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Minnesota ’Sodomy’ Law
RUled Unconstitutional
MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - Minnesota’ s law thatprohibits
oral sex and other intimacy betweenconsenting adults
is unconstitutional, a state district courtjudge has ruled.
~udgeDelila Pierce said the law, which had been on the
books since the 1800s, is unconstitutional because it
violates the right of privacy guaranteed by the Minnesota
Constitution.
The Minnesota Civil Liberties Union (MnCLU) and
the American Civil Liberties Union’s National Lesbian
& Gay Rights Project had filed a lawsuit last.summer
challenging the sodomy statute on behalf of a cross
section of Minnesotans.
Although the state court ruling should prevent the
sodomy law from being enforced anywhere in Minnesota,
the MnCLU is asking the court to technically
classify the case as a class action. MnCLU attorney
Teresa Nelson said that would lea~ "absolutely no
uncertainty" see Sodomy, p.ll
Global AIDS Goals
Debated at United Nations
UNITED NATIONS (AP) - Delegates from over 100
countries began debating a plan recently calling for
tough new targets to combat AIDS worldwide, including
the spending of up to $10 billion a year by 2005 in
developing countries. The delegates opened five days
of negotiations on a declaration U.N. members are
expected to approve at the General Assembly special
session on HIV/AIDS in New York next month.
"This is a global problem that needs global actionand
a global response," said Australia’s U.N. Ambassador
Penny Wensley. ’-’We know it can be done, but it cannotbe
done unless there is a massive infusion of resources
and a mobilization of political will."
The draft declaration endorses the goal set last Sep-"
tember by some 150 world leaders at the U.N. Millennium
Snmmit ofhalting and starting toreverse the HIV/
AIDS epidemic by 2015. The document was drafted by
Wensley and Ibra Deguene Ka, the U.N. ambassador
from Senegal, who are co-chairing preparations for the
U.N. meeting June 25-27.
The declaration, if adopted, would commit U.N.
members to meeting a series of interim targets over the
next 15 years.
Among these proposed targets are the following:
- Governments should develop national strategies
"and financing plans see Global, p. 2
¯
Pride 2001 F ,atures N.ew
Parade Route, Bigger Fest,val
Interfaith Service Rescheduled
¯¯ TULSA (TFN)-Organizers of the 2001 Pride events areworking
frantically to finish last minute details for the parade and festival
¯
and associated events which they believe will be better than any
: before. And as happens, at least one event has been rescheduled:
¯ the Interfaith service is now at 7pr~_.on Wednesday, June 6, still ¯
at Sharp Chapel at the University of Tulsa, just off of 1 lth St. at
¯ College Ave.
¯ Greg Gatewood, spokesman forTulsaOklahomans forHuman
Rights (TOHR) notes also that the black-tie optional Gala Dinner
at the Tulsa Country Club on Friday, June 8th will have dancing
after the dinner as well as a silent and also brief live auction.
: Tickets are still available at the Center, 743-4297.
¯ Organizers also want to emphas:ze the change in Parade
location and time. It will begin at 3pm at 15th near Utica
¯ continuing along Cherry St. to Boston and along 18th to the
: Festival in Veterans’ Park as in the past. see Pride, p. 9
SGe.rvin.gaL.esyb.ian..,.___j,, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families +Fji=~nd~
¯ Phelps’ Protest Raises $
for Gay/Straight Students
The 2001 Diversity Festival will feature booths & entertaiment.
¯ Vermont House Tries to
Revise Civil Union Legislation
¯ by Ross Sneyd, Associated Press Writer ¯
MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP) - The Vermont House passed a recip-
: rocal partnership bill that would repeal civil umons even as it
: endorses same-sex relationships. The bill, which would confer
¯ mamage benefits on all couples who cannot otherwise marry,
¯ passed 72-69. Civil unions applied only to Gay and Lesbian
¯ couples, but the replacement reciprocal partnerships would ap- ¯
ply to same-sex couples and to pairs of blood relatives.
: The debate on final passage was marked by sharp exchanges
¯ over homosexuality. Ironically, it required many people who ¯
find homosexuality morally repugnant to endorse relationships
¯
between two men and two women. "It’s difficult because it still
¯ gives the same benefits to same-sex individuals, couples as the
¯ traditional marriage couple," said Rep. Nancy Sheltra, R-Derby,
: one of the leading opponents of civil unions. She voted for the
¯ bill.
¯ The state Senate will get thebill next, but leaders have said they
¯ don’t intend to address it. And Gov. Howard Dean has said he ¯
would not sign any legislation changing the civil unions law.
¯ The bill accomplished some of the goals of civil unions
¯ opponents; though,because couples no longerwouldbe required ¯
¯ tohave theirunions certified byAjudge, clergymember orjustice
of the peace in the same way that marriages are solemnized. It
¯ also would require the reciprocal partnerships licenses would be
¯ issued by the Health Depa],’tment instead of by individual town
¯ clerks, as civil unions and marriages are.
"We see this as a step in the right direction," said the Rev. Craig
i
Bensen °fCamb,ri,d~e, a leader in theanti-civil uni°n gr°upTake
it to the People. It s a bill that makes sense only in the world
definedbyBaker." Tha~’ s the 1999 Vermont Supreme Court case
that declared Vermont s marriage statutes unconstitutional becauseGay
and Lesbian couples were denied the benefits that flow
from marriage. To comply with the ruling, the Legislature last
year adopted civil unions. That’s a legal structure that parallels
mamage but remained separate and distinct, see Unions, p. 2
¯ TULSA (TFN) - Making lemonade out of lemons,
young and older supporters ofGay/Straight Alliances
in Oklahoma and new Jenks graduate, Kevin Barker,
¯
¯ gathered at the LGBT Community Center onMay 21 torespondpositively to a graduationprotestbyWichita
¯ anti-Gay preacher Fred Phelps and his clan. Phelps
¯ targeted Jenks High School because the school’s
adminstration, after someprodding andin response to
¯ fedcral law, allowed the formation of the Gay/Straight
¯ Alliance. ¯
In a widely distributed e-mail, Barker wrote, "my
: response to this is aimed to take a negative situation
¯ andmakeitapositiveone. Iloveusingkindness tokill
¯ hatred so here is what I wouldlike to do." Barker then
¯ proposed that supporters make a pledge to donate a ¯ sum for each hour that Phelps protested. The more his
¯ crew was there, the more would be raised for the
¯ Jenks GSA via the Oklahoma chapter of GLSEN
(Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network).
see Jenks, p. 9
Gill Foundation to Give
TOHR $40,000 Grant
Kevin Barker. Jenks Class of 2001, Kerry Lewis of
TOHR and Karin Weldin ofSoulforce at the Center.
TULSA (TFN)-TulsaOklahomans forHumanRights
(TOHR) has announced that the Denver-based Gill
Foundation has awarded one of its Fast Track grants
toTOHRfor $40,000 for operating andprogramming
expenses over a three-year period. The grant also
includes technical assistance support. TOHR is one
of only three organizations in the nation to receive the
grant.
~llae grant will help to ensure TOHR’s financial
stability, increase the effectiveness of its programs,
and continue its work of more than 20 years in
educating the public about issues affectingTulsa’s
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual &Transgender communities.
TOHR is Oklahoma’s oldest civil rights organization
dedicated to acheiving equality for the Gay,
Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender communities.
TOHR’s largest program is the operation ofthe Tulsa
Gay, Lesbian, Bi &Transgender Community Center,
2114 S. Memorial Road.
The Gill Foundation was established in 1994 by
Tim Gill, founder and former chairman and chief
technology officer of Quark, Inc., a Denver-based
computer software company. Tim Gill and the Gill
Foundation have provided more than $21 million to
hundreds of organizations and programs serving
LGBT communities and people living with HIV/
AIDS.
Through the Gay and Lesbian Fund for Coloradol
the foundation funds Colorado nonprofits in the areas
of: social justice; children, youth and families; leadership
development; arts and culture and public broadcasting.
In addition, the foundation operates the OutGiving
Department which provides technical assistance and
other resources see Gill, p. 9
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
*CW’ s, 1737 S. Memorial
*Play-Mor, 424 S. Memorial
Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Schatzi’ s, 2619 S. Memorial
*The Star, 1565 Sheridan
*TNT’ s, 2114 S. Memorial
*Tool Box II, 1338 E. 3rd
*Vortex, 2182 S. Sheridan
*The Yellow Brick Road Pub, 2630 E. I5th
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585-3405
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834-4234
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584-1308
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Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. H~rvard 743-1000
Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E: 71 250-5034
Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 5231 E. 41 665-4580
Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122
*Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955
*Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313
*Cheap Thrills, 2640 E. 1 lth 295-5868
Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
Encompass Travel, 13161H N. Memorial 369-8555
Ross Edward Salon 584-0337, 712-9379
Events Unlimited, 507 S. Main 592-0460
Horal Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595
Four Star Import Automotive, 9906 E..:55th PI. 610-0880
Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709
Gay & Lesbian Affordable Daycare 808-8026
*Gloria Jean’s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21st 742-1460
Leanne M. Gross, Insurance & financial plaiming 459-9349
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1-111
*International Tours 341-6866
Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750
*Jared’s Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582-3018
"David Kauskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236
The Keepers, Housekeeping & Gardening 582-8460
*Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466
*Living ArtSpace, 308 South Kenosha 585-1234
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934
*Mohawk. Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951
Puppy Pause II, 1060 S. Mingo 838-7626
*The Pride Store 743-4297
Ralnbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932
Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617
Teri Schutt, Ellen & Co. 834-7921,748-0224
Paul Tay, Car Salesman 260-7829
*Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558
Venus Salon, 1247 S. Harvard 835-5563
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733
*Wherehouse Music, 5150 S. Sheridan 665-2222
*Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767
www gaytulsa.org - website for Tulsa Gays & Lesbians
Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities
AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593
All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria 743-2363
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314
Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815
B/L/G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa United Min. Ctr. 583-9780.
Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201
*Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence
Church of the Restoration UU, 1314 N.Greenwood 587-1314
*Community of Hope Church, 2545 S. Yale 747-6300
*Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595
Council Oak Men’s Chorale 748-3888
*Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware 712- ~1511
918.583 1248, fax: 583.4615
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Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal
Writers + contributors: James Christjohn, Karin.Gregory, Barry
Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lament Lindstrom, Esther
Rothbluml Mary Schepers, Hughston Walkinshaw
Member of The Associated Press
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Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248.
*Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E 31 742-2457
Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa- Lesbian & Gay Catholics & _-
Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475 355-3140
*Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
*Free Spirit Women’ s Center, call for location &info: 587-4669
Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438
*Tulsa C.A.R.E.S., 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378
*HouseoftheHolySpiritMinstries,1517S. Memorial 224-4754
*MCC United, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral PI. 748-3111
NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658
OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157
*OSU-Tulsa
PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901
*Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674
Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152
R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS .Interfaith Network 749-4195
*Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 584-2325
St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882
St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140
*St. Jerome’s Parish Church, 205 W. King 582-3088
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*TNAAPP (Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225
Tulsa County Health Department, 4616 E. 15 595-4105
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Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, Gay Comm. Center 743-4297
TUL-PAC, PositiveAdvocacy Coalition, POB2687,Tulsa 74101
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 298-0827
*Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule
*Tulsa Community College Campuses
*Tulsa Gay Community Center, 21st &Memorial 7434297
Unity Churchof Christianity, 3355 S. Jamestown 749-8833
BARTLESVILLE
Barflesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353
"TAHLEQUAH
Stonewall League, call for information: 918-456-7900
Tahlequah Unitarian-Universalist Church 918-456-7900
Green Country AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-453-9360
EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS
Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23 501-253-7734
Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 50!-253-7457
DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807
Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445
MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337
Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776
Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery 501-253-5332
Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-624-6646
~rhite Light, 1 Center St. 501-253-4074
JOPLIN, MISSOURI
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* is where you can find T’~N. Not all are Gay-owned but all are Gay-friendly,
to combat HIV/AIDS by 2003. The plans
should involve thebusiness sector, grassroots
groups and people living with HIV/AIDS.
- Countries most affected by HIV should
adopt by 2003 a set oftime targets to achieve
the goal of reducing HIV prevalence among
young men and women aged 15-24 by 25%
by 2005. HIV prevalence in the same age
group should be reducedby 25% worldwide
by 2010.
- A wide range of measures to prevent
AIDS - including information and education
- should be available by 2005 in all
countries, taking account of "local circumstances,
ethnic and cultural values."
- The number of infants infected with
HIV should be reduced by 20% by 2005 and
by 50% by. 2010 by providing treatment to
expectantmothers who are infected with the
HIV virus.
- By 2003, countries should develop national
programs to increase the availability
9f drugs to treat HIV infections by addressmg
issues such as pricing, and by 2005 they
shouldmakeprogress in implementing comprehensive
health care programs.
Theproposed draft also calls for countries
to initiate programs to identify groups most
vulnerable to AIDS by 2003, to implement
programs for AIDS orphans by 2005, and to
adopt legislation by 2005 protecting the
rights of people living with HIV/AIDS.
Last month, U.N. Secretary-General Kofi
Annan called for an annual war chest of $7
billion to $10 billion to fight the pandemic.
The draft proposal calls for reaching this
overall target incrementally by 2005, with
money coming from national budgets, international
donors, and private assistance.
Judiciary Committee Chairwoman Peg
Fiery devised reciprocal partnerships as a
¯ .way to comply with the Baker ruling but
." also to alter some of the moral objections to
¯¯ civil unions. She also argued that there are
other committed, loving "family units" that
¯
deserved the same benefits that same-sex
"_ couples were granted last year.
¯ Gay and Lesbian Vermonters, though,
¯ said the bill was an insult because it sought
-" to equate their committed relationships to
: those they have with a mother, sibling, aunt
.. or uncle. The relationships are significantly
¯ different, they said. "Last year we crafted a
¯
Ve.rmo,,nt compromise and we called it civil
¯ umon, said Rep. William Lippert, D-
¯ Hinesburg, one of two openly Gay lawmak-
¯ ers. "What we have before us today is not
just an expansion, as proclaimed, it in fact
¯ uhdoes that Vermont compromise called
civil union. You cannot escape that."
: Civil unions opponents were intent on
¯ scaling back the law, if not repealing it
¯ altogether. They reluctantly decided it was
impossible to repeal it outright and not provide
a replacement, though, because the
SupremeCourtmadeclear itprobably would
¯ grant Gay and Lesbian couples marriage
licenses in the absence of an alternative.
: Republicans won their majority in the
House largely on the strength of opposition
to the civil unions law. But Democrats re-
" tained control of the Senate.
by Matthew W. Holloway
The Gay community is not a happy one.
Homosexuals are often crippled in their
emotional stability byboth the outer forces
of oppression, hate and violence; as well
as the inner forces of depression,
doubt, self loathing
and loneliness. It is
mainly due to this crippling
emotional legacy that homosexuals
have developed
the well-deserved reputation
for drug use, mental
illness, and promiscuity.
Thesepattems, as once was
believed, are not an unavoidable
side effect ofhomosexuality;
they are, in
fact, not due at all to the
fact that one is a homosexual,
they are more related
to membership, either
claimed orexpressod, in the
much touted but rarely defined
"Gay community".
Oneofthe primary drives
of people is to align themselves into communities
of people. This is done for many
reasons, but one of the most influential
reasons is to give people smaller packets
Of society that they can deal with, and to
organize that society so that each can understand
it. These communities take many
forms, such as religions, governments, and
smaller sub-social communities.
In many situations these communities
of people serve a shorter term purpose,
such as the strength of African-American
commtmity in the 1960’s. The reason for
organizing very strong but temporary communities
such as these is to battle agmnst
some exterior force. It has been said that
people is at his strongest when he is united
in the face of some common evil, and this
is true. We unite ourselves into conmmnities
in order to battle against some outside
force.
The Gay community was originally organized
after this fashion, but the homosexual
battle for acceptance and equality
"... If the Gay
eommunlty does not
drastleally change it’s
image in the next ten
years from a eommunlty
united only by a shared
sexual preference to a
group of people with more
in common, with a
genuine uniting for~e,
then there will be no real
vletory in the struggle
against oppression
that we all share...."
has been a much longer
and harder one than that of
the African-American
community of the 1960’s.
In order for the Gay commuuity
to survxve as a social
group it must be
changed from the temporary,
constantly embattled,
and exclusive community
to a more functional and
longer lasting model.
If the Gay community
is not able ’to change satisfactorily
into a more stable
and permanentcommunity
it will do long term permanent
damage to the campaign
in this country for
Gay civil rights, ff the Gay
community does not drastically
change it’s image in the next ten
years from a community united only by a
shared sexual preference to a group of
people withmoreincommon, with a genuine
uniting force, then there will be no real
victory in the struggle against oppression
that we all share.
We must provide a world free of the
oppression to the many children who constantly
realize their own sexualities and
reach out for support. Will we be there for
them in the next ten years? Are we there
for them now? It is our duty to provide
these youngpeople with a stable and happy
commtmity that they will be happy and
content to join.
Matthew W. Holloway will attend Tulsa
Community College this fall, majoring tn
English.
Our GLBT Pride week is fast approaching
and many members of ourGLBT community
ask: "why. even get involved?" I’ll
tell you why...
To celebrate your own diversity as a
unique individual and to be proud who you
are! To unite us as a stronger community.
To meet others in the community who
wouldn;t meet otherwise. TO LEARN.
During themonthofJune, I tend to come
out to more people and feel better about
not hiding that I am a lesbian and I am
proud. Being "out" is not a requirement to
attend the Pride events, so those of you
who struggle with that need not won’y. I
want you to consider going to at least one
Pride event, you’ll be glad you did!
It seems tomethat people fear what they
have not experienced or what.they do not
understand. "Fear of the unknown" rings
so true with this one. I-have found that
most people have had a strong feeling for
a member of the same sex at some point in
their life (if they are honest enough to
admit it). Whether or not they choose to
labd that attraction as a sexual feeling or
not has a lot to do with many factors;
cultural, religious, & the comml~tity they
live in.
Often people do not know what to label
these feelings. They mav not have any
exposure to homosexualit~ except through
the media, which basically portrays a homosexual
as a deviant person to be feared,
- or a comedian! The news does the best
job of all at slapping anegative view our
way. Anytime a homosexual is in thenews
it is because they .have been involved in
some bizarre love triangle or are trying to
adopt a child. In either case, the homosexual
looks like a pervert, pedophile, you
name it. I think thatmost people are either,
a strong,heterosexual or a strong homosexual.
Of course, this makes for very
interesting "water cooler’, discussions.
Somepeople fall somewherein the middle,
and depending on their life circumstances,
at some point act on it or not.
So now you are thinking what point in
all this?Actually, I will let youin on a little
secret.., people, humanbeings, menAND
women want to be loved. Some feel that
can happen in a relationship with awoman
and some feel that can happen in a rdationship
with a man.
see Divine, p. 11
I spent a lovely evening recently at the
Tulsa Philharmonic and followed that by
meeting some friends at a favorite Gay
watering hole and was amazed at the conversations
that I overheard. "Have you
seenhimlately... ? Oh gift,
she is packing on the
pounds! Must be lonely."
Khother one went like this:
"ThatQueenhas morerolls
than Pillsbury." And then a
little later: "Ooh Mary. .
he looks like the Michelin
Man on a bad hair day."
Fascinating.
At first, I dismissed this
behavioras abunchofhateful
queens with nothing
better to do than talk, but
my observations actually
bring up a much larger (no
pun intended) issue: Why
are Gay men so crazed
about weight?
It is true that welivein an
in.credibly image-conscious
society where looking good is paramount,
but the obsession with staying thin
is especially pervasive with Gay men. On
a recent trip to Toronto, I caught the great
film "Parting Glances", and my point was
driven home when a hefty character made
the statement that "I may have co~umitted
the gay Cardinal Sin of being overweight
but I still have a lot to offer someone."
Being overweight can’t be a sin, can it? In
Gay society, you bet it is and the consequences
can be devastating.
I recently came out of a year-long rela-
¯tionship with a ~nan who was mmfiacal
about weight - mine. I am a healthy 37
year old man who is 5’ 11" mad a solid 180
pounds and I work out regularly. Like any
person, I have been known to gain a few ¯
pounds afler sphtrging on some great meals.
At first, my Ex put me on display as if to
say "’Look what I" ve caught," but when the
scale neared 190 the adoring cormnents
turued nasty. "You are getting a double
chin!" he barked at me one morning "mad
I won’t have a fat boyfriend." Ouch. Was
I not the same personjust because I gained
7 pounds? I tried going to the gym more
and eating less but my weight continued to
fluctuate. I told my Ex that the topic ofmy
weight was offlimi ts but this did not work.
In public, he was the perfect boyfriend. In
private, he was critical and cold. I became
frightened at losing my Partner. Then I
became bulimic.
It happened slowly at first. I popped a
couple of laxatives before going to bed as
if they were an herbal supplement. Our
relationship seemed to improve as I became
thinner. So two laxatives became
four, eight, ten... I finally quit counting.
When we went out, friends would comment
on how great I looked now that my
waist was 29 inches and shrinking. I was
told that I looked a decade younger. People
were amazed that I could eat and drink
whatever I wanted and still lose weight. It
should have felt great...but if they only
knew.
The relationship ended between Christmas
and New Year’ s. Upon learning ofmy
bulimia, my Ex left a terse note onmy door
"... In our group of six.
there were four Gay men,
two of whom I knew. We
were at once frightened
and outraged that our
partners, friends, and Gay
brothers could not accept
us for who we are. Give us
the AIDS epidemie to
fight or mobilize us
against hate and we’ll join
together as One,
but God forbid if any
of us are chunky . . .
stating that he wmated nothing further tc
with someone who had a selfish, sic"- ~ ~g
disorder. Charming.
"’I’ll show him," I said and I decided to
losemore weight. Two weeks later I was in
The GAP wanting some
new jeans but they had
nothing for aman with a 26
inch waist. There were
whispers among people
that I had Cancer or AIDS.
In reality, I was fooling
Mother Nature and soon
she fought back. First my
personality began to
change. Gone was the self
confident, easy-going man
I was and in my place was
afrightened, obsessive, and
vicious Mr. Hyde. I backed
out of an important promotion
at work, fearing that I
would fail I brought new
definition to the term "lean
and mean."
Then I rushed to the
doctor one day in agony with stomach
pains and he told me that I was suffering
from malnutrition and had lesions on my
colon. IfI continued to abuse laxatives, the
doctor said, I would indeed have a new
Partner: a colostomy bag. And that was if
I lived. I was frightened that if my condition
were exposed, I would be treated with
the same disgust that my Ex displayed. So
I went to Bulimics Anonymous.
In our group of six, there were four Gay
men, two of whom ! knew. We were a~
once frightened and outraged that our partners.
friends, and Gay brothers could nol
accept us as we are. Give us the AIDS
epidemic to fight or mobilize us against
hate and we’ll join together as One, bul
God forbid if any of us are chunky - then
we are "dmnaged goods."
I learned that bulimia is not about weight:
it is about control. In my case, I was tryiug
to balm~ce a career, a relationship, graduate
school, AND stay in shape. I was not
expected to gmn any weight. Sometlfing
had to give. I also lemned to share my
experience with others. I leaned on three
people: a parent, my personal trainer, and
a close friend - ironically all of whom are
heterosexual. They were completely supportive.
My trainer did get angry with me
for not trusting him to help me out of this
darkness and then he put his arms around
me and held me while I cried in disbelief
that this understanding and compassion
seems virtually non-existent in the Gay
connntmity.
Fortunately, I had recovered. It was not
easy. My hair turned gray for a time and I
had severe skin eruptions as I leached the
chemicals out of my body. My digestive
system is extremely sensitive and will
remain so for the rest of my life. But my
weight is stable and I amhappy withmy 32
inch waist. Most important, I know that I
am a good person no matter what my
weight and any man is lucky to have me.
And my Ex ? I saw him recently. He
walked by and refused to speak to me. As
I looked at this man who had become a
stranger, I noticed that he had indeed put
on some weight... - anonymous
Memorial to Gay
Soldiers Dedicated.
CATHEDRAL CITY, Calif. (AP) - A Gay veterans
group unveiled a monument to remember Gay service
members killed in combat. The recent ceremony was
attended by veterans in tmiform, the mother of a Navy
serviceman beaten to death at age 23 for being Gay, -"
and a color guard carrying the rainbow banner that _"
symbolizes Gay pride. ¯
The activists who pushed for the monument in this :
desert city just south of Palm Springs say it is the first ¯
of its kind. "It’s a turn-of-the-century event," said¯"
Dennis Palt, a former Air Force staff sergeant who
served in Vxemam. I had hope for this but you could "
have never thought this would becomea reality in the "
1970s, 1980s or ’90s. It’ s fabulous."
Hawaii Passes Hate
Crimes Bill
HONOLULU (AP) - Gov. BenCayetano said that he
will sign the "hate crimes" bill passed.by this year’ s
Legislature. It gives longer sentences for crimes motivated
by the victim’ s race, religion, disability, ethnicity,
national origin or sexual orientation.
Cayetano said while he has concerns about making
distinctions between various kinds of victims, in this
casehefeels there’ s a statement tube made. He said his
decision was "close call" because he doesn’ t believe
Hawaii has a problem with hate crimes - yet.
The hate crimes bill was supported by Gay and
Lesbian groups and several civil rights groups, including
the Hawaii Civil Rights Commission. It was opposed
by the Public Defender’s Office, the Honolulu
Police Department. and several religion-based groups.
Disciples Church Adds
Partner Benefits
Man Adopts Gay Partner "
SILVER SPRING, Md. (AP)-A Montgomery County ¯
man has adopted his Gay partner. Chief Circuit Judge "
DeLawrence Beard approved the petition of the 60-
year-old adopter and the 65-year-old adoptee, Beard’s :
law clerk, Tracy Silverman, confirmed.
The men’s lawyer, James Shrybman, said that since "
the men can’t legally marry, they sought the adoption ",
to guaranteefamily rights regarding e~.ch o,th.err s ,me.dical
care andfuneral arrangements, and to clarity c~mms
of survivorship and inheritance Shrybman would not
identify the men, citing their desire for privacy. Their
adoption records in court are sealed. The lawyer said
the Silver Spring couple have lived together at least 32
years.
Shrybman said they considered forging some sort of
domestic partner contract, but felt it wouldn’t have
provided the family relationship recognized by law
and might not withstand challenges by other claimants.
"They chose to proceed to have the court put its
~mprimatur on their relationship and this is the only
one that was open to them," Shrybman said. The
adoptee’s parents are both dead, he said.
Other Gay couples have attempted such adoptions,
with varying degrees of success, m recent years, said
David Buckel, senior staff attorney with the Lambda
Legal Defense and Education Fund, a national Gay
civil-rights organization based in New York.
"’At present, same-sex couples throughout the nation
are denied the freedom to marry, which would bring
the greatest array of protections for their family," he
said. "’When you are a couple and you can’t get
roamed, you kind of reach out for whatever alternaayes
there are, and it sounds like these gentlemen have
found a helpful alternative in the state of Maryla_~.d."
A bill to diminate sex discrimination in mamage
was introducedin the 2000 General Assembly but was
blocked in committee. Baltimore city, Takoma Park
and Montgomery County offer domestic partnership
benefits to their employees.
INDIANAPOLIS (AP) -The 831,000-member Christian
Church (Disciples of Christ) has become one of the
first mainline Protestant denominations to authorize
medical coverage for domestic partners of unmarried
employees.
The decision was announced by the church pension
fund, which had discussed the issue for five years and
agreed to consider coverage if July’ s national General
Assembly approved it. But the denomination’s General
Board said last month the pension fund should
decide, not the national meeting. The coverage, which
could start as soon as January, doesn’ t extend to pensions.
Group Condemns
i Disney Gay Days ¯
¯ ORLANDO, Fla. (AP) - The president of a Christian
group is asking that Disney officials denounce "Gay
¯ Days," the annual gathering of Gays and Lesbians at
¯ Orlando’ s theme parks.
¯ Martin Mawyer, president of the Forest, Va.-based
~ Christian Action Network, sent a letter to Disney
¯ chairman Michael Eisner also asking Disney officials
¯ to warn families about the event. He asked that signs be .
¯ posted and that other visitors to be able to get refunds
¯ if they Want. "After all, these families made plans to
¯ attend a theme park, not ahomosexual event," Mawyer
¯ said in the letter.
Disney and the other Orlando theme parks don’t
sponsor Gay Days but many of the week’s events, are
¯ held on the theme park resort’s property as well as
: Universal Studios, SeaWofld and Tampa Bay Busch
Gardens.
"Our policy is to be hospitable to everyone who
comes to our resort, to welcome everyone as a guest
and to treat everyone with respect," said Disney spokeswoman
Rena Callahan. "Mr. Mawyer is w~elcome to
visit Walt Disney World any day and we will wdcome
him as a guest as well."
Gay Days started out as a single day in 1991 when
then-Orlando resident Doug Swallow and friends from
a Gay computer bulletin board service informally
decided to get together at the Magic Kingdom. Since
then, Gay Days has become a multi-day event that
starts June 1 this year. It is expected to attract as many
as 100,000 Gays and Lesbians and dozens of parties in
local clubs and venues.
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Lesbian Kiss Gets
Yearbook Censored
BOULDER, Colo. (AP) - Dozens of Boulder High
School students locked lips outside the school to protest
a decision to withdraw a photo of a same-sex kiss
from the yearbook. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Straight
students were encouraged to kiss one another, and
about 150 people turned out at the protest. It lasted
about an hour.
Students had claimed discrimination after the picture
of two girls kissing was yankedfrom the yearbook.
The picturewas to be included in a feature called"First
Kiss" along w;th those ofheterosexual couples kissing.
Yearbook adviser Ruth Palmer said the parents of the
two girls would have to give permission for the photo
to run. When she didn’t hear back from them, she took
the photo out.
Student Rachel Stanley said that decision showed a
double standard because photos of male-female kisses
were allowed to run without parental approval. "A lot
more needs to be done to open people’s eyes about the
problems facing kids" with different sexual backgrounds,
Stanley said as students behind her hugged
and kissed. "It has to start somewhere and maybe this
is it."
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Louisiana Senate Kills
Anti-discrimination Bill
BATON ROUGE, La. (AP) - Legislation outlawing
employment discrimination against Gays was defeated
in the Louisiana Senate after a polite but sometimes
emotional debate. "If we fail today we’ll be back again
in the next session," the bill’ s sponsor, state Sen. Don
Cravins, said just before the 14-21 vote against the
measure.
Cravins’ bill would have outlawed discrimination in
hiring, firing or promoting anyone on the basis of
"actual or perceived sexual orientation." Cravins said
some lawmakers supported the idea but admitted to
him they could not vote for it because it would cost
them political support.
While Senate committee debate included views from
religious opponents of the bill, opposition on the floor
centered around the practicality of the bill.
State Sen. Bill Jones said the bill was unworkable
since it created a protected class and proving someone
is a member of that class would be based solely on that
person’s claim.
Lutheran Bishop Resigns
Over Gay Ordination
LOS ANGELES (AP)- Southern California’s ranking
Lutheran bishop says the church has asked him to
resign for participating in last month’ s ordination of a
Lesbian in Minnesota in defiance of church law.
Bishop Paul W. Egertson, whose sonis Gay, said he
has decided whether to comply with the request, which
comesjust months before his term expires Aug. 31. He
was not seeking re-election.
Presiding Bishop H. George Anderson asked
Egertson before the ceremony to reconsiderhis participation,
said John Brooks, a spokesman for the Chicago-
based Evangelical. Lutheran Church in America.
Brooks would not confirm that the bishop had asked
Egertson to resign.
Rev. Paul Tidemann of St. Paul-Reformation
Lutheran Church said he is not surprised by the decision.
Anita Hill, the pastor who Egertson ordained,
now serves at St. Paul-Reformation with Tidemann. "I
think that the ELCA is doing what it feels it has to do
given the policy that it has," Tidemann said. "Every:
body is in a bit of a difficult spot because the church has
not decided to change that policy ""
Egertson, 65, became bishop of the Southern California
(West) Synod in 1995. The synod includes 140
churches, 275 ministers and nearly 46,000 baptized
members.
Egei’tson became the church’ s first active bishop to
participate in the ordination of a Lesbian when he took
part in the ceremony for Hill. Egcrtson said he was
conscience-bound to defy the church by joining in
Hill’ s ordination. "I can no longer advocate this cause
with credibility from a posihon of personal safety,"
Egertson wrote Anderson at the time.
Somechurch leaders were concerned aboutEgertson
whenhe was elected bishop in 1995 because he said he
had earlier joined in blessing same-sex couples. For
that reason, Egertson said, he promised in writing to
resign if he ever felt he must defy church law as a
matter ofconscience. He said Anderson has now asked
him to follow through.
The Saint Paul Area Synod would not comment on
Egertson because "responsibility for this matter rests
with our churchwide leadership," said spokeswoman
Beth Helgen.
But the Saint Paul Area Synod is considering disciplinary
action against St. Paul-Reformation. Bishop
Mark Hanson and the Saint Paul Area Synod Council
could decide to expel the congregation from the ELCA.
Helgen said she expected the synod to make a decision
soon, but there is no deadline for the announcement.
Religious Leader
Opposes Partner Benefits
PORTLAND, Maine (AP) - The executive director of
the Christian Civic League of Maine has begun taking
steps to prohibit all state and local governments from
providing domestic partnership benefits. Michael Heath
filed a petition with the Secretary of State’s office to
force an election on the issue.
ff Heath’s petition is approved and he meets the
requirements necessary to land the issue on the November
2002 ballot, voters will also decide whether or
not to overturn a decision by the Portland City Council
to establish a registry of same-sex and opposite-sex
unmarried couples.
Heath’s referendum would also prohibit the state
university*system from providing benefits to the domestic
partners of their employees, and would take
away health insurance from the domestic parmers of
employees who already have them.
"We are praying and thinking about it and talking
with folks who have concerns about this, about domestic
partnership and the agenda of the Gay movement
here in Maineand throughout the country," Heath said.
The Secretary of State’s office is reviewing the
petition and is expected to respond by June 4. Heath
will then be able to collect signatures- he needs 42,101
- to place the question on the ballot.
The state has made significant strides in recognizing
stone-sex couples in recent months. Earlier this year,
the State Employee Health Commission approved
granting health insurance beuefits to Gay and unmarried
heterosexual partners of state employees.
On Monday, the Portland City Council made history
by unanimously supporting the creation of a registry,
which will recognizedomes tic partners as families and
afford them many of the same rights and privileges as
husbands and wives The university systeln and the
City of Portland have offered the benefits for some
time, and the ordinance City Councilors in the city
approved on Monday would require any recipient of
city funds to offer the benefits to employees.
A bill is also in the state Legislature that would
require health insurance companies to offer domestic
partner benefits if they offer coverage to the spouses of
plan-covered Legislature members. The measure was
approved by the House of Representatives and is
headed to the Senate for a final vote.
Karen Gcraghty, a Portland city councilor who cosponsored
the city’s ordinance, said she and others
knew that Heath had filed the petition, and are taking
steps to keep a ballot question from passing. "This is
about denying peoples’ access to health care," she
said. "This is about inequity in the workplace.’"
Heath has been successful with statewide referendnms
oncivil rights issues for Gays. In February, 1998,
voters overturned a statewide anti,discrimination law
that the Legislaturehad passed. Last November, voters
again turned down such a law.
Portland Eases Ban on
Military Recruiting
PORTLAND, Ore. (AP) - The Portland school board
has loosenedamilitary recrmting ban that was prompted
by the military’ s "don’ t ask, don’ t tell" policy toward
Gays. In a unanimous vote, the board decided teachers
and counselors can refer students to recruiters offcampus
only if students are told that the military
prohibits Gays who disclose or act on their orientation.
The decision is a compromise between Gay civilrights
activists who opposed military recruitment in
schools and recruiters, who said the armed forces offer
opportunities for students who aren’ t college-bound.
Abrams wrote the district’ s ban on military recruitment,
which was put into place in 1995. The board had
pushed various plans in recent weeks to give students
more access to the military in school.
Powell Will Lobby
for More AIDS $
KAMPALA, Uganda (AP) - Secretary of
State Colin Powell says his four-nation
tour of Africa has pu.t human faces on the
AIDS epidemic sweeping the continent,
and he’ll use the experience to lobby for
more U.S. aid.
"I can go back and make a case in
Washington of the need for more resources,"
Powell said. "I hope I can convey
the passion of what I have seen" when
he reports back to President Bush. Powell
was wrapping up an African gour that also
.tookhim to Mali, South Africa and Kenya.
He was next headed to Budapest, Hungary,
for NATO meetings.
The secretary visited AIDS outreach
. centers in Nairobi, the Kenyan capital, and
Kampala, the Ugandan capital. He said he
was deeply moved by heating the experiences
of AIDS victims in both places, and
watching Africans trying to come to grips
with the disease ttL~ough song, dance and
skits. "You don’t really get a full appreciation
until you see the people who are
sla’icken," Powell said.
In Nairobi, Patricia Ochieng, 33, told
Powell it had been nearly 10 years since
she’d tested positive with HIV, the virus
that causes AIDS. Since then, both her 4-
year-old son and her husband have died of
the disease, she said, and"I kept dying day
by day. All my dreams were gone."
The Bush administration announced
earlier this month it was contributing an
ilfitial $200 million to a global $7 billion
fund to combat AIDS. That’s on top of
about $460 million the United States had
earlier committed to fighting AIDS.
In Kampala, Powell announced $50
millionin aid over five years to helpUganda
expand a prevention program. The programhas
sharpl) cut Uganda s HIV-AIDS
rate from nearly 30% to about 10%.
On his travels through Africa, Powell
has said repeatedly that he would work to
get additional U.S. support for AIDS prevention,
research and trealanent programs.
"Even though there are wars in other
parts of the world, even though there’s a
crisis in the Middle. East, even though
people are dying in these conflicts around
the world, there’s no war more serious,
there’s no war causing more death or destruction,
there’s no war on the face Of the
earth that is more grave than the war in
sub-Saharan Africa against HIV-AIDS,"
he said. More than 25 million people on
the continent are infected with HIV.
Teens Want
Complete Sex Info
CHICAGO (AP) - Take a look at some of
the spicy novds aimed at readers as young
as 12. Tune in any number of TV shows
popular with young viewers and try finding
the characters who haven’t had sex.
Ever hear the "Thong Song" or the recent
No. 1 "It Wasn’t Me," a tune about a
couple getting caught "banging on the
bathroomfloor"?Many dementary school
students have.
Officially - from President George W.
Bush on down - young people are being
told to just say ’no’ to sex. Yet they are
bombarded with images that, they say,
make the mantra difficult to take seriously.
Frustrated with mixed messages,
many teens say the)’ would make better
choices for themselves if they had more
information about sex - and less hype.
"How can you expect teens to be abstinent
when all they see is sex?" asks DeVoia
Stewart, 16. "It’s a little hypocritical."
Through the 1990s, biennial surveys
from the federal Centers for Disease Control
andPreventionfound fewerhigh school
students saying they had had sexual intercourse
- from just over 54.1% in 1991 to
49.9% in 1999. The number of teen-age
mothers giving birthalso dropped, although
there are still about a million teen pregnancies
each year.
But health officials say sexually transmitted
diseases are a big concern for teens
- among them HIV, chlamydia, herpes,
gonorrhea and human papilloma virus,
which can develop into cervical cancer.
They also say that, instead of intercourse,
someteens are having otherkinds ofsexual
contact, like oral sex, that can easily spread
disease.
The statistics have only heightened the
debate about what to tell young people
about sex, evenamongyoungpeople themselves.
"In my school, there are people
who adamantly preach about waiting for
sex, and there are also people who love to
recount their own racy experiences," says
Alessa Thomas, 16.
For adults, part of the debate is whether
to distribute condoms and other forms of
birth control to teens. This spring, Planned
Parenthood distributed "prom Survival
Kits," including condoms, to students in
Minneapolis and other cities.
About the same time, a health board in
northern Kentucky decided to change its
sex .education curriculum to "abstinence
only," seeing any talk of safer sex or
condom distribution as lessons in "how
to." "We’re talking about young people
who can’t remember to bring their homework
to school or set their alarm dock -
and yet we want them to remember to use
acondomevery time they engage in sexual
intercourse?" says Addia Wuchner, who
oversees the board’s haman sexuality committee.
But many young people say they should
be trusted to handle more information -
the more, the better. Christopher Batu, 20,
agrees that abstinence education is important,
but he still wishes he had knownmore
about "the reality of what could happen"
because of sex when he was younger. He
says "sex isn’ t evil," but it carries a load of
responsibility with it.
The hunger for accurate, frank informa~
tion has prompted some teens to educate
themselves. Some efforts are official, including
SEX, ETC., a sexuality and health
newsletter and Web site sponsored by
Rutgers University that is written by teens
for teens.
Other teens say they get their information
from sources such as drDrew.com, a
healthWeb sitefor 14- to 24-year-olds that
answers questions ranging from "What is
considered safe sex?" to "What can I do to
helpmyboyfriend last longer during sex?"
Thomas says she doesn’t go to adults
because "I am afraid they will judge me."
Still, a report released this month shows
that many young people want more infor-
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Town Hall Meeting
June 5th, 2pm
Topics:
Update on the Epidemic, Janice Nicklas
Testing Positive, Living with HIV, Tommy Chesbro
Knowing Your HIV Status, Ebony Skillens
Diversity In New HIV Cases, Kristi Frisbie
HIV Treatment in Tulsa,
Damon Baker, DO, & Don Eberly
Care Needs of PLWAs, Sharon Thoele
How Tulsans Can Help, Janice Nicklas
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The Tulsa City County
Library System
is proud to
Embrace Diverst
honoring Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual/Transgendered
Oklahomans with the following events:
Saturday, June 2. 2pm. Maxwell Park Library
"Coming Out in Tulsa Area High Schools"
Dr. Doug Gronberg, English teacher at Booker T. Washington High School,
moderates a panel discussion by high school students in Gay/Straight Alliances.
Monday, June 4. 7pm. Central Library
"Council Oak Men’s Chorale"
Monday, June 4. 7pm. Helmerich Library
"Family Law Issues Affecting the Gay COmmuaity"
Panel discussion with IJnda Lacey, TU College of Law, moderating.
Thursday, June 7. 7pm. Central Library
"Diversity Film Festival"
Harvey.Fierstein and Matthew Broderick star in "Torch Song Trilogy."
Saturday, June 9. 12 Noon. Central Library
"Diversity Film Festival"
"Out Of the Past" documents the struggles of Kelli Peterson, who started a Gay’/
Straight alliance in her Salt Lake City school in 1996.
Thursday, June 14. 7pm. Central Library
"Diversity Film Festival"
’°Trevor": Winner of the 1994 Academy Award for best live action short.
"If These Walls Could Talk": Stories about Lesbian couples in three deeades.
"Bubbeh .Lee and Me": A Gay man’s visit with his 87 year old grandmother.
Tuesday, June 19.2pm. West Regional Library
Book Discussion: "Deliver Us From Evie"
Thursday, June 21. lpm. Broken Arrow Library
Book Disa~ssion:"Fried Green Tomatoes"
Thursday, June 21. 7pm. Brookside Library
AIDS Memorial Quilt Project
Vale Bode, director of Education and Outreach for the Tulsa Area chapter of
the NAMES project, discusses the AIDS Memorial Quilt.
Please call 596-7977 or your local branch library if you have questions or
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marion from adults about sex.
The survey of 12- to 17-year-olds by the
fkaiser Family Foundation found that48%
wanted more information about sexual
health from their doctor and 42% from
their health class teachers. A third wanted
more discussxons with their parents.
"This is difficuh stuffto talk to yourkids
about, but youhave to do it-kids want you
to doit," says Margaret Anderson, a senior
program manager for the Academy for
Educational Development, a nonprofit
group that uses fe,~Ieta]and privatefuhding
to help-community organizations develop
sex education and other programs.
Jonathan Olinger, 18, agrees. He says
that his parents’ first talk with him about
sex was awkward but that it _opened the
door to other questions. "We listen to our
parents a lot more than they realize," he
says.
Glaxo Lowering
AIDS Drugs Costs
NAIROBI,- Kenya (AP)~_-. Glaxo
SmithKline will expand a program tod-e--
liver low-cost AIDS drugs in Kenya to
include -aid organizations andl~ge employee
health programs, the marketing
director in Kenya said at the end of May.
Dr. William Kiarie said the company’s
drugs would be offered at a no-profit price,
90% cheaper than the retail price charged
in North America and Europe. Glaxo
Kenya already Offers the drugs at the discounted
pnee to government hospitals.
"It is not a new program, it is just new in
the way it is being implemented," Kiarie
said. "What we are talking about is implementing
the price reductions and expanding
that to more groups of people."
Glaxo, along with other multinational
pharmaceutical companies, has come under
increasing pressure to lower the prices
of antiretroviral drugs that treat HIV, the
virus that causes AIDS. More than 26
million people in Africa have HIV, but
most live on less than $1 a day.
Glaxo’s discount will bring the price of
treatment down to $2 a day, Kiarie said.
Only about 1,000 of the 2.1 million
Kenyans infected with HIV are being
treated with antiretrovirals now, Kiarie
said. But even at the lower price, this
numberwill only expand to between 20,000
and 30,000, he added.
"As an industry, we have to lower the
prices," Kiarie Said. "But this will not be
enough. If we want a significant increase
in access to antiretroviral drugs, we have
to look for other funding and infrastructure
buildup." Kiarie refused to discuss
specific drugs or what the exact prices
would be.
Indra Van Gisbergen, an attorney working
with the Kenyan CoalitiOn for Access
to Essential Medicines, said the offer was
nothing that hadn’t been promised by the
pharmaceutical companies before and that
the lack of details was disturbing.
"Glaxo is misleading the public on the
-prices by hiding all the conditions that
come with the price," Van Gisbergen said.
"In order to get those pnces you have to
sign a contract that hasa very funny paragraph
about agreeing with the company."
Van Gisbergensaid Glaxo has refused
to show AIDS activists copies of the contract,
but she had obtained one copy. She
said Glaxo’s announcement was timed to
influence a bill in Kenya’s parliament that
would allow the government to override
patents and allow the importation of lowpriced,
generic AIDS drugs. "This announeement
should not be used as an’ excuse
not to pass the bill and allow generic
drugs into Kenya," Van Gisbergen said.
HIV Clinic Targets
Rural Poor
GREENWOOD, Miss. (AP) - qlae fight
against HIV disease is being stepped up in
Greenwood, Leflore County and the rest
of the Delta.
To Dr. Hamza O. Brimah of Greenwood,
director of the program, it’s about
time. "I have a growing base of padents
who are living with HIV," said Brimah,
40. "Back in 1997, when the Magnolia
Medical Clinic opened, we had barely 10
patients. Today, we’ve seen almost 200."
A $1 million grant provided by the U.S.
Department of Health and Human Services
will be spread over three years and
provide primary care services for !owincome
individuals living with HIV, he
said.
Called the Magnoli~ Medical Clinic/
Greenwood Leflore Hospital HIV Program,
the project covers a nine-county
region that runs west to Washington
County, south to Holmes County and north
to Coahoma County.
The grant has two goals, Brimah said.
The first is to improve the quality of care
provided to the HIV patient. One way is to
upgrade patient referrals to other primarycare
services, such as dental care, mental
health care and women’s health care.-
The other is improving access to care.
"Werealize that there are still many people
who are not in care," Brimah said. For
every person living with HIV, he said,
there are nine or 10 who aren’t aware that
they have it. "What we’re trying to do is
encourage people to get tested, to access
care by being able to provide them with
transportation and to pay for their clinic
visits," Brimati said.
Testing and treatments, if necessary, are
provided at no cost for low-income individuals.
Treatment for AIDS and HIV has
improved significantly over the past five
years.
"In the past, there used to be complex
regimens, which meant several pills that
had lots of side effects that differ from the
more recent treatment options," Brimah
said. One improvement is a new pill that
has to be taken only twice a day. "That’s a
long way from the time when patients had
to take upwards of 30 pills a day," Brimah
said. "The cost has remained about the
Average treatment costs for HIV patients
are around $1,000 per month. Drugs
also have been developed that can reduce
the transmission of HIV from mother to
baby. "We encourage all pregnant women
to get HIV tested," Brimah said. "It is
possible to reduce the chances that the
baby will be born with HIV disease."
AIDS and HIV cases have leveled off
nationwide, but the number of rural cases
has risen slightly, Brimah said.
by TFN staff
James Christjohn, TFN’s most excellent
entertainment editor, is taking much
needed time offforgoodbehavior (editor’s
note: is that what that’s called now?). He
is gearing upfor the Stevie Nicks tour. The
high priestess of rock and roll STEVIE
NICKS will embark on an extensive concert
tour this summer
with an itinerary that
will take her across the
United States.
Nicks will perfonfi
material from her new
CD TROUBLE IN
SHANGRI-LA which
entered the Billboard
albtun charts at No. 5
and has remained a Top
2Ohit for the last three
weeks. She" will also
cover material from her
previous solo albums as
well as her hits as a
member of Fleetwood
Mac.
Billboard Magazine
hailed Nicks’ new album as "this years
comeback equivalent to Carlos Santana
and her strongest material since her landmark
Bdla Donna." Check local venues
for on sale dates and ticket prices.
The tour dates are as follows, being the
closest to Tulsa She gets: August 3 Dallas,
TX Smirnoff Music Center; August 4
Houston, TX Cynthia Woods Mitchell
Pavilion; August 28 Banner Springs, KS
Sandstone Amphitheatre; August 29 St.
Louis, MO Riverport Amphitheatre. -
But meanwhile in Tulsa, there’s things
happening. From June 6th to July 1, Light
Opera Oklahoma (LOOK) will be prov!ding
the best in light, summer entertmnment
with, as always, some Gilbert &
Sullivan, the Mikado, Herbert’s Naughty
Marietta and Lerner & Lowe’s My Fair
Lady, based, of course on George Bernard
Shaw’s Pygmalion.
LOOK is also presenting a one woman
"Carmen" which feature Julie Goell as a
cleaning lady who entertains hersdf by
performing scenes from the Bizet opera.
And Broadway and film .veteran Lynette
Bennett will reprise the career of Jeanette
McDonald in a show Bennett wrote. For
times and dates on all these performance,
call 583-5398 or see their website: www.
webtek.com/gilbertsullivan
Down at the Performing Arts Center,
American Theatre Company will close
their season with Wit, the riveting tale of
Dr. Vivian Bearing, a professor of 17th
century English poetJohn Donne. Bearing
has cancer and the play addresses her
struggle with the disease and is full of
allusions to Donne’s work. Tulsa theatre
veteran Lisa Wilson stars in the, production
directed by Ken Spence. Call the
PAC, 596-2525, for times and prices.
Also there. Theatre Tulsa will present
the Cotton Patch Gospel which recounts
the life and times of Jesus Christ as set in
the hills of Georgia. It’s been characterized
as "a story for intellectuals who are
closet hillbillies..." This, of course, describe~
so many that we know... This is
Philbrook’s award winning lawns.
likdy to be good despite this description.
¯
Again call 596-2525.
¯¯ Put on your radar Tulsa’s annual
SummerStage Festival which will present
¯
a number of plays during July and into
¯ early August. Call thePAC at 596-2525 or
log on to www.tulpac.com
¯ Now over at Philbrook, they’re notcoming
up daisies and dandelions
in the lawn. In
fact, the museum has
won an award from
Briggs and Stratton
(yes, that’s right, the
lawn mower engine
manufactorers) for having
one of the top ten
lawns in the US. Others
who’ve won the award
include Graceland, the
Alamo, and this year,
the Biltmore Estate and
the Hemingway Home
in Key West. All the
work at Philbrook is
done by only four
people according to
¯ grounds supervisor, Ralph Bendel.
¯ And one ofTulsa’ s summer traditions is
film and theatre on the lawn at Philbrook.
¯ Keep reading this column for further in-
¯. formauon.
Also at Philbrook is a show opening
¯ June 10 of the glass artistry of West Coas!
¯ artist William Morris. Morris’ work is ¯
reflective of his interest in archeology and
¯ ancient pagan cultures. Morris lives near
Seattle where he was master glassblower
to world renowned artist Dale Chihuly.
Morris’ work is in the collections of the
Metropolitan Museum of Art, the Louvre
and the Victoria and Albert Museum in
¯ London as well as theLos Angeles County ¯
Museum.
¯ Philbrook is at 2727 S. Rockford Rd., is
¯ open Tues. - Sat. 10-5pm, Sun. 11-Spin
¯ and till 8pm on Thurs. Admission at the ¯
grounds, Museum Shop and la Villa res-
¯ taurant is alway free and more information
¯ is available at www.philbrook.org
". Don’t" forget that Tulsa CiU-County
¯ Library is presenting a variety of Diversity
¯ programnfing during the month of June.
¯ Central Library will host the Council
Oak Men’ s Chorale on Monday, June 4 at
¯ 7pro. The Chorale will perform a variety
¯ of vocal selections.
