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Minnesota ’Sodomy’ Law
RUled Unconstitutional
MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - Minnesota’ s law thatprohibits
oral sex and other intimacy betweenconsenting adults
is unconstitutional, a state district courtjudge has ruled.
~udgeDelila Pierce said the law, which had been on the
books since the 1800s, is unconstitutional because it
violates the right of privacy guaranteed by the Minnesota
Constitution.
The Minnesota Civil Liberties Union (MnCLU) and
the American Civil Liberties Union’s National Lesbian
& Gay Rights Project had filed a lawsuit last.summer
challenging the sodomy statute on behalf of a cross
section of Minnesotans.
Although the state court ruling should prevent the
sodomy law from being enforced anywhere in Minnesota,
the MnCLU is asking the court to technically
classify the case as a class action. MnCLU attorney
Teresa Nelson said that would lea~ "absolutely no
uncertainty" see Sodomy, p.ll
Global AIDS Goals
Debated at United Nations
UNITED NATIONS (AP) - Delegates from over 100
countries began debating a plan recently calling for
tough new targets to combat AIDS worldwide, including
the spending of up to $10 billion a year by 2005 in
developing countries. The delegates opened five days
of negotiations on a declaration U.N. members are
expected to approve at the General Assembly special
session on HIV/AIDS in New York next month.
"This is a global problem that needs global actionand
a global response," said Australia’s U.N. Ambassador
Penny Wensley. ’-’We know it can be done, but it cannotbe
done unless there is a massive infusion of resources
and a mobilization of political will."
The draft declaration endorses the goal set last Sep-"
tember by some 150 world leaders at the U.N. Millennium
Snmmit ofhalting and starting toreverse the HIV/
AIDS epidemic by 2015. The document was drafted by
Wensley and Ibra Deguene Ka, the U.N. ambassador
from Senegal, who are co-chairing preparations for the
U.N. meeting June 25-27.
The declaration, if adopted, would commit U.N.
members to meeting a series of interim targets over the
next 15 years.
Among these proposed targets are the following:
- Governments should develop national strategies
"and financing plans see Global, p. 2
¯
Pride 2001 F ,atures N.ew
Parade Route, Bigger Fest,val
Interfaith Service Rescheduled
¯¯ TULSA (TFN)-Organizers of the 2001 Pride events areworking
frantically to finish last minute details for the parade and festival
¯
and associated events which they believe will be better than any
: before. And as happens, at least one event has been rescheduled:
¯ the Interfaith service is now at 7pr~_.on Wednesday, June 6, still ¯
at Sharp Chapel at the University of Tulsa, just off of 1 lth St. at
¯ College Ave.
¯ Greg Gatewood, spokesman forTulsaOklahomans forHuman
Rights (TOHR) notes also that the black-tie optional Gala Dinner
at the Tulsa Country Club on Friday, June 8th will have dancing
after the dinner as well as a silent and also brief live auction.
: Tickets are still available at the Center, 743-4297.
¯ Organizers also want to emphas:ze the change in Parade
location and time. It will begin at 3pm at 15th near Utica
¯ continuing along Cherry St. to Boston and along 18th to the
: Festival in Veterans’ Park as in the past. see Pride, p. 9
SGe.rvin.gaL.esyb.ian..,.___j,, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families +Fji=~nd~
¯ Phelps’ Protest Raises $
for Gay/Straight Students
The 2001 Diversity Festival will feature booths & entertaiment.
¯ Vermont House Tries to
Revise Civil Union Legislation
¯ by Ross Sneyd, Associated Press Writer ¯
MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP) - The Vermont House passed a recip-
: rocal partnership bill that would repeal civil umons even as it
: endorses same-sex relationships. The bill, which would confer
¯ mamage benefits on all couples who cannot otherwise marry,
¯ passed 72-69. Civil unions applied only to Gay and Lesbian
¯ couples, but the replacement reciprocal partnerships would ap- ¯
ply to same-sex couples and to pairs of blood relatives.
: The debate on final passage was marked by sharp exchanges
¯ over homosexuality. Ironically, it required many people who ¯
find homosexuality morally repugnant to endorse relationships
¯
between two men and two women. "It’s difficult because it still
¯ gives the same benefits to same-sex individuals, couples as the
¯ traditional marriage couple," said Rep. Nancy Sheltra, R-Derby,
: one of the leading opponents of civil unions. She voted for the
¯ bill.
¯ The state Senate will get thebill next, but leaders have said they
¯ don’t intend to address it. And Gov. Howard Dean has said he ¯
would not sign any legislation changing the civil unions law.
¯ The bill accomplished some of the goals of civil unions
¯ opponents; though,because couples no longerwouldbe required ¯
¯ tohave theirunions certified byAjudge, clergymember orjustice
of the peace in the same way that marriages are solemnized. It
¯ also would require the reciprocal partnerships licenses would be
¯ issued by the Health Depa],’tment instead of by individual town
¯ clerks, as civil unions and marriages are.
"We see this as a step in the right direction," said the Rev. Craig
i
Bensen °fCamb,ri,d~e, a leader in theanti-civil uni°n gr°upTake
it to the People. It s a bill that makes sense only in the world
definedbyBaker." Tha~’ s the 1999 Vermont Supreme Court case
that declared Vermont s marriage statutes unconstitutional becauseGay
and Lesbian couples were denied the benefits that flow
from marriage. To comply with the ruling, the Legislature last
year adopted civil unions. That’s a legal structure that parallels
mamage but remained separate and distinct, see Unions, p. 2
¯ TULSA (TFN) - Making lemonade out of lemons,
young and older supporters ofGay/Straight Alliances
in Oklahoma and new Jenks graduate, Kevin Barker,
¯
¯ gathered at the LGBT Community Center onMay 21 torespondpositively to a graduationprotestbyWichita
¯ anti-Gay preacher Fred Phelps and his clan. Phelps
¯ targeted Jenks High School because the school’s
adminstration, after someprodding andin response to
¯ fedcral law, allowed the formation of the Gay/Straight
¯ Alliance. ¯
In a widely distributed e-mail, Barker wrote, "my
: response to this is aimed to take a negative situation
¯ andmakeitapositiveone. Iloveusingkindness tokill
¯ hatred so here is what I wouldlike to do." Barker then
¯ proposed that supporters make a pledge to donate a ¯ sum for each hour that Phelps protested. The more his
¯ crew was there, the more would be raised for the
¯ Jenks GSA via the Oklahoma chapter of GLSEN
(Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network).
see Jenks, p. 9
Gill Foundation to Give
TOHR $40,000 Grant
Kevin Barker. Jenks Class of 2001, Kerry Lewis of
TOHR and Karin Weldin ofSoulforce at the Center.
TULSA (TFN)-TulsaOklahomans forHumanRights
(TOHR) has announced that the Denver-based Gill
Foundation has awarded one of its Fast Track grants
toTOHRfor $40,000 for operating andprogramming
expenses over a three-year period. The grant also
includes technical assistance support. TOHR is one
of only three organizations in the nation to receive the
grant.
~llae grant will help to ensure TOHR’s financial
stability, increase the effectiveness of its programs,
and continue its work of more than 20 years in
educating the public about issues affectingTulsa’s
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual &Transgender communities.
TOHR is Oklahoma’s oldest civil rights organization
dedicated to acheiving equality for the Gay,
Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender communities.
TOHR’s largest program is the operation ofthe Tulsa
Gay, Lesbian, Bi &Transgender Community Center,
2114 S. Memorial Road.
The Gill Foundation was established in 1994 by
Tim Gill, founder and former chairman and chief
technology officer of Quark, Inc., a Denver-based
computer software company. Tim Gill and the Gill
Foundation have provided more than $21 million to
hundreds of organizations and programs serving
LGBT communities and people living with HIV/
AIDS.
Through the Gay and Lesbian Fund for Coloradol
the foundation funds Colorado nonprofits in the areas
of: social justice; children, youth and families; leadership
development; arts and culture and public broadcasting.
In addition, the foundation operates the OutGiving
Department which provides technical assistance and
other resources see Gill, p. 9
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
*CW’ s, 1737 S. Memorial
*Play-Mor, 424 S. Memorial
Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Schatzi’ s, 2619 S. Memorial
*The Star, 1565 Sheridan
*TNT’ s, 2114 S. Memorial
*Tool Box II, 1338 E. 3rd
*Vortex, 2182 S. Sheridan
*The Yellow Brick Road Pub, 2630 E. I5th
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834-4234
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Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. H~rvard 743-1000
Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E: 71 250-5034
Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 5231 E. 41 665-4580
Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122
*Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955
*Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313
*Cheap Thrills, 2640 E. 1 lth 295-5868
Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
Encompass Travel, 13161H N. Memorial 369-8555
Ross Edward Salon 584-0337, 712-9379
Events Unlimited, 507 S. Main 592-0460
Horal Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595
Four Star Import Automotive, 9906 E..:55th PI. 610-0880
Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709
Gay & Lesbian Affordable Daycare 808-8026
*Gloria Jean’s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21st 742-1460
Leanne M. Gross, Insurance & financial plaiming 459-9349
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1-111
*International Tours 341-6866
Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750
*Jared’s Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582-3018
"David Kauskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236
The Keepers, Housekeeping & Gardening 582-8460
*Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466
*Living ArtSpace, 308 South Kenosha 585-1234
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934
*Mohawk. Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951
Puppy Pause II, 1060 S. Mingo 838-7626
*The Pride Store 743-4297
Ralnbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932
Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617
Teri Schutt, Ellen & Co. 834-7921,748-0224
Paul Tay, Car Salesman 260-7829
*Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558
Venus Salon, 1247 S. Harvard 835-5563
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733
*Wherehouse Music, 5150 S. Sheridan 665-2222
*Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767
www gaytulsa.org - website for Tulsa Gays & Lesbians
Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities
AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593
All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria 743-2363
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314
Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815
B/L/G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa United Min. Ctr. 583-9780.
Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201
*Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence
Church of the Restoration UU, 1314 N.Greenwood 587-1314
*Community of Hope Church, 2545 S. Yale 747-6300
*Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595
Council Oak Men’s Chorale 748-3888
*Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware 712- ~1511
918.583 1248, fax: 583.4615
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Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal
Writers + contributors: James Christjohn, Karin.Gregory, Barry
Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lament Lindstrom, Esther
Rothbluml Mary Schepers, Hughston Walkinshaw
Member of The Associated Press
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Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248.
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Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475 355-3140
*Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
*Free Spirit Women’ s Center, call for location &info: 587-4669
Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438
*Tulsa C.A.R.E.S., 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378
*HouseoftheHolySpiritMinstries,1517S. Memorial 224-4754
*MCC United, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral PI. 748-3111
NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658
OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157
*OSU-Tulsa
PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901
*Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674
Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152
R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS .Interfaith Network 749-4195
*Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 584-2325
St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882
St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140
*St. Jerome’s Parish Church, 205 W. King 582-3088
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*TNAAPP (Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225
Tulsa County Health Department, 4616 E. 15 595-4105
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T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 298-0827
*Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule
*Tulsa Community College Campuses
*Tulsa Gay Community Center, 21st &Memorial 7434297
Unity Churchof Christianity, 3355 S. Jamestown 749-8833
BARTLESVILLE
Barflesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353
"TAHLEQUAH
Stonewall League, call for information: 918-456-7900
Tahlequah Unitarian-Universalist Church 918-456-7900
Green Country AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-453-9360
EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS
Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 501-253-7734
Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 50!-253-7457
DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807
Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445
MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337
Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776
Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery 501-253-5332
Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-624-6646
~rhite Light, 1 Center St. 501-253-4074
JOPLIN, MISSOURI
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* is where you can find T’~N. Not all are Gay-owned but all are Gay-friendly,
to combat HIV/AIDS by 2003. The plans
should involve thebusiness sector, grassroots
groups and people living with HIV/AIDS.
- Countries most affected by HIV should
adopt by 2003 a set oftime targets to achieve
the goal of reducing HIV prevalence among
young men and women aged 15-24 by 25%
by 2005. HIV prevalence in the same age
group should be reducedby 25% worldwide
by 2010.
- A wide range of measures to prevent
AIDS - including information and education
- should be available by 2005 in all
countries, taking account of "local circumstances,
ethnic and cultural values."
- The number of infants infected with
HIV should be reduced by 20% by 2005 and
by 50% by. 2010 by providing treatment to
expectantmothers who are infected with the
HIV virus.
- By 2003, countries should develop national
programs to increase the availability
9f drugs to treat HIV infections by addressmg
issues such as pricing, and by 2005 they
shouldmakeprogress in implementing comprehensive
health care programs.
Theproposed draft also calls for countries
to initiate programs to identify groups most
vulnerable to AIDS by 2003, to implement
programs for AIDS orphans by 2005, and to
adopt legislation by 2005 protecting the
rights of people living with HIV/AIDS.
Last month, U.N. Secretary-General Kofi
Annan called for an annual war chest of $7
billion to $10 billion to fight the pandemic.
The draft proposal calls for reaching this
overall target incrementally by 2005, with
money coming from national budgets, international
donors, and private assistance.
Judiciary Committee Chairwoman Peg
Fiery devised reciprocal partnerships as a
¯ .way to comply with the Baker ruling but
." also to alter some of the moral objections to
¯¯ civil unions. She also argued that there are
other committed, loving "family units" that
¯
deserved the same benefits that same-sex
"_ couples were granted last year.
¯ Gay and Lesbian Vermonters, though,
¯ said the bill was an insult because it sought
-" to equate their committed relationships to
: those they have with a mother, sibling, aunt
.. or uncle. The relationships are significantly
¯ different, they said. "Last year we crafted a
¯
Ve.rmo,,nt compromise and we called it civil
¯ umon, said Rep. William Lippert, D-
¯ Hinesburg, one of two openly Gay lawmak-
¯ ers. "What we have before us today is not
just an expansion, as proclaimed, it in fact
¯ uhdoes that Vermont compromise called
civil union. You cannot escape that."
: Civil unions opponents were intent on
¯ scaling back the law, if not repealing it
¯ altogether. They reluctantly decided it was
impossible to repeal it outright and not provide
a replacement, though, because the
SupremeCourtmadeclear itprobably would
¯ grant Gay and Lesbian couples marriage
licenses in the absence of an alternative.
: Republicans won their majority in the
House largely on the strength of opposition
to the civil unions law. But Democrats re-
" tained control of the Senate.
by Matthew W. Holloway
The Gay community is not a happy one.
Homosexuals are often crippled in their
emotional stability byboth the outer forces
of oppression, hate and violence; as well
as the inner forces of depression,
doubt, self loathing
and loneliness. It is
mainly due to this crippling
emotional legacy that homosexuals
have developed
the well-deserved reputation
for drug use, mental
illness, and promiscuity.
Thesepattems, as once was
believed, are not an unavoidable
side effect ofhomosexuality;
they are, in
fact, not due at all to the
fact that one is a homosexual,
they are more related
to membership, either
claimed orexpressod, in the
much touted but rarely defined
"Gay community".
Oneofthe primary drives
of people is to align themselves into communities
of people. This is done for many
reasons, but one of the most influential
reasons is to give people smaller packets
Of society that they can deal with, and to
organize that society so that each can understand
it. These communities take many
forms, such as religions, governments, and
smaller sub-social communities.
In many situations these communities
of people serve a shorter term purpose,
such as the strength of African-American
commtmity in the 1960’s. The reason for
organizing very strong but temporary communities
such as these is to battle agmnst
some exterior force. It has been said that
people is at his strongest when he is united
in the face of some common evil, and this
is true. We unite ourselves into conmmnities
in order to battle against some outside
force.
The Gay community was originally organized
after this fashion, but the homosexual
battle for acceptance and equality
"... If the Gay
eommunlty does not
drastleally change it’s
image in the next ten
years from a eommunlty
united only by a shared
sexual preference to a
group of people with more
in common, with a
genuine uniting for~e,
then there will be no real
vletory in the struggle
against oppression
that we all share...."
has been a much longer
and harder one than that of
the African-American
community of the 1960’s.
In order for the Gay commuuity
to survxve as a social
group it must be
changed from the temporary,
constantly embattled,
and exclusive community
to a more functional and
longer lasting model.
If the Gay community
is not able ’to change satisfactorily
into a more stable
and permanentcommunity
it will do long term permanent
damage to the campaign
in this country for
Gay civil rights, ff the Gay
community does not drastically
change it’s image in the next ten
years from a community united only by a
shared sexual preference to a group of
people withmoreincommon, with a genuine
uniting force, then there will be no real
victory in the struggle against oppression
that we all share.
We must provide a world free of the
oppression to the many children who constantly
realize their own sexualities and
reach out for support. Will we be there for
them in the next ten years? Are we there
for them now? It is our duty to provide
these youngpeople with a stable and happy
commtmity that they will be happy and
content to join.
Matthew W. Holloway will attend Tulsa
Community College this fall, majoring tn
English.
Our GLBT Pride week is fast approaching
and many members of ourGLBT community
ask: "why. even get involved?" I’ll
tell you why...
To celebrate your own diversity as a
unique individual and to be proud who you
are! To unite us as a stronger community.
To meet others in the community who
wouldn;t meet otherwise. TO LEARN.
During themonthofJune, I tend to come
out to more people and feel better about
not hiding that I am a lesbian and I am
proud. Being "out" is not a requirement to
attend the Pride events, so those of you
who struggle with that need not won’y. I
want you to consider going to at least one
Pride event, you’ll be glad you did!
It seems tomethat people fear what they
have not experienced or what.they do not
understand. "Fear of the unknown" rings
so true with this one. I-have found that
most people have had a strong feeling for
a member of the same sex at some point in
their life (if they are honest enough to
admit it). Whether or not they choose to
labd that attraction as a sexual feeling or
not has a lot to do with many factors;
cultural, religious, & the comml~tity they
live in.
Often people do not know what to label
these feelings. They mav not have any
exposure to homosexualit~ except through
the media, which basically portrays a homosexual
as a deviant person to be feared,
- or a comedian! The news does the best
job of all at slapping anegative view our
way. Anytime a homosexual is in thenews
it is because they .have been involved in
some bizarre love triangle or are trying to
adopt a child. In either case, the homosexual
looks like a pervert, pedophile, you
name it. I think thatmost people are either,
a strong,heterosexual or a strong homosexual.
Of course, this makes for very
interesting "water cooler’, discussions.
Somepeople fall somewherein the middle,
and depending on their life circumstances,
at some point act on it or not.
So now you are thinking what point in
all this?Actually, I will let youin on a little
secret.., people, humanbeings, menAND
women want to be loved. Some feel that
can happen in a relationship with awoman
and some feel that can happen in a rdationship
with a man.
see Divine, p. 11
I spent a lovely evening recently at the
Tulsa Philharmonic and followed that by
meeting some friends at a favorite Gay
watering hole and was amazed at the conversations
that I overheard. "Have you
seenhimlately... ? Oh gift,
she is packing on the
pounds! Must be lonely."
Khother one went like this:
"ThatQueenhas morerolls
than Pillsbury." And then a
little later: "Ooh Mary. .
he looks like the Michelin
Man on a bad hair day."
Fascinating.
At first, I dismissed this
behavioras abunchofhateful
queens with nothing
better to do than talk, but
my observations actually
bring up a much larger (no
pun intended) issue: Why
are Gay men so crazed
about weight?
It is true that welivein an
in.credibly image-conscious
society where looking good is paramount,
but the obsession with staying thin
is especially pervasive with Gay men. On
a recent trip to Toronto, I caught the great
film "Parting Glances", and my point was
driven home when a hefty character made
the statement that "I may have co~umitted
the gay Cardinal Sin of being overweight
but I still have a lot to offer someone."
Being overweight can’t be a sin, can it? In
Gay society, you bet it is and the consequences
can be devastating.
I recently came out of a year-long rela-
¯tionship with a ~nan who was mmfiacal
about weight - mine. I am a healthy 37
year old man who is 5’ 11" mad a solid 180
pounds and I work out regularly. Like any
person, I have been known to gain a few ¯
pounds afler sphtrging on some great meals.
At first, my Ex put me on display as if to
say "’Look what I" ve caught," but when the
scale neared 190 the adoring cormnents
turued nasty. "You are getting a double
chin!" he barked at me one morning "mad
I won’t have a fat boyfriend." Ouch. Was
I not the same personjust because I gained
7 pounds? I tried going to the gym more
and eating less but my weight continued to
fluctuate. I told my Ex that the topic ofmy
weight was offlimi ts but this did not work.
In public, he was the perfect boyfriend. In
private, he was critical and cold. I became
frightened at losing my Partner. Then I
became bulimic.
It happened slowly at first. I popped a
couple of laxatives before going to bed as
if they were an herbal supplement. Our
relationship seemed to improve as I became
thinner. So two laxatives became
four, eight, ten... I finally quit counting.
When we went out, friends would comment
on how great I looked now that my
waist was 29 inches and shrinking. I was
told that I looked a decade younger. People
were amazed that I could eat and drink
whatever I wanted and still lose weight. It
should have felt great...but if they only
knew.
The relationship ended between Christmas
and New Year’ s. Upon learning ofmy
bulimia, my Ex left a terse note onmy door
"... In our group of six.
there were four Gay men,
two of whom I knew. We
were at once frightened
and outraged that our
partners, friends, and Gay
brothers could not accept
us for who we are. Give us
the AIDS epidemie to
fight or mobilize us
against hate and we’ll join
together as One,
but God forbid if any
of us are chunky . . .
stating that he wmated nothing further tc
with someone who had a selfish, sic"- ~ ~g
disorder. Charming.
"’I’ll show him," I said and I decided to
losemore weight. Two weeks later I was in
The GAP wanting some
new jeans but they had
nothing for aman with a 26
inch waist. There were
whispers among people
that I had Cancer or AIDS.
In reality, I was fooling
Mother Nature and soon
she fought back. First my
personality began to
change. Gone was the self
confident, easy-going man
I was and in my place was
afrightened, obsessive, and
vicious Mr. Hyde. I backed
out of an important promotion
at work, fearing that I
would fail I brought new
definition to the term "lean
and mean."
Then I rushed to the
doctor one day in agony with stomach
pains and he told me that I was suffering
from malnutrition and had lesions on my
colon. IfI continued to abuse laxatives, the
doctor said, I would indeed have a new
Partner: a colostomy bag. And that was if
I lived. I was frightened that if my condition
were exposed, I would be treated with
the same disgust that my Ex displayed. So
I went to Bulimics Anonymous.
In our group of six, there were four Gay
men, two of whom ! knew. We were a~
once frightened and outraged that our partners.
friends, and Gay brothers could nol
accept us as we are. Give us the AIDS
epidemic to fight or mobilize us against
hate and we’ll join together as One, bul
God forbid if any of us are chunky - then
we are "dmnaged goods."
I learned that bulimia is not about weight:
it is about control. In my case, I was tryiug
to balm~ce a career, a relationship, graduate
school, AND stay in shape. I was not
expected to gmn any weight. Sometlfing
had to give. I also lemned to share my
experience with others. I leaned on three
people: a parent, my personal trainer, and
a close friend - ironically all of whom are
heterosexual. They were completely supportive.
My trainer did get angry with me
for not trusting him to help me out of this
darkness and then he put his arms around
me and held me while I cried in disbelief
that this understanding and compassion
seems virtually non-existent in the Gay
connntmity.
Fortunately, I had recovered. It was not
easy. My hair turned gray for a time and I
had severe skin eruptions as I leached the
chemicals out of my body. My digestive
system is extremely sensitive and will
remain so for the rest of my life. But my
weight is stable and I amhappy withmy 32
inch waist. Most important, I know that I
am a good person no matter what my
weight and any man is lucky to have me.
And my Ex ? I saw him recently. He
walked by and refused to speak to me. As
I looked at this man who had become a
stranger, I noticed that he had indeed put
on some weight... - anonymous
Memorial to Gay
Soldiers Dedicated.
CATHEDRAL CITY, Calif. (AP) - A Gay veterans
group unveiled a monument to remember Gay service
members killed in combat. The recent ceremony was
attended by veterans in tmiform, the mother of a Navy
serviceman beaten to death at age 23 for being Gay, -"
and a color guard carrying the rainbow banner that _"
symbolizes Gay pride. ¯
The activists who pushed for the monument in this :
desert city just south of Palm Springs say it is the first ¯
of its kind. "It’s a turn-of-the-century event," said¯"
Dennis Palt, a former Air Force staff sergeant who
served in Vxemam. I had hope for this but you could "
have never thought this would becomea reality in the "
1970s, 1980s or ’90s. It’ s fabulous."
Hawaii Passes Hate
Crimes Bill
HONOLULU (AP) - Gov. BenCayetano said that he
will sign the "hate crimes" bill passed.by this year’ s
Legislature. It gives longer sentences for crimes motivated
by the victim’ s race, religion, disability, ethnicity,
national origin or sexual orientation.
Cayetano said while he has concerns about making
distinctions between various kinds of victims, in this
casehefeels there’ s a statement tube made. He said his
decision was "close call" because he doesn’ t believe
Hawaii has a problem with hate crimes - yet.
The hate crimes bill was supported by Gay and
Lesbian groups and several civil rights groups, including
the Hawaii Civil Rights Commission. It was opposed
by the Public Defender’s Office, the Honolulu
Police Department. and several religion-based groups.
Disciples Church Adds
Partner Benefits
Man Adopts Gay Partner "
SILVER SPRING, Md. (AP)-A Montgomery County ¯
man has adopted his Gay partner. Chief Circuit Judge "
DeLawrence Beard approved the petition of the 60-
year-old adopter and the 65-year-old adoptee, Beard’s :
law clerk, Tracy Silverman, confirmed.
The men’s lawyer, James Shrybman, said that since "
the men can’t legally marry, they sought the adoption ",
to guaranteefamily rights regarding e~.ch o,th.err s ,me.dical
care andfuneral arrangements, and to clarity c~mms
of survivorship and inheritance Shrybman would not
identify the men, citing their desire for privacy. Their
adoption records in court are sealed. The lawyer said
the Silver Spring couple have lived together at least 32
years.
Shrybman said they considered forging some sort of
domestic partner contract, but felt it wouldn’t have
provided the family relationship recognized by law
and might not withstand challenges by other claimants.
"They chose to proceed to have the court put its
~mprimatur on their relationship and this is the only
one that was open to them," Shrybman said. The
adoptee’s parents are both dead, he said.
Other Gay couples have attempted such adoptions,
with varying degrees of success, m recent years, said
David Buckel, senior staff attorney with the Lambda
Legal Defense and Education Fund, a national Gay
civil-rights organization based in New York.
"’At present, same-sex couples throughout the nation
are denied the freedom to marry, which would bring
the greatest array of protections for their family," he
said. "’When you are a couple and you can’t get
roamed, you kind of reach out for whatever alternaayes
there are, and it sounds like these gentlemen have
found a helpful alternative in the state of Maryla_~.d."
A bill to diminate sex discrimination in mamage
was introducedin the 2000 General Assembly but was
blocked in committee. Baltimore city, Takoma Park
and Montgomery County offer domestic partnership
benefits to their employees.
INDIANAPOLIS (AP) -The 831,000-member Christian
Church (Disciples of Christ) has become one of the
first mainline Protestant denominations to authorize
medical coverage for domestic partners of unmarried
employees.
The decision was announced by the church pension
fund, which had discussed the issue for five years and
agreed to consider coverage if July’ s national General
Assembly approved it. But the denomination’s General
Board said last month the pension fund should
decide, not the national meeting. The coverage, which
could start as soon as January, doesn’ t extend to pensions.
Group Condemns
i Disney Gay Days ¯
¯ ORLANDO, Fla. (AP) - The president of a Christian
group is asking that Disney officials denounce "Gay
¯ Days," the annual gathering of Gays and Lesbians at
¯ Orlando’ s theme parks.
¯ Martin Mawyer, president of the Forest, Va.-based
~ Christian Action Network, sent a letter to Disney
¯ chairman Michael Eisner also asking Disney officials
¯ to warn families about the event. He asked that signs be .
¯ posted and that other visitors to be able to get refunds
¯ if they Want. "After all, these families made plans to
¯ attend a theme park, not ahomosexual event," Mawyer
¯ said in the letter.
Disney and the other Orlando theme parks don’t
sponsor Gay Days but many of the week’s events, are
¯ held on the theme park resort’s property as well as
: Universal Studios, SeaWofld and Tampa Bay Busch
Gardens.
"Our policy is to be hospitable to everyone who
comes to our resort, to welcome everyone as a guest
and to treat everyone with respect," said Disney spokeswoman
Rena Callahan. "Mr. Mawyer is w~elcome to
visit Walt Disney World any day and we will wdcome
him as a guest as well."
Gay Days started out as a single day in 1991 when
then-Orlando resident Doug Swallow and friends from
a Gay computer bulletin board service informally
decided to get together at the Magic Kingdom. Since
then, Gay Days has become a multi-day event that
starts June 1 this year. It is expected to attract as many
as 100,000 Gays and Lesbians and dozens of parties in
local clubs and venues.
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Lesbian Kiss Gets
Yearbook Censored
BOULDER, Colo. (AP) - Dozens of Boulder High
School students locked lips outside the school to protest
a decision to withdraw a photo of a same-sex kiss
from the yearbook. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Straight
students were encouraged to kiss one another, and
about 150 people turned out at the protest. It lasted
about an hour.
Students had claimed discrimination after the picture
of two girls kissing was yankedfrom the yearbook.
The picturewas to be included in a feature called"First
Kiss" along w;th those ofheterosexual couples kissing.
Yearbook adviser Ruth Palmer said the parents of the
two girls would have to give permission for the photo
to run. When she didn’t hear back from them, she took
the photo out.
Student Rachel Stanley said that decision showed a
double standard because photos of male-female kisses
were allowed to run without parental approval. "A lot
more needs to be done to open people’s eyes about the
problems facing kids" with different sexual backgrounds,
Stanley said as students behind her hugged
and kissed. "It has to start somewhere and maybe this
is it."
