1 20 1 https://history.okeq.org/files/original/6c24f48e40a6ef0324777156ebcf0678.jpg 06d1d61aa24ee8ad4cbb8cdf3f424ea3 https://history.okeq.org/files/original/3afbac2ad8c025e180a5977fa10aabfd.pdf 09510d27569597902210ec575d52e37e Text A resource consisting primarily of words for reading. Examples include books, letters, dissertations, poems, newspapers, articles, archives of mailing lists. Note that facsimiles or images of texts are still of the genre Text. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data newspaper periodical Text Any textual data included in the document April 15 - May 14, 1997, v. 4, no. 5 Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Trans Communities Lesbians’ Kids: Just Fine WASHINGTON (AP) - Lesbians who become parents through artificial insemination are rinsing emotionally healthy and well-adjusted children, according to three new studies presented at a recent meeting of social scientists. Researchers said standardpsychological tests found no significant differences between children of lesbian parents and those of heterosexual parents. "When you look at kids with standard psychological assessments, you can’t tell who has alesbian parent and who has a heterosexual parent," said Charlotte J. Patterson, a University of Virginia researcher. ’°That’s really the main finding from these studies." The studies were conducted in the United States, Britain and the Netherlands. They were presented at a meeting of the Society for Research on Child Development. "Most of the children in the lesbian families were conceived at fertility clinics. Some of the children of heterosexual parents also were conceived at fertility clinics, see Kids, page 3 Marriage Update Oregan Ban on Marriage? SALEM, Ore. (AP) - A bill that would define marriage as a union between a man and a woman drew emotional testimony at a legislative hearing. Suzanne Cook testified Thursday that being raised by a gay father denied her a proper role model and led her to a life of pronnscuity, drug abuse and depression. "I believe homosexual marriage is detrimental to our society," Cook said. But Donna Saffir told the committee, "I am here .today as a very upset and angry mother." The legislation Is mean-spirited and a veiled attack on her gay son and her family, she said. About 60 people packed a hearing room to listen to the first debate on the bill, -known as the Defense of Marriage Act. Opponents argued thatunder current law, gay men and lesbians cannot marry in Oregon anyway. They accused supporters of pushing the bill tO promote intolerance of homosexuals. Supporters claim to have enough votes to pass it through the Republican:controlled Houseand Senate. Gov. John Kitzhaber, aDemocrat, opposes the bill, but it is uncertain whether he might veto it. "The institution ofmarriag,,e is not under attack by the gay and lesbian community, Said R~p. ChuC,k C~n:’ ter, one of three openly gay House members. "To me, this piece oflegislation is amean and vindictive ai~ck.." But Sen.~ob Kintigh, said his marriage of 53 years Was .... s~dcial. ’The relatiOnship we have.i~ad ic~tdd:not::l~ duplicatedby twopeople ofthe samesex," Kintigh Said. Hawaii House & Senate Wrangle Over Marri ige HONOLULU (AP) - The state House won’t budge from its position that a proposed constitutional amendment state clearly that marriage in Hawaii t0be limited to couples of the opposite sex,H0use Speaker Joseph Sould said. That position stands, even if it pushes the same-sex marriage dispute into next year, he said. Sould and House Judiciary ConLmittee see Vows, page 12 "Christians’, Harassing Gays in Riverside Park? TULSA - Jimmy Flowers, a Gay civil rights and HIV activist, livesnear Riverside Park and frequently goes to feed the ducks and geese near the 21st Street Pavilion. On April 14th around 1 pm, he went as usual, and after feeding the birds, sat to enjoy the sun near the cage. Flowers says he noticed-a group of couples going up to individuals in the park but that he didn’t pay much attention until they came up to him. He says that this group of male/female couples asked him if he was Gay. Not being particularly shy, Flowers answered tothe effect of’:yes and do you have a problem with that?" Heclaims that theirresponse was that"this is afamily, Christian park," that Gays are "child molesters" and are not welcome, and that he should leave. Flowers notes that he, as a longume activist, was not the person to whom they should have said that. The couples told Flowers that they would’all the police if he did not leave. Flowers said he’d love for them to call the police, and that he was proud to be Gay and see Park. page 3 Ellen Coming Out! Pride Center to Hold Watch Party NEW YORK (AP) - Ellen DeGeneres is coming out in real life, too. After a season of controversy-stirring rumors, her character on "Ellen" will acknowledge her homosexuality on the ABC sitcom April 30. Now, DeGeneres says she’s a lesbian, too. "When I decided to have my character on the show come out, I knew I was going to have to come out too," DeGeneres says in the latest Time magazine. "But I didn’t want to talk about it until the show was done. I never wanted to be the lesbian actress. I never wanted to be the spokesperson for the gay community. Ever. I did it for my own truth." DeGeneres admits being confused sexually as a young woman. "I dated guys," she says. "I liked guys. But I knew that I liked girls too. I just didn’t know what to do with that." The 39-year-old comedian says she quit dating men at about age 20 and recently met a woman she hopes to forge see Ellen, page 3 3rd TU Film Festiv lll=i TULSA - The Bisexual/.Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance of the University of Tulsa (BLGTA) is presenting the 3rd Tulsa Gay & Lesbian Film Festival on April 18-20 in’ Lorton Hall The Festival was originally ojoint effort of the then BLGA and Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) and Tulsa Family News. The films and videos for the first Festival in 1994 were selected by a student and community committee lead by Jason ~S,_n~_’_th of the BLGA and by Tom Neal for TOHR. Tulsa Family News was and continues to be the media sponsorfor the Festival. The original festival included 15 works that ranged from 1975 to 1992, and varied from highly inaccessible and experimental to very conventional styles. Two works by the late and acclaimed filmmaker, Marion Riggs, were featured. Most of the w6rks were from theUS buttwo were Canadian.Amodest donation benefitted the BLGA and TOHR. The 2nd Film Festival at TU was produced in 1996 as part of TU’s 2nd Annual World Cinema Festival presented by the TU Student Association and the BLGA. This event was free and featured film and video organized around three themes. The first n~ght was Gay & Lesbian History, see Film, page 3 HIVIAlDS Conference Facing the HIV/AIDS Crisis, a Callfor Unity andAction will be held ~n April 18 at the Rogers University Tulsa Campus Confer- :~ ence tseat~t at700 No. Greenwood. The Conference 6~ganizedby ¯¯ members ofTulsa’sAfrican-Americancommunity to address the particular ways that HIV/AIDS is impacting people of color, ," .w.Qmen ,and yOUth wi.ll feature anoon address by Dr. M. J0ycelyn : Elders,:form~rUS~urgeonGeneral~. :~ , ; i .= " ’. ~ : The conference i.~ divided int0 three tracks beginning after:the ¯ welcome at 9 am: youth, general and clergy issues. A particular : goal of the conference according to organizer Beverly Benton is to get North Tulsa churches more involved in HIV/AIDS issues. ¯ And the conference is sponsored by. several churches: Higher ¯ ¯ Dimensions Family Church, Revelations-Revealed Truth Evan- gelistic Center, United Methodist Oklahoma ConferenceAIDS ¯ Taskforc¢ and Co.mm~unity of Hope, TU’s Canterbury ~,entef, ¯ Al! Tribes ~o.ring_mfi_’t3; ~hurch, as well as rndtiy brg~z,~tion~ from PFLAG to the NAACP. ¯ " R~’gls’~afi6iiincludes lunch andis $25 ($10/students). At 6 pm, the Gospel Fest AIDS Memorial Service will be held at the Greenwood Cultural Center. This event is free. Info: 622-6059 New AIDS Czar Praised WASHINGTON - The Human Rights Campaign (HRC), the AIDS Action Council and other DC based organizations praised the selection of Sandra L. Thurman as the new White House "AIDS czar." "’Sandra Thurman is a solid choice to take the Office of National AIDS Policy to the next level said Elizabeth Birch, HRC’s executive director. "She brings the right mix of leadership, political skills and commitment to the fight against HIV and AIDS.’" The HRC legislative director, Winnie Stachelberg, added Thurman has the experience to design and execute the administration’s programs in the changing struggle to end the HIV/AIDS epidemic. "Thurman was intricately involved in the creation and enactment of the Ryan White CAREAct in 1990 and its reauthorizadonin 1995," said Stachelberg, who is a member of the executive committee of the tunbrella group National Organizations Responding to AIDS. "She knows AIDS policy and politics from the inside -a critical combination of skills for this job.’" Thurman becomes the third person to hold the position known informally as the national AIDS czar. Thurman, a native of Atlanta, is past executive director of AID Atlanta, the Southeast’s first and largest AIDS service provider. Under her stewardship, AID Atlanta tripled in size, becoming a multimillion-dollar direct service agency with 90 staffers’and more than 1,000 volunteers, serving thousands of individuals and families with HIV and AIDS. Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Oklahoma City will host the 12th Great Plains Regional Rodeo organized by the Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Association (OGRA) on Memorial Day weekend, May 23-25. It features 2 days of rodeo at the OKC State Fair~rounds and 3 nights of parties and exhibits at the Hilton Inn NW. A ticket package is available for $36 which includes the competitions, a barbecue dinner, Friday night party and Sunday’s award ceremony. OGRA began in 1984. The Great" Plains Regional Rodeo was formed through the efforts of Kansas, Missouri and Oklahoma and held its first rodeo in 1986. In 1993, Arkansas formed the Diamond Stare RodeoAssociation andjoined the Great Plains organization. OGRA gave over $10,000 to HIViAIDS organizations in the state. ¯ Membership is not limited to rodeo competitors. ¯ Members of OGRA participate in events ranging ¯ from campouts, trailrides, shows and fun ¯" fundraisers. For more information, call 405-842- 0849. Hotel reservations can be made by calling 1- ¯" 800-848-4811. The next regional rodeo will be in "- Kansas City in August. i Tahlequah’s Stonewall : League Aims to Serve. : Tahlequah’s Stonewall League may be small but is : definitely ambitious. They aim to provide support, ¯ advocacy, outreach and education to Lesbian, Bi- : sexual, Gay, Transgendered and Intersexual per- . sons. For now, the fledgling group has conceni trated.0n ~Upport;and.q0mmunity building but they. ¯ also hope to provide a safe space for you~ iidul~ ...... ¯ whoarejustdiscoveringtheiridentities.TheI_~ague ¯ meets at a friendly religious organization on the ," 2nd &4th Thursdays each month, andis open to all : wh0silPi~4 ~he.g~lslofthe .League For informa- ¯ tion, leave a message at 918-456-7900. INSIDE- EDITORIAL/DIRECTORY P. 2 US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 HEALTH NEWS P. 6 HEALTH & WELLNESS COLUMN P.7 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9 ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 10 BOOK REVIEW .... P. 10 RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 11 CLASSIFIEDS P. 14 Y publicationare Protecte¯dby~Sc~pyrig¯ kt1997¯ byT~F " N~¯¢a¯nd may not be reproduced e~th~t tn whole or ~n part w~thoutwntten permission 918,583.1248 from the publisher..Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that fax: 583.4615 Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal p~,rson’s sexual orientation. POB 4140 Tulsa, OK 74159 Entertainment Writer: James Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, e-mail: Christjohn, Writers ÷ contributors: must be signed & becomes the sole property of Tulsa Family News. All TulsaNews@aol.com Barry Hensley, Dr. Mike German correspondence should be sent to the address to the left. Each reader is website: Jean-Pierre Legrandboucfie entitled to one free copy of each edition at distribution points. Additional http://users.aol.com/TulsaNews/ Member of The Associated Press copies are available by calling 583-1248. by Tom Neal, editor &publisher It’ s interesting to watch the machinations of the latest Oklahoma City_ export that’s come to Tulsa.with grand ambitions - and grand pretensions, but also with he-humjournalism and questionable business practices. Once again, some OKC residents have decided that they know what’s best for the rest of the state. Pity that we were just too witless to realize that we needed them to save us. Oh well. What we’re talking about is the warma-be Dallas Voice weekly rag. Unfortunately while they’ve mostly got the weekly part down, they haven’t gotten the quality local journalism part that The Dallas Voice has provided for years. Despite claims of local coverage, their content remains consistently almost all wire stories. The slight local content is inaccuratemoreoften than not. AndTulsa observers are regularly amused by the consistently fictional aspects of parts of their Tulsa calendar. In contrast, The Gayly Oklahoman and Tulsa Family News have provided consistent, serious and nationally praised coverage ofOKC and Tulsa news, respectively. And while we cannot speak for The Gayly, Tulsa Family News has always been run on sound financial principles. While we never, ever will get rich, TFN was in the black from its first issue, see Spit, page 3 Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants *Bmnboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine *Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria *Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th *Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria *Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard *St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E, 31st *Samson & Delilah Restaurant, 10 E. Fifth *Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan *Renegades Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main *TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial "*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 832-1269 744-0896 749-1563 749-4511 749-5678 745-9998 585-2221 834-4234 585-3405 660-0856 584-1308 *Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134 Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508 *Affimty News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 Deuni s C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 *Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 *Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722E. 15 712-1122 *Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955 Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272 *Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521 Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis -581-0902, 743-4117 Counnunity Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 *Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 *Devena’s Gallex3’, 13 Brady 587-2611 Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595 Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial 622-3636 *Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 Tulsa Organizations, L;hurches, & Universities AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 1071,74101-1071 579-9593 Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314 *Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center. 2207 E. 6 583-7815 *B/L/G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780 *Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI & Florence *Community ofHope United Methodist, 1703 E. 2nd 585-1800 *Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595 *Church of the Restoration, 1314 N.Greenwood 587-1314 Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/EpiscopaL 298-4648 *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 *Free SpiritWomens Center, call for location &info: 587-4669 Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-American mens group) POB 8542, 74101, call c/o HOPE @ 712-1600 HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education, 1307 E. 38, 2ndft. 712-1600, HOPE Anonymous HIV Testing Site, 742-2927 TNAAPP (Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225 Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 838-1715 749-4194 748-3111 365-5658 584-7960 749-4901 587-7674 743-4297 749-4195 665-5174 584-2325 ¯ attn: Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche ¯ re: March ’97 restaurant review ¯ When writing, your articles, I should ¯ think thatyou should add that your critic’s ¯ are based on a personal opinion. By not ¯ doing so you have not only insulted your ¯ hostess, in more ways than one but about 50,000 people thathave eat (sic) atMolly’s Landing on an average each year for the : last 12 years. Before stating how overly expensive you feel that Molly’s is, have you ever tired some of the other restaurants in the Tulsa area, because.you not-ouly.pay a equal amount for the entree, but you pay extra for the baked potato and/or salads. No hints will be given, because we feel you need the experience. If you did some investigation, I think you will find that your beloved Montrachet’s is closed because people didu’t like the food. I realize that not everyone has the same pallet (sic), bnt there are enough people to keep a restaurant open that has decent food. Most people feel it a compliment to Molly’s that people from all walks of life and every dress preference, feel comfortable and enjoy the same food in the stone buildiug, at the stone time. Molly’s was approached not long ago to adve’rtise in you paper, I wonder how the critic would have read (sic) had we doue so. - Molly’s Landing, Linda Powell Editor’s note: Several ofMs. l~owell’s claims deserve correction. TFN’s restaurant critic works independently. A professional who has traveled attddined widely, attd who has visited nearly all ofTulsa"s better restaurants, he is well qualified to comtnent on the ones he chooses to review. Furthermore. neither I nor any other member of TFN staff have ever solicited Molly’s Ixznding for advertising: We suspect that "" Ms. Powell may have confused us with ¯ l)dsa Kids or Oklahoma Family. And as ¯ publisher and editor, l neither assign nor ¯ prohibit the coverage of any establish- ’. ment by this independent. 1 limit my edit- " ing to issues oflength and the excision of ¯~ the rare, over-the-top c.omment. There- . jbre, the suggestion that somehow there ¯ could be a connection between your deci- ¯ sionsaboutadvertisingandTFN’sreview has less than no merit. Infact. there has been only one restau- *Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston Leaune M. Gross, Financial Planning Mark T. Hamby, Attorney .. *Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotlaerapy, 2865 E. Skelly *International Tours Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 14011, 74159 l~mgley Agency, 1104 S. Victor bean Ann Macomber, Realtor Associate Susan McBay, MSW: Earth-Centered Counseling *Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720C E. 31 *Mohawk Music, 6157,E~ ,51, PI *Nothing Shocking Salon, 2722 E. 15 *NOvd Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 Pet Pride, Dog & Cat Grooming The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor th~ppy Pause .II, 1 lth & Mingo 584-0337 744-0102 744-7440 745-1111 341-6866 712-2750 599-8070 747-5466 592-1800 671-2010 592-1260 584;3112 663-5934 .664-2951 712-1123 747-6711 747-7672 584-7554 743~4297 838-7626 Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617 Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations, 743-2351 Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921,.747-4746 *Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301 *Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007 *Tulsa Comedy,Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558 Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733 *Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767 *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood *HIV Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165,74157 *Our House, 1114 S. Queer PFLAG , POB 52800, 74152 *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria *The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 ¯ *Red Rock Mental Center, 302 S. Cheyenne #108 St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati ¯ St Jerome’s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, ¯ *Shanti Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services ¯ Trinity Episcopal Church, 501 S. Cincinnati ¯ Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, POB 2687, 74101 T.U.LS.A. Tulsa Uniform]Leather Seekers Assoc. ¯ *Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule ¯ *Tulsa Community College Campuses : *Rogers University (formerly UCT) 425-7882 " rant that refused to advertise with TFN 742-6227. " which has also caught the attention ofM. 749-7898 ¯ Legrandbouche. We were amused when 582-4128 " he gave a scathing review to this family 743-4297 ° owned establishment where we have ex- 838-1222 i periencedso-sofood, slovenlyserviceand ¯ gratuitous rudeness from an owner. But ¯ had he written a review singing their ¯ praise, we also would have run it, TFNfollows standardjournalistic con- ~ ventions regarding reviews. The~ aTtic!es are by-lined, i.e. the writer’s name or ¯ pseudonym is given. Ms. PoWell tnight want to refer to The Tulsa World for ¯ example. None of their reviews note that ¯ these are the personal opinions of the ¯ writer -that is understood. 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Jerry Falwell, who resorted to name-calling in blasting DeGeneres’ morals after news of the upcoming on-air announcement was released, the New Orleans native said she’d heard it all before. "’Really, he called me that? Ellen DeGenerate?" she said. "I’ve been getting that since the fourth grade." In a related event, Birmingham television station WBMA,known as "ABC33/40," decided that the lesbian theme of the show was not suitable for prime-time family viewing and won’t show it. ABC hasn’t heard whether any other of its 223 affiliates has rejected the hour-long special planned for April 30, spokeswoman Arme Marie Riccatelli. said.Thursday...... Jerry Heilman, president and general manager ofABC 33/40, said the station tried to get permission from ABC to air the episode at 11:30 p.m., rather than the scheduled 8 p.m., but the network would not approve the switch. "Our stance rightnow is that we will not be showing the first episode. There’s a possibility we won’t carry any of the episodes in May if it deals with the same thing. We’ll take it an episode at a time," said Heilman. In its place, the station plans a special on an Alabama football coach. Other ABC affiliates that serve the major Alabama markets - WAAY in Huntsville, WHOA in Montgolnery, and WEAR in Mobile - plan to carry Ellen’s outing episode. "As far as we’re concerned, there’s no real decision. It’s just another episode," said Joe Smith, operations managerforWEAR, which is based in Pensacola. Asked about the Rev. Jerry Falwell, who resorted to name-e.allin ...., [Eflen] said she’d heard aftbefore. "Reafly, he eafled me that? Ellen DeGenerate? ... I’ve been getting that slnee the grade." The network has received criticism from both sides on the issue. Lana Metcalf, a policy analyst for the Alabama Family Alliance, commended ABC 33/40 for deciding uot to carry it. "I thimk it’s certainl y a harmful episode and not conducive to families," she said. But the pastor of a Woodlawn church that serves a largely homosexual congregation said the show could offer insight into what a gay person experiences in coming out. "We’re very sad that ABC 33/40 will not show this process to the world at large," said Covenant Metropolitan Cormnunity Church paslor Margc Ragona. Also ABC rejected a TV ad promoting the lesbian cruisc line, Oakland-based Olivia Cruises and Resorts. ABC broadcasl editor Bob Reynolds said in a fax to the public relations firm that represents Olivia that their proposed ad had been rejected for use during the "’Ellen" coming-out episode, even though the spot would have helped make up for ads pulled by Chrysler and J.C. Pcaney. "It is our position that discussion about same-sex lifcstyles is more appropriate in programming,- Olivia’s presideut, Judy Dlugacz, called the April 30 "’Ellen" episode "lfistoric," since it will be the first time a show’s lead character has revealed that she or he is homosexual. But - knowing that a large number of lcsbians will watch the show - Dlugacz also sees a prime marketing moment slipping away. "Here was this incredible opportuuity forme to reach a group that often doesn’t want to be identified," said Dlugacz, who has run her travel and ~nusic co~npany fbr more than 20 years-: ..... "FED Inc., the New York public relations finn that handles advertising for Olivia, is now pursuing air time on ABC affiliates in New York, !