¯ On Thursday, June 7 at 7pm, Central ¯
will begifl its "Diversity Film. Festival"
¯ with Harvey Fierstein and Matthew
¯ Broderickin"TorchSongTrilogy," which
¯ was adapted from the Tony Award win-
. ning Broadway hit. The musical numbers
¯ are a hoot, and Anne Bancroft chews the
: scenery nicely.
¯ Next will be "Out of the Past" docu- ¯
menting the struggles of Kelli Peterson,
¯ who started a Gay/Straight alliance in her
¯ Salt Lake City school in 1996. Her fight ¯
became a statewide battle that brought
¯ national attention. This film is scheduled
¯ for Saturday, June 9 at 12 Noon.
Thursday, June 14 (7pm) will see
" "Trevor": Winner of the 1994 Academy
¯ Award for best live action short. This
¯ highly acclaimed, see arts, p. 9
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touching, funny film addresses issues of
sexual identity and compassion and, "If
These Wails Could Taik" a trio of stories
about Lesbian couples in three different
decades.
The last film that evening will be
"Bubbeh Lee and Me": about a Gay man’ s
visit with his 87 year old grandmother in a
Florida retirement community.
Pleasecall 596-7977 or yourlocal branch
library if you have questions or need more
information.
GLSEN is the sponsor of Student Pride
USA, the organization that helped me to
get our Gay Straight Alliance started, and
GLSEN in Oklahoma provided assistance
to Barker as well.
Phelps, aiso adisbarred attorney, didnot
attend the protest himself but members of
his congregation, most of whom are also
related to him did picket near Orai Roberts
University’s Mabee Center.
Barker, in remarks made to supporters
at the Center, noted that in response to ’the
protest a number of his classmates, many
unknown to him, offered .him words of
support and encouragement.
Barker aiso notedthat as afundraiser the
incident was highly successful, raising
several thousand dollars for Gay/Straight
student organizing in Oklahoma.
to supportthe conmaunities it serves. The
Gill Foundation and OutGiving Department
are headquartered in Denver, Colorado.
The Gay and Lesbian Fundfor Colorado
is based in Colorado Springs.
The Festival will feature booths with pride
merchandise, food, beverages as well as a
variety of entertainment, from singers to
femaieimpersonators,maybe a comedian,
grrrl bands, the Council Oak Mens Choraie
and "surprises." The opemng ceremonies
for the Festivai will be held at
4:30pm. The Festivai is scheduled to continue
until dark.
Tulsa Transit shuttles will begin at noon
at Veterans’ Park to take people to several
stops aiong the parade route.
Volunteers are encouraged to help carry
the 120 foot long rainbow flag, Oklahoma’ s
largest. Entries into the parade are still
possible but the entry fee has now gone to
$50, profit and non-profit alike.
At the Gaia Dinner, TOHR will present
its Community Hero awards to four individuals
as well as recognize some of the
organization’ s donors, and the TOHR Volunteer
of the Year.
And on June 16th, Borders Books &
Music will haveaTOHRbenefit day where
a percentage of purchases will be donated
by the store to TOHR. Cail the Center at
743-4297 for more information.
Viewpoint: Study ¢:
Gay to Straight Bias ¯
by Wayne Besen
The Human Rights Campaign
What do John Paulk, Jeremy Marks
Wade Richards have in conm~on ? ~I
were ail high profile"ex-Gays" who c:~ v.
out of the closet in the past year - c:
Paulk’s case, was photographed at a ~ y
bar in Washington. If there is one kn~:.
fact about "ex-Gays," it is that one camaot
aiways take their stories of "change" at
face vaiue.
In light of the double lives of prominent
"ex-Gays," it seems questionable to conduct
a"scientific" study on whetherpeople
can "change" their sexual orientation - if it
is based solely on their testimonies. Yet
this is exactly what psychologist Dr. Robert
Spitzer did. Moreover, many ofhis 200
subjects wereinvolvedupon the referral of
several virulently anti-Gay political groups.
Themostobvious flaw in Spitzer’ s study
was the clear role played by these groups.
The "ex-Gay" ministries referred 43% of
the subjl~cts to Spitzer. The anti-Gay National
Association for the Research and
Therapy of Homosexuaiity referred 23%.
"His sampling method was totally inadequate,"
Dr. Lawrence Hartmann, a professorat
Harvard and alongtime researcher
on homosexuality told Newsday. A year
ago, the Human Rights Campaign urged
Spitzer in a letter to use objective physical
measures in determining whether his subjects
were still attracted to the same sex.
Why did he decline? Spitzer and others
claim that the new study shows that sexuai
orientation in "highly motivated" people
may be changeable.
But the results show quite the opposite.
Even though study participants were a
hand-selected sample of activists - with
78% having spoken out publicly about
~onver~ion therapy - only .17% of the men
and55%ofthe womencharacterized themselves
as 100% heterosexual after at least
five years of therapy. Additionaily, 56%
of the men and 18% of the women still said
they fantasized about the same sex.
Anti-Gay activists have long claimed
that tens of thousands of people have gone
from Gay to straight. But after a review of
the most "’successful" 200 cases, it is clear
that the failure rate of conversion therapy
is high. This is why Spitzer acknowledged
having "great difficulty" in finding nonreligious
therapists able to refer clients
whom had successfully changed their
sexual orientation.
Another study by Ariel Shidlo and
Michael Schroeder, represents a more realistic
picture of conversion therapy efforts.
TheNew York psychologists studied
202 subjects who tried to change their
sexual orientation, and found that 97%
failed to change in any meaningful way.
And of the 3% who claimed to have fully
changed, all but one work as "conversion"
counselors.
Until society is freefrom anti-Gay prejudice,
people will feel compelled or be
coerced into attempting to change. While
new research on this controversial subject
is welcome, Spitzer’s study does not further
enhance the current debate. It only
offers a view that is long on right-wing
influence and short of objective data.
by Lamont Lindstrom
Here is a childhoodmemory: Iamriding
the bus to school - fifth grade, I think. I’m
relaxed, looking about here-and-there: At
other kids, out the window, at myself refleeted
in the window, and
- oh my god! - I’m wearing
a yellow shirt! And it’s
Queersday! Thursday, that
is. I can’t anymore remember
all the indignities, but
friends and enemies used
hands and tongues to reprimand
me for breaking one
of the sacred rules of
schoolyard society: Only
queers would wear yellow
on Thursday.
We followed a complicated
and often cruel kid
culture full of beliefs, rituals,
and regulations. These
rules starkly delineated the
normal from the abnormal,
the acceptable from the
forbidden. Many focused
on appearance. Boys cross
their legs at the knee, gifts
at the ankle. Boys carry
books at the side, girls
complicated and often
cruel kid culture furl of
beliefs, rltuals, and
regulations... Many
focused on appearance.
Woe was he, or she, who
failed to monitor the
body... It is an easy
guess that playground
taboos refleet children’s
attempts to grapple with
gender... [trying to fit]
ourselves into an adult
world of maseuline
and feminine...’"
cuddled in front. Boys do not stand with
hands on hips akimbo. Woe was he, or she,
who failed to monitor the body.
Schoolyard surveillance was. painstaking
if sometimes quirky. Be cai~ful not to
wear a shirt with a little loop in the middle
of tim shoulders. Playground police’would
rip off these fruit-loops just as they did the
fagtags on Polo shirts. And when I made it
to high school, the heavy question was
which ear to pierce. Boys who pierced
their right ears were likely fags. Left, we
all knew, was right.
Folklorists have recorded many similar
elements of kid lore around America.
Queersday still exists, although the day in
question differs from place to place, as..
does the tabooed color (yellow or green in
some towns, and redin others) Itis aneasy
guess that playground taboos reflect
children’s attempts to grapple with gender.
All of us experienced the challenge of
fitting ourselves into an adult world of
masculine and feminine. We had to be
boys or gifts. Anything in-between was
to(~ upsetting to contemplate. It could imply
that those vital categories, male and
female, weren’t as solid as we needed to
believe they were. Rather than doubt our
categories, we witch-huntedfags and dykes
- failed boys and inadequate gifts.
Folklorists al so collect elaborated, adult
versions of schoolyard culture Jan
Brunvand, for one, has published a series
of collections of urban legends. These are
stories, presented as the truth, that circulate
by word-of-mouth and, increasingly,
over the Internet. (Several excellent
websites, including www.urbanlegends.
corn andwww.snopes2.com, track
new legends and also maintain story archives.)
Just as playgroundfolklorereflects kids’
gender anxieties, we can suppose that urban
legends similarly express areas of
ambiguity and disquiet in everyday American
life.
Accounts of Kentucky-fried rats, for
example, are plentiful: couple goes to fastfood
chicken joint, drives through, buys a
bucket, and chows down. Wife says, "Gee
honey, my chicken tastes
funny !" Husband turns on
light and both are shocked
to see thatWifehas chewed
through hunk of rat, tail
still hangs from the breading.
Couple rushes io lawyer
and sues chicken joint
for XXXX dollars.
A pervasive feature of
contemporary American
life is that we eat food
cooked by strangers (and
poorly paid strangers, at
that). The rat story, and
many similar, reflect and
express the anxieties that
fast food engenders.
Similarly, stories of
poodles in the macrowave
shadow worries about technology
we neither understand
nor completely control:
old lady who on rainy
days dries her toy poodle in
her oven gets new microwave as a gift.
Next time dog gets wet she pops it into the
microwave. Poodle explodes.
Computer virus hoaxes, or stories of
people having cybersex with someone who
mrus out to beMom or Dad, reflect similar
alarms about complex technology.
Many Americans also are worried and
disquieted by homosexuality. Not surprisingly,
their anxiety has sparked a genre of
Gay-themed urban legends. But notably,
there are not that many of these.
Snopes.com archives ouly five, and all
date back several decades or more. The
hoary legend of the horrified college student
puzzled by rectal pain who discovers
his roommate has been drugging him
nightly to have his way with hirn can be
traced back, in one form or another, to the
1880s.
Also decades old is the legend of the
rock star (Elton John, David Bowie, Mick
Jagger, Jon Bon Jovi, Li’l Kim, Britney
Spears, etc. etc.) who is rushed to hospital
after collapsing on stage to have [insert
your number here] gallons of semen
pumped from stomach.
Three other Gay-themed legends were
all first collected back in the 1980s: (!)
Guy goes home with woman who, playfully
it seems, ties him up. But then Batman
(or other masked person) emerges from
closet to leap his bones; (2) a movie will
-soon be released portraying Jesus as Gay;
and, perhaps the most notorious, (3) closeted
cdebrity has trouble with his gerbil.
But several newer legends have surfaced
that reflect fear of AIDS: AIDS
Mary or AIDS Harry - the trick who
disappears after writing "welcome to the
world ofAIDS" on your bathroom mirror;
and stories of AIDS-infected needles left
sticking out of theater seats or public telephone
change return slots.
We can hope that the decline of Gaythemed
urban legends see Studies, p. 11
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NOW... you are thinking, no way.., itis
about sex. Thanks to the media, we tend
to be an incredibly sexual society. Well
okay, sexuality has some to do with it too,
but it is only an expression of the feeling of
acceptance and security they feel in the
relationship.
What kind of behavior should be "socially
acceptable" for GLBT people? Or
better yet, what would the heterosexual
society find acceptable behavior?
"MEN will refrain from hugging, kissing,
or holding hands in public; firm handshakes
only. WOMEN will be permitted
to hug, and to kiss each other on the cheek.
ANY public expression of sexual or romantic
interest in members of the same
gender will be unacceptable. WOMEN
will shop in the Women’s Department at
Sears; men in the Men’s Department.
EACH woman will find aman to live with,
change her last name to match his, and
maintain their home. CHILDREN will be
optional, but encouraged."
So, how many heterosexuals do YOU
know that follow this .code of conduct? So
if we all acted that way, they’d love us..
yeah right. Whoever believes that, I would
strongly suggest to get out of your
"CandyLand" world of beliefs. But what’ s
so great about their rules that we should be
asking for permission to assimilate? Rules,
if they are not clear should be questioned
and changed, if need be.
Those rules say that men must be Men
and womenmust be Women (and children
are the property of biological parents).
They say that everyone should conform to
a standard code of conduct, dress, and
even beliefs. People who don’t conform
may (or may not) be tolerated, but will
never be treated like equals. As for sex..
the rules are both silly and oppressive, and
they’re observed with such hypocrisy it
isn’t funny. Can we say Neanderthal...?
I’m positive that these social standards,
right out of?Father Knows Best," refers to
are a limiting set of nfles: this is acceptable,
that is not. But for me, one of the
benefits ofbeing LesbianAND outspoken
has been that it made me question those
rules.., and ultimately reject those that
didn’t make sense. Don’t ask me to go
back to them; I’d rather go forward.
Rather than a rigid rule book, why don’t
we instead outline something positive to
aspire to? After all, if we must negotiate,
I’d rather do it from a position of strength.
.. of pride in the example we have to offer,
not one of shame and embarrassment.
Here is my revised, socially accepting
behavior for EVERYONE: "WE will accept
others, regardless of the way they
look, dress, talk, or act. WE will support
people’ s right to do whatever they want in
their bedrooms, regardless of whether we
want to do it ourselves. WEwill be honest
about who we are, rather than pretending
to be what others want us to be.WEwill let
people believe things we don’t bdieve,
and express opinions we don’t share. WE
will never negotiate away the righ( to be
whoever we are."
PS: Go visit a nursing home and make a
friend... STOP the abuse and neglect of
the elderly.
that the law cannot be enforced statewide.
"This is a good day for privacy and
fairness in Minnesota," said Charles
Samuelson, executive director of the
MnCLU. "By inviting the governmentinto
every bedroom in the state, this law was
dearly unconstitutional - which is why
the court struck it down."
Gov. Jesse Ventura agreed, his spokesman
said. "It’s consistent with the
governor’s philosophy that there are some
things the government has no business
making laws about," said John Wodele.
"He sees this as a welcome decision."
Rep. Phyllis Kahn, DFL-Mirmeapolis,
has tried unsucessfully more than once to
repeal the provision through legislative
channels. She had a bill ready again this
year, but never introduced it because she
was waiting to see the outcome of the court
case. "I obviously thinkit is terrific," Kahn
said of the ruling. "I always thought that
law was unconstitutional."
Tom Prichard, president of the Minnesota
Family Council, disagreed. "This is
another case of blatant judicial activism
where a judge decides to make the law
rather than interpret it," Prichard said. He
said the issue should be decided by the
Legislature.
Matt Coles, director of the ACLU’s
Lesbian and Gay Rights Project, says 35
states, including Minnesota, havehad their
sodomy laws either repealed by legislatures
or struck down by the courts. In
1961, all 50 states had sodomy laws on the
books. "One more down, 15 to go," Coles
said after hearing about ’the Minnesota
j.udge’s decision. "We absolutely are gomg
to stay with it."
Minnesota’s taw prohibits oral and anal
sex between any adults, including married
couples and disabled people who cannot
engage in any other form of intimacy.
Penalties include up to a year injail and up
to $3,000 in fines.
For years, efforts to repeal the law in the
state Legislature were unsuccessful.
Although sodomy laws are rarely enforced,
Coles says they can be used against
proponents ofdomesticpartners ordinances
and other issues sought by Gays and Les-
- bians. ’The people who want to keep the
(sodomy) law onthe book, there’ s amethod
to their madness," Coles said. "The existence
of these laws are used to generally
delegitimize Gays and Lesbians in public
debate."
indicates dissipation of public anxieties
about homosexuality - the gradual
mainstreaming of Gay. But wait! Have
you heard about-Yahoo! shutting down the
porno sites? Have you heard that Rock
Hudson and Jim Nabors were married?
lsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
presents
Celeb
Diversi-ty
ti 2001
Saturday, June 2, 2001
TOHR Follies 2001
"Hollywood TimeWarp"
~..:Avondale Studio & Theatre (the old Delaware Playhouse)
1511 So. Delaware Ave., 8pm
Reception immediately following.
Tickets: $15.00, At the Door: $20.00
The Pride Store @ Tulsa GLBT
Community Center; 2114 S Memorial
or by calling 918.743.4297 or toll
free (outside Tulsa) at 866.335.9074
Wednesday, June 6, 2001
Tulsa Interfaith Service
Sponsored by TU BLGT Alliance, Sharp Chapel, TU, 3pm
Monday, June 4, 2001
Council Oak Men s Chorale Concert.
Presented by Tulsa City/County Library
"Diversity in Song"
Aaronson Auditorium, Central Librarym 3rd.& Denver, 7pm
Monday, June 4, 2001
Family Law Panel
Presented by Tulsa City/County Library
Law Professor Linda Lacey& an expert panel
Helmerich Library, 91st and Yale, 7pm
Tuesday, June 5, 2001
APt Exhibit: ,"Embracing Art"
IAll Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria Avenue, 6-gpm
Thursday, June 7, 2001
GLBT Film Festival
Sponsored by Tulsa City/County Library
AaronsonAuditofium, Central Library, 3rd and Denver, 7pm
Friday, June 8, 2001
TOHR Diversity Gala
Benefiting TOHR and Diversity Celebration 2001
"Embrace Diversity" Parents of Hate Crime Victims:
Speakers and Parade Grand Marshalls:
Gabi Clayton, Olympia, WA,
Dorothy Holman, Chicago,
Don Sinclair, Houston, TX,
Carolyn Wagner, Fayetteville, AR
"Community Hero" Awards presentation honoring
those in the local GLBT community.
Tulsa Country Club, 701 N. Yukon Dr., 7pm, reception &
silent auction, 8pm dinner, $100/ea. $1,000 table of eight.
Sponsorships available. Reserved seating available by calling
918.743.4297 or 866.335.9074
Saturday, June 9, 2001
The Pride Parade
Cherry Street (15th Street) to Boston Avenue to
18th Street to Veterans .Park
Stags at 3pm, Float/marchers begin assembling at lpm.
No entries after 2:45pro
Featuring:Entries from across the region
Community Heroes, Oklahoma’s largest Pride Flag
Diversity Festival
Sponsored by: Bud Light & Eastern Oklahoma Beverages
Veterans’ Park, 1875 So. Boulder Ave., 3pm
Featuring Entertainment, Speakers, and¯ more.
Sunday, June 10, 2001
Women’s Tea Dance
Women only dance, DJ, and live entertainment by Melanie
Fry, pipe & cigar patio, unplugged music circle, and more.
Greenwood Cultural Center, 322 N. Greenwood, 3-Tpm
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Wisconsin Lesbian Elected
To United States House
WASHINGTON (AP) - Wisconsin voters elected the
first opeuly Lesbian woman member of Congress on
Tuesday. But an acknowledged Lesbian House challenger
lost in Washington state and another was behind
in California. In Wisconsin’ s open 2nd District, Democratic
state Rep. Tammy Baldwin defeated Republican
Josephine Musser, the former state insurance commissioner,
to replace retiring GOP Rep. Scott Klug.
Baldwin, 36, made healtheare a cornerstone of her
campaign, saying the United States should adopt a
~national, publicly funded system like that in Canada.
’°Tammy Baldwin is a solid representative who happens
to be a Lesbian," said Elizabeth Birch, executive
director of the Washington-based Human Rights Campaign,
a Gay civil rights group that helped bankroll the
Baldwin campaign. "She has broken down a very large
door," Birch added.
see Baldwin, p. 10
Hawaii.+Alaska Voters
Reject Gay. Marriage
’Th~As;oc;’atedPress ~Stri~ggiingt; satisf~y~l~ot~.~0ei-al
conservatives and the law of the land, Hawaii on Tuesday
took another step toward banning same-gender
marriage, giving its Legislature the go-ahead to write a
new law. Elsewhere, Alaskans voted a Gay-marriage
ban into their constitution, and voters in Fort Collins,
Colo., defeated a measure to protect Gays and Lesbians
from discrimination.
News was more hopeful for Gay civil rights advocates
in Maine, whereindividual communities are fielding
anti-discrimination bills to circumvent this year’s
statewide vote that overturned protections on the basis
of sexual orientation. South Portland approved a Gay
rights initiative; Ogunqult’s vote on a similar proposal
was too close to call early Wednesday.
The Hawaii initiative was lawmakers" latest try to
sidestep the state Supreme Court’s 1993 ruling that the
state had no constitutional right to ban same-gender
marriages because that would deny some citizens the
rights provided to others. Because the U.S. Constitution’ s
Full Faith and Credit .Clause requires states to honor
each other’ s statutes and legal bonds, the 1993 ruling set
off some furious preemptive legislating around the
country. At least 30 states have now banned Gay marnage,
and Congress passtd the Defense of Marriage
Act, which denied federal recognition ofGay marriage
and allowed states to ignore same-sex tmions licensed
elsewhere.
The two sides in Hawaii spent millions of dollars in a
relendess media campaign. "It’s really sending aclear
message, a strong message, that the people of this
community will not allow homosexual marriages;" said
Mike Gabbard, a leader of the Save Traditional Marriage
group, seeVote, p. 10
UJ DIRECTORY/LETTERS P, 2/3
US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 ~ HEALTH NEWS P. 6
ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8
~ COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 8
BOOK REVIEW P. I 0
DO-IT-YOURSELF P. 11
DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P. 12/13
~ CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14
¯
200 Attend Tulsa Vigil
For Hate Crime Victim
Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends
Tulsa’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaper Available In More Than 75 City Locations
¯ The Associated Press & TFN- Matthew Shepard, a 21 year old
¯ Gay University of Wyoming freshman, was found severely
¯ beaten Oct. 7. He died Oct. 12 in a Fort Collins, Colo., hospital.
¯
His deathsparkedanintemational
"[your vi$11 represents]
a eommhment to an
end of vlolenee and
[to] appropriate
proteetlon under the
law... Matthew
Shepard’s death was
horrible and senseless;
it would be more so if
it. was in vain."
- Drew Edmondson
OkLaltom Attorney General
. .," outpouring of sympathy for vic-
¯ ¯ tims of hate crimes and calls for
~: a-federal hate crime law from
Clinton.
All across the US, communities
heldvigils andrallies tohonor
and mourn the slain student. In
¯
Tulsa, a group of about 150-200
¯ persons gathered at the Civic
Center Plaza. Anumberofclergy
¯ spoke, including the Rev. Father
: Rick Hollingsworth of the Parish
¯ Church of SaintJerome, the Rev.
¯ Leslie Penrose of Community of
: HopeUnited Methodist, the Rev.
¯ Helen Calloway of the Unity
: Church and the Rev. Russell Bennett of Fellowship Congrega-
¯ tional Church.
: Oklahoma’ s Attorney General, Drew Edmondson, sent a state-
: ment which was read by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
vice president, Greg Gatewood: "[your vigil represents] a commitment
to an end of violence and [to] appropriate protection
¯ under the law.. see Hate, p. 11
:
- Fayetteville Civil Rights
¯ Measure Overturned
FAYEFFEVILLE, Ark. (AP) -.Voters here rejected a resolution
: that backers said would have protected Gay people against job
¯ discrimination in city government. Final but unofficial results
¯ from Tuesday’. s .balloting 8howed7~811" v_otes against the measure,
6r58pe~-cent~ whil~ 5,731,or_42 percenL.we~_e cast in favor.
Known as the human-dignity resolution, the measure was passed
¯ by the Fayetteville City Council earlier this year, vetoed by the
¯ mayor, then passed by the council again in overriding the veto.
: It wouldhave required that all applicants for city staffpositions
¯ have equal access to employment, regardless of race, sex, reli-
: gion, color, national origin, age, ancestry, familial statUS, disabil-
¯ ity or sexual orientation, A group opposed to including "sexual
¯ orientation" on the list successfully petitioned to get the resolu-
¯ tion.on the ballot. ¯
Claudette’s Leaving!
Longtime AIDS Activist
Moving to Aggieland
¯
TULSA - For half a decade, anyone seriously involved with
¯ HIV/AIDS, knew Claudette Peterson. For a nu~nber of years, a
¯ Tulsan being tested for HIV anti-bodies likely had their blood
¯ sample taken taken and results given by her when she ran Tulsa
¯ Oklahomans for Human Rights HIV Testing Clinic.
¯ More recently, Persons Living with AIDS (PLWA’s) have
¯ benefited fromher tireless (and initially unpaid) efforts to establish
Food Chain, a food pantry and more. However, since her
¯
spouse, Tim Peterson has recently been taken a teaching job at
¯ TexasA&Mwherehe received his ph.D, Tulsa is losing Peterson
¯ to College Station.
Another prominent figure amongTulsaHIV/AIDS fundraisers
¯ and caregivers, Janice Nicklas, bemoaned Peterson’ s departure.
¯ "It’ s a major loss for our community.., she has tireless energy for
¯ developing resources for HIV prevention and care and we owe ¯
her a lot . . . anyone’s fortunate to have her living in their
community."
¯ Peterson noted that her work has been a labor of love, and is ¯
proud of the fact that she and Foo~t Chain have never had to turn
; away a client and they are now. serving over 100 PLWA’s a
¯ month. She notes that donating food has brought very diverse
: people together- drag queens working right next to conservative
church people. Peterson also recognizbA Audra Sommers for her
¯ very generous support ofFood Chain and other care programs as
¯ wall as support from the National AIDS fund, Tulsa Comm
¯ AIDS Partnership, the Rath Foundation, &Philip Morris Co. Inc.
: Tulsa Library Rever,s,es
Anti-Gay Paper Poltcy
¯ TULSA- Fornearlyfiveyears,Tulsa’sCity/County
¯ Library System (TCCLS) had refused to allow the ¯
distributionofGaynewspapers,TulsaFamilyNews
¯
in particular, in its lobbies. Early in October, TFN
¯ received a letter inviting the newspaper to provide
¯ copies to be distributed at the Central and each of
¯
the four regional libraries. Tulsa Family News is
¯ now found in those locations.
¯ The dispute over distribution privileges began ¯
when TFN publisher, Tom Neal, was representing
_" a now defunct out-of-town Gay paper and re-
" quested equal distribution access as magazines like
¯ TulsaKids, TulsaPeople and Urban Tulsa enjoyed ¯
a number of library lobbies. The response of the
." then TCCLS director, Pat Woodrum and the
¯ library’.s board of trustees was to change the rules
; to ban "out of town" publications.
Shortly after that decision, Neal began Tulsa
¯ Family News and reapplied as a local publication.
¯ Once again, TCCLS changed the rules to continue
to grant access to non-Gay publications and not to
." aGay one. Thesenew rules required that50% ofthe
¯ content of the publication be "local."
¯ TFN challenged TCCLS to clarify how it was ¯
defining and connting local content. Neal notes,
¯
"we had issues where it appeared that we met the
~ 50% standard as we understood it and yet we were
¯ told we didn’ t have enough local content. Further-
." more, we documented multiple violations of that
: rule by other publications but the library administration
refused to respond to our requests to clarify
the policies and to explain their seeming tolerance
¯ for rule-breaking by other publications."
see Library, p. 12
World AIDS ¯ IAM Director Decides to Step Down ¯
TULSA~interfaithAIDS Ministries is sponsoring
¯
its annual World AIDS Day Candlelight March.&
¯ Memorial Service. As is customary, the event is on
¯ December 1 st,Tuesday andwill beginat 6:30 at the
parkinglot of Centenary United Methodist Church
¯
(631 North Denver) just north of downtown. The
¯" march begins to the Parish Church of Saint Jerome
(205 West King) at about 7pro and the memorial
service will start about 7:30. There is a reception
¯
following the service. Marchers are asked to bring
: banners & bells, but candles & matches will be
¯ provided. St. Jerome will be accessible to the
disabled at the east entrance.
¯ Also, this will be the last World AIDS Day for
which ]AM’ s executive director ofmany years will
¯ serve. Diane Zike, who helped found the organiza- ¯
fion when it was part of the Episcopal Diocese of
¯ Oklahoma’s AIDS care, will be stepping down at
¯ the end of the yearforpersonal reasons. Zike stated,
"my work in AIDS ministry has been a very impor-
¯
taut and meaningful part ofmy life fore the past 12
years. I regret the need to step down now from my
role as director but I will continue to be active and
supportive in any way I can."
TFN publisher, Tom Neal, noted, "Diane is one
of the unsungheroes of the TulsaAIDS community
- she has worked long and hard at great personal
cost." Info: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437.
: Blues Concert for AIDS
¯ TULSA-Walkfor Life will presentits 2ndannual
." blues concert later this year (the date will be an-
¯ nounced). Last year’s event was held at at
¯" Streamroller Blues and featured a surprise visit
from Hanson. The tickets to the event will be $5 at
~ the door and will benefit local AIDS care organizations.
For info., call 918-579-9593.
see Editorial, p. 3
Tul;a C~ubs & Restaurants
*Bmnboo Lom~ge, 7204 E. Pine
*Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria
*Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria
*Full Moon Care, 1525 E. 15th
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston
*Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
*Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114S. Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd
832-1269
592-2143
744-0896
599-9512
583-6666
749-4511
585-3134
599-7777
749-1563
744-4280
745-9998
834-4234
585-3405
660-0856
584-1308
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508
*Affinity News~ 8120 E. 21 610-8510
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor
746-4620
*Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15
712-1122
Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955
*Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S.-Peoria
746-0313
Cherry Sf. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742:9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
*Devena’ s Gallery, 13 Brady .
587-2611
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S~.’Peoria 744-5556
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
*Ross Edward Salon, 2447 E. 15th 584-0337, 712-9379
*Iqoral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595
Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq: Med. Ctr. 628-3709
Gloria Jean s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21st 742-1460
Learme M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning
459-9349
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney.
744-7440
*Sandra J. I-Iill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
341-6866
*International Tours
Jacox ~rtimal Clinic; 2732 E. 15th
712-2750
-~*Jared s Antiquesi i602 El 15th
’ - - ’ 582-3018
David Kanskey, Country Club Barbering
747-0236
~Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. i5
599-8070
Kelly Kirby CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466
*Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brady
585-1234
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd
584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31
663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place
664-2951
Novel Idea Bookstore, 51 st & Harvard
747-6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633
747-7672
*Peace of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15
583-1090
The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor
743-4297
Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74t01
747-5932
Richard’ s Carpet Cleaning
834-Q617
Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921. 747-4746
Christopher Spradling, attorney, 616 S. Main, #308 582-7748
*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square
749-6301
*Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria
697-0017
*Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria
742-2007
*Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis
481-0558
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling
743-1733
*Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis
592-0767
Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & U niversities
AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101
579-9593
*All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria
743-2363
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159
587-7314
Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6
583-7815
*B/L/G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
*Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201
*Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence
*Church of the RestorationUU, 1314N.Greenw°°d 587-1314
*Commlmity ofHope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale 747:6300
*Commumty Unitarian-Universalist Congregation
749-0595
*Council Oak Men’ s Chorale
743-4297
*Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S Delaware
712-1511
*Democratic Headqtmrters, 3930 E. 31
742-2457
Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics &
Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475
355-3140
*Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo
622-1441
*Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
*Free Svirit Women’ s Center, call for l°cati°n &inf°: 587-4669
747-6827
918.583.1248, fax: 583.46 15, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159
e-mai!: TNsaNews@earthlinl~net
website: http:Husers.aol.com/TulsaNewst
Publisher + Editor:
Tom Neal
Writers + contributors:
James Chfistjohn, Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud
Balry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lamont Lindstrom
Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers, Adam West
Member of The Associated Press
Issued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents of this
oublication are protected by US copyright 1998 byT~ J::.~. ¢L~
~and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without
written permission from the publisher. Publication of a r~ame or
photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence
is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted,_oaust
be signed & becomes the sole prope,rty of, T,~.~. /:.~Lg,’...ff.*~.*"
Each reader is entitled to 4 copies o~ each eoition at msmouuon
points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248.
Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438
*HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-6611
*HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral
834-4194
*Holland Hall SchOol, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
834-8378
HIV Testing, Mon/Thurs. 7-9pm, daytime by appt. only
*House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood
Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
*MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood
838-1715
NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral Pi. 748-3111
NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658
OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157 .
*Our House, 1114 S. Quaker
584-7960 ¯
PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152
749-4901 .
*Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria
587-7674
*The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 74105.
743-4297 "
prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 .
*R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 74%4195
Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159
665-5174 ¯
*Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8
584-2325
O’RYAN, support group.for 18-24 LGBT young adults
O’RYAN Jr suppOrt group for .14-17 LGBT youth
St Aidan’s ~ i~co ~1 ChurCh "4045NCineinnat4
p P , ¯ 425~7882
*SL Dunstan’ s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71St"
492-7140
*St. Jerome’s Parish Church; 205 W. King
582-3088
*Tulsa Area United Way, 1430 S Boulder
583-7171
TNAAPP (Native American men) Indian Health Care
582-7225
¯ Tulsa Cbunty Health Department, 46 16 E. 15 595-4105
Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only
Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, c/o The Pride Center 743-4297
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
*Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule
*Tulsa Community College Campuses
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Imagine a Lesbian or Gay activist who
left the country a few years ago and just
recently returned back to our community.
Talk about culture shock! She or he would
witness a brave new’queer world, one in
which GLAAD has accepted $110,000
from Coors, theHumanRights Campaign
(a Lesbian and Gay PAC) has endorsed
D’Amato for Senator in New York, and a
young Gay man was tortured and murdered
in Wyoming. Importantly for us,
these three things are not unrdated -
appeasement comes at a price - and that
price is not acceptable to us.
Weare writing (respectively) as aformer
taffer and former board member of
GLAAD/SFBA. Therefore we will focus
rathe GLAAD-Coors connection.
GLAAD (the Gay and Lesbian Alliance
Against Defamation) has accepted
$110,000 from the Coors Brewing company
to support its new "sexual orientation
in the workplace" training effort.
GLAAD was founded by activists such as
Vito Russo (author of The Celluloid
Closet) with a single, very spedfic rmssion:
to watchdog and critique the media’ s
coverage of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and
Transgendered issues.
It has strayed from that mission often to
deal with the substance of issues rather
than how they are covered. We believe
that conducting sexual orientation in the
workplace trainings is outside GLAAD’ s
niche.
No other organization in our community
focuses on anti-defamation. There is
plenty of defamation (some have lately
taken to calling it hate speech) runmng
around loose these days. GLAAD has
plenty enoughmediaanalysis andresponse
to do and litde enough money to do th.at
vital work, without implementing a new
: project with dirty money.
Much has already been said about the
politics of Coors and the politics of accepting
money from Coors. We would
like to emphasize our dismay thatGLAAD
would accept money from such a source.
When we were with GLAAD, RJR
Reynolds (Big Tobacco, a key backer of
powerful, homophobic North Carolina
Senator Jesse Helms) was also offering
the community money and some were
considering taking it!
So, we in GLAAD/SFBA back then
"did the math" and realized that taking
money from people trying to kill youjust
doesn’t add up to anything that makes
sense. Same for Coors once removed -
that is the Coors Foundations.
- Tom di Maria, Exec. Director, 1993-95
- Jessea Greenman, Co-Chair, 1990-94
GLAAD/San Francisco Bay Area
[Editor’s note: the Coors family wealth
has been closely associated with a number
of the most ultra rtght wing and anti-
Gaypolitical causes. Coors Brewing Company
was once the target ofa boycott due
to anti-Gay company policies. Coors
Brewing now boasts a non-discrimination
policy that includes sexual orientation
and. supports Gay organizations.
Coors Brewing has supported the Tulsa
Pride Picnic for a number ofyears.]
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At the present time. there are only 25 states that have laws against
homoffexuals, most nbted are; Alabama 20 years, Georgia 20 years, l~hode
Is and ant ess than 7 years nor more than 20 years, Oklahoma 10 years. The
homosexuals are working hard to get these laws changed to permit their
perversion ofour country, and it appears they are successfuq at it. "
A great many laws have been changed. Until 1990
our country. In 1986the U.S. SupremeCourtuph,
(in a 5 to 4 vote), noting that "prohibitions again
jurisprudence since the colonization of the countr
the laws of’he original thirteen states when they r~
outlawed sodomy. Noah Carolina’s original sodl
the abonimable and detestable crime against natur
adjudged guilty of a felony and SHALL SOl:
CLERGY".
the U.S. barred admission ofsexual deviants into
d the constitutionality of Georgia’s sodomy law
homosexuality have been a part of Ainerlcan
" Sodomy was a criminal offense forbidden by
fiodtheBillofRights. Until 1961, allb0states
ay statute nut: "Any person who shall commit
not fit tb be named among Christians... Shall be
ER DEATH WITHOUT THE BENEFIT OF
Without proper punishment of these, perveRs, u( great comitxy has become like Sodom &
Gomorrah. It’s gotten pretty sad when we allo’~ mmosexuals to teach our children that there is
nothing wrong with being *gay".- ttawthome I ementary public school, Madison, Wisconsin,
where lesbian TummY" Boldwln is Distriet Cotmty ~upcwisor, bes just one ofmany pilot programs
to teach against homophobia, At the direction of~[hoir teachers, Ist and 2nd graders made a book
titled "Everybody is Equal, A Book About Gay &. Lesbian." The book teaches our very young
chiltlrcn respect for homos, a.s well as the Ga~ Pride chant’Hay-Hay-Ho-Ho-Homophobia’s got to
go’and"Wewant rigbl,~tao*: 1ST&2..NDGRADERS!!! OneolderstudenL whenaskedwhatshe
had learned, statedshe’loaksatitlnadifferentlight. Toknowwhatbeinggay isallabout, it’snot
actually diffcrent from anybody else".
Cambridge Mass. schools hold functions like a Gay Family Photo Exhibit on school grounds, and
another celebrates Gay Pride Day as a holiday. Third graders n New York earn tolerance for
borons, tlomosexuals argue that wbat consenting adults do in the privacy oftbeir home is protectod
under lhe tight to privacy. Vsctlmless crimes, sucKas the possession and distribution ofillegal drugs
do not escape the law where they are committed at home; right to privacy in no way allows one to
break the law. Not State law and not God’s !aw...sodomy is a crime and must be prosecuted. By
dolng nothing and allowing sodomites to run amuck, just look around and see where our morals are
today. Prison terms for sodomy are designed to punish persons who undertake by unatural and
indecent methods to gratify a perverted and depraved sexual appetite which is an offence against
public dccancy and morality. To i mprison a conlinnod homosexual is like throwing Brer Rabbit i nto
the briar patch To ~ve our nation we need the DEATII PENALTY to put an end to the sodomites
~erverslon ofour country.
Can honmsexuals repent and be saved I I Corinthians 6:1 I)? A few are, but this still
does not mean society eannol INSTITUTETHE DEATI I PENALTY for this crime, just
as it has for the crime of murder. No one says a murderer cannot repent and come to
Christ, nor does society allow such a conv~’sion to stop the death penalty from being
carried out. Lev. 20:13: "Ira man lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman both of
.them have committed an abominatiott. They shall surely be put to death".
Asa did that which was right in the eyes ofthe I.ord, and hc tookaway the sodimites out
of the hind (IKings 15:12). ]-lad Asa execu~.d these sexual deviants, Jehnsaphat
wouldn’t have had to remove the remaining sodomites out ofthe land (I Kings22: 46).
The Death Penalty is our only answer to ensure these pe~’erts are out ofour contr~’ and
stay out for good. ]
But God is love, oh yes, God is love ~nd if you love God, you will keep his
commandment {Matt 22:37 and Jol~ 14:15). So for our people to keep the
commandment of l.ev. 20:13 is tO love Grd. Romans 1:2~-32: :,re have changed.the .
troth ofGod into a lie. worshippingand se~ing the creature more than the Creatbr. God
has given us up to qle afflictions, even our woman go against nature, ~nd likewise also
the men burned in their lust one toward another, They \vhich commit such things arc
worthyofdeath, SodomandGomorrahwcredestro.vedforsuchthings. Ourendcould
be #n uch worse ifwe don’t follow God’s law’.and uphold the Death Panahy forsodom):
Pastor Pete Peters points out in his book,"Death Panalty for Homosexuals" that the top
6 leading scrialki||ers in the U.S- are: Donald | larvt:y - 37 killed. John \Vay’ne Gaq." - 23
killed. Patrick Keamev - 32 killed, Bruce Davis - 28 killed. Core Henley Brooks - 27
killed. Juan Corona -’25 killed, al! of which were homosexuals; add to that Jeffrey
Dahalcr.
In closing. I would like to poinrout that God has the answer to all our problems. God
has Ills law and the law is good tfa man use it lawfully( I Timothy 1 :g-I 0).
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"To save our nation, we need the DEATH PENALTY t~
put an end to the sodomites perversion of our country." No
doubt, your reaction is much like mine was - this is ludicrous,
almostlaughable! Andthatreactionis increasedwhen
we note the source: the extremely disreputable, publicityhungry
ex-Klansman, the "Reverend" Jonny Lee.Cleary.
But just as the extremist rhetoric of anti-abortiomsts has
created a climate in which extremists murder in order to
"save lives," this adds to a climate in which Lesbian and Gay
lives .(and those of our non-Gay friends who shand by us) are
already devalued and at risk.
Though ultra conservative political groups, like the Family
Research Council, Focus on the Family and the Republican
Party now distance themsdves from recent violence
against Lesbians and Gay men, their systematic attacks onus
and their exploitation of anti-Gay fear for political gain also
have helped create a climate ripe for violence.
Murdered University of Wyoming student Matthew
Shepard’ s death was horrible but it was not the only one of
its type, nationally or even locally. According to Kelly
Kirby, 1ongtimeTulsacivilrights activist, therewas one Gay
man murdered each .year from 1991 to 1996. And yet when
Tulsans held a public vigil for Shepard, not one elected
official came or sent a representative. Mayor Savage was out
of town but surely some one member of her staff could have
shown up? What about the district attorney? Only former
DA Bill LaFortune came and that reflects not only on his
decency and compassion see Penalty, p.14
Ray of Light Campaign Invites Gay People To Tellof Experiences With Ex-Gay Ministries
by Wayne Besen . Of course, you would never see a cover story about a
HRC Associate Director of Communications ".
It is morning once again, and as you rub your tired
eyes and peer into the unforgiving bathroom mirror, the "
shiny reflection of your head is a painful reminder that
you look just as much like Kojac as the day before.
Although your friends say you should learn
to accept your baldness, you desperately
want to change and have spent years pursu-
: ing the latest hair growth remedies to no
: avail. But today is your lucky day. While
: sipping the morning coffee, you pick-up a
¯¯ copy of a respected news magazine and a
bold, splashy headline proclaims: BALD
: FOR LIFE? Underneath the headline, two
¯ smiling, bushy haired people, who look en-
~ thralledby their new hair-dos, claim to have
: been "cured" by a miracle hair tome, corn-
: blued with bible study.
Ecstatic, you excitedly turn the pages un-
: til youf’md the story about this new "miracle
." cure." But as you read on, your enthusiasm
¯ quickly begins to diminish. First, you find
that the smiling mop-tops on the cover-page
: are full-time, paid employees for acompany
: marketing this product. Next, even the most
: fervent supporters claim that the success
¯ rate of this so-called panacea is a paltry
:
Currently, ~alse
notions about
Gay Amerleans
are beln~
perpetuated hy a
media whleh
erroneously
believes it is
honorable
journalism to
simply
regurgitate
sound bltes rom
both sides in the
name of bahnee.
30%. What about the other70%? According
to the company, the hair tonic is not working for these
folks because they are "not praying hard enough."
As you skim down the page, you perkup because you
read there is still hope! A competing company claims
that their hair tonic has a miraculous success rate of
71.6%. But when asked by the magazine reporter for
hard data to corroborate the claim, the company spokes-
person gli"bly repli¯es,. "I don’t have time to conduct
follow-up studies." How then, you wonder, does the
¯ company come up with a specific number like 71.6%
without ~’011ow-ti~ studies to document whether or not
: the patients sprouted hair?
~ The article then points out that the two scientists who
¯ founded the hair tonic formula have feverishly traveled
" to science conventions around the world to declare that
~ their invention.does not work as they once said it did.
~ They say that many people would he harmed psycho-
. logically if they pinned all ,of,their ho.p~,s a~,d dream~,on~
what they now Call a"fraud. The article atso states mat
"- all respected medical and mental health organizations
agreed with the inventors that the hair tonic was no more
i likely to help one grow hair than dipping ones head in
~ a vat of Ben and Jerry’ s ice cream.
¯ If that isn’ tbad enough, the companies promoting the
¯ hair tonic have taken out full page ads in major newspa-
: pers which have distorted a baldness study by one of the
¯ premier hair loss specialists in the nation. The ac-
"_ claimed expert retorted acrimoniously to the lies by
¯ saying, "It was a complete misrepresentation of what
~ the research actually said. It was taken completely out
~ of context. I am horrified and angry and they are
¯ spreading an awful and destructive message."
¯ Your dreams of looking like Fabio are dashed for ¯
good when you read that of the people lumped in the
¯ 30% success rate category, the majority believed that if
~ thehairtonicdidnot work, biologicalbaldness couidbe
¯ overcome bywearing atoupee. The article ends with the ¯
testimony of angry ex-ex bald people who claim that
] they were misled and cheated by the hair tonic compa-
¯ rues. One company’s spokesperson dismisses the in-
] convenient complaints of the ex-ex-bald people by
~ saying: "Some p~.ople fall of the wagon."
~ You now sit m your living room, enraged by the
¯ misleading story, wondering how a respected news
~ outlet would g~ve this "snake oil" that has been so
~ thoroughly discredited, the slightest bit of legitimacy,
~ no less a cover story. Shouldn’t the ex-ex-bald people
~ have been on the cover, or at least been the focus of the
¯ story instead because their experiences are a more
~ representative of the vast majority who took the tomc?
~ Dojournalistic ethics and standards exist anymore, you
¯ wonder? Whoops, you almost forgot, it is 1998, ’‘The
: Year of the Journalist."
discredited, unsubstantiated, cure for baldness, or anything
rise for that matter.., except homosexuality.
When it comes to a so-called cure for Gay people, (as if
one were wanted or needed) veracity does not seem to
be of much importance to the media. In the following
passa~, all of the shenanigans attributed to
the ex-bald movement actually occurred in
the so-called ex-Gay ministries, from the
bogus statistics to the distortion of scientific
research, to the founders of the ex-Gay ministries
marrying each other and repudiating
these "cures." Yet, despite these gross irregularities,
the media still unwittingly legitimizes
"ex-Gay" ministries by not holding
them to the same standard of scientific
proof that they would demand from any
other group.
Advocates for Gay equality believe
these ministries should have an opportunity
to voice their opinions. However, the media
has a duty to research the accuracy of statements
made or statistics reported. Currently,
false notions about Gay Americans are being
perpetuated by a media which erroneously
believes it is honorable journalism to
simply regurgitate sound bites from both
sides in the name of balance. While balance
is important, it is not an excuse to eschew
accuracy and tough, fact checking. All statements are
not equally valid and it is the media’ s responsibility, to
distinguish factfrom fiction. Inmost of the news stones
about the "ex-Gay" mimstries or the Right wing ad
campaign in which these mimstries are highlighted,
fiction has been the norm and the truth has been a
For example, ex-Gay leader Anthony Falzarano recently
said dn television that nearly 80% of Gay people
were:molested as children. This is factually incorrec~by
any objective standards, withGaypeoplenomorelikely
to be molested as children than heterosexuals. Unfortunately;
because he is talking about Gay people, the
lethargicmediafelt there was noneed to hold Falzarano
¯ iecountableforhis lie. IfFalzaranowouldhave mad.e .a9
outrageous claim about any other minority group, ~t ~s
guaranteed the media would have followed-up and
excoriated him for his hysterical statement.
At the Human rights Campaign, our biggest challengeis
not countering political religious activist ~oups
whoexistmdeny us equal rights. The toughest battle we
face is getting the media to accurately follow-up on
outrageous statements made by these groups. As it
stands, our opponents can say anything they want about
Gay people, no matter how despicable, and they never
. havemanswer for it~Through lazy reporting, the media
has becomean accomphcemthe Right s discnnnnalao
campaign against Gay Americans by giving bald faced
lies equal stature to documentedfacts. It is our hope that
as the news media begins to evaluate some of their
glaring ethical lapses in 1998, they will consider stopping
the harmful practice of printing false information
about Gay people perpetuated by the Right without first
verifying the outrageous claims.
This perpetuation of myths by the media has forced
the Human Rights Campaign to start the Ray Of Light
(ROL) project. TheROLseeks to shine the spotlight on
these ministries so people can see beyond the rhetoric
andhearfromthe vast majority ofpeoplewhohave been
through these ministries and now call their techniques
psychological terrorism. This project will invite former
¯
ex-Gays from around the nation to share their stories
¯ with the Human Rights Campaign and lift the veil of
¯ secrecy surrounding these mimstries. The Ray of Light
¯ will:
¯ *Seek and chronicle the stories of former ex-Gays;
¯ *Share these smiles with the public and the media; ¯
*Compile information by leading mental health and
¯ medical experts on the most recent studies; and
¯ *Examine the literature of the ex-Gay ministries to
¯ look for flagrant abuses and fraudulent claims.
If you have been through these ministries, please
¯
submit your story so we can share it and help others.
~ Stories can be submitted, to: www.hrc.org/ncop/rol
Churches Create Hate
MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - Mainstream Christian denominations
are to blame for a climate of hate and
bigotry that fostered the fatal beating of a Gay University
of Wyoming student, a United Methodist
Church pastor says. "It’s not just the fight-wing
conservatives" who are teaching that homosexuality
is a sin and that Christian churches should shun Gays
and Lesbians, the Rev. Jimmy Creech said while in
Minneapolis recently. "I hold the church accountable
for helping to create a culture that allows violence
against Gays and Lesbians," he said. "Churches don’ t
intend for the violence to happen, but they lay the
groundwork for it."
Creech gained national notoriety" for officiating at
a same-sex covenant ceremony in his Omaha, Neb.,
congregation. In August, he was narrowly acquitted
of violating church law. He subsequently resigned
from his Nebraska congregation.
Creech argues that when the church denies clergy
members the right to perform same-sex ceremonies,
it is preventing them from "being a pastor to all
members of the congregation.r’ For him, "’This is the
denial ofmy freedom to be a pastor to everyone, and
that’s very offensive."
Crecch was in Minneapolis to preach at two services
at All God’s Children Metropolitan Church.
Theday before, hemetwith several Minnesota United
Methodistclergy andlaity. Recently,22United Methodist
members from Minnesota joined 344 other
Methodists around the country in asking the national
bishops to address the issues of treatment ofGays and
Lesbians in the church.
Non-Biological L sbian
Mom Shares Custody
NEWARK, N.J. (AP) - A woman who stayed home
[o raise a 2-year-old boy while her Lesbian partner
earned a living can share custody of the child, even
though she isn’ t the biological mother, a judge has
ruled. The partner, identified only as R.E.M., stayed
home to take care of the boy while herpartngr, S.L..y.,
worked at a hospital. The Lakewood couple decided .
to have the child together, chose a sperm donor to
inseminate S.L.V. and sent out birth announcements "
with both women’ s fingerprints on them.
Experts who follow Lesbian custody battles say the ¯
decision goes further than any other in granting bro,a,d ,"
custodial rights to a woman who is not the child s
birth mother. "-
"The court is satisfied that R.E.M. has been able to ¯
show that she stands in the shoes of a parent to the
child and should be accorded the status of parent in "
parity with S.L.V.,’7 Superior Court Judge Vincent ¯
Grasso wrote inhis decision issued Monday in Ocean
County.
Kate Kendell, who heads the National Center for
Gay and Lesbian Rights in San Francisco, called the
decision "an enormous victory ." "Our children have
as much right to a continuing relationship with both
parents as any other child of two parents," she said
Tuesday,
Thejudge’ s declsxon, however, lsn t binding stat -
wide and is inconsistent with an opinion issued in
Essex County in September. Two other similar cases
have yet to be decided in Mercer and Union counties.
"Right now, you have a situation that really cries out
for an appeal," said Paul Urbania, S:L.V:’s attorney.
’q’he law in New Jersey shouldn’t depend on where
geographically you’ re located."
One woman in Essex County, who said she helped
raise 4-year-old twins with her ex-partner, lost custody
of the children and vowed to appeal. Attorney
Robin Wernik said the woman will use the Ocean
County opinion to bolster her case.
Lawyers are stillformalizing thedetails, butR.E.M.
will likely be able to care for the boy for three or four
12-hour days each week while S.L.V. isat work, as
well as on alternate weekends, said her attorney,
Bettina Munson. R.E.M., a former bartender, does
notworkbecause ofapermanentdisability toher arm.
Both women must share the cost of supporting the
boy, identified only as A.J.M.V., thejudge said. The
boy, who was born on March 2, 1996, goes by the
surname of both women.
The couple, who met in 1989 and moved in to-
¯
gether in 1991, chose a sperm donor together with a
¯ geneticprofilethatwas compatible to theirs once they
decided to have a child. S.L.V. was inseminated
¯
because R.E.M. had had a hysterectomy, the opinion
¯ satd. The women went by mommy and mamere,
¯¯ and drew up respective, detailed family trees for the
baby. The relationship ended in November 1996,
¯
although S.LV. remained in the home until Septem-
¯ ber 1997, the opinion said. R.E.M. sued for castody a
¯ month later.