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Louisiana Senate Kills
Anti-discrimination Bill
BATON ROUGE, La. (AP) - Legislation outlawing
employment discrimination against Gays was defeated
in the Louisiana Senate after a polite but sometimes
emotional debate. "If we fail today we’ll be back again
in the next session," the bill’ s sponsor, state Sen. Don
Cravins, said just before the 14-21 vote against the
measure.
Cravins’ bill would have outlawed discrimination in
hiring, firing or promoting anyone on the basis of
"actual or perceived sexual orientation." Cravins said
some lawmakers supported the idea but admitted to
him they could not vote for it because it would cost
them political support.
While Senate committee debate included views from
religious opponents of the bill, opposition on the floor
centered around the practicality of the bill.
State Sen. Bill Jones said the bill was unworkable
since it created a protected class and proving someone
is a member of that class would be based solely on that
person’s claim.
Lutheran Bishop Resigns
Over Gay Ordination
LOS ANGELES (AP)- Southern California’s ranking
Lutheran bishop says the church has asked him to
resign for participating in last month’ s ordination of a
Lesbian in Minnesota in defiance of church law.
Bishop Paul W. Egertson, whose sonis Gay, said he
has decided whether to comply with the request, which
comesjust months before his term expires Aug. 31. He
was not seeking re-election.
Presiding Bishop H. George Anderson asked
Egertson before the ceremony to reconsiderhis participation,
said John Brooks, a spokesman for the Chicago-
based Evangelical. Lutheran Church in America.
Brooks would not confirm that the bishop had asked
Egertson to resign.
Rev. Paul Tidemann of St. Paul-Reformation
Lutheran Church said he is not surprised by the decision.
Anita Hill, the pastor who Egertson ordained,
now serves at St. Paul-Reformation with Tidemann. "I
think that the ELCA is doing what it feels it has to do
given the policy that it has," Tidemann said. "Every:
body is in a bit of a difficult spot because the church has
not decided to change that policy ""
Egertson, 65, became bishop of the Southern California
(West) Synod in 1995. The synod includes 140
churches, 275 ministers and nearly 46,000 baptized
members.
Egei’tson became the church’ s first active bishop to
participate in the ordination of a Lesbian when he took
part in the ceremony for Hill. Egcrtson said he was
conscience-bound to defy the church by joining in
Hill’ s ordination. "I can no longer advocate this cause
with credibility from a posihon of personal safety,"
Egertson wrote Anderson at the time.
Somechurch leaders were concerned aboutEgertson
whenhe was elected bishop in 1995 because he said he
had earlier joined in blessing same-sex couples. For
that reason, Egertson said, he promised in writing to
resign if he ever felt he must defy church law as a
matter ofconscience. He said Anderson has now asked
him to follow through.
The Saint Paul Area Synod would not comment on
Egertson because "responsibility for this matter rests
with our churchwide leadership," said spokeswoman
Beth Helgen.
But the Saint Paul Area Synod is considering disciplinary
action against St. Paul-Reformation. Bishop
Mark Hanson and the Saint Paul Area Synod Council
could decide to expel the congregation from the ELCA.
Helgen said she expected the synod to make a decision
soon, but there is no deadline for the announcement.
Religious Leader
Opposes Partner Benefits
PORTLAND, Maine (AP) - The executive director of
the Christian Civic League of Maine has begun taking
steps to prohibit all state and local governments from
providing domestic partnership benefits. Michael Heath
filed a petition with the Secretary of State’s office to
force an election on the issue.
ff Heath’s petition is approved and he meets the
requirements necessary to land the issue on the November
2002 ballot, voters will also decide whether or
not to overturn a decision by the Portland City Council
to establish a registry of same-sex and opposite-sex
unmarried couples.
Heath’s referendum would also prohibit the state
university*system from providing benefits to the domestic
partners of their employees, and would take
away health insurance from the domestic parmers of
employees who already have them.
"We are praying and thinking about it and talking
with folks who have concerns about this, about domestic
partnership and the agenda of the Gay movement
here in Maineand throughout the country," Heath said.
The Secretary of State’s office is reviewing the
petition and is expected to respond by June 4. Heath
will then be able to collect signatures- he needs 42,101
- to place the question on the ballot.
The state has made significant strides in recognizing
stone-sex couples in recent months. Earlier this year,
the State Employee Health Commission approved
granting health insurance beuefits to Gay and unmarried
heterosexual partners of state employees.
On Monday, the Portland City Council made history
by unanimously supporting the creation of a registry,
which will recognizedomes tic partners as families and
afford them many of the same rights and privileges as
husbands and wives The university systeln and the
City of Portland have offered the benefits for some
time, and the ordinance City Councilors in the city
approved on Monday would require any recipient of
city funds to offer the benefits to employees.
A bill is also in the state Legislature that would
require health insurance companies to offer domestic
partner benefits if they offer coverage to the spouses of
plan-covered Legislature members. The measure was
approved by the House of Representatives and is
headed to the Senate for a final vote.
Karen Gcraghty, a Portland city councilor who cosponsored
the city’s ordinance, said she and others
knew that Heath had filed the petition, and are taking
steps to keep a ballot question from passing. "This is
about denying peoples’ access to health care," she
said. "This is about inequity in the workplace.’"
Heath has been successful with statewide referendnms
oncivil rights issues for Gays. In February, 1998,
voters overturned a statewide anti,discrimination law
that the Legislaturehad passed. Last November, voters
again turned down such a law.
Portland Eases Ban on
Military Recruiting
PORTLAND, Ore. (AP) - The Portland school board
has loosenedamilitary recrmting ban that was prompted
by the military’ s "don’ t ask, don’ t tell" policy toward
Gays. In a unanimous vote, the board decided teachers
and counselors can refer students to recruiters offcampus
only if students are told that the military
prohibits Gays who disclose or act on their orientation.
The decision is a compromise between Gay civilrights
activists who opposed military recruitment in
schools and recruiters, who said the armed forces offer
opportunities for students who aren’ t college-bound.
Abrams wrote the district’ s ban on military recruitment,
which was put into place in 1995. The board had
pushed various plans in recent weeks to give students
more access to the military in school.
Powell Will Lobby
for More AIDS $
KAMPALA, Uganda (AP) - Secretary of
State Colin Powell says his four-nation
tour of Africa has pu.t human faces on the
AIDS epidemic sweeping the continent,
and he’ll use the experience to lobby for
more U.S. aid.
"I can go back and make a case in
Washington of the need for more resources,"
Powell said. "I hope I can convey
the passion of what I have seen" when
he reports back to President Bush. Powell
was wrapping up an African gour that also
.tookhim to Mali, South Africa and Kenya.
He was next headed to Budapest, Hungary,
for NATO meetings.
The secretary visited AIDS outreach
. centers in Nairobi, the Kenyan capital, and
Kampala, the Ugandan capital. He said he
was deeply moved by heating the experiences
of AIDS victims in both places, and
watching Africans trying to come to grips
with the disease ttL~ough song, dance and
skits. "You don’t really get a full appreciation
until you see the people who are
sla’icken," Powell said.
In Nairobi, Patricia Ochieng, 33, told
Powell it had been nearly 10 years since
she’d tested positive with HIV, the virus
that causes AIDS. Since then, both her 4-
year-old son and her husband have died of
the disease, she said, and"I kept dying day
by day. All my dreams were gone."
The Bush administration announced
earlier this month it was contributing an
ilfitial $200 million to a global $7 billion
fund to combat AIDS. That’s on top of
about $460 million the United States had
earlier committed to fighting AIDS.
In Kampala, Powell announced $50
millionin aid over five years to helpUganda
expand a prevention program. The programhas
sharpl) cut Uganda s HIV-AIDS
rate from nearly 30% to about 10%.
On his travels through Africa, Powell
has said repeatedly that he would work to
get additional U.S. support for AIDS prevention,
research and trealanent programs.
"Even though there are wars in other
parts of the world, even though there’s a
crisis in the Middle. East, even though
people are dying in these conflicts around
the world, there’s no war more serious,
there’s no war causing more death or destruction,
there’s no war on the face Of the
earth that is more grave than the war in
sub-Saharan Africa against HIV-AIDS,"
he said. More than 25 million people on
the continent are infected with HIV.
Teens Want
Complete Sex Info
CHICAGO (AP) - Take a look at some of
the spicy novds aimed at readers as young
as 12. Tune in any number of TV shows
popular with young viewers and try finding
the characters who haven’t had sex.
Ever hear the "Thong Song" or the recent
No. 1 "It Wasn’t Me," a tune about a
couple getting caught "banging on the
bathroomfloor"?Many dementary school
students have.
Officially - from President George W.
Bush on down - young people are being
told to just say ’no’ to sex. Yet they are
bombarded with images that, they say,
make the mantra difficult to take seriously.
Frustrated with mixed messages,
many teens say the)’ would make better
choices for themselves if they had more
information about sex - and less hype.
"How can you expect teens to be abstinent
when all they see is sex?" asks DeVoia
Stewart, 16. "It’s a little hypocritical."
Through the 1990s, biennial surveys
from the federal Centers for Disease Control
andPreventionfound fewerhigh school
students saying they had had sexual intercourse
- from just over 54.1% in 1991 to
49.9% in 1999. The number of teen-age
mothers giving birthalso dropped, although
there are still about a million teen pregnancies
each year.
But health officials say sexually transmitted
diseases are a big concern for teens
- among them HIV, chlamydia, herpes,
gonorrhea and human papilloma virus,
which can develop into cervical cancer.
They also say that, instead of intercourse,
someteens are having otherkinds ofsexual
contact, like oral sex, that can easily spread
disease.
The statistics have only heightened the
debate about what to tell young people
about sex, evenamongyoungpeople themselves.
"In my school, there are people
who adamantly preach about waiting for
sex, and there are also people who love to
recount their own racy experiences," says
Alessa Thomas, 16.
For adults, part of the debate is whether
to distribute condoms and other forms of
birth control to teens. This spring, Planned
Parenthood distributed "prom Survival
Kits," including condoms, to students in
Minneapolis and other cities.
About the same time, a health board in
northern Kentucky decided to change its
sex .education curriculum to "abstinence
only," seeing any talk of safer sex or
condom distribution as lessons in "how
to." "We’re talking about young people
who can’t remember to bring their homework
to school or set their alarm dock -
and yet we want them to remember to use
acondomevery time they engage in sexual
intercourse?" says Addia Wuchner, who
oversees the board’s haman sexuality committee.
But many young people say they should
be trusted to handle more information -
the more, the better. Christopher Batu, 20,
agrees that abstinence education is important,
but he still wishes he had knownmore
about "the reality of what could happen"
because of sex when he was younger. He
says "sex isn’ t evil," but it carries a load of
responsibility with it.
The hunger for accurate, frank informa~
tion has prompted some teens to educate
themselves. Some efforts are official, including
SEX, ETC., a sexuality and health
newsletter and Web site sponsored by
Rutgers University that is written by teens
for teens.
Other teens say they get their information
from sources such as drDrew.com, a
healthWeb sitefor 14- to 24-year-olds that
answers questions ranging from "What is
considered safe sex?" to "What can I do to
helpmyboyfriend last longer during sex?"
Thomas says she doesn’t go to adults
because "I am afraid they will judge me."
Still, a report released this month shows
that many young people want more infor-
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Town Hall Meeting
June 5th, 2pm
Topics:
Update on the Epidemic, Janice Nicklas
Testing Positive, Living with HIV, Tommy Chesbro
Knowing Your HIV Status, Ebony Skillens
Diversity In New HIV Cases, Kristi Frisbie
HIV Treatment in Tulsa,
Damon Baker, DO, & Don Eberly
Care Needs of PLWAs, Sharon Thoele
How Tulsans Can Help, Janice Nicklas
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The Tulsa City County
Library System
is proud to
Embrace Diverst
honoring Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual/Transgendered
Oklahomans with the following events:
Saturday, June 2. 2pm. Maxwell Park Library
"Coming Out in Tulsa Area High Schools"
Dr. Doug Gronberg, English teacher at Booker T. Washington High School,
moderates a panel discussion by high school students in Gay/Straight Alliances.
Monday, June 4. 7pm. Central Library
"Council Oak Men’s Chorale"
Monday, June 4. 7pm. Helmerich Library
"Family Law Issues Affecting the Gay COmmuaity"
Panel discussion with IJnda Lacey, TU College of Law, moderating.
Thursday, June 7. 7pm. Central Library
"Diversity Film Festival"
Harvey.Fierstein and Matthew Broderick star in "Torch Song Trilogy."
Saturday, June 9. 12 Noon. Central Library
"Diversity Film Festival"
"Out Of the Past" documents the struggles of Kelli Peterson, who started a Gay’/
Straight alliance in her Salt Lake City school in 1996.
Thursday, June 14. 7pm. Central Library
"Diversity Film Festival"
’°Trevor": Winner of the 1994 Academy Award for best live action short.
"If These Walls Could Talk": Stories about Lesbian couples in three deeades.
"Bubbeh .Lee and Me": A Gay man’s visit with his 87 year old grandmother.
Tuesday, June 19.2pm. West Regional Library
Book Discussion: "Deliver Us From Evie"
Thursday, June 21. lpm. Broken Arrow Library
Book Disa~ssion:"Fried Green Tomatoes"
Thursday, June 21. 7pm. Brookside Library
AIDS Memorial Quilt Project
Vale Bode, director of Education and Outreach for the Tulsa Area chapter of
the NAMES project, discusses the AIDS Memorial Quilt.
Please call 596-7977 or your local branch library if you have questions or
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marion from adults about sex.
The survey of 12- to 17-year-olds by the
fkaiser Family Foundation found that48%
wanted more information about sexual
health from their doctor and 42% from
their health class teachers. A third wanted
more discussxons with their parents.
"This is difficuh stuffto talk to yourkids
about, but youhave to do it-kids want you
to doit," says Margaret Anderson, a senior
program manager for the Academy for
Educational Development, a nonprofit
group that uses fe,~Ieta]and privatefuhding
to help-community organizations develop
sex education and other programs.
Jonathan Olinger, 18, agrees. He says
that his parents’ first talk with him about
sex was awkward but that it _opened the
door to other questions. "We listen to our
parents a lot more than they realize," he
says.
Glaxo Lowering
AIDS Drugs Costs
NAIROBI,- Kenya (AP)~_-. Glaxo
SmithKline will expand a program tod-e--
liver low-cost AIDS drugs in Kenya to
include -aid organizations andl~ge employee
health programs, the marketing
director in Kenya said at the end of May.
Dr. William Kiarie said the company’s
drugs would be offered at a no-profit price,
90% cheaper than the retail price charged
in North America and Europe. Glaxo
Kenya already Offers the drugs at the discounted
pnee to government hospitals.
"It is not a new program, it is just new in
the way it is being implemented," Kiarie
said. "What we are talking about is implementing
the price reductions and expanding
that to more groups of people."
Glaxo, along with other multinational
pharmaceutical companies, has come under
increasing pressure to lower the prices
of antiretroviral drugs that treat HIV, the
virus that causes AIDS. More than 26
million people in Africa have HIV, but
most live on less than $1 a day.
Glaxo’s discount will bring the price of
treatment down to $2 a day, Kiarie said.
Only about 1,000 of the 2.1 million
Kenyans infected with HIV are being
treated with antiretrovirals now, Kiarie
said. But even at the lower price, this
numberwill only expand to between 20,000
and 30,000, he added.
"As an industry, we have to lower the
prices," Kiarie Said. "But this will not be
enough. If we want a significant increase
in access to antiretroviral drugs, we have
to look for other funding and infrastructure
buildup." Kiarie refused to discuss
specific drugs or what the exact prices
would be.
Indra Van Gisbergen, an attorney working
with the Kenyan CoalitiOn for Access
to Essential Medicines, said the offer was
nothing that hadn’t been promised by the
pharmaceutical companies before and that
the lack of details was disturbing.
"Glaxo is misleading the public on the
-prices by hiding all the conditions that
come with the price," Van Gisbergen said.
"In order to get those pnces you have to
sign a contract that hasa very funny paragraph
about agreeing with the company."
Van Gisbergensaid Glaxo has refused
to show AIDS activists copies of the contract,
but she had obtained one copy. She
said Glaxo’s announcement was timed to
influence a bill in Kenya’s parliament that
would allow the government to override
patents and allow the importation of lowpriced,
generic AIDS drugs. "This announeement
should not be used as an’ excuse
not to pass the bill and allow generic
drugs into Kenya," Van Gisbergen said.
HIV Clinic Targets
Rural Poor
GREENWOOD, Miss. (AP) - qlae fight
against HIV disease is being stepped up in
Greenwood, Leflore County and the rest
of the Delta.
To Dr. Hamza O. Brimah of Greenwood,
director of the program, it’s about
time. "I have a growing base of padents
who are living with HIV," said Brimah,
40. "Back in 1997, when the Magnolia
Medical Clinic opened, we had barely 10
patients. Today, we’ve seen almost 200."
A $1 million grant provided by the U.S.
Department of Health and Human Services
will be spread over three years and
provide primary care services for !owincome
individuals living with HIV, he
said.
Called the Magnoli~ Medical Clinic/
Greenwood Leflore Hospital HIV Program,
the project covers a nine-county
region that runs west to Washington
County, south to Holmes County and north
to Coahoma County.
The grant has two goals, Brimah said.
The first is to improve the quality of care
provided to the HIV patient. One way is to
upgrade patient referrals to other primarycare
services, such as dental care, mental
health care and women’s health care.-
The other is improving access to care.
"Werealize that there are still many people
who are not in care," Brimah said. For
every person living with HIV, he said,
there are nine or 10 who aren’t aware that
they have it. "What we’re trying to do is
encourage people to get tested, to access
care by being able to provide them with
transportation and to pay for their clinic
visits," Brimati said.
Testing and treatments, if necessary, are
provided at no cost for low-income individuals.
Treatment for AIDS and HIV has
improved significantly over the past five
years.
"In the past, there used to be complex
regimens, which meant several pills that
had lots of side effects that differ from the
more recent treatment options," Brimah
said. One improvement is a new pill that
has to be taken only twice a day. "That’s a
long way from the time when patients had
to take upwards of 30 pills a day," Brimah
said. "The cost has remained about the
Average treatment costs for HIV patients
are around $1,000 per month. Drugs
also have been developed that can reduce
the transmission of HIV from mother to
baby. "We encourage all pregnant women
to get HIV tested," Brimah said. "It is
possible to reduce the chances that the
baby will be born with HIV disease."
AIDS and HIV cases have leveled off
nationwide, but the number of rural cases
has risen slightly, Brimah said.
by TFN staff
James Christjohn, TFN’s most excellent
entertainment editor, is taking much
needed time offforgoodbehavior (editor’s
note: is that what that’s called now?). He
is gearing upfor the Stevie Nicks tour. The
high priestess of rock and roll STEVIE
NICKS will embark on an extensive concert
tour this summer
with an itinerary that
will take her across the
United States.
Nicks will perfonfi
material from her new
CD TROUBLE IN
SHANGRI-LA which
entered the Billboard
albtun charts at No. 5
and has remained a Top
2Ohit for the last three
weeks. She" will also
cover material from her
previous solo albums as
well as her hits as a
member of Fleetwood
Mac.
Billboard Magazine
hailed Nicks’ new album as "this years
comeback equivalent to Carlos Santana
and her strongest material since her landmark
Bdla Donna." Check local venues
for on sale dates and ticket prices.
The tour dates are as follows, being the
closest to Tulsa She gets: August 3 Dallas,
TX Smirnoff Music Center; August 4
Houston, TX Cynthia Woods Mitchell
Pavilion; August 28 Banner Springs, KS
Sandstone Amphitheatre; August 29 St.
Louis, MO Riverport Amphitheatre. -
But meanwhile in Tulsa, there’s things
happening. From June 6th to July 1, Light
Opera Oklahoma (LOOK) will be prov!ding
the best in light, summer entertmnment
with, as always, some Gilbert &
Sullivan, the Mikado, Herbert’s Naughty
Marietta and Lerner & Lowe’s My Fair
Lady, based, of course on George Bernard
Shaw’s Pygmalion.
LOOK is also presenting a one woman
"Carmen" which feature Julie Goell as a
cleaning lady who entertains hersdf by
performing scenes from the Bizet opera.
And Broadway and film .veteran Lynette
Bennett will reprise the career of Jeanette
McDonald in a show Bennett wrote. For
times and dates on all these performance,
call 583-5398 or see their website: www.
webtek.com/gilbertsullivan
Down at the Performing Arts Center,
American Theatre Company will close
their season with Wit, the riveting tale of
Dr. Vivian Bearing, a professor of 17th
century English poetJohn Donne. Bearing
has cancer and the play addresses her
struggle with the disease and is full of
allusions to Donne’s work. Tulsa theatre
veteran Lisa Wilson stars in the, production
directed by Ken Spence. Call the
PAC, 596-2525, for times and prices.
Also there. Theatre Tulsa will present
the Cotton Patch Gospel which recounts
the life and times of Jesus Christ as set in
the hills of Georgia. It’s been characterized
as "a story for intellectuals who are
closet hillbillies..." This, of course, describe~
so many that we know... This is
Philbrook’s award winning lawns.
likdy to be good despite this description.
¯
Again call 596-2525.
¯¯ Put on your radar Tulsa’s annual
SummerStage Festival which will present
¯
a number of plays during July and into
¯ early August. Call thePAC at 596-2525 or
log on to www.tulpac.com
¯ Now over at Philbrook, they’re notcoming
up daisies and dandelions
in the lawn. In
fact, the museum has
won an award from
Briggs and Stratton
(yes, that’s right, the
lawn mower engine
manufactorers) for having
one of the top ten
lawns in the US. Others
who’ve won the award
include Graceland, the
Alamo, and this year,
the Biltmore Estate and
the Hemingway Home
in Key West. All the
work at Philbrook is
done by only four
people according to
¯ grounds supervisor, Ralph Bendel.
¯ And one ofTulsa’ s summer traditions is
film and theatre on the lawn at Philbrook.
¯ Keep reading this column for further in-
¯. formauon.
Also at Philbrook is a show opening
¯ June 10 of the glass artistry of West Coas!
¯ artist William Morris. Morris’ work is ¯
reflective of his interest in archeology and
¯ ancient pagan cultures. Morris lives near
Seattle where he was master glassblower
to world renowned artist Dale Chihuly.
Morris’ work is in the collections of the
Metropolitan Museum of Art, the Louvre
and the Victoria and Albert Museum in
¯ London as well as theLos Angeles County ¯
Museum.
¯ Philbrook is at 2727 S. Rockford Rd., is
¯ open Tues. - Sat. 10-5pm, Sun. 11-Spin
¯ and till 8pm on Thurs. Admission at the ¯
grounds, Museum Shop and la Villa res-
¯ taurant is alway free and more information
¯ is available at www.philbrook.org
". Don’t" forget that Tulsa CiU-County
¯ Library is presenting a variety of Diversity
¯ programnfing during the month of June.
¯ Central Library will host the Council
Oak Men’ s Chorale on Monday, June 4 at
¯ 7pro. The Chorale will perform a variety
¯ of vocal selections.
¯ On Thursday, June 7 at 7pm, Central ¯
will begifl its "Diversity Film. Festival"
¯ with Harvey Fierstein and Matthew
¯ Broderickin"TorchSongTrilogy," which
¯ was adapted from the Tony Award win-
. ning Broadway hit. The musical numbers
¯ are a hoot, and Anne Bancroft chews the
: scenery nicely.
¯ Next will be "Out of the Past" docu- ¯
menting the struggles of Kelli Peterson,
¯ who started a Gay/Straight alliance in her
¯ Salt Lake City school in 1996. Her fight ¯
became a statewide battle that brought
¯ national attention. This film is scheduled
¯ for Saturday, June 9 at 12 Noon.
Thursday, June 14 (7pm) will see
" "Trevor": Winner of the 1994 Academy
¯ Award for best live action short. This
¯ highly acclaimed, see arts, p. 9
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touching, funny film addresses issues of
sexual identity and compassion and, "If
These Wails Could Taik" a trio of stories
about Lesbian couples in three different
decades.
The last film that evening will be
"Bubbeh Lee and Me": about a Gay man’ s
visit with his 87 year old grandmother in a
Florida retirement community.
Pleasecall 596-7977 or yourlocal branch
library if you have questions or need more
information.
GLSEN is the sponsor of Student Pride
USA, the organization that helped me to
get our Gay Straight Alliance started, and
GLSEN in Oklahoma provided assistance
to Barker as well.
Phelps, aiso adisbarred attorney, didnot
attend the protest himself but members of
his congregation, most of whom are also
related to him did picket near Orai Roberts
University’s Mabee Center.
Barker, in remarks made to supporters
at the Center, noted that in response to ’the
protest a number of his classmates, many
unknown to him, offered .him words of
support and encouragement.
Barker aiso notedthat as afundraiser the
incident was highly successful, raising
several thousand dollars for Gay/Straight
student organizing in Oklahoma.
to supportthe conmaunities it serves. The
Gill Foundation and OutGiving Department
are headquartered in Denver, Colorado.
The Gay and Lesbian Fundfor Colorado
is based in Colorado Springs.
The Festival will feature booths with pride
merchandise, food, beverages as well as a
variety of entertainment, from singers to
femaieimpersonators,maybe a comedian,
grrrl bands, the Council Oak Mens Choraie
and "surprises." The opemng ceremonies
for the Festivai will be held at
4:30pm. The Festivai is scheduled to continue
until dark.
Tulsa Transit shuttles will begin at noon
at Veterans’ Park to take people to several
stops aiong the parade route.
Volunteers are encouraged to help carry
the 120 foot long rainbow flag, Oklahoma’ s
largest. Entries into the parade are still
possible but the entry fee has now gone to
$50, profit and non-profit alike.
At the Gaia Dinner, TOHR will present
its Community Hero awards to four individuals
as well as recognize some of the
organization’ s donors, and the TOHR Volunteer
of the Year.
And on June 16th, Borders Books &
Music will haveaTOHRbenefit day where
a percentage of purchases will be donated
by the store to TOHR. Cail the Center at
743-4297 for more information.
Viewpoint: Study ¢:
Gay to Straight Bias ¯
by Wayne Besen
The Human Rights Campaign
What do John Paulk, Jeremy Marks
Wade Richards have in conm~on ? ~I
were ail high profile"ex-Gays" who c:~ v.
out of the closet in the past year - c:
Paulk’s case, was photographed at a ~ y
bar in Washington. If there is one kn~:.
fact about "ex-Gays," it is that one camaot
aiways take their stories of "change" at
face vaiue.
In light of the double lives of prominent
"ex-Gays," it seems questionable to conduct
a"scientific" study on whetherpeople
can "change" their sexual orientation - if it
is based solely on their testimonies. Yet
this is exactly what psychologist Dr. Robert
Spitzer did. Moreover, many ofhis 200
subjects wereinvolvedupon the referral of
several virulently anti-Gay political groups.
Themostobvious flaw in Spitzer’ s study
was the clear role played by these groups.
The "ex-Gay" ministries referred 43% of
the subjl~cts to Spitzer. The anti-Gay National
Association for the Research and
Therapy of Homosexuaiity referred 23%.
"His sampling method was totally inadequate,"
Dr. Lawrence Hartmann, a professorat
Harvard and alongtime researcher
on homosexuality told Newsday. A year
ago, the Human Rights Campaign urged
Spitzer in a letter to use objective physical
measures in determining whether his subjects
were still attracted to the same sex.
Why did he decline? Spitzer and others
claim that the new study shows that sexuai
orientation in "highly motivated" people
may be changeable.
But the results show quite the opposite.
Even though study participants were a
hand-selected sample of activists - with
78% having spoken out publicly about
~onver~ion therapy - only .17% of the men
and55%ofthe womencharacterized themselves
as 100% heterosexual after at least
five years of therapy. Additionaily, 56%
of the men and 18% of the women still said
they fantasized about the same sex.
Anti-Gay activists have long claimed
that tens of thousands of people have gone
from Gay to straight. But after a review of
the most "’successful" 200 cases, it is clear
that the failure rate of conversion therapy
is high. This is why Spitzer acknowledged
having "great difficulty" in finding nonreligious
therapists able to refer clients
whom had successfully changed their
sexual orientation.
Another study by Ariel Shidlo and
Michael Schroeder, represents a more realistic
picture of conversion therapy efforts.
TheNew York psychologists studied
202 subjects who tried to change their
sexual orientation, and found that 97%
failed to change in any meaningful way.
And of the 3% who claimed to have fully
changed, all but one work as "conversion"
counselors.
Until society is freefrom anti-Gay prejudice,
people will feel compelled or be
coerced into attempting to change. While
new research on this controversial subject
is welcome, Spitzer’s study does not further
enhance the current debate. It only
offers a view that is long on right-wing
influence and short of objective data.
by Lamont Lindstrom
Here is a childhoodmemory: Iamriding
the bus to school - fifth grade, I think. I’m
relaxed, looking about here-and-there: At
other kids, out the window, at myself refleeted
in the window, and
- oh my god! - I’m wearing
a yellow shirt! And it’s
Queersday! Thursday, that
is. I can’t anymore remember
all the indignities, but
friends and enemies used
hands and tongues to reprimand
me for breaking one
of the sacred rules of
schoolyard society: Only
queers would wear yellow
on Thursday.
We followed a complicated
and often cruel kid
culture full of beliefs, rituals,
and regulations. These
rules starkly delineated the
normal from the abnormal,
the acceptable from the
forbidden. Many focused
on appearance. Boys cross
their legs at the knee, gifts
at the ankle. Boys carry
books at the side, girls
complicated and often
cruel kid culture furl of
beliefs, rltuals, and
regulations... Many
focused on appearance.