~os Angeles, Chicago, s-hn ’Fraiici~co, Houston, Eiallas, Mimni and Seattle. "’Needless to say, it will cost ~nuch more to air the ad in these individual ~narkets than it would have cost to air uationally," said Bob Fitzgerald of TED Inc. It is the second time in less than a month that sponsors ofa gay-related ad have had to shop it to local ABC affiliates after rejection from the national network. The Washington-based Human Rights Campaign wanted to place.an ad about discrirmnation against lesbians and gay men m the workplace. HRC’s ad is aimed at raising awareness thatjob discrimination based on sexual oftenration is legal in 41 states.But Vice President Harvey Dzodin said that script violated network’s policy against . .i’~controversialissue advertising," such as abortion, union ~ssues and Gay civil rights. HRC says ABC’s stance on the Olivia ad, which would have brought the broadcaster ~;000, iridicates a specific bias against businesses trying to reach the gay and lesbian market. "This discriminates against gay comparues trying to reach amarket," said David Smith, a Human Rights Campaign spokesman. Smith said he askedABC’ s Dzodin for clarification on the policy, but was refused. Currently, HRC is planning to air the ad in the following markets: Albany, Albuquerque, Anchorage, Alaska, Atlanta; Austin, Bismarck, N.D., Boston, Cleveland, Columbia, S.C.; Dallas, Denver, Erie, Pa., Fargo, N.D., Fort Smith, Grand Rapids, Mich., Honolulu, Jackson, Miss., Los Angeles, Madison, Wis., Manchester, N.H., Minneapolis, New Orleans, Oklahoma City, Phoenix, Portland, Maine, Portland, Ore., Raleigh, N.C:, St. Louis, San Antonio, San Francisco, Seattle, Traverse City, Mich., and Washington. The spot was declined by the network’s affiliates in Chicago, Colorado Springs, Eugene, Ore., Grand Junction, Colo., Houston, Knoxville, Memphis, Nashville, New York, Philadelphia, and Wichita. Meanwhile, ABC is attempting to fill slots that could have been filled by such skittish advertisers as Genera] Motors and Johnson &Johnson, which have- in addition to regular advertisers Chrysler andJ.C. Penney - decided not to advertise on the April 30 episode. Johnson & Johnson’s competitor, Home Access Health Corp., has announced it would advertise its HIV-testing kits during the show. Microsoft Corp. plans to buya spot. In Tulsa, The Pride Center will host an Ellen Watch Party in the Pfimetimers Lounge beginning at 6:30 for the 7-8 pm broadcast. Popcorn and soft drinks will be served. All are welcome. but the studies also compared these groups with children born from natural conception. Though the studies found no differences between the groups, Patterson noted that "the existing body of research is relatively sparse and open to criticism." ~he said many of the studies are based on small samples and the lesbian couples studied often have volunteered for the research, which can affect the results. The studies involved children up to age 9. Interest in the development of children bona to lesbian couples has increased in recent years because more and morelesbians are choosing to raise afamily, said Patterson. "There is a lesbian baby boom," she said. "’It hasn’t been quantified, but there is a general community sense that more and more lesbian couples are having children." Part of the reason may be that more fertility clinics now are providing services to lesbian couples, she said. These clinics hdp lesbians become pregnant with the sperm of anonymous donors. Fiona Tasker of Birkbeck College in the Netherlands said her study found that non-biological lesbian parents were usually more involved with the children than are the fathersof heterosexual couples. "The woman who is the co-parent in alesbian family is more likely to take a major role in raising the children," said Tasker. In a study of 15 lesbian couples and 41 .parents of clfildren born throughnatural conception, Tasker said she found that 90 percent of the lesbian co-parents assumed the common child-raising tasks. Only about 37 percent of the fathers in heterosexual Couples, however,, took an active role, she said. In disciplining the children, Tasker found, 60 percent of the lesbian co-parents took an active role, while it was only 20 percent of the fathers in heterosexual families. Raymond W. Chan of the University ofVirginia said his study of lesbian and heterosexual couples with children included reports from the children’s teachers. Chan ¯ children in Chan’s study were conceived at fertility ¯ clinics andsome were being raised by single heterosexu,~l ¯ parents and some by single lesbian parents. The researcher said his tests found no differences between the : groups. "The children of insemination are developing normally whether in lesbian or heterosexual families when compared to the available norm for the community at large," Chan said. Contrast that with a vanity press, held iogether with spit, volunteers, prayers, and some OKC sources claim, ¯ the subsidy of a wealthy businessman who was gunning for The Gayly. Should readers care whether a newspaper has sound financial practices? Only if they expect it to ¯ last. In contrast to the newly amved, The Gayly has ¯ operated for more than a decade and Tulsa Family News ¯ is well into its fourth year of giving Tulsa serious, ¯ sometimes-controversial, but thorough news coverage ." for Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals and Transgendered ¯¯ folk and our families and friends. And while we are happy to distribute TFNto other parts ¯ of the region (we’vejust added Oklahcma City, Norman, ..... Tahtexluah andBartlesville sites); we recognize, a~ Serious newspapers have for years, that it is nearly impossible to cover competently a city in which one does not live. That’s why TFN has chosen to cover Tulsa well rather than cover a region poorly. By the way, the dirty little secret of Lesbian/Gay newspapers is that the reason for "’regional coverage" is so that there’S more towns_ from which to suck out advertising - not because covering more towns can be done well. Just look at the consistently marginal quality of news coverage in our "regional" newspapers if you need any further proof. Anyway, our advice to the wanna-be’s is: don’t give up ygur day jobs yet or at least, make sure you keep the spouses who are supporting you happy. next was American Gay & Lesbian Experience, and the final day was International Film with works from France, Spain, Canada and India. This year’s event will show 10 works of varying lengths and origin beginning at 7 pm on Friday, 2 pm & 6:30 on saturday, and 2 pm & 7 pm on Sunday. (see page 11 for ad with schedule). BLGTA spo,kesperson, Tedd Adams, noted that the organizers had hoped to screen "’Beautiful Thing," a highly acclaimed~xvork about two teennage boys first love, made for the l~K’s commercial Channel 4. Adams noted that if they were able to get the film (which showed in Tulsa at Movies8 for a week), it would be added to the Sunday night program. Organizers note that Lorton Hall can be difficult to find the first time. From 8th Street and Evanston, attendees may go north on Evanston between Shaw Alumni Center and Twin Soutl~ Hall. Where Evanston dead ends sits McClure Hall ~or TUalums - where youpaidthose bills). Lorton is just to the left, or west. There is a very small parking lot and the screening room (#207) is just to the left inside the door that opens onto the parking lot. For more info., call Tedd at 832-7838. that Gay people had as much right to be in the park as anv others. At this point a bystander came forward and identified lmnself as Bisexual and asked if they had a problem with that? At this point, Flowers claims that the couples backed down and said that they didn’t mean to do anything wrong but were just doing what their minister told them to do. A local HIV educator who does some park prevention outreach adds that in the last few weeks, that he may have seen similar things going on at 21st and Riverside. While he hasn’t overheard-any conversations, he has seen groups of couples approaching single men who then have left immediately. A source with the City of Tulsa, speaking anonysaid the teacher reports, ~using standard osveholo~ical "" ’ ~nously, noted that intimidating Gay people out of ~the evaluations, found.’!no significant difference" in ah~t-. " ~park is reprehensible but is probably well within the area ment or behavior between the groups of children. All the ~ of protected First Amendment speech, noting that there : likely is no crime involved. However, an area Gay attor- ,. hey when asked if the situation were reversed and Gay people were harassing straights out of the park, com- ." mented that he had no doubt that the Tulsa police would find a way to arrest Gays. : Representatives of the Pride Center/TOHR have taken ¯ complaints from Flowers and encourage others with ¯ similar experiences to report thereto the Helpline at 743- 4297 to help in tracking these problems. The Pride Center ¯ representatives also note that those willing t,o do so may also file written complaints with the Mayor s office. 7 Firing of Anti-Gay Civil Rights Official Upheld SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - A pul~lic official who "preaches homophobia" as a member of San Francisco’ s anti-discrimination agency is not assured job security, says a federal appeals court. The 9thU.S. Circuit Court of Appeals upheld the city’ s firing of the Rev. Eugene Lumpkin, who said he thought homosexuality was an abomination and appeared to endorse anti-gay violence. Neither freedom ofspeech nor freedom of religion gives an appointed public official the right to undermine the tolerance his office is supposed to promote, the court said Thursday. Lumpkin had the right to speak as a private citizen, "but the First Amendment does not assure him job security when he preaches homophobia" while serving on the city’ s anti-discrimination agency, the court said. Lumpkin’s lawyer, James Struck, said he would probably appeal further. "This opinion shows complete intolerance for religious beliefs that are widely held," said Struck, of the Rutherford Institute, a conservative religious-liberties organization. He said Lumpkin did not support anti-gay violence and held views no different from those of orthodox Catholics, Muslims and Jews. "Now the 9th Circuit has painted all those people as homophobes," Struck said. Lumpkin, a pastor appointed to the commission by then-Mayor Frank Jordan, was fired by Jordan in 1993 after a furor over his public comments about homosexuals. "The homosexual lifestyle is an abomination against God," Lumpkin said. "So I have to preach that homosexuality is a sin." He also said he believed "everything the Bible sayeth." Asked by a television interviewer.about a statement in Leviticus that a man who-slept with a man should be put to death, Lumpkin said, "That’s what God sayeth." Jordan, in announcing the firing, said Lumpkin had the right to his religious beliefs but had "crossed the .line from belief-to behavior to advocacy" and "implied that he condoned physical harm." San Francisco supervisors backed the firing. Lumpkin’s lawsuit, claiming violatidns of his constitutional rights, was dismissed by U~S. District Judge Fern Smith. The appeals court upheld her decision in a 3-0 ruling. The court cited the Human Rights Commission’s official responsibilities, "to eliminate prejudice and discrimination" based on race, religion, sex, sexual orientation and other grounds, and to promote "equal opportunity for and good will toward all people." Lumpkin’s statements "are not simply hostile to the commission’ s charge, they are at war with it," said the opinion by Judge William Norris. "Neither the First Amendment nor the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (a 1993 federal law) requires government at any level to put up with policylevel officials who work at cross-purposes with the policies they are responsible for carrying out." Deputy City Attorney Burk Delventhal said the court endorsed the city’s argument that "when a person accepts public office, his ability to engage in whatmight otherwise be protected speech is limited to the extent necessary to enable the person to discharge his public duties." CA School Protections BillWins CommitteeVote SACRAMENTO (AP) - Public schools and colleges couldn’t discriminate against students and employees because of;their, sexual orientation, under-a bill that passed an Assembly test without a vote to spare. The measure by Assemblywoman Shelia Kuehl, DSanta Monica, cleared the 21-member Education