tings, cherry tomatoes, anddiagonally sliced cucumbers, dressed in a pleasan~-- balsamic vinaigrette& crumbled S til ton cheese dressing (Stilton is the English version of bleu cheese or roquefor0. After the salad course, we were mortified to see our waiter remove our salad knife from our salad plate and set it on our bread and butter plate. One expects that fora $4.50 salad, the kitchen can wash an additional knifet Our entree was a delicious, and large servl. n.g of sauteed, thinly sliced veal hver ($9.95) presented with caramelized onions and~r2~r_ kansas bacon, withpo_ tatoes Lyonnaise. Very tasty and an excellent value. Our companion had a strikingplate that looked pretty enough to be a woman’s hat-- a bed of mashed potatoes surrounded by a panopoly of grilled i avepgeertfaeMctelys agnrdilmleud,shthroicokm, sb,ecerfotwenndederwloiittni ¯ ($21.95), sauced with a red wine reducL : tionhunter sauce, and withahuge sprig of .. fresh rosemary stuck in like a feather. ; au¯Hgirsadtienssdeirsthwoafscmreomreembruunldeaenwe:hiaclharwgee ¯ see Flavors, page 15 wnere pets are treated like ~eople ".... "’~. * Bakery Treats * Bed & Breakfast (boarding) * Salon * Pet Supplies: Science Diet, IAMS, Nutro Dog Food THE DOG HOUSE BROOKSIDE 3311 S. Peoria, 744-5556 HIV Positive?. New state-of-the-art investigational drug therapies arenow available in the Southwest for HIWAIDS and opportunistic infections. If you are interested in participating in one of the promising new investigational therapies, call us at (918) 743-1000 Jeffrey A. Beal, M.D. Associates in Medical at!.d Mental Health 2325 South Harvard, Suite 600 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method By &for, but not exclusive to the Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings, 7-9 pm Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. HOPE HIV Outreach, Prevention & Education formerly TOHR HIV Prevention Programs 742-2927 4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2 2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium Look for our banner on testing nights. ~ Do you live in a small town or rural area? Are you attracted to other men? Do you feel like you are the only one? And if you’d like to meet others, come to our rural mens discussion group ¯ ~. every 2nd & 4th-Saturday, 7-9 pm For more info,, contact Jeremy or Brian 742-2927 or 800-282-8165 thought rather nondescript. We had a flourless chocolate cake that was filled with chocolate mousse, served on a mirror of raspberry puree, and decorated with fresh strawberries, fresh blueberries, mint leaves, and real, freshly whipped unsweetened cream. Good, but we couldn’t eat it all, and.the gateaux was everso slightly overcooked. Alas, there was no espresso machine on the premises, so after dinner, we walked across the parking lot to the Novel Idea cafe to linger over cappuccinos and leer at the cute clerks selling books. Flavors also features a full bar and the wine list is interesting, emphasizing less encountered small California wineries. The food at Flavors, as one might expect from a Michael Fusco venture, is excellent, though it tends toward tile expensive (a veal chop with polenta was $28.95--but it looked divine!). Fusco is one of those chefs who has mastered~ the art of doing new & creative things with food in combinations which work, rather than shock. One can expect a pleasant & memorable dining experience from this exciting, new establishment. Just be sure to make reservations on the weekends. For film buffs who happen to be computer literate, I just received notice,of anew website, called "Popcorn Q", billed as the ultimate onlinehomefor the queermovingimage. The address is http://www.popeornq.com..According to my sources, it offers thousands of film & video descriptions (need help figuring out whatmovie to rent tonight?), sources for acquiring these films/videos, of course, graphics and photos, a directory of G/L film rests, a "Homo Home Film Fest", books to watch out for, Queer top tens, and lots o’ links. The programmer/author ofthe site is Jenni Olson, who also wrote the "Ultimate Guide toLesbian & Gay Film & Video", published in June. Not only an author, programmer, and Queer film archivist, she also produces for film and television. Hey Jenni ! Need a cheap actor/columnist-writer/ professional college student? Last but not least: if you saw the Academy Awards, you may have seen STOMP, an extraordinary dancing peicussion performance. They have come to Tulsa several times and make a point to see them if you have not done so. They will be at the PAC, Sept. 6-8 and tickets can be had from the PAC at 596-7111 or Carson Attractions at 584-2000. How To Do It First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. You may bring additional attention to your ad with: Bold Headline - $1, Adin capital letters - $1 Ad in bold capital letters - $2, Ad in box - $2 Ad reversed - $3, Tear sheet mailed - $2 Blind Post Office Box - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the no. of words. (A word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space.) Sendyour ad & payment to POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 with your name, address, tel. numbers (for us only). Ads will run in the next issue after received. TFN reserves the right to edit 6r refuse any ad. No refunds. Back in Tulsa G.W.M. 41, Gldlkg, HIV Pos. 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A downtown rejuvenation, with Central Park’s Grand Opening Celebration that benefits the United Way. ’~ Music by Debbie Campbell, Jim Sweeney, Bill Davis and an all-star band. ¯ A Taste of Tulsa provided by the finest restaurants in the downtown and midtown area -Camerelli’s, Interurban, Bravo!, Doubletree’s 7-West, Chimi’s, Bourbon Street Care, Louie Di’s and more. ¯ Professional fireworks display ¯ Horse drawn carriage rides ¯ Drawing for a Trip For Two Weekend Getaway to Miami-Beach ¯ Tour the Cityscape Views of Central Park that has 24 hour security, valet, heated outdoor, pool, lighted tennis courts., sauna/whirlpool, fitness center heart of the City living ’ 584-8400 and much more. , T’ne Liw’~ Begi.ns Now. ~,~ " " 410 West 7th (7th and Denvelr) a84-8400 .1~800-327-0555 iA portiofi of the pl"oceeds o~ each private ~residenc~.sold, dr ring the Central Park i o 1 iGrand O~emng MI ~nth,~be mad~ to ~e Uni~Way. ~o, don’t~ss this ~evenfi Come sup~ oft the ~ty, Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, August 15-September 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 9 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Our Families ofthe Heart Marriage Wins & Losses¯ REYKJAVIK, Iceland - Iceland’s Parliament has ap- " proved abill that would give same-gender.couples there . the right tolegally marry, following a pattern of extend- ¯ ing a slightly limited form of matrimony and state ¯ recognition established in the Scandinavian’ countries of Denmark, Norway and Sweden. Thenew legislationpermits same-sex couples to have a civil marriage ceremony and the same tax, insurance and inheritance status as married opposite-sex couples. " Like the Scandinavian version of same-sex marriage, " the new law does not, however allow gay and lesbian ¯ couples to adopt or to have children by artificial insemination- although it does allow for joint custody if one " of the 2 spouses already has a child:- " The new law does not require churches in the nation, ¯ which have generally opposed such unions, to perform religious ceremonies for same-sex couples if they do " not wish to. . In the United States, various state legislatures con- ~Fe their, efforts to restrict civil marriage to hetero- : ............~d.~tiM~?D~Ia-w~e-Go~i~tSf~oixaas..~a~-has~signed_~o ~.~ a measure that prevents same-sex marriages, even if " legally performed elsewhere, from being recogniz.ed, in . the state. The new law restricts the state to recogmzang ¯ only marriages between "one man and one woman." In a related development, Michigan Gov. John Engler also signed a similar bill passed by the state legislattire earlier this year prohibiting the state from recognizing same-sex mamages, even if performed legally in other states. The North Carolina__ House voted 98-10 to approve a similar measure, already approved by the state senate, that would bar recognition of any such marriages even if legally performed elsewhere. State law already prevents same-sex marriages in North Carolina. The measure does not require the approval of the state’s governor and automatically becomes law now. Meanwhile, California’s just-released Field Poll indicates that the majority of those in the state - 57% - oppose legally recognizing same-sex marriages. Overall, only 35% ofCalifornians who were surveyed say the state should extend to same-sex couples the same legal status as heterosexual unions. Some 8% had no opinion or didn’t answer the question. Baptists to Boycott Disney NEWORLEANS -The 15.6-millionmember Southern Baptist Convention has formally called for its congregations to boycott Walt Disney Company’s products, services and entertainment industries because of what the religious denomination considers anti-Christian, anti-family values - including allowing Gays and Lesbians to organize events at Disney’s theme parks. The resolutioncalling for theboycott charges thatthe "Disney Co. has given the appearance that the promotion of homosexuality is more important than its historic commitment to traditionalfamily values." Disney officials have declined to comment on the boycott, but Baptists may have a little trouble following the boycott since Disney, one of the largestAmerican corporations, owns not only its wall-known theme parks in California and Florida, but also ABC-TV, Touchstone and Miramax films, and is a major parmer in McDonald’s. CONGRESS ATTACKS GAY MARRIAGE ¯ WASHINGTON - Rolling through Congress with little ¯ opposition, the House overwhelmingly approved the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) by a 342-67 vote and 2 : abstentions while the Senate judiciary committee hear- ." ings turned testy as Sen. Edward Kennedy (D-Mass.) accused Republicans of"a mean-spirited form of legisla- ." tive gay-bashing" as part of its November election strat- : egy aimed at unseating President Clinton. The measure would define mamage as a legal contract ¯¯ between "one man and one woman" and would also exclude any same-sex couples who may be able to legally ¯ marry anywhere in the country from Social Security, veterans’ and other federal benefits. Anti-gay conservatives say DOMA is needed to circumvent an expected Hawaii court ruling that may, for the first time anywhere in the U.S., permit same-sex couples to legally marry there. "It is a frontal assault on the institution of mamage and if successful will demolish the institution," said Rep. Steve Largent, an OklahomaRepublican. Largent charged that if same-sex marriages were allowed, society might next condone bigamy, marriages between children and adults and marriage between humans and animals. Georgia Republican Bob Ban" said the growing influence ofhomosexuals posed a threat to America. "Wehave a basic institution.., under direct assault from homosexual extremists across this country," Barr said. "This is an issue that transcends partisan lines, it goes to the heart of a fundamental institution." Oklahoma’s 2ndDistrictUS RepresentativeTomCoburn ofMuskogee characterized the issue as being one ofmoral disapproval of homosexuality which he claimed was the view ofhis constituents. Cobumcharacterizedhomosexuality as based in lust and perversity - remarks which greatly offended openly Gay Massachusetts Rep. Barney see Attack, page 8 ¯ Tulsa Pride ’96 The Rev. Leslie Penrose of Community of Hope opens Tulsa ’s Pride Picnic at Owen Park. Morephotos, page 3. ; Organizers of Tnlsa’s Pride Picnic have released a post ¯ event statement characterizing the event as a success. A ¯ joint effort of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, ¯ Friends in Unity Social Organization and a number of ¯ volunteers, the Picnic made a slight profit after all ex- ¯ penses. The Picnic commi ttee particularly praised local ." club owners, entertainers and community groups for their ¯ financial contributions frombenefitperformances.Agroup ¯ spokesperson noted that the City of Tulsa imposed some ¯ obstacles which resultedin higher costs than in past years. : Also, there had been opposiuon from an Owen Park ¯ community group that feared that homosexuals would ¯ "destroy" the payk. Picnic organizers stated that Owen ¯ Park’was dirty when they found it and that they cleaned it ¯ prior to the picnic and afterwards left much cleaner than it ¯ was originally. The committee also noted that they had attracted greater corportate sponsorship than before, list- " ing American Airlines, Coors, Budweiser, Miller and ¯ Pepsi as sponsors, see Pride, page 2 ¯ New Gay Friendly Church ¯ Tulsa’s Lesbian & Gay community is being welcomed ¯ at anew congregation, Community Unitarian Universalist ¯ Congregation (CUUC). In contrast to Tulsa’s image as ~ being dominated by fundamentalist, anti-Gay churches, ¯ Tulsa is home to four Unitarian-Universalist (UU) con- ." gregations. The denomination is noted for its traditional ¯ support for "progressive" issues andforwelcoming Gay & ¯ Lesbian worshipers. ° However, Community Unitarian Universalist Congre- : gation is the only UU congregation in Tulsa to join the ¯ Unitarian-UhiversalistWelcomingCongregationprogram ¯ directed at Lesbians and Gay men. CUUC also partici- ¯ pated in this year’s Interfaith Pride Service. CUUC re- " ceived its charter in November of last year and has about : 55-60 members. The group currently meets at Community ¯ ofHope UnitedMethodist on Sundays at 10:30 for coffee ¯ with the service at 11 am. see CUUC, page 3 Gay Man Runs i for Congress ¯ Paul Barby, a 61 year oldWoodward, Oklahoma oilman ¯ and rancher and a Gay man, has announced his Demo- ¯ cratic candidacy for Oklahoma’s 6th District seat in the US ¯ House of Representatives. The seat is currently held by ¯ first-term Republican Frank Lucas. Barby told TFN that he had not pictured himself as ¯ politician but that in working to defeat State referendum question #669 and in his work as an unpaid, citizen lobbyist at the State Capitol, he came to realize that ¯ a difference. ’He ¯ added that people had ¯ urged him to run for Congress. Barby isn’t running ¯ on "Gay" issues but ¯ as a candidate who ¯ happens to be Gay. ¯ He talks about work- - ing to moderate Con- . gress which he char- ¯ acterizes as "tooruth- ¯ less, toouncaring, too ¯ restrictive". He calls ¯ himself a fiscal con- " servative who never- ¯ theless is. concerned ¯ that cutbacks in farm Paul Barby ¯ supports will devas- ; tate Oklahoma’s small family farms. He says he supports ¯ family values but that these values cannot survive without ¯ education, job opportunities and health care. ¯ However, he did choose to reveal his homosexuality in ¯ aletter to potential supporters because he felt he needed to ¯ be honest with voters. Also, since his Gayness was no ¯ see Barby, page 3 Coming Soon! Shanti’s ¯ Water Garden Tour, see p. 8 ¯ New Volleyball Group, 9 l~/!~ I EUREKA SPRINGS BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT RESTAURANT REVIEW CLASSIFIEDS 918.583.1248 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TulsaNews@~ol.com Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal Assistant Editor, James Christjohn Writers/contributors, Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Leanne Gross Pat Morehead issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy.of each edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by John A.Reynolds Long-lasting relationships in the Gay & Lesbian community seem to be very rare and the straightworld doesn’t appear to be in much better shape when it comes to this subject. Some experts attribute this to the brief that many relationships, Gay and straight, are based one lust instead of love. Of course, those who are"in lust" will disagree and swear it is love- for the two or three months they are together. Personally, I believe the problem is that most people don’t become friends before they become lovers. We must know someone before we can love them. Harold Baird, my partier of seventeen years was also my best friend and we would still be together today if cancer hadn’t taken him from me. We became friends first, and out of that friendship grew the love that we enjoyed for those years. Too many relationships are based on sex and physical attraction. These are the ones that seem to fail early on. Sex is only a small part of any long-lasting relationship. Conversation, enjoyment of each others presence and many other things, combined with sex, are needed to make a relationship work. If lust is the basis of a relationship, don’t expect it to last very long. I cherish the time Harold and I had together, but the things I remember most about that time’-are the walks in the woods, holding hands, talking and quietly sitting together knowing the see Friend, page 3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 832-1269 744-0896 749- 1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. 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Peoria, Ste. 633 Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo *Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S, Boston *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations Southwest Viatical 592-5356 749-3620 665-6595 838-8503 743-9994 690-2974 744-0102 745-1111 584-4606 341-6866 621-5597 599-8070 747-5466 742-1992 671-2010 584-3112 663-5934 664-2951 747-7672 838-7626 584-0337 749-6301 743-2351 747-3322 OK, OK, I can already hear you. You’re saying; "I told you so...I told you that Largent’s a neaderthal and there’s no hope for him!" I’m no longer arguing with you. I cannot convey sufficiently the rage I felt in watching OUR representative malign and attack us, his own constituents, as Largent spoke in defense of the "Defense of Marriage Act". Largent’s suggestion that recognizing our relationships would lead to marriages between animal and human, and between children and adults was truly one of the sleaziest and cheap attacks that Congress has seen. I believe from my conversations with him that Largent knows better but like the swollen (but pretty) headed, professional politician he’s becoming, he was willing to lie to make his point. Tom Cobum’s attack on his Lesbian and Gay constituents was even worse albeit morehonest than those ofhis Republicanpeers. His remarks went to the heart of the bias motivating DOMA. It’s not about "protecting marriage" but about condemning Gay & Lesbian citizens because primarily of religious briefs. Unfortunately for Mr. Coburn, our Constitution (you wonder if he’s bothered to read it) frowns on people like him using the power of government to impose his religious views on minorities. Both of these representatives have shamed Oklahoma with these unashamed bigotry. While there’s little hope of unseating them soon, the candidacy of people like Paul Barby encourage me to hold out hope for Oklahoma yet. - Tom Neal ¯ Thomas Chiropractic Clinic ¯ 4138 S. Harvard~ Ste. C-1 742-8868 Kellie J. 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Owen Park was an excellent location and the whole layout flowed really well. The booth and display area was terrific, vendors and organizations alike. The music was great, along with food and beverage availability. My kids enjoyed themselves as wall making it a perfect "family" outing. And mounted police in uniform was a nice added touch. ;-) Hats off to the committee who organized a wall planned and thought out day to show Tulsa our Pride! - Kelly Harrison Kirby, via the Internet Disney vs. So. Baptists In view of the Southern Baptists’ resolutions to boycott the Walt Disney Company for being "anti-family" and to convert Jews, perhaps Disney could create a new theme park attraction just for the Baptists. They could call it"It’s A Small, Small Mind." - Alan L. Light, Iowa City, Iowa June - July 1996, Issue #7 ¯ In our last issue, we inadvertantly made at leas ttwo mistakes. Firstwelisted Ginny ¯ Butler as one of the professionals associated with Dr. JeffBeal andTed Campbell’s practice, Associates in Medical and Men- " tal Health. We were not aware that Ms. ¯ Butler is not part of that practice now and ¯ we apologize to all parties involved for ; .that misleading impression., .... ¯ Secondly, we greatly regret that when ¯ we reported on community dubs that ¯ helped the Pride Picnic by doing benefit ¯ shows, we did not know to credit all those : who were involved. The benefit at the : Silver Star was organized by the Green ¯ Country Cloggers who certainly deserve ¯ credit for this show, and for all the other ¯ hard work they do. Wehonor them, and of course, John & Steve of-the Star, their gracaous hosts. If we inadvertantly failed to mention anyone else who helped with those shows, please accept our apology andlet us know so thatwecan give proper credit to all. - Tom Neal, editor/publisher The group’s spokesperson added that while they’d heard afew complaints about ¯ the changeof thepicnic site fromMohawk ¯ Park to Owen Park before the event, after- " wards, they heard a great deal of satisfac- ~ "tion from attendees. The greater amount ¯ of shade and generally better facilities ¯ were mentioued. ." Other Pride events like the Interfaith : Pride Worship Service, and the PFLAG/ ¯ TOHR/RBG dinner for the president of ¯ the Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance were : deemed a success by their organizers. The ¯" only event that was not well supported ¯ was TOHR’s Pride Dance .which drew few attendees. State SenatorBernest Cain readsproclamation honoring Pride Rally & Parade in OKC’s Memorial Park. PFLAG, Tulsa Chapter was Tulsa’s largest group & received a very enthusiastic response. Tulsa’s new volleyball organization began at the Pride Picnic, For more information, see the Calendar, p. 9 Oklahoma Gay Rodeo folks lead the Oklahoma City Parade from Memorial Park to NW 39th St. Men ofNative American descentfrom TNAAPP, Indian Health Care, were visible and proud of their heritage. The Banned opened this year’s Pride with the Star- Spangled Banner, Oklahoma & several other selections. Donna Redwing, Advocate Magazine’s 1992 Woman of the Year & GLAAD spokesperson at the OKC Parade. Family of Faith MCC helped to represent Tulsa as did others who walked with statewide groups. others thoughts. The simple things in a relationship are just as important as the sextml side. When asked by friends, "what is your secret?" - we would reply by saying, "be your partner’ s best friend and say, ’I love you’ every day." There wasn’t a time in those 17 years wo- didn’t say "I love you" to each other several times a day. I’m not saying live is a bed of rose and ~ev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor Sunday 9:15 am Christian Education 11:00 am Worship Service Wednesday 6:30 pm Midweek Service 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thursday 7:30 pm C0dependency Support Group ;451-E S. Mingo ¯ Tulsa, OK ¯ 74146 (918) 622-1441 ¯ youwon’t ha~e problems. There will be ¯ times when disagreements and problems ¯¯ arise, but you can work through them. True love and friendship can conquer the ¯ trials of any relationship. When problems ¯ arise, and they will, if your love an friend- " ship are strong you can weather the storm ¯ and get through it together. When one ¯ p~er dies, as in my case, you can go on ¯ alone. It’s not easy butit canbe done. ¯ When Harold was diagnosed with can- : cer of the right lung andliver, we decided ¯ he would not be placed in a hospital or : nursing home. He wanted to die at home, : withdignity, surroundedby those heloved. ¯ for fifty short day, I provided his care, not ¯ out of a sense of duty or obligation but : because of the love and friendship we ¯ shared. Because of that love I was by his ¯ bed as he took his last breath- he did not ¯ die alone or among strangers. ¯ On June 6, 1995 at 9:15 pro, I lost my ¯ best friend, my parmer, my lover butI ." have seventeen years ofwonderfulmemo- ¯ ties of our friendship and our time to- " gether. ¯ Harold & I had a good relationship ¯ because love grew from our friendship. If : a relationship is going to last you must ¯. first start as friends. Basing a relationship ¯ on sexual desires is a recipe for disaster. ¯ Although I miss Harold and think of ¯ him daily, the memories of what we had ¯ will remain with me always. ¯ John A. Reynolds is afreelance writer currently residing in Tulsa. secret fiom his family and friends, he did not want to be subject to a "whispering" campaign from Lucas supporters. Henoted his membership in the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) and declared his support for civil rights. Specifically he ¯ mentioned his opposition to laws banning ¯ same-gender marriage, saying courts and ¯ churches should be free to make their ] decisions based on the Constitution or ¯ their theology. ¯ .Barby is contributing $25,000 person- " ally as seed money to the estimated ¯¯ $350~000 required to run a campaign in the large rural and urban district (41% of ¯ the district is urban taking in the north- " west corner of OKC). He is working with ¯" longtime OKC political activist, Keith ¯ Smith on thecampaign. Barby also said ¯ he’d talked with the Human Rights Cam- - paign (which funds national offices) and the Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund (which ¯ only funds local and state races). He also ¯ was meeting with the Cimarron Mliance, ¯ OKC’s Lesbian & Gay political acdon : committee. Dead in Nat’l Park LURAY, Va. -’ Two women - Julianne Williams of St. Cloud, Minn., and L0llie Winans of Unity, Maine - who were considered experienced outdoor guides and believed to have been lovers, were found dead in the Shenandoah National Park in Virginia earlier in June, authorities said. Williams, 24, and Winans, 26, were apparently murdered. Both the National Park Service and the FBI are investigating the deaths, although neither agency would give details of the apparent slayings. Both women worked as outdoor intern guides in 1995 for the Minneapolis-based women’s vacation group, Woodswomen, andwere consideredexperiencedand skillful at camping in the wilderness. Park officials said the women were found after the father of one of them reported that she had not shown up at home as scheduled. Authorities declined to say how the 2 women were killed, but said they may have been dead for a few days before their bodies were discovered. Tennessee Sodomy Statute Overturned NASHVILLE- The Tennessee state Supreme Court has let stand a lower court ruling overturning the state’s anti-sodomy statute. Earlier this year a state appeals court ruled that Tennessee’s Homosexual Practices Act violates state .cgnstitutional privacy guarantees. Several Tennessee residents originally challenged the state law, arguing that prosecution under the anti-sodomy statute could cost them their jobs, homes and families and that private sexual behavior was not the state’s business. Presbyterians & Homosexuality ALBUQUERQUE, N.M. - In a vote by delegates from the denomination’s 171 presbyteries, 57% voted for an amendment against ordaining active homosexuals. Activists said they were disappointed but that the vote represented an improvement over the last assembly in 1991. Delegates attending the general conclave of the Presbyterian Church (USA) have had a full plate of issues on their agenda during the confab, but overriding many items is the question of ordaining homosexuals in the ministry. Not only was the question of ordaining gays a direct issue with competing proposals to effectively bar ordaining gays or leaving the issue in the hands of local churches, but larger issues such as joining associations with other denominations also focused the delegates’ attention on the role of gay clergy. In considering whether or not to join with the United Church of Christ, the African Methodist Episcopal Church, the ¯ AfricanMethodistEpiscopal ZionChurch, the Christian Church (Disciples ofChrist), the Christian Methodist Episcopal Church, ¯ the Episcopal Church, the International Council of Community Churches and the ¯¯ UnitedMethodist Church in the unifying Church of Christ Uniting organization, ¯ one overriding concern for many conser- ¯ vative Presbyterians has been whether ¯ gay clergy in the other churches that or- " dain homosexuals could minister to Pres- ¯ byterian congregations. ¯ The organization’s human sexuality & ¯ ordination committee recommended that ¯ ordination should be limited to individu- : als who observe "fidelity within the cov- ¯ chant of marriage between one man and ¯ one woman - or chastity in singleness." ¯ Although the Presbyterian Church has ¯ officially welcomed gays and lesbians to ¯ its congregations for decades, it has also ¯ long barred"self-affirming, practicing homosexuals" as ministers. Aug. Conference: Get Out the.Vote "- WASHINGTON - The Human Rights -." Campaign is sponsoring a conference of ." gay andlesbian rights activists in Chicago ¯ a week before the Democratic National : Convention begins there in late August : and early September. Political heavy- ¯. weights thatHRC expects to appear at the ¯ Aug. 16-28 confab include Sen. Carol -" Moseley-Braun (D-Ill.), openly gay Rep. "_ Steve Gunderson (R-Wise.), and Housing ¯ Secretary Henry Cisneros. The con- . ference’s chief agenda will be getting out : the gay and lesbian vote this November, ." an issue that’s increasingly concerning ¯ aftivists who fear many gay voters have become wary of President Clinton and ¯ would be unlikely to support retired U.S. Sen. Bob Dole’s presidential bid. ¯ TV Gold: Louganis’ Story to be Biopic HOLLYWOOD - The entertainment in- " dustry newspaper Variety reports that the ¯ USA Network is producing a made-for- " television movie based on Olympic gold ¯ medalist Greg Louganis’ autobiography, ¯ Breaking the Surface. The TV bio is ex- ¯ pected to air sometimenext year, although : the cable network says none of the roles ¯ have yet been cast. ¯ Largest.Ever Pride Parade in Utah ¯ SALT LAKE CITY - Recent anti-gay : actions by Utah lawmakers, including a : ban on gay iliad lesbian clubs at public ¯ schools,mayhavehelpedmakethis year’s -" annual Gay Pride Day event the largest in the state’s history, organizers said. Thousands of people - both gays and straights - turned out for this year’s parade and festival. One parade organizer said the state legislature had done "more for us than we could ever do for ourselves" in drawing such a large crowd. Keynote speaker at the event was Chastity Bono, daughter of actress Cher and U.S. Rep. Sonny Bono (R-Calif.), who told the audience that Utah activists fighting anti-gay legislative efforts in the state had "advanced the entire community’s fight for human rights." Canadian Gov’t to Extend Benefits OTTAWA -TheCanadianHumanRights Commission has ordered the government to offer health care benefits to the gay and lesbian partners of national workers the same as it does to the spouses of married employees. The ruling was prompted by complaints by two gay federal government workers and applies only to the country’s civil service employees. The commission ruled that it was "discriminatory to deny benefits to those in a samesex relationship while extending the same benefits to heterosexual couples." Fire documenting anti-gay policies and actions in the U.S. armed forces, has been granted one of 21 prestigious "Genius Awards’r by the MacArthur Foundation. Berube’s award carries a no-strings $300,000 cash grant that recipients are free to spend in any way they wish. The California-based foundation has. granted more than $150 million since it began making the "Genius Awards" in 1981. Bernbe said the money will make it possible forhim to finish work on his current project, which is a study of the role of gay shipboard workers inthe 1930s and 1940s whohelp form one of the nation’ s earliest multiracial labor unions. Utility to Help Gay Youth Programs Ohio Anti-Gay Vote To Be Reviewed WASHINGTON - In an action that won cautious praise from rights activists, the U.S. Supreme Court has ordered a federal appeals court m Ohio to reconsider an earlier decision that an anti-gay measure, known as Issue 3, approved by Cincinnati voters in 1993 is constitutional. A federal court had initially struck down the Cinciunati measure, but the appeals courthad reversed that ruling, declaring the antigay measure was constitutional. Issue 3 ,would have repealed anti-bias measures based on sexual orientation and would have also barred any future legislation of the kind, The Supreme Court, however, by a 6-3 vote, ordered the appeals court to reconsider its ruling in light of the high court’s overturning in May of a similar anti-gay ballot measure approved by Colorado voters. In apress statement, Melinda Paras of the National Gay&LesbianTask Force said "While we will not know the full implications of the Supreme Court decision until the lower court’ s revised ruling, clearly the high court’s decision on Amendment 2 has taken the wind out of Issue 3’s sails. We are making progress toward ending intolerance and educating Americans about who we are.’" Gay Author Wins ’Genius Award’ SAN FRANCISCO - Allan Berube, the author of the book Comin~ Out Under ." SAN FRANCISCO-California’s Pacific : Gas & Electric, the utility’ s Lesbian, Gay &Bisexual Employees Assn., and the San "- Francisco-based Horizons Foundation : have joined in an effort to offer greater _" support for younger gays and lesbians in ¯ theregion throughapublicity andfunding ." effort. PG&E is setting up a matching ." grant fund up to $20,000 to help under- -¯ write education and social programs operated for gay youth through Horizons. The giant utility will also help publicize _" Horizons’ youth programs throughpublic ¯ service annonncements andbus-stop shel- ¯ ter advertising. Denise Wells, president ¯ ofHorizous’boardofdirectorssaidPG&E ¯ was demonstrating "a valuable leadership ¯ that canmotivateus all to contribute to the -" community."PG&Eofficials saidtheutilityhadmadethemovebecause it is "espe- ¯ cially committed to a safe and healthy environment for youth." Mayor Extends Partner Benefits PHILADELPHIA - Philadelphia Mayor Ed Rendell has announced that the city will now offer health-care and familyleave benefits to the same-sex partners of non-civil service workers. The package will extend the same benefits to domestic partners that the married spouses of city employees currently receive. But only about 500 municipal workers would be covered by the mayor’s executive order. Activists in the city have been working for more than 5 years trying to get a city council ordinance that would extend a similarbenefits package to Philadelphia’s full 25,000 municipal employees. CardinalAnthony Bevilicqua, theArchbishop of Philadelphia, urged Catholics in thecity’s 121 RomanCatholicchurches to swamp Mayor Ed Rendell with Fathers’ Day cards protesting his recent executive order extending benefits to the same-sex domesticpartners ofjust a small portion of the city’s Workforce under the PI AlrERSON REALTORS" LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street * Suite 170 *Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 Off: 918-749-8374 * Res: 918-582-7672 * Fax: 918-747-1795 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Where God Uplifts All People Sunday Service, 10:45 am Wednesday Service, 6:30 pm Home Cell Groups, 2nd & 4th Sun. 1623 No. Maplewood, 838-1715 Mayor’ s administration. Bevilicquacalled the order "a tragic mistake" and "a direct attack on the natural arrangement of family life."A spokesperson for Rendell told reporters at apress conference that Rendell has "no intention of rescinding the order" despite Bevilicqua’s opposition. Harvey Milk School SAN FRANCISCO - The San Francisco school board trustees have voted, after several years of controversy and one earlier failed attempt, torenamethe Douglass Elementary School in honor of assassinated gay supervisor Harvey Milk. The school will now officially beknown as the Harvey Milk Civil Rights Academy and will emphasize classwork in civil rights areas. Milk was shot along with Mayor George Moscone in 1978 by Dan White, who hadjust resigned from his seat on the board of supervisors and who was an outspoken opponent of gay rights. Several parents at the school¯ board meeting raised objections both tonaming the school after Milk and to the vote itself, which they said came without adequate time for public discussion. Official Threatened ’Support of Gays’ SAN FRANCISCO - Amos Brown, a Baptist minister recently appointed to fill a seat on the city’s board of supervisors over the misgivings of many gay rights activists, has been given special.,police protection after a man outside his church handed him a letter condemning him for supporting "sodomites of the city" and promising "swift and terrible" retribution against Brown. Similar threatening notes were found on cars in a nearby church parking lot. Brown’s appointment to the vacant seat on the board had been criti- : in a scene implying a homosexual relationshipbetween the twomeninsults Willy ¯ Wyler and, I have to say, irritates the hell ¯ out of me." Vidal has said ininterviews that Heston ¯ wasn’t Wyler’s first choice for the lead ¯ role, but that "Paul Newman and Rock ." Hudson were not available." Vidal says a ¯ scene in which Ben-Hur and the villain- ." ous Roman Marsallaembrace was written ¯ in to the film to establish a sexual relation- ¯ ship between the men because such a failed relationship was the only way to ¯ justify theintense hatred between the two ¯" men that develops later. "Then, when re¯ united at the picture’s start, the Roman wants to pick up where they left off mad ¯ the Jew [Ben-Hur] spurns him," Vidal ¯ wrote in the Times. ¯ Sheriff Sued Over : ’Anti-Gay Assault’ REDWOOD CITY, Calif. - A 63-yearoldmarriedgrandfather andretired teacher ." has filed alawsuit against the San Mateo : (Calif.) County sheriff’s department, charging that an officer brutalized him after he had stopped at a vista point along an interstate highway to see if there was an easier route to his destination at Half ¯" Moon Bay. The suit claims the officer : believed the suspect was gay and seeking ¯ sex at the spot. E. Lon Chancy Jr. charges ¯ in the suit that Deputy Timothy Reid : tripped and assaulted him as he was re- : turning to his car after asking another ¯ parked driver for directions. The suit charges that Chaney was so severely bat- : tered that he suffered a stroke during the ¯ incident and that an ambulance had to be ¯ called to take him to ahospital. Chaney’s : suit - which names Reid, the sheriff’s ¯ department and San Mateo County as ¯ defendants - claims the deputy shouted ¯ into his police radio, "I’ve got one" after but apparently decided they didn’t really want to actually endorse banning discrimination in marriage rights. S.F. Moves to End Colorado Boycott ¯ SAN FRANCISCO - Openly gay Super- : visor Tom Ammiano has introduced a : measure that would repeal a 1992 ordi- ¯ nance that effectively barred San Francisco from doing business with firms in Colorado after voters there narrowly approved an anti-gay ballot measure, Amendment 2. Ammiano said the U.S. Supreme Court’s recent ruling declaring Amendment2 unconstitutional eliminates the reason for the original boycott, which barred San Francisco from purchasing goods or services made or offered in the state of Colorado and prohibited use of government funds for the state on official business, including conventions and conferences. sex with other men and exposed him to HIV as a result. Attorneys for Cliburn, 61, said he has not been tested for HIV and that Zaremba’s suit was little more than a form of extortion. i No Nudity in Parade ¯ BOSTON - Proper - and not so proper - : Bostonians clashed following this year’s : annual Gay Pride Parade, where reports ¯ say a nude man walked on stilts and 2 ¯ bare-breasted women fondled each other. : Mayor Thomas Menino was joined by : parade organizers in condemning what ¯ they termed "inappropriate and unlaw- : ful" behavior during the parade. Organiz- -" ers of the parade said the nude man and : topless women were not registered to par- : ticipate in the parade itself and joined the ¯ event, attended by an estimated 100,000 : people, along the route. Officials offered ¯ to help police locate the people for pos- ¯ sible prosecution. The city council has : vowed to hold hearings on why police ¯ didn’t arrest the people during the parade. Texas Court Lets GOP Exclude Gays " AUSTIN, Texas - The Texas state Su- -" preme Court blocked a temporary order ¯ handed down by a lower court just days ~ before and ruled unanimously that the ~ state Republican Party does not have to grant the gay Log Cabin Republicans a booth and ad space during its annual state convention. A lower state court had ordered the state GOP to give the Log Cabin group the booth, for which ithad cashed a $400 check from the gay Republicmas, British PM Critical of Grants to Gays LONDON - Prime Minister John Major told Parliament that grants from proceeds of the country’s popular National Lottery ~ to London and Leicester gay and lesbian ¯ organizations - one a community center, ¯ the other a gay andlesbian police officers’ group - were "ill-founded and ill-judged." ¯ The two grants, totaling slightly more than $140,000, do not "reflect the way ¯" Parliament’and the public expected lotmad to sell the organization space in the " tery money to be spent," Major said durconvention brochure, for which it had ¯ ing a speech in the House of Commons. o received another check for $750. ¯ : The state party made an emergency : Dontt These - .appeal tothe TeXa~ higll courtfollOwing - ~ ~ .... ..... ......... ] the lower court ruling on Friday, June l4, ¯ Have Work To cized by several rights activists who view his opposition to domestic partners and other gay rights issues in the past as homophobic. Because of the suspected arson attacks against several black churches recently, police said they would "take precautions" not only to assure the safety of the newly appointed supervisor but also for the minister’s predominately black church. Heston vs. Vidal: Clash Over Ben-Hur HOLLYWOOD-Actor Charlton Heston and playwright Gore Vidal have been trading barbs in the pages of the Los Angeles Times recendy over work Vidal did on the film"Ben-Hur"nearly 40 years ago that he says implied a homosexual relationship between 2 lea.ding characters in the film, including Heston’s lead character. Heston called Vidal "a tart, embittered man" whose "claim that he slipped ¯ the arrest, and that when paramedics ar- ¯ rived he told them to use rubber gloves ¯ because "This one’s probably got HIV." Chaney’s attorney says the incident re- " fleets a pattern of arrest and abuse by ; police in the area of anyone they believe ¯ may be gay and that his client just had the ¯ badfortune to be in the wrong place at the : wrong time. ¯ Minnesota Dems: ¯ No Discrimination - i Except in Marriage : MINNEAPOLIS-MinnesotaDemocrats ~ adopted a full 100 resolutions at their ¯ annual state convention, rejecting just 1 ¯ proposed platform statement - a resolu- : fion supporting same-sex marriage rights. : The Democratic Farm Labor Party (as the ¯ Democrats areknowninMinnesota),over- : Whelmingly adopted a resolution con- : demning "all forms of discrimination," -" and the justices took only a few hours to ¯ issue the order blocking the lower court decision. StateGOPofficials said the con- : ventionis apfivateeventandnota"public : forum," and that the party wanted to ex- ¯ dude the LOg Cabin booth and adverfis- ¯ ing because the party platform officially ¯ opposes gay fights. Palimony Lawsuit Dismissed ~f. WORTH,Texas-ATexas state court ¯ judge has thrown out a palimony lawsuit filed by Thomas Zaremba of Michigan : against internationally famed classical pimfist Van Clibum, saying there was no : written agreement about financial sup- - port between the two menduring their 17- ¯ yearrelationship,andthat the statedoesn’t ." recognize such same-sex relationships. ¯ Zaremba, 48, had filed the suit claiming, : among other things, that during his relai tionship with Cliburn, the pianist had had ¯ ANCHORAGE, Alaska - Alaska state ¯ officials say they have no plans to file ¯ criminal charges against Bethel Police ¯..Sgt. Scott Gagne, who had been under ¯ investigation for possible sexual harass- . ment, including masturbating with 2 other police officers at the station, ¯ Investigators say that Gagne and other ¯ officers had talked bluntly about their ¯ sexual relationships with women, and that ¯ they had masturbated together at the sta- ¯ tion. 