Woe was he, or she, who
failed to monitor the
body... It is an easy
guess that playground
taboos refleet children’s
attempts to grapple with
gender... [trying to fit]
ourselves into an adult
world of maseuline
and feminine...’"
cuddled in front. Boys do not stand with
hands on hips akimbo. Woe was he, or she,
who failed to monitor the body.
Schoolyard surveillance was. painstaking
if sometimes quirky. Be cai~ful not to
wear a shirt with a little loop in the middle
of tim shoulders. Playground police’would
rip off these fruit-loops just as they did the
fagtags on Polo shirts. And when I made it
to high school, the heavy question was
which ear to pierce. Boys who pierced
their right ears were likely fags. Left, we
all knew, was right.
Folklorists have recorded many similar
elements of kid lore around America.
Queersday still exists, although the day in
question differs from place to place, as..
does the tabooed color (yellow or green in
some towns, and redin others) Itis aneasy
guess that playground taboos reflect
children’s attempts to grapple with gender.
All of us experienced the challenge of
fitting ourselves into an adult world of
masculine and feminine. We had to be
boys or gifts. Anything in-between was
to(~ upsetting to contemplate. It could imply
that those vital categories, male and
female, weren’t as solid as we needed to
believe they were. Rather than doubt our
categories, we witch-huntedfags and dykes
- failed boys and inadequate gifts.
Folklorists al so collect elaborated, adult
versions of schoolyard culture Jan
Brunvand, for one, has published a series
of collections of urban legends. These are
stories, presented as the truth, that circulate
by word-of-mouth and, increasingly,
over the Internet. (Several excellent
websites, including www.urbanlegends.
corn andwww.snopes2.com, track
new legends and also maintain story archives.)
Just as playgroundfolklorereflects kids’
gender anxieties, we can suppose that urban
legends similarly express areas of
ambiguity and disquiet in everyday American
life.
Accounts of Kentucky-fried rats, for
example, are plentiful: couple goes to fastfood
chicken joint, drives through, buys a
bucket, and chows down. Wife says, "Gee
honey, my chicken tastes
funny !" Husband turns on
light and both are shocked
to see thatWifehas chewed
through hunk of rat, tail
still hangs from the breading.
Couple rushes io lawyer
and sues chicken joint
for XXXX dollars.
A pervasive feature of
contemporary American
life is that we eat food
cooked by strangers (and
poorly paid strangers, at
that). The rat story, and
many similar, reflect and
express the anxieties that
fast food engenders.
Similarly, stories of
poodles in the macrowave
shadow worries about technology
we neither understand
nor completely control:
old lady who on rainy
days dries her toy poodle in
her oven gets new microwave as a gift.
Next time dog gets wet she pops it into the
microwave. Poodle explodes.
Computer virus hoaxes, or stories of
people having cybersex with someone who
mrus out to beMom or Dad, reflect similar
alarms about complex technology.
Many Americans also are worried and
disquieted by homosexuality. Not surprisingly,
their anxiety has sparked a genre of
Gay-themed urban legends. But notably,
there are not that many of these.
Snopes.com archives ouly five, and all
date back several decades or more. The
hoary legend of the horrified college student
puzzled by rectal pain who discovers
his roommate has been drugging him
nightly to have his way with hirn can be
traced back, in one form or another, to the
1880s.
Also decades old is the legend of the
rock star (Elton John, David Bowie, Mick
Jagger, Jon Bon Jovi, Li’l Kim, Britney
Spears, etc. etc.) who is rushed to hospital
after collapsing on stage to have [insert
your number here] gallons of semen
pumped from stomach.
Three other Gay-themed legends were
all first collected back in the 1980s: (!)
Guy goes home with woman who, playfully
it seems, ties him up. But then Batman
(or other masked person) emerges from
closet to leap his bones; (2) a movie will
-soon be released portraying Jesus as Gay;
and, perhaps the most notorious, (3) closeted
cdebrity has trouble with his gerbil.
But several newer legends have surfaced
that reflect fear of AIDS: AIDS
Mary or AIDS Harry - the trick who
disappears after writing "welcome to the
world ofAIDS" on your bathroom mirror;
and stories of AIDS-infected needles left
sticking out of theater seats or public telephone
change return slots.
We can hope that the decline of Gaythemed
urban legends see Studies, p. 11
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NOW... you are thinking, no way.., itis
about sex. Thanks to the media, we tend
to be an incredibly sexual society. Well
okay, sexuality has some to do with it too,
but it is only an expression of the feeling of
acceptance and security they feel in the
relationship.
What kind of behavior should be "socially
acceptable" for GLBT people? Or
better yet, what would the heterosexual
society find acceptable behavior?
"MEN will refrain from hugging, kissing,
or holding hands in public; firm handshakes
only. WOMEN will be permitted
to hug, and to kiss each other on the cheek.
ANY public expression of sexual or romantic
interest in members of the same
gender will be unacceptable. WOMEN
will shop in the Women’s Department at
Sears; men in the Men’s Department.
EACH woman will find aman to live with,
change her last name to match his, and
maintain their home. CHILDREN will be
optional, but encouraged."
So, how many heterosexuals do YOU
know that follow this .code of conduct? So
if we all acted that way, they’d love us..
yeah right. Whoever believes that, I would
strongly suggest to get out of your
"CandyLand" world of beliefs. But what’ s
so great about their rules that we should be
asking for permission to assimilate? Rules,
if they are not clear should be questioned
and changed, if need be.
Those rules say that men must be Men
and womenmust be Women (and children
are the property of biological parents).
They say that everyone should conform to
a standard code of conduct, dress, and
even beliefs. People who don’t conform
may (or may not) be tolerated, but will
never be treated like equals. As for sex..
the rules are both silly and oppressive, and
they’re observed with such hypocrisy it
isn’t funny. Can we say Neanderthal...?
I’m positive that these social standards,
right out of?Father Knows Best," refers to
are a limiting set of nfles: this is acceptable,
that is not. But for me, one of the
benefits ofbeing LesbianAND outspoken
has been that it made me question those
rules.., and ultimately reject those that
didn’t make sense. Don’t ask me to go
back to them; I’d rather go forward.
Rather than a rigid rule book, why don’t
we instead outline something positive to
aspire to? After all, if we must negotiate,
I’d rather do it from a position of strength.
.. of pride in the example we have to offer,
not one of shame and embarrassment.
Here is my revised, socially accepting
behavior for EVERYONE: "WE will accept
others, regardless of the way they
look, dress, talk, or act. WE will support
people’ s right to do whatever they want in
their bedrooms, regardless of whether we
want to do it ourselves. WEwill be honest
about who we are, rather than pretending
to be what others want us to be.WEwill let
people believe things we don’t bdieve,
and express opinions we don’t share. WE
will never negotiate away the righ( to be
whoever we are."
PS: Go visit a nursing home and make a
friend... STOP the abuse and neglect of
the elderly.
that the law cannot be enforced statewide.
"This is a good day for privacy and
fairness in Minnesota," said Charles
Samuelson, executive director of the
MnCLU. "By inviting the governmentinto
every bedroom in the state, this law was
dearly unconstitutional - which is why
the court struck it down."
Gov. Jesse Ventura agreed, his spokesman
said. "It’s consistent with the
governor’s philosophy that there are some
things the government has no business
making laws about," said John Wodele.
"He sees this as a welcome decision."
Rep. Phyllis Kahn, DFL-Mirmeapolis,
has tried unsucessfully more than once to
repeal the provision through legislative
channels. She had a bill ready again this
year, but never introduced it because she
was waiting to see the outcome of the court
case. "I obviously thinkit is terrific," Kahn
said of the ruling. "I always thought that
law was unconstitutional."
Tom Prichard, president of the Minnesota
Family Council, disagreed. "This is
another case of blatant judicial activism
where a judge decides to make the law
rather than interpret it," Prichard said. He
said the issue should be decided by the
Legislature.
Matt Coles, director of the ACLU’s
Lesbian and Gay Rights Project, says 35
states, including Minnesota, havehad their
sodomy laws either repealed by legislatures
or struck down by the courts. In
1961, all 50 states had sodomy laws on the
books. "One more down, 15 to go," Coles
said after hearing about ’the Minnesota
j.udge’s decision. "We absolutely are gomg
to stay with it."
Minnesota’s taw prohibits oral and anal
sex between any adults, including married
couples and disabled people who cannot
engage in any other form of intimacy.
Penalties include up to a year injail and up
to $3,000 in fines.
For years, efforts to repeal the law in the
state Legislature were unsuccessful.
Although sodomy laws are rarely enforced,
Coles says they can be used against
proponents ofdomesticpartners ordinances
and other issues sought by Gays and Les-
- bians. ’The people who want to keep the
(sodomy) law onthe book, there’ s amethod
to their madness," Coles said. "The existence
of these laws are used to generally
delegitimize Gays and Lesbians in public
debate."
indicates dissipation of public anxieties
about homosexuality - the gradual
mainstreaming of Gay. But wait! Have
you heard about-Yahoo! shutting down the
porno sites? Have you heard that Rock
Hudson and Jim Nabors were married?
lsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
presents
Celeb
Diversi-ty
ti 2001
Saturday, June 2, 2001
TOHR Follies 2001
"Hollywood TimeWarp"
~..:Avondale Studio & Theatre (the old Delaware Playhouse)
1511 So. Delaware Ave., 8pm
Reception immediately following.
Tickets: $15.00, At the Door: $20.00
The Pride Store @ Tulsa GLBT
Community Center; 2114 S Memorial
or by calling 918.743.4297 or toll
free (outside Tulsa) at 866.335.9074
Wednesday, June 6, 2001
Tulsa Interfaith Service
Sponsored by TU BLGT Alliance, Sharp Chapel, TU, 3pm
Monday, June 4, 2001
Council Oak Men s Chorale Concert.
Presented by Tulsa City/County Library
"Diversity in Song"
Aaronson Auditorium, Central Librarym 3rd.& Denver, 7pm
Monday, June 4, 2001
Family Law Panel
Presented by Tulsa City/County Library
Law Professor Linda Lacey& an expert panel
Helmerich Library, 91st and Yale, 7pm
Tuesday, June 5, 2001
APt Exhibit: ,"Embracing Art"
IAll Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria Avenue, 6-gpm
Thursday, June 7, 2001
GLBT Film Festival
Sponsored by Tulsa City/County Library
AaronsonAuditofium, Central Library, 3rd and Denver, 7pm
Friday, June 8, 2001
TOHR Diversity Gala
Benefiting TOHR and Diversity Celebration 2001
"Embrace Diversity" Parents of Hate Crime Victims:
Speakers and Parade Grand Marshalls:
Gabi Clayton, Olympia, WA,
Dorothy Holman, Chicago,
Don Sinclair, Houston, TX,
Carolyn Wagner, Fayetteville, AR
"Community Hero" Awards presentation honoring
those in the local GLBT community.
Tulsa Country Club, 701 N. Yukon Dr., 7pm, reception &
silent auction, 8pm dinner, $100/ea. $1,000 table of eight.
Sponsorships available. Reserved seating available by calling
918.743.4297 or 866.335.9074
Saturday, June 9, 2001
The Pride Parade
Cherry Street (15th Street) to Boston Avenue to
18th Street to Veterans .Park
Stags at 3pm, Float/marchers begin assembling at lpm.
No entries after 2:45pro
Featuring:Entries from across the region
Community Heroes, Oklahoma’s largest Pride Flag
Diversity Festival
Sponsored by: Bud Light & Eastern Oklahoma Beverages
Veterans’ Park, 1875 So. Boulder Ave., 3pm
Featuring Entertainment, Speakers, and¯ more.
Sunday, June 10, 2001
Women’s Tea Dance
Women only dance, DJ, and live entertainment by Melanie
Fry, pipe & cigar patio, unplugged music circle, and more.
Greenwood Cultural Center, 322 N. Greenwood, 3-Tpm
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Wisconsin Lesbian Elected
To United States House
WASHINGTON (AP) - Wisconsin voters elected the
first opeuly Lesbian woman member of Congress on
Tuesday. But an acknowledged Lesbian House challenger
lost in Washington state and another was behind
in California. In Wisconsin’ s open 2nd District, Democratic
state Rep. Tammy Baldwin defeated Republican
Josephine Musser, the former state insurance commissioner,
to replace retiring GOP Rep. Scott Klug.
Baldwin, 36, made healtheare a cornerstone of her
campaign, saying the United States should adopt a
~national, publicly funded system like that in Canada.
’°Tammy Baldwin is a solid representative who happens
to be a Lesbian," said Elizabeth Birch, executive
director of the Washington-based Human Rights Campaign,
a Gay civil rights group that helped bankroll the
Baldwin campaign. "She has broken down a very large
door," Birch added.
see Baldwin, p. 10
Hawaii.+Alaska Voters
Reject Gay. Marriage
’Th~As;oc;’atedPress ~Stri~ggiingt; satisf~y~l~ot~.~0ei-al
conservatives and the law of the land, Hawaii on Tuesday
took another step toward banning same-gender
marriage, giving its Legislature the go-ahead to write a
new law. Elsewhere, Alaskans voted a Gay-marriage
ban into their constitution, and voters in Fort Collins,
Colo., defeated a measure to protect Gays and Lesbians
from discrimination.
News was more hopeful for Gay civil rights advocates
in Maine, whereindividual communities are fielding
anti-discrimination bills to circumvent this year’s
statewide vote that overturned protections on the basis
of sexual orientation. South Portland approved a Gay
rights initiative; Ogunqult’s vote on a similar proposal
was too close to call early Wednesday.
The Hawaii initiative was lawmakers" latest try to
sidestep the state Supreme Court’s 1993 ruling that the
state had no constitutional right to ban same-gender
marriages because that would deny some citizens the
rights provided to others. Because the U.S. Constitution’ s
Full Faith and Credit .Clause requires states to honor
each other’ s statutes and legal bonds, the 1993 ruling set
off some furious preemptive legislating around the
country. At least 30 states have now banned Gay marnage,
and Congress passtd the Defense of Marriage
Act, which denied federal recognition ofGay marriage
and allowed states to ignore same-sex tmions licensed
elsewhere.
The two sides in Hawaii spent millions of dollars in a
relendess media campaign. "It’s really sending aclear
message, a strong message, that the people of this
community will not allow homosexual marriages;" said
Mike Gabbard, a leader of the Save Traditional Marriage
group, seeVote, p. 10
UJ DIRECTORY/LETTERS P, 2/3
US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 ~ HEALTH NEWS P. 6
ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8
~ COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 8
BOOK REVIEW P. I 0
DO-IT-YOURSELF P. 11
DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P. 12/13
~ CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14
¯
200 Attend Tulsa Vigil
For Hate Crime Victim
Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends
Tulsa’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaper Available In More Than 75 City Locations
¯ The Associated Press & TFN- Matthew Shepard, a 21 year old
¯ Gay University of Wyoming freshman, was found severely
¯ beaten Oct. 7. He died Oct. 12 in a Fort Collins, Colo., hospital.
¯
His deathsparkedanintemational
"[your vi$11 represents]
a eommhment to an
end of vlolenee and
[to] appropriate
proteetlon under the
law... Matthew
Shepard’s death was
horrible and senseless;
it would be more so if
it. was in vain."
- Drew Edmondson
OkLaltom Attorney General
. .," outpouring of sympathy for vic-
¯ ¯ tims of hate crimes and calls for
~: a-federal hate crime law from
Clinton.
All across the US, communities
heldvigils andrallies tohonor
and mourn the slain student. In
¯
Tulsa, a group of about 150-200
¯ persons gathered at the Civic
Center Plaza. Anumberofclergy
¯ spoke, including the Rev. Father
: Rick Hollingsworth of the Parish
¯ Church of SaintJerome, the Rev.
¯ Leslie Penrose of Community of
: HopeUnited Methodist, the Rev.
¯ Helen Calloway of the Unity
: Church and the Rev. Russell Bennett of Fellowship Congrega-
¯ tional Church.
: Oklahoma’ s Attorney General, Drew Edmondson, sent a state-
: ment which was read by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
vice president, Greg Gatewood: "[your vigil represents] a commitment
to an end of violence and [to] appropriate protection
¯ under the law.. see Hate, p. 11
:
- Fayetteville Civil Rights
¯ Measure Overturned
FAYEFFEVILLE, Ark. (AP) -.Voters here rejected a resolution
: that backers said would have protected Gay people against job
¯ discrimination in city government. Final but unofficial results
¯ from Tuesday’. s .balloting 8howed7~811" v_otes against the measure,
6r58pe~-cent~ whil~ 5,731,or_42 percenL.we~_e cast in favor.
Known as the human-dignity resolution, the measure was passed
¯ by the Fayetteville City Council earlier this year, vetoed by the
¯ mayor, then passed by the council again in overriding the veto.
: It wouldhave required that all applicants for city staffpositions
¯ have equal access to employment, regardless of race, sex, reli-
: gion, color, national origin, age, ancestry, familial statUS, disabil-
¯ ity or sexual orientation, A group opposed to including "sexual
¯ orientation" on the list successfully petitioned to get the resolu-
¯ tion.on the ballot. ¯
Claudette’s Leaving!
Longtime AIDS Activist
Moving to Aggieland
¯
TULSA - For half a decade, anyone seriously involved with
¯ HIV/AIDS, knew Claudette Peterson. For a nu~nber of years, a
¯ Tulsan being tested for HIV anti-bodies likely had their blood
¯ sample taken taken and results given by her when she ran Tulsa
¯ Oklahomans for Human Rights HIV Testing Clinic.
¯ More recently, Persons Living with AIDS (PLWA’s) have
¯ benefited fromher tireless (and initially unpaid) efforts to establish
Food Chain, a food pantry and more. However, since her
¯
spouse, Tim Peterson has recently been taken a teaching job at
¯ TexasA&Mwherehe received his ph.D, Tulsa is losing Peterson
¯ to College Station.
Another prominent figure amongTulsaHIV/AIDS fundraisers
¯ and caregivers, Janice Nicklas, bemoaned Peterson’ s departure.
¯ "It’ s a major loss for our community.., she has tireless energy for
¯ developing resources for HIV prevention and care and we owe ¯
her a lot . . . anyone’s fortunate to have her living in their
community."
¯ Peterson noted that her work has been a labor of love, and is ¯
proud of the fact that she and Foo~t Chain have never had to turn
; away a client and they are now. serving over 100 PLWA’s a
¯ month. She notes that donating food has brought very diverse
: people together- drag queens working right next to conservative
church people. Peterson also recognizbA Audra Sommers for her
¯ very generous support ofFood Chain and other care programs as
¯ wall as support from the National AIDS fund, Tulsa Comm
¯ AIDS Partnership, the Rath Foundation, &Philip Morris Co. Inc.
: Tulsa Library Rever,s,es
Anti-Gay Paper Poltcy
¯ TULSA- Fornearlyfiveyears,Tulsa’sCity/County
¯ Library System (TCCLS) had refused to allow the ¯
distributionofGaynewspapers,TulsaFamilyNews
¯
in particular, in its lobbies. Early in October, TFN
¯ received a letter inviting the newspaper to provide
¯ copies to be distributed at the Central and each of
¯
the four regional libraries. Tulsa Family News is
¯ now found in those locations.
¯ The dispute over distribution privileges began ¯
when TFN publisher, Tom Neal, was representing
_" a now defunct out-of-town Gay paper and re-
" quested equal distribution access as magazines like
¯ TulsaKids, TulsaPeople and Urban Tulsa enjoyed ¯
a number of library lobbies. The response of the
." then TCCLS director, Pat Woodrum and the
¯ library’.s board of trustees was to change the rules
; to ban "out of town" publications.
Shortly after that decision, Neal began Tulsa
¯ Family News and reapplied as a local publication.
¯ Once again, TCCLS changed the rules to continue
to grant access to non-Gay publications and not to
." aGay one. Thesenew rules required that50% ofthe
¯ content of the publication be "local."
¯ TFN challenged TCCLS to clarify how it was ¯
defining and connting local content. Neal notes,
¯
"we had issues where it appeared that we met the
~ 50% standard as we understood it and yet we were
¯ told we didn’ t have enough local content. Further-
." more, we documented multiple violations of that
: rule by other publications but the library administration
refused to respond to our requests to clarify
the policies and to explain their seeming tolerance
¯ for rule-breaking by other publications."
see Library, p. 12
World AIDS ¯ IAM Director Decides to Step Down ¯
TULSA~interfaithAIDS Ministries is sponsoring
¯
its annual World AIDS Day Candlelight March.&
¯ Memorial Service. As is customary, the event is on
¯ December 1 st,Tuesday andwill beginat 6:30 at the
parkinglot of Centenary United Methodist Church
¯
(631 North Denver) just north of downtown. The
¯" march begins to the Parish Church of Saint Jerome
(205 West King) at about 7pro and the memorial
service will start about 7:30. There is a reception
¯
following the service. Marchers are asked to bring
: banners & bells, but candles & matches will be
¯ provided. St. Jerome will be accessible to the
disabled at the east entrance.
¯ Also, this will be the last World AIDS Day for
which ]AM’ s executive director ofmany years will
¯ serve. Diane Zike, who helped found the organiza- ¯
fion when it was part of the Episcopal Diocese of
¯ Oklahoma’s AIDS care, will be stepping down at
¯ the end of the yearforpersonal reasons. Zike stated,
"my work in AIDS ministry has been a very impor-
¯
taut and meaningful part ofmy life fore the past 12
years. I regret the need to step down now from my
role as director but I will continue to be active and
supportive in any way I can."
TFN publisher, Tom Neal, noted, "Diane is one
of the unsungheroes of the TulsaAIDS community
- she has worked long and hard at great personal
cost." Info: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437.
: Blues Concert for AIDS
¯ TULSA-Walkfor Life will presentits 2ndannual
." blues concert later this year (the date will be an-
¯ nounced). Last year’s event was held at at
¯" Streamroller Blues and featured a surprise visit
from Hanson. The tickets to the event will be $5 at
~ the door and will benefit local AIDS care organizations.
For info., call 918-579-9593.
see Editorial, p. 3
Tul;a C~ubs & Restaurants
*Bmnboo Lom~ge, 7204 E. Pine
*Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria
*Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria
*Full Moon Care, 1525 E. 15th
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston
*Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
*Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114S. Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd
832-1269
592-2143
744-0896
599-9512
583-6666
749-4511
585-3134
599-7777
749-1563
744-4280
745-9998
834-4234
585-3405
660-0856
584-1308
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508
*Affinity News~ 8120 E. 21 610-8510
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor
746-4620
*Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15
712-1122
Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955
*Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S.-Peoria
746-0313
Cherry Sf. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742:9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
*Devena’ s Gallery, 13 Brady .
587-2611
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S~.’Peoria 744-5556
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
*Ross Edward Salon, 2447 E. 15th 584-0337, 712-9379
*Iqoral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595
Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq: Med. Ctr. 628-3709
Gloria Jean s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21st 742-1460
Learme M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning
459-9349
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney.
744-7440
*Sandra J. I-Iill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
341-6866
*International Tours
Jacox ~rtimal Clinic; 2732 E. 15th
712-2750
-~*Jared s Antiquesi i602 El 15th
’ - - ’ 582-3018
David Kanskey, Country Club Barbering
747-0236
~Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. i5
599-8070
Kelly Kirby CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466
*Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brady
585-1234
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd
584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31
663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place
664-2951
Novel Idea Bookstore, 51 st & Harvard
747-6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633
747-7672
*Peace of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15
583-1090
The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor
743-4297
Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74t01
747-5932
Richard’ s Carpet Cleaning
834-Q617
Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921. 747-4746
Christopher Spradling, attorney, 616 S. Main, #308 582-7748
*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square
749-6301
*Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria
697-0017
*Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria
742-2007
*Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis
481-0558
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling
743-1733
*Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis
592-0767
Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & U niversities
AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101
579-9593
*All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria
743-2363
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159
587-7314
Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6
583-7815
*B/L/G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
*Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201
*Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence
*Church of the RestorationUU, 1314N.Greenw°°d 587-1314
*Commlmity ofHope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale 747:6300
*Commumty Unitarian-Universalist Congregation
749-0595
*Council Oak Men’ s Chorale
743-4297
*Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S Delaware
712-1511
*Democratic Headqtmrters, 3930 E. 31
742-2457
Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics &
Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475
355-3140
*Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo
622-1441
*Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
*Free Svirit Women’ s Center, call for l°cati°n &inf°: 587-4669
747-6827
918.583.1248, fax: 583.46 15, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159
e-mai!: TNsaNews@earthlinl~net
website: http:Husers.aol.com/TulsaNewst
Publisher + Editor:
Tom Neal
Writers + contributors:
James Chfistjohn, Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud
Balry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lamont Lindstrom
Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers, Adam West
Member of The Associated Press
Issued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents of this
oublication are protected by US copyright 1998 byT~ J::.~. ¢L~
~and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without
written permission from the publisher. Publication of a r~ame or
photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence
is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted,_oaust
be signed & becomes the sole prope,rty of, T,~.~. /:.~Lg,’...ff.*~.*"
Each reader is entitled to 4 copies o~ each eoition at msmouuon
points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248.
Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438
*HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-6611
*HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral
834-4194
*Holland Hall SchOol, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
834-8378
HIV Testing, Mon/Thurs. 7-9pm, daytime by appt. only
*House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood
Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
*MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood
838-1715
NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral Pi. 748-3111
NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658
OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157 .
*Our House, 1114 S. Quaker
584-7960 ¯
PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152
749-4901 .
*Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria
587-7674
*The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 74105.
743-4297 "
prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 .
*R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 74%4195
Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159
665-5174 ¯
*Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8
584-2325
O’RYAN, support group.for 18-24 LGBT young adults
O’RYAN Jr suppOrt group for .14-17 LGBT youth
St Aidan’s ~ i~co ~1 ChurCh "4045NCineinnat4
p P , ¯ 425~7882
*SL Dunstan’ s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71St"
492-7140
*St. Jerome’s Parish Church; 205 W. King
582-3088
*Tulsa Area United Way, 1430 S Boulder
583-7171
TNAAPP (Native American men) Indian Health Care
582-7225
¯ Tulsa Cbunty Health Department, 46 16 E. 15 595-4105
Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only
Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, c/o The Pride Center 743-4297
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
*Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule
*Tulsa Community College Campuses
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Imagine a Lesbian or Gay activist who
left the country a few years ago and just
recently returned back to our community.
Talk about culture shock! She or he would
witness a brave new’queer world, one in
which GLAAD has accepted $110,000
from Coors, theHumanRights Campaign
(a Lesbian and Gay PAC) has endorsed
D’Amato for Senator in New York, and a
young Gay man was tortured and murdered
in Wyoming. Importantly for us,
these three things are not unrdated -
appeasement comes at a price - and that
price is not acceptable to us.
Weare writing (respectively) as aformer
taffer and former board member of
GLAAD/SFBA. Therefore we will focus
rathe GLAAD-Coors connection.
GLAAD (the Gay and Lesbian Alliance
Against Defamation) has accepted
$110,000 from the Coors Brewing company
to support its new "sexual orientation
in the workplace" training effort.
GLAAD was founded by activists such as
Vito Russo (author of The Celluloid
Closet) with a single, very spedfic rmssion:
to watchdog and critique the media’ s
coverage of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and
Transgendered issues.
It has strayed from that mission often to
deal with the substance of issues rather
than how they are covered. We believe
that conducting sexual orientation in the
workplace trainings is outside GLAAD’ s
niche.
No other organization in our community
focuses on anti-defamation. There is
plenty of defamation (some have lately
taken to calling it hate speech) runmng
around loose these days. GLAAD has
plenty enoughmediaanalysis andresponse
to do and litde enough money to do th.at
vital work, without implementing a new
: project with dirty money.
Much has already been said about the
politics of Coors and the politics of accepting
money from Coors. We would
like to emphasize our dismay thatGLAAD
would accept money from such a source.
When we were with GLAAD, RJR
Reynolds (Big Tobacco, a key backer of
powerful, homophobic North Carolina
Senator Jesse Helms) was also offering
the community money and some were
considering taking it!
So, we in GLAAD/SFBA back then
"did the math" and realized that taking
money from people trying to kill youjust
doesn’t add up to anything that makes
sense. Same for Coors once removed -
that is the Coors Foundations.
- Tom di Maria, Exec. Director, 1993-95
- Jessea Greenman, Co-Chair, 1990-94
GLAAD/San Francisco Bay Area
[Editor’s note: the Coors family wealth
has been closely associated with a number
of the most ultra rtght wing and anti-
Gaypolitical causes. Coors Brewing Company
was once the target ofa boycott due
to anti-Gay company policies. Coors
Brewing now boasts a non-discrimination
policy that includes sexual orientation
and. supports Gay organizations.
Coors Brewing has supported the Tulsa
Pride Picnic for a number ofyears.]