Committee On Wednes-di~y with a bare. maj ority of 1 votes after stalling for several hours, one vote short. The bill now moves to the Appropriations Committee, the last stop before the Assembly floor. Current law bars public schools and colleges from discriminating on the basis of race or gender in their programs, admissions, hiring or financial aid. In some instances, the anti-discrimination ban also covers religion, disabilities, age, and national origin. Schools can’t use instructional materials that reflect adversely on people because of their race, creed, national origin,.ancestry, gender, disability or occupation. In.addition, school personnel commissions ¯ NH Students Denounce University Violence ~ PLYMOUTH, N.H. (AP) - Several years ago, Ply- . mouth State Collegejunior Judy Pich was attacked by ¯ a man who punched, kicked and spit on her while ¯ calling her names like "queer" and "dyke." When she ¯ tried to talk about the incident with her peers, she"-felt ¯ more like an offender than a victim," Pich said. ¯ "There are good people and there are bad people, but ¯ everyone is at fault because the good people don’t do ¯ anything about it. Peoplehave to breakthe silence and ¯ ignorance." ¯ Pich told her story to the 2,000 students, faculty, [ staff and alumni who turned out Wednesday for an ¯ emergency "Forumon Hate" organizedbythe school’ s ¯ Task Force on Homophobia. The forum was held in ¯ ~eaction to an incident involving another fema!e ¯ student, who said she was attacked by two men in ¯ March.. The woman, whose identity has not been revealed, told campus police the two men punched ¯ her and urinated on her face after calling hera lesbian ¯ and telling her she "had no right tobe allowed to be ¯ walking around the world." Plymouth police Chief Tony Raymond said even ¯ though the girl has decided she does not want to ¯ pursue the case, the investigation will continue; The ¯ student government is offering $500 for.information ¯ about the attackers. While some students who turned ¯ out at the forum said they were shocked that a hate ¯ crime occurred on the campus, many said milder ¯ incidents of intolerance, suqh ~s .name-.calling and ¯ telling derogatory jokes, happen all the time. Many ¯ said they were ready to tackle the problem and try to ¯ solve it. "We need to look out for each other and not ¯ stand idly by while these things happen around us," ¯ juniorMikeHeber said. "We needto take responsibil- ¯ ity for the safety of each other." ¯ Several people pointed out that alcohol is often a ¯ factor of violent crime. College President Donald ¯ Wharton railed against bar owners he said encourage ¯ drunkenness and even sexual assault with such promotions as ladies’ nights, where women drink for ¯ free, and tan-line contests. But many students said cannot ask job. applicants questions about their race, ¯ sex, marital status, political opinions or affiliations or ¯ religious beliefs. ¯ Kuehl’s bill would expand tlgose,..prohibitions to cover sexual orientation. An ~lmost identical bill, "¯ also by Kuehl, one of two openly gay members of the Legislature, died in the Education Committee last ¯ year, when the Assembly was controlled by Republi- ¯ cans. Supporters suggested the bill would lead to ¯ changes in school policies and attitudes that would ¯ help curb the harassment of students that are, or are perceived to be, gay. Stephanie Reed of Petaluma said her son Robin ¯ committed suicide after being taunted by other stu- ¯ dents while a teacher looked on without intervening. ¯ "Robin did not commit suicide because he was gay; ¯ he-committed suicide because he was in pain;’: she ¯ said. Another bill supporter, Michael Malcolm, a ~ high school vice principal from"Union City, said ¯ schools must provide a safe learning environment. ¯ "Our district adopted a non-discrimination policy," ¯ he said. "I believe our campus is a different place ¯ because of the change in policy." ¯ Opponents claimed the bill could be used to silence ¯ criticism of homosexuality. "(The bill) is not about ¯ discrimination; it’s about letting one group of people ~ bring their personal agenda into the classroom and ¯ tell students that the homosexuallifestyle is all right," said Herbert Hall of Garden Grove, who said he was ¯ a former homosexual. "This is a cunning political attack that uses children as pawns," added a witness. ¯ who identified himself only as Mark and who also said he used to be gay. Other opponents said the : measure could prevent private schools that discrimi- ¯ nated against homosexuals from playing public schools in athletics, and Assemblyman George House ¯ contended the bill would lead to a "massive boycott ¯ of public schools." Kuehl suggested the opponents’ ¯ fears were unfounded. "This bill does not do anything ¯ but bar discrimination by public educational institu- ¯ tions against their own students on bases that do not ¯ relate to their merit," she said. St. Jerome An Affirming Liturgical Church meeting at The Garden Chapel 3841 S.~Peoria ¯ Tu~a, Ok~unna Mass Saturday eves at:6pm Fath~" R~k Hoa~ng~wm~ Pastor B~,v. Deacon Deb~e Starms (918) 742-6227 Ted Schutt Realtor 834-7921 Specializing in Family Homes REX, REALTORS, 747-4746 MCC of Greater Tulsa "Where God Uplifts All People" 1623 N. 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Service 6:30 pm °,.Wed. 7:30 pm Choir Practice Thurs. 7:30 pm Codependency Support Group To do justice, love mercy & to walk humbly with our God... Micah 6:8 5451-E South Min~o ¯ Tulsa, OK ° 74146 . (918) 622-1441 while alcohol often accompanies violence, it isn’t the problem - people are. "I don’t drink a six-pack and say ’I hate that guy bee-~s’~6’tae’s ghy,"’ sophomore ¯John McKittrick said. "A drunken man’s words are sober man’s thoughts. I think we need to go after the people who did this." Maine Civil Rights Bill AUGUSTA, Maine (AP) - Jbel Abromson and Michael Quint come from different backgrounds and even represent opposite parties in the Legislature, but they.say they share one thing in common: discrimination. Abromson, who recalls the prejudice he endured growing upJewishdnMaine,ds sponsoring a~bill..that could help Quint and others like him who say their homosexuality makes them second-class citizens when it comes to housing and other rights; "Discrimination happens every single day," said Quint, a Democratic representative from Portland. "I know because I have seen it, I have experienced it and still carry around with me the expectation, even the fear of it because I know it could happen anytime." About 500 people attended a public hearing on the bill held by the Legislature’ s Judiciary Committee. A similar bill passed both the House and Senate four years ago, but was vetoed by then-Gov. John McKernan. But Gov. Angus King supports the legislation, which would extend to all citizens, no matter their sexual orientation, the same civil rights guaranteed regardless of race, color, religion, sex, age, national origin and physical or mental handicap. Discrimination in the areas of employment, housing, public accommodations and credit would be prohibited. Abromson, a Republican senator from Portland, recalled his own personal experiences as a Jewish man growing up in Maine, and how he was called a "dirty Jew" and a "Christ killer." As a student at Bowdoin College in the late 1950s, the Portland Republican said he saw fraternities deny invitations to Jews and blacks. Later, during a tour of the infamous Auschwitz concentration camp in Poland, Abromson said he learned theNazis tried tb exterminate not only Jews, but gays, Gypsies and Slavs, as well. Abromson said his bill "ends forever any similarity between the Nuremberg laws (legitimizing anti-semitism) of 1930s Germany and state laws of 1990s Maine. This bill is that important." The bill’s most vocal foe is Concerned Maine Families, an anti-gay rights group which calls the proposal a "jobs bill for gays." The organization’s leaders have warned the bill would give special job advantages to anyone claiming to be gay or perceived as gay. Many at the hearing held signs that said, "Stop the Special Jobs Bill for Gays" and "Equality for ME. The way life should be." "The effects of this mandate on small business will be burdensome, unjust, unenforceable and will heighten the unfriendly business climate that we must already tolerate in the state of Maine," said Randall Clark ofCape Elizabeth, president of Small BusinesS Benefits Inc. and leader of the CMF!s 1,200-member Business Advisory Board. Rod Smith of Buxton told the committee he was fired from his job as a nursing assistant in Lewiston last January because he was gay. Another gay man, Guy Riddick of South Portland, said several landlords in Gorham, Westb.rook and Scarborough toldhim and his male partner last year they did not rent to homosexuals. Alandlord in POrtland also refused, but because that city has an ordinance protecting homosexuals from housing discrimination, the couple was able to sue, Riddick said. In 1995, Maine voters rejected a ballot question by Concerned Maine Families to restrict gay civil rights, 53 percent to 47 percent. Civil rights advocates are cormng off a recent loss over same-sex marriages. The Legislature last month approved a ban on gay marriages, making Maine the 18th state [o do so. King let the measure become law without his signature. Several legislators said they voted for the ban only to avoid sending the issue to a statewide referendum, where they feared a negative campaign could hurt the drive for gay rights. So far this year, about 17 bills favoring civil rights for Lesbians and Gay men have been introduced in at least 14 states, according to the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. ¯ First Montana Gay Pride Parade In Bozeman BOZEMAN (AP) - Despite protests from about 200 ¯ people, Bozeman city commissioners unanimously ¯ approved apermit for a gay pride parade this summer, ¯ saying they had no choice. "Ifwe didn’t, it’s discrimi- ¯ nation," Mayor Don Stueck said after the 5-0 vote. ~ Stueck said the city’s attorney, PaulLuwe, had warned ¯ that if the commission banned this parade, it would ¯ have to cancel all parades, including the Sweet Pea ¯ and Montana State University homecoming parades. ¯ Stacey Haugland, a Pride member who attended ¯ Monday’s meeting, said she was pleased by the vote. ’- Pride’has-been a:’~r~al’respectfUl ~bn~m~n~ity gtot~p," ¯ Haugland.said. "I donrt think the people have any- ~ thing to fear from the parade." The Pride Weekend is ¯ planned June 6-8 at the Emerson Cultural Center to ¯ celebrate gays, lesbians and bisexuals living in Mon- ¯ tana. Three annual weekends have been held before in other Montana cities. Raven Kargel of Belgrade, who organized an anti- . gay march in Bozeman two years ago, said the city ¯ really didn’t have a choice because it would have ¯ been sued by Pride if commissioners rejected the ¯ "sodomites"’ parade. People who oppose homosexuality, she said, may raise money to sue the city themselves. "I think it would be better to boycott the ¯ city," specifically downtown, Kargel said. "People ¯ who don’t want to see people bragging about bi:eak- ¯ ing the law need to boycott." KGVW, a Christian ¯ radio station based in Belgrade, had urged listeners to ~ call Bozeman City Hall to protest the parade, and that ¯ prompted about 200 phone calls from around the ¯ Gallatin Valley. "It is like inviting leprosy into the ¯ community," one caller said. : Transexual Parent Seeks ¯ Custody Rights Back ST. LOUIS (AP) - A father who lo~t custody of two ¯ song after undergoing a sex change operation says she ¯ plans toask an appeals court to reconsider its ruling. ¯ "There are things only a parent can provide," the ¯ father, now known as Sharon, told the St. Louis Post- " Dispatch. "That is unconditional love, guidance and ~ wisdom. There is no reason I can’t give that to my kids." ¯ Sharon, 38, is a graduate of the Air Force Academy ¯ and a former officer in the Air Force and Army. She has had no direct contact with the boys since late ¯ 1992. Sharon said that the children - now 7 and 10 - ¯ needed both their parents. She plans to ask the Mis- ¯ souri Court of Appeals in St. Louis to reconsider its ¯ March 11 decision giving the boys’ mother sole legal ¯ custody. ¯ Hundreds of battles similar to Sharon’s are waged ~ nationwide each year, but nearly all are fought out- . side public view, a national advocate for transsexuals ¯ said."Mostcasesdon.t&"splaythecourageofSharon,’ ~ who was willing to go public;" said Riki Anne ¯ Wilchins, executive director ofGender Public Advo. ¯ cacy Coalition, or Gender PAC, in New