"BBC Apologizes For
¯ Calling Politician Gay
LONDON (AP)-TheBritish Broadcasting Corp. has
apologized to a Cabinet minister who was described
as Gay during a news program. Aides to Trade Secretary
Peter Mandelson said Monday he had received
~ a letter of apology from BBC chairman Sir Christo-
¯ pher Bland. Mandelson, who prefers not to make an
¯ issue of his sexual orientation, planned no comment
: on the letter, the aides said.
The controversy beganwhen newspaper columnist
Matthew Pards saidonalate-nightBBCprogram that
¯ Mandelson was "certainly, Gay. The remark came ¯
during speculation about the sexuality of another
¯ Cabinetminister, RonDavies, whoresigned as Welsh
¯ Secretary last weekbecause ofwhathe called a"lapse
¯ of judgment" with a stranger who robbed him after
the two met at London’ s Clapham Common, a popu-
: lar Gay hangout, and left together. Davies has given
: no clear explanation of what happened. But he has
¯ denied he was seeking Gay sex or drugs, even after
days of banner headlines and tabloid stories.
: Meanwhile, the BBC added to the controversy by
¯ ordering staffmembers never to repeat the remark by
¯ Parris, who is openly Gay, on any of its programs.
¯
That move provoked charges of clumsy censorship
¯
and of giving special treatment to Mandelson, a close
¯ adviser to Prime Minister Tony Blair and among the
¯" country’ s most influential politicians.
¯
Protesters included the opposition Conservative
~arty., severa! 9f whose.politicians were pursu.,e,d.by
the media over extramarital affairs when the party
was ~n power.
Also opposed to the BBCrs move was Northern
Ireland Secretary Mo Mowlam, also a leading member
of the Blair Cabinet. Ms. Mowlam said she and
other panelists on a Friday nightBBCradio talk show
were told not to mention Mandelson and the Gay
remark. "I’m not about to be unfair or unjust to
colleagues, but we’ve all state~,,very clearly that to be
given guidelines is insulfing~ she said during the
show.
The BBC altered.anews quiz program last week to
remove a running joke about Mandelson, but the TV
¯ satare program .Ha. e I Got Ne~ws For You.’?" was
¯ allowed to broadcast a Clip of the Parris comment.
i Schools LawSuits Help
"Prevent Gay-Bashings
¯ OAKLAND, Calif. (AP) - In the wake of the recent
~ death ofaGay collegestudeut, administrators, teach-
¯ ers and students methere this weekend to diSCUSS Gay
~ bashingin schools. They say lawsuits are a powerful
¯ weapon in the ending name:calling, harassment and
: violence agMnst young Gay people. S.chool districts
¯
that have ignored the problem are being held liable.
¯ No federal anti-discrimination laws cover sexual
: orientation, and Massachusetts is the only state to
¯ mandate such protection. But officials-fro_re, the U~S.
¯ Department of Education saidthat under T~tle IX of
theCivil RightsAct,new legal groundis being carved
; out to help Gay youth.
¯" For instance, a boy who is harassed by other boys
¯ because he is.effeminate may have a valid claim that
¯ he’ s being discriminated against because of his gen- ¯
der. Agency officials said they werelooking into such
¯
a case at a private school in the San Francisco Bay
; area. ’Tm n0t saying we came to tell you we’ve got
¯ all the magic bullets and fight answers," said Art
i¯ CCiovlielmRanighotfs.,,D’F~rpa~narktmlye,ntwoef.aErdeusctarutigognl’isngOfwfiicthe aosf
; many questions as you have."
¯ The issue has taken on new urgency since the Oct.
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12 death of Matthew Shepard, a Gay University of
Wyoming student who was beaten and left tied to a
fence to die, officials said. "When you don’t deal with ¯
sexual harassment, it leads to society accepting it, and
that leads to tragedies like that," said Gloria Estolano, "
who works in the agency’s San Francisco office.
Those attending the second annual conference hosted
by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network "
said lawsuits should be a last resort. "The last time "
students needed lawyers ,to g~t them through high
school was in the ’50s and 60s’ during the civil rights
movement, said Kate Frankfurt, an organizer of the ¯
gathering. What’s needed instead, she said, is organiza- ¯
tions that can stimulate dialogue on the issue.
Learning how to better run her own such group ¯
brought Veronica Lopez, 22, from Stockton to the ¯
conference. Lopez, a college student who works full
time in a day care center, said homophobia starts early.
She said a 4-year-old boy recently came to her in tears .
because a 5-year-old had just called him an anti-Gay "
epithet. "It shows the parents are talking about it, ."
because kids don’t even know what (Gay) is," Lopez ¯
said. "I thinkit’ s important that people realize we’re not "
sick people... I consider myself pretty normal."
Gay Man in NY SenateI
ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Thomas Duane, openly Gay ¯
and HIV-positive, describes himself as "distinctly "
progressive." TheDemocraticNew YorkCity Council- "
man is running for a seat m the state Senate that has ¯
rarely, if ever, been described in those terms. If Duane ¯
is elected - and the heavy Democratic makeup of his "
Manhattan district makes that very likely - he will ¯
become the state Senate’s first openly Gay member and
only the second openly Gay member of the state Legis- ¯
lature.-"I’m hoping to add something that has been "
missing from the debate in Albany," Duane said.
He runs as the recent beating death of Gay University ¯
of Wyoming student Matthew Shepherd focuses national
attentiononhatecrimes legislation, one of Duane’ s "
key issugs. Known for his outspoken support of issues ¯
relating to Gays, women and the disabled in.the rough ¯
and tumble city council, Duanehas said that the absence ¯
of hate crime statutes permits and, ina sense, encour- "
ages violence against homosexuals. This-year, he called
for can-cellation-of the annual GreenwiEii Village Halloween
Parade, clting rising anti-Gay violence in the "
traditionally tolerant New York City enclave. "
Such abate crimes law has been blockedinNew York ¯
by the very Republican-controlled state Senate Duane ¯
hopes to take a seat in. Senate Majority Leader Joseph ¯
Bruno opposes the law, saying it creates a special class "
of victim. "
’‘The state Senate has been absolutely backward,"
Matt Foreman, executive director ofEmpire State Pride ¯
Agenda, New York’s largest Gay advocacy group. ¯
"Someone like Tom is desperately needed there."
It is highly unlikely that Duane he will have any luck "
pushing legislation through the highly-regimented Senate
from the Democratic side of the aisle. Still, support- ¯
ers say his status is likely to hold sway in debates. "To ¯
have someone who lives with HIV talking about HIV- :
related bills will be quite powerful and I think his "
opinion willcarry real weight," said state Sen. Catherine ¯
Abate.
Duane is running for Abate’ s seat after she vacated it "
to nm unsuccessfully for the Democratic nomination ¯
for state attorney general. The district winds from the ¯
Upper West Side through Times Square downtown to
Greenwich Village and the Financial District. Voter
registration is 67 percent Democrat and only about 11 "
percent GOP. His opponent, Republican Karol Murov, ¯
has failed to mount mu’ch of a challenge, observers said.
Bruno spokesman John McArdle refused to discuss
Duane’ s candidacy. But in response.to criticisms about "
the chamber’s attention to Gay issues he said "the ..
Senate has responded to concerns of New Yorkers as a
whole." ."
Duane’s election would bring New York even with ¯
Arizona and California, which both have two Gay ¯
members in their state Legislature. Only Oregon and "
Maine have more. ."
AssemblywomanDe_borah Glick, the-New York’s
first openly Gay legislator, points to legislation r~quiring
AIDs testing for newborns and this year’ s mandate :
that people who test positive for HIV notify their "
: partners as si.gns that New York’ s Legislature is ill-
" informed on issues important to Gay groups. Yet
she sounds a cautionary note for Duane, saying to
expect at least some hostility. "I’m sure he will
encounter homophobia. I did and still do," Glick
said.
Gay MayorforWinnipeg
WINNIPEG, Manitoba (AP) - A city councilman
once featured in a documentary about Gay foster
fathers has won the mayoral race in Winnipeg,
becoming the first openly Gay mayor of a major
Canadian city. "It was a history-making night,"
said Glen Murray after returns showed him winning
easily over six other candidates. Winnipeg is
Manitoba’s capital and, with 667,000 residents, is
the largest Canadian city between Toronto and
Calgary, Alberta.
Murray, 41, became one of Canada’s betterknown
Gay politicians six years ago when, with his
troubled foster son Michael Curtis, he was featured
in a film documentary called "A Kind of Family."
Murray did not make his sexual orientation a focus
of the campaign, concentrating instead on economic
issues and moderating some of the left-ofcenter
positions he espoused during three terms on
the city council.
His main opponent, grocery-store executive
Philip Kaufman, did not raise the homosexuality
issue explicidy, thoughhe made references early in
the campaign to family values. Late in the campaign,
a local minister organized a prayer vigil and
urged voters to oppose Murray. "This is not a
matter ofhating anyone," said Bruce Martin, pastor
of Calvary Temple Pentecostal Church. "It’s a
matter of biblical interpretation."
Murray’s victory was celebrated by Gays in
Winnipeg. "It’ s apotent symbol that an openly Gay
person should be elected to a high post like this,"
said Chris Vogel, a Gay rights activist. "It contributes
to the growing sense that there’s nothing
wrong with being homosexual."
Murray, seeking to portray himself as mainstream,
said he would follow the practice of previous
Winnipeg mayors and refuse .to officially proclaim
a Gay Pride week in the city. In fact, he said
he _will try to avoid issuing such proclamations on
behalf of any group or cause. "We’re a city of such
diversity, of so many cultures," he said. "We’re a
city of great tolerance, ofhope and Ijust think all of
those values were reaffirmed tonight." There are
only a couple of dozen openly Gay politicians in
Canada, including two members of the federal
Parliament.
Bishop in Bind
COLUMBUS, Ohio (AP) - A bishop who performed
two same-sex ceremonies when he was a
Columbus pastor said it was an agonizing decision
for him to file a complaint against a minister for
performing a Gay ceremony. Bishop Joseph
Sprague, head of the Chicago United Methodist
Church, said he performed services for two men
and two women.
Sprague charged Rev. Gregory Dell, pastor of
Broadway United Methodist Church in Chicago,
with "failure to uphold the order and discipline of
the United Methodist Church." Sprague said he
:’ chose to write the complaint to avoid inflammatory
language he expected others might use.
Dell will be tried before a 13-person jury of his
peers. Dell said he didn’ t talk with Sprague before
conducting the recent service, but knew the bishop
would be required to file charges.
Sprague said before he performed the Gay ceremonies
he first discussed it with Bishop Judith
Craig of the West Ohio Conference, which has
jurisdiction over Columbus. "I told him he could
not use the marriage ceremony in that setting... I
toldhim that in terms of any ceremony he designed,
I wouldleave it to his pastoral discretion to do what
was necessary to providepastoral care," Craig said.
Sprague has refused to remove Dell from his
duties pending the trial, and said he isn’ t sure what
he will do if the jury votes to oust Dell.
Jocelyn Elders:
No Regrets
COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) - Jocelyn Elders,
who lost her job as U.S. surgeon
general four years ago, says she does not
regret taking such controversial stands as
advocating se~x education for kindergartners
and conitoms in teen-agers’ pockets.
"You look back on things like that more
than once, and I have tried to think how I
would have said things differently or
should I have said those things, and I have
to say I have no regrets," she said at an
annual state conference on sexually transfnitted
diseases and HIV, the AIDS virus.
Even the invitation for her to speak
stirred controversy. The state Department
of Health and Environmental Control last
month withdrew its sponsorship and
$40,000 in funding, saying Elders’ presence
would distract from the issues. That
left AIDS service organizations as the
primary sponsors, with funding frompharmaceutical
companies.
Eiders, who drew bursts of applause
and cheers from the audience of nearly
650, said she advocates explaining sex to
youngsters so they can protect themselves
from abuse. "We want tO teach our children
early that there are places that people
should not touch," she said in an interview.
What about leaving sex education to
parents? "We don’t let the parents teach
physics," Eiders said. "Your health is far
more important than physics." And if site
had a teen-age daughter? "I would never
want my teen-ager to go out on a date
without a condom in her purse," Elders
said, saying vows ofabstinence"are easier
to break than a latex condom.’"
Elders, the first black woman to be
surgeon general, held the job 15 months
until she was forced to resign in December
;t-994: ~Her downfall came. when she
said Gays and Lesbians must help save
children from the un-Christian religious
right.
Needle Exchange
Program Prevails
WASHINGTON (AP) -Even before a
congressonal bahon funds for needleexchange
programs became law, anAIDS
clinic in the nation’ s capital had set up a
private group to supply drug addicts with
clean needles. "This law is intrusive,"
said Jim Graham, executive director of
the Whitman-Walker Clinic. "It not only
tells D.C. how we can spend ourownlocal
tax dollars, but it tells charities like
Whitman-Walker how we can spend pri:
rate funds."
Congress, as part of the $520 billion
spendingpackage signedintolaw Wednesday,
banned use of local and federal funding
for any needle-exchange program in
the District of Columbia. That was on top
of a permanent ban on federal funding of
needle exchanges anywhere in the country.
The Whitman-Walker Clinic, one of
the nation’ s largest, has created a private,
nonprofit group to run theprogram, transferring
equipment, supplies and $50,000
in private funds to the new operation. The
Washington-based Drug Policy Fotmdation
gave the new group, Prevention
Works, an additional $25,000. "Sounds
like they’ ve. got some pretty sharp lawyers,"
said Rep. Todd Tiahrt, R-Kan.,
who sponsored the ban.
The clinic gets $7 million a year in
federal and local government dollars and
has operated a clean-needle exchange for
three years. It got $210,000 from the dis- -
trict last year for the effort and raised
$50,000 from private donors. Last month,
its van disU-ibuted 17,000 needles. Prevention
Works should have. enough resources
to keep the needle-exchange van
rnnning for four or fivemoremonths, said
Graham, who is running for City Council.
Needle exchanges are operatingin about
100 U.S. cities. Supporters say such programs
help prevent the spread ofAIDS by
allowing addicts to exchange contamimated
needles for dean ones. Opponents
contend the programs encourage drug
abuse.
Eleanor Holmes Norton, the distriCt’ s
delegate to Congress, called the provision
"callous... (and) ignorant, because the
entire scientific establishmenthas reached
the same conclusion: Needle exchange
markedly reduces AIDS infection and
deaths without spreading drug abuse." Its
racial implications are inescapable, she
said, because AIDS is hitting black and
Hispanic populations the hardest. Last
year, she said, the District’s AIDS rate
was nine times the national average.
Tiahrt and Sen. Jolm Ashcroft, R-Mo.,
the Senate sponsor of the ban, cite Canadian
studies they say demonstrate that
. clean needle programs have failed to reduce
the spread of HIV. "’Wherever the
needle exchange programs took place,
theybecame hubs for drug activity," Tiahrt
said. Addicts~ need "help ~o get off drugs,
not help to get new needles." A possible
White House contender, Ashcrofl likens
needle exchange programs to the idea
"that providing bulletproof vests to bark
robbers would make it safer for them to
rob banks."
The authors of the Canadian studies
have said congressional leaders misinterpreted
their report. Because the programs
served inner-tory neighborhoods, they
served users.already at the.greatest risk of
infection, they said, and the programs did
not provide enough syringes to be effecfive.
Investors Suing
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: wEsT PALM BEACH, Fla. (AP) - A
¯ group of mvestors has sued two compa-
¯¯ nies that buy and sell life insurance policies
ofterminallyill patients, saying medi-
¯ cal advances are keeping AIDS patients
¯ alive longer. ¯
¯ The two companies targeted in the lawsuits
broker what arb known as viatical
¯ settlements. A terminally ill person, usu-
¯ ally an AIDS patient, sells his life insur-
¯ ance policy for less than the death benefit
to get the cash. The person who buys the
¯ policy becomes the policy’s owner and
¯ beneficiary and collects the full benefit ¯
when the patient dies.
¯ The deals were invented in the 1980s as
¯ thenumberofAIDS cases exploded. They
¯ have been controversial since their incep- ¯
lion because, in .crass terms, they are an
: investment in someone else’ s death. But
: the deals are touted as making the best of
¯ a bad situation. They often help AIDS ¯
patients pay for treatment and live out
¯ their final days in relative comfort.
¯ However, the lawsuits filed recently in ¯
Palm Beach County Circuit Court con-
" tends the system is falling apart. Medical
¯ progress means AIDS patients whomight
_- have expected to live only for another
¯ year are living for three, four or five years.
¯ Thelonger a patient lives, the lower the
¯ return. If an investor buys a $110,.000
: policy for $100,000, and the patient dies
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If the patient lives two years, the annual
return falls to 5%, in uncompounded interest.
At three years, it’ s 3.3%.
So for the investor, the deals are no
longer viable, said Mitchell L. Perlstein, a
Boca Raton attorney who is representing
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HIV & Elder, Sex
TAMPA, Fla. (AP) - Sue Saunders is 65
and has AIDS. As far as she’ s concerned,
the more people who know it the better.
Saunders pioneered aproject in herhometown
of Fort Lauderdale to educate Flori~
ans over age 50 about therisk ofde¯eloplng
acquired immune deficiency syndrome.
Her first challenge was getting the
attention of an age group largely ignored
when it comes to AIDS education.
"Yes, there is sex after 50. After 60.
After 70. People think after 50 we die
from the neck down," Ms. Saunders said.
"People look at you like you’re crazy.
What?You mean, Grandma and Grandpa
are still having sex?"
Ten% of all AIDS cases in the country
are people over age 50, according to the
Florida Department of Elder Affairs. In
Florida, the figure is higher - ranging
between 12% and 14%. One in eight Floridians
living with AIDS is 50 or older,
state health officials said. Yetwhengroups
are addressed that are considered.at risk of
contracting the virus that causes AIDs,
older Americans are often left out.
Eighteen months ago, Ms. Saunders
began inviting herself to small South
Florida groups to discuss prevention, promote
education and warn seniors to abstain
from sex or use condoms. "You’ re
telling people 50 to 90 years old: ’You are
at risk for a fatal disease. Youjust went to
bed with aguy and y,oudon’ tknow where’ s
he’ s been.’"
Ms. Saunders was healthy and active.
She was divorced, in love and in a longlime
relationship. HerBahamianboyfriend
was the spark of her life. They spent lazy
days on the water, fishing. Life was good.
That was in 1990: Suddenly, her boyfriend
was diagnosed HIV positive. Nine
months later, he was dead. She feared the
same thing would happen to her and began
saying goodbye to her four grown
children.
A son took herto an HIV-infected doctor
in Laguna Beach, Calif. That visit
helped change her life. She dropped the
self-pity and went to the Broward County
Health Department but found little informarion.
After six months doing research,
she went to Bentley Lipscomb, elder affairs
secretary, who found $170,000 to
fund SHIP, the Senior. HIV Intervention
Project.
Ms. Saunders worked long and hard
getting into the crowded retirement condominiums
along Florida’ s Gold Coast to
give her message. In these building complexes,
women outnumber men seven-toone,
she said. "The women are starved for
affection. The men are having a ball. They"
can have all the women they want. "Ev~
erybody says ’it can’t happen to me. I’m
uot aprostitute. I don’ t fool around,’" she
said. "You’ie never too old. And all it
takes xs one partner - if he or she is
infected.’"
Older people are rarely targeted for
prevention. The health care system, including
doctors, often is reluctant or uneasy
about discussing AIDS and sex with
them, said Dave Bruns, elder affairs
spokesman. "Not only is it an insult, it’ s
rampant ageism," Bruns said. "Just who
do they think is buying all this Viagra?"
There are 67,282 cases of AIDS cases
statewide and 8,400 of those infected are
age 50 or older, according to the Florida
Department of Health.
When Ms. Saunders left the SHIP program
recently, the demand for lectures
was enormous. "Everybody wanted us to
come talk to them," she said. They were
scheduling 20to30 presentations amonth.
The project was so successful, a second
program was launched in the Tampa Bay
area under Edith Ellerson in June. She
encountered similar apprehension as she
started talking at senior centers, assistedliving
residences, senior nutritional programs.
Gradually, the audiences became more
receptive and willing to listen. She brings
condoms, urges listeners to be tested and
find out firstabout themselves, then question
their partners. "You’ re not only sleeping
with your partner, but with whomever
your partner slept with for the past five
years, and whoever they slept with - like
a pyramid or domino effect," she said.
Hemophiliacs to
Get Compensation
WASHINGTON (AP) - Last-minute lobbying
led to deceptively easy approval of
a plan to allow the government to compensate
hemophiliacs infected with HIV
during the early days of the AIDS epidemic.
The bill, passed by the Senate on a
voice vote, authorizes payments of
$100,000 apiece to compensate hemophiliacs
or their survivors for the
government’s failure to aggressively
screen tainted blood products.
The measure, which President Clinton
is expected to sign, does not put the checks
in the mail, though, because it does not
allocate any money. However, with the
authorization in hand, the bill’s backers
can lobby Congress to appropriate the
estimated $750 million it would cost.
The bill, named after Ricky Ray, a 15-
year-old hemophiliac from Florida who
died from AIDS in 1992, became controversial
late in the legislativeprocess, when
others who contracted the .disease from
tainted bloodtransfusions argued thatthey
deserved to be included.
Sen. James Jeffords, R-Vt., took up the
cause of the transfusion victims, and at
one point blocked consideration of the
Ricky Ray bill in an effort to force action
on a more encompassing authorization.
Sen. Mike DeWine, R-Ohio, said he
spent the weekend on the phone pressing
Senate leaders to move the bill to the floor
and dealing with the last-minute objections
of other senators.
Jeffords’ spokesmanJoe Karpinski said
he never planned to hold up the legislation
altogether, and dropped his objections to
the House bill after it became clear thathe
could not develop consensus to include
the.transfusion victims, potentially dou-
\
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b.ling the cost. Hemophiliac,~ m~d tra:>/;usxon
recipients were infected wifl~.~~,--,.,.,~.,..~.
¯
donated by people who carried th6 AIDS
¯ virus.
The Institute of Medicine, a scientific
¯ organizationthatadvises the government,
¯
later concluded that government caution.
¯ fear of criticism and inadequate leadership
delayed effective screening of donors
and proper blood testing.
¯
Hemophiliacs already have won
: $100,000 each from the blood industry
¯ through the settlement of a class action
lawsuit. Transfusion court victories have
¯
been more sporadic.
¯ Karpinski said Jeffords will try again
¯ next year toinclude transfusion victims, a ¯
move DeWine backs. "We should work to
¯ see that justice is done for this group of
¯ victims as well," said DeWine. "Wemade
¯ the decision that it was better to deal with
part of the problem than none of the prob-
" lem." "I think the precedent of this bill
¯ willmakeit easier to address the concerns ¯
ofthosewhohaveAIDS because oftrans-
¯ fusions."
School NamedAfter
Boy with AIDS
WESTMINSTER,Colo. (AP)-Ten years
¯¯ ago, a little boy from Broomfield began
first grade while 30 children stayed home
¯
in protest. Threatening statements and
¯ letters from parents demanded a separate
: bathroom and eating area for Ryan
¯ Sheridan, who was infected with HIV. He
¯ died ofcomplications fromAIDS in 1993.
Public perception of the disease has
¯ changed since 1988, but misunderstand-
, ings still exist. Reminding students, teach-
¯ - ers and admimstrators ol~the hard lessons
¯ learned about Ryan is a school named
¯ after him: Ryan Elementary School in
¯
Westminster. His picture, a plaque and a
¯ red ribbon hangin thelobby of the school.
"It’s tough to remember. People were
¯ backed in a corner and forced to deal with
¯
something they didn’ t want to deal with,"
¯ said Tim Sheridan, recalling the events
¯ leading up to his son’s first day in first ¯
grade. When the Shefidans, now divorced
¯
and bothlivingin ~Ihornton, told adminis-
: trators Ryan was infected, the Jefferson
¯ County school boarddecided to inform all
parents by letter that a student with HIV
¯
would attendJuchem Elementary School.
¯. Juchem closed in 1994 after being replaced
by a new school named Ryan Elementary.
¯ The letter caused a firestorm of controversy
that forced the school board to have
¯ a number of secret meetings with Ryan’ s
¯
teacher and publicmeetings to discuss the
¯
issue. Throughout, Ryanremained anony-
¯ mous to everyone but his teacher, the
principal and the school board.
¯
Ryan contracted HIV when he was 2
¯ years old from a blood transfusion during
¯ 9Pen-heart surgery. Teachers and admin-
¯ lstrators say Ryan taught everyone at the
¯
school difficult lessons about tolerance
; and courage, but AIDS educators say the
public still has a long way to go in understanding
the disease. "in my opinion, we
¯ haven’t gone all that far in 10 years. Our
¯ homophobia is what gets in the way of
¯ hearing about HIV," said Katy Fleming,
education director at the Boulder County
; AIDS Project. "Studies have shown that
¯ manytimes peoples’ attitudes towardchildren
(with AIDS) have been negative
¯
because of issues of sexual orientation "
¯ Although HIV and AIDS education is
¯ better today, moral issues still need to be
¯ separated from medical issues, Fleming
¯ said.
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wondering how I’d work her
in, huh?). A comedy about a
family of hereditary witches -
that actually gets the gist of
Wicca correct for a change,
even if adding a few "eyes of
newt and a liberal dose of
frogs" - and romance, the favorite
line will be the one
where one of the townsfolk
says of one of the witches
"Goodnews - she’ s come out!"
And, tomy delight, Stevie~ s
reworked "Crystal" is a major
theme in the film in the score
as well as sung. The advice
given in the film to those considering
or afraid of relationships
is well worth the price of
admission. Stockard Channing
and Diane Weist are absolute magic as the
Annties who pass on the family traditions
with liberal doses of love and laughter.
One of the lovely things about the film
is .that it deals with being perceived as
different, inhuman, "other" in the ’~mainstream"
world, and being a magical film,
how the wOmen of this family transcend
that difficulty. It very much has a Gay
sensibility to it and thus would be enjoyed
by those in our community especially, for
"I’m Beautiful,
Dammlt"
[Bette Midler’s
new recording]
is a standout
track that
should he a hit
in the dance
clubs, being an
anthem to
being-different
and eelebratln~
that dlfferenee
in .spite of the
flak it brin~s.
this season. It is Bette at her
best, full of everything from
tearful ballads ("One True
Friend") to bawdy blues (my
personal favorite, and new
theme song, "One Monkey
Don’t Stop No Show"), to
comedic with a message (another
theme song, a hiphoppin’
’Tm Beautiful,
Dammit!").
It marks a return to the
eclecticism that was one of
Bette’ s most delightful qualities,
whereyoumightdiscover
songs you’ d never find otherwiseifyouhadn’
t been liste~ning
to her albums. ’Tm Beautiful,
Dammit" is a standout
track that shouldbe a hit in the
dance clubs, being an anthem
to being differentand celebrat-
¯ ing that difference in spite of the flak it
¯ brings.
¯ Know someone that Loves Bette
¯ Midler? Perfect gift. Know someone that
has never heard of Bette? Perfect intro-
¯¯ duction.
James Christjohn, actor, writer, poet
¯ and Mac-guru extraordinaire provides
¯ TFN with entertainment news, commen-
~ tary and can be counted on for regular
¯ Stevie Nicks updates.
Gal-A-Vanting, Tulsa’ s new
tivities network specializing
in Ms-adventures for women,
kicked off its program with a
WomenIn the Arts nightat the
Pride Center on October 23.
While attendance was somewhat
thin, with approximately
20 women in the audience,
Gal-A-Vanting founders Joan
and Mary were still quite
happy with the event.
"Wedidn’ t takeinto account
Oktoberfest," Mary explains,
"And we are still developing
our mailing list and contacts.
The artists were really outstanding,
each with a style and
media that was quite unique~
We’re hoping to do a week
long show in the spring so that
the art exhibits can be stationary
and serve as an anchor for
performing arts such as readings,
music and so forth. And
this will give people a better
chance to see the works of
these fine women artists, and
support them by purchasing
their worl~ You don’ t have to
go to Eureka Springs or to Ptown
to find exceptional artwork
for your home."
social ac-
The
long-awalted
dance will be
held at the
Pride Center
on Saturday
November 14
from eight
p.m. tll ??? and
will be D.J.’d
by
Sue Knause,
who promises
to play a wide
array of tunes
for the
danelng
pleasure of
Tulsa’s
" play a wide array of tunes for the dancing
pleasure of Tulsa’s women.
With the smaller lounges in
the Pride center, opportunities
for a quiet conversation are
also available. Light refreshments
will be available and
the entry fee is $3 for singles
and $5 for couples.
"We’ ve had a lot of interest
in this dance, because somany
women like to dance but for
whatever reason don’ t care to
be arbund smoking or drinking.
It will also provide a nice
venue for women to meet new
friends and make new contacts."
says Mary.
The December Gal-AVanting
event will be a movie
night on December 16 at the
Pride Center, beginning at6:30
p.m. A feature film and a
couple of documentaries will
be shown.
We’re getting ready to prepare
our schedule of events
for the first of the year and
we’ d really like some ideas
from the women in the Tulsa
area of what they’d like to
do," explains Mary. "Please
feel free to call me with your
The long-awaited dance will be held at : wish list of activities at 743-6740. And if
the pride center on Saturday November . you’re not on our mailing/call list, please
14 from eight p.m. til ??? and will be : let us know, This information is strictly
D.J.’ d by Sue Knause, who promises to ¯ confidential and will not be shared."
Humperdinck’s
nse
rete
Parade of Lights.
Come celebrate the spirit of the holiday season
at the PSO Christmas Parade of Lights.
Saturday, December 12. Downtown Tulsa at 6 p.m.
View parade floats up close, Friday, December 11,
at the HolidayFest.(Brady Arts DistriCt) from 6-9 p.m.
Public Service Company of Oklahoma
A Central and South West Company
World AIDS Day 1998
Candlelight March & Memorial Service
sponsored by
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
Tuesday, December 1st
6:30, Gather at
Centenary United Methodist Church Parking Lot
631 North Denver
7:00", March Begins to Saint Jerome
7:30*, Memorial Service at the
Parish Church of Saint Jerome. 205 West King
Reception following seine.ice. *time approximate
Bring banners & bells~ candles & matches provided
st. Jerome will be accessible to the
disabled at the east entrance.
Into: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437
THE NOON NEWS NEVER
LOOKED SO TASTY.
The big news is Warren Duck Club’s new lunch menu. And the Horseradish Orange
Crusted Halibut with Apricot Basil Sauce is just one of the tastiest stories. From familiar
favorites, to late-breaking dishes hot from Chef Dan Broyles’ creative kitchen,
this is news to truly savor. Call 495-1000 for the whole story and for reservations.
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~ SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pro, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800
Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation
Service - 1 lam, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595
Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist
Service - 1 lam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314
Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church
Service - 1 lam, Childrens Ministry also, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc.
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210e So. Norwood
Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa
Service, 10:45am. 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America)
Mass - 1 lam, 205 W. King (east of No. Denver), Info: 582-3088
University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance
6:30 pm, Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780
Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals at 5pm, Info: 743-4297
~" MONDAYS
nIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard)
HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
7:30pm, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians.& Gays
2nd Monicach too. 6:30pro, Fellovcship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard
Mixed Volleyball, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 7pro, call Shawn 491-2036.
Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551
~ TUESDAYS
AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, 11 i 10, noon, United Way Bldg. 1430 S. Boulder
H!V+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium l:30pm
3507 E. Admiral (east of Harvard), lnf6: Wanda @ 834-4194
Multicultural AIDS Coalition, 11/3, 12:30pm, Urban League, 240 East Apache
Rainbow Business Guild, Business & prof. networking group, Info: 743-4297
PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE)
Tuesdays, 6 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297
!~ WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Family Of Faith MCC Praise/Prayer - 6:30pm, 5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441
¯House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pm, 3210e So. Norwood
Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225
TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632.
Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft.
~ THURSDAYS
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’ s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194
I~" FRIDAYS
SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, 1st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th
~" SATURDAYS
Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pro, Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2rid ft.
~OTHER GROUPS
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222
Womens Supper Club, Call for info: 584-2978
OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Info: POB 9165, Tulsa 74157,
Short rides, 6:30pro, Long rides, 7am: Meet at Z~igler Park,.3903 West 4th. Pride
Rides from the Pride Center, 3749 S. Peorial Write for dates.
Ifyour organization is not listed~ please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615.
Barry Hensley
~sa City-CountyLibrary
~lany Gay and Lesbian families have
rallies finding materials for children
h depict their family sire-
... In the past few years,
., has been a slow change
te publishing world and
re beginning to see a few
~ for children, early school
and .under, which depict
and Lesbian families.
ae trailblazer ~as Heather
Two Mommies, by Leslea
man, which stimulated
di "~
8t~’~
the
in
we
tifl
ag~
Ne
dis~ usslons across the country
and ’opened a new line of attad
~.on theGay community by
the Religious Right. A simple,
short book, it depicts a young
girl and her family: two pets
and two mommies. Heather
suddenly realizes that she
doesn’t have a daddy and becomes
upset. She is gently
shown other children who, for
a variety ofreasons, don’thave
fathers. Heather realizes that
there are many different family
situations and that she is
lucky to have two mothers.,
A companion book "i§
Daddy’s Roomate,by Michael
Wi!lhoite, depicting a boy
Willholte has a
third,
hilarious book,
Uncle What-ls-h
Is Comln~
To V;s;t.
It concerns a
youn~ brother
and sister who
.have just learned
that their Gay
uncle, whom they
have never met,
is eomln~ to visit.
They ask older
kids what it
means to be
Gay and are
horrified as the
stereotypes of
leather queens
and Carmen
Miranda look~alikes
spew forth.
Uncle What-Is-It Is Coming To Visit. It
¯ concerns a young brother and sister who
¯ have just learned that their Gay uncle,
¯ whom they have never met, ts coming to
visit. They ask older kids what
it means to be Gay and are
horrified as the stereotypes of
leather queens and Carmen
Miranda look-a-likes spew
forth. Their fears are shattered
when Uncle Brett shows up
and tunas out to be a normal,
everyday kind of guy.
Other appropriate books for
young children include The
Duke Who Outlawed Jelly
Beans, a satire on today’s polirical
scene. In it, the Duke
issues a proclamation: "I had
exactly one mother and one
father, and I turned out so well,
I thinkall children shouldhave
exactly one mother and one
father. Any that don’t- why,
we’ll throw ’em in the dungeon."
Fortunately, the Duke
learns the error of his ways.
For slightly older children,
ages 6-12, tryHow Would You
Feel If Your Dad Was Gay?
by A~n Heron and Meredith
Maran. Written by two Lesbian
mothers with help from
their sons,it depicts three chilwho’s
divorced father is in a long term,
canng Gaymlationship. AnotherWillhoite
rifle, not owned by the public library, is
Daddy’s Wedding, which continues the
saga of Daddy’s Roomate. Ask your librarian
to interlibrary loan Daddy’s Wedding
for you from another library system.
Willhoite .has a third, hilarious book,
"She has created an arch of hope that
future Gay and Lesbian candidates will be--
able to walk through." Baldwinis also the
firstwomanever elected to Congress from
Wisconsin.
Another openly Lesbian Democrat,
former Army colonel Grethe
Cammeremeyer, was defeated by incumbent
Republican Rep. Jack Metcalf in
Washington state. A third, Democrat
Chrisline Kehoe, was trailing in her bid to
upset California Republican Rep. Brian
Bilbray.
Gay Republican Rep. Jim Kolbe of
Arizona, bidding for an eighth term, held
a solid l(ad with more than three-quarters
of the votes counted in his race against
Democrat Tom Volgy.
In an Oklahoma rematch, Republican
Rep. Frank Lucas easily won. a fourth
term against Democrat Patti Barby, an
openly Gay OklahomaCity businessman.
Another openly Gay member of Congress,
Democratic Rep. Barney Frank of
Massachusetts, was unopposed for a 10th
term. Frank is an outspoken member of
the House Judiciary Committee, which
will consider impeachment charges
against President Bill Clinton.
In most cases, the Gay candidates and
their opponents kept sexual orientation
out of the campaigns. But 6ational Gay
civil rights organizations poured money
into the races, notably $1 million spent t~y
the Human Rights Camp~gn.
: drenwithGayparents.Ithasmulticultural
¯ characters andcompassionately shows the
¯ reality of different types of families.
¯¯ Don’t forget to check your local library
for information regarding Gay and Les-
¯ bianfamilies. Also youmay call the Read-
. ers Services department of the Central
¯ Library at 596-7966.
"People are taking a stand for traditional
mamage." Not surprisingly, Joseph
Mdillo, who with his partner and two
Lesbian couples sued the state when they
were denied marriage licenses in 1990,
felt differently. "It’ s putting into our state
constitutaon a discriminatory clause that
will distinguish us from other people," he
said.
Alaska’s constxtutional amendment
defines marriage as the union of one man
and one woman. The Legislature put the
question on the ballot after a Superior
Courtjudge ruled infavor oftwo Gay men
who challenged the state ban on same-sex
marriage. The judge said choosing a life
partner was a fundamental right and the
state had to prove a compelling reason to
regulate it.
In Fort Collins, a civil rights proposed
had become especially emotional since
the beating death of Matthew Shepard, a
Gay student from the University of Wyoming
who died in a Fort Collins hospital.
Ordinance 22 would have prohibited discrimination
in housing, employment and
public accommodations on the basis of
sexual orientation.
"National Gay civil rights advocacy
groups built this up as an important watershed
and I think it was," said Fort Collins
lawyer Jon-Mark Patterson, an opponent
of the ordinance. "I ~hink tonightitshowed
most people here don’t want the government
to take a side in a controversial
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by Mary Schepers, DIYD
Your.DIYD is fired and cranky, so let’s
snap to xt, get this fence up and get it over
with. After all, you’ve been waiting three
months to finish this project and it is
getting sooo tiresome. You’ve bought all
of your materials, put
up your posts and assembled
all your tools.
Your beverages have
been cooling and
you’ve got a pile of
pickets stacked in the
yard, and the neighbors,
the Nosey Parkers, are
still muchtoo interested
in your private life. So
put on that toolbelt
you’ve been breaking
in, and let’s work it.
The fence stringers
are the backbone of
your fence. If they are
on the inside of the
fence, you’ll want to
channel" your anal retentive
side and take
Your DIYD is
tired and cranky,
so let’s snap to it, get
this fence ~p and get
it over with.
After all, you’ve been
waitin~ three months
to finish this project
and it is getting sooo
tiresome... So put
on that toolbelt
y.ou’ve been breaking
m, and let’s work it!
particular pains to get everything level
and true. If your neighbors are getting that
side of the fence, one can be somewhat
more cavalier, though not messy, about
stringer placement.
For the perfect stringer array, you will
need enough string to stretch from one
end of the fence to the other, a spare body
for help, and a level. A chalk line won’t
hurt, either. There are small levels that
attach to your string and they are not
expensive; but if you’re tired of waiting,
we’ll make do with a regular level. Measurefrom
the groundup abouteightinches
and make a mark on the fence post on
either end. This will be where the bottom
edge of your bottom stringer will go.
Don’t worry, the tops (and the middies)
will get their chance momentarily. You
can no either stretch and attach a string
line from end to end, using a level to
ensure eveness, and mark the other posts,
or you can use a chalk line and snap the
mark across the posts. This saves time, if
you know how to use one. Attach your
bottom stringers withNo-Co-Rode screws.
drilling a pilot hole slightly smaller than
the diameter of the screw.
You will need help with this if you are
going for the perfect look. ff not, then you
can attach a 1x4 so that the top is even with
your bottom line. Do this on both posts
and use them to support your board while
you drive the two screws into each end of
the stringers. You can remove and reuse
the lx4’s as you go down the fence. The
stringers will meet in the middie of each
post, so if you’re over the length a bit,
measure carefully (twice!) and remove
whatever is necessary; if it isn’t long
enough, have you got trouble! The only
solution-is to b.uy a board two feet longer
and saw off the extra, and darling, that is
going to hurt.
Once your swingers are all attached,
you are ready to start putting up your
pickets, ff you are using Cedar pickets, the
wood is soft enough that drilling pilot
holes are not necessary, but they will be
for any other type of wood; otherwise, it
will split your pickets, and the possibility
of screw head cam-out is very much enhanced.
News Flash: your pickets will not
be even, square, or straight. Sorry, but this
would actually be desirablein wood. Keep
that level handy and use it when setting
each picket unless you want your fence to
develop a curious slant in a hurry.
Set up your first picket so that it is about
1/4 to 1/2" off the ground; put the square
in the middie of one side and move it
gently until the bubble is between the two
middie lines. Attach picket with the first
screw, in the middie.
This frees up your
hands,for attaching the
top and bottom screws.
Put two screws into the
picket at the top and
bottom stringer, about
3/4" from each outer
edge. Do the same for
the remaining pickets,
leveling each as best
you can.
As you approach the
end of your fence, you
will, unless most fortunate,
discover that the
last picket will not fit
perfectly, being either
too wide or too narrow.
Start paying attention
to this about a half
dozen pickets from the end. If you will not
be off by much, you can adjust the spacing
between the last few pickets so they come
out fine, otherwise, you’ll have to find a
way to np cnt an end picket, or to get
sneaky. You know what the DIYD prefers:
sneaky ways are deliciously evil and
always appeal, especially if they equate
with less work. On the DIYD’s last fence
project ( which is also the current fence
project...), a lx4" picket was used in the
last space, and the other pickets were
spaced ever so slightly wider apart without
being the least bit obvious. You’ll
have to play around with it, but if vou
haven’ t got access to a table saw to rip’cut
a picket, it is well worth it, and safer as
well. Rip cuts have a nasty reputation.
Now youare asking yourself what there
was about this project that took so long,
and the answer is the same as so many
others - prep work makes the difference
in any home project. It is well worth the
investment of your ume to measure, level
mad true up any part of your fence before
it becomes regrettably permanent. And it
looks so much more beautiful - mad darlings,
you are worth it!
There. Your DIYD is less cranky now
that you’ve built your privacy fence so
well. Rest up. We’ll have more fun next
month when we freShen up those fired old
kitchen cabinets with a bit of sanding,
some paint, and some more stylish pulls.
Matthew Shepard’s death was horrible
and senseless; it would be more so if
it was in vain."
Kelly Kirby, longtime civil rights activist
and Gay community leader spoke of
his family’s direct experiences with hate
crimes, including an assaultonhis spouse,
Ric, which resulted in over 100 stitches
being required. Kirby also claimed that
each year from 1991 to 1996, a Gay man
was murdered in Tulsa.
In New York City, participants of the
recent Fifth Avenue rally to remember
Shepard alleged that police beat them
with batons and ran into them with mopeds
and that police horses kicked them
because they had no permit for the event.
Police were dispatched to themarch when
about 4,000 people flocked to the event.
see Hate, p. 14
by Esther Rothblum
At a time when sexual orientation and
gender are being viewed as more continuous
categories, there is renewed interest
in the fluidity of who is a "woman" and
whois a"Lesbian." InmanyNativeAmerican
cultures, gender and sexuality have
not been as fixed as in western
cultures.
Recently, a number of
books have appeared on
"two-spirit¯ people," a term
coinedby Native Americans
for individuals in their cultttres
who are Gay or Lesbian,
or who are transgendered,
or who have multiple
gender identities. The term
"two-spirit" is an attempt by
Native American commttnities
to re-define their past
from the way in which it has
been depicted by white male
anthropologists,and also to
distinguishNativeAmerican
concepts ofgenderandsexuality
from those of the.western
Gay and Lesbian communities.
I recendy spoke with Sue-
Ellen Jacobs, one of the coeditors
of the book, Two-
SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican
GendertIdentity, Sexuality
and Spirituality. She
-said: ’¢Fhere are a number of instances
where there are Native women, living on
reservations, who don’t stand out, who.
don’t come forward. The Gay white men
who are out there studying Native American
men don’t see the women because
these.researchers don’ t recognize, these
Women as Who they are with~n their cul~
ture. Not many Native women use the
words ’Lesbian’ or ’dyke’ to describe
themselves. The researchers didn’t realize
that there was a movement going on
within the Native American communities,
the two-spirit movement."
Sue-Ellen Jacobs described instances
of"male-bodiedwomen"or "female-bodied
men" who took on the roles and became
known as being of the "other" genderin
NativeAmericancultures. AsJacobs
and the other editors state in the introduction
to their book: "Using the word ’two-
Spirit’ emphasizes the spiritual aspect of
one’ s life and downplays the homosexual
persona."
After experiencing several years of "discriminatory
treatment," and many efforts
to work out the differences with TCCLS,
Neal contacted Tulsa County Commissioner
John Selph to discuss what Neal
called"theseblatant violations ofthe First
Amendment" and his intention to file a
lawsuit to resolve the matter.
While Neal neverreceived any response
fromhis letter to Selph, shordy afterward,
TCCLS banned all free publications from
its lobbies- withthe exceptionofaLatino
publication, Imagen in the 3rd Street Library
which serves an increasingly Spanish-
spealdng neighborhood.
According to Neal; lmagen blatenfly
violated the 50% local content nile but
said he was told that TCCLS director,
Linda Saferite, approved that violation
because having the publication helped to
traditions
acknowledge that
the he-shes
and she-hes
. . . were amon~
the ~reatest
eontrlhutors to the
well-heln, and
advancement of
their eommunltles.
They were
(and we are)
the Sreatest probers
into the ways of the
future, and they
qulekly assimilated
the lessons of
ehan~in~ times
.... and people..."
." In the chapter "I am a Lakota womyn,"
¯ Beverly Little Thunder writes: "Most
¯
tribes that I have had the honor of know-
" ing have specificnames formenwholove
¯ men and women who love women... I
¯" can understand that theremay be a need
¯ by some to findapan-Native term that can
be used as a marker for the
general population of Native
Lesbians and Gays. We
are all so different in somany
ways, however. Culturally
and physically, we are all
different. Each tribe has its
own name, its own structure.
How canwe all even be
called ’Natives’?... The
words I would like to see
written about me and read
fifty years from now should
be words that reflect who I
am as an individual.’"
Came House, of Navajo!
Oneida descent, writes: "Our
oral traditions acknowledge
that the he-shes and she-hes
(those who hold in balance
the male and female, female
and male aspects of themselves
and theuniverse) were
among the greatest contributors
to the well-being and
advancement of their communities.
They were (andwe
are) the greatest probers into
¯ the ways of the future, and they quickly
¯ assimilated the lessons of changing times
and people. Recent studies into the lives
¯ of she-hes and she-hes have recovered
¯ models or near models of this rich, inven-
¯ tive, reverential, and highly productive
¯ approach t.o k.eg,ping balance within a s~-
¯ ciet~ viewed as an extension of nature."
Further reading, see: Sue-Ellen Jacobs,
¯
Wesley Thomas & Sabine l_xtng (’97).
¯ Two-SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican Gen-
: der Identity, Sexuality and Spirituality.
¯ Urbana, IL: Univ. of Blinois Press. Will
: Roscoe (’98). Changing Ones: Third and
¯ FourthGendersinNativeNorthArnerica.
¯- NY: St. Martin’s Press. Lester Brown
" (’98). Two-Spirit People. NY: Haworth
: Press.
: Esther Rothblum teaches Psychology
¯ at the Univ. of Vermont and edits the
: Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be
¯ reached at John Dewey. Hall,Univ. of
: Vermont," Burlington, VT, email:-
¯ esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
¯" serve a special needs population. Neal
¯ said his arguments about the Lesbian and
: Gay communities’ special needs were ig-
¯ nored.
¯
Neal adds, "I have no illusion that
¯ TCCLS made this change to accomodate
¯ Tulsa Family News. It’ s likely that given"
¯
the’society’ make-upoftheTCCLSboard,
¯ that the rifles were changed to keep Tulsa ¯
People happy rather than to be fair -
¯
however, I’m pleased with the result. I
: guess it means if you wait long enough
¯ andarepersistentenough, youwillacheive ¯
fairness."
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." Friends of Lesbians & Gays
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A Lesbian friend recently complained ¯ .ties. Women may not touch men’s bows
about the organizational shortcomings of " or arrows. Few women anywhere in
"Gay boys - They’re hopeless!" she ¯ Vanuatu drive vehicles. The night before
fumed. That same day, an- any important event, such as
other friend griped about A Lesblan a dance performance or socpacks
of Lesbians invading 17rlend recently cergame, menleavewomen
his favorite bar, poisoning
its atmosphere. Pleas for eomplalned about
behind in the village to sleep
by themselves. TheTaunese
Gay/Lesbian unity ("why the orffanlzatlonal practice the samesex taboos
can’t we all just get along")
shorteomln~s ot7
demanded by many Ameriare
perhaps as common as can football coaches: No sex
jokes that poke fun at this "Gay boys - before the big game! Every
continental divide in our They’re
. hopeless!" evening, men also go off by
commumty, themselves to prepare and
Public constemation about she ~ttumed. That drink kava (Piper
relations between women same day, another methysticum) - the traditional
South Pacific drug
differemntaennd -_good,evokedbad,memoi_nO-r t~rlend gaped substance that is becoming
ries ofmy years in Vanuatu. about pael~s o17 increasing popular in the
ThiSlocatedtropictahline archipelagOsouthwespta-iS Lesbians invadln~ U.S. as a natural relaxant.
Men assert that women can
cific-aculturalregioncalled h~.s 17avor~.te bar, strip away the potency of
Mdanesiathat also includes polsonln~ its kavamerely by touching the
the islands of New
atmosphere,
plant before it is prepared;
Caledonia, the Solomons, and drinkers bitterly blame
and New Guinea. RitualiZed hostility be- ¯ women, talking too loud back in the viltween
men and women is a cultural curi- " lage, for spoiling their kava high.
osity of much of Melanesia. Anthropolo- " Women endanger men notjust because
gists who first analyzed the phenomenon ¯ of their polluting vaginal fluids. Men are
labeled it "sexual antagonism," though " also threatened by naturally female crenowadays
we’d more likely call it"cross- " ative powers. Women are mothers. The
gender opposition" or the like. ¯ children they bear sustain the cycle of
Full-fledged sexual antagonism exists " human life and death. Women’s vaginas
notably in the highland valleys of New " are powerfully dangerous openings back
Guinea. My village neighbors on an is- " into the spiritual world inhabited both by
land called Tanna, on the eastern edge of ¯ the ancestors and the unborn. Men per-
~ Mdanesia, practice only an attenuated " haps fear the vagina as muelx for its lifeversionofgenderopposition.
Still,likeall ". giving as for its deadly powers. It’s a
Melanesians, they have’great ~ear and ¯ psychological commonplace that men are
suspicion of the body fluids of the oppo- ¯ jealous of natural female creativity. This
site sex. Men believe that contact with drives us, so the story goes, to various
menstrual blood and other vaginal fluids " sorts of "cultural creativity" - art, literacan
make them seriously ill. An anthro- ¯ ture, politics, business - as a sort of corn-
" pologistlonceknew, who worked among pensation for our inability to bear chil-
- the Enga of Papua New Guinea, attracted dren. .
much attention with his magnificent and ¯ Throughout much of Melanesia, along
luxuriant red beard, much admired by all. ¯ theselines,meniusistthatalthoughwomen
When people asked for hair-growing ad- ¯ give birth, only men can make boys into
vice, he liked to disgust and appall them men. On Tanna, fathers arrange male iniby
claiming that the secret was to rub ° tiation ceremonies for their sons. They
menstrual blood on his face. : circumcise these boys who then spend six
In many Melanesian cultures, women ¯ Weeks in the bush, isolated from all conretii’etomenstrualhutslocatedinthebush
" tactwithwomen.ElsewhereinMelanesia~
(outside the Village) during their periods. ¯ people believe that precious semen itself
One can imagine that many women look ¯ transforms boys into men. Male initiaforward
eagerly to these monthly vaca- ¯ dons include practices of ritual fellatio -
dons from thedailydrudgeryofcooking, ." young .boys masculinize themselves by
childcare, and farming. Nomenstrual huts : consnm|ug the semen of older, already
exist on Tanna, though men and women ¯ initiated youths. (Gil Herdt describes one
here rarely share the same sleeping mat. " such societyin his book The Sambia:
And a menstruating woman stops prepar- ° Ritual and Gender in New Guinea.)
ing her husband’s dinners. Men, particu- : So, next time those Lesbians (or, alterlarlythosewithrockymarriages,
aresome- ¯ natively, those Gay boys) invade your
times suspicious that angry wives may be " favoriteclub, whatis that sudden chill you
poisoning themby dripping bloodinto the ¯ feel -- is this the "death threat of sexual
cooking pots. : pollution," or a contentiousjealousy over
And if vaginal fluids don’t kill you, sex ¯ human creativity?
itselfmay. Melanesians also shareabelief " Lament Lindstrom teaches anthropol-
- one that reaches back into Asia - that ¯ ogy at the University of Tulsa.
men are born with a finite amount of ¯
semen. Worse, the faster one uses up his " NOW NOV, Meeting lifetime supply of semen, the faster he
ages and dies. Have too many girlfdends : at Pride Center
or too .much masturbatory fun, and you
die young! Fathers warn their sons about " The Tulsa Chapter of the National Orthe
deadly dangers of sex. Dry, flaky skin " ganization for Women will feature Lucy
Tamayo of DVIS, Domestic Violence
~s an early sign of semen depletion, and . Intervention Services, speaking about
those teenagers withunforttmate skinprob- ¯ methods of empowering women at its
lems get teased mercilessly for messing ¯ Nov. meeting, 12:30 pm at The Pride
around. ¯ Center, 1307 E. 38th St. 2rid floor. NOW
Men (and women, too) believe that ¯¯ will .also hold elections for its executive .
female substances may pollute, or other- : board at the meeting. Info: 365-5658.