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At the present time. there are only 25 states that have laws against
homoffexuals, most nbted are; Alabama 20 years, Georgia 20 years, l~hode
Is and ant ess than 7 years nor more than 20 years, Oklahoma 10 years. The
homosexuals are working hard to get these laws changed to permit their
perversion ofour country, and it appears they are successfuq at it. "
A great many laws have been changed. Until 1990
our country. In 1986the U.S. SupremeCourtuph,
(in a 5 to 4 vote), noting that "prohibitions again
jurisprudence since the colonization of the countr
the laws of’he original thirteen states when they r~
outlawed sodomy. Noah Carolina’s original sodl
the abonimable and detestable crime against natur
adjudged guilty of a felony and SHALL SOl:
CLERGY".
the U.S. barred admission ofsexual deviants into
d the constitutionality of Georgia’s sodomy law
homosexuality have been a part of Ainerlcan
" Sodomy was a criminal offense forbidden by
fiodtheBillofRights. Until 1961, allb0states
ay statute nut: "Any person who shall commit
not fit tb be named among Christians... Shall be
ER DEATH WITHOUT THE BENEFIT OF
Without proper punishment of these, perveRs, u( great comitxy has become like Sodom &
Gomorrah. It’s gotten pretty sad when we allo’~ mmosexuals to teach our children that there is
nothing wrong with being *gay".- ttawthome I ementary public school, Madison, Wisconsin,
where lesbian TummY" Boldwln is Distriet Cotmty ~upcwisor, bes just one ofmany pilot programs
to teach against homophobia, At the direction of~[hoir teachers, Ist and 2nd graders made a book
titled "Everybody is Equal, A Book About Gay &. Lesbian." The book teaches our very young
chiltlrcn respect for homos, a.s well as the Ga~ Pride chant’Hay-Hay-Ho-Ho-Homophobia’s got to
go’and"Wewant rigbl,~tao*: 1ST&2..NDGRADERS!!! OneolderstudenL whenaskedwhatshe
had learned, statedshe’loaksatitlnadifferentlight. Toknowwhatbeinggay isallabout, it’snot
actually diffcrent from anybody else".
Cambridge Mass. schools hold functions like a Gay Family Photo Exhibit on school grounds, and
another celebrates Gay Pride Day as a holiday. Third graders n New York earn tolerance for
borons, tlomosexuals argue that wbat consenting adults do in the privacy oftbeir home is protectod
under lhe tight to privacy. Vsctlmless crimes, sucKas the possession and distribution ofillegal drugs
do not escape the law where they are committed at home; right to privacy in no way allows one to
break the law. Not State law and not God’s !aw...sodomy is a crime and must be prosecuted. By
dolng nothing and allowing sodomites to run amuck, just look around and see where our morals are
today. Prison terms for sodomy are designed to punish persons who undertake by unatural and
indecent methods to gratify a perverted and depraved sexual appetite which is an offence against
public dccancy and morality. To i mprison a conlinnod homosexual is like throwing Brer Rabbit i nto
the briar patch To ~ve our nation we need the DEATII PENALTY to put an end to the sodomites
~erverslon ofour country.
Can honmsexuals repent and be saved I I Corinthians 6:1 I)? A few are, but this still
does not mean society eannol INSTITUTETHE DEATI I PENALTY for this crime, just
as it has for the crime of murder. No one says a murderer cannot repent and come to
Christ, nor does society allow such a conv~’sion to stop the death penalty from being
carried out. Lev. 20:13: "Ira man lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman both of
.them have committed an abominatiott. They shall surely be put to death".
Asa did that which was right in the eyes ofthe I.ord, and hc tookaway the sodimites out
of the hind (IKings 15:12). ]-lad Asa execu~.d these sexual deviants, Jehnsaphat
wouldn’t have had to remove the remaining sodomites out ofthe land (I Kings22: 46).
The Death Penalty is our only answer to ensure these pe~’erts are out ofour contr~’ and
stay out for good. ]
But God is love, oh yes, God is love ~nd if you love God, you will keep his
commandment {Matt 22:37 and Jol~ 14:15). So for our people to keep the
commandment of l.ev. 20:13 is tO love Grd. Romans 1:2~-32: :,re have changed.the .
troth ofGod into a lie. worshippingand se~ing the creature more than the Creatbr. God
has given us up to qle afflictions, even our woman go against nature, ~nd likewise also
the men burned in their lust one toward another, They \vhich commit such things arc
worthyofdeath, SodomandGomorrahwcredestro.vedforsuchthings. Ourendcould
be #n uch worse ifwe don’t follow God’s law’.and uphold the Death Panahy forsodom):
Pastor Pete Peters points out in his book,"Death Panalty for Homosexuals" that the top
6 leading scrialki||ers in the U.S- are: Donald | larvt:y - 37 killed. John \Vay’ne Gaq." - 23
killed. Patrick Keamev - 32 killed, Bruce Davis - 28 killed. Core Henley Brooks - 27
killed. Juan Corona -’25 killed, al! of which were homosexuals; add to that Jeffrey
Dahalcr.
In closing. I would like to poinrout that God has the answer to all our problems. God
has Ills law and the law is good tfa man use it lawfully( I Timothy 1 :g-I 0).
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"To save our nation, we need the DEATH PENALTY t~
put an end to the sodomites perversion of our country." No
doubt, your reaction is much like mine was - this is ludicrous,
almostlaughable! Andthatreactionis increasedwhen
we note the source: the extremely disreputable, publicityhungry
ex-Klansman, the "Reverend" Jonny Lee.Cleary.
But just as the extremist rhetoric of anti-abortiomsts has
created a climate in which extremists murder in order to
"save lives," this adds to a climate in which Lesbian and Gay
lives .(and those of our non-Gay friends who shand by us) are
already devalued and at risk.
Though ultra conservative political groups, like the Family
Research Council, Focus on the Family and the Republican
Party now distance themsdves from recent violence
against Lesbians and Gay men, their systematic attacks onus
and their exploitation of anti-Gay fear for political gain also
have helped create a climate ripe for violence.
Murdered University of Wyoming student Matthew
Shepard’ s death was horrible but it was not the only one of
its type, nationally or even locally. According to Kelly
Kirby, 1ongtimeTulsacivilrights activist, therewas one Gay
man murdered each .year from 1991 to 1996. And yet when
Tulsans held a public vigil for Shepard, not one elected
official came or sent a representative. Mayor Savage was out
of town but surely some one member of her staff could have
shown up? What about the district attorney? Only former
DA Bill LaFortune came and that reflects not only on his
decency and compassion see Penalty, p.14
Ray of Light Campaign Invites Gay People To Tellof Experiences With Ex-Gay Ministries
by Wayne Besen . Of course, you would never see a cover story about a
HRC Associate Director of Communications ".
It is morning once again, and as you rub your tired
eyes and peer into the unforgiving bathroom mirror, the "
shiny reflection of your head is a painful reminder that
you look just as much like Kojac as the day before.
Although your friends say you should learn
to accept your baldness, you desperately
want to change and have spent years pursu-
: ing the latest hair growth remedies to no
: avail. But today is your lucky day. While
: sipping the morning coffee, you pick-up a
¯¯ copy of a respected news magazine and a
bold, splashy headline proclaims: BALD
: FOR LIFE? Underneath the headline, two
¯ smiling, bushy haired people, who look en-
~ thralledby their new hair-dos, claim to have
: been "cured" by a miracle hair tome, corn-
: blued with bible study.
Ecstatic, you excitedly turn the pages un-
: til youf’md the story about this new "miracle
." cure." But as you read on, your enthusiasm
¯ quickly begins to diminish. First, you find
that the smiling mop-tops on the cover-page
: are full-time, paid employees for acompany
: marketing this product. Next, even the most
: fervent supporters claim that the success
¯ rate of this so-called panacea is a paltry
:
Currently, ~alse
notions about
Gay Amerleans
are beln~
perpetuated hy a
media whleh
erroneously
believes it is
honorable
journalism to
simply
regurgitate
sound bltes rom
both sides in the
name of bahnee.
30%. What about the other70%? According
to the company, the hair tonic is not working for these
folks because they are "not praying hard enough."
As you skim down the page, you perkup because you
read there is still hope! A competing company claims
that their hair tonic has a miraculous success rate of
71.6%. But when asked by the magazine reporter for
hard data to corroborate the claim, the company spokes-
person gli"bly repli¯es,. "I don’t have time to conduct
follow-up studies." How then, you wonder, does the
¯ company come up with a specific number like 71.6%
without ~’011ow-ti~ studies to document whether or not
: the patients sprouted hair?
~ The article then points out that the two scientists who
¯ founded the hair tonic formula have feverishly traveled
" to science conventions around the world to declare that
~ their invention.does not work as they once said it did.
~ They say that many people would he harmed psycho-
. logically if they pinned all ,of,their ho.p~,s a~,d dream~,on~
what they now Call a"fraud. The article atso states mat
"- all respected medical and mental health organizations
agreed with the inventors that the hair tonic was no more
i likely to help one grow hair than dipping ones head in
~ a vat of Ben and Jerry’ s ice cream.
¯ If that isn’ tbad enough, the companies promoting the
¯ hair tonic have taken out full page ads in major newspa-
: pers which have distorted a baldness study by one of the
¯ premier hair loss specialists in the nation. The ac-
"_ claimed expert retorted acrimoniously to the lies by
¯ saying, "It was a complete misrepresentation of what
~ the research actually said. It was taken completely out
~ of context. I am horrified and angry and they are
¯ spreading an awful and destructive message."
¯ Your dreams of looking like Fabio are dashed for ¯
good when you read that of the people lumped in the
¯ 30% success rate category, the majority believed that if
~ thehairtonicdidnot work, biologicalbaldness couidbe
¯ overcome bywearing atoupee. The article ends with the ¯
testimony of angry ex-ex bald people who claim that
] they were misled and cheated by the hair tonic compa-
¯ rues. One company’s spokesperson dismisses the in-
] convenient complaints of the ex-ex-bald people by
~ saying: "Some p~.ople fall of the wagon."
~ You now sit m your living room, enraged by the
¯ misleading story, wondering how a respected news
~ outlet would g~ve this "snake oil" that has been so
~ thoroughly discredited, the slightest bit of legitimacy,
~ no less a cover story. Shouldn’t the ex-ex-bald people
~ have been on the cover, or at least been the focus of the
¯ story instead because their experiences are a more
~ representative of the vast majority who took the tomc?
~ Dojournalistic ethics and standards exist anymore, you
¯ wonder? Whoops, you almost forgot, it is 1998, ’‘The
: Year of the Journalist."
discredited, unsubstantiated, cure for baldness, or anything
rise for that matter.., except homosexuality.
When it comes to a so-called cure for Gay people, (as if
one were wanted or needed) veracity does not seem to
be of much importance to the media. In the following
passa~, all of the shenanigans attributed to
the ex-bald movement actually occurred in
the so-called ex-Gay ministries, from the
bogus statistics to the distortion of scientific
research, to the founders of the ex-Gay ministries
marrying each other and repudiating
these "cures." Yet, despite these gross irregularities,
the media still unwittingly legitimizes
"ex-Gay" ministries by not holding
them to the same standard of scientific
proof that they would demand from any
other group.
Advocates for Gay equality believe
these ministries should have an opportunity
to voice their opinions. However, the media
has a duty to research the accuracy of statements
made or statistics reported. Currently,
false notions about Gay Americans are being
perpetuated by a media which erroneously
believes it is honorable journalism to
simply regurgitate sound bites from both
sides in the name of balance. While balance
is important, it is not an excuse to eschew
accuracy and tough, fact checking. All statements are
not equally valid and it is the media’ s responsibility, to
distinguish factfrom fiction. Inmost of the news stones
about the "ex-Gay" mimstries or the Right wing ad
campaign in which these mimstries are highlighted,
fiction has been the norm and the truth has been a
For example, ex-Gay leader Anthony Falzarano recently
said dn television that nearly 80% of Gay people
were:molested as children. This is factually incorrec~by
any objective standards, withGaypeoplenomorelikely
to be molested as children than heterosexuals. Unfortunately;
because he is talking about Gay people, the
lethargicmediafelt there was noneed to hold Falzarano
¯ iecountableforhis lie. IfFalzaranowouldhave mad.e .a9
outrageous claim about any other minority group, ~t ~s
guaranteed the media would have followed-up and
excoriated him for his hysterical statement.
At the Human rights Campaign, our biggest challengeis
not countering political religious activist ~oups
whoexistmdeny us equal rights. The toughest battle we
face is getting the media to accurately follow-up on
outrageous statements made by these groups. As it
stands, our opponents can say anything they want about
Gay people, no matter how despicable, and they never
. havemanswer for it~Through lazy reporting, the media
has becomean accomphcemthe Right s discnnnnalao
campaign against Gay Americans by giving bald faced
lies equal stature to documentedfacts. It is our hope that
as the news media begins to evaluate some of their
glaring ethical lapses in 1998, they will consider stopping
the harmful practice of printing false information
about Gay people perpetuated by the Right without first
verifying the outrageous claims.
This perpetuation of myths by the media has forced
the Human Rights Campaign to start the Ray Of Light
(ROL) project. TheROLseeks to shine the spotlight on
these ministries so people can see beyond the rhetoric
andhearfromthe vast majority ofpeoplewhohave been
through these ministries and now call their techniques
psychological terrorism. This project will invite former
¯
ex-Gays from around the nation to share their stories
¯ with the Human Rights Campaign and lift the veil of
¯ secrecy surrounding these mimstries. The Ray of Light
¯ will:
¯ *Seek and chronicle the stories of former ex-Gays;
¯ *Share these smiles with the public and the media; ¯
*Compile information by leading mental health and
¯ medical experts on the most recent studies; and
¯ *Examine the literature of the ex-Gay ministries to
¯ look for flagrant abuses and fraudulent claims.
If you have been through these ministries, please
¯
submit your story so we can share it and help others.
~ Stories can be submitted, to: www.hrc.org/ncop/rol
Churches Create Hate
MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - Mainstream Christian denominations
are to blame for a climate of hate and
bigotry that fostered the fatal beating of a Gay University
of Wyoming student, a United Methodist
Church pastor says. "It’s not just the fight-wing
conservatives" who are teaching that homosexuality
is a sin and that Christian churches should shun Gays
and Lesbians, the Rev. Jimmy Creech said while in
Minneapolis recently. "I hold the church accountable
for helping to create a culture that allows violence
against Gays and Lesbians," he said. "Churches don’ t
intend for the violence to happen, but they lay the
groundwork for it."
Creech gained national notoriety" for officiating at
a same-sex covenant ceremony in his Omaha, Neb.,
congregation. In August, he was narrowly acquitted
of violating church law. He subsequently resigned
from his Nebraska congregation.
Creech argues that when the church denies clergy
members the right to perform same-sex ceremonies,
it is preventing them from "being a pastor to all
members of the congregation.r’ For him, "’This is the
denial ofmy freedom to be a pastor to everyone, and
that’s very offensive."
Crecch was in Minneapolis to preach at two services
at All God’s Children Metropolitan Church.
Theday before, hemetwith several Minnesota United
Methodistclergy andlaity. Recently,22United Methodist
members from Minnesota joined 344 other
Methodists around the country in asking the national
bishops to address the issues of treatment ofGays and
Lesbians in the church.
Non-Biological L sbian
Mom Shares Custody
NEWARK, N.J. (AP) - A woman who stayed home
[o raise a 2-year-old boy while her Lesbian partner
earned a living can share custody of the child, even
though she isn’ t the biological mother, a judge has
ruled. The partner, identified only as R.E.M., stayed
home to take care of the boy while herpartngr, S.L..y.,
worked at a hospital. The Lakewood couple decided .
to have the child together, chose a sperm donor to
inseminate S.L.V. and sent out birth announcements "
with both women’ s fingerprints on them.
Experts who follow Lesbian custody battles say the ¯
decision goes further than any other in granting bro,a,d ,"
custodial rights to a woman who is not the child s
birth mother. "-
"The court is satisfied that R.E.M. has been able to ¯
show that she stands in the shoes of a parent to the
child and should be accorded the status of parent in "
parity with S.L.V.,’7 Superior Court Judge Vincent ¯
Grasso wrote inhis decision issued Monday in Ocean
County.
Kate Kendell, who heads the National Center for
Gay and Lesbian Rights in San Francisco, called the
decision "an enormous victory ." "Our children have
as much right to a continuing relationship with both
parents as any other child of two parents," she said
Tuesday,
Thejudge’ s declsxon, however, lsn t binding stat -
wide and is inconsistent with an opinion issued in
Essex County in September. Two other similar cases
have yet to be decided in Mercer and Union counties.
"Right now, you have a situation that really cries out
for an appeal," said Paul Urbania, S:L.V:’s attorney.
’q’he law in New Jersey shouldn’t depend on where
geographically you’ re located."
One woman in Essex County, who said she helped
raise 4-year-old twins with her ex-partner, lost custody
of the children and vowed to appeal. Attorney
Robin Wernik said the woman will use the Ocean
County opinion to bolster her case.
Lawyers are stillformalizing thedetails, butR.E.M.
will likely be able to care for the boy for three or four
12-hour days each week while S.L.V. isat work, as
well as on alternate weekends, said her attorney,
Bettina Munson. R.E.M., a former bartender, does
notworkbecause ofapermanentdisability toher arm.
Both women must share the cost of supporting the
boy, identified only as A.J.M.V., thejudge said. The
boy, who was born on March 2, 1996, goes by the
surname of both women.
The couple, who met in 1989 and moved in to-
¯
gether in 1991, chose a sperm donor together with a
¯ geneticprofilethatwas compatible to theirs once they
decided to have a child. S.L.V. was inseminated
¯
because R.E.M. had had a hysterectomy, the opinion
¯ satd. The women went by mommy and mamere,
¯¯ and drew up respective, detailed family trees for the
baby. The relationship ended in November 1996,
¯
although S.LV. remained in the home until Septem-
¯ ber 1997, the opinion said. R.E.M. sued for castody a
¯ month later.
"BBC Apologizes For
¯ Calling Politician Gay
LONDON (AP)-TheBritish Broadcasting Corp. has
apologized to a Cabinet minister who was described
as Gay during a news program. Aides to Trade Secretary
Peter Mandelson said Monday he had received
~ a letter of apology from BBC chairman Sir Christo-
¯ pher Bland. Mandelson, who prefers not to make an
¯ issue of his sexual orientation, planned no comment
: on the letter, the aides said.
The controversy beganwhen newspaper columnist
Matthew Pards saidonalate-nightBBCprogram that
¯ Mandelson was "certainly, Gay. The remark came ¯
during speculation about the sexuality of another
¯ Cabinetminister, RonDavies, whoresigned as Welsh
¯ Secretary last weekbecause ofwhathe called a"lapse
¯ of judgment" with a stranger who robbed him after
the two met at London’ s Clapham Common, a popu-
: lar Gay hangout, and left together. Davies has given
: no clear explanation of what happened. But he has
¯ denied he was seeking Gay sex or drugs, even after
days of banner headlines and tabloid stories.
: Meanwhile, the BBC added to the controversy by
¯ ordering staffmembers never to repeat the remark by
¯ Parris, who is openly Gay, on any of its programs.
¯
That move provoked charges of clumsy censorship
¯
and of giving special treatment to Mandelson, a close
¯ adviser to Prime Minister Tony Blair and among the
¯" country’ s most influential politicians.
¯
Protesters included the opposition Conservative
~arty., severa! 9f whose.politicians were pursu.,e,d.by
the media over extramarital affairs when the party
was ~n power.
Also opposed to the BBCrs move was Northern
Ireland Secretary Mo Mowlam, also a leading member
of the Blair Cabinet. Ms. Mowlam said she and
other panelists on a Friday nightBBCradio talk show
were told not to mention Mandelson and the Gay
remark. "I’m not about to be unfair or unjust to
colleagues, but we’ve all state~,,very clearly that to be
given guidelines is insulfing~ she said during the
show.
The BBC altered.anews quiz program last week to
remove a running joke about Mandelson, but the TV
¯ satare program .Ha. e I Got Ne~ws For You.’?" was
¯ allowed to broadcast a Clip of the Parris comment.
i Schools LawSuits Help
"Prevent Gay-Bashings
¯ OAKLAND, Calif. (AP) - In the wake of the recent
~ death ofaGay collegestudeut, administrators, teach-
¯ ers and students methere this weekend to diSCUSS Gay
~ bashingin schools. They say lawsuits are a powerful
¯ weapon in the ending name:calling, harassment and
: violence agMnst young Gay people. S.chool districts
¯
that have ignored the problem are being held liable.
¯ No federal anti-discrimination laws cover sexual
: orientation, and Massachusetts is the only state to
¯ mandate such protection. But officials-fro_re, the U~S.
¯ Department of Education saidthat under T~tle IX of
theCivil RightsAct,new legal groundis being carved
; out to help Gay youth.
¯" For instance, a boy who is harassed by other boys
¯ because he is.effeminate may have a valid claim that
¯ he’ s being discriminated against because of his gen- ¯
der. Agency officials said they werelooking into such
¯
a case at a private school in the San Francisco Bay
; area. ’Tm n0t saying we came to tell you we’ve got
¯ all the magic bullets and fight answers," said Art
i¯ CCiovlielmRanighotfs.,,D’F~rpa~narktmlye,ntwoef.aErdeusctarutigognl’isngOfwfiicthe aosf
; many questions as you have."
¯ The issue has taken on new urgency since the Oct.
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12 death of Matthew Shepard, a Gay University of
Wyoming student who was beaten and left tied to a
fence to die, officials said. "When you don’t deal with ¯
sexual harassment, it leads to society accepting it, and
that leads to tragedies like that," said Gloria Estolano, "
who works in the agency’s San Francisco office.
Those attending the second annual conference hosted
by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network "
said lawsuits should be a last resort. "The last time "
students needed lawyers ,to g~t them through high
school was in the ’50s and 60s’ during the civil rights
movement, said Kate Frankfurt, an organizer of the ¯
gathering. What’s needed instead, she said, is organiza- ¯
tions that can stimulate dialogue on the issue.
Learning how to better run her own such group ¯
brought Veronica Lopez, 22, from Stockton to the ¯
conference. Lopez, a college student who works full
time in a day care center, said homophobia starts early.
She said a 4-year-old boy recently came to her in tears .
because a 5-year-old had just called him an anti-Gay "
epithet. "It shows the parents are talking about it, ."
because kids don’t even know what (Gay) is," Lopez ¯
said. "I thinkit’ s important that people realize we’re not "
sick people... I consider myself pretty normal."
Gay Man in NY SenateI
ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Thomas Duane, openly Gay ¯
and HIV-positive, describes himself as "distinctly "
progressive." TheDemocraticNew YorkCity Council- "
man is running for a seat m the state Senate that has ¯
rarely, if ever, been described in those terms. If Duane ¯
is elected - and the heavy Democratic makeup of his "
Manhattan district makes that very likely - he will ¯
become the state Senate’s first openly Gay member and
only the second openly Gay member of the state Legis- ¯
lature.-"I’m hoping to add something that has been "
missing from the debate in Albany," Duane said.
He runs as the recent beating death of Gay University ¯
of Wyoming student Matthew Shepherd focuses national
attentiononhatecrimes legislation, one of Duane’ s "
key issugs. Known for his outspoken support of issues ¯
relating to Gays, women and the disabled in.the rough ¯
and tumble city council, Duanehas said that the absence ¯
of hate crime statutes permits and, ina sense, encour- "
ages violence against homosexuals. This-year, he called
for can-cellation-of the annual GreenwiEii Village Halloween
Parade, clting rising anti-Gay violence in the "
traditionally tolerant New York City enclave. "
Such abate crimes law has been blockedinNew York ¯
by the very Republican-controlled state Senate Duane ¯
hopes to take a seat in. Senate Majority Leader Joseph ¯
Bruno opposes the law, saying it creates a special class "
of victim. "
’‘The state Senate has been absolutely backward,"
Matt Foreman, executive director ofEmpire State Pride ¯
Agenda, New York’s largest Gay advocacy group. ¯
"Someone like Tom is desperately needed there."
It is highly unlikely that Duane he will have any luck "
pushing legislation through the highly-regimented Senate
from the Democratic side of the aisle. Still, support- ¯
ers say his status is likely to hold sway in debates. "To ¯
have someone who lives with HIV talking about HIV- :
related bills will be quite powerful and I think his "
opinion willcarry real weight," said state Sen. Catherine ¯
Abate.
Duane is running for Abate’ s seat after she vacated it "
to nm unsuccessfully for the Democratic nomination ¯
for state attorney general. The district winds from the ¯
Upper West Side through Times Square downtown to
Greenwich Village and the Financial District. Voter
registration is 67 percent Democrat and only about 11 "
percent GOP. His opponent, Republican Karol Murov, ¯
has failed to mount mu’ch of a challenge, observers said.
Bruno spokesman John McArdle refused to discuss
Duane’ s candidacy. But in response.to criticisms about "
the chamber’s attention to Gay issues he said "the ..
Senate has responded to concerns of New Yorkers as a
whole." ."
Duane’s election would bring New York even with ¯
Arizona and California, which both have two Gay ¯
members in their state Legislature. Only Oregon and "
Maine have more. ."
AssemblywomanDe_borah Glick, the-New York’s
first openly Gay legislator, points to legislation r~quiring
AIDs testing for newborns and this year’ s mandate :
that people who test positive for HIV notify their "
: partners as si.gns that New York’ s Legislature is ill-
" informed on issues important to Gay groups. Yet
she sounds a cautionary note for Duane, saying to
expect at least some hostility. "I’m sure he will
encounter homophobia. I did and still do," Glick
said.
Gay MayorforWinnipeg
WINNIPEG, Manitoba (AP) - A city councilman
once featured in a documentary about Gay foster
fathers has won the mayoral race in Winnipeg,
becoming the first openly Gay mayor of a major
Canadian city. "It was a history-making night,"
said Glen Murray after returns showed him winning
easily over six other candidates. Winnipeg is
Manitoba’s capital and, with 667,000 residents, is
the largest Canadian city between Toronto and
Calgary, Alberta.
Murray, 41, became one of Canada’s betterknown
Gay politicians six years ago when, with his
troubled foster son Michael Curtis, he was featured
in a film documentary called "A Kind of Family."
Murray did not make his sexual orientation a focus
of the campaign, concentrating instead on economic
issues and moderating some of the left-ofcenter
positions he espoused during three terms on
the city council.
His main opponent, grocery-store executive
Philip Kaufman, did not raise the homosexuality
issue explicidy, thoughhe made references early in
the campaign to family values. Late in the campaign,
a local minister organized a prayer vigil and
urged voters to oppose Murray. "This is not a
matter ofhating anyone," said Bruce Martin, pastor
of Calvary Temple Pentecostal Church. "It’s a
matter of biblical interpretation."
Murray’s victory was celebrated by Gays in
Winnipeg. "It’ s apotent symbol that an openly Gay
person should be elected to a high post like this,"
said Chris Vogel, a Gay rights activist. "It contributes
to the growing sense that there’s nothing
wrong with being homosexual."
Murray, seeking to portray himself as mainstream,
said he would follow the practice of previous
Winnipeg mayors and refuse .to officially proclaim
a Gay Pride week in the city. In fact, he said
he _will try to avoid issuing such proclamations on
behalf of any group or cause. "We’re a city of such
diversity, of so many cultures," he said. "We’re a
city of great tolerance, ofhope and Ijust think all of
those values were reaffirmed tonight." There are
only a couple of dozen openly Gay politicians in
Canada, including two members of the federal
Parliament.
Bishop in Bind
COLUMBUS, Ohio (AP) - A bishop who performed
two same-sex ceremonies when he was a
Columbus pastor said it was an agonizing decision
for him to file a complaint against a minister for
performing a Gay ceremony. Bishop Joseph
Sprague, head of the Chicago United Methodist
Church, said he performed services for two men
and two women.
Sprague charged Rev. Gregory Dell, pastor of
Broadway United Methodist Church in Chicago,
with "failure to uphold the order and discipline of
the United Methodist Church." Sprague said he
:’ chose to write the complaint to avoid inflammatory
language he expected others might use.
Dell will be tried before a 13-person jury of his
peers. Dell said he didn’ t talk with Sprague before
conducting the recent service, but knew the bishop
would be required to file charges.
Sprague said before he performed the Gay ceremonies
he first discussed it with Bishop Judith
Craig of the West Ohio Conference, which has
jurisdiction over Columbus. "I told him he could
not use the marriage ceremony in that setting... I
toldhim that in terms of any ceremony he designed,
I wouldleave it to his pastoral discretion to do what
was necessary to providepastoral care," Craig said.
Sprague has refused to remove Dell from his
duties pending the trial, and said he isn’ t sure what
he will do if the jury votes to oust Dell.
Jocelyn Elders:
No Regrets
COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) - Jocelyn Elders,
who lost her job as U.S. surgeon
general four years ago, says she does not
regret taking such controversial stands as
advocating se~x education for kindergartners
and conitoms in teen-agers’ pockets.
"You look back on things like that more
than once, and I have tried to think how I
would have said things differently or
should I have said those things, and I have
to say I have no regrets," she said at an
annual state conference on sexually transfnitted
diseases and HIV, the AIDS virus.
Even the invitation for her to speak
stirred controversy. The state Department
of Health and Environmental Control last
month withdrew its sponsorship and
$40,000 in funding, saying Elders’ presence
would distract from the issues. That
left AIDS service organizations as the
primary sponsors, with funding frompharmaceutical
companies.
Eiders, who drew bursts of applause
and cheers from the audience of nearly
650, said she advocates explaining sex to
youngsters so they can protect themselves
from abuse. "We want tO teach our children
early that there are places that people
should not touch," she said in an interview.
What about leaving sex education to
parents? "We don’t let the parents teach
physics," Eiders said. "Your health is far
more important than physics." And if site
had a teen-age daughter? "I would never
want my teen-ager to go out on a date
without a condom in her purse," Elders
said, saying vows ofabstinence"are easier
to break than a latex condom.’"
Elders, the first black woman to be
surgeon general, held the job 15 months
until she was forced to resign in December
;t-994: ~Her downfall came. when she
said Gays and Lesbians must help save
children from the un-Christian religious
right.
Needle Exchange
Program Prevails
WASHINGTON (AP) -Even before a
congressonal bahon funds for needleexchange
programs became law, anAIDS
clinic in the nation’ s capital had set up a
private group to supply drug addicts with
clean needles. "This law is intrusive,"
said Jim Graham, executive director of
the Whitman-Walker Clinic. "It not only
tells D.C. how we can spend ourownlocal
tax dollars, but it tells charities like
Whitman-Walker how we can spend pri:
rate funds."
Congress, as part of the $520 billion
spendingpackage signedintolaw Wednesday,
banned use of local and federal funding
for any needle-exchange program in
the District of Columbia. That was on top
of a permanent ban on federal funding of
needle exchanges anywhere in the country.
The Whitman-Walker Clinic, one of
the nation’ s largest, has created a private,
nonprofit group to run theprogram, transferring
equipment, supplies and $50,000
in private funds to the new operation. The
Washington-based Drug Policy Fotmdation
gave the new group, Prevention
Works, an additional $25,000. "Sounds
like they’ ve. got some pretty sharp lawyers,"
said Rep. Todd Tiahrt, R-Kan.,
who sponsored the ban.
The clinic gets $7 million a year in
federal and local government dollars and
has operated a clean-needle exchange for
three years. It got $210,000 from the dis- -
trict last year for the effort and raised
$50,000 from private donors. Last month,
its van disU-ibuted 17,000 needles. Prevention
Works should have. enough resources
to keep the needle-exchange van
rnnning for four or fivemoremonths, said
Graham, who is running for City Council.
Needle exchanges are operatingin about
100 U.S. cities. Supporters say such programs
help prevent the spread ofAIDS by
allowing addicts to exchange contamimated
needles for dean ones. Opponents
contend the programs encourage drug
abuse.
Eleanor Holmes Norton, the distriCt’ s
delegate to Congress, called the provision
"callous... (and) ignorant, because the
entire scientific establishmenthas reached
the same conclusion: Needle exchange
markedly reduces AIDS infection and
deaths without spreading drug abuse." Its
racial implications are inescapable, she
said, because AIDS is hitting black and
Hispanic populations the hardest. Last
year, she said, the District’s AIDS rate
was nine times the national average.
Tiahrt and Sen. Jolm Ashcroft, R-Mo.,
the Senate sponsor of the ban, cite Canadian
studies they say demonstrate that
. clean needle programs have failed to reduce
the spread of HIV. "’Wherever the
needle exchange programs took place,
theybecame hubs for drug activity," Tiahrt
said. Addicts~ need "help ~o get off drugs,
not help to get new needles." A possible
White House contender, Ashcrofl likens
needle exchange programs to the idea
"that providing bulletproof vests to bark
robbers would make it safer for them to
rob banks."
The authors of the Canadian studies
have said congressional leaders misinterpreted
their report. Because the programs
served inner-tory neighborhoods, they
served users.already at the.greatest risk of
infection, they said, and the programs did
not provide enough syringes to be effecfive.
Investors Suing
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: wEsT PALM BEACH, Fla. (AP) - A
¯ group of mvestors has sued two compa-
¯¯ nies that buy and sell life insurance policies
ofterminallyill patients, saying medi-
¯ cal advances are keeping AIDS patients
¯ alive longer. ¯
¯ The two companies targeted in the lawsuits
broker what arb known as viatical
¯ settlements. A terminally ill person, usu-
¯ ally an AIDS patient, sells his life insur-
¯ ance policy for less than the death benefit
to get the cash. The person who buys the
¯ policy becomes the policy’s owner and
¯ beneficiary and collects the full benefit ¯
when the patient dies.
¯ The deals were invented in the 1980s as
¯ thenumberofAIDS cases exploded. They
¯ have been controversial since their incep- ¯
lion because, in .crass terms, they are an
: investment in someone else’ s death. But
: the deals are touted as making the best of
¯ a bad situation. They often help AIDS ¯
patients pay for treatment and live out
¯ their final days in relative comfort.
¯ However, the lawsuits filed recently in ¯
Palm Beach County Circuit Court con-
" tends the system is falling apart. Medical
¯ progress means AIDS patients whomight
_- have expected to live only for another
¯ year are living for three, four or five years.
¯ Thelonger a patient lives, the lower the
¯ return. If an investor buys a $110,.000
: policy for $100,000, and the patient dies
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If the patient lives two years, the annual
return falls to 5%, in uncompounded interest.
At three years, it’ s 3.3%.
So for the investor, the deals are no
longer viable, said Mitchell L. Perlstein, a
Boca Raton attorney who is representing
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HIV & Elder, Sex
TAMPA, Fla. (AP) - Sue Saunders is 65
and has AIDS. As far as she’ s concerned,
the more people who know it the better.
Saunders pioneered aproject in herhometown
of Fort Lauderdale to educate Flori~
ans over age 50 about therisk ofde¯eloplng
acquired immune deficiency syndrome.
Her first challenge was getting the
attention of an age group largely ignored
when it comes to AIDS education.
"Yes, there is sex after 50. After 60.
After 70. People think after 50 we die
from the neck down," Ms. Saunders said.
"People look at you like you’re crazy.
What?You mean, Grandma and Grandpa
are still having sex?"
Ten% of all AIDS cases in the country
are people over age 50, according to the
Florida Department of Elder Affairs. In
Florida, the figure is higher - ranging
between 12% and 14%. One in eight Floridians
living with AIDS is 50 or older,
state health officials said. Yetwhengroups
are addressed that are considered.at risk of
contracting the virus that causes AIDs,
older Americans are often left out.
Eighteen months ago, Ms. Saunders
began inviting herself to small South
Florida groups to discuss prevention, promote
education and warn seniors to abstain
from sex or use condoms. "You’ re
telling people 50 to 90 years old: ’You are
at risk for a fatal disease. Youjust went to
bed with aguy and y,oudon’ tknow where’ s
he’ s been.’"
Ms. Saunders was healthy and active.
She was divorced, in love and in a longlime
relationship. HerBahamianboyfriend
was the spark of her life. They spent lazy
days on the water, fishing. Life was good.
That was in 1990: Suddenly, her boyfriend
was diagnosed HIV positive. Nine
months later, he was dead. She feared the
same thing would happen to her and began
saying goodbye to her four grown
children.
A son took herto an HIV-infected doctor
in Laguna Beach, Calif. That visit
helped change her life. She dropped the
self-pity and went to the Broward County
Health Department but found little informarion.
After six months doing research,
she went to Bentley Lipscomb, elder affairs
secretary, who found $170,000 to
fund SHIP, the Senior. HIV Intervention
Project.
Ms. Saunders worked long and hard
getting into the crowded retirement condominiums
along Florida’ s Gold Coast to
give her message. In these building complexes,
women outnumber men seven-toone,
she said. "The women are starved for
affection. The men are having a ball. They"
can have all the women they want. "Ev~
erybody says ’it can’t happen to me. I’m
uot aprostitute. I don’ t fool around,’" she
said. "You’ie never too old. And all it
takes xs one partner - if he or she is
infected.’"
Older people are rarely targeted for
prevention. The health care system, including
doctors, often is reluctant or uneasy
about discussing AIDS and sex with
them, said Dave Bruns, elder affairs
spokesman. "Not only is it an insult, it’ s
rampant ageism," Bruns said. "Just who
do they think is buying all this Viagra?"
There are 67,282 cases of AIDS cases
statewide and 8,400 of those infected are
age 50 or older, according to the Florida
Department of Health.
When Ms. Saunders left the SHIP program
recently, the demand for lectures
was enormous. "Everybody wanted us to
come talk to them," she said. They were
scheduling 20to30 presentations amonth.
The project was so successful, a second
program was launched in the Tampa Bay
area under Edith Ellerson in June. She
encountered similar apprehension as she
started talking at senior centers, assistedliving
residences, senior nutritional programs.
Gradually, the audiences became more
receptive and willing to listen. She brings
condoms, urges listeners to be tested and
find out firstabout themselves, then question
their partners. "You’ re not only sleeping
with your partner, but with whomever
your partner slept with for the past five
years, and whoever they slept with - like
a pyramid or domino effect," she said.
Hemophiliacs to
Get Compensation
WASHINGTON (AP) - Last-minute lobbying
led to deceptively easy approval of
a plan to allow the government to compensate
hemophiliacs infected with HIV
during the early days of the AIDS epidemic.
The bill, passed by the Senate on a
voice vote, authorizes payments of
$100,000 apiece to compensate hemophiliacs
or their survivors for the
government’s failure to aggressively
screen tainted blood products.
The measure, which President Clinton
is expected to sign, does not put the checks
in the mail, though, because it does not
allocate any money. However, with the
authorization in hand, the bill’s backers
can lobby Congress to appropriate the
estimated $750 million it would cost.
The bill, named after Ricky Ray, a 15-
year-old hemophiliac from Florida who
died from AIDS in 1992, became controversial
late in the legislativeprocess, when
others who contracted the .disease from
tainted bloodtransfusions argued thatthey
deserved to be included.
Sen. James Jeffords, R-Vt., took up the
cause of the transfusion victims, and at
one point blocked consideration of the
Ricky Ray bill in an effort to force action
on a more encompassing authorization.
Sen. Mike DeWine, R-Ohio, said he
spent the weekend on the phone pressing
Senate leaders to move the bill to the floor
and dealing with the last-minute objections
of other senators.
Jeffords’ spokesmanJoe Karpinski said
he never planned to hold up the legislation
altogether, and dropped his objections to
the House bill after it became clear thathe
could not develop consensus to include
the.transfusion victims, potentially dou-
\
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b.ling the cost. Hemophiliac,~ m~d tra:>/;usxon
recipients were infected wifl~.~~,--,.,.,~.,..~.
¯
donated by people who carried th6 AIDS
¯ virus.
The Institute of Medicine, a scientific
¯ organizationthatadvises the government,
¯
later concluded that government caution.
¯ fear of criticism and inadequate leadership
delayed effective screening of donors
and proper blood testing.
¯
Hemophiliacs already have won
: $100,000 each from the blood industry
¯ through the settlement of a class action
lawsuit. Transfusion court victories have
¯
been more sporadic.
¯ Karpinski said Jeffords will try again
¯ next year toinclude transfusion victims, a ¯
move DeWine backs. "We should work to
¯ see that justice is done for this group of
¯ victims as well," said DeWine. "Wemade
¯ the decision that it was better to deal with
part of the problem than none of the prob-
" lem." "I think the precedent of this bill
¯ willmakeit easier to address the concerns ¯
ofthosewhohaveAIDS because oftrans-
¯ fusions."
School NamedAfter
Boy with AIDS
WESTMINSTER,Colo. (AP)-Ten years
¯¯ ago, a little boy from Broomfield began
first grade while 30 children stayed home
¯
in protest. Threatening statements and
¯ letters from parents demanded a separate
: bathroom and eating area for Ryan
¯ Sheridan, who was infected with HIV. He
¯ died ofcomplications fromAIDS in 1993.
Public perception of the disease has
¯ changed since 1988, but misunderstand-
, ings still exist. Reminding students, teach-
¯ - ers and admimstrators ol~the hard lessons
¯ learned about Ryan is a school named
¯ after him: Ryan Elementary School in
¯
Westminster. His picture, a plaque and a
¯ red ribbon hangin thelobby of the school.
"It’s tough to remember. People were
¯ backed in a corner and forced to deal with
¯
something they didn’ t want to deal with,"
¯ said Tim Sheridan, recalling the events
¯ leading up to his son’s first day in first ¯
grade. When the Shefidans, now divorced
¯
and bothlivingin ~Ihornton, told adminis-
: trators Ryan was infected, the Jefferson
¯ County school boarddecided to inform all
parents by letter that a student with HIV
¯
would attendJuchem Elementary School.
¯. Juchem closed in 1994 after being replaced
by a new school named Ryan Elementary.
¯ The letter caused a firestorm of controversy
that forced the school board to have
¯ a number of secret meetings with Ryan’ s
¯
teacher and publicmeetings to discuss the
¯
issue. Throughout, Ryanremained anony-
¯ mous to everyone but his teacher, the
principal and the school board.
¯
Ryan contracted HIV when he was 2
¯ years old from a blood transfusion during
¯ 9Pen-heart surgery. Teachers and admin-
¯ lstrators say Ryan taught everyone at the
¯
school difficult lessons about tolerance
; and courage, but AIDS educators say the
public still has a long way to go in understanding
the disease. "in my opinion, we
¯ haven’t gone all that far in 10 years. Our
¯ homophobia is what gets in the way of
¯ hearing about HIV," said Katy Fleming,
education director at the Boulder County
; AIDS Project. "Studies have shown that
¯ manytimes peoples’ attitudes towardchildren
(with AIDS) have been negative
¯
because of issues of sexual orientation "
¯ Although HIV and AIDS education is
¯ better today, moral issues still need to be
¯ separated from medical issues, Fleming
¯ said.
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wondering how I’d work her
in, huh?). A comedy about a
family of hereditary witches -
that actually gets the gist of
Wicca correct for a change,
even if adding a few "eyes of
newt and a liberal dose of
frogs" - and romance, the favorite
line will be the one
where one of the townsfolk
says of one of the witches
"Goodnews - she’ s come out!"
And, tomy delight, Stevie~ s
reworked "Crystal" is a major
theme in the film in the score
as well as sung. The advice
given in the film to those considering
or afraid of relationships
is well worth the price of
admission. Stockard Channing
and Diane Weist are absolute magic as the
Annties who pass on the family traditions
with liberal doses of love and laughter.
One of the lovely things about the film
is .that it deals with being perceived as
different, inhuman, "other" in the ’~mainstream"
world, and being a magical film,
how the wOmen of this family transcend
that difficulty. It very much has a Gay
sensibility to it and thus would be enjoyed
by those in our community especially, for
"I’m Beautiful,
Dammlt"
[Bette Midler’s
new recording]
is a standout
track that
should he a hit
in the dance
clubs, being an
anthem to
being-different
and eelebratln~
that dlfferenee
in .spite of the
flak it brin~s.
this season. It is Bette at her
best, full of everything from
tearful ballads ("One True
Friend") to bawdy blues (my
personal favorite, and new
theme song, "One Monkey
Don’t Stop No Show"), to
comedic with a message (another
theme song, a hiphoppin’
’Tm Beautiful,
Dammit!").
It marks a return to the
eclecticism that was one of
Bette’ s most delightful qualities,
whereyoumightdiscover
songs you’ d never find otherwiseifyouhadn’
t been liste~ning
to her albums. ’Tm Beautiful,
Dammit" is a standout
track that shouldbe a hit in the
dance clubs, being an anthem
to being differentand celebrat-
¯ ing that difference in spite of the flak it
¯ brings.
¯ Know someone that Loves Bette
¯ Midler? Perfect gift. Know someone that
has never heard of Bette? Perfect intro-
¯¯ duction.
James Christjohn, actor, writer, poet
¯ and Mac-guru extraordinaire provides
¯ TFN with entertainment news, commen-
~ tary and can be counted on for regular
¯ Stevie Nicks updates.
Gal-A-Vanting, Tulsa’ s new
tivities network specializing
in Ms-adventures for women,
kicked off its program with a
WomenIn the Arts nightat the
Pride Center on October 23.
While attendance was somewhat
thin, with approximately
20 women in the audience,
Gal-A-Vanting founders Joan
and Mary were still quite
happy with the event.
"Wedidn’ t takeinto account
Oktoberfest," Mary explains,
"And we are still developing
our mailing list and contacts.
The artists were really outstanding,
each with a style and
media that was quite unique~
We’re hoping to do a week
long show in the spring so that
the art exhibits can be stationary
and serve as an anchor for
performing arts such as readings,
music and so forth. And
this will give people a better
chance to see the works of
these fine women artists, and
support them by purchasing
their worl~ You don’ t have to
go to Eureka Springs or to Ptown
to find exceptional artwork
for your home."
social ac-
The
long-awalted
dance will be
held at the
Pride Center
on Saturday
November 14
from eight
p.m. tll ??? and
will be D.J.’d
by
Sue Knause,
who promises
to play a wide
array of tunes
for the
danelng
pleasure of
Tulsa’s
" play a wide array of tunes for the dancing
pleasure of Tulsa’s women.
With the smaller lounges in
the Pride center, opportunities
for a quiet conversation are
also available. Light refreshments
will be available and
the entry fee is $3 for singles
and $5 for couples.
"We’ ve had a lot of interest
in this dance, because somany
women like to dance but for
whatever reason don’ t care to
be arbund smoking or drinking.
It will also provide a nice
venue for women to meet new
friends and make new contacts."
says Mary.
The December Gal-AVanting
event will be a movie
night on December 16 at the
Pride Center, beginning at6:30
p.m. A feature film and a
couple of documentaries will
be shown.
We’re getting ready to prepare
our schedule of events
for the first of the year and
we’ d really like some ideas
from the women in the Tulsa
area of what they’d like to
do," explains Mary. "Please
feel free to call me with your
The long-awaited dance will be held at : wish list of activities at 743-6740. And if
the pride center on Saturday November . you’re not on our mailing/call list, please
14 from eight p.m. til ??? and will be : let us know, This information is strictly
D.J.’ d by Sue Knause, who promises to ¯ confidential and will not be shared."
Humperdinck’s
nse
rete
Parade of Lights.
Come celebrate the spirit of the holiday season
at the PSO Christmas Parade of Lights.
Saturday, December 12. Downtown Tulsa at 6 p.m.
View parade floats up close, Friday, December 11,
at the HolidayFest.(Brady Arts DistriCt) from 6-9 p.m.
Public Service Company of Oklahoma
A Central and South West Company
World AIDS Day 1998
Candlelight March & Memorial Service
sponsored by
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
Tuesday, December 1st
6:30, Gather at
Centenary United Methodist Church Parking Lot
631 North Denver
7:00", March Begins to Saint Jerome
7:30*, Memorial Service at the
Parish Church of Saint Jerome. 205 West King
Reception following seine.ice. *time approximate
Bring banners & bells~ candles & matches provided
st. Jerome will be accessible to the
disabled at the east entrance.
Into: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437
THE NOON NEWS NEVER
LOOKED SO TASTY.
The big news is Warren Duck Club’s new lunch menu. And the Horseradish Orange
Crusted Halibut with Apricot Basil Sauce is just one of the tastiest stories. From familiar
favorites, to late-breaking dishes hot from Chef Dan Broyles’ creative kitchen,
this is news to truly savor. Call 495-1000 for the whole story and for reservations.
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~ SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pro, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800
Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation
Service - 1 lam, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595
Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist
Service - 1 lam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314
Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church
Service - 1 lam, Childrens Ministry also, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc.
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210e So. Norwood
Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa
Service, 10:45am. 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America)
Mass - 1 lam, 205 W. King (east of No. Denver), Info: 582-3088
University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance
6:30 pm, Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780
Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals at 5pm, Info: 743-4297
~" MONDAYS
nIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard)
HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
7:30pm, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians.& Gays
2nd Monicach too. 6:30pro, Fellovcship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard
Mixed Volleyball, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 7pro, call Shawn 491-2036.
Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551
~ TUESDAYS
AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, 11 i 10, noon, United Way Bldg. 1430 S. Boulder
H!V+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium l:30pm
3507 E. Admiral (east of Harvard), lnf6: Wanda @ 834-4194
Multicultural AIDS Coalition, 11/3, 12:30pm, Urban League, 240 East Apache
Rainbow Business Guild, Business & prof. networking group, Info: 743-4297
PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE)
Tuesdays, 6 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297
!~ WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Family Of Faith MCC Praise/Prayer - 6:30pm, 5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441
¯House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pm, 3210e So. Norwood
Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225
TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632.
Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft.
~ THURSDAYS
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’ s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194
I~" FRIDAYS
SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, 1st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th
~" SATURDAYS
Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pro, Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2rid ft.
~OTHER GROUPS
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222
Womens Supper Club, Call for info: 584-2978
OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Info: POB 9165, Tulsa 74157,
Short rides, 6:30pro, Long rides, 7am: Meet at Z~igler Park,.3903 West 4th. Pride
Rides from the Pride Center, 3749 S. Peorial Write for dates.
Ifyour organization is not listed~ please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615.
Barry Hensley
~sa City-CountyLibrary
~lany Gay and Lesbian families have
rallies finding materials for children
h depict their family sire-
... In the past few years,
., has been a slow change
te publishing world and
re beginning to see a few
~ for children, early school
and .under, which depict
and Lesbian families.
ae trailblazer ~as Heather
Two Mommies, by Leslea
man, which stimulated
di "~
8t~’~
the
in
we
tifl
ag~
Ne
dis~ usslons across the country
and ’opened a new line of attad
~.on theGay community by
the Religious Right. A simple,
short book, it depicts a young
girl and her family: two pets
and two mommies. Heather
suddenly realizes that she
doesn’t have a daddy and becomes
upset. She is gently
shown other children who, for
a variety ofreasons, don’thave
fathers. Heather realizes that
there are many different family
situations and that she is
lucky to have two mothers.,
A companion book "i§
Daddy’s Roomate,by Michael
Wi!lhoite, depicting a boy
Willholte has a
third,
hilarious book,
Uncle What-ls-h
Is Comln~
To V;s;t.
It concerns a
youn~ brother
and sister who
.have just learned
that their Gay
uncle, whom they
have never met,
is eomln~ to visit.
They ask older
kids what it
means to be
Gay and are
horrified as the
stereotypes of
leather queens
and Carmen
Miranda look~alikes
spew forth.
Uncle What-Is-It Is Coming To Visit. It
¯ concerns a young brother and sister who
¯ have just learned that their Gay uncle,
¯ whom they have never met, ts coming to
visit. They ask older kids what
it means to be Gay and are
horrified as the stereotypes of
leather queens and Carmen
Miranda look-a-likes spew
forth. Their fears are shattered
when Uncle Brett shows up
and tunas out to be a normal,
everyday kind of guy.
Other appropriate books for
young children include The
Duke Who Outlawed Jelly
Beans, a satire on today’s polirical
scene. In it, the Duke
issues a proclamation: "I had
exactly one mother and one
father, and I turned out so well,
I thinkall children shouldhave
exactly one mother and one
father. Any that don’t- why,
we’ll throw ’em in the dungeon."
Fortunately, the Duke
learns the error of his ways.
For slightly older children,
ages 6-12, tryHow Would You
Feel If Your Dad Was Gay?
by A~n Heron and Meredith
Maran. Written by two Lesbian
mothers with help from
their sons,it depicts three chilwho’s
divorced father is in a long term,
canng Gaymlationship. AnotherWillhoite
rifle, not owned by the public library, is
Daddy’s Wedding, which continues the
saga of Daddy’s Roomate. Ask your librarian
to interlibrary loan Daddy’s Wedding
for you from another library system.
Willhoite .has a third, hilarious book,
"She has created an arch of hope that
future Gay and Lesbian candidates will be--
able to walk through." Baldwinis also the
firstwomanever elected to Congress from
Wisconsin.
Another openly Lesbian Democrat,
former Army colonel Grethe
Cammeremeyer, was defeated by incumbent
Republican Rep. Jack Metcalf in
Washington state. A third, Democrat
Chrisline Kehoe, was trailing in her bid to
upset California Republican Rep. Brian
Bilbray.
Gay Republican Rep. Jim Kolbe of
Arizona, bidding for an eighth term, held
a solid l(ad with more than three-quarters
of the votes counted in his race against
Democrat Tom Volgy.
In an Oklahoma rematch, Republican
Rep. Frank Lucas easily won. a fourth
term against Democrat Patti Barby, an
openly Gay OklahomaCity businessman.
Another openly Gay member of Congress,
Democratic Rep. Barney Frank of
Massachusetts, was unopposed for a 10th
term. Frank is an outspoken member of
the House Judiciary Committee, which
will consider impeachment charges
against President Bill Clinton.
In most cases, the Gay candidates and
their opponents kept sexual orientation
out of the campaigns. But 6ational Gay
civil rights organizations poured money
into the races, notably $1 million spent t~y
the Human Rights Camp~gn.
: drenwithGayparents.Ithasmulticultural
¯ characters andcompassionately shows the
¯ reality of different types of families.
¯¯ Don’t forget to check your local library
for information regarding Gay and Les-
¯ bianfamilies. Also youmay call the Read-
. ers Services department of the Central
¯ Library at 596-7966.
"People are taking a stand for traditional
mamage." Not surprisingly, Joseph
Mdillo, who with his partner and two
Lesbian couples sued the state when they
were denied marriage licenses in 1990,
felt differently. "It’ s putting into our state
constitutaon a discriminatory clause that
will distinguish us from other people," he
said.
Alaska’s constxtutional amendment
defines marriage as the union of one man
and one woman. The Legislature put the
question on the ballot after a Superior
Courtjudge ruled infavor oftwo Gay men
who challenged the state ban on same-sex
marriage. The judge said choosing a life
partner was a fundamental right and the
state had to prove a compelling reason to
regulate it.
In Fort Collins, a civil rights proposed
had become especially emotional since
the beating death of Matthew Shepard, a
Gay student from the University of Wyoming
who died in a Fort Collins hospital.
Ordinance 22 would have prohibited discrimination
in housing, employment and
public accommodations on the basis of
sexual orientation.
"National Gay civil rights advocacy
groups built this up as an important watershed
and I think it was," said Fort Collins
lawyer Jon-Mark Patterson, an opponent
of the ordinance. "I ~hink tonightitshowed
most people here don’t want the government
to take a side in a controversial
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by Mary Schepers, DIYD
Your.DIYD is fired and cranky, so let’s
snap to xt, get this fence up and get it over
with. After all, you’ve been waiting three
months to finish this project and it is
getting sooo tiresome. You’ve bought all
of your materials, put
up your posts and assembled
all your tools.
Your beverages have
been cooling and
you’ve got a pile of
pickets stacked in the
yard, and the neighbors,
the Nosey Parkers, are
still muchtoo interested
in your private life. So
put on that toolbelt
you’ve been breaking
in, and let’s work it.
The fence stringers
are the backbone of
your fence. If they are
on the inside of the
fence, you’ll want to
channel" your anal retentive
side and take
Your DIYD is
tired and cranky,
so let’s snap to it, get
this fence ~p and get
it over with.
After all, you’ve been
waitin~ three months
to finish this project
and it is getting sooo
tiresome... So put
on that toolbelt
y.ou’ve been breaking
m, and let’s work it!
particular pains to get everything level
and true. If your neighbors are getting that
side of the fence, one can be somewhat
more cavalier, though not messy, about
stringer placement.
For the perfect stringer array, you will
need enough string to stretch from one
end of the fence to the other, a spare body
for help, and a level. A chalk line won’t
hurt, either. There are small levels that
attach to your string and they are not
expensive; but if you’re tired of waiting,
we’ll make do with a regular level. Measurefrom
the groundup abouteightinches
and make a mark on the fence post on
either end. This will be where the bottom
edge of your bottom stringer will go.
Don’t worry, the tops (and the middies)
will get their chance momentarily. You
can no either stretch and attach a string
line from end to end, using a level to
ensure eveness, and mark the other posts,
or you can use a chalk line and snap the
mark across the posts. This saves time, if
you know how to use one. Attach your
bottom stringers withNo-Co-Rode screws.
drilling a pilot hole slightly smaller than
the diameter of the screw.
You will need help with this if you are
going for the perfect look. ff not, then you
can attach a 1x4 so that the top is even with
your bottom line. Do this on both posts
and use them to support your board while
you drive the two screws into each end of
the stringers. You can remove and reuse
the lx4’s as you go down the fence. The
stringers will meet in the middie of each
post, so if you’re over the length a bit,
measure carefully (twice!) and remove
whatever is necessary; if it isn’t long
enough, have you got trouble! The only
solution-is to b.uy a board two feet longer
and saw off the extra, and darling, that is
going to hurt.
Once your swingers are all attached,
you are ready to start putting up your
pickets, ff you are using Cedar pickets, the
wood is soft enough that drilling pilot
holes are not necessary, but they will be
for any other type of wood; otherwise, it
will split your pickets, and the possibility
of screw head cam-out is very much enhanced.
News Flash: your pickets will not
be even, square, or straight. Sorry, but this
would actually be desirablein wood. Keep
that level handy and use it when setting
each picket unless you want your fence to
develop a curious slant in a hurry.
Set up your first picket so that it is about
1/4 to 1/2" off the ground; put the square
in the middie of one side and move it
gently until the bubble is between the two
middie lines. Attach picket with the first
screw, in the middie.
This frees up your
hands,for attaching the
top and bottom screws.
Put two screws into the
picket at the top and
bottom stringer, about
3/4" from each outer
edge. Do the same for
the remaining pickets,
leveling each as best
you can.
As you approach the
end of your fence, you
will, unless most fortunate,
discover that the
last picket will not fit
perfectly, being either
too wide or too narrow.
Start paying attention
to this about a half
dozen pickets from the end. If you will not
be off by much, you can adjust the spacing
between the last few pickets so they come
out fine, otherwise, you’ll have to find a
way to np cnt an end picket, or to get
sneaky. You know what the DIYD prefers:
sneaky ways are deliciously evil and
always appeal, especially if they equate
with less work. On the DIYD’s last fence
project ( which is also the current fence
project...), a lx4" picket was used in the
last space, and the other pickets were
spaced ever so slightly wider apart without
being the least bit obvious. You’ll
have to play around with it, but if vou
haven’ t got access to a table saw to rip’cut
a picket, it is well worth it, and safer as
well. Rip cuts have a nasty reputation.
Now youare asking yourself what there
was about this project that took so long,
and the answer is the same as so many
others - prep work makes the difference
in any home project. It is well worth the
investment of your ume to measure, level
mad true up any part of your fence before
it becomes regrettably permanent. And it
looks so much more beautiful - mad darlings,
you are worth it!
There. Your DIYD is less cranky now
that you’ve built your privacy fence so
well. Rest up. We’ll have more fun next
month when we freShen up those fired old
kitchen cabinets with a bit of sanding,
some paint, and some more stylish pulls.
Matthew Shepard’s death was horrible
and senseless; it would be more so if
it was in vain."
Kelly Kirby, longtime civil rights activist
and Gay community leader spoke of
his family’s direct experiences with hate
crimes, including an assaultonhis spouse,
Ric, which resulted in over 100 stitches
being required. Kirby also claimed that
each year from 1991 to 1996, a Gay man
was murdered in Tulsa.
In New York City, participants of the
recent Fifth Avenue rally to remember
Shepard alleged that police beat them
with batons and ran into them with mopeds
and that police horses kicked them
because they had no permit for the event.
Police were dispatched to themarch when
about 4,000 people flocked to the event.
see Hate, p. 14
by Esther Rothblum
At a time when sexual orientation and
gender are being viewed as more continuous
categories, there is renewed interest
in the fluidity of who is a "woman" and
whois a"Lesbian." InmanyNativeAmerican
cultures, gender and sexuality have
not been as fixed as in western
cultures.
Recently, a number of
books have appeared on
"two-spirit¯ people," a term
coinedby Native Americans
for individuals in their cultttres
who are Gay or Lesbian,
or who are transgendered,
or who have multiple
gender identities. The term
"two-spirit" is an attempt by
Native American commttnities
to re-define their past
from the way in which it has
been depicted by white male
anthropologists,and also to
distinguishNativeAmerican
concepts ofgenderandsexuality
from those of the.western
Gay and Lesbian communities.
I recendy spoke with Sue-
Ellen Jacobs, one of the coeditors
of the book, Two-
SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican
GendertIdentity, Sexuality
and Spirituality. She
-said: ’¢Fhere are a number of instances
where there are Native women, living on
reservations, who don’t stand out, who.
don’t come forward. The Gay white men
who are out there studying Native American
men don’t see the women because
these.researchers don’ t recognize, these
Women as Who they are with~n their cul~
ture. Not many Native women use the
words ’Lesbian’ or ’dyke’ to describe
themselves. The researchers didn’t realize
that there was a movement going on
within the Native American communities,
the two-spirit movement."
Sue-Ellen Jacobs described instances
of"male-bodiedwomen"or "female-bodied
men" who took on the roles and became
known as being of the "other" genderin
NativeAmericancultures. AsJacobs
and the other editors state in the introduction
to their book: "Using the word ’two-
Spirit’ emphasizes the spiritual aspect of
one’ s life and downplays the homosexual
persona."
After experiencing several years of "discriminatory
treatment," and many efforts
to work out the differences with TCCLS,
Neal contacted Tulsa County Commissioner
John Selph to discuss what Neal
called"theseblatant violations ofthe First
Amendment" and his intention to file a
lawsuit to resolve the matter.
While Neal neverreceived any response
fromhis letter to Selph, shordy afterward,
TCCLS banned all free publications from
its lobbies- withthe exceptionofaLatino
publication, Imagen in the 3rd Street Library
which serves an increasingly Spanish-
spealdng neighborhood.
According to Neal; lmagen blatenfly
violated the 50% local content nile but
said he was told that TCCLS director,
Linda Saferite, approved that violation
because having the publication helped to
traditions
acknowledge that
the he-shes
and she-hes
. . . were amon~
the ~reatest
eontrlhutors to the
well-heln, and
advancement of
their eommunltles.
They were
(and we are)
the Sreatest probers
into the ways of the
future, and they
qulekly assimilated
the lessons of
ehan~in~ times
.... and people..."
." In the chapter "I am a Lakota womyn,"
¯ Beverly Little Thunder writes: "Most
¯
tribes that I have had the honor of know-
" ing have specificnames formenwholove
¯ men and women who love women... I
¯" can understand that theremay be a need
¯ by some to findapan-Native term that can
be used as a marker for the
general population of Native
Lesbians and Gays. We
are all so different in somany
ways, however. Culturally
and physically, we are all
different. Each tribe has its
own name, its own structure.
How canwe all even be
called ’Natives’?... The
words I would like to see
written about me and read
fifty years from now should
be words that reflect who I
am as an individual.’"
Came House, of Navajo!
Oneida descent, writes: "Our
oral traditions acknowledge
that the he-shes and she-hes
(those who hold in balance
the male and female, female
and male aspects of themselves
and theuniverse) were
among the greatest contributors
to the well-being and
advancement of their communities.
They were (andwe
are) the greatest probers into
¯ the ways of the future, and they quickly
¯ assimilated the lessons of changing times
and people. Recent studies into the lives
¯ of she-hes and she-hes have recovered
¯ models or near models of this rich, inven-
¯ tive, reverential, and highly productive
¯ approach t.o k.eg,ping balance within a s~-
¯ ciet~ viewed as an extension of nature."
Further reading, see: Sue-Ellen Jacobs,
¯
Wesley Thomas & Sabine l_xtng (’97).
¯ Two-SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican Gen-
: der Identity, Sexuality and Spirituality.
¯ Urbana, IL: Univ. of Blinois Press. Will
: Roscoe (’98). Changing Ones: Third and
¯ FourthGendersinNativeNorthArnerica.
¯- NY: St. Martin’s Press. Lester Brown
" (’98). Two-Spirit People. NY: Haworth
: Press.
: Esther Rothblum teaches Psychology
¯ at the Univ. of Vermont and edits the
: Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be
¯ reached at John Dewey. Hall,Univ. of
: Vermont," Burlington, VT, email:-
¯ esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
¯" serve a special needs population. Neal
¯ said his arguments about the Lesbian and
: Gay communities’ special needs were ig-
¯ nored.
¯
Neal adds, "I have no illusion that
¯ TCCLS made this change to accomodate
¯ Tulsa Family News. It’ s likely that given"
¯
the’society’ make-upoftheTCCLSboard,
¯ that the rifles were changed to keep Tulsa ¯
People happy rather than to be fair -
¯
however, I’m pleased with the result. I
: guess it means if you wait long enough
¯ andarepersistentenough, youwillacheive ¯
fairness."
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." Friends of Lesbians & Gays
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A Lesbian friend recently complained ¯ .ties. Women may not touch men’s bows
about the organizational shortcomings of " or arrows. Few women anywhere in
"Gay boys - They’re hopeless!" she ¯ Vanuatu drive vehicles. The night before
fumed. That same day, an- any important event, such as
other friend griped about A Lesblan a dance performance or socpacks
of Lesbians invading 17rlend recently cergame, menleavewomen
his favorite bar, poisoning
its atmosphere. Pleas for eomplalned about
behind in the village to sleep
by themselves. TheTaunese
Gay/Lesbian unity ("why the orffanlzatlonal practice the samesex taboos
can’t we all just get along")
shorteomln~s ot7
demanded by many Ameriare
perhaps as common as can football coaches: No sex
jokes that poke fun at this "Gay boys - before the big game! Every
continental divide in our They’re
. hopeless!" evening, men also go off by
commumty, themselves to prepare and
Public constemation about she ~ttumed. That drink kava (Piper
relations between women same day, another methysticum) - the traditional
South Pacific drug
differemntaennd -_good,evokedbad,memoi_nO-r t~rlend gaped substance that is becoming
ries ofmy years in Vanuatu. about pael~s o17 increasing popular in the
ThiSlocatedtropictahline archipelagOsouthwespta-iS Lesbians invadln~ U.S. as a natural relaxant.
Men assert that women can
cific-aculturalregioncalled h~.s 17avor~.te bar, strip away the potency of
Mdanesiathat also includes polsonln~ its kavamerely by touching the
the islands of New
atmosphere,
plant before it is prepared;
Caledonia, the Solomons, and drinkers bitterly blame
and New Guinea. RitualiZed hostility be- ¯ women, talking too loud back in the viltween
men and women is a cultural curi- " lage, for spoiling their kava high.
osity of much of Melanesia. Anthropolo- " Women endanger men notjust because
gists who first analyzed the phenomenon ¯ of their polluting vaginal fluids. Men are
labeled it "sexual antagonism," though " also threatened by naturally female crenowadays
we’d more likely call it"cross- " ative powers. Women are mothers. The
gender opposition" or the like. ¯ children they bear sustain the cycle of
Full-fledged sexual antagonism exists " human life and death. Women’s vaginas
notably in the highland valleys of New " are powerfully dangerous openings back
Guinea. My village neighbors on an is- " into the spiritual world inhabited both by
land called Tanna, on the eastern edge of ¯ the ancestors and the unborn. Men per-
~ Mdanesia, practice only an attenuated " haps fear the vagina as muelx for its lifeversionofgenderopposition.
Still,likeall ". giving as for its deadly powers. It’s a
Melanesians, they have’great ~ear and ¯ psychological commonplace that men are
suspicion of the body fluids of the oppo- ¯ jealous of natural female creativity. This
site sex. Men believe that contact with drives us, so the story goes, to various
menstrual blood and other vaginal fluids " sorts of "cultural creativity" - art, literacan
make them seriously ill. An anthro- ¯ ture, politics, business - as a sort of corn-
" pologistlonceknew, who worked among pensation for our inability to bear chil-
- the Enga of Papua New Guinea, attracted dren. .
much attention with his magnificent and ¯ Throughout much of Melanesia, along
luxuriant red beard, much admired by all. ¯ theselines,meniusistthatalthoughwomen
When people asked for hair-growing ad- ¯ give birth, only men can make boys into
vice, he liked to disgust and appall them men. On Tanna, fathers arrange male iniby
claiming that the secret was to rub ° tiation ceremonies for their sons. They
menstrual blood on his face. : circumcise these boys who then spend six
In many Melanesian cultures, women ¯ Weeks in the bush, isolated from all conretii’etomenstrualhutslocatedinthebush
" tactwithwomen.ElsewhereinMelanesia~
(outside the Village) during their periods. ¯ people believe that precious semen itself
One can imagine that many women look ¯ transforms boys into men. Male initiaforward
eagerly to these monthly vaca- ¯ dons include practices of ritual fellatio -
dons from thedailydrudgeryofcooking, ." young .boys masculinize themselves by
childcare, and farming. Nomenstrual huts : consnm|ug the semen of older, already
exist on Tanna, though men and women ¯ initiated youths. (Gil Herdt describes one
here rarely share the same sleeping mat. " such societyin his book The Sambia:
And a menstruating woman stops prepar- ° Ritual and Gender in New Guinea.)
ing her husband’s dinners. Men, particu- : So, next time those Lesbians (or, alterlarlythosewithrockymarriages,
aresome- ¯ natively, those Gay boys) invade your
times suspicious that angry wives may be " favoriteclub, whatis that sudden chill you
poisoning themby dripping bloodinto the ¯ feel -- is this the "death threat of sexual
cooking pots. : pollution," or a contentiousjealousy over
And if vaginal fluids don’t kill you, sex ¯ human creativity?
itselfmay. Melanesians also shareabelief " Lament Lindstrom teaches anthropol-
- one that reaches back into Asia - that ¯ ogy at the University of Tulsa.
men are born with a finite amount of ¯
semen. Worse, the faster one uses up his " NOW NOV, Meeting lifetime supply of semen, the faster he
ages and dies. Have too many girlfdends : at Pride Center
or too .much masturbatory fun, and you
die young! Fathers warn their sons about " The Tulsa Chapter of the National Orthe
deadly dangers of sex. Dry, flaky skin " ganization for Women will feature Lucy
Tamayo of DVIS, Domestic Violence
~s an early sign of semen depletion, and . Intervention Services, speaking about
those teenagers withunforttmate skinprob- ¯ methods of empowering women at its
lems get teased mercilessly for messing ¯ Nov. meeting, 12:30 pm at The Pride
around. ¯ Center, 1307 E. 38th St. 2rid floor. NOW
Men (and women, too) believe that ¯¯ will .also hold elections for its executive .
female substances may pollute, or other- : board at the meeting. Info: 365-5658.
MY KITTY
but also his leadership on Tulsa’ s Say No
to Hate Coalition. Nor have any other
officials ofOklahoma’ s establishment spoken
out. Our governor says our "hate
crimes" law doesn’t need to address violence
agai.’nst Gay people, though note
that he hasn’t suggested removing it for
Oklahoma Jews or Blacks 7,,.or Catholics
like him.
None of our congressional delegation
has exemplified the compassion which if
they were the Christians they claim to be,
they might show. For example, a few
months ago, I askedPam Pryor, JC Watts,
Jr.’ s press secretaryhow many Gaypeople
needed to die before JC would speak out
against, anti-Gay violence? Obviously,
Shepardi~not enough. Maybeifone ofus
were crucified on the South Oval of the
OU campus, Watts (and that other disappointing
Oklahoma politician, David
Boren) might take the issue seriously.
Butat least withWatts, I still believehis
spokesperson’s claims of some decency
in the man to bother to ask. With The Evil
Steve and his good buddy and roommate,
Tom Cobum, there’s no point in wasting
my breath.
However, given the desire of Matthew
Shepard’s family and friends that some
bit of good come out of the horror of his
tormentand death,let us resolveto change
our state to reduce the chance that this will
happen here.
Passing an amendment to our hate
crimes (Oklahoma statutes, 21:850, Malicious
intimidation...) has got to be the top
priority for Lesbian and Gay Oklahoroans,
our families and friends. Find out
who your representatives are and talk to
them now.
Furthermore, we must demand that all
those groups that claim to be working for
justice andfairness, must end their convenient
silences. For example, if the Methodist
Bishop of Oklahoma can work so
hard to ban same-gender marriage ceremonies,
surely he can finally open his
mouth to say something against anti-Gay
violence. But he must be joined by OklahomaPresbyterians,
theOklahomaCouncil
of Churches, Tulsa Metropolitan Ministries,
our Catholic bishops and all others
who claim to value human life. Imagine,
maybe even human rights groups like the
National Conference for Community and
Justice, and others, like the Jewish Fed:
eration and African-American organizations
will standup to say that Gay Oklahomans
have a right to live too. Imagine.
8LAH BLAH
: police arrived, organizers said scores of
¯ arrestsbegan.Mostoftheorganizers were
taken away first, leaving the marchers
: adrift, participants said.
¯ And at the University of Wyoming, a
¯¯ visiting professorwhois teaching acourse on hate crime received a first hand view.
¯ "I reacted with shock-and disbelief," said
¯ Graham Baxendale, a Ph.D. student at ¯
England’ s Reading University. "I certMnly
¯ was not prepared for such an event here.
¯ One can read many textbooks and the
: academic literature, but until you are ac-
¯
tually confronted by something like this
¯ within your own community, you recog-
¯ nize that you really don~t understand this
¯
Baxendale said hate Crimes rarely end
Only 500 people were expected. Once
¯ in murder and usuallyinvolve low-level
¯ violence or intimidation. The victims of
¯ such crimes typically are selected at ran-
" dom because they represent a particular
¯ group. "Gay males are one of the largest
¯ victim catego.rie,s. for thrill hate crimes,
but ethnic rmnonty groups such as His-
" panics, Blacks, and Jews also are tar-
" geted," he said. The perpetrators of such
¯ crimes againstGays,Baxendale said, typi- ¯
cally are young male adults or youths who
¯ are experiencing the emotions that come
¯ with emerging sexuality. To demonstrate
: to theirpe~rs that they are wholly hetero-
¯
sexual, these people may express vie-
¯ lance and hatred toward Gays.
.. Hate crime victims,’he said, usually are
¯ chosen because they are available, not
¯ because of any individual characteristics
¯ or actions, and because of what they rep-
¯ resent to the perpetrators. Hatred towards ¯
the victim’s group is often manifested in
¯ exceptignal violence. "The perpetrators
: often despise and de-humanize their vic-
¯ rims, so such crimes typically are more ¯
violent than corresponding crimes that
¯ are not hate-inspired," he said. "Displayr
¯ ing the victim (Shepard) by tying him to a
fence is amanifestation ofsuch dehuman-
¯
ization."
¯ Baxendale, who has studied violence
¯ perpetrated by groups, such as the Irish
Republican Army, said it is important that
: the university, Laramie and Wyoming
¯ communities continue to be vocal in their
¯ condemnation of the crime and to show ¯
that the community fosters diversity and
¯
understanding, rather than intimidation
¯ and discrimination.
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Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities - Our Families of the Heart February 15 - March 14, 1996, Volume 3, Issue 3
National News
Clinton Slams HIV+
Military Discharges
WASHINGTON - The Clinton administration
has announced that it believes the
HIV discharge provision in the $265 billion
Defense Department’s 1996 authorization
defense authorzafion bill is unconstitutional
and has ordered the Justice
Department not to defend the provision.
That provision, written by arch-conservalave
Rep. Bob Dornan, R-Calif., would
discharge within sxx months, regardless
see Clinton, page 3
Anti-Marriage Bills
ExplodeAround US
PIERRE, S.D.- Sparked by the likelihood
that state courts in Hawaii will soon declare
same-sex mamage legal there, a
rapidly growing number of state legislatures
throughout the country have started
arush to outlaw gay and lesbian marriages
from being recognized locally, even if
they should be legal elsewhere in the U.S.
Legislatures in at least 18 states: AL, AK,
CA, CO, GA, HI, ID, IL, IA, MO, N19I; RI,
SC, SD, TN, VA, WA, WI - had various
versions of"gay miscegenation" proposals
before thein at press tame.
In Virginia, where same-sex marriages
are already forbidden by state law, under
pressure from Radical Right Gov. George
F. Allen, the Virginia Housing DevelopmentAuthority
has reversed a 1994 policy
and now effectively prohibits mmaamed
or gay and lesbian couples from getting
see Marriage, page 3
Gay Morn Appeals
Custody DecisiOn
PENSACOLA, Fla. - Mary Ward has
appealed an August ruling that ordered
her 11-year-old daughter be given over to
the custody of the child’s father, who was
convicted of killing his first wife.The decision
last year by state Circuit Court
Judge JosephTarbuck stunnedmany when
he ruled in favor of John Ward, the girl’s
father, who served 9 years in prison for
killing his first wife during an argument
over custody of their daughter. In deciding
against Mary Ward, Tarbuck ruled
see Morn, page 3
Tennessee Sodomy
Law Thrown Out
KNOXVILLE, Tenn. ~ The Tennessee
Court of Appeals has ruled unanimously
that the state’s anti-gay sodomy statute is
unconstitutional. In overturning the state
law the court ruled that the right to privacy
includes "the fight of the plaintiffs to
engage in consensual, private, non-commercial
sexual conduct" that were none of
the state’s business because they involve
"intimate questions of personal and family
concern." State officials gave no immediate
indication of whether they would
appeal the ruling to the state supreme
court or not, but most rights advocates
expect an appeal.
FUSO: Friends in Unity
Social Organization
Tulsa’s organization forAfrican-American
Gay men ~s expanding its efforts to
meet both social and health needs of their
immediate community, and the larger one.
Over the past year they’ve established a
RAIN team, which has its first client, and
which may be the only all African-Amencan
team in Oklahoma. Its leadership also
is working on the non-profit’s tax-exempt
status with the Internal Revenue Service
so that they can actively seek grant funding
to provide HIV education and care.
Ultimately they would like to provide
case management, peer education, information
and referra! services, HIV testing
and counseling, health and nutrition, and
substance abuse counseling and a food
bank in North Tulsa.
Over this last year, FUSO has donated
canned goods to Our House, made a gift to
the victims of theOKCbombing They v e
helped to represent Tulsa African-A~eri ¯
cans by sending representatives to Hoist
ing the Bamwr. the state HIV AIDS con.
ference in OKC addressing issnes of
people of color and also participated in the
statewide HIV/AIDS conference held last
summer at the Doubletree Hotel, Warren
Place. Its members marched in the "95
Tulsa AIDS Walk and the World AIDS
Day March held at University of Tulsa.
Derrick Davis, who is one of FUSO’s
officers, has been nominated to be cochair
of the Multi-Cultttral AIDS Coalition.
FUSO also is participating in the
planning of the Women and AIDS conference
that will be tleld in April.
Last Labor Day, FUSO held a successful
Labor Day Weekend event with guests
see FUSO, page 10
Vicious Pink, In the Red?
OKC-owned Store Closes
Vicious Pink, a Gay-oriented gift store
owned by Anthony Klatt of Oklahoma
City has closed after barely 6 months. The
store located in Concessions at 3340 So.
Peoria opened with ambitious plans and
claims of being the largest such establishment
in the state.
Kirk Glines, one of the owners of Concessions,
indicated that he and his partner
Terry Kerns will reopen the shop themselves,
possibly by March 1st. Klatt also
opened a shop, Dusty Roads, in the Silver
Star Saloon. Star owner, John Rothrock
could not say whether Dusty Roads was
still in business, noting that it was closed
without explanation for a week recently
and had not been dependably open.
Tulsa Man Seeks
Relief From Threats
A 31-year 01d Tulsa man’s been driven
from one home, has had to send his children
away for their safety, has had other
members of his family threatened and
may have to flee his new apartment, all
because he’s living with AIDS. Roscoe
Pilant, who goes by the nickname, JR,just
wants to be left alone to hve, and to work
when he can. However, despite having
swastikas and death threats marked on his
door and threats to murder him left on his
answering machine, Tulsa Police initially
were hardly cooperative. And as a result
of his complaint, investigation by legalaid
attorneys have discovered that the
Oklahoma S tate Bureau of Investigations
might have been violating the OK hate
crimes statute by not keeping statistics on
hate crimes directed toward any disabled
persons, including those living with AIDS.
Pilant says his troubles began when he
had to take a HIV related medical absence
from work. After he returned, he feels that
his employer, a national finn, fired him
becauseof his HIV status. After the finn
was contacted by Oklahoma Legal Aid
attorney Darlene Shadid andwas informed
that discrimination based on HIV’AIDS
status is illegal under federal law, the
Americans With Disabilities Act (ADA),
he returned to work. And then the harassment
began.
see Threats, page 2
Lesbian & Gay
Domestic Violence
Two police officers from Tulsa area
police departments spoke to the members
and guests of Tulsa Oklahomans for Hnman
Rights (TOHR) about do~nestic violence
issues, both within and out the LesbianGay
con~nunities. Both officers who
are 10 year plus veterans work pmnanly
on domestic violence (hereafter abbreviated
as DV). Each gave profoundly sobering
statistics on the extent of DV. For
example, they noted that 50% of US
women ~vi!l be DV violence victims, that
wom_en are at a 9 times higher risk of
injury in their homes than they are on the
street, and that every 15 seconds a women
is beaten in her own home. The officers
outlined some of the social psycholoNcal
dynamics of DV noting the stages of the
syndrome and gave details of legal opti’ons
and other resources to help victims
and to identify abusers.
The officers who had dealt with Lesbian/
Gay DV issues bemoaned the lack of
research in this area but noted that the
causes are similar to those of DV for
heterosexuals. They suggested that 30%
of Lesbian/Gay relationships have some
DV problems but they suspected that these
cases tended to be underreported because
the criminal justice system rmnains
homophobic. They also stated that Lesbian
relationships appear to be more physically
violent than those of Gay or Bi men.
Also, Gay men may not report DV when
it happens because the general perception
is that DV ouly happens to women and
often the agencies that deal with DV are
not well equipped to help men.
Saks 5th Avenue to
Show AIDS Quilt
DKNY Fashion Fundraiser-2/29
Tulsa’s Saks Fifth Avenue will display
10 sections of The NAMES PROJECT
AIDS Memorial Quilt on February 21 to
March 1st. Saks Fifth Avenue is the first
corporation to spensor a multi-site display
with 45 Saks Fifth Avenue stores and
60ff5th’s outlet centers showing memorial
panels that are geographically specific
to the store’s site.
Later this year, the panels displayed in
Tulsa will join the nearly 32,000 panels
now in the Quilt. The Columbus Day
weekend (Oct. 12-13) display on the Capitol
Mall in Washington, DC will be the
first time in four years that the Quilt has
b~en seen in its entirety as it has grown so
large. All fifty US states are represented
as well as 39 other countries. Panels made
by Saks Fifth Avenue associates from
across the US will be exhibited in New
YorkCity in August before going to Washington.
On February 29~ Saks Fifth Avenue,
Tulsa will present a DKNY Fashion extravaganza,
Give My Regards to Donna,
to benefit the Hope Candlelight Tonr. A
silent auction and fashion show, featuring
local celebrities, will unveil DKNY’s
spring collection and be Tulsa’ s exclusive
launch of DKNYfor Men. A few models
are Debbie Campbell, I.J. Gannam,
Aleksandr Lunev, Beth Reng,’d, Kevin
Steincross, Mike Jones and Sonya Colberg
Nanc3 Renberg, Charles & Francie
Faudree. Hope Candlelight Tour benefits
St. Joseph Residence and RAIN, the Regional
.-kIDS Interfaith Network
INSIDE-] EDITORIAL P. 2
DIRECTORY P. 2
NEWS BRIEFS P. 4
HEALTH BRIEFS P. 6
CALENDAR P. 9
EUREKA PAGE P. 11
Music for Life John McCarthy and Beverly Stanley,
chairing the Walk for Ltfe committee,
have zumounced that a "Blues" Festival
will kick off tiff s 3’ear’ s series of events for
the fourth annual Walk for Life Campaign.
Mark Snider, renowned Tulsa musician,
has organized an outstanding
evening of the "Blues" featuring local
musicians. The event will be held at the
Sunset Grill, 3410 South Peoria on Tuesday,
March 12. The admission donation
of $5 will include two raffle tickets for
items donated by the Blue Rose Cafe, the
Doubletree at Warren Place, and the Celebrity
Club, to nmne a few. K-MOD
Radio and Budweiser will join the Sunset
Grill as hosts and Paine Webber and Roche
Laboratories are patron sponsors.
This event is the first of several plam~ed
to raise funds for Tulsa area HIV/AIDS
support agencies. Other events include an
art show in June and ajazz festival in July,
and the 4th Walkfor Life to be at Riverside
Park on October 12. Proceeds from the
1995 Walk went to 12 Tulsa community
HIV/AIDS related non-profit age~l~ies.
918.583. 1248
P(~. 4140
Tulsa, Oklahoma
74159-0140
TulsaNews@aol.com
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Using Gays as the scapegoat for the demise of the
family is; reprehensible nonsense.. Unfortunately,,
in order, to get in good with.Pat Robertson’ s Christian
Coalition, Republican presidential candidates
are all too willing.to go along with the lie that Gay
people are somehow, a.threat.to.thefamilv.
Wqaoles~le divorce among heterosexuals doe;
the real damage. With a 50% divorce rate. adultery,
abused women, financial conditions that require
both parents to leave children home alone, abandoned
and abused children and so forth, it doesn"t
take much effort to see that heterosexuals have
succeeded quite well in crippling the family without
any he!p:from Gays and Lesbians.
-~- J.J. Stogsdill, Broken Arrow
I recently had the distinct pleasure Of being one
of the stops along District 6 City Councilor. Art
Justiss" campaign tour. I felt like I shouldn’t be the
ordy one who has the advantage of "knowing how
Mr. Justiss feels about Gay rights in Tulsa before I
cast nay vote in the up-coming elections for City
Council.
My partner and I asked Mr. Justiss about the
status of the Human Rights Depar.~nent (Committee
on Sexual Orientation Discrimination) Proposal
to the City of Tulsa. Mr. Justiss said that he
would never put such a thing on the City Council
agenda and he felt :quite confident that no other
councillor would either. When questioned about
why he was too afraid to even consider a proposal
from one of the city’s own commissxons. Mr.
Justiss admitted that he didn’t want to "’take the
heat.’" He told us that to put something like the
current proposal on the agenda would be political
suicide. Of course, he added that he wouldn’t
discriminate on the basis of "’race, color or sexual
preference," but he felt protections for Gays against
discrirmnation had no place in city government.
Mr. Justiss’ visit to our home was a reminder to
him that .there are Lesbians alive and living in
Tulsa, OK and a reminder to us that we can’t vote
for a representative who will only entertain ~ssues
and concerns that are popular. - Kharma R. Amos
. Many of the threats were specific in saying that
if he returned to work he would die. Pilant feels his
privacy was deliberately compromised by co-workers
who posted his unlisted number counter to his
request.
When Pilant first reported the phone messages
and the graffiti on his door, Tulsa police did not
even send out an officer. Calls to the Mayor’s
Action hotline were also unhelpful. However, after
intervention by community-activist Nancy
McDonald, li~ing up to her appellation "Saint
McDonald", Tulsa police were more responsive
and took more thorough reports.
Pilant also nbted that Claudette Peterson, director
of Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights’
(TOHR) HIV Testing Clinic was helpful in getting
him assistance as was former TOHR president,
Kelly Kirby, through whose contact, KJRH, Ch. 2
became aware of Pilant’ s dilemma and reported on
by Phvl Boler-Schmidt
,:~ .A t~ureka. Spri_ngs man i.s dead. A 17-year-old
Who admitted to the "killing has not been charged.
And, the whole event is shrouded in mystery.
This is what we -know. The "killing o~curr~d at a
~popular local lake park where the young mau was
helping his; ~andmotlXe~- cSaretake th~ i-esort for the
Winter. It happened at night. The dead man, in his
forties and -knownby his friends to be a closeted gay
man. was shot at point blank range in the face with
a shotgtm. The young man did not have the gun at
his immediate disposal, but had to go to another
room, locate the gun, find the shells, load the
weapon, then return to the place where he shot and
killed the victim.
The young man has said that he awoke with a
start to find the he was being sprayed with ejaculate
as the older man was masturbating all over him. He
says he killed the man in self-defense. There aren’t
many Queers in these parts who are buying that
story. The police have been silent. The ~oroner’s
report is not due out of Little Rock for a few weeks.
No arrest has been made, no charges filed. It is
minored that the dead man was found completely
nude though there is no official word on this.
I have decided not to publish any names here so
as not to interfere with what the police are calling an
ongoing investigation. Since there have been no
public statements made regarding the case, I am
giving law enforcement authorities the benefit of
the doubt that they will continue to investigate this
case. and if the facts warrant it, an arrest will be
made. The benefit of the doubt. For now.
I’ve spoken with a number of Gays mad Lesbians
about tiffs issue. No one is taking it lightly. There is
some fear that, if the case is swept under the carpet,
and the young man is not charged, it will send a
signal that it is okay to kill Queers because no one
will do anything at~out it. I remain hopeful though
skeptical.
The facts that we DO "know are alarming. Even if
the young man’s story is true, how could it possibly
be grounds for murder’? Semen in these circumstances
is not a deadly weapon, certainly not enough
justification for murder. Most assuredly not - if he
was free enough to leave, mad chose to go to another
room, find a shotgun, load it, and return to the
scene. Justhow frightened for his life could the
young man have been? see Murder, page 3
it. Attomey Darlene Shadid said she was told by
sources in OSBI and the Tulsa DA’s office that a
decision had been made, apparently informally at a
seminar in the past couple of years, not to consider
persons living with AIDS to be disabled, despite
federal law on the matter. Later, Shadid determined
that OSBI appeared not to be keeping any statistics
on hate crimes based on any disability of any kind.
In response toTFN, Tim Hams ofthe Tulsa District
Attorney’s office indicated that their office would
enforce the Oklahoma hate crime statute as it applied
to disability and noted thatnew DALaFortune
has participated in the Say No to Hate Coalition for
some time. Director of the Oklahoma State Bureau
of Investigations (OSBI), Dwade Langley said that
they would keep statistics on hate crimes based on
disability but that they were entirely dependent on
the local law enforcement agencies to report the
incidents to them.
Meanwhile, JR Pilant hopes that he can return to
a quiet life with his children and family sal’e from
hate and intimidation.
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine 832-1269
*Barraccuda’s, 2405 E. Admiral 582-4340
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896
*Ground Zero, 311 E. 7th 585-5622
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th 749-1563
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main 585-3405
*TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial 660-0856
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Derails C..Arnold, Realtor 746-4620
*Assoc. in Medical & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
¯ Kent Balch & Associates, Health~& Life Insurance ~ :*Barnes & NobLeBooksellers,-8620 E. 71 747-9506
. ~ 250-6034
" Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Pec~ria . 743-5272
¯ Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521
¯ Cherry St. Psychotherapy Assoc. i~)5S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
¯ Tim Daniel, Attorney ~ ~ 352-9504, .800,742-9468
DAnnques, 1508E 15th 592-5356
i *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
¯ Don CarltOn Mitsubishi, 4423 S. Memorial 665-6595
~ *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan
838-8503
i Express Pools & Spas, 6310 S. Peoria 743-9994
; Fidelity Home Health Care, Inc. Coweta 486-1174
¯ Foxlinx, Computer Consultation 690-2974
Leanne M. Gross, Financial Plarming 744-0102
*Sandra J. Hill;MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
*Imaginations, Lincoln Plaza, 15th & Peoria 584-4606
*International Tours 341-6866
JD Images, Photo~aphy 621-5597
; Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 14011, 74159 747-5466
Loup-Garou, 2747 E. 15 742-1992
Lean Ann Macomber, Realtor Associate 671-2010
Massoud’s Je~vlery, The Farm, 51st & Sheridm] 663-4884
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31st 663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 P1 664-2951
David A. Paddock, CPA,-4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672
Puppy Pause II, llth & Mingo 838-7626
*Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337
*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations 743-2351
Southwest Viatical, 4146 S. Harvard, Ste. F-5 747-.3322
Thomas Chiropractic Clinic, 4138 S. Harvard, Ste. C- 1 742-8868
Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733
Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
*Agape’ Christian Fellowship, 21st& Sheridan 599-7688
*Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Ctr. 2627B E. 11 628-0594
*BiLiG Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
*Chapman Student Center, University of T{tlsa
*Community of Hope (United Methodist), 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800
Dignity!Integrity (Lesbian/Gay Catholics &Episcopalians) 298-4648
*Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441
*Free Spirit Lesbian Center call for location &info: 587-4669
Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
Friends in Unity (African-Amer. men), POB 8542, 74101 425-4905
Indian Health Care, Save the Nation 584-4983
Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
*MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood ." 838-1715
*HIV Resource Consortium, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 749-4194
NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 748-3111
PFLAG , POB 52800 74152 749-4901
Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118 74104
R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 665-5174
*Shanti Hotline 749-7898
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Right~ (TOHR) POB 52729 74152
TOHR Gay HelpLine (Info.) 743-4297
Tool Box Technicians, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uuiform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
*Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor
*University Center at Tulsa
Beaver Dam Store, i/2 mi. N. of Dam on Hwy. 187 501-253-6154
*Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457
DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807
*Emerald Rainbow, 45&1/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445
King’s Hi-Way, 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62W 800-231-1442
*MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337
McClung Realtors 501-253-%82
Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659 800-624-6646
Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-600i
The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281
home loans through the state housing
agency itself. The new definition.of a
household adopted by the VHDA states
that a "single-family loan can be made to
more than one person only if all such
persons ... are related by blood, marriage
or adoption or by legal custodial relationship."
Albert Eisenberg, one of theVHDA
commissioners, disagreed loudly with the
change. "It is bigoted nonsense elevated
to formal state policy," Eisenberg said of
the new policy, which he said may lead to
~xpensive legal court challenges as well
as possible trouble with federal housing
agencies that underwrite most of the loans
the Virgima agency makes. Most of the
state’s real estate organizations opposed
thenew definition, as did gay rights groups
and the ACLU, which said the change
would "inspire lawyers to look for loopholes."
In addition to Gov. Allen’s backing,
the rule change was also supported by
the Virginia Family Foundation and Concemed
Women for America, which argued
thatonly "traditional" families should
be given economic benefits from the state
agency.
However in Nebraska, an exception to
the "stop-the-wedding" frenzy has come
Nebraska where state Sen. Ernie Chambers
of Omaha has introduced a measure
that would amend Nebraska law to let
gays and lesbians legally marry in the
Cornhusker State. Chambers acknovCl--
edges that his proposal, LB1260, probably
won’t win approval on its first pass
through the state legislature, but he says
he’s determined and won’t give tip. ’q’his
is an issue related to civil rights mad civil
liberties that can’t be dodged by political
bodies,"-he says. "It has an impact on so
many people."
And in San Francisco, its Board of
Supervisors created a "civil ceremony to
solemnize" same-sex domestic parmerships
under the aegis of the county clerk’s
office, the city official who also perfolans
civil wedding ceremonies for heterosexual
couples. The measure, which would extend
no benefits beyond its symbolic ceremony,
is believed to be the first time any
govenfing body has moved to create a
civil rite to acknowledge same-sex umons.
A board committee quic"kly approved the
measure mad sent it on to the full board.
Five of the board’s 11 members are cosponsors
of the ceremony. The county
clerk’s office has estimated that adding
the ceremony would probably increase
the number of registered partners by 2 or
3 times. And with a $30 fee for the ceremony
itself, the clerk’s office also esti-
: mated the proposed rite could add close to
¯¯ $50,000 to the city’s coffers.
Back in Hawaii, Gov. Ben Cayetano
¯
has .suggested that the way for the state to
extricate itself from the ongoing controversy
of same-sex marriages is for the
¯ state to stop giving marriage licenses to
anyone and just offer domestic partnerships
to gay and non-gay couples instead.
¯ ’The institution ofmarriage shouldbe left
to the church," Cayetano is quoted as
saying in a report in the Honolulu Adver-
¯ tiser. ’q’he government needs to explore
its role in marriages. The government
: should not be in the role of sanctifying
marriages. That’s when they nminto problems."
State Senate leaders quickly said they
didn’t think the legislature was likely to
go along with Cayetano’s idea to pull the
plug on marriage. While legal experts say
.th.ey haveno idea if a state could even stop
~ssuing marriage licenses, they do agree
that the most important benefits of legal
marriage are derived from the federal
government in the form of income taxes,
Social Security benefits, and pensionregulations
- all ofwhich depend on state legal
definitions of a mamage.
Gay/Bisexual Indian Men Retreat
The Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention
Project (TNAAPP) is sponsoring
two free weekend camping retreats (Feb.
23-35 and June 7-9) to enhance cultural
awareness and HIV!AIDS awareness. The
retreat will include workshops addressing
HIV AIDS, self-esteem, safer sex negotiation
skills and cultural and traditional
values - all presented in a safe envlroment.
For a CONFIDEN~HAL application,
call B-rima or Keetoo~vala. at 918-582-7225.
Open Arms
Open Minds
Open Hearts
Saint Aidan’s
4045 No. Cincinnati. 425-7882
Saint John’s
4200 So. Atlanta Pl.. 742-7381
Trinity
501 So. Cincinnati. 582-4128
The Episcopal Church
Welcomes You
Wednesday, March 13 .......
s 5ob wi//ia,; s xbeat e x.[sa verfor. i 0 arts ce..t
"WiMjoyfaldan~ music and ~xquitite ~.efledfive
airs... The exci~ng sound of tradi~onal attd .~
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oftheir ability to serve in the armed forces,
the 1,049 HIV-positiveU.S. service members
and immediately cut off all health
care benefits to their dependents. Half
these service members are married and,
on average, they have served in the military
for a decade, according to the Pentagon.
Nearly 20 percent of them are officers.
Clinton legal counsel, Jack Quinn, told
reporters in making the announcement
that "the President has determined that
this provision is .unconstitutional and he
has therefore directed the Attorney General
not to defend it in court." The Pentagon,
Gay & Lesbian civil rights advocates,
AIDS activists and a number of
members of Congress oppose the provision.
But President Clinton signed the
appropriations measure because it is vital
to the country’s defense needs, in spite of
the Dornan provision.
A measure has also been introduced by
Sens. William Cohen (R-Maine) and Edward
Kennedy (D-Mass.) to repeal the
Dornan provision. A similar bill to overturn
the measure was introduced in the
Houseby Reps. PeterTorkildsen, R-Mass.,
Jane Harman, D-Calif., Connie Morella,
R-Md., and Ron Dellums, D-Calif. Elizabeth
Birch, head of the Human Rights
Campaign, applauded the \Kqaite House
announcement. "We asked him [Clinton]
to put the full force of his administration
behind overturning it and he has done just
that," she said. "This is precisely the kind
ofleadership we expect from Bill Clinton."
Winnie Stachelberg, HRC’s senior
health policy advocate, said, "q’hat [the
Dornan provision] ~ as one of the meanest.
most vindictive measures to come out
of the 104th Congress, and we will do
everything in our power to ensure,, repeal
of that discmninatorv measure, The
repeal bill is expected to have broad bipartisan
support in both honses,
Stachelberg said, noting that Georgia Sen.
Sam Numa, ranking Democrat on the Senate
Armed Services Committee, has called
the HIV expulsion measure "pmfitive."
Dornan and otherGOPextremists added
the HIV provision to the House version of
the defense authorization, but it was not in
the Senate bill. When the two versions
went to a House-Senate conference committee
for reconciliation, House Republicans
made sure this discriminatory measure
became part of the final bill,
Stachelberg said.
Currently, service members with the
virus that causes AIDS may serve their
country as long as they can perform their
duties, but they are not deployed overseas.
The same policy is applied to service
members who have other chronic medical
conditions such as diabetes, asthma, heart
disease or cancer.
The Human Rights Campaign is the
largest national lesbian and gay political
organization, with members throughout
the country. It effectively lobbies Congress,
provides campaign support and
educates the public to ensure that lesbian
and gay Americans can be open, honest
and safe at home, at work and in the
community.
that the daughter "should be given the
opportunity and the option to live in a
non-lesbian world." One new witness
slated to testify in the appeal will be
Michelle Mclr£nes, 25, the daughter of
John Ward and the wife he "killed. During
a television interview am~onncing that
she ~vould testify, McInnes said her father
also tried to molest her ~vhen she was 14
3ears old.
This reporter does not claim to be a
legal scholar, bnt from what I do kaaow,
the evidence points toward premeditated
mnrder, even if the provocation the young
man talked about happened in exactly the
way he said it did. I, for one, donbt the
story, but I also doubt there is any way to
disprove it. What will the offici~s cal[ it’?
Murder? Justifiable homicide? A -killing
in self-defense? A hate crone? Stay tuned.
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Survey: Less Opposition
to Homosexuality
WAbH., D.C. - According to
the annual survey of college
freshmen around the country by
the University of California, the
nation’s students continue to
have less objection to same-sex
relationships. The survey, conducted
under the aegis of the
American Council on Education
and given to more than 300,000
freshmen entering some 641 colleges
and universities in the U.S,
fouud that o~fly about 31% of the
students this year believed that
homosexuality ~s wrong and
should be forbidden. That figure
is the lowest reported since the
survey started in 1987 when53%
said they disapproved of gay and
lesbian relationships.
Fed. Court Topples
Alabama Anti-Gay Law
MONTGOMERY, Ala. - U.S.
District Court Judge Myron Thompson
has declared a 1992 state
law prohibiting state agencies
frown using public funds in direct
or indirect support of gay and
lesbian orgamzations as unconstitutional.
The law was quickly
passed by. the state legislature
and signed into law after officials
at Auburn University g~ve
recognition to a gay student
group on the campus. Lawmakers
had argued that because sodtroy
is illegal in Alabama, no
state funds should be used to
support-the "’gay lifestyle." Judge
Thompson, however, ruled that
the law was simply an attempt to
restrict discussion at public
schools, an illegal restriction of
free speech.
’Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’
Hearing Begins
SFATTLE - The attorueys representing
Navy Lt. Richard
Watson, called the military’s
"don’t ask, don’t tell" policy on
gays and lesbians in the armed
forces"the height ofhypocrisy,"
arguing in federal court that it
was an unconstitutional invasion
of privacy. Watson, a 34-yearold
officer who was training to
eventually captain one of the
Navy’s nuclear-powered submafines,
has said he told his commandingofficer
he is gay to avoid
the possibility of being blackmailed
as his naval career advanced.
He continues to serve in
the Navy wlfile his case, one of
several like it, is in the federal
courts.
Canadian Censorhsip
Case: Mixed Ruling
VANCOUVER - The British
Columbia Supreme Court has
handed down a utixed ruling in
the case of the Little Sister’s
BookStore, a gay and lesbian
shop that had charged Canadian
Customs officials with unconstitutional
censorship. The provincial
high court declared that
Customs officials had in fact used
their power to seize published
materials counng into the countU
in ways that violated the
nation’s Charter of Rights and
Freedoms. Customs officials
have seized, and sometimes destroyed,
hundreds of gay m~d lesbian
books and magazines ordered
by Little Sister’s, maiulv
from UTS. publishers, claiming
the materials violated Canadian
pornography laws. The court
ruled that the Customs actions
"’in large part.., are die arbitrary
and improper consequence of a~
inadequate mad flawed admimstration
of the legislation.’" It also
ruled that the incidents involving
Little Sister’s were isolated
episodes, but constituted a"~ave
systemic problem." The most
d~sappointing part of the court
ruling, said Janine Fuller of Little
Sisters, was the justices’ failure
to declare the statute that gives
Customs officials the authority
to seize materials as unconstitutional.
Fuller called the failure of
the court to overturn die Customs
legislation "disappointing"
and said the store would be appealing
that part of the ruling,
but that she was otherwise
pleased with the rest of the high
court’s ruling. "Ttfis decision is
a complete vindication of thc
gay aud lesbian conmmmty and
the lives of its people mid for that
we celebrate die decision," she
said. "It has been a long, hard
climb. We haven’t quite reached
the smmnit but we’re dimm closc.
We are colffident that we will
succeed at the Court of Appeal."
Cincinnati Bias Costs
City $35 Million
CINCINNATI - The Cincinnati
Enquirer reports that the cit\"s
Convention & Visitors Bureau
says it has lost some $35 million
in tourist and convention income
because of an anti-gay measure
approved by voters in 1993 to
repeal an earlier anti-bias measure
that included gays mid lesbians.
The visitors bureau report
had been requested by the city
council and cited 10 ~arger national
organizations, including
die A~nerican Library Association.
that specifically mentioued
the repealed rights measure as
their reason for not holding conventions
in the city.
Catholic Bishops Speak
Upfor Gays in Zimbabwe
HAt~kRE, Zimbabwe - Gays
and lesbians in Zimbabwe have
gotten some limited support from
an unexpected source when the
country’s Catholic Bishops’
Conference issued a pastoral letter
denouncing attacks against
homosexuals. Zimbabwe President
Robert Mugabe, who is a
Catholic, sparked an international
flap last year when he refused
to allow a gay rights organization
in the country to operate
a booth at an interuational
book fair in the nation’s capital,
calling homosexuals"sodomists
mid sexual perverts" who ,are
"’worse than dogs and pigs." He
followed up later by saying the
gays and lesbians have "no
rights" in Zimbabwe and threatened
to imprison homosexuals.
Although the Catholic Church
considers homosextmlity a "disorder"
that should be dealt with
as sucll, the Bishops Coifference
letter condemned what it "called
"’any attempts toinstitute a witchhunt
or hate campaign" against
homosexuals. "It is therefore not
right for anyone, induding govenunent,
to harass, persecute or
torture people simply because
they are known to have this indination,’"
the Bishops’ Co~fference
letter said.
Anti-Bias Measure for
CA Students Dies
SACtL~kMENTO, Calif. - AB
1001, a proposed measure in the
¯ Califonfia legislature to bar discrimination
because of sexual
orientation in the state’s public
schools and universities, failed
by an 8-7 vote in the Assembly’s
education colurnittee. The measure,
introduced by Assemblywoman
Sheila Kuehl (DFa~
cino), has languished in the
committee since April 1995
when it failed to pass on a first
reading there. The vote against
sending the bill to the full Assembly
was along party lines.
Utah Wants to Stop
School Gay Group
SALT LAKE CITY - According
to a report in the Deseret
News, the Utah State Board of
Education has told state officials
to find "all available ~neans" to
control the kinds ofnon-curriculum
dubs that are formed at public
schools in the state.The move
is aimed at preventing a gay and
lesbian student club from being
formed at East High School in
the state’s capital city. C. Grant
Hurst, who introduced the directive,
told the newspaperit wasn’t
specifically about the gay dub at
the high school and said he was
concerned the current legal situation
could allow net-Nazi
groups to be formed at public
schools in Utah. Hurst admitted,
however, that he had gotten"numerous"
phone calls opposed to
the gay club and none about possible
net-Nazi dubs forming..
The board’s resolution speaks
only about the"formation of any
organizations, in schools, that
may create a disruptive or unsafe
atmosphere for children or
that may attract or entice children
tomake decisions tllat could
have a long-term negative impact
on their lives." The Utah
attorney general’s office told
educators late last year in a letter
that federal law and court rulings
mandate that scllool clubs
have to be treated equally no
matter how potentially controversial.
The board’s own attorney
late in 1995 said the only
way the state could keep the gay
dub at East High from forming
would be for all clubs to be prohinted,
stop receiving federal
education funds entirely,.or to
ask Congress to repeal the Equal
Access Act.
Rally Against Blocking
Gay School Clubs In Utah
SALT LAKE CITY - Hundreds
of gay rights activists, including
the parents of gay mid lesbian
teens, rallied outside the state
Capitol to protest a move by
conservative lawmakers who
have said the state should not
allow gay and lesbian student
groups in public schools, even if
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the state has to refuse a $100
million education grant from the
federal government or even bar
all student groups. Kelli
Peterson, the East High School
student who asked to organize
the gay and lesbian campus club,
told the cheering crowd she
didn’t try to start the group to
advocate homosexuality or to
recruit heterosexual classmates
into a "homosexual lifestyle."
In.stead, she said, "I started this
group to end the misery and isolation
of being gay in high
school."
Utah legisli~tors held a secret
meeting earlier in the week with
the state school superintendent,
the commissioner of higher education
and members of the Utah
Attorney General’s office, reportedly
to discuss legal methods
to prevent gay clubs from
being formed at schools in the
state. But Senate President Lane
Beattie dismissed the protest as
a tempest in a teapot. "The infermarion
given them was in error,"
he said. "It [the secret meeting]
wasnot an anti-gay, anti-lesbian
meeting. The meeting was not
held to discuss issues they tlfink
we discussed.’~ Beatrie said that
lawmakers at the meeting were
not anti-gay bnt were anti-immorality.
"That includes heterosexual
immorality as well as
homosexual iunnorality. We m’e
not going to allow immorality to
be taught or encouraged in our
public education system. Period."
But rights activists point
out that a measure that has not
yet been printed for public review
- SB 246 - would"prohibit
schools from supporting illegal
conduct" and may well mimic
an Alabmna state law barring
publicly supported schools from
supporting any orgmfizarion that
advocates illegal activities. That
Alabmna measure was specifically
aimed at preventing state
colleges from allowing gay and
lesbian student groups on campus
because sodomy is illegal in
Alabama, as it is in Utah. The
Alabamameasure, however, was
recently declared unconstitutional
by a federal court.
Episcopal Bishop
Faces Heresy Trial
WILMINGTON, Del. -Theheresy
trial of retired Episcopal
Bishop Alter Righter for ordainingan
openly gay priest is slated
to start before a panel of 9 bishops
Feb. 27, only the second
such heresy proceeding in the
history of the church although
the bishops who brought the
charges against Righter say it
won’t be the last. Righter, the
retired bishop of Iowa, ordained-
Barry Stopfel as a deacon in
1990. At the rime Stopfel not
only acknowledged that he is
gay, but also that he had been
living with his male partner
throughout his seminary studies.
The 10 bishops who brought
the charges against Righter say
bishops in New Jersey, Philadelphia,
Detroit and Washington
may also be charged With heresy
for similar ordinations if the
ecclesiastical court finds Righter
guilty.
TX Radical Right Wants
No Gays In Library
SAN ANTONIO, Texas - Antigay
flmdamentalists have tried -
so far without success - to keep
the Unity Foundation, an organization
that’s working on plans
to open a lesbian and gay community
center in this SouthTexas
¯ city, fromholding mmeetings in
the city’s pubhc library. Organizers
of the anri-gay group have
protested outside the library and
city hall, and say that homosexuals
shouldn’t be permitted to use
~ public facilities because sodomy
¯ is illegal under state law. But so
far the anti-gay protests have
been small and failed to draw
wide support, while a number of
mainstream religious leaders
have vocally backed the Unity
Foundation’ s rights both to meet
at the library and to work on the
community center.
San Francisco Police: A
’Commanding’ Lesbian
SAN FRANCISCO- As part of
sweeping changes from top to
bottom being instituted by newly
elected Mayor Willie Brown in
San Francisco, Melinda Pengel
has become perhaps the highest
ranking openly gay police officer
in any major U.S. police e
force. Pengel, who was in the
first class of women cadets to
join the SFPD in 1975 and iu
1994 became one of the
department’s highest ranking
officers when she was awarded
her captain’s bars, has now been
made a commander on the force
of some 2,000 officers. Colnmander
Pengel, 41, was named
to hernew rank by Brown’s handpicked
Police Chief Fred Lau.
The rank of commander is below
only the chief and deputy
chief officials. Among her new
duties, Pengel will oversee the
department’s pohcing efforts on
the city’s trouble-plagued public
transportation system. Pengel
said of the promotion, "It’s not
just for me; it’s for .the other
women in the department too.
We’re moving into a nmv era,
and I get to be a part of that."
Virginia ’Diversity’
Billboard Covered Up
CHRISTIANBURG, Va. - A
billboard erected recently in the
downtown area of this small
community of some 11,000
people west of Roanoke, proclaiming
simply that "Diversity
Enriches,’" has been covered over
by the owners of the billboard
after callers threatened to damage
the finn’ s property. The billboard
was paid for by an informal
group known as Gay &
Straight Citizens of Southwest
Virginia with the help of the
local chapter of PFLAG (Parents
& Friends of Lesbians And
Gays), and went up January 18.
Aside from the simple phrase,
"’Diversity Enriches," the only
other print on the rainbow billboard
was the much smaller
sponsorship tag for Gay &
Straight Citizens of Southwest
Virginia, which paid $450 for
having its sign up for a month.
But after au article with a photo
of the billboard appeared in the
local newspaper, Frank Amburn,
manager of the lo’cal office of
Outdoor East, the company that
owns the billboard space, says
his office was flooded with calls
complaining about the sign, including
several from people who
threatened to destroy other billboards
owned by the advertising
finn. At that point, Amburn decided
to cover up the billboard
out of fear for his company’s
property. The ad agency’ is refunding
the money paid for the
billboard space.
Forbes’ Gay Views
Become a Political Issue
DES MOINES, iowa- Dmnonstrating
once again - for better or
f6r worse - that gay fights can no
longer be separated from uational
politics, Republicau pres. hopefuls
have increasingly tried to
derail the unexpectedly surging
candidacy of multi-~nillionaire
Steve Forbes by portraying him
as "’pro-ga.v.’" In Iowa iu Jan.,
state cmnpaign officials who
were supporting Sen. Phil
Grannn’s bid, told reporters that
Forbes supports allowing gays
m~d lesbim~s to serve in the U.S.
military under the current "’don’t
ask, d’on’t tell’" compromise
policy. Recently, Forbes was
asked ifhe was in favor of allowing
same-sex marriages. Although
clearly uncomfortable
with the question, Forbes responded,"
Compassion is not approval.
There should be special
fights for none, equal rights for
all."
Brits Expected to Keep
Anti-Gay Military Policy
LONDON" - London ucwspapers
have reported that British
defense lmnistry officials remmn
opposed to ending the ban on
gays and lesbians in the nation’ s
armed forces. Several newspapers
reported that Michael
Portillo, the defense ~mnister,
will announce sometime in Feb.
the findings of a ministry review
of the policy excluding homosexuals
in the military, but several
ministry officials have atready
said the review found no
reason to change the policy. If
the govenunent keeps the current
policy there will almost certainly
be a legal challenge before
ihe European Court of fluman
Rights, where 4 discharged
gay and lesbian service members
have already’ applied for a
review of their case. The uational
gay rights group Stonewall
has also applied for pervm ssign
to appeal the policy to the
House of Lords, Britain’s highest
court of appeal.
Gay arit to Play Wilde
LONDON - Openly’ gay British
comic actor Stephen Fry, perhaps
best known to American
audiences for his portrayal of the
erudite and condescending butler
in the BBC,’PBS "Wooster
and Jeeves,’" says his next role
will be starnng in a film bio-pic
of 19th century playwright, wit
mad ben vivant , Oscar Wilde.
Wilde was finprisoned in 1895
for a sodomy statute violation.
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WASHINGTON - According to a report.
in the Archives ofOphthalmology, a daily
injecteddose of 2 drugs - foscarnet and
ganciclovir - is a more effective way to
combat the blinding AIDS-related eye
disease cytomegalovirus (CMV) retinitis
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CMV retinilis infections in a month
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Just Say No School Programs
WASHINGTON" - Part of the massive
welfare overhaul confessional Republicans
have proposed in this year’s ongoing
budget battle includes $75 millionin federal
funds for state schools to each students
the "gains to be realized by abstaining
from sexual activity" outside marnage.
The abstinence pro~am proposal
would provide money for schools to teach
youngsters that complete abstinence is
the oulv certmn wav to avoid unwanted
pregnancies and sex~ally transmitted diseases
such as AIDS. Ignoring gays and
lesbians ~vho cannot legally marry in this
country, the language of"ihe G~)P proposal
states: "A mutually faithful monogmnous
relationship in the context of
mamage is the expected standard of human
sexual activity" mad that sex outside
marnage "’is likely to have laarmful p~ychological
and physical effects."
Gay Medical Journal
NEWYORK-The Gay &Lesbian Medical
Assn. has announced plans to begin
publishing what it says will be the first
science journal devoted to medical issues
faced byhomosexuals. Thejournal, which
as yet has not been given a name, will
focus on publishing findings in research
on AIDS and HIV, mental health issues,
breast cancer and other medical issues.
FDA OK Sought for AIDS Drug
STOCKHOLM - The U.S.-Swedish drug
manufacturer Pharmica & Upjohn has
released preliminary data on ,still-incomplete
clinical trials of its drug Delavirdine
(also -known as Rescriptor) because early
results hold so much promise, the firm sa
vs. Hoping that the early results will help
get faster approval from the U.S. Food &
Drug Administration for the drug,
Pharmica & Upjotm said Delavirdine appears
to help some patients infected with
HIV stave off developing full-blown
AIDS. The firm said that preliminary data
from its ongoing tests with the drug indicate
that patients receiving Delavirdine
had been able to lower the amount ofHIV
in their blood system by at least 68% for
as long as 60 w~eks. Some 3,500 patients
have been participating so far.
Infants Shed HIV Completely
LONDON - According to researchers
reporUng in the medical journal Lancet,
nine infants who were infected with HIV
bv their mothers at birth have fended off
tl~e virus. Only a few such reports of HIV
relnisston have ever been reported, an~
those have beeu received with some skepticism.
But the uew findings - which come
from Italy, Belgium m~d Swedeu : may
not be so easiix disufissed. Of some 264
babies who were born HIV-positive, the
research team found nine who subsequently
became free of the virus. In seven
cases, both HIV tests used went from
positive to negative during the course of
the study; in the other two, the virus was
detected even though the antibody tests
indicated that the baby was not infected.
2 Different AIDS Epidemics
NEW DELHI - Max Essex of the Harvard
AIDS Institute said at a conference on
infectious diseases that increasingly there
are 2 different AIDS epidemics globally -
one in the Western industrial nations,
which is slowing, and another in Afr ica
and Asia, which is continuing to Wow
with noend in sight. Essex told the conference
that the 2 epidemics are spread by
different strains of HIV- 1, and that the B
and E strains of the virus behave differently.