York. Such ¯ custody battles are seldom conducted "on a level ¯ playing field," she said. "Usually, the mode of attack ¯ ~s to portray the transgender parent as, bydefinition, ¯ deviant and anendangerment to their own kids, even ¯ in the absence bf any evidence to support the claim." ~ In Sharon’s ’case; -the appeals ’courtin St:Louis ¯ ruled that a St. Charles County Circuit Court judge ¯ must decide whether visits with Sharon would be in ¯ the boys’ best interest. The appeals rulingo overturned ¯ ajoint-custody decision by anotherjudgein St. Charles ¯ County where the boys’ mother lives. ¯ "Ifyou asked them, I know they would want to talk ¯ with me," Sharon said. "I have never, ever presented ~ myself to my children.as anything other than their ¯ dad. I do not need my chi" ldren’ s vali"dati"on ofm¯ yself ¯ as a.woman." ~ Sharon acknowledged that both boys would need ¯ counseling before they could resume a relationship ¯ with their father. Sharon said her original plan for ¯ reconciliation with her sons called forphone calls and ~ counseling leading up to visits. "I know they would ¯ recognize me as their dad," she said. "I would never ¯ do anything that would harm them." Y Teens Feel No Risk BLOOMINGTON, Ind. (AP) - Th,~re is a perception amongrural Indiana teen-agers that AIDS won’t happen to them, according to a recent study by two Indiana University professors. "They think they know everyone, what they are doing and who they should avoid," said William L. Yarber, one of the researchers. "That is really significant relative to the fact that we are finding, in our center, that AIDS is growing faster in the rural areas." Yarber, senior director of the Rural Center for AIDS/Sexually Transmitted ,Disease Prevention, and Stephanie Sanders, associate director of the Kinsey Institute, condUcted the study of 38 adolescents, ages 11- to 17-years-old. Both males and females said they would not practice sexual abstinence just to avoid HIV, and females expressed a greater fear of pregnancy than of HIV infection. "There is a real perception in the rural communities that they don’t believe their ownrural town has been touched by AIDS and that they are invulnerable," Yarber said. But state statistics show that both counties involved in the study have AIDS cases and several HIV diagnoses as well, Yarber said. "They may not know people as well as they think," he said. "But they don’t feel they have to worry about it." 1st Nat’lCurriculum About; HIV/AIDS NEW ORLEANS (AP) - A new tool to slow down the~spread of HIV where it is increasing fastest - among teens - has been u0y~iled,~gcently. "The Science of HIV,?~.a. l;84-page teachers’ guide and 30- minute Video, is:the first gcience program designed to ~each students about the human immunodeficiency virus, how it causes,AIDS, and how to avoid it. The guide wasunveiled at a National Science Teachers Association (NSTA) meeting. "The research community has made encouraging progress in treating AIDS, but the only 100 percent effective treatment we have is prevention," said James Gallarda, with Abbott Laboratories. "By teaching the science of HIV and AIDS, we hope to give students a better understanding of how this disease is prevented and treated." Gallarda, who helped put together the Chicago Museum of Science and Industry’s AIDS exhibit, said that work prompted Abbott to ask the NSTA about developing the program. A new report from the Centers for Disease Prevention and Control found that new AIDS cases among 13- to 25-yearolds infected thrdugh sex and drug needles rose 20 percent between 1990 and 1995, he said. One quarter of all new HIV infections are among people younger than’22. Even science teachers in the audience murmured in surprise Friday at the results of one demonstration designed to show how quickly a virus can spread. Author Michael DiSpezio passed out clear plastic cups of clear liquid to the two dozen teachers and reporters who attended the breakfast meeting. Four of the cups were "infected" with an alkali and would turn bright pink when the right chemical was added. He had each person turn to a neighbor, mix the contents of their cups together, then divide the mixed liquid back between the two cups. Then each person turned to a different neighbor and did the same thing. DiSpezio went down the aisles with a vial and eyedropper, adding the telltale chemical to each cup. Every single one turned bright pink. ¯ Sharon Nelson, a biology teacher at Waunakee High in Wisconsin and an ad- ¯ visory board member for the project, told ~ the group that when she used the demon-’-~’ ¯ stration in her class of 22 students, two ¯ cups remained clear- and one was held by ¯ a student she had asked to abstain from ¯ mingling fluids. ¯ "I wasjust- ’Wow! The kids will really ¯ go for that! That is very emphatic,’ "said ~ WillaRamsay, a high-schoolteacher from ¯ San Diego. "I am going to my district ¯ science-math manager with it. I think it ¯ needs to be promoted throughout our en- ¯ tire district" she said. ¯ DiSpezio said he thinks that teaching ¯ H1V as science, rather than morality, will ¯ help thecurriculum avoid the fate of safe- ] sex education programs. A committee ¯ namedbytheNationalInstitutes ofHealth ¯ reported in February that moral and gov- ¯ ernment objections are blocking safe sex ¯¯ education programs. She asked if it could also be used in ¯ middle school, and the developers said ¯ yes. "By the time they get to us at ninth ¯ grade, they’re pretty well educated the ¯ wrong way," Ramsay said. "I think we ¯ need to get to the students in sixth grade." ¯ Condoms for Kids ~ SEATILE (AP) - Adults can buy con- . doms at clubs, bars or gas stations, but ¯ access isn’t as easy for youths. A publicprivate partnership campaign aimed at ¯ lowering HIV infection hopes to change ¯ that. The campaign, dubbed Project AC- ¯ TION, is placing condom machines in ¯ Seattle businesses where young people ¯ gather. It’s an attempt to reduce the risk of ¯ sexually transmitted disease and preg- ¯ nancy rates among youths ages 14 to 20. ¯ Kae Lee Dozier, 14, says about a third ¯ of her friends are.having sex. Many of ¯ them think they are immune to sexually ¯ transmitted diseases, HIV, or pregnancy. ¯ "They think ’it can’t happen to ~me,’ but ¯ they’re wrong," Miss Dozier says. ¯ Miss Dozier, other youths and numer- ¯ ous business, religious and political lead- " ers on Thursday announced their support ¯ for Project ACTION. Organizers de- . scribed it as the first broad effort to make ¯ low-cost (25 cents) condoms available to ¯ youths with no strings attached. The two- " year, $450,000 campaign is modeled after ¯ a project started in Portland, Ore., which ¯ includes public education and peer coun- ¯ seling. Seattle and San Jose, Calif., are the ~ next cities to go "online" with the project. ¯ Five condom machines have been in- - stalled in two Seattle businesses so far and ~ the Project hopes to place dispensers in ¯ 130 otherbusinesses with significantyouth ¯ patronage. In King County, health sur- ¯ veys among youths show that 60 percent ~ ofhigh school students are sexually active ¯ by graduation, yet only half of them use , condoms. Lisa Bond, president of the Seattle ¯ Council of Parent Teacher Student Asso- ~ ciation, said even though the PTA has ¯ taken no official position on condom avail- " ability, she personally views the project ¯ .as a step forward. ’Td rather have them do ¯ an end run and save my child’s life than ¯ have a child die from ignorance," Ms. ¯ Bond said. "The more kids know about ¯ the dangers they’re facing, the better deci- ¯ sions they can make." Gwen Williams, director of Holiness Missions, acknowledged that the avail- . ability of condoms is disturbing to many, ¯ particularly churchgoers who emphasize ¯ abstinence. But, Ms. Williams, said, ~ "We’re talking about saving lives. 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Utica, 582-7144 Utica Square Area 1560 East 21st, Ste. 104, 743,2351 The Plaza 8146-D South Lewis, 299-1790 Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates .,,/-, ~,~) ~’~-" ,-" -- 1515 S. Lewis _ ~:. ~._.--:~.’~ ~ --%L-’__--~_:’L ~- (918)-743-4117 ¯ Certified in EMDR Treatment ¯ Certified in Hypnotherapy ¯ Traditional Psychotherapy Leah ,Hunt, MSW Richard Reeder, MS * Our Fees Are Negotiable * Serving a Diverse Community A User (Un) Friendly Guide to (Mis) Managed Care By Dr. Michael Gorman Who is managing who? Is Managed Care managing yourhealth oryourmoney? And which is more Important, money or health? And to whom? What is happemng in the dynamic field of health insurance providers and third party payer organizations? First, a simple (if possible) explanation on how the system seems to be operating currently... For example.: an insurance company presents a "plan" to a potential purchase group (Le., an employer with, say, so many employees). The "Plan" will provide certain services for each insured at a cost of $100.00 per person (employee) per month. This plan has a $300.00 annual deductible and pays 80% of your medical bills after that deductible is met. Sounds pretty easy so far. Here’s where it gets complicated... A third party approaches your insurance company and tells them they can cut their expenses by 40%. This third party is the Managed Care group. It functions as an intermediary (negotiator) between you and your doctor, hospital, pharmacy, etc., and your original insurance company. Its function is to make .money (profits) for themselves and for the Insurance company. It is not in the busi- ¯ gist, "Sorry, no money is left in the Heart ¯ Transplant Fund. Procedure demed. That’s it! After all, money talks. This is ¯ how our civilized, capitalistic society func- ¯ tions. Now, I wouldn’t have such a prob- ¯ lem with all this, if the Managed Care ~ groups were going broke orifthese groups ¯ functioned as not-for-profit institutions. ¯ But when insurance and Managed Care ¯ companies are showing record profits, it ¯ becomes extremely difficult to rationalize how someone could be turned down ¯ for a life-saving procedure. Have yourpremiums gonedown lately ? Have your deductibles or co-payments been reduced this year? Physicians’. pay has dropped by nearly 40% in the past few ¯ years, so they are not benefiting..Ask ¯ yourself, "If premiums are up and benefits are down, who is making out? It ¯ doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure ¯ that the Managed Care groups and your insurance company are laughing all the ¯ way to the bank. If you think (or don’t ¯ think) managed health care is bad now, ¯ here is a look into the crystal ball... ~ Primary care physicians will be called ¯ uponto make decisions (final decisions in ¯ some cases) about health care procedures ¯ based on age and need. For example, say ~ I am your primary care physician, you are 60 years of age, and you need kidney ¯ dialysis. But, I can have only five people ¯ a year on dialysis treatment. Four slots are ¯ already filled and, just before your apness to serve you.or-your doctor!s, ¯ pointment, a 25 year old patient of mine hospital’s, and pharmacist’s (etc.) best ¯ also needs dialysis. Who gets dialysis slot interests:~ Which is your health! Period. ¯ #5? In the future, the care will go to those The sooner.you understand the princi.