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Yale Tulsa, OK 74135 World HIV Projections BALTIMORE-Writing in Internal Medicine News, William Blattuer of the Uni- .versity of Maryland’ s Institute of Human Virology has projected that some 20 million people around the world are now infected with HIV and that some 100 million people will be infected by the year 2000. Blattner also says the spread of HIV has changed rapidly in recent years and that by the turn of the century more than 90% of all those infected will be residents of developing cotmtries, with a higher incidence in Asia, followed by African nations. In related news, Zimbabwe’s National AIDS Coordination Program reports that the epidemic continues to spiral there, with at least 40,000 new AIDS cases reported in the country last year, while the actual number of new cases may be as high as 150,000. The agency says that more than a million of Zimbabwe’s 10.5 million people are infected with HIV, and that an estimated 300 die 0fAIDS-related illnesses weekly. AIDS Shapes World Demographics NEW YORK - The annual UN Human Development Report, slated tobe released later in July, says the impact of the AIDS epidemic has become so vast that it has affected thelivability levels ofsomecountries for the first time since the international agency began issuing its "~mnual assessment of global development. The report’s index of livability indicates that some developing nations have fallen as much as a decade behind in their expected progress because of the epidemic. In a related develrpment,, the independent PopulationReference Bureauhas reported that although the global population con~ tinues to grow d~amati€~lly, the AIDS epidemic is causing measurable shifts in world population patterns. The bureau reports thatalthough sub-Saharan Africa’ s total population by 2025 will be 1.25 billion people, that number will be 100 million lower than projections madejust a decade ago - almost entirely because of the epidemic. Countries such as Botswana, Kenya, Malawi, Uganda,ZambiaandZimbabwe will be the hardest-hit, the bureau says. HIV in Kenya NAIROBI, Kenya- A fourth of all the Kenyan women visiting pediatric and infant- care clinics in the capital city of Nairobi are H-IV-p0sitive according to a survey completed by the U.S. Agency for International Development. Just one year ago, a similar study found that 3.5% of all Kenyans were infected with the virus Gray Newton of the USAID office in Nairobi told the Xinhua News Agency. By the beginning of this year, Newton says, that figure had more than doubled to 7.5% Of the nation’ s population. Eliminating HIV in Some Is Possible AMSTERDAMnAtaconference ofAIDS researchers held by the University of Amsterdam and the dinical journal Antiviral Therapy, scientists reviewed unpublished data suggesting that"eradicating" HIV in some infected patients may be possible. The datais being collected from ongoing trials underway in Australia : Europe, Canada and the U.S. involving ¯ the use of a variety of HIV drug combina- ¯ tions. According to the information col- " lected so far, some patients involved in ¯ the clinical trials have had the level of ¯¯ HIV in their blood stream lowered to undetectable levels for up to 2 years. The ¯ scientists involved in the trials cautioned, ¯ however, that none of the patients have ¯ been taking the combinations of medi- ¯ cines long enough yet to determine long- " term effectiveness. ¯ ¯ Blood Transfusion Risk is 2 in a Million : BOSTON - According to a report in the ¯ New England Journal of Medicine, the ¯ chances of receiving HIV-tainted blood from the nation’s blood bank system is : just 2 in every million transfusions. Re- . searchers at the Rockville, Md.-based : Westat Inc. calculated the odds of receiv- ¯ ing a contaminated transfusion after ex- ¯ amining the records of more than a half- . millionrepeat donors. The estimates were ¯ based on calculating how many recently ¯ infected donors might give blood during ° the 22-day period when the virus cannot ¯ be detected. Some 586,507 regular donor ¯ records were examined. ~ Herbal HIV-Fighting Substance SINGAPORE- Singapore scientists re- ." porting in two research journals say a ¯ chemical compound derived from some ¯ 75 traditional herbs may usefulin fighting HIV. Dr. Sim Keng Yeow of the National : Uni-versity of Singapore said that the researchers had found that the chemical : they isolated from the herbs could inhibit ¯ HIV- 1 protease, an enzyme essential for ¯ HIV to develop. Yeow cautioned, however, that the discovery was not a bure for AIDS and only a preliminary finding. In a related development, researchers at the : China Academy of Preventive Medicine ¯ in Beijing announced that an experimental herbal medicine, known as Saidefu, .., may have helped eliminate HIV in 1 pa- ¯ tient and helped others become well " enough that they could stop hospital care ¯ and go home. The researchers said, how- . ever, that Saidefu had only been tested on ¯ 5 patients so far and that the tests hadbeen ¯ limited to only a 3-month period. They ¯ said that much more testing would be ¯ required because herbal remedies that of- " ten appear effective initially may have ." only a temporary or transient effect. ¯ International AIDS ¯ Conference VANCOUVER, Canada- Organizers of the 1 lth International AIDS Conference : say the event’ s scope and size underscore ¯ the growing global commitment to fight- . ing the epidemic. Between 9,000 and : 10,000 delegates are expected, along with : another 1,500 registered commercial ex- ¯ hibitors. Some 1,500 mediapersonnel are : expected to cover the conference as well. ¯" Peter Hamara, spokesperson for the ¯ event, said the Vancouver conference has ¯ received a record 5,,6_26 research studies to be presented, the.~asis and core of the ¯ clinical program of the conference. The ¯ studies, Hamaranoted, werereceivedfrom ¯ 125 separate countries around the world. ¯ The World Health Organization esti- ¯ mates that globally there are at least 17 ¯ million adults infected with HIV, and that : more than 11 million- or65% - are in sub- Jeffrey A. Beal, MD Ted Campbell,LCSW Specialized in HIV Care Providing Comprehensive Primary Care Medicine and Psychotherapeutic Services We have many insurance provider affiliations - ifyou belong to an insurance program that does not list us as providers, call us and we will apply. 2325 South Harvard, Suite 600, Tulsa 74114 Monday - Friday, 9:30-4:30 pm, 743-1000 HIV Positive? 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The next worst-hit region is South and Southeast Asia, where at least 3 million people - or 18% of the global total - are infected with the virus. "Many ofour participants this year will be from HIV support organizations, from communitygroups,fromnon-governmental organizations," Hamara said at a news conference before the event officiallybegan. "So while the conference at its core is still a medical-scientific conference, the participants and the diversity of research studies have broadened as the epidemic itself has broadened." Organizers say that there is some encouraging newsboth onthe educationand the medical fronts that is leading many of those fighting AIDS to begin expressing a subdued - but real - optimism. The conference, carrying a theme of "One World, One Hope," will be the first since the new class of highly promising drugs knownas protease inhibitors gained approval in the U.S. Some AIDS experts now believe these new drugs, while far from a "cure" for the disease, may actually for thefirst time in 15 years make it a manageable one. But others remain cautious, pointing out that thenew treatments are not effective for everyone, they have undesirable side effects, and no one yet knows if they will be effective medicines in the long term or if they will lose their ability to fight offHIV as other drugs have in the past. Equally disturbing, there have been unconfirmed reports that the new protease inhibitors may be extremely dangerous in combination with antihistamines, even the type sold over the counter. AIDS activists in the U.S. say there have been 2 deaths resulting from heart attacks because of patients using the protease inhibitors in ¯ plans for their 3rd annual "Until-There’ s ¯ A Cure" day. AIDS activist and artist " Mary Fisher and U.S. figure skating cham- ¯ pion Rudy Galindo will appear at this ¯¯ season’ s benefit game on July 28 against the Atlanta Braves. The Giants. will do- " hate $1 from each ticket sold to the Until ¯ There’s A Cure Foundation, which will ¯ distribute the money to AIDS-related ¯ ¯ projects and organizations. Other funds will be raised through merchandise sold ¯ during the game. The Giants have raised more than $250,000 for AIDS education : and treatment since starting the event in : 1993. Navy Announces : New AIDS Therapy : BETHESDA, Md.- Researchers with the ¯ U.S. Navy say they may have discovered ¯ a new therapy to help prevent or limit the ¯ spread ofHIV ininfected patients. Scientists at the Naval Medical Research Insti- ¯ tute say the treatment involves dramati- ¯ cally increasing the number of uninfected ¯ CD4T-cells-or whiteblood cells thatare ¯" the target ofthe virus- in patients infected ¯" with the disease. The Navy researchers cultured the T-cells of 10 intermediate- ¯ stage AIDS patients, whose immune sys- ¯ terns were still fairly intact. Even more ¯" significant, when the researchers stimu- . lated uuinfectedT-cells and exposed them ¯ in test tubes to HIV, the cells were highly ¯" resistant to the virus. The scientists say ¯ that if the technique works in humans, it ¯ might prevent the deterioration of the ¯ body’s immune system and counteract ¯ some symptoms of HIV infection. The Navy will begin a small-scale clinical trial ¯ to test the safety of the new treatment this conjunction with~antihistamines.;ff~.e°n~--: :~ dents whose blood cells: vier¢::us firmed, the reports could prove a serious . making the cultures. stumbling block to thenew drugs because antihistamines are so widely used in the : U.S. There is also optimism about education " efforts, especially in developing nations : like Thailand and Uganda, where programs to fight the spread ofHIV appear to have been especially effective. An aggressive government-backed AIDS education program in Thailand, for example, has led to HIV infection rates dropping in nearly all the groups that the government monitors - military recruits, commercial sex workers, and IV drug users. Rare Form of HIV! Virus Now in U,S, LOS ANGELES -Officials with the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention say anunnamedLos Angeles womanhas been confirmed as the first person in this country to be diagnosed with Group O HIV, a strain of the virus that is largely restricted to West Africa. According to-the CDC report, thewomanapparently was infected inherWestAfricanhomelandbefo.re coming to the U.S.U.S. health officials said standard HIV tests should be modified to detect the Group O strain to prevent accidental contamination ofthenation’ s blood supply. Current HIV tests usually do not detect the Group O strain of the virus. SF Giants AIDS Day Fundraiser SAN FRANCISCO - The San Francisco Giants, the first professional sports team to host a fundraising benefit for AIDS ou $100K NEA Grant for Quilt Project SAN FRANCISCO - The National Endowment for the Arts has given the NAMES Project a $100,000 grant to help photograph and create digital images of the nearly 34,000 panels that currently make up the huge AIDS Quilt The photo project includes plans to create CD-ROM versions of theimage~ thatwouldbe viewable via a home computer and via computer services storing the digital images. Actress Jane Alexander, chair ofthe NEA, said works of art like theAIDS Memorial Quilt "embody compassion and the creative spirit" that have been spurred on in the face of the "crisis that has devastated the lives of so many Americans." Suit Filed Over HIV ’Rumors’ SAN ANGELO, Texas - Attomeys for Gilbert De La Paz have filed a federal lawsuit against Henry Hogeda, the owner of Henry’s Diner, charging their client was fired as a waiter solely because of rumors De La Paz has AIDS. The lawsuit claims that Hogeda before firing the 27- year-old De La Paz, Hogeda said that he had heard the man had AIDS and that the rumors would "destroy" the restaurant’s business. The suit also says De La Paz, who says he is notinfected, offered to take anHIV test to provehe was uninfectedbut he was fired anyway. News sources have reported that Hogeda’ s lawyers claim De ; to customFrank. Frank stopped short of asking that Cobum’s remarks be stricken from the Congressional record. Rep. Frank demanded, that supporters of DOMA tall him how his longstanding rdationship with his partner Herb Moses threatened their marriages. "How does the fact that I love another man and live in acommitted relationship withhim threaten your marriage?" he asked. "Are your relations with your spouses of such fragility that the fact that I have a committed, loving relationship with anothermanjeopardizes them? My God, what do you do when the lights go out?" Tulsa 1st District Rep. Steve .Largent replied, "Mr. Frank’s relationship with another man does not threaten my marriage whatsoever." "Whosemarriage does it threaten?" Frank demanded. "It threatens the institution of marriage," Largent said. "That argument ought to be made by someone in and institution because it has no logical basis whatsoever," Frank said. In the Senate, an identical bill has been introduced in the Senate by Oklahoma Sen. Don Nickies. However, Sen. Edward Kennedy, D-Mass. is trying to attach the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) barringbias inemploymentbased on sexual orientation to DOMA as a strategy to force anti-gay lawmakers to vote against the anti-marriagemeasurebecause of the pro-gay provision. Sen. Nickles said he opposes ENDA, saying he didn’t want to force an employer like the-Boy Scouts ofAmerica to hire homosexuals or to require a landlord to rent apartments to Gays. It remains uncertain if the Kennedy amendment will even get enough support to attach it to DOMA. "There are some values that deserve protection," said Sen. On-in Hatch, RUtah, chairman of the Senate Judiciary Committee, ofDOMA. "It isn’t a political issu.e....It’,,s a very important family values Issue. Critics of DOMA called it thinly disguised bigotry during a public hearing before the Senate Judiciary Committee. "I regret that the committee is spending time on this offensive, unnecessary and divi- " sive legislation," Sen. Kennedy said. ’‘The bill before us is called the Defense of Marriage Act, but a more accurate title would be the Defense of Intolerance Act - or evenmore accurately, the Defense of Endangered Republican Candidates Act." Gary Bauer, president of the conservative Family Research Council, denied being bigoted. ’~It is not hatred to support normalcy," he said. At the White House, Mike McCurry, Clinton’s press spokesperson, agreed with Kennedy’s assessment of the measure~ McCurry stated, "I think~ in fact, it [DOMA] is. gay baiti,ng pure and simple. They’re rinsing an issue that, in fact, doesn’t arise anywhere. The Hawaii stat= ute-- the Hawaii issue is alegal issue that .. had been remanded back to a lower court, ° so this is not a pending matter. And it’s a ¯ classic use of wedge politics that are de- : signed to provoke anxieties and fears.." That being thecase, though, the President , has very strong views, personal views, ¯ [against same-gender marriage] and he ." has to act consistent with those views." ," McCurry then repeated the President’s stated promise to sign the bill when Congress passes. -" Several national organizations released [ statements onthe Housevote. "The House .......t0..day turned its back on a fundamental human right for political expediency," said Laura W. Murphy, Director of the ACLU’s National Washington Office. ’qNis goes beyond legislators saying they are not ready to accept same-sex marriages," she said. "This is an unnecessary and mean-spirited attempt by some m Congress to select out lesbians and gay men for discriminatory treatment." She added that the vote on the same-sex marriage legislation will be included in the ACLU’s biennial civil liberties ratings for members of Congress. National Gay & Lesbian Task Force Executive Director, Melinda Paras released this statement. "DOMA is bogus legislation. It nether strengthens Americanfamilies nor marriages between men and women. Instead, it draws a circle around gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgendered individuals and proclaims that our families do not deserve recognition...Unfortunatdy the majority of the House of Representatives was not willing to stand up for the principles for which this country stands: tolerance, compassion and fairness. Instead, they fell into the trap set by the political extremists and their supporters in Congress...We will not stand by silently and be used.as scape-. goats in this dection year." Tulsa Oklahomans for Haman Rights (TOHR), northeastern Oklahoma’s oldest secular Gay & Lesbian community organization, issued a statement calling for the resignation ofUS Representatives, Tom Coburn of Muskogee and Steve Largent of Tulsa"for disgracing the state of Oklahoma by their vicious attacks on their own citizens while promoting HB 3396, the so-called ’Defense of Marriage Act’ "’. "Cobumand Largentact as though there were no Lesbian and Gay citizens in Muskogee, Tahlequah, Claremore, BrokenArrow, Okmulgee, Tulsa, or any place in their districts. With this vote, they’ve proven that they don’t represent - don’t even care about representing -any of their constituents except the ones who share their extremist ideology. They appear to believe that their Constitutional obligations only extend to those who think just like them," noted a TOHR representative. Roll call vote on DOMA: 342-67 Voting yes were 224 Republicans and 118 Democrats. Voting no were 1 Republican, 65 Democrats and 1 independent. Voting "’present" 2 Democrats. An~X denotes members who did not vote. There is 1 vacancy in the 435-member House. OKLAHOMA Rep. - Cobum, Y; Istook, Y; Largent, Y; Lucas, Y; Watts, Y. Dem. - Brewster, X. ARKANSAS Rep. - Dickey/X; Hutchinson, Y. Dem.- Lambert-Lincoln,X; Thornton, X. 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H-1 Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 ¯ Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. ¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group ¯ & Friends & Family ¯¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pm, call for location: ¯ 749-7898 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate Grief Group Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 WEDNESDAYS Agape’ Christian Fellowship Service, 7 pm Sheridan Center, Suite H ¯ 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 ¯ Bless The Lord At All ¯ Times Christian Center THURSDAYS ¯ 16-Step Empowerment ¯ ¯ Group For Women : Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Co-Dependency . Support Group ¯ : 7:30, Family of Faith MCC " : Prayer & Bible Study ." 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth ¯ Call 583-7815 for info. Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. : Community of Hope ¯ (United Methodist) : Service for Peace, 6:30 pm ¯ Bible Study, 7 pm ¯ 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 ¯ TNAAPP ¯ Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project ¯ Support group ¯ for Gay &Bi Native ¯ American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2nd ¯ 582-7225 or 584-4983 ¯ HIVTestingTOHRClinic ¯ Walkin testing: 7 - 8:30 pm ¯ Results hours: 7 - 9 pm ¯ Info: 742-2927 Tulsa Family Chorale ¯ Weekly practice, 9:30 pm ¯ LoWs 2630 E. 15th ¯ PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group ¯ 1 st & 3rd Thursdays 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 ¯ Alternatives Weekly social events for ¯ LGBT men & women, 7 pm ¯ Info: 646-5503 ¯ Substance Abuse ¯ Support Group : for persons with HIV/A1DS ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G ¯ 3-4:30 pm, Info: 749-4194 SATURDAYS st. Jerome’s Church Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel 3841 S. Peoria Info: bather Rick at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous ¯ Meets weekly at 11 pm : Confidential support for ¯ recovering addicts. ¯ Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E.2nd, Info: 585-1800 NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each month Info: 748-3111 OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Student ¯ Association ¯ TJC Southeast Campus, Info: 631-7632 SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network Call 832-2121 JULY 19 - 21 AIDS’Mastery Workshop in oKc Info: Betsy Jo Murphy, 584-2325 In Sept., an AIDS Mastery in Tulsa. SATURDAY, JULY 20, 10-5 SUNDAY, JULY 21, NOON-5 4th Annual Shanti-.Tulsa Water Garden Tour The garden at Our House, Quaker near 13th St., is on the tour. You can begin there and get the addresses for other sites. Info: 749-7898 SUNDAY, JULY 21 What the Bible Does (and Doesn’t) Say About Homosexuality FamilyofFaith MCC 9 week class at 9:15 am, 5451-E S. Mingo Call to verify date: 622-1441 Christmas in July Family! ofFaith MCC 1-3:30 pro, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 SUNDAY, JULY 21 Community ofHope Service & Dialogue on Capital Punishment 6 pm, Community of Hope 1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 JULY-26-27 LocalMotion Foundation, 6th Annual Contemporary Dance Festival ~ John H;Williams Theater Tulsa Performing Arts Center $10, Info: 596-7111 TUESDAY, JULY 30 Rainbow Business Guild Dinnner Meeting 7 pm, Pizzeria Uno Eaton Square, 61st & Memorial Dinner!~10,Info: 665-5174 " " ,.. FRIDAY, AUGUST 2 ¯ Safe Haven Young Adults Meeting Contact Family of Faith MCC : 5451-ES. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 SUNDAY, AUGUST 4 Family ofFaith MCCPotluck Dinner Service, 11 am 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 AUGUST 5, 6 & 8 Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Volunteer Training 5:30-9pm, Trinity Episcopal Church 501 So. Cincinnati, Info: 749-4195 SATURDAY, AUGUST 10 TOHR Pool Party Call for details. Info: 743-4297 MONDAY, AUGUST 12 PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group, 6:30 pm Social andRefreshments, 7 pm General Meeii~g; 7:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard~ Info: 749-4901 THROUGH AUGUST 18 Durer toMarius’:Muster Drawings fronvthe Nelsod:Atkins Museum ofArt Philbrook Museum of Art 2727 So. Rockford Road, Info: 749-7941 ¯ AUGUST 15-17, 8 pm : AUGUST 18, 2 pm : QUILT, A Musical Celebration to benefit THE NAMES PROJECT ¯ John H. Williams:Theater ¯ Tulsa Performing Arts Center ¯ $10, Info: 596-7111 : SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 14 : Feast with Friends Benefit ¯ Start planning noW! Info: 748-3111 THE NAMES PROJECT AIDS Memorial Quilt : Since its last showing in Washington, : DC, THE NAMES PROJECT AIDS Me- : morial Quilt will have doubled in size, ¯ and the need for volunteers has grown ¯ accordingly. Petrie Dolph of Houston, is ." seeking 1500 volunteers from the Central ¯ Region (which includes Oklahoma) to ¯ help as Quilt monitors, site guides, merchandise/ sales, set-up, first aid, education ¯ and more. ." The Quilt willbe on display on Oct. 11- .. 13 on the National Mall before the Capi- ¯ tol. It’s estimated that more than 750,000 : visitors,including50,000schoolchildren, ¯ will march on over 26 miles of walkway : fabric to see 45,000 memorial panels and : to hear70,000names read-more than are ¯ carved into the nearby Vietnam Memo- . rial. ¯" Contact Pen’ieDolph, Central Region : Volunteer Chairperson at 713-729-9662, : or write to4309 Sfillbrooke Dr., Houston, ¯ "IX 77035. ¯ Regional AIDS ." Interfaith Network : Regional AIDS Interfaith Network : (RAIN) is seeking applicants for its vol- ¯ unteer co-ordinator position. This job in- ’ eludes staff support to 250+ volunteers. ¯ The ideal candidate will have demon- . strated ability and experience in working ¯ with volunteer care andprogram develop- : ment in the context fo a compassionate, ~ non-judgemental, faith-based response to ¯ HIV/AIDS. Hours include some daytime ¯ for staff meetings and coordination, but : primarily evening.and weekends. For in- . formation or to submit aletter of interest and resume, contact Kathy Bird, RAIN, 4154 So. Harvard, Suite H- 1, Tulsa 74135, voice: 749-4195, fax: 749-4213. Interfaith AIDS Ministries Interfaith AIDS Miuistries is forming a "Spirituality&HIV/AIDS" supportgroup. This will be a place whereparticipants can explore and share their personal spirituality as well as the relationship between their spirituality and living with HIV/ AIDS. The focus will be on individual spirituality, not any parti.cular organized religion. No attempts to influence, convert, or proselytize participants will be allowed. IAM is also seeking volunteers to help with the 2nd Street Carnival Benefit to be held on Sept. 21st at Southminster Presbyterian Church. For information, cal! Richard Reeder at 663-5372 or Diane Zike at 438-2437. Living Well! - An Exploration of Healthy Living Options The HIV Resource Consortium has started a new group called "Living Well! - An Exploration of Healthy Living Options". This educational group to promote wellness and healthy living is for persons affected by HIV/AIDS,including anyone living with HIV or AIDS, partners/ caregivers/friends/family of those living with HIV/AIDS and HIV/AIDS providers, The group meets on Wednesdays from 6:30 - 8:30 pm at The Gathering Place, 4154 So. Harvard, Suite G. Topics will rangefrom "Eating for Health", "Anxiety Reduction" to "Strategies for Staying Calm & Healthy". There is no cost. For more information, call 749-4194. COCONUT BEER BATTERED SHRIMP RACK OF LAMB FRESH CLAMS PRIME RIB COQUILE ST. JACQUES VEGIE STIR FRY CHOCOLATE SOUFFLE 5 Summit Eureka Springs AR 72632 Bed & Breakfast Area l~eservation &Information Service "Like going to Grandma’s" ¯ Gay-owned in the Historic District. We offer traditional B&B a Romantic Jacuzzi Suite & a private cottage on the grounds. ¯ Booking for Eureka’s Finest Gay, friendly establishments ¯ Walk or ride trolley to town. Reservations - Brochures -Information 800-- 253 - 1468, x882 Local: 501 - 253 - 7468 Your Host: Fred A. Janney Geek to Go! The PC Specialist, 501.253.2776 Phyl Boler-Schmidt Systems & S~oftware Specialist POB 429, Eureka Springs 72632 Books, Incense, Candles and Rainbows] Plus lots more! (501) 253,5445 45&1/2 Spring Street Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com AUTHENTIC ITALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Recommended by The New York Times (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5 Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 Gay-owned, Operated & Rainbow Proud by Phyl Boler-Schmidt Eureka Springs has been a happening place this Summer, and there appears to be no abatement in sight! The end ofMay saw the annual Blues Festival, and though this is not specifically a we turned out in droves. Music continues, as it the Ozarks, through July 20th with Opera in the Ozarks at the Inspiration Point Fine Arts Colony. Commonly referred to as Opera Boot Camp, the annual opera season is a gruelling one for the performers. All practices and performances are staged outdoors, and it’s a sight (and sound) to behold for - folks of all orientations. This year’s season features La Bohome by Puccini, Don Giovanni by Mozart, and Die Fledermaus by Straus. All are fullystaged orchestra productions and. wall worth a trip to Eureka Springs - for an evening of opera, and a few days to enjoy the rest of what Eureka has to offer. For reservations and information about Opera in the Ozarks, call the Inspiration Point Fine Arts Colony at 501-253-8595. If Jazz is more to your liking, you will be happy to hear the 12th Annual Eureka Springs Jazz Festival is approaching with due speed. This year’s Jazz Festival will be held from September 19-22, and there will be music all over town. Featured performers will be Stanley Turrentineand Abroad Aladeen & the Deans of Swing with.concerts heldon Friday and Saturday evemngs at the Historic Eureka Springs City Auditorium. This year’s JazzFest will also feature nightly parties sponsored by the Eureka Springs Jazz Society in the Basin Park Ballroom. JezzFest performers will also entertain at the Jazz parties. The Jazz Festival hotline is 501-253- 6258. Call early to reserve tickets for the concerts as they are one of the hottest tickets of the season, & they sell out q ck y. Queer Eureka has had several shots in the arm this Summer, and the community has been very active in event organizing. On June 23rd, there was a Tea Dance and AGLTF (Arkansas Gay & Lesbian Task Force) membership drive held at Center Street South. It was a celebration of pride lesbigay event, always does in Music continues tl,e O~ar~s...commonly ret~erred to as Ope.a Boot Camp, the .annual o~.era season IS a ~ruell~n~ one ¯ and a chance to take a break from a hectic ¯¯ Summer, an opportunity to kick back and relax with friends. ¯ Coming up at the end of July - the : weekend of the 26th - there will be a ¯ camping weekend held at Lake Leather- " .wood Park sponsored by AGLTF. All are ¯ invited to attend. Comeprepared to spend a weekend in the fun and sun of the Ozarks with friends. You’ll be glad you did. Also coming up is the annual Eureka Springs .Gay Family Reunion, held m September at Beaver Dam Site Park. This event offers an opportunity to share in the community spiritofEureka’s lesbigay population. Food, fun, games, and a chance to ¯ meet new friends are a hallmark of this event. Stay tuned for date ¯ and time. : And, anytime is a good time to visit and ¯ enjoy the beauty Eureka Springs has to offer. There aremany t’melesbigay-owned ¯ shops and lodging facilities to visit, and ¯ lots of area attractions worthy of note. ¯ One absolute must-do when in our little ¯ utopia is a visit to the Emerald Rainbow. ¯ Linda and MC always have some kind of ¯ reader scheduled on the weekends, and : there is a weekend of aura photography planned for the same weekend as the ¯ AGLTF camping extravaganza. For in- " formation on the schedule of events at the : Emerald Rainbow, call 501-253-5445 or ¯ email: emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com. ¯ Jim and Brent’s Bistro holds Famil~ ¯ Night the first Thursday of every month. ¯ The restaurant is closed to the public, and ¯ it’ s amuch-anticipatedmonthlyeventwith ¯ good food and good friends. A portion of " : the proceeds from each Bistro Family : Night goes toward some worthy lesbigay ¯ cause, usually a different one each month. ¯ When you plan your trip to Eureka ¯ Springs, be sure to check out all the finest ¯" lodgingavailable. You canview thefinest in Eureka Springs lodging, and all kinds ¯ ofrelatedbusinesses andevents on-lineat ¯ http://www.eureka-usa.com/ ¯ And, Positive Idea Marketing Plans al- ¯ ways has the inside line on where to stay, ¯ what to do, who to see. Send E-mail to ¯ emerald@intellinet.com or Call PIMP at ¯ ¯ 501-253-2401. Join us in Eureka Springs. You may never want to leave! A World of Thanks! r(Mcl lun0 alty, Inc. to Joe McClung & R.J. Jenkins on the sale of our lakefront home and the purchase_of our dream home¯ We appreciate you! Billie Hadley & Connie Swadick READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library Of all the topics surrounding the gay fights movement, one of the most contentious is the role of religion, not only in public law, but in the lives of individuals. Most people are exposed to some sort of religion,howeverminimal, during their upbringing. Balancing those early teachings with the realities that arisein adolescence and adulthood is the focus of Wrestling with the Angel. Twenty-one well known gay men from various religious backgrounds have contributed very blunt and entertaining short essays about how religion has impacted their lives. Contributors include National Public Radio reporter Frank Browning, authors Andrew H~lleran and Brad Gooch and former bishop Antonio Feliz, They span the religious spectrum from Baptist, Lutheran, Catholic, Mormon and Jewish to Hindu mad Muslim. Poet Kevin Killian presents an interesting history of growing up in ahigh school staffed,by Franciscans. He, and some of ¯ the staff, realized his orientation only af-. : tez it became clear that, while other boys ¯ were listening to and comparing scandal- : ous rock songs, Kevin found musical poetry in the original cast album of My Fair Lady~ resource ~or ~ay men want:~n~ to come to terms wlth tladr past, present, religious identi ieatlon. by James Christjohn ". When,] first heard that.Disney was,, adapting q’heHunchbackofNotreDame " and saw the previews shown last year, I : thought they were nuts. How,I wondered, ¯ could they adapt this particularly tragic : story into a cartoon, and a musical one to " boot? Big mistake, I thought. Well, I was : able to see it the other night, and it was wonderful. It had an especially relevant " message: that it is a mistake to judge " others on the basis of looks or on the basis ¯ of stereotypes. Itmadeaninteresting statement about power and religion, religious ’ fanatics, and those who, instead of deal- " ing with their own issues, project those ¯ issues onto others and persecute them. ¯ Theplotrevolves aroundFrollo. a"min- " ister of (in)justice", who is out to rid Paris of all sin and evildoers. Chief among those who are the cause of evil are the gypsies. In the process of persecuting these unfortunate folk, he accidentally kills a gypsy woman and is about to kill her misshapen child. Akindly priest stops him, and Frollo raises the child in hopes Quasimodo (hterally, half-formed) will be "of use" to him. One condition: Quasi is to be kept hidden - in the ball tower of Notre Dame. On a festival day, the"Feast of Fools", he sneaks out to see what it’s like to be free. He is crowned the king of fools, and when the crowd realizes he’s not wearing a mask, is ridiculed. The gypsy, Esmerelda helps him, despite Frollo s insistence that the ridicule go on, to "teach a lesson" to Quasi. Esmerelda defies and makes a fool of Frollo, who then decides to bum down Paris until he finds her. Also thrown into all this is his In Lev Raphael’ s entry, To be a Jew, he remembers reading a "notorious homobashing essay" in the Jewishmagazine Commentary, whichhadthe opposite effect onhim. Instead of steering him away from the Fire Island lifestyle, it drew him in and he found it captivating. Wrestling with the Angel is a beneficial resource for gay men wanting to come to terms with their past, and present, religious identification. Reading these experiences makes it clear that, : whatever your religious dilemma, you are ¯ following in the footsteps of others whose ~ stories may be able to bring comfort and : consolation. Check for this rifle, and others on simi- : lar topics, at your local branch library, or : call the Readers Services department of ~ the Central Library at 596-7966. desire that Esmerelda be his - or die. He justifies his actions by blaming her for his desires and sin. Sound familiar? Well, needless to say, it is a film with a timely message. There are many characters (Falwell, Robertson, Swaggart, Dobson, Roberts, Jan and Paul Crouch) in real life that are interchangeable with Frollo and his attitudes. And how timely a film, seeing as the Baptists are boycotting Disney because of the fact that Disney provides benefits to same sex partners. Who do these folks think wrote and made Beauty & the Beast, Aladdin, Little Mermaid, to name a few? And probably every Disney endeavor that needed creativity and art to be realized? Anyway, I digress. Write letters of support to Disney, for their gayfriendly policies, and for this film. Everyone should see it. As a gaymanwho was persecuted from 2rid to 10th grade for being different, I could easily rdate to Quasimodo. I was called ahomobefore I everknew what the word meant, and I was a rather fat, un- ¯¯ sightly child during adolescence. Every day at school was like Quasimodo’s day ¯ on the square for me. I think some, if not ¯ most gay folk can relate to that feeling. ¯ While the relationships portrayed in the ¯ film are heterosexual, I think enough ¯ "asides" get through to be relevant to our Thecastperforms excellently, wxthTom : HulcemakingQuasimodoapoignant char- ¯ acter,handledwithmuch sensitivity- Judge Frollo is easily the most evil Disney vii- " lain ever to grace the screen. 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Name: Age: Address: City, St. &Zip: Telephone: by Jean-Pierre, TFN Food Critic Longtime residents will recall times enjoyed in one of Tulsa’s old movie palaces, The Brook, at 34th and Peoria, right next door to the old Lewis Meyer Bookstore, and across the street from the infamous Concessions. This location sat empty and unused for years until recently, when the late Mr. Meyer was unceremoniously evicted, and a complete rehab of the premises.took place. From the remains emerged a bank owned by the Wal-Martpeople and anew bar and restaurant which took the name of the old movie house. From the day itfirst opened this establishment has packed in the crowds, and on a busy night, expect a long wait for a table. The main door on 34th Streetis situated in such a way that the diner gets the impression he is being ushered in through back door of the bar and past the service area by the kitcher~, be- ,fore enteringthe din- ~ng areas. Along the w.ay, one passes a big p~ece of machinery that seems to be either clutter or just in theway, butoncloser Atmosphere: Casual inspection, it turns out to the old film projector from the Prices: Inexpensive theatre. The restanrant space has been completely redone, l’~ on-smol~lng section and now the decor is averycleanandmod- All major credit cards ern nod to art deco themes, with the walls lined with Reeommendatlon: cheap reproductions of oldmovie posters. Diners are seated C llst in large booths, and find small menus on the tables. First time diners almost always ¯ make the same error. Mistaking the table ¯ menus for a bar menu or selection of late " night offerings, they ask for "the" menu. ¯ Well, folks, there is only one. ¯ The menu centers around sandwiches, " mostly burgers. There are also several ¯ entree salads ($4.50-6.95),nachos ($6.75), quesadillas ($5.95), fried mushrooms ." ($3.75), &a couple of simple pastaprepa- ¯ rations ($4.95-6.95). A Mexican shrimp cocktail (peel and eat served with pico di " gallo, $6.25) and a shrimp en brochette " (six skewered and broiled shrimp, $6.95) ¯ round out the menu. That’s it. ¯ Of course, the main attraction of the " Brookis the bar, which takes up abouthalf " of the total space. Drink prices are moder- ¯ ate, and size and pour are average. Many people take advantage of the large side- " The Brook 3401 South Peoria ... Well, the food wasn’t ~reat, but at least if was cl~eap. eompIMnt was the service (or relatlre On every Gsit to the Broob, th;s has been a s m;lar re/rain... Hours: llam to 2 am Mon. through Sat. & until 11 p.m. Sundays Category: Bar with restaurant ¯ walk cafe, When more than a few people ¯ are in the bar, it gets very loud and noisy. ¯ On a recent visit to the Brook, we tried ." the parmesan chicken salad ($6.25), a ¯ seattering ofdeep fried, parmesan cheeseencrusted chicken chunks on a nondescript bed of lettuce, which was surprisingly tasteless. Our companion tried a basicburger andfries ($4.35). Even though ordered medium well, the burger was quite dry and lacking in flavor. The fries, made with ..... the skins on, were slightly undercooked, and we later amused ourselves by watching the grease drip and pool on the plate. Well, the food wasn’t great, but at least 1I was cheap. Our biggest complaint was the service (or relative lack thereof). On every visit to the Brook, this has been a similar refrain. The waitresses are less than attentive, and can often be seen congregated in the service area chatting with one another. -...= Management seems to have adopted a policy of the nearest available waitress handling any of the diners’ needs, whether that be seating, ordering, bringing food to the table, or refilling water glasses, but it has taken the unfortunate turn of none of the staff feeling responsibility for any ofthe tables. On our last visit, we heard the short order cook ring the bell and shout, "Order up!" when a couple of plates were put in the service window. A few rmnutes later, we heard him repeathis announcement with a stronger sense of urgency. Still, the waitresses chatted in the bar. Finally, a few minutes later, he stuck his head out and shouted, "Hel-lo! There’s hot food in the window!" Finally, a waitress reluctantly ambled over to deliver the meal. It is difficult to understand why this restaurant continues to pack in the people, night after night. It isn’t the food, and it certainly isn’t the service. Perhaps its the late night hours and the fact the kitchen ~. stays open. But, when you are bored with the dancers at Concessions, this is the place to go for that midnight refueling stop. Just don’t expect much, and you won’t be disappointed. How To Do It First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. 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Heidi Mollenhauer provides Esmerelda’s singing voice, and turns "God Help The Outcasts" into a showstopper. Her contribution is outstanding and I predict we’ll hear much more from this Broadway star. Seinfeld’s Jason Alexander is pleasantly obnoxious as the Gargoyle Hugo, Mary Wickes, a familiar voice and face to TV and Films lends a more common sense touch to Laveme, the more pragmatic ofthe three gargoyles who have befriended Quasi in his prison. This fill marks her last performance, as she died shortly hefore its release. Rounding out the trio, Murphy Brown’s staid Charles Kimbrough lends his voice and physique to Victor, the gargoyle least likely to take any chances. Look out for a tribute to the Wizard Of Oz, and tell me, just try to tell me, that a gay man was not involved in that sequence. The music is well written, and if you buy the soundtrack, you get a song called "God Hdp The Outcasts" sung by Bette Midler. It is worth having for that song alone, whichis a showstopper in the fill. The score is more along the lines of a traditional musical than recent cartoons, which is refreshing - the songs further the plot nicely and reveal info about the characters, rather than give you the feeling that "Ok, this is the requisite ’hit’ pop song." Seven stars on a scale of five. On the local scene, BACPis gearing up for theupcoming production of’‘Taffeta", a ’50’s musical’.revue. It is scheduled to run from September 13-22. It will be followed by "Greetings", a comedy about thenature of earthly reality. Quitefrankly, earthly reality is something I have always found to be extremely comical. Take the existence of Steve Largent- please! (with him, you have to laugh. It’s better than crying. Besides, most jokes don’t last forever. Neither can he.) "Greetings" runs ROOM FOR RENT! Close to downtown with full bath and use of kitchen. Phone: 918-587 References required. HANDSOME 40’S COLLEGEGRAD CAUCASIAN MALE, 5’ 10", 160, NUDIST, TANNED AND BICURIOUS. NEW TO TULSA AND SEEKING CAREER EMPLOYMENT IN ADMINISTRATIVE ENVIROMENT W/O COMPUTER EMPHASIS. DRUG/DISEASE FREE,. NO CRIMINAL BACKGROUND, CLEAN OK DRIVERS LICENSE, AND MEMBER OF MENSA SOCIETY. ALSO SEEKING NUDISMFRIENDLY PLACETOLIVEW1TH BUS-SYSTEM ACCESS, NO DRUGS,DISEASEORLUNATICS. .HAVE HAD EXPERIENCE AS A NUDEARTISTS FIGURE MODEL AND WOULD ENJOY MORE. ENJOY SMOKING,MODERATE DRINKING AND CURIOUS ABOUT RECEIVING TRAINING IN GENTLE BID AND OTHER ARTS. SINCERE REPLIES FROM QUALITY PERSON(S) WEL COMED AND SOUGHT. Write to: #21 c/o TFN, POB 4140 Tulsa, OK 74159 from November 8-17. "Greetings", which has to be funnier than Steve Largent, will be followed by "Babes inToyland’, December6-15. February brings us "Laundry & Bourbon" (Actually, I always have laund~" to do.) & "Lone Star State, 2hilarious one-act shows that form a full length production. They explore the ratherridiculous lives of small town Texas. "The Heiress", now playing on Broadway, begins her sojourn in BrokenAl" row April4-13; and"Gypsy" comes to town shortly after. A season of fun for all! As for Halloween, "Black Comedy" and "Sorry, Wrong Number" will be performed in honor of the holiday For more info call 258-0077. The localmotion Foundation will present the 6th annual Contemporary Dance Feslival as part of the Summerstage Festival at the PAC. Many eclectic forms of Dance will be performed. An event not to be missed! Performances are July 26- 27,Spmin theJohnHWilliams Theatre of the PAC. Tix are $10, $8 for students (Yay!) and Localmotion members. For reservations, call the PAC at 596-7111. "QUILT: A Musical Celebration" indudes stories for, from, & about the NAMES PROJEC~AIDS Memorial quilt. A poignant play with moments of comic relief explores the individual life stories of lifemates, parents, children and friends who have lost loved ones to this insidious disease. The play runs August 15-18 in the John H Williams Theatre of the PAC. Performances are at 8pm, except for 2pm on Sunday. It is presented by Friends of the Broken Arrow Community playhouse in conjunction with Summerstage Festival ’96, which is sponsored in part by a grant from the PAC trust. Proceeds from QUILT benefit the NAMES PROJECT. Tickets are $10, and are available by calling 596-7111. From outside Tulsa, call 1- 800-364-7111. Free & Anonymous Finger Stick Method Bl! &for, but not exclusive . to the Lesbzan, Gay, & Bisexual Communities. Monday & Thursday evenings: 7-8:30 pm for testing, 7-9 pm for results. Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment. 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Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, July 15-August 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 8 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource July 15-August 14, 1996 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource James Christjohn Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Leanne Gross Pat Morehead Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tome Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, June 15-July 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 7 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa Unites States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/512 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1996 AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV discrimination AIDS/HIV drugs AIDS/HIV testing Amendment 2 arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars Bill Clinton businesses churches Dave Fleischer Defense of Marriage Act Don't Ask Don't Tell Entertainment Notes estate planning Eureka Springs Family Finances funera homes gay clergy harassment HIV/AIDS research homophobia J.D. Jamett James Christjohn Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Jim Grimsley legislation Log Cabin Republicans marriage Out and About Partner Benefits performing arts PFLAG Phyl Boler-Schmidt Pride Promise Keepers representation restaurants Ryan White care Act Saladin v. Turner schools Tom Neal Tulsa Family News viatication Wild Fork https://history.okeq.org/files/original/f08b8e922872665bdb7a83f72c65e3c6.jpg ee46606de85f0044484d4e3c8c58c79c https://history.okeq.org/files/original/4781a1987cd73c6d4d4f571c9161e9cd.pdf d92190beb5bdea81018b06edb7ac0fce Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Our Families of the Heart CoUrt Kills Amendment 2 Tulsa Leaders Respond WASHINGTON - In a ruling that brought a collective sigh of relief from U.S. rights activists, the Supreme Court has ruled that Colorado’s anti-gay Amendment 2 is unconstitutional. Justice Anthony Kennedy said in the court’s 6-3 majority ruling that theColorado ballot measure was "inexplicable by anything except ill will toward homosexuals." The ruling found that Amendment 2 identifies people by the singletrait of their sexual orientation and denies them protection across the board "in a law unprecedented in American jurisprudence." The Court’s ruling invalidates the 1992 Colorado referendum that was narrowlyapproved by 53 percent of the voters and would have blocked anti-bia~dneasures in Denver, Boulder, Aspen and anywhere else in the state that adopted suchmeasures. The high court’s majority opinion found that Amendment 2 violates the Constitution’s guarantees of equal protection under the law, ruling that it illegally bars homosexuals from see CO, page 10 Federal Anti-Marriage Bill Moves Thru Congress WASHINGTON - The far-right’s proposed congressional measure,known as the "Defense of Marriage Act" (DOMA), easily won approval of a House sub, committee by a largely party-line 8-4 vote, and is expected to reach thefloor of the House of Representafives for a vote by early July. The Senate companion measure should be reaching the floor of the upper chamber at about the same time, Senate leaders said. qqae measure, which would define marriage as the union of a man and a woman, effectively excluding same-sex marriages at the federal levd, has left rights activists at loose ends since it was introduced in Congress earlier in May, quickly, winning endorsements from the Republican leadership and the promise of President Clinton’s signature if it passed Congress. Clinton supporter David Mixner fumed on CBSsee Federal, page 10 More States Pass Anti- Marriage Laws SPRINGFJELD, Ill. -~ Illinois .Gov.:Jim Edgar signed a measure barring the state from recognizing same,sex marriages, whether legally performed in other states or not, making the state that first repealed its sodomy statu_tes: over. 3 ~ decades ago ~- the 1.0th, U.S, state to prohibitrecognition ofsame-sex marriages. Meanwhile, in Michigan and Pennsylvania, similar anti-marriage measures won approval in their respective legislatures. The bills in each of the 2 states need only to have differences in the language of their upper and lower chambers worked out before being sent to their governors for approval. North Carolina’s lawmakers, intheir effort to prohibit recognition of same-sex marriages that might be legally performed in other states, have been trying to quickly work around legal limits on the types of measures they can consider in a shortened special see States; page 10 PFLAG activists, Bill & Cathy Hinlde, and Nancy & Joe McDonald flank Dallas Gay & Lesbian AllianCe Pres. Cece Cox, her spouse, Lisa Means, & Tom Neal at ajoint meetingof PFLAG, TOHR & Rainbow Business Guild. : Tulsa PFLAG Mom Testifies ’Against Anti-Marriage Bill ¯ Nancy McDonald, founder of Tulsa Parents, Familes ¯ and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) with husband ¯ Joe, and first vice president of the national board of .. PFLAG, testified against the so-called "Defense of Mar- ¯ nage Act" before the Constitution Subcommittee of the ¯ Judicial Committee of the US House of Representatives ¯ on May 15. TFN is honored to summarize or to reprint ~ portions of that testimony. ¯ McDonald identified herself as a mother and longtime ¯ educator and volunteer speaking in defense of marriage. ¯ In particular, McDonald identified the benefits of civil ¯ marriage and noted how those benefits are denied to same : sex couples. McDonald said she wished she were testify- " ing in favor of a bill that would grant equal marriage rights : "see Congress, page 8 ¯ HIV Bias Lawsuit Won Paul Saladin has won his wrongful termination lawsuit ¯¯ against his former employeer, Terry Turner, owner ofThe French Hen. Saladin had filed his case under the federal ~ Americans with Disabilities Act which prohibit discrimi- : nation on the basis of HIV!AIDS as well as other disabili- ¯ ties. ¯ The case is noteworthy because it is one of the first to : address discriminationbased on an association with some- : one who is disabled. Saladin was fired from his job as a : waiter when one customer allegedly complained to man- . agement after he heard another customer ask Saladin : about his late partner who was seriously ill with AIDS ¯ related infections. Saladin received modest damages of partial back pay see Case, page 8 "Promise Keepers" Boot ¯ Radical Extremist Enyart ¯ "Christian" syndicated television talk show host, Bob ¯ Enyart, appears to have been disinvited from the Promise . ¯ Keepers "Christian men’s" rally planned for June 15th at ¯ ¯ TU’s Skelly Stadium. Lesbian/Gay activists, pro-choice ¯ ¯ activists and moderate ~d progressive religious leaders -.: had objected to Enyart s participation because of his : ¯ documented remarks calling for the execution of "homo: ¯ ¯ sexua¯ ls" and "abortlonlo~,,o~’.,~.we.u as.m.e do.sin.g.and./the.¯ ¯¯ , phys~cal~ destruction of homosexual churches, clubs and : other establishments, as well as abortion diuics. Enyart " ¯ has acknowledged those remarks as accurately reflecting ." : his values in an interview with the Denver Post. ¯ The Rev. Russell Bennett of Fellowship Congrega- ¯ tional Church said that the Task Force for Rdigious " ¯ Freedom and Tulsa Metropolitan Ministry were involved ¯ in persuading key Promise Keeper supporters to call for " ¯ Enyart’s removal. Allegedly, Rev. Pearson called the ~ national office of Promise Keepers to ask them to: ; organizers to remove Enyart. According to The ¯ World, local organizers would not comment on the pro- ¯ ¯ gram change, see Enyart; page 10 American Airlines, Pepsi, ¯i AMnilhleeruSspeornBsuosrcPhr,idCeoPoircsn, i&c Organizers of this year’s Pride Picnic have annoUnced the confirmation of American Airlines as lead sponsor of Tulsa: United in Pride, the 1996 Pride Picnic which is at Owen Park, 560 No. Maybelle at Edison Road on Saturday, June 15 .from noon. to 5pm. American Airlines, Tulsa’s largest employer, is donating two air travd tickets which picnic attendees can be eligible to win. Other major sponsors include Anheuser-Busch, Coors, Miller Brewmg Co. and Pepsi-Cola. Picnic orgamzers emphasized their thanks for the support of dub owners and entertainers who hosted and performed in benefit shows, in chronological order: Bill and Brian and their friends at Lola’s, Sensuous and John at the Tool Box, John & Steve at the Silver Star and Kirk & Terry at Concessions with apologies to anyone whose name’s been left out¯ This event just see Picnic. page 8 Tulsa Library Nixes Gay Exhibits for Two Years While the Tulsa City County Library commission and Library administrators deny that complaints about an April Lesbian and Gay themed exhibit by Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays motivated them ,the commissioners changed the Library’s exhibit rides at a May 21st meeting so that a similar topic cannot be displayed for two years. Formerly library rules prevented the same organization from exhibiting more than once in 18 months. Under the new regulations, the same topic cannot be addressed more than once in 2-krnonths. Because of this change, Tulsa OklahomanS for Human Rights (TOHR)is now being denied penmssion to mounl an exhibit that-was scheduled for August. Library administrators say that the TOHR exhibit plans were never definite but were tentative. However, TOHR representatives claim that:they understood the date to be firufly settled with any question of ch_anging the date not arising until after controversy about the PFLAG exhibit started. TOHR’s spokesperson expressed sympathy for the harassment the Library had experienced and understood the LibraD¯’s desire to change its rules but regretted that Library administrators had not chosen to honor their prior commitment to TOHR. TOHR is currently seeking an alternate site for the exhibit, Love Makes A Family, a photo-documentary of Lesbian and Gay families with accompanying interviews of the couples and their children. COMING SOON -ffiahoma Parade ; ¯ Follies Review’96 + MCC’s ?That’s Entertainment?. + State.HIV/AIDS Confere.nce + IAM Ice Cream Soc,al + Shanti’s Water.Garden Tour see page 9 P. 2 P. 4 P. 6 P. 9 P. 9 P. 11 P. 12 P. 13 918.583.1248 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TulsaNews@ aol.com Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal Assistant Editor, James Christjohn Writers/contributors, Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Leanne Gross & Pat Morehead Staff Phot(x3rapher, JD Jamett Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and ~aay not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publicationnodfenacnea~ms easosurmpheodtotodboeesfonroptuibnldicicaatitoenthuantlepsesrostohne’srwsiesxeunaol toerdi,enmtautsitobne. Correspo " - . " ........ =o~il,, News All correspondence ¯ d & becomes tlae sole property o~ ~u,~a -,~,- : ¯ s!gne~........~o oddress above Each reader is entitled to one fre.e co,p,,y~of~ia~coh snOUl(1 De Sent to ut~ a ¯ edition at d*-is-tn.ou.u.on.p.oln-t-~-. *~’u~u’~,;tional conr"ies are available by calhng bY Phyl Bole’r-Sdhmidt " " i. ¯ i i.° "Th~Godit~s ovhr! The~AmendmentTwO battlemC°l°riad° that fight. And, though it began in one state, the effects rippled acrFoosrsmoeu,rtghreebaattntlaetiboeng.an oneMay evem.ngm. 1991. Iwas living on the western slope of Colorado, minding my own business, enjoyin my life and my vcork. Tha.t .evening: ,,the voters of Denvergre’ected an ordinance proposexl by a soc)auy-co,n,se,rvative erou~ called Citizens for Sensible Rights that wou!a nave " remgved sexual orientation from the wording of the city s equal protectionlaw. After their defeat, CSRandits statewidesupporters vowed to take the issue to the state level where, they thought, babydom in the gay rights movement before the Amendment Two vote. I’i,’e gone from an often timid addressee of lesbigay cinosnicdeernansdtooustoTmwehoonisenwoht oinctahne lbeeasctoaufnrateidd toonsttoankdntoowe ttohteoiesswuieths see Weary, page 3 has been a long gaul of Often drudgery for those of us involved in I~9 Tgdd Adams "The religious right would like you to believe that despite their hatemongering and anti-gay propaganda, they truly have com.- passion and geiiuine Christian concern for the homosexual. It ~s not a personal bias, they claim, but only because of divine Biblical proclamation that they are compelled to preach this socalled threat to family values. Consider then, the disproportionate lack of attention given to ¯ the far more pervasive trend toward unmarried heterosexual ~ couples cohabitating. Isn’t this what the Bibli~ calls fornication, and isn’t this a sexual sin of equal magnitude as homosexuality? ¯ Just by the sheer numbers of people engaged in fornication ¯ compared to those of homosexuality, one would think the former ¯ to be a far greater threat to those sacred fata!!y, value.s.A,ft,er ~1, their Dresumably heterosexual children woum seenungiy De ~ar ¯ more’susceptible to being recruited into this lifestyle rather than into homosexuality. Yet we don’t see nearly the kind of passion exerted on this proportionately mammoth threat to,fancily v,alue.s as we see directed towards gay and lesbian peopte. ~o why ~s ¯ there such a wide disparity of attention? The answer is twofold, ¯ and both are very basic to human nature: greed and ignorance. The first reason is greed. The fact is homosexuality is very ¯ controversial and thus stirs emotions. Marketing 101 will tell you the easiest way to pry money out of a pocket is to exploit see Values, page 3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Concessions, 3340 ~. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades:Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box. 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 744-0896 749-1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Meal.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 . 592-1521 Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-754922--95436586 D’Antiques, 1508 E. 15th 749-3620 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th Don Carlton M~tsubishi,.4423 S. Memorial 665-6595 *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 Express Pools & Spas, 6310 S. Peoria 743-9994 Foxlinx, Computer Consultation 690-2974 Leanne M. Gross, Financial Planning 744-0102 *Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111 *Imaginations, Lincoln Plaza, 15th & Peoria 538441--46680666 *international Tours 621-5597 jp Images, Photography 599-8070 Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 14011, 74159 747-5466 742-1992 Loup-Garou, 2747 E. 15 l_gan Ann Macomber, Realtor Associate 671-2010 *Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-3112 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E.. 31st 663-5934 *Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 PI 664-2951 David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672 Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626 *Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337 .Scribner~s B,ookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 Scott Rob~son s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations 743-2351 Southwest Viatical 747-3322 Thomas Chiropracfc.Clinic 4138 S. Harvard, Ste. C-I 742-8868 493-1959 Kellie J. Watts, attorney 743-1733 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities *Agape’ Christian Fellowship, 21st& Sheridan 599-7688 *Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Ctr. 628-0594 2627B E. 11 *B/UG Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 *Chapman Student Center, University of Tulsa *CommumtyofHope UnitedMethodist, 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800 Dignity/Integrity ¯ (Lesbian/Gay Catholics & Episcopalians) 298-4648 *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 ,Free SpiritWomens Center, call f°r l°cad°n &inf°: 587-4669 FFrriieennddsFionrUAnFitryieSnodc,iPalOOBrg5a2n3i4z4a,ti7o4n1(5A2frican-Amer. 7m4e7n-6) 827 POB 8542, 74101 425-4905 Indian Health Care, Save the Nation 584-4983 Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 *HIV Resource Consortium 749-4194 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 PFLAG , POB 52800 74152 Prime-Timers, P:O. Box 52118 R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 St. Jerome’s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, *Shanti Hotline Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, (rOHR) POB 52729 74152 TOHR Gay HdpLine (info.) Technicians, 1338 E. 3rd T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. *Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor *University Center at Tulsa ~ Beaver Dam Store, 1/2 mi. N. of Dam Hwy. 187 ¯ *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main ¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. ¯ *Emerald Rainbow, 45&112 Spring St. ¯ King’ s Hi-Way,96Kings Highway,Hwy. 62W *MCC of the Living Spring 748-3111 749-4901 74104 749-4195 665-5174 646-7116 749-7898 7434297 584-1308 838-1222 501-253-7457 501-253-6807 501-253-5445 800-231 - 1442 501-253-9337 I never canremember those old sayings very well but there is this one that goes like this: may youlive in interesting times - and I never could remember if that was supposed tO be a blessing or a curse. Wall, here we are at Pride 1996. We certainly are living in interesting times. Lesbian, Gay, Bi and Triinsgendered issues are being discussed more than they l~ave been at’any other time in the last two thousand or so years. And though our losses (to AIDS, to breast cancer, to the institutionalized violence and self hatred our society fosters) have been beyond imagination, and it is easy to feel that we are under attack each ~ime we turn, we are winning some. Colorado 2- do I need to say more?The highest court in the nation, and the source of both despair and hope for American minorities, finally has recognized us as citizens. Even here in Tulsa, we are making some progress. Although we are still marginalized by many of Tul.sa leaders, a few are recognizing our existence, our contributions to this city and our emerging political impact. And though we are poisoned by too many of the pathologies that growing up minrrity in America engenders, and although we are often unneces sarily cruel to each other, Tulsa is rich in remarkable individuals who dedicate hours of their time to building community ~mdresources. These folks are too many to name them all. The3’ vary from those whom you recognize quickly, the McDonalds and Kirbys, to those who work a little more behind the scenes, the Newmans, S tames, Petersons and Gilleans to those who are rarely recognized but whose contributions are also critical. These people, their work and our progress, although slow, all are things for whichwe can be thankful. So take aminute to celebrate, to honor those who’ve gone before, to recognizehow things are better. I have and will. Tulsa’ s sure a better place for us thanit was 20 or even 10 years ago. - Tom Neal Rev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor Sunday 9:15 am Christian Education ll:00am Worship Service ....Wednesday 6:30 pm Midweek Service 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thursday 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group 5451-E S. Mingo ¯ Tulsa, OK ¯ 7414~ (918) 622-1441 JUNE 15 Noon - 5:00 pm Opening Ceremony, lpm ¯ Blessing by the Rev. Leslie Penrose ¯ Welcome by TOHR president Debbie Starnes ¯ Performances by local entertainers, including Miss Gay Tulsa & Miss Tulsa USofA, Tulsa Family Chorale & The Banned from OKC! Throughout the afternoon, ¯ DJ will provide music throughout the day ¯ Booths with vendors, community organization info., crafts, etc. ¯ Food for modest cost ¯ Free beverages provided by Anheuser-Busch, Coors, Miller & Pepsi ¯ Volleyball & tennis court available ¯ Kids’ playground ¯ Security provided all day by Tulsa Park officers ¯ Closing ceremony, with benediction by RF Renfro & Freedom Balloon Extravaganza! Be a, part of the Pride~Picnic! - To volunteer, just show up Saturday Edison St. -’ ,~ "~ To Sand Springs, 1-412 Directions: From Tulsa, take Keystone Expressway West towards Sand Springs. Exit Gilcrease Rd. turn right (North) on Gilcrease Road to Edison St, and turn right (East} on Edison, go about 1/2 mile. Owen Park Is on the right. Parking is on the Southeast corner of the park. near Roosevelt School. 1-244 the most ardent anti-gay zealots. Wars will do that for you. Survival skills are something we either gain in a hurry, or we die at the hands of the enemy, sometimes literally, often figuratively. Of course, there are always battle scars too, and I watch myself, as well as others who have fought this one in the trenches, acting most times like we suffer from the more modem adaptation of World War II’s shell shock. Post-traumatic stress disorder runs rampant among civil rights activists of any persuasion. On May 20th, nearly five years exactly to the day after the Denver vote, I was catching up on some paperwork at my computer when the news came in via the Interact about the U.S. Supreme Court’s 6-3 decision declaring Amendment Two unconstitutional. There was no jubilant fist thrust into the air. There was no inyour- face queer political nose-rubbing of the opposition. I just sat th6re, staring at the two-hne news alert for over 30 minutes, occasional quiet tears of mostly relief surfacing. I believe it is important to remember that although the Supreme Court decision reflects a changed attitude on the part of the federal judiciary as it regards the humamty of lesbigay people, nothing has really changed legally. No tights have been gained. It remains okay to discriminate against us as a people in most of the country, & the fight for equality remains one we will need to address one person at a time. \Vhat has happened is imperceptible to people on the outside of our movement. We are a more confident people, more sure than ever before of our beliefs and our worth. We are more aware politically; we -know how to build coalitions, to raise funds, to seek out and solidify our bases of support, and we -know how to get the job done. We also have learned the tree value found in each other because we had to learn with whom we could be safe and on whom we could count when or if we needed someone. A~nendment Two was a right of passage for lesbigay people in Colorado. mad the tipple effects have forged growth in the movemeut throughout the land. Let us not waste that ~owth and the opportunity it presents to truly change our ~vorld. Our time has come, and our movement is coming of age, but let us not forget that we gain nothing in the wav of respect if we are not respectful of others. If we are going to ever have that kinder, gentler nation George Bush at least talked about. I believe it must start with us. emotions: lust,:enwy.., fear, hate! Therefore, dt is pr0fi~ble for the religious right to keep homosexuality controversial. Itis their greatest fund-raising tool. Even the most cursory glance at their fund-raising literature wil! reveal classic propaganda techniques; dehumanize the subject to remove any compassion people might feel, and present only the most extreme behavior as examples of that"lifestyle", behavior which, incidentally, many homosexuals themselves would find distasteful. These techniques are nothing new. They are the same methods used by the Nazis to persecute the Jews. The second reason is pure and simple ignorance. They fall to understand that we have exactly the same range of human emotions and feel exactly the same feelings they do; love, lust, guilt, jealousy, anger, compassion; just in a slightly different context, homosexuality is a normal, natural and healthy way of life for a certain percentage of the population. But because those feelings are foreign to them, the religious right assumes our lives to be wicked, perverted and disgusting. They fall to see that falling in love is truly a universal emotion with many varieties. So don’t be misled. The attention giveu to homosexuality has nothing to do with family values, if it did, more preachers would be concerned about the results of their hate speech: abandoned and abused children, gay teen suicide, substmace abuse. All of these are far more serious fmnily issues which deserve far lnore attention. bo,eft.th,g Tul.~a Area AIDSAgenctes Warren Place Doubletree Hotel Dh~ner, Cash Bar and Performance Remaining seats are limited. Call today! TICKETS ON SALE AT ALL CARSON ATTRACTIONS OUTLETS OR BY PHONE: ~84-2000 Canada Rights Bill OTI’AWA - Largdy considered a formality, Canada’s Senate has followed the May 9 lead of Parliament’s House of Commons and approved federal legislation outlawing bias based on sexual orientation. The bill now only requires the assent of the governor general, representing Queen Elizabeth II as Canada’s titular head of state, to become part of theCanadian Human Rights Act. Michigan School Harassment DETROIT-In a d~iay that angered:many, the Allen Park School Board decided not to decide yet on whether gay and lesbian students - or even students who are just believed to be homosexual - should be protected under the district’s anti-harassment policies. The mother of a 14-yearold student at Allen Park High School asked the trustees in May to include antiharassment policies that prohibit gay and lesbian students from being attacked or harassed on school grounds by other students. But the school board decided it wanted to take "more time to study the issue" beforemaking a decision. Raymond Salliotte, an attorney representing the student and his family, told the board members they should be ashamed of themgelves for even having to take this long to decide on such a basic issue. School Gay CI.ui Compromise GLENDALE, Calif. - The Glendale school board averted the potentially explosive issue of gay and lesbian dubs at schools by rejecting a plan that would have required permission of parents for their high-school age,students to join any such campus clubs. Instead, the board opted for a compromise proposal that would inform parents of all the dubs authorized to meet at schools in the district so they could be aware of what groups there are at various schools. But parents would not have to give permission for their children in school to join any of the groups. Clinton ’Advocate’ Interview LOS ANGELES - In an interview in the Los Angeles gay news magazine The Advocate, President Clinton reiterated his view that marriage is an institution between a man and a woman, as a far-right bill in Congress declares, and says he is proud of his record of working to end discrimination agmnst homosexuals in theU.S, and of the large number of gay men and lesbians hehas named to posts in his administration.But in the interview, Clinton says ofthe controversy that erupted early in his term over ending the military ban, "There are some things I think I should have done differently." He says he now believes he should have first worked with congressional and Pentagon leaders to build a broader consensus on the issue, saying that possibly moving in "incremental steps" might have been a better way to approach ending the ban. The President, however, sidesteps questions in the interview about whether he would, if re-elected, renew any efforts to end the current restrictions against homosexuals in the armed forces. Oregon Initiative Called Off PORTLAND, Ore. - Lon Mabon, head of the anti-gay OregonCitizens Alliance, announced at a press conference that the organization will discontinue gathering signatures to put a new ballot measure before state voters this year in an effort to block civil rights protections for homosexuals. Oregon rights activists said the OCA move wasn’t surprising in the wake of the U.S. Supreme Court ruling in May declaring that Colorado’s Amendment 2, which the OCA had used as-a model, was unconstitutional. School Board Victory in N.H. MERRIMACK, NH - Two years of contentious tumult over an anti-gay policy may have come to at least a temporary end with the stunning 2-1 victory ofRosemarie Rung for a seat on the school board. The race registered the largest voter turnout in the town’s history and Rung’s election now means, that religious-right candidates whohad forced the anti-gay policy through the board no longer hold a majority. Rung vowed dunng the race to work to repeal the anti-gay Policy 6540, which prohibits school employees from "’encouraging or supporung homosexuality as a positive lifestyle alternative." Ginny Cadarette, who also ran for the vacant seat won by Rung, had said she supported the anti-gay school policy. "This election proves that the citizens of Merrimack have the moral courage to reject the politics of fear and divisiveness," Rung said after the election win. "What the Radical Religious Right failed to realize when it moved into Merrimack advocating its agenda, from creationism to Pol,icy 6540, is that we truly believe in freedom of speech, and equal protection of the laws." S. Africa Gay Rights Protections CAPE TOWN, South Africa - With the new, first-ever constitutional protections barfing bias based on sexual orientation, : the South African Parliament wasted no ¯ ti~ne putting theory into practice. On May 14 the lawmakers approved military poli- ¯ cies prohibiting discrimination against ¯ women, gays and lesbians in the nation’s ¯ armed forces. The next day a memo from : the leaders of both houses of Parliament ¯ outlined the travd~related benefits the ¯ partners of Members of Parliament are : entitled to.identical to those of the spouses ¯ of married MPs. Anti-Gay, Anti-HIV Defense Bill Again WASHINGTON - The House has approved a $267-billion Defense Department spending measure that President Clinton has already said he would veto if it’s not changed by the Senate because of the many social issues that conservative Republicans have tacked on to it. The measure includes amendments that would discard the current "don’t ask,don’t tell" maned forces provision and institute an outright ban on homosexuals in the military. It also iududes the on-again, offagain amendment forcing the Pentagon to discharge any military personnel who test positive for HIV. The Senate version of the defense measure calls for the same spending level,but doesn’t contain the coutroversial amendments House Republicans added to the bill. The measure also iucludes a ban on the sale of sextmlly explici! magazines,such as Playboy and Penthouse, at military bases as well as a prohibition against U.S. military hospitals outside the country performing abortions,except in eases ofrape, incest or if the mother’s life is at risk. Carolina Anti-Gay Measure Repealed SPARTANBURG, S.C. - Faced with the prospect of having the Olympic torch relay re-routed around the county and finding the men’s U.S.A.Gymnastic team pulling their training site, the Spartanburg county council has decided not to keep an mati-gay resolution it approved on Monday, Mav 13. The resolution, similar to ones passed by two Georgia county comnussions inn, has no actual legal effect but states that homosexuality is "incompatible withcommunity standards."The comnussioners decided earlier in May to pass the resolution as a show of their support [’or Cobb County, Ga., which has been excluded as a site for Olympic Game events because of the resolution. Butwhen the Spartanburg council was confronted by the American men’s gymnasts team ~;ith moving their training site elsewhere over the anti-gay measure and statements by the Atlanta Committee for the Olympic Games that it might re-route the torch run around Spartanburg County, the county council voted 4-1 to repeal the resolution. While Spartanburg was busy repealing its anti-gay resolution, the Greenville County council approved by a 9-3 vote an identical measure. The Olympic torch is slated to pass through Greenville on June 26, but a spokesperson for the Atlanta Committee for the Olympic Games said the group is unsure what - if anything - it may do about the approved resolution, which calls homosexuality contrary to "community standards" in the county. At least one ACOG member, however, was quoted in news reports as saying that the organizing committee "couldn’t function as a civil rights watchdog for the nation." Commitment Fair Called Off DETROIT, Mich. -A planned Gay Commitment Fair that had been slated forMay 19 in the Detroit suburb of Holly where gay couples could peruse exhibits by riofists, photographers, jewelers and other marriage-rdated goods and services was cancded after the organizer of the event received hundreds ofoffensive and threatening telephones calls, the Detroit Free Press reports. According to the paper, Jeffrey Maxwell, the pastor at the C.alvary United Methodist Church in Holly read a news article about the planned private event to his parishioners, including the phone number to contact the promoter of the fair. The organizer of the event, who asked the paper not to identify him, called off the event at the last minute after being .swamped with menacing calls threatenmg to disrupt and picket the fair as well as at least 2 death threats. Maxwell said he didn’t believe anyone from his church made any of the calls. Proposal to Extend Partner Benefits SANFRANCISCO-Gay SupervisorTom Ammiano has proposed legislation that would require most contractors working on city financed projects to extend the samedomestic partnerbenefits to its workers that it offers to the spouses of its married employees. Many of the city’s large corporations already offer partners benefits, but mo~t smaller firms do not, and the city controller’s office estimates that there are between 8,000 and 10,000 companies doing business with the city that could be affected by the proposed measure. The proposed ordinance would exemptfirms located wheredomestic partner programs aren’t in place, unless the company has a division office in the city as well. In those cases, only workers in the San Francisco offices would be covered. Business leaders here have not so far expressed any strong objections to the Ammiano measure, although the city’s Chamber of Commerce says it wasn’t consulted about.it beforehand. 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Details ofthe program were not released, but the company said the benefits would apply to both same- and opposite-sex unmarried employees, and would extend to the couples’ children as well. The firm employs some 108,300 workers. Challenge to UK Age of Consent Law LONDON - Euan Sutherland, a 19-yearold gay student, has been given the goahead by the European Commission on Human Rights to challenge the British age of consent laws before the Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg if Parliament doesn’t change the law.4n 1994, Parliament lowered the age of.consent for homosexual sex from 21 to 18, but the age of consent for heterosexual sex in Britain 1S only 16. And Suthedand petitioned government courts without luck to equalize the ages for all sexual activity, arguing that it was discriminatory. "It’s normal for a 19-year-old bloke to be going out with a 17-year-old girl," Sutherland said. "’If I was doing that [with another male] it would be illegal. Both of us would be breaking the law. There are jail penalties." Sutherland’s legal challenge is expected to bejoined by another gay youth, Chi’is Morris, 16, shortly. Lipstick Lesbians NEW YORK - The women? s beauty and fashion magazine, Allure,includes excerpts from the soon-to-be-publishedbook by Lindsy Van Gelder and Pamda Robin Brandt, The Girls Next Door: Into the Heart of Lesbian America.. The excerpt, entitled in the magazine "Some Lesbians Are Glamour Babes; Others Aren’t," lot-ks at similarities and differences between lesbians and straight women in makeup, body consciousness and similar beauty issues in alighthearted manner. Only problem is, although excerpts from forthcoming books are generally a sdling point for ~nainstreamraagakiii~’s,’Allui-d s~in~ ~6’ have neglected mentioning the excerpt on its cover. Ah, well. Probablyjust a"typo.’" A PERMANENT SOLUTION Permanent Hair Removal Carol Anwar, RE, CPE Lic. By Okla. St. Med. Bd. 488-0786 Near71st & Lewis Call for info, or an appt. with free consultation, Survey: World’s Full of Surprises LONDON-Itwas "goodnews-badnews" for the citizens of the new Russia as LondonInternational Group, one ofthe world’s largest condom manufacturers, released the results of its 3rd annual international survey of sexual behavior. According to the LIG survey, Russians are the 2nd most sexually active people in the world, led only by Americans. "Our survey will explode a lot of myths about sex," said Pauli Jakobsson of LIG. The study reports that based on surveys of 10,000 people in 15 nations,Americans have sex 135 times a year, trailed dosdy by the homy ex-comrades who succumb to Western bourgeois thrills 133 times annually. The former Soviets also trailed the Americans in their self-centered view of sex, with 61.% of U.S. citizens interviewed saying theirown satisfaction was most important in sex. Some 42% of Russians said their own gratification was paramount, placing them next behind Americans. Thailand came in at the bottom of the list in terms of frequency of sex,averagingjust 64 times per year. Of a list of notable personalities those interviewed thought were sexiest,Australian actor Mel Gibson topped the lisL while U.S. President Bill Clinton fell about midway and Russian Prime Minister Boris Yeltsin camein next to last, the unsexy honor of which fell to Poland’s Lech Walesa. Poles (presumably none of them eying Mr. Walesa) turned up as the most safe-sex conscious in the survey, with a full 13% of Polish respondents claiming they routinely carry condoms in their underwear, leading the Italians in their claims of having condoms on hand. Canadians, somewhat surprisingly, came in as the most hostile to the idea of safer sex, while the Russians did little better, ranking 12 out of the 15 countries. Canadians, however, also ranked 1st as the world’s most sensitive bed partners, with 51% saying satisfying their sexual partner was their top priority in bed. Another surprise the survey reports is that women respondents turned out to be more sexually selfish than men, with 31% .saying their own sati fraction was most ~mportant in the sack, while 25% of men said their own gratification was primo in bed. Hawaii Dems Make Pro-Gay Moves HONOLULU-While many of the state’s la~vmakers grappled muchof the past year with the issue of same-sex marriage resuiting from what isexpected to be a state court victory for gays and lesbians, the stale Democratic.party made its position dear during its May 24-26 convention. The party’s central committee adopted a resolution opposing any future interfer- P AlrERSON REALIORS" ence by the state legislature or efforts to change Hawaii’s liberalstate Constitution in the court battle. The Dems then went on to oust Linda Rosehill from the key post as its national committeewoman in favor to Amy Agbayani. Rosehill has been very active in efforts to block the possible legalization of same-sex marriages in thestate; Agbayani represented theACLU m testimony opposing legislative efforts. to block same-sex marriag~in the sta~e. Martin Rice, an openly gay Democratic Party activist, was also elected to a position as one of the committee’s 3 vicechairs as an executive board member. Episcopal Church: Gay Clergy OK WILMINGTON, Del. - A court of the Episcopal Church has ruled that it is not against church doctrine for a bishop to ordain sexually active homosexuals to the priesthood, thereby ending the possibility of a heresy trial against Bishop Walter Righter, 72, the retired Bishop of Iowa, for ordaining Barry Stopfel, who is gay, as a church deacon in 1990. The 9 presiding bishops had been considering the issue of whether Bishop Righter should face heresy charges for the ordination for 10 weeks. Their decision was announced from the steps of the net-gothic Cathedral of St. John by Delaware Bishop Cabell Tennis and included little in the way of comment or clarification except that there ~vas "no such written constraint" in church law agaanst such ordinations.The formal armouncement noted that the ruling was not "’an opinion on the morality of samegender relationships." And while Bishop Righter’s trial may be over, the issue itself may be far from settled, some church observers say. The Rt. Rev Andrew Fairfield, the l~ishop of North Dakota mad the onl y dissenting member of the court, said the nmnerous biblical condemnations of homosexuality, as well as Christian tradition and church teachings, hold that"the bottom line is. homosexuality of any kind is prohibited." Some conservatives predicted there would be a schism if the church’s general convention, which will meet in Philadelphia next year, doesn’t prohibit the ordination of sexually active homosexuals. Dr. George Carey, the Archbishop of Canterbury, urged Episcopalians not to over-react or act impatiently as the church struggles with its position on ordaining gay priests ~n a sermon commemoraung the 100th anniversary of the Los Angeles Episcopal Diocese. Carey warned Episcopalians against "walking away from one another" over the issue and said we ¯ must learn to get along with each other despite differences. "We need to learn a uew langnage .- alangu.age of.ac.ceptance and love of one another," Carey said in his sermon at the Cathedral Center of St. Paul in Los Angeles. "’I don’t mean by this we LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ¯ Suite 170 . 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The LOg Cabin lawsuit,filed in Travis County state court, charges the Texas Republicans with violating the organization’s First Amendment rights, bias based on sexual orientation, and breach of contract. Lester van Pelt III, a spokesperson for the state Republican Party, toldreporters that Barbara Jackson, the state GOP’s executive director, had ma~.ethe decision to exclude the Log Cabin Republicans because of the party platform’s positions against homosexuality. "Sodomy is still a crime in Texas," van Pelt’~aid. Nonsense, say the gay Republicans€ noting that the booth and ad space hadhothing to do with sodomy. "...Obviously, no one is going to commit an illegal act in the booth." Your P,artners Program or Mine? WEST HOLLYWOOD, Calif. - In what is believed to be the first of its kind in the U.S., the West Hollywood city council has unanimousl y approved a measure that would extend full recognition ofdomestic partners registered in other cities with such programs while in the city. Domestic partnership registration offers few actual benefits anywhere in the U. S., but it could be important in cases for example where a visiting couple was involved in an acci, dent. One registered partner would have hospital visitation and treatment decision rights in such a situation if they were registered in another ci ty. On a more basic level, public businesses or events offering "’spousal"discounts in West Hollywood already technically are required to extend similar discounts to registered partners. And the new recognition measure should have the same benefit for visiting couples, the council hopes. 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It will also be available through a toll-free telephone number based in Florida. The FDA said it approved the home-testing kit for people who would prefer the anonymity of home testing instead of using clinics or medical facilities. There’s no word yet on exactly how much the kit will cost, but it is expected to be priced at about $40. The ~e~." testing system will comprise 3 integrdted components: a home blood collection kit HIV antibody testing ata certified laboratory, and a center that, provides test results, counseling and referrals as needed. The FDA noted that the U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention esumates that 60% of Americans at risk for HIV have never been tested for the virus. The test xs manufactured b.v Direct Access Diagnostics of Bridgewater, N.J., a subsidiarv of Jolmson & Jotmson. Critics of home’testing, however, say the "kit is [oo expensive and that counseling services via phone in such a situation seemed hitor- miss. Gel May Help Block HIV in Women WASHINGTON-Researchers report that a vaginal gel containing a drug known as PMPA has been shown to protect female monkeys from the simian version of HIV and may offer humans the same kind of protection from the virus. Dr. Roberta Black of the National Institute of Allergy & Infectious Diseases,which sponsored the study, said, "For women to have woman-controlled method is very important so they canprotect themselves." Black said much more research is needed - ineluding studies involving humans- to determine whether the PMPA anti-viral gel. could prove safe and effective protection for women. Clinton Signs Ryan White CARE Act WASHINGTON - Saying he hoped to be the last president to have to sign a 5-year extension of the funding program, President Clinton signed federal legislation reauthorizing the Ryan White CARE Act for 5 more years of federal spending. The measure was first passed by Congress 6 years ago and allocates federal funds to local communities hardest hit by AIDS forhome care, transportation.hospice car,e and other support services for people with AIDS/HIV. The spending measure will authorize $738 million for AIDS-related services in cities and towns around the cotmtry during the 1996 fiscal year, an increase over the 1995 level of $632 million. The measure also includes some $52 million in funding for states to provide new HIV/AIDS drugs for residents who can’t afford them, and $10 million for anew program aimed at getting pregnant women to voluntarily seek testing and counseling for HIV. In signing the measure, Clinton said he hoped no furore president would have to s~gn a similar spending measure. "By then, let us pray that we will have found acure for ,AIDS and a vaccine to protect every American," the President said. HIV Particle Counts Aid Treatment PrvI’SBURGH, Pa. - According to anew study, doctors now have a more accurate way of predicting how long people inected with HIV will survive,thereby giving physicians better guidance in how aggressivdy to treat their patients. Dr. John Mellors and a team of researchers at the University" of Pittsburgh Medical Cen- :er have confirmed the relative accuracy of an extremely sensitive new blood test that counts the number of HIV viral partides instead of the current method which relies on counting the immune system’s CD4 T-cells. "We found very stri-kingly that the amount of virus in the bloodstream predicted how individuals did," Mdlors said. "The more virus, the worse the individuals did, by which I mean the shorter time to developing full-blown AIDS and dying." The researchers analyzed blood samples from 180 gay men enrolled in a U.S.government study between 1983 mad 1991. They found that 49% of the men with more than 36,000 HIV particles per milliliter of blood died within 5 years. But only 5% withjust oneninth tha{amount of virus die.d that quickly. "The likelihood of progression ~ncreases directly with the level ofAIDS virus in the blood-,:’ Mellors said. "So we have a pretty good idea based on our study what the expected survival of an individual would be at a certain level of virus." Dr. Anthony Fauci, director of the National Institutes of Allergy &Infectious Disease says the researchers’ findings will let doctors make better decisions aboutwhen to begin treatments and when "to change to possibly more aggressive therapies. "If some individuals have very high set points [HIV particle counts], even though their CD4 cells are reasonably OK, you might want to more aggressively treat those people because you know that you can predict they are going to do more poorly," Fauci said. 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HIV Cell Infection Agent Isolated WASHINGTON-Government scientists report they have discovered a chemical clue to.why HIV is infectious. Reporting ganciclovirreduce the stricken by the blinding eye disease, cytomegalovirus (CMV) that often attacks PWAs in the advanced stages of the illness. Researchers at the University of California at San Diego studied 725 men during a 12-month program testing the Hoffman-LaRocheversion ofgancidovir, known as Cytovene and found that a daily dose of the drug reduced the risk of contracting CMV by nearly half. risks of being’ " ’in the journal Science,researchers at the NatiOnal Institute of Allergy and Infec- AIDS Drugs for HIVExposed Workers ATLANTA - The U.S..Centers for Disease Control &Prevention has for the first time recommended that health care workers who are exposed to HIVthrough accidental needle-sticks or other medical procedures should be givenantiviral drugs, including AZT and 3TC, immediately following such accidents. The agency says studies now show without doubt the effectiveness of theantiviral drugs in counteracting the virus. HIV Infection Risk From Oral Sex? CHICAGO - A research study published in the journal Sciencereports that the risk of transmission of the simian version of HIV (known as SIV, and closely related to HtV) through the mouth may be higher than had been believed. The Harvard University researcher found that 6 of the 7 rhesus monkeys thevswabbed with SIV in the back of the thr~at became infected with the virus,according to the report. The researchers also found, surprisingly, that far less of the virus - 6,000 times less - was needed to trigger an infection than is required to infect the monkeys rectally with the virus. The study’s startling results are so unlike other research and data about oral transmission risks that many AIDS and health workers immediately questioned the findings. Among other things, federal studies have only documented 15 cases of -known oral transmission and infection of HIV-since the epidemic began. Also, AIDS experts point out, unprote!~ ted oral sex has continued to be popular among gaymen in the U.S. while the infection rate among homosexuals has steadily declined since the routes of trans= missio~a were discovered. Drug Combo Effective WASHINGTON - A 73-week study by drug manufacturer Hoffman-LaRoche of some 978 AIDS patients has shown that Invirase, the brand name for the firm’s version of the protease inhibitor saqui.navir, in combination with the drug ddC, reduced the rate of deaths by more than two-thirds compared to patients taking ddC alone. Saquinavir has been considered the least impressive of the new tions Diseases saythey have found a protein, which they call "fusin," that must be present for HIV to infect white blood cells, the primary target of the virus. Edward A. Berger, who headed the team that made the discovery, said the discovery gives scientists a "new handle on understanding" how HIV invades cells. "Obviouslythis is a potential target for developing new drugs to treat HIV infection," Berger said. "Potentially by coming up with a drug that blocks the receptor, you might block the ability of HIV to replicate." The researchers cautioned, however~ that there were sdll many mysteries about the virus that need to be answered. Among other things, they noted that HIV attaches itself to some types of immune cells in the early stages of the infection without using fusin. This means HIV comes in variations that connect to CELl. cells and some other molecular cofactor or cofactors on these cells. Berger said that potential drugs that block the fusin receptor on cells could only do part of the job in combating HIV. Heat Treatment OK for Expanded Trials LOS ANGELES - The Indiana-based HemoCleanse Inc. has been given approval by the Food & Drug Administration to expand testing of itsblood-heating treatment of people infected with HIV. The 2nd phase of the trials will include 2- hour treatments at St. Elizabeth Hospital in Lafayette, Ind., and the Harbor-UCLA Research & Education Institute in Los Angeles. HemoCleanse’ s treatment, similar to kidney dialysis, involves slowly drawing all a patient’s blood from his body in small quantities and heating it to 108 degrees Fahrenheit before infusing it back into his body. The ideabehind the treatment is that HIV is sensitive to even small increases in temperature and would be destroyed in massive quantities by the treatment. Sixty patients will be divided into 2 groups during the trials. One group will receive 2 treatments each - the first for I hour, and the 2nd for 2 hours.The other group will serve as a control group and will not receive the heat treatment, but will remain on standard HIV drug therapy. Global AIDS Briefs GENEVA - The World Bank has warued in a new report that up to 2 million of Malawi’s 11 million population will be infected with HIV by the year 2000 and the average life span in that so. African nation will drop from 57 to just 33 years. It adds that unless culturally conservative and devoutly Christian people in 22 So. Pacific island nations and territories alter their views about sex education and condom use, the AIDS epidemic yvill devastate that region as well. Sohoma Lane & Diana Nicolejoin Brian & Bill. with Victoria Towers &Veronica DeVorefor a successful Pride Picnic Benefit at Lola’s. Photos: JD Jamett Kathryn Conover at Gayfest, Renegades Brian & Bill ofLola’s Package includes: two nights’ Club Level accommodations at the Sheraton New York or Manhattan with daily continental breakfast and afternoon hors d’oeuvres, a first row center orchestra ticket to Victor. Victoria, cast recording on compact disc or cassette, souvenir brochure, ticket delivery to the hotel, cancellation insurance on the theatre tickets, New York Visitors’ Information Kit and all taxes. $424.00 per person, double occupancy only Extra night available at $132.00 per person ~lt. Offer Validfrom June I to August 31, 1996. Call 341.6866 International Tours for more information. IGTA member. couldn’t happen without the support and hard work of these folks. The Picnic is organized this year by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR). TOHR was asked by the former organizers, an informal association of business owners (mosdy dub owners), to resume organizing the event. The Picnic continues their traditions with minor changes. After complaints from many individuals about conflicts with Father’s Day, the orgamzers responded by moving the event to Saturday. Also due to ongoing problems with the Mohawk Park site, the organizers unanimously approved Owen Park as this year’s site. The Picnic is an informal affair with free beverages. Attendees are welcome to bring their own food or to purchase food at a modest cost. Any funds raised by the Picnic (after expenses) will "aenefit the Gax &LesbianCommunity Center Project and the City of Tulsa Park & Recreation Dept. A number of community organizations will have tables with information about their programs. Brief opening and closing ceremonies will feature local entertainers, including Tulsa Family Chorale, and Oklahoma City’s The Banned, a marching band (who’ll be sitting down). The Rev. Leslie Penrose of Community of Hope and RF Renfro of Bless The Lord At All Times will give opening and dosing blessings. Info: 743-2497. and $2,500 for pain and suffering as well as attomey,’s fees. Saladin said to TFN that his goal in pursuing legal action was not financial but rather trying to do what was right. He’was represented by Steve Novick, Greg Bledsoe, and Katrina Bodenhamer on behalf of the AIDS Legal Resource Project. The Project is ajoint effort of the Singer Abigail at Concessions Oklahoma Bar Association Young Lawyers Division, Legal AidofWestern Oklahomaand Legal Services of Eastern Oklahoma. ¯ to Lesbian and Gay cltazens instead of ¯ testifying about a bill that would deny ¯ equal rights. "I find instead of defending ¯ marriage, I need to defend the people - ¯ gay & lesbian people - who are being :- denied the right to marry. I do not believe ¯ we would be here today if our society did ¯ not have a deep bias against gay &lesbian ¯ people. I say that not to lay blame, but to ¯ recognize the fact that we are’really in a civil rights discussion about gay & les- : bian persons.’" McDongld further gave examples of " discrimination experienced by Gay per- " sons or persons perceived tobe Gay using ¯ the story of one of her sons who was ¯ ¯ beaten because he was perceived as Gay even though he happens not to be. ¯ McDonald adds that she perceives the ¯ country to bein a"cultural meltdown" not because Gay people may marry but because "we have yet to overcome our intol- ¯ erance and bigotry. Wehave yet to recog- ¯ nize the richness in the diversity of all of ¯ our citizens:" ¯ McDonald closed by questioning the ¯ need for this legislation since the Hawaii ¯ case that has prompted this response is ¯ tmlikely to be resolved for several years, ¯ and maybe not favorably to Gay citizens. ¯ She called on Representatives not to tar- " get Lesbians and,,G,aymenfor discrimina- ." don butrather to ’foCus on the challenges of the economy, of education, and health ¯ care that face all of us." LI L.’T! I~ E:DI#~ GROUP Making W~ld Wide WavesTM ¯ Full Service Web Site TULSA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNI CALEND SUNDAYS MONDAYS Agape’ Christian HIV Testing Fellowship : TOHR Clinic Service, 10:30 am & 7 pm : Free & anonymous testing " TUESDAYS ; H]V+ Support Group ¯ HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm ¯ Service, 7 pm : Community of Hope Sheridan Center, Suite H..... 1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 : ¯ ~: !- Co.Dependency ~ Bless The Lord At All ! : °~ iSup~6~t Groul~ Times Christian Center ¯ 7:30, Fa~ly of Faith MCC ¯ Prayer & Bible Study : 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 7:30pm 2627-B East llth : Call 583-7815 for info. : HIVTesting TOHRClinic : ¯ Walkintesting: 7-8:30pm : Family Of Faith.!~[CC " : Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. 2627b ’East 1 lth 583-7815 " Community of Hope : (United Methodist) ¯ Worship Service, 6 pm ," 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 " Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 5451-E South Mingo. Info: 622-1441 . Metro. Comm. Church -" of Greater Tulsa ¯ Worship Service, 10:45am " 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 ¯ Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance. Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583~9780 Sheridan Center, Suite H ¯ using fingerstick method. ¯ 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 No appointment required.." Info: Wanda @ 749-419, ..... ~" ~~ Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm" Bless the~Lord At All Results hours: 7-9 pm : Shanti-Tuisa, Inc. Times Christian Center Info: 742-2927 : HIV/AIDS Support Group Sunday School, 9:45 am . _ ¯ & Worship Service, 11 am ¯ Lambda Bowling League " Friends & Family Sheridan Lanes 8:45 pm 3121 S. Sheridan : HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pro, call for location: 749-7898 Grief Group Butler/Stumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241~2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate WEDNESDAYS THURSDAYS ¯ SATURDAYS ¯ Agape’ Christian ¯ 16.Step Empowerment : St. Jerome’s Ecumenical Fellowship : Group For Women Catholic Church Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel 3841 S. Peoria Inl~o: Father l~iek at 742-7122- ¯ Community of Hope (United Methodist) i Service for Peace; 6:30 pm : Bible Study, 7 pm ¯ 1"703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 ¯ Tulsa Family Chornle ¯ Weekly practice, 9:30 pm ¯ . Lola’s 2630 E. 15th ¯ PFLAG Family AIDS : Support Group : 1st & 3rd Thursdays : 4154S. Harvard,749-4901 Alternatives : Weekly social events for : : LGBT men & women, 7 pm " ¯ Info: 646-5503 ¯ Substance Abuse : Support Group : ¯ for persons with HIV/AIDS ¯ Narcotics Anonymous Meets weekly at I 1 pm Confidential support for recovering addicts. Results hours: 7--. 9-pm- ,’. - Community of Hope Info~ 742-292-7 1703 E. 2rid, _I0fo: 5~_5_- 1800 NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. :bf each month Info~ 748-3111 OTHER GROUPS Gay~i& Lesbian Student _~:. Association " TJ~-outheast Campus, L!nfo: 631-7632 SW~4N-Single Woments Activity Network Call 832-2121 SATURDAY, JUNE 15 Tulsa Pride Picnic Noon - 5pm. Owen Park 560 No. Maybelle at Edison Info: 583-1248 PFLAG Family AIDS " : Support Group ¯ 2nd Monday of month, : ¯" 6:30 pm ¯ 4154 S. Harvard " ; Info: 749-4901 : ¯ OTHER GROUPS . TOHR Helpline " : Daily 8-10 pm .. For info. or to volunteer: 743-GAYS " The Technicians, Leather try., Info c/o 621-5597 " : T.U.L.S~4. Tulsa Uniform " : & Leather Seekers Assoc. " ¯ Info: 838-1222 : SUNDAY, JUNE 16 Family ofFaithMCC Father’s Day Service with Father Rick Hollingsworth 11 am, 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 WEDNESDAY, JUNE 19 TCAP Advisory Council Meeting Noon, 1430 S. Boulder FRIDAY, JUNE 21 Tulsa Regional HIV Prevention Community Planning Group Meeting 2:30 pm, 1430 S Boulder JUNE 21 & 22 Follies Revue, Inc. Follies ’96 Salutes the Movies! 6 pm, Doubletree Hotel, Warren Place $125 & $40, Info: 437-0201 SATURDAY, JUNE22 Herland Sister Resources Concert: Freefall 7 pm, 2312 NW39th, OKC 73112 TUESDAY, JUNE 25 AIDS Walk ’96 Planning Committee 6 pm, 1608 S. EIwood JUN E 28-30 7th Annual Oklahoma HIV/AIDS Conference "Sharing Our Strength" Oklahoma Center for Continuing Education, 1704Asp, Norman Info: Andy Southam, 800-942-1914 SATURDAY, JUNE 29 That’s Entertainment? BadDrag Show Family ofFaith MCC 8 pm, 5451-E S !~ingo, 622-1441 SUNDAY, JUNE 30 Community ofHope 3rdAnniversary Meeting &Worship Service 5 &6 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 TUESDAY, JULY 2 Tulsa Oklahomansfor Human Rights Meeting, 7 pm; Chouteau Rm, Chapman Ctr, TU, Info: 743-4297 " i SUNDAY, JULY7 ¯ Native American Worship Service ¯ 6 pro, Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 : FRIDAY, JULY 12 : Interfaith AIDSMinitries : Ice Cream SocialBenefit : 7-10 pro, St. !vlatthew’s Episcopal ¯ 601 No. Lake Drive ¯" Sand Springs,/afro: 438-2437 JULY 20-21 4th Annual Shanti-Tulsa Water Garden Tour 10-5 pm, Info: 749-7898 TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project ¯Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd OUT + ABOUTYes, the rumors are true. H1 be uve m our nat~on s capital... ...I would to take this chance to thank a few people for the .$r.eat op: portumt es an l Senulne care they have Siren me. ¯ h~tions make you who you are and what 3’our life is all about. It took working for : Tulsa Family News and Tom to get my ¯ foot out the door and have me doing all ¯ stuff that ldonow. I don’t know if any of : you realized this, but I’ve always tried to promote uni ty in this column as best I can. I have seen this community from drag queens, cowboys, leather folk, .Lesbians and all the rest not having not a thing to do with the others; nut I have also had the chance to see this change. Please folks, don’t stop working together to make our community better! Well I’m getting a little choked up, so let me say my goodbye, and remember: next time you’re out and you see thatperson orgroup ofpeople you think you can’t stand, stop, smile and say something nice. It will make Tulsa a better place for all of us. tops, I almost forgot to name my last Queen of the Month! This person has picked herself up, brushed herself off, and continues to try to make herself a better person. That’s right, guys, Bobbie Sue Summers. SUNDAY, JUNE 23 Statewide Pride Rally & Parade Ecumenical Worship Service, The Banned, Metro Men’s Chorus, Sen. Bernest Cain, Keynote Speaker: Donna Red Wing- ’92 Advocate Woman ofthe Year 1 pm, program begins. 3 pm, speaker Red Wing, 4 pm, parade begins. Memorial Park, NW35th & Classen Blvd. Oklahoma City Info: 743-4297 or 405-791-0202 by J.D. Jamett Yes, the rumors are true. I’ll be leaving Tulsa to go live in our nation’s capital !boy, talk about out of the frying pan and into the fire). I would like to take this chance to thank a few people for the great opportunitaes and genuine care they have given me. Tom Neal, for being that OLDERfoster- big brother (or sister) that has always looked out for me, and who has been pu.shy,er.., pushing me ~n the right direction. Geoff & Earl, and the rest ofthatcrazy group that I call my chosen family - I will be ever indebted to you mentally and physically. Steve & John, please send the Burger Sisters for a visit. Bill & Brain, Lola needs a star on the walk of fame. Dennis, Larry, & Veronica - thanks for the ear bending and all the craziness. Larry and Leroy, thanks for all the support, and many others from doctors and medical staff to all my great friends. If you had asked me years ago to go out into the commu- ~,~ty and do something, any:- Bobbi Sue Summers ," thing to make it better, I ¯ would’vetolAtyou,"YOU’RECRAZY! ~ ¯ No one cares about what I think." It just ¯ ," took therealization that youropinions and " Editor’s note: JD will be greatly missed. While hls unique skills cannot be imitated. Out+About will continue with a new club reporter in our July issue. session. Complicated legislative ntles have slowed down movement on the bill, but there remains very little active opposition to the measure in the legislature itself. While gay rights activists around the country were celebrating the May 20 ruling by the U.S. Supreme Court overturning Colorado’s Amendment2, SouthCarolinaGov. David Beasley signed in.to law. a measure barring same-sex mamages in the state. To find any good news in the same-sex marriage arena, activists had to look to Holland where the Dutchjustice ministry announced it will be putting together a panel of experts to evaluate the possible impact of legalizing gay and lesbian marriages in the country. The Dutch Parliament has already voted in principle to support full equality in marriage rights for same-sex couples, but the government has continued to resist full marriage status for gays and lesbians, arguing that the international consequences for the tiny European nation could be enormous. The committee the justice ministry appoints will examine nfitional and international laws and treaties that might be affectedby such a move. It will have a year to prepare its report, including recommendations for legislation. TV’s "Face the Nation" that the President’s quick announcement that he would sign the measure was "’an unconscionable position for him to take." Mixner said Clinton’s decision was doubtless political in his efforts to keep his popularity lead over anticipated Republican challenger Sen. Bob Doleof Kansas in the November election. "But this goes to the heart of everybody’s civil liberties," Mixner said. "It deals with property rights, insurance rights, xmmigration rights,bereavement rights, and to deny us equal opportur~,~ty really makes us second class citizens. In Seattle, councilwoman Tina Podlodowski, who is a lesbian, resigned as co-chair of Clinton’s Washington state re-election campaign, but said she still supports Clinton in the upcoming election, an echo of the dilemma many gays and lesbians feel over an issue that most paid little attention to until it exploded on the national political landscape this year. Podlodowski told the Seattle Times, "I’m still very supportive of the President but I believe it’s important to show leadership on this. This issue speaks to a broader issue of civil rights." In an interview with the New York Times, openly gay White House advisor BobHattoy said the President had been out-maneuvered by conser= vatives on the issue and said Clinton and his campaign advisers were more "’homostupid" than homopho.bic, ~ayin.g that supporting same-sex mamage now Is "’aloser" politically. "Ijust wish the straight white boys at the White House would educate themselves a little more," he said. "It’ s not that they’rehomophobic - they’re homostupid, and they don’t know that the buzzwords they’re using are the buzzwords the right wing uses as terrorist dividing tactics and that the gay &lesbian community has a visceral reaction to." Both the Human Rights Campaign and the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force have issued a number of press releases in the past few weeks attacking DOMA and criticizing President Clinton’s statements that he would sign the measure, but the Washington, D.C.-based civil rights groups have been unable to find many political allies willing to publicly fight against the proposed legislation as it continues its rapid movement through both houses of Congress. The Human Rights Campaign said that a Clinton endorsement of the bill would be "’an unconscionable capitulation-to religious political extremists" and"demanded" thatthe President oppose the measure. Elizabeth Birch, head of HRC said, "The statement by White House press secretary Mike McCurry earlier this week that same-sex marriagewouldweaken the family was silly and completely, inconsistent with the president’s prewous positions regarding equal rights for gay men and lesbians." Openly gay Congressman Barney Frank (D-Mass.) called the antimarriage bill"a tranSparent political issue in ttie presidential campaign." Stephen Moakarsh, a Los Angeles board member of Lawyers for Human Rights,said, "I think he (Clinton) has been the first president to really include gays and lesbians at the table. For that, I admire him greatly. But I think in terms of the marriage issue, it’s unfortunate that he feds compelled to join with the GOP. My feeling is that Clinton is trying to avoid a political fire storm that the gays in the military issue caused him in 1993." seeking legal protections against discrimination in housing, employment, health and welfare services, education, and real estate sales. Justice Kennedy called "implausible" Colorado’s central argument thatAmendment 2 simply made gay and lesbian citizens equal with other state reside,n,ts by denying them any "special rights.’ The majority decision wasjoined by Justices Kennedy, John Paul Stevens, SandraDay O’Connor, David Sourer, Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Stephen Breyer. Dissenting were Justices Scalia, William Rehnquist and Clarence Thomas. Representatives from serveral Tulsa organizations held a press conference at Community of Hope United Methodist to recognize the importance of the Court’s decision. Bill Hinlde representing the ACLU of OK, Kelly Kirby, the Gay & Lesbian Affirming Disciples ofthe Church of Christ, Nancy MacDonald, PFLAG, and .Tom Neal, Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights spoke about the positive impact this decision would have on the efforts of Oklahomans to seek fair and equal treatment from the State of Oklahoma and the City of Tulsa. Enyart, whose program regularly feain the program along with First Methodist tures anti-Gay tirades, was to participate and First Baptist pastors, Dr. Buskirk and Dr. Shaw, as well as evangelicals like Carlton Pearson of Higher Dimensions andTV personalities, Jerry Webber,Travis Meyer and Paul Serrell. Promise Keepers claims to be a Christian men’s organization that seeks to help them live more responsible lives, to help men strengthen theirfriendships with other men and to bridge societal, particularly racial, divisions. Critics charge thatPromise Keepers has close ties to radical religious extremists, noting that one founder former Univ. of Colorado football coach, Bill McCartney was a key supporter of the anti-Gay Colorado Amendment 2. ¯ Waiting To Invest Could JeopardizeYour Dreams! These are just some of the multitude of reasons people use to explain why they haven’t started an investment plan. Investing for the future is frequently seen as a luxury, rather than a necessity. Something you do after you’ve taken care of essential livingexpenses. Unfortunately, there is rarely anymoneyleftover alter doing that, so it’s easy to procrastinate. But do you know how much waiting, even a few years, can cost you? The chart below shows the monthly investment required at different ages to accumulate $1 million by age 65, assuming hypothetical 10 percent compounded rate of return. What this chart shows is the dynamic power of compound returns. Compounding is the process where each year you not only earn money on you invested principal, you also earn additional money on the money you earned. The amount you earn grows or "compounds" at an increasing rate as the years go by. By starting an investmentprogramat an earlier age, you spread the accumulation task over a longer period of time and enable your money to benefit from the ~owerful force of compounding. Incidentally, $1 million might seem like a lot of money to you today, but in order to generate an income of $70,000 a year forjust 22 years of retirement, that’s how much you’ll need to sock away (assuming a hypothetical annual return of 7.5% and inflation rate of 3.14%). If you’ve been putting off investing, as yourself if it is going to be any easier putting away almost three times as much at age 35, than at age 25? Or, eight times as much at age 45? Your financial priorities will change over the years and your income .will increase. However, whether you’re saving for a house at age 25 or trying to juggle nances to pay for your children’s education age 45, chances are it will be just as difficult. In addition, can you afford not to benefit from the power of compounding? How Can I Start Investing Now? First, accept the fact that there is never aconvenient time to invest. The answer to this dilemma lies in paying yourself first. Before you can do this you need to do a cash-flow analysis to find muela wai_tln , even a l’ew years, can cost you? out where your money is -going. Warning! This might be a frightening process. Once the numbers are laid out in front of you, you’re probably going to see several ways to reducing your expenses. Establishing a spending plan is often helpful. As part of this process, review your accumulation goals and determine a minimum percentage of your income that you’ll need to invest to meet these goals. By breaking the taskdownintomanageable parts, you’ll introduce discipline into your investment program and increase your chances of success ! It’ll take a while, but the long-term payoff for your discipline may be sweet. 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Featured performers were Deborah Coleman, Baby Jason & The Spankers, and Martin Simpson. ff you have not been fortunate enough to participate in a BluesFest weekend in Eureka Springs, youhave no idea what you are missing. From Thursday evening through Sunday afternoon, every club in town hosts both big name and local talent. And, the larger venues host nearly non-stop big name performers. You can pay one price to get into any of the clubs, and most folks spend the weekend going back and forth from the various small clubs, occasionally taking time out to attend a big concert. City Auditorium, Victoria Inn, and the Basin" Park and Crescent Hotels hosted some of the best blues talent on the planet this vear. but the most-anucipated event took"place Friday evening. Bo Diddlv performed two concerts along with local favorite The Cate Brothers Band ¯¯ Othernameperformers includedKenny Neal, Raful Neal, Tab Benoit, Chubby ¯ Carrier, Jimmy Thackery, Canned Heat, ¯ Keb Mo’, Robert Lucas, mad Kelly Jo ¯ Phelps. If you find yourself wishing you had ¯ been there, you still have time to get tickets for the 12th Annual Eureka Springs If.you_have not been fortunate enough to partlelpate in a Blue-sFest weekend in E r ka you have no idea what you are missing. From. Thursday evemng through Sunday afternoon, every dub in town hosts both big name and local talent. Jazz Festival connng up in September (19th- 22nd). Events surrounding JazzFest take on the samefeel as for BluesFest. The music is just different. To reserve tickets for the Jazz Festival, call the JazzFest Hotline at 501- 253 -6258. And, there’s always next year for BluesFest. Both of these festivals are major attractions in Eureka Springs so the earlier you reserve tickets, and make your lodging reservations, the more likely you are to getexacfly what you want. Next year’s BluesFest dates are May 29th - June 1, and the BluesFest BrX Office can be reached ~ar-round at 501-253-53ff6. For those ~3fyou whose taste runs mdie toward the fine arts er~d:of the spectrum, the ~nspiration Point Fine Arts Colony will be hosting Operain the Ozarks from June 21st - July 20. Fully-staged orchestra performances will be held at 8 PM at the Fine Arts Colony for the entire month. Reservations and information are available by calling 501-253-8595. Come enjoy the music and the ambience of Victorian Eureka Springs! 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Roy, a little older and wiser, is a popular kid and hangs around with a couple of guys, Randy and Burke, who follow his every move, not realizing that they.actually idolizehim. Randy and Burke, strictly heterosexual, become abit jealous whenRoy starts inviting the shy, withdrawn Nathan to pal around with-them: Nathan’s hom~ life is an uncomfdriable mix of a mentally ill, abusive fff~her and a meek, helpless mother, so fi~ is anxious to spend as much time as poss~i’ble away from home, preferably with Roy, the only person who pays attention t0~m. Through several rocky adventures,Roy and Nathan begin to come to terms with their muttml attraction. Violence interrupts their budding romance, but they are unable to be kept apart. ~ Except for a couple of extremely vio- ¯ lent scenes, this could be a young adult ¯ novel, although adults should enjoy it also. The writing is sim-~ihe theme ...Except for a couple of extremely violent scenes, tl~s could be a young adult novel, although adults should enjoy it also ...Dream Boy is a pleasant, fun read, but it takes a back seat when compared to some other gay eomlng of age novels... of sexual attraction is very carefully and tactfully written. The two maincharacters are well written, but we don’t fully understand the secondary characters, particularly Randy and Burke. Nathan’s father is a pathetic stereotype of a disillusioned, surly and cruel man, and the mother’s character is paper thin, spending her time timidly between her abusive husband and introverted son. Dream Bov is a pleasant, funread, but it takes a back seat when compared to some other gay coming of age novels, particularly Common Sons, by Ronald Donaghe, reviewed in this column last year. The Tulsa City-Count" Library also owns the first novel by Dream Boy author Jim Grimsley, Winter birds. Please check with your local branch library or the Readers Services department, Central Library, at 596-7966, for Dream Boy and other books of interest. by James Christjohn Have I got CDs for you to listen to all summer long! First off,I’ve found some incredible gay-themed CDs. "Stage 1: How I LoveYou"is a true find. A goldmine of love songs from Broadway’s greatest shows, sung as originally written - by men, to men. Like an intimate cabaret show, the songs are set to a s~mple piano accompaniment, and are sung beautifully by some really talented singers. It is a treat to hear some of these songs sung the way we in the gay male community have always dreamed of i.hem - with same-gender pronouns. Tracks include selections from Gershwin to Webber, classic standards to lesser.known~ gems. Highly recommended. Available at selected records stores, or by mail at 800-707- 8683. Wonderful for setting a romantic mood, or daydreaming of Mr. Right. Up next is a great MCC Cathedral of Hope has produced a musleal.... r.egardlng Gayissues f~orn a Christlanstandpolnt.... it was pretty good.... the son~_s are rather beautiful.... [they] range from hilarious " (An Old Fashioned Lesbian Christmas) to moving to romantle. original cast album of "Get Used To It!" byTomWilson Weinberg, who also wrote the "Ten Percent Revue". This album wittily captures all aspects of life as a gay man, from religion to falling in love, gaybashing to what to call your spouse.. partner.., lover. The songs are sung by a top notch cast of very beautiful voices. (My, but we’re a highly talented bunch... and creative, too! What would the straight folk do without us?) The songs range from hilarious ("Breaking the Penal Code With You", about... well, use your imagination. It’s alove song, for those needing further hints. 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Name: ~" Age: Address: City, Sty. &Zip: Telephone: parallel-parked somewhere between luxury and necessit3: By combining hLv,nfious s~’ling and dq~ndability, the ,-k~.x:ord EX ~dan fits as nicely into ~mur litKstyle as it doc~ intn a parking space.; For your sensible, pmctit~l side. this car otters a hb’st of impressi~:¢ ~tbty and pertbm~ance t~utures-including doal airba~; and-lock brakes, side-impact protection, double wishbone suspension and a responsive. 145-horsepower x,-FEC en~ne. And tbr your indulgent side. the Accord EX .Sedan is loaded with creature cnmtb~, like power windows, l:X~wer door locks, a spacious. ergonomic mtedor, a power moonroo£ air c~mdidoning, catise control and a high-|~wered stereo. ~ stop by toda’~" tbr a test-drive ~plen~" offree parking avaitablek The .-kc~.a)rd EX Sedan, ~ll[~lt~l~’tl~-~. by Jean-Pierre, TFN Food Critic I lost the bet. Now I have to prepare dinner for someone who doesn’t know the difference between fingers, a dinner fork, a salad fork, or a wild fork. But, what is worse in being wrong, ~s that the poor citizens of Tulsa will continue to be deluded about what constitutes truly fine cuisine and what is merely flash and a waste of money. One year ago, we went to a highly touted, brand-new restaurant in Utica Square. Everyone had great expectations, since one of Tulsa’s best known chefs, Kim Michee, and her partner, Julie Woolman, were the drivingforces behind the venture. As we lingered over postdessert coffee, I quipped that unless Helmerich and Payne (owner-operator of Utic~ Square) was looking at the Wild Fork as a tax write- .off, the restaurant would be closed within the year. And, thus, I was goaded into making the illfated bet. They’re still open. The Wild Fork is situatedin~emiddle ofUticaSquare at the site of the former landmark instituuon and tea room, The Garden. Ourfirst visit to the Wild Fork was on a rainy Saturday night, and we were obliged to wait for our table. But, a crowded, bustling restaurant is usually a good sign. We had a bit of an uneasy feeling in dealing with the rather abrupt and disinterested hostesses, magnified by our limited dealings with our waiter, so we wrote it off to the strains of being a new restaurant on a busy night. However, on our several subsequent visits to the Wild Fork, including the most recent when our party was one of only three tables in the entire restaurant, it= is apparent that the Wild Fork is trying for some kind of unique merger between the rude waiters in New York & the snooty waiters in Paris. The Wild Fork is open all day, and there are different menus for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Regardless of the mealtime you’ve chosen, one look at the menu and you instantly know that this is a culinary experience that will not come cheap. It seems as though every review about the Wild Fork written in a Tulsa paper over the last year has raved about the crab cakes. Far be it for us to break with tradition. The crab cakes are a combination of crab meat, corn, and the usual fillers to hold it all together, that is deep-fried and then presented atop a homemade mayonnaise aioh sauce and buried underamound of terrifyingly hot jalapefio cole slaw. Scrape off the cole slaw and enjoy the wonderful calories and high fat and cholesterol content of the crab cakes. After all, what’s a little grease and mayo (mayo is just egg yolks and olive oil whisked The W;ld Forl 1820 Utlea Square HOliI’~: 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. Monday - Saturday, do ed Sunday Cu;s;ne: Amerlean contemporary Dressg Casual (but remember this is Utica Square) Prices: Very expensive Alcohol: Full bar & wine llst Non-smo]dn~ seeHon: Rat;n~: B li~t ¯ together with a dab of spice)? ¯¯ But the famous crab cakes illustrate quite well what is wrong with the cuisine ¯ at this restaurant. First of all, Chef Michee ¯ tnes to be too creative and too innovative. ¯ She takes top quality food, prepares it ¯ well, and then ruins it with a bizarre or ¯ weird sauce or accompaniment. She had ¯ the same problem when she was at ¯ Kannichael’s and at the Fifteenth Street Grill, two of Tulsa’s be~ter restaurants ¯ which are now both out of business. Sec- ¯ ondly, the restaurant touts itself as featuring "new American cuisine," but you’d think the chef had been on another planet the last couple of decades when it comes to presenting healthy, lower fat foods and lots more vegetables and salads. The soups continue the saga. While most of today’s celebrated modern American chefs in Dallas, Santa Fe, Scottsdale, or Los Angeles have gone kb healthier thicke~ng methods for crealn soups such as vegetable purees, beurre mani~, white rice puree, or a simple roux, with only a splash of cream or dairy product, Miss Michee continues to insist upon making cream soups the old fashioned way, based on traditional b~chamel ¯ and velout~ sauces. These can be very tasty, but they are far ¯ too rich to eat more than a few gravy-like ¯ spoonfuls. Same old story with the entr~es. With ¯ the one major exception of the pork ten- " derloin roulade, which is dry and taste¯ less, the meats and .fish are good quality foods expertly prepared--until they are ¯ sauced. Do we really need Moroccan lem- ¯ ons (aren’t American lemons good ¯ enough?) on the free range chicken’? Hot ¯ mango salsas on the meats’? A "creative ¯ reinvenfion" of the chicken-fried steak? ¯ Excellent, huge sea scallops ruined by flavoring them with Pernod (a nasty lico- ¯ rice flavored liqueur)? Strongly flavored ¯ olive and vinegar sauces ondelicate sweet- ¯ breads? It is possible to get a decent meal in this ¯ place, but you must be pro-active to do it. ¯ Find out what is on the menu and ask for ¯ substitutions or deletions. Anything that ¯ sounds unusual or strange should be ig- ¯ nored. If Chef Michee is inthe kitchen, ¯ rely uponher excellent training and expe- ¯ rience to cook ameal to your exact speci- ¯ fieafions; just don’t let her play around ¯ and get creative. The problem with this ¯ technique is that Miss Michee is not al¯ ways in the kitchen, and many a lesser cook will panic when the set recipe is ¯ changed. Also, there seems to be a com- . munications breakdown between diner, ¯ waiter, and kitchen, because many times, ¯ special requests end up being ignored. Vegetables are bland, boring, overlooked side dishes here, almost relegated to the status of a garnish. Salads aren’t emphasized, either. This is the one major area of improvement needed at this restaurant. As is the case in many fine restaurants, the baking is delegated to a baker and not handled by the chef herself. This i~ unfortunate, because we have had breads held too long in the warmer and disappointing desserts on almost every visit. On one visit, our cr~me brfil~e tasted almost curdledand thdpr0pan~ torch used in lieu of the broiler to caramelizethe ~t’op’was unevenly applied. Another time, we had to ask for our coffee before the end of the dessert course just to wash down the dry cake. No excitement or originality here. There is a surprising little wine list with tolerable but limited choices in the moderate and lessexpensive categories, defi-~ nitely preferring U,S. domestic vintages. Despite its shortcomings, theWild Fork continues tobe a popular restaurant . amongst the wealthier masses of Tulsa. Either Miss Michee has a loyal following from her previous kitchen experiments or Tulsans arejust too parochial to know the difference between fine, wonderful food and overly-flashy, overly-expensive messes. Go to the Wild Fork if you like (and you can afford it), but don’t be sur~ prised if you find it to be just another rehash of a couple of dead Tulsa restau-i, rants. wordy folk, aren’t they?) Being of Pagan/’ Wiccan religious orientation myself, I ¯ don’t normally go for Christian music (or " anything else). But I found that I knew and " had performed in shows with a writer/ ¯ performer listed on the album, so I bought ¯ it. I didn’t really think I’d like it, but " thought Tom might. Upon listening to it, " I discovered that it was pretty good. It is ¯ professionally, recorded, and the songs are rather beautiful. Not all have to do " with Christianity, although there are some " .songs of that ilk - and I even liked those. ¯ And I hate gospel music. Go figur!! And, unlike the others listed in this issue’s column, this one includes Lesbians, which is good. I hate doing unbalanced columns. As with"Get Used to It!’"~ the songs range from hilarious (,Me Old Fashioned Lesbian Christmas) to moving to romantic. Maybe one of our MCC’s could produce it? Just an idea... This disc can be ordered by calling 800-501-HOPE.. Dallas cabaret performer Perry Wood has a new disc out. "Let Me Sing" is a lovely album to get romantic with someone while it plays. Mr. Wood’s bedroom ..... voi.ceCould singme to sleep anydme. And his looks match his voice! Best of all worlds. He sings standards such as "Bewitched", "Embraceable You", "Night " ~:~.~.~A~dDay!;:as:~e!l as~sserkno nsongs :of io~i "It~i~t~t~p rioteh album for those,~." who love smooth vocals, a jazz back- " ground, and a beautiful voice. This is his " 3rd album, and they’re all well worth getting hold of. They can be ordered at " 214-522-3764. " For those of a more instrumental na~ . ture, the soundtrack to "It’s My Party" is .. a beautiful collection of piano composi- . tions that really communicates the film~ " well. Available at Mediaplay. ¯ Liza’s new album, "Gendy" is a lovely . collection of standards, including a vet- . How To Do It First 30 words are $10. Each additional word is 25 cents. 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For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, June 15-July 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 7 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource June 15-July 14, 1996 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource James Christjohn Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean Pierre Leanne Gross Pat Moehead JD Jamett Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, May 15-June 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 6 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa---Oklahoma Oklahoma---Tulsa United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/511 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1996 AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV discrimination AIDS/HIV drugs AIDS/HIV testing Amendment 2 arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars Bill Clinton businesses churches Dave Fleischer Defense of Marriage Act Don't Ask Don't Tell Entertainment Notes estate planning Eureka Springs Family Finances funera homes gay clergy harassment HIV/AIDS research homophobia J.D. 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Text Any textual data included in the document Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Our Families of the Heart UPCOMING EVENTS HIV-ERC + Red Ribb,.o.n Revue + Pride- Bene.flts Pride Worship Service Dallas Leader Cece Cox Hope Candlelight Tour Pride Prom + Pride Picnic O.KC Parade +. ,.Follies TULSA - The next several weeks offer an unprecedented number of community events which either benefit HIV/AIDS charities or celebrate Lesbian/Gay Pride Month. On May 23rd, the Red Ribbon Ice Revue promises a great show at the Tulsa Ice Arena to support Our House, a day drop-in center for persons living with HIV/AIDS. Later that evening, the Silver Star will host a benefit &raffle for the HIV Education and Recreation Center, a new organization headed by Bruce Begley, Sandy Hill, Steve Wilson and others. OnSaturday and Sunday,June 8-9th,the Hope Candlelight Tour will feature the homes of Tina & Steven David, Judy & Bill Fisher, P.S. Gordon & Duane Men Ne, Mary McMahon, and Ouida & Robert Merrifield to benefit St. Joseph’s Residence/Catholic Charities and RAIN, the Regional Interfaith AIDS Network. Tickets are $10 and are available at Charles Faudree, 1345 E. 15th, and at MA Doran Gallery, 3509 S. Peoria. The very distinguished organizing committee also has planned a number of patron events - for more information, call 747-9706. Near the end of. the month, June 21 & 22, Follies Revue, Inc. will present Follies ’96 Salutes the Movies at the Doubletree Hotel, Warren Place. It’s a dinner and a show you won’t want to miss. The beneficiaries are TOHR, HIV Resource Consortium, Interfaith AIDS Ministries, Shanti, Visiting Nurses Assoc. RAIN and St. Joseph’s Residence/Catholic Charities. For tickets, call the PAC box office, Carson Attractions, and Tickets by Phone. For June, the traditional Lesbian/Gay Pride month worldwide, Tulsa volunteers have planned a number of events. The month will begin by the first ecumenical Pride Worship Service. Hosted by St. Jerome at the Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria at 6 pm on Saturday, June 1, the service will include Family of’Faith MCC, Agape Christian Fdlowship and other congregations: On Tuesday, June 4, PFLAG, TOHR and the Rainbow Business Guild (with assistance from the Bisexual, Lesbian, Gay Trans Alliance, BLGTA) will present Cece Cox, president of the Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance (DGLA), one of the most dynamic activists in the Southwest and a native of Bartlesville. She will be talking about the Marriage Project of the DGLA as well as her work as co-chair of GLAAD/Dallas. The dinner will be held in the Chouteau Room of the Chapman Student Center of the University of Tulsa at 6:30. The dinner is $10 but the speech is free at about 7:45. June 8th, TOHR and TU’s BLGTA will host a Pride see Pride, page 3 MARRIAGE The attack begins at the national level led by Oklahoma Rep. Steve Largent & Sen. Don Nickles. WASHINGTON - Confronted with a flagging presidential campaign and convinced they’ve found a one-sided wedge issue that could embarrass President Clinton’s campaign efforts, Republican lawmakers have introduced. ameasure, titled the"Defense ofMamageAct" (DOMA), that would define marriage as"only a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife." The proposed law Was introduced by Republican Reps. Bob Barr of Georgia and by Steve Largent & by Sen. Don Nickles of Oklahoma. Senate Majority Leader Bob Dole of Kansas, who all but has the GOP’s presidential nomination sewn up, became the first Senate co-sponsor of the measure. During the Iowa primary caucuses, when Republican hopefuls were asked to sign a pledge to fight any effort in Congress to legalize same-sex marriages, Dole said the pledge doesn’t go far enough" and added; "Government at all levels must work to support and promote the institution of marriage that unites husband and wife." Just days before the proposed legislation was introduced in Congress, Dole campaign officials told reporters that the Republican presidential hopeful would be taking action to make same-sex marriages a campaign wedge issue, using Clinton’s outreach to gay and lesbian Americans in an effort to make voters wary of the President’s re-election bid. Clinton campaign officials have acknowledged that the issue is potentially a political landmine during the campaign and said the President "didn’t want to touch it." Even so, when anti-gay activists asked Clinton to sign the anti-marriage pledge, he refused and called it "outrageous." The dicey political question is complicated even further by reports in the current issue of the Advocate, the Los Angeles- based magazine, that claims the Justice Department is considering changing both the IRS tax code and federal immigration regulations to give gay and lesbian couples~the same benefits in these two areas as legally married couples. However, \~qaite House spokeswoman Mary Ellen Glynn told reporters that Clinton doesn’t personally support equal marriage rights for gays and lesbians and that the Administration had no plans to implement the changes reported in the Advocate. Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Human Rights Campaign, called the proposed congressional bill the work of "religiotts political extremists...using this issue as an election year baseball bat to bash gay Americans and score 3"teve Largent Don Nickles Gov. Keating Signs Anti- Marriage Amendment/Bill OKLAHOMA CITY - In a move that surprised Okla. Capitol watchers and a number of state Senators, Senate bill #73, the "Oklahoma Child Visitation Registry Act," passed with an amendment banning the recognition of valid same-gender marriages performed in other states. Only Senators Bernest Cain (D-OKC) and Penny Williams (D-Tulsa) voted against the final bill (42-2). According to Sen. Williams, Sen. Cain spbke with such eloquence against the anti-Gay amendment, that she was moved to vote no as well. Tulsa Sen. Maxine Horuer told TFN that she was not in the Senate at the time of the vote and that the amendment did not represent her position. Earlier, Senator Keith Leftwich, and staffers in Cain’s and Sen. Bernice Shedrick’s offices had stated that they did not think the anti-marriage amendment would remain after the bill returned from conference committee. Senate bill #73 had a correspondingbill that had passed the OK House of Representatives. Gov. Frank Keating promptly signed the bill. When asked about what efforts he or his staff had made to contact Oklahoma’s Lesbian and Gay. community about this bill, the Governor’s press spokesperson, Dan Mahoney stated that no effort was necessary since "it would not have made any difference [to the Governor]." Mnhoney released the following statement: "~,Vhat people do in their private lives ~s none of my business, that is a personal decision. But I don’t feel the state of Oklahoma should bein the business of sanctionpolitical points." Rep. Pat Schroeder (D-Colo.) was one of the few lawmakers to criticize the measure, saying it was meaningless political maneuvering because it would take an amendment limiting the "full faith and credit clause" of the U.S. Constitution to actually bar same-sex marriages at the federal level. "This is nothing but just to stir the political ¯" waters and see how much hate you can unleash," she added. Interfaith / -iDS Ministrie ¯ Seeks Missing Benefit $ ~ Last October, a local bar, Barraccuda’s, contacted Inter- ,¯ faith AIDS Ministries (L~M) with an offer to do a benefit honoring World AIDS Day in December and benefiting ¯ IAM. Months later, IAM has not seen a dime of the dollars ¯ raised at the event, despite efforts by director, Diane Zike. ¯ Several board members attended the fundraiser noting ¯ that the bar charged a $3 cover & had tip jars for donations. At the end of the evemn~,, IAM s treasurer was told they’d ¯ raised $250. Director Zike says that she’d called repeatedly for bar ing same sex marriages. I supported SB 73, as did every member of the t!ouse of Representatives and all but two members of the State Senate." TFN asked about remarks attributed to the Governor that he had said the State Republican Party platform (see below) represented "mainstream Oklahoma." see Gov., page 3 Excerpts from the OK Republican state Platform Page 3, ADOPTION Plank 4: We demand that children not be adopted by homosexuals. Page 6, HIV/AIDS Plank 1: Since HIV is a virus that results in AIDS and certain death, we call upon local, state, and federal governments to deal with thedeadly disease of AIDS in the same manner as other dangerous communicable diseases, i.e. (a) expand universal testing and truth in reporting, which includes full disclosure about the ori- ¯ owner, Sue, "known as Barraccuda. No calls had been ¯ returned by March 26 when IAM drafted a letter requesting ¯ a response. To date, IAM still has not received a response ¯¯ .from the bar. WhenTFN called, bar staffer, Sheila, referred all questions back to Sue. ¯ Zike adds, "IAM actedingoodfaith, advertising the event ¯ and participating [in it]. How can we follow through with : our commitments if those who offer to assist us...do not ¯ follow through themselves...it is not just Interfaith AIDS ¯ Ministries that is being hurt, but more importantly those ¯ living with HIV/AIDS that IAM serves." see Platform, page 7 EDITORIAL/LETTERS/DIRECTORY P. 2 NEWS BRIEFS P. 4 HEALTH BRIEFS P. 6 CALENDAR P. 9 OUT + ABOUT WITH JD P. 9 EUREKA SPRINGS + P. 11 BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT P. 12 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 13 918.583.1248 POB 4140 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74159-0140 TulsaNews@ aol.com Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal Assistant Editor, James Christjohn Writers/contributors, Phyl Boler-Schmidt Barry Hensley Jean-Pierre Leanne Gross & Pat Morehead Staff Photographer, JD Jamett Issued on or before the 15th of each month, the entire contents of this publication are protected by US copyright 1996 by Tulsa Family News and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence should be sent to the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Patricia Nell Warren ¯ A few days American with ahgeor, oownne aDrgiaunmeePntartkheart whoromteosetoxutahleityJoiug rnnaolt ~ feovoelnamloant aogfepteoopfoleo,l ionudru.ocwtinngmtohtehewrsi~shfFuolrtahitniikneer,s.wSeoemveenoffouosl now ourselves. But it is still conformity. It is not change. genetic. She believes that the "reformed homosexuals" visible in certain videos, programs and organizations is compelling proof that homosexuals can really change. I am always amazed at the power of wishful thinking m people like Parker. Their whole position is based on a fierce belief in this alleged capacity of homosexuals to "change." The videos, nroorams, etc. represent a 2000- vear effort by Chrislaamty to wish away the ~xistential fact of homosexuality, whatever its root cause. The fact is: in repressive umes, homosexuals do not change. They conform. Gay people disagree about many things, but this is one area where we agree -- because so Aetlng strM~ht when you know you re gay ¯ ¯ as not chang . It as not a rnor~al act. It {s not re[orm. It {s not heal{n . It ~s a ll~n~ death. many of. us have lived face-to-face with our own "is-ness’" through long decades of pretense. I, for one, did a terrific job of conforming to the heterosexual canon, as a wife for 16 years. I even tried both Protestantism and.,,_Catholicism in a desperate effort to transmogrify my conformity into change. But it didn’t work. The conformity goes so deep that it can masquerade brilliantly as change. Unlike leopards, homosexu~is can make their spots look like tiger stripes. The penalties for being fingered as gay -- loss of family and job, assault and battery, long prison sentences, incarceration in mental hospitals, to n~u,ne a few - Acting straight when you know you’re gay is not change. It is not a moral act. It is not reform. It is not healing. It is a living death. In the Sixties, a whole generation of youth rose up against all kinds of forced conformity in American society, and their protest embraced this deadly conformity demanded of gay people. Yet today the wishful thinkers among us are trying to engineer the re-imposition of their wishes. They demand it in the name of "saving marriage." What they want, in many marriages, adds up to shapestfifting Of the spookiest kind. It adds up to acting performances that will never get an Os- : car. Those who settle for our conformity get it at an appalling cost to themselves. The wishful thinkers lose their power to see what : is real. They canlook into the eyes of a homosexual who is living ~ in deep cover, and utterly fail to See that person’s true spirit. Even ¯ in the eyes of their own children, parents, closest friends, the " wishful thinkers see only what they choose to see. Heaven help ¯ the American marriage if it is"saved" by people who can’ t tell the ¯ difference between conformity and change. ,, Patricia Nell Warren is the author of"The Front Runner and ¯ other bestsellers about gay life. Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine ,Concessions,.33"40 s. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan .Renegades, Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 832-1269 744-0896 749-1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, &. Professionals Dennis C. 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Ourelected r p- ¯ resentatives" Steve Largent, Don Nickles ¯ and Jim Inhofe again shame our s~te with ¯ their attacks on their own constttuents, specifically with the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). The motives for ¯ thesemen surely rangefrom genuineideo- ¯ logical positions to the basest political .... maneuvering...There is little- doubt that ¯ each holds "Christian" beliefs which they ¯ feel justify discrimination. ~ We can only respond that it is .a betrayal ¯ of the most fundamental American con- . stitutional values to abuse their position to ’" enforce private prejudices. That is, it is ¯ wrong to use the power of the government ¯ to promote or allow to continde system- " atic bias against minority citizens, no ¯ matter if the majority despises that minor- ¯ ity mad no matter if the group is minority ¯ by birth (race or ethnicity) or by choice, ¯ (religion or political view) or by a combi- ¯ nation (as seems to be the case with sexual ¯ orientation). Many Americans havebeen, ¯ and are, racist and anti-Semitic, and yet ¯ politicians realize it is no longer accept- " able to pander overtl.y to these views. ¯ However, election-year politics are strongly implicated in this effort. DC insiders suggest that DOMA is a much a vehicle to divide and inflame the American electorate, to weaken Bill Clinton and to insure that Dole can nominate the next 20 years of Supreme Court judges. So what are our alternatives inTulsa when our elected "representatives" don’t even bother to go through the motions of ¯ consulting the communities that are ¯ harmed by their actions? ¯ The answer’s not glamorous or easy. ¯ Despite all odds, we must continue to °. organize ourselves politically. We must ¯ put the same sorts of energies that we’ve see Attack, page 3 Tulsa, Oklahoma sure feels like ground What a great honor itis to be chosen as the first Queen of the Month in the Out & About column of your newspaper. What a wonderful way to spotlight Tulsa’s diverse and talented group of entertainers. As a general rule, our society has a poor ] opinion of Drag Queens and it is my hope that your column will help dispense these thoughts. For your readers that are not aware, each of the entertainers that I regularly do shows with are also involved in the many benefits that occur around town. The beneficiaries include such great causes as Our ~ House, A .Friend for a Friend, Shanti ¯ Coftdom Fund and public service posters that are placed through out our community. ¯ In addition to being tons of fun (no pun ¯ intended to my size), Tulsa has a diverse : group of entertainers that not only make "- you smile, but further love and kindness ¯ within Our community. Thank you again. ¯ Much love, Kathryn Conover PS, in my entire life, I can’t once remember that I begged for anything. Could JD have been thinking of someone else and intended the very first Queen of the Month to go to another Entertainer? Oh dear, I certainly hope not. In particular, TFN asked if the Governor RIBBON ALL TICKET PR.O,CEED5 TO BES£,FIT TICKETS: HOUSE" $8.0,0B"~EA..[.H..E.R~<, $12.50 ON ICE SEATISL:3 TIC’KET8 A% AL.IABLE TULSA ICE ARENA RE1Nq GADE8 { 17rf’H really felt calling,fora quarantine ofpeople living with AIDS, or preventing Lesbian and Gay men from being teachers represented the values of most Oklahomans. Mahoney responded that he could not speak for the Governor in the particulars but that the Governor supported the platformin general. WhenaskedifTFN could ask the Governor aboUt specific platform items, Mahoney said Keating would not be available for any questions. Prom (alcohol-free) also at the Chapman Ctr. at 8 pm. The Picnic, themed Tulsa United in Pride, will be held in Owen Park on Sat. June 15, from 12 - 5 pm. Anumber of community organizations, businesses and individuals are working on this event. As usual, refreshments are free and a range of food will be available for a modest donation. Owen Park has tennis courts and a sand volleyball court, as well as better parking and more shade than the old Mohawk site. On Sunday, June 23, Oklahomans from all over the state will gather at Memorial Park, NW 35th & Classen in Oklahoma City about 1:30 for the statewide Pride Rally. The Rally will feature Advocate 1992 Woman of the Year, Donna Red Wing. The statewide Pride Parade kicks off from the park and ends up at the NW 39th St. community business district. put into fighting the scourge ofAIDS into fighting political prejudice. Locally, TOHR is doing a voter inform and registration project, call 743-4297 and leave a message for Tony. Oklahoma City folks have created a political action committee, Cimarron Alliance which has funneled significant funds into OKC city council races and to Democratic state senators. Some in Tulsa are discussing similar efforts, here. Also, just call Nickles (581- 7651, the local office can transfer you to DC, fax 202-9~24-6008), Inhofe (748-5111, 202-224-4721, fax 202-228-0380) and I_argent (749-0014, 202-225-2211, fax 202-225-9187). Even if you don’t want to get married anytime soon, tell them you support equal marriage rights, that you oppose DOMA, and that you don’t appremate the scapegoating of Oklahoma’s Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual citizens. Dan DuVall / Owner Anti-Marriage ¯ Efforts Around US ¯ AUGUSTA, Maine - With state legisla- ¯ tures around the country heading into ¯ recesses for the summer, the anti-mar- : riage bandwagon did little more than ¯ bumble along. While Hawaii lawmakers couldn’t muster enough votes to pass an ¯ anti-gay mamage ban there before the ¯ legislature recessed for the current ses- ¯ sion, an Alabama state Senate committee : approved by an 8-1 vote a bill that would ¯ bar recognizing same-sex marriages in ¯ the state, dropping a $1,000 fine for clergy ¯. performing such unions that had been ¯ included in the original measure. The Alaska legislature took a double : swing at same-sex relationships, passing ¯ one measure that would limit domestic ¯" partnership benefits in the state educa- ¯ tional system and sending it to Gov. Tony ¯ Knowles. At the same time thelawmakers ¯ began debate on a ban on same-sex mar- . riages in the state, a proposal that is ex- ¯ pected to easily pass. Kansas lawmakers, ¯ meanwhile, approved an anti-mamage bill and sent it to the governor for his signa- ¯ ture. ¯ In Maine, the anti-gay group Concerned Maine Families has filed papers with the "¯ secretary of state’s office to get approval ¯ to collect signatures for a ballot measure - ¯ that would restrict marriages in the state ¯ to those between male-female couples ¯ only. If the signature~gathering is ap- ¯ proved, the group would have to collect ¯ some 51,000 valid signatures to put the ¯ measure before ~oters- either in 1997 or ¯ 1998. ¯ Georgia Gov. Zell Miller has si~ned a ¯ bill that bars same-sex mamages ~n the ¯¯ state, joining South Dakota, Utah and Idaho as the 4th state to prohibit gay and ¯ lesbian marriages in anticipation that such ¯ weddings will become legal soon in Ha- . waii. The South Carolinalegislature gave ~ its final.OK to a measure outlawing same- ." sex marriages in the state and sent the ¯ legislation to Gov. David Beaseley, who has already indicated he supports the pro- : hibition. The measure would prevent the ¯ state from recognizing any marriage be- . tween people of the same sex that was performed in another state. In Arizona, Gov. Fife Symington signed the state legislature’s 3rd attempt to enact aban on same-sex marriages, making it the 6th state so far to legally refuse recognition for such unions, even if performed legally elsewhere. At the same time, however, by a 34-23 vote, the state House of Representatives passed legislation authorizing tougher sentences for criminals who victimize people based on race, religion, gender or sexual orientation. A similar proposal last year died when Republican legislative leaders objected to including sexual orientation. Meanwhile, a case strikingly similar to the Hawaii lawsuit has gotten under way in New Zealand, with 3 lesbian couples suing for the right to get marriage licenses that were denied them, according to a report in the Queer News Aotearoa. The women’s attorney is arguing that the country’s civil rights laws protects all citizens from being denied equal treatment. The attorney general’s office, however, has argued that marriage is mainly for procreation and that therefore samesex couples are not eligible to marry. South Africa Protects Gays CAPE TOWN, South Africa -South Africa’s Parliament has overwhdmingly approved by a 421-2 vote the country’s new 150-page Constitution after nearly 2- years of complex negotiations and sometimes acrimonious debate. The nation’s new governing document includes, for the first ti~ne in the world, equal rights protections that include sexual orientation. "United in diversity," begins the preamble to the country’s newly approved Constitution, although at least 2 of the country’s right wing political parties said they would challenge some of the provisions of that diversity in court. In fact, .nearly every major party in South Africa expressed reservations about parts of the new document. Even President Nelson Mandela noted that there are still concems among many ofthe country’s minorities about the guarantees enshrined in the Constitution’s Bill of Rights. "The fact that we have adopted this Constitution does not mean that we are not going to address those concerns," Mandela said. "’We will continue searching for solutions because we want everybody to feel that he or she is part and parcel of our efforts to resolve the problems of South Africa." After a long history of white minority rule and rigidly enforced apartheid, the new Constitutions will bring majority rule to the nation when the next g~neral election in 1999 marks anend to the present transitional government. The Bill of Rights outlaws all discrimination in the country, whether based on sexual orientation, race, religion, gender,-political views, disability and other categories. In a cable to President Mandela about the newly adopted Constitution, the Washington, D.C.,based National Gay & Lesbian Task Force, stated, "The South African people have paved a new road of equality and fairness by outlawing all forms of discmnination in the constitution, including for the first time anywhere in the world, the discrimination against people based on their sexual orientation.’" Fewer than a dozen countries worldwide have national laws outlawing bias based on sexual orientation, and South Africa is the first nation to enshrine such protections in its Constitution. Dutch Get Serious About Marriage TIlE HAGUE, Holland -The Dutch Parliament has approved a measure by 81-60 that calls on the government to appoint a commission to evaluate the legal implications, both nationally and internationally, of extending full mamage rights to gay and lesbian couples in the country. The move is several steps from a radical change, of course, but Dutch gays and lesbians, along with progressive politicians in the country, are increasingly insisting on full, equal rights in What is probably Europe’s most liberal nation. What is perhaps most significant about the measure is that the commission is to consider issues such as adoption, parenting, inheritance, taxes, and spousal citizenship of foreigners - an array of questions that other European nations with same-sex .couples registrations have so far ducked or specifically added restrictions to. But as a measure at least of how serious Dutch politicians are about samesex marriages now, public discussions have even reached the level of Members of Parliament debating .whether Queen Beatrix will give her assent to full marital rights for gays and lesbians in Holland. Canada OKs Anti-Bias Law OTTAWA - Canada’s House of Commons has approved by a 153-76 vote a govenm~ent-backed measure that would add sexual orientation to the country’s Charter of Human Rights and legally outlaw discrimination based on sexual orientation in Canada’s regulated public sector workforce, which makes up 10% to 15% of the nation’s labor force. All of the nation’s provinces except Newfoundland, Prince Edward Island and Alberta already have similar anti-bias laws, and the Canadian government has been promising to introduce federal legislation for 2 decades, so passage of the measure wasn’t much in doubt.. Even so, the bill created enormous political turmoil in the country. When 2 MPs in the conservative Reform Party spoke out against the measure by saying it was acceptable for businesses to discriminate against homosexuals and other minorities, the party’s Parliament leader, Preston Manning, expelled them from the party caucus, saying "It is not all right for employers to fire any employee simply because an intolerant customer complaints about their color or lifestyle." Even the ruling Liberal Party showed signs of the tension the measure had brought to Canadian politics. And outside the Parlimnent building, Justice Minister Allan Rock, who formally introduced the legislation in behalf of the government, was greeted by p,rotesters who called him "Alice Rock" and mocked Prime Minister Jearl Chritien as "’Jeanne :. Chritien." The legislation now goes to the ~ upper house of Parliament, the Senate, ¯ where it is also expected to pass by a : comfortable margin. The measure also requires the royal assent of Canada’ s governor- general, which is litde more than a political, formality. Only 6 nations- Norway, Sweden, Holland, Slovenia, Israel and South Africa -have enacted federal legislation prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation. Bosnian War Crimes Nightmare TIlEHAGUE2 Almost ignored by mainstream news media, the War Crimes Tribunal at The Hague has received detailed evidence of atrocities conunitted during the 4-year-long Bosnian civil war cente.ring on reports of male rape as a war tactic and as a method of intilnidating and controlling prisoners. According to doc~unents supplied to the Tribunal by Dr. Mladen Loncar of the Medical Center for Human Rights in Zagreb, at least 4,000 Croatian men were victims of these rapes and sexual assaults - and Loncar says his figures are conservative estimates of Croats alone. At the height of the complex fighting in the Balkans, there were an estimated 80,000 men in intenmmnt camps - Serbs, Croats, Mnslims. Loncar’s medical facility currently sees more than 200 such men who coutinue to live in the general region. Most, Loncar says, have fled to nearby COUlltries as political’refugees - if they survived the attacks at all. Of the patieuts seen at Loncar~ s ~nedical center for severe post-trannmtic distress disorders, most (70 percent) suffered repeated injuries to their genitals. Many of the inert (25 percent) were tortured I~y having objects forced up their rectums. Man)’ prisoners (22 percent) reported they had been forced, under threats of death, to perform fellatio mad other sexual acts with other male prisoners, and about 11 percent had suffered at least partial castration. Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Upheld by Court WASHINGTON - In the continuing war over the constitutionality of the U.S. nfilitary’s "’don’t ask, don’t tell" policy, Lt. Paul Thomasson, a former naval ofricer discharged for revealing that he is gay, has lost an important battle in a federal appeals court decision. The U.S. 4th Circuit Court of Appeals in Virginia upheld the policy bamting openly homosexual women and men from serving in the nation’s maned forces. The case has national significance because it is the first ruling involving the"don’ t ask, don’ t tell" policy to reach the federal appeals level. Alan Moore, Thomasson’s attorney, argued that the military policy of excluding gays and lesbians from the armed services was both unconstitutiolml and unreasonable, considering the young officer’s outstanding record. Moore also took the unusual step of adding First Amendment free-speech claims on top of Fifth and FourteenthAmendment"due process" and "equal protection" arguments that have been more widely used in batding the Pentagon ban in the past. But the appeals court would have none of it and ruled that the president and Congress retain the right to set military policies, and that thejudicial branch should defer to .them. "It was appropriate for Congress to bdieve that a military force should be as free as possible of sexual attachments and pressures as it is prepared to do battle," wrote Judge J. Harvie Wilkonson III in the 9-to-4 majority opinion. The court’s ruling is now applicable throughout the 4th circuit, which includes Vir_,2inia, Maryland West ¥irginia, North CarOlina and South~arolina. Tllomasson and his attorney are now deciding whether to appeal the ruling to the U.S. Supreme Court. MO St. GOP’s Antii Marriage Campaign : ST. LOUIS - In a highly controversial ¯¯ election cmnpalgn tactic that Republican leaders around the country are watching ¯ closely; the head of the Missouri Repub- ¯ lican Party, John Cozad, has launched attacks against Democrats running for state office, accusing them of having financial backing from supporters of samesex marriages. But Republica!~s rumling for office in the state, inclnding many who are seeking election to the state legislature, are grumbling because the attack campaigns are being operated in their races whether they want them or not. And so far in two special election races, the Republicans have lost both campaigns. Not all Republicans running for office in Missouri, however, agree with Cozad on the campaign. Republican Bill Patrick, who lost in the just-finished special decdon in the state’s 6th legisIative district, publicly apologized to his Democratic opponent for thesame-sex marriage campaign launched by the Republicans on his behalf. He called the attack "pretty negative, pretty bad." State GOP strategists in Ohio,, Wisconsin, Oregon and elsewhere, however, say they’re interested in seeing how the same-sex marriage link works as a campaign strategy in Missouri. Helms Ads Attack ¯ Opponents & Gays ¯ RALEIGH, N.C. - Apparently impatient ¯ to get on with the election, Sen. Jesse ¯ Helms (R-NC) has launched a series of ¯ TV ads attacking both the Delnocratic ¯ primary candidates, Harvey Gantt and ¯ Charlie Sanders in a bit of gay-baiting, ; saying both supportdomesticpartner ben- ¯ efits. "Liberal Charlie Sanders supports : racial preferences in hiring, like Harvey ¯ Gantt does, the Hdms ads say. Extend- " ing health insurance to homosexual part- " ners? 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In a press statement, Gantt blasted the Helms TV campaign as "lies and distortions" and said he has never even addressed the issue of health care benefits for the partners of gays and lesbians. British Transsexual Wins Court Case LUXEMBOURG - A Comwall College tutor, identified only as "P" in court records, whowas sackedafterasex-change operation, has won a European Court of Justice battle over the discharge. Thecourt campus ROTC program. The faculty-ap- ¯ proved program would also reimburse ¯ students in ROTC if they shouldlose their ." military scholarships because of their ¯ sexual orientation. ¯ Station Drops Show : That Attacked Gays ¯ AUSTIN, Texas - The Texas Triangle ¯ has reported that officials at KIXL-AM, a ¯ Christian-oriented radio station in Austin, have decided to pull the plug on Wyatt ¯ Roberts’ weekly talk show. Roberts, who is affiliated with the American Family Assn., had called for listeners to boycott ¯ any business that advertised in the gay : newspaper, charging that the Triangle’s ruled that the European Equal Treatment ¯ editorial cartoonist promoted pedophilia, agreement of 1976 prohibits any discrimi- -" incest and bestiality. KIXLofficials would nation based on sex and is not limitedjust to bias based onan individual being ofone gender or the other. The court ruled that the anti-bias provision, which concerns all members of the European Union, should apply "to discrimination arising, as in this case, from the gender reassignment of the person concerned." The ground-breaking decision incensed Euroskeptic Tory MPs in Great Britain and Tory MP Ann Winterton accused the European Court of "meddling" in British legal issues. Anothd~ Tory MP, Elizabeth Peacock, also attacked the court decision. "Ourrules aremadeby Parliament and are sovereign," she said. "They should not be overturned by a European court. Tli~ey should mind their own business." British government officials, said it was unclear if UK law would have to be changed to conform to the court ruling. Some political leaders say the rnling is so sweeping that it in fact may force the government to drop its ban against homosexuals in the nation’s armed forces. MIT Moves on ROTC Bias CAMBRIDGE, Mass. - Faculty members at the Massachusetts Institute ofTechnology voted ovenvhdmingly by a voice vote for the school to negotiate withROTC officials for a "modified program" that would allow students to enroll in the campus military program regardless of their sexual orientation. The move is an effort to keep the ROTC program, which also serves students from Harvard, Tufts and Wellesley, at MIT - along with some $56 million in Pentagon funds - without violating the school’s own anti-bias policies that bar discrimination against gays and lesbians. The proposal endorsed by the faculty concedes that openly gay or lesbian students in ROTC would not be eligible for commissions as long as the Pentagon maintains the ban on homosexuals in the armed forces, but would allow gay and lesbian students to participate in the ." only say that Roberts’ program was being ¯ cancded because of "scheduling conflicts," but Kay Longcope, the Triangle’s ¯ publisher said she believes the ; fundamentalist’s boycott campaign : backfired on him and brought pressure on ¯ the station to yank the program. "I think it -" [the decision to cancel the program] speaks "_ very well for the people of Austin who really do not believe that Christianity is "- based on hate," Longcope said ¯¯ Dole Campaign Ad in DC Gay Paper ¯ WASHINGTON - Senate Majority Leader Bob Dole’s capital campaign or- : ganization has put an ad in the May3 issue : of the WashingtonBladeurgingreaders to ¯ vote for a slate of committed Dole del- ¯ egates. An uncommitted slate, including : seven openly gay Republicans is chal- ¯ lenging the Dole slate, and has already ¯ been endorsed by the District’s local Log ¯ Cabin Club. Many political observers ¯ believe the challenge from the uncommit- ." tedslate prompted theKansas Republican ¯ andpresurned presidentialnominee’s cam- " paagn to put the ad in the paper. The Dole ¯ campaign ad came just days after news ," that Abner Mason, a gay Boston Republi- ." can activist and Log Cabin Club officer, ¯ would be one of Massachusetts’ GOP ¯" delegates to the Republican National Con- ." vention in San Diego later this year. Ma- ¯ son Is a committed Dole delegate. Dole ¯ has had an on-off record with gays during ¯ ¯ his currentpresidential campaign. Earlier this year a $1,000 campaign contribution ¯ from Log Cabin was returned to the groups ¯ PAC organization. Dbleinitially defended ; the returned check, saying he didn’t want ." voters to think he was "buying into some : special rights for any group." But later he ¯ said returning the check had been"a mis- ; take" and blamed his campaign staff for ; the blunder. Even so, Dole agreed during the caucus campaign in Iowa to sign a ¯ Chi’istian.Coalitionpledge opposing samesex mamages. Is Drag Constitutional? FERNDALE, Mich. - The good folks of Ferndale, just outside. Detroit, have become embroiled in a debate over whether some guys putting on dresses to perform in a variety show is constitutionally protected freedom of speech and expression, or if it violates community standards and can therefore be prohibited. The flap has erupted almost a year after the fact, but that liasn’t lowered the heat of the debate over the LavenderMoonCafe’s drag show after Gay Pride celebrations there last year. City Councilman RobertPaczkowski has been leading the opposition, and he said recently that "’a lot of people don’t want that kind of a display right in the middle of our central business district." Paczkowski says Lavender Moon’s entertainment license includes restrictions barfing topless dancing, lingerie shows, and any entertainment that"violates community standards," which he says includes guys dressing up as gals. Town OKs Partner Registration BOULDER, Colo. - About the only positive news recently in the growing battle over same-sex relationships came in the purely symbolic form of a domestic partnership re~stration program approved by the Boulder city council. The registry cames no legal benefits, but allows samesex & opposite-sex couples to legally register their relationship with the city clerk’s office. Proponents said the program could make it easier for registered couples to provide proofof their relationships in seeking work-related benefits. Olympic Games: Utah & Cobb Cty. ATLANTA - The 1996 Summer Olympic Games preliminaries are getting underway with the Saturday, April 27, televised start of the torch that starts in Los Angeles and will be relayed across the counto’ to Atlanta where it will light the official Olympicflame for the games there on July 19 - although not quite the way US Olympic officials expected. Tobegin with, officials at the Los Angeles Coliseum, where the torch relay begins, have been complai~ting that they’re had trouble find fig [eaves big enough to cover up the genitals on 2 statues of nude athletes outside the stadium. The cover-up order came from the Atlanta Committeefor the Olympic Ganges, which said they were concerned that some viewers of the nationally televised ceremony might be offended by the nudity. ButACOGalso has announced that the torch relay would not go through Cobb County outside Atlanta because county commissioners have refused to repeal a 1993 measure that condemns"the homosexual lifestyle." That resolution was also responsible for ACOG’s decision, under pressure from acuvists and rights advocates, to pull scheduled Olympicpreliminaries from facilities in the county. Olympic officials, however, said the passage of a measure ~n Utah barring gay dubs at public schools would not make them reroute the torch around the state. Utah Lawmakers Ban Gay Clubs SALT LAKE CITY - Called into special session, the Utah state legislature spent a nasty day enacting a measure that would bar gay and lesbian student groups from public schools in the state, a measure that Gov. Mike Leavitt has already indicated ’he would sign into law and for which he called the special session. The state’s ACLU has already vowed that if the measure is signed into law, as it’s sure to be, it will sue to overturn it. "Not only does it violate the rights of lesbian, gay and straight students," said Carol Gnade of the American Civil Liberties Union in Utah, "but also everyone associated with a Utah high school, including teachers, administrators and volunteers." Under the lawjust approved by the legislature, school boards will have the authority to restrict or bar any campus club, but in addition, the measure also forces public school officials to ban any that are centered around bigotry, criminal activity or human sexuality. Gov. Mike Leavitt and the measure’s sponsor, Sen. Craig Taylor, insisted that the new law takes back control of campus clubs by allowing school boards to prohibit specific dubs. The Utah attorney general has already indicated that barfing campus clubs that are "controversial" is illegal under the 1984 federal Equal Access Act. Forget Nature-vs- Nurture; It’s Bingo! MILWAUKEE - A judge has tossed out a civil lawsuit filed by 73-year-old Mary Verdev against a local church, claiming she began having spontaneous orgasms and became sexually attracted to other women after an electronic bingo board fell on her 6 years ago. Verdev’s suit was dismissed "’with prejudice" (meaning she can’t refile the claim) because she refused to be examine by psychologists. Verdev said in her suit that she suffered nearly $90,000 in injuries when the 300-pound bingo board fell from a stage at the church during a bingo night she was attending in 1990. Her suit claimed the accident led to her unusual sexual responses. APERMANENT SOLUTION Permanent Hair Removal Carol Anwar, RE, CPE Lic. By Okla, St, Med, Bd. 488-0786 Near 71st & Lewis, Call for info. or an-appt, with free consultation. P IAlrERSON REALTORS" LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: ~71-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ¯ Suite 170 . 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The issue of mandatory testing of infants has been problematic for many because it necessarily amounts to a virtual inandatory testing of the mother as well. Critics of the provision say ~t may discourage pregnant women from seeking prenatal care altogether. President Clinton has indicated he supports the bill and will sign it into law quickly. Early-Stage Hiding PlaceOf HIV ? NEW YORK - Reporting in tli’e’medical journal Science, researchers say they be~ lieve the mucous’membranes in the throat may be the locatirn where HIV replicates in hiding after individuals are infected with the virus but still show no out,yard signs of the infection. The researchers, led by Ralph Steirmaan of Rockefeller University, said they made the discovery after examining enlarged adenoids removed from 13 patients and found large mnounts of the virus replicating in the glands’ dendritic cells, the inm~une cells found in the membranes. Eleven of the 13 i;ffected people were una~vare at the time tb.at they were l=IIV-positive. New PCR Test for HIV Is Less Reliable CHICAGO - Stanford University researchers report in the Annals oflnternal Medicine that the new polymerase chain reaction (PCR) AIDS test, which is based on the presence of elements ofDNA from HIV in the body, is less reliable than older tests that rely on the presence of antibodies to the virus. The researchers found that even with the daborate precautions requiredin PCR testing, the results return 5 umes as many false results as the more widely used antibody testing methods. PCR testing is also significantly more expensive and costs between $150 and $200, compared to standard antibody tests, which range in price from $5 to $50. The advantage of the PCR test is that it can be administered earlier: to newborns because other tests rely on the formation of antibodies to the"virus, which often don’t show up for 6 months following infection. KS Virus May Be Common in All Men BOSTON - A report in the New England Journal ofMedicine says the virus that is believed responsible for Kaposi’s sarcoma, a rare cancer that strikes many AIDS patients, is found in the sexual ¯ organs ofmostmen. Researchers with the ¯¯ Institute of Microbiology at the University of Ferrara in Italy report they found ¯ the KS-related virus, known as KSHV, in 30 of 33 semen samples of health Italian ¯" men - a 91% infection rate. The scientists ¯ also say they found the virusin the urinary ¯ tracts, in the prostates, and other areas of ¯ the genital organs of other health men as ¯ well. The scientists say they believe indi- ¯ viduals with healthy immune systems can ." live with the virus present in their bodies ¯ without any.apparent problems, but that ¯ when the immune system is weakened, as ¯ it is when infected with HIV, the KS virus ¯ appears to become active. Drug Combo Looks Effective \VASHINGTON - A 73-week study by drug manufacturer Hoffman-La Roche of some 978 AIDS patients has shown that Invirase, the brand name for the firm’s version of the protease inhibitor saquinavir, in combination with the drug ddC, reduced the rate of deaths by more than two-thirds compared to patients taking ddC alone. Saqtunavir has been considered the least impressive of the new protease inhibitors, but the new findings, which have not yet been published, have prompted the drug manufacturer to ask the Food & Drug Administration to allow the new information to be added to the drug’s label. "HIV Cell Infection i Agent- Isolated WASHINGTON-Governmentscientists report they ha~[.e discovered a chemical ¯ clue to why HIV is infectious. Reporting ¯ in the journal Science, researchers at the Nadonal Institute of Allergy and Infections Diseases say they have found a pro- . tein, which they call "fusin," that must be ¯ present for HIV to infect white blood cells,.the primary target of the virus. Edward A. Berger, who headed the team that made the discovery, said the discovery gives scientists a "new handle on under- ; standing" how HIV invades cells. "Obvi- ] onsly this is a potential target for develop- . mg new drugs to treat HIV infection," Berger said. "Potentially by coming up ¯ with a drug that blocks the receptor, you : might block the .ability of HIV to repli- ¯ cate." The researchers cautioned, how- " ever, that there were still~ many mysteries ¯ about the virfis that need to be answered. ¯ Among other things, they noted that HIV ¯ attaches itself to some types Of immune ¯ cells in the early stages of the infection ~ without using fusin. This means HIV ¯ comes in variations that connect to CD4 cells and some other molecular cofactor ¯ or cofactors on these cells. Berger said ¯ that potential, drugs that block, the fusin receptor on cells could only do part of the job in combating HIV. Increase in HIV After Tetanus Shots ¯ BOSTON - Researchers with the Na- ¯ tional Institute of Allergy & Infectious ¯ Diseases have reported in the New En- ~ gland Journal of Medicine that tetanus ¯ shots can cause a dramadc ~ncrease in the reproduction of HIV in the body. After ¯ g~ving tetanus shots to people infected ; with HIV, the researchers found they had a 2- to 36-fold increase in HIV levels. The scientists also found that ~ blood samples from uninfected individu- SCOTT ROBISON’S PRESCRIPTIONS Serving Tulsan’s Since 1947 Major credit cards In-store charges or Direct insurance billing for your convenience! 3 locationsto serve you: Hillcrest Physician’s Building 1145 So. 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HemoCleanse’s treatment, similar to kidney dialysis, involves slowly drawing all a patient’s blood from his body in small quantifies and heating it to 108 degrees Fahrenheit before infusing it back into his body. The idea behind the treatment is that HIV is sensitive to even small increases in temperature and would be destroyed in massive quantities by the treatment. Sixty patients will be divided into 2 groups during the trials. One group will receive 2 treatments each - the first for 1 hour, and the 2nd fo~ 2 hours. The other group will serve as a control group and will not receive the heat treatment, but will remain on standard HIV drug therapy. HIV & Gene Therapy " Research BOSTON" - Researchers report in the journal Science that use of a genetically benign version of HIV may be the key to an importantbreakthrough in gene therapy treatment, serving as the carrier system or "vector" to deliver therapeutic genes to target cells in the human body. Researchers with the Salk Institute in San Diego and the Whitehead Institute in Cambridge, Mass., have reported that they successfully used the HIV vector to inject therapeutic genes in the cells of live rats in laboratory experiments, ff the use of the HIV vector proves as successful inhuman gene therapy, the researchers say it could be a potentially important treatment for such genetic disorders as cystic fibrosis, muscular dystrophy and Alzheimer’s dis- Genetically Altered AIDS Vaccine Fails BE!’HESDA, Md. - Government officials say a 5-year study of the genetically engineered AIDS vaccine, gpl60, has shown the prevention effort is not effective in halting the progress of the disease in people. The study, one of the first of its kind, used the Microgenesys experimental vaccine and was a joint venture between the Walter Reed Army Institute of Research and the National Institute of Allergy & Infectious Disease in conjunction with private medical facilities. With some 600 military and civilian volunteers, the study showed no improvement in their ability to fend off the infection. gin, transmission and statistics of infection for each community, and (b) quarantine those known to be infected and practicing high-risk behavior. Page 7-8, SEXUAL PERVERSION Plank 1-3~ Homosexuality is not an alternate lifestyle, a genetic abnormality or a civil rights matter, but is instead a consciou~ individual choice of an abominal sin practice. Such behavior has been a major factor in the demise of societies from Sodom and Gomorra to the Empires of Ottoman, Greece and Rome. Homosexlaal behavior is the principle cause of the spread of AIDS in America. We, therefore, condemn not the person but the practice of homosexual behavior, and oppose the ominous political powers being given homosexuals in the United States. We believe that the practice of homosexuality is an abomination before God and a perversion of the natural law and is indicative of severe diseases. We believe that legislation condoning homosexuality would confer public acceptability of this activity and would lead inexorably to the destruction of our nation. Plank 4-6: We believe that homosexuals, sodomites, and other sexually perverse people shonl~i not be entitled to special or extraordinarY rights. We affirm that homosexual behavior is not a constitutionally protected right and that homosexuals area behavi~al group not deserving of special protection under the law. Because homosexuals are not deserving of minority status, we oppose all "’Gay Rights" legislation. We urge that federal and state funding we withheld from all states and or municipalities that enact homosexual "fights" legislation. Plank 8+9: We support the retention and enforcement ofsodomy laws in Oklahoma. We urge vigorous arrest and pros- .ecufion of all those violating laws regardxng the promotion of homosexual behavior. Plank 17+18: Toprotect family values, we urge that those promotiug an alternative lifestyle by restricted from positions of influence of minor children. \Ve do not recognize homosexuality as a normal lifestyle, therefore we oppose any mandated education curriculum or special rights based on affirmative action for ho~ mosexuals. Plank 20+21: We strongly oppose permitring homosexuals to teach in the public school systems. We oppose the hiring of homosexual teachers, administrators, or counselors. Hank 22-24: We oppose the establishment of homosexual dubs in schools. We hold that portraying the homosexual lifestyle in any positive manner in our schools is heresy. Weoppose the National Education Association’s efforts to promote the homosexual agenda in our nation’s schools. Plank 27-29: We submit that legally recognized marriages to be limited to a traditional monogamous heterosexual relationship, with only these mamages allowed current tax and legal benefits. We oppose same-sex marriages. We support federal and state legislation prohibiting legal recognition ofsame sex "marriages" in the event such unions are made legal by another state. Hank- 30: We believe that the federal government should alterappointments and employment practices that would place homosexuals in sensitive and responsible positions. benefiting Tulsa Area AIDSAgencies June 21&221996 Warren Place Doubletree Hotel Dinner, Cash Bar and Performance TICKETS ON SALE AT ALL CARSON ATTRACTIONS OUTLETS OR BY PHONE: 584-2000 550 N. Memorial Kacie Gordon pager: 672-8905 Joni Ledbetter pager 670-5664 Any Sale - 2% over invoice with ad. Sunday Services 11:00 am ¯ Wednesday Services 6:30 pm, 7:30 pm Choir Practice ¯ Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group I To do justice, love mercy & to walk humbly zoith our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South Mingo Tulsa, OK 74146 . (918) 622-1441 ’96 Pride Picnic JUNE 15 Noon - 5:00 prn Opening Ceremony, lpm ¯¯ Blessing by the Rev. Leslie Penrose ¯ Welcome by TOHR president Debbie Starnes ¯ Performances by local entertainers, including Miss Gay Tulsa & Miss Tulsa USofA, and Tulsa Family Chorale! Throughout the afternoon, ¯ DJ will provide music throughout the day ¯ Booths with vendors, community organization info., crafts, etc. ¯ Food for modest cost ¯ Free beverage.s ¯ Volleyball & tennis court available ¯ Kids’ playground ¯ Security provided all day ¯ Closing ceremony, with benediction by RF Renfro & Freedom Balloon Extravaganza! If you want to have a "booth," call Tom at 583-1248 before June 1st. Be a part of the Pride Picnic! - To volunteer, call 743-4297. Edison St. ~ To Sand Springs, 1-412 Directions: From Tulsa, take Keystone Expressway West towards Sand Springs. Exit Gilcrease Rd. turn right (North) on Gilcrease Road to Edison St. and turn right (East) on Edison, go about 1/2 mile. Owen Park is on the right. Parking is on the Southeast corner of the park, near Roosevelt School. 1-244 (DowTunlstoawn) 7 LSA FAMI.LY NEWS COMMUNITY CALE R SUNDAYS Agape’ Christian Fellowship Service, 10:30 am & 7 pm Sheridan Center, Suite H 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 Bless the Lord At All .Times Christian Center Sunday School, 9:45 am Worship Service, 11 am 262To East 1 lth 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist) Worship Service, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Family of Faith Metro. Comm. Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Worship Service, 11 am 545 I-E South Mingo. Info: 622-1441 Metro. Comm. Church of Greater Tulsa Worship Service, 10:45am 1623 N. Maplewood Info: 838-1715 Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa 6:30 pm at Canterbury 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 MONDAYS TUESDAYS HIV Testing HIV+ Support Group TOHR Clinic ¯ HIV Resource Consortium Free & anonymous testing " 1:30 pm using fingerstick method. ¯ 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 No appointment required. " Info~ Wanda @ 749-4194 Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm : Results hours: 7-9 pm ¯ Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. Info: 742-2927 Lambda Bowling League Sheridan Lanes 8:45 pm 3121 S. Sheridan PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group 2nd Monday of month, 6:30 pm 4154 S, Harvard Info: 749-4901 OTHER GROUPS TOHR Helpline Daily 8-10 pm For info. or to volunteer: 743:GAYS The Technicians, Leather org., Info c/o 621-5597 T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Assoc. Info: 838-1222 ¯ HIV/AIDS:Support Group & ¯ Friends & Family ¯¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group 7 pro, call for location: 749-7898 Grief Group Butler/Stumpff ¯ Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282 $4, Sand Springs Skate ¯ WEDNESDAYS ¯ Agape’ Christian : Fellowship ¯ Service, 7 pm ¯ Sheridan Center, Suite H ¯ 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study 7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth Call 583-7815 for info. Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Practice 7:30 pm 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info. Community of Hope (United Methodist) Service for Peace, 6:30 pm Bible Study, 7 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 TNAAPP Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention ProJect Support group for Gay & Bi Native Ameri&m Men, 6 pm at Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd 582-7225 or 584-4983 ¯ THURSDAYS 16-Step Empowerment Group For Women : Community of Hope ¯ 1703 E.2nd, Info: 585-1800 " Co-Dependency ¯ Support Group : 7;30; Family of Faith MCC : 5451-ES. Mingo, 622-1441 HIVTestingTOHRClinic i Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm. Results hours: 7 - 9 pm Info: 742-2927 Tulsa Family Chorale Weekly practice, 9:30 pm Lola’s 2630 E. 15th PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group Ist & 3rd Thursdays 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901 Alternatives Weekly social events for LGBT men & women, 7 pm Info: 646-5503 ¯ Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIViAIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G 3-4:30 pm, hffo: 749-4194 ¯ SATURDAYS ¯¯ St. Jerome’s Ecumenical Catholic Church ¯" Mass, 6 pm Garden Chapel ¯ 3841 S. Peoria ¯ Info: Father Rick ¯ at 742-7122 Narcotics Anonymous Meets weekly at 11 pm Confidential support for recovering addicts. Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each month Info: 748-3111 OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Student Association TJC Southeast Campus, Info:-631-7632 SWAN-Sip~gle Women’s Activ@ Network Call 832-2121 MAY 17-19 Herland Sister Resources Retreat Roman Nose State Park Registration deadline: 5/15 Info: 2312 NW 39th, OKC 73112 HIVIAIDS & SpiritualitylWholeness Retreatfor Women, Info: 488-9215 SATURDAY, MAY 18 Pride Picnic Benefit, Lola’s 2630 E. 15th, 749-1563 SUNDAY, MAY 19 Interfaith AIDS Minitries 13th InternationalAIDS Candlelight Memorial & Mobilization 3 pro, St. Peter’s Episcopal, 9100 E. 21St Info: 438-2437 SATURDAY, JUNE 1 Ecumenical Pride Worship Service 6 pm, St. Jerome’s hosting at The Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria Info: Father Rick, page 646-7116 SUNDAY, JUNE 2 Pride Picnic Benefit - The Tool Box 1338 E. 3rd, 584-1308 TUESDAY, JUNE 4 TOHR, PFLAG & Rainbow Business Guild present Cece Cox, pres. ofthe Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance 7 pm, Chouteau Ran, Chapman Ctr, TU, Dinner: $10, Speech: free,Info: 743-4297 FRIDAY, JUNE 7 Safe Haven Lake Cookout. Social gatheringfor young adults, 18-30 8 pm, Family of Faith MCC 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441 Pride Picnic Benefit - The Silver Star 1565 S. Sheridan, 834-4234 SATURDAY, JUNE 8 TOHR Citywide Pride Prom All ages, alcohol-free dance 8 pm, Alan Chapman Activity Cti. TU, Dignity/Integrity Meeting Lesbian/Gay Catholics & Episcopalians 5 pm, St. Dunstan’s Episcopal Church 5635 E. 71st, Info: POB 701044, 74170 SUNDAY, JUNE 9 Pride Picnic Benefit, Concession~ 3340 S. Peoria, 744-0896 MONDAY, JUNE 10 PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group, 6:30 pm Social and Refreshments. 7 pm General Meeting, 7:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Info: 749-4901 SATURDAY, JUNE 15 Tulsa Pride Picnic Noon - 5pm. Owen Park 560 No. Maybelle, Info: 583-1248 SUNDAY, JUNE 16 Family ofFaithMCCFather’s Day Service With Father Rick Hollingsworth 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441 JUNE 21 a 22 Follies Revue, Inc. Follies ’96 Salutes the Movies! 6 pm, Doubletree Hotel, Warren PlaCe $125 & $40, Info: 437-0201 SUNDAY, JUNE 23 Statewide Pride Rally & Parade Speaker: Donna Red Wing ’92 Advocate Woman ofthe Year 1:30 pro, Memorial Park, NW 35th & Classen Blvd. Oklahoma City Info: 743-4297 or 405-791-0202 OUT + ABOUT by J.D. Jamett What can I say, this last month truly did have its showers and flowers. The turnabout show at the Silver Star was a rose. that never smelled more sweeter, & the staff truly did surprise themselves when they let their less masculine sides show. On the other hand, the Miss Gay Tulsa America at the Performing Arts Center got rained on- no fault of the orgamzers or performers. The technical staff at the P.A.C. constantly missed lighting and sound cues - whathappened? Our sympathies to the entertainers and organizers. This next month holds alot offun things todo starting with Renegades" annual GayFest (May 17- 19) which features Dark Shadows (drag in broad daylight!) and other fun things tO do all outside. That same weekend, you may venture back inside on May 17 for a live performance by Abigail at Concessions that should very entertaining then May 23, the Red Ribbon Ice Revue call 254-7272 for more details. In June, don’t forget Miss Northeastern Oklahoma USofA at The Silver Star (June 23). Pride Picnic Update Show your pride in the community and help make this year’s Pride Picnic the best Kelly Green, Miss Gay Tulsa America runners-up, JJ Gentry & Sugarbaker ever by seeing any or all of the following benefit shows: Lola’s on May 18th, the Toolbox hosted by Sensuous on May26th and the Silver Star on June 7th. This month I’m proud to feature, not an establishment, but a community within our .community, Community of Hope. It’s not just a church, but a place where you feel like a person, notjust a number.Leslie Penrose is the pastor.She’is one of these rare people you are truly proud to call a friend. This church has a lot tO offer, for ex, ample, chances to work in the commu- .nity through programs like their RAIN team training, feeding the homeless, meals on .wheels, small symposiums on a variety of different subjects, and social events such as small dinner groups and movie nights. I’ll say it a again- it’s not justachurch butacommunity! Services are very convenient on Sunday evening at 6pm at 1703 East 2nd Street. Giveit achance, Monique Foster, the new Miss Silver Star you may just like it. & Bobbi Sue Summers OK, OK, boy, did I ¯ open up a big make-up ¯ case with the Queen of the Month (see ¯ letter to the editor). Sorry Katherine, but : licking may face does constitute begging. ¯ Well, this month’s Queen of the Month is ¯ constandyhelpingpeople- doingbenefits ¯ &helping as aresearchnurse on HIV drug : studies.That’s right, Danny (TeraTaneal), ¯ youareMay’sQueenoftheMonth.Thanks : for all your hard work! Till then, see ya out + about. Fina y....Unity Gardens A final resting place in peace, unity and pride... located in Washington Memorial Gardens Cemetery 4300 E. 91st Street South On 91st Street between Yale & Harvard. Unity Gardens has been designed for the Gay and Lesbian Community, and those who support our unity. Did you know that there is no cemetery in Tulsa that will allow companions to be buried together recognizing them as a couple, or~’recognizing your sexual orientation as an individual? Actually there is no place in the United-States who will, UNTIL NOW~ We are the first celnetery in the United States to offer a special section of our cemetery just for Gays & Lesbians, and their family and friends. We offer burial spaces, columbarium for cremated remains, and scattering gardens with a memorial wall, in this new-ly expanded and renovated-section of Washington Memorial Gardens Cemetery. The Pride flag will proudly fly in the center of Unity Gardens to always remind us of our struggle in life for unity and pride. If you have purchased a plot elsewhere, you may be able to transfer or trade your burial plots. For more information, please call Russell Langley-Stumpff at 918-587-7000. ***Owned and operated by Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home*** A Friendly Place to Stay KING’S HI-WAY INN "96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62 W Eureka Springs, AR 72632 (501) 253-7311 1-800-231-1442 Jerry A. Wilson, owner ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ 0 ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ MCC of the Living Spring ....a community of friends... Rev. Kermie Wohlenhaus Pastor We welcome you to attend! Services held Sunday evenings at 7 o’clock 17 Elk Street (at the Unitarian Church) Eureka Springs, AR 72632 501-253-9337 Raven/Redhawk Enterprises Phyl Boler-Schmidt Systems & Software Specialist POB 429, Eureka Springs 72632 501,253.2776 Books, Incense, Candles and Rainbows/ Plus lots morel (501) 25315445 45&1/2 Spring Street Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com AUTHENTIC FRESH ITALIAN RAINBOW CUSINE TROUT ofEureka Springs Recommended by - The New York Times (501) 253-6807, Closed Wednesday 5Center Street, Eureka Springs, AR 72632 Jim & .Brent’s Bistro Calendar ofEvents Friday, May 24 &-Thursday, May 25 -- Richard Johnson, acoustic guitar Thurs. May 30th & Fri. May 31st Music on the deck, Lunch, 11:30-2:30, Dinner 5-11 pm. Bistro Beat Etc. May 30th through June 2nd Eureka Springs.Blues Festival Stop by our house for a taste of local flavor. Dine outside on the patio & porch or in our three beautiful dining rooms. Fine food at an affordable price. Gay.owned, Operated & Rainbow Proud By Allan Beard, Baltimore GayPaper Like most other gay resort areas, Provincetown shares the three traits all held in common - sun, sand and surf. And like its southern sister city Key West, it is a remote village located on a narrow strip of landjutting out into the Adantic Ocean, accessible only to those who seek it out. One does not pass through Key West or Provincetown; one goes there to be there. Andwhile Provincetown’ s waters are significandy cooler than those of Florida’s southern most city, it is not the water that attracts tens of thousands of lesbians and gay men to this Massachusetts Cape Cod village each year - it’s the lesbians and gay men that is the attraction. Just who first walked the sandy beaches that surround Provincetown is in little doubt. And while Native Americans can lay claim to the cape, it was the white European immigrants who built the fishmg village that was to become Provincetown. Pilgrims from the May flower first walked ashore in 1620; a monument commemorating that event stands’ atop High Pole Hill overlooking the town an harbor. For the most part, Provincetown grew up over three centuries as a fishing village. Filled with the homes and shops of a 18thcentury fishing village, Provincetown is rich in period architecture with an impressive harbor and quaint atmosphere one comes to expect from a New England port town. It is surrounded by beaches, dunes and the Atlantic. Isolated at the end of Cape Cod, Provincetown has long attracted artists,individualists and free spirits. Very much like Key West, the 3,700 year-round residents have a live-and-let- ¯ live attitude, which clearly appeals to the ¯ many thOUsands of lesbians and gay men that flock there every, summer. ¯ The village has two main streets, Com- " mercial Street and Bradford Street, which ¯ run parallel for nearly three miles. They are intersected bynumerous smaller streets ¯ beginning at the harbor and continuing ¯ back to the dunes. It is a town filled with guest houses, restaurants, galleries, bou- : tiques and shops. It also has its share of ¯ typical beach community tourist busi- ¯ .nesses, but in Provincetown they don’t ¯ seem to intrude on the town’s quiet character. ¯ The Provincetown Business Guild rep- ¯ resents more than 200 businesses that welcomelesbian and gay tourists. Founded ¯ in 1978 the guild is dedicated to enhanc- ¯ ing the vacation experience of gay people ¯ , visiting the cape. Lesbian and gay life is readily visible to anyone visiting the town. Couples stroll the shop lined streets ann ~n arm with barely notice given them. On the beach thousands of hard bodied men and buffed lesbians swim, play and sun themselves in the confidence of a shared appreciation of their diversity. At night a not-so subtle sexual energy takes over the town’s main streets as hundreds head to nightclubs and restaurants to party with old acquaintances and new-found friends. It is an atmosphere suited perfectly to the friendly, open lifestyle of this .country’s many lesbian and gay communities. To increase gay visibility and promote gay pride, the ProvincetOwn Business Guild plans special events year-round. For information on these events and to make travel arrangement~,call Vanessa at International Tours at - 341-6866. OK, so maybe you don’t have the time or money to go as far as Provincetown but you still need a get-away and it’s got to be a Gay-friendly place, and affordable! For all that, you can’t beat Eureka Springs. This Victorian jewel has got to have one of the highest per capita Lesbian/ Gay/Bi populatious in the country. And therefore, you can count on finding a friendlyfamily welcome. In fact, it’s possible to spend most of your resting and dining time in Gay or very Gay friendly establishments. This writer canpersonallyrecommendthe food at DeVito’s and dined withJim &Brent at the restaurant the guys had before they opened the well-regarded Bistro. While we haven"t tried Autumn Breeze, we hear it’s excellent also. Lod~ng can vary from the very convenient Kings Hi-Way Inn overlooking a ¯ lovely valley to the unique bed & break- ¯ fast experience of the Woods or Rock ¯ Cottage Gardens or the views of Pond MountainLodge. For very reasonable and ¯ historic rooms, check out the Park Basin Hotel. , In between earing and sleeping, there ¯ are many shops to checkout. They range from tourist tacky to worksof art. One of the most interesting selections is at Crazy ¯ Bone. And be sure to stop in ’to see MC ¯ andLinda, the new ownersoftheEmerald ¯ Rainbow, providing locals, and visitors with Pride stuff and mo~e..: ¯ NoW if you need more.detailed infor- ¯ marion about all your Options in Eureka ¯ Springs, track down Jan & Kim with ¯ P.I.M.P.S. who kiaow what’s available. ¯ And if like many others, you decide to ¯ check out local properties, stop by McClung Realty - they can help. Adult Accommodations In Eureka Springs, Arl~nsas Craftsman-style cottages with beautiful views of the woods and wildlife -.Tucked on top of the Ozark Mountains. just a few rmnutes walk to the Historic Village of Eureka Springs. 501/253-8281 Frank Gr~.en Jr., Host - 50 Wall Street - Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632 READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library OK, all of you budding Laurence Oliviers, take notice! ff acting is your profession 9rjust a fun hobby, and you’re having trouble finding quality plays that speak to gays and lesbians, here is the book for you. "The Actor’s Book of Gay and Lesbian Plays" pulls together seventeen plays, chosen by editors (and playwrights), EricLane and Nina Shengold. The criteria for a play’s inclusion in this anthologyis thatitmust have gay or lesbian characters, queer themes or be ofinterest to the gayand lesbian community,regardless of the playwright’s ownsexual orientation. The plays vary widely, from one-acts to full length, comic and dramatic, some interesting while others less so, and a range o_f styles and cast sizes. One of the most interesting aspects of these plays is that not all of them premieredin New York or Los Angeles. One had its .first performance in Shepherdstown, West Virginia~ and another was first heard over the air as a radio play. AIDS, of course, is a topic of a few of these plays. Victor .Bumbalo’s "What Are Tuesdays LaKe. takes place in a hospital waiting room. "The Baltimore Waltz," by Paula Vogel and "Lonely Planet," by Steven Dietz deal with AIDS in more intangible ways. Another interesting entry, "It’s Our Town, Too," by Susan Miller, is just what you might think: a bare stage, queer ver- ...One d the-most interesting aspects of these plays is that not all of them premiered in New York or Los A~ngeles. One hasd.lts first performance m Shepherdstown, West Virginia... sion . of Thornton Wilder’s "Our Town." "Cater,Waiter,"by Eric Lane, is a funny, ironic, ten-minute piece about "eighty-seven gay men and three lesbians serving dinner tO a buncha Reagan cronies" at a. Republican fundraiser. With the current boom of successful queer-themed films, like "Jeffrey" and "The Bird~ge," it shouldn’t, be long until more gay and lesbian friendly " plays start showing.up onstage in mid- : America. When they do, "The Actor’s ¯ Book of Gay and Lesbian Plays" will be ; an excellent resource. ¯ Check for this book, and others on ¯ similar subjects, at your local branch li- ¯ brary or call the Readers Services depart- ’ ment at the CentrallLibrary, 596-7966. byJames Christjohn, EntertainmentNotes While it might seem so at times, this column is not just about me being peevish. It is about a much wider concern of mine. To those in the gay & lesbian community whom I have heard complaining that thereisn’t enough gay theatre, that there is an audience for these shows, that no theatre in town is brave enou,,h to do these kinds of shows; I have only one thing to say. Where were you? Several shows during the TU weekend of One-acts touched on gay issues, mine and Gabriel Washam’s "’Diaries" blatandy so. I had incredible support from Professor Cook ( Thank you!), who feels these plays are important to have done, an incredible cast, & itwas free, for heaven’ s sake! You missed a great set of shows. You had the chance to say, with your pres- To those... corn lainln that t" P" ’ ~ here lsn t enough Gay theatre, that there is an audlenee ~or these shows... I have only one thln¢ to say. Where were you? ence, that there is an audience for these shows, that these shows will draw folks in, that there is a reason to see these shows produced. As Gerald Miller said, "Ain’t gonna happen". He and I spoke of Gay theatre in Tulsa when he was managing Theatre Tulsa. His take was that there wasn’t an audience. Tom and I argued the point, and I now feel his comments were, sadly, justified. ¯ To all of you who expressed interest, & ¯ didn’t put your body where your mouth is ¯ in terms of your presence in the theatre " seat, you’ve helped to kill gay theatre. ¯ If there is no gay theatre in Tulsa, it’s ¯ not that the shows aren’t produced or ¯ people aren’t interested in doing them; it’s because you weren’t there when the ¯ shows were produced. Even when, as in .. this case, the productions are free to the ¯ public! You have no one to blame but yourselves. So don’tlet me hear anyone in the community bemoaning "the lack of gay plays here, because it’s your own fault they aren’t being done. BACP produced an excellent production of Harvey Fierstein’s"On Tidy Endings" some months back_. Thenight Tom &I attended, only 1/4 of the house was filled. And I know there’s enough queens in this town to have filled the theatre. " Sad thing is, many students & faculty. ¯ were talking about doing a production of ¯ "Falsettoland" at TU. Thehigher ups were ." concerned that people wouldn’t come. ¯ One ofmy goals with HIVariations, I’d ¯ hoped, was to prove that there was an ¯ audience. With the lack of community ¯ support of HIVariations, indeed all the ¯ shows that weekend, it seems unlikely ¯ ¯ that this Falsetto, or other shows like it, will be produced. How sad. 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Peoria Tulsa (918) 744-5556 Pet Food Toys & Supplies Grooming & Boarding I Pickup & Delivery I Service Available .I 3213 E. 15th St. 20TH CENTURY FURNISHINGS Wed-Sat 10-5 Sun 12-4 749-3620 H~rry Bel-toi~, Knoll 1952 Worship Service,~.~.3.~) am Sheridan Center, ~’~ite H, 21st & Sheridan, 599-7688 ’96 ECLIPSE SPYDER CONVERTIBLE GS $22,835 by Jean-Pierre, TFNfood critic TFNreaders attending the Great Plains Regional Gay Rodeo in Oklahoma City Memorial Day weekend will be pleased to know that lots of decent restaurants exist in our Capital Cowtown at which they can cozy up to the chuckwagon. Just like Tulsa, most of the national franchises and chain restaurants have stores in Oklahoma City which are concentrated in the Quail Springs Mall area ¯ on Memorial between May and Pennsyl~ vania; near Baptist Hospital at Northwest Expressway and Lake Hefner Parkway; in"oiltown" at Interstate 40 and Meridian; and down on the south side along Interstate 240 between Western and May Avenues. But why eat at some place you can visit at home? After all, half of the tim of traveling to exotic locations is discovering the local cuisine.And, surprisingly, Oklahoma City probably has a lot more decent nonchain restaurants than Tulsa. First, a few words of warning: Many rodeoers will be staying at the Northwest Hilton or at the ever popular Habana Inn both of which have in house dining facilities. Let’s just say that you’ll want to eat off the premises. And don’t even think about room service. \¥qaen you are in downtown OKC, be advised that. there is no place wonderful, and the Myriad Convention Center food is deadly. Nearby though are LaRoea Mexican Restaurant a couple.of blocks west of the Myriad on Rent and there are always the various trendy (translate: long lines, small servings, big prices) establishments and the onmipresent Spaghetti Warehouse in Bricktown several blocks east o.f the Myriad. The Bricktown Brewery is, in our opinion, the Oklahoma microbrewery serving up the best beer made in Oklahoma (but don’t get your hopes up about the food)¯ Wejust wish the Oklahoma legislature didn’t make the microbreweries water the beer to 3.2. Several formerly popular northwest spots are now closed, such as Doc’s at 63rd and Western, Rita’s del Rio on May across from the Northwest Hilton,Pump’s at Grand and \Vestem, Interurban in Fifty Penn Place, and Magnolia Cafe at 66th and Western: We’re also sad to report that due to the new conservative Christian ownership of United Founder’s Tower, the Eagle’s Nest, with its 360 degree revolVing view of Lake Hefner and northwest Oklahoma City, has closed its doors. Never fear, though, there are still lots of fun places to dine and frolic. While on Oklahoma City’s infamous 39th Street Strip, many readers may remember the gastronomically challenging Family Diner, a classic greasy spoon. But better days have come to that location, and completely new proprietors have established the gay owned and operated Pifion Care (moderate cost), which features lots of Southwestern style entrees, heavy on thepasta and chicken, and, while notan all-night establishment, does stay open until 2 a.m., and 3 a.m. on weekends. : The beautiful people and yuppies of ¯¯ OklahomaCity spendmost of their dining ¯ dollars on the strip alongWestern Avenue north of Interstate 44. There is quite a ¯ variety of interesting and worthwhile ¯ places in this area. Anchoring the comer ¯ spot on i-44 is Portobello (expensive), ¯ featuring Tuscan style Italian food and : Italian language tapes in the restrooms. ¯ Another long time Italian spot is Flip’s ¯ -Wine Bar and Trattoria (moderately ¯ expensi.ve), at Grand Boulevard, with a ¯ great selection of by-the-glass wines and ¯ decent food--be sure to check out the After all, half of the fun of traveling_is discovering the local euMne. And, surprisingly, Oklahoma City probably has a lot more decent non-chain restaurants than Tulsa. daily specials. At 64th Street, you will . find the excellent Metro Wine Bar and Bistro (expensive, reservations advised), serving re- ,trial French cuisine, nightly meat and fish specials, and creamy, chilled vichyssoise to die for. Across the street in: Nichols Hills Plhza is the single best restaurant in the st~ite of Oklahoma, ¯ the.Coach House (veryexpensive, reser- ¯ vataons required, dres~ code), featuring ¯ e}quisitely prepared Atnerican haute cui- ¯ sine and impeccable ~ervice. Everyone ¯ should experience the artistry of Chef ~ Kurt Fleishfresser and the elegance of the : Coach House at least once in their life- ¯. time. Crawling back toWestern, at 67th’is the Iguana Lounge (moderate) which is ¯ billed as Acapulco cuisine but we have to ¯ call it avant garde Mexican, and their new .: patio should be open by rodeo time. An ¯ excellent sushi bar is Tokyo Japanese ¯ Restaurant (expensive), just south of ¯ Wilshire, which serves Sapporo beer and ¯ ¯ sushi as good as any Japanese restaurant we’ve visited in the United States. Way : up north at 80th is Let’s Barbecue (inex- ¯ pensive), with basic down home smoked ¯ meats and occasionally fried catfish (if ¯ you remember Let’s at 66th Street, that ¯ location, now closed, went to Let’s ex- ¯ wife in the divorce, andLeomoved north). ¯ Acouple ofother spots popular with the ¯ capital city gay crowdinclude the Painted : Desert (inexpensive) at 36th and Shartel, ¯ whichis your basicburger bar, Pepperoni ¯ G~ill (moderately expensive) in Penn ¯ Square Mall by Dillard’s with eclectic ¯" Italian food, and Bellini’s (expensive) at 63rd and Pennsylvania, which serves up ¯ northern Italian themed food and dell- : cious bellini’s (a peach and champagne ¯ cocktail) with a view of the swan pond ¯ and outdoor seating-- enterfrom the park- " ing garage_ under the Waterford office ¯ building. ¯ Those looking for Oriental foods will ¯ ¯ be excited to spend time in Oklahoma City s Little Saigonareacentered at North- ," west 23rd and Classen. We particularly recommend Lido (moderate) at 24th and : Military (just off Classen near the milk ¯ bottlebuilding), whichhas excellent Viet- : namese food in an elegant setting, and is ¯ popular with many of the state’s power- " ful--we’ve run into Governor Waiters ¯ and several Supreme Court justices here. ¯ Check out the dim sum at Grand House : (moderate),just across the street from the see Food, page 14 n Communicolions does not milk bottle. One of our favorite Chinese restaurants is Dumpling House (moderate) on 23rd just east of Classen, which is patronized by many Chinese and Vietnamese youth (be sure to ask for the English menu). Another excellent Vietnamese and Chinese place is Mirawa (moderate), a bit farther east on 23rd. For Korean food, try Sharon Gardens (inexpensive) on 23rd west of Classen, and for Thai, go to Sala Thai (inexpensive) just a couple of blocks farther west. If seeing all those cowboys wrangle beef on the hoof has you hankering for a big juicy steak, you can’t go wrong with Cattleman’s Care (moderately expensive) in Stockyards City, Exchange Street south of 1-40 (ask for directions). In the Remington Park area at Northeast 50th and Kelly is one of our favorites, Sleepy Hollow (expensive), whichhas nomenus, but serves up big delicious bowls of mashed potatoes, ~avy, and peas family style and huge, wonderful steaks to its horseman and jockey clientele. You can get decent barbecued ribs and an all you can eat special at Oklahoma County Line (moderately expensive) on Northeast 63rd between Kelly and Eastern. And, when the budget gets a little thin, you can find an excellent chicken fried steak sandwich at Chuck House (inexpensive) at Northwest Tenth and Meridian. This should be a big enough list of the better places in Oklahoma City to keep rodeo-goers well fed for one weekend. Just remember, we have McDonald’s in Tulsa. Bon appetit, cowboy. 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(North Central) =18212 JOCK SUPPORTER GWM, 27, 130, 5’7", black hair, brown eyes, seeks lock types, 18-35 , for pleasure and more. Give me a call. (Oklahoma City) =20529 HELP ME WITH MY FIRST TIME Tommy 23 6’1 180 blonde/blu bi curious Iookingfor experienced bi or gayWM 21-35 looking for someone to be my coach, like outdoor activities and sports, romantic evenings at home- (Oklahoma City) =34032 CLEAN CUT GUYS single WM 21, bin/hazel, 6’1 170 clean cut and athletic, looking for SWM 19-25 leave a message and I will get back to you- (Oklahoma City) ~33185 18 YR OLD GUY Brad, interested in Gay men, between 18-35, I am 18, like to meet you, anyone out there who’s interested. (Oklahoma City) =33455 A FINE ROMANCE Aaron, interested in a man that is romantic and likes to have a real good time..leave a message- (Oklahoma City) ATHLETIC MEN Michael 5’10, 145, sandy blond/blue, like to rollerblade movies and swim looking for athletic body builder lyre man, masculine and versatile and have a goal time give me a call (Oklahoma City) =34176 YOUR PLACE OR MINE? GWM, 5’6", brown hair, blue eyes, seeks others, 18-30, for fun and more. This is definitely a no strings attached situation. Call me. (Oklahoma City) =11041 NO FAT’S OR FEM’S GWM, 23, HIV-, 6’5", 190, brown hair and eyes~ good looking, LPN, career oriented, varied interests, seeks others, 20-28 and dominant only, for fun friendship and ho~fully more. You must me drug an~l disease flee as well as local! (Oklahoma City) .=33062 DRUG AND DISEASE FREE ONLY GWM, 42, 5’11, 180; seeks local aggressive men, 20- 42, for fun and pleasure. Give me a call. (Oklahoma City) e32160 THERE,S MOREl GBM, 21,5’3", 160, ’stache, glasses, muscular, seeks others, 19-30, for fun and adventure. Call me for mare information. (Oklahofi~a City) =24106 FIRST TIME JrlTERS Bi Curious WM, 26, 5’8", i60, seeks masculine GHM’s only to teeeh me the pleasures of man to man fun~ Give me a call. (Oklahoma City) =26234 WHERE’S MY DADDY? GWM, new to area and this ti~eslyJe, 5’11", 140, dark hair, seeks others, 24-34 and dominant. Give me a call (Oklahoma City) =21422 READ ME GBM, 5’11", 175, very masculine,. seeks others for fun and more. Once yo~ meet me you’ll never let me go. Give me a call. (Oklahoma City) =21904 DUS11N HOFFMAN LOOK-AUKE Bi WM, 39, married, excellent shape and well end’wd, no~ into cruising, games, CD’s, TS’s or "[~/’s, seeks mature executives 25-35, straight acting and masculine. I~ you’ve had mor~ partners than you have fingers, do not respohd to this! (Oklahoma City) =21266 message. (Oklahoma City) = 19017 TIRED OF BEING SINGLE GWM, 28, blonde hair, green eyes, restaurant mana~ter seeks others into mo~ies, romance and ire~ fulfillment. If you’re ready to pursue a long term relationship, give me a call. (Oklahoma City) =19508 FUN AND MORE FUN GWM, 150, 5’7", good build, brown hair, preen eyes, seeks same for you know what. Give me a cal!. (Oklahoma City) =17161 YOUNG LOVE GWM, 19, 6’, brown hair, blue eyes, variety of interests, seek same, for fun, fr~’’endship and more. You bust be straight acting. (Oklahoma City) ~! 9160 NO CLUBS FOR ME GWM, 28, 6’4", 260, new to Ibis, seeks others to show me mare about bein.q submissive and more. Give me a call. (Oklahoma City) =6584 ARE YOU THE ONE’/GWM, 24, 5’10", blonde hair, brown eyes, into fishingand outdoor adivities, seeks other guys for fun and possibly more. Call me. (Oklahoma City) =151SS LET’S GET DOWN TO BUSINESS GM, 22, varied interests, seeks others for fun and more. Leave me a message. (Oklahoma City) ~r18151 CAN WE LEARN TOGETI~IER? Bi WM, 32, 6’, 160, inexperienced, seeks others, masculine and attractive, to teach me more and possibly learn these things together. Give me a call. (Oklahoma ~ity) ~r7550 GROUP ACTIVITIES GWM 25, 190 6’ .qead build, brown hair, ~qreen eyes, clean shaven, professional, see[cs others for fun, friendship and more. Let’s get tc~gether soon. (Oklahoma City) =7657 NAME IS LARRY GM, 6’, dark features, medium build, into music and romance, seeks top men only. Call me. (Oklahoma City) =49966 BOY NEXT DOOR TYPE I’m new to the area. I’m a 24 year old submissive, boy next door tyl~". I’m 5’11,160!bs, smooth skin, nice bei:h/, HIV negative. I m looking for a butch boy 25 to 35 for fun and friendship. (Tulsa) ~34747 ITALIAN AMERICAN I’m a 25 year old Italian American. I’m 5’9, 1651bs, and very good looking. I’m looking to meet guys in my area. 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(Tulsa) =7728 I HAVE A CUTE SMILE GWM, attractive 36, 6’, 145, dark hair, green .eyes, versatile, seeks same, !8-36, for fi’iendship and possibly mare. Smooth body and all natural end’wdis a big plus! (Tulsa) ~6779 LOOKING FOR YOU GBM, seeks others in the local area for fun and mare. Please give me a call. (Tulsa) e2771 ~ ..~....~ TWO’S FUN, THREE’S BETTER! GWM couple seeks singles or couples for advbnture and excitement. Give us a ca. (Eureka Springs) =23.$23 TEACH ME THE WAYS GWM, 28, 6’, 130 very straight acting real new to this lifestyle, seeks older men for fun and pleasure. (Ft. Smith) =334411 COUNTRY BOY Jim, 5’t0 dk hair, green eyes, real hairy, country boy, used to work on the riverlx~ts, now live up here, like to spend some qual time with someone like camping swimming riding, like to have 1 on 1 devotion with someone, I’m 29, like to setlle down- (Utile Rock) ~34920 UALR STUDENT GWM, 28, college student, seeks others for intimate fun and more. (Li~e Rock) =26930 MY NAME IS JIM GWM, 39, - professional, alot of interests, seeks others for fun, fr endship and more. Leave me a message. (Russe vi e) ~27949 WOMAN TO WOMAN GWF, 35, 5’6", black hair, brown eyes, new to area, very romantic, seeks others for fun, romance and possibly more. If this interest~ you, please giv~ me a call. (Broken Arrow) ~45158 BI AND BI Bi Female, 5’4", 115, brown hair, hazel eyes, seeks same. No exceptions! (Oklahoma City) ~22358 - ~ TOUCHING AND HOLDING GBF, seeks+BE or Gay females for fun and friendship~ Please get in touch with me. (Oklahoma City) e3610 LET’S LEARN TOGETHER Bi Curious BF, seeks same for learning .~xperiences. Give me a call. Oklahoma City) ~49584 FRIEND SEEKER GWF, 5’5", 120, brown eyes and hair, variety of interests, seeks other women for fun and friendship. Please give me a call. (Oklahoma City) ~45876 HEY GIRLSl GWF, into all sports and more, seeks others to hang out with. Give me a call (Tulsal ~48144 ++~+~.~ ’+ ~++ :~+ ’+"":~I~ +WOMAN TO WOMAN Bi WF, 29, 5’3", 150, auburn hair, green eyes, seeks others who are honest and sincere, local preferred, for a long lasting friendship and relationship. Please leave a message (Jonesboro) ~34470 A QUALITY OF LIFE ALTERNATIVE WHAT IS VIATICATION? Viaticatlon is the process through which a person liviug with an terminal illness can receive a cash pa.wnent from the face value of their insurance policy. WHO IS ELIGIBLE FOR A VIATICAL SETTLEMENT? Generally, to be eligible for a viatical settlement you must have a documentable terminal illness, and life insurance coverage in either ai~"individual tenn, whole life, or a group policy. HOW MUCH IS MY POLICY WORTH? The value of 3our life insurance policy in a viatical settlement is detemfined by the specifics of your policy ,’rod your tmique medical situanon. 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Southwest Home Office Dallas, Texas 800-559-4790 Kelly Kirby Oklahoma Representative POB 14011 Tulsa, OK 74159-1011 918-747-3320 Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, May 15-June 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 6 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). 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ROTC Re-Heats i WASHINGTON - Little noticed in Feb- : ruary was congressional passage of a bill, : now signed into law by PresidentCfiiiion ¯ the "Campus Access Act" that prohibits : all Defense Department funds to colleges : and .um’versities which the ,,Secretary of ¯ DefenSe :judges., have, an,.~ anti~ROTC : poii~y?’ "~lae legi~latiisn b,bfild have the ." impact of barring Defense Department ¯ funds from going to any campus where : anti-discrimination policies barfing bias : based on sexual orientation limit or re- ¯ strict Reserve OfficerTraining Corps programs. No exact figures are available on the amount ofmoney the Defense Department spends annually at U.S. colleges, but at larger schools, such as Stanford, the University of Pennsylvania, or the University of California at Los Angeles, it might easily amount to tens ofmillions of dollars each year. The term "anti-ROTC policy" is defined in the Act as prohibiting either the Defense Department from see ROTC, page 3 High School Gays. Win & Lose Some Dallas Bd. Includes Protections DALLAS - Under pressure from local rights activists, the Dallas school board decided at theIastminute toinclude sexual orientation in the anti-harassment policy it adopted at its March 28 meeting. The policy, which had not initially included sexual orientationas a category, wasadded after members of the Dallas Gay & Lesbian Allianceand other communitymembers complained that not including sexual orientation in the newpolicy could actually encourage anti-gay and -lesbian harassment in the city’s schools. The new policy bars "oral, written, psychological, physical and other demonstrative actions see School, page 3 .Marriage, Update Colorado Gov. Roy Romer has vetoed a measure :that would have explicitly banned recognizing same-sex marriages in the state, even if they were legally performedinother states, however, Romer said he would sign a bill that declared opposite-sex mamages as the "strong public policy of the state" while at the same time authorizing a study of possible ways same-sex couples could be given legal recognition of their relationships without violating that policy. He called the legislation he vetoed, a "mean-spirited and unnecessary" attack. Idaho became the 3rdstate in the U.S., joining Utah and South Dakota, to bar recognizing same-gender marriageS. The Kentucky state Senate is now considering a measure banning same,sex mamages and activists believe the anti-gay bill has a good chance of passing there. Illinois has also now received a similar ban, spurred on by leaders of the state’s antigay Christian Coalitiou and Christian Action Network. In Kansas, a bill that was already on the floor of the state tlouse of see Marriage, page 3 & Bisexual Communities-,Our Families of the Heart ¯ The Reverend Leslie Penrose, AIDS ac- : tivist Mary Fisher and a youngfriend at ¯ Community ofHope United~thodist. i Wo-men &AIDS i 400.÷HearActivist i Mom,,Mary Fisher ¯" When Janice Nicklas and her co-orga- ¯ nizerbegan planning for the first regional ." conference on Women and AIDS, they ." hoped tohave about 100 or so attend. On ¯ April 2, more than 400 people were registered for the one day conference of work- : shops at the-University of Tulsa’s ¯ Chapman Center. : The workshops ranged from AIDS 101 ¯ to HIV and Incarcerated Women or HIV ¯ tators were both local educators and ex- ¯ perts & those from around the US. The ¯" conference l~gan with a panel of those : infected or affected by HIV. ! The keynote address was ~ven at lunch byAIDS activist, Mary. Fisher, founder of : the Family AIDS Network, Inc. which : works to heighten commumty and ha- ¯ tional awareness and compassion in the : fight against HIV/AIDS. Ms. Fisher, a ~ person/iving with HIViAIDS, came to ¯ national attention when she spoke about ~ AIDS to, the:Republican-National Con- ; vention’in.Houston in-1992.. ~ Fisher’s Tulsa speech was a call to : political arms. She began with quote from ¯ a US Senate chaplin who, when asked if "- he prayed for the Senate;~said, no, after i looking at the Senate, he prayed for the ¯ people. FishersaidthatwithWashington’s ¯ and America’s response to AIDS, prayer : probably was_a good’idea. ~ ................... ¯ Fisher stated that-America.iacks -the. 3 ; basicingredients to wina fight withAIDS: ¯ no national plan for researeh~ .car~e or pre- : vention, nor visible, competent, or trusted ." leadership, nor sufficient funding. ¯ Fisher said we also must look for leadership from the uninfected, ,We. are like ; .’ .ca fl nghtsmovement whose leaders die ; ev~t~"year. : Inaninterviewwith.TFN, Fishernoted ¯ that she would have said we’re making ¯ progress in the AIDS fight prior to the ¯" 1994 Republican sweep. But now she ¯ says we haven’t followed who’s coming : up in that party and we must hold our ~ leaders feet to the fire. "We must commu- ¯ nicate that tiffs fightis about human rights, ¯¯ not about moraljudgements....women, especially, need to say I matter.’" PFLAG at Central-Library Editorial: Kudos to Tulsa Org. Themembers&officers ofTnlsaChapter of Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians &Gays deserve high praise for their exhibit currentlyat theTulsaCity,County Library, as does the libraD’ staff. The exhibit is good but you will appreciate it even more when you know that PFLAG had only a little more than a week to prepare it. The exhibit, up-through April is a snapshot of what PFL~G’s about & of Lesbian & Gay life. Tulsa Family News strongly encourages you to see the’exhibit before it doses. LESBITERIAN & ¯ StillwaterandendinginTulsaon Sunday, May 19 at College Hill Presbyterian, 712 ! S. Columbia. College"Hill will host a : dinner and dialogue at 5pro, followed by ." worshipat 7pro. Her visit is sponsored by ¯ College Hill and Presbyterians for Les- ." bian,’Gay Concerns. : Spahr is an evangelist with the special ¯ ministry ’q’hat .MI May Freely Sen’e’" of : the Downtown United Presbyterian -" Church (DUPC) ofRochester,NeW York, : in parmership with Westminster Presby- ¯ terianofTiburon, CA.In 1991,Spahrwas : by DUPC to serve as Co-pastor but was ¯ denied that position in an unprecedented i move by the ruling body of the-pre~bvterian Church (USA), the.General Ass~m- ¯ see Spahr, page 10 G reatPlains Rodeo "In OKC, May 24.26 : The Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Association ¯ (OGRA) will hold its tt.th-annual rodeo : on Memorial Day Weekend, May 24-26. : It features 2 days of rodeo at the OKC ¯ State Fairgrounds and 3 nights of parties : and exhibits at the Hilton Inn. N\V~ : OGRA beganin 1984. TheGreat Plaius : Regional Rodeo was formed through the ¯ efforts of Kansas, Missouri and Okla- : homa and held its first rodeo in 1986 In : 1993, Arkansas formed theDiamond State : Rodeo Association and joined the Great ~ Hains organization. OG1L~t’s volunteers ¯ are dedicated providing rodeo ~vents for _" Lesbians and Ga)’~menand als0 to sup- " porting AIDS charities. Membership is ¯ noflimited to rodeo .compet.it0fs Formore ¯ info. "call 405-842-0849. April 15 - May 14, 1996, Volume 3, Issue 5 ¯ Run for YourLives, Part3 i LegislativeUpdate ¯ Anti-Gay Amendments Die ¯ OK Senate staff confirm that. HB 2554 ¯ is "dead" for this session. HB 2554 ad- ¯ dressed divorce law changes but was ~ amended to ban same-gender marriage _" even if those were legal elsewhere. ¯ ~ Anamendment to the"Ryan Luke" bill, ¯ HB 2053, would ban child custody by a : "known homosexual,lesbian or bisexual." ." Rep. Laura Boyd, author ofHB 2053, told ¯ TFN that the anti-Gay amendment was ." "out for good." It appears that this session ~ will draw to a close in May without thc ." passage of any anti-Gay bibs or amend-. ments, only the anti-Gay but merely svm. ! bolic resolution #1045. " i Coming Soon! : On May 23, the Tulsa Ice Arena will ." host at 7:30pro the first Red Ribbon lc~ ." Revue. ’l’he evening will feature profes. ¯ sional skaters from Kansas City, OK(" : andTulsa All tickel proceeds will benefit : Our House which provides support for ¯ those challenged by HI\," AIDS. Tickets ¯ are $8, balcon.v seats and S12.50 for on- ¯ ice seats at the .Arena at 71st & .~.hugo ¯ (behind the 1 2 Price Store). For~more ¯ info. ".call Shane Douglas at 254--7272. ¯ ¯ Follies Revue, Inc. have announced tha! this \ear’s eveut. Follies Salute the .\hn’. ies, Will be on Juue 21 & 22at the \Varrcn ¯ Place Doubletree Hotel. The Follies will : showcase suchartists as Alexandr"Sacha’" ¯ Luiiev of the Tulsa Ballet Theatre, singers ¯ Deb Roberts and Steve Wright: For more ¯ info. call 437-0201. - : Local HI\" AIDS support org~iniza~ion, ¯ ILMN, the Regional AIDS Interfaith Net- " work is holding its volunteer training on : April 27 and May 4 at Community of , Hope from 10-Spin. And Debbie Waters, : MSW announces a support group, Phoe- ¯ nix Group, for families & friends living : with AIDS. The group meets on the Ist & : 3rd Thurs. each month: Call 584-6460. ilnterfaith AIDS Ministries Hits 10 : This May, Interfaith AIDS Ministries ¯ (IAM) will celebrate its lOth-auniversarv ! of:providing education about HIV;AIDg ¯ and ofproviding support to persons living ¯ with HIV,,AIDS (PLWA’~s)~ S_t,.Peter’s ". Episcopal Church at 9100 East 21 st Street ¯ Will host a sen’ice commemorating !0 " years of work on Sunday, May 19 at 3pm. ," !AM will also be featured at the May 14th meeting of the AIDS Coalition. 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I received a message on my machine that said. =tli Tom, t~s is Keit~ S~ from the A(’I ,V offi~ in OMahoma City....’" Smith. who’s a rc~dtor and ad s~esm~ for OKC paper The Perspec’t~ ve, was m~appy about ~ ~ficle that we wrote. The article stated that he’d helped OMa. I louse M~0ont~ Leader Benson rewrite Benson’s vcrx ant~-Gav resolution. #1~5. Sxmth clmms he heisted chm~e the anti-gay lang~ge of the ongin~ version to l~guage that ~ght be ~i~- slightly less ami:Gay. We ~so wrote that some OKC folks had accused Smith of passing ~mselfoff~ spokesperson for the OM~oma LGBT ~umties. I promised Smith that I’d address ~s c0n~ms. At one meeting with Benson, S~th says he was with Jo Ann Bell of the ACLU. Ms. Bell swe~s that Smith only represented ~mself. Smi~ says that at a later meeting (where Bell w~ not present), he helped Beuson m~e specific ch~ges in l~g~ge of # 1 045: but that he told Benson &at he nevertheless opposed the fin~ drMt (which hehelped write). Seem confusing? Smith appears to have b~n view~ by Benson, by Rcp. I ~ura Boyd. by other legislators, and by State l)emocratic P~tv Ex~ufive ~r~tor Pat Ihdl. as an anthofized ~pokesperson for Gay ~d I ~sbian counnunitv. As a result, some le~slators votedagainst us, thinking ~at they had our blessrag. Through mepmess or nmvete on ~s p~t ~d possibly opportmfism on the p~t of some le~slators, what hc clmms w~ ~ effort to m~e 100% bad rcsolution into one that would~ ody~%bad wound up being used against him and us. And while Smith may feel he’s been beat up, actually there’s enough blame to spread around. Tulsan~ should strongly object to the failure of OKC groups, who were having meeungs about #1045, to commumeate regularly with any Tulsa activists or groups. If it wasn’t Smith singlehandedly representxng the entire state, it was the OKC organizations acting as though they did. The ACLU. which is a statewide organization, made no effort to communicate, even with its Tulsa board members. OGLPC’s Paul Thompson did commumcate with TOHR when #1045 was first introduced, but apparently not when this meeting was .happening. Tulsa groups who were working on this ~ssue might also have called OKC groups. However. it seems that the greater obligation falls on those who have the advantage of proximity to the Capitol and know better when action’s happening. After stories like this, I sometimes think we are our own worst enemy.-Smith has substantial experience with the legislature, and we’d be foolish not to take advantage of it. But it also appears that we need to make sure that those who represent us at the Capitol really represent all of us - in Tulsa, and wherever else there’s an organized community in the state, as well as in Oklahoma City. Just one last thing about representation: Smith is neither an officer nor an employee of the ACLU. He volunteers but according to ACLU board president, Mark Hendricksen, Smith should not identify himself as though he’s staff or an officer. Does make you kind-of wonder, doesn’t it.’? Ilello, you don’t know me, but I certainly know you. I live with you. I work with you. I may even be involved with you. And yes, I’ve often masqueraded ,as v0u. I’ve had to: I’m practically invisible, you see.’Or maybe you don’t.... I am a transsexual. But being a transie i~ this town doesn’t add up to a great deal of visibility. That’s funny, considering that scarcely a day goes by when I DON’T hear somebody whispering b~hindmy back,"Is that a boy or a girl ! Noit’s gotta be a faggot! Well...maybe it’s a Dyke after all..." Manya ume, I, and other transsexuals/transgender persons, have taken the homophobic backlash for our gay ,and lesbian brothers and sisters, stmply because we are usually more visible than most. Nobody loves a hermaphrodite. Androgyny makes : most people really edgy. But I expect that from most people (sadly enough). What hurts though, is how Gays and Lesbians have taken little notice of : us, in their silence, colluding to collapse our distinct identities into theirs. : Let’ s face it... how many of you gays andlesbians ¯ out there, in yourpersonal and political lives, focus ¯ on gender issues just as much as you focus on sex and sexuality? In this society, gender is taken for : granted. Gender deviance ~s taken as a personal insult, see Letters, page 13 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *B,’unboo Lounge, 7204 E. Piue *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Ground Zero, 311 E. 7th *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Reuegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial *Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd *Intenu’ban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 832- 1269 744-0896 621-9376 749-1563 745-9998 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Derails C. 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Mike Leavitt has vetoed a measure, SB246, that would have barred teachers 111 public sdaools from encouragtng or condoning any act that is illegal under state law. The measure-wasspecifiCallyaimed at~pre~ venting teachers from serving as sponsors fo~gay and lesbian clubs in public schools, anassue that exploded earlier this year in the state.: Even though Lea~iRt vet0ed;the measure, he nevertheless said, "I support the statement that was made in SB246, but we cannot infringe on free speech." The Utah Education Assn. had opposed the measure and said the governor "absolutely did the right tiring." Calif. Trustees Wiggle Around Outright Gay Club Ban GLENDALE, Calif. - Trustees for the Glendale, Calif., school district have decided under pressure from civil rights groups not to adopt a policy that would require students to get parental perufission in order tojotn gay and lesbian school clubs specifically, and instead modified the policy to make it apply to any "’controversial" non-curricular clubs at the city’s public schools. The school board had initially intended to make the policy apply.,,.’ only to the gay and lesbian club that students at Hoover High School had asked to form, but decided to make the policy apply generally to any "’controversial" dubs so it wouldn’t appear to be discriminatory. Civil fights advocates were not satisfied with the broader parental permission requirement and argue that the adopted policy simply covers up the original intention of the board to make it nearly impossible for gay and lesbian students to join the proposed club. Marc Elovitz, s taff attorney for the ACLU’s Lesbian mad Gay Rights Project, said the policy "’was a thinly-veiled attempt ,:o silence gay youths." "’Rather than making it more difficult for iesbi,an and gay teenagers to come out. the school board should be meeting to discuss ways to create a friendlier environment for gay youths," Elovitz said. School Board Facing Backlash ROCKVILLE, Md. - The Montgomery County (Md.) school board’s decision to include sexual~_orientation in its list of an~i-bias~prOtections passed by a 6-0 vote on Mar. 25, but it has also sparked a threat by an ad-hoc group of Hispanic parents to remove their children from the district’s p’~blic sctiools: Som~’400 pa~eh~s qUidld~, formed the ’Hispanic Paren~ of M~mgomery Coamty in an effort to convince the trustees to change their minds about ELVI Seen to with the umversiw’s, own anti-bias poll ~ ,:;ies. The }ssue of ROTC at colle2es and ~mversiues tth~oughout the conntrv has t:.cen more or less on the back buruer fin the past few years, following President (i!inton’s initial promise to end the ban. But with the so-called "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy increasingly seen by manv rights activists as no improvement over the previous policy, ROTC programs are again coming under fire.~ MIT Not Im pressed With-ROTC CAMBRIDGE. M~ss: ’- ~’At the M’assachusetts Institute of Technology, the final report presented of a speciMtask force study group on Reserve Office Training :i ~ Cbi~s uifit~ ai ~e!s’d~601~t with a Chilly : reception byMIT faculty Wh6 in April ¯ will decide what to do about the ¯ reawakened controversy. Several faculty the newly adopted policy. Many of the ~ leaders complained thal the report was tittle more than a compromise that resolved nothing, while others said the report recommendations, if adopted, would themselves amount to a violation of M1T’s anti-bias protections. parents expressed concerns the new policy would actually lead to homosexual activities in the schools and expose their children to HIV. But so far school officials are not backing away from the policy, which is simply a parallel to one already on the books for the entire county, and Paul Vance, the county’s superintendent of schools, said the new policy doesn’t "promote, encourage or approve of sexual activity of any kind." setting up or keeping an ROTC unit at the school, or preventing any student from enrolling in an ROTC program. Univ. of Penn. Drops ROTC PHILADELPHIA - Univ. of Penn. Provost Stanley Chodorow has announced that the school is dropping its Armv and" Naval Reserve Officer Training ~orps programs on campus because of the Defense Department" s continued ban against Gavs and Lesbians in the I’.S. military The decision ends a 5-year conflict between the military and the school over the anti-gay protfibit]on, wtuch is in conflict LYN Philbrook Representatives was amended without notice or hearings to protfibit same-sex marriages and passed by a4-to- 1 margin. By a 16-3 vote. the Alaska state Senate has also approved a bill that would restrict man’iage in the state to male-female. The Central Conference of American Rabbis, representing rabbis in the Reform movement, has voted to support the fight of gays and lesbians to civil marriages in the U.S. The resolution, which cites "’our Jewish commitment to the fundamental pnnciple that we are all created in the divine image," endorses "’the fight of gay and lesbian couples to share fullx and equally in the fights of civil marriage," and opposes "’govermnental efforts to ban gay and lesbian marriage." Don Thornton F~rd, 83~-7.101 {f you take an honest look ai ga lesbian attitudes towardsgcndet-bending queers in the commuiuty youwill find a good deal of resentment. The drag queens, the fem-fairy boys, the bulld~’kes are routinelv scorned (just take a look at queer personals ad). Gays mad, Dzsbians also are at great pmns to accept bisexuals. who "fide the fence," unable to linut their partners,.to asingle gender. And transies? -:;" T~hh~eyy.’l’rl eaklwiddaiyn,sg’r, ethaelmlys"elbv~es,wtohoat,ebveecrausesxe they were born & nothing more. It’~s this disregard for gender isshes that worries me the most. As queers we-all experience gender-based discrimination Yet, for all the similarities we share, there is a great deal of ignorance and apath3 about the differences, & that’s dangerous. I’m talking about the kind of ~gnorance that separates transpersons from the res~ of the crowd, threatens us, distorts us, and claims our accomplishments and experiences. It’s about reading the "Crying Game" as a gay flick rather than a film about a transgendered person. It’s abou! claiming Joan of.Arc solely as an histonc Lesbian, not a transgend~r pioneer. It’s about the Murder of Mr. Brandon Teena and his girlfriend, for being "’lesbians," reducing Teena’s life and commitment to living as a man. to a "lesbian’s" pathetic attempt to "’pass" for a straight matt. Well. I’m here to try and shed a little light on the differences and similarities among the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and trans colnmunities. M\ (trans)mission clear. I have to let you "know I’m here. And I’m listening .... Are you? - June Polk News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Attacks Drop Slightly significant increases included: " thestateSupremeCourthasagain . serviccsifhersexualorientation of energy for the day, mid you but More Violent SAN FRANCISCO - Attacks against gays and lesbians in 11 of the country’s larger cities decreased slightly overall last year according to a report compiled by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs. But while some cities showeddramatic declines in antigay violence, ,an equal number 0fcities she.wed equally dramatic increases m attacks aimed at lesbians and gay men, according to the report’s statistics. More disturbing, anti-violence activists say, even with the small overall decline in attacks, the offenses themselves are becoming increamngly more savage. Even though the total number of all incidents reported in the 11 cities dropped to 2212 las! year from the 1994 total of 240 [, about a quarter of those incidents were assaults mid more than a third of all the victilns of these attacks suffered serious iujnrics or died as a result of the attacks in Portland. Ore.. reported anu-gay incidents dropped 56 percent last 3"ear frotn 106 in 1994 to just 47 in 1995 - the largest decrease logged nauonal report. Clficago wasn’t much behind and showed a decrease of 53 percent last year with reported incidents falling Item 177 to 83. Boston and Los :\ngeles both showed comparable decreases ~n reported attacks last year (26 percent and 23 percent respectively). Most of these decreases were offset by cities that reported dramatl~ increases in anti-gay attacks. E1 P.aso. Texas. reported the largest nsc with a42 percent increase in mm-ga3 attacks, ajump from 92 incidents in 1994to 131 last year. Other cities that showed Phoenix, a 22 % increase; Columbus, Ohio, with a 21% rise in reported incidents; and Minneapolis/St. Paul, up by 15 % last year. Hate Crimes Data Measure Before Senate WASHINGTON, D.C. - The Senate has begun its first round of hearings on reauthorizing the federal Hate Crimes Statistics Act, the 1990 le~slation that requires the Justice Department to compile and analyze hatebased crimes, including an tigay attacks. Activists have expressed some concerns the measure may have more trouble in Congress than it did 6 )’ears ago because of the increasingly conservative make-up of both houses. Anti-Violence March at Kentucky School MOREH~D, Ky. -Nearly 200 students, faculty and staff members marched through the Morehead State Umverszty campus ~n a "Take Back the Night" campaign aimed atraising awareness of anti-gay and - lesbian violence at the school. The march, the first of its kind at the school, was sparked by the Feb. 5 attack of Carrie O’Cohnor, a lesbian enrolled at MSU. According to MSU campus police, 3 masked men grabbed O’Connor as she was walking back to her dormitory and repeated ly punched and ~.icked her. Officials say they still have no suspects in that attack, but it was reported to state police as an anti-gay hate crime - the first such official report filed by the school. Georgia Sodomy Law ATLANTA-In a legal challenge to Georgia’s anti-sodomy law - broughtby L. Chris Chrisuansen, ruled that the statute does not violate the Georgia constitution’s privacy protections. Instead, the court ruling says the law furthers "’the moral welfare of the public." Christiansen was convicted on misdemeanor charges of violating the sodomy law after he propositioned an undercover sheriff’s deputy. Montana’s Sodomy Law HELENA, Mont. - Montana Attorney General Joe Mazurek has appealed a state court ruling that declared the state’s anti-gay sodomy law unconstitutional as a violation of privacy. The case automatically goes.to the ~state supreme court. Mazurek" s office said he had decided to appeal the Feb. 16 ruling because courts, especially lower courts, should be Vex3, cautious about striking down laws made by the state legislature. Gay rights activists in Montana said they weren’t surprised by the appeal and expected the case to go before the state supreme court. Lesbian Tells Parliament of Rape in Royal Navy LONDON" - Parliament heard a stunning admission from Karen Greig, who described to a select conmaittee on the armed forces how she was raped by a male sailor she served with in the Royal Navy who threatened to reveal her lesbianism to naval officers ifshe protested. Greig, 33, said she arranged to be transferred to a naval station in Scotland to escape the man’s sexual attacks, but that he later tracked her down and raped her with another male sailor. She told the select committee members that she had not reported the attacks for years because she was worried she would be discharged from the ¯ crone to light. Greig said tlmt ¯ wheu she finally reported die ¯ attacks, a superior officer ¯ suggested that perhaps the reason she wasu’t dealing with the ¯ situation very ~vell ~vas"because ¯ you’re a lcsrian." She ",also said ¯ ~hat as soon as she reported the ¯ attacks she was se nt to a ¯ psyclfiatric hospital for 3 days ¯ and that the mcu she says raped ¯ her were uever puuished. ¯ Brit Defense Minister ¯ Vows to Keep Ban ¯ LONDON - Nicholas Soames, Britain’s defense minister, told Parli,’uneut during a question- " m~swer period that 309 service ¯ members had been discharged ¯ between 1990and 1994because they were homosexual. Somnes ¯ was answering questions about ¯ a miuistry report that showed ¯¯ members of the uation’s armed forces are strongly opposed to ¯ ending the ban on gay midlesbian ¯ soldiers, sailors ~md marines. So,’unes said lie was p~epared to ¯ "’fight every inch of the way:" to ¯ keep the anti-gay ban in place. ¯ Golf Champ Comes Out ¯ NEW YORK- Muffin Spencer- " Devlin, an 18-yearveteranofthe LPGA Tour, has told Sports Illustrated in an exclusive ¯ interview that she is a lesbian. ¯ "Confiug outis like an incredibly huge ~veight being lifted from my shoulders," Spencer-Devlin told the magazine. "’No more ¯ living iu the shadows. No more lies.’" The 42-year-old pro golfer has won 3 tournament titles mad ¯ last year had 3 fiuishes in the ¯ top-10, winning more than $100,000 from tournament play. "I truly believe that keeping a secret is an energy-consurmng ¯ act," Speficer-Devlin says in the iuterview. "If every day when ¯ you wake up you have 100 units have secrets, they nfight take up 10 milts of that energy. After a time you ufightnot even be aware of it anymore, but you have that much less cuergy to apply in your life. And that’ suuliealthy." Vickie Fergon, LPGA president, mid Jim Ritts, the conunissioner, both told Sports Illustrated they support Spencer-Devlin’s decision to come out. "’I applaud Muffin," Said Fergon. ’Tm not saying every player will be thrilled about it, but we’re a family and we respect each other." Ritts is quoted as saying, "I know there are still individuals who have problems with diversity, but we’ve come so far as a society that I don’t see this as a topic that really moves people." Gay Clubs in Russia ST. PEI’ERSBURG, Russia - The Tchaikovsky Fuud, one of the few gay rights organizations in Russia, has brokennew ground with the opeuing late last year of a new club, know as "’Victor i Ya" ("Victor and I"), in the former czarist .capital. Yuri Yereyev, who heads the Tchaikovsky Fun& said the club offers not only social facilities, like a cafe mid place where people can dance, but also will be holding seminars to educate the Russian people about gays and lesbians. Another major feature of the club, Yereyev says, is an extensive AIDS education and prevention prograni. The club hands out free HIV literature as well as condoms, both of Milch are in short supply in Russia. Yereyev also said another barrier was broken in February when a lesbian club, "Safe" ("Sappho") officially opened in St. Petersburg as well, not far from the "Victor i Ya." Canadian Rights Report OTI’AWA - Max Yalden, the 1635 E. 15TH ST. TULSA, OK 74120 599-8070 Serving Our Community with Pride! cumenicaIC tho c Church meetm,O at Tile Gardbn Cfiqpe( ~S.4t 3 J’eorta ~ T~o, .’Mas.~ Saturday event.s at 6:00 P.~ "lfie 7~ev. .7~ther 7~ck .7(o~rt~swortti. 7"astor ]’,hh’/ o/S) 040-711(; J~t’std~/lcc ’(918) 742-7iz’2 BROOKSIDE JEWELRY 4649 South Peoria 743-5272 Corner of 48th & Peoria 9:30 - 5, Mon. - Fri. News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Canadian human rights commissioner has sharply criticized the Liberal government of Prime MinisterJean Chretienin a report for not protecting the rights of gays. In a parting shot, after 9 years heading the commission, Max Yalden said the failure to bar discrimination based on sexual orientation in the country is "little better than acquiescence in intolerance." Yalden’ s annual reportcalledit"afailureinmoral logic and a near-public repudiatioff’ of the rightsoflawabiding citizens mad sl~mmed the Chretien government for failing to amend the Canadian Human Rights Act during the past 2 years it has been in power despite promises to extend full civil rights to Canadian gays and lesbians. The report generated an immediate political storm in the country and Chretien told Parliament the government had already enacted legislation increasing legal penalties for anti-gay attacks and other hate crimes. He also promised that a bill anending the federal human rights laws "will be presented before this House before we move to an election." But Allan Rock, thejustice minister, said it would be "politically difficult" to enact such an anendment before the election because of disagreements within the Liberal Party. Liberal MP Grit Dan McTeague of Ontario called Yalden a "nut bar," and sever al Conservative and Reform Party members also attacked the proposal to include gays and lesbians under federal human rights protections. Canadian Commons Gives Partners Benefits OTFAWA - .Canada’s highlysecretive Commons Board of Internal Economy, which oversees internal spending for the House of Commons itself, has approved limited benefits for same-sex partners of Commons ¯ employees. The board agreed to extend bereavement and familyrelated leave to the same-sex partners of Commons employees. The decision followed a move by the country’s Treasury ¯ Board last year to extend the ¯ same benefits to same-sex ¯ partners of employees in all fe ¯ deral government departments. ¯ That measure followed a court ¯ ro!ing that. same-sex, partners h’a~,E a righi :to ihose benefits. ¯ Gay Retires from Navy ¯ SAN DIEGO, Calif, - In ,an ¯ exclusive interview in the Gay + Lesbian Times, Keith Meinhold, the openly gay sailor who ¯ successfully battled with the ¯ Na~vy’s attempt to discharge him ¯ after he came out on a national ¯¯ TV news broadcast, announced he is retiring from the military. Meinhold, 33, w,as stationed at the Moffett Field Naval Air Sta- ¯ tion where he was a well-liked : sonar instructor when he told : Ted Koppel of ABC News in ¯ 1992 that he was gay. After he fought discharge attempts for 2 ¯ years, the 9th Circuit Court of ¯ Appe~.s finally ordered the Navy not to discharge the 15-year veteran. 1st Annual Pride ¯ Paradein CapeTown ¯ CAPE TOWN, South Africa - An estimated 1,000 gays and ¯ lesbians turned out Saturday night, March 24, to march in the ¯ first annual Gay & Lesbian Festival parade. Two lone and-. gay protesters showed up along : the parade route, holding si~s with biblical quotations ¯ denouncing sodomy, but they ¯ were hardly noticed among the thousands who lined the streets to watch the landmark event. San Francisco Library’s Gay & Lesbian Wing SAN FRANCISCO - A new wing ofthe yet-to-be opened San Francisco Main Library is being called one of a kind. On March 23, hundreds of city officials, community leaders and residents gathered to preview the James C. Hormel Gay and Lesbian Cen- : ter inside the newly constructed library. The Hormel Center will serve as a research center for gay and lesbian literature, culture, - hisidry hnd’ ~r:~search. The research ~center is the first of its kind in a public institution anywhere in the country. "It’s principal benefactor, James Hormel, said the center will change the way everyone - gay and straight- looks athistory. "’It is time for us to receive the recognition we deserve and to take our place as equal members of the community at large," Anti-Bias Albany ALBANY, N.Y. - Lawmakers have adopted an anti-bias ordinance prohibiting discrimination in employment, housing and public accommodations based on race, religion, national origin, sex, age, disability and marital status, as well as sexual orientation. The countywide measure was approved 24-13. Albany Mayor Jerry Jennings has signed a measure setting up a city domestic partners registration that will allow unmarried same-sex and opposite-sex couples to register their relationship with city hall. The measure, approved by the city’s commoncouncil earlier the same week, extends no specific benefits, but does extend official recognition to the domestic partnership. Gay Cops Sue NYPD NE\V YORK - The Gay Officers’ Action League (GOAL) has filed a lawsuit in Federal District Court charging that the New York Police Dept¯ denies the gay and lesbian police officers orgamzation rights and privileges that it routinely extend s to other police fraternal groups. Although GOAL is officially recognized by the NYP1) as a fratcr,nal o~ganization, the suit charges that it has been refused permission to set up displays at police headquarters COlnmemorating gay and lesbian cops, has not beenallowed to use NYPD vehicles ~n the city" s annual Gay Pride Parade, and has been denied permission to have the force’s marching band participate in the giant parade as well The suit charges that Black, Irish and Hispamc officers" fraternal groups are routinely extended such privileges while the department continues to refuse such requests by GOAL, which has about 500 NYPD members. NYPD officials declined to coimnent on the lawsuit. Notre.Dame’s Gay Org. SOUTH BEND, Ind. - Responding to recommendations by an ad hoc Committee on Gay & Lesbian Student Needs, Patricia O’Hara, Notre Dame’s vice president for student affairs, has announced that the Catholic aniversity will allow Notre Dame Gay & Lesbian Students official recognition at the school, although it will be set up differently from other student groups on campus. The school will not, however, recognize an already existing gay and lesbian group that it rejected last .’,ear. According to O’Hara’s office, NDGLS ~vill "stand in special relationship to the Office of Student Affairs (to) assist gay and lesbian students in coufing together to lind muttml support and in exploring connnon issues within the context of this commumty and the teachmgs of the Catholic Church." NI)GI ^S" s advisors will also bc appointed by O’ ttara, uulikc other stndcnl groups on c~m~pns ~vhich sclccl their own advi.sors. The univcrsit~ will contlnnc. however, to refuse to recognize a~ unofficial student gronp, (]a\s & Lesbians of Notre l)anc and St. Mary’s College which ~vas kicked off cmnpus last year even though ~t continues to fraction as a non-canpus orgali/21tlon More Amer!eans Approve of Gays ATLANTA - Accordiug to a CNN:’[’SA Today poll conducted by the G~llnp organization, 44"% of those interviewed said they thought homoscxualit.~ acceptable, a dranatic incrcasc over a similar Gallup poll done in 1982 which fom~d only 34% said they thought being gay was OK. This year’s poll also fotmd that on13 27% said saint-sex mamages should be legal, while 68% said gay and lesbian maniages should not be legalized in this country. Earlier polls had not included questions abont legalizing sane-sex marfiagcs. Holocaust Museum’s Gay & Lesbian Campaign SAN FIL’-kNCISCO -A stellar showing on the eve of a revival production of Leonard Bemstein’s "On theTown" here raised some S150,000 for the [’.S. Holocaust Memorial Muscum" s Gay & Lesbian Canpaign. The S 1,500-a-head event drew such luminaries as conductor Michael Tilson Thonms, librettists Betty Comden and Adolph Grcf~{, soprano Frederica yon Stadc, baritone Kurt Olhuann, and "Mod Squad" star Clarence \\’illians IlI. David A. Paddock, MT, "Utmost Cot{fi~len ce Assured" CPA 4308 S. Peoria, S~tite 633 Tulsa, OK 74105 WE OFFER ~~,E~LT£ACXTFRILOINNGIC (9183 ~4,-,6,2 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Where God Uplifts All People Sunday Service, 10:45 an~ Wednesday Service, 6:30 pm Home Cell Groups, 2nd & 4th Sun. 1623 No. Maplewood, 838-1715 A PERMANENT SOLUTION Permanent Hair Removal Carol Anwar, RE, CPE Lic. By Okla. St. Med. Bd. 488-0786 Near 71st & Lewis, Call for info. or an appt. with free consultation. P IAlrERSON REALTORS" LEA ANN MACOMBER Realtor Associate Mobile: 671-2010 2642 E. 21st Street ~ Suite ! 70 . Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114 ¯ Off: 918-749-8374 ¯ Res: 918-582-7672 ¯ Fax: 918-747-1795 KELLY KIRBY Certified Public Accountant Lesbians & Gays face many special tax situations whether single or as couples. We are proud to serve our communities with sensitive & timely information. 747-5466 POB 14011, Tulsa 74159 Poll: Teach Kids About AIDS WASHINGTON - The Kaiser Family Foundation hasjust released a major public opinion survey that indicates the overwhelming majority of Americans - 95% in fact - think public schools should teach kids about HIV and AIDS, and that nearly two-thirds think students should start learning about the disease by the time they are 12 years old. The survey also found tl{at some 66% of the 1,500 adults polled think IV drug users should be given clean needles to help prevent the spread of HIV and that some 70% think television networks should air condom ads. Mollyann Brodie, who conducted the survey, said Americans are actually faidy wall informed about the epidemic, but also noted that there are still some . significant misconceptions. About half those surveyed said people can get HIV by donating blood, which, they cannot. About half those polled also said people who become infected begin to show symptoms within 5 3"ears, although it is usually more than 5 years before s3anptoms become apparent. About 18% also said they believed there was "’some truth" in the idea that the virus was originally produced as part of a govethment germwarfare expemnent, while 12% said they thought-. AIDS was "’God’s punishinent’" of homosexuals. AIDS Rate High in U.S. Prisons ATLANTA - According to a report iu Baltimore Sun. the federal Ceuters for Disease Control & Prevention reports that ~inmates in the country’s largest correctional institutions are nearlv 6 times as likely as the general populatio~ to have AIDS. The paper reports that according to the CDC, the U.S. prison population has an infection rate of 5.2 cases per 1,000 prisoners, while the general U.S. population has less than 1 case (0.9) case per 1,000. CDCofficials said most inmates are already infected with HIV when they. enter the prison system, but that ,they also spread the virus ~ough shared IX, n~edles and sexual acti~;’~ties 0rice behind bars)..... Calif. Medical Assn. Drops HI~ Reporting Recommendation ~i! ANAHEIM, Calif. ~ The, Chli.forn~ Medical Associatiort ~M~lhag-cl~angffd its mind about a policy it adopted ouly last who are treated by doctors with a great deal of experience with the disease generally live significantly longer than those who go to physicians with less experience treating AIDS. AIDS experts agree that keeping up with current treatment modes is difficult for health care professionals who don’t regularly treat AIDS patients. Study:i!iFederal AIDS Funding i~ !! n~ppro~iately’ Spent ~¥~IN~T.~~L Tens of millions of dollars allr~’~d by Confess for AIDS research ..... i.n 1994 was spent "’inappr0priatdt~"’ - either on stndies that have ~ittl~ rele...~’ance to the disease or on adm~ist~tH~~ costs that are almost impossible to pin down - according to a vear~Lhat enOor.sed mandatory reporting .~ -~el~drt~o~ssion.,~~ by the \Vhite House ~f individual:s who test positive for H,I~’ io ~.. ~ffied~fA~S. Thdrepo~headed bv Dr. local health: officials. In March 1995 the ? ~krnold Le¢~ne of Yale}’iJniversity," was CMA adopted a resolution that called for put together by some 114 scientists, the state legislature to enact measures that would require health-care workers in California to report anyone testang positive for the virus "for the purpose of partner notification and disease control:only." Last year" s decision drew stron~ criticism from AIDS activists and many health care professionals. Now the CMA says it was wrong and that the possibility of people at high risk for infection not getting tested out of fears they will be reported to health authorities outweighs other tracking and notification considerations. Some 24states in the U.S. require reporting of people infected with HIV Better Doctors = Better Patients BOSTON" - To the surprise of almost no one. researchers from the University of Washington report Ul the New England Journal @.ledicine that people with AIDS scholars, activists, conmaumty leaders and drug industry officials. Thereport is critical of the National Institutes of Health’s $1.3 billion budget, and says some of the money was used administratively to help keep the individual health ~nstitutes,,,under the NIH umbrella going, and some was used to cover basic research that was related to fighting AIDS. While the report focuses on the 1994 budget, the most recent available, many AIDS activists agree that it reflects tren~ls that have been ongoing for years. Derek Link of the Manhattanbased Gay Men’s Health Crisis, the nation’s largest AIDS advocacy group, said he believes that funds for .-’kIDS research, which have steadily increased since the epidemic began, h~ve become "the NCI’s cash cow. ....There’s all this money that i s completely untracked3 smd Link, who authored a little-noticed report last year that was also highly critical of federal AIDS research spending. The report says, among other things, that the accounting methods nsed by federal health agencies connected to NIH are vague and archaic, making it difficult or impossible to also tell precisely what funds are actually being spent on. "The different [committee] panels and the working group were unanimous that the NCI [National Cancer Institute], and other institutes as well ... presently support research classified as AIDS-related that is not appropriately classified This problem potentially an~ounts to a very large level of funding," the report says. Nat’l AIDS Update Conference SAN FRANCISCO - The 8th annual National AIDS Update Conference, the largest in the country, opened with a warmng by Republican AIDS activist Mary Fisher that HMO-type managed care is consigning millions of people infected with HIV "to the least possible care, at the least possible cost." Fisher electrified the nation during a speech at the 1990 Republican convention in Houston about how she contracted the virus from her former husband. "I ampampered bymyinsurance company because I made a 13-minute speech to a bunch of politicians in Houston," Fisher told the opening session here. 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But Fisher and others urged activists and public policy officials to find ways to work with managed-care facilities in responding to treating people with HW and ,AIDS. Others addres sing the conference include Dr. Sandra Hernandez, director of the San Francisco Health Department: Patsy Fleming, director of the White House Office of National AIDS Policy, and researcher Dr. Max Essex. chmrman of the Harvard AIDS Institute. D~g Distribution Comroversy LOS ANGELES - A battle is erupting ove_r the distribntion of Crixlvan, the protease ialtibitor deve!oped by Merck & Co. ihat nlmlx consider the n:ost promising therapy’ in fighdng tim infection to date. Because large-scale production of the drag isnh expected to get going nnti! late this year. Merck says it decided to distribute ~rixivan exciusiveix through the Pittsburgh, Pa.-based mail-order Stadtlm~der’s Pharmac~ Merck says n ?bled for the initiai single-source 4isvibvt~.o;7 because the d~m must bc con_m~o.... x :)n, cse tremmem is supplier. Ed Bubar, who runs FAdie’s Pharmacy in West Hollywood and a staunch opponen! of Merck’s decision, called the move "’totally unfair" to independent pharmacists in the country. "’Everybody wants to get their hands on tiffs drug,"’ he said. "If between now mad October half of nay patients are slfifted to mail-order for Crixivan, I can end tip losing half of my patient base." Merck says that when supplies of the dm~o increase it will broaden its distribution to include independent m~d chain pharmacies as well. SOt. Perry Watkins Dies TACOMA, Wash. - Sgt. Perry’ Watkins, who entered the U.S. Army as an openly gay mm: and remained despite tfi s sexual onemauon, has died of AIDS. Wmkins was 47. I :nlike other gay service members. Watkins. checked "yes" on an enlistment form in 1967 that asked about homosexuali{ y and was enrolled in the Ann,, even so. Only when the Pentagon adopted forma~ reg:,flations in 1981 barring homosexuals did the Army begin disct:arge proceedings which the 14- veto: veteran challenged in federal court. [n 1989. the U.S. 9th Circmt Court of m{ed timt the Army could not dischm’ge \Vat kins for being g’ay since it had i ni ti accepted him :rod aJ Jowed him to re-e::list 3 times, Ti:u ::.S. Supreme Court :_,q !990 :.hat ~c ~CF COl.trt F \ \ TULSA ICE ARENA. tag]l) ~. ll)IST E. AVE 71ST A?<D MING{) BEHL’<I) THE L ~ PRIUE ALL TICKET PROCEEDS (.r’O "OUR HOUSE" TICKETS: $ 8.01) BL,EACHER,5 $12.50 t;,N I...E TICKETS AVAL:[ABLE TLTLSA ICE ARE:’<A 254-7272 RENEGADES ,117TH Sponsored by Miller Lite Memorial Day Weekend May 24-26 Oklahoma City State Fairgrounds Advance Ticket Package only $25 Includes both rodeo performances & both parties. 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Leather org. info cio 621-5597 7.U.LoS.A, Tulsa Uniform ~ L.~adbr Seekers" A~’soc, >racuc.: week!v in OKC in b S38-212~ TUESDAYS HIV+ Support Group HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm 4154 S. Harvard, Ste H-1 Info: Wanda ~ 749-4194 Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. HW/AIDS Support Group & Friends & Famii y HIV,AIDS Support Group 7 pm, call for location: 749-7898 Community of Hope Grief Group, 6 pm 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Grief Group ButleriStumpff Funeral Home 2103 E. 3rd St. Call for time: 587-7000 WEDNESDAYS Authority OfThe Believer Bible Study, 7 pm MCC of Greater Tulsa 1623 N. Maptewood In/o: 838-!71~ Bless The Lord At All T~mes Christian Center Prayer & Bible Stud), 7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth Call 593-78!5 for info. Family Of Faith MCC Praase & Prayer 6:30 pm Choir Pracuce 7:30 pm 5451 -E South Mingo Call 622-1441 for info. 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Cormnunitv of ! lcpc 1703 E. 2nd, Ir~fo: 585-1800 NAMES Project AIDS MemoHa~ Qui~ Sewing Bees 3rd Sat. of each inonth Info: 7dg-3 t i OTHER GROUPS Gay & Lesbian Sn~dem Assoc~o~’: hio: (£;? 762 ’ 7].3-(].- "- Womens Supper Club 6:30pro, r-Fippin’s Pie P~mtry, 7828 E. -1 WEDNESDAY, APRIL 17 Pride Picnic Planning Meeting 7 pro. Central Library. Preview Room, 4fl~ & Denver. In/o: 583-1248 THURSDAY, APRIL 18 Planning Meetingfor Gay & Lesbian Action AlertPhone Tree 6 pm, TOHR office, 40th & Harvard, 2nd ft. All welcome. In/o: 582-7548 APRIL 26-28 HIVIAIDS & SpiritualitylWholeness Retreatfor Men, In/o: 488-9215 SATURDAY, APRIL 27 Rainbow Business Guild Spring Picnic 4 pro, Zink Park, In/o: 665-5174 Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Volunteer Training (1 of2 sessions) 10-5 pm, Community of Hope 1703 E. 2nd Info: 749-4213 /WEDNESDAY, MAY 1 Womens Supper Club .... i6f30pm, Olive Garden, Utica Square iInfo: 584-2978 ~.. 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Harvard, Info: 7494901 MAY 17-19 Herland Sister Resources Retreat Roman Nose State Park Registration deadline: 5/15 Info: 2312 NW 39th, OKC 73112 HIV/AIDS & Spirituality/Wholeness Retreatfor Women, hffo: 488-9215 TUESDAY, JUNE 4 Tulsa Oklahomansfor Human Rights, PFLAG & Rainbow B,tsiness GUIM present Cece Cox, pres. ofthe ’ Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance 7 pm, ChouteaU Rm, Chapman Ctr, TU In/o: 743-GAYS (4297) SATURDAY, JUNE 8 TOHR Ci~wide Pride Prom Location to be announced. Info: 743-GAYS (4297) SATURDAY, JUNE 15 Tulsa Pride Picnic Noon - 6pm. Location to be ammunced. In/o: 743-GAYS (4297) = The University of [ulsa StudentA.*:..’,-.)’,,~’",,’~~,’v",.,r’" ~ ~is~’:<t:al. Lesbian and ~av ~t.[ance _,..c ~_n:,vc;-sitx 1)_ [] /)re.senz the [] : 2rid Annual World Cinema Festivat [] Gay & Lesbian Cinema : ¯¯ Friday, April 19 [] ¯ []~ Gav & Lesbian History [][] [] The Homosexuals. 7 pm [] Before Stonewalh The Making of a Gay and ¯ Lesbian Comtnunirv, 8pm ¯ ¯ Last Call at Maud’s, 9:30 pm [] ¯ Saturday,., April 20 [] American Gay & Lesbian Experience ¯" ¯ [] [] Postcards From America, lpm ¯ A Comedy in Six Unnatural Acts, 2:30pm ¯ ¯ Homoteens, 3pm , ¯ The Blankpoint: What is Transexualism, 4pm ¯ ¯ ¯ Break for Dinner ¯ ¯ Super 8 112, 7pm ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ Sunday, April 21 . -" Gay & Lesbian International Film -" ¯ Wild Reeds, lpm ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ Khltsh, 3pm ¯" El Diputado, 3:30pm ¯ Break for Dinner " ¯ ¯ ¯ Boys Shorts: The New Queer Cinema, 7pm ¯ ¯ Urinal, 9pm ¯ ¯ ¯ ¯ Screenings are free and in Lorton Hall//207 (enter from 8th & ¯ Evanston. Lorton faces the Oval & is north of Twin Towers Dorm) ¯ ¯ Sponsored by the TU Student Assoc~"att"on, BLGA, Office of the¯ "Provosl, School of Art, Hen~. Kendall College Division of Fine & ¯ ~-Performing Arts, Office of the President .and Tulsa Family News.~- I I i I I I I I I i I I I I I I I I I i I lilillll Illil I I.iil i i ii ’ IAM o,t’d om p. 1 Episcopal Diocese of Oklahoma. Both OKC and Tulsa members of the Task Force felt the ne2xl to provide services to PLWA’s, such as hospital visits, memorial services and education. Out of this, grew IAM which incorporated and applied for its IRS tax-exempt status in 1990. IAM was begunby Doreen Wood;Phil Wiley, Don Satterthwaite and Chaplin Diane Zike, who serves as executive director. Although IAM is an interfaith orgamzation, its origin with the Episcopal Church resulted in a grant in 1990 to run a 24hour volunteer HIV/AIDS hotline. This line was for several years the only source of24 hour information in the state. Calls to the hotline range frombasic HIV information and referrals, such as to testing sites, to providing "real" listening to those who want toknow if their actions may have put them at risk for HIV infection. IAM’s state certified volunteers and staff also provide education seminars for churches, and organizations such as the US Army Corp of Engineers, Kimberly-Clark, and booths at health fairs, conferences and conventions. IAM’s goal is to provide HIV.AIDS information from a spiritual dimension, especially for young people. According to Diane Zike, "IAM is about saving lives...w e believe in abstinence but also in giving good information so people can make good choices." Zike has recently finished a couf~e in clinical pastoral care which will allow IAM to add a new dimension to its services. IAM also offers "’trained visitors" who are available to see folks who are max be too ill to get out or x~l~o are lonely. ¯ IAM’s currentboardis Richard Reeder, ¯ Phil Wiley, Joe Myles, Lauren Green, ¯ Steven Fendt, Bill Green and Nancy Tiger. Their vision for the future hopes to add ameditation series, and various work- .- shops to their current services of provid- ¯ ing spiritual, emotional and practical sup- " port for people. ¯ IAM is a membership/volunteer sup- " ported organization. Membership is only ¯" $5/year/individualor$10/year/household ¯ and $1/year/student/low income. Volun¯ teers are especially needed for the 24 hour hofline whichis staffed in4hour blocks at ¯ the volunteer’s home. One day training is ¯ provided in HIV!AIDS information and ¯ in "active listening". For more info. or to "- volunteer, call 438-AIDS (2437). i Spahr ~on,’d~om p. 1 ¯ bly because Spahr is Lesbian. Following ¯ that ruling, DUPC and Westminister, 2 ¯ More Light (welcoming of Lesbian and ¯ Gay persons) congregations, set up the ¯ special ministry so that she could travel ¯ the US educating and informing Presbvterians and others on behalf of greater ¯ inclusiveness in the Church. Spahr also will be the featured speaker ¯ at a workshop entitled "Claiming God’s ¯ Grace" in OKC on Sat.:May 18th. The ~vorkshop is beiug called "a day of healing, learning and community as we work toward wholeness in our lives as children Of God & as Gay, Lesbian, Bi & Transgendered peoples’" 9am to 4pm at St. Andrew’s. 2712 NW 23. Preregistration encouraged, although walk-ins are welcome. Fee: S15, with scholarships available. For more izffo, call 745-9922 in Tulsa, 377-9174, Stilhvater or 840-4849 in OKC. FUNERALS JUST NEVER SEEMED RIGHT FOR MY FAMILY... THE CREMATION SOCIETY WAS CREATED FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME. enjo)" being ourselves. A funeral seems ostentatious and can cost a lot of money. A simple, ~lign~ed cremation just seems to fit our lifestyle. Cremation Society® of Oklahoma 2103 East Third, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74104-1842 918-599-7337 or toll-free, 800-994-7337 or vas~t us on the Internet at hrtp ://www. cremation, org/oklahoma!oklahoma, html For Free Literature, Withou| Cost or Obligafion, Mail this coupon today! Please contact me. I would like to learn more about your special final expense program. Name: Age: Address: City, St. &.Zip: Telephone: Play cont’dfromp. 13 John Weller for their incredible performances in the production I "directed" - HIVariations, consisting of Cater Waiter & Andre’s Mother. Special thanks to Vivica, & the rest of the cast - your suggestions & insights were extremely helpful & appreciated. I am very proud of them. They performed perfectly, & the technical aspects of the show went off without a hitch - there wasn’t a dry eye in the house when they were done. Thank you for the many hours ofwork youall put in, & for putting up with a sometimes temperamental director. Special thanks to Aaron Mooney, who worked the lights with almost no preparation, no rehearsal, & did a stellar job. A special thanks to Professor Cook, for his belief in this project, & his conviction that everyone should have a voice in theatre. I hope you’ll support the 2nd Annual World Cinema Festival of Gay" & Lesbian Cinema at the TU, which occurs Friday, April 19 - Sunday, April 21. All films will be screened in Lorton Hall, room #207, on the TU campus. For the complete schedule see the ad on page 9. See you there? Onthe local front, BA Cornn{lmi’(~Playhouse was named "Oklahoma Theatre of the Year" by the OK Community Theatre Association. According to Don Tabberer, "For a community theatre, this is equivalent to receiving the Best Picture Oscar; it is very gratifying to be recognized for the work we do here.’" BACPalso received an award for "’Excellence in Marketing". Congratulations, BACP! Their production of "’The Cemeterx: Club", a story about friendship, loss, healiug & facing life with humor, opens April 26. $ondheim’s "Company" opens June 14. BACPis also looking for directors for the upcoming season. For more info., call the BACP at 258-0077. Elvis is alive, &will probably be incognito at the Philbrook. The Philbrook Museum of Art will play host to a traveling exhibit, "Elvis + Marilyn: 2x Immortal". The exhibit examines Presley’s & Monroe’s enduring effect on American culture, & will be showing April 14- June 2, 1996. Keith Haring is one oftbe artists featured. A special event on April 28 at 2 & 4 pm, will be a concert given by J.D. Sumner & the Stamps Quartet, who performed regularly with Elvis during the height of his success. Tickets for the concert are $15, & include admission to the exhibit. Tix are available at the museum, or call 748-5307. see Play, page 15 Rainbow cont’dfromp. 11 tain state, particularly inColorado Springs. Colorado Springs’ loss is our gain. The Emerald Rainbow has always been a tremendous resource for g/l/b/tg folk, and the beat goes on. The place has a little different look, new & different siddines, and most of the familiar remains as wall. Come and see for yourself. You can meet M.C. &Linda, maybe swap or create some God stories of your own. You might pick up some incense, buy a Rainbow flag, some Freedom Rings, a gay or lesbian novel, ~nake a statement with a button or bumper sticker, mid you will deftnitely enjoy your time in the place we call paradise - Enreka Springs. (NOTE: The Fanerald Rainbow can be reached at emrain@rog.ar.ispnet.com, or visit their home page on the WorldWide Web:http: www pimps.conreurekaibizi emraiu.html) ’96 ECLIPSE SPYDER CONVERTIBLE GS $22,835 Tales of The Emerald Rainbow by Phil Boler-Schmidt Linda Williams and M.C Delahanty are not unlike many visitors to pass this way. They read that Eureka Springs hoots-a large lesbigay population in a guide about great gay places to : live,~and tiring of thebigotryand : ~hatred-erRlemi&in Springs, they decided tO ch~ckI us out.....hehe. The now proud owners ofThe Emerald Rainbow (45-1/2 Spring Street in Eureka Springs, 501-253-5445) left Colorado on a whim in early Febnmry. They had plane reservations and were planning to vacation here in March, but they decided to get a ¯ sneak preview. They knew they ¯ could stay less than two days ¯ before making the trek back to ¯ theirjobs at casinos in the Cripple ¯ Creek resort area. So sure were they that this was a quick trip, just to give us the once over, that the couple of five years did not bother to bring their checkbook along for the ride.. - .. trieve parts of herself from along some highway in Oklahoma. Jan & Kim Ridenour, the founders, and now former owners of The Emerald Rainbow, referred to this particular event as just an- Other good laugh at the Angel Bar, where some macho dyke angel said, "Hey look, we need a couplemore in Eureka Springs," In less than half a day;.~M.C..&~: ]....then, with a swift puff of air into warmth, and humor to their new venture, and the place didn’ t skip a beat. By the nme we go to press, their Grand Opemng will be past, and the official passing of the torch will be a memory. These ladies are ready to settle in for the long haul. This move was fraught with ironies for Linda & M.C. They only lived in Colorado for three Linda.~ contraeted~ to::pufeh’a!se’; .::;:hef~.blow gun, she landed the".; ye,hrsTThree years exactly to the their n~w~bfisiri~s~ an@le~e ~an~,:~" d~d,dub right on’target: ¯ apartments- all without benefit-::: All joking aside, this has been ofaLnythingothertharithemagic : quiteaseries0feventstowimess. .. money machine at alo,..~cal_~bank. .- Like most folks in our little ~’ Oh ye~;Eu’:r~k~iSpri~s~be’ ~; " t~t6pi;a;,t ,wear a, number.of katsa downrightdangerous place: r0 ! arrund town. One I have filways visitifyouhavenotalreadygiven : enjoyed is the-one I don when thought to an abbot move. We..... work-in,g, part-time at The have several- names,’~,l~or,~tli~se F Eme-rald~Rai.nbow. I feel like I kinds of occurrences ~n Eureka ; get pMd to play, and that role Springs. At MCC of the Living : continues forme as l get to know Spring, we called it another God the new Emerald Rainbow Story. Linda& M.C. consistentl~ : "morns." refer to It as a whirlwind, and each feels like she needs to reday. Both are nanve to the Baltimore, MD area. Though they moved toColorado Springs m the aftermathof the Amendment Two vote. th’e~; initially felt good about that mo~’e. They wanted a sabbatical from-the hustle and bustle of life-in th~ big city, ,’rod they weren:~t rs~ly,prepared lbr the overt:nile that ~vangelicals exert in the-once liberal uloullshe Rombow. page 10 A dull Accommodations In Eureka Springs, Arl~nsas M.C. & Linda are delightful people. They bring enthusiasm, Craftsman-style cottages with beautiful .views of the woods and wildlife -.Tucked on top of the Ozark Mountains, just a few minutes .walk to the Historic Village ofEureka Springs. 501/253-8281 Frank Green Jr.. Hosl - 50 Wall $treet - Eureka Springs. 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With asset allocation, you mix both conservative & growth-oriented investments and arrive at a blended portfolio which is not as risky as it Would be if you were to put all your money into gro~,th instruments. This strategy offers youmore upside potential than if you were to go totally conservative. It’also offers the poter~tial advantage of.~ving you something positive to work with in nearl v every kind of market scenario. Whild one ~nvestment is performing poorly, another may be doing well. How you allocate of diversify your personal portfolio is determined I~v" your individual Investment profile - v~tir goals, your risk temperament, 3our t~.x situation and your time horizon. Your asset all ocatlon may need to change over tlllle in orderto ~’it your changing financial needs mad goals READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City/County Public Library . Twenty-six years after Stonewall and s~xteen years into the AIDS crisis, gay men are just now starting to figure out how tomakelong-term relationships work, and, more importantly, why they are significant. Author Craig Nelson takes us on a stage by sta’ge journey ~b0ut how to get, and keep, a man. In eleven readable and entertaining chapters, Nelson explores "Modem Love," "Where to Meet Men," "Date Tips for Guys" and "Keeping it Together," among other topics. Since some guys seem to find romantic success via personal ads and dating services, Nelson supplies lists of questions that help both you and )’our potential mate understand who you are and what you want. Also, under’standing that a very small percentage of people are extremelY, physically attractive, Nelson reminds th~ reader to loosen up, don’t beat up on yourself, or a potential mate, for not looking like Rod Jacksou-Paris. There is much more to life & relationships than just ha~.mg a pretty face. Nelson cites many factors that combine to sabotage long-term relationships, in- ¯ cluding poor self esteem, intemalized ¯ homophobia, lack of fidelity and the idea that the other guy is just plain nuts! The ¯ bottomline seems to be lack of communication. Everyone has quirks, so dream on ¯ if you’re looking only for Mr. Perfect, or ¯ if you think that you are Mr. Perfect! All ¯ .relationships are based on communicat- ¯ mg needs and desires. ¯ " ’There is an interesting chapter, "Fidel- ; ity, What’s Fidelity?," dealing with the apparent difficulties that many gay men ¯ have being faithful to their partner. AIDS many factors...sabotage long-term relationships... poor self-esteem, internalized homophobia, lack of fidelity and the idea that the other guy is just plain nuts[ is the obvious reason that this may be the most important chapter in the book. It’s time gay men realize that the 1970s are long gone, and now is the time to create a new standard for gay relationships. After spending the entxre first ten chapters trying to get couples together for the long haul, Nelson’s final chapter is titled "When It Falls Apart." Some relationships are simply not going to work and this chapter g~ves advice on making a breakup as painless as possible. If there was ever a time for a book like this, this is it! Please contact your local branch library, or call the Readers Services department at the Centr,’d Library at 596-7966, for dfis book & others on si]nilar subjects. Butfer-Sturnpff Funeral Home Cemetery - Funeral Home - Crematory At Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home, you and your family will be treated with dignity, compassxon, and pride. Whether it is your given or chosen family who needs our ser’vices, ’;ou can be who and what youare and you will noi be discriminated against. Weoffer our exclusive$2820 complete funeral plan, no added costs. 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In fact, at least three of the waiters are positively stunning (and they know it!) and could grace the pages of most any catalog or print ad. Unfortunately, we don’t have first hand information on whether or not they would qualify for International Male. And, believe it or not, these attractive waiters are very capable at doing their jobs. If one is able to get one’s mind back on the menu, one will find a good variety of tasty, well prepared items at this popular restaurant. The decor here is very clubby, including a welcoming fireplace near the bar, and the menu reflects a man’s tastes by the emphasis on heartier entrees and the lack of trendy items. Our major complaint with the establishment is that the smoking and non-smoking sections are not fully separated, and on a busy night, no area of the restaurant is trul y free from obnoxious mid unhealthy smoke. The food here is basic; straight forward ,and no-nonsense in preparation, .you can dine on haute cuisine entrees or the ever popular $7 Polo burger. Appetizers include fried calamari (squid), shrimp cocktail, some tasty crab cakes, escargot (snails) served in mushroom caps, a tomato vegetable soup, and an assortment of soups dujour. Several big entree salads, such as a traditional Cobb, appear on the menu, and the dressings include an excellent fruit flavored poppyseed vinaigrette, one of our favorites. Caesar salads, both with Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square. Prices: expensive. Service: formal, bistro atmosphere. Hours: 11-10 pro; ’tll 11 pm on Fri. & Sat.; closed Sun. Payment: Visa, ]~laster-card, American Express, Diner’s Club, Carte Blanche; no eheel~s. Non-smol~n~ seeGon: Yes. Alcohol: Full bar. Opinion: A List. and without grilled chicken or shrimp, are also popular items. Main courses include beef, veal, lamb, duck, chicken, shrimp, and fish, with prices ranging from S 14.95 for the roast split of duckling to S 19.95 for grilled lamb chops to S22.95 or so for the fresh fish of the day. Steaks are popular with the sometimes older crowd, and the tenderloin fillet costs S16.95 for the six ounce and S18.95 for the eight ounce size, with the strip sirloin going for S 18.95 We ate the excellent veal osso bucco and our companion ordered the fish of the " day, which was a baked halibut served in Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates 1515 South Lewis Are you looking for a relaxed, amicable, private atmosphere for therapy? Our office provides a level of confidentiality and comfort that enhances teh therapeutic process. For further information, call 743-4117 Leah Hunt, MSW Judy Seymour-Taylor, CADC Della Blackburn, CADC Ric.hard Reeder, MS Serving a Diverse Community ¯ a champagne cream sauce. The halibut ¯ was very fresh with no hint of fishy taste, and the sauce was a light and pleasant ¯ accompaniment. The halibut was pre- ¯¯ sented along side angel hair pasta, which we thought was cooked a touch beyond al ~ dente. Our osso bucco was delicious and ¯ fork tender. A traditional Italian stewing ¯ of the veal leg served with cross sections ¯ of bone and attached meat, osso bucco is ¯ beloved not so much for the meat, but for ¯ the wonderful marrow inside the bone. ¯ Therefore, we were shocked and appalled : when our osso bucco was presented, not ¯ with a marrow scoop, but with a totally useless seafood fork! We hate to admit it in public, but we were forced to extract the marrow witha...butter spreader. Mon dieu.t Desserts are substantial._ The creme brulee and Key lime pie, both $3.50, are typical of Tulsa restaurants. Even better are the baked fudge and the cinnamon raisin, bread pudding, both $3.95. On the evemng we dined, a Grand Marnier souffle, $4.95, was apleasant finale to our meal. While the souffle was not quite as tender as what we make at home, we could hardly complain in view of the very reasonable price of this often-difficult dessert. After dinner coffees, demitasse, and drinks are available from the full bar. A fairly small wine list contains both nice drink’able wines and a few embarrassing selections that are so sadly all too popular in Tulsa. Several of the better wines are available by the glass. The Polo Grill has always been one of the consistently go~d restaurants in Tulsa. Formal and gourmet it is not, bnt management and the kitchen are very ~vell grounded in their concept of ident’itv and do a fantastic job of serving their ~iclle with well trained staff and excellent food. Marilyn Monroe,.at Philbrook’s l~vis + Marilyn: 2 x Immortal,photo: Sam Shaw by James Christjohn The University of Tulsa’s Weekend of One .Acts has come & gone. Many ontstanding productions were perfonncd, & almost everyone in the directing class is now dealin~ with a great deal of strcss reduction. However, there are three productions upcoming. Diaries, writtcn by TU students about college life from a gay perspective, will go up 4.: 29, at 7pro in Theatre 2 in Kendall Hall. On 4 30, at 7pro, Laundry & Bourbon & The lx,sson (directed by Vivica \Valkenbach) will bc performed in Theatre 2. Lisa \Vilson’s version of Bus Stop opens 4 24. I would like to take tiffs opportunity to express my th,’ulks to Michael Kippcr, Karin Sandmel, Vivica \Valcbeubach, & see Play, page lO Worship Service, 10:30 am Sheridan Center, Suite H, 21st & Sheridan, 599-7688 where pets are treated like people * Bakery Treats * Bed 8: Breakfast (boarding) " Salon * Pet Supplies: Science Diet, IAMS. Nutro Dog Food THE DOG HOUSE BROOKSIDE 3311 S. Peoria. 744-5556 [D[CC TO DISCO Wed,-Sat, 10-5 Sun, 1 The fabulous T-Town Dreamers. Photos: JD Jamett OUT & ABOUT by, J.D. Jame~t " " - int~rest ~,s known as a great neighborhood It’s spring and boy, are there a lot of bar (or two bars) - that’s right, New Age Atthe Silver Star, Fallon Scott new Miss Gay South USofA tlfings to do out and about. This next month holds a broad spectrum of events from a turn-about show at the Silver Star (April 19), followed by the 4th annual Miss Silver Star Pageant (April 21). You’ll be sorry if you missed Robbie Walker’s 2rid am~tm] Birthday Show wtfich was April. 7th at Concessions. Don’t nfiss the Miss Gay C)klahoma America Pagent (April 20) at the Peffornfing Arts Center or the Bear Bash (April 27). Contact Steve or Dick at 918- 663-5372 for more *larch came in like a lamb but went out like a drag queen with bad hair and broken heels (just-kidding). There was a lot of excellent entertaimnent last month, from .a spectacular arfiversarv show at I~ola’s which featured a new°entertainment group, The T-Town Dreamers, to the first mmual Gay South USofA pageant at the Sih’~r Star. This month’s featured establishment of Renegades and the Rainbow Room. These bars offer a little bit for everyone, a from a sit-down cruise bar to a show bar to a nice big patio with fireplace. This bar is trnly a familv affair. Dermis and lfis other half. i~arry, not only are the owners but regular bartenders. And who could ever forget Derails’ sister, Veronica, the v~vacious and light-hearted bartender in the Rainbow Room? Some of their ~nonthly events are Leather Night (Ist Friday of the month in the Rainbow Roon~), Girls Nite Out (the date varies each month but the date is always posted). May will be a particularly busy month for th’em starting with the Red Ribbon Revue (May 4) which will benefit Our House. followed by Miss Renegades ’96 (May 17), Girls Nit’e Outwith a wetjockey shorts contest (May 18) mad ending with one of the rites of spring, the GAYFEST CARNIVAL & carwash featuring Dark Shadows II, see JD, next page Coming Soon! Don’t Miss It! Special entertainers: Amanda Love Anita Richards Helen Holliday Scott Pendergrass, from Nashville An event you won’t want to miss. The most prestigious preliminary to Miss..GaY OMahoma America Tickets on sale at the P.A.C.or at most Carson Attractions outlets. $5.00 ~er person or $6°00 per couple= Phone orders ~y credit cards accepted. Liddy D.oenges Theater - use the 2rid St. entrance 1~r this event.‘ Don’t ~it~’t0 pur~h~se tickets; seating is limiteci. Thanks to the P.A.C. ~’or helping to make ~his ever~t one Tulsans of all walks of life will be proud of. For more information, call: 918.428.5330 Portions of proceeds to benefit Shanti, Inc. & Our House JD, continuedfrom page 14 also benefiting Our House (May 19). PS, speaking of drag queens, to keep all the fabulous drag divas of Tulsa happy (and so they stop pestering me about getting their names mentioned in the column), I’m now starting our Queen ofthe Month dub. This month’s winner is Katherine - ’cause she begs so sweetly. Queen ofthe Month dub rules Vary according to my whim, so be patient, sooner or later, everyone wins. Play, continuedfrom page 14 Gilcrease museum is offering an intriguing program during this month called Art WithA Tart: No, I’m not making this up; that’s the name of the event, honest! A speaker will give a tour about bits of the Gilcrease collection, & the museum restaurant makes up a box lunch comprised of a tart &a salad. I don’t think they mean the tart serves the salad, it seems a pastry tart is included in the lunch: Pity. 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Gardens has been Gay and Les those will al!ow co grazing nizin is noplace the lS no as a o si 2 ?n as an in~ Lividual? will, the first ce: in the United States section of our cemetery just for & Lesbians, and their family and friends. burial_spaces, columbarium for cremated remains, ¯ ~.g:gardens with a :memorial wall, newly expanded and renovated section of ngton. Memorial Gardens~ Cemetery. The Pride flag will proudly fly in the center of Unity Gardens to always remind us of our struggle in life for unity and pride. If you have purchased a plot elsewhere, you may be able to transfer or trade your burial plots. For more information, please call Russell Langley-Stumpff at 918-587-7000. ***Owned and operated by Butler-Stumpff Funeral Home*** Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1996] Tulsa Family News, April 15-May 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 5 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. 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