MY KITTY
but also his leadership on Tulsa’ s Say No
to Hate Coalition. Nor have any other
officials ofOklahoma’ s establishment spoken
out. Our governor says our "hate
crimes" law doesn’t need to address violence
agai.’nst Gay people, though note
that he hasn’t suggested removing it for
Oklahoma Jews or Blacks 7,,.or Catholics
like him.
None of our congressional delegation
has exemplified the compassion which if
they were the Christians they claim to be,
they might show. For example, a few
months ago, I askedPam Pryor, JC Watts,
Jr.’ s press secretaryhow many Gaypeople
needed to die before JC would speak out
against, anti-Gay violence? Obviously,
Shepardi~not enough. Maybeifone ofus
were crucified on the South Oval of the
OU campus, Watts (and that other disappointing
Oklahoma politician, David
Boren) might take the issue seriously.
Butat least withWatts, I still believehis
spokesperson’s claims of some decency
in the man to bother to ask. With The Evil
Steve and his good buddy and roommate,
Tom Cobum, there’s no point in wasting
my breath.
However, given the desire of Matthew
Shepard’s family and friends that some
bit of good come out of the horror of his
tormentand death,let us resolveto change
our state to reduce the chance that this will
happen here.
Passing an amendment to our hate
crimes (Oklahoma statutes, 21:850, Malicious
intimidation...) has got to be the top
priority for Lesbian and Gay Oklahoroans,
our families and friends. Find out
who your representatives are and talk to
them now.
Furthermore, we must demand that all
those groups that claim to be working for
justice andfairness, must end their convenient
silences. For example, if the Methodist
Bishop of Oklahoma can work so
hard to ban same-gender marriage ceremonies,
surely he can finally open his
mouth to say something against anti-Gay
violence. But he must be joined by OklahomaPresbyterians,
theOklahomaCouncil
of Churches, Tulsa Metropolitan Ministries,
our Catholic bishops and all others
who claim to value human life. Imagine,
maybe even human rights groups like the
National Conference for Community and
Justice, and others, like the Jewish Fed:
eration and African-American organizations
will standup to say that Gay Oklahomans
have a right to live too. Imagine.
8LAH BLAH
: police arrived, organizers said scores of
¯ arrestsbegan.Mostoftheorganizers were
taken away first, leaving the marchers
: adrift, participants said.
¯ And at the University of Wyoming, a
¯¯ visiting professorwhois teaching acourse on hate crime received a first hand view.
¯ "I reacted with shock-and disbelief," said
¯ Graham Baxendale, a Ph.D. student at ¯
England’ s Reading University. "I certMnly
¯ was not prepared for such an event here.
¯ One can read many textbooks and the
: academic literature, but until you are ac-
¯
tually confronted by something like this
¯ within your own community, you recog-
¯ nize that you really don~t understand this
¯
Baxendale said hate Crimes rarely end
Only 500 people were expected. Once
¯ in murder and usuallyinvolve low-level
¯ violence or intimidation. The victims of
¯ such crimes typically are selected at ran-
" dom because they represent a particular
¯ group. "Gay males are one of the largest
¯ victim catego.rie,s. for thrill hate crimes,
but ethnic rmnonty groups such as His-
" panics, Blacks, and Jews also are tar-
" geted," he said. The perpetrators of such
¯ crimes againstGays,Baxendale said, typi- ¯
cally are young male adults or youths who
¯ are experiencing the emotions that come
¯ with emerging sexuality. To demonstrate
: to theirpe~rs that they are wholly hetero-
¯
sexual, these people may express vie-
¯ lance and hatred toward Gays.
.. Hate crime victims,’he said, usually are
¯ chosen because they are available, not
¯ because of any individual characteristics
¯ or actions, and because of what they rep-
¯ resent to the perpetrators. Hatred towards ¯
the victim’s group is often manifested in
¯ exceptignal violence. "The perpetrators
: often despise and de-humanize their vic-
¯ rims, so such crimes typically are more ¯
violent than corresponding crimes that
¯ are not hate-inspired," he said. "Displayr
¯ ing the victim (Shepard) by tying him to a
fence is amanifestation ofsuch dehuman-
¯
ization."
¯ Baxendale, who has studied violence
¯ perpetrated by groups, such as the Irish
Republican Army, said it is important that
: the university, Laramie and Wyoming
¯ communities continue to be vocal in their
¯ condemnation of the crime and to show ¯
that the community fosters diversity and
¯
understanding, rather than intimidation
¯ and discrimination.
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Noted Attorney to Speak
to Oklahoma Gay Lawyers
TULSA - Local organizer for the Oklahoma Lesbian
andGayLawyersAssociation (OLGLA),attorney Kerry
Lewis has announcedthatOLGLA will present a speech
by Ruth Harlow, a nationally respected attorney for
Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, one of the
oldest Lesbian and Gay advocacy organizations in the
US. Harlow is scheduled to speak on Nov. 6 in Tulsa,
either at the annual convention of the Oklahoma Bar
Association or at an independent event held in conjunction
with the convention.
Lambda is heavily involved in helping to litigate the
Hawaii same gender marriage court cases and has been
involved in most major US legal batdes involving
Lesbian and Gay civil rights issues, ranging from
parenting to military to employment and housing cases.
OLGLA which began this summerinOklahoma City,
is beginning a membership drive in Tulsa scheduled to
start in September, and is promoting continuing legal
~ducatton programs (CLE) on issues concerning Lesbians
and Gay men and their families, and hopes to
conduct.a survey ofTulsa and Oklahoma City law firms
concermng their non-discrimination and employment
practices, among other goals..Its mission i~ Iopr_o.mo.te
equality in and through the legal p~of~s]on and ~ur
society. For more information, contact Kerry Lewis at
~RT-1 17X or C)l ~r .A at ~-TffD-| 9157
Tulsa Centennial Invites
Notorious Anti-Gay Bigot
TULSA-TulsaOklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR)
formally protested to Tulsa Centennial orgamzers the
inclusion of Anita Bryant in Tulsa’s Centennial entertainment
Ms. Bryant, a former Tulsan, became notorious
world-wide for her successful campaign against a
Florida civil rights protection ordinance. TOHR expressed
in a letter to Centennial coordinator, Paula
Hale, the offensiveness of Ms. Bryant’s selection to
TOHR’s Lesbian, Gay, Bi and Transgendered constituency.
A TOHR spokesperson suggested that inviting
Bryant. was offensive in the same manner that inviting
David Duke (born in Tulsa) to participate would have
been particularly offensive to Tulsa’s African-Amencan
and Jewish communities. TOHR did not~k for the
cancellation of the Bryant concert but merely .for an
acknowledgment of the organization’s concerns.
And in a letter of 8/19 , Centennial chairperson,
Sharon King Davis, and Hale state, "it was ne~ter the
intention of the planners of this Homecoming ~vent to
to anything that would be disrespectful. Indeeditis one
of the goals.., to involve all segments of our commamty...
Please accept this letter in the spirit in which it
is offered. We hope to makeamends and to fostera
continuing good relationship with TOHR."
TOHR’s spokesperson expressed the thanksto the
Centennial Committeeforrecognizing the organization’s
conceras, andnoted thatTOHRintened to participate in
the Homecoming Parade on Sept. 20.
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~RECTORY~E~E~ P. 2 ~ EDITORIALS P. 3
US,& WORLD NEWS P. 4
mm H~LTH NE~ P. 6
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ENTE~AINMENT NOTES P. 8
COMMUNIW CALENDAR P. 9
BOOK REVIEW & GARDEN COLUMN P. 10
1 CLA~FIEDS P. 14
¯ Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends
¯¯" ~ Tulsa’s. Laroest Circulation Community Pa_nerAvailable In More Than 60 City !_ocatio(~.--
PFLAG Regional Directors Call for Executive
Director to Resi ln; Some Also Seek Pres.
¯ McDonald’s Res,gnation; Deficit Also Cited
¯ by Kai Wright directors (there are two open seats on the council).
¯ reprinted with permissionfrom The Washington Blade An attachment to the grievance, signed by only
¯ WASHINGTON, D.C. - A recent study of the "organizational three of the 13 regional directors, called for the
climate" at the national level removal of Board ¯ of the Parents, Family and
¯ Friends ofLesbians andGays
found the organization to be
¯
"in a state of crisis?’ The in-
" dependent study was com-
. missioned by PFLAG’s
Board of Directors and presentedatlastweekend’
s board
meeting inWashington, D.C.
¯ Along with that study, the ¯
board discussed an official
¯ grievance from the group’s
¯ Regional Directors Council
¯ (RDC) - a 15-member body
which oversees the develop-
" ment of local affiliates and
¯ acts as aliaisonbetween those
¯ affiliates and the national of-
" rice. That complaint charged
." the national-office with fi-
¯ nancialmismanagement, vio- ¯
lation of organizational by-
Lowenthal [former board member]
said McDonald and Gillis have
reacted to the eomplalnts with
intransigence and have sought to
hide the loeal-level dlseontent from
both those outside the organization
and board members¯ She charges
that they have done so by attempting
to intimidate board members who
speak out ... McDonald and Gillis
barred a Blade reporter from cover
ing... [the board] meeting¯
laws, and failure to provide support for the organization’s local " board president.
President Nancy
McDonald.
In addition, a number
of former board
members and regional
directors, cur,
rent chapter presi-:
dents, and donors
lodged individual
complaints at the twoday
meeting. Those
complaints also criticized
the national ofrice
for not offering
adequate support to
the local affiliates and
questioned its financial
priorities. Several
of those complaints
also called for the removal
of the executive
director and
affiliates. It also called for the removal of executive director ¯ But after two days of debate on the issues raised
Sandra Gillis. And it was signed by all 13 active regional " in these complaints see PFLAG, page12
¯ choices in their lives and we’re trying to
give them choice and control’ says
" Oaudette:Pet(tson ’ofthe philosophybf
¯ the newly opened Food Pantry of the
HIV Resource Consortium. Peterson
: who’s "known to many in Tulsa for her
¯ work as former director of prevention
¯ programs for Tulsa Oklahomans for
¯ Human Rights,is Pantry Coordinator- a
¯ role Peterson is performing for no pay.
¯
In fact, the budget for the project is
¯ limited withinitial funding coming from
a grant from the TulsaArea United Way.
i
Accordingly, atleast initially, the Pantry
¯ will probably serve only al;out 30 indi-
." viduals. Peterson. notes that to ~nsure
: fairest possible access to this resource, clients will be chosen
.. through alottery system that draws from the eligible clients from
o the HIV RC and from other agencies that serve PLWA’s, such as
¯ Shanti, Our House, etc.
¯ The Tulsa HIViAIDS communities have been served for a
HIV Resource Consortium Opens Food Pantry
TULSA - "People with HIV lose a lot of
i Library Drops.Distribution of
Free Commun,ty Newspapers
Dueto Space Limitations or to Anti-Gay Bias?
¯ TULSA - After almost four years of conflict over allowing a
multiple copies of Lesbian and Gay newspaper to be distributed
: at Tulsa City-County Library System (TCCLS) locations, the
: Library Commission has resolved the matter by banning the
¯ distribution of all community newspapers and magazines.
The dispute began when Tulsa Family News (TFN) publisher,
¯ Tom Neal, approachedTCCLS on behalf of a Kansas Gay paper.
¯: The Commission promptly changed the rules to ban non-local
¯ papers. TFN was allowed distribution briefly but then was told
TFNdidnotfitthethenfles.Overseveral years,TFNdocumented
: regularandsystematicdifferentialtreatmentofnon_Gaypublica_ ¯ tions and TFN in the application of those rules. TFN attorneys ¯
determined that there were likely repeated First Amendment
¯
¯ violatious involved inTCCLS,s actions. In respouse to threats of a lawsuit, one Commissioner said that the result would likely be
¯ the removal of all publications. And this June, the commission
voted toremove all publications, claiminglack of space. Interestingl,
y, a visual inspection ofcentral and regional libraries appears
to snow aaequate space for many publications.
Scott Reno, Janice Nicklas, Sharon Thoele,
Claudette Peterson, and Gina Germany celebrate
the opening ofthe. HIVC’s Food Pantry.
~ Food for the service comes in part from the Tulsa
~ Community.Food Bank (TCFB) which works with
: a national program, Second Harvest, to make all
¯ manner of surplus foodstuffs available to people in
¯ . need. see Pantry, ~a~e .?
¯ Com!ng Soon Drag D,vas’ Carwash
¯- PFLAG - Tulsa lOy. Anniv.
¯ TOHR/HOPE/Pride. Ctr.
i Community of. Hope
Tahlequah HIV.Tesbng Ctr.
Lambda Bowl,rig League
: Concessions and the Brookside Divas are hold-
: ing a first ever Drag Car Wash on Saturday, Sep-
¯ tember 13thfrom 11 am to 3 pro. The car wash~vill
¯¯ be held in the parkinglot befiind the club (3340 S.
Peoria). All proceeds will benefit area Aids Charii
ties: TOHR/HOPE and OUR HOUSE.
¯ The Concessions Drag Queens along with some
¯ ~omother.,c,l,ubs,a~fl a f~ew surpriseCelebrity Drag
¯ tdueens wm oe doing the washing of the cars. Those scheduled to wash are:
.see Soon, page 3
number of years by a food
pantry run by Shanti and
Pet~rson ~tates that this
service ~s not intended toreplace
but to work with
other groups. In fact, one
ofherkey vohmteersl Scott
Rent,had worked with the
Shanti Storehouse extensively.
Whensetting up the
procedures for the Food
Pantry, this experience was
supplementedby feedback
from aPLWAfocus group
of about 20 persons in order
how best to serve the
clients.
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E..Pine 832-1269 ¯
*Blue Room, 606 S. Elgin 592-2583
*City Bites, 3348 S. Peoria 748-9600 "
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896 ",
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria 749-4511
*JJ’s Country & Western Dance Club, 6328 S. Peoria 712-2119 "
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th 749-1563 "
*The Palate Cafe & Catering, 3324G E. 31st 745-9899 ",
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st 745-9998 ¯
*Samson & Delilah Restaurant, 10 E. Fifth 585-2221 "
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main 585-3405
*TNT’s, 2114 S..Memorial 660-0856 - -"
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508
*Affinity News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620
*Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
.Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
Body Piercing by Nicole; 2722 E. 15 712=1122
*Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746~0313
Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S: Memorial 622-3636
Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 461h & Memorial 665-6595
CherrySt:Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902,743-4117
Communitycleaning,:Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco tO Disco,:3212E. 15th 749-3620
*Devena’S Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311. S. Peoria 744-5556
*Elite Books &Videos, 821 S..,Sheridan 838~8503
*Ros.s Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337
Floral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595
Leanne M. Gross, Southwest Financial Planning 459-9349
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*SandraL Hill,MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-.,1111
*International Tours 341-6866
Jacox .Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750
David Kauskey; Country Club Barbering 747-0236
*Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599~8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 14011, 74159 747-5466
Langley Agency, 1104 S. Victor 592-1800
Laredo Crossing, !519 E. 15 585-1555
Susan McBay, MSW: Earth-Centered Counseling "592-1260
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584~3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 .663:5934
*M~hawk ~usic, 6157 E 51Place .664-2951
*Novelldea Bookstore, 51st& Harvard 747~6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672
ZiRita Parish, Indoor/Outdoor Co. Home Remodel’g 587=6717
*Peace of Mind Bookstore, .1401 E. 15 583-1090
Pet Pride, Dog&Cat Grooming 584-7554
The Pride Storei 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor 743-4297
Puppy Pause II; 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626
Richard’ s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617
Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations, 743-2351
Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921,747-4746
Christoph,er Spradling, attorney, 616 ~S. Main, #308
582-7748
*Scribner s Bookstore, 1942 Utica ~quare 749-6301
*Sedona Health Foods, 8220 S. Harvard 481-0201
*Sophronia’s Antiques, 1515 E. 15 592-2887
*Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria 697-0017
*Trizza’s Pots, 1448 S Delaware 743-7687
*Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007
*Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counsding 743-1733
*Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767
Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 1071,74101-1071 579-9593
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314
Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815
*B/L/G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
*Chamber of Commerce, 616 S. Boston 585-1201
*Chaoman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI. & Florence
*Con~mlmity ofHope United Methodist, 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800
*Commumty Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595
*Church of the Restoration, 1314 N.Greenwood 587-1314
*Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457
.Dignity/integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648
*Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441
918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159
e-maih TulsaNews@earthlinlc net
website: http://users.aol.comlTulsaNewsl
Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal
Entertain ment Writer + Mac Guru: James Chdstjohn
Writers + contributors: Dr. Mike Gorman, Leanne Gross, Barry
Hensley & Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche
Member of The Associated Press
Issued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents of
this publication are protected by US copyright 1997 by
T~ {:~.’. N~and may not be reprrduced either in whole
or in part witliout written permission from the 15ublisher.
Publication of a name or phbto does not indicate a person’s
sexual orientation, t.;orrespondence is assumed to be for
publication unless otherwise noted, must be signed & becomes
the sole property of Td~u~/:...~9~ Nt.J¢. Each reader is. e,n.~tled
to four free copies of each edition at distribution points. AOO~-
ti0nal copies are available by calling 583-1248.
FBI Liason Needed to
¯ Lesbian& Gay Community
¯¯ I have come to believe that often times
there is opportunity in many of the crises
¯ in our lives. Crises can motivate us,to
¯ change the way we view our world, or
¯ evenmore, to change the world. Recenfl.y ¯
the gay and lesbian community expert-
¯ enced a crisis, as Andrew Cunanan be-
-¯ . came one of the most"wanted people in
America. I thinkwehandled this situation
¯ fairly well, but many, including the FBI,
have stated that the FBI could.have done
more during its investigation to reach out
! to our community. Such a public admis-
¯
sion by the FBI is unusual, and perhaps
¯ indicative of the changes in the FBI and in
¯ their relationship with:us. ¯
As a gay manand career FBI agent, I
¯ can attest to recent changes in the FBI
¯ regarding the gays and!esbians. The FBI
; now has .a number, ofopenly gay and
; lesbian ~gents and support .personnel
¯ Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437,’800:284-2437
¯ ’ *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 :
¯" *HIV Resource Ctr.~4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 749-4194 ;
¯ NAMES P,R,OJECT; 4.154’S; Harvard, Ste. H- 1 748~311.1 ¯
~ NOW, Nat 1Org forW0men, POB 14068,74159 365-5658 -"
: OK S~okes CI~ (l~icycling), POB 9165, 74157 "
¯
*Our House, 1114 S. Quakrr 584-7960 "
PFLAG , POB 52800, 74152
*Planned Parenthood; 1007 S. Peoria
*The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 74105
Prime-Timers, P.O. BOX 52118, 74152
*R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network
Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159
*Red Rock Mental-Center, 1724 E. 8
O’RYAN, support groupfor 18-24 LGBT young adults
749-4195
665-5174
584-2325
749-4901 ¯
587-7674
743-4297 "
:.
~ght hdp all of us in the future.
~his is an opportunity for us to take the
initiative.and reach out to the FBI with our
ideas, recommendations, or complaints.
Request that the agent in charge of your
city!s FBI office appoint a permanent liaison
to our community. Contact FBI Director
Louis J. Freeh at FBI Headquarters
in Washington, D.C., and request that he
adopt thisliaison program nationwideand
undertake other measures to improve the
.FBI’s relationship with us. This moment
in time affords us an excellent opportunity
totake thelead and create positive
changes. Our commumty, the FBI, and
¯ O’RYAN, Jr. sunnort-grout~ for 14-17 LGBT. youth ", . . , ¯ ¯ -
: St. Aidan’s,Episcol~l Ch~ch: 4045 N. Cincinnati 4_~_5-~_8~2_ ¯ ~c~.oennstt.re_co~uW))~n~?~fe°gn~ ~u~
~ St Jerome s Parish Church 3841 S Peoria 742-022v ~ :.. _-~o .....
! *~hanti Hotline &HIV/AII~S Servic~ 749-78981 : ]:led ;Rock re" O’RYAN Article
¯ Trini EoiscooalChu~ch,~01 S. Cincinnati 582-4128 ; ’~,, . ~-’~ ; . .--
: Tuls~tYco~mty ~Iealtfi Department, 4616 E. 15 " .595~4i05 :¯.- i07t~e~~er~ge°CthKa~r~t~Pa~P.~c!~ Y ~
i ’ Confidential HIV TeSting - by appt. on Thursdays only " has givea :to our services. However, the
." Tulsa:Okla. for HumanRights, c/oThe Pride Center 743-4297 . article in the "AuguSt edition about
: T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222 , O’RYAN,aRedRocksupportandeduca-
,¯ *Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule " tional group, did ratse one concern. AI-
*Tulsa Community College Campuses " though we recently did move out of the ¯ *Rogers University (formerly UCT) ~ Youth Services of Tulsa building, this
: BARTLESVILLE ." was not done because of any conflict that
: *Barflesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353 ¯ we have had with the organization, but
¯ NORMAN ." instead it was to allow us more¯ room for ¯
*Borders Books & Music, 300 Norman Center 405-573,4907 ¯ expansion. In fact, Red Rock’s outreach
¯ OKLAHOMA CITY program would not exist today if it were
¯ *BordersBooks&Music, 3209NWExpressway 405-848-2667 "¯ not for the pioneering efforts of YST. ¯ WhileRedRockandYST’s programs are TAHLEQUAH : umqudydifferent,bothhaveworkedcon-
¯ *Stonewall League, call for information: 918-456-7900 " jtmctively to better serve the community.
¯ *Tahlequah Unltarian-UnlversalistChurch 918-456-7900 ¯ We completely support and value YST’s
¯ *Green Country AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-458-0467 services as they have been supportive of ¯
NSU School of Optometry, 1001 N. Grand ¯ our services.
HIVevery other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for date : Again, we wish to thank Tulsa Family
: EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS ." News forits publicizing of our programs,
¯Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 , as well as its dealing with important com-
" DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 ¯ munity issues, cc: YouthServices ofTulsa
¯
*Emerald Rainbow, 45 All2 Spring St. 501-253-5445 : - Allyn S. Friedman, Exec: Director
: MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 ; - Betsy Murphy, Tulsa Prog.Co-ordin~
¯ Geekto Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776 ¯
¯ Kings Hi-Way Inn, 62 Kings Hi-way 800-231-1442 ." Letters policy: TFN welcomes letters
¯
Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-624-6646 " on issues which we’ve covered or on is-
" Sparky’s; Hwy. 62 East 501-253.-6001 ¯ sues you think,need to be considered. You
"¯ " may request that your name be withheld
FAYETTEVILLE, ARKANSAS ¯ but letters must be signed & have phone
¯ *Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave. 501-442-2845 , no.s, or be hand delivered. 200 wordlet-
¯Ron’s Place, 523 W. Poplar 501-442~3052 : ters are preferred. Letters to other p.ubli-
; * indicates a distribution point. Listed businesses are not all Gay-owned ; cations will be printed as is appropriate. ¯ but welcome Lesbian/Gay/Bi & Trans conununities.
TFN Community Leaders
Kathy Dales recently became staffcoordinatorfor Tulsa
Oklahomans for Human Rights’HOPE: HIV Outreach,
Prevention & Education programs. Kathy whoformerly
served on the TOHR board, also volunteers as Volunteer
Co-ordinatorfor The Pride Center.
Courtney Farrell - Concessions Show Director;
Veronica Devore - Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA;
Katia Lee Love - Miss Gay Oklahoma America;
Porsha Lynn - Miss Gay Oklahoma US0fA at Large;
Mr. Kenny phillips - Miss Gay NE Oklahoma;
Kris Kohl; Paris Gray; and others.
Come out and support these charities and you never
-know what Tulsan you might find washing your car in
drag.
Tulsa Oklahoma.as for Human Rights (TOHR) is
seeking volunteers for several of its programs: HOPE:
HIV Outreach, Prevention and Education and for The
Pride Center.
TOHR/I-IOPE is seeking volunteers to assist at its
HIV Testing Clinic. The opportunities ~ndude answering
.phones, assisting with paperwork, sorting condoms, greetlng
clients and even testing and counseling after receiving
training by the Oklahoma State Dept. of Health.
Clinic volunteers are needed during weekdays and during
walk-in clinic hours on Mon. andThurs, evemngs..
Pride Center volunteers are needed to answer phones,
and to staff the Center during weekday evenings 6-10 pm
and on weekends. For information about volunteering for
the clinic, call 742-2927 aud for The Pride Center, call
712-1600 from 9-5 pm.
PFLAG - Tulsa is expanding its PFLAG 101 support
group to include a second meeting each month on the 4th
Monday. The group will meet at Fellowship Congregational
Church from 6:30 - 8:30.
Also,PFLAG - Tulsa wilt celebrate its 10 Anniversary
on September 7th from 5-7 pm. This private event will be
held at the home of Steve Wright. Kudos to founders Joe
& Nancy McDonald and current co-presidents Kathy &
Bill Hinkle and their board of directors!
Also, TOI-IR is continuing to take reports of anti-GaU
Lesbian/Bi or Trans discrimina~,on or of hate-crimes.
Reports may be made anonymousl~ or not and volunteers
may be able to refer victims to agencies or people who can
help. Help them try to help you. Call 743-4297 and leave
a message or call from 6-10pm. The TOHR Helpline is
usually staffed by volunteers seven nights a week.
Community of Hope is full of activmes as summer
ends and fall begins. From Sept. 3 - Oct. 22 from 6-8 pm,
a professional family therapist will lead a parenting skills
class that has been designed for the "multicultural and
diverse family situations" that are found at Coll.
Phillips Seminary professor Brandon Scott will lead a
study group on the Hebrew Scriptures on Sept. 18 & 25,
Oct. 2 & 9 from7-8:30 pm. Local therapistTed Campbell
is organizing a skills-building group, Healthy Gay Relationships,
Sept.23-Nov. 11,6-8 pm. The group is singles,
couples or one party of a couple with a focus on the
special challenges of Gay relationships in a non-supportive
culture.
Laterin thefall, Coil will offer a griefsupport group for
those dealing with loss during the holidays. For more
information about any of these programs, call 585-1800.
Over in Tahleqtmh, the Green Country AIDS Coalition
will provides confidential HIV testing on alternating
Tuesday evenings from 5:30 - 8:30 at 1001 No. Grand
Avenue (please use the Clinic entrance), in the Northeastem
State University College of Optometry. The dates are
9/2,16,&30,10/14 &28, 11/11 &25,and 12/9 &23. For
information, call Sara at 458-0467 or Ron at 458-9173.
Afew years ago, Shortly aft~r~I ~iurned to Tulsa, I had
a conversation with an acquaintance about The Tulsa
World. This individua!, a top level executive at The
Dallas Morning News said of The World, "’you know, it’s
just not a very good paper..." And frankly,, it is at times
parochial and unprofessional in its coverage. It’s just that
with the only other major daily paper in the state being the
neo-fascist Daily Oklahoman,
anything winds
up looking better.
Granted there is hope
with its newer management,
and some days, its
editorial board surprises
me. Some of its writers’
work I admire greatly
(like the witty and distinctly
family-friendly
youngThomas Connerwhosemusicreviews
are
worthreading regardless
of whether you have any
: the truth when the incident occurred. However since that
time The Worm has attempted to re-write Hemdon’s
~ history by publishing the 8/26 brief and several similar
: stories that portray Herudon’s problems as just being
¯ drug rdated- with no mention of his same gender sexual
¯ conduct.
: It appears that The Tulsa World’s entertainment editors
¯ . . a top level exeeutlve at
The Dallas Morrdn News said of
The World, "you know, it’s just not a
very goodpaper..."... It’s jiast that with
the only other major daffy paper in the
state being the neo-fJ,selst Da;ly
Ohlahoman, anything winds up
looking better...
think that it’s better for
Hemdon .to be. a~ drug
addict than. to have
sought sex with another
man, or possibly even to
be bisexual!I mean; even
under the influence of
"speed," how likdy is it
that Herndon would just
accidentally and unknowingly
be in aknown
"cruise" park in the
bushes with his genitalia
poking out of his pants
fly? I’m hardly an expert
interest in the CD’s or bands).
However, every so often The WorMforgetsjoun.~a!.istic
standards and slips into propaganda mode. Much of its
coverage of The Tulsa Project qualifies. While generally
I support community reinvestment in our city center, it
would be nice if The WorM’s news coverage at least
pretended to be balanced. But the stories thus far have
been shamelessly promotional which is not surprising
considering one of The Tulsa Project chief promoters is
a member of th~ Lorton family - the owners of The Tulsa
World.
And in a great example of telling a lie over and over
again, on August 26, The World’s propaganda machinery
was working overtime. Back in June of 1995, country
singer Ty Herndon was arrested in a Fort Worth park for
waving his penis at another man. That other man just
happened to be an undercover cop. Herudon was arrested
and taken to jail where he was then found to be in
possession of methamphetamine.
However, after Herndon’s celebrity status became
known (he in fact was scheduled to perform later that
same day at a convention of sheriffs and peace officers),
he was conveniently not charged with lewd conduct or
so¯ licitation, but with drug possession.
The Tulsa World ran Associated Press articles that told
Last but not least, the Lambda Bowling League has
begun the first of its 18 week seasons. The League meets
each Monday at 8:45 pm at Sheridan Lanes, 3121 So.
Sheridan. At current time there are about 14 teams and
there are opporttmities for individuals to fill in for teams
that are Still short amemberor whojust have someoneout
sick that evening. It’s more guys than gals but notso much
as to be uncomfortable. The fee is $9/night. Call Brenda
at 627-2728 for more information.
The Food Pantry has to pay overhead and shipping for
TCFB goods but is able to provide the food for much less
than if would cost if clients had to go purchase the items.
However, the Pantry does look like a mini-store and is
designed so that clients can browse and select the items
that suit their dietary needs best and often in large, or
smaller quantities as needed. NO money changes hands
but regular clients (at this point one of the 30) do receive
$50/month credit.
The Pantry also stocks cleaning items, paper goods and
personal hygiene items. Peterson notes that these can be
especially important since many clients may also be on
food stamps which can only be used for edible items.
However, the Pantry will not stock vitamin supplements
though these are often recommended because of
possible complications or conflicts with other medicines
that clients may be taking. A notice posted suggests that
such supplements should be taken only under strict physician
supervision.
This Pantry also is designed to serve as an emergency,
supplemental resource for persons living with HIV &
AIDS who may not have been selected in the lottery but
who have an emergency need. That access is available up
to three times a year.
" in illicit drug use but I think it’s highly unlikely that
. Herndon was using his penis ~to..ingest methamphet¯
amine!
In the general scheme of things, this, of course, is not
: that important an issue. But it is galling to see The World
contradict its own coverage and in the service of obvious
¯ homophobia/heterosexism.
" It is also particularly shameful when The Tulsa World
still continues the practice of printing the names of Tulsa
" men who have been arrested for doing the same thing that
Hemdon did. The Worlddoesn’t hesitate to ruin the lives
." of ordinary men, even prior to being tried and convicted,
but goes out ofits way to rewrite the troth for the celebrity
Herndon. !t’s shameful hypocrisy and terrible journal-
" ism. But it is in keeping with the owners bias of which
¯ their anti-Gay advertising policies giv,e proof.
¯ Let’s hope that with time 7he World.will get better and
hey, maybe even Herudon will cofiae out. We’d just
advise him that his dating opportunities would be better
- and safer, if he’d try to pick up men at The Silver Star
¯ or at Concessions instead of in a park - and the rubbers
there are free, too. - Tom Neal, editor/publisher
¯ Editor’s note: The Tulsa World’s Entertainment Edi-
¯ - tor Rusty Lang was invited to comment on this matter but
¯ did not return TFN calls.
. Peterson hopes that people in the community will
¯ volunteer to help with the Food Pantry. Tasks vary from
helping "shop" - which usually involves lifting at the
¯ TCFB or a local market, to assisting clients who are
selecting their items. Some clients want to make their
own selections but some, depending on their health, may
~ want help carrying the small shopping baskets. Peterson
: also hopes community orgamzations like churches or
¯ care teams, etc. may adopt a client by donating $50/ ¯
month (or less - any amount is welcome). $50/month
¯ would allow another client to move in from the waiting
list via the lottery. Peterson notes that the client mix is
" fairly diverse with women as well as men, individuals
¯
and families, both from Tulsa and from outlying areas.
; For more information about how you might help or to
¯ determine eligibility to access Food Pantry services, call ¯
712-7425. The Pantry is open at this time from 9-5, M-F.
" Later hours for Tuesday are being considered.
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Neighborhood
CHICAGO (AP) - The renovation of a street in a
neighborhood that is home to a large gay and lesbian
community will include two gateways to mark the
area as friendly to gays. The gateways, along with 22
steel pylons along Halsted Street on Chicago’ s North
Side, will include a rainbow ring of lights, reflecting
the colors in the gay pride flag. The project, costing
$3.2 million, includes planting 180 trees and widening
sidewalks.
It is the city’ s second majorinitiativeinfivemonths
to recognize its gay community. In March, the City
Council extended health insurance benefits to the
live-in partners of gay and lesbian city employees.
The gateways will be located nearly a mile apart on
Halsted Street, giving a dear message that it is a
special area for gays. "If I were coming from out of
town, (as a lesbian) I would identify this as a neighborhood
that is friendly to gays," said Mary Morten,
Chicago Mayor Richard Daley’s .liaison to the gay
and. lesbian community. "The overarching theme is
that this is adlverse community. It’ S not aboutitbeing
only a gay hub."
City government designating a neighborhood as
gay-friendly is unprecedented. "Chicago is definitely
a first," said Mark Johnson, spokesman for the National
Gay & Lesbian Task Force. "But I don’t think
it will be the last time you’ll see it. It’ll be trendsetting
for other areas as well."
The city wanted to acknowledge the contributions
of the gay and lesbian community, said Greg Harris,
a community activist involved in the plan. Business
owners along the street have not objected to the effort.
"It’ s always been a liberal street, ahead of its time,"
said-Marshall Homick, ownerofChicago Diner. "It’ s
half gay, half straight. Who cares.’?"
APA: Gays Don’t Need
’Reparative’ Therapy
CHICAGO (AP) - Homosextmlity is not a mental
disorder and doesn’t need treatment, the nation’s
largest group of psychologists has declared in an
attempt to quell controversy over so-called reparative
therapy. The American Psychological Ass0ciati0fi,
by a vote of its major policy-setting board Thursday;
also called on mental health professionals to "take the
lead in removing the stigma of mental illness that has
long been associated with homosexual orientation."
The association first declared in 1975 that homosexuality
isn’t a mental disorder, saying it supported
the American Psychiatric Association in removing it
from the official list of mental and emotional disorders.
The newest resolution said lack of information,
ignorance and prejudice puts some "gay, les,,bian,
bisexual and questioning indlvidtmls at risk for
seeking "conversion" or "reparative" therapy, which
is aimed at reducing or eliminating homosexuality.
There have been no well-designed scientific studies
to test guch therapy, the association said in a
statement. But it hasn’t been conclusively shown to
be harmful, "extensive clinical experience suggests
that such therapy feeds upon society’ s anti-gay prejudices
and is likely to exacerbate the client’s issues of
poor self-esteem," the association’s office said.
Kim Mills, a representative of the Human Rights
Campaign, a lesbian and gay political group, said the
resolution "reaffirms the fact that since there is nothing
wrong with homosexuality, there is no reason that
gay, lesbian or bisexual people should try to change.’"
Robert H. Knight, director of cultural studies for
the conservative Family Research Council, said ’~omosexual
behavior entails inevitable physic~ and
psychologicalrisks" and maintained that homosexuals
have been successfully treated for for decades.
"Homosexuals can change," he said.
US West to Give
Partners’ Benefits
ENGLEWOOD, Colo. (AP) - US West on Friday
became the latest company to extend health benefits
to the same-sex partners of its employees. The new
health plan also will cover dependents of same-sex
Couples, but does not extend to unmarried oppositesex
partners "since they have the option of becoming
eligible through legal marriage.’"
The company’ s 1,664 emplyees of US -West Communications
in New Mexico...~ge,also eligible for the
coverage.
Toni Ozeroff, US West vice president for human
resources, said the change will help the company
attract and keep qualified employees. "Having a
diverse workforce is one of the keys to building
customer loyalty and successfully serving a diverse
marketplace," she said.
Thecosts, Ozeroffadded, are insignificant. "We’ ve
looked at other companies’ experiences and confirmed
that the costs of providing domestic partner
health-benefits, and the additional effort required to
administer those benefits, are both minimal," said
Withits announcement, US Westjoins anumber of
major companies includingAmericanExpress, Coors
Brewing, Disney and MicroSoft, that extend health
benefits to same-sex couples.... :.f~.=
"As competition forthebestqualifiedpeopleinten5 ::
Sifies, more and more empldyers.are:exi~an~ng their-:~-.
benefits to include same-sex partner~Y-, said A~drew ¯
Sherman, vice president of the Segal Co., anational!y
recognized human resources and empl.oyee~ben-efits --
consulting firm. -~ .~ .
The change at US West applies to,all empltyees,.
including those at US West Communicationsand US
West Media Group. Medical, dental and visioncare
options ar included in an enrollment packagethatwill
be mailed to employees beginning in September. The
coverage will take effect in January.
US West employees who want to take advantage of
same-sex partner benefits must complete an affidavit
confirming that their relationship is long-term -:essentially
the equivalent of marriage.
Gay Book Held .Hostage.
BELMONT, Calif. (AP) - A library patron has refused
to return a book on gay sex which she says
"doesn’ t meet the standards set forth by society."
Linda ~lcGeogh, who requested "The Ne~v Joy of
Gay Sex’ be banned from the Belmont Library, had
a friend check out the book and put it in a storage
locker after waiting for the library to.act. "’We’ re not
going to bring it back," ’said McGeogh, 38, who
contends the book’s gay content has nothing to do
with her request. "It’s something that should be kept
in a bedside table;not in a public library."
But librarians andbook lovers say abanviolates the
First Amendment by limiting the public’s access.
’~re believe very firmly that everybody should have
acces s to what the library has and nobody should have
to ask for it," said San Mateo County librarian Nancy
Lewis. "For us, it’s a First Amendment issue."
McGeoghasked the library to dump their only copy
of thebook after she came across iton aJune visit with
her 8-year-old daughter, 7-year-old son and a friend.
"I went through it and was absolutely shocked,"
McGeogh said.
Lewis said she will appoint a panel to make a
recommendation. But she has final say in the matter.
The book has been overdue since June 11. McGeogh
will be billed for a $6 overdue fine and the cost for a
replacement copy if she doesn’t return the original,
library officials said.
Ultra Right Group
Co-Founder Apologizes
COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo. (AP) - A man who
calls himself a co-founder of Focus on the Family
publicly apologized to women, ethnic minorities,
gays and lesbians, religious groups and the media
during a blitz Friday to promote his book. Gil
Alexander-Moegefle claims he was one of seven
people who co-founded Focus on the Family, a $100
million-a-year Christian organization that counsels
people seeking adviceindealing withfamily struggles.
In his book "James Dobson’s War on America,"
Alexander-Moegerle criticizes the group’s wellknown
leader and his followers, accusing them:of
veering from their original mission of helping peopl9.
raise their children and preserve their~a~s.
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said Dobson has made "a harmful foray into big-time
politics."
"I am ashamed of my former colleagues for their
attacks on you and for their pattern of slamming the
doors of reasonable access in your face," Alexander-
Moegerle said in a written statement. "I encourage
you to bang those doors down, to investigate and to
report the truth about the threat James Dobson and
other religious extremists pose to the American tradition
of tolerance, indusivity and the separation of
church and state," he added.
Alexander-Moegefle, who lives in Los .Angeles,
made the comments in a news release prior to his
appearance at the Colorado springs offices .of the gay
and lesbian activist group Ground Zero. He said his
bookis thefirst insider critique of"the character, s tyle
and political agenda" of James Dobson, who cofounded
Focus on the Family in Arcadia, CA, in
1977.
Paul Hetrick, a Focus on the Family spokesman,
denied Alexander-Moegerle hdped found the nonprofit
organization, saying the author worked for a
Chicago advertising agency and served only as a
consultant before becoming an employee in 1980.
Hetrick speculated that Alexander-Moege_rle was
still angry over a lawsuit he lost in Pomona" (Calif.)
Superior Court in which he sued Focus on the Family
for allegedly firing him inappropriately after seven
years. Hetrick said Alexander-Moegerle voluntarily
resigned from the organization after divorcing his
wife and marrying his secretary. Hetrick said
Alexander-Moegerle accused Dobson of interfering
with his personal life after Dobson suggested he and
his first wife avoid divorce by getting counseling.
"We just disagree on these matters. But that’s not
fueling Gil’ s fury. What’ s fueling his fury is that he
failed to achieve what he wanted ... which was to be
able to divorce his wife, marry his secretary and
continue to be employed at Focus," Hetrick said.
The spokesman also denied any allegations that
Focus on the Family is a sexist, racist and homophobic
organization or has changed its focus on preservxng
families since its inception: "That’ s utter nonsense,"
Hetrick said. "This group has not changedits mission,
xts purpose or its emphasis since it was founded."
An estimated 5 million Americans tm]e in to
Dobson’s weekly radio pro~am "Family News in
Focus," which is broadcast bv more than 2,500 stations
arotmd the world. Abou~ 8,000 letters pour into
the Colorado Springs Focus on the Family offices
daily Hundreds of employees field 3,400 telephone
calls a day. Many people seek advice, comfort and
prayer in dealing with family straggles like alcohol
abuse, sexual problems and marital difficulties.
Anti-Gay Effort May Fail
AUGUSTA, Maine (AP) With less than a month
left, organizers of a petition drive to stop a gay-rights
bill from becoming law in Maine have gathered only
a fraction of the signatures they need. Leaders of the
drive to force a statewide election on the bill said
Supporters of the gay rights bill didn’ t give Heath
much of chance. "I mean, they’ve had quite a bit of
time to do it, not a lot. But when you’re not even 20
percent there at this point, I would say it’s an uphill
battle," said state Sen. Jot Abromson, R-Portland,
the bill’ s prime sponsor.
Just slightly more than half the people who promised
to circulate petitions have followed through,
Heath said. Besides a 60-second radio commercial
produced by Focus on the Family and some advice,
national organizations have given little support, he
said. " ........ " "
Signature gatherers- who are all Volunteers =-have
had to. contiont several .obstacles; ineluding~nearperfect
summer, weather; nd dections where they
could gather signatures at polls and the lack of a vocal
oppositionto keep the issuein the news. "Frankly, our
goal was not to provide Mr. Heath with free publicity,"
said Patricia Peard, chair of the executive committee
of Maine Won’ t Discriminate.
Heath, insisting "thousands of signatures are on
their way to our office," remained undeterred. "Hundreds
of people have made tremendous sacrifices
over the summer to get us to where we are," he said.
Provincetown Schools
Attack All Prejudices
PROVINCETOWN, Mass. (AP) - A proposed antibias
curriculum in the Provincetown schools has
sparked national controversy fro.m critics who say it
promotes homosexuality. But school officials say the
curriculum is merely an attempt..t9 stan~p out prejudice.
"We’ve d,e,cided we’re going ~take the ~ainbow
perspective~ Provincetown SchOol Superintendent
Susan N Fleming told the Boston Herald. "We’re
going to look at color, we’re going to look at race,
we’re going to look at gender and Sexual orientation
is one of those things."
The school committee voted to review the curriculum
from kindergarten through grade 12 to eliminate
bias, and to encourage teachers to be open to all
lifestyles in classroom discussions.
Provincetown has a large gay community, and
signs of affection between same-sex couples are a
- common sight. Town Manager Keith Bergman was
among those who pushed for the changes: He. said the
change was needed because Provincetown is more
diverse than most towns in Massachusetts.
"Not all of our students are white, not all of our
students are straight," said Bergman, who is married
and has two daughters in the public schools. "In this
commtmity it’ s not going to come as a revelation that
we have gay and lesbian parents."
Bergman said there have been many,inquiries from
the media since an article appeared in theWashington
Times. "Unfortunately the media has zeroed m on
issues dealing with sexual orientation, when the antibias
program is about equipping the community with
tools to fight racism, sexism, classism, bias against
Friday they areff t giving UP and will continue work- people with disabilities and homophobia," he told
ing until the Sept. 18 deadline set by the secretary of
The Boston Globe. The school committee will hold a
state s office. The petition tilers were given 90 days public hearing Wednesday so residents can discuss
to gather a minimum of 51,131 signatures.
,
the proposed changes.
"We’re concerned,,anybody would be, but we ve
gotthreeweekstogo,’ said Michael Heath, execufij9 . Lesbian Adoption Case director of th~ Christi&n Civic League 6f Maine. A
lot can happen in three weeks." LEDYARD, Conn. (AP) - A trial referee~ s decision
The bill, approved last spring by the Legislature
and signed by Gov. Angus King, prohibits discrimination
against homosexuals and lesbians in housing,
public accommodations, credh and employment. The
league had establisheditS :oWn first deadline of Aug.
22f0r turning in petitions. On Friday, Heath said his
0fficSe"had petitions with abo~at 12,000 to 13,000
signatures certified by town clerks, and he estimated
at least that many signatures Were still to be delivered.
Heath said organizers had hoped for a stronger
showingby Friday, buthe emphasized "the reason we
set "the Aug. 22 deadline was so we could deal with
this if it came to this." The league and its partner, the
Christian Coalition of Maine, are now going to work
on getting more staff into the field to organize and
motivate petition collectors. Heath said.
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in the Connecticut Law Journal, but was actually
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Laser Can Find
HIV in Blood
ALBUQUERQUE (AP) - A new handheld
laser that can quickly reveal bloodborne
disorders and diseases such as the
AIDS virus has been patented by scientists
at SandiaNational Laboratories. "It’s
possible to take a blood sample containing
millions of cells and extract information
about each cell in a few minutes,"
said Paul Gourley, project manager at
Sandia. "The results are quantifiable."
The lab said Friday the device uses
millions of tiny lasers to detect blood
problems. Gourley said the laser has important
applications in detecting cancerous
cells. "ff no cell is cancerous, we get
a.standard light signal. A cancerous cell
gaves a bright flash at different wavelengths,"
he said.
The laser was developed by Sandia
technician Anthony McDonald, Gourley
and his brother, Dr. Mark Gourley, who
works at the Washington HospitalCenter
and National Institute of Health, both located
in Washington, D.C. The Gourleys
collaborated onthe project working crosscountry.
The patent is on a prototype laser scanner
that could be used economically in the
field as well as in hospitals and clinics, the
laboratory said. The patent is jointly held
by the National Institutes ofHealth, which
helped Sandia develop it.
Companies that analyze blood and cells
have expressed interest in the laser, Paul
Gourley said. The work on the laser began
as part of a U.S. Department of Energy
plan to deal with the threat of terrorists.
The DOE funded the work and Sandia
developed the technology to help militaD.-
and civilian victims of terrorist biolo~cal
or chemical attack because of the rapid
ability of the laser to help make a definitive
blood diagnosis.
"The transportable m-fit is expected to
greatly reduce the time needed to analyze
dangerous materials invading the bloodstream,"
Paul Gourley said. "Diagnosis
could be made on the spot, thus facilitating
treatment when speed is crucial.’"
For the same reason, the device could
dramatically speed up ordinary, blood
analysis for hospitalized patients, especially
in emergency-room situations. Lab
officials said it also could reduce medical
diagnostic costs.
Paul Gourley estimated that a portable
field version of the unit linked to a !aptop
computer wouldcost between $5,000 and
$15,000 and a comprehensive unit for a
hospital laboratory would run $70,000.
Arkansas Resource
Center to Close
FAYETTEVILLE, Ark. (AP) - People
suffering from AIDS in Washington
County soon won’t be able to go to the
AIDS Resource Center here for help. But
people living with AIDS won’t be left
without assistance, as other agencies now
offer AIDS services. That’s a big change
from when the resource center -7 formerly
known as the Washington County AIDS
Task Force - opened up in 1987.
"When we started, we were the only
show in town," said Judie Frick of
Fayetteville, secretary of the resource
center’s board. "Now, a lot of what we
were .doing has been taken over by other
agencles."
The center’s board voted earlier this
month to shutdownthe center on Aug. 31.
Ms. Frick" cited financial considerations
and the overlap 6f servlces, with other
agencies as big factors in the decision.
The center, she said, was "having a ha~d~ .....
time generating money to support the
whole thing."
Laura Patterson, director of the AIDS
Resource Center, said she and an assistant
hoped to get on with another non-profit
.organization so they can continue to work
m the area to provide emergency housing
assistance for HIV-positive patients.
Ms. Patterson said she was surprised to
learnthe center would close. "We’d just
gotten this big grant," she said. "We
thought things were looking up." The
grant to which she referred, from the federal
Housing and Urban Development
Department, was furmeled through another
agency.
The AIDS Resource Center currently
pays for housing and some utilities for 45
homeless HIV-positive patients. Ms
Patterson said a decision would be made
in the upcoming week about whether she
will be taken on by another agency.
NY Businessman
Donates $1M for
Needle Exchange
NEW YORK (AP) - Financier George
Sorts said he will donate $1 million to
buy clean hypodermic needles for drug
addicts nationwide who risk contracting
AIDS.
Sorts challenged government leaders
to "respect the scientific evidence" that
needle exchange programs curb the spread
of HIV, the virus that canses AIDS. Critics
say the programs encourage drug use.
"’Needle exchange programs are scientifically
proven to save lives, do not encourage
drug use, and are supported by a
majority of the American public," Sorts
said in a statement Sunday.
The federal Centers for Disease Control
estimated last year that intravenous
drug users, their children and sex partners
accounted for over one-third of the new
cases of HIV infection.
Sorts told The New York Times in an
interview published Sunday that he does
not support legalizing drugs. But he said
they were practically impossible to outlaw,
so he proposed trying to reduce the
harm that drug users cause themselves.,
Sorts, whose philanthropy has supported
democratic movements in Eastern
Europe and Asia, also funded ballot ini:
tiatives last year that let California and
Arizona voters approve the medicinal use
of marijuana. Sorts said he has spent
more than $15 million in the past few
years trying to foster a public dialogue on
drug policy.
Opponents of needle exchange programs
said Sorts’ message is wrongheaded.
"I think he needs to be very careful
about promoting drug use, which is
what he’s doing," Robert L. Maginnis of
the Family Research Council told the
Times~
sorts said he will give his new gift to
the Tides Foundation, a San Franciscobased
grants program that will distribute
the money to needle exchange programs
around the country.
AIDS Prevention
Program for Youth
PROVIDENCE, R.I. (AP) - Outreach
worker Jim Radford has a tough time
convincing teens they should get tested
forAIDS. Some say they don’t trust adults
Free & Anonymous
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Daytime testing, Mon-Thurs by appointment.
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formerly TOHR HIV Prevention Programs
742-2927
4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2
2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium
Look for our banner on testing nights.
Jeffrey A. Beal, MD
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Specialized in
HIV Care
Providing
Comprehensive
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and Psychotherapeutic
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We are currently enrolling
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investigational drug trials.
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9:30-4:30 pm, 743-1000
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What services are available?
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Commtmity Newspapers?
Need a Coming Out Support Group?
Need to get tested for HIV?
Want to get involved and help?
Call 743-GAYS
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to ke~p test results co,~dential. Others
feel hopeless and don t want to bother.
Still others believeAIDS can’taffect them.
As a result, young adults infected with
the AIDS virus often don’t seek help until
the advanced stages of the disease. A
Providence commuaity group and area
hospitals havelaunchedaprogram to bring
teens into treatment sooner.
Miriam and Hasbro Children’s Hospitals
and the AIDS group F.A.C.T.S. have
opened theADAMS Clinic to offer young
people confidential testing and find them
appropriate treatment. "I think there has
been this attitude that adolescents can fit
into an adult program," P~dfOrd said.
i’You’re bringing up so many different
issues - sexuality, homosexuality. They
need a special program."
Like adults,mostteens becomeinfected
through sexual contact or drug use. But
the number of Rhode Islanders ages 15 to
19 diagnosed with the disease is lowbecause
so few get tested, Radford said.
"I’ve been to clinics where they told me
they asked adolescents if they wanted to
be testedand they refused. I’ve done some
street outreach where some of the kids
don’t care. Outside of Providence, they
say ’It can’t happen here,’ "Radford said.
Dr. Tim Hanagan, a Miriam Hospital
physician and AIDS researcher, said misinformed
teens often believe there is kno
hope for those infected with HIV. "Our
treatments really work," Flanagan said.
"Now, most young adults, most adolescents,
don’t know it.’"
~lqae clinic will be open Mondays at
Miriam and F.A.C.T.S. will offer testing
at another Providence site separately,
Radford said. The program has received a
$364,000 feder~ grant, U.S. Sen. Jack
Reed, D-R.I., announced.
"Unfortunately, most treatment centers
do not address the unique physical and
psychological needs of these young adults
with AIDS-or the HIV virus," Reed said.
"The ADAMS Clirac was designed to
provideamoreyouth-friendly almosphere
where teens and yotmg adults can talk
freely about testing and treatment."
Denver is Test Site
for AIDS Vaccine
DENVER (AP) -- Denver is one of 14
national public health sites testing the
safety and effectiveness of two new experimental
vaccines against the AIDScausing
virus HIV. "We’re beginning to
get back on track" in the search for vaccines
againstAIDS, said Dr. FrankJudson,
director of Denver Public Health. The
new study is sponsored by the National
Institutes of Health.
The Denver trial will last 18 months
and include 30 gay or bi-sexual men who
tested negative for HIV. All the Denver
participants are considered healthy but
high-risk males. Nationally, there are 420
people in the trial. Denver was chosen
because of its previous work reaching out
to people at high risk for AIDS and previous
studies on the spread of Hepatitis-B
and other diseases. The thrust of this new
study is combining two new vaccines.
One of the vaccines encourages the
body to develop more antibodies to fight
HIV if it is introduced into the body, but
not yet into the cells. Judson said the
antibodies help stop the virus before it
gets established and acts to neutralize it.
The second vaccine works to stimulate
the body’s own immune system to kill the
HIV that has made its way past the first
¯ line of defense and into the cells. Re-
: searchers say that neither of the vaccines
¯¯ in the study can infect someone with the
AIDS virus. After the study is completed,
." a larger national test of 3,000 to 5,000
¯ people is planned.
2nd Gene Hinders
HIV Infection
: WASHINGTON (AP) - A second gene
¯ mutation that slows the progression of
¯ HIV, the virus that causesAIDS,has been ¯
found by researchers who studied s_peci-
¯ mens from 3,000 people,~ according to a
¯ study published recently. Scientists at the
National Canc~ Institute said the altered
: gene or a similar one discovered earlier
¯ are present in about 30 percent of the
¯ long-term survivors ofHIVinfection. The
¯ researchers said still other gene mutations
: thatprotect against HIV may yet befound.
: The study on discovery of the gene muta-
~ tion was published in thejournal Science.
¯ The mutation, in a gene called CCR2,
¯ tends to protect people infected with HIV
¯ frora rapid deterioration into AIDS. An
earlier study identified a protective muta-
¯ tion in a gene called CCRS. "These gene
: alterations tell us that nature already has
: devised a therapy that works without sig-
¯ nificant side effects," said Stephen
¯
O’Bden, a doctoral researcher at the can-
. cerinstitute and~Senior author ofthe study.
~ "If we can piiipoint how these altered
¯ genes contain HIV, it may be possible to
¯ use this knowledge to develop treatments
¯ that help people delay the onset ofAIDS."
¯ Both CCR2 and CCR5 are genes that
¯ produce chemolOne receptors, a group of
¯ proteins found On the surface of immune-
" systera blood cells. Studies last year
¯ showed that people lacking both normal
¯ copies of the CCR5 gene do not become
¯ infected with HIV despite repeated exposure:-
Those with one missing copy of the
¯ CCR5 gene can become infected but take
years longer to develop AIDS.
_" Earlierlaboratory studies suggested that
¯ a CCR2 mutation also retarded HIV in-
¯ fection, but the new study is the first to
¯
confirm this in actual clinical studies. The
: study shows that patients with the CCR2
: mutation develop AIDS up to four years
¯ later than patients who have the normal
: CCR2 gene. The researchers said the
: CCR2 mutation apparently is present in
: 20 percent to 25 percent of Americans, in
¯ about the same proportion in all races.
¯
Scientists said they are still searching
¯ for other mutations to hobble the HIV
¯ infection. "There’ s bound tobeothergene
¯ alterations present in thehuman genepool that influence HIV’s ability to infect immune
cells andcauseAIDS," sat" dMi¯chael
Smith, also a researcher at NCI and the
study’s lead author. "Wejust have to find
them."
Founder of NYC
Gay Center Dies
¯ NEW YORK (AP) - Irving Cooperberg,
¯ who founded NYC’s Lesbian and Gay
¯
Community Services Center and later
: served as its president, has died at age 65.
¯ Cooperberg died of AIDS-rela,ted cancer
said Richard Bums, the center s director.
: He helped found the center in the early
: 1980s, andit soonbecame ahub oflesbian
¯ and gay life in the city, holding meetings,
¯ counseling sessions, conferences, dances
¯ and performances. He also was active in
.Congregation Beth Simchat Torah, serv-
,ng on ~ts board of,directors.
Well , folks, it’softicial:FleetwoodMac " wayhistorycapturesthehopesanddreams
plays Dallas on 11/4, and tickets go on : of a group of young dancers with one
sale through Ticketmaster on 9/6. They ¯ singular sensation after another: "’I Can
are back and sound great! ’q’he Dance" is Do That," "Dance: Ten; Looks: Three,"
available in abbreviated "One" and "What I Did For
form on CD and in full Among the paint- Love."I find it ironic that
length format on VHS tape. the addlepated and not very
The DVD & Laserdisc of in~s, you w~ll ~ncl Gay-friendly Celebrity Attheir
MTV "Unplugged "
concert will be available in the art of Andy tractions (and this manis in
show business.’? Is there
October. Warhol and Geor- something wrong with this
For those who like their picture?Notthebusiness to
art to remain stationary, ~ia O’Keefe, to go into if you’re homophocheck
out the exhibit,
few of the bit.) is bringing in a show
"American Still Life and lla~tlle a
with a major gay character
Interiors, 1915-1994: from n a m e - b r a n d and subplot in it. Can you
Metropolitan Museum of say "contradiction"?Not to
:Art," at the Philbrook Mu- (sorry, ]~ut with mention that the company
seumofArtfromg/14/97to
with ~’arhol, it will-°most likely visit The
11/9/97. Among the paint- SilverStarorordoanAIDs
ings, you will find the art of wa~ a plan too ]lad benefit thing. Or, as in the
Andy Warhol and Georgia
O’Keefe, to name a few of to~up) artists
case of the ever familyfriendly
Carol Channing
the name-brand (sorry, but ... On Oeto]~er 9, during Hello Dolly, have
with with Warhol, it was a
pun too bad to pass up) art- at 5:30 pro, Tulsa
the actors collect donations
¯ forBroadway Cares/Equity
lsts whose work is on dis- easily most ae- Fights AIDs. Not to menplay.
Youcan cal1748-5316 don the fact that the best
for more info. On October elalmed artist and audience for musicals are -
9, at 5:30 p.m., Tulsa easily
community arts
gasp - Gay folk! OK, I’m
most acclaimed artist and off my rantbox.
community arts supporter, supporter, P.S. CarolandFriends:Cel-
P.S. Gordon, will share his
Gordon, will share
ebrating Great Moments in
perspective on the fall ex- Grand Opera plays Tueshibit
as an acknowledged
m~ster of the contemporary
his perspective on day, September 9, S p.m. , at
the Chapman Music Hall.
still life genre, the fall exhibit as Friends old and new join
And in the performing aeknowledSed Artistic Director Carol I.
arts, it’s just a season to die an
Crawford for an evening of
for. More culture than we master of the magnificent voices percould
ever hope to see will
be occurring, from high- eontemporarystill forming grand opera arias
and ensembles with special
brow to lowdown. Anita
life Senre. guest, the Metropolitan
Bryant is about as low as Opera’s incomparable
you can go, folks, mezzo-soprano, Marilyn Horne. Ms.
Getoutthosepies, becauseAnitaBryant ¯ Crawford and Ms. Home will host a senwill
be in town for the Tulsa Centennial " sational line-up of opera singers, many of
celebration, performing a concert. For " whom are returning to the Tulsa stage
those too young to know (I, of course, ¯ after previously performing in popular
only heard about this secondhand my- ¯ Tulsa Opera productions.
self), Miss not-so-’Nita was on her anti- " The musical program for the evening
Gay tear and hawking orange jmce in ¯ includes arias and ensembles from grand
Florida when a family member, armed ~ opera: Donizett’s Luciadi Lammermoor,
with a pie, let fly. Start practicing - we ¯ Bellini’s Norma, Verdi’s I1Trovatoreand
have a reputation to live up to! We could ¯ Massenet’s Manon, Bernstein’s Candide,
makeannualtripstohertheaterinBranson. Wagner’s Tristan und lsolde and
I hear they have pie throwing contests ¯ Tannhauser, plus many more.
instead of pie eating contests there. Rasp- ; Gala packages include dinner at the
berry pie, anyone? ¯ Summit Tower at 6:30 p.m., the gala con-
Here are some of the things coming up: " cert, and a champagne reception with
Sept. 4, Linda Roark-Strummer & Pe- ¯ Marilyn Home, gala artists and Tulsa
ter Strummer perform a vocal duo recital ¯ Opera’s former General Director, Edward
at Sharp Chapel - University of Tulsa. " C. Purrington, currently the Washington
918/631-2262 " Opera’s Artistic Administrator. Recep-
Sept. 5, Laughing Matter Improv - in- ° tion occurs immediately following the
teractive comedy with audience partici- ¯ performance. Individual tickets for the
pation at Heller Theatre. 918/746-5065.. concert range from $25 to $100.
Watch the actors sweat to create a scene! " The Philharmonic opens its Pops series
Nothing like stress on the run, watching ° with Bravo Broadway Friday, September
folks try to create lines while speaking ° 26, 8:00 p.m. Saturday, September 27, 8
them at the same time! Seriously, there is . p.m. in the Chapman Music Hall. Bravo
nothing better than an improvisation well " Broad.way is comprised of three awarddone,
and nothing more entertaining than ¯ wmmng Broadw ay stars. Keith
watching the creative process at work. " Bute.rba.ugh, who sang with the Philhar-
Support your local actors or at least buy : momc m October, played the Phantom
them dinner. ° and Raoul in The Phantom of the Opera.
A Chorus Line runs Tuesday, Septem- ¯ Jan Horvath starred as Christine and
ber 2, 8 p.m. Wednesday, September 3, 8 " Carlotta in the original Broadway cast of
p.m. Thursday, September 4, 8 p.m. Fri- " The Phantom of the Opera, and Michael
day, September 5, 8 p.m. Saturday, Sep- : MagnireisaTony award-winnerfromthe
tember 6, 2 p.m. and 8 p.m. Sunday, :. originalBroadwaycastofLesMiserables.
September 7, 2 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. at the They will perform the music of Andrew
Chapman Music Hall. " Lloyd Webber and Rodgers &
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Sept. 26 & 27, 8 pm
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Call 747-PHIL (7445)
A Tribute to the Music of
Andrew Lloyd Webber and
Rodgers & Hammerstein
A symphony of Broadway
favorites sung by original
cast members. Songs from
The Phantom of the Opera,
Cats, Oklahoma, Evita, The
King & I, Carousel, Sunset
Boulevard and South Pacific.
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Spiritual love.
Physical attraction.
~me m experience timeless love once again. The Oklahoma premiere of
Michael Smuin’s Emmy award-winning Romeo & Juliet is the centerpiece
for Tulsa~ centennial homecom*ng-weekend celebration. Magnificent costumes
and choreography. Live, razor-sharp blades during the spectacular sword fights.
Plus a story that never grows old, never told with more empathy.
Romeo & Juliet, Friday & Saturday, September 19 & 20, 8pm
Sunday, September 21, 3pro
or Me PAC: 1-800-364-7111, 596-7111; Carson Attractions: 584-2000
All.shows at ~e Pe~f~ming Arts Center,
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._C_omlng A~tt~ctlons~ call for tlck~lus fl~st ~ol~e dates and seats:
Tm~ Q~e, Concerto Barocco, Prawn Watching: October 17-19
The Nut~-aeke~, December 19-28
©armlna Eurana~ Tarantella: February 13-15
The T~ee Musketeers, April 3-5
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Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pm, 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800
Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation
Service - 1 lam, 1703 E. 2nd, 749-0595
Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist
Service- Ilam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-I314
Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church
Service, 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
Metropolitan Community Church of GreaterlTulsa .
Service, 10:45am, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
University of Tulsa BisexuaULesbian/Gayfrransgendered Alliance
Sundays at 6:30 pro, Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780
I~" MONDAYS
HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm Results: 7-gpm, Info: 742-2927
PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays
2rid Mon/each too. 6:30pro, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard
Gay & Lesbian Book Discussion Group~ Borders Bookstore
1st Mon/ea. too., 7:30pro, 2740 E. 21st, 712-9955
Sept: Gm’y Reed’s Pryor Rendering, October to be announced
Mixed Volleyball, 6:30pm, ttelmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 587-6557
Unity Lambda Al-anon, 7:30pro, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft.
~" TUESDAYS
HIV+ Support Group, ttIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm ~...
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-l, Info: Wanda @ 749-4194
Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. HIV/AIDS Support Group, and Friends & Family HIV/AIDS
Support Group - 7 pm, Locations, call: 749-7898
Rainbow Business Guild
Business & professional networking group, 9/23, 7 pro, Blue Moon:Care, Cherry St.
PrimeTimers
Social group for men, last Tuesieaeh mo. 7:30 pro, Pride Center~ 1307 E. 38th
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
Gay Youth Speak Out - members of local youth organizations share their views!
9/30, 7 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
~ WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Family OfFaithMCCPraise/Prayer-6:30pm, Choir-7:30,5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441
Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group
For more information, call 582-7225, John at ext. 218, or Tommy at ext. 208
TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for scheduled events
Info: 631-7632 or Jeremy at 712-1600
~" THURSDAYS
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
Anonymous HIV Testing,.Testing: 7 - 8:30pro, Results: 7 - 9pro, Info: 742-2927
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
Tulsa Family Chorale, Weekly practice - 9:30pm, Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
From Our Hearts to Our House, 1 lpm, 3rd Thurs/each too. Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS 4154 S. Harvard,
Ste. G, 3-4:30pm, Info: 749-4194
~" FRIDAYS
SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, 1st Fri/each too. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th
I~" SATURDAYS
St. Jerome’s Church, Mass - 6 pm Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria, Info: 742-6227
Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pm, Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
SENSES, Society for Exploring New Sensations, Educating & Socializing
July 19, 6-8pm, Info, call Kathy at 743-4297
~OTHER GROUPS
T.U.LS.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222
Womens Supper Club, Call for info: 584-2978
OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Long and short rides.
Info: POB 9165, Tulsa 74157 All rides start at Ziegler Park Recreation Center
3903 W. 4th St. Long and short rides are organized
Ifyour event or organization is not listed, please let us know.
Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615.
Read All About It
Reviewed by Barry Hensley
Tulsa City-County Library
Another in the constantly expanding
areaof gay heroes,Rudy Galindo emerged
from his poor, Mexican-American roots
to hit the top of the professional ice skating
world. In 1996, he won the U.S. Figure
Skating Championship, against the
odds. How he rose to this position
makes a most interestingjoumey
in his new autobiography,
Icebreaker.
Born in 1969 and growing
up in a trailer park on the blue
collar side of San Jose, California,
Galindo was surrounded
by gangs and drugs.
When he was two, his mother
had a nervous breakdown and
was later diagnosed with
manic depression. Galindo’s
father sent Rudy and his siblings
away to live with an aunt.
Growing up in anything but a
stable environment, he would
also have to endure the ,death
of his older brother from
AIDS.
At the age;of six, Galindo~
was influenced by watching
his sister ice, skate. His dad, a
rugged cowboy, was initially
embarrassed when young
Rudy would-go to the skate
rental counter, only to be mistaken
for a girl and given"girl
shoes." Rudy states that "It’s
not that I tried to be feminine.
That’s just how I was." His
father’s attitude slowly began
to change, however, once Rudy began
winning competitions.
By junior high school, he was learning
to turn his aggressive nature into positive
energy, and he soon met and started skating
with a new friend, Kristi Yamaguchi.
Born in 1969 and
growing up in a
trailer park on the
blue collar side of
San Jose, California,
Galindo was
surrounded by
gangs and drugs.
When he was two,
his mother had a
nervous breakdown
and was later diagnosed
with manic
depression... Growing
up in anything
but a stable envlronment;
he would
also have to endure
the death ofhls older
brother from AIDS.
’Sometime in September, we will have :
that firstcool spell. Theone that definitely .
has the feel and even
the smell of autumn.
You are thinking
about it right now,
aren’t you? That will
be agoodtime to sow
your grass seed. The
.ground temperature
is very warm but the
worst of the hot
weather is gone for
this year. Rough up
the ground, sow the
seed, then go bank in
and lightly rake the seed into the top of the
soil. Water lightly twice aday till the seed
germinates. Once you have a good germination,
you can pull back to once a day for
a week to ten days. The stage right after
germinationis very critical. Don’tneglect
that little green hair, it is very sensitive.
When the blades of grass get broader, you
.can go back to your old hap-hazard ways.
You can put a well balanced fertilizer on
the ground right before you sow the seed
and water both.
You will be s.eeing fall bulbs all over
¯¯ They went on to be a tremendously suc- cessful team until she decided to strikeout
: as a solo skater in 1990, leaving Rudy
¯ heartbroken and unsure if he wanted to ¯
continue on his own. Soon, Rudy’s be-
" loved coach was also struck withAIDS,
¯ Then his father had a stroke, and then a
¯ fatal heart attack. Can this get any worse.’?
: You bet! In 1993, Galindo became involved
with aguy whohooked
him on speed, which almost
mined every part of his life.
Unwilling to live athome with
his dysfunctional family, Rudy
movedinwithfriends, a stable,
older, gay couple. Refusing to
allow Rudy to destroy himself,
the couple took charge of
his life and convincedhim that
his career was on the road to
rain, and that the druggie boyfriend
had to go. From there,
Galindo’s careerfinally soared
and he ended up winning the
coveted Championship in
1996, in a dramatic performance
in front ofahome town
crowd in San Jose.
Galindo is refreshingly matter-
of-fact about his gayness.
He insists that he is a skater
who happens to be gay and
only realized the importance
of his position as a gay role
model after reading Greg
Louganis’ autobiography.
Galindo’s book is sanitized,
light reading, There is no sex
and scarcely anything that
would offend prim sensibilities.
It’s hard to believe that.
given Galindo’s background, there are
hardly even any four letter words! However,
it is still an interesting and impressive
story and by the timethe theatrical
ending finally hits, you’ll be cheering for
Rudy along with the home town crowd.
Per.sonafly, I ] iek
a date m December and
set an appointment with
myselfio plant bulbs.
Also, don’t store these
bulbs in pl tie bags,
or they 11 rot.
Paper is just the ticket.
town very soon. Y0u ~an get a great selec:
tionin the early fall- just don’tplantthem
until atleastNovem:
ber. I you plant them
too soon in Oklahoma
when it is still
warm, the poor little
bulbs think that it is
spring and they
sprout and then the
cold kills them. You
want to plant them
when you know for
sure they will stay
asleep. Now, here is
the problem about
that, you might forget about them and end
up not planting them at all. Personally, I
pick a date in December and set an appointment
with myself to plant bulbs.
Also, don’t store these bulbs in plastic
bags, or th.e,y’ll rot. Paper is just the ticket.
I know it s alittle early for this stuff, but
I’m bored with summer now, and I don’t
want to talk about it anymore! Go ye forth
and sow!
JudyMcCormickformerly ownedandran
Cox Nursery. This article was reprinted
with the author’s permission.
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TheatreTulsapresents TheOdd Couple
by Neil Simon, September 19 - 27 at the
John H. Williams Theatre, PAC. When a
neat and meticulous divorcee and a slob
bachelor room together, the results are
non-stop hilarity! Neil Simon’s greatest
hit returns (and returns and returns and
returns...) to the stage, delighting
audiences in only the way
Simon can. Ah yes, Theatre
Tulsa goes out on a limb with
this daring innovative show.
Personally, I think the neat
and meticulous divorcee
shouid finally stop shuffling
around the items in the closet
and come out to the slob bachelor
who’s been wanting him
for lo these many years. We
could update it by giving Oscar
and Felix the relationship
we all suspected they really
had or wanted all along and
making the Pigeon sisters the
lesbians from next door. And
the pokergamecould be turned
into a rousing roundof"Name
that Show tune", which would
allow a few musical numbers
and drag queens to occur. Ya
know spice it up, just a little.
Seeifthebluehairs notice anything
different.
Ready for romance? The
Tulsa Ballet is presenting
"Romeo &Juliet". Personally,
I always thought the real romance
was with Romeo &
Mercutio, but no one asks tne
Theatre Tulsa
presents
The Odd Couple
¯ . . When a neat
and metlenlous
divorcee and a
slob l=chelor
room together,
the results are
non-stop hilarity!
Nell Simon’s
greatest hit
returns
(and returns and
returns and
returns...)
to the stage,
del~ghtlng audiences
~n only the
way Simon can.
Ah yes~ Theatre
Tulsa goes out
on a llmb with
this daring,
innovative show.
my opinion, so I keep it to myself. Actually,
it would make the rivalD, with Tybalt
much more interesting. Ah, if only
Shakespeare were here to rewrite! Personally,
an all male version ("Romeo &
Julien"?) should rotate with an all female
version. Then everybody’s happy. Anyway,
the Tulsa Ballet-is presenting the
EmmyAwardwinning premier ofMichael
Smuin’s version. The sets and costumes
arefrom the SanFrancisco Ballet. Hmmm.
Do I detect a theme here? And, they are
using real swords to get their point across
in the battle scenes. Tybalt spearing
Mercutio, impaling him on his long thin
sword? Hmmm I’d better stop before I
am unable to continue writing this column.
Which would make my rather short
tempered editor wish hehad something to
impale me with. Did I write that? I can’t
believe I wrote that! The spirit of Bette
Midler (The previous version, not the
new, improved, tasteful version) must be
possessingme! Anyway, back to Romeo...
Wherefore art thou? Hewill be at thePAC
Friday September 19 through Sunday, the
21st. Which, is also the fall equinox, for
those running on the Pagan calendar.
Sept. 18-20, 25-27,"Five Tellers Dancing
in the Rain" by Mark Dunn. Comedy
ofbank tellers in Mississippi. Heller Theatre.
918/746-5065Hmm. Not much to go
on, there. Could be interesting.
And the ballet I can’t wait to see is
"Troy Game," comtng in October. A
tongue in cheek look at male hyper-masculinity
in times of conflict, the advert
features a nearly naked rather beautiful
man with several more of the same in the
background. Andjusthow farin the cheek
is that tongue? Oh, I didn’t mean it that
way Get yourminds upabove the level of
you belt! And they have an all girl thing,
" too, called "Concerto Barocco." Maybe
¯ somebody is listening to me after all.
If you’re in a trancy dancy mood, I
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not something I’m suffering from. Anyway,
it is gothically beautiful and ethereal
electronic music with a beat. Enough beat
to be hip, enough melody to appeal to folk
like me, and is perfect background for
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The new CD is Karma,
and features guest vocals by
Sarah McLachlan (Solo albums:
"Surfacing", "Fumbling
Towards Ecstasy," Solace",
"Touch") and other fine
vocalists. Ijust picked up their
first CD, and haven’t gotten to
listen yet, but am looking forward
to it.
Theatre North presents
"Two Trains Running," Friday,
October 3 Saturday, October
4 at the PAC. This is the
1960’s chapter of the Pulitzer
Prize winning author August
Wilson’s decade by decade
saga of the lives of ordinary
African Americans in the turbulent
century. The play takes
place in Memphis Lee’s coffee
shop located in Pittsburgh.
The neighborhood is on the
brink of economic development,
probably at the expense
of its current inhabitants. This
brilliant and funny play will
feature actors from Dallas.
Other events around town:
"Moon Over Buffalo," October 24 - November
1, at John H. Williams Theatre,
PAC. From the author of Crazy For You
aqd Lend Me a Tenor comes a new farcical
comedy, MoonOverBuffalo. It’s 1953
and television has captivated the nation.
The husband-and-wife team of George
and Charlotte Hay realize that their careers
in theater will be adversely affected
by the new popular, medium. As the curtain
rises, George has disappeared and
¯ Frank Caprais onhis way to audition the
¯ couple to replace Ronald Coleman and
: Greer Garson in his next film. The result-
." ing race to findGeorge andmake themost
." of this last chance for stardom makes for
knee-slapping comedy.
." And I know this is advance notice to a
: ridiculous degree, but given the absolute
: lack of community support for the free
¯ series of one acts that supported Gay
: themes last year, I wanted youtomarkthis
¯ on your calendars: TU Theatre: "Falset-
¯ tos"; 12/4/97 - 12/7/97. Curtain times: 8
¯ pm on Dec. 4-6 and 2 pm on Dec. 6-7.
¯ The kids in the theater department have
¯ lobbied long and hard - since 1995 and
¯¯ before - to get this show produced here.
The faculty apparently got fired of the
¯
whining, and so TU is taking a progres-
: s~ve step towards producing an award¯
winning play about a Gay man, his lover,
his wife, and his child. Yes, it covers
¯ everything, with somethingforeverybody.
¯ GO SEE IT! Show them we are here and
¯ appreciate and support gay theater! It’s
: cheap[ And they’re good!
andin the organizational survey,PFLAG’s
board voted Sunday to renew its contract
with executive director Sandra Gillis.
A Blade reporter was not allowed into
the meeting, and Board President
McDonald declined to discuss details of
the vote or the discussion.
An e-mail message from Gillis, sent at
4:15 p.m. Monday to 17 board members
with e-mall addresses, provided them with
"the statement, ~S refined, that you can
use i~ questioned by reporters: about the
Boardmeeting." Concerningissues raised
by the study, the Regional Directors, and
others, the statement said: "The Board is
unanimous in its expression of full confidence
in its President Nancy McDonald,
Executive Director Sandra Gillis, and its
volunteer leadership and staff." At 4:33
that afternoon, Gillis sent another e-mail
to the .same list, noting that, since two
members weren’t at the meeting, the statement
could say only that "The Board
expressed its confidence in..."
But board, member Carolyn Golojuch
said there was more to the vote Sunday [8/
17] than this statement implies. Golojuch
said she abstained from the vote, making
her the only board member present at the
meeting not to approve the action. Of the
21 board member.s, the two who were
absent during the,vote were: RDC Chair
Sally Morse, who said she left in fi-ustration
before Sunday’s vote, and Nancy
-Otto, who did not. attend the weekend
meeting.
Golojuch said that, in conjunction with
the renewal, of Gilffs s contract, the board
ruled that Gillis mnst receive training in
areas related to interpersonal communication
and management. The board did
not decide on the details of that training,
she said.
Golojuch and other boardmembers also
confirmed that the board implemented a
committee to monitor the development of
the national office’s relationship with local
affiliates.
"I hope that the membership sees that
this was not a clear endorsement of her
contract. That there are stlpulalaons, commented
Golojuch, who is president of the
Hawaii PFLAG chapter. Golojuch, in
speaking with the Blade, said she was
doing so as an individual and not as a
representative of the board.
"The battle’s not over," said Golojuch.
"If the problem persists, it has to be resurrected
all over again. And having these
stipulations in her contract, now we have
some sort of vehicle through which we
can evaluate."
Seven of the 13 regional directors who
signed theRDCgrievance sit on theboard
and, except for RDC Chair Morse, apparendy
votedfor the contractrenewal. Asked
if those votes m support of Gillis’s contract
indicate that the concerns ofthose six
RDC members were addressed, regional
director and board member Carolyn Griffin
said it me,arts they will have to wait and
see. Griffin,~. Who said she did vote to
renew Gillis’s contracL said sheiswilhng
to wait and see because she did not want
to,s,~ au.0rganization:~heloves destroyed.
ohe ~f the;concerlis I. have is. that
there’s a lot of parents out there and a lot
ofGays and Lesbians having trouble with
their parents that need us. And that need is
being met extremely well by the chapters,"
said Griffin. She said she worries
that too much internal struggle at the
natmnaHevel couldjeopardize those chapters’
work.
"I don’t want to lose that," said Griffin.
"I don’t want the situation at the national
level to interfere with that."
Griffin’ s comments typify abelieffound
in all the complaints which appears to be
at the heart of increasing tension between
the local and national levels of the organization.
That belief is that PFLAG’s national
office has moved away from the
organization’s mission of providing direct
support to parents and families of
Gays toward one of more political advocacy.
But this was not the only tension
facing board members meeting last weekend.
There was also.tension over the
organization’ s budget and how it is being
spent.
Deficit Lingers
The weekend’s board vote came at a
time when the national office is working
to overcome financial problems. According
to PFLAG’s audit for FY 96 (Oct. 1,
1995 through Sept. 30, 1996), the group
had a "net operating loss" oi~ $345,192.
The audit showed the organization took in
$1,734,539 during FY 96 and spent
$2,079,737.
In her e-mail message to board members
Monday, Gillis advised that members
telling the press about the budget say
only: "The national organization’s budget
was funded at more than S 1.7 million
dollars this year."
Board Treasurer Kelly Kirby said the
financial problems have not been as grave
as they may seem. He said the operating
loss in FY 96 was exaggerated by a 1994
change in Financial Accounting Standards
Board (FASB) guidelines. (The FASB is
a private, independent body which establishes
accounting guidelines for the private
sector.) The new guidelines changed
the accounting procedures for listing income
taken in during one year that is
earmarked for spending in an upcoming
fiscal year. The FASB said non-profits
should begin reporting such income in the
year in which it is received rather than in
the year in which it is spent. Kirby said
this change accounts for $258.332 of the
$345,192 deficit on theFY 96 audit. Thus,
he said, the actual operating loss forFY 96
was $86,860.
Kirby added that those numbers have
improved during the current fiscal year.
The income for FY 97 to date, said Kirby,
referring to unaudited numbers, has been
$1,530,617 and expenditures have been
$1;457,792. But, he acknowledged that
theincomereflects a $1013,000 loan which
has to be paid back. Therefore, the true
income thus far for FY 97 is $1,430,617-
still leaving a $27,175 deficit.
Kirby said FY 96’s S86,860 deficit is a
result of the organization’s decision to
expand ProjectOpen Mind into thrccmore
cities than originally planned.
Board President McDonald and F~ecutive
Director Gillis said they do not regret
extending the organization’s resources on
the expansion of this project. They argue
that such advocacy campaxgns are key to
achieving PFLAG’s mission and defend
against critics inside the organization who
say it represents a departure from the
grassroots activities of local affiliates.
"Before, PFLAG was getting parents
who found out their kid was Gay. az~..d
didn’tknow what to do," explained Gillis,
saying high-profile Gay-bashingby rightwing
figures after the 1992 presidential
campaign changed the political landscape.
"PFLAG shifted to getting people that
said ’I’m over it and I want to do something.
I want to take action.’ So the people
who needed support felt like they weren’t
at the center of attention any longer." She
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said that shift expanded the focus of the
organization, which was founded in 1981.
"The perception might have been that
the organization shifted away from support,
but that’s not the reality," said Gillis.
"PFLAG support takes a lot of different
forms."
Local Clamor
But local chapters apparently feel that
the national office of PFLAG does not
provide the support the chapters need.
’ . RDC Char Morse said she. decided to
support the RDC’s grievance document
after.receiving hundreds of unsolicited
complaints frown affiliates aroundthe coun-
¯ try. (Morse,~too, saidshe was speaking to
the Blade as.anindividUal, not as a representative
6f file RDC~0r. the board.)She
has been:!Savirig those complaints since
December 1996 and has compiled a fourinch:
thick binder.
"l Morse said the complaints chronicle
incidents in which the national office has
continually ignored the concerns of the
field affiliaies,’refusing t0 offer resources
and money. A typical complaint involves
thenationhl offiCiO s refusal to helppay for
educational materials. She said the affiliates,
many of which prefer to distribute
such materials to parents for free, can’t
afford to buy them from the national ofrice.
But the national office insists that-the
local affiliates charge for educational
materials to shoulder the costs.
Asked about this complaint, McDonald
responded, "Wouldn’t it be wonderful if
we could give all of our materials away?
But there’s a cost to that. This isa business.
McDonald said the office has decided
to make advocacy campaigns a prionty.
"[The educational materials] are very valuable.
But Project Open Mind was also a
success because it enabled us to develop.
additional strategies and materials. But
there’s a cost to that, for all of us."
But Morse and other critics say that cost
is too high.
"The field doesn’t get attention," said
Morse. "What gets attention are the big
events that they do. It’s not talking to your
mother. It’s not talking to your father.’"
Board members Morse, Golojuch, and
Griffin also noted that more than 50 percent
of PFLAG’s 405 affiliates have
stopped paying national dues.
The RDC grievance document, dated
July 27~ refers to a 59 percent turnover
rate for national staff since January 1997,
stating, "It is clear that something other
than what might be considered normal
events is causing this condition."
In January, the national office had 16
employees, according to national PFLAG
spokesperson Janice Hughes. Since then,
nine (56 percent) have left for various
reasons. Currently, said Hughes, the national
office has a staff of 17.
The RDC grievance also voiced concern
about the financial priorities of the
national office. The document: charges
the national office with failure to pay
vendors and reimburse expenditures by
volunteer regional directors, notes "high
fees associated with the annual conference"
that prevent members frotu
attending, . objects to the organization’s
acceptance of a $100,000 loan and,
objects to the lack of a "deafly defined
. ibudget" for a Field Services~Office of~thenational
office. " -
¯ raised in the RDC grievance. But she
" declined to comment in detail about the
¯ complaint,~.
’.’That document was very helpful in
¯" "~it enables us to have information. I believe that all ofus valued that, respected
¯ that, and took it very seriously," said ¯
McDonald. "It enabled us to look at the
: operation, to fine-tune it if we needed to."
She said thenumberofemployees dedi-
¯ cated to Field Services was expanded in
¯ May from one to four staff members to
better serve the needs of the local affili-
¯ ates. --
¯ The "Organizational Climate Survey"
¯ results which were presented to the board
: this weekend added to the picture of dis-
" content withthenationaloffice. This document
was also obtained by the Blade. To
conduct the survey, questionnaires were
~ sent.to 62 pas.t and present board members;
r~gi0hai directors, mid employees;
42 of those ~olicited sent backaresponse.
The survey.results concluded,
"There is a lack of confidence in
the Natlonal Offlee Management
~roup at all levels of the
or~anlzatlon." It identified four
"major issues" eon~rontln~ the
orSanizatlon. They ~¢ere:
¯ Poor supervisory and
management praetiees,
¯ Operational procedures that
donot support effeetive
management,
¯ An abusive environment with
disruptive and dysfunetlonal
relationships, and
¯ The lack of 4onelse operational
$oals that promote
unified support ofPFLAG’s
mission.
The survey results concluded,"There is
alack ofconfidence in the National Office
Management group at all levels of the
organization." It identified four "major
issues"confronting the organization. They
were: "Poor supervisory andmanagement
practices." "Operational procedures that
do not support effective management."
"An abusive environment with disruptive
and dysfunctional relationships." And,
"The lack of concise operational goals
that promote unified support ofPFLAG’s
mission."
Discontent Was Growing
This weekend’s complaints were not
the first official grievances brought to the
board:s attention. In September 1995,
.Robert Berustein, a nationally known and
well-respectedPFLAGmember,resigned
from the board after having served on the
selection committee which nominated
Gillis in 1993: Beforeresignmg, Bernstein
submitted a petition expressing "serious
and urgent concern about what we perceive
to be a threat to the fulfillment of
PFLAG’s mission at the national level."
That petition charged that the national
office staff did not ’;reflect the nature of
either PFLAG’s organi~tional constituency
orits mainstream target audience" in
that staffmembers were~t family mem-
.’- bers of Gays and Lesbi.a!ts. It went onto
: state that the signers felt~SI~s~ep~cv *
Me,Donald said the "board~ in-renewing : prevented: the nataonal ~,ce staff frolh ’°
Gillis s contract, considered.the-issues ~ understanding the con~s .of-that con-
¯
stituency.
¯ McDonald declined to comment on the
peUtlon because it deals with personnel.
¯ The petition contained 150 signatures
of current and former PFLAG leaders,
¯ including: all prior PFLAG presidents. 22
¯ former board members, seven PFLAG ¯
founders, and several affiliate founders,
: presidents, andboard members. Berustein
¯ said thatGillis assured him at the time that
¯ theproblems would be addressed. He told ¯
the board last weekend that he felt they
¯ had not done so and that"those problems
¯" have grown considerably .worse."
"[The chapters] are just.fired of trying
to (york with na-tiona~, arid get support
¯ from national," lamented Bernstein, au-.
¯ thor of Straight Pai:ents,:Gay Children.
¯ "The chapters~ are doinff:the work of
PFLAG and doing a-maiwelon~s job, but
¯ they’re-not doing i’t ~ith the help of the
¯ nafionaloffice."-~:-... "
¯ JanetLowenthal,. another former board ¯
member who.signed Bernstein’s petition,
." agreed, saying-the reapproval of Gfllis’s
¯ contract represents a further rejection of
¯ the affiliates’ concerns, Lowenthal said
¯ she resigned ft0mthe board in fru~tratibn
¯ in 1995 after having served on the planning
committee for ProjectOpen
Lowenthal said McDonal4 and Gillis
¯ have reacted to the complaints with in-
, transigence and have .sought to hide the
¯ local-level discontent from both those ¯
outside the organization and board mere-
¯ bers. She charges that they have done so
¯ by attempting to intimidate board members
who speak out.
," "There is a very conscious and deliber-
," ate effort to obfuscate or otherwise shroud
facts that would hurt Gfllis s case - that
would make her appear incompetent,"
charged Lowenthal. "She doesn’t want to
do thekinds of things PFLAG is supposed
to do. She wants to build as large of a
Washington office as possible for its own
sake."
McDonald and Gillis barred a Blade
reporter from covering last weekend’s
meeting. According tO board member
Golojuch, the board later voted, 10 tO 9, to
keep the meeting closed tothe press.
When several board members were
asked for comment during breaks and
after the meeting, they said board president
McDonald made it dear they could
not speak with the press.
McDonald characterized the ongoing
debate at the meeting as "healthy," explaining,"
PFLAG’ s boardis a Very handson
board of directors. Very engaged. I
; think the reason that is the way it is is
," because the organization, in developing
," and mobilizing the grassroots, recognized
¯ the incredible value Of having members
¯ involved."
¯ Golojuch agrees that the debate is
¯ .healthy, but she said that it has happened
¯ ~n spite of the national office leadership.
¯ And she said that, while the weekendbore
: some frni.t, the issue is not closed.
¯ "Part of me says we did a lot. But we ¯
didn’t do enougl~ for the membership,"
: saidGolojuch."Be’mgelected tothatboard
: is important to me, because Fm supposed
¯ .~ represent the ~. I will not
," ~i.o~me a decide to ¯ I will go with
the
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fun-loving too. Call 587-4669.
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organization not-for-profit 501 (c)3
agency providing services to
African-American males +
females who are.infected with
HIV/AIDS in the Tulsa
community. FUSO also helps
individuals find other agencies
that provide HIV/AIDS services.
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COOL CAT IN CATOOSA I seek
friendship, or more, with other young,
Gay, White males in the area. I’m a 19
year old, Gay, White male, 5’6, 1451bs,
with very short Black hair, Green eyes,
and a medium build. Be 18 to 25, and
don’t use drugs. (Catoosa) =! 135
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I CARE MORE IN CLAREMORE I’d
like to meet other Gay males for fun,
Friendship and maybe mare. I’m an
attractive, Gay, White male, 26; 6’2,
1801bs, with light Brown hair and Blue
eyes. I’m lonely sometimes and looking
very forward to your call. (Claremore)
=2209
KEEP IT HONEST I’m lookingfor a nice
guy, and able communicator, with whom I
can spend time and build something
special. I’m a 32 year old, Gay, White
male, interested in romance and quiet
times with my partner. I like long walks,
biking, and honest communication.
(Henrietta) =32520
ANXIOUS FOR GORGEOUS This 27
year old, Bi male is a sexy Transvestite. I’m
5’9, with Brown hair and Blue eyes. I’m
searching for a gorgeous Gay or Bi male,
27 to 30, who is good, kind, and friendly.
Hurry! (Kiowa) =1471
ROLUNG ON THE RIVER I’m looking
for o partner who, like me, enjoys being
on the river, canoeing, camping,
horseback riding, and enjoying the nature
of it. rm a White male, 6’3, 1901bs. I also
like folk and blues music, quiet, candlelit,
evenings at home, and gelting to know
you. Let’s enjoy the river together. (Miami)
=2470
TULSA TItJdNEE Very inexperienced,
White male, 5’9, 1601bs, with Blond hair
and.Blue eyes, seeks a Bi male, or a
couple with a Bi male, to show me how iYs
done. I’m most interested in the basic stuff
right now but may want to expand my
horizons later. Please call. (Tulsal
=4795
NEW’ TOOL IN TULSA This very sexy,
good looking, Italian male, new to the
area, has heard that cowboys can be
very hot. If you shaw me how hot you
are, I~11 give you access to my ice
chest.You’ll love it. (Tulsa) =4571
FRIENDLY ROUNDUP Outgoing,
Friendly, White male, 35, 5’10, with
Brown hair and eyes, seeks other nice
g~iilor friendship and fun. (Tulsa)
SM~OTHAND HAIRY Nice
looking, White male, 40, 6fl, with
Blond:hair, Blue eyes, and a smooth,
muscular, swimmer’s build, seeks a
hairy man for good times, laughs,
andS1 hope, along term relationship.
en oy camping, swimming, dancing,
cooking, playing cards with friends,
and a whole lot more. (Tulsa)
=4309
HIGHER LEARNING Drug free and
sm0kefree, 21 year old, White male,
5’10, 1401bs, with Brown hair and eyes,
seeksa similar guy, who takes good care
of his body, for good 5mes and friendship.
I’minterested in guys who are college
educated or are in college now. I like
travel, music, concerts and more. I like the
clubs now and then but don’t want to meet
someone who hangs out there. (Tulsa)
=4010
NATIVE NEEDS Good looking, Native
Amb~ican, 23, seeks a man, 18 to 30. I’m
open to good times, friendship, or a
relationship. I’m particularly interested in a
biracial guyl (Tulsa) =3883
HOW DO YA HANDLE A HUNGRY
MAN? Hungry-man, 21,5’11, 1701bs,
with’Blond hair and Blue eyes, seeks hot,
strong men for good times. (Tulsa)
_=2549
QUALITY FRIENDSHIP Masculine,
good looking, discreet, White male, 6’2,
1751bs, with a sexy, deep voice, seeks fun
loving men for great times. I’m a dark
haired, Blue eyed, hairy, well defined,
man, hungry for action. Call for a quality
friendship. (Tulsa) =2776
WILD MAN I wanna get wild and crazy
with a young, smooth, muscular, White
male. I’m a buffed, 39 year old, Bi, White
male, 6fl, 1671bs, with Brown hair, Blue
eyes, and a hairy body. Call soon.(Tulsa)
=2594
BANANARAMA Fm good looking, 6’1,
1751bs, with Blond hair, Green eyes, a
great tan, hairy build,
Call now. (Tulsa) =2640
THiS STOCK WlII RISE I’m a friendly,
19 year old, White male, 5’10, 1351bs,
with Brown hair and Hazel eyes. Right
now I’m just looking for friends but who
knows what the future might bring? Call
me. (Tulsa) =!975
QUICK DRAW I’d like to get to know
some other guys who like to have fun. I’m
a well built, White male, 6’2, 1901bs. I
enjoy drawing and music, especially
alternative and industrial music. If you’d
like to make a new. friend, give me a call.
(Tulsa) =2038
NO SUBSTANCES, JUST US This drug
free, smoke free, alcohol free, Gay, White
male, 25, 5!8, with Brown hair and Hazel
eyes, seeks a similar man, 21 to 30, for a
life together. I’m a nice, caring person with
a good sense of humor. I enjoy all music,
movies, dancing~ and quiet nights at
home. (Tulsa) =!896
TEDDY BEAR NIGHTS This 39 year
old, White male, 5’9, 1401bs, is looking
for a sentimental guy, over 25, with whom
to share romantic evenings, cooking,
family, music, and more. (Tulsa) =!350
COUNTRY LOVE I was brought up on a
farm south of Dallas so I love country life.
I’m a good looking, 31 year old, White
male, 6’3, with Brown hair and eyes. I’m
easy going, caring, and loving and I’m
looking for the love of my life. I like young
cowboys, 18 to 25. I’m into rodeo, and
most music. (Tulsa) =! 716
TWO FOR ONE IN TULSA We’re o
sexy, Gay, White couple, 25 and 26.
We’re looking for steamy sessions with
other masculine guys. Call right away.
(Tulsa) =33378
I DESERVE IT I’ve decided that I
deserve to meet the man of my dreams.
I’m an honest, professional, Gay, White
male, 38, 5’9, 1551bs, with Brown hair,
Blue eyes, a beard, and hairy body. I’m
very energetic, and get pleasure from
road trips, movies, dining out, and home
life. (Tulsa) =33882
FRIENDS FOR FUN STUFF I wanna
go out and do fun stuff with some new
friends, i~m a good looking, Gay,
Cherokee Indian male, 5’8, 1451bs, with
Black hair and Brown eyes. I’m into all
kinds of things. I like to swim, work out,
play basketball and tennis, and enjoy
the company of my friends. I’m most
attracted toBIond haired, Blue eyed,
guys hYt ~ould like to meet all. (Tulsa)
=33664
FALCON VIDEO STAR I’m the star of
se.veral l~0t videos by Falcon and other
~tudi0~ii’i~mvisiting relatives and am
bored stiff. The natives want me to go
fishing but I’ve got other things on my
mind. I’m 29, 6’1, 1901bs, with dirty
Blond hair, Green eyes, and savage tan.
I’m ingreat Shape and have a huge
personality: Got any ideas on how I
should~Pend my time? (Tulsa)
=33690
BRONCO RIDER I’m a 21 year old,
masculine, cowboy, seeking a soulmate.
I’m 5’11, 1451bs, with short Brown hair,
Blue eyes, and a fit body. I love rodeos,
hunting, fishing, sports, country music,
and the0utdoors. (Tulsa) =32884
NEWFACES :I’m a good looking,
horny, White male, 6ft, 1701bs, with
Brown hair.and eyes. I go to school
during the day and wonder what’s going
on at ~igFit..~how me. (Tulsa) =32.0_79
IN TRANSITION I want to build a
relation*ship with another good looking,
Gay, M~le Transvestite.i’m 26, 5’9. with
Brown hoirandBlue eyes. You should be
cleon, nice, and fun. I hope we can have
a long term relationship. (Tulsa)
=30728
FRIEND INDEED This very attractive,
21 year old, 8lack male, 5’11, 1801bs,
with light Brown eyes, seeks other Black
men to hang out with. I’m new to the
scene and want to make some good
friends. (Tulsa) =30941
A WOMAN’S TOUCH Do you need a
woman’s touch? I’m a 40 year old,
Transgender, h~ping to someday
become a complete woman. I love to
play the feminine role and give pleasure
to men, over 40, in every way. Race is
unimportant. (Tulsa) =10195
GET CLOSER Togetherness with another
womvn is what I’m afler. This Gay., White
female, 34, 5’6, ~ith Olive skin, ~lark hair
and eyes loves reading, watch!ng softball,
ong wa ks, and having fen:(Tulsa-) =3145
BACK TO SCHOOL ~’m into s.~.rts,
movies, and the outdoors and.l’~] like to meet
", similar worn~.. I’m a White female, 25
5’6, 1701bs, with sho?t Brown hair and
~rown eyes. I have a college degree but am
about to .qo back to scha6rto .q~t another.
You shourd be between 25 an(3 35, and fun
loving. (Tulsa) =1456
I1JLSA TEMPTRESS This 26 year old,
Vhite female, seeks an outg#ing,~
~inded, Single, Bi female, ~I to 38, for a
ossible live in relationship, i’m especial.iy
~terested in a w.omyn with Red hair and Blue
eyes. I love to play. i~l., dance, bowl, go to.
movies, malls, and parks: (!"~lso) =34531
SPARE TIME I’m a Married, Bi femab. My
husband is an execuSve so be is out o~ town
most of the time. I want to meet a womynto
have fun with. I en oy .qoing out ~kmcing,
dining, and traveling. (’Tulsa) =31086
SEXY SWEETHEART Hey, you sexy sweethearts,
I want to meet a ver/s.E~:,ciaJ lady
wha’dlike to hove a wonc~rf~l time. I% a Bi
female with a lot to give. (Tulsa) =30318
IIJLSA TWOSOME This 35 year old sporl
enthusiast, is interested in meeting other
w.o~nyn who en oy the outdoors, movies, an(
embracing, life. Let’s .qet to know one
another. (Tulso) =2~624
FRIENDS FIRST I need a wornyn’s touch.
This 35 year old Lesbian, en oys the
outdoors, sporls, and movies. I’d like to share
them with another Lesbian that is relationship
oriented. (Tulsa) =27469
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Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay
Fight to Ban.
ROTC Re-Heats i
WASHINGTON - Little noticed in Feb- :
ruary was congressional passage of a bill, :
now signed into law by PresidentCfiiiion ¯
the "Campus Access Act" that prohibits :
all Defense Department funds to colleges :
and .um’versities which the ,,Secretary of ¯
DefenSe :judges., have, an,.~ anti~ROTC :
poii~y?’ "~lae legi~latiisn b,bfild have the ."
impact of barring Defense Department ¯
funds from going to any campus where :
anti-discrimination policies barfing bias :
based on sexual orientation limit or re- ¯
strict Reserve OfficerTraining Corps programs.
No exact figures are available on
the amount ofmoney the Defense Department
spends annually at U.S. colleges,
but at larger schools, such as Stanford, the
University of Pennsylvania, or the University
of California at Los Angeles, it
might easily amount to tens ofmillions of
dollars each year. The term "anti-ROTC
policy" is defined in the Act as prohibiting
either the Defense Department from
see ROTC, page 3
High School Gays.
Win & Lose Some
Dallas Bd. Includes Protections
DALLAS - Under pressure from local
rights activists, the Dallas school board
decided at theIastminute toinclude sexual
orientation in the anti-harassment policy
it adopted at its March 28 meeting. The
policy, which had not initially included
sexual orientationas a category, wasadded
after members of the Dallas Gay & Lesbian
Allianceand other communitymembers
complained that not including sexual
orientation in the newpolicy could actually
encourage anti-gay and -lesbian harassment
in the city’s schools. The new
policy bars "oral, written, psychological,
physical and other demonstrative actions
see School, page 3
.Marriage, Update
Colorado Gov. Roy Romer has vetoed
a measure :that would have explicitly
banned recognizing same-sex marriages
in the state, even if they were legally
performedinother states, however, Romer
said he would sign a bill that declared
opposite-sex mamages as the "strong
public policy of the state" while at the
same time authorizing a study of possible
ways same-sex couples could be given
legal recognition of their relationships
without violating that policy. He called
the legislation he vetoed, a "mean-spirited
and unnecessary" attack.
Idaho became the 3rdstate in the U.S.,
joining Utah and South Dakota, to bar
recognizing same-gender marriageS. The
Kentucky state Senate is now considering
a measure banning same,sex mamages
and activists believe the anti-gay bill has
a good chance of passing there. Illinois
has also now received a similar ban,
spurred on by leaders of the state’s antigay
Christian Coalitiou and Christian
Action Network. In Kansas, a bill that was
already on the floor of the state tlouse of
see Marriage, page 3
& Bisexual Communities-,Our Families of the Heart
¯ The Reverend Leslie Penrose, AIDS ac-
: tivist Mary Fisher and a youngfriend at
¯ Community ofHope United~thodist.
i Wo-men &AIDS
i 400.÷HearActivist
i Mom,,Mary Fisher
¯" When Janice Nicklas and her co-orga-
¯ nizerbegan planning for the first regional
." conference on Women and AIDS, they
." hoped tohave about 100 or so attend. On
¯ April 2, more than 400 people were registered
for the one day conference of work-
: shops at the-University of Tulsa’s
¯ Chapman Center.
: The workshops ranged from AIDS 101
¯ to HIV and Incarcerated Women or HIV
¯ tators were both local educators and ex-
¯ perts & those from around the US. The
¯" conference l~gan with a panel of those
: infected or affected by HIV.
! The keynote address was ~ven at lunch
byAIDS activist, Mary. Fisher, founder of
: the Family AIDS Network, Inc. which
: works to heighten commumty and ha-
¯ tional awareness and compassion in the
: fight against HIV/AIDS. Ms. Fisher, a
~ person/iving with HIViAIDS, came to
¯ national attention when she spoke about
~ AIDS to, the:Republican-National Con-
; vention’in.Houston in-1992..
~ Fisher’s Tulsa speech was a call to
: political arms. She began with quote from
¯ a US Senate chaplin who, when asked if
"- he prayed for the Senate;~said, no, after
i looking at the Senate, he prayed for the
¯ people. FishersaidthatwithWashington’s
¯ and America’s response to AIDS, prayer
: probably was_a good’idea. ~ ...................
¯ Fisher stated that-America.iacks -the. 3
; basicingredients to wina fight withAIDS:
¯ no national plan for researeh~ .car~e or pre-
: vention, nor visible, competent, or trusted
." leadership, nor sufficient funding.
¯ Fisher said we also must look for leadership
from the uninfected, ,We. are like
; .’ .ca fl nghtsmovement whose leaders die
; ev~t~"year.
: Inaninterviewwith.TFN, Fishernoted
¯ that she would have said we’re making
¯ progress in the AIDS fight prior to the
¯" 1994 Republican sweep. But now she
¯ says we haven’t followed who’s coming
: up in that party and we must hold our
~ leaders feet to the fire. "We must commu-
¯ nicate that tiffs fightis about human rights,
¯¯ not about moraljudgements....women,
especially, need to say I matter.’"
PFLAG at Central-Library
Editorial: Kudos to Tulsa Org.
Themembers&officers ofTnlsaChapter
of Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians
&Gays deserve high praise for their
exhibit currentlyat theTulsaCity,County
Library, as does the libraD’ staff. The
exhibit is good but you will appreciate it
even more when you know that PFLAG
had only a little more than a week to
prepare it. The exhibit, up-through April is
a snapshot of what PFL~G’s about & of
Lesbian & Gay life. Tulsa Family News
strongly encourages you to see the’exhibit
before it doses.
LESBITERIAN &
¯ StillwaterandendinginTulsaon Sunday,
May 19 at College Hill Presbyterian, 712
! S. Columbia. College"Hill will host a
: dinner and dialogue at 5pro, followed by
." worshipat 7pro. Her visit is sponsored by
¯ College Hill and Presbyterians for Les-
." bian,’Gay Concerns.
: Spahr is an evangelist with the special
¯ ministry ’q’hat .MI May Freely Sen’e’" of
: the Downtown United Presbyterian
-" Church (DUPC) ofRochester,NeW York,
: in parmership with Westminster Presby-
¯ terianofTiburon, CA.In 1991,Spahrwas
: by DUPC to serve as Co-pastor but was
¯ denied that position in an unprecedented i move by the ruling body of the-pre~bvterian
Church (USA), the.General Ass~m-
¯ see Spahr, page 10
G reatPlains Rodeo
"In OKC, May 24.26
: The Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Association
¯ (OGRA) will hold its tt.th-annual rodeo
: on Memorial Day Weekend, May 24-26.
: It features 2 days of rodeo at the OKC
¯ State Fairgrounds and 3 nights of parties
: and exhibits at the Hilton Inn. N\V~
: OGRA beganin 1984. TheGreat Plaius
: Regional Rodeo was formed through the
¯ efforts of Kansas, Missouri and Okla-
: homa and held its first rodeo in 1986 In
: 1993, Arkansas formed theDiamond State
: Rodeo Association and joined the Great
~ Hains organization. OG1L~t’s volunteers
¯ are dedicated providing rodeo ~vents for
_" Lesbians and Ga)’~menand als0 to sup-
" porting AIDS charities. Membership is
¯ noflimited to rodeo .compet.it0fs Formore
¯ info. "call 405-842-0849.
April 15 - May 14, 1996, Volume 3, Issue 5
¯ Run for YourLives, Part3
i LegislativeUpdate
¯ Anti-Gay Amendments Die ¯
OK Senate staff confirm that. HB 2554
¯ is "dead" for this session. HB 2554 ad-
¯ dressed divorce law changes but was
~ amended to ban same-gender marriage
_" even if those were legal elsewhere.
¯ ~ Anamendment to the"Ryan Luke" bill,
¯ HB 2053, would ban child custody by a
: "known homosexual,lesbian or bisexual."
." Rep. Laura Boyd, author ofHB 2053, told
¯ TFN that the anti-Gay amendment was
." "out for good." It appears that this session
~ will draw to a close in May without thc
." passage of any anti-Gay bibs or amend-.
ments, only the anti-Gay but merely svm.
! bolic resolution #1045. "
i Coming Soon!
: On May 23, the Tulsa Ice Arena will
." host at 7:30pro the first Red Ribbon lc~
." Revue. ’l’he evening will feature profes.
¯ sional skaters from Kansas City, OK("
: andTulsa All tickel proceeds will benefit
: Our House which provides support for
¯ those challenged by HI\," AIDS. Tickets
¯ are $8, balcon.v seats and S12.50 for on- ¯
ice seats at the .Arena at 71st & .~.hugo
¯ (behind the 1 2 Price Store). For~more
¯ info. ".call Shane Douglas at 254--7272. ¯
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ies, Will be on Juue 21 & 22at the \Varrcn
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¯ Deb Roberts and Steve Wright: For more ¯
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: with AIDS. The group meets on the Ist &
: 3rd Thurs. each month: Call 584-6460.
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! of:providing education about HIV;AIDg
¯ and ofproviding support to persons living ¯
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¯ Will host a sen’ice commemorating !0
" years of work on Sunday, May 19 at 3pm.
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meeting of the AIDS Coalition.
The oriDns of the organization were in
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Reccntl v. I received a message on my machine
that said. =tli Tom, t~s is Keit~ S~ from the
A(’I ,V offi~ in OMahoma City....’" Smith. who’s a
rc~dtor and ad s~esm~ for OKC paper The Perspec’t~
ve, was m~appy about ~ ~ficle that we
wrote. The article stated that he’d helped OMa.
I louse M~0ont~ Leader Benson rewrite Benson’s
vcrx ant~-Gav resolution. #1~5. Sxmth clmms he
heisted chm~e the anti-gay lang~ge of the ongin~
version to l~guage that ~ght be ~i~- slightly
less ami:Gay. We ~so wrote that some OKC folks
had accused Smith of passing ~mselfoff~ spokesperson
for the OM~oma LGBT ~umties. I
promised Smith that I’d address ~s c0n~ms.
At one meeting with Benson, S~th says he was
with Jo Ann Bell of the ACLU. Ms. Bell swe~s that
Smith only represented ~mself. Smi~ says that at
a later meeting (where Bell w~ not present), he
helped Beuson m~e specific ch~ges in l~g~ge
of # 1 045: but that he told Benson &at he nevertheless
opposed the fin~ drMt (which hehelped write).
Seem confusing?
Smith appears to have b~n view~ by Benson,
by Rcp. I ~ura Boyd. by other legislators, and by
State l)emocratic P~tv Ex~ufive ~r~tor Pat
Ihdl. as an anthofized ~pokesperson for Gay ~d
I ~sbian counnunitv. As a result, some le~slators
votedagainst us, thinking ~at they had our blessrag.
Through mepmess or nmvete on ~s p~t ~d
possibly opportmfism on the p~t of some le~slators,
what hc clmms w~ ~ effort to m~e 100%
bad rcsolution into one that would~ ody~%bad
wound up being used against him and us.
And while Smith may feel he’s been beat up,
actually there’s enough blame to spread around.
Tulsan~ should strongly object to the failure of
OKC groups, who were having meeungs about
#1045, to commumeate regularly with any Tulsa
activists or groups. If it wasn’t Smith singlehandedly
representxng the entire state, it was the
OKC organizations acting as though they did. The
ACLU. which is a statewide organization, made no
effort to communicate, even with its Tulsa board
members. OGLPC’s Paul Thompson did commumcate
with TOHR when #1045 was first introduced,
but apparently not when this meeting was
.happening. Tulsa groups who were working on this
~ssue might also have called OKC groups. However.
it seems that the greater obligation falls on
those who have the advantage of proximity to the
Capitol and know better when action’s happening.
After stories like this, I sometimes think we are
our own worst enemy.-Smith has substantial experience
with the legislature, and we’d be foolish not
to take advantage of it. But it also appears that we
need to make sure that those who represent us at the
Capitol really represent all of us - in Tulsa, and
wherever else there’s an organized community in
the state, as well as in Oklahoma City.
Just one last thing about representation: Smith is
neither an officer nor an employee of the ACLU.
He volunteers but according to ACLU board president,
Mark Hendricksen, Smith should not identify
himself as though he’s staff or an officer.
Does make you kind-of wonder, doesn’t it.’?
Ilello, you don’t know me, but I certainly know
you. I live with you. I work with you. I may even be
involved with you. And yes, I’ve often masqueraded
,as v0u. I’ve had to: I’m practically invisible,
you see.’Or maybe you don’t....
I am a transsexual. But being a transie i~ this
town doesn’t add up to a great deal of visibility.
That’s funny, considering that scarcely a day goes
by when I DON’T hear somebody whispering
b~hindmy back,"Is that a boy or a girl ! Noit’s gotta
be a faggot! Well...maybe it’s a Dyke after all..."
Manya ume, I, and other transsexuals/transgender
persons, have taken the homophobic backlash for
our gay ,and lesbian brothers and sisters, stmply
because we are usually more visible than most.
Nobody loves a hermaphrodite. Androgyny makes
: most people really edgy. But I expect that from
most people (sadly enough). What hurts though, is
how Gays and Lesbians have taken little notice of
: us, in their silence, colluding to collapse our distinct
identities into theirs.
: Let’ s face it... how many of you gays andlesbians
¯ out there, in yourpersonal and political lives, focus
¯ on gender issues just as much as you focus on sex
and sexuality? In this society, gender is taken for
: granted. Gender deviance ~s taken as a personal
insult, see Letters, page 13
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*B,’unboo Lounge, 7204 E. Piue
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria
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*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
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Derails C. Arnold, Realtor 746-46~0
*Assoc. in Medical & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
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*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
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Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521
Cherry St. Psychotherapy Assoc. 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Tim D,’miel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
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*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th
Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 4423 S. Memorial
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan
Express Pools & Spas, 6310 S. Peoria
Foxlinx, Computer Consultation
Demme M. Gross, Financial Planning
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Scott Robison’s Presc~ptions, see ad for 3 locations
Southwest Viatical. 4146 S. Harvard, Ste. F-5
Thomas Chiropractic Clinic, 4138 S. Harvard, Ste. C-1
Kellie J. Watts, attorney
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling
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Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
*Agape’ Christian Fellowship, 2 l st& Sheridan 599-7688
*Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Ctr. 2627B E. I 1 628-0594
*B/LiG Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
*Chapman Student Center, University of Tulsa
*Community of Hope (United Methodist), 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800
Dignity/Integrity (Lesbian/Gay Catholics &Episcopalians) 298-4648
*Fanfily of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441
*l~ree Spirit Lesbian Center call for location &info: 587-4669
Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
Friends in Unity (African-Amer. men), POB 8542, 74101 425-4905
Indian Health Care. Save the Nation 584-4983
Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
*MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
*HIV Resource Consortium, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 749-4194
NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 748-3111
PFLAG , POB 52800 74152 749-4901
Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118 74104
R.ATN.. Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 665-5174
St. Jerome’s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria~ 646-7116
*ShanfiHotline 749-7898
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, (TOHR) POB 52729 74152
TOHR Gay HelpLine (Info.) 743-4297
Technicians, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
T.U.L.S.A Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
*Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor
*University Center at Tulsa
Beaver Dam Store, 112 mi. N. of Dam on Hwy. 1’87 501-253-6154
*Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457
DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807
*Emerald Rainbow, 45&1/2 Spring St. 501-253-544.5
King’s Hi-Way, 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62W 800-231-1442
*MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337
McClung Realtors 501-253-%82
Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659 800-624-6646
Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001
The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281
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with regard to race, creed, etl’afic origin,
religious preference or sexual orientation"
that is harassing.
Utah Gov. Vetoes Anti-Gay Bill
SALT LAKE CITY - Utah Gov. Mike
Leavitt has vetoed a measure, SB246, that
would have barred teachers 111 public
sdaools from encouragtng or condoning
any act that is illegal under state law. The
measure-wasspecifiCallyaimed at~pre~
venting teachers from serving as sponsors
fo~gay and lesbian clubs in public schools,
anassue that exploded earlier this year in
the state.: Even though Lea~iRt vet0ed;the
measure, he nevertheless said, "I support
the statement that was made in SB246, but
we cannot infringe on free speech." The
Utah Education Assn. had opposed the
measure and said the governor "absolutely
did the right tiring."
Calif. Trustees Wiggle Around
Outright Gay Club Ban
GLENDALE, Calif. - Trustees for the
Glendale, Calif., school district have decided
under pressure from civil rights
groups not to adopt a policy that would
require students to get parental perufission
in order tojotn gay and lesbian school
clubs specifically, and instead modified
the policy to make it apply to any "’controversial"
non-curricular clubs at the city’s
public schools. The school board had initially
intended to make the policy apply.,,.’
only to the gay and lesbian club that
students at Hoover High School had asked
to form, but decided to make the policy
apply generally to any "’controversial"
dubs so it wouldn’t appear to be discriminatory.
Civil fights advocates were not
satisfied with the broader parental permission
requirement and argue that the
adopted policy simply covers up the original
intention of the board to make it nearly
impossible for gay and lesbian students to
join the proposed club. Marc Elovitz, s taff
attorney for the ACLU’s Lesbian mad Gay
Rights Project, said the policy "’was a
thinly-veiled attempt ,:o silence gay
youths." "’Rather than making it more
difficult for iesbi,an and gay teenagers to
come out. the school board should be
meeting to discuss ways to create a friendlier
environment for gay youths," Elovitz
said.
School Board Facing Backlash
ROCKVILLE, Md. - The Montgomery
County (Md.) school board’s decision to
include sexual~_orientation in its list of
an~i-bias~prOtections passed by a 6-0 vote
on Mar. 25, but it has also sparked a threat
by an ad-hoc group of Hispanic parents to
remove their children from the district’s
p’~blic sctiools: Som~’400 pa~eh~s qUidld~,
formed the ’Hispanic Paren~ of M~mgomery
Coamty in an effort to convince
the trustees to change their minds about
ELVI
Seen to
with the umversiw’s, own anti-bias poll
~ ,:;ies. The }ssue of ROTC at colle2es and
~mversiues tth~oughout the conntrv has
t:.cen more or less on the back buruer fin
the past few years, following President
(i!inton’s initial promise to end the ban.
But with the so-called "don’t ask, don’t
tell" policy increasingly seen by manv
rights activists as no improvement over
the previous policy, ROTC programs are
again coming under fire.~
MIT Not Im pressed With-ROTC
CAMBRIDGE. M~ss: ’- ~’At the M’assachusetts
Institute of Technology, the final
report presented of a speciMtask force
study group on Reserve Office Training
:i ~ Cbi~s uifit~ ai ~e!s’d~601~t with a Chilly
: reception byMIT faculty Wh6 in April
¯ will decide what to do about the
¯ reawakened controversy. Several faculty
the newly adopted policy. Many of the ~ leaders complained thal the report was
tittle more than a compromise that resolved
nothing, while others said the report
recommendations, if adopted, would
themselves amount to a violation of M1T’s
anti-bias protections.
parents expressed concerns the new policy
would actually lead to homosexual activities
in the schools and expose their children
to HIV. But so far school officials are
not backing away from the policy, which
is simply a parallel to one already on the
books for the entire county, and Paul
Vance, the county’s superintendent of
schools, said the new policy doesn’t "promote,
encourage or approve of sexual
activity of any kind."
setting up or keeping an ROTC unit at the
school, or preventing any student from
enrolling in an ROTC program.
Univ. of Penn. Drops ROTC
PHILADELPHIA - Univ. of Penn. Provost
Stanley Chodorow has announced
that the school is dropping its Armv and"
Naval Reserve Officer Training ~orps
programs on campus because of the Defense
Department" s continued ban against
Gavs and Lesbians in the I’.S. military
The decision ends a 5-year conflict between
the military and the school over the
anti-gay protfibit]on, wtuch is in conflict
LYN
Philbrook
Representatives was amended without
notice or hearings to protfibit same-sex
marriages and passed by a4-to- 1 margin.
By a 16-3 vote. the Alaska state Senate
has also approved a bill that would restrict
man’iage in the state to male-female.
The Central Conference of American
Rabbis, representing rabbis in the Reform
movement, has voted to support the fight
of gays and lesbians to civil marriages in
the U.S. The resolution, which cites "’our
Jewish commitment to the fundamental
pnnciple that we are all created in the
divine image," endorses "’the fight of gay
and lesbian couples to share fullx and
equally in the fights of civil marriage,"
and opposes "’govermnental efforts to ban
gay and lesbian marriage."
Don Thornton F~rd, 83~-7.101
{f you take an honest look ai ga
lesbian attitudes towardsgcndet-bending
queers in the commuiuty youwill find a
good deal of resentment. The drag queens,
the fem-fairy boys, the bulld~’kes are routinelv
scorned (just take a look at
queer personals ad). Gays mad, Dzsbians
also are at great pmns to accept bisexuals.
who "fide the fence," unable to linut their
partners,.to asingle gender. And transies?
-:;" T~hh~eyy.’l’rl eaklwiddaiyn,sg’r, ethaelmlys"elbv~es,wtohoat,ebveecrausesxe
they were born & nothing more.
It’~s this disregard for gender isshes that
worries me the most. As queers we-all
experience gender-based discrimination
Yet, for all the similarities we share, there
is a great deal of ignorance and apath3
about the differences, & that’s dangerous.
I’m talking about the kind of ~gnorance
that separates transpersons from the res~
of the crowd, threatens us, distorts us, and
claims our accomplishments and experiences.
It’s about reading the "Crying
Game" as a gay flick rather than a film
about a transgendered person. It’s abou!
claiming Joan of.Arc solely as an histonc
Lesbian, not a transgend~r pioneer. It’s
about the Murder of Mr. Brandon Teena
and his girlfriend, for being "’lesbians,"
reducing Teena’s life and commitment to
living as a man. to a "lesbian’s" pathetic
attempt to "’pass" for a straight matt.
Well. I’m here to try and shed a little
light on the differences and similarities
among the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and
trans colnmunities. M\ (trans)mission
clear. I have to let you "know I’m here. And
I’m listening .... Are you? - June Polk
News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News Briefs News
Attacks Drop Slightly significant increases included: " thestateSupremeCourthasagain . serviccsifhersexualorientation of energy for the day, mid you
but More Violent
SAN FRANCISCO - Attacks
against gays and lesbians in 11
of the country’s larger cities
decreased slightly overall last
year according to a report
compiled by the National
Coalition of Anti-Violence
Programs. But while some cities
showeddramatic declines in antigay
violence, ,an equal number
0fcities she.wed equally dramatic
increases m attacks aimed at
lesbians and gay men, according
to the report’s statistics.
More disturbing, anti-violence
activists say, even with the small
overall decline in attacks, the
offenses themselves are
becoming increamngly more
savage. Even though the total
number of all incidents reported
in the 11 cities dropped to 2212
las! year from the 1994 total of
240 [, about a quarter of those
incidents were assaults mid more
than a third of all the victilns of
these attacks suffered serious
iujnrics or died as a result of the
attacks
in Portland. Ore.. reported
anu-gay incidents dropped 56
percent last 3"ear frotn 106 in
1994 to just 47 in 1995 - the
largest decrease logged
nauonal report. Clficago wasn’t
much behind and showed a
decrease of 53 percent last year
with reported incidents falling
Item 177 to 83. Boston and Los
:\ngeles both showed comparable
decreases ~n reported
attacks last year (26 percent and
23 percent respectively). Most
of these decreases were offset by
cities that reported dramatl~
increases in anti-gay attacks. E1
P.aso. Texas. reported the largest
nsc with a42 percent increase in
mm-ga3 attacks, ajump from 92
incidents in 1994to 131 last year.
Other cities that showed
Phoenix, a 22 % increase;
Columbus, Ohio, with a 21%
rise in reported incidents; and
Minneapolis/St. Paul, up by 15
% last year.
Hate Crimes Data
Measure Before Senate
WASHINGTON, D.C. - The
Senate has begun its first round
of hearings on reauthorizing the
federal Hate Crimes Statistics
Act, the 1990 le~slation that
requires the Justice Department
to compile and analyze hatebased
crimes, including an tigay
attacks. Activists have
expressed some concerns the
measure may have more trouble
in Congress than it did 6 )’ears
ago because of the increasingly
conservative make-up of both
houses.
Anti-Violence March at
Kentucky School
MOREH~D, Ky. -Nearly 200
students, faculty and staff
members marched through the
Morehead State Umverszty
campus ~n a "Take Back the
Night" campaign aimed atraising
awareness of anti-gay and -
lesbian violence at the school.
The march, the first of its kind at
the school, was sparked by the
Feb. 5 attack of Carrie O’Cohnor,
a lesbian enrolled at MSU.
According to MSU campus
police, 3 masked men grabbed
O’Connor as she was walking
back to her dormitory and
repeated ly punched and ~.icked
her. Officials say they still have
no suspects in that attack, but it
was reported to state police as an
anti-gay hate crime - the first
such official report filed by the
school.
Georgia Sodomy Law
ATLANTA-In a legal challenge
to Georgia’s anti-sodomy law
- broughtby L. Chris Chrisuansen,
ruled that the statute does not
violate the Georgia constitution’s
privacy protections. Instead, the
court ruling says the law furthers
"’the moral welfare of the public."
Christiansen was convicted on
misdemeanor charges of
violating the sodomy law after
he propositioned an undercover
sheriff’s deputy.
Montana’s Sodomy Law
HELENA, Mont. - Montana
Attorney General Joe Mazurek
has appealed a state court ruling
that declared the state’s anti-gay
sodomy law unconstitutional as
a violation of privacy. The case
automatically goes.to the ~state
supreme court. Mazurek" s office
said he had decided to appeal the
Feb. 16 ruling because courts,
especially lower courts, should
be Vex3, cautious about striking
down laws made by the state
legislature. Gay rights activists
in Montana said they weren’t
surprised by the appeal and
expected the case to go before
the state supreme court.
Lesbian Tells Parliament
of Rape in Royal Navy
LONDON" - Parliament heard a
stunning admission from Karen
Greig, who described to a select
conmaittee on the armed forces
how she was raped by a male
sailor she served with in the
Royal Navy who threatened to
reveal her lesbianism to naval
officers ifshe protested. Greig,
33, said she arranged to be
transferred to a naval station in
Scotland to escape the man’s
sexual attacks, but that he later
tracked her down and raped her
with another male sailor. She
told the select committee
members that she had not
reported the attacks for years
because she was worried she
would be discharged from the
¯ crone to light. Greig said tlmt
¯ wheu she finally reported die
¯
attacks, a superior officer
¯ suggested that perhaps the reason
she wasu’t dealing with the
¯ situation very ~vell ~vas"because
¯ you’re a lcsrian." She ",also said
¯
~hat as soon as she reported the
¯
attacks she was se nt to a
¯ psyclfiatric hospital for 3 days
¯ and that the mcu she says raped
¯ her were uever puuished.
¯ Brit Defense Minister
¯ Vows to Keep Ban
¯ LONDON - Nicholas Soames,
Britain’s defense minister, told
Parli,’uneut during a question-
" m~swer period that 309 service
¯
members had been discharged
¯ between 1990and 1994because
they were homosexual. Somnes
¯
was answering questions about
¯ a miuistry report that showed
¯¯ members of the uation’s armed
forces are strongly opposed to
¯
ending the ban on gay midlesbian
¯ soldiers, sailors ~md marines.
So,’unes said lie was p~epared to
¯ "’fight every inch of the way:" to
¯ keep the anti-gay ban in place. ¯ Golf Champ Comes Out
¯
NEW YORK- Muffin Spencer-
" Devlin, an 18-yearveteranofthe
LPGA Tour, has told Sports
Illustrated in an exclusive
¯ interview that she is a lesbian.
¯ "Confiug outis like an incredibly
huge ~veight being lifted from
my shoulders," Spencer-Devlin
told the magazine. "’No more
¯ living iu the shadows. No more
lies.’" The 42-year-old pro golfer
has won 3 tournament titles mad
¯ last year had 3 fiuishes in the
¯ top-10, winning more than
$100,000 from tournament play.
"I truly believe that keeping a
secret is an energy-consurmng
¯ act," Speficer-Devlin says in the
iuterview. "If every day when
¯
you wake up you have 100 units
have secrets, they nfight take up
10 milts of that energy. After a
time you ufightnot even be aware
of it anymore, but you have that
much less cuergy to apply in
your life. And that’ suuliealthy."
Vickie Fergon, LPGA president,
mid Jim Ritts, the conunissioner,
both told Sports Illustrated they
support Spencer-Devlin’s
decision to come out. "’I applaud
Muffin," Said Fergon. ’Tm not
saying every player will be
thrilled about it, but we’re a
family and we respect each
other." Ritts is quoted as saying,
"I know there are still individuals
who have problems with diversity,
but we’ve come so far as a
society that I don’t see this as a
topic that really moves people."
Gay Clubs in Russia
ST. PEI’ERSBURG, Russia -
The Tchaikovsky Fuud, one of
the few gay rights organizations
in Russia, has brokennew ground
with the opeuing late last year of
a new club, know as "’Victor i
Ya" ("Victor and I"), in the
former czarist .capital. Yuri
Yereyev, who heads the
Tchaikovsky Fun& said the club
offers not only social facilities,
like a cafe mid place where people
can dance, but also will be
holding seminars to educate the
Russian people about gays and
lesbians. Another major feature
of the club, Yereyev says, is an
extensive AIDS education and
prevention prograni. The club
hands out free HIV literature as
well as condoms, both of Milch
are in short supply in Russia.
Yereyev also said another barrier
was broken in February when a
lesbian club, "Safe" ("Sappho")
officially opened in St.
Petersburg as well, not far from
the "Victor i Ya."
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Canadian human rights commissioner
has sharply criticized
the Liberal government of Prime
MinisterJean Chretienin a report
for not protecting the rights of
gays. In a parting shot, after 9
years heading the commission,
Max Yalden said the failure to
bar discrimination based on
sexual orientation in the country
is "little better than acquiescence
in intolerance." Yalden’ s annual
reportcalledit"afailureinmoral
logic and a near-public
repudiatioff’ of the rightsoflawabiding
citizens mad sl~mmed
the Chretien government for
failing to amend the Canadian
Human Rights Act during the
past 2 years it has been in power
despite promises to extend full
civil rights to Canadian gays and
lesbians. The report generated
an immediate political storm in
the country and Chretien told
Parliament the government had
already enacted legislation
increasing legal penalties for
anti-gay attacks and other hate
crimes. He also promised that a
bill anending the federal human
rights laws "will be presented
before this House before we
move to an election." But Allan
Rock, thejustice minister, said it
would be "politically difficult"
to enact such an anendment
before the election because of
disagreements within the Liberal
Party. Liberal MP Grit Dan
McTeague of Ontario called
Yalden a "nut bar," and sever al
Conservative and Reform Party
members also attacked the
proposal to include gays and
lesbians under federal human
rights protections.
Canadian Commons
Gives Partners Benefits
OTFAWA - .Canada’s highlysecretive
Commons Board of
Internal Economy, which
oversees internal spending for
the House of Commons itself,
has approved limited benefits for
same-sex partners of Commons
¯
employees. The board agreed to
extend bereavement and familyrelated
leave to the same-sex
partners of Commons employees.
The decision followed a
move by the country’s Treasury
¯
Board last year to extend the
¯ same benefits to same-sex
¯ partners of employees in all fe
¯
deral government departments.
¯ That measure followed a court
¯ ro!ing that. same-sex, partners
h’a~,E a righi :to ihose benefits. ¯
Gay Retires from Navy
¯
SAN DIEGO, Calif, - In ,an
¯ exclusive interview in the Gay +
Lesbian Times, Keith Meinhold,
the openly gay sailor who
¯ successfully battled with the
¯ Na~vy’s attempt to discharge him
¯ after he came out on a national
¯¯ TV news broadcast, announced
he is retiring from the military.
Meinhold, 33, w,as stationed at
the Moffett Field Naval Air Sta-
¯ tion where he was a well-liked
: sonar instructor when he told
: Ted Koppel of ABC News in
¯ 1992 that he was gay. After he
fought discharge attempts for 2
¯ years, the 9th Circuit Court of
¯ Appe~.s finally ordered the Navy
not to discharge the 15-year
veteran.
1st Annual Pride
¯ Paradein CapeTown
¯ CAPE TOWN, South Africa -
An estimated 1,000 gays and
¯
lesbians turned out Saturday
night, March 24, to march in the
¯ first annual Gay & Lesbian
Festival parade. Two lone and-.
gay protesters showed up along
: the parade route, holding si~s
with biblical quotations
¯
denouncing sodomy, but they
¯ were hardly noticed among the
thousands who lined the streets
to watch the landmark event.
San Francisco Library’s
Gay & Lesbian Wing
SAN FRANCISCO - A new
wing ofthe yet-to-be opened San
Francisco Main Library is being
called one of a kind. On March
23, hundreds of city officials,
community leaders and residents
gathered to preview the James
C. Hormel Gay and Lesbian Cen-
: ter inside the newly constructed
library. The Hormel Center will
serve as a research center for gay
and lesbian literature, culture,
- hisidry hnd’ ~r:~search. The
research ~center is the first of its
kind in a public institution
anywhere in the country.
"It’s principal benefactor,
James Hormel, said the center
will change the way everyone -
gay and straight- looks athistory.
"’It is time for us to receive the
recognition we deserve and to
take our place as equal members
of the community at large,"
Anti-Bias Albany
ALBANY, N.Y. - Lawmakers
have adopted an anti-bias
ordinance prohibiting discrimination
in employment, housing
and public accommodations
based on race, religion, national
origin, sex, age, disability and
marital status, as well as sexual
orientation. The countywide
measure was approved 24-13.
Albany Mayor Jerry Jennings
has signed a measure setting up
a city domestic partners registration
that will allow unmarried
same-sex and opposite-sex
couples to register their
relationship with city hall. The
measure, approved by the city’s
commoncouncil earlier the same
week, extends no specific
benefits, but does extend official
recognition to the domestic
partnership.
Gay Cops Sue NYPD
NE\V YORK - The Gay
Officers’ Action League
(GOAL) has filed a lawsuit in
Federal District Court charging
that the New York Police Dept¯
denies the gay and lesbian police
officers orgamzation rights and
privileges that it routinely extend
s to other police fraternal groups.
Although GOAL is officially
recognized by the NYP1) as a
fratcr,nal o~ganization, the suit
charges that it has been refused
permission to set up displays at
police headquarters COlnmemorating
gay and lesbian cops, has
not beenallowed to use NYPD
vehicles ~n the city" s annual Gay
Pride Parade, and has been
denied permission to have the
force’s marching band participate
in the giant parade as well
The suit charges that Black, Irish
and Hispamc officers" fraternal
groups are routinely extended
such privileges while the
department continues to refuse
such requests by GOAL, which
has about 500 NYPD members.
NYPD officials declined to
coimnent on the lawsuit.
Notre.Dame’s Gay Org.
SOUTH BEND, Ind. - Responding
to recommendations by
an ad hoc Committee on Gay &
Lesbian Student Needs, Patricia
O’Hara, Notre Dame’s vice
president for student affairs, has
announced that the Catholic
aniversity will allow Notre Dame
Gay & Lesbian Students official
recognition at the school,
although it will be set up
differently from other student
groups on campus. The school
will not, however, recognize an
already existing gay and lesbian
group that it rejected last .’,ear.
According to O’Hara’s office,
NDGLS ~vill "stand in special
relationship to the Office of
Student Affairs (to) assist gay
and lesbian students in coufing
together to lind muttml support
and in exploring connnon issues
within the context of this
commumty and the teachmgs of
the Catholic Church." NI)GI ^S" s
advisors will also bc appointed
by O’ ttara, uulikc other stndcnl
groups on c~m~pns ~vhich sclccl
their own advi.sors. The
univcrsit~ will contlnnc.
however, to refuse to recognize
a~ unofficial student gronp, (]a\s
& Lesbians of Notre l)anc and
St. Mary’s College which ~vas
kicked off cmnpus last year even
though ~t continues to fraction
as a non-canpus orgali/21tlon
More Amer!eans
Approve of Gays
ATLANTA - Accordiug to a
CNN:’[’SA Today poll conducted
by the G~llnp organization,
44"% of those interviewed
said they thought homoscxualit.~
acceptable, a dranatic incrcasc
over a similar Gallup poll done
in 1982 which fom~d only 34%
said they thought being gay was
OK. This year’s poll also fotmd
that on13 27% said saint-sex
mamages should be legal, while
68% said gay and lesbian
maniages should not be legalized
in this country. Earlier polls had
not included questions abont
legalizing sane-sex marfiagcs.
Holocaust Museum’s
Gay & Lesbian Campaign
SAN FIL’-kNCISCO -A stellar
showing on the eve of a revival
production of Leonard Bemstein’s
"On theTown" here raised
some S150,000 for the [’.S.
Holocaust Memorial Muscum" s
Gay & Lesbian Canpaign. The
S 1,500-a-head event drew such
luminaries as conductor Michael
Tilson Thonms, librettists Betty
Comden and Adolph Grcf~{,
soprano Frederica yon Stadc,
baritone Kurt Olhuann, and
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Poll: Teach Kids About AIDS
WASHINGTON - The Kaiser Family
Foundation hasjust released a major public
opinion survey that indicates the
overwhelming majority of Americans -
95% in fact - think public schools should
teach kids about HIV and AIDS, and that
nearly two-thirds think students should
start learning about the disease by the
time they are 12 years old. The survey also
found tl{at some 66% of the 1,500 adults
polled think IV drug users should be given
clean needles to help prevent the spread of
HIV and that some 70% think television
networks should air condom ads.
Mollyann Brodie, who conducted the
survey, said Americans are actually faidy
wall informed about the epidemic, but
also noted that there are still some .
significant misconceptions. About half
those surveyed said people can get HIV
by donating blood, which, they cannot.
About half those polled also said people
who become infected begin to show
symptoms within 5 3"ears, although it is
usually more than 5 years before s3anptoms
become apparent. About 18% also said
they believed there was "’some truth" in
the idea that the virus was originally
produced as part of a govethment germwarfare
expemnent, while 12% said they
thought-. AIDS was "’God’s punishinent’"
of homosexuals.
AIDS Rate High in U.S. Prisons
ATLANTA - According to a report iu
Baltimore Sun. the federal Ceuters for
Disease Control & Prevention reports that
~inmates in the country’s largest
correctional institutions are nearlv 6 times
as likely as the general populatio~ to have
AIDS. The paper reports that according to
the CDC, the U.S. prison population has
an infection rate of 5.2 cases per 1,000
prisoners, while the general U.S.
population has less than 1 case (0.9) case
per 1,000. CDCofficials said most inmates
are already infected with HIV when they.
enter the prison system, but that ,they also
spread the virus ~ough shared IX, n~edles
and sexual acti~;’~ties 0rice behind bars).....
Calif. Medical Assn. Drops HI~
Reporting Recommendation ~i!
ANAHEIM, Calif. ~ The, Chli.forn~
Medical Associatiort ~M~lhag-cl~angffd
its mind about a policy it adopted ouly last
who are treated by doctors with a great
deal of experience with the disease
generally live significantly longer than
those who go to physicians with less
experience treating AIDS. AIDS experts
agree that keeping up with current
treatment modes is difficult for health
care professionals who don’t regularly
treat AIDS patients.
Study:i!iFederal AIDS Funding
i~ !! n~ppro~iately’ Spent
~¥~IN~T.~~L Tens of millions of
dollars allr~’~d by Confess for AIDS
research ..... i.n 1994 was spent
"’inappr0priatdt~"’ - either on stndies that
have ~ittl~ rele...~’ance to the disease or on
adm~ist~tH~~ costs that are almost
impossible to pin down - according to a
vear~Lhat enOor.sed mandatory reporting .~ -~el~drt~o~ssion.,~~ by the \Vhite House
~f individual:s who test positive for H,I~’ io ~.. ~ffied~fA~S. Thdrepo~headed bv Dr.
local health: officials. In March 1995 the ? ~krnold Le¢~ne of Yale}’iJniversity," was
CMA adopted a resolution that called for put together by some 114 scientists,
the state legislature to enact measures that
would require health-care workers in
California to report anyone testang positive
for the virus "for the purpose of partner
notification and disease control:only."
Last year" s decision drew stron~ criticism
from AIDS activists and many health care
professionals. Now the CMA says it was
wrong and that the possibility of people at
high risk for infection not getting tested
out of fears they will be reported to health
authorities outweighs other tracking and
notification considerations. Some 24states
in the U.S. require reporting of people
infected with HIV
Better Doctors = Better Patients
BOSTON" - To the surprise of almost no
one. researchers from the University of
Washington report Ul the New England
Journal @.ledicine that people with AIDS
scholars, activists, conmaumty leaders and
drug industry officials. Thereport is critical
of the National Institutes of Health’s $1.3
billion budget, and says some of the money
was used administratively to help keep
the individual health ~nstitutes,,,under the
NIH umbrella going, and some was used
to cover basic research that was related to
fighting AIDS. While the report focuses
on the 1994 budget, the most recent
available, many AIDS activists agree that
it reflects tren~ls that have been ongoing
for years. Derek Link of the Manhattanbased
Gay Men’s Health Crisis, the
nation’s largest AIDS advocacy group,
said he believes that funds for .-’kIDS
research, which have steadily increased
since the epidemic began, h~ve become
"the NCI’s cash cow. ....There’s all this
money that i s completely untracked3 smd
Link, who authored a little-noticed report
last year that was also highly critical of
federal AIDS research spending. The
report says, among other things, that the
accounting methods nsed by federal health
agencies connected to NIH are vague and
archaic, making it difficult or impossible
to also tell precisely what funds are actually
being spent on. "The different [committee]
panels and the working group were
unanimous that the NCI [National Cancer
Institute], and other institutes as well ...
presently support research classified as
AIDS-related that is not appropriately
classified This problem potentially
an~ounts to a very large level of funding,"
the report says.
Nat’l AIDS Update Conference
SAN FRANCISCO - The 8th annual
National AIDS Update Conference, the
largest in the country, opened with a
warmng by Republican AIDS activist
Mary Fisher that HMO-type managed care
is consigning millions of people infected
with HIV "to the least possible care, at the
least possible cost." Fisher electrified the
nation during a speech at the 1990 Republican
convention in Houston about how
she contracted the virus from her former
husband. "I ampampered bymyinsurance
company because I made a 13-minute
speech to a bunch of politicians in
Houston," Fisher told the opening session
here. "But there are nearly a million ofmy
brothers and sisters who are not so
pampered, who are consigned to the least
possible care, at the least possible cost."
HMOs and similar managed health-care
facilities that have swept the country in
the past decade have become "a fact of
life," Fisher and others agreed, and are
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health-care system that "has gotten
financially outbf control." But Fisher and
others urged activists and public policy
officials to find ways to work with
managed-care facilities in responding to
treating people with HW and ,AIDS.
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Dr. Sandra Hernandez, director of the San
Francisco Health Department: Patsy
Fleming, director of the White House
Office of National AIDS Policy, and
researcher Dr. Max Essex. chmrman of
the Harvard AIDS Institute.
D~g Distribution Comroversy
LOS ANGELES - A battle is erupting
ove_r the distribntion of Crixlvan, the
protease ialtibitor deve!oped by Merck &
Co. ihat nlmlx consider the n:ost promising
therapy’ in fighdng tim infection to date.
Because large-scale production of the drag
isnh expected to get going nnti! late this
year. Merck says it decided to distribute
~rixivan exciusiveix through the
Pittsburgh, Pa.-based mail-order
Stadtlm~der’s Pharmac~ Merck says n
?bled for the initiai single-source
4isvibvt~.o;7 because the d~m must bc
con_m~o.... x :)n, cse tremmem is
supplier. Ed Bubar, who runs FAdie’s
Pharmacy in West Hollywood and a
staunch opponen! of Merck’s decision,
called the move "’totally unfair" to
independent pharmacists in the country.
"’Everybody wants to get their hands on
tiffs drug,"’ he said. "If between now mad
October half of nay patients are slfifted to
mail-order for Crixivan, I can end tip
losing half of my patient base." Merck
says that when supplies of the dm~o increase
it will broaden its distribution to include
independent m~d chain pharmacies as well.
SOt. Perry Watkins Dies
TACOMA, Wash. - Sgt. Perry’ Watkins,
who entered the U.S. Army as an openly
gay mm: and remained despite tfi s sexual
onemauon, has died of AIDS. Wmkins
was 47. I :nlike other gay service members.
Watkins. checked "yes" on an enlistment
form in 1967 that asked about homosexuali{
y and was enrolled in the Ann,,
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homosexuals did the Army begin
disct:arge proceedings which the 14- veto:
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1703 i! 2nd, 585-1800
THURSDAYS
]6-Step Empowerment
Group For Women
Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd, In/o: 585-1800
Co-Dependency
Snpport Group
7:30, Family of Faith MCC
5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441
HIV TestingTOHR Clinic
Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm
Results hours: "~ - 9 pm
In/o: 742-2927
Tulsa Family Chorale
Wee"kly practice. 9:30 pm
Lola’s 2630 E. 15th
PFLAG Family AdDS
Support Group
1st & 3rd Thursdays
4h-~ S. Harvard. 74924901
Alternatives
V,’eekiv social events for
LGBT’men & women, 7 Dm
info: 646-5503
Substance Ab>sv
Support Grou,_
for ~ersons wifi~ H!’,-
415A-S. Harvard Sic
3-4:30 pro, I~o: 749-4!%4
SATURDAYS
St. Jerome’s Ecumenical
Catholic Church
Mass, 6 pill
Garden Chapel
3841 S. Peoria
In/o: Father Rick
at 742-7122
Narcotics Anonymous
Meets weeld y at ! I pm
Confidential gnpport for
recovering addicts.
Cormnunitv of ! lcpc
1703 E. 2nd, Ir~fo: 585-1800
NAMES Project
AIDS MemoHa~ Qui~
Sewing Bees
3rd Sat. of each inonth
Info: 7dg-3 t i
OTHER GROUPS
Gay & Lesbian Sn~dem
Assoc~o~’:
hio: (£;? 762 ’
7].3-(].- "-
Womens Supper Club
6:30pro, r-Fippin’s Pie P~mtry, 7828 E. -1
WEDNESDAY, APRIL 17
Pride Picnic Planning Meeting
7 pro. Central Library. Preview Room,
4fl~ & Denver. In/o: 583-1248
THURSDAY, APRIL 18
Planning Meetingfor Gay &
Lesbian Action AlertPhone Tree
6 pm, TOHR office, 40th & Harvard,
2nd ft. All welcome. In/o: 582-7548
APRIL 26-28
HIVIAIDS & SpiritualitylWholeness
Retreatfor Men, In/o: 488-9215
SATURDAY, APRIL 27
Rainbow Business Guild Spring Picnic
4 pro, Zink Park, In/o: 665-5174
Regional AIDS Interfaith Network
Volunteer Training (1 of2 sessions)
10-5 pm, Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd Info: 749-4213
/WEDNESDAY, MAY 1
Womens Supper Club ....
i6f30pm, Olive Garden, Utica Square
iInfo: 584-2978
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MAY 3-5
Texas Lesbian Conference
Dallas Grand Hotel
Info: Naomi @ 214-520-8108
SATURDAY, MAY 4
Regional AIDS Interfaith Network
Volunteer Training (2 of2 sessions)
10 - 5 pm, Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd hffo: 749-4213
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Right~’
7 pm. Chouteau Rin_ Chapmm~ Ctr.
In/o: 743-GAYS (4297)
SATURDAY, MAY 11
Dignity/Integrity Mass
5 pm, St. Dunstan’s, 5635 E. 71st
In/o: 745-2363
MONDAY, MAY 13
Parents Families & Friends of
Lesbians & Gays
Family AIDS Support Group. 6:30 pm
Social and Refreshntents, 7 pm
General Meeting, 7:30 pm
4154 S. Harvard, Info: 7494901
MAY 17-19
Herland Sister Resources Retreat
Roman Nose State Park
Registration deadline: 5/15
Info: 2312 NW 39th, OKC 73112
HIV/AIDS & Spirituality/Wholeness
Retreatfor Women, hffo: 488-9215
TUESDAY, JUNE 4
Tulsa Oklahomansfor Human Rights,
PFLAG & Rainbow B,tsiness GUIM
present Cece Cox, pres. ofthe ’
Dallas Gay & Lesbian Alliance
7 pm, ChouteaU Rm, Chapman Ctr, TU
In/o: 743-GAYS (4297)
SATURDAY, JUNE 8
TOHR Ci~wide Pride Prom
Location to be announced.
Info: 743-GAYS (4297)
SATURDAY, JUNE 15
Tulsa Pride Picnic
Noon - 6pm. Location to be ammunced.
In/o: 743-GAYS (4297)
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[] /)re.senz the
[] : 2rid Annual World Cinema Festivat
[] Gay & Lesbian Cinema :
¯¯ Friday, April 19
[] ¯
[]~ Gav & Lesbian History [][]
[] The Homosexuals. 7 pm
[] Before Stonewalh The Making of a Gay and
¯ Lesbian Comtnunirv, 8pm ¯
¯ Last Call at Maud’s, 9:30 pm []
¯ Saturday,., April 20
[] American Gay & Lesbian Experience ¯"
¯ [] [] Postcards From America, lpm
¯ A Comedy in Six Unnatural Acts, 2:30pm ¯
¯ Homoteens, 3pm ,
¯ The Blankpoint: What is Transexualism, 4pm
¯ ¯ ¯ Break for Dinner ¯
¯ Super 8 112, 7pm ¯
¯ ¯ ¯ Sunday, April 21 .
-" Gay & Lesbian International Film -"
¯
Wild Reeds, lpm ¯
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¯ Khltsh, 3pm
¯" El Diputado, 3:30pm
¯ Break for Dinner "
¯ ¯ ¯ Boys Shorts: The New Queer Cinema, 7pm ¯
¯ Urinal, 9pm ¯
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¯ Screenings are free and in Lorton Hall//207 (enter from 8th & ¯ Evanston. Lorton faces the Oval & is north of Twin Towers Dorm) ¯
¯ Sponsored by the TU Student Assoc~"att"on, BLGA, Office of the¯
"Provosl, School of Art, Hen~. Kendall College Division of Fine & ¯
~-Performing Arts, Office of the President .and Tulsa Family News.~-
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Episcopal Diocese of Oklahoma. Both
OKC and Tulsa members of the Task
Force felt the ne2xl to provide services to
PLWA’s, such as hospital visits, memorial
services and education.
Out of this, grew IAM which incorporated
and applied for its IRS tax-exempt
status in 1990. IAM was begunby Doreen
Wood;Phil Wiley, Don Satterthwaite and
Chaplin Diane Zike, who serves as executive
director.
Although IAM is an interfaith orgamzation,
its origin with the Episcopal Church
resulted in a grant in 1990 to run a 24hour
volunteer HIV/AIDS hotline. This line
was for several years the only source of24
hour information in the state. Calls to the
hotline range frombasic HIV information
and referrals, such as to testing sites, to
providing "real" listening to those who
want toknow if their actions may have put
them at risk for HIV infection. IAM’s
state certified volunteers and staff also
provide education seminars for churches,
and organizations such as the US Army
Corp of Engineers, Kimberly-Clark, and
booths at health fairs, conferences and
conventions.
IAM’s goal is to provide HIV.AIDS
information from a spiritual dimension,
especially for young people. According
to Diane Zike, "IAM is about saving
lives...w e believe in abstinence but also in
giving good information so people can
make good choices."
Zike has recently finished a couf~e in
clinical pastoral care which will allow
IAM to add a new dimension to its services.
IAM also offers "’trained visitors"
who are available to see folks who are
max be too ill to get out or x~l~o are lonely.
¯ IAM’s currentboardis Richard Reeder,
¯ Phil Wiley, Joe Myles, Lauren Green,
¯ Steven Fendt, Bill Green and Nancy Tiger.
Their vision for the future hopes to
add ameditation series, and various work-
.- shops to their current services of provid-
¯ ing spiritual, emotional and practical sup-
" port for people.
¯ IAM is a membership/volunteer sup-
" ported organization. Membership is only
¯" $5/year/individualor$10/year/household
¯ and $1/year/student/low income. Volun¯
teers are especially needed for the 24 hour
hofline whichis staffed in4hour blocks at
¯ the volunteer’s home. One day training is
¯ provided in HIV!AIDS information and ¯
in "active listening". For more info. or to
"- volunteer, call 438-AIDS (2437).
i Spahr ~on,’d~om p. 1
¯ bly because Spahr is Lesbian. Following
¯ that ruling, DUPC and Westminister, 2 ¯
More Light (welcoming of Lesbian and
¯ Gay persons) congregations, set up the
¯ special ministry so that she could travel
¯ the US educating and informing Presbvterians
and others on behalf of greater
¯ inclusiveness in the Church.
Spahr also will be the featured speaker
¯ at a workshop entitled "Claiming God’s ¯
Grace" in OKC on Sat.:May 18th. The
~vorkshop is beiug called "a day of healing,
learning and community as we work
toward wholeness in our lives as children
Of God & as Gay, Lesbian, Bi &
Transgendered peoples’" 9am to 4pm at
St. Andrew’s. 2712 NW 23. Preregistration
encouraged, although walk-ins are
welcome. Fee: S15, with scholarships
available. For more izffo, call 745-9922 in
Tulsa, 377-9174, Stilhvater or 840-4849
in OKC.
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John Weller for their incredible performances
in the production I "directed" -
HIVariations, consisting of Cater Waiter
& Andre’s Mother. Special thanks to
Vivica, & the rest of the cast - your suggestions
& insights were extremely helpful
& appreciated. I am very proud of
them. They performed perfectly, & the
technical aspects of the show went off
without a hitch - there wasn’t a dry eye in
the house when they were done. Thank
you for the many hours ofwork youall put
in, & for putting up with a sometimes
temperamental director. Special thanks to
Aaron Mooney, who worked the lights
with almost no preparation, no rehearsal,
& did a stellar job. A special thanks to
Professor Cook, for his belief in this
project, & his conviction that everyone
should have a voice in theatre.
I hope you’ll support the 2nd Annual
World Cinema Festival of Gay" & Lesbian
Cinema at the TU, which occurs Friday,
April 19 - Sunday, April 21. All films will
be screened in Lorton Hall, room #207, on
the TU campus. For the complete schedule
see the ad on page 9. See you there?
Onthe local front, BA Cornn{lmi’(~Playhouse
was named "Oklahoma Theatre of
the Year" by the OK Community Theatre
Association. According to Don Tabberer,
"For a community theatre, this is equivalent
to receiving the Best Picture Oscar; it
is very gratifying to be recognized for the
work we do here.’" BACPalso received an
award for "’Excellence in Marketing".
Congratulations, BACP! Their production
of "’The Cemeterx: Club", a story
about friendship, loss, healiug & facing
life with humor, opens April 26.
$ondheim’s "Company" opens June 14.
BACPis also looking for directors for the
upcoming season. For more info., call the
BACP at 258-0077.
Elvis is alive, &will probably be incognito
at the Philbrook. The Philbrook Museum
of Art will play host to a traveling
exhibit, "Elvis + Marilyn: 2x Immortal".
The exhibit examines Presley’s &
Monroe’s enduring effect on American
culture, & will be showing April 14- June
2, 1996. Keith Haring is one oftbe artists
featured. A special event on April 28 at 2
& 4 pm, will be a concert given by J.D.
Sumner & the Stamps Quartet, who performed
regularly with Elvis during the
height of his success. Tickets for the concert
are $15, & include admission to the
exhibit. Tix are available at the museum,
or call 748-5307. see Play, page 15
Rainbow cont’dfromp. 11
tain state, particularly inColorado Springs.
Colorado Springs’ loss is our gain. The
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resource for g/l/b/tg folk, and
the beat goes on. The place has a little
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and most of the familiar remains as wall.
Come and see for yourself. You can
meet M.C. &Linda, maybe swap or create
some God stories of your own. You might
pick up some incense, buy a Rainbow
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novel, ~nake a statement with a button
or bumper sticker, mid you will deftnitely
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The now proud owners ofThe
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March, but they decided to get a
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they that this was a quick trip,
just to give us the once over, that
the couple of five years did not
bother to bring their checkbook
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trieve parts of herself from along
some highway in Oklahoma. Jan
& Kim Ridenour, the founders,
and now former owners of The
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this particular event as just an-
Other good laugh at the Angel
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angel said, "Hey look, we need a
couplemore in Eureka Springs,"
In less than half a day;.~M.C..&~: ]....then, with a swift puff of air into
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venture, and the place didn’ t skip
a beat. By the nme we go to
press, their Grand Opemng will
be past, and the official passing
of the torch will be a memory.
These ladies are ready to settle in
for the long haul.
This move was fraught with
ironies for Linda & M.C. They
only lived in Colorado for three
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Spring, we called it another God the new Emerald Rainbow
Story. Linda& M.C. consistentl~ : "morns."
refer to It as a whirlwind, and
each feels like she needs to reday.
Both are nanve to the Baltimore,
MD area. Though they
moved toColorado Springs m
the aftermathof the Amendment
Two vote. th’e~; initially felt good
about that mo~’e. They wanted a
sabbatical from-the hustle and
bustle of life-in th~ big city, ,’rod
they weren:~t rs~ly,prepared lbr
the overt:nile that ~vangelicals
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READ ALL ABOUT IT
Reviewed by Barry Hensley
Tulsa City/County Public Library
. Twenty-six years after Stonewall and
s~xteen years into the AIDS crisis, gay
men are just now starting to figure out
how tomakelong-term relationships work,
and, more importantly, why they are significant.
Author Craig Nelson takes us on
a stage by sta’ge journey ~b0ut how to get,
and keep, a man.
In eleven readable and entertaining
chapters, Nelson explores "Modem Love,"
"Where to Meet Men,"
"Date Tips for Guys"
and "Keeping it Together,"
among other
topics. Since some guys
seem to find romantic
success via personal
ads and dating services,
Nelson supplies lists of
questions that help both
you and )’our potential
mate understand who
you are and what you
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small percentage of people are extremelY,
physically attractive, Nelson reminds th~
reader to loosen up, don’t beat up on
yourself, or a potential mate, for not looking
like Rod Jacksou-Paris. There is much
more to life & relationships than just
ha~.mg a pretty face.
Nelson cites many factors that combine
to sabotage long-term relationships, in-
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cluding poor self esteem, intemalized
¯ homophobia, lack of fidelity and the idea
that the other guy is just plain nuts! The
¯ bottomline seems to be lack of communication.
Everyone has quirks, so dream on
¯ if you’re looking only for Mr. Perfect, or
¯ if you think that you are Mr. Perfect! All
¯ .relationships are based on communicat-
¯ mg needs and desires.
¯ " ’There is an interesting chapter, "Fidel-
; ity, What’s Fidelity?," dealing with the
apparent difficulties that many gay men
¯ have being faithful to their partner. AIDS
many factors...sabotage
long-term relationships...
poor self-esteem,
internalized homophobia,
lack of fidelity and
the idea that the other
guy is just plain nuts[
is the obvious reason
that this may be the
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After spending the
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Polo Grill: cutewaiters
decent food
by Jean-Pierre, TFN Food Critic
Sometimes one has to consider the artistic
aspects of fine dining from a more
hedonistic aspect, somewhat removed
from a strict analysis of the preparation
and presentation of the food itself. There
are restaurants which decorate with fine
art or with collections of sports memorabilia,
but one Tulsa establishment decorates
with its wait staff.
The Polo Grill, hidden away on the far
east side of Utica Square but still a long
time and well-known favorite of Tulsa’s
social elite, has by far the most gorgeous
and handsome waiters ofany restaurant in
town. In fact, at least three of the waiters
are positively stunning (and they know
it!) and could grace the pages of most any
catalog or print ad. Unfortunately, we
don’t have first hand information on
whether or not they would qualify for
International Male. And, believe it or not,
these attractive waiters are very capable at
doing their jobs.
If one is able to get one’s mind back on
the menu, one will find a good variety of
tasty, well prepared items at this popular
restaurant. The decor here is very clubby,
including a welcoming fireplace near the
bar, and the menu reflects a man’s tastes
by the emphasis on heartier entrees and
the lack of trendy items. Our major complaint
with the establishment is that the
smoking and non-smoking sections are
not fully separated, and on a busy night,
no area of the restaurant is trul y free from
obnoxious mid unhealthy smoke.
The food here is basic; straight forward
,and no-nonsense in preparation, .you can
dine on haute cuisine entrees or the ever
popular $7 Polo burger.
Appetizers include fried calamari
(squid), shrimp cocktail, some tasty crab
cakes, escargot (snails) served in mushroom
caps, a tomato vegetable soup, and
an assortment of soups dujour.
Several big entree salads, such as a
traditional Cobb, appear on the menu, and
the dressings include an excellent fruit
flavored poppyseed vinaigrette, one of
our favorites. Caesar salads, both with
Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square.
Prices: expensive. Service: formal,
bistro atmosphere.
Hours: 11-10 pro; ’tll 11 pm on
Fri. & Sat.; closed Sun. Payment:
Visa, ]~laster-card,
American Express, Diner’s
Club, Carte Blanche; no
eheel~s. Non-smol~n~ seeGon:
Yes. Alcohol: Full bar.
Opinion: A List.
and without grilled chicken or shrimp, are
also popular items.
Main courses include beef, veal, lamb,
duck, chicken, shrimp, and fish, with prices
ranging from S 14.95 for the roast split of
duckling to S 19.95 for grilled lamb chops
to S22.95 or so for the fresh fish of the day.
Steaks are popular with the sometimes
older crowd, and the tenderloin fillet costs
S16.95 for the six ounce and S18.95 for
the eight ounce size, with the strip sirloin
going for S 18.95
We ate the excellent veal osso bucco
and our companion ordered the fish of the
" day, which was a baked halibut served in
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¯ a champagne cream sauce. The halibut
¯ was very fresh with no hint of fishy taste,
and the sauce was a light and pleasant
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accompaniment. The halibut was pre-
¯¯ sented along side angel hair pasta, which
we thought was cooked a touch beyond al
~ dente. Our osso bucco was delicious and
¯ fork tender. A traditional Italian stewing ¯
of the veal leg served with cross sections
¯ of bone and attached meat, osso bucco is
¯ beloved not so much for the meat, but for ¯
the wonderful marrow inside the bone.
¯ Therefore, we were shocked and appalled
: when our osso bucco was presented, not
¯ with a marrow scoop, but with a totally
useless seafood fork! We hate to admit it
in public, but we were forced to extract the
marrow witha...butter spreader. Mon dieu.t
Desserts are substantial._ The creme
brulee and Key lime pie, both $3.50, are
typical of Tulsa restaurants. Even better
are the baked fudge and the cinnamon
raisin, bread pudding, both $3.95. On the
evemng we dined, a Grand Marnier
souffle, $4.95, was apleasant finale to our
meal. While the souffle was not quite as
tender as what we make at home, we could
hardly complain in view of the very reasonable
price of this often-difficult dessert.
After dinner coffees, demitasse, and
drinks are available from the full bar.
A fairly small wine list contains both
nice drink’able wines and a few embarrassing
selections that are so sadly all too
popular in Tulsa. Several of the better
wines are available by the glass.
The Polo Grill has always been one of
the consistently go~d restaurants in Tulsa.
Formal and gourmet it is not, bnt management
and the kitchen are very ~vell
grounded in their concept of ident’itv and
do a fantastic job of serving their ~iclle
with well trained staff and excellent food.
Marilyn Monroe,.at Philbrook’s l~vis +
Marilyn: 2 x Immortal,photo: Sam Shaw
by James Christjohn
The University of Tulsa’s Weekend of
One .Acts has come & gone. Many ontstanding
productions were perfonncd, &
almost everyone in the directing class is
now dealin~ with a great deal of strcss
reduction. However, there are three productions
upcoming. Diaries, writtcn by
TU students about college life from a gay
perspective, will go up 4.: 29, at 7pro in
Theatre 2 in Kendall Hall. On 4 30, at
7pro, Laundry & Bourbon & The lx,sson
(directed by Vivica \Valkenbach) will bc
performed in Theatre 2. Lisa \Vilson’s
version of Bus Stop opens 4 24.
I would like to take tiffs opportunity to
express my th,’ulks to Michael Kippcr,
Karin Sandmel, Vivica \Valcbeubach, &
see Play, page lO
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OUT & ABOUT
by, J.D. Jame~t " " - int~rest ~,s known as a great neighborhood
It’s spring and boy, are there a lot of bar (or two bars) - that’s right, New Age
Atthe Silver Star, Fallon Scott
new Miss Gay South USofA
tlfings to do out and about. This next
month holds a broad spectrum of events
from a turn-about show at the Silver
Star (April 19), followed by the 4th annual
Miss Silver Star Pageant
(April 21). You’ll be sorry if you missed
Robbie Walker’s 2rid am~tm] Birthday
Show wtfich was April. 7th at Concessions.
Don’t nfiss the Miss Gay C)klahoma
America Pagent (April 20) at the
Peffornfing Arts Center or the Bear Bash
(April 27). Contact Steve or Dick at 918-
663-5372 for more
*larch came in like a lamb but went out
like a drag queen with bad hair and broken
heels (just-kidding). There was a lot of
excellent entertaimnent last month,
from .a spectacular arfiversarv show at
I~ola’s which featured a new°entertainment
group, The T-Town Dreamers, to
the first mmual Gay South USofA
pageant at the Sih’~r Star.
This month’s featured establishment of
Renegades and the Rainbow Room. These
bars offer a little bit for everyone, a from
a sit-down cruise bar to a show bar to a
nice big patio with fireplace.
This bar is trnly a familv affair. Dermis
and lfis other half. i~arry, not only are the
owners but regular bartenders. And who
could ever forget Derails’ sister, Veronica,
the v~vacious and light-hearted bartender
in the Rainbow Room? Some of their
~nonthly events are Leather Night (Ist
Friday of the month in the Rainbow
Roon~), Girls Nite Out (the date varies
each month but the date is always posted).
May will be a particularly busy month
for th’em starting with the Red Ribbon
Revue (May 4) which will benefit Our
House. followed by Miss Renegades ’96
(May 17), Girls Nit’e Outwith a wetjockey
shorts contest (May 18) mad ending with
one of the rites of spring, the GAYFEST
CARNIVAL & carwash featuring Dark
Shadows II, see JD, next page
Coming Soon! Don’t Miss It!
Special entertainers:
Amanda Love
Anita Richards
Helen Holliday
Scott Pendergrass, from Nashville
An event you won’t want to miss.
The most prestigious preliminary to
Miss..GaY OMahoma America
Tickets on sale at the P.A.C.or at most
Carson Attractions outlets. $5.00 ~er person or $6°00 per
couple= Phone orders ~y credit cards accepted.
Liddy D.oenges Theater - use the 2rid St. entrance 1~r
this event.‘ Don’t ~it~’t0 pur~h~se tickets; seating is
limiteci. Thanks to the P.A.C. ~’or helping to make ~his ever~t
one Tulsans of all walks of life will be proud of.
For more information, call: 918.428.5330
Portions of proceeds to benefit Shanti, Inc. & Our House
JD, continuedfrom page 14
also benefiting Our House (May 19).
PS, speaking of drag queens, to keep all the fabulous drag
divas of Tulsa happy (and so they stop pestering me about
getting their names mentioned in the column), I’m now
starting our Queen ofthe Month dub. This month’s winner is
Katherine - ’cause she begs so sweetly. Queen ofthe Month
dub rules Vary according to my whim, so be patient, sooner
or later, everyone wins.
Play, continuedfrom page 14
Gilcrease museum is offering an intriguing program during
this month called Art WithA Tart: No, I’m not making this
up; that’s the name of the event, honest! A speaker will give
a tour about bits of the Gilcrease collection, & the museum
restaurant makes up a box lunch comprised of a tart &a salad.
I don’t think they mean the tart serves the salad, it seems a
pastry tart is included in the lunch: Pity. Could have been
really amusing, don’tcha think?The tour is free; the tart costs
$5~00. Reservations? 596-2700: Tell ’em you saw it here!
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Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities - Our Families of the Heart
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" HOUSTON - Authorities say Daniel C. : awoke to find "hate -.~.messages at theii~: ." press the position of the House of Repre-
Bean, 19, and Rodney H. Gauthier, 21, : home. Recently, theyf0und an.anti-Gay :- sentadves "regarding certain lifestyles"
two half-brothers who say they’re members
of a net-Nazi organization, have
admitted viciously attacking twogaymen,
one ofwhomdied ofmultiple stabwounds.
Frank Mangione, ’46, Was pronounced dead
on amval at a local hospital, and Kenneth
Stern, a friend who had been with
see Murder, page 3
Ge,o. rgia: Fed.eral-
Rultng on Marr,age
ATL’-XNTA - The U.S. Court of Appeals
in Adanta has ordered Georgia Attoruey
General Michael Bowers to explain in
court why his withdrawal of a 1991 job
offer to Robin Shahar after she had a
religious marriage ceremony with her
lover does not violate Shahar’ s free speech
rights under the U.S. Constitution. The
ruling could force the .state’s, attorney
general into a difficult court fight since it
would require him to establish a"compelling
governmental interest’: in changing
his mind about the job offer. Bowers"
office had argued that hiring Shahar after
the commitment cerelnonv would complicate
enforcement of the state’s antisodolny
laws and could be construed as an
endorsement of same-sex marriages. The
attorney general’s office said it was "’disappointed"
in die 3-judge panel’s ruling
and would ask for a review, either by ftfll
appeals court or the US Supreme Court.
Calif. GOP Tries-To"
Ban Gay Marriages
Thursday, Jannary 4, Califorlfia
Assemblymelnber Pete Knight unveiled
amendments to his bill, AB 1982, to prevent
Califonfia from recogmzing samesex
marriages.!egally pedbnned in other
states. Knight’s bill isiu reaction to the
expected legalization of stone-sex marriages
in Hawaii in the next two )’ears.
Knight’s bill has the backing of the
Assembly Republican caucus, and ,’dread)"
has 29 Republican co-sponsors. Kafight’s
stated reasoning follows: traditional marriages
are for procreation. S,’une-gender
couples can’ t "produce offspriug together,
[so] they must view marriage as just a
reservoir of economic perks." galight did
see CA-GOP. page 10
¯ (concentriccircles) with themessage,"tar-
¯ get practice-fags’: and on the reverse, ¯ vulgar drawings and comments.
¯ Kirby, fonner TOHR president, stated
¯ that this harassment is especially trou- ¯ bling since their address is not pul~lished.
¯ He added that the hate crimes unit of the
Tuls.a police depart, did send officers to
¯ investigate, even though under
¯ Oklahoma’s hate crimes law, attacks on the basis of sextml orientation are not
cov.ered. Kirby noted that these nughtjust
See Target, page 10
message marked on a. car window. Two : and regarding "celebration of a LeSbian
days later, tbeyfoundacrudedrawingon° .~ and Gay history month in the public
their porch. On one side therewas a target ._: schools". Both are simple resolutions and
: therefore would not have the force ot’lass"
¯ ACLU Continues to
Challenge Sex Law
The American Civil Liberties Union
: (ACLU) ofOklahoma recently received a
¯ setback to its challenge of Oklahoma’s
¯ "’sodom)"’ law.. Oklahoma City attoruey,
¯ Mark Hendricksen, with Marquette l_’ni-
¯ versitvprofeSsoroflaw Shirley \Vie_,aand
¯ with assistance from ~he Gay & Lesbian
Rights Project of the national’office of the
ACLU are preparing a petition to the
U~fited States S.up.reme Court for a review
of the late 1995decision of the Oklal~olna
Court of Criminal Appeals.
The circumstances ~f the -case follow! a
citizeu was approached by a undercover
OKCpolice officer. After extended flirtation
by the police officer who emphasized
see ACLU. page 10
Project-Open Mind
,Parents, Fanfilies and Friends~of Lesbiaus
and Gays, (PFL,~G), both the national
and local orgamzations ,are contilming
their Project Open Miud cmnpaign to reduce
hate langtmge and violence directed
toward Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals mad
those perceived to be. PFI.=~G National
,’umomiced that the law finn of Hogan &
tlartson LI.P will assist PFLAG at no
.charge (pro bond) in First Amendment
tssues raised by the threat of lawsuits
against PFL&G i’r0mthe Christian Broadcasting
Network (CBN).
Project Open Mind began with television
connnercials that featured anti-Gay
see PFLAG. page
House resolution 1045 declares that
¯"- "’homosexuality, lesbianism or bisexnal-
: ity’" should not be taught as "’natural
: lifestyles" in public schools, and that Les-
¯ bians, Gay men or Bisexuals should not
] adopt or’be foster parents and would
~. specify that the stone classes of citizens
] should not have "any special status under
¯ the law".
: ~ Resolution 1046 states the position of
: the House condemmng the National Edu-
~ cation Association’s (NEA) "call for "’the
¯ acceptance and tolerance of homosexual
behavior" and for "’celebrations of a Lesbian
and Gay History Month to ac"knmvledge
the contributions of lesbians, gays
¯ and bi sexuals, all ofwhich is inconsistent
with traditional values of this state...’"
Traditionall.v le~slation of this sort have
been filed by one or another of the OK
House’s Radical-Right members, typi-
"cally, Bill Graves ofOKC. \\’hat concerns
many longtime politi"cal observers is that
these have been filed by Democrats. Laurie
Phillips, co-chair of the Tulsa County
Democrat Party stated that tlfis "’flies in
the face of the principles of the Democrat
Party, not only the local, state & national
platforms but violates the constitution and
bylaws of the state Democrat part3".
tale observer suggested that the introduction
ofthese resolution might be a way
for the Democratic leadership to kee~
these issues under their control. The idea
is that a milder, non-binding resolution
would let legislators take an anti-Gay
lX?.sition for their ultra-conservative consutuents
at home but would allow those
Representatives to avoid a vote on an
actnal anti-Gay bill. However,.attoruev
Bill Hiulde rio’ted that even as a resolu’-
tion. Lesbians, Gay men mid Bisexnals
could be affected if agency heads chose to
reflect the views of the House in their
policies. Dept. of Hunwaa Senices (DHS)
officials said at this time, the agency does
not discriminate on the basis of sexual
orientation mid DHS staff knew of some
adoptions by Lesbian or Gay citizens.
DHS stall" stated their duly cdnceru was
with the quality of the hol~e for the chilsee
R.1045. page 10
¯ HIV Bias Lawsuit
Names Cafe Owner
¯ The Tulsa Federal Court will soou hear
.an HIViAIDS discriminatiou lawsuit
¯ which could be the first in the nallon
under the A~nericans with Disabi lilies Act
" (ADA). Local"society" "cafe owner, Tcrr3
_’~ ~T~urner; who mvns Capistrano inq "ticw "
¯ ’ Square andThe French Hen in sonth’l;ulsfi,
;.’ iS ~li¢ged to have ~’iolated the federal nou-
¯ discrimination law in what former cur
¯ ployee, Paul Saladin, claims was a wrong.....
¯ ful firing, Saladin had beeu emplo.vcd at
." The French Hen for over 8 years.
: Background
¯ Saladin’s spouse, FxtGandin, tested
i positive for HIV :’anti.bodies in=1987. In-/
¯ late 1992, Gaudin becanle ill and was
¯ ..diagnosed with AIDSin early 1 ~93. I)ur-
¯ mg this time, Saladin supported the finn-
¯ ilv and was Gaudin’s prilnary carcgivcr.
¯ A’lso during this time, Saladin becmnc a
¯ voluuteer with an HI\" AIDS hospice and
became a certified HI\" AII)S educator.
¯ Both Gaudin’s !llV status, illness and
¯ Saladin’s vohmteer work wcrc known to
most French Ileu employees and Saladin’..~
manager, Jemlifer \Vallacc. On occasion.
¯ French Hell CtlSlOlners who kllcw of
Saladin’s circumstances, would ask hiul
¯ about his spouse. \\.hilt he appears to
have been discreet about the subject.
Saladin did not hide his vohmtcer work or
his relationship with Gaudin.
History of this Case
In respouse to ,’m inqtury from l)r. &
; .Mrs. Spohr of Tulsa (according to pnblic
doculnents on file with the court), Saladin
¯ did uot mention either HIV or AII)S but
¯ did refer to Gandm’s T-cell count. On ¯
Sept. 17, 1993, the manager at that time,
¯ Je~mifer Wallace instructed Saladin not
¯ to discuss Gaudin’s HIV AIDS condition
¯ while waiting on tables, and further m-
Ibnned him that she hoped owner Terry
¯ Turuer did uot find out. According t~
¯ documents sublnitted to the court, Saladin
¯ agreed but objected and sought guidance
see ADA. page 3
Tulsa Prime Timers
¯ Raises $1000 For
Community Center
¯ Tulsa Area Prilne Tilners (’I’AVI’)
: hosted a holiday party and silent auction
¯ in December. With food prepared with ¯
TAPT’s gourmet group and items donated
¯
by TAPT’s members, the event raised
¯ S 1000 for creation of a Tulsa Couununitv
; Ceuter which lnembers of the group prt;-
¯ seuted to TOHR president, Dcbi Statues.
¯
Prime Tizners, which is ,’dread\" one of
¯ the fastest growing social orgam’zations,
¯ has expanded its membership to include
Gay mid Bisexual men over the age of 21.
¯
Formerly, membershipwas 40 and alx)vc.
EDITORIAL P. 2
DIRECTORY Po 2
," NEWS BRIEFS P. 4
¯ HEALTH BRIEFS P. 6
CALENDAR P. 9 ¯
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It’s that time again When we have to deal with
politics whether or not we want to do so. On
[:cbruary 6th, there.~e city council.primary races
which aren" t particularlyinteresting AND tl~ere are
ol v charter changes which may not be that interestiug
either but which ARE important. The one that
I would urge each of us to vote ~n lavor of is a
ch,’mgc to the charter which would allow an employee
of a business which holds a franchise with
thc city to hold public office. The prohibition dates
from early days of statehood and no longer has a
usc. I tow~\er~ the impact of it remmning could be
to force City Councillor Joe \Villiams off the city
council. Joc" s district is mostly north Tulsa mad vo{~
all might ask why. if you don’t live in that district.
.you should care’? Fi~rst. Joe V,’illian~s has been a
good rcprcsentative for his district and seems to
this observer to be one of the few of our councillors
who has both brains and integrity. Furthermore,
-Joc is sensitive to issues of m,.ti-Gay discrimination
and is thc oulv member of city govermnent to say
he would support a non-discrimination ordinanc~
"that included sexual orientation. Right now, oulv
one friend o~r city council can’t do much but it’~
better than no fri~nds.Let’s help Joe stay in:office.
Also. Rob Hill is ntiufing for School Board Dist.
;6. Rob brings intelligence, compassion mad experi-
~cnce to this race m~d deserves our support. If you’re
~in hi( district, please:vote for him on Feb." 13. If
!youre. not in Iris district mad c,’m spare some cash
:for cmnpm_ou expenses, please help. If yOU can’t
¯sparc the c~ish, c0nsidcr giving some ti,fie.: If yon
:wm,t to help.please contact.tiffs paper for-inf’.
I ~ch 0f ns cam makc a difference, just by voting.
:.Plcasc do. - Tom Neal, publisher
Taking Heart
b\" Pat .\ lorehead
To begin thisyear,my companion and I started
in the hot mb with a,botfle .of champagne we’ve
.carted around since the mid eighties awaiting a
"’special" occasion, Due to his career he is usually
unavailable at the holidays, so this was the first
time in several years that we’ve actually shared the
New Year together. \Ve started with a very good
dimmer at the Bistro of Brookside, though it was a
little noisy and a little too dear from my v~ewpoint.
\Ve dined late and then returned home and settled
into the hot tub. \Ve enjoyed the relaxing comfort
mad then adjourned inside for some more relaxing
activ,ties. All in all it was a nice start to a new year.
I got to sit in on a rehearsal for "The Lion in
\\’inter" being presented by Broken Arrow Community
Playhouse; call 258-0077 for details. I want
bYShblT{, ~ob~rtb ....................
( Warn#}g : Not [or thehumor-imp)aired!)
It h~ long been my contention that ~ough we
may shoe orgmfi~ti~ns, a couple of b~s, and the
stone colors of the rNnbow, the rdNity is that, wNle
gay men ~dlesbi~s ~e of the stone "ilk", they ~e
NOT of the stone planet. For ex~ples:
Lesbians usuNly m~y slightly"before" the first
date. Gay men marry only after e.rtensive interviewing
~nd denial. "
Lesbians have sex inunediately ~ter meeting
the other woman’s mumNs, cNl&en, relatives,
reviewing ~1 her b~ks, and inte~ogatlng her current
and ~1 her exes. G~v men have sex immediately
a~er just about attythhtg. Sometimes before.
though not as much as they used
I.esbians use love to get io sex. With g<v men, the
vtce is versa.
~en lesbians buy a house, they rehab. And
refi~rbish Gay men. ~n the other han~. redecorate.
~sbi~s~easily fix~~ling refrigerator. Gay
men can e~ih’ fill it~om the cheese atzd importe~
mushroont sebtton of the dell
Lesbians ~e more likely to be vegetal. Gay
men will eat almost anything.
It took lesbi~s to rediscover Hush ~ppies. It
took gay men w redesign tltem in Easter egg colors.
Lesbians process. Endlessly. Gay men rationally
debateram~caaons andconsbqueitces. Forslightly
longer.
Lesbi~ ~e politi~ly co~ect to everyone. Gay
men are politically correct to everyone [hey knout.
I_esbians don’t eat tNngs that used to ha~:e faces.
Gay men categorically reject tofit ~ pointless
wa~@aper p~te with calories.
~sbians envv M~tha Stew~t’s Co~ecticut
house. GaY men’channel her.
~sbi~ fix si~ le~s ~emselves, Gay men call
plumbers. Cute ones.
~sbi~s pay intemN pen~ for haph~d eye
contact, btlhe rightpar& circumstances, ga~ men’s
heads have been known to r~’olve a fidl 3~0"
Polifi~ly co~ect or not, lesbi~s look at Play-
~y Mag~ine. Gay men just read the articles.
To a lesbi~, cNntz is your p~tner buying yo~
bir~day present at a y~d s~e. To a g~v man, its a
fabulous ~rnishing opportuni&,
Two lesbi~s ~ght refer to ~ch o~er ~ "my
wife." Two gay men wouldn ’t.
~sbi~s ~ve off-road veNcles ~d~ymaps
that refold~emselves. Gay Men eventually stop at
service station and ~kfor directions. But only if
th~ real~7 have to go.
~sbi~s bring ~e chars, ~e newsletter, NI the
:to recormnend llii~~ ibroduCtion. I was ¢ery ira: .’ "flyers, theminut~s~ and’the- Coffee pot. Gay men
pressed even though I saw it at an early point in the : bring chkckbo~ks.~
rehearsal schedule. But I was particularly taken ¯ Lesbians have potlucks with dishes made from
with.the.the Richard.and Phillip scene. The.Direst .." l.en~ils .or chocolate. Or both. Gay. men have intitorhastakentherelati0nshipbetweenthesecharac-
." mat~ litti~ ~ti~tn~rs)~o~, i~vb fv~th:lio~emadepate. To
ters and..:,~d~; i!t:!.~!~.~~ .that it.is ahomosexual~ : start~ ’ . "
relations~ij’i~)i! i ~i i:::il" ~..i.~i,.... ..... ’.... - z . "~ LesbianS love camp. ~o.do gay men.
. Now, I h~g~;trrlid~ihat:the inclinations of the : Lesbians cook out by tliepond. Gay men cook in,
two feilo~’ii~i~" N~iiard and,:Phillip are, but : then sit out bythe pooL " " "
bet~een them the mana e a ~erv conv~nono Lesbian Cou le
¯ ’" "~Y~ i g .~ " " ~ ." ’ " p s hyphenate their last names.
see Play, page 3 ". Gay men arm wrestle each other to the ground and
¯. use the winner’s name.
Lesbians go to the gym to get fit. Gay men go to
the gym to get theirjeans to fit.
¯ Lesbians think of New Year’s Eve as an oppor-
¯ tunity to get reacquainted with steps 10, 11, and 12.
see Vegan, page 3
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*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria
*Ground Zero, 311 E. 7th
*Lola’s, 2630 E 15th
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial
*Time’n’Time Again, 1515 S. Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd
*Wild Nights, 2405 E. Adnfiral
Wild Fork, Utica Square, 21st & Utica
*Interurban, 717 S. Houston
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585-5622
749-1563
834-4234
585-3405
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584-1308
582-4340
742-0712
585-3134
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Demtis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620
*Associates in Medi"cal & Mental Health, 1560 E. 21 743-1000
KeiitBalch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
Brookside Jewelry. 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272
Creative Collectirn, 1521 E. 15 592-1521
Cherry St. Psychotherapy Assoc. 15 ! 5 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Tim Dmnel. Attorney 352-9504. 800-742-9468
D’Antiques. 1508 E. t~Sth 592-5356
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
*Dusty Roads at the Silver Star, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
Express Pool s & Spas, 6310 S. Peoria 743-9994
Fidelity Home Health Care, Inc. Coweta 486-1174
Le,’tma~ M Gross, Financial Plmnfing 744-0102
*Sandra J. Hill, *IS, Psychotherap3, 2865 E Skellv 745-1111
*hnaginations, Lincoln Plaza, 15th & Peoria 584-4606
*International Tours; 341-6866
Kerfs Flowers, 1635~ E 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, I:’OB 14011, 74159 747-5466
Loup-Garou, 2747 E.: 15 742-1992
Lean Aim Macomberl, Realtor Associate 671-2010
Massoud’s Jewle~’,:The Farm, 51st & Sheridan 663-4884
*MediaPlay, 9121 E.!71st 250-5158
*Midtown Theater, 3i19 E. 3 584-3112
Mingo \;alley Flowers, 972i3c E. 31 st 663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6~57 E 51 P1 664-2951
Puppy Pause II, l lt.hl & Mingo 838-7626
Royal Travel, 6927 S~. Canton 496-2410
*Ross Edward Salon~ 1438 S. Boston 584-0337
*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
Southwest Viatical, ~1-1-6 S. Harvard, Ste. F-5 747.-3322
*Tomfoolery Gifts d5 Cards, at F,’unily of Faith MCC 583.1248
Fred Welch, LCSW, .Counseling 743-1733
Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
*Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Ctr. 2627B E. I l 628-0594
B, LG Alliance, Uni~!ersity of Tulsa 583-9780
*Canterbury Minist~’ Center, University of Tulsa 583-9780
*Chapman Student Center, University of Tulsa
*Conunmtity of Hope (United Methodist), i703 E. 2nd 585-1800
Dignity;Integrity (LegbianiGay Catholics & Episcopalians) 298’-4648
*Fannlv of Faith ..X.~CC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441
*Free Spirit Lesbian Center call for location & info: 587-4669
Friend For A Friend,.POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
Friends in Unity (African-Amer. men), POB 8542, 74101 425-4905
Indian Health Care, Save the Nation 584-4983
Interfaith AIDS Mini.stiles 438-2437, 800-284-2437
*MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
*HIV Resource Consortium, 4154 S: Harvard, Ste. H-1 749-4194
NAMES PROJECT, 21.154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-I 748-3111
P-FLAG, POB 52800 74152 749-4901
Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118 74104
R.A.I.N., Re~onal AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 665-5174
Rainbow Village, POB 50403, 74150-0403 599-8423
*Shanti Hofline 749-7898
TulSaOldahomansforHmnaiaRigh-ts,(TOtlR) POB52729 74152
TOHR Gay HelpLine (Info.) 743-4297
Tool Box Technicians, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Unifgrm/Leathe_r Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
~ Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor
Beaver Dam Store, 112 mi. N. of Dam on Hwy. 187 501-253-6154
*Jim &.Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457
DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center S t. 50 1-253-6807
*Emerald Rainbow, 45&1/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445
King’s Hi-Way, 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62W 800-231-1442
*MCC.of the Living Spring 501-253-9337
McClung Realtors 501-253-9682
: ,, RockCottage Gardens 501-253-8659 800-624-6646
] Southern Rose Bed & Breakfast, 9 Benton 501-253-2204
¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001
¯ The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281
on how to handle inquiries about the issue.
Saladin worked several more days
until Wallace informed Turner about the
situation. Saladin was then suspended for
30 days, although he claims he had complied
with Wallace’s directive and The
French Hen does not dispute this. During
the time of the suspension, he retrieved
his liquor license from The French Hen so
that he could continue to work at temporary
jobs. Also, during this time, Saladin
attempted to speak with Turner to address
¯ any misunderstanding.
On Oct. 15th, Saladin called to arrange
to return to work by the 22rid and was told
that Turner had directed her to replace
Saladin. Up to this time and afterwards,
Turner refused to take his calls. According
to Saladin’s documents, when once he
succeeded in getting Turner on the phone,
Turner stated he had nothing to say and
hung up. During this time, several other
employees left or were terminated and
positions became available, but Saladin
was not offered his position back. He filed
with the Oklahoma Employment Security
Commission (OESC), with the Equal
Employment Opportunity Commission
(EEOC), and sought legal representation.
In late Nov, Saladin was informed that
he’d been denied uuemployment compensation
because Turner claimed that
Saladin had quit. To the OESC, Wallace
on behalf ofTurner claimed that there trad
been repeated customer complaints about
Saladin’s conduct ,and that Saladin had
been suspended for nffsconduct and insubordination
and that Saladin had volun:
taril y quit and Saladin had threatened to
sue. Wallace and Turner repeated these
allegations at a telephone hearing on Dec.
16th with the OESC.
On Dec. 17th, Turner called Ed Gaudin
at his and Saladin’s home asking questions
about Gaudin’ s health and physician
and allegedly calling Saladin a liar.
Gaudin, who was already seriously ill,
appears to have been so upset by the
conversation that when Saladin came
home, he found Gaudin emotionally devastated
and vomiting.
In Jan. of 1994, after Saladin had obtained
legal representation and the EEOC
found sufficient reason to direct Turner to
respond to Saladin’s complaint, Turner
through his attorneys offered Saladin his
job back without conditions. Saladin’s
attorneys accuse Turner of making the
offer in bad faith in order to limit Turner’s
liability for back wages while obviously
Turner et al claim good faith. However,
Saladin expressed a willingness and desire
to return to work from Oct. 15 at least
until Turner’s call to Gandin in Dec. Turner
did not communicate an offer to restore
Saladin’s job until January after Turner
had retained legal counsel.
Since January of 1994, this case has
seen a flurry of legalese documents as
attorneys from each side cite cases to
bolster their side. A trial date has been set
several times but delayed. It is expected to
go to trial February.
Other Information
Late in 1987. after Gaudin tested positive
for ttIV antibodies, a fact which
Saladin shared with several co-workers at
The French Hen, Turner directed that
Saladin be suspended without pay until
Saladin produced a medical repor~ proving
that Saladin was HIV negative. After
being tested. Saladiu subnffl ted a report to
see ADA. page 8
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Mangione when they met the 2 young
men at a local bar, had been beaten. S tern’s
condition was not serious however. Police
said Bean and Gauthier told them
they had attacked Mangione and Stern
after one of the men had touched one of
the young men while the 4 were taking a
drive earlier in the evening. The young
men also told officers they belonged to a
group called the German Peace Corps,
which human rights activists say is a California-
based neo-Nazi orgamzation affiliated
with the KKK. Several witnesses
told authorities that the 2 young men had
bragged earlier that they were "going’to
get a fag" that night, and later boasted that
they had "cut up this fag real bad."
Gay men see it as a chance to blow their
horns off..
Lesbians truly believe that communes
work. Gay men really think they can be
RepublicZms.
Lesbians turn everyone within hugging
range into "family.’" Gay men have a
tendency to run around i~i PACs.
It is, ~onsidering everything, amazing
that we still talk to each other. Fortnnately,
we are all smart enongh to have
figure out that what is truly unnaturai on
tiffs looney-tune plauet is marrying outside
your own species. ~ 1996 Shelly
Roberts.
All rights reserved. Shelly Roberts is a
uationally syndicated colun~fist, spe,~er,
and author of Roberts’ Rules of Lesbi,’m
Living (5 96) Spinsters htk
seduction scene xvith a very sensual kiss.
The actors deserve credit, and the theater
deserves credit for not diluting the homosexual
content~ Here is a chance as a
co~u~ty forus to snpport a mmustrcana
effort w~ch represents us without apology
or emb~assment.
I was saddened at the passiug of Mike
Syn~, former Congressm~ lrom l)i strict
Two. I have contributed to and worked on
Mike’s beh~f in ~e pasl. tie was a good
guy, honest ~d decent, a truc public scrv~
t in ~e very best sense. There is no
comping ~e ~u~ities Mike represented
with the likes of a Cobum, or I ~gcnt or
I~ofe. And I ~z not refemng to political
ideolo~es.
So for me ’96 is off to an uneven start.
But I intend to t~e heart from the bad as
well ~ the good. I will t~e heart in tl~
ex~ple of Mike Syn~ ~d not be afrmd
to go out ~d fight the good fight. I will
t~e he~t in these two unkuown local
actors and their associates who ~cn’t
~r~d to tac~e a Bible belt tahoo. Aud
I’m going to t~e he~t in the eighteenth
ye~ of a loving and sh~ug relationship
with my lover compmfion.
~ch gives me a re~ly silly idea. l’d
like to he~ from you, the readers, about
what gives you he~t, and helps you make
your way through the world. Maybe you
have so~e key that someone m our commusty
ueeds io hear or would m~c them
feel less isolated. Send you responses to
the editor or E-mail tbcm ~o
TulsaNews ~2 aol.com, and hc can l’or~vard
them on to me. XXtacn I get a good one 1"11
use it in fl~e cohmm. If yon want thcln to
be anonymous, that’s I’iqac.
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Recruiting Cops for
’City of Brotherly Love’
PIIILA DELPHIA - The Philadelphia
Police Department has
begun rccniitmg gay ,and lesbian
police officers through public
cmpioynieut notices in the city’s
t~vo gay newspapers The uew
effort is the rcsult of a meeting
Police Commissioner Richard
Ncal held earlier in December
with leaders of the city’s lesbian
and gay community. Police Sgt.
l:rcd Cottou said the dcpartuaenl
made a similar effort m 1989-90
bnt !he department had uo i id’ormarion
on how successfill thai
recruitment program had been.
"l’vc never Imd,’mvonc come up
to me and tell m~ their sexual
pcrsuas~ou." Cotton said. The
dcpm’tmcut doesn’t kccp any data
ou the sexual orientation of offleers,
hc added
Study: The Kids (of
Lesbian Moms) Are OK
CIlICAGO- A prolonged study
of the kids of lesbian morns th,~t
tracked the children’s developmcut
forsome two decades found
that they had no more problems
with sexual orientation or other
dcvclopmcut~d issues than the
kids oflmtcroscxtud parcuts. The
study, which was reported in tl~
American ,lournal of Orthopsychiatrv,
found one noticeable
diffcr0mc between the clfildrcn
of Icsbiau morns mad hcteroscxmd
parcuts:"th~ offspnng in
the lcsbimi f,’unihcs were more
uncouflk~rtablc udkiug with other
pcoplc about their parents than
the kids from the str~fight fanfilic~.
Anether signilic~mt di ffcrence
bctwccu the two groups was tha!
none of the kids from hctcroscxnal
fanfilics reported having
had any homosexual experience
by their mid-20s, wlfilc some
25% of those from lesbian lhmi-
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lies said they had had at least one
homosexual relationslfip.
Washington State Anti-
Gay Measure May Fail
SEATTLE - To the relief of
rights activists iu the state, Washmgton
anti-gay activists
concede they probably will not
be able to get cuough siguaturcs
to put two ballot measures before
voters in 1996. Initiative
167 would bar gays and lesbians
from adoptiug clfildrcm mid hlitiative
166 would prohibit antibias
laws based ou sexual orientation
anywhere iu the state. The
head of the Citizens ..\.ltimme of
\Vaslfiugton conceded shortl\
before Chi’istnms that the group
wasn’t going to bc able to get the
uceded signatures because the
orgmfizatiou had attracted oulv
a few huudred members an~J
raised only about $5.000 for its
siguaturc-gathcring cmnpaign.
Cathy Y, lickcls, the head of the
state dmpter of the Eagle Forum.
,also told Seattle reporters
she didn’t think it was very likely
the organization would be abl~
to get thd rcqnircd signatures.
Proposed Bill to Aid
Partners Measures
SAC~\MENTO, C:dif. - C~diforuia
Assemblyman \Vallv
Kuox (D-West Hc{llywo~xt) wil’l
introduce a measure m the stale
legislatnre carl\ m 1996 that
would attthorizt~ the giant CadifonfiaPublic
Emtfloyccs & Rctiremeut
System (CAL-PERS)
to open its hc~dth iusurancc coverage
plans to thc dolncstic partners
of muuicipal mid other govcnuncnt
agcucy employees
the state. Some 80 or so C~dil’orma
cities and rcgiomd bomds
and commissions carry their
employce health ius~rancc
thi’ough CAL-PERS. But CAI,-
PERS regulations govcmiug the
state-operated health mid medi-
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cal insurance plata specifically
exclude "conunon law spouses"
and "’life partners" as eli~ble
employee dependents, preventing
the cities, counties and special
districts in the CAL-PERS
prograna from offering partner
benefits to their gay or straight
workers even if they want to.
Lobbying for Educational
Anti-Bias Protections
SAN FRANCISCO -The Lavender
Youth Recreation & Information
Center (LYRIC}
started off the New Year with a
political bang on Jan. 3 with a
caravan of gay, lesbian and bisexual
,voting people tothc state
Capitol in Sacrmnento to lobby
for proposed anti-discriminatio[~
protections. Tim California Educatiou
Code bans discrinfination
in the state’s schools mid educational
services based ona number
of categories, bu! does not
include sexual orientation. The
lesbigay youth groupspent the
first &a.v of the legislature’s new
3ear, Jan. 3, lobbying in support
of a measnre introduced by Assemblywoman
Sheila Kuehl (DSanta
Moifica) that would add
sexual orientation to the state
education code.
So. Dakota Anti-
Marriage Battle Again
PIERRE, S.D. - South Dakota
state Rep. Roger Hunt, whose
1995 le~slation to prohibit samesex
marriages in the state failed,
has announced plans to introduce
the bill again during die
current le~slative session. Hunt’s
1995 bill passed overwhehningly
in the state’s lower house by a
,’54-13 vote, but became stalled
m a cotmnittee in the state Senate
where it died. The proposed
legislation would make any
same-sex marriage’:null and void
from the beginning" in the state,
and is aimed at making any such
marriages that may be legal elsewhere
illegal in Soulh Dakota. It
would, for example, have the
effect of nullifyiug s,’unc-sex
nmrriages if Ha,&aii courts v~d idate
them as many cxpcci to
happeu this year.
Political Attacks Against
Gays Increasing
SAN FRANCISCO A report
isstled here by People for the
American Way. says attacks
alined agaiust the political
progress of gays mid lcsbimas in
this country increased at ~dl levels.
The report, the 3rd of its kiud
the organization,has issued,
¯ .counted at least. 180 anti-gay
actions m 1995, an increase of
46 such attacks over 1994. The
survey counted anti-gay political
iuitiatives, legislative measures,
executive actions by state
governors as well as open at-
. tacks by police mid mid public
. ~!d. mc..dia figures against gay
rights.
High. School Gay Group
Stirs Controversy
SALT LAKE CITY - Utah
school mid legal anthoritics, after
2 moaths, have agrced thcre
is litflc or nothing that can be
-done to preveut a gay- and lcs-
¯biau club being fonncd by a
group of studeuts at Salt Lake
City’s East High School. A small
group of students at the school
asked for pennissiou to start the
club in October, and their request
was passed from the
school’s priuciphl to the city’s
school superintendent, then up
to the state cducatiou office, and
finally on to the Utah attorney
gcueral’s office.
Shortly before Cl~stmas, the
attorney geueral’s office notified
district officials that both
state and federal law prolfibit
barring non-curriculum school
clubs because of content. But
activists with the Gay & 1,csbian
Utali 1)cmocrats say the head of
the state mali-gay Eagle Forum,
GayJe Ruzicka, has already indicated
she would immediately
begin lobbying the state legislatnrc
to keep the club from lbrming.
California’s Hate Crimes:
1/5 Are Anti-Gay
SACRAMENTO, Calif. - In the
firs! of .its kind in California,
state Attorney Geueral l)an
LI.mgrcl!"s office reix)rts tl!at hate
crones m the Golden Stale arc
gcucndi y couccutratcd in ci tics -
:andnearly one-fifth of them were
aimed agaiust gays and lesbians.
During the filaal six mouths of
1994, the survey of local law
enforcculent agencies found
there were 672 bias-based crimes
reported in the state. Of these,
487 (72 percent) were based on
the race or ethnic origins of the
victims, Mille 119 (18 perccut)
wcre bccause the victims were
lcsbkms or gay men - or were
believed to bc by the attackers.
Some 6-1- iucidents (orjust m~dcr
10 pcrccut) WCl’C based on the
victims" religion. The largest
number of reported Irate crimes,
243 of them, were logged in the
[x)s Augclcs metropolitan area.
The San Frmmisco Bay Area
checked in with next largcst couceutratiou,
129 bias-based crimes
iu the four-county ,area.
Transsexual Identity
Bill Proposed in Britain
LON1)ON - Among the
backbcuch bills being offered in
Bri rain’s Ilousc of Connnoiis as
private members" legislation is a
mcasure that wouldmake it easier
for traussexuals in the UK to
establish a legal idemity in keeping
with their new gender after a
sex-change operation. MP Alex
Carlilc has proposed a Gcudcr
Identity Bill which would allow
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Gay Credit Card Can’t
Use ’Rainbow’ Name
TRENTON, N.J:- A federal
court in NewJersey has enjoined
promoters of a gay-oriented
credit card from using the nanm
"Rainbow." U.S District Judge
Mary Little Parell barred the
Rainbow Card Fom~datiou from
using that trade name on the
credit card it was pro~noting in
the New York-New Jersey area
in a suit filed by the Rainbow
Foundation Inc., a Middletown,
N.J., charity that offers medical
assistance and other services to
children in the state. The Rainbow
Card had contracted with
Martina Navratilova to act as
spokeswomanfor the Visacredit
.card that wouldhave used part of
~ts card charges to benefit gay,
AIDS & breast cancer agencies.
Gay Teacher Allowed to
Stay in Michigan School
BYRON CENTER, Mich. -
Gerry Crane, a 3 l-year-old high
school music teacher who told
students he was gay alter they
asked about anew wedding band
he was wearing, will be ,allowed
to keep tfis teaching post. The
school board in the town, about
16 miles from Grand Rapids,
said however that it wonld keep
Crane under scrutiny because of
his sexual orientauon. In a forreal
statement, the trustees said.
"The school board firmly believes
that homosexuality violates
the doufinant moral stan-
¯
nity. Individuals who espouse
¯ homosexuality do not constitute
¯ proper role models as teachers
¯
for students in this district."
¯ Crane had told his students he
¯ was gay after he and his companion
had gotten married dur-
¯ ing acommitmentceremouy and
.exchanged wedding bands, causing
some of his students to ask
about the wedding ring.
School Board Condemns
.... Homosexuality
¯
NEW HAVEN, Ind.- Homo-
- sexual activity is inconsistent
¯ with community values and
should be discouragedin the East
¯ Allen County (Iudiana) schools,
¯ according to a resolution adopted
by the local school board. Ac-
¯
cording to school, district officials,
the resolution only reflects
the board’s opinion and isn’~ a
¯ policy statement. But the
¯
resolution’s laaaguag.e, someedu-
¯ caters say, certainly sounds like
¯ an official school policy. The ¯
resolution, wlfich was introduced
¯ in response to a statement earlier
[ tiffs year by the National Educa¯
tion Association endorsing
teacher training aronnd gay and
¯ l~’sbian student issues and rec-
¯ ognizing a national gay mad les¯
bian lfistory mouth, says in part: "’Homosexuality is contrary to
the laws of nat;are, it’s xno~:ally
¯ unacceptable to our conununity
mad we should leach our chil-
¯
dren as such." ¯ UK Member of Parliment
¯ Loses ’Gay’ Libel Case ¯
LONDON’ - Tory MP David
¯
Ashby wept as he f~aced the pros-
" pect offinanci,-d ruinaftcr losing
¯ a prolongcd libel actiou ag,’uust
Londou’s Sunday Times wlfich
." had reported that he is homo-
¯ scxnal. Thc jury deliberated 5
¯ hours belbrc rc[unfing its ver- ¯
dict in favor of the Tlmes in the
Northwest Leicestershire since
1983 in the ruling conservative
~ party, now faces the prospect of
~ : having to pay all legal costs that
are estimated at about $800,000.
Ashby; 55, had sued the Times
: overanarticlein the paperwhich
said he had shared a bed with a
¯ man during a holiday in Gee in
." 1993, that he had misled his wife
¯ and constituents abouthis sexual
¯ orientation, and that he had lied
:..about. h.awn,g a relat~oaship with
a32-year-old Irish physician, Dr.
Ciar~i Kilduff. The ~iewspaper
admitted during the libel trial
that its report had contained at
least one factual error, but mainrained
the accuracy of its article,
wlfich it maintained was justified
to lfiglflight what it cousiders
Ashby’s hypocrisy in advocating
heterosexual f~nilv values
while leading what the’papcr
called a "double life." Both
Ashby’s wife and his sister testified
against the Tory MP duriug
the 4-week trial. It is likely that
Ashby may face bm"akruptc’y and
the loss of his seat in the House
of Conunons as a result.
Gay Marine to
Fight Discharge
DAVENPORT. Iowa - Corporal
Kevin Blaesing says he will
fight efforts by the .MarZiue Corps
to discharge him because hc is
gay. Blaesing, who has bccn
umned "’Marine of the Month"
mad"M,-mne of the Qtuarter.’" was
denied pernfission to reeniist iu
1993 because of remarks he lind
made about homosexuality to a
USMC psychologist. Bu! earl\
in 1995 hejoined a Marine Corp’s
Reserve umt in South Carolina
without auy difficulties m~d later
spoke at a gay pride even! there.
Now thc Mariucs have bcgun
discharge proceedings against
lmn mad Blaeslug says he will
fight the discharge "~1 the way
Two Lutheran
Churches Expelled.
SAN FRANCISCO-St. Francis
Lutheran Church and the First
United Lutheran Church here
officially became ex-members
of the 5.3-million member Evangelical
Lutheran Church of
America at the end of 1995 for
ordaining 2 lesbians and a gay
man as ministers in defiance of
the national church’s prohibi-
’tiofis. The 2 churches were suspended
by the ELCA in 1990
and given until the end of 1995
to rescind the ordinations of the
Revs. Ruth Frost, Phyllis Zillhart
and JeffJohnson, or be officially
expelled from the national church
group.
A spokesperson forSt. Francis
Lutheran Church said not one
member of the congregation had
left since the controversy started
more than 5 .,,’ears ago. But ironi-
c¯ally one St. Francis Lutheran
member who attended his last
service at the church (at least
officially) on Sunday, Dec. 31,
was Bishop Robert Mattheis, the
presiding bishop of EIX2A’s Sierra
Pacific Synod of some 220
con~egations in Northern Califontia
and Nevada. A long-time
member of St. Francis, Bishop
Mattheis now must officially
leave the church’s con~egatio~:
Calififornia City OKs
Partners Registry
PALO ALTO, Calif. - OutNow,
the San Jose, Calif., gay newspaper,
reports that Pale Alto’s city
council has approved by a 6-]
vote a domestic partners registration.
The re~stranon carries
no direct benefits and requires a
fee to the city clerk’s office. The
only vote agmnst the proposM
crone from Dick Rosenbamn.
who objected that the partuers"
registry ,also allowed oppositesaid
he believed the partncrs"
registranon should be .just for
gays and lesbians.
Marriage Commission
Issues Final Report
IIONOI.UIJ.~- A llawali statc
comnfissiou has approved its finN
report of rccoum~cudations
on a 5-2 vote. calling on the
legislature to a~cpt the rcalil v
of Sallle-SeX lnarriag
courts. Few acnvists believe the
legislature will t;~c the advice
of the commissiou,appointcd b~
Gov. Bcnjmnin Cayctano, b~t
the report’s rccounncndations
add flu ther fuel to the legM bat
~ound the case. The legislature
l~t ye~ adopted a law prohibitlng
stone-sex m~agc, although
=t rcm~us unclc~ whether thai
law itself~m bc considered coustitut~
omd.
Chairman Thomas (;ill,
former mcmbcr of Cougrcss and
out-tune lieut, govcruor, said
the state had f~lcd to prove
~c in courl and had relied
the legislature to block tauntsex
m~agcs. "q’hc opposluOU
~ft.come up with a compelling
state lntcFcsI other th~ul I ~x’i~cus
18," he said, rcfcmug to an Old
Tcsumacnt vcrsc that says. ""l’hou
shalt not lic with mankind as
with womankind ""
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SAI+EM, Ore. - Rcspondiug to
ch~gcs that hc is an "+extremist"+
for supporting the dUn-go3
agenda of the Oregon Citizen’s
Alliancc, Rclmbli~m t.S 5cuate
candidate Gordou Snfi th told
reporters at a news CollfcjCll~’c
that he is opposed to ga3 and
lcsbimt ttu~agcs "’bccausc +vc
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Sunday ServiEye Drug Implant Method
Wins FDA Panel Approval
S ILVER SPRING, Md. - A Food & Drug
Administration advisory panel has urged
approval of an eye implant for some AIDS
pauents that it says would be twice as
good as current treatments in fighting off
possible blindness by delivering medic
ation direcdy to the eye. Cytomegalovims
(CMV) retinitis hits up to 40% of all
people with AIDS and the Chiron Corp.
"Vitrasert’" implant would deliver the
medicine ganciclovir in time-released
doses directly in the eye after being \mplanted,
making it much more effective.
the FD A advisory panel said. The full
FDA must now decide whether to accept
the panel’s recommendation or not.
USC to House AIDS Archives
LOS ANGELES - The University of
Southern California will become one of
the first sites in the country with an archive
documenting the earl) years of the battle
against AIDS. Los Angeles city officials
are granting the university a total of
$50,000 for the project alor~g with thousands
of original works com~ected with
the earliest veers of the epidemic. The
AIDS archi~:e will be housed in~,the university
library’s special collections and
will include "city documents, materials
from local actiViSt groups, and papers
from Drs. Michael Gottlieb and Joel
Weismal who published the first cases of
what later came to be known as AIDS.
30% of India’s Blood Infected
NEW DELHI - According to a stud)’ by
India’s National AIDS Control Organization,
nearly 30% of the blood provided by
the country’s blood banks is tainted with
infectious diseases, including HIV, malaria,
hepatitis and others. The government
agency responsible for the national
effort to fight the epidemic in India said
tinrdiable screening procedures risk exposing
patients receiving blood and blood
products to one or the other illnesses. The
Indian Red Cross Society said that part of
the problem stems from chronic shortages
of blood in the country with the result that
commercial blood banks often rely on
poorer professional donors 9iho sui~pl~ement
their incomes by giving blood. Such
paid donors, the society says, are often in
higher-risk groups for various infectious
diseases. The National AIDS Control
Organization now estimates that in less
than 5 years some 5 million Indians will
be infected with HI\" with 1 million fullblown
cases of AIDS in the country.
KS Linked Virus Found
in Semen of HIV+ Gay Men
LONDON" - According to a report in the
British medical journal Lancet, researchers
with the U.S. Centers for Disease
Control have found a virus strongly associated
with Kaposi’s sarcoma in the semen
of large numbers of gay men ~vith
HI\’, but not in many HIV-positive heterosexual
men. The scientists said that
64% of the infected gay men also had the
Kaposi’s Sarcoma Associated Herpesvirus
(KSHV) in semen samples: of the
non-gay men examined, less than 24%
were infected with KSHV. The research-
" ers said their findings explain why a disproportionate
number of gay men may
contract the cancer ,and suggests that
KSHV may be sexually transmitted~ The
CDC scientists say further research is
called for to try to detemfine if KSHV is
latent and then triggered by an HIV infection.
Milder Strain of Virus Inhibits
HIV NEWYORK-According to a report
in the Journal of Molecular Medicine;
researchers at the Mount Sinai Medical
Centerhave identified aless vinflent strain
of HIV that appears to slow down reproduction
of the more connnon and damaging
s train of the virus. The researchers
speculated that the weaker HIV-2 may
interfere with the more virulent HIV-I
straila at-the molecular le~el, blocking the
virus’ ability to reproducel While the finding
could l]old promise in fighting off
HIV-1 in infected individuals, scientists
warned that there is still little’known about
the detailed interaction between the 2
strains.
High HIV Levels Infect Newborns
WASHINGTON’, D.C. - According to a
study published in the Proceedings ofthe
NationalAcademy ofSciences,New York
State health department researchers report
that fairly high levels of HIV in the
blood ofwomen who are pregnant is requi
red before the virus can be passed along to
their newborns. The scientists found that
women with levels of HIV in their bloodstreams
at about 50,000 viruses per milliliter
of blood had a 75% or ~eater likelihood
of passing the vii’us onto their infants.
At lower leVds, the chances of the
womentransmitting the virus to their newborns
was significantly lower, the researchers
said. The scientists said the finding
helps explain why some HIV-positive
women~ve birth to infected infants, while
other infected mothers do not.
AIDS Drug 3TC Also Appears
Effective Against Hepatitis B
BOSTON - Two preliminary tests of a
newly approved AIDS drug, 3TC (also
kamwn as lamivudine or Epivir), published
in the New England Journal of
Medicine indicate the medicine also seems,
to suppress HBV, the hepatitis B virus, in
chronic eases. One study, led by Dr. Jules
Dienstag of Massachusetts General Hospital,
found that after a 12-week course of
3TC, about 20% of chronically infected
hepatitis B patients showed no traces of
the HBV. Interferon is the only currently
approved medication to combat chronic
h.epatitis B and has been shown to effective
in about a third of those given the
drug. But interferon must be taken for a
fairly long period ot time and has a nmnber
of very unpleasan t side effects, which
is not apparently the ease with 3TC. Further
studies will now be undertaken to
determine long-term effects of the drug in
combating hepatitis B, possibly in combination
with other drugs.
Status of AIDS Patient Given
Baboon Marrow Transplant
SAN FRANCISCO-JeffGetty, the AIDS
patient who was given baboon bone marrow
in December in an effort to rebuildhis
failing immune system, experienced some
side effects as a result of the chemotherapy
and radiation treatanent he underwent
in conjunction with the marrow transplant.
But Getty’s physician, Dr. Steven
Deeks, said the reactions where fairly
minor and not a result of the bone marrow
injections. Getty’s physicians had said
the bone marrow transplant might either
bolster the man’s rapidly failing immune
see Health Briefs, page 8
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for-Human Rights
742-2927
4158 South Harvard, Suite E-2
2 doors east of the HIV Resource Consortium
Look for our banner on testing nights.
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continuedfrom page 6
system, or "kill him. A similar procedure
with an AIDS patient at the University of
Pittsbnrgh in 1993 failed, but doctors flare
refined the procedure as a result and are
using a specially processed part of the
baboon bone marrow to improve Gettv’s
: HIV at Chinese Universities
¯" BEIJING - Newspapers in China have
~ reported that during "’spot checks" at urn-
¯ versities, Chinese health officials fotmd
~ 10 HIV infected students at 2 colleges in
: the capital city. Health officials in the
¯ country say getting AIDS information
and e&~cat~on programs to the cotmtrv’s
: schools is "extremely urgent" and esti--
." mate that morethan 60% of those infected
¯ with HIV in the country are under the age
." of 29 years.
AZT Helps Cut Risks in
chances. Accidental Needle Jabs
"t’~o r~ ph~ ¯ .,,, - ¯ .......C.-based ....."s~o~,s Comrmttee :. \.V¯¢SHIN- GTO-N,-,C...ooperatingwith Britfor
Responsible Med]cifie,’lio~ .ever, has tsh and Frenc"h othoa" ls , the l_ -S - C~enters"
filed a formal complaint with the federal for Disease Control and Prevention re~.
g0venunent over the experimental bone
marrow procedure. The public interest
group charged that such cross-species
marrow injections endanger the public
health by risking the spread of dangerous
baboon infections. Susan Getty of
\Vatcrford, Conn., the mother 61"the ailing
man who was with him at the hospital
during the procednre, said people with
advanced AIDS have little to lose ~n undergoing
such medi"cal gambles. %\emttst
take greater risks." she said. "It is time to
stop tiffs horrible, horrible disease."
AIDS Awareness in France
I~OSTON-- According to the U.S. journal
Nature, a snrvcv of what they think about
l llVand ..\ID~ suggests th~ Frei~:h ,are
continuing to adjtrst their sexual behaviors
because of the ~pidemic. The report
says that condoms arc increasiugly used,
particuhtrlv anion,, those who are single
mid under ihe age ~f’30: more people are
having fewer casual sexual parmers: ,’rod
the nnmbcr of peat)It who regularly get
tested for I IIV fiffccfion continues to ~ow.
ports that atimited study of 31 health care
workers accidentally jabbed with hypodermic
needles at work had much lower
risk of HIV infection if given AZT. The
CDC reports indicated the health care
workers" risk of refection was nearly 80%
lower from taking the drag shortly after
the needle-stick accident than workers
who were not given AZT.
U.S. Blood Supply Even Safer
BOSTON" - According to a govenunent
stud) published in the New EnglandJourhal
of)ledicme, only an infinitesimally
small mnount of blo~d do~mted tbr transfusions
in the U.S. is infected with HIP.
The L.S. Centers for Disease Control &
Prevention study estimated that no more
th,’m 27 pints out of the total 12 nffllion
pints donated each year are tainted. Because
blood usedin transfusions is pooled
from several donors, bowever, health officials
said the chances of receiving con-
Uumnated blood are between 1 in 83.000
m~d 1 in 122.000. To reduce these odds
even further, the Food & Drng Adnmlis-
FI_~ELITY.Hq/V~E HE-aLTH C~-RE; INC.
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486-1174
800-999-3442
We provide comprehensive home health services
24 hourslday, seven days/week.
The range ofservices include:
Skilled nursing services (RN’s, LPN"s)
Home health .aides, Physical Therapy
Speech Therapy, Occupational Therapy
Medical Social Services, In-home psychiatric care
Noli~eme(gency transportation, Private duty nursing
~ ~’~:::’~nd Companion sitter services.
This list is not all inclusive.
Please contact our offices with specific treatment issues.
tration had ordered blood banks in this
country to begin additional HIV testing
that it ~stimates will reduce the number of
tainted donations to no more than 17 per
year. Some public health care workers
~luestion whether the added $65 nffllion in
)early testing expenses is justified by
eliminatingjust 10 units of infected blood
per )ear.
AIDS Mortality Among Prisoners
CHICAGO - Writing in the American
Journal of Public Health, Adansi
Amankwaa with the Florida prisons department
says that a review of mortality
data from 1987-92 in the state’s prisons
indicates that AIDS was the main cause of
imnate deaths during the~ 5’ year period~
accounting for more thau 50% ofall prison
deaths in 1992. It indicated that deaths
from the disease were increasing compared
with other causes in prisons.
Turner ,and was permitted to return to
work. In a statement given to the EEOC in
Aug. 1995, Ttmier testified that he was
unsure if he would serve a customerwhom
he kiiew to have AIDS. According to
court docmnents,"he [Turner] is unaware
about the trausnfission possibilities of the
HIV virtts through casual contact in a
food establishment and states that for all
he kiiows it c,’m be mmsnfftted though
perspiration falling into food. He testifies
that he is very "concerned" about this
possibility mid’that he would try to favorably
resPond: to customer prejudice regarding
AIDS. tte states thai the subject
of AIDS mid HIV is disgusting mid objectionable
mid indicative of bad hygiene.
see ADA. page I1
Kellie J. Watts
Attorney at law
Protect You & Your Partner
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B ACK WHITE INC. COMMUNITY CALENDAR
SUNDAYS
Agape’ Christian
Fellowship
Worship Service, 10:30 am
Sheridan Center, Suite H
21st & Sheridan, 599-7688
Bless the Lord At All
Times Christian Center
Sunday Schoo!, 9:45 am
Worship Service, 11 am
2627b East 1 lth 583-7815
Community of Hope
(United Methodist)
Worship Service, 6 pm
1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800
Family of Faith
Metro. Comm. Church
Adult Sunday School, 9:15
Worship Service, 11 am
5451-E South Mingo.
Info: 622-1441
Metro. Comm. Church
of Greater Tulsa
Worship Service, 10:45ran
1623 N. Maplewood
Info: 838-1715
Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay
Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa
6:30 pm at CanterbmT
5th & Evanston, 583-9780
MONDAYS
H]V Testing
TOHR Clinic
¯ Free & anonymous testing
using fingerstick method.
¯ No appointment required.
: Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm
Results hours: 7-9 pm
Info: 742-2927
TUESDAYS
HIV+ Support Group
HIV Resource Consortium
1:30 pm
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-I
Info: Wanda @ 749-4194
Shanti-Tulsa, Inc.
HIV/AIDS Support Group
WEDNESDAYS
Authority OfThe Believer
Bible Study, 7 pm
MCC of Greater Tulsa
1623 N. Maplewood
lnfo: 838-1715
Bless The Lord At All
Times Christian Center
THURSDAYS
16-Step Empowerment
Group For Women
Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
Co-Dependency
Support Group
7:30, Family of Faith MCC
i_Jambda Bo~vling League
Shdridan LaSnes
8:45 pm
3121 S. Sheridan
PFLAG Family AIDS
Support Group
2nd Monday of month,
6:30 pin
4154 S. Harvard
Info: 749-4901
OTHER GROUPS
Tool Box Technicians,
Leather org., hffo cio The
Tool Box: 584-1308
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform:
& Leather Seekers Assoc. "
Info: 838-1222 "
The Banned, OK Gay Band
Practice weekly in OKC ¯
Info: 838-2121
,"HIViAI’DS Support Group
: 7 pm, call for location:
:
749:7898
¯ Community of Hope
: Grief Group, 6 pm
: 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800
¯ :.: ~,, ~ ~ . ~o. ....
¯ ~, Womens Grmef-~roup
siaonsored by
Community of Hope
6pm, Butler/Stumpff
Funeral Home
2103 E. 3rd St.
Info: 585-1800
.........& ..... Prayer&Bible Study 5451rES. Mingo, 622-1441
.....,Friends &.Family :: 7~:.30 pm 2627-B East 1 lth " " ~
Call 583-7815 for info. HIV Testing
Family Of Faith MCC
Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm
Choir Practice 7:30 pm
5451-E South Mingo.
Call 622-1441 for info.
¯
¯ ’Community of Hope
(United Methodist)
¯ Service for Peace, 6:30 pm
¯ Bible Stud,,,’, 7 pm
1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800
TNAAPP
¯ Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project
¯ Support group
¯ for Gay & Bi Native
¯ American Men, 6 pm
at Conununitv of Hope
¯ 1703 E. 2nd
¯ 582-7225 or 584-4983
TOHR Clinic
Walk in testing: 7 - 8:30 pm
Results hours: 7 - 9 pm
Info: 742-2927
Prayer Time
MCC - Greater Tulsa, 7 pm
1623 N. Maplewood
Info: 838= 1715
Tulsa Family Chorale
Wee"kly practice, 9:30 pm
Lola’s 2630 E. 15th
PFLAG Family AIDS
Support Group
1st & 3rd Thursdays
41 54 S. Harvard, 749-’4901
Alternatives
Weekly socials, 7 pm
See below for schedule.
Info: 646-5503
SATURDAYS
St. Jerome’s Ecumenical
Catholic Church
,Mass, 6 pm
Garden (Thapcl
3841 S. Peoria
Info: Father Rick
at 742-7122
Narcotics Anonymous
Meets weekly at 11 pm
Confidential ~upport for
recovering addicts.
Co~unmnity of I lope
1703 E. 2nd. lnfo: 585- I
NAMES Project
AIDS Memorial Quilt
Sewing Bees
3rd Sat of each month
hffo: 748-3111
OTHER GROUPS
Gay & Lesbian Sttulent
Association
TJC Southeast Canq)us,
Info: 631-7632
SWAN-Single Women’s
Activity Network
Call 832-2121
TOHR Helpline
Daily 8= 10 pm
For info. ~r to vohmtcer:
743-GAYS
SUNDAY, JANUARY 18
Community ofHope Orientation
2 pro, 1703 E. 2nd
Info: 585-1800
SUNDAY, JANUARY 21
Faith & Struggle Dialogue Group
Community of Hope United Methodist
4:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd (ongoing group)
Info: 585-1800
THURSDAY, JANUARY 25,
Community ofHope Orientation
6:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd
Info: 585-1800
SUNDAY, JANUARY 28
Faith & Struggle Dialogue Grm~
Community of Hope United Methodist
4:30 pm, 1703 E. 2nd (ongoing ~oup)
Info: 585-1-800
SUNDAY, JANUARY 28
,Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA, 9 pm
Concess|ons, 33rd& Peoria
Pageant ..
Info: 744-0896 or 838-3701
TUESDAY, JANUARY ,30.
Rainbow Business Gui/d, 7 pm
Uno Pizzeria,.61st & Memorial
Dinner Meeting
Info: 665-5174
WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 31
Tulsa Women’s Supper Club, 6:30 pin
Full Moon Care, 1525 East 15th
Info: 584-2978
THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 1
Alternatives. Informational meeting
for reactivated social orgamzauon for
men and women, also, video of
comedian Suzmme Westenhoefer, 7pm
Holiday Inn Express, 51st & Harvard,
Info: 646-5503
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 6
TMsa Oklahomansfor Human Rights
Local Police Officers Speak Out, 7 pm
Alan Chapman Activity Center
University of Tulsa ,
5th St. west of Harvard, Info: 743-4297
THURSDAY, FEBRUARY-8
Alternatives, Bowling at Riverlanes, 7pm
8711S. Lewis .. ~
Info: 646-5503
SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 11
Community ofHope Orientation
2 p!n, 1703 E. 2nd
hffo::585~ 1800
THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 15
.Alt~r.natives, Movie Night; 7pm
Fox 4 Cinema, 51st & Harvard
Info: 646-5503
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 16
Fandly ofFaith MCC
Reclaim & Recovery Workshop:
Forgiveness, 9 am - 3 pm
5451-E S. Mingo, hffo: 622-1441
THURSDAY, FEBRUARY22
Alternatives, Dinner, 7pro
Golden Corral, 71st & Mingo
hlfo: 646-5503
Out & About With JD!
More sequins, but that’s not all that this
month’s featured establishinent has to
offer. Lola’s is "’truly a fanfilv bar" says
Bill (Lola) McCall of this wonderful pla~e
Brian & tJttt ofLola’s
thht ~ves a lot to the community. One
example they’ve supported Mr. Oklahoma
Leather~ Mr. Tulsa Leather and 1st alternate
to Mr, Oil Capital. Also, Lola’s pro:
rides ahome forTULSA FAMILY CHOIL~
LE, which is opento any Gay, Lesbian
¯ or Gay-.friendly persons and m~ets Thurs.
at 9:30:~
Bill & Brian are the owners of this cozy
establishinent that represents a little bit of
Valentine’s Day. Bill & Brian have been
to,,tethet for 15 (!) vear~ which they plan
to celebrate with a ~umiversarv showand
party .on FebruaD’ 16th. Tffey ,opened
Lola’s 2years ago. "’At Lola’s you can
find whatever liking may be: entertain:
ment, games (pool & darts), good friends
or jnst a good time."
Oh by the way, the following are happenin~
s at Lola’s for the coming month:
Feb. 16th, Bill & Brians’s Anniversary
show & party; Feb. 20th, Birthday celebration
for Desdny Ray, Miss Upper
Cherry Street, and Feb. 24th, 1st Annual
see JD, page 11
0 748-5374
L Spring Art Classes
Start February 17
Family Workshops
YPoreusncgheoroalrt ~
~Adult
Studios
Action Studios
Spring Break Studios March 25-29
not, however, mandate procreative possibility
as a requirement for heterosexual
marriage certificates, a move that would
seem consistant with his stated rationale.
Knight goes on to forecast economic
doom and collapse if California "’were
forced" to recognize the relationships of
same-gender couples,including taking on
the same responsibilities for each other
thathetero-couples expect. However, economic
forecasts for Hawaii project that
same-sex marriages could add $4 billion.
to Hawaii’ s revenues over the next 5 years.
Some observers think that Knight" s bill,
if enacted, will likely cost California taxpayers
millions in legal fees as gay and
lesbian citizens challenge the. law. Current
law recognizes all mamages performed
throughout the United States. The
bill would prohibit recogmtion of legal
marriages of same-sex couples, regardless
of where they are performed.
sexual activities, the citizen suggested
that he mad the officer go to a private
location for consensual sex. After the citizen
made the offer, he was arrested for
solicitation under ma OKC ordinance.
The ACLU defense of the citizen rests
on two concerns. First is the 1 st Amendment
(free speech) issue. The OKC ordinance
appears to make it illegal to make
any offer of consenstml sex in OKC. ACLU
spokesperson, Michael Canffield noted
that this would make offers betweeu heterosexuals,
say in a drinking establishmeut,
illegal al~o but he/also noted that the
OKC police do not appear to be assigning
undercover cops to heterosexual bars.
The other basis for challenging the arrest
is a 1986 decision by the Criminal
Court that ruled that the Oklahoma "sodomy"
law which makes oral or anal sex a
felony crime was unconstitutional. The
decision held that a constitutional right to
privacy prevented the state or cities from
forbidding private, consensual sex acts
between adults. The law makes no distinction
between heterosexual or homosexual
oral or anal sex.
However, the ’86 case involved heterosexuals
and the court specified that it was
not addressing whether homosexual citizens
enjoyed the same right to privacy as
heterosexual ones. If homosexual citizens
have the same right to privacy and the
solicited activities are not themselves illegal,
then the OKC ordinance can hardly
be constitutional. This is, if it" s not illegal
to have sex, then it can hardly be illegal to
talk about it.
In a 3-1 decision, the Court of Criminal
Appeals chose not to address whether the
state can constitutio~mlly prohibit same
gender sex but said this case was only
about public solicitations mad rtfled that
OKC could prohibit such solicitations.
The appeal, according to Hendricksen,
who is ACLU-OK president, will ask the
US Supreme Court to compel the OK
Court of Criminal Appeals to decide if the
right to privacy that ~t established for
heterosexual citizens ~s also available for
homosextml citizens. "’The court [appeals]
ducked this issue and we are going to see
if we can force them to m~swer tiffs question.’"
To help the ACI.U-OK fight tiffs case.
donations may be made to 600 NW 23rd
St. OKC 731(36.
be the actions of a neighborhood adolescent
but that the theft of their family’s
peace of mind is no little thing. The
Harrison Kirbys are considering their options
to protect themselves and their children
from futher harm. Kirby did add that
they have been comforted by expression
of support from friends around the US
with whom they correspond via e-mail.
statements by Radical Right leaders, such
as CBN’s Pat Robertson and Sen. Jesse
Helms. Since the threat of lawsuits by
CBN, no television station in any of the
target cities of Washington, Tulsa, Houston
or Atlanta will air the commercials.
Mitzi Henderson, president of PFLa,G’s
board of directors, stated that PFLAG is
conunitted to "’get our message on the air
and compel CBN to stop its harassment
and censorship attempts".
Locally, the Tulsa chapter of PFLAG is
presenting a free film series at All Soul’s
U~titarian Church at 7pm, Jan. 23 & 30,
mad Feb. 6 & 13. The films, Straight From
The Heart. On Being Gay, Queer Son, and
Always .\.lb~ Kid, feature Lesbians and Gay
men and parents of Lesbians and Gay men
dealing with issues from fanfilies to religion
to AIDS. PFLAG Tulsa also is continuing
a campaign for a siguature advertisement
to run in The Tulsa World. The
ad "calls for Tulsans to stand against
tred, hate speech mad violence" against
individtmls based on their sexual orientation
mad "’to recoguize the strong link
between hate speech, teen suicide and
violent physical attacks..." Tulsa Family
News reported correctly last month that
The Tulsa Worm is on record as having a
policy banning the use of the words, Gay
or Lesbian in advertising. However, contrary
to our report, The World has not
changed its policy to allow an exception.
According to Bill Hinkle, PFLAG Tulsa
co-chair, PFLAG cannot even spell out its
name but may be forced to use a circumlocution
like, "Parents and Friends of Persons
of Differing Sexual Orientation.’"
The ad will likely, run later in January.
dren they were trying to place.
Rep. Benson stated to TFN that he was
motivated by the NEA’s resolution to
reaffirm what he views as Oklahoma’s
"traditional. family values". He said the
reason for a resolution instead of a bill
was that since a resolution lacks the power
of law, the legislators could express their
feelings without infringing any constitutional
rights which such a law would
probably do. Benson claims that he does
not want to condeum Lesbians and Gay
men for their "choice of lifestyle" & that
he expected to get wide support
OKC’s Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Political
Caucus has begun a postcard campaign
directed at Rep. Benson. In Tulsa,
according to one source, PFLAG’s Nancy
McDonald is putting together a group of
parents mad Tulsa area legislators to meet
with Benson. Other activists have begun
to ph’m a Family Day at the Capitol, a
state-wide lobb3:ing day by Lesbian, Gay
and Bi activists, clergy mad business
people. For i~ffo, call Green Country Pride
at 838-2121 or 583-1248.
Timothy W. Daniel
Attorney at Law
Know Your Rights!
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1-800-742-9468 or.918-352-9504
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partner, Diane Divelbass, & Candace Gingrich
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by Phil Boler-Schmidt
Winter is a special time in
Eureka Springs. With the falling
of the Autumn leaves comes a
respite from the thundering
hoardes, and locals get a chance
to renew old acquamtmlces, catch
up on family time, and spend
time with cherished friends.
Each December, we have the
Women’s Party. 1995 saw the
25th annual event, and it was
quite a sight to behold. My own
estimate was about 500 women
in attendance. Each brings some
type of finger food and a drink to
share. There is music and dancing,
talk and Sharing. A grand
time is had by all. This year was
no exception. And, as usual, a
few of the guys showed up, respectfully
of course, and sang
Christmas carols to the assembled
masses at the ballroom
high atop the Basin Park Hotel.
Now that Christmas ~s over,
the really big events are potluck
dinners. It is the Ozark way of
getting to "know people, fo~: the
first time, or to renew old friendships.
Us queer folk do the
potlucks in style. This is mv2nd
Winter in Eureka, and I’m looking
for~vard with anticipation to
the Season of the Potlucks. This
is the time to get to lmow those
people you have always ~vanted
to know but were too bits5 working
to spend any time with.
As man5 of you already kimw.
Eureka Springs is a wedding
haven. And, it is also a wonderful
spot for holy unions. Everything
imaginable is possible,
from an extravaganza to a small
ceremony just for the two of
you. And what better time than
this Winter? Resources are available
for holy unions at 253-2401.
Events upcoming in Eureka
this Winter include Jacob Adler,
Assistant Professor of Philosophy
at the University of Arkansas
giving a talk at MCC of the
Living Spring oftjanuary, 21 st at
4 PM The trpi~ will be Jewish
Influence on Jesus’ Teachings.
Joya Pope will be in town on
February 3rd, also speaking at
MCC of the Living Spring at 7
PM. Joya Pope is author of The
WorMAccording to Michael and
Upcoming Changes: Prophecy
and Pragmatism for the Late
Nineties. Admission is S 12.50 at
the door, and she also has private
channeling sessions available.
Winter is the time we sit back
and take stock, read all the good
books we didn’t have time to get
to during the rush of tourists,
begin a new study program, and
¯ get read~ for theseason wlfich is
-~’" only a c~uple of months away.
For those of you who are Eureka
locals, you know exactly
~vhat I ,’un talking about. Those
of you who ,are from out of to~vn
will just riced to visit in order to
see why wc call this place Paradise.
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ADA cont’dfromp. 8
He compares AIDS and HIV to
leprosy....He states that hi s attitude
regarding HIV and AIDS
has remained unchanged s~nce
1987 when he suspended the
plaintiff [Saladin] because he
suspected he was HIV positive.
In the same manner that he directed
plaintiff not to discuss-the
AIDS and HIV status of ¯
plaintiff’s partner in casual conversation
with customers he
states that he would consider
asking a white waitress to not
discuss or disclosed (sic) that
fact that her spouse was black in
casual conversation."
Steve Norick, one of Paul
Saladin’s attorneys, claims the
Americans with 13isabilities Act
was violated in at least two major
ways. The ADA provide relief
from discrimination based
on acttmlly being handicapped
but also to those who may not be
handicapped but who are perceived
as being handicapped.
And it also provides protection
to those ~vho are associated with
those wh6 are handicapped.
Thus far the court has seen
sufficient merit in Saladiu et al’s
case not to accept the efforts of
Tumer’s attornevs to dismiss the
case though the court has not
seen fit to render judgment to
Saladin yet either. Now it will be
up tojudge &jury to findjustice.
JD cont’dfromp. 9
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If you missed Concessions celebration
of their first anmversary,
you should just hang your
headin shame! Kirk &Terry and
their staffand patrons had a great
time and look forward to a grca~
year two. Also the) say, don’t
miss Miss Gay Oklalloma t "Sofa
co/fling on Jan. 28th and even
more to come in March - mark
your calendars.
I hope that tiffs month and ucxt
you find, or cherish more. that
someone who brings you joy!
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For information regarding HIV/AIDS topics, our Library is an excellent resource.
There are books, videos, audio cassettes, government documents and periodical articles
full of updated information. Many branch libraries have books and other materials,
although the Central Library, at 4th and Denver in downtown Tulsa, has more detailed
information. Here are some of the items available through Central Library departments:
BUSINESS ANDTECHNOLOGY, 4th floor, phone: 596-7988 (Dewey area 616.9792)
AIDS and HIV in Perspective (by Barry Schoub)
Immune Power: The Comprehensive Healing Pro~am for HIV (b.v Jolm Kaiser)
Dictionary of AIDS Related Terminology (by Jeffrey Huber)
Rethinking AIDS (by Robert Root-Bernstein)
Everything You Need to Know When a Parent Has AIDS (by Barbara Drainlin)
AIDS and the Law of Workplace Discrimination (by Jeffrey Mello) (34417301)
READERS SERVICES, 2nd floor, phone: 596-7966 (Dewey area 362.1969)
People, Sex, HIV and AIDS (by Pierre Andre)
Everything You Need to Know About Being HIV Positive (by Amy Shire)
I’ll Not Go Quietly (by Mary Fisher)
We Are All Living With AIDS (by Earl Pike)
Women’s HIV Sourcebook (by Patricia Klosser)
Search for an AIDS Vaccine (by Christine Grady) (174.2 G)
Recovering From the Loss of a Loved One to AIDS (by K. Dounelly) (155.937)
Diary of a Lost Boy (by Harry Kondoleon) (fiction)
Labour of Love (by Doug Wilson) (fiction)
Such Times (by Christopher Coe) (fiction)
Promise of Rest (by Reynolds Price) (fiction)
CHILDREN’S, 2nd floor, phone: 596-7971
Magic Johnson (by Martin Schwabacher)
AIDS: How it \Vorks in the.~odv (by Lorna Greenberg)
Daddy and Me (by Jeanne M6ut~)uss’amy-Ashe)
David ttas AIDS (by Doris Sanford)
Know About AIDS (by Margaret Hyde)
MEDIA CENTER, 1 st floor, phone: 596-7933
Living Proof: HIV and the Pursuit of Happiness (video)
Heart of the Matter (video, HIV+ women)
HI\" Test: Who Should Take It? What Does it Show? (video)
AIDS: \Xqay We Won’t Look (audio cassette)
Let’s Talk: C. Everett Koop (audio cassette)
AIDS Quilt Songbook (compact disc)
There are also various Government Documents available in both the Reference
Department and the Business and Technology Department. Please call the Central
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trial here before being returned to Oregon.
Acremant, 27, was taken to flae San
Joaquin County Jail for extradition to
Oregon ou murder charges in die brntal
slayings of Rox,’ume Ellis and Michelle
Abdill. Stockton police say they were
tipped off by an anonymou~ -caller early
on the monli]~g ofDec. 13, who gave them
the license number of a rented van
Acremant was driving. Alter several hours
of patrolling area motels, police say they
located the van at a Motel 6 and discovered
that Acremant had registered the
night before tmder his own name. According
to a Stockton police spokesperson,
Acremant was not armed when he
was arrested, and he surrendered to authorities
without incident.
Ellis mid Abdill, who operated a property
management business together and
were domestic partners, were-last seen on
Dec. 4. Their bodies, bound, gagged and
blindfolded, were discovered three days
later in the back of their parked pickup
truck. According to Medford authorities,
die two women had each been shot twice
in the head in what some have described
as an "executton-style slaying."
Police are continuing to refuse to talk
abom the details of the case but did say
they had no evidence that Acremant knew
that the two women were lesbians. Although
Acremant’ s father said his son had
told him he had killed the two women in
a robbery, police say that money, wallets,
jewelry and other valuables belonging to
them had not been taken.
See related story., this page.
STOCKTON, Calif. - The Natioual Gay
& Lesbian Task Force has asked the U.S.
Justice Department to examine the killing
of Roxmme Ellis and Michelle Abdill,
lesbian activists in Medford, Ore., because
of statements made by Robert
Acremant, who is facing charges in the
case. The Task Force formally asked Attorney
General Janet Reno in a letter to
investigate whether the killings were hate
crimes because of a variety of statements
Acremant has made to television, radio
and newspaper reporters duringjail interviews.
In one interview, Acremant said he had
asked the women if they were lesbians
and said they had told him they were. "It
kind of made me sick to my stomach that
she was someone’s grandma," Acremant
was quoted as saying in an interview
published in the Oregonian shortly after
his arrest. He also said in that interview
that the fact that they were lesbians "made
it easier" to kill them.
In a letter to Reno, NGLTF Executive
Directory Melinda Paras said, gays and
lesbians around the country were "’very
much upset and disturb0xl by these murders"
and that statements by Acremant
"have heightened the alarm and concern"
that the killings were, in fact, hate crimes.
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by Jean-Pierre
St. Valentine’s Day is soon to be upon
us, and everyone is once again faced with
the dilemmaof selecting that special place
for a romantic dinner. Here are the three
best restaurants in Tulsa, as well as the
three most overrated. Each of the establishments
reviewed this month considers
itself to offer "fine dining," or what you
might call a"white tablecloth" restaurant.
Elegant. Dressy. Be forewarned, though,
that all of these places fall into the category
of "very expensive."
Heading up the list is Montrachet, in the
Consortium at 3509 South Peoria. This
restaurant was formerly on our list of
places to avoid, unless you liked schizophrenic
Santa Fe French cuisine courtesy
of the previous chef/owner. But, last summer,
it was taken over by new ownership,
management, and chefs from the resorts
in Scottsdale, Arizona, and has successfully
regained its place on Jean-Pierre’s
social list. With the demise lastyear of
both Karmichael’ s and the Fifteenth Street
Grill (-gotta pay those taxes!), Montrachet
is currently Tnlsa’s best restaurant.
The Montrachet style is still basically
French In concept, but displays a,.fresh
American note to the Continental style:
Beef tenderloin, rack of lamb, poussin,
fresh salmon, and other gourmet specialties
are mainstays ofthe Montrachetmenu,
which changes seasonally. But the highlight
of the meal with be the lovely montage
of flavors from experiencing all of
the courses, not just the entree.
The onion soup at this place is absolutely
the best one can get in Oklahoma. A
rich beefy and winey stock bathes tender,
caramelized onions, and is a delicious and
warming treat. Frizzled onions top the
soup as a garnish, which you may want to
request be left in the kitchen.
For a special appetizer, try the seared
foie gras. It’s presented medium rare,
stacked between layers of puff pastry, and
grilled apples. The salad of mixed greens
with Stilton cheese, walnuts, & poached
pears is excellent.
Desserts change regularly,
and all are exquisite.
None are the typical
ice cream and hea~y.,
sticky sauce on abrownie;
....all. drowned in icanned
¯ whipped topping, that one
¯ usually finds in Tulsa.
¯ Many are truly works of art, and the tastes
¯ can be heavenly. Montrachet also has a
¯ full bar and an excellent wine list. They
¯ also offer a number of interesting cordials
¯ and liqueurs. - ,
; Expect.seryice~ to .be.very well trained
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and efficient. All of the waiters are very
¯ knowledgeable about the evening’s menu
¯ and the preparations of the foods, and will
¯ be happy to recommend,.the evening’s
¯ best dishes.
Bodean Seafood Restaurant has been
¯ the place to go for fresh-off-the-plane-
" daily, seafood in Tulsa for years. Located
¯ in a nondescript strip shopping center at
¯ 3323 East 51st, just east of Harvard,
¯ Bodean is filling the shoes of the late
." Louisianne,Tulsa’slegendary downtown
¯ r.estaurant. You can also buy lovely fresh
¯¯ seafood to prepare at home at Bodean’s
adjacent seafood market.
If you like New England style clam
¯ chowder, you willlove the soupat Bodean,
: probably the best Marc-Pierre has had
: outside of the East Coast. Rich and thick,
it contains big pieces of fresh dams. Limit
¯ yourself to a cup though; the bowl is big
~ enough for a meal by itself.
Check the chalkboards to see whatcame
in on the plane that day. Mussels, cockles,
: and oysters from Newfoundland and New
: Zealand are regularly on the appeuzer
¯ lists, and fishes from across the world will
: become scrumptious entrees.
The fish entrees are al-
St. Valentine’s Day is
soon to be upon
us...Here are th~ three
_. b~st restaurants in
Tulsa, as well as the
three most overrated.
ways creatively prepared
and presented, though
sometimes the creativity
can be a bit excessive.
~re recently experienced
a mahi mahi presented
with mango chumey and
a blackened monkfish
served with crawfish jambalaya. Never
mind, though, since any fish can be prepared
to order, and Jean-Pierre often orders
the wonderfully fresh seafood simply
grilled with alittle lemon butter on the
side. Expect your fish to be cooked to an
expert level of doneness, not undercooked
and not dried out, but just right.
Vvqaile most of the waiters provide the
professional service you would expect
from a quality restaurant, not all of the
staff is properly trained. You may want to
request a special waiter, once you find one
you like.
Our third choice amongst the three best
Tulsa restaurants is actually a private club
in downtownTulsa. The Summit, atop the
Bank IV Center, serves both luncheon
and dinner to Tulsa’s business and socialite
community. It might be worth your
while to get out those gold-digging shoes
and wrangle an invitation to share dinner
with aclub member. A qnick review of the
club roster reveals several ’Tanfily’" members,
so this is not an impossible task.
Honorable mention has to go to the food at
the Southern Hills Golf & Country Club,
but finagling an invitation here is much
more challenging.
The Summit features expertly traineo
staff with charming & sexy European
accents. And, this being "The Club" of
Tulsa’s elite, the staff will do everything
possible to cater to the diners" every whim
and pleasure. Of course, such service and
top quality food does not come without its
cost, but the saving grace is that the Summit
doesn’t make you pay at the endof the
meal your host just signs h check!
This is Tulsa, so beef is heavily featured
on the menu. Steaks are excellent, always
prime beef, and will be prepared exactly
to vour specifications. They also do a
lovely Dover sole. Wildgame is frequently
available. But one of the most memorable
entrees here is the fork tender, melt-inyour-
mouth, lamb tenderloin. The only
thing to avoid is the lasagna, which is
bland & insipid, a big disappointment
~ven the management’s Italian origins.
Desserts are ~ bit more mundane, but
fresh fruit with real whipped crean~ is
always available, and the signature dessert
of the club is a chocolate crunch cakc.
a very rich mousse m a pastry shell.
If you are watching your pennies, be
careful with your choices of wines ,and
liquors. The "Summit stocks all of the
ultra-premium liquors and has wines costing
100’s (note the plural) of dollars per
botde.
And now for the list of Tulsa’s three
most overrated "’fine" restaurants, at which
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Jean-Pierre refuses to eat when he is picking
up the tab, and which Jean-Pierre will
discourage friends from visiting as well.
All of these restaurants suffer from overinflated
prices, inconsistent food quality,
and mediocre servtce (judged by a standard
of what one might expect given the
expense).
Number Three: Bravo Ristorante. Suffeting
through the attempts of the wait
stuff to sing arias and show tunes does not
make up for their inept service or the
mediocrity of the food. R.I.P. Montague" s,
the fine dining room when the Adam’s
Mark used to be the Westin.
Number Two: Atlantic Sea Grill. In
probably the most expensive restaurant in
Tulsa, the expectation that the food will
be cooked to a quality level consistent
with the prices is unrequited. Perhaps one
would be better off to walk a few doors
down to the cheaper and infinitely less
stuffy T.G.I. Friday’s.
NumberOne: Warren DuckClub. Aside
from being in the tone)- Doubletree Warren
Place, how this establishment manages
to be touted as one of the finer
establishments in Tulsa is totally bevond
this reviewer. On several oceasirns, ~ean-
Pierre has been served tough and overcooked
duck with dreadfully sweet fruit
sauce to mask the (lack of) "flavor of the
bird. But most disappointing is thee dessert
bar reminiscent of Harvest Buffet. Save
your money.
Well, dear readers, this is the list of
Tulsa’s besl and worst. Now, you can
decide where you want to take your special
friend on’Febrtmry 14. Any hidden
messages there’? Just be sure to call ahead
for reservations, Bon appetit!
by James Christjohn
Hello again! Time for another rousing
round of reviews! I have received complaints
from some members of the community
for using the "snap" system of
rating stuff. They claim to have patented
it. Go figure; some people are legends in
their own minds. At any rate, if anyone
out there in readerland feels they have a
more amusing rating system, please submit
it to Tulsa Family News Rating System
contest,POB 4140,TulsaOK, 74159.
I’m not sure what the prizewill be yet, but
I’ll come up with something. I am also
asking for the women in our readership to
Submit ideas of what they’d like to see
reviewed. I don’t want anyone left out.
On with the reviews, comments, and
whatever other stuff I feel might be amusing.
If you remember your first crush on
another member of the same sex, or have
forgotten, I can highly recommend "’Tom
& Huck". It is an excellent adaptation of
"Tom Sawyer", with excellent performances
by the entire cast. And the
homoerotic subtext clearly evident inTom
and Huck’s relationship ~s almost underlined
in one of several scenes where Tom
and Huck are struggling to communicate
their feelings towards one another and
you just want to yell "Go ahead! Say it!
Tell him’I love you!’"Actually,it’s pretty
much true to it’s time - I can see Huck
living in town, madTom marries Beckx’ as
a cover, and continues his relationship
with Tom. This is definitely a good
Valentine" s day flick, very romantic in its
way, and the action keeps you on the edge
of the seat. Fortunately, I restrained myself
from the yelling bit, for which mv
mece was grateful (I must credit her f~r
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this issue’s reviews, during the holiday
trip to see fmrtily, she dragged me to all
these movies I wouldn’t have ever seen
otherwise, and was pleasantly surprised
at how good they were. I dedicate this
month’s column to her. Otherwise, I’d
just be babbling on about anything I could
think of and making up reviews of fictional
films and stuff.)
Another winner is "Jumanji", and it
takes you on a doozy of a rollercoaster
ride. It’s a fun film, and Robin Williams is
always a delight, especially in this flick
about ama~cal board game set in a deadly
jungle that sucks you in until someone
else plays the game to it’s finish and sets
you free. The scenes of the jungle and its
animals taking over an entire town is
amazing. The plot was a bit uneven, but I
found it amusing enough overall to make
up for that.
Inmusical terms, Boy George’s"Cheapness
and Beaut)"" deserves more of a
listen than it’s been getting. I am not
partial to BG or Culture Club, but I was
curious enough to give this disc a spin,
and found it surprisingly effective. It covers
every style from country to heavy
metal (mad I HATE heavy metal, but I
rather liked it here. Skip the first track, but
listen to the rest. He holds no punches, mad
does not shy away from telling it like i~ is
- no bet love songs here! There is one song
on there about AIDS that nearly hadme in
tears. The lyrics are well-written if not
well-spelled and the music is fairly well
done. (For me, the first test of a songs is
the lyrics. Are they intelligent? Do they
have meaning? If they don’t, forget it.)
Another "new" discovery, October
Project, has a new CD, "Falling Farther
In", and it is beautiful. The lyrics are
amazingly intelligent, and the music fuses
a bit of rock, pop,jazz and Celtic soul. Try
it, you’ll like it. The lead singer has a
lovely deep alto voice that is like chocolate
to listen to. If you don’t like chocolate,
insert the dream food of your choice.
(Like I said, I don’t want to leave anyone
out.) This is a CD to add to your collection,
no matter what.
And, if we’re all lucky, I’ll be able to
review "’Phantom of the Opera" for the
next issue. I know a lot of folks out there
are dusting off their opera capes and lnasks
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message. ~25103
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GWM, 5’8", brown hair and eyes, 21,
seeks other males, good looking and
well built cowboys preferred, for
friendship and more. Please leave a
message. =23376
Ponca City NOT INTO BAR SCENE:
GWM, 27,155, 5’8", hazel eyes,
brown hair~ seeks others far friendship
and passible relationship;Please leave
a message. ~’17465
Oklahoma SON WANTS DAD: GWM,
31, 5’11", 180, brown hair, green
eyes, HIV:, seeks a HIV- Daddy far a
serious relationship. Relocation is most
definite if Daddy wants. Please leave a
message. ~15358
Oklahoma BOUND AND GAGGED:
GWM, Leather submissive seeks a very
aggressive Leather aggressive, far
serious encounters. No holds barred
preferred. Please leave a message.
~2827
Oklahoma BIG BOY: GWM, 5’6", 250,
brown hair, blue eyes, seeks others far "
friendship and more. Please leave a
message. ~11041
Tulsa PLAIN, SIMPLE, HONEST: GWM,
28, 165, hard worker, out doors man
and active, seeks other GWM’s for
friendship and passibly more. Please
leave a message. ~14249
Tulsa LET’S LEARN TOGETHER: GWM,
inexperienced, 30, 6’, 150, brown
hair, green eyes, professional,
smoke/alcohol free, seeks
inexperienced GWM’s, 18-25 far
special encounters. Please leave a
message. Must bediscrete and drug
free. =14856
Tulsa LET’S LEARN TOGETHER: GWM,
25, 5’10", 175, brown hair, masculine
and discrete, good looking, non
smoker, athletic, seeks other
inexperienced males, 21-30, for
friendship and possibly more. Please
leave a message. ~14178
Oklahoma LET’S TEACH EACH
OTHER: Bi Curious WM, 27, 6’, ! 95,
tanned, seeks other males, 18-30, bi
curious preferred, for learning
experiences. Please leav~ a message.
=17153
Oklahoma BRAND NEW: GWM, 27,
150 5’8", brown hair, hbzel eyes, will
try anything once, varied interests,
seeks other guys for frie~’dship and
much more. Please lea~e~ a message.
~ 17465
Oklahon~B-LOOKING FOR
SERIOUS FUN: GWiV~ Oklahoma
State University student, T0’s, 5’9",.
150", good body, varie~ interests,
seeks others far fun and ~ore. I am
very discrete. ~16686 :
Tulsa LOOKING FOR I~XPERIENCE:
Bi Curious Married WM~ very
attractive, good body, 6-.q’, 180,
blonde hair, blue eyes, sbeks other
white males far first time,experience.
Please leave a messege.iNo need to be
discrete. ~t6302
TUlsa TULSA "1~/’O STEP: GWM, 26,
5’7", 145, good looking!and in shape,
seeks others, 18-27, far friendship and
fun. Please leave a message. ~17238
Oklahoma COCKED AND LOADED:
GWM, 22, 6’2", 185, brown hair,
green eyes, seeks GWM~s, 35-45,
average build and weight far friendship
and possibly more. Please leave a
message. =13357
Oklahoma RIGHT ON THE
MONEY: GWM, 31, 5’6", seeks,
GWM’s, 25-50, into getting acquainted
instead of fantasizing abbut our looks.
We’re not all Greek God’s or are we
built like horses. Some of us are just
average. Call me. =12799
Oklahoma BI BI BLUES.~ BiCurious
M, 27, 175, 6, aliract~ve, seeks
0their attractive males, 2Q-30, who are
patii~nt and understanding. Must be
drug/disease free. Please leave a
me,sage =13020 :
Oklahoma FUN IN TH~ CORRAL:
GWM, 31, brown hair, hazel eyes,
’stache, 5’6", 165, seeks~
companionship of matur~ GWM, 23-
40, who are aggressive, masculine and
gentfe. Furry cowboys alplus. Call me!
~13859
Tulsa LOADED: 27, 6’, 180 iso
men 1~8~30 far some fun, give
me a.call- ~9298
OK City DADDY’S HOME:
WM, 41,6’ 180 blk brn, iso
slim musc 18-41 for fun and
friendship- leave a message-
=9318
Grove WANNA PUNK WITH
ME?: new to area. not into
bars, Dave, 20 6’ 185
brn/red/hzt, goatee, eyebrow
earring, love volleyball, good music,
good food great conversation,
meditate, spiritual, give me a ca11-
~9385
Tulsa AMERICAN PRIDE: 5’9, 140,
trim physique, hairy chest, sincere and
honest person, like this in a person,
give me a call- =9464
Oklahoma City GOOD TIMES ARE
WAITING: I’m 27 y/o, 5’11, 2151b~,
athletic bbild~ I’m Ikg4 someone to
share good times with. I like dancing,
I’m alight drinker and a non smoker.":
~1663
Oklahoma City PRIME TIME: I’m a 38
y/oWMI"V. I’m a total "PC and I’m
Ikg4 men,who would like to spend same
time with me. I’m clean, drug and
disease free. e9808
Oklahoma City READY OR NOT: I’m
20 y/o, 5’6, 2! 51bs; WM. rm Ikg4 a
relationship minded man 18-30’s With a
medium to slim build. I like singing,
bowling, golf, movies and cuddling. If y.ou
are interested, please call me. e47265
Tulsa DEEP CHOCOLATE: GBM,
5’7", well built, looking far GLM/GWM
for hot fun in the sun. Satisfaction
guarank:~l. Leave me a message and.
le~.s get together soon. =10596
Oklahoma BOYS WILL BE BOYS:
GWM, 6’, brown hair, blue eyes, very
versatile, seeks new friends in the area
for fun and friendship with relationship~
~ssibilities. Let’s get together and
celebrate life. e6571
Oklahoma City SHOOT THE
BREEZE: GWM, 22, brown hair/eyes,
5’6", see~ fun and relationship
oriented GWM’s under 30.
¯ Smoker/Ught Drinker OK. Must be
disease/drug free ~11041
Tulsa GAY OR BI: AI, 32, very masc
prof’l, GBM isa Gay or bi male, masc,
race not Impt, into sparts, outdoors, if u
like Iv a message thanks! ~ 7580
Tulsa LET’S PLAY: professional, 42
WM, isa other ~Gay or bi male, 30s-
40s, in the area, let’s play! ~ 7392
Tulsa SOMEONE TO LOVE: I’m 21
BM, kinda looking far someone to love,
tired of being by myself, love to sing,
read, like to go to the movies, have fun,
love all types of music, if this interests
you give me a call- ~ 7435
Tulsa SHARE SOME TIME: Dan,
BIWM, mid 40s iso BIWM 30-40, ht/wt
prop, very discreet, expect same, like
share some time, if you are interested,
give me a call, I’ll return all callse
7822
Tulsa NEW’ TO AREA~ Mike, new to
the area, 35, BIWM, bind/blue, work
out alot, phys fit, Ikg for a sir to BI BM
35-65 to have a g0od:time with, go out
with give me a call- = -7842
Eastem AR CUDDLE BY THE FIRE:
Jack, GWM, 37, It. bin/bin, mustache,
very masc, sir appearing/acting, iso
friends poss. rel in the area, like all
music, dining, theater, Sitting by a
fireplace, outdoors, animals, you name
it- give me a call- ~ 7873
Oklahoma City JASON, 24, 5’10,
170, Ikg to meet Other hot guys, around
my age, if you’d like- ~7885
Malvem FANTASY FUN: Jack, 33
WM, Ikg far guys into fantasies, give
me a call let’s get together. = 8031
Oklahoma City BI OR BI
CURIOUS? 36, in the city the first wk
of the month, looking far bi or bi
curious, gdlkg, 6’1,175, 33w, give
me a call- ~ 8514
Walton MARRIED OR BI: Rodney,
married WM 25 5’5, 150, altr, Ikg for
25-35 married or bi male, far
friendship pass rel, inexperienced and
want sameane to learn with honesty
and discretion req’d- ~ 8671
Ok City gl CURIOUS WM 42,
slender build, at,r, isa a bi or gay male,
18-25 - for pass rel, write me! photo a
plus, race not impt- e 8747
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Oklahoma City LET’S
LEARN TOGETHER:
Extremely Bi Curious WF,
new.to this life, 22, tall and
full figured, seeks same for
learning experiences.
Please leave a message
~27073
Oklahoma City
SATISFACTION
GUARANTEED: GWF, 31,
seeks other females for fun,
romance and more. Please
leave a message. =27256
Tulsa HEY GIRLS: athletic
attr. SWF early 30’s 5’4
1101bs brn/bm Ikg4 open
minded women for discreet hot
fun. call me! ~45795
Dallas/Ft. Worth LEZ
TALK: my name is Lisa,
I’m Ikg4 someone to have
great phone fun with. I love
talking on the phone. Im 42
~’/o and I hope you call
me. ~45492
Dallas SPECIAL FRIENDS:
I’m a single woman with no
kids Ikg4 a special’female
friend to love and care for. call
me. ~1614
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GAZER: my name is Angela,
I[m a 21 y/o student interested
in trying new things, star
gazing and more. I would like
to meet a nice woman for fun
and friendship, call me!
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[1996] Tulsa Family News, January 15-February 14, 1996; Volume 3, Issue 2
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Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9).
The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level.
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