-. ~ : who can pay out ofpocket: In other words, pal motives of the Managed Care gr0up’s~- . just likeih~judici’ai system, the rich will interest (which is money-making), the- ¯ prevail in health care. better equipped you will be to deal with. ~ Obvi~usly this is avery simplistic overthe pr0blei~s you may encounterl Tile ,~’ vi~c.0f thetotal managed health Care decisions made in health care today .are ¯ picture. "What can I do?" you ask. Get bas~d0nfinancialnumbers.ForeXai:nplei" " inv6I~edi’Wfit~you~elected~fficialsand say you need a heart transplant. Your ~. the State Insurance Commissioners. And primary care physician must refer you out o take care of your health by becoming fit, to a specialist (cardiologist)~ and he/she must ask the Managed Care group if you can be approved for the heart transplant. Mind you, there are funds allocated for these procedures for each group or plan. Well, guess what?! It’s toward the end of the fiscal year and the Heart Transplant Fund is depleted. An accountant from the Managed Care group tells your cardiolo- ¯ ea.ting right, and supplementing with vita- ¯ mlns daily in order to avoid feeding the ~ (Mis)Managed Care Monster!! Dr. Gorman’s practice is located at ¯ 4775 S. Harvard, Suite C, 712-5514. His ¯ is a Board Certified Chiropractor &Acu- ~ .puncturist, has a B:S. degree in Nutrition, ¯ is an active bodybuilder, anddoesfitness, ¯ nutrition, & supplement counseling. want to deal with these issues- not AIDS, not sex before marriage," she said. "But we must face the reality or we’re going to lose our youth." Miss Dozier said condom availability reduces, rather than encourages, sexual activity among youths. "Knowing more about this gives you the power; you don’t think of having sex because you’re drunk or rebelling or because you feel pressured," Miss Dozier said. "After getting all this information aboutAIDS, I’m holding back from .sex. It made me want to wait, and I think more youths will wait and hold off more, the more they know about the risks." Gore Seeks More $ For AIDS Drugs WASHINGTON (AP) Hoping to improve access to AIDS-fighting drugs, the Clinton administration is exploring the possibility of expanding Medicaid coverage for people afflicted with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Vice President A1 ¯ Gore has asked the Health Care Financing ¯ Administration "to look into the possibil- ¯ ity" of making Medicaid available earlier ¯ to people with HIV to get them the cut- . ting-edge drugs needed to help them. - ¯ "If it works out, as I hope and expect it ¯ will, it can ease suffering, renew hope and ¯ help ensure that goodpeopte are notpriced ¯ out of lifesaving medicine," Gore said ¯ Wednesday. He said the move was neces- ¯ sary because people diagnosedwith HIV ¯ can develop full-blown AIDS before be- . coming eligible for Medicaid, "and that ¯ makes some of these new drugs prohibitively expensive for people who need ¯ them." ¯ Gore made the announcement after re- " ceiving the 1997 National Leadership Award for Public Service from AIDS ¯ Action, an AIDS advocacy group. He said ¯ he has asked the HCFA to report back to ¯ him in 30 days after exploring the possi- ~ bility. "Our view is that getting these ¯ drugs to people earlier will not cost more ¯ in the long run," he said. "Itmay even save ¯ money, and it will certainly save lives." OGRA Presents~The 12th Annual Great Plains Regional Rodeo Sponsored by Miller Lite Oklahoma City ¯ OK State Fairgrounds Memorial Day Weekend May 23, 24, 25, 1997 Ticket Package $36.00 FOR MORE INFORMATION CALL THE RODEO HOTLINE 1-405-842-0849 HOST HOTEL - HILTON INN NORTHWEST 2945 N.W. 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Peoria, 744-5556 ~ ~ ~ SUNDAYS 1 lth Tulsa AIDS Candlelight Memorial & Mobilization Service and Reception May 4th, 4pm, Chandler Park Shelter #1, Interfaith AIDS Ministries, 438-2437 Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pm, 1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation Service - l lam, 1703 E. 2nd, 749-0595 Family Of FaRh Metropolitan Community Church Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Service, 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo,622-1441 Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa Service, 10:45am. 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715 PrimeTimers Social group for men, 1st Sun/each mo. 4-6pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th University of Tulsa BisexuaULesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance 6:30 pm at the Canterbury Center, 5th & Evanston, 583-9780 ~ MONDAYS HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required. Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm Results: 7-Ppm, Into: 742-2927 PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays 2nd Mon/each mo. 6:30pm, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard Gay & Lesbian Book Discussion Group, Borders Bookstore 1st Mon/each month, 7:30pro, 2740 E. 21st, 712-9955 Womens Literature Discussion Group, Borders Bookstore 3rd Mon/each month, 7:30pm, 2740 E. 21st, 712-9955 Mixed Volleyball, 6:30pro, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 587-6557 Unity Lambda Al-anon, 7:30pro, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft. ~ TUESDAYS Lesbian Mothers Support Group, 2nd+4th Tues/ea. mo. 7pm, 1307 E. 38th, HIV+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm 4154 S Harvard, Ste. H-l. Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. HIV/AIDS Support Group, and Friends & Family HIV/AIDS Support Group - 7 pm, Locations, call: 749-7898 Pride Center Community Meeting - DVIS Speaking on New Domestic Violence Intervention Program, April 22, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft., 743-4297 ~ WEDNESDAYS Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815 Family OfFaithMCC Praise/Praycr-6:30pm, Choir-7:30,5451-ES. Mingo. 622-1441 TNAAPP,Tulsa Native AmericanAIDS Prevention Project Gay/Bi Native American MenSupportGroup, 6 pm, 1703 E. 2nd, 582-7225, 584-4983 TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for scheduled events. hffo: 631-7632 or Jeremy at 7-12-1600 Ellen Coming Out Watch Party, April 30, 6:30 pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th ~ THURSDAYS Co-Dependency Support Group - 7:30 Family of Faith, 5451E S Mingo, 622-1441 HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8~.30pm, Results: 7 - 9pm, Info: 742-2927 Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Network (ORYAN) Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325 Tulsa Family Chorale, Weekly practice - 9:30pm, Loin’s, 2630 E. 15th From Our Hearts to Our House, 1 lpm, 3rd Thurs/each mo. Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G, 3-4:30pm, Info: 749-4194 ~= FRIDAYS Safe Haven, Young Adults Social Group, I st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th ~= SATURDAYS St. Jerome’s Church, Mass - 6 pm Garden Chapel, 3841 S. Peoria, [nfo: 742-6227 Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pm, Community of Hope, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800 Pride Center Work Day, April 27, l:30pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2rid ft., 743-4297 ~ OTHER GROUPS T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform& Leather Seekers Association, into: 838-1222 Womeas Supper Club, 4/23, 6:30pm, Zio’s, 71st & Mingo; 5/7, 6:30pm, Spaghetti Warehouse, 221 E. Brady; Info: 584-2978 SENSES, Society for Exploring New Sensations, Educating & Socializing Leave message for Kathy, 743-4297 OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Rides: 4/19, 7am; 4/22, 6:30pro; 4/26, 7am; 5/21, 6:30pro; 5/24, 7am; 5/28, 6:30pm; 5/31, 7am. All rides start at Ziegler Park Recreation Center, 3903 W. 4th St., Into: PUB 9165, 74157 .Y READ ALL ABOUT IT Reviewed by Barry Hensley Tulsa City-County Library An apparent oxymoron, Steve Gunderson was a multi-term, gay Republican congressman from a rural Wisconsin district. Amoderate, traditional Lutheran, Gunderson had quietly represented his district since 1981 before deciding not to seek reelection in 1996. The story ofGunderson and his long term partner, coauthor Rob Morris, is inspiring, but somewhat disappointing. Told in alternating narratives by each author, House and Home is a refreshingly candid view of a major, gay publiC figure. Many moderates and progressives were deeply disappointed when Gunderson declined to run for a ninth term. He had risen to a position of seniority and influence when he decided that he could no longer trust his own party for support. He realized this one day in 1994, while attending a Wisconsin Republican caucus: "it was composed mostly of right- ¯ Gunderson to become more vocal about his life with Rob Morris. They had met in ¯ 1983 and Gunderson had occasionally ¯ mentioned Morris during political ¯ speeches. After being outed, Morris con- Gundel n lashes outat whathe considersthe liberal, left-w_’mgof theGa-y ci rigrit movement... . t_iayacfivists taavetoaccept thatGays are not automatically that vinced Gunderson to respond forcefully to critics by pointing out that the Republican Party had "an historic role in fighting prejudice." Gunderson insists that "anyone who was familiar with the history ofthe Republican Party would understand that, like Barry Goldwater, I could legitimately say, ’I didn’t leave the party, the party left me.’ " Morris, comments are mostly short contributions of apersonal nature. Being a Congressional spouse, he had to maintain a careful balance between G/anderson’s public and private life. Morris dutifully details his perspective, but without much of the wit and humor that he apparently possesses. Gunderson lashes out at what he considers the liberal, leftwingofthe Gay civil rights movement. He has often, been accused of "sleeping with the wing ’true believers’ who had "[~t=r~ ]]’~ll¢~,~ne come .to the caucus straight . xx~~oa~a from services at their funda- .aren t _ mentalist churches. Mostwere people I had never met before au~oxx.~u.~,c.ttt,y in politics. They were part of enemies.... the ’family values’ army, loyal in every way to the Religious RighVs high command. Not schooled or motivated in partisan politics, not educated about government or history, and not informed in any deep, objective way about many of the major issues, they were there because they had been told that the only way to save the lives of fetuses from abortion, to save their children from the influence of predatory homosexuals, and to save America from degradation was to show up at these caucuses and compel the Republican Party to do their will." His 1994 outing on the floor of the House of Representatives, by controversial congressman Bob Dornan, forced .enemy,’/. : Gunderson~ s response:." Gay activists have to ~aecept ~that gays are not auto- .matically DemOcrats, that Republicans aren’t automatically enemies, and that it is vital to have friends in the majority ¯ party. More specifically, it is crucial to ~ have openly gay Republicans who are ¯ willing to do the sometimes tough and ¯ thankless work of sensitizing the party to ¯¯ gay issues, gay rights, and gay humanity." Gunderson, ofcourse, decided in less than ¯ two years after his outing, that this was the ¯ responsibility of someone else, someone who has yet to show up. The abdication of ¯ his essential role diminishes the impact of his otherwise impressive story. ¯ Checkfor House and Home, and books ¯ on other related topics, at your local ¯ branch library, or call the R~aders Ser- ¯ vices department at the Central Library at 596-7966. Email is a wondrous thing. At the moment, I am in Fort Worth, and having to write a colmnn for deadline. Fortunately, computers allow tiffs to happen. Or unfortunately,. depending on your perspective. You will notice this column is a bit differcnt from others. I have a story to tell. It may be meamngful, it may be entertmning. I hope it is both. Story one: In 1986, my Father was diagnosed with cancer. He was admitted into the hospital for a biopsy. I, as well as the rest ofmy fanfily, were strained mad in denial He had never shown his age frotu the time I was born up to that point in his lifc. 1! sccmcd he would always be there lor us. I was in a play at the time, a drcadflfl nmsical review. I had a solo part in a song (my lirst ever). I was in school full timc and working, so I didn’t have much time for hospital visits. According to fanfily that did spend time at the hospital, his wish was that I continue in the rehearsals and not miss any on his account. Since we all thought he’d be home at any time, I suffered through the rehearsai, trying to conquermy fear of singing in front of people. His biopsy kept being delayed, and a two day visit stretched into three weeks. I did visit him a couple of times, and each time he seemed older, as though the years were catching up to him all at once. It scared me, but still I kept thinking he’d be home soon. I remember him looking out the window once, a sad, resigned look on his face. He said something - I cannot to this day remember what, but I know it had to do with what was coming. I continued struggling to smile while singing and remembering choreography and lyrics at the same time. Dad continued to go downhill, each time they’d think he was ready for biopsy, see Jim, page 13 COOL UNIQUE & EXCLUSIVE EYEWEAR Discover eyewear styles found nowhere else in Tulsa. OLIVER PEOPLES, GAULTIER, MIKLI, MATSUDA, ETC... ~ VISIONS 6.837 S. MEMORIAL ¯ 254:1611 Renew Your Subscription to Life. NITSUBISHI HOTORS Built For Living,TM $ 2 1, 9 8 8 sale price 7 Kelly Kirby CPA, PC Certified Public Accountant a professional corporation ¯ Lesbians and Gay menfitce many special tax situations whether singlo or as couples. ¯ Thank youfor giv.tng us our most successful tax season. ¯ Call us for help with your year round tax needs. 7 4 7:2 5~4 6,6 4021 S. 