Unpublished research by Essex and
his team at the Harvard institute, he said,
indicates that subtype E is more efficient
at infecting cells in the female reproductive
tract, so is more readily transmitted
during heterosexual sex. The E subtype is
largel y found in Africa and the Indian
subcontinent. But, Essex said, the viral
subtype that is largely responsible for the
AIDS epidemic in Europe and North
America - subtype B - targets different
body cells and seems more prone to being
passed on during anal sex, perhaps explaining
its predominance among gay men.
Essex noted that in the West, about 2
million people are infected and that that
number appears to have leveled off. But,
he said, there are an estimated 15 to 20
million cases in Africa and the Indian
subcontinent, and that number apparently
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growth at intrapersonal, interpersonal and community
levels.
Facilitated by Richard Reeder, M.S.
When: Monday evenings, 7:00 - 9:00 P.M.
Beginning March 4, 1996
Concluding May 6, 1996
Cost: $25.00 per session or
$200.00 advance registration
Where: Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates
1515 South Lewis
Tulsa, OK 74104
FOR INTAKE APPOINTMENT, PLEASE CALL 743-4117
THE GROUP WILL BE LIMITED TO 8 PARTICIPANTS.
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ALTERNATIVE
WHAT IS VIATICATION?
Viatication is the process d~rough which a person
living with an terminal illness can receive a cash payment
from flae face value of their insurance policy.
WHO IS ELIGIBLE FOR A
VIATICAL SETTLEMENT?
Generally, to be eligible for a viatica1 settlement you
must have a documentable terminal illness, and life
insurance coverage in either an individual term, whole
life, or a group policy.
HOW MUCH IS MY
POLICY WORTH?
The value of your life insurance policy in a viatical
settlement is determined by the specifics of your policy
and your unique medical situation. Not every policy is
suitable for viaticanon, but settlement offers typically
range from 60% to 90% of a policy’s face value, depending
on the specifics of your policy and medical history.
HOW DOES A SETTLEMENT
WORK?
With your written penmssion, we gather medical and
xnsurance records with which to determine your policy’s
value. Then. a settlemnt offer is presented to you. You
may always decline the offer with no obligation whatsoever.
Should you accept the offer, payment is made
directl y to you. You pay nothing else on your poli(y, and
you owe us nothing.
IS VIATICATING MY
POLICY THE RIGHT
CHOICE FOR ME?
Man?,’ factors influence whether vxaticadng 3’our life
insurance is the best financial alternative available for
you. Southwest Viatical can discuss all of the factors with
you and 3our family in person, in detail and can recommend
an experienced Certified Financial Planner to asnst
you in plmming the best outcome from 3our umque
financial situation.
HOW IS SOUTHWEST
VIATICAL DIFFERENT?
Today, many compames offer viatical settlements,
doing business only by bulk advertising and 1-8,00 numbers.
They transfer your insurance and medical records
by mail. and do business from another state.
At Southwest Viatical. we believe you should be assured
of complete confidentiality and the best possible
service by working with us in person, face-to-face. We
are involved on a commumtv level, and are responsible
directly to our local community.
By working with you in person, but at the same time
having access to nationwide financial resources, we are
able to deliver the best value on your policy available
today. And because of our established resources, we can
deliver a settlement in less than a third the time other
companies take by mail, typically in fe~ver than 30 days.
We’ll do what it takes
to find the best solution for you.
Southwest
Home Office
Dailas, Texas
800-559-4790
Kelly Kirby
Oklahoma Representative
POB 14011
Tulsa, OK 74159-1011
918-747-3320
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WHAT: Weekend Retreat for Gay/Bisexual
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WHEN: February 23-25, 1996
WHERE: For More information Caii Today
582-7225, Extension 21~
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SUNDAYS MONDAYS
Agape’ Christian ¯ HIV Testing
Fellowship TOHR Clinic
Worship Service, 10:30 am : Free & anonymous testing
Sheridan Center, Suite H
21st & Sheridan, 599-7688
Bl~ss the Lord At All
Times Christian Center
Sunday School, 9:45 am
Worship Service, 11 am
2627b East 1 lth 583-7815
Community of Hope
(United Methodist)
Worship Service, 6 pm
1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800
Family of Faith
Metro. Comm. Church
Adult Sunday School, 9:15 :
Worship Service, 11 am
5451-E South Mingo.
Info: 622-1441
Metro. Comm; Church
of Greater Tulsa
Worship Service, 10:45am
1623 N. Maplewood
Info: 838-1715
Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay
Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa
6:30 pm at Canterbury
5th & Evanston,’ 583-9780
using fingerstick method.
No appointment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm
Results hours: 7-9 pm
Info: 742-2927
Lambda Bowling League
Sheridan Lanes
8:45 pm
3121 S. Sheridan
PFLAG Family AIDS
Support Group
2nd Monday of month,
6:30 pm
4154 S. Harvard
Info: 749-4901
OTHER GROUPS
: Tool Box Technicians,
: Leather org., Info c/o The
Too1 Box: 584-1308
T.U.L.S.A. Ti~sa Uniform
¯ & Leather Seekers Assoc.
Info: 838-1222
~ The Banned, OK Gay Band
Practice weekly in OKC
Info: 838-2121
TUESDAYS
HIV+ Support Group
HIV Resource Consortium
1:30 pm
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1
Info: Wanda @ 749-4194
WEDNESDAYS
Authority OfThe Believer
Bible Study, 7 pm
MCC of Greater Tulsa
1623 N. Maplewood
Info: 838-1715
Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. Bless The Lord At All
HIV/AIDS Support Group : Times Christian Center
.&
Friends & Family
HIV/AIDS Support Group
7 pm, call for location:
749-7898
Community of Hope
Grief Group, 6 pm
1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800
Womens Grief Group
sponsored by
Community of Hope
6pm, Butler/Stumpff
Funeral Home
2103 E. 3rd St.
Info: 585-1800
¯ Prayer & Bible Study
7:30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth
Call 583-7815 for info.
Family Of Faith MCC
Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm
Choir Practice 7:30 pm
5451-E South Mingo.
Call 622-1441 for info.
Community of Hope
(United Methodist)
Service for Peace, 6:30 pm
Bible Study, 7 pm
1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800
TNAAPP
Tulsa Native American
AIDS Prevention Project
Support group
for Gay & Bi Native
American Men, 6 pm
at Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd
582-7225 or 584-4983
THURSDAYS
16-Step Empowerment
Group For Women
Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
Co-Dependency
Support Group .
7:30, Family of Faith MCC
5451-E S. Mingo, 622-144 1
HIV TestingTOHRClinic
Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm
Results hours: 7 - 9 pm
Info: 742-2927
Tulsa Family Chorale
Weekly practice, 9:30 pm
Lola’s 2630 E. 15th
PFLAG Family AIDS
Support Group
1st & 3rd Thursdays
4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901
Alternatives
Weekly social events for
LGBT men & women, 7 pm
Info: 646-5503
Substance Abuse
Support Group
for persons with HIV’AIDS
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G
3-4:30 pm, Info: 749-4194
FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 16
Community ofHope Movie Night &
Discussion: A River Runs Through It
6:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 17
Family ofFaith MCC Reclaim &
Recovery Workshop: Forgiveness
9-3 pm, 5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441
SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 18
Community ofHope
Companioning Celebration
2 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 20
WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 21
St. Jerome’s. Catholic Church (ECC)
Fat Tuesday Party
Ash Wednesday Service
Info: page Father Rick at 646-7116
THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 22
Alternatives Social Groap - Dinner
7pm, Golden Corral, 71St & Mingo
Info: 646-5503
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 24
Shanti Mardi Gr~ Ball, 8-midnight
Natl. Guard Armory, Fairgrounds "
Info: 749-7898
THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 29
Alternatives Leap Year Party
7pm, Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
Info: 646-5503
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 27
Rainbow Business Guild
7 pm, Full Moon Care, Cherry Street
Dinner Meeting with speaker.
Info: 665-5174
." FRIDAY, MARCH 1
¯ Community ofHope
¯ Movie Night & Discassion: Priest
: 6:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, hffo: 585-1800
OF
Safe Haven, a free, non-political, nonreligious,
non-recovery-oriented social
gathering for LGBT voimg adults. 18-30
: Family of Faith MC~, 8 - rmdnight
5451-E S. Mingo, Info: 622-1441
SATURDAY, MARCH 2
Rosary at St. Jerome’s Catholic Charch
The Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria
Info: page Father Rick at .636-7116
TUESDAY, MARCH 5
Tulsa Oklahomansfor Haman Rights
Community Meeting, 7 pm
Chapman Activity Ctr., Univ. of Tulsa
5th St. west of Harvard, Info: 743-4297
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 6 Marsha Stevens Concert
presented by Agape Christian Fellowship
7 pm, All Soul’s Unitarian, 2952 S. Peoria
Info: 599-7688
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 6
NewLGBTPolitical Groap, I st Meeting
7 pm, Martin East Regional Library
2601 So. Garnett
SATURDAY, MARCH 9
Dignityllntegrity Meeting
Lesbian/Gay Catholics & Episcopalians
5 pm, St. Dunstan’s Episcopal Church
5635 E. 71st, Info: POB 701044, 74170
SATURDAY, MARCH 16
Gaylapalooza, 8 pm
Tulsa Performing Arts Center
110 E. Second, Info: 596-7111
SATURDAYS
St. Jerome’s Ecumenical
Catholic Church
Mass, 6 pm
Garden Chapel
3841 S. Peoria
Info: Father Rick
at 742-7122
Narcotics Anonymous
Meets weekly at l 1 pm
Confidential support for
recovering addicts.
Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
NAMES Project
AIDS Memorial Quilt
Sewing Bees
3rd Sat. of each month
Info: 748-3111
OTHER GROUPS
Gay & Lesbian Sttulent
Association -
TJC Southeast Can~pus,
Info: 631-7632
SWAN-Single Women’s
Activity Network
Call 832-2121
TOHR Helpline
Daily 8-10 pm
For info. or to vohlntecr:
743-GAYS
SCOTT
ROBISON’S
PRESCRIPTIONS
,Serving Tulsan’s
Since 1947
Major credit cards
In-store charges or
Direct insurance billing
for your convenience!
3 locations to serve you:
Hillcrest
Physician’s Building
1145 So. Utica
743-2351
Utica Square Area
1560 East 21st, Ste. 104
743-2351
The Plaza
8146-D South Lewis
299-1790
Reviewed by Barry Hensley
Tulsa City-County Library
This entertaining anthology combines
essays, personal narratives and poetry regarding
the multitude of rites and phases
of lesbian life. Coming from the position
that the lives of lesbians are, in many
ways, very unlike the lives of heterosexual
women or gay men, Dyke Life
~ves an inside perspective of lesbian
marriage, parenting, stereotypes and lesbians
in corporate America, among 0{her
topics.
There are five parts to Dyke Life: 1)
Relating to Others, 2) Relating to Each
Other, 3) Sex and Gender Identity, 4)The
Public World, and 5) The Lesbian Body.
Each section includes several entries by
both well-known and obscure lesbian
writers. Some of the better-known authors
include JoAnn Lonlan, Del Martin,
Leslea Newman and Rutt~&im Robson,
all of whom have other books available in
the library.
The entry rifled "outing and the Politics
of the Closet," by Victoria Brownworth,
is an entertaining examination of the social
circumstances which make the outing
of women a difficult and sensitive proposition.
"Creating Lesbian Families," by
Heather Conrad and Kate Colwell shows
the challenges and controversies surrounding
lesbian parenting. One of the more
unusual entries is by Hon. PanlaJ. Hepner,
who is a judge on the New York State
Family Court. Her entry is titled, "Oy
Veh, t’he Judge on the Bench is a Dyke!’"
Another valuable entry is by Jeanne
Adleman, member of Old Lesbians Organizing
for Change (OLOC), who contributes,
"We Never Promised You Role
Models."
One of the best things about this book is
the extensive bibliographical information
that many entries contain. Often, not only
books and magazines are cited, but organizarions
as well, complete with address,
fax and phone numbers.
For aninteresting and enlightening treat,
check,out Dyke Life. This and other
books on similar topics are available at
Tulsa City-County Libraries. Please call
your local branch library or the Central
Library Readers Services Department at
596-7966, for more information.
traveling from around the region to participate
in a picnic mad other festivities.
Particular thanks went the support FUSO
received from METSAS, Metropolitan
Tulsa Substance Abuse Services..
On Feb. 15-19 , FUSO members are
joining with members of Brother to
Brother, an Oklahoma City organization,
to attend the 9th Annual National Black
Lesbian & Gay Conference, taking place
in Dallas, titled, Black Lesbians and Gqvs:
Continuing the Struggle.
FUSO meets the 1st Thursday of each
month at 6:30 pm at Rudisill North Regional
Library, 1520 No. Hartford, 596-
7280. The meetings and membership are
open to those 18 and above.
presents in concert
March 6th, 7prn
In Her
All Souls Unitarian
Church Auditorium
2952 South Peoria
For more information, call Agape"
Christian Fellowship at 599-7688
Tul~sa’s only Gay-owned Funera~ Home
Butfer-Stumpff
Funera¢ Home gg Crematory
~103 /3ast Tftird~ 587-7000
Complete Services Available. For Example, Only $2820 for Casket with
Complete Service. Includes: Quality Steel Sealer Casket in one of four colors,
Standard Single Lawn Crypt, Service at your church or in our chapel, Hearse,
Family Limousine, Pallbearers Limousine, Thank You Cards, Register Book,
Memorial Folders, Visitation, Embalming, Hairdressing, Cosmetic Services, All
Professional Services. If you have a prearrangement elsewhere, and paid too
much, transfer your policy and you may be eligible for a cash refund.
Wasfiin~Iton Memorial~ Gardens
4300 East 91st Street South
Special Offer! Burial Space for Just $200, pre-construction.
by Phyl Boler-Schmidt
An excitement has erupted in
Eureka Springs, and you’ll find
j.’ust about everyone talking about
it - gay, straight, businessman,
minister, lodging owner, photographer,
realtor, even computer
geek. Okay, especially computer
geek!
So, what’s :the fuss? ~ureka
now has a whole lot of information
available on the Internet and
WorldWide Web. Most of it has
just popped up, seemingly out of
nowhere, in the last month. And,
where is it coming from? Who
would spend a lot of time promoting
Eureka Springs?
Positive Idea Marketing Plans
(PIMP, for short) is the source of
all the hubbub, and not surprisingly,
PIMP is a family-owned
and operated company. Jan and
Kim Ridenour own PIMP, and
they. have put their company in
literal overdrive on this new
project since the year began.
You probably remember Jan
and Kim. They are the soon-tobe-
former owners of The EmeraldRainbow,
andKim frequently
writes the astrology column for
Tulsa Family News,
PIMP (among other things)
owns its own Web domain, and
the Ridenours have been processing
and publishing pages on
that domain (PIMPS.corn). Everything
imaginable is available
with the click of a mouse, mad
new pages are being added daily.
Just what is available for Eureka
on the Web? As of this
writing (you never know what
else will be there by the time we
are published and distributed)~
you can access pages about the
town of Eureka, complete with
gorgeous photographs, and there
is also a page about the Ozark
region.
When you first see the pictures,
some may seem familiar.
That’s because many of the pictures
are from the collection of
Susan Storch, master photographer.
Susan is responsible for
many of the photos that appear
on .postcards for Eureka and the
reg~oni And Susan’s shop, The
Imagery also has a page on the
Web, complete with more
samples of her work.
There is a page for Weddings
and Holy Unions and how to set
up the honeymoon of your
dreams right here in the Ozarks.
A standard wedding page also
exists (you know, standard - one
boy, ,one girl), complete with
more photos.
Pond Mountain, a favorite bed
and breakfast inn, has a page
complete with details on lodging,
wedding setups, honeymoons,
and breathtaking photos.
Two local realtor~ are represented
in the Enreka pages: Century
21 Woodland Real Estate, a
partly family-owned operation,
and McClung Realty, a regular
advertiser in these pages.
For those of you that were
fortunate to stop in and visit The
Emerald Rainbow in the past
year, you may have met Alice
P(ig) Bailey. Alice now has her
own page on the information
superhighway, and even has an
advice column. Stay tuned for
pig astrology.
There are a number offamilyspecific
sites as well. In addition
to the weddings and holy unions
page, there is a site for g/l/b/t
retreats, Our Worm Magazine is
published on line, and Guru to
Go, Kim’s astrology.page, is
there too. So, I guess you could
call tiffs Queer Eureka OnLine
too.
Local weather forecasts are
easy to access, and there is a
feature site of the week as well.
Yahoo, one of the premiere
Internet search engines can be
acces sed, and you can download
the latest in browser software.
I know of several more pages
that are in the making, and there
are listings of pages that are due
to be available soon. The Eureka
pages continue to grow in number
every time I look at the
WorldWi’de Web. But, it doesn’t
stop with Eureka Springs.
The Internet and the Web are
national and international communications
systems. I+inks tO
related sites can be found ~dl
over the PIMP pages, and other
companies that aren’t specific to
Eureka Springs have an opportunity
to get on the PIMP bandwagon
too.
If you have never had the opportunity
to browse around the
Web, it is a thrill you will not
easily forget. Once a person realizes
how easy ~t is to access an
entire world of information with
the click of a mouse, the task of
looking things up in a phone
book, a dictionary, or an encyclopedia
becomes downright
mundane.
For those of you who are already
on line: if you haven’t
used thatWebbrowser that came
with your signup package, give
it a try. You’ll never look at a
compute.r screenin quite the same
way again. And, if you want a
first place to look, use this address:
http://www.pimps.com/
For you experienced Web
browsers out there, go to the
address above, then put it on a
bookmark. New pages are being
added all the time. Follow all the
links on that front page, and you
could easily spend a couple of
hours just looking at what is
available in and near Eureka
Springs, and especially what is
available that isfamily-specific
If you don’t have a computer,
or hive one and have not vet
made the leap to cyberspace, n~w
is the time. An entire world of
information, resources, new
friends, business contacts, and
just plain fun is to be had.
Since I’m your basic computer
geek, this has been an especi,’dly
exciting time for me. I have
watched as numerous people
have accessed the Web for the
first time, and I gotta tell you, it’s
an amazing thing to see thc excitement
in the eyes of someone
who has just discovered the answer
to his or her dreams.
If you don’t have access to the
Interuet, find a friend who does.
Buy the beer and bribe your
friend into showing you how to
access cyberspace. If you do have
access, point your browser to the
address given above. You can
also reach PIMP by e-mail at
emerald@intellinet.com. If you
aren’t on line, or if youjust want
to talk to a real live human, call
501-253-2401. Be brave. Step
out. You’ll be glad you did!
Georgia Ragsdale, who has
filmed a movie, "’Never Met
Picasso, soon to be released, with
co-star Margot Kidder.
Their shows have been sellouts
wherever they’ve played.
Tickets for this "Doh’t-miss"onc
of a -kind show are available at
the PAC and Carson Attractions,
for S15.50 to $18.50. The show
has one performance at 8 pm
Saturday, March 16th
Mark your calendars now, because
this is one show yon won’t
want to miss out on, and it’s the
first of its kind in Tulsa.
That’s progress !
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MCC of the
Living Spring
...a community of friends...
Rev. Kermie Wohlenhaus
Pastor
We welcome you to attend!
Services held
Sunday evenings at 6 PM
17"Elk Street
(at the Unitarian Church)
Eureka Springs, AR 72632
501-253 -9337
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501-253-9682 (days)
OR 501-253-8969 (evenings)
Offerings include: Bed & Breakfast
Inns, Victorian Homes, Hotels/Motels,
Commercial Properties/Businesses,
Quiet Country Estates, & much more.
McClung Realty, Inc. has catered to the
diverse G/L/B/TG community in Eureka
.Springsfor over 20 years. Call or write
for a listing brochure. Or better yet, stop
in, and we’ll show you around.
We specialize in creative financing.
EUREKA SPRINGS
"Jim & Brent have opened the ultimate intimate local
eatery. A special, eclectic dining experience..."
Stop by our house for a taste of local flavor. Dine outside on
the patio & porch or ill our three beautiful dining rooms.
Fine food at an affordable price.
Green & Yellow Night
FAMILY NIGHT
Private Dinner Party, lstThurs, ofEach Month
6pm - Midnight, Dine, Drink & Relax Among Friends
Featuring Jim & Gwendolyn’s Select Dinner Entrees
& Brent’s Superb Desserts
"With Family In Mind"
Gay-owned, Operated & Rainbow Proud
20% of all proceeds will go to the support of family causes
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Family Finances
by Leanne Gross
Happy New Year Everyone!! The only problem with
the new year - is now we have to pay the taxes for last
year. Here’s some thoughts on how to help you
decrease some of your taxableincome and help get the
new year off to a great start.
* For the individual Your 401K plan at work is
the best way to.stash retirment dollars and this will
lower your taxable income. You can also open an
Individual Retirment Account (I.R.A.); however, if
you have a retirment plan at work, there will not be
much room, if any, to deduct your I.R.A. If you do not have a retirment plan at your place
of employment, try opening an I.R.A. at your bank or with a financial consultant.
* If you are self-employed or a small company employer of25 or less employees, you
may ~ualify for the Simplified Employee Pension plan (SEP) A SEP provides an
employer with a simplified way to make contributions to an employee’s Individual
Retirement Account or Individual Retirement Annuity.
1. Employer contributions are made directly to SEP-IRAs set up for each employee
with a bank, insurance company or other qualified financial institution.
2. Employer contributions are tax deductible.
3. Contributions are not taxed currently to the employee.
4. Earnings accumulate income tax-deferred.
ADDITIONAL CONSIDERATIONS
1. ANNUAL CONTRIBUTION. No annual contribution is required. If a contribution
is made, the allocation must be the same percentage for each eligible employee.
2.INDIVIDUALLIMITS.The allocation of employer contributions to a participant’ s
account may not exceed the lesser of 15% of compensation or $22,500. For the selfemployed,
these values are reduced to 13.0435% and $19,565.
3. TIME OF CONTRIBUTION. Contributions can be made until the due date (plus
extensions) of the employer’s return.
4. VESTING. Vesting must always be 100%.
5. ADDITIONAL IRAs. Additional IRAs are permitted if the combination meets
overall ItLa~ limits.
6. WHO MAY PARTICIPATE? Any employee who is at least 21 and has
performed "service" in at lehst 3 of the last 5 calendar years must be permitted to
participate under the SEP, unless her total compensation is less than $400 for the ye.ar.
7. INVESTMENT OF PLAN ASSETS. Plan assets can be invested in most eqmty
products or debt instruments, but may not be invested in life insurance, "hard" assets,
or collectibles (except for U.S. gold and silver coins). Participants direct the funds
coutributed on their behalf.
8. WITH~DRAWALS. Participants may withdraw or cash-out at anytilne. However,
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Attorne3’ at Law
Know Your Rights!
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Adoptions,
Personal Injury,
Criminal Law, Bankruptcy
& Workers Compensation
1-800-742-9468 or 918-352-9504
128 East Broadway, Drumright, Oklahoma
Weekend and evening appointments are available.
Join 30,000 friends and family on Saturday, June lst!
All day at the Magic Kingdom - all night at Pleasure Island
Wide variety of packages a~,ailable, & Southwest now flies to Orlando!
Fares as low as $408 for two - limited number of seats.
Call early to lock in these prices!
Call 341.6866
International Tours
for more information.
Need a gift idea? Gift certificates are
available for air travel, cruises
& many other travel needs. IGTA member.
Cherry Street Psychotherapy
Associates
1515 South Lewis
Are you lookingfor a relaxed, amicable,
private atmosphere for therapy?
Our office provides a level of confidentiality
and comfort that enhances teh therapeutic process.
For further information, call 743-4117
Leah Hunt, MSW Judy Seymour-Taylor, CADC
Della Blackburn, CADC Richard Fleeder, MS
Serving a Diverse Community
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by Jean-Pierre
It’s 2 a.m., the bars have closed, and
you’re hungry. Where in Tulsa can you
go’? The restaurants revxewed here are
open all night and have table service.
Clearly, the unquestionable winner in
the all-night category has to be the Village
Inn chain. While service quality varies a
bit from store to store, it is generally
reasonably prompt, and, as long as you.
d.on’t have any special requests or instructions,
reasonably efficient.
Breakfast is.Village Inn’s forte. They
" are Particularly known for theirextremely
fluffy omelettes, made so by a quick whirl
in the blender before cooking. Otherpopular
breakfasts are the several varieties of
"skillets", which feature diced potatoes, a
meat, and onions and other vegetables, all
sauteed together, and then topped with
eggs to order and a sauce or gravy ofsome
sort.
Of course, you can also get sandwiches
and regular diner food. We particularly
like the Cobb salad, of mosdy iceberg
lettuce, but topped with aplethora ofother
tasty items like bleu cheese, fresh bacon,
grilled chicken breast, an~ diced avocados.
Be sure and ask if the avocados are
ripe, since we were served hard and tasteless
avocados on several occassions. Those
of you not counting fat grams will no
doubt be quite favorably impressed by the
double cheeseburger, f~aturing two j’ulcv
hamburger patties, grilled onions, ba0o~
~trips, cheese, & thousand island dressing.
Our biggest complaint with the Village
Im] chain is that the3 close at midnight on
Sunday and Monday nights.
On those unfortunate nights, the default
choice has to be Kettle. We are sorry to
report that the corporate Kettle entity was
recently purchased by Denny’s. None of
the employees in any of the local stores
are able to tell us whether ornot there will
be any change in the restaurant’s Policies ,
orif the Kettle stores will become Dermy’s.
Kettle’s food is pretty standard and
generic fare. They also do a better job on
dinner entrees than most of their competitors,
but even so, none meet the excruciatingly
high Jean-Pierre standards.
Denny’s is the traditional American allnightrestaurant,
andis the standard against
which other competitors are measured.
Fortunately for those competitors, the local
Denny’s don’t meet the old Denny’s
standard.
Over the last three months, we made
twovisits each to three ofthe local Deuny’s
stores. In each case, the service was unacceptably
slow. Twice we heard patrons at
other tables get almost violently loud with
their server over delays, wrong orders,
and poor food. The most frequent problem
we encountered was cold .food. Runner
up was overcooked food. To make all
of. this worse, Denny’s famous budgetsaver
"Grand Slam"brealffast is not served
during the midnight to 6 a.m period.
Frequent road-trippers will no doubt be
familiar with the Waffle House chain.
Small and unpretentious, Waffle House
can serve a decent and cheap breakfast.
Unfortunately we found that food quality
vanes greatly from store to store.
All Waffle Houses have wmtresses that
call their customers "Hon." It’s a tradition.
But, what realh scares us at Waffle
House is the fa~t tl~at your short-order
cook works in full view.’Some thin2s are
probably better left unsaid.
Waffle House has an All You Can Eat
special for $4.59, slightly higher during
the 10 p.m. to 6 a.m. period, that is worth
yourmoney and probably the best way for
you to eat. The signature food is the pecan
waffle, which appears hot off the iron
golden brown, fragrant, and filled with
pieces of pecan throughout the batter.
We’ve never yet had a bad pecan waffle at
a Waffle House. Other items are not so
lucky. The grits we were served were a
congealed mass of got bathed in some
type of yellow oi!y substance we took to
be melted margarine.
Three ’local" restaurants exist Unfortunately,
with no nadonal standards to
meet, all three have definite short-comings,
and we tend to avoid them. They are
Mama Lou’s, Perry’s, and Kelly’s.
So, as you can see, goodreaders,Tulsa’a
late night dining scene Is not paricularly
condusive to the gourmet experience. We
do, however, have to ~ve honorable mentlons
to the Whataburger and Tact Cabana
chains. The food at Tact Cabana is
pretty good, although not as good as what
we’ve had at their San Antonio stores.
Also, a favorite spot we had to mention is
the Country Ketde/Texaco truck stop way
out east of town on 1-44. Technically, it’s
in Catoosa city limits, but just across the
highway is sti]l within Tulsa city limits.
Ourrecommendation?Hone vou~ gourmet
skills at home for your friends. Eat
before ten o’clock. Move to New York.
Otherwise, head to a Village Inn, maybe
eat at Tact Cabana, or try your luck with
a gamble at one of the other restaurants.
by James Christjohn ¯ If you missed the last two concerts in
the Celtic Music series at the PAC, you
: missed some great entertainment! Celtic
music is the great-grandperson of bluegrass
and country, yet has a quality all its
¯ own. Haunting and celebratory, often at
the same time, it is great music to dis-
, cover, or if you already have, to explore.
¯
Coming up is the third and final (sadly)
; concert of the Celtic Music Series, the
¯ Cassidys, 5musical Irish brothers (hate to
be in the middle of one of their family
¯ spats!),atthePAC nMarch 13. They ve
¯ played for two Presidents, and filled Ra¯
dio City Music & Carnegie Halls. This
will be their Tulsa debut. For info and
¯ tickets, call the PAC ticket office at 596-
: 7111. And doit soon, because these shows
¯ usually pack the house! ¯
For an amusing evening, don’t miss
¯ Broken Arrow Community Playhouse’s
¯ production of"the Lion in Winter. This is
¯ the last weekend to catch it; Friday & ¯
Saturday at 8pm and Sunday at 2pm.
¯ Catch the kiss in the second act - it’s quite
a show stopper! (Not to mention the numerous
pacemakers planted throughout
¯ the audience!) For info, call 258-0077.
¯ Well, I haven’t seen any ghosts lately,
¯ but I’ve been haunted by a Phantom. Yes,
he looms large on the horizon... Oh, never
¯ mind, that’s not him, just my shadow! I
¯ really must stick to that diet more stricdy.
¯ Where was I? Oh, yeah, Phantom. THE ¯
Phantom, of Opera fame, is arriving the
¯ 22nd, and will haunt the PAC until March
23 - they’ve added a week. According to
my info. The Phantom himself, Thomas
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