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The stunning photography of Lee Steenhuis. by Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche " the sandwiches are accompanied by a dill TFN Food Critic " pickle and Pringles potato chips, though If one ever has out of town guests who ¯ the lemon Caesar salad will be substituted think no culinary excitement exists in . upon request. Tulsa, one need go no farther than Cherry ¯ The lunch time crowd has welcomed Street to wakeup their tastebuds. Tucci’s, the addition of daily pasta specials to the located at the site ofthe former long-beloved Cherry Street Bakery, serves up food in the New Italian mold with strong California influences. While not exclusively a pizza parlor, it’ s pizza that has made Tucci’s a Cherry Street destination, even with such old standbys as The Hideawayjust across the street. Nothing promotes a restaurant more than the Shock value and talk factor of previous customers telling their friends about their dining experience, and diners here will certainly have something to talk about. The kitchen at Tucci’s makes up a fine, handtossed pizza crust, and then covers ~t with some unbelievable toppings. Two ofthe most talked about combinations are the Stone Temple Pie, which features marinated cactus, smoked fajita chicken, and black beans, and the Thai Pie, an interesting mix of spicy peanutpesto, teriyaki chicken, bamboo shoots, and chow mein noodles. Intrigued? Shocked and appalled? Read on. The Upstream Dream, a fairly new addition to the menu, is topped with smoked salmon. The Aglio Arrosto (roasted garlic for the non-Italianophones out there) has roasted garlic, pinenuts, and Italian sausage. The California Pie is loaded down with artichoke hearts, sun dried tomatoes, olives, fresh basil, and feta cheese. And, the list goes on. The true artistry at Tu_cci’ s is that, while certainly bizzarre sounding, these unusual topping combinations work. Oftentimes, we see restaurants trying to be too creative, and they can’t quite pull it off, but that is not the case here. The pies inspire strong emotions from the diners--they either love it or they hate it. We’ve never heard anything in between. All of the pizzas are accompanied by a wonderful lemon Caesar salad, crispy romaine with a zesty and bright lemon juice dressing, instead of the more traditional egg yolk-based Caesar. And, when the pie amves, it immediately takes center stage, since it is presented on a metal footed cake plate. But, after the shock of the toppings, be prepared for another shock. The bill. A large pizza is $19.50. Pizzas are not the only menu item available, especially since the recent menu redo, which added additional entree choices, mostly in the sandwich department. An Italian "rich boy" is offerred for $5.75, as is a chicken parmesan. Grilled Italian sausages and peppers goes for $5.25, while smoked turkey breast and chicken salad tarragon sandwiches come in a $4.95. A very interesting Roasted Italian vegetables in pita bread sells for $4.95, and we’ve found this sandwich interesting, though a bit heavy on the lettuce and short on the vegetables .All of Tucci’s 1344 East 15th 11 am- 10pm Mon - Thurs Fri/Sat til 11 closed Sun Cuisine: Nuovo Italiano Dress: Casual Payment: Cash, checks MC, Visa, and AmEx Alcohol: Domestic and imported beer Smoking: Smoking on outdoor deck, non-smoking inside (sort of) Cost: Moderate ~kat{.1nsgt: menu, selling for $5.50, which includes the lemon Caesar and Italian bread. On the day we reviewed Tucci’s, the special was a spinach fettuccine with basil cream. Assuming one likes spinach (which we don’t), the pasta was freshly made and had a distinct spinachy taste. The basil cream sauce had pieces of fresh basil leaf in it and was light and pleasant. The only surprise was that the dish was served with a large soup spoon on the plate. Why? There wasn’t any soup on the menu? Surely, they didn’t expect us to. eat our fettuccine with a spoon ! (for those who haven’t memorized the writings of Miss Manners, Jean-Pierre insists that it is incorrect to eat spaghettior fettuccine using a spoon to~,~help twirl the pasta around th~ fork.) Several.~alads are also available, from a large lemon Caesar at $4~50, to the chicken salad an~t~he.Mediterraneo at $6.50. Could s~m.eone please tell us why the: Mediterranean salad proudly proclaims that it contains shrimp from the Gulf ofMexico? There is also antipasto for $6:50.~ Beverages are fun here. Certainly, the mostpopular is iced cappuccino. They also make Italian sodas, soda water with a shot or two of various flavoring syrups, and have an ¯ extensive selection of bottled waters, in- ~ cluding the Welch "Ty Nant," the pricey ¯ stuff in the pretty cobalt bottle. Biscotti and cheesecake are always avail- " able for dessert, and, when the kitchen ~ makes it and there is some left, a nice ¯ spumoni ice cream ($3.00) can be had. ¯ Even better is the tiramisu, sponge cake ¯ soaked with espresso and layered with ¯ Italian cream for $3.75. The food at Tucci’s is good, and a ¯ relatively goodvalue for the money. The ¯ major area needing improvement is the service. Chronically understaffed, the ¯ friendly and earnest wait staff will get to ¯ one’s table as soon as they can, but still, ¯ the wait can be annoying. On ourlast visit, ~ the iced cappuccinos and Italian sodas ¯ arrived at the table with no spoons or ¯ straws. And, the music being broadcast ¯ over the speakers was so loud, we could ~ hardly hear one another talk, making us ¯ feel like we were at the Full Moon Cafe ¯ across the street. ¯ But, the future is looking bright. The ¯ ownership triumvirate of husband, wife, ¯ and mother has recently extensively re- - modeled the kitchen, and the menu under- " goes regularrevision and freshening. The ¯ outside deck remains a popular spot for ¯ watching the Cherry Street traffic. We ¯ like Tucci’s. ~ Not feeling up to cactus or pineapple or ¯ peanuts on your pizza? There’s a-Pizza ¯ Hut just down the street for the timid. Y Chairman Terrance Tom called a nmvs conference mad insisted that without referring the opposite-sex couples in the amendment, it will continue to invite la~vstfits challenging the marriage law. House and Senate conferees were fac; ing an internal deadline of resolving their differences over the stone-sex marriage bills, although Sott~ acknowledged that deadline could be waived upon an agreement with Senate President Norman Mizuguchi. Both Souki and Tom expressed confidence that an amendment to ban same-sex manJages and a package of benefits for gay mad lesbian couples will be approved before the Legislatm’e adjourns April 29. Tom defended his decision at die latest House-Senate meeting Wednesday night not to take up the rights package for samesex couples. He said as far as he’s concerned, the Senate has failed to provide a comlter proposal to the House’s latest proposal. Senate conference co-chairnlan Avery Chumbley said the Senate will meet with the House when the Itouse agrees to take up both the anlendment mid tile Lesbian/Gay benefits package and not separate them. "They are both are part of the stone problem mad we’re not going to separate them," he said. Rhode s and Kills Anti-Marriage Bill PROVIDENCE, RA. (AP) _ A bill to ban gw marriages was voted down by a powerful House couun{ttee on Thursday. "Life in Rhode I~l,’md is not going to change tomorrow if we don’t pass tiffs bill," said Rep. Timoth3 Willianlson, DWest Warwick, a member of the House Judiciary Connnittee. A1 though Rhode I slmad doesn’ t recognize gay marriages uow, the bill’s supporters worried the state would be forced to recognize them if legalized in another state. Debate over the issue led Congress to pass and President Cliuton to sign last year the Defense of Marriage Act. The law says the federal government will not recognize gay nlamages andit allows states to refuse to recognize them as well. No states allow homosexuals to marry, although the Hawaiian Supreme Court is considering the issue. Rep. Michael Pisaturo, D-Cranston, opposed the bill so much he introduced one of his own to legalize same-sex marriages, although henow plans to let his bill die. City Grants Partners Health Insurance SPRINGFIELD, Mass. (AP) - Saying he hopes to lay down a model for the rest of the state, MayorMichael Albano on Thursday began offering health insurance to gay and lesbian partners of city workers. He acknowledged talat the move is bomld to breed some dissent, saying, "There are .those who do not yet understand that tails IS a new world we live in." But he added, "It is the right thing to do. My adininistration will not discrilninate based on ... alternative lifestyle. And no other city in Massachusetts or in America should elfiler." Springfield, file third largest city in tale state with 160,000 residents, became the second Bay State connnunity with such a nleasure in effect, according to Gay mid Lesbian Advocates and Defenders, a Boston- based group that monitors gay rights. Mary Bonauto, tlae group’s civil rights direc.tor, said Cambridgeis tale other commumty. "It’s a basic stand by the mayor and city of Springfield for fairness to all fmnilies and also for equal pay’ for eqtml work," she said. Albano signed the executive order in a brief late-afternoon ceremony before city and .state officials, gay-rights advocates, jottrnalists mad others. State Attorney General Scott Harshbarger, a supporter of the policy, was also there. Albano said he expects perhaps 20 or 30 of the city’s 6,500 employees to sign up for such coverage. But he predicted it won’t create the need for any larger appropriation. The progranl now costs about $32 ~nillion a year. The mayor ordered bereavement and sick time rights for gay mid lesbian partners of city workers in January 1996. The city is defining a gay or lesbian "domestic pm:tner" as someone sharing expenses and living with the city employee for at least a year "in a relationslfip of mutual support, caning and counnitment in wlfich they intend to remain for file indefinite In western Massachusetts, the town of Palmer briefly adopted such a policy, but oppouents m,’maged to dismantle it within months. In Northmnpton, city leaders approved apolicy ofletting stone-sex couples register as such tbr certain rights, but not health insurance. Voters later blocked the move in a public referendum. In Springfield, not everyone was embracing the idea. "As a resic]ent, I find it reprehensible that file3’ can do something fl~at so many citizens are morMly opposed to," said Ronald Crochetiere, a resident who said he has been active on some political issues. Maine Gov. Lets Anti-Marriage Bill Pass AUGUSTA, Maine (AP) - Sayiug his decision was not an easy one, Gov. Angus King will let the gay marriage ball enacted by’ the Legislature last week become law without his signature rather than force a referendum by vetoing tale bill. King said he has "a deep respect for the institntion of marriage and its religious roots," but he does uot bdieve the bill remedies a problem because there’s no movement in Maine to make same-sex marriages legal. The governor also said he does not believe traditional marriage is under assault in Maine. "I believe that this bill has very little to do with marriage and nothhlg to do withlove," said King. Concerned Maine Families, which led the initiative that forced tam legislative vote, said the law protects traditional marriage from threats by inilitant gay activists. The governor had three options after the bill was enacted by overwhelming margins last week by the House and Senate: sign file bill, veto it, wlfich would force a referendum, or let it become law without his signature. King said a referendum would trigger a bitter and divisive statewide campaign that would not benefit the public. The governor also said he expects the law to be successfully challenged in court. He believes it violates both tile equal protection and full faith and credit clauses of the Constitution. "This bill will briefly become law in Maine, but it will nothavemynameonit," said King. Timo{hy W. 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My brother and I were ushered out by the nurse, for fear our presence would disturb him further, causing him to damage the numerous tubes and devices connected to him. Keeping him alive. Sort of. That is the last time I saw my father alive. A couple of weeks later he lapsed into coma. Momgave the orders to remove the life support. My father left this plane alone. No one who h~ew him was there. I vowed then that if anyone I was close to was in the hospital, my first priority was being there. No show, nojob, no other event would be more important than being there - for fmnily, friend, or lover. The show went on. I remember the day Dad died. The director berated me venomoush’ in front of the cast for not smiling and"selling" the numbers I was in. I had left a message on the answering machine that morning, he didn’t get the message until after the rehearsal. I for a change, ~vas the first one out the door, so he ufi ssed me. I was ready, for the first time, to walk out on a show. I just about told him he could take the bloody solos and give them to someone else. gcrew "’professionalism". It had cost me too much Nready. There ,are times that "The show must go on" is absolute poppycock. There will be other shows. I held my tongue, but barely. I was in too much shock to say anything at that Moment. He did apologize later. Story two: I am in Fort Worth because nay Mother has breast cancer, and had both of her breasts removed on Monday the 7th. According to several doctors, she will need help for 2 -3 weeks, as she won’t be able to lift her purse, so I am here to help. Mom’s health is not so great. She’s 74, a heavy smoker, and is handicapped, and thus cm~’t get around solo under the best of Circumstmaces. I have too many scars and unanswered questions leftover from Dad (as do all the members ofmy f,’unil y) to ever let anyone I know go into a hospital without me being there. People can slip away too damn fast. And all the political ballyhoo and bickering in the world doesn’t change that. Yes, it’s important to fight for what’s right, and to use your time wisely. But don’t forget the other things that are import~ mt, too - the smell of a flower, the voice of a loved one, and the time you spend with them. In the end, that.., is .... ALL... that.., matters. Nomatterhow mnch they am~oy you. You will miss them when they’re gone. Jobs are replaceable, things are replaceable, people ~e not. And too many filings can go wrong. My father died of cancer, my morn is dealing with cancer, and we have tbund out that three male cousins on her side are dealing with/have died from cancer. Her sister had breast cancer. I can’t shake the feeling that I ana seeing how I will die, barring bus crashes, plane explosions, and bank robberies. It is ~t too likety, given [hmily history and genetics Not to mention that there is no more severe issue thm~ losino a pare~t I~sing one is bad enom,h’ it t~rces you to den with mortNity m a way that no other loss can do. When a parent Nes, you lose not oNy apart of your Nstory, and present, but Nso your clfildh~d. No one will be there to dean up yot~ nfist&es or save you frown yourself, if you were so fortunate to have had fmNly like that. Some axen’t. I’ve been lucky thus t’~. I ~ow Mom will not l~t forever. Quite fray, the f~ly has been expecting a Nagnosis of lung ~acer to pop up for ye~s, yet she has remNned in fNr heNth. She never expected to outhve Dad. And when he died, she stepped up the ~ount of algareties consumed in order to ~tch up with Nm. Didn’t woN. Bre~t ~cer was a sunrise to us ~1. I and my fanfily have certNNy had, and continue to have, our differen~s. But they have always been there for me, t~ough my back surgery, tl~ough nasty splits with exMovers, and whatever other crises I had. Now, it’s my turn to be there for them. I tN~ this is what should Ne meant by the term "fmnily values." And with that rather drmnatic ending, I do have a Mnd of review. Anyone catch toNght’ s "Dr. Qnim~, Medicine Woman"? It’s not a show I usual3 watch (I am not at ~I parti~ to westerns - sacrilege coming from an OM~oma resident and nativeborn Texan, but there you ~e,), but b3 complete accident (except I, like Obi- Wan Kenobi, don’t believe in accidents. So~y, had to get that St~ Wars reference in there, ya M~ow.), I happened upon it tolfight. I was about to change the chanuel, when the gist of the plot line lilt me. Dr. Quinn was brining Walt Wlfitm~ into her dusty little Colorado county town for a p~try reading. I though t~s a rather novel idea. I wondered if they were going to de~ With Iris being homosexual or just gloss it over. So, I stayed tuned. I was pleasantly suwfised. Dr. Quiim, noticed that WdtW~ w~ depressed (Hmnun. Sounds fm~li~. Have I wfitmn about ~s before?) and asked lfim what wm up. He w~ saddened that Iris so.mate could not be wi~ ~m. She sfid, tot~ly t~owing of what gender ~s so.mate ~ght ~ (heterosexist assumptions, don’tcha ~ow), "Well, bring lfim on out from the ~st Co~tF’ Well, Waltw~ happier than a Gay m~in a gym, and perked nfighfily. Me.time, Her young son, a writer for the school paper, interviewed Wilt for the school paper...flone with ~m...during a solit~y wflk in the woods. Back to subplot number two,in w~ch the mwns~ople, thrilled at the prospect of a man of W~t’s stature bestowing a bit ofculture upon ~eir dusty town, become rather discfinfinatory upon being ~e gossip that W~t (GASP[) is a "Nmmy-boy", "one of them fellers who don’t like women ~e way most men normflly do". Dr. Qui~m is hogtied that her boy has been ~one with trim. She t~ks to Sully, plwedby the everhm~yJoe ~do, who tells her that she’s ove~eacting, that in lfis Nbe, gay folk are ac~pted~dhave eqtu~ status. His is the voice of reason, and he’s given excellent diNoN~e in tlfis episode. Well, She questions the boy, and tells lfim not go into the woods None with X~qfitman. She does do some research, and finds ~at some German literature of the day ch~flks it up to a defective gene. She is upset, because she emwnined Whitman and didn’t "see" anytlfing like this wrong with lfim. see Jim, page 14 ~JJr~ continued from page 13 Stdly tells her she should just accept him for who he is, that he is still the same mm~ whose writing tlmlled her. W~t’s souhnate arrives, he cheers up. The townsfolk display their homophobia with maliciotks gossip zu~d ontright discrimination, denying the couple a hotel room. Dr. QuimL despite her misgivings, invites them to stay in her home, m~d gradmflly comes to ~low them as simply two folk in love. She asks if the townspeople’s reaction bofliers him. lie replies no, that life is too sliort to #re iu to oflmr people’s ucgativity ~md empower it. Dr. Quiun is ok widi M1 ~is, undl Walt t~es her boy fishing. Alone. In tim woods. Fe~ng dm worst, she m~es a mad dash for the fislfing hole, wifll Sully telling her not to jump to conclusions. She m~d Snlly sne~ np on W~dt m~d the boy, fislfing. ~m bo) spe~s to WMt, ~ng ~m what "’Nmmy-boy" memas. In a ~vonderfully written respo~me, he tells the boy, that it is a word somc folks ~une up ~vith to hurt others, tte wreaks the boy that words cm~ be ~vcapons, us~ to hurt. But they cml ~dso be used to lined, to reflect tim positive, wondrous ddngs in liiE, mid that he mid thc boy had a gift to use words in t~mt way. And thus, thc3 could countcract the hate- 4"ul, negative words. Aud of course, l)r. Quinu, fears assuagcd, smiles beatifically, ~d she m~d Joe embrace, t~lll ofhope for the world. Fade out, dissolve to thc poe~’y rca~ng, with a hm~dful 0f imoplc attending. But cvcn a hmldfid ~m effect a lot of chm~gc. I liked WMt’s perspectivc. I will try tom&e it my own. Classifieds: How To Do It First 30 words are $10~ liach additional word is 25 cents. Y ou may bring additional attention to your ad: Bold Headline - $1 Ad in capital letters - $1 Ad in bold capital letters - $2 Ad in box- $2 Ad reversed - $3 Tear sheel mailed - $2 Bliud Post Office 13ox - $5 Please type or print your ad. Count the no. of words. (A word is a group of letters or numbers separated by a space.) Send your ad & payment to lOB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159 with your uame, address, tel. numbers (for us only). Ads will run in the next issue after received. TFN reserves the right to edit or refuse any ad. NO refunds. ..... .... Roommate Needed (;WM scekiug same to share 2 bdnn., 1 bath home in Brookside/Riverside area: $200/mo. plus 1/2 utilities. Non-smoker preferred. 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(Tulsa) =19577 LONG HARD NIGHTS If you like sleapless nights, and sleepless days, give me a call i’m a 24 year old, Gay, White male, 6’3, 1601bs, in search of another Gay, White male, between 18 and 24. Let’s have a long, hard night, h:)llowed by a long, hard day. I’m versatile. (Tulsa) =24504 THE COWBOY WAY I’m a cowboy, plain and simple. I love to do things outdoors. Hunting and fishing are just two of the possibilities. If you’re between 18 and 25 and want to explore~ne cowboy way, leave me a message. (Tulsa) =1004 CONSERVATIVE OUTCOME I’m a 19 year old student, From Tulsa. I lave movies, sports, and going out. I’m seeking someone clean-cut, conservative, and discrete. I have yet to come out, so discretion is most important. Come share my values, and discover together what happens nexL (Tu sa) =23850 BLUE COWBOY This 55 year old Gay White ma e, cowboy, and Businessman, would like to meet a younger man betwean 35 and 55, to live with me in rural southeast Oklahoma. J’m 5’6, 1401bs, with short; thick Silver hairi strikin.Cl Blue eyes, and a mustache. You shbuld be well put together and des re th s type of lifeslyle. =9612 ~:; To record your FREE Pe onal ad: all: 1-800-546-MENN (We’ll print it here) The Friends .i n Unity Social Org.anization, Inc. FUSO is a community based organization not for profit 501 (c)3 agency prowding services to African American males-and.females who are infected with HIV/AIDS in the Tulsa community. FUSO also .helps individuals find other agencies that provide other HIV/AIDS services. FUSO began in August 1991 out Of a need to bring African. American men of diverse sexual orientation together, to promote unity, education, cultural awareness and sensitivity to the needs of the African American community at large. The goal of FUSO is to. build bridges wher.e.gaps exist and to tear do.wn.the walls that have d~wded us w~th~n the community. FUSO ,has taken on the responsibility to.minister:to the needs of individuals impacted by HIV/AIDS,.to be.... a voice African American commun~ity, and especially~to be a voice for those.who have not been heard. FUSO is a ministry of compassion and. care. POB 8542, Tulsa, OK 74101 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource [1997] Tulsa Family News, April 15-May 14, 1997; Volume 4, Issue 5 Subject The topic of the resource Politics, education, and social conversation toward Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual communities. Description An account of the resource Tulsa Family News was a monthly newspaper; No. 1 issued December 1993-January 1994. The final issue available was published in September 0f 2001 (Volume 8, Issue 9). The newspaper brings up important, evolving topics of marriage, Pride, TOHR, HIV/AIDs, events, advice, and politics all at the local and national level. This document is available in searchable PDF attached. It is also available to be seen at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center with permission. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Tulsa Family News Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Tom Neal Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource April 15-May 14, 1997 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Jams Christjohn Barry Hensley Dr. Mike Gorman Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche The Associated Press Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Tom Neal/Tulsa Family News Relation A related resource Tulsa Family News, March 15-April 14, 1997 Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Image PDF Online text Language A language of the resource English Type The nature or genre of the resource newspaper periodical Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Tulsa(Oklahoma)---newspaper Tulsa---Oklahoma United States Oklahoma Tulsa United States of America (50 states) Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context https://history.okeq.org/items/show/533 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived https://history.okeq.org/collections/show/24 1997 African Americans AIDS Action Council AIDS/HIV AIDS/HIV education AIDS/HIV research Al Gore arts and entertainment attorneys Barry Hensley Bars businesses children churches civil rights condoms custody Dave Fleischer Dr. Michael Gorman Ellen Degeneres FUSO gay parents harassment Health and Wellness healthcare homophobia HOPE Testing Human Rights Campaign Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche Jimmy Flowers marriage Oklahoma Gay Rodeo Association parade Partner Benefits performing arts Pride Read All About It restaurants Rob Morris Steve Gunderson Stonewall League students Tom Neal Transgender Tucci's Tulsa Family News University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance