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European Union to British
Army: No More Gay Ban
STRASBOURG, France (AP) - The European Court of
HumanRights ruled latein September that Britain’ sban
on homosexuals in the armed forces is a breach of
humanrights. The court found in favor ofthreemenand
a woman who were discharged from the British armed
forces in line with its absolute ban on homosexual
personnel after they admitted their sexual orientation.
The court said the British policyyciolated Article 8 of the
European Convention on Human Rights which defends
the right to respect for private and family life.
"The Court considered the investigations, and in
particular the interviews Of the applicants, to have been
exceptionally intrusive," thc European court said in a
statement. "The investigations conducted into the
applicants’ sexual orientation together with their
discharge from the armed forces constituted especially
grave interferences with their private lives," it said.
The verdict cannot force a-change of law, but the
applicants considered it a step towards ending
discriminationin thearmedforces. Defense Sec. George
Robertson said other existing cases involving Gays in
the British armed forces will be put on hold while the
government studies the implications of:the ruling.
Gay Demos Organize
TULSA- Local. Democratic Party activists will hold an
organizational meeting for a Tulsa chapter of the the
National Stonewall Democratic Federation on Sunday,
October 24th, at 4pro at the Tulsa Gay Community
Services Center (the Pride Center), at 1307 East 38th
Street, 2nd floor..
Stonewall Democrats, acaucus within the Democratic
Party works to secure the rights ofall people, regardless
’of sexual orientation or gender identity and serves as a
voicewithin the DemocraticParty for Lesbians andGay
men. Organizers noted in their press release that the
Oklahoma,Democratic party is rather conservative with
regard to civil rights for Gays and Lesbians and seek to
educate state party leadership about Lesbian and Gay
issues.
They list the following specific goals of the National
Stonewall Democratic Federation as:
(1) mobilizing voters through a national grassroots
network of Gay and Lesbian Democratic clubs and
individuals to advance the fight for Gay and Lesbian
civil rights;
(2) improving the record of the Democratic party by
- pressing it further inthe direction of full recognition of
the rightsofGay men, Lesbiansand Bisexuals to befree
from prejudice;
(3) educating voters on the vast difference that exists
between the two major parties on our issues, and the
importance of voting Democxatic as the most effective
way to achieve our goals;
(4) fighting the anti-Gay rhetoric of the Republican
conservative-wing, which has increasingly become the
instrument of those d~dicated to denying us our rights.
The organizers are encouraging those who share
these values to come to the October 24 meeting which
will feature membersfromthenewlyformedOklahoma
City Stonewall Democrats chapter. Paul Barby,whoran
as an openly Gay candidate for US Congress in
Oklahon~a’s 6th district will speak.
For more information, telephone Start Simpson at
582-6557. ~
:.Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsane, Our Families + Friends
¯ Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations
i Tulsa Area United. W .y Fun.ds
Support Anti-Gay D,scr, minat,on
: TULSA (TFN) - In a recent promotional piece printed and
¯ inserted in The Tulsa Worm for free, Tulsa Area United Way
¯
(TAUW) touted its strong points. TAUWclaims to be thelargest
¯ non-governmental funder of health and human services.in the
¯¯ Tulsa area, funding some 231 programs at 68 member agencies.
TAUW also claims to have a lower than 10% overhead as
¯ compared to overhead of up to 40% declared acceptable by the
¯ National Charity Information Bureau.
¯ Joe Cappy, chairman/CEO and president of Dollar/Thrifty
Automotive Group, in the Tulsa World insert, claimed, ’q’ulsa
¯ Area United Way gives each of us a sensible, cost-effective
¯ approach to helping the people in our community who need it
¯ most..." ¯
But there are those who take issuewith some aspects of United
Way s funding,, partacularly that of the Indian NaUons Council of
¯ the Boy Scouts of America (BSA). The BSA is one of the earliest
¯ organizations funded in Tulsa by the predecessors to the current
: United Way but the Scouting organization has been under fire
¯ nationally for its anti-Gay policies. The BSA claims the Scout
¯ pledge to be "morally straight" refers to being heterosexual and
¯ .therefore bans Gay youth from being Scouts or Gay men from
¯
being Scoutmasters on the grounds that to be Gay is intrinsically
¯ to be "morally non-straight."
¯ Recently, the BSA lost a legal challenge to thi s anti-Gay policy
¯ brought under New Jersey state law. Former Eagle scout James Dale won his lawsuit but in response to questions from The Tulsa
¯ World,aspokespersonfortheTulsa-basedIndianNafionCouncil
of the BSA r~affirmed the ban in this area.
¯ And when TAUW kicked off its 75th anmversary campaign,
¯ running from Sept. 10th to Nov. 1 lth with a goal of raising
$21,497,725.00, some of these individuals said no to helping
¯ United Way because of the funding for an organization which
blatantly discriminates.
¯ Most ofthe individuals who spoke asked to remain anonymous
¯ citing fears ofretaliationfromTAUWor risk to their employment
¯ by public.ly speaking ~bout Lesbian and Gay issues in’h city with
fewprote~tious again~wolkplace discriminationbasedon sexual
¯
orientation.
¯ One Gay couple, both of whom are public
¯ employees, had slightly different reactions to the
issue of funding for the Boy Scouts.-One noted that
¯ "we’re so used to it, thatwedon’ t think about it"but
¯ he added that it’s "time when United Way needs to
start analyzing what they’re doing."
: However, his parmer noted that the organizations
¯ his employer was set to help for United Way’s Day
¯ of Caring were the Boy Scouts and the Salvation
Army, both organizations which he claims
¯ discriminate against Gay people. He notified his
¯ employer that he would not participate in the Day
¯ ofCaring because of those organization’ s anti-Gay ¯
policies.
¯ Another couple, Lesbian, said that it was a"tough
¯ question." One women, again who requested
¯ anonymity because of her job (she is a teacher), ¯
characterized the Boy Scouts’ policy as
¯ reprehensible but noted too that United Way funds
¯ the YWCA, an organization which has a non-
" discrimination policy which includes "sexual
¯ orientation." Her partner added that TAUW also
¯ funds Youth Services of Tulsa (YST) which has
¯ programs that benefit Lesbians and Gay men but ¯
she also acknowledged that YST hadkept those
¯ programs "closeted,"i.e. not publicized because of
¯ fears that UnitedWay fundingmight be withdrawn,
despite the fact that the failure to publicize the
¯ program significantly limitedYST’s ability toreach
¯ those whom the program was intended to help.
: Tulsa Area United Way’s marketing
representative, Beth Kuehnert was asked to explain
¯ TAUW’s continued funding for the BSA and
¯ initially, in a cordial and civil conversation, Ms.
Kuehnert said she was not aware of the Boy Scouts’
position nor see TA UW, p. 12
¯ Community Center News Eureka Springs Holds
Community Meeting 111 6. Diversity Celebration
¯
TULSA - Organizers of the First Annual Community Center ¯ EUREKA SPRINGS - Fall is around the comer,
¯ Film Festival to be held on Oct. 7-9, Tulsa’s Gay Commtmity : andintheOzarks,it’salmosttimefor thebi-annual
¯ Center andits parent organization, TulsaOklahomaus forHuman " Diversity Celebration Weekend in Eureka Springs,
: Rights (TOHR) will show both Lesbian and Gay films, both : Ark. ! Organizers say this event, scheduled forNov.
’. feature length and shorts beginningat 5:30 onThurs, and Fri. and " 5-7, will be bigger and better than ever!
: from 2pm on Sat. and Sun. ¯ Metropolitan Community Church’s Friday night
¯ In addition, theCenterwillhostTOHR’sfirstComingOutFair " dance and camival will kick off the weekend at the
: "Discovering Yourself" from noon to 6pro on Sat. Oct. 9th. A " top of the Basin Park Hotel. On Saturday morning,
." record number of community organizations have committed to " strollthestreetsofEurekaonahistoric(andcolorful)
¯ particil~ating in the Coming Out Fair. . walking tour, canoe on the White River, or hike in
¯ GregGatewood,TOHRboardpresident,noted that at the Sept. ." Lake Leatherwood Park. ¯
.14th commlmity wide meeting held at the Center about 35 " Intheearlyaftemoon,bringthekidstoa"family"
ihdividuals attended and the representatives decided through a family picnic at Harmon Park, sing like you’re in
i largely consensus process to convene a commlmity council of the shower at karaoke, or listen to the sounds of
¯ organizations, churches and businesses. The group also decided : localandvisitmgGay/Lesbianmusiciansatseveral
toaskTOHRto co-ordinate theproposedbi-monthlymeetings to " different venues around town. And please be sure
: exchange information and ideas. . to visit all the wonderfully unique shops, and
¯ Marty Newman, a Human Rights Campaign board member, : support the Diversity Cooperative businesses of
¯ who along with TOHR co-founder Dennis Neill, called the first " Eureka Springs.
: meeting this summer, expressed his satisfaction with the Sept. " Then, after a delightful dinner (it’s Eureka
- ". meeting and the general progress of the process. Newman-noted ¯ Spri.ngs’ Food and Wine Festival this weekend,
¯ thatTulsaPFLAG chapter co-founder,Nancy McDonaldattended ¯ too),work offthosecaloriesattwofantasticdances.
¯ the meeting and that Mrs. McDonald recalled that TOHRs by- : AtCenterStage, DJ Jonwillraisetheroofwithhigh
." laws had at one time had a provision for a community advisory ¯ energy club music. And the Basin Park Hotel
¯ council. Meeting co-convener Dennis Neill, an attorney, was ¯ Ballroom will come alive with electrifying
i given the task of drafting a contract to clarify the relationship " performances by "Barnes", a dynamic GLAMA-
¯ betweenthevariousgroups.Formoreinformationaboutthenext ~ winningsinger/songwriter seeEureka, p. 14
¯
community meeting, call the Community Center at 743-4297. ."
: Also, the CommunityCenter will be the site ofanall-community ¯
¯ Halloween Costume Ball to be held on Saturday, Ocotober 30th, :
¯ 8pm at 1307 East 38 Street, 2nd floor. The event will be BYOL "
¯ but soft drinks and ice will be provided. :
: Organizers suggest that while this is a costume party, a loud ¯
¯ shirt and simple mask will-do. Guests should not feel compelled :
: to spend a lot of money, just to use a little imagination. The :
: sponsors, Prime Timers of Tulsa, stated that the purpose of the :
_" party is for all groups connected with the Pride Center to have an
¯ opportunitytogettoknowonemlother, andhelpbuildcommunity, i
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
*Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston
Burger Sisters Restaurant, 1545 S. Sheridan
*Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria
*Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
*Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
*Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
832-1269
592-2143
835-1207
599-9512
583-6666
749-4511
599-7777
749-1563
744-4280
745-9998
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan ........ 834-4234
"*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main 585-3405
*TNTrs, 2114 S. Memorial 660-0856
*Tool, :Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital CelIular 74%1508
*Affinity News, 8120 E; 21 610-8510
*Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
*Barnes & Noble Booksdlers, 5231 E. 41 665-4580
Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122
*Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955
*Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313
Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-13902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
*Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sher~llan 838-8503
*Ross Edward Salon 584-0337, 712-9379
*Floral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595
Four Star Import Automotive, 9906 E. 55th P1 610-0880
Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709
Gay & Lesbian Affordable Daycare 808-8026
*Gloria Jean’s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21st 742-1460
Leanne M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning 459-9349
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
*International Tours 341-6866
Jadox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750
*Jared’s Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582-3018
David Kauskey,’ Country Club Barbering 747-0236
The Keepers, Housekeeping & Gardening 582-8460
*Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466
*Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brady 585-1234
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672
Puppy Pause II, 1060 S. Mingo 838-7626
*Peace of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15 583-1090
The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor 743-4297
Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932
Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617
Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921,747-4746
*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
Paul Tay, Car Salesman 260-7829
*Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria 697-0017
*Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007
*Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558
*Venus Salon, 1247 S. Harvard 835~5563
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733
*WhittierNews Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767
Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities
AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593
*All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria 743-2363
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314
Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center. 2207 E. 6 583-7815
*B/L/G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
*Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201
*Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI. & Florence
*ChurchoftheRestorationUU, 1314N.Greenwood 587-1314
*CommunityofHopeUnitedMethodist,2545 S.Yale 747-6300
*Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595
*CouncilOak Men’s Chorale 748-3888
*Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware 712-1511
*Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457
Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa- Lesbian & Gay Catholics &
Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475 355-3140
*Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615
POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159
e-mail: TulsaNews@ earthlink, net
Publisher + Editor:
Tom Neal
Writers + contributors:
James Christjohn, Barry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche,
Lamont Lindstrom, Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers
Member of The Associated Press
Issued on or before the 1 st of each month, the entire contents of this
~blicaatnidonmaaryenportobteecrteedprboyduUcSedcoepityhreirgihntW19h9o8leboyrTin~part without
written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or
photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence
is assumed to be for publication unless ot.herwjse no,ted,,~must
be signed & becomes the sole property of T~
Each reader is entitled to 4 copies of each edition at distribution
lYoints. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248.
*Free SpiritWomen’s Center, call for location& info: 587-4669
Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438
*HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-6611
*HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194
*Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378
*House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood
Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
*MCC United, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral P1. 748-3111
NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658
OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157
*OSU-Tulsa (formerly UCT, formerly Rogers U. whoever...)
*Our House, t 114 S. Quaker 584-7960
PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901
+Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674
Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152
*R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159 665-5174
*Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 584-2325
O’RYAN, support group for 18-24 LGBT young adults
O’RYAN, Jr. support group for 14-17 LGBT youth
St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882
St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140
*St. Jerome’s Parish Church, 205 W. King 582-3088
*Tulsa Area United Way, 1430S. Boulder 583-7171
TNAAPP(Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225
Tul sa County Health Department, 4616 E. 15 595-4105
Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only
743-4297
298-0827
Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, c/o The Pride Center
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc.
*Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule
*Tulsa Commumty College Campuses
*Tulsa Gay Community Center, 1307 E. 38, 74105
Unity Church of Christianity, 3355 S. Jamestown
BARTLESVILLE
743-4297
749-8833
*Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone 918-337-5353
OKLAHOMA CITY/NORMAN
*Borders Books &Music, 3209NWExpressway 405-848-2667
*Borders Books & Music, 300 Norman Center 405-573-4907
TAHLEQUAH
*Stonewall League, call for information: 918-456-7900
*Tahlequah Unitarian-Universalist Church 918-456-7900
*Green Cotmtry AIDS Coalition, POB 1570 918-453-9360
NSU School of Optometry, 1001 N. Grand
HIVtesting every other Tues. 5:30-8:30, call for dates
EUREKA SPRINGS, ARKANSAS
*Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy. 23
*Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main
DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St.
*Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St.
MCC of the Living Spring
Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429
Old Jailhouse Lodging, 15 Montgomery
Positive Idea Marketing Plans
Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East
*White Light, 1 Center St.
FA YETTEVI LLE, ARKANSAS5
*Edna’s, 9 S. School Ave.
JOPLIN, MISSOURI
*Spirit of Christ MCC, 2639 E. 32, Ste. U134
501-253-7734
501-253-7457
501-253-6807
501-253-5445
501-253-9337
501-253-2776
501-253-5332
501-624-6646
501-253-6001
501-253-4074
501-442-2845
417-623-4696
* is where you can ftndTFN. Notall areGay-ownedbutallare Gay-friendly.
Holy Union
Ceremony
Alan Williams and Gregory Casillas
celebrated a Holy Union Ceremony on
Friday, September 24, 1999, in Eureka
Springs, AR. Presiding over the intimate
union was Reverend Vivian Juett. The
commitment ceremony was witnessed by
Zoe Dearing and Nancy Ermding.
After traveling to Dallas, TX, San
Francisco, CA and Nashville, TN to
celebrate with friends and family, the
couple will reside for’a short period in
Tulsa.
Obiturary
Dr. W. Malcolm Jacox, a veterinarian
well known in the community for his
kindness and gentleness with both his
animal patients and their caregive~s, died
Sept. 22. Services were held at Floral
Haven Memorial Gardens Mausoleum on
Sept. 25. He will be greatly missed by
many both in and out of the Gay
He is survived by his family and his
longtime companion. Those who wish to
honor his memory are encouraged to
support a charity of their choice.
Condolences may be sent care of Jacox
Animal Clinic, 2732 East 15th, Tulsa
74104.
Mr. Tulsa ¯
Leather 2000
The Mr. Tulsa Leather 2000 contest was
held September 10, 1999, at the Silver
Star Saloon in Tulsa, Oklahoma.The
evening included a benefit for Miss Gay
Mid America, Catia Lee Love. Love will
participate in the Miss Gay America
contest.
Four contestants participated in the
contest: Jay Fleming, Kelly Kirby, Dayvid
Montross, and Tony Hall, all of Tulsa
Oklahoma. Themencompeted in Personal
Interview, Street Wear, Swimwear/
Physique, and Full Leather Image events.
The judging panel consisted of: Ron
Greenwood, Mike Ryan, Ed Smith, John
McCuistian, Don Lawrence, all also from
Tulsa. The tally master was James Murray,
Mr. Tulsa Leather 1997.
The winner of the contest was Jay
Fleming of Tulsa. Jay is a past "Mr Gay.
Leather Long Beach 1987" and the 20th
Elected Emperor, Greater California
Empire. Fleming will compete for the
Oklahoma Mr. Leather 2000 title on
October 22-24, 1999.
Heis an event promoter for such events
in Tulsa as Mayfest, Gatesway Balloon
Festival and chairmanof Street Party 2000;
benefiting Street School and Tulsa at risk
youth.
Contestproducer, Ric Poston,MrTulsa
Leather 1999 and the Oklahoma Mr
Leather 1999, said of Fleming, "he is an
outstanding citizen and will be a great
representative for the Tulsa Leather
Community." The first runner up was
Kelly Kirby and the 2nd runner up was
Dayvid Montross.
For more information on OML2000,
check the T.U.L.S.A. website at
WWW.TULSALEATHER.com
Editorial: Un!ted Our Way
by Tom Neal, editor andpublisher
This year is the 75th anniversary of a program of
charitable giving in Tulsa which has become known as
Tulsa Area United Way (TAUW). Tulsa’s United Way
supports some 231 programs offered by 68 member
agencies and hopes to raise over $21 million and help
perhaps 250,000individuals this year. Obviously, all this
is worthy.
For example, oneof the I’d suggest that
agencies which TAUW supports is Tulsa instead of letting
"C.A.R.E.S., formerly and" TAU~V’ sllee its tare
moreaccuratelyknown as
the HIV Resource
Consortium. Tulsa Area
UnitedWayalso funds the
Community Service
Council that manages the
Tulsa Community AIDS
Project, one of the most
effective funding sources
for fighting HIV infection
and for providing care for.
individuals with HIV
relatedillnesses. These are
worthy organizations - as
are many, many others
which TAUW funds.
However, along withthe
many good organizations
which TAUW funds is
another. Thatis the Indian
Nations Council of the
Boy Scouts ofAmerica. It
off the top, glve your
dolhrs dlreetly to
Tulsa C.A.R.E.S. or
other or~an{zatlons in
our eommunlty...
groups that really do
give a damn about
us. Let’s stop using
our dollars and those
of our families and
friends to support
United Way’s
prejudlee and
eowardlee. Let us be
unlt,~ our way.
is the official policy of the Boy Scouts, both locally and
nationally, to discriminate on the basis of sexual
orientation. They’ve been rather explicit about this.
The last time the Indian Nations Council of the Boy
Scouts of America voiced this policy locally was in
August when James Dale, a former Scout in New Jersey,
successfully challenged the BSA’s apartheid policies
under New Jersey state law and won. A local BSA
representative however reiterated-its support for BSA
prejudice.
Now as a former Boy Scout, I’m hardly hostile to the
true values of the organization. But I do not believe that
thephrase, "morally straight," ori_ginating around th_etum
of the century, ever, ever could be thought to refer to
heterosexuality, using an interpretation of the word
"straight" whichnever existed until at leas t some 60 years
later. However I recognize that it is the prerogative under
current federal, state and local law, of the BSA to engage
in invidious discrimination if it chooses to do so. It is
reprehensible behavior but it is quite legal.
However, even if this bigoted conduct is legal, there is
no justification for Tulsa Area United Way to use the
funds it receives from the community as a whole to
subsidize the systematic discrimination of the Indian
Nations Council of the Boy Scouts of America. After all,
if we were to substitute "no Jews allowed" or "no Blacks
allowed" lot"no fags allowed," I would hardy have to be
writing this essay.
Part of why TAUW still funds this apartheid
organization is an accident of history. The Boy Scouts
have been funded for most of TUAW’s existence. Back
in thoseearly days theBSA was one ofafew organizations
that did address youth issues. That is no longer so. Andin
contrast with the BSA, the Girl Scouts, for example, have
explicitly said that sexual orientation is not relevant to
participation in their organization and they have a nondiscrimination
policy.
Now if Tulsa Area United Way had a comprehensive
non-discrimination policy, they might have some greater
degree of credibilityas an organization committed to fair
treatment of all. But they don’t.
Infact, Ms. "duck’n’cover" KathleenJ. Coan, president
and chief professional officer, is so gun-shy of the issue
she’s managed not to returnphone calls to this newspaper
for nearly four years -now that’s what I call real
professional conduct (though in fairness, Ms. Coan did
take aphone call once whenTFN was calling on deadline
and her p.r. person was unavailable) But it does call into
question, Ms. Coan and TAUW’s commitment to all of
Tulsa’s communities when she seems primarily willing
to talk to non-minority news orggnizations, for example,
." The Tulsa World- not frequently known for challenging
¯ the Tulsapower establishment, often inseparable from it.
." And what is more troubling about the unexamined
¯ decision to continue to fund the Indian Nations Council
¯ of the Boy Scouts of America by TAUW is the lack of ¯
leadership from TAUW’s board of directors.
¯ A number of TAUW board members come from
¯ corporations that claim that they do not discriminate on
." sexual orientation. Foremost among these are Public
~ Service Company of Oklahoma, Dollar Thrifty
¯: Automotive Group, Inc. and Bank of America, and yet,
somehow, not one of these very highly paid and
: presumably ratberintelligent men seem to havemade the
_" connection between their own corporate policies
¯ emphasizingfairness andTAUW’s supportfor ablatantly ¯
bigoted program. Or perhaps they’vejust not"counected
." the dots." Or perhaps, they’re hoping thatnoone will ever
¯ hold them responsible. ¯
Regardless, until Tulsa Area United Way see fit to
: begin to treat Lesbian and Gay Tulsans as equal human
: beings by adding sexual orientation to its non-
,. discrimination policies and chooses not to fund
¯ organizations which discriminate, the best bet is for us to
¯ not to contribute to Tulsa Area United Way but to take
." those same dollars and to give them directly to worthy
¯ organizations.
¯ I’d suggest that instead of letting TAUW slice its take
¯ off the top, give your dollars directly to Tulsa C.A.R.E.S.
¯. or other organizations in our community, like the
¯ community center, or the Cimarron Alliance or PFLAG,
¯ groups that really do give a danm about us. Let’s stop
¯ using Our dollars and those of our families and friends to
¯ support UnitedWay’s prejudice and cowardice. Let us be
¯ united our way. ¯
TulsaFamily News editorandpublisherTomNealhas
¯ volunteeredonaUnitedWayfundsdistributioncommittee
¯ on services for semor citizens tn the Tulsa area. ¯
Unfortunately, hefound thatTulsaArea UnitedWay staff
went out of their way to censor and suppress questions
¯ about how well member agencies were serving Lesbian
¯ and Gay seniors, even when the agencies were willing to ¯
answer the questions and despite TAUW claims that
¯ their evaluationprocess is "volunteer driven." Neal also
¯ has asked to serve on the funds distribution committee
¯ which looks at the funding for the Boy Scouts Indian ¯
Nations Council but, for some reason, keeps getting
¯ reassigned to senior services - imagine that.
First and foremost, let me put your mind at rest about
¯ two of our regular columnists, our fabulous Do-It-
" Yourself-Dyke, Mary Schepers and Tulsa City-County
¯ Library book reviewer, Barry Hensley. Both columns
¯ will resume next month.
¯ An,other upcoming event is the annual World AIDS ¯
Day Memorial Service. This year’s event will be at
¯ Mount Zion Baptist Church under the auspices of the
¯ Rev. Calvin McCutchen, Sr., one of Tulsa’s most ¯
distinguished religious leaders. The date, as always will
¯ be Dec. 1st which is a Wednesday but the details of the
~ march and precise time of the service will be announced.
¯ It is expected that Council Oak Mens Chorale who had ¯
their first ever performance at a World AIDS Day
¯ Memorial Service will again lend their talents. The event
. is being co-ordinated by Diane Zike, former executive
¯ directorof Interfaith AIDS Ministries andBeverlyDenton ¯
Galbreith. For more information, call 438-2437. - TN
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Drug-resistant Strains
of AIDS Virus Rising
CHICAGO (AP) - Highly drug-resistant strains of the
AIDS virus are on the rise, showingupin as many as 4.5%
ofnewlyinfectedpatients in twonew studies. "Resistance
is slowly increasing," said Dr. Roger J. Pomerantz, an
expert not involved with either study, "If you were
looking at this five years ago, you would see zero."
The studies - published in the Journal of the American
Medical Association (JAMA) - involve mostly Gay
white men. Resistance, however, may be more prevalent
in other groups, such as drug users and their sex partners,
researchers-said.
About 40,000 new HIV infections occur yearly in the
United States. In recent years, powerful drug cocktails
have subdued the virus to undetectable levels in many
patients. But studies have found the virus persists or
comes roaring back in 10% to 50%.
The complicated drug regimen has proved difficult to
adhere to, and many patients who missed doses or quit
taking theirmedicines developed drug-resistantinfections
that are now being passed’along to others.
"I wasn’t that surprised. This is what happens in
infectious disease," said Pomerantz, director of the Center
for Human Virology at Jefferson Medical College in
Philadelphia.
HIV is still so new that scientists disagree even about
how to define resistance. And since both studies used
laboratory tests, no one really knows how the definitions
will translate into patient care. Giving high doses of a
drug may be enough to overwhelm a virus’ resistance,
Pomerantz said.
In one study, researchers at the University ofCalifornia
at San Diego defined resistance as a 10-fold increase in
HIV’s ability to withstand a drug when compared with a
laboratory strain. That study, led by Dr. Susan J. Little.
tested 141 patients - in San Diego, Los Angeles, Dallas,
Denver and Boston- and found that three (2%) had HIV
with at least 10-fold greater resistance to one or more
drugs. An additional 36 patients (26%) had HIV that was
2.5 to 10 times more resistant.
In the other study, researchers at Rockefeller University
in New York defined resistance as a threefold increase in
HIV’s ability to withstand a drug. That study, led by Dr.
Daniel Boden of the Aaron Diamond AIDS Research
Center, tested 80 subjects in New York and Los Angeles.
Of 67 in whom resistance could be tested, three (4.5%)
had HIV that was highly resistant- fivefold resistant- to
multiple drugs. The subjects were among 18 (26.8%)
with HIV that was at least threefold resistant to at least
one drug.
Testing every newly infected patientfor drugresistance
would be impractical because the tests cost several
thousand dollars and are difficult to interpret, Pomerantz
said. But if a patient takes a drug cocktail faithfully and
it isn’t working, testing should be considered to see how
the combination of medicines might be reformulated, he
said.
Don’t Go to Sleep Yet
For a while, it seemed that there mightbe a light at the end
of the tuunel of the HIV/AIDS pandemic. And for many
¯ things are better than they used to be: to become HIV
¯ positive is not immediatdy to know that your death was
likely six months away like it was in the 80s.
But the news report above from The Associated Press
¯ should slam home the message that we cannot be
¯ complacent; we must continue to educate ourselves and
¯ our children about protecting themselves against HIV
¯ infection, through all appropriate means: safer sex with
¯ its reduced risk, no sex, i.e. abstinence where appropriate
¯ and through the strengthening of longterm relationships ¯
through their legal recognition not only for heterosexuals
¯ but for Gay men and Lesbians.
¯ The best way to deal with AIDS is to prevent further
¯ infections but also to insist on adequate funding for ¯
proper care for those who are already infected and more
¯ funding for more successful treatments for AIDS.
¯ Please, please be safe, hdp those still in need and
¯ remember those whom we have lost. -Tom Neal
Accused Killer of Gay
Soldier To Stand Trial
FORT CAMPBELL, Ky. (AP) - An Army private
charged with premeditated murder in the. beating
death ofafellow FortCampbell soldierwill stand trial
at a general court-martial, the Army said Sept. 24th.
Thecharge against Pvt. CalvinN. Gloverwas referred
to court-martial by Maj. Gen. Robert T. Clark, Fort
Campbell’ s commanding gelleral. Clark reviewed an
iiiv~tigative hearing he~’d in August for Glovet and
rexx:ived recommendations from the investigating
officer, brigade commander and staffjudge advocate.
The hearing was similar to a civilian grand jury
investigation. Glover, of Sulphur, Okla.,is charged in
the death of Pfc. Ban-y L. ,Winchell, of Kansas City,
Me. No date has been set for G10ver’s courtmartial,
which will be open to the public. The courtmartial
is scheduled to be at Fort Campbell.
According to Army investigators, the 21-year-old
Winchellwas beaten with abaseball batinhis barracks
on July 5 and died the following day at Vanderbilt
University Medical Center in Nashville, Tenn. Gay
civil-rights advocates say anti-Gay sentiment m,ay
have been behind, or at least contributed to, me
ldlling. Winehell was perceived as Gay by some
soldiers in his mlit and friends contend he was
beginning to explore his homosexuality when he
Another investigative hearing was held several
weeks ago for Spec. Justin R. Fisher, who is accused
of being an accomplice in Winchell’s death. Fisher,
of Lincoln, Neb., is accused of .encouraging Glover in
the attack and lying to Army ii~qestigators about his
iiavolvement. No decision has been made yet on
whether Fisher’s case should proceed to a courtmartial,
an Army official added. Both Glover and
Fisher are being held at Fort Knox.
Gay Priest Resigns
NEWARK,N.J. (Ap)-AGaypriestwhoseordination
divided the Episcopal church has left theparish where
he ministered for six years, blaming the controversy
that surroundedhim. Rev. Barry Stopfel said the furor
strained his relationship withhis partner, andpreached
his last sermon at St. George’ s Church in Maplewood
at the end of September. "My ministry has not been a
typical one," Stopfel toldThe Star-Ledger ofNewark,
N.J. in a story published recently. "It has been deeply
gratifying but very stressful, and ithas taken its toll on
me and our marriage."
When Stopfel was ordained as a deacon in 1990,
conservative Episcopal bishops filed heresy charges
against Newark Bishop Walter Righter. Righter’s
trial was averted, but a church court in 1996 ruled that
church doctrine does not explicitly bar the ordination
of practicing homosexuals. The division, however,
remained between the church’s conservative and
liberal factions. Stopfel, 51, andhis partner aremoving
to a 25-acre farm in an Amish area of Pennsylvania,
where he said he will write a book.
Methodist Minister
Faces 2nd Church Trial
OMAHA, Neb. (AP) -The Rev. Jimmy Creech, who
faces another church trial for performing a Gay union
ceremony, said the churchlaw against suchceremonies
amounts to institutional bigotry againstGayChristians.
Reached at his Raleigh, N.C., home, Creech said he
was disappointed but not surprised with.a church
committee’s deci~i0n ordering him to stand trial.
Nebraska United Methodist Church Bishop Joel
Martinezannouncedthfit theformerNebraskaminister
will stand trial for Officiating a Chapel Hill, N.C.
ceremony fortwo meninApril.AMarch 1998 church
trial cleared Creech of violating church law for a
similar 1997 ceremony involving two women. At
least two complaints were filed as aresult of the April
ceremony. Atissuein Creech’s 1998 trial was whether
thechurch’s ban on same-sex unionswas a pastoral
guideline or church law. The church has since
established the ban is church law.
Creech said the trial will be "a detriment to the
church." "It’s a waste of time and money. The trial is
an actofviolence againstLesbians, Gays andbisexual
people," Creech said. While Creech said he admits he
violated the churchlaw byperforming the Chapel Hill
ceremony, the immorality of this law makes him
innocent of violating the order.and discipline of his
denomination, ofwhichheis accused. "I think thelaw
itself is a violation of the highest ethical standards of
the United Methodist Church," Creech said. Creech
said thechurch’ s positiononGayunions is comparable
to racism. "How can such an encumbered church
witness to the grace bf God?" he asked.
Martinez’s assistant, Rev. Mel Luetchens, said
Martinez will .appoint another bishop as presiding
authority for the case. A jury of 13 ministers will
[ecide Creech"s fate. Ministers will lead the defense
and theprosecution.Thetrial likely will beinNebraska
in the next couple of months,-Luetchens said. If
convicted Creech faces a wide range of possible
)unishments, including dismissal from the United
Methodist clergy.
Creech is on voluntary leave of absence after.
Martinezdeclined toreappointhim pastorofOmah.a’s
First United Methodist Church after the earher
controversy. He remains part of the Nebraska
conference and is answerable to Martinez.
Vermont JudgeJudged
By His Wife’s Vote
MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP) - A group opposed to
same-sex marriage; "Take it to the People," says a
VermontSupremeCourtjusticemightnotbeimpartial
as he reviews a pending case.
"Take it to the People" says the wife ofJusticeJohn
Dooley voted in June as a member of the Governor’s
Commission on Women to give an award to the three
same-sex couples who are challengxn.g Vermont
marriage law. Sandra Dooley’s vote raises questions
about whether the justice is impartial in the case now
before the Vermont Supreme Court, said Ruth
Charlesworth of Burlington, a member of the antimarriage
group. "I think it is outrageous that the wife
of the Supreme Courtjusdce should come out (with a
public stand) when this issue isn’t yet decided,"
Charlesworth said. ’‘This isn’t fair to the citizens of
Vermont."
Thecourtis considering alawsuit seeking to overtmal
the state’s refusal to issue marriage licenses to samesex
couples. Despite its concerns, ’’Take it to the
People" hasn’tformally requested thatJustice Dooley
disqualify himself from the case.
Judith Sutphen, executive director ofthe Governor’ s
Commission on Women, said Sandra Dooley has
been on the commission for 15 years. Theorganization
has supported allowing same-sex couples to marry
since. 1996 - before the lawsuit brought by two Gay
men and four Lesbian women was appealed_ to the
Supreme Court, Sutphen said.
Commissioners have the right to take independent
votes on issues, Sutphen said. "A wife has a right to
vote as she chooses, as does a husband," she said.
"The votes of one spouse don’t necessarily reflect the
. judgment or opinion of the other spouse."
"Take it to the People" argues that rules of judicial
¯ conduct sayjudges should disqualify themselves when
their spouses have interests that could be substantially
: affected by the proceeding. The lawyers at the office
." of the attorney general who are defending the state’s
mamage lawweren’t available to comment.
-" Beth Robinson, an attorney representing the three
: couples in the Supreme Court appeal, said she felt
confident the deliberations would be fair. "We have
: no reason to question Jusdce Dooley’s ability to
~ impartially judge this case on its legal merits,"
: Robinson said. "Justice Dooley and his wife are two
¯ different people with two different jobs to do."
¯ Judge Dismisses Same-
Sex Marriage Lawsuit
¯
ANCHORAGE (AP) - A judge has dismissed a
lawsuit filedby twoAnchoragemenwho claimed that
: the state’s marriage laws discriminated against them.
¯ Judge Peter Michalski took the action late in
¯ September, nearly a year after Alaska voters
¯ overwhelmingly passed a constitutional amendment
¯ limiting marriage to a union of one man and one
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Jay Brause and Gene Dugan had claimed in their
lawsuit that it was discriminatory to not allow samesex
couples the same health insurance and other
benefits that married and unmarried heterosexual
couples enjoy. It was their lawsuit that spurred the
pbtition drive that put the same-sex marriage
amendment before voters last November.
Bob Wagstaff, the lawyer representing the two
men, says the case will be appealed to the state
Supreme Court. Wagstaff says his clients’ lawsuit is
at its heart an equal-rights case, not a Gay marriage
Town Considering
Partners Registry
ASHLAND, Ore: (AP) - Same-sex couples can’t get
married in Oregon, but in this town, they may soon be
able to get registered. The City Council is likely to
consider settingupsucharegistry for domesticpartners
at its upcoming meeting Oct. 5. City Attorney Patti
Nolte said he is unaware of a similar registry in
Oregon.
The registry would allow domestic partners - two
unmarried people age 18 or older who live togetherto
document that relationship. Gay couples cannot
marry under Oregon law, which recognizes marriage
as the union of a manand a woman.
"I believe it is appropriate that AglJland, as a caring
community, should lead the way," said Neil Sechan,
speaking for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and
Transgender Political Caucus of Southern Oregon.
The local chapter of Parents, Family and Friends of
Lesbians and Gays are also backing the proposed
registry.
Mayor Cathy Shaw said she believes a registry
would have limited effect on unmarried couples,
whether heterosexual or same-sex. "I would be
incredibly proud to be mayor of a community that
provides this service," she said recendy. "I am a great
believer in the institution of marriage... I understand
why this community is asking us to do this -.how
importantit.is to be able to celebrate in an official way
your commitment to another person.’"
Rosemary Dunn Dalton, also speaking for the
caucus, said a registry would let unmarried couples
establishrelationships for purposes ofvisitation rights
in hospitals and other institutions. She said a registry
would provide proof of partnership for businesses
offering benefits to domestic partners.
The Oregon Court ofAppeals decided last year that
if local governments offer benefits to domestic
partners, they cannot deny benefits to same-sex
couples because of the constitutional guarantee of
equal protection. The court did not nile on Oregon’s
legal definition of marriage. Ashland is among the
local governments that have extended benefits to
same-sex couples to comply with the ruling.
A proposed ballot measure, to write the definition
of marriage into the state constitution and bar benefits
to unmarried couples, died in the 1999 Legislature.
Albuquerque To Vote
On Discrimination Ban
ALBUQUERQUE (AP) - Lillian Mueller says she
Gays in Albuquerque have lost their jobs and been
denied housing because of their sexual orientation.
Mueller, the mother of a Gay son and president of the
local chapter of Parents, Families and Friends of
Lesbians and Gays, has formed a new group called
TheCampaignforHumanRights. The group’s purpose
is to mobilize support for a proposed amendment to
the Albuquerque city charter that would add sexual
orientation and mental disability to the antidiscrimination
section.
The issue will be on the Oct. 5 municipal election
ballot. The charter now bans discrimination based on
race, religion, sex and national origin. "It’s not a
question of special rights," she said. "It’s a question
of equal rights.’"
Butthe Christian Coalition ofNew Mexico strongly
opposes the charter amendment because it believes
"the Gay lifestyle" is wrong. Mark Burton, Christian
Coalition executive director, said his group will alert
people in voters guides that go to about 300 churches.
"It’s not a behavior that we want to have a
nondiscrimination policy for," he said. "It’s a health
haTard. It spreads AIDS, sexually transmitted diseases,
so there’s no reason to endorse a behavior that’s
dangerous and hazardous."
Albuquerque added a human rights section to its
charter in the early 1970s. The state Legislature in
March rejected a bill that would have outlawed
discrimination based on sexual orientation. It was the
"third time such a measure was killedin the House. The
bill would have expanded the state’s Human Rights
Act to cover sexual orientation, malting it il!egal’to
discriminate on that basis in matters of empld’yment,
housing, credit, public-accommodations and’union
membership.
Eleven states and more than 170 local governments
include sexual orientation in their nondiscrimination
statutes, supporters Of the bill say. The cify of
Albuquerque bars Such discrimination against its
employees and when providing public services.
Alleged Killers of Gay
Men Must Stand Trial
REDDING, Calif. (AP) - Two brothers accused of
murdering a Gay couplemust stand trial and may face
the deathpenalty ifconvicted, ShastaCounty Superior
Court Judge James Ruggiero has ruled.
Benjamin M. Williams, 31, and James T. Williams,
29, will each be tried on two counts of murder and
related charges. The brothers are accused of killing
Gary Matson, 50, and Winfield Scott Mowder, 40, in
July. They are also suspects in June arson fires that
caused more than $1 million in damage to three
Sacramento-area synagogues. Matson and Mowder
were found shot to death in their bed July 1 in rural
Happy Valley, about 165 miles north of Sacramento.
The Williams brothers, being held without bail,
have pleaded innocent to first-degreemurder and four
robbery, burglary and auto theft charges. The judge
ruled that prosecutors can seek the death penalty, a
decision that hasn’t been made.
Prep School Attacker
Free Until Trial
GREENFIELD, Mass. (AP) - A Tennessee youth
accused of using a knife to cut anti-Gay slur into the
back of a fellow prep school student can continue
college classes while awaiting trial, a judge said.
Matthew Rogers, 20, of Franklin, Tenn., pleaded to
charges of assault with a dangerous weapon.
Franklin Superior Court Judge Lawrence Wemick
continued bail at $10,000 cash or $50,000 bond on
condition Rogers live with his parents or at the
University of Mississippi where he is taking classes.
Before his arrest, Rogers had held an appointment to
the U.S. Naval Academy.
Rogers and another student at the Northfield Mount
Hermon School, Jonathan Shapiro, 18, of Keene,
N.H., were initially charged in Greenfield District
Court following the May 27 incident. The two are
accused of slashing the word "HOMO" in shallow
cuts on the back of a 17-year-old student during a
dispute over music. Authorities said no one actually
believed the victim was Gay. The argument arose
over the rock band Queen and the characterization of
its music as "Gay."
Promoters of Community
Center To Respond
ELK CITY, Idaho (AP) - Promoters of a community
education and performing~center expect to respond
to charges by critics of the ~roposed c~nter who fear
it could be used by homosexuals and become a place
where teen-age girls get abortions. Plans to build the
center have created division in the town of about 400
in remote Idaho County. Objections to the center
range from locating it on school property to the fear
homosexuals will use it to stage performances and
teen-age girls getting abortions there. Critics have
said since the center would be on public land there
could not be restrictions placed on who uses it.
New AIDS Drug
SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - A medicine
developed in North Carolina that blocks
the AIDS virus from getting inside cells is
showing promise among patients whofail
to respond to standard AIDS drugs. The
medicine, code-named T-20, is still in
early-stage testing, but researchers said it
could offer a reprieve for those who have
run out of options.
"It looks quite good," said Dr. Michael
Saag of the University of Alabama. "We
are looking at something with a.totally
different method of. action. It is an
important, potent new option."
T~20 was discovered at Duke
University. It is being developed by
Hoffmatm-La Roche Inc. and Trimeris
Inc., a small biotech company in Durham,
N.C.
Thedrug is the furthest along of a new
class of AIDS medicines called fusion
inhibitors. They work by thwarting the
virus’s ability to fuse with blood cells and
insert their genetic material into them.
However, the treatment has one large
drawback compared with other AIDS
drugs: Instead of being a pill, it must be
injected twice daily. Nev~rtbeless, Saag
said patients in advanced stages of AIDS
are willing to give themselves shots, and
they seem to tolerate the drug well.
The results were reported by Dr. Jay
Lalezari of Quest Clinical Research in
SanFrancisco atameeting ofthe.,Aga,erican
Society for Microbiology.
Other AIDS drugs work principally by
thwarting the virus’s ability to stitch its
genetic material into cells it has invaded
orbyblocking its ability to dispersemature
copies of itself.
Doctors gave T-20 to 55 people who
had high levels of the AIDS virus despite
trying many different combinations of
AIDS medicines. While these standard
drugs have proved to be life savers for
many with AIDS, they do not work for all
patients.
Doctors administered T-20 in
combinationwith other drugs, eventhough
the patients’ HIV was resistant to the
older medicines. After four months of
treatment, virus levels fell significantly in
33 of the volunteers. In 20 of them, the
virus fell to levels too low to bemeasured.
Saag cautioned that the treatment is
unlikely to work forever. But he said
doctors hope it will dday rebound of the
virus for perhaps-a year.
T-20 is part of the protein thatmakes up
the AIDS virus’ outer coat. Ordinarily it
comes into play with another peptide- T-
21 - as the AIDS vinm grabs onto blood
cells andprepares to enter them. Scientists
found that flooding the body with extra
copies of T-20 gums up this attachment
process,
Another AIDS study released at the
meeting found that treatment very early in
the course of an AIDS infection does not
wipe out the virus entirely, as some had
hoped.
Dr. Martin Markowitz of the Aaron
Diamond AIDS Research Center in New
York City reported on four patients who
started treatment within seyen to 90 days
of catching HIV. All signs of their virus
disappeared, andthey chose to stop therapy
after three years:
Thevirus reappeared within two to three
weeks, One patient went back on
treatment, but the three others stayed off.
After shooting up, their virus levds fell
again to low butdetectable levds.
Researchers said the results raise the
possibility that in such situations, the
¯ body’s immune system may be able to
¯
k~p I-HV in check without completely
eliminating it. Are You Gay or Bisexual?
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: ROBINSVILLE, Miss. (AP) - U.S. ¯ SurgeonGeneralDavidSatcherhasissued Support Group is here for you!
¯ a warning about the health of America’s
¯ children. Satcher, speaking to a health ¯ Evening support group meetings
: association recently in Tunica County,
¯
said children are growing fatter, lazier,
¯ Relationship workshops
¯ more sexually active and increasingly ¯ Short trips, outings and retreats
¯ addicted to toxic substances. ¯ Free HIV testing
¯ Satcher, former president of Meharry
¯ Medical College in Nashville, .Tenn.,
-spoke tO 400 public health care workers
¯ and advocates at the annual meeting of the
¯ Mississippi Public Health Association.
¯ Regarding the disparity in health care,
¯ Satcher said that in the last 10 years
minorities, women and children have
: fallen behind in many areas.
¯ Satcher said progress has been made in
¯ dealing with infectious diseases and there
¯ has been a decrease in the number of ¯
cancer cases, injury-related deaths and
¯
adult smokers. However, the munber of
: teen-age smokers has risen_rapidly, Satcher
¯ said.
Obesity has become a virtual epidemic
¯ among both adults and children, Satcher
said. The current generation of children
¯ and teen-agers is the most inactive the
¯
country has ever had.
One of the results of that inactivity has
¯ been an increase in Type 2 diabetes in
¯ children. In the past, physicians were told
never to look for Type 2 in individuals
¯ - under40 years old, Satcher said. Now, the
disease is occurring in children under the
age of 10. Emphasis must be placed on
physical activity and on diet, Satcher said.
The American diet consists mainiy offats
and sugars, he said. In one year, the average
American will consume 156 pounds of
added sugar.
Weneedto promotehealthy lifestyles,
Satcher said. "We need to promote
physical activities. We need to promote
nutrition and avoidance of toxins like
tobacco, alcohol and illicit drugs. We
need to promote responsible sexual
behavior."
40% of college students and 30% of
high school students are binge dri.nking,
Satcher said. That has contributed to an
increase m automobile accidents and
irresponsible ~exual behavior.
"Weneed to talkmorewith ourchildren
aboutwhatit means tobesexually active,"
Satcher said. "When we don’ t teach sex in
¯ the schools, at home and in the churches,
¯ but they do teach it out on the streets or ¯
after school when there are no adults
¯ around, our children aren’t going to
¯ become responsible, sexual adults."
¯ His warning was directed not just to
teen-agers, but to all people. Every day,
16,000 peoplebecomeinfected with HIV,
¯ the virus that causes AIDS. In the years
: since the disease’s discovery, HIV has
¯ infected 50 million people and resultedin
14 million AIDS-related deaths.
¯ "In my opinion AIDS is the worst
: epidemic since the plague of the 14th
: century or maybe the influenza epidemic
," of 1918," Satcher said. "AIDS is
: increasingly a disease o,,f people of color,
¯ women and the young.
: African Americans account for almost
: 50% of new cases; Hispanics, 20%; and
¯ women, 25%. Not enough is being done
¯
to prevent the disease, Satcher said, even
though people know how to stop the
¯ spread.
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Detroit AIDS Walk
DETROIT (AP) - Federal AIDS czar
SandyThurmanandMayorDennis Archer
led thousands of walkers in a fund-raising
event for programs that help treat people
infected with the deadly disease. The
Detroit event was one of 12 statewide
sponsored by AIDS Walk Michigan.
"Walk on walkers!" Thurman shouted
to cheering participants at Hart Haza,
where the3.1-milewalkbeganandca_rex!..
Many held helium balloons and signs
with messages such as "AIDS has many
faces."
Despite the cheery atmosphere and
warm sunshine,Thurman broughta chilly
message about the disease, which she said
will have infected 100 million people
worldwide by 2005. "We’re at the
beginning of an epidemic, not the end of
an epidemic, with no vaccine, no cure,"
she told reporters before the walk began.
"It’s not going to be over next week. It’s
not going to be over in 10 years. It’s
probably not going to be over in my
lifetime.’"
A sign of hope is the success of anti-
AIDS drugs that are keeping thousands of
people infected with the HIV virus free
from symptoms. ButinmanyThirdWorld
natxon~, including much of AIDSdecimated
Africa, the medicines remain
unaffordable and the publichealth system
inadequate, she said.
This is the second year of a coordinated
AIDS WalkMichigan. Lastyear, 10 walks
statewide raised $2~0,000,
This year, walks also tookplace Sunday
inAnnArbor, BerrienCounty, Flint,Grand
Rapids, Holland-Saugatuck, Kalamazoo,
Lansing, Muskegon, Port Huron,
Saginaw-Midland-Bay City and Traverse
City.
But organizers sdid/he ~)etro’it event
was particularly important because of the
high rate of AIDS in the city. With about
10% of the state’s population, Detroit has
nearly half of the reported AIDS cases,
they said.
"It’s the No. 1 killer of young African-
American males and the No. 2 killer of
young black females," said Detroit
Episcopal Bishop R. Stewart Wood Jr. as
he set out on the walk.
Wood’s diocese, which has 35,000
members from Lansing to the Ohio line,
has not been immune from the effects of
AIDS.
"Every one of our congregations has
been touched by AIDS - members or
loved-ones who have the disease. We’ve
lost two of our clergy to AIDS," he said.
Teresa and Bill Snell came in from
Wayne County’s Redford Township to
walk in this year’s walk, taking turns
pushing 15-month-olddaughter Courtney
in a three-wheeled jogger’s stroller.
They raised a total of $49, most in
pledges of $2 to $3, for their part in the
walk. The 20 walkers from Mrs. Shell’s
agency, the Detroit Hispanic Development
Corp., raised $1,500 for. the fight, against
AIDS. "It affects so many people and
families around you," she said. "I don’t
know anyone who has died,.of AIDS, but
I do know that it is something that affects
all kinds of people," her husband said.
"It’s something that’s got to be stopped."
Award Given to
African Groups
NEW YORK (AP) - The world’s largest
humanitarian prize - $1 million - was
awarded to an organization whose
accomplishments include bringing health
care to the Maasai and Turkana, two of
Africa’s nomadic tribes.
The Conrad N. Hilton Humanitarian
Prize, awarded to the African Medical
and Research Foundation, will give the
organization funds it needs for additional
work in AIDS and malaria prevention. It
will also helppay to trainmore health care
workers.
’q’his million will go along way and it
will allow us tokeepmanyprojects afloat,"
saidJohn R. Batten, director ofthe Nairobi,
Kenya-based AMREF, who accepted the
prize at a ceremony in New York on
Tuesday.
Startedin 1957as aprogram thathelped
needy Africans get specialized medical
care- particularly reconstructive surgery
- AMREF now provides health care
services to 21 African countries. Programs
are run from offices in Kenya, Tanzania,
Uganda and South Africa. This year’s
budget was $19 million.
Over the years, AMREF built a twoway
radio network that boosted hospital
communications in East Africa,
spearheaded the use ofinsecticide-treated
mosquito nets to reduce childhoodmalaria
deaths and performed more than 40,000
operations.
It also has trained thousands of health
care workers and specialists and brought
services to the most remote corners of
Africa, including to tribes that roam the
continent.
What sets AMREF apart from most
international non-governmental organizations
is that more than 95% of its
employees are Africans.
’q’he approach we use in tackling all of
theseproblems is community-based," said
Peter Muchiri Ngatia, director for
AMREF’s Uganda office. "Some
prdl~lems "in A~r~ca, such as AIDS and
HIV, areaggravatedby cultural practices."
Much of the prize, which will be spent
over three years, will be directed at two of
Africa’s biggest killers - AIDS and
malaria.
"AMREF’s success in building an
African-led and African-run health care
system that is accessible to all provides a
strong model for aid agencies around the
world," said Barron Hilton, chairman of
Hilton Hotels Corp. and a board member
of the Conrad N. Hilton Foundation.
AMREF was selected out of 225
nominations made by members of the
international community, including
diplomats, foundation leaders and
academics.
Once nominations are made, the Hilton
foundation researches the organization
and performs On-site visits. After that,
selections go to an independent
international jury.
Last year, Medecins Sans Frontieres,
or Doctors Without Borders - the largest
independent international medical aid
organization - won the prize.
¯ Feds Pushingf0r
: Name"Reporting
¯ FRANKFORT, Ky~ (AP):-, The General
¯
Assembly could be asked to require
: doctors treating people infected with the
: virus that causes AIDS to report them by
¯ name. It is the only way to ensure that
: federal money for AIDS treatment and
" program keeps flowing, a task force’s
~ reasoning goes.
: "The practicality is this," Dr. Anna
¯ Huang, see Health, p. 11
byJames Christjohn, entertainmentQueen
By the time you read this, the film will
be gone (thanks toWoodlandHills Cinema
for bringing it to us!), but as it will be a
great stocking stuffer - no catty remarks,
please - I will review it for your reading
pleasure anyway. And since I’ve never
worried about timeliness
before, why start now?
"Get Real" was a
wonderful film about a 16
year old Gay boy in
England, and the process
of "coming out" - he runs
into an older boy at his
school, and they find
themselves in "love", or
what seems to be love.
Only one problem: The
older boy is ashamed of
his Gayness, and wants
everything kept "hushhush."
Needless to say, many
poignant moments ensue,
all of which rang true for
me and the other person
viewing the film with me.
Much was true to life,
although much of it was kind of "what if
I had come out at 16 instead of 21"
speculation for me. I was a late bloomer,
what can I say? Speaks a lot for "the
environment.
At any rate, I found the film absorbing
and realistic, in many aspects. As my
friendpointed out, "Yes, but there were so
many’cinematicmoments.’ "Myresponse
was, "yes -and ? - life is made of
’cinematic moments.’ Sometimes we’re
lucky enough to havelots of them." I
pointed out several ’cinematic moments’
that we shared that he’d forgotten, and he
conceded the point.
He also took umbrage with the ending,
whichwas realistic. (Warning: Don’tread
beyond this point to the next paragraph if
you haven’t seen it and don’t want it
spoiled)
He wanted a more romantic ending
¯ (ironic, given his criticism only moments
before of the "cinematic moments"). The
¯¯ boys split, our hero deciding against a
futurebased on deceptionand hiding with
: one so.uncomfortable with himself.
¯ To me, that was a happy ending - he
: was strong enough to standup for whathe
believed, both in a public
And of course, no
column written by
yours truly would
be complete
without a
mention of
"You Know Who."
And if you
don’t know, then
you’ve not been
reading this
seetion regularly,
now have you?
and personal sense, and
wasn’t willing to "settle"
for less.
Yes, the sappy ending
myfriendproposedwould
have been ok, and his
rationalewas that so many
mowes with Gay
characters end up with
depressing endings that
he’d have liked to have
seen an alternate ending
where both come out and
live happily ever after.
Yeah, maybe it. would
have been nice, but I
applaud the author and
producer’s strength to
stick with this ending.
And to me, it was a
happy ending of sorts. All
¯ depends on perspective, I suppose. At any
¯ rate, The activg was top-notch, the ¯
characters were real, and it is definitely a
¯ film destined to be at the top of my DVD
¯ wish list."
: "Beauty and the Beast" ended its run on
¯ aninterestingnot.e.Abeautifulproduction,
¯ albeit with sometechnieal difficulties (the.
: first week’s shows were in reality
: "previews", in which technical errors are
: more or less expected and worked out)
¯ such as bad timing on the lighting,
¯ °
reveahngcharacter’ s "di° sappearances"to
¯ beactors running inand out oflights when
¯ it should bedark, beasts transforming into
: princes and getting stuck in mid-
’ transformation by malfunctioning
¯ "magic" ("this spell canceled due to
¯ technical difficulties") and mysterious
¯ illnesses taking out cast members.
". see Beast, p. 14
by the Helmerich Foundation
October 16, 22 & 24
Tulsa Perf:oming Arts
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for tickets.
OKLAHOMA
T 0 H R
by John Curran
ATLANTIC CITY - The flowers and
dime-store crown were real. Nearly
everything else was fake, from the
eyelashes to thecleavage tothetip-synched
songs.
WelcometoAtlantic City’ s otherbeauty
pageant, the one for men dressed in drag.
Seven blocks and a world away from the
stage where Miss America 2000 was
crowned, the Miss’d America Pageant
lampooned its famous older sister with a
raucous, gender-bending spoof funny
enough to bust a girdle.
Held annually on the night after Miss
America’s crowning, Miss’d America
provides a sarcastic antidote to the applepie
sincerity of the real pageant. The
swimsuit competition? A display of
chunky thighs and muscular arms. The
musical production numbers? Over-thetop
atrocious. The evening wear contest?
Outright hysterical.
The only serious thing Sunday was the
cause: Theeventraisedmorethan $15,000
for support programs run by the South
Jersey AIDS Alliance. "It’s the wildest
show this side of the Boardwalk," said
Bill Mattel, the alliance’s former chief
executive.
Wild, indeed. There was Miss Sallotta
¯ Tea, who squeezed 240 pounds into a
: sequined black cocktail dress and opera-
" length black gloves. Down the runway
¯ wentMissTea, pushing acartloadedwith ¯
goodies and warbling a versionofthe title
: song from the musical "Cabaret." "Life is
¯ abigb,uf,fet, myfriend. Socometothebig
buffet, sang Miss Tea.
¯
Then there was Miss Tenee, a 6-foot-3
: inch, 205-pounder, who began a talent
¯ segment in a purple Afro wig and brown ¯
velour dress. That soon disappeared,
: revealing a silk chemise. Miss Tenee won
: the crown, was given a dozen roses and
¯ headeddown the bulb-adornedrunway as
¯
the crowd sang a reworked version of
". "There She Is," the Miss Americastandard.
¯ The capacity 600-person crowd was a ¯
mix of Gay and straight, casino workers
and local politicians, Miss America
¯ Pageant hairstylists and female
¯ impersonators. ,
Not that there wasn t some authenticity
¯
to the proceedings. Miss America 1998
: Kate Shindle, who spent her reign
¯ promoting AIDS advocacy and needle
: exchanges, sang "My Man" during the
: show. "As far as I’m concerned, what’s
: any pageant without a former Miss
¯ Whatever singing StreisandT’ she said.
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Exposition
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Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Community of Hope (Welcoming), Service - 6pm, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800
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Service - 1 lain, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595 (Welcoming)
Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist
Service - 1 lain, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314
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Service, l lain, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
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Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210b So. Norwood
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Mass - 1 lain, 205 W. King (east of N. Denver), Info: 582-3088
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Services: 9:15 & 11:00 am, 3355 S. Jamestown, 749-8833
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Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551
Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals - call for times, info: 748-3888.
I~"TUESDAYS
AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, call for next meeting date. 1430 S. Boulder, 585-5551
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Urban League, 240 East Apache, 584-0001
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Tuesdays, 6 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297
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Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
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TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632.
Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft.
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Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral
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Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
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I~" FRIDAYS
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~" SATURDAYS
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Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd t, ~i~ _
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T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info:298-0827
Gal-A-Vanting, Women~ Social & Cultural Group
Call for info: Kathy at 322-6322, or Barb at 459-6825.
OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Long rides & short ddes from
Zeigler Park. Long & short rides from Tulsa Gay Commtmity Center. Write for info:
PUB 9165. Tulsa, OK 74157
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by George Bria
POUND RIDGE, N.Y. (AP) - Gardening
~njoys suchaserenereputation thatgetting
njure~ at it seems almost laughable: Yet
anoverzealous greenthumbcanalsomean
a sore elbow.
Thecasualtyhsts are. swelled, ofcourse,
by the power eqmpment
ix~juries oaten stiffered through
¯ in’attention or failure to wear
,:protective gear~ But.whatwe’re
talking about here is soreness,
strains and sprains.
A common ailment is
tendonitis. You can get tennis
elbow just pulling weeds, the
repetitive squeezing motion
inciting inflzmmation.
Back muscle spasm is
another trauma that threatens
the wheelbarrow lifter or the
person who bends abruptly or
improperly to perform some
taskinflowerbed or vegetable
patch. Sometimes it just
happens without an easily
pinpointed cause.
Having suffered both these
: abdominal muscles," Pearlman says. "In
¯ essence, thesemuscles act as"guy wires,"
¯ to keep your baekmhne. She prescn
a series of abdominal strengthening
: exercises and also exercises to condition
¯ other muscles related to the back.
: If, in spite of all this, back spasm
suddenly strikes, Pearlman
says stop your garden work
immediately, head for the
house and lie down on an ice
pack for 20 minutes. That’s
just a beginner. Then do some
exercises and maybe take a
pain reliever. Repeat the
sequence four or five tames
during the first day. In two or
three days you should be
better, she says, and if not,
think of going to a doctor.
Pearlman prescribes a
variety of push-ups and
weight-lifting exercises to
-strengthen arms. One. way to
strengthen hands, she says, is
repetitive squeezing of a
semisoft rubber ball.. Aside
from strengthening exercises,
"Lets get
down to earth
and be real;’
Pearlman says,
"gardening is
an active,
contact "sport."
"When is the
last time you
sat still in your
garden?"
- Barbara
Pearlman
ailments from my gardening, I can testify :
they’re just as painful as if you got them "
on the tennis court, as I did, or from some °
other sport or at work. To add to potential
miseries, a bad elbow you got in tennis
might heal only to flare up again in the
garden. Tendonitis can hit the shoulder,
too,andoften does. There are conditioning
exercises youcan do, andprobably should
do, to prevent injuries, but in my
experience inflanu~tory ailments like
tendonitis sometimes seem to happen
willy-nilly.
One day you’re fine after w.eedigg an,d.
anotherday you develop pain tlaat doesn t
go away. The same thing happens to a
pitcher or a hard-serving teums player
despite conditioning. Proven therapies,
involving drugs, exercises or even surgery,
exist to heal such injuries but preventing
them from happening in the first place is
something else.
Nevertheless, suggestions exist, and a
good book has just come out aimed at
conditioning youto minimize the chances
of getting hurt while gardening.
"Gardener"s Fitness" by Barbara
Pearlman (Taylor Publishing Co., $12.95,
paperback), a Manhattan fitness expert
and a gardener, prescribes exercises,
proper posture and attire and relaxation
teclmiques. The 151-page book contains
easy-to-follow instructions and helpful
illustrations.
"Lets get down to earth and be real,"
Pearlman says, "gardening is an active,
contact "sport." "When is the last time
you sat still in your garden?" she asks, "If
you’re not hauling heavy rocks, you’re
pushing a wheelbarrow, toting tools,
dragging the hose, or whacking weeds.
You’re in perpetual motion, unless of
course your idea of gardening is planting
:apot of~etunias orp~msies onyourpaso?’
Pearlman identifies tlie body parts mat
workhardestinthe garden as arms,: ,,l~ees,
hands "and, abov,~ all, your back,. Back
pain,"shesays,~s the gardener sbugaboo.
Unless your back is made of steel (in
which case, youprobably can’.t g.etinto ,al,1
the contorted positions gardemng cans
for) at some point during the season, your
back is bound to protest."
’The very best defense against back
painis agoodoffense, whichmeans strong
knee fitness involves proper squatting in
the garden, Pearlman says. This means
keeping your heels flat, otherwise far
: much pressure is placed on your knees."
: "Knowing how to bend over andhow to
¯¯ lift an object (or yourself) the correctway
is crucial to gardening," Pearlman says.
: ’The chance of straining your back is far
: greater if youneglect tobendyourknees."
¯ When carrying things, she says, "you ¯
should use the strongest and largestjoints
and muscles (those in your arms) for the
." job to avoid direct pressure on your
¯ smallestjointsandweakestmuscles (those
: in your hands and fingers.)"
¯ "There is a right way and a wrong way
¯
to move when you garden and malting th,e,
¯ right moves makes good garden sense,’
". Pearlman says. "It’s as simple as that."
::
:DonationsRejected
¯ JOHANNESBURG, South Mrica (AP)-
¯ A provincial blood donor service has
¯ started turning away black blood donors
¯ between 18 and 35 years because of the
: high risk of infection from AIDS and
¯ other diseases, E-TV reported in
: September.
¯ Eric Saunderson, head of the Natal
BloodTransfusion Service, confirmedthat
the agency is importing blood from
Hollandand theWestern Cape, a province
with a lower rate of HIV infections.
¯ "Ourresponsibility is to thepatient, and
¯ it’s the right of every patient to have the ¯
safest blood possible," Saund~rson said
¯ in the television interview.
¯ Ronald Louw, a spokesman from the ¯
Gay and Lesbian Coalition, denounced
the practice of apartheidblood collection.
¯ ’q’his is discrimination," he said.
¯ About 8% 0f all South Africans are ¯
HIV positive,~a rate that reaches up to
¯
25% in some communities in KwaZulu-
¯ Natal, where the Natal service is located,
¯ and elsewhere in the country. But a racial
: breakdown of the infection rate was not
¯ known.
Black Blood
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by Anthony Breznican
Associated Press Writer
LOS ANGELES (AP) - The aggressive
roles of men in sports, movies and
television can cause boys to equate
violence with masculinity,
according to a report released
today byachildren’s advocacy
group.
A survey of 1,200 boys,
ranging from 10- to 17-yearsold,
revealed their favorite
entertainment often depicts
brutality as a heroic way to
solve~problems, said Harvard
psychologistWilliam Pollack,
who helped analyze the study
for ChildrenNow. "It’s gender
straight-jacketing," Pollack
said. ’q~hese boys believe that
in order to be a real man- like
the ones in the media - they
have to be violent and
aggressive."About74%ofthe
characters and sports figures
viewed by the participants
committed brutal or defiant
acts or demonstrated antisocial
behavior such as
ridiculing or lying, Pollack
said.
The study was released at the start ofthe
group’ s anntml conferencein Los Angeles.
Children Now, an independent advocacy
group for children in Oakland, plans to
use the findings to call on entertainment
executives to promote a more
compassionate image of men, said Lois
Salisbury, president of the organization.
According to Ms. Salisbury, the
kickboxing crimefighter on "Walker,
Texas Ranger" on CBS and the
sensationalized crashes and arrests on
Fox’s "World’s Wildest Police Videos"
were among the worst for reinforcing
negative stereotypes ofauthoritativemen.
"Theyjust glorify heavy-handed tactics,"
she said.
She also speculated that professional
wrestling’s blend of scantily dad women
a University ofLouisville assistantmedical
professor, said: without federal money,
only people with insurance will have
access to the relatively few doctors with
experience in AIDS treatment.
"I think we’re at a point the legislation
needs tobe considered,"Huangsaidduring
a public hearing by the legislature’s Task
"It’s gender
straightjacketing,"
Pollack said.
"These boys
believe that in
order to be a
real man - llke
the ones in the
media - they
have to be
violent and
aggressive."
- William
Pollack
: and muscle-bound fighters could cause
¯ relationship problems for adolescent boys
"_ who might imitate the behaviors they see
¯ acted out by the wrestlers when trying to
: woo women. ’The image is that men are
meant to be defined by anger
and violence and power and
sex," Ms. Salisbury said.
’There is very little roomfor a
range of behaviors such as
compassion and
compromise."
She points to ABC’s ’¢Fhe
Drew Carey Show" as an
example ofaprogram that has
very little violence and draws
itshumorfrom the crew-cutted
comedian’s portrayal of
schlepping throughamundane
job. "He’s stuck in ajob that’s
going nowhere and the whole
basis (of the show) is that he is
¯ . . a loser," Ms. Salisbury
said. "That tells boys that the
only place to be is at the top.
Otherwise, you’re to be
laughed at."
Michael J. Gerson, a
psychologist and lecturer at
Loyola Marymount
University, criticized Children Now for
¯¯ drawing what he characterized as an
elementary conclusion about the effects
¯ of media violence on young people.
¯ "Researchers canunderestimate the ability
of children to make distinctions between
¯ fantasy andreality,"Gerson said.’~A child
¯ may s~oot his fingers like a gun, but he
doesn t have to develop a killer mentality
¯ or wish to be destructive." i-iowever,
¯ Gerson saidChildren Now was correct in ¯
proposing that the blending of sex and
¯
violence can confuse adolescents who
¯ should instead associate gentleness with
¯ intimacy. "I do object to movies where the
¯ girl and the guy get into the back seat of
¯
the car and a Miler pops out and cuts them
¯ in half with a chain saw," Gerson said.
¯ "That can cause problems."
Force on HIV/AIDS Prevention, Services "
and Financing. "
Thirty-three states require people !
infected with HIV, the human ¯
immundeficiency virus, to be reported by "
name. The federal government is :
pressuring all other states, including ¯
Kentucky, to follow suit. Those that balk ¯
could lose federal funding for AIDS, the "
task force says in a report. ."
The recommendation brought a fierce ¯
response aboutprivacy-evenamong task "
force members - at the public hearing. "I "
call it blackmail," said Barry .Norris, a ,"
task force member from Louisville. But, ¯
Norris asked, what choice does Kentucky "
have. Do we just not take themoney9... °
¯ Do we make a principled stand?" Jeff ."
Vessels, executive director of the ¯
American Civil Liberties Union in "
Kentucky, said states should challenge
the federal agencies. "It’s a terrible thing
that we have to sacrifice so much privacy
in the name of money," Vessels said.
An AIDS patient said the stigma of the
disease would drive many people
underground. "For the fear of reporting
their names, they simply will not go get
tested," Michael Seidler of Louisville
testified.
Thestate keepsrecords ofAIDS patients
by name, but not of people infected with
ttIV..For that reason, the state’ s reports of
HIV infection are considered suspect by
federal record keepers at the Centers for
Disease Control. Mollie’Adkins, of the
Kentucky Department for Public Health,
said name reporting is the most reliable
way yet found to ensure cases are not
duplicated and statistics are not inflated.
Names would he maintained, in a state
database, not passed along to the CDC.
The task force also says the legislature
should restrict access to the information
and enact stiff penalties for breaches.
Seidler, the AIDS patient, said that was
wishful thinking. Computer hackers got
into Florida’s HIV-test database, he said.
"Ifyoucan guarantee somethinglike that’ s
not going to happen..." Seidler said, "by
all means go outand get tested yourselves."
by Esther Rothblum, Ph.D.
Do Lesbians drink more alcohol than
heterosexual women? In the not-toodistant
past, the Lesbian bar
was one of the only places " ~ome d the
where Lesbians could go to
early studies
meet other women. On the
otherhand,many Lesbianbars su~,rested that
h~iVe Closed down, indicating
Pdr.einrhkainpgs lt~hsast aLndeshbaivaensot-haerer- upd-toLoensblei~atnhlsrdplaces
to socialize,
To find out more about
Lesbians and alcohol-use, I
interviewedDr. TondaHughe~
in the Department of Nursing
at the University of Illinois at
Chicago. ,Some of the early
studies suggested that up .to
one third of Lesbians were
serious alcohol abusers," she
said, "but often these
researchers collected their data
from Lesbians in bars. So itis
not surprising that this method
found a large number of
Lesbians who were heavy
drinkers. I think that that is
why we have the bdief that
Lesbians are atriskfor alcohol
abuse."
Nevertheless, Dr. Hughes
believes that Lesbians drank
more than heterosexual
women in the 1960s and 70s.
"Lower rates of drinking
among Lesbians now is partly
due to changes in drinking in
the whole population, to more
health consciousness, and to
the AIDS crisis, which has
alertedus to the risks ofalcohol
and drug use," she said. She
also felt that Lesbians used to
drink more during the coming
out process, in order to deal
with social anxiety and stigma
involved in meeting other women and
coming to terms with being a Lesbian.
In a study conducted in Chicago, New
York City, and Minneapolis/St. Paul in
the mid-1980s with more than Lesbians,
Lesbians overall were no more likely to
reportalcohol-relatedproblems than we.re °
heterosexual women. Only Lesbians in
the 50-60 year old age range reported ¯
more alcohol problems than did their "
heterosexualcounterparts. Dr. Hughes has ¯
conductedaseries of studies withLesbians "
and heterosextml women that focus on °
various mental health factors, including ¯
alcohol use and abuse.
Her results indicate that Lesbians these "
days are no more likely to drink heavily "
than are heterosexual women. In fact,--
Lesbians were more likely to report ¯
abstaining from alcohol altogether for the "
past year than were heterosexual women.."
Most of the Lesbian and-heterosexual ¯
womeninher sample drank alcohol at low "
levels. White Lesbians, however, drank "
morethandid AfricanAmericanor Latina ¯
Lesbians.
"Interestingly, there are more Lesbians ."
who report that they are in recovery, "
though" she added. Only 2% of."
heterosexual womenhadbeenin treatment
for alcohol or in 12-step programs,
compared with 17% of Lesbians--a large "
difference. This may be the result of prior ¯
heavy drinking among Lesbians. Or it "
may be thht Lesbians are more aware of "
were serious
alcohol
abusers~~
she said, ’but
often these
researchers
co||ected tbelr
data [rom
Lesblans ;n
bars. So it’s
not surprlslng
that this
method [ound
o[ Lesbians
who were
heavy drinkers.
I think that
that is why we
bare the belld
that Lesbians
are at r~sk [or
alcohol abuse.’"
~ substanceuse issues than areheterosexual
¯ women. Oneofthe questionsinthesurvey
is "Have you ever wondered if you had a
drinking problem," and 47%
of Lesbians answered "yes" to
this item compared with only
14% of the heterosexual
women. This finding again
hints at heavy alcohol use in
thepastonthepartofLesbians.
Finally, there was a trend for
older Lesbians to report more
drinking, and these are the
Lesbians who were adults
during earlier times when
drinking was more part of the
Lesbian commurtities.
Dr. Hughes is interested in
exploring patterns of drinking
across various age groups of
Lesbians. Specifically, she is
interested in whether older
Lesbian~ who were adults
during earlier times when
drinking was more part of the
Lesbian cotumunities are
continuing to drink heavily.
She is also interested in the
question of how Lesbians and
their partners moderate each
others drinking, because
research on heterosexuals
shows that partners’ drinking
is a major factor in how much
people drink. We still know
very little about all Ihe factors
that increase or decrease
Lesbians’ risk for alcohol
abuse or alcohol-related
problems.
Esther Rothblum is Professor
of Psychology at the
University of Vermont and
Editor of the Journal of
Lesbian Studies. She can be
reached at Dewey Hall, Univ.
of Vermont, Burlington, VT,
¯ emaih esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
of The Tulsa Worldnews story about the
New Jersey ruling. Ms. Kue.lmertpromised
to check into the issue and to telephone
back the next day.
TAUWenjoys significant supportfrom
some of Tulsa’s most well known
corporations. Debbie Graham ofQuikTrip
Corporation said that her organization
had supported UnitedWayformany years
because it helps a vast variety of agencies
but-that QuikTrip doesn’t get involved in
"the politics of individual agencies."
And while Ms. Graham could not
confirm that Quik Trip has a nondiscrimination
policy which explicitly
includes "sexual orientation," she noted
that it is their practice not to discriminate.
Quik Trip had provided promotion of
the United Way campaign in the form of
a printed solicitation for support on Quik
Trip paper bags.
Emily Gill of Dollar Car Rental did
confirm that her company and its parent
group, Dollar/Thrifty Automotive Group
(DTAG) which Mr. Cappy chairs, does
have an explicitnon-discrimination policy
butMs. Gill wasunable to address whether
any one atDTAG saw any conflictbetween
their internal non-discrimination policy
and see TA UW, p. 13
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Last snmmer I wentto afriend’ s fiftieth
birthday p~arty.,] I think actually it was at
least his tbir or even fourth fiftieth
birthday. He is de_t,_e~_.ined.n_o,t to get any
older. Freezingone s agent50ts somewhat
more mature than those of us who fixate
on 30, or even 25. Another birthday boy I
know is at 28 and holding. Andmy friend
Steve- who is 33 and gorgeous - always
shaves five or six years off his age on
those tempting messages he leaves on
telephone dating, lines.
Welcome to America.
Growing up around here is
good. But growing old can be
a problem. We all know about
the bittersweetness of
birthdays. Next time you are
in a card store, have a look at
those nasty if cruelly funny.
cards that we are encourag
to giveanyoneunlueky enough
to have turned 40. Women
complain that the onusof age
falls most heavily on them.
Men, as they wrinkle, gray;
and sag, at least might bope.~o
grow to be distinguished.
Women, on the other hand,
age into grannies and crones.
My sly friends who have
recycled or lost a few of their
blrdadays, however, don~t
seem to be waiting eagerly for
distinguished, silver-haired
maturity. They, too~ would
rather stay young and juicy.
Theexplosion of men’s hair dye, plastic
surgery, and youthful herbal supplement
commercials flashing daily on my
television screen suggest an increasingly
desperate age-panic among all of us, no
matter our gender.
When I was 24, I lived on Tanna, an
isolated South Pacific island. Everyone
there is related to everyone. Newcomers
- quickly receive "fictive kin" identities in
order better to fit into village life. Soon
after I arrived, all the kids began calling
me kaha - "grandpa." I was taken aback
by this. Why, back then, I had hardly any
gray hair after all! OnTanna, though, as in
most places on earth, ageis pr_estigio.us..
Those kids were doing me abig favor wttla
that grandpa thing. Myislandfriend Nariu,
who was hardly older than me, within a
few years had started referring to himself
(and me) as "’we old men." Nariu was
ambitious and since old men ran his
society, he was determined to become a
senior citizen as soon as he could.
American fears of aging clearly have
much to do with how years connect up
with power and prestige. I sometimes ask
my university students when they think
adulthood begins. When do you truly
become an adult? They tend to place this
somewherein the20s-afew years bey.ond
their own age. Most Americans associate
adulthood with economic independence:
having one’s own job, paying 0n.e’s.o.wn
bills. We see some 35-year-old still hvlng
with mother as sadly still a little juvenile.
I also askmy youthful students for their,
defimtmns of nnddle-aged and old.
Answers here are more variable. (Some
startmiddleage-at30.) Generally, though,
true oldness connects with retirement.
Once we leave the workplace for good,
we lose salary, power, prestige, and any
final fleeting claims to youth. People
throughoutmost of the world can’t wait to
get old. The older they are, the more
¯ authority and influence they have within
their fzmilies and societies. Here, if you
: want to be president at age 69, like Ronald
¯ Reagan you’d better pour on that black
¯ hair dye.
. Gay menmay bemore panickedby age
: than most Americans. We have all heard
: bitter complaints about our agi_sm ~ a~,d
lookism- and such gripes are often samy
: justifiedbypersonal experience. (Lesbian
¯¯ society is,l~___ha,p_s kinder to it_s wrin.kl,ed
sisters ) It s fun to read the age limitalmns
in classified personal ads.
"Gay men may Most of the lovelorn are ISO
sweet-youngthings. Notmany
be more want to date those of well-.
panicked by
age than most
Americans.
We have all
heard bitter
complaints
a~out our
agism -- and
lookism - and
such gripes are
often sadly
justified by
personal
experience."
aged .and mature vintage.
Many ads have upper age cutoffs
- commonly 30 or 35 or,
morerarely, 40. Some seekers
are willing to date over a
decade’s span-five years
younger to five years older
than themselves. Many 40-
somethings speei-ficaldl’y
request none but the 20-
something... Good luck...
More gray hair on the way for
you, I think.
Or there is the daddy niche:
Sugardaddies,leatherdaddies,
bears and cubs. A few
yonngish personal advertisers
won’ t touch anyone
underneath 45 or 50. They
want~eir daddy. At.leastthere
remarns, here m .agist
American, one specialized
market opporUmity for mental, ,facial,,and
financial maturity. So you can atways ouy
a youth if you can’t have youth yourself
Then there are the age-blind. They "go
bv~t_he s,n_i_r_i t. "Thev_o_romisetodateanyone
18 to 88, or so they say. I logged onto a 61-
vear-old’s personal page on the Internet.
"Ageis only a state of mind,"it said. Yeah
right. Are you from Tanna or America?
Check out your mirror. But I’m taking
notes. Those birthdays keep rolling. And
next year the cake might set off the smoke
Lamont Lindstrom. Ph.D. teaches
anthropology at ~he University of Tulsa?
the discriminatory policies of the BSA
and United Way’s failure to pledge not to
discriminate. Ms. Gill promised aresponse
after consulting with others in her
organizationbutfailed to respondby press
time.
Likewise, Jean Johnson, Bank of
America’s southwestern press
spokesperson, pointed out that the bank,
with its origins in San Francisco, has
some of themostprogressive policies, not
only pledging not to discriminate but also
¯ prowiding domestic partner benefits to
¯ their employees. She added that Bank of
] America is one of United Way’s largest
~ supporters on a national level. Roger
¯ Whaley ofBank of America serves on the
~ board of directors of TAUW.
: The Tulsa Area United Way campaign
¯
enjoys further promotional sup.port fr,.om
Tulsa area television stations. Accoromg
’. to the staffperson at KOTV, Channel 6,
: the stations which represent the major
~ networks and Fox all agree to do public
¯ service announcements.
" Pat Baldwin of KTUL, Cbannel 8 who
¯ is a member see TAUW, p. 14
The regular Belle’s father was
hospitalized during the run, and at the last
matinee, folks in the audience neverknew
of the backstage drama going on. The
Beast became ill at the end of the first act
(where he flings himself across a balcony
In despair of ever being loved, and the
curtain falls). When the backstage crew
revolved the set to help him down, they
found the actor playing the Beast hanging
over the balcony - passed out cold. They
revived him, and he decided to go on with
the show:
However, you could never tell from the
audience that anything was wrong. After
the performance, he was whisked to the
hospital as soon as the curtain fell. It
appears he may have been suffering from
a bleeding ulcer.
The understudy went on that evening,
and I hear he did well, despite misgivings
on the part of some of the crew and other
castmembers-not tomentionhehimself!
I was sorry to see the troupe leave - they
were such nice folk.
October events at the Performing Arts
Center (596-7111 for tix) include Tulsa
Ballet’ s "AnnaKarenina", Oct 1-3; Sabella
Oct 2; The Celtic Series with Natalie
McMaster, Oct 8-9; Tulsa Opera’s
"Carmen, Oct 16-24; ATC’s Titanic
mystery, "Scotland Road", Ok 22-30;
and The Phil’s pops concert, "Sound and
Sorcery" Oct 29-30.
I look forward to the arrival of Petula
Clark as Norma Desmond in "Sunset
Boulevard." However, I still think Carol
Bumett should tour with the show; that
would bea .fresh interpretation in many
respects. The reviews I’ve read and heard
from friends thus far have reassured me
we are in for an excellent show. The
magicin themaking will arriveNovember
23 -28.
And of course, no column written by
yours truly would be complete without a
mention of"YouKnow Who."Andifyou
don’tknow, then you’ve not been reading
this section regularly, now have you?
Shame on you!
The ever-ethereal Stevie Nicks made a
stumling appearance on the top-rated
Sheryl Crow and Friends concert on the
,Fox network, and it was interesting to
note that she garneredthemostenthusiastic
audience response of the eminently
talented bunch.
"Gold Dust Woman" never sounded
better, and according to the rumor mill,
her new CD’s in the can, awaiting release.
Sheryl Crow produced theCDin between
tours. Also, Lesbian Icon, Melissa
Etheridge, if you follow the Tulsa World
columns, is rumored to be scheduling a
Tulsa appearance. We’ll be awaiting word
on that situation.
And "heart-and-other-body-partsthrob"
Ricky Martin will be in Dallas
November 4th. Ay cammba!
of the board of directors of Tulsa Area
UnitedWay, failed to respond to the voice
mail asking him to call.
In contrast, Bud Brown, new general
manager ofKOTV, Channel 6, noted he’d
only been in Tulsa for 3 weeks, and had
not seen the Tulsa World article in which
the Boy Scouts reaffirmed their anti-Gay
stance but he noted that his corporation,
The Belo Corporation which owns the
Dallas Morning News, WFAA in Dallas
and a number of other television_ stations,
: is "very clear...very firm" on their
¯ corporatenon-discriminationpolicy which
¯
includes "sexual orientation."
: Greg Gatewood, president of Tulsa
¯ Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR),
¯
was one .Gay person willing to have his
: name used though he emphasized that he
¯ was speaking as an individual not for
¯
TOHR. Gatewood saidhefeltUnitedWay
: did a lot of good, funding for example,
¯ TulsaC.A.R.E.S.andotherorganizations,
¯
and that he’d given to United Way in the
: past. However, he added that he did not
¯¯ agreewith theBoy Scouts’ policy and that
he’d like to see United Way open a
: discussionwith theGay community about
¯ the Boy Scouts, trying to f’md common
¯ ground. He added thathe’dlike to include ¯
the Boy Scouts in that dialogue also.
¯
He suggested that instead of asking
¯ Tulsa Area United Way to stop funding
¯ the Boy Scouts that TAUW should be
: asked to fund an organization which
: provides services to Tulsa’s Lesbian and
: .Gay communities. Gatewood emphati-
¯ tally agreed thatTAUW shouldamendits
: ownnon-discrimination policy to include
¯ "sexual orientation."
: A prominent member of Tulsa’s Gay
¯ community, Vernon Jones, partner of the
¯
late Phil Wiley and civil rights and HIV/
¯ AIDS issues activist, recalled that Tulsa
¯ Area United Way also has a history of
: racial discrimination. He remembers
¯
newspaper articles from his youth
¯ reporting on how TAUW refused to fund
¯ agencies which served Tulsa’s Black
¯ commtmity. Jones,likeothers appreciated
¯
TAUW’s support for HIV/AIDS services
¯ " but thought United Way should not fund.
the BSA.
Beth Kuehnert, Tulsa Area United
Way’s marketing representative, did not
call back as she promised. When asked
about this by telephone, she accused Tulsa
Family News of calling and harassing
United Way supporters, naming one in
particular. Ms. Kuehnert was informed
that a news story required speaking with
more than just her and that all contacts
with United Way supporters had been
through their designated press
representatives and clearly identified as
news inquiries and had been quite cordial.
And despite earlier promises to try to
answer questions about United Way’s
decision to fund .the Boy Scouts, Ms.
Kuehnert now stated that "I’m not going
to ask this question in the middle of the
campaign.., the decision [to fund the Boy
Scouts] was made in the spring [last
spring]."
When TulsaFamilyNews contacted the
UnitedWay corporate supporter who had
allegedly been the subject of TFN
harassment,TFN was told that they’d said
nothing of the sort but only that they’d
called Tulsa Area United Way president
¯
and chief professional officer, Kathleen
¯ Coon, to say that the issue of funding the
: Boy Scouts had been raised.
¯ This corporate spokesperson
¯
characterized the conversation with TFN
¯ as very civil and cordial.
At press dine, Tulsa Family News had
¯ made either three or four phone calls over
: at least a four year period to Tulsa Area
~ United Way president Kathleen Coan
¯ requesting the courtesy of a return phone
¯ call.
¯ To date, Ms. Coon, despite an apparent
¯ ready accessibility to The Tulsa World
¯ and other non-minority news orgam-
." zations, has refused to return any calls.
¯ For a related editorial, please see
; United Our Way, p. 3.
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and the fabulous "Doris Daze", an allwomen’s
pop/rock band that is currently
making a big splash in Dallas. (Check out
these websites, www.mp3.com/dorisdaze
and www.loudboybarnes.com, to get a
taste of their music.)
And it’s not over yet! Don’t dare miss
the dance and drag show on Sunday
afternoon at Center Stage. Besides the
always exciting, always surprising
performances of Domonique Daniels,
.Carla Renee, Miss Helga, Tara T’Neil,
and Tabitha Taylor of Tulsa, Okla., and
our ever-popular DJ, Jon Caswell,
"Barnes" will make a guest appearance!
So call your friends, select your
wardrobe, and make your lodging
reservations now!! You won’t want to
miss this weekend!!! Call The Emerald
Rainbow at (501) 253-5445 or visit
www.shimaka.com!eureka/diversity to get
a full schedule of activities.
DIVERSITY CELEBRATION
SCHEDULE OF ACTIVITIES
" bRIDAY, NOVEMBER 5
2:30 pm - 5:00 pin"Family" musicians
perform at Mud St. Espresso Cafe on
Main St.
6:00 pm - 7:30 pm More entertainment
at the Kaffeehaus Aroma in Basin Park
Hotel.
8:00 pm - 12:30 am M.CC. of the
Living Spring hosts Carnival Under the
Rainbow - Dance and Game Night. Game
booths- will raise funds for local projects
and organizations while Jon Caswell spins
an eclectic mix of dance music. A great
way to kick off the weekend! Basin Park
Hotel Ballroom. Cover: $4.50 per person,
$7.50 per couple. Must be 21.
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 6
10:00 am - Noon Catch the end of the
fall colors canoeing down the beautiful
White River. Call the Dam Store at (501)
253-6154 for details. $22!canoe.
10:30 am - Noon Enjoy a "colorful"
historic walking tour wi~ Bill. Meet at
Sweet Springs on upper Spring St. next to
Rogue’s Manor. No charge.
1:00 pm - 3:00 pm Bring the kids to a
"family" family picnic at Harmon Park.
Food and games. Call Samuel Strickland
for details (501) 253-7837. Children of all
ages welcome. No charge.
Be sure to check out the unique shops
andrestaurants listed in the Eureka Springs
Diversity Cooperative. Let them know
you’re here for Diversity Weekend!
1:00 pm - 4:00 pro, Did you bring your
singing voice? Give Karaoke a whirl with
Lita at the Hole in. the Wall off Center St.
No cover.
2:00 pm - 5:00 pm, Give your feet a
break, and listen to some great musicians
at Mud St. Espresso Cafe and Kaffeehaus
Aroma. Tips appreciated.
9:00 pro- 1:00 am Party, party, party!!
Dance, dance, dance!! Come on out to
Center Stage, and dance like you mean it
to Jon’ s high energy club tunes;ORShake
your booties at the Basin Park Hotel
Ballroom to the live performances of
dynamic GLAMA-winning L.A. Singer/
songwriter Barnes, and the fantastic pop/
rock Dallas-based women’s band Doris
Daze. (Both will have their CDs available
for sale.) Must be 21! Cover charges:
Center Stage only - $5 per person. Basin
Park only - $10 per person. Both venues -
$13 per person. What a nightt !
SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 7
2:00 pm - 6:00pmYou can’t leave yet!!
Meet us again at Center Stage for our tea
dance and drag show. Those girls from
Tulsa, those talented, and always
fantabulous entertainers, Domonique
Daniels, Carla Renee, Miss Helga, Tara
T’Neil and Tabitha Taylor will knock
your socks off with their dazzling
performances, while Jon graces us with
his DJ magic once again. AND, to add to
the excitement, Barnes will be there to
sharehis terrificvoice andpowerful music
in a Special guest set. Must be 21! Cover:
$5 per person.
7:00 Inn M.C.C. of the Living Spring
Service at 17 Elk St. Call (501) 253-9337
for information. All are welcome!
OTHER HAPPENINGS
* Friday night from 10 p.m. ’til close,
Clary and K.J. will havelive entertainment
and dancing at Center Stage.
* If you’re feeling adventurous (and a
little brave), you may want to check out
the Ghost Tours at the Crescent Hotel.
They start at 7 p.m. and 9 p.m. on Friday,
Saturday and Sunday, and last for
approximately anhour andfifteenminutes.
Discounted price of $8 per person to
anyone wearing a purple"Eureka Springs
Celebrating Diversity" button (available
for half a buck at The Emerald Rainbow).
Call (501) 253-8030 or 2428 for details.
* In keeping with both themes this
weekend, Judy at Pond Mountain Lodge,
is hosting a "family" wine tasting, with
hors d’oeuvres, from 5 to 7 p.m. on
Saturday. Admission is a favorite boftle
of wine from your state or $10 per person.
Pond Mountain is on Hwy 23S about two
miles from its intersection in town with
Hwy 62. Call (800) 583-8043 for
reservations.
* After the dances on Friday and
Saturday nights, Basin Block Cafe (across
from Basin Park Hotel) will be open for
breakfast from midnight ’til 3 a.m.
* This weekend is also Eureka Springs’
Food and Wine Festival, and many of the
town’s fine restaurants are offering special
menus, from light fare to exquisite multicourse
dinners. If you’re interested, call
theChamberofCommerceformoredetails
at (501) 253-8737.
Be sure to stop byThe EmeraldRainbow
to pick up your Diversity Cooperative
booklet and discount coupons from some
of the Coop’s businesses!
And please join us at our next Eureka
Springs Diversity Celebration Weekend
on April 7, 8 &9, 2000 ! ! ! Keep an eye on
www.shimaka.com/eureka~diversity for
details.
The Eureka Springs Diversity
Celebrationweekendis producedby Linda
Williams and M.C. Delahanty and
sponsored by The Emerald Rainbow and
the businesses of The Eureka Springs
Diversity Cooperative,
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New Campaign for Federal
Hate Crimes Law Passage
WASHINGTON (AP) - Oregon Sens. Ron.Wyden and
Gordon Smith are renewing their campaign for an
expanded, federal hate crimes statute, hoping thatpublic
outrage over the torture and murder of black and Gay
men will spur passage. "This is about drawing a line in
the sand and saying America.is too good.., to look the
other way in the face of violent, hate-filled acts," said
Wyden, a Democratic cosponsor of the Hate Crimes
Prevention Act of 1999, a replica of last year’s bill.
Last month in Texas, John William King, a white
supremacist, was sentenced to death for chaining a
black man, James Byrd Jr., behind a pickup truck and
dragging him to his death. Two men have been charged
in the October slaying of Gay colleg.., student Matthew
.Shepard, who was pistol-whipped and’lashed to a fence
m Wyoming. Two men also have been charged with
beating to death aGay textile worker, Billy Jack Gaither,
in Alabamalast month and burning his body on a pile of
tires.
Sen. Gordon Smith, another cosponsor of the bill,
said that as a member of the Senate Foreign Relations
Committee he often travels abroad and deplores hate
crimes in other nations, see Federal, p. 3
Alabama Man Murdered
in Anti-Gay Hate crime
BIRMINGHAM, Ala. (AP) - An overflow crowd of
mourners filled Covenant Metropolitan Community
Church, honoring the memory of Billy Jack Gaither
while also calling for an end to hatred against Gays.
There was no standingroom at the 225-seat church as 17
speakers mostly clergy - decried Gaither’s death. A
handful of anti-Gay protesters picketed outside.
Steven Eric Mullins, 25, and Charles Monroe Butler,
21,.confessed to beating the 39-year-old Sylacaugaman
to death with an ax handle last month and setting his
body on fire atop kerosene-soaked tires because, they
claimed, he made a pass at one of them. Gaither’s body
was discovered by apasserby Feb. 20in CoosaCounty,
a day after he was beaten and burned.
"Mullins and Butler stated the reason they killed him
was because he was ahomosexual," said Coosa County
sheriff’s deputy Al Bradley. "We believe this to be the
true motive." Mnllins and Buffer remain in the Coosa
County jail.
Gaither met with the two men in Sylaeanga, a
community about 40 miles southeast of Birmingham,
on the night he was killed, police said. Hehad last been
seeninabarhefrequented. According to the statements,
Mullins called Gaither and asked him to go to the bar,
where they met and.apparently left together, Johnson
said. Authorities said the men apparently took Gaither
to a remote location, where the murder took place.
The memorial service drew people of all races and
ages, from all across the state, seeAlabama,p. 13
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Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tuleans, Our Families + Friends
~Cir~cuistion Comm..un" Pa eravailable In More Than 75 C" Locations
Ok.lahom; iHou e K, IIs Hate ! Gay US Congres.sman
Crime Amendment, HB1.211 :: FranktoAttend Pr,de’99
by Tim Talley and Tom Neal : TULS,A -.~Wl~i,’le some details remain unresolved,
OKLAHOMA CITY (AP/TFN)- Hate crimes legislationis dead : Tulsa s Pride 99 organizers have announced that
in the Oklahoma Legislature this year following defeat of a bill : .openly .Gay US...Congress.man, Barney Frank of
that originally sought to add sexual orientation to the state’s list Mass,ach,nsetts will .attend this
of hate erimes, year s June 12th event.
An unprecedented number of supporters, including members ~ongressman Frank is _one of
of Gay and Lesbian groups and representatives of religious me most respected l)emoorganizations
such as TulSa Metropolitan Ministry, went to the _cra~cme..mbers of ~e,,United
Capitol early in March to encourage lawmakers to support House ~ tate.s Hou,s e ox,,~,epre-
Bill 1211. sentataves ana is well ~nown
But the bill’s sponsor, Tulsa Rep. Don Ross said there was not
enough bipartisan support to add sexual orientation to the
Oklahoma Hate Crimes Act. "I said from the beginning I would
not allow this issue to become a partisan wedge issue, used
exclusively against Democrats in the next election," Ross said.
The vote killing the bill followed more than an hour of
sometimes passionate debate between supporters, who said that
certain classes ofpeople deserve special protection, and opponents
who argued that all citizens should be treated equally under the
law. The bill’s final version would have made a first-offense hate
crime afelony and providedfor enhanced penalties when~iolence
was used but did not add "sexual orientation" to the existing law.
Rep. Leonard Sullivan said the measure was divxsive and
singled out certain groups for special treatment. The Oklahoma
Hate Crimes Act distinguishes offenses committed because of
race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin and disability. But
supporters said special status has been given to crimes against
children and women, and that similar recognition is needed for
other groups because of who or what they are.
"The law is an equalizing force," argued Ross, who is one of
three Black House members. "The idea of equal protection is a
very noble concept," but it is up to lawmakers to make it work,
said Rep. Russ Roach, D-Tulsa. "This legislation protects all
people," added Rep. John Sellers, D-Enid.
Ross’ substitute bill deleting ~exual orientation was drafted in
response to the Christian Coalition opposition. Toure said fear,
hatred and misunderstanding are to blame for dropping sexual
orientation from the measure. "I never knew the hatred toward
Gay people as I do now," Ross said.
TOHR’ Steve Horn shivers with Cimarron Alliance’ Terry
Gatewood andfriend at Equality Begins at Home Capitol rally,
Reverend Leslie Penrose
Resigns as Methodist Pastor
TULSA - On March 5,1999, the pastor of Community of Hope
Base Shalom Congregation, the Reverend Leslie Penrose
submitted a letter to Oklahoma MethodiSt Bishop, Bruce Blake
initiating her withdrawal from the Methodist Church: The
following is selections of her letter which circulated by e-mail in
the Tulsa community:
Dear Friends and Colleagues,
It is with prayers for its future well-being, that I initiate the
. processofwithdrawingfromtheUnitedMethodistChurch. The
", primary reason for my withdrawal after 18 years offull time
¯ ministry is the increasing focus on complaints and charges
¯ regarding my ministry of blessing same-sex covenant
relationships.ltseemsthattheoptionshavefinallybeenreduced
¯ to either withdrawing or preparing for trial. I simply will not
¯ participate inputting God’s grace- or myprivilege as apastor ¯
¯ to bless andcelebrateany andevery relationship where thefruits ofthe spirit bear witness to that grace - on trial. Nor will I hide
¯ or lie about the ministry I do.
¯ From the time six years ago when I was sent by the Oklahoma
¯ Conference to create a reconciling base community ministry in
Tulsa, see Penrose, p. 13
for his skilled and often
scathing debate.
Mitchell Savage, member
of Tulsa Gay Community
Services Center’s Pride ’99 planning committee,
also noted that in addition to attending the annual
Tulsa Pride Picnic, planned again.for Veterans
Park at 18th and Boulder, organizers are working
on a dinner at which the Congressman would likely
speak and possibly a Sunday morning event.
Congressman Frank was graduated in 1962 from
Harvard University andtaughtundergraduates there
while studying for a Ph.D. Before completing his
Ph.D. degree, Frank became Chief Assistant to
Mayor Kevin White of Boston. In 1972,
Congressman Frank was elected to the
Massachusetts Legislature, where he served for
eight years, until 1980. During that time, he entered
Harvard Law School in September, 1974 and
graduated in 1977. In 1980, Congressman Frank
was elected to the US House of Representatives. In
a recent evaluation of Congress, The Almanac of
American Politics said "Frank is one of the
intellectual and political leaders of the Democratic
Party in the House, political theorist :andpit bull at
the same time." Frank serves on the Judiciary and
the Banking Financial Services Committees.
For more information, contact the Community
Center at 743-4297.
BTW Boasts OK’s First
Gay-Straight Alliance
by Tom Neal
TULSA - Elsewhere in the United States, high
school Gay-Straight Alliances have often been met
withconsiderable controversy. In Utah, some school
districts got rid of all their campus organizations
¯ rather than allow a group which tries to supportGay
o young adults andfoster tolerance andunderstanding.
: However, Booker T. Washington High School,
¯ Tulsa’s magnet showpiece school, appears to have
¯ avoided much of that sort of uproar and is thought
: to be the first high school with such an organization
¯ in the state of Oklahoma.
¯ Former SapulpaHigh School student, Will Allen
¯ and Emily Sizemore began the work of creating a ¯
Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) latein 1998, meeting
." withformerBTWprincipal Mr. Stevens andt’mding
¯ a faculty sponsor, Doug Gronberg.
¯ Then in January this year, after creating flyers
¯ and making an public announcement on the school
¯ intercom, they held their first meeting.
¯ Muchto the astonishmentofAllen and Sizemore,
¯ 40 students showedup. In fact, Allen stated that the
¯ turnout was notable especially since that that first
: meeting conflicted with a tryoutfor the Washington
¯ Drama Club’s production of West Side Story:
¯ Apparently BTW’s Gay population is well
¯ represented in theDramaClub and therefore, many
¯ who might otherwise have been expected to attend
¯ weren’t able. Allen also notes that similar groups in
:
Chicago and Boston frequently don’thave as many
¯ attending.
: Allen said that the GSA is comparable to other
:
studentchapters on thecampus, suchas theNAACP
¯ see BTW,.p. 13
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God Would Never
Advocate Hate
I am not pointing fingers. I am pointing
and pitching in.
¯It rained, and was quite cold and m~serable atSaturday’s ("EqualityBegins
At Home") rally on the capitol steps..The
graves of our Gay and African American
martyrs inAlabama,Jasper, andWyoming
are cold, lonely, andmiserable. Why were
there only aprox. 300 folks at the capitol
demanding that our innocent people’s
executions stop? Where were you?
I will speak for myself. When Mathew
Shepard died, Tulsa had a candlelight
vigil for him. It rained, and was nasty out
thatevening, therefore, I decided toremain
in the comfort of my warm home. After
seeing the number of folks from the
Westboro Baptist Church, that endured
the freezing rain at Mathew’s funeral - in
order to spew out hate and condemnation
to the coldbody ofaninnocent child- I felt
like aninsensitive, amoral, spineless snake
for staying.home. Where were you?
Howmany morefolks are going tohave
to die in order for you / us to see that we
need to attend these functions? The hate
crime law was turned down- even in the
state where Mathew Shepard was killed.
Arethe"moral majority" ofourlawmakers
hate mongers? I Thank God for MC
Smothermon, Keith Smith, Paul Barby,
and their likes. We need more folks like
them at our capitol, to defend the rights of
"minorities". We deserve better. Those
who have died because of ignorant hate
deserved better.
Perhaps the world does not fully
understand thathate crimes are committed
every day. Ourminority citizens are scared
to report attacks against themselves as
such, because offurther condemnation, or
for lack of concern by law enforcement.
¯ Folks are scared to speak up for equal ¯
rights - for fear of what few rights they
¯ currently have - will be torn away from
¯ them as a result. Receiving a pink slip
¯ from your employment, and adeath threat
: because of standing up for.equal rights !s
i reality. I know from experience. There ~s
~ plenty ofbehind the scene workthatnee~,s
¯ to be done, that will make a differencem
: your salvation - and the lives of those in
¯ danger of ignorant violence.
~ I know ofmany hate crimes committed ¯
in Tulsa alone- which have not received
¯ the attention they deserve. I am aware of
¯ "minority" children that were victims of
¯ violent I~ate crime - which cannot tell
~ their parents for fear of getting kicked out
¯ of their ho,,m_es. Obvi,o_nsly the general
" public says oh well,it s jt£st another fag,
¯ or blackie". Is the buckle of the bible belt
¯ so. tight.that it is r~.tri_cting blood flow to
; the brains of those who consider
¯ themselves "do-gooders"? God would
¯ never advocate hate. Never.
.’~ The general media image of the Gay,
Bi, Lesbian, and transgendered
community is out cruising River Park,
molesting littleboys, and spreading AIDS.
Wall, I have not used the parks for sex,
and see Letters, p. 3
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theOklahomaStateCapitol as a local partofanational event,
Equality Begins at Home. The turnout really Wasn’ t that bad
considering that, in inimi table Oklahoma spring fashion, the
weather had turned very, very chilly and rainy. It also wasn’t
bad considering how the event’s Oklahoma City organizers
had failed thoroughly to get the word out to the statewide
community.
Their failure actually is rather surprising because those
organizers, Paul Thompson of the self proclaimed statewide
OGLPC, the Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Political Caucus,
and Paula Hand Brown, an editor and reporter for The Gayly
Oklahomanare easily two of the mostexperienced Gay civil
fights activists in Oklahoma City.
The event itself was only symbolic. The Capitol was
locked and our only audience was, wall, ourselves and afew
media types. Thereal lobbyingwas thatdoneatthebeginning
of the month under the direction of Keith Smith and Nancy
McDonald when the Capitol was unlocked and legislators
werein attendance. But atleastOklahomacould say we were
there; wewere one of those states around the country that did
an "Equality Begins at Home" (EBAH) event.
But the event was marred by a few parochial and petty
aspects which by themselves are not that important but
which point to flaws in our national and state movement.
Th~se are the sorts of flaws that, frankly, often make u~as
effective in hindering our movement as our enemies.
One problem to which this newspaper has particular
objectionis thefailure ofthese experienced andmedia savvy
organizers to provide this newspaper with the most basic
information about the event. While TFN earlier published
" informationaboutEBAHbasedon the press releases provided
by the national sponsors, the National Gay & Lesbian Task
Force and the Federation of Stat,ewide LGBT Political
Organizations, Thompson and. Brown apparently did not
provide even the simplest press release telling precisely
when the event was going to be held.
Now in fairness, they claim that they telephoned TFN but
oddly neither I nor any otherTFN staffever found amessage
onour office number, our wireless voicemail,our e-mail, our
fax machine, or even by that old fashioned method, by post!
Some might suggest that Ms. Brown, an employee of a
somewhat rival newspaper and Mr. Thompson, wall known
to be dosdy tied to that newspaper might have had an
interest in not sharing the information fully.
Certainly, we at Tulsa Family News also acknowledge
that if the only part of rtmning this business and getting a
issue put together was to track down information from
negligentcommunity organizers, then wecould have chased
the information down as wall. However, we do have some
other events we have to cover as well. For the record,
Thompson and Brown did later telephone TFN and actually
leave messages but only after we had gone to press and only
after we complained to NGLTF organizers.
But the real issue for Oklahomain the "Equality Begins at
Home" effort is notjust that ofpoor communications. Part of
the EBAH effort was a grant of to each participating state of
$5,000. In Oklahoma, this $5K went to the Oklahoma Gay
& Lesbian Political Caucus (OGLPC).
Now if you just go by their name, you might assume that
they are genuinely a statewide-organization. However, the
organization in practice only ha~~ad a real impact in.central
Oklahoma City. In that area, they have been fairly effective.
An active OGLPC member claims that they have about 150
members, though they claim to have a mailing list of 7,000.
He surprisingly was unable to provide any numberfor Tulsa
members. And what many Gay and Lesbian civil rights
activists believe, both in Tulsa and OKC, is that OGLPC
really is just a OKC group. It’s never had any impact on
Tulsa politics.
Let us compare this with the Cimarron Alliance which,
although much newer, hasboth Tulsa and other non~OKC
members, and a track record of doing significant work
outside of OKC.
The obvious question is why did NGLTF give $5K to an
organizationwhichhadlittle credibility as agenuine statewide
organization, and which for years has seemed to be little
more than an extension of the personality of Paul Thompson
overTheCimarronAlliance withits documentable successes
across the state?
Here’s where petty local politics meets petty national
politics. NGLTF knew quite wall that OGLPC was not
widely considered credible as a statewide organization.
see Equality, p.lO
~shocked many with his.suggestion that th~ solution to
¯ .famine in Ireland, then under English domination, was
" for the Irish merely to eat their children. Swift, an
¯ Irishman himself,, indeed was being just a wee bit
¯ sarcastic and his essay is still readin literature classes as
an example of that type of essay.
It is the spirit of Swift that I’d like to
¯ invoke for part of this essay but I realize
that these words taken out of context as
¯¯ they no doubt will be, will likely provoke
shock and dismay and anger. All that said,
¯ I’d like to talk about hate crimes and hate
¯ crimes legislation, specifically that which
¯ was considered last month in our ¯
legislature.
¯ First, let us praise The Very Honorable
¯ Don Ross, one of Tulsa’s state
¯ representatives who introduced HB 1211.
¯
He can be cranky but as he once told me
¯ (and proved it), he’s one of our few
_" dependable friends in the Oklahoma
¯ House. He’s also been supportive of
¯ increased funding for people living with
¯ AIDS.
So, take some time to thank him - like
:’ your momma said, it doesn’t take that
¯ long to write a thank you note. Also don’t
¯ forget him when the next election cycle
¯ comes up. Send hima checkif you can, or ¯
volunteer. If we don’t take care of our
¯ friends, who will?
: And to highlight the positive, the
¯ progress HB1211 made is greater than ¯
anything that came before. That’s notjust
¯ my assessment but that of a Tulsa area
¯ Republican representative. He’ll be ¯
happier if I’ll leave him unnamed, but as
¯ he said, just getting the bill out of
¯ committee counts as progress. Headded that afew years
¯ ago,most of the people talking with us would not even ¯
have let us in the door.
¯ Again to recognize those whose work is making
¯ much of that difference, we need to thank Keith Smith
¯ who lobbies for our communities on his own while he ¯
does his other paid lobbying work. One day, if we are
¯ really smart as a community, we’ll figure outhow to pay
¯ Keith so that he can do even more.
¯ TulsaMetropolitanMinistry deserves great praise for
providing the initial leadership on this bill, particularly
¯ the Reverends Mildred Banks, Gary Blaine, Gaff Kecny-
¯ Mulligan and no doubt others whose names I don’t ¯
know. Attorney General Drew Edmondson and former
: DistrictAttorney Bill LaFortunealso were tremendousl)~
¯ helpfui.
Also, I would be remiss in not specifi.ca!,ly honoring
Nancy McDonald for spearheading Tulsa S efforts on
HB 1211. Standing 0utside thechamberoftheOklahoma
¯ House of Representatives with these two and~others, as
or nlzed ome
to lie in
wait outside of
notorious
"straight"-bars,
some guy walking
to his ear alone,
jump him and beat
him senseless?
Or when some
%traight" couple
has the nerve to
flaunt their
sexuality publicly,
by holding hands
or kissing, what if
we drove up on the
sidewalk to run
them down or
pulled a gun and
shot at them.
myfather and I did, is quite the education. Butnext time
we need to get more of us there!
But back to the blasphemous and scandalous, I have
¯ to wonder how quickly hate crimes laws would pass if
" the situation were reversed?
¯ What if we organized some gangs of Gay men to get
alittle drunkand liein waitoutside ofnotorious "straight"
bars, and when we see some guy walking
to his car alone, jump him and beat him
senseless. Orwhensome straight couple
has the nerve to flaunt their sexuality
publicly, byholding hands or kissing, what
if we drove up on the sidewalk to run them
down orjnstpulled agunand shot atthem?
At the very least, we could scream
epithets at them so that they’ll know how
hated and repulsive they are. And if that’s
not good enough to intimidate those
"straight" guys, wemight prevail on some
of our lipstick Lesbians to chat them up in
a bar, pretending to be "straight" and then
lure them out to where they can be beaten
or murdered or tortured - whatever.
How long do you think it would take for
hate crimes legisl.ation which included
sexual orientation to pass? Though our
legislature wouldlikely0uly makeitillegal
for us to beat up "straight" boys but leave
it just fine for them to kill us.
Mind you I do not advocate any of the
violence mentioned above; we all know it
wouldbe wrong. I think it is a testament to
the decency of most Gay people that we
face the injustice and indignity with which
we are treated with as much patience and
kindness as we do. I can’t believe that it’s
just because we have no choice.
Consider this: in the early years of the
AIDS holocaust, we had little hope; there
were no or few effective treatments; we
" had a government that was damning even more to death
¯ through its actions that were indifferent at best, and
more often hostile, and yet we never saw any of our
¯ people resorting to violence - civil disobedience, yes,
¯ butmoredidnothappenas is the casewithdesperate and
oppressed people in much else of the world. Even the
~ Jews became terrorists as old Palestine went on its way
¯ to becoming Israel.
¯ My old friend Peter and I have wondered how it is that
¯ none of those who might well have seen the world as
without hope, sought vengeance or acted in violence?
After all, when faced with the evil that Jesse Helms and
others like that represent, why no one of us sought to
send him or the many in Congress like him to the hell
they surely deserve?
But in the words of an old Holly Near song, "we are
a gentle, angry people, and we fighting, fighting for our
lives..." and maybe our persistence, along with the
righteousness of our cause will move even the hardened
hearts of Oklahoma towards justice someday.
radio programming, the (seemingly)blackmailing
Christian c~alition, and other attractive sprinkles of
ignorance. Prejudice words such as "faggot, blackie,
nigger, colored~ and queer" should never be allowed in
hateful media - of any sort. This is the dawn of a new
century political correctness changes - are we still
Neanderthals? I think that we have evolved enough to
cease advocating senseless -hate towards our brothers
and sisters.
Please make plans to attend the Pride ’99 Gay pride
parade on June 12th. Perhaps we will be more inclined
to attend a function of such ~xtreme value - if the
weather is bright and sunny. Weneed to make it known
to our leaders that hate crimes are not acceptable. Pride
’99 will be a wonderful vehicle to portray the equality
we deserve and demand. Equal rights are just that -
equal, not special.
¯ Please become more involved in advocating equality
v~a organizations such as T.O.H.R., N.A.A.C.P.,
P.F.LA.G., and others. You will be, and feel like, a
better person for your efforts.
I am not pointing t’mgers. Just pointing and pitching
in.
Conform and be dull. - Ned T. Bruha, Tulsa
Icert~ainly there are no more Gays interested in little
boys than the heterosexual community. AIDS has no
sexual preference. The words "Gay" and"black" arenot
needed as verbs. In media, when we talk about an
¯" "average" citizen, we do not say"andin thenews today,
~ a white, heterosexual groi~p of’Christians gathered in a
." local church to discuss how to stop theGays fromkilling
¯ straight folks". Please.
Why do we allow our radio stations to advocate hate
¯ via Gayjokes andracial slurs?Why does theFCC allow
." them that’’freedom of speech"? Why are websites such
¯ as the Gay Nazis, skinheads, KKK, Westboro Baptist, ¯
and Larry the Cable Guy allowed? They all seem to
." inciteignorantintolerance,hate, and sometimes violence
¯ - but when asked about what is inwriting- they refuse ¯
to admit it is hate. "We shouldbe outraged andalarmed,
¯ because theideas canlead to violent crimes"- as stated
¯ in the3/28/1999USAWeekendincludedin your Sunday
¯ papers. The minds of our innocent children are being
" soiled by seemingly innocent media: Crayons using
¯ peach as skin tone, bandages are peach- for skin tone,
Anti-Gay Stand Loses
Church Its Building
BROCKTON, Mass. (AP) - A dispute over Gay
Christians has put a priest and his parishioners who
oppose same-sex marriages on the street, so the
evicted congregation held services right on the
sidewalk. The Rev. Thomas Morris andabout adozen
members of his flock prayed outside on a recent
Sunday, despite their eviction by a judge in their
ongoing dispute with the Episcopal Diocese of
Massachusetts.
Morris and his congregation at St. Paul’s Church
opposed the diocese’s 1994 decision to sanction
same-sex unions and ordain noncelibate homosexuals
as priests. In opposition, the congregation began
withholding fees it was bound to pay the diocese.
Diocese officials maintained the dispute was not
about beliefs or issues. "What this is about is this
church needs a priest ingood standing with the bishop
and other churches in the diocese," said the Rev.
Donald Parker, the diocese vicar. The diocese is
overseen by Bishop Thomas Shaw. In the decision,
Judge Charles J. Hely said his ruling settled a legal
issue about property, not a religious issue.
In 1995, Morris’ predecessor at St. Paul’s, the Rev.
James R. HAles,was defrocked after the diocese found
him guilty of sexual misconduct. But many members
of the church stand by HAles, and say the charges
against him were concocted as punishment for his
stance against homosexuality.
Gay Irish Not Welcome
in Bronx Parade Either
NEW YORK (AP)= Members of a Gay organization
got a Bronx cheer when they tried to join the first St.
Patrick’ s Day-parade held in that borough in70 years.
Six people, including state Sen. Tom Duane and
City Councilwoman Christine Quiun, were arrested
Sunday after a.doze~! supporters of the Lavender and
Green’Al!ian.~ce stepped into the parade. "I’m an Irish
person, I’m a Gay person, I’m here to try to march,"
Duane sai& %
Lavender and Green Alliance founder BrendanFay
said his group"originally "got a call to say we were
welcome, but then we learned the welcome was being
rescindedY The ~Bronx parade’s chairman, patrick
Devine, d~d nrt ieturn telephone calls left at his home
scekin~o crniment and did not make himself fi)aifable
to reporters at.flae~ parade.....
Another gr.oup, the Irish Lesbian and. Gay
Organizafion,’hhs fifed unsuccessfully to join t13~ big
St. Patriek~sD~y??Parade down Fifth Avenue in
Manhattan f0t th(last half-dozen years criir~fruqfngs
have held ~that the.private organizauons thaVsponsor
parades may ch0.Os¢ which groups march
Quim~,Duane, Fay and the others were arrested
after the first marching band passed by and they
stepped into the parade behind the Lavender ~and
Green banner. They were stopped by a line of police
officers and informed they would be arrested if they
failed to l~ave. A few stepped aside, but others stood
fast and were led away to a police-wagon and
handcuffed before being charged with disorderly
conduct."Let themmarch!" shouted a few supporters.
"’Shame!" called outJimmy McNulty,who was among
those arrested. "Why are we not welcome?"
Several dozen spectators cheered when the parad~
resumed without the Gay group. "It’s an immoral
lifestyle," said spectator Martin O’Grady. "If they
wanted to march, the), could have marched without
their banner," said Fannie Sclafani. "t have nothing
against them, but it’s a community parade." Mary
McGarry also said they shouldn’t have tried to crash
the parade. "I have best friends who are Gay, but the
parade is not about sexual orientation. It’s about
being proud to be Irish," she said.
The parade had the feel of a small-town event,
featuring cheerleaders from parochial high schools,
kilted bagpipers, babies in strollers decorated with
Irish flags and groups like the Throgs Neck
Homeowners, which consisted of a dozen ladies
wearing off-white cable-knit fishermen’s sweaters.
Spectators were sparsdy scattered along the mileand-
a-half route along East Tremout Avenue. It was
in sharp contrast to the annual Fifth Avenue parade,
with its glitzy floats, booming drum corps and rowdy
crowds.
Stanley Rygorwas among a half-dozen people who
stood on a sidewalk behind the Lavender and Green
banner after the arrests took place. "They want them
back in the closet. They want them to be anonymous,"
said Rygor, whose wife is Irish. He said his son died
of AIDS five years ago, and he dealt with his grief by
becoming an activist. "I’m here," he added, "in
memoriam to him."
Gay Vets Want to March
FERNDALE, Mich. (AP) - A group of Gay military
veterans are taking steps to march in this Detroit
suburb s Memorial Day parade.Agroup of Ferndale s
Gay veterans hope to join members of Friends and
Neighbors of Femdale (FANS), a Gay group that has
received tentative approval to enter the parade,
according to a parade organizer.
Femdale’s parade leaders have so far downplayed
the significance of including Gays. "As far as I know,
they are planning to meet all our reqmrements,"
Barbara Earl, a secretary with the Femdale Memorial
Association, told the Detroit Free Press for a story
Monday.
The association puts on the annual parade, one of
theregion’ s biggest and oldest, dating to at least 1919.
Organizers say they will strictly enforce arequirement
limiting any show of a group’ s identity to a display of
its nagne. If enforced, that would mean FANS will
march with no explicit banner proclaiming it is an
orgamzation of Gays. "It’s not a day to promote your
own agenda," Ms. Earl said. "This is a day for the
veterans."
Gay group leaders in Ferndale said they are
ctmfortable blending in with the parade’s usual array
ofhonor guards, scout troops, high school bands and
politicians. "We wouldn’t want to do anything to
incite controversy," said Chuck Simon, president of
FANS, whichhas about 80 dues-paying members and
a mailing list of several hundred.
Parade rules require participants to refrain from
displaying their own messages and instead stick to
OffiCial Slogans, which this year are "Lest we forget"
arid "’Fgt _those who gave their all."
Navy veteran Ken Warnock, 32, who co-owns the
Jn~ 4 ~’G~y. ~0oksto~e in F~rndale, told the Free
Pre~;’fimi he will march in Ferndale’s parade with a
¯ mix ofpridd and bft-terhess. In 1987, Warnock, then
- 20, was a hrgpital Corpsman aboard a Navy ship when
he was. broughL.hefore his commanding officer,
q~esfioned abouthis sexual orientation and th]:eafen,ed
"’ With~perjury iia~e, fie said. He resisted the Navy s
" in~esfigatirnfor months, Wamock said. Ultimately,
he.r¢cgived a lessZthan2honorable discharge - not
q~-t.e as bad as a ~dishon0rable discharge, he said.
On Memorial Day, Warnock probably won’t wear
¯ his sailor s umform- it s gettang a htfle t~ght - but
beplans to carry an American flag while keeping a
watchful eye for anyone angry at Gay participants.
Despite his wariness, he said the inclusion of Gay
marchers "speaks very well for Ferndale.’"
Femdale Mayor ChuckGoedert saidhewas unaware
of the Memorial Day plans but supports the inclusion
ofFANS members and Gay veterans. "There are a lot
of groups that participate in our parade to honor those
who served. I don’t know why this would be any
different," he said.
Ohio Diocese to Reach
Out to Gay Catholics
CINCINNATI (AP) - TheArchdiocese of Cincinnati
is creating a ministry for homosexual Catholics and
their families. "The church wants to support the
homosexual person but not homosexual activity,"
said spokesman Dan Andfiacco said. "There is a need
for pastoral care of homosexual persons. The
archdiocese wants to meet that need, and not cede
teiritory to ministries that don’t support the teaching
of the church."
In recent years, RomanCatholicgroups nationwide
have started Gay ministries such as DIGNITY, New
Ways Ministry, and Parents, Friends & Family of
Lesbians & Gays. Some conservative and traditional
Catholics have criticized the groups, saying they
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The Rev. Michael Leshney, chaplain to a Cincinnati
chapter of DIGNITY in the 1980s, will be spiritual
director for the new ministry. Archbishop Daniel
Pil~czyk will inaugurate the ministry with three prayer
services in April.
Leshney saidhomosexual Catholics oftenfeel i solated
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Leslmey said. The Catechism of the Catholic Church
holds thathomosexual activity is "contrary to thenatural
law" and,objectively disordered," but thathomosexuals
should be "accepted with respect, compassion and
sensitivity."
Gay Dallas Church
To Televise Infomercial
DALLAS (AP) -A federal court settlement announced
Friday has cleared the way for Cathedral of Hope, the
nation’s largest Gay church, to air a controversial
infomercial onbroadcast superstationWGN-TV. Under
the settlement, Cathedral ofHope will pay the Chicagobased
cable station $35,000 for showing the program
five times. Thehalf-hour video includes testimonials by
members, scenes ofworship atthe3,000-memberchurch
and discussions with the families of church members.
Cathedral ofHope claimed the Chicago-based station
reneged on a contract to air the church’s program last
August. Church officials said the station pulled the
infomercial shortly before the air date for unspecified
reasons. WGN officials argued that they weren’t
obligated to air the program because the station did not
have binding contract with the church.
TheDallas church filed alawsuitin October, claiming
thatWGN accepted the a $13,000 check, made several
suggestions that the church followed and then broke its
contractandreturned the check after deciding the subject
was too controversial. The Rev. Michael Piazza said he
was pleased with the settlement. "Of course our desire
was for it to have been aired last year," said Piazza,
senior pastor at Cathedral of Hope. "But we’re very
grateful to be able to resolved it."
Pia77a told The Dallas Morning News that every
other broadcast outlet approached by the church had
refusedto air the program. ’qqaey don’t have to give you
reasons, but a couple of the media buyers told us that
stations were afraid the conservative religious
programming would be withdrawn if ours was shown,"
he said. The minster said Cathedral of Hope was
attracted to WGN because the station airs on cable
outlets in the rural areas surrounding Dallas and Fort
Worth.
Maryland Gov. Supports
Civil Rights Bill for Gays
ANNAPOLIS, Md. (AP) - Gov. Parris Glendening
testified for the first time before a legislative committee
last month, describing his late brother’s hardship hiding
his homosexuality and urging delegates to outlaw
discrimination based on sexual orientation.
Glendening’s brother Bruce served 19 years in the
Air Force, including three tours in Vietnam. But as the
decorated veteran lay dying of AIDS - when the pain
was so great that it hurt to touch his skin - Bruce
Glendening said it was more painful to keep his sexual
orientation hidden for so long in order to keep his job,
Gleiadening testified.
"He lived in fear.. ," the governor told the House
Judiciary Committee. "This has weighed on me a long
tame... I’m here to ask ifwe couldmake this state amore
fair and just society."
Afterward, the audience applauded his three-minute
speech. One of several people in the audience who
shookGlendening’ s handas heleftwas SilviaRodriguez,
chairwomanofthe stateHumanRelations Commi ssion,
who said no other governor showed such courage in her
15 years with the group. "He knows this is just and fair
for all the people of Maryland," she said.
Delegates Sheila Hixson and Leon Billings, both
Montgomery County Democrats, havefailed to get
the bill approved for six years, but they have not
had such a prominent supporter before. Onlookers
packed the hearing room and one wall was lined
with television cameras.
The bill would add sexual orientation to a law
thatbans discriminationin housing and employment
because of aperson’s race, religion or gender. "The
issue is simply a matter ofintolerance and bigotry,"
Ms. Hixson said.
Baltimore City and Montgomery, Prince
George’s and Howard counties have similar laws
governing 49 percent of the state’s population.
Glendening said Prince George’s County hasn’t
suffered since it enacted the law in 1991 while he
was chief executive. "Western civilization hasn’t
collapsed because of the bill," he said.
Glendeningleftbefore delegates asked questions
about the bill. Several delegates appeared critical
ofit. Delegate Emmett Bums, a Baptist pastor, said
complaints from homosexuals would flood the
Human Relations Commission and create further
delays for Blacks and women who suffer
discrimination. In the hearing’s testiest exchange,
Billings retorted that everyone can suffer
discrimination.
Commission officials said 1 to3% of complaints
in counties that have the law concern sexual
orientation, Advocates argued that nobody should
be discriminated against for any reason. "We’re
trying to cast the net as broadly as possible,"
Billings said.
Teens Protest Gay
Story in Dawson’s Creek
WILMINGTON (AP) - More than 30 teen-agers
gathered outside Wilmington’s EUE Screen Gems
Studios to protest the homosexual subject matter of
thelocally filmed television show Dawson’s Creek.
Members of Youths Against the Promotion of
Homosexuality held placards Thursday reading
"Jack and Jill, Not Jack and Bill" and "Hollywood:
No More Gay Promo."
Screen Gems’ employees were greeted with
chants of "Don’t Holly-weird me!" as they drove
into the studios’ parking lots. "We’re sick and tired
of Hollywood trying to force its pro-homosexual
values down teen-agers’ throats on shows like
Dawson’s Creek," said Robert Hales, 17. "This
show is 100 times worse than Ellen because they’re
targeting high school kids with their ’pro-Gay’
propaganda." Ellen, which starred Lesbian
comedian Ellen DeGeneres, created a national stir
two years ago when the main character announced
she was a.Lesbian.
Theprotests aboutDawson’s Creek center around
a 16-year-old character who announced in a recent
episode thathe was homosexual. Kerr Smith, whose
character Jack was introduced on Dawson’s Creek
this season, said the show simply explores common
adolescent themes. "’Everybody knows that
Dawson’s Creek addresses prevalent issues about
teen-agers, and one of them is homosexuality," he
said. "It’s in the schools now. Ten years ago, it
wasn’t talked aboutbut now it is."
Killer Pleads Guilty
LOS ANGELES (AP) - A man accused of
murdering five Gay men because he thought it
would stop the spread of AIDS abruptly ended his
trial by pleading guilty to the charges, prosecutors
said. Juan Chavez, 34, avoided a possible.death
sentence in the capital case by unexpectedly
changing his plea about 1 1/2 weeks into trial,
prosecutor Mike Duarte said. He is scheduled to be
sentenced June 21.
Duarte told jurors during the trial that Chavez
lured themen to theirhomes supposedly for sex and
then robbed and strangled them Chavez coufessed
to the murders while serving a prison sentence for
an unrelated 1996 kidnapping. In September of that
year, he was charged with strangling the five men
in 1986 and 1989.
11 Year Old with
AIDS Speaks Out
CARSON CITY (AP) - Eleven-year-old
Michael Dowling wasn’t supposed to live
this long and he knows it. "I was born
HIV-positive. My morn was told that I’d
probably dieby the timeI was three years
old," Michael told the Assembly as they
designatedWednesday, March24as HIVAIDS
Awareness Day inNevada. Hestood
¯ next to his adopted mother’s friend,
Assemblywoman Barbara Cegavske, RLas
Vegas, as he addressed thelegislators.
The boy was born in Las Vegas to a
drug-addicted mother who passed her
disease along to him before she gave
birth. Now, l~fichael hasbeen adoptedand
is also living with full-blown AIDS.
Michael said he has to make a trip to
Washington,D.C., every couple ofmonths
so he can get two sho~ of a medication
called IL2 every day for a week. "I go to
the National Institutes of Health. The
doctors and nurses, there are the people
that have kept me alive. If not for them I
would be dead,? Mi.chael said,.
Despite his disease, the youngster says
heis planningto live afull andindependent
life. "I plan to. grow up.and be a doctor. I
do not plan to be disabled and live off
welfare and_have Medicaid pay my
doctor’s bills," he added. People.,~ith
AIDS need Nevada’s help to find "good
jobs and insurance to pay their medical
bills," he said.
After his speech, the entire 42-member
Assembly and dozens of observers in the
gallery stood~to applaud. "Mikie is not
supposed to be alive. He’s such a fighter,
he’s incredible," Cegavske said.
Surgeon General at
HIV/AIDS Meeting
SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - Former U.S.
Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders opened
the nation’ s annualHIV/AIDS conference
by urging the public to fight growing
complacency about the disease. "We all
have to be in this battle until it’s over, and
I want you to know it’s not over," Eiders
told about 2,000 people at the opening of
the National HIV/AIDS Update
Conference.
Few doubted that among the hundreds
of veteranAIDS health care providers and
public health workers in the crowd. But
now, Elders reminded them, there’s anew
problem: growing public complacency.
Lulledby encouraging early results from
new drag therapies,many Americans have
decided AIDS is no longer much of a
threat, said Dr. Mervyn Silverman, the
former San Francisco public health czar
and chairman of the AIDS conference,
which runs through tomorrow. He cited
survey results that suggest people mustbe
tuning out to all the AIDS awareness
campaigns.
The deadly virus is nearly always
contracted through exchange of blood or
body fluids, often during unprotected
sexual activity or from sharing intravenous
drag paraphernalia. In a survey taken in
1991, 41% still wrongly assumed that
HIV could be contracted from sharing a
drinking glass with an infected person. In
1997, the same misconception was found
in 55% of those surveyed. Similarly, 34%
of those surveyed in 1991 won-ied about
catching the AIDS virus from a public
toilet seat, as compared to 41°/0 in 1997.
87% ofyoung Americans believe they are
at no risk of contracting HIV. Yet about
one in four of every new infection occurs
in the same age group, 17- to 22-yearolds.
"Either we’re really gettingd.u.m.b.er,
or some of us in this room are notdomgI
ourjobs, Sdverm said. ’ ’ ~
Eiders offered-a familiar litany of
su ,~gestions,inclUding universal access to
health care and free needle-exchange
AIDS Researcher
Struggles for $
¯¯ )rograms, both ofwhich seem as far from
reality as when she left office in 1994.
BERKELEY, Calif. (AP) - Researcher
Peter Duesberg has become a scientific
outcast because of his unorthodox AIDS
theories. But he’s still in business, thanks
to a fund-raising approach as unconventional
as his beliefs.
Duesberg, who maintains that AIDS is
not caused by the human immunodeficiency
virus but by illegal drugs and
the AIDS medication AZT; has been
raising money from private sources for
some years, living from check to check.
Buthis fund-raising tookonaddedurgency
ast November when he.feared he was
about to lose his lab at the University of
California at Berkdey for lack of money.
Friends of Duesbergsprang into acuon,
soliciting donationsby way of the Internet
and an ad in the alumni magazine. The ad
brought in a stream of small contributions,
which along with $200,000 in foundation
money and some other big individual
donations amounted to $325,000, enough
to eke out another year of operations.
Duesberg is grateful for the kindness of
friends and strangers but said it’s a hard
way to make a living. "You also begin to
see how easy itis if youjust conform," he
said.
Twelve years ago, Duesberg filled out
grant applications and the government
sent him checks. Back then, Duesberg
was a member of the elite National
Academy of Scienees, winner of a 1985
Outstanding Investigator Award from the
National Institutes of Health and aleading
authority on retroviruses, a family that
includes the AIDS virus.
But after he published his HIV theory,
his reputation tanked. The mainstream
AIDS community has rebuffed his
theories, saying it is clear that HIV does
cause AIDS and that arguing otherwise
dangerously undercuts the safe-sex
message. "Whatever inroads we have
made to help people to practice safer sex
or to exchange needles - that all goes out
the window," said David Evans of Project
Inform, an advocacy group in San
Francisco.
Since 1987, Duesberg has had 20 grant
applications turned down. A spokesman
for the NIH declined to comment. As a
tenured professor of molecular and cell
¯ biology, Duesberg still has his salary and
: position at Berkeley. But without grant
¯ money, he cannot operate a lab, which is
¯ crucial to continuing his research.
¯ The private donauons can t overcom
¯ another problem: no students. Duesberg
¯ said students visit early in the semester
¯ andseeminterested.Butafterafew weeks,
..th.ey.t.aa.e.a.wa.y. "TheY’re told bY the
¯ graduate advisers and by their peers they
¯ may not be able to get ajob, I may not be
¯ able to pay them,,,a,n_,_d it would be bad for
their reoutations, he said.
¯ Stuar’t Lynn, head of Duesberg’s
¯ division said the Berkeley ,c~_mmumty
¯ hasn’t o~tracized Duesberg. ’ Ev,eryb.o.dy~
kind of looks at him an amusea sort oz.
way," Lynn said. "Berkele,,y has alotmore
radical people than Peter.
¯ Duesberg said his lab and money
¯ problems reflect his one-man battle with
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scientists and drug companies who, he
maintains, have invested too much in the
HIV-AIDS connection to admit to an
alternative theory. "Most people don’t
realizehow an-freeweare to do sciencein
America," he said. ’q’hey can afford to
give mill.ions, but they cannot afford to
give me $100,000 or $200,000 to prove
them wrong."
Condom Program
in Cambodia Works
PHNOM PENH, Cambodia (AP) -
Declaring a pilot program to increase
condom use in Cambodia a success, the
World Health Organization and the
Ministry of Health announced plans on
Friday foranationwide campaign to tackle
the impoverished country’s skyrocketing
AIDS rate.
Targeting commercial sex workers who
are the mainlinkin the spread of sexually
transmitted diseases in Cambodia, the
"100% Condom-Use Program" has
significantly increased condom use in
brothels in thepilot’s targetarea, according
to a preliminary report released ahead of
nextweek’s National Conference onHIV/
AIDS.
Prostitutes in the seaside town of
Sihanoukville, 185 km (115 miles)
southwestofPlmomPerth, wereinstmcto
byhealth workers in October to require all
their customers to wear condoms. Ifmen
refused to comply, the sex workers were
encouraged to report them to police.
"Many sex establishments are actively
participating and there has been a rise in
the distribution and use of condoms,"
Health Secretary of State Mare Bun Heng
said Friday. "We are pleased with these
results and.., this year we would like to
expand the program nationwide."
The condom program was inspired by a
similar campaign in Thailand that
increased condom use in sex
establishments from 15% in 1989 tomore
than90%in 1992, preventing an estimated
2 million HIV cases, according to the
WHO.
Cambodiahas the highestHIV infection
rate in Asia, with 50 to 70 people believed
to become infected every day. Recent
studies have estimated that 3% of the
adult population in Cambodia is infected
with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS.
State Won.’t Require
HIV Marriage Test
NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP) - A Memphis
lawmakeris no longer pushing legislation
that would require couples wanting to get
married in Tennessee to be tested for the
HIV virus and other sexually transmitted
diseases. Rep. Henri Brooks said she
changed her mind after the Health
Departmentestimated the tests wouldcost
Tennessee taxpayers almost $5 million a
year.
She amended the bill to require county
court clerks to make information about
venereal diseases - such as chlamydia,
syphilis, gonorrhea and hepatitis B -
available to marriage license applicants.
"We are not trying to be Big Brother or
say who should and should not marry. All
we want to do is be responsible as
policymakers," the Democrat said. "The
ones who have to pay for these healthrelated
illnesses end up being the
taxpayers."
The bill,, approved by a House
subcommittee, also requires that a small
sign be conspicuously located in the area
¯¯ Wherepeopleapply formarriagelicenses.
It would read: "AIDS KILLS. HIV and
: other sexually transmitted diseases can
¯" occurwithoutyourknowledge. Don’trisk
¯ thelifeofsomeoneyoulove.BETESTED
: NOW."
: In addition, the bill requires the Health
: Department to make annual reports to the
¯ Legislature on the status of HIV and
-" sexually transmitted diseases by gender
: and ethnicity.
¯ Brooks said sheproposed thelegislation ¯
¯ because one of her constituents found out
her husband was HIV positive after they
: mamed. She said she may renew .her
¯ efforts for testing later.
Harvard to Study
AIDS in Africa
¯ BOSTON (AP) - The Harvard AIDS Institute has been given a $2.5 million
: grant to research the AIDS epidemic
¯ devastating southern Africa. The grant ¯
from the Oak Foundation will support a
¯ three-year program on research and
¯ vaccine development. The grant will also
¯ support a demonstration project to test
: drugs nsed to block mother-to-infantHIV
: transmission.
¯ The AIDS Institute’s basic research
¯ involves sequencing the genes found in
¯ theHIV strainprevalentinsouthernAfrica.
¯ No place in the world has been harder hit
: by AIDS than southern Africa. In
¯ Botswana, Namibia, Swaziland and
: Zimbabwe, up to one-quarter of people
aged 15-49areinfected withHIV 0rAIDS.
AIDS has killed 10 million people in sub-
" Saharan Africa - 90% of the world’s
¯ AIDS deaths. Another 20 million are
: expected to die, Harvard researchers
¯ added.
¯ Max Essex, chairman of the Harvard
¯ AIDS Institute, and his colleagues have
." beenresearchingAIDS inAfricaformore
¯ than a decade. The Oak Foundation, an
international philanthropy, has offices in
¯ Boston, Geneva, London and Harare,
¯ Zimbabwe.
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Right, theTulsaGay Community Services
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¯ Gay Lawyers Association (OLGLA) are
hosting a seminar at 7pro on April 22 on
legal issues for people living with HIV/
¯ AIDS. Kathy Nelson, executive co-
. ordinator for the AIDS Legal Resource
¯ Project will conduct the seminar at the
Tulsa Gay Community Services Center at
: 38th and Peoria, 2nd floor.
¯ The AIDS Legal Resource Project was
¯ created three years ago to help provide
," people living with HIV/AIDS with the
¯ resources to meet the challenges in their
: lives. The Project provides free legal
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network of 150private attorneys statewide.
: The Project can assist those qualified in
receiving denied Social Security benefits
.and in addressing health, life or disability
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by James Christjohn Broadway dance. And a relative-of mine,
"Spirit - A Journey in Dance, Drums Raymond Christjolm was one of the
and Song" combines the power of ° singers!
Broadway choreography and contem- ° The cast includes 20 dancers with both
porary music with the songs, chants and o modemand traditional training, including
dances born of Native Indian Nation dancers
Americanculture to tell Act I eontlnues with
the story of one
¯ person’s- andanation’s "An Ea~le Above." in
- search for renewal by wlaleh Ron Anquoe
exploring ancestral
roots. (Kiowa tribe, Oh|ahoma)
This multicultural per[orms t]ae ritual
performance event,
which debuted on PBS Ea~le Dance
as part of the March
1999 pledge drive and
to convey the le~eud d
will be released on the Ea$|e Feather.
video April 20, was
conceived by Peter provldln~ the youn$ man
Buffett, working in with [~uow|ed~e and
collaboration with
Chief Hawk Pope. courage [or the journey.
Buffett composed the
music for the pivotal
Fire Dance scene in Kevin Costner’s
Oscar-winning film "Dances with
Wolves." "Spirit - A Journey in Dance,
Drums and Song" features the
choreography and stage direction ofT,o.nywinner
Wayne Cilento, who blends his
demanding trademark "urban dance"
movement with traditional Native
American dance.
And by the~ way, the video is worth
getting just to view the dancers. They are
all beautiful, with appeal to Gay men,
Lesbians, straight folk.., something fol
everyone! And boy can they move! 01~
yeah, themusic’s great, too; the CD is
availablenow, and I highlyrecommendit.
Peter has been one of the few artists te
successfully blend ancient music with
modem. Usually, whenthatblendis made,
it comes out a mess, but he’s done an
excellentjob ofretaining the impact of the
ancient with the feel of the modem, rising
above time and space to create anew form
that is emotionally satisfying on a level
few reach. LoreenaMcKennitt is the only
other artist I would say that about in her
blending of ancient and modem Critic
influences on her CD’s. But I digress,
back to "Spirit: A Journey...".
Taped during the show’s premiere
performance weekend at the Weidner
Center inGreen Bay, Wisconsin,"Spirit -
A Journey in Dance, Drums and Song"
features more than 80 performers -
dancers, choir, percussionists and
orchestra - selected from the worlds of
Native-American performance and
by Allan Smithee, special contributor
Anyone see "Footloose" whileit wasin
town? It had all the appeal of a really bad
high school play. Bad script, awful
choreography and songs worthy ofmaybe
two verses stretched out till one thought
the record player had broken and was
skipping, all added up to an evening of
dreck, despite the cast’s sometimes overenergetic
performances -and especially
the nights when one cast member was off
key. It is usually against my principles to
walk out on a show, no matter how bad -
I hold that it’s rude to the actors and
people around you - but Footloose is one
I would have walked out on after the first
30 minutes.
I find it ironic that local homophobe
and religious bigot Larry Payton, famous
arrayed in fancy dress
of feathers, beads and
bones. The orchestra
features both modem
and traditional Native-
American instruments,
a string section and
percussionists playing
a variety ofdrums. The
40-voice Green Bay
and Oneida Nation
Girls’ Choir provides
additional vocals.
The program also
features soloists
Robert Mirabal (also
very handsome), a
renowned Native-
American flautist,
vocalist and percussionist; Ron Anquoe,
a traditionally trained Eagle Dancer who
is a member of the Kiowa Tribe of
Oklahoma; and Chief Hawk Pope, a
vocalist, lyricist and composer who is
Principal Chief of the Shawnee Nation,
United Renmant Band of Ohio. Chief
HawkPopenarrates. Joanne Shenandoah,
Oneida Nation of the Iroquois
confederacy, adds her beautiful voice to
the proceedings.
"Spirit - A Journey in Dance, Drums
and Song" opens Act I with "Urban
Overtures" as a group of city dwellers
reacts robotically to the stressful sounds
of daily life. Determined,to escape this
chaos, one young man decides in "Fire
Dance" to look back to his roots and
search for a new way to live. In
"Coashelleaqu (The Shawnee Letter)," a
Native-American grandfather encourages
him to begin this journey of renewal.
"Hidden Heritage" celebrates the 500
Indian Nations.
ActI continues with"AnEagleAbove,"
in which Ron Anquoe (Kiowa tribe,
Oklahoma) performs the ritual Eagle
Dance to convey the legend of the Eagle
Feather, providing the young man with
knowledge and courage for the journey.
"Passage," Robert Mirabal’s haunting
flute solo, continues the young man’s
quest to embrace the past. Act I ends with
Spirit Dance, bnngmg together dancers
from the traditional Native-American and
contemporary urban cultures for a
celebration, see Spirit, p. 10
for censoring shows andrewriting themto
make them safe for the good Baptist
families of Tulsa to see would bring in a
show that pretty much rips the views of
fundie-brand organized religion.
In case some of you are too young to
remember the film, it’s based on an
incident in Elmore, OK wherein dancing
was made illegal by virtue of a powerful
minister in town who held that dancing
would lead to all kinds of sinful behavior.
In the film and play, a kidfrom Chicago
challenges the dictatorial evil minister,
and wins the right to hold a school dance.
As a film, it was worth a couple hours at
the dollar movie. As a musical, well, it’s
not worth that much. But Tnlsans seemed
to like it - the shows were sold out. Maybe
it’s that even a bad touring show beats
anvthin~ on TV9 At any rate, the cast was
~mlfor~v cute,’so that hellxd a little.
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It is a fabulous number to see. R makes
you want to stand up and cheer, even if it
is a video:
Act II of"Spirit- A Journey in Dance,
Drums and Song" begins with two
numbers - "The Place Where Crying
Begins" and "The Dream" - offering a
sensual exploration of the relationship of
man and woman in a more natural world.
"Aubenaubee(Prelude to Rebirth)" begins
the young man’s journey back to his own
world; m The Thunderbird, he returns
as anewly enlightenedmemberof society.
In the final number, the two cultures -
traditional andurbancontemporary - dance
in unison, recovering the true spirit of
America.
The showitselfwas a seamless blending
of ancient and modem, combining to tell
a story that many of us can relate to today
of alienation from roots, a discontent
with where man in general is today in the
world, and a yearning for reconnection to
the earth in an age where the earth has
become one more commodity to exploit.
It held me spellbound. Seamlessly
integratingmusic, dance, ..and storytelling,
it moved me to tears-- something that
doesn’t usually happen at all, especially
withregards to avideotapedperformance.
It was beautiful. I have been in
communication with the composer/
creator, Peter Buffett, and, he has
mentioned the possibility of brfilging the
live show here in the fall. (ya heard it here
first, folks!)If that happens, don’t miss it.
It willbe an experience that will touch you
deeply, as theatre was meant to do. Andif
the video is able to move me to tears
(along with several others I spoke with
that saw i0,imagine whatanimpactseeing
the performance live wouldhave! Usually
I find videos of plays, especially musical
performances, lacking. Something is lost
in the translation from live to tape. Not so
in this case.
Peter’s other CD’s are well worth
picking up: "Spirit Dance", from which
many of the numbers in "Spirit: A
Journey..." were taken, is great, and the
soundtrack to "500 Nations" is another
winner. Joanne Shenandoahhas anumber
ofCD’s out, and "Matriarch" is one ofmy
favorites ofhers. RobertMirabal has CD’s
out as wall, and he is fantastic. Peter tends
to get lumped in the "New Age"
although his musicfar surpasses theimage
that particular labding conjures up, While
the other artists are found, at least in
Borders, under "Native American". Other
places might have them under "World
Music".
They knew so because for the last two
years, a representative of Tulsa
Oldahomans for Human Rights (TOHR)
had participated in the planning for this
eventand in the creation oftheFederation.
FromTOHR,NGLTFknew thatCimarron
was the only Oklahoma group genuinely
doing statewideorganizing, Sowhy would
they give $5,000, a huge sum for a small
and under orgamzed state like Oklahoma,
to those less likely to put it to good use?
Well, it turns out that a number of the
individuals who are involved with
Cimarron have also worked closely with
NGLTF’s semi-rival, the Human Right
Campaign (HRC). And rumor has it that
NGLTF didn’t want to help an "HRC"
organization. So, the money which conid
really, really have made a difference in
: Oklahoma went to OGLPC.
¯ WhatdidOGLPCdowiththosedollars?
: They rented a bus to bring Tulsans to the
: rally, and they rented portapots and got
: the necessary, permits for the event. But
¯ interestingly they also hired and paid Ms.
: PaulaHandBrown to help co-ordinate the
¯ event. And they used the funds to pay for
: advertising in various publications, albeit
¯ not this one. (For the record, TFN
: frequently donates ads completely free of
: charge to community non-profit
: organizations unlike our rivals who
¯ typically provide atmosta20%discount.)
¯ Also, OGLPC is permitted, according to
: NGLTF organizer, Dan Haws, to keep
¯ any leftover funds to subsidize their
¯
organizational work.
¯ Perhaps, OGLPC will transcend its past
and prove worthy of the $5K they were
: granted. Butif the reasoning for choosing
: them over Cimarronis true, then OGLPC
: and Oklahoma’s communities have
¯ become once againpawns in the games of
: our"national" organizations.
¯
The bottom line is the money should go
¯ to those who can most effectively use it.
; And you have to wonder if those who
: can’tevenissue a simplepress release, are
¯ the ones who can make the best use of the
¯ money.
" "I speak out abroad, I must not be silent at
home," the Republican said. In a positive
: sign for supporters, Senate Judiciary
¯ Chairman Orrin Hatch, R-Utah, has
: scheduled hearings on the legislation for
¯
next month.
¯ But it still faces a difficult road. Some
¯¯ co.ngr.es.sionalRepublicans have expressed
mxsgxvmgs that the legislation is
¯ unnecessary because dozens of states have
~ laws protecting the groups identified in
¯ the bill.
¯
Backers are also concemed that social
: conservahves may construe thelegislation
¯ as extending special protections to ¯
homosexuals. "This is not a bill that will,
] in one way, advantage one group over
; another," said Wyden. "I can’t believe
¯ any members of the United States Senate ¯
want to be soft on violence."
Pennsylvania Republican Sen. Aden
Specter, R-Pa.., another bill cosponsor,
said he wasn’t as optimistic as some of his
colleagues. "A lot of opponents.., pick
out hate crimes legislation for a great deal
of criticism," he said. "This is a tough bill
to get very much support."
Under the bill, current law would be
expanded so theJustice Department could
prosecute crimes based on a person’s
sexual orientation, gender or disability.
Now, the statute only covers crimes based
on race, color, religion or national origin.
Also, the bill would make federal
prosecution ofhate crimes eas~er. Current
¯ law limits prosecution to situations whexe
¯ the victim is targeted for engaging in
: certain, federallyprotectedactivities,such
¯ as serving on a jury, voting or attending
¯
public school.
: Over40 states havehate crimes statutes,
¯ but only 21 cover sexual orientation, 22
~ cover gender and 21 cover disability,
¯ according to the White House, which
¯ supports the bill.
: Senator Edward Kennedy, Democrat -
¯
Massachusetts, the bill’s lead author, said
¯
the measure wouldn’t undermine the role
¯ of the states in prosecuting hate crimes, ¯
jnstbringinvestigative andother resources
¯
of the federal government to bear where
¯ necessary.
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by Mary Schepers, Do-It-Yourself-Dyke
Poor dears, your DIYD has neglected
you awfully - and she has missed you.
Honest! Sparing you the boring details,
suffice it to say that family situations
regrettably intervened, but your DIYD is
back, tmarchived and just as naughty as
ever. And isn’t that what you
really want? No, I suppose
most of you want me to get on
with that damned project you
werelefthanging withacouple
of months ago, and so I shall.
The DIYD is perfectly
confident that you have not
been squandering the intervening
months but have quite
diligently been scoping ideas
to steal and make your own in
our Kitchen remodel on the
shoestring. Now, being
Now, heln~
economical
does not equate
with being.
cheesy, so wall
the rather "
enthusia~tle
dyke with the
~tn of
Rust-o-leurn
economical does not equa[e please
with being cheesy, so will the eooIher"jets.
rather enthusiastic .dyke with ,’i-,’I
the can of Rust-o-leum please....... t ne DIYD
cool ~her jets. The DIYD
promises that she shall get her
shining moment when we
discuss refurbishing the garage
sale find garden furniture. You
have 0aonesfly] assessed both
your finances and the state’of
yourcupboards? Decidedwhat
you can livewith stylistically’?
Then lef’s get cooking.
We will be working on the
assumption that your cabinets
are sturdy enough and laid out in amanner
that is endurable until the money for the
Dream Kitchen appears (The pessimistic
side of the DIYD cautions.that any time
you have spare money, either your house
or your car will find out about it, so be
sneaky! A friend of hers adds "girlfriend"
to this .corollary.). Given those two
assumpuons, you have options. And we
all love options, don’t we?
The easiest approach may be to repaint
your cupboards, put up new hinges, and
handles and a bit of tasteful shelf paper.
Yes, you still have to prep things for
successful results. Sorry. Youwill need to
lightly sand the surfaces and clean them,
then put on a primer coat. NOT Water
based! That raises the grain of the wood or
separates the veneer..Oil based only. This
might be a good time to review the past
articles on painting and brush care. I will
always recommend that you "extinguish
pilot lights on the range if you have them
and to open windows and doors for good
ventilation. Solvents are just ugly. Then
use Kilz brand paint; it is trouble-free as
oil based paint goes, and dries in an hour
or less. The DIYD strongly recommends
taking one cabinet door at a time offwhen
repainting, and then adding thenew hinges
and handles when putting it hack on. Or
you can take the cabinets off all at once,
but mark them or handle them in some
other methodical way. Especially in older
homes, all things are not equal.
One coat of primer then, unless you get
somebleed-through, then apply two coats.
When that’s all dry, you can paint on your
finish paint. TheDIYDurges you to invest
in a semi-gloss or gloss formulated
especially for kitchens. These paints can
stand up to the moisture, and you’ll really
be grateful when you go to wipe off that
errant cake batter. Put in your shelf paper
and the you’re ready for those new hinges
promises that
she shall get
we discuss
ref~rbishin~
th..e garage sale
find g.arden
~urniture.
and handles.
Regardless of which option you choose,
you will probably want new h,ardware on
the cupboards and drawers. It s amazing
how much it spiffs things up; it is also
amazing how much it costs when you add
them all up, so take a count of what you
need, then use your calculator
when you go shopping.
It is also wise, if
possible, to find hardware that
is similar to the old as regards
screw hole placement. If you
don’t have to drill anything
new, why bother? Put a little
woodfiller in the hole, orbreak
a match stick off in it, then
attach your new hardware.
Always remember to look at
how the hardware you are
removing was attached,
especially hinges. This is not
frivolous advice!
Another option you
have is resurfacing, and this
can yield some remarkable
results. If you are handy and
rather intrepid, you can handle
the job yourself. They have
supplies and instructional
videos at Homo Depot and
other stores of that ilk. If
you’ve a bit extra tucked back
in the cookie jar and a low
reserve of patience for chaos,
by all means look into having
the job done by professional
resurfacers. They can even take care of
that god awful formica counter-top while
they’re at it. As usual, get lots of quotes,
demandreferences, and check thembefore
making this choice.
The option of last resort would be
stripping and refinishing the cabinets. You
should choose this only if a)your cabinets
are fabulous butjust dark or dingy;b) you
have prior refinishing skills; c) You have
an infinite reservoir of patience; d) your
beloved has an infinite reservoir of patience.
Nodream ofglowing wood cabine.ts
is worth a week on the couch - alone. The
dog will be in your place in bed. It can be
that bad, darlings.
As usual, it all sounds so very easy in
print, but ~rd up your channing loins,
dare to be anal retentive and methodical
and you’ll find the work rewarding. I’ll be
back next month when we deal with the
walls - if you’ve finished climbing them
by then:
and confabulations of underwear
collectors - and they establish all those
thousands of websites and chatrooms on
the Intemet. Anthropologists call these
"special interest ~oups" and, despite
pessimistic impresszons that nobody in
the country anymore talks to their folks
and neighbors, the number of interest
groups in this country has expanded
astronomically since the 1950s.
Where once people hid their fetishes as
painfully embarrassing, now, like Jay, we
happily call ourselves fetishists and
proudly broadcast our fascinations. So I
feel like I’m in good company when I’ve
got Jay working onmy toes with a dreamy
look in his eyes. It’s my contribution to
the modem American Way.
by Esther Rothblum
The Antarctic is the coldest, highest,
and driest continent on earth. Unlike the
Arctic, which consists of frozen water
surrotmded by land, the Antarctic is land
surrounded by water. Land is colder than
water, so the Antarctic has Tkere
temperatures ranging from
." here are strong spirited to start with,.and
¯¯ stronger stilluponleaving. BeingaLesbian
was not a contributing factor, whereas
¯ persistence, flexibility, emotional and
physical strength are more important.
¯ There is ajoke that usually goes around
is a joke town toward the middle of
the season: How do you get
40 degrees Fahrenheit in the
warmestpartofthe continent
in summer to minus 100
degrees Fahrenheit (.not
including the wind chill
factor) in the winter. 98% of
the continentis covered with
ice, and in fact the Antarctic
contains 90% of the world’s
ice. The ice is several miles
thick in parts oftheAntarctic
interior, so that the altitude
is similar to high mountainous
regions. Even though
the Antarctic contains 68%
of the world’s freshwater
locked up as ice, the almost
total lack of precipitation
classifies it as a desert.
Frequent blizzards and high winds form
"white outs" that make it difficult to see,
and the view is often a monotonous sheet
of white snow and ice.
Why would anyone choose to go to this
barren continent? In 1913, explorerErnest
Shackleton placed an ad in a newspaper
. that stated: "Men wanted for haTardous
journey. Small wage, bitter cold, long
months of complete darkness . . . Safe
return doubtful.., and recognition in case
of success." He received about 5,000
applications.
Most people who have come "to the
ice" in recent decades engage in scientific
research or support those who do. About
a dozen nations have built permanent
research "stations" in the Antarctic.For
several years, I conducted research on
womenin the Antarctic. I wanted to study
women who take risks, and the Antarctic
seemed the ideal setting. This work
resulted in the recent book Women in the
Antarctic(HaworthPress, 1998), co-edited
with Jacqueline Weinstock and Jessica
Morris.
Only one woman that we interviewed
for this book came out as a Lesbian, and
shewas part ofan all-women’s expedition
that skied to the South Pole. Our research
team did not feel we could ask our
participants about their sexual orientation.
In those days the U.S. Navy transported
personnel to the Antarctic (these days, it’ s
the Air Force) and as a result we were
concerned that our participants might not
want to come out to us as Lesbian or
Bisexual.
But we speculated that there might be
some Lesbians among the women who
live and work in the Antarctic. So I was
intrigued to readan article entifled"Below
the Ice: An Antarctic Journal" by Peggy
Malloy in a recent issue of Weird Sisters,
a Colorado Lesbian newspaper. I emailed
Peggy in the Antarctic (the wonders of
technology!) and she responded as
follows:
For most people who come to work in
Antarctica, it is the sense ofadventure that
draws us to this extreme environment.
Most ofus wouldnever have themoney to
be a tourist-visitor; and we would not be
able to learn to love ffduring such a short
visit, as many of us have done over the
seasons. Those who get through a season
that usually goes
around town
toward the middle
of the season:
How do you
get a date with
a woman?
Answer: be one.
There are
approximately
30g females
working in the
Antaretle program.
a date with a woman?
Answer: be one. There are
approximately36% females
working in the Antarctic
program. Yes, there are other
Lesbians in town, and a very
small handful of Gay men.
The men are quite closeted.
This was a military base at
one time and there are still
plenty ofmilitary influences
since so many ex-military
currently workfor Antarctic
Support Associates, the
civilian contracting firm in
the Antarctic. The Lesbians
are generally out, but several
are not.
This is a generally
¯ accepting environment, mainly since we ¯
all have to work andlive together forlong
¯ periods of dme. If someone doesn’t agree
¯ with a lifestyle, it’s futile to fightit. I do
¯ not try to hide my sexuality, but I don’t
¯ flaunt it either. There is always a fear that
: one won’t get rehired because of it.
¯ However, this seems to be residual from
; living in northern society, and not well
¯ founded in the hiring practices of this
¯ company. If there are any prejudices, I
¯ would say it is against women in general, ¯
not just against Lesbians. There is no
: attempt by the U.S. Antarctic Program to
¯ be Lesbian-affirmative, of which I am
¯ aware.
: I have worked at the U.S. McMurdo
¯ StationontheAntarctic continentfor three
¯" seasons so far. Each year the circle of
: friends increases: friends of friends tell
: friends,andendupcomingworkherewith
¯ us. Each year there seem to bemoremales
: who gravitate to our circle. These are
: straight men who feel more comfortable
¯ striking friendships with us,mosdy since ¯
we are"safe." There is no concern thatwe
¯ will wantanythingmorethan afriendship.
¯ Email is the best way to keep in touch
: withcommuffityfromhome. I amgratefnl
¯
to those who write and keep me informed
¯ of happenings, and gossip, and events
¯ such as the Rainbow Chorus concerts. I
: was quite involved with them before
¯ coming to work down here. This is such
¯ an isolated place, very little outside
¯ stimulation from color (th!ngs are brown
or white), smells (only the smell of fuel),
¯
and life (nothing grows here naturally
: other than some algaes). We see some
¯ seals andmaybe somepenguins at the end ¯
of the summer season. News from home
". or small care packages from friends are
¯ treasured like a long lost love’s return.
¯ Anything, and everything, is a special ¯
gift. This is also the time when I have
¯ more contact with friends than usual, as I
." can sit at the computer and drop a quick
¯ note to say, "hi, how are you doing?"
: Peggy Malloy can be contacted via
¯ email: malloyma@hotmail.eom. Esther
¯ Rothblum is Professor of Psychology at ¯
the University of Vermont and Editor of
¯ theJournal ofLesbianStudies. Shecanbe
¯ reached at Dewey Hall, University of
¯ Vermont, Burlington, Vermont. ¯
email: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
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They filled thepews, stood against church
walls and packed the steps leading to the
altar. "This is far beyond my wildest
dreams," said the Rev. Marge Ragona,
Covenant’s pastor. "We are amazed so
many felt you needed to be herejust as we
felt we needed to be here."
Speakers called onthe audience to speak
out against hatred and chastised people
who use the Bible to justify hate against
homosexuals. "We’re here to celebrate
this evening that God is not hate, but God
is love," said the Rev. Lawton Higgs St. of
United Methodist Church of the
Reconciler.
Roger Lovette, pastor of the Baptist
Church of the Covenant, encouraged
people to remember Gaither as a person,
not a symbol. "He was like the rest of us
with hopes, dreams and needs," Lovette
said.
Rodney Max, co-chairman of the
Coalition Against Hate Crimes, urged
legislators to pass alaw including offenses
motivatedbyhomosexuality on the state’s
list of hate crimes. "That should never,
ever happen again in this state," Max said.
After the two-hour memorial service
inside the church, people lit small candles
and stood outside singing ’~his Little
Light of Mine."
Across the street, a small group of
protesters from Westboro Baptist Church
in Topeka, Kan., held anti-Gay signs in
protest. "We are outraged at this violent
crime, but the issue is the homosexuals
are exploiting it," said Westboro’s pastor,
the Rev. Fred Phelps. "It is no longer
merely an event for the family and friends
to grieve." Protesters held signs saying
"Billy Jack Gaither bums in hell.’"
Max Griffies, 9, stood near the church’ s
step holdin,,g a sig,n declaring, "God loves
all people. Max smother, Leah Griffies,
but that still some homophobic remarks
were expressed by afew teachers to classes
after the announcement was made. and
flyers went up. However, since a large
part of the group’s mission is to educate
faculty and other students, Allen
characterized these negative remarks as
something to be expected, until Gay and
Lesbians students and is sues become more
visible.
BTW’s GSA typically meets during an
intermittent free period in the school
schedule and the group often discusses
issues or plans for upcoming events. One
such event is the "Day of Silence" on
April 7th which is intended to be a day of
protest in support of civil rights for Gay
and Lesbian persons. Washington’s
Sizemore is actually the key organizer for
the US and Canada. Also, the BTW GSA
is planning to participate in the upcoming
Tulsa Pride Parade.
And Booker T. Washington’s example
has paved the way for GSA’s in at least
two other Tulsa high schools. Smaller and
more informal groups have come together
at Central and East Central High Schools.
All of these groups have joined together
in an organization, S.A.F.E. - Student
Alliance for Equality which meets at the
Tulsa Gay Community Services Center
(the Pride Center).
For more information, messages may
be left for the BookerT. Washington Gay-
Straight Alliance or S.A.F.E. at the Tulsa
Gay Community Services Center, 743-
GAYS (4297).
said she wanted her son "to know you
don’t kill people, regardless of who they
are, and especially for what they believe
in." The message seemed to sink in as
Max watched the protestors across the
street. "Itmakes mefeel disgusted because
everybody is created equal and all people
are created by God," he said.
Police originally charged Mullins and
Butler with murder, which carries a
maximum sentence of life imprisonment
.with a chance for parole. However, grand
jurors upgraded the charge to capital
murder, which cames only two possible
penalties: electrocution or life without
parole.
In Washington, DC, the Human Rights
Campaignissued the following comments:
"in 1997, (the latest FBI statistxcs
available) Alabama reported no hate
crimes to the FBI for any category.
Reporting of statistics is voluntary under
to the Hate Crimes Statistics Act of 1990.
Alabama’s hate crimes law does not cover
sexual orientation. ’This case in Alabama
shows the great inconsistency between
states in tracking and prosecuting hate
crimes We call on Congress to pass the
Hate Crimes Prevention Act, to set a
uniform federal response for hate
crimes and signal that anti-gay violence is
unacceptable in our society,’ said Human
Rights Campaign Political Director
Winnie Stachelberg."
Kevin Ivers, director of public affairs
.for Log Cabin Republicans added, ’’There
IS something wrong in society when gay
people are continually murdered in this
maimer, and our leaders have amoral duty
~o address it.., The leaders of both parties
must speak out with eqtml forceagainst
the anti-gay hatred and intolerance that is
feeding such crimes. . Every political
leader, especially those who seek-the
presidency, must reflect on why this is
happening, and what they can do to,.h,elp
stop it from continuing."
those who gathered to becomd~othe
Community of Hope have i~orked to be
honest about who we are and what our
ministry is. without insisting that others
agree with or embrace our ministry, We
have consistently insisted that ministries
of healing and hope, and not, Gay
advocacy, be ourfocus; while at the.same
time naming that homophobia and
inhospitality are antithetical to the Gospel,
and refusing to be silent in the face of
them. We have asked only for tolerance
and respect, and have tried to offer the
same. However. increasinly, the goodness
and dignity of Gay and Lesbian persons
and their loving, committed relationships
are so consistently and ’officially’
devalued and dishonored within in this
Conference and by this denomination,
thatI can no longer maintain myaffiliation
with integri&.
Secondly, I have decided to withdraw
because the ministries of justice and
compassion to which God’s church has
been calledand in which this congregation
is engaged, are too urgent and too
important for us to faithfully allow any
more time or energy to be diverted by
denominational arguments aboutwhether
or not Gay and Lesbian persons are part
of the body of Christ, Since the day this
congregation was called into being, Gay
and Lesbian persons have been BEING
the body of Christ - offering their gifts
and graces, their time and energy, their
hearts andhands, in loving service to God
and neighbor - see Peurose, p. 14
while the Church has debated their
acceptability. "Anyone who does the will
of God is my brother or sister"(Mark 3:
35), Jesus said. That debate was settled
long ago. And yet, women, men, and
children in Oklahoma, in the US, and
around the world continue to be robbed of
life every day by hunger, homelessness,
abuse, addiction, and violence, while the
UMC spends more and more of its time
andresourcesfight~ng over who is allowed
to love who. Internal struggles over control
and authority, have seduced our Church
intoforgetting its call to be the bearers of
God’sgospel ofhopeandlove to a hurting
worM. I am weary ofthe ’forgetting’ and
the fighting, and want my life and our
ministry as a community offaith to once
again be about ’remembering Jesus’ in
ways that honor the life he lived among
andfor us.
Therefore, on Thursday afternoon,
by Lamont Linstrom, Ph.D.
My feet are looking niighty fine these
days. I~have been seeing a new friend
named Jay, who calls himself a foot
fetishist. And he has been working these
toes down to hubs, almost. Jay describes
foot-worshipping parties he has attended
where shoes andboots and soqks goflying
in all directions. He has intro~oced me to
foot magazines. The personal ads are
remarkable. They come withphotographs
showing everyone thrusting his best foot
forward into the camera lens. And
websites, too. The intemet is one big
fetish supermarket: rubber and latex here,
feet over there, underwear at the back. Or
uniforms:-I have another friend with a
closet full of uniforms. I never know if
he’s going to show up dressed in Boy
Scout drag, or as Marine, or perhaps a
water meter reader.
While Jay was mass_aging my feet one
afternoon I thought abouttheword"fetish"
- a term oddly shared by anthropology,
psychology, and sexology. SigmundFreud
himself seems to have been the first to
borrow "fetish" from 19th century
anthrol~i0gy. Scholars of West African
religion had.firstused thewordto describe
religip~s..objects from Ghana - small
carvings, amulets, and’the like-thatpeople
bdieve&~were inspirited with divinity.
Feti~h deriYes from the Latin facticious
whi..k once.meant "handmade" or
"man~0~tU~ed" (e.g., see also "factory,"
and "factotum"). The word’s connations
of "artificial," in the original sense of
"made" or "constructed, "expanded to
absorb secondary meanings of "unreal"
or "fake"-or "false." Thus, the fetish
originally was a man-made, artificial
image of-God that African devotees
believed to have divine powers. The term
is still used occasionally in anthropology
and beyond to refer to sacred objects. My
Bay Area newspaper, for example, last
week contained an advertisement for an
upcoming sale of Pueblo Indian jewelry
whichfeaturedZuni fetishes- these small,
carved animal figures sold as both
decorative and spiritual.
I am not sure why Freud borrowed
fetish to describe sexual kinkiness. We
can guess, however, that he shared the
same sorts of. European cultural biases
that led to th~ earlier anthropological use
of the word. The savage religious devotee
focuses his attention on the artifical fetish
- the man-made object - and thus misses
¯ March 4, I submitted the following
¯
statemen¢ to.Bishop Blake:
~ " Bishois.Bruce Blake
¯¯ Oklahoma Annual Conference
United Methodist Church
¯
It is with a deep trust in God’s steadfast
¯ and unconditional love that 1 write to
¯ informyou thatlaminitia,ting theprocess ¯
ofwithdrawalfrom Zhe United Methodist
¯
Church in order to transfer my ministerial
¯ orders to another denominate’on. 1 have
chosen to begin this process because I
¯ cannot remainfaithful to the Gospel and
¯ honor the requirement of the United
¯ Methodist Church not to celebrate and ¯
blesssamesexcovenantrelationships.As
¯
one who has been baptized to "resist.
¯ injustice and oppression" and ordained
: to"lookaftertheconcernsofChristabove
¯ all," I am called and charged to offer the
¯ full ministry ofthe church--including the
¯ blessing ofdovenant relationships- to all
: God’s people, including those who are
¯ Gay or Lesbian. I will do nothing less.
: - Rev. Leslie Peurose
the larger supernatural reality ofgod. The
: sexual fetishist similarly misdirects.his
¯ attention only to this or that body part or
: object, and also misunderstands the
¯ broader, complex whole of human
¯
sexuality. The foot fetishist sucks toes,
: but ignores everything above the ankle.
¯ The hair fetishist gets tangled and stuck
: up there and never moves along towards
¯ "normal" sex.
The 19th century anthropologist and
¯ psychologist both shared the belief that
¯
they could indeed define normal religion
¯ and natural sexuality. Whatever fell short
¯ of this standard could be defined away as ¯
artificial - just a fetish. Lucky for us,
¯
maybe, things aremuchmorecomplicated
: nowadays. Some complications have
¯ come along with 20th century Hedonism. ¯
While hardly triumphant (especially in
¯ Oklahoma),latterday influentialhedonists
: like Dr. Ruth proclaim that all forms of
¯ sexual behavior are good, as long as ¯
nobody gets hurt. And even that can be
¯ good, too, as long as a person wants to get
: hurta,ndiftheboundaries andgroundrules
¯ (we Americans are so legalistic) are
¯
negotiated beforehand.
¯ Jay finds sexuality in toes just as West
Africans discover divinity in beads and
: wood. So fixations .on feet, jocks,
: underwear, underarms, hair, rubber sheets
¯ - it’s all reoently wonderful.
¯ Well, perhaps not that kid living down
the street who’s discovered to have 2000
¯
pairs ofwomen’s panties hiddenunderhis
~ bed thai he’s stolen from neighborhood
¯ clotheslines. Butmostly fetishes are good.
Isn’t the right toa feti~h protected in the
¯ Constitution? At least they contribute to
: the economy.
¯ Sex nowadays is also complicated by ¯
the duty our culture demands of us to
¯ cultivate our individuality. Fetishes here
¯ are extremely useful. They help
¯ differentiate ourselves as unique
¯
individuals. If you remain stuck in plain
¯ old boring vanilla sex, you are just a
¯ cypher in the crowd. Youneed a focus, an
: angle. Somespecial way to define yourself
¯
whenfilling outoneofthosebearortwink
¯ codes one sometimes sees flaunted in
¯ email signature files. But the American ¯
desireforindividuality and our cultivation
¯
of sexual fetishes also eventually leads
¯ around to American sociability. Those
¯ fetishes are shared. Fetishists quickly go ¯
to work organizing societies of foot
¯
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Wisconsin Lesbian Elected
To United States House
WASHINGTON (AP) - Wisconsin voters elected the
first opeuly Lesbian woman member of Congress on
Tuesday. But an acknowledged Lesbian House challenger
lost in Washington state and another was behind
in California. In Wisconsin’ s open 2nd District, Democratic
state Rep. Tammy Baldwin defeated Republican
Josephine Musser, the former state insurance commissioner,
to replace retiring GOP Rep. Scott Klug.
Baldwin, 36, made healtheare a cornerstone of her
campaign, saying the United States should adopt a
~national, publicly funded system like that in Canada.
’°Tammy Baldwin is a solid representative who happens
to be a Lesbian," said Elizabeth Birch, executive
director of the Washington-based Human Rights Campaign,
a Gay civil rights group that helped bankroll the
Baldwin campaign. "She has broken down a very large
door," Birch added.
see Baldwin, p. 10
Hawaii.+Alaska Voters
Reject Gay. Marriage
’Th~As;oc;’atedPress ~Stri~ggiingt; satisf~y~l~ot~.~0ei-al
conservatives and the law of the land, Hawaii on Tuesday
took another step toward banning same-gender
marriage, giving its Legislature the go-ahead to write a
new law. Elsewhere, Alaskans voted a Gay-marriage
ban into their constitution, and voters in Fort Collins,
Colo., defeated a measure to protect Gays and Lesbians
from discrimination.
News was more hopeful for Gay civil rights advocates
in Maine, whereindividual communities are fielding
anti-discrimination bills to circumvent this year’s
statewide vote that overturned protections on the basis
of sexual orientation. South Portland approved a Gay
rights initiative; Ogunqult’s vote on a similar proposal
was too close to call early Wednesday.
The Hawaii initiative was lawmakers" latest try to
sidestep the state Supreme Court’s 1993 ruling that the
state had no constitutional right to ban same-gender
marriages because that would deny some citizens the
rights provided to others. Because the U.S. Constitution’ s
Full Faith and Credit .Clause requires states to honor
each other’ s statutes and legal bonds, the 1993 ruling set
off some furious preemptive legislating around the
country. At least 30 states have now banned Gay marnage,
and Congress passtd the Defense of Marriage
Act, which denied federal recognition ofGay marriage
and allowed states to ignore same-sex tmions licensed
elsewhere.
The two sides in Hawaii spent millions of dollars in a
relendess media campaign. "It’s really sending aclear
message, a strong message, that the people of this
community will not allow homosexual marriages;" said
Mike Gabbard, a leader of the Save Traditional Marriage
group, seeVote, p. 10
UJ DIRECTORY/LETTERS P, 2/3
US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 ~ HEALTH NEWS P. 6
ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8
~ COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 8
BOOK REVIEW P. I 0
DO-IT-YOURSELF P. 11
DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P. 12/13
~ CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14
¯
200 Attend Tulsa Vigil
For Hate Crime Victim
Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends
Tulsa’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaper Available In More Than 75 City Locations
¯ The Associated Press & TFN- Matthew Shepard, a 21 year old
¯ Gay University of Wyoming freshman, was found severely
¯ beaten Oct. 7. He died Oct. 12 in a Fort Collins, Colo., hospital.
¯
His deathsparkedanintemational
"[your vi$11 represents]
a eommhment to an
end of vlolenee and
[to] appropriate
proteetlon under the
law... Matthew
Shepard’s death was
horrible and senseless;
it would be more so if
it. was in vain."
- Drew Edmondson
OkLaltom Attorney General
. .," outpouring of sympathy for vic-
¯ ¯ tims of hate crimes and calls for
~: a-federal hate crime law from
Clinton.
All across the US, communities
heldvigils andrallies tohonor
and mourn the slain student. In
¯
Tulsa, a group of about 150-200
¯ persons gathered at the Civic
Center Plaza. Anumberofclergy
¯ spoke, including the Rev. Father
: Rick Hollingsworth of the Parish
¯ Church of SaintJerome, the Rev.
¯ Leslie Penrose of Community of
: HopeUnited Methodist, the Rev.
¯ Helen Calloway of the Unity
: Church and the Rev. Russell Bennett of Fellowship Congrega-
¯ tional Church.
: Oklahoma’ s Attorney General, Drew Edmondson, sent a state-
: ment which was read by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
vice president, Greg Gatewood: "[your vigil represents] a commitment
to an end of violence and [to] appropriate protection
¯ under the law.. see Hate, p. 11
:
- Fayetteville Civil Rights
¯ Measure Overturned
FAYEFFEVILLE, Ark. (AP) -.Voters here rejected a resolution
: that backers said would have protected Gay people against job
¯ discrimination in city government. Final but unofficial results
¯ from Tuesday’. s .balloting 8howed7~811" v_otes against the measure,
6r58pe~-cent~ whil~ 5,731,or_42 percenL.we~_e cast in favor.
Known as the human-dignity resolution, the measure was passed
¯ by the Fayetteville City Council earlier this year, vetoed by the
¯ mayor, then passed by the council again in overriding the veto.
: It wouldhave required that all applicants for city staffpositions
¯ have equal access to employment, regardless of race, sex, reli-
: gion, color, national origin, age, ancestry, familial statUS, disabil-
¯ ity or sexual orientation, A group opposed to including "sexual
¯ orientation" on the list successfully petitioned to get the resolu-
¯ tion.on the ballot. ¯
Claudette’s Leaving!
Longtime AIDS Activist
Moving to Aggieland
¯
TULSA - For half a decade, anyone seriously involved with
¯ HIV/AIDS, knew Claudette Peterson. For a nu~nber of years, a
¯ Tulsan being tested for HIV anti-bodies likely had their blood
¯ sample taken taken and results given by her when she ran Tulsa
¯ Oklahomans for Human Rights HIV Testing Clinic.
¯ More recently, Persons Living with AIDS (PLWA’s) have
¯ benefited fromher tireless (and initially unpaid) efforts to establish
Food Chain, a food pantry and more. However, since her
¯
spouse, Tim Peterson has recently been taken a teaching job at
¯ TexasA&Mwherehe received his ph.D, Tulsa is losing Peterson
¯ to College Station.
Another prominent figure amongTulsaHIV/AIDS fundraisers
¯ and caregivers, Janice Nicklas, bemoaned Peterson’ s departure.
¯ "It’ s a major loss for our community.., she has tireless energy for
¯ developing resources for HIV prevention and care and we owe ¯
her a lot . . . anyone’s fortunate to have her living in their
community."
¯ Peterson noted that her work has been a labor of love, and is ¯
proud of the fact that she and Foo~t Chain have never had to turn
; away a client and they are now. serving over 100 PLWA’s a
¯ month. She notes that donating food has brought very diverse
: people together- drag queens working right next to conservative
church people. Peterson also recognizbA Audra Sommers for her
¯ very generous support ofFood Chain and other care programs as
¯ wall as support from the National AIDS fund, Tulsa Comm
¯ AIDS Partnership, the Rath Foundation, &Philip Morris Co. Inc.
: Tulsa Library Rever,s,es
Anti-Gay Paper Poltcy
¯ TULSA- Fornearlyfiveyears,Tulsa’sCity/County
¯ Library System (TCCLS) had refused to allow the ¯
distributionofGaynewspapers,TulsaFamilyNews
¯
in particular, in its lobbies. Early in October, TFN
¯ received a letter inviting the newspaper to provide
¯ copies to be distributed at the Central and each of
¯
the four regional libraries. Tulsa Family News is
¯ now found in those locations.
¯ The dispute over distribution privileges began ¯
when TFN publisher, Tom Neal, was representing
_" a now defunct out-of-town Gay paper and re-
" quested equal distribution access as magazines like
¯ TulsaKids, TulsaPeople and Urban Tulsa enjoyed ¯
a number of library lobbies. The response of the
." then TCCLS director, Pat Woodrum and the
¯ library’.s board of trustees was to change the rules
; to ban "out of town" publications.
Shortly after that decision, Neal began Tulsa
¯ Family News and reapplied as a local publication.
¯ Once again, TCCLS changed the rules to continue
to grant access to non-Gay publications and not to
." aGay one. Thesenew rules required that50% ofthe
¯ content of the publication be "local."
¯ TFN challenged TCCLS to clarify how it was ¯
defining and connting local content. Neal notes,
¯
"we had issues where it appeared that we met the
~ 50% standard as we understood it and yet we were
¯ told we didn’ t have enough local content. Further-
." more, we documented multiple violations of that
: rule by other publications but the library administration
refused to respond to our requests to clarify
the policies and to explain their seeming tolerance
¯ for rule-breaking by other publications."
see Library, p. 12
World AIDS ¯ IAM Director Decides to Step Down ¯
TULSA~interfaithAIDS Ministries is sponsoring
¯
its annual World AIDS Day Candlelight March.&
¯ Memorial Service. As is customary, the event is on
¯ December 1 st,Tuesday andwill beginat 6:30 at the
parkinglot of Centenary United Methodist Church
¯
(631 North Denver) just north of downtown. The
¯" march begins to the Parish Church of Saint Jerome
(205 West King) at about 7pro and the memorial
service will start about 7:30. There is a reception
¯
following the service. Marchers are asked to bring
: banners & bells, but candles & matches will be
¯ provided. St. Jerome will be accessible to the
disabled at the east entrance.
¯ Also, this will be the last World AIDS Day for
which ]AM’ s executive director ofmany years will
¯ serve. Diane Zike, who helped found the organiza- ¯
fion when it was part of the Episcopal Diocese of
¯ Oklahoma’s AIDS care, will be stepping down at
¯ the end of the yearforpersonal reasons. Zike stated,
"my work in AIDS ministry has been a very impor-
¯
taut and meaningful part ofmy life fore the past 12
years. I regret the need to step down now from my
role as director but I will continue to be active and
supportive in any way I can."
TFN publisher, Tom Neal, noted, "Diane is one
of the unsungheroes of the TulsaAIDS community
- she has worked long and hard at great personal
cost." Info: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437.
: Blues Concert for AIDS
¯ TULSA-Walkfor Life will presentits 2ndannual
." blues concert later this year (the date will be an-
¯ nounced). Last year’s event was held at at
¯" Streamroller Blues and featured a surprise visit
from Hanson. The tickets to the event will be $5 at
~ the door and will benefit local AIDS care organizations.
For info., call 918-579-9593.
see Editorial, p. 3
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Coors Donation Condemned
Imagine a Lesbian or Gay activist who
left the country a few years ago and just
recently returned back to our community.
Talk about culture shock! She or he would
witness a brave new’queer world, one in
which GLAAD has accepted $110,000
from Coors, theHumanRights Campaign
(a Lesbian and Gay PAC) has endorsed
D’Amato for Senator in New York, and a
young Gay man was tortured and murdered
in Wyoming. Importantly for us,
these three things are not unrdated -
appeasement comes at a price - and that
price is not acceptable to us.
Weare writing (respectively) as aformer
taffer and former board member of
GLAAD/SFBA. Therefore we will focus
rathe GLAAD-Coors connection.
GLAAD (the Gay and Lesbian Alliance
Against Defamation) has accepted
$110,000 from the Coors Brewing company
to support its new "sexual orientation
in the workplace" training effort.
GLAAD was founded by activists such as
Vito Russo (author of The Celluloid
Closet) with a single, very spedfic rmssion:
to watchdog and critique the media’ s
coverage of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and
Transgendered issues.
It has strayed from that mission often to
deal with the substance of issues rather
than how they are covered. We believe
that conducting sexual orientation in the
workplace trainings is outside GLAAD’ s
niche.
No other organization in our community
focuses on anti-defamation. There is
plenty of defamation (some have lately
taken to calling it hate speech) runmng
around loose these days. GLAAD has
plenty enoughmediaanalysis andresponse
to do and litde enough money to do th.at
vital work, without implementing a new
: project with dirty money.
Much has already been said about the
politics of Coors and the politics of accepting
money from Coors. We would
like to emphasize our dismay thatGLAAD
would accept money from such a source.
When we were with GLAAD, RJR
Reynolds (Big Tobacco, a key backer of
powerful, homophobic North Carolina
Senator Jesse Helms) was also offering
the community money and some were
considering taking it!
So, we in GLAAD/SFBA back then
"did the math" and realized that taking
money from people trying to kill youjust
doesn’t add up to anything that makes
sense. Same for Coors once removed -
that is the Coors Foundations.
- Tom di Maria, Exec. Director, 1993-95
- Jessea Greenman, Co-Chair, 1990-94
GLAAD/San Francisco Bay Area
[Editor’s note: the Coors family wealth
has been closely associated with a number
of the most ultra rtght wing and anti-
Gaypolitical causes. Coors Brewing Company
was once the target ofa boycott due
to anti-Gay company policies. Coors
Brewing now boasts a non-discrimination
policy that includes sexual orientation
and. supports Gay organizations.
Coors Brewing has supported the Tulsa
Pride Picnic for a number ofyears.]
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At the present time. there are only 25 states that have laws against
homoffexuals, most nbted are; Alabama 20 years, Georgia 20 years, l~hode
Is and ant ess than 7 years nor more than 20 years, Oklahoma 10 years. The
homosexuals are working hard to get these laws changed to permit their
perversion ofour country, and it appears they are successfuq at it. "
A great many laws have been changed. Until 1990
our country. In 1986the U.S. SupremeCourtuph,
(in a 5 to 4 vote), noting that "prohibitions again
jurisprudence since the colonization of the countr
the laws of’he original thirteen states when they r~
outlawed sodomy. Noah Carolina’s original sodl
the abonimable and detestable crime against natur
adjudged guilty of a felony and SHALL SOl:
CLERGY".
the U.S. barred admission ofsexual deviants into
d the constitutionality of Georgia’s sodomy law
homosexuality have been a part of Ainerlcan
" Sodomy was a criminal offense forbidden by
fiodtheBillofRights. Until 1961, allb0states
ay statute nut: "Any person who shall commit
not fit tb be named among Christians... Shall be
ER DEATH WITHOUT THE BENEFIT OF
Without proper punishment of these, perveRs, u( great comitxy has become like Sodom &
Gomorrah. It’s gotten pretty sad when we allo’~ mmosexuals to teach our children that there is
nothing wrong with being *gay".- ttawthome I ementary public school, Madison, Wisconsin,
where lesbian TummY" Boldwln is Distriet Cotmty ~upcwisor, bes just one ofmany pilot programs
to teach against homophobia, At the direction of~[hoir teachers, Ist and 2nd graders made a book
titled "Everybody is Equal, A Book About Gay &. Lesbian." The book teaches our very young
chiltlrcn respect for homos, a.s well as the Ga~ Pride chant’Hay-Hay-Ho-Ho-Homophobia’s got to
go’and"Wewant rigbl,~tao*: 1ST&2..NDGRADERS!!! OneolderstudenL whenaskedwhatshe
had learned, statedshe’loaksatitlnadifferentlight. Toknowwhatbeinggay isallabout, it’snot
actually diffcrent from anybody else".
Cambridge Mass. schools hold functions like a Gay Family Photo Exhibit on school grounds, and
another celebrates Gay Pride Day as a holiday. Third graders n New York earn tolerance for
borons, tlomosexuals argue that wbat consenting adults do in the privacy oftbeir home is protectod
under lhe tight to privacy. Vsctlmless crimes, sucKas the possession and distribution ofillegal drugs
do not escape the law where they are committed at home; right to privacy in no way allows one to
break the law. Not State law and not God’s !aw...sodomy is a crime and must be prosecuted. By
dolng nothing and allowing sodomites to run amuck, just look around and see where our morals are
today. Prison terms for sodomy are designed to punish persons who undertake by unatural and
indecent methods to gratify a perverted and depraved sexual appetite which is an offence against
public dccancy and morality. To i mprison a conlinnod homosexual is like throwing Brer Rabbit i nto
the briar patch To ~ve our nation we need the DEATII PENALTY to put an end to the sodomites
~erverslon ofour country.
Can honmsexuals repent and be saved I I Corinthians 6:1 I)? A few are, but this still
does not mean society eannol INSTITUTETHE DEATI I PENALTY for this crime, just
as it has for the crime of murder. No one says a murderer cannot repent and come to
Christ, nor does society allow such a conv~’sion to stop the death penalty from being
carried out. Lev. 20:13: "Ira man lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman both of
.them have committed an abominatiott. They shall surely be put to death".
Asa did that which was right in the eyes ofthe I.ord, and hc tookaway the sodimites out
of the hind (IKings 15:12). ]-lad Asa execu~.d these sexual deviants, Jehnsaphat
wouldn’t have had to remove the remaining sodomites out ofthe land (I Kings22: 46).
The Death Penalty is our only answer to ensure these pe~’erts are out ofour contr~’ and
stay out for good. ]
But God is love, oh yes, God is love ~nd if you love God, you will keep his
commandment {Matt 22:37 and Jol~ 14:15). So for our people to keep the
commandment of l.ev. 20:13 is tO love Grd. Romans 1:2~-32: :,re have changed.the .
troth ofGod into a lie. worshippingand se~ing the creature more than the Creatbr. God
has given us up to qle afflictions, even our woman go against nature, ~nd likewise also
the men burned in their lust one toward another, They \vhich commit such things arc
worthyofdeath, SodomandGomorrahwcredestro.vedforsuchthings. Ourendcould
be #n uch worse ifwe don’t follow God’s law’.and uphold the Death Panahy forsodom):
Pastor Pete Peters points out in his book,"Death Panalty for Homosexuals" that the top
6 leading scrialki||ers in the U.S- are: Donald | larvt:y - 37 killed. John \Vay’ne Gaq." - 23
killed. Patrick Keamev - 32 killed, Bruce Davis - 28 killed. Core Henley Brooks - 27
killed. Juan Corona -’25 killed, al! of which were homosexuals; add to that Jeffrey
Dahalcr.
In closing. I would like to poinrout that God has the answer to all our problems. God
has Ills law and the law is good tfa man use it lawfully( I Timothy 1 :g-I 0).
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"To save our nation, we need the DEATH PENALTY t~
put an end to the sodomites perversion of our country." No
doubt, your reaction is much like mine was - this is ludicrous,
almostlaughable! Andthatreactionis increasedwhen
we note the source: the extremely disreputable, publicityhungry
ex-Klansman, the "Reverend" Jonny Lee.Cleary.
But just as the extremist rhetoric of anti-abortiomsts has
created a climate in which extremists murder in order to
"save lives," this adds to a climate in which Lesbian and Gay
lives .(and those of our non-Gay friends who shand by us) are
already devalued and at risk.
Though ultra conservative political groups, like the Family
Research Council, Focus on the Family and the Republican
Party now distance themsdves from recent violence
against Lesbians and Gay men, their systematic attacks onus
and their exploitation of anti-Gay fear for political gain also
have helped create a climate ripe for violence.
Murdered University of Wyoming student Matthew
Shepard’ s death was horrible but it was not the only one of
its type, nationally or even locally. According to Kelly
Kirby, 1ongtimeTulsacivilrights activist, therewas one Gay
man murdered each .year from 1991 to 1996. And yet when
Tulsans held a public vigil for Shepard, not one elected
official came or sent a representative. Mayor Savage was out
of town but surely some one member of her staff could have
shown up? What about the district attorney? Only former
DA Bill LaFortune came and that reflects not only on his
decency and compassion see Penalty, p.14
Ray of Light Campaign Invites Gay People To Tellof Experiences With Ex-Gay Ministries
by Wayne Besen . Of course, you would never see a cover story about a
HRC Associate Director of Communications ".
It is morning once again, and as you rub your tired
eyes and peer into the unforgiving bathroom mirror, the "
shiny reflection of your head is a painful reminder that
you look just as much like Kojac as the day before.
Although your friends say you should learn
to accept your baldness, you desperately
want to change and have spent years pursu-
: ing the latest hair growth remedies to no
: avail. But today is your lucky day. While
: sipping the morning coffee, you pick-up a
¯¯ copy of a respected news magazine and a
bold, splashy headline proclaims: BALD
: FOR LIFE? Underneath the headline, two
¯ smiling, bushy haired people, who look en-
~ thralledby their new hair-dos, claim to have
: been "cured" by a miracle hair tome, corn-
: blued with bible study.
Ecstatic, you excitedly turn the pages un-
: til youf’md the story about this new "miracle
." cure." But as you read on, your enthusiasm
¯ quickly begins to diminish. First, you find
that the smiling mop-tops on the cover-page
: are full-time, paid employees for acompany
: marketing this product. Next, even the most
: fervent supporters claim that the success
¯ rate of this so-called panacea is a paltry
:
Currently, ~alse
notions about
Gay Amerleans
are beln~
perpetuated hy a
media whleh
erroneously
believes it is
honorable
journalism to
simply
regurgitate
sound bltes rom
both sides in the
name of bahnee.
30%. What about the other70%? According
to the company, the hair tonic is not working for these
folks because they are "not praying hard enough."
As you skim down the page, you perkup because you
read there is still hope! A competing company claims
that their hair tonic has a miraculous success rate of
71.6%. But when asked by the magazine reporter for
hard data to corroborate the claim, the company spokes-
person gli"bly repli¯es,. "I don’t have time to conduct
follow-up studies." How then, you wonder, does the
¯ company come up with a specific number like 71.6%
without ~’011ow-ti~ studies to document whether or not
: the patients sprouted hair?
~ The article then points out that the two scientists who
¯ founded the hair tonic formula have feverishly traveled
" to science conventions around the world to declare that
~ their invention.does not work as they once said it did.
~ They say that many people would he harmed psycho-
. logically if they pinned all ,of,their ho.p~,s a~,d dream~,on~
what they now Call a"fraud. The article atso states mat
"- all respected medical and mental health organizations
agreed with the inventors that the hair tonic was no more
i likely to help one grow hair than dipping ones head in
~ a vat of Ben and Jerry’ s ice cream.
¯ If that isn’ tbad enough, the companies promoting the
¯ hair tonic have taken out full page ads in major newspa-
: pers which have distorted a baldness study by one of the
¯ premier hair loss specialists in the nation. The ac-
"_ claimed expert retorted acrimoniously to the lies by
¯ saying, "It was a complete misrepresentation of what
~ the research actually said. It was taken completely out
~ of context. I am horrified and angry and they are
¯ spreading an awful and destructive message."
¯ Your dreams of looking like Fabio are dashed for ¯
good when you read that of the people lumped in the
¯ 30% success rate category, the majority believed that if
~ thehairtonicdidnot work, biologicalbaldness couidbe
¯ overcome bywearing atoupee. The article ends with the ¯
testimony of angry ex-ex bald people who claim that
] they were misled and cheated by the hair tonic compa-
¯ rues. One company’s spokesperson dismisses the in-
] convenient complaints of the ex-ex-bald people by
~ saying: "Some p~.ople fall of the wagon."
~ You now sit m your living room, enraged by the
¯ misleading story, wondering how a respected news
~ outlet would g~ve this "snake oil" that has been so
~ thoroughly discredited, the slightest bit of legitimacy,
~ no less a cover story. Shouldn’t the ex-ex-bald people
~ have been on the cover, or at least been the focus of the
¯ story instead because their experiences are a more
~ representative of the vast majority who took the tomc?
~ Dojournalistic ethics and standards exist anymore, you
¯ wonder? Whoops, you almost forgot, it is 1998, ’‘The
: Year of the Journalist."
discredited, unsubstantiated, cure for baldness, or anything
rise for that matter.., except homosexuality.
When it comes to a so-called cure for Gay people, (as if
one were wanted or needed) veracity does not seem to
be of much importance to the media. In the following
passa~, all of the shenanigans attributed to
the ex-bald movement actually occurred in
the so-called ex-Gay ministries, from the
bogus statistics to the distortion of scientific
research, to the founders of the ex-Gay ministries
marrying each other and repudiating
these "cures." Yet, despite these gross irregularities,
the media still unwittingly legitimizes
"ex-Gay" ministries by not holding
them to the same standard of scientific
proof that they would demand from any
other group.
Advocates for Gay equality believe
these ministries should have an opportunity
to voice their opinions. However, the media
has a duty to research the accuracy of statements
made or statistics reported. Currently,
false notions about Gay Americans are being
perpetuated by a media which erroneously
believes it is honorable journalism to
simply regurgitate sound bites from both
sides in the name of balance. While balance
is important, it is not an excuse to eschew
accuracy and tough, fact checking. All statements are
not equally valid and it is the media’ s responsibility, to
distinguish factfrom fiction. Inmost of the news stones
about the "ex-Gay" mimstries or the Right wing ad
campaign in which these mimstries are highlighted,
fiction has been the norm and the truth has been a
For example, ex-Gay leader Anthony Falzarano recently
said dn television that nearly 80% of Gay people
were:molested as children. This is factually incorrec~by
any objective standards, withGaypeoplenomorelikely
to be molested as children than heterosexuals. Unfortunately;
because he is talking about Gay people, the
lethargicmediafelt there was noneed to hold Falzarano
¯ iecountableforhis lie. IfFalzaranowouldhave mad.e .a9
outrageous claim about any other minority group, ~t ~s
guaranteed the media would have followed-up and
excoriated him for his hysterical statement.
At the Human rights Campaign, our biggest challengeis
not countering political religious activist ~oups
whoexistmdeny us equal rights. The toughest battle we
face is getting the media to accurately follow-up on
outrageous statements made by these groups. As it
stands, our opponents can say anything they want about
Gay people, no matter how despicable, and they never
. havemanswer for it~Through lazy reporting, the media
has becomean accomphcemthe Right s discnnnnalao
campaign against Gay Americans by giving bald faced
lies equal stature to documentedfacts. It is our hope that
as the news media begins to evaluate some of their
glaring ethical lapses in 1998, they will consider stopping
the harmful practice of printing false information
about Gay people perpetuated by the Right without first
verifying the outrageous claims.
This perpetuation of myths by the media has forced
the Human Rights Campaign to start the Ray Of Light
(ROL) project. TheROLseeks to shine the spotlight on
these ministries so people can see beyond the rhetoric
andhearfromthe vast majority ofpeoplewhohave been
through these ministries and now call their techniques
psychological terrorism. This project will invite former
¯
ex-Gays from around the nation to share their stories
¯ with the Human Rights Campaign and lift the veil of
¯ secrecy surrounding these mimstries. The Ray of Light
¯ will:
¯ *Seek and chronicle the stories of former ex-Gays;
¯ *Share these smiles with the public and the media; ¯
*Compile information by leading mental health and
¯ medical experts on the most recent studies; and
¯ *Examine the literature of the ex-Gay ministries to
¯ look for flagrant abuses and fraudulent claims.
If you have been through these ministries, please
¯
submit your story so we can share it and help others.
~ Stories can be submitted, to: www.hrc.org/ncop/rol
Churches Create Hate
MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - Mainstream Christian denominations
are to blame for a climate of hate and
bigotry that fostered the fatal beating of a Gay University
of Wyoming student, a United Methodist
Church pastor says. "It’s not just the fight-wing
conservatives" who are teaching that homosexuality
is a sin and that Christian churches should shun Gays
and Lesbians, the Rev. Jimmy Creech said while in
Minneapolis recently. "I hold the church accountable
for helping to create a culture that allows violence
against Gays and Lesbians," he said. "Churches don’ t
intend for the violence to happen, but they lay the
groundwork for it."
Creech gained national notoriety" for officiating at
a same-sex covenant ceremony in his Omaha, Neb.,
congregation. In August, he was narrowly acquitted
of violating church law. He subsequently resigned
from his Nebraska congregation.
Creech argues that when the church denies clergy
members the right to perform same-sex ceremonies,
it is preventing them from "being a pastor to all
members of the congregation.r’ For him, "’This is the
denial ofmy freedom to be a pastor to everyone, and
that’s very offensive."
Crecch was in Minneapolis to preach at two services
at All God’s Children Metropolitan Church.
Theday before, hemetwith several Minnesota United
Methodistclergy andlaity. Recently,22United Methodist
members from Minnesota joined 344 other
Methodists around the country in asking the national
bishops to address the issues of treatment ofGays and
Lesbians in the church.
Non-Biological L sbian
Mom Shares Custody
NEWARK, N.J. (AP) - A woman who stayed home
[o raise a 2-year-old boy while her Lesbian partner
earned a living can share custody of the child, even
though she isn’ t the biological mother, a judge has
ruled. The partner, identified only as R.E.M., stayed
home to take care of the boy while herpartngr, S.L..y.,
worked at a hospital. The Lakewood couple decided .
to have the child together, chose a sperm donor to
inseminate S.L.V. and sent out birth announcements "
with both women’ s fingerprints on them.
Experts who follow Lesbian custody battles say the ¯
decision goes further than any other in granting bro,a,d ,"
custodial rights to a woman who is not the child s
birth mother. "-
"The court is satisfied that R.E.M. has been able to ¯
show that she stands in the shoes of a parent to the
child and should be accorded the status of parent in "
parity with S.L.V.,’7 Superior Court Judge Vincent ¯
Grasso wrote inhis decision issued Monday in Ocean
County.
Kate Kendell, who heads the National Center for
Gay and Lesbian Rights in San Francisco, called the
decision "an enormous victory ." "Our children have
as much right to a continuing relationship with both
parents as any other child of two parents," she said
Tuesday,
Thejudge’ s declsxon, however, lsn t binding stat -
wide and is inconsistent with an opinion issued in
Essex County in September. Two other similar cases
have yet to be decided in Mercer and Union counties.
"Right now, you have a situation that really cries out
for an appeal," said Paul Urbania, S:L.V:’s attorney.
’q’he law in New Jersey shouldn’t depend on where
geographically you’ re located."
One woman in Essex County, who said she helped
raise 4-year-old twins with her ex-partner, lost custody
of the children and vowed to appeal. Attorney
Robin Wernik said the woman will use the Ocean
County opinion to bolster her case.
Lawyers are stillformalizing thedetails, butR.E.M.
will likely be able to care for the boy for three or four
12-hour days each week while S.L.V. isat work, as
well as on alternate weekends, said her attorney,
Bettina Munson. R.E.M., a former bartender, does
notworkbecause ofapermanentdisability toher arm.
Both women must share the cost of supporting the
boy, identified only as A.J.M.V., thejudge said. The
boy, who was born on March 2, 1996, goes by the
surname of both women.
The couple, who met in 1989 and moved in to-
¯
gether in 1991, chose a sperm donor together with a
¯ geneticprofilethatwas compatible to theirs once they
decided to have a child. S.L.V. was inseminated
¯
because R.E.M. had had a hysterectomy, the opinion
¯ satd. The women went by mommy and mamere,
¯¯ and drew up respective, detailed family trees for the
baby. The relationship ended in November 1996,
¯
although S.LV. remained in the home until Septem-
¯ ber 1997, the opinion said. R.E.M. sued for castody a
¯ month later.
"BBC Apologizes For
¯ Calling Politician Gay
LONDON (AP)-TheBritish Broadcasting Corp. has
apologized to a Cabinet minister who was described
as Gay during a news program. Aides to Trade Secretary
Peter Mandelson said Monday he had received
~ a letter of apology from BBC chairman Sir Christo-
¯ pher Bland. Mandelson, who prefers not to make an
¯ issue of his sexual orientation, planned no comment
: on the letter, the aides said.
The controversy beganwhen newspaper columnist
Matthew Pards saidonalate-nightBBCprogram that
¯ Mandelson was "certainly, Gay. The remark came ¯
during speculation about the sexuality of another
¯ Cabinetminister, RonDavies, whoresigned as Welsh
¯ Secretary last weekbecause ofwhathe called a"lapse
¯ of judgment" with a stranger who robbed him after
the two met at London’ s Clapham Common, a popu-
: lar Gay hangout, and left together. Davies has given
: no clear explanation of what happened. But he has
¯ denied he was seeking Gay sex or drugs, even after
days of banner headlines and tabloid stories.
: Meanwhile, the BBC added to the controversy by
¯ ordering staffmembers never to repeat the remark by
¯ Parris, who is openly Gay, on any of its programs.
¯
That move provoked charges of clumsy censorship
¯
and of giving special treatment to Mandelson, a close
¯ adviser to Prime Minister Tony Blair and among the
¯" country’ s most influential politicians.
¯
Protesters included the opposition Conservative
~arty., severa! 9f whose.politicians were pursu.,e,d.by
the media over extramarital affairs when the party
was ~n power.
Also opposed to the BBCrs move was Northern
Ireland Secretary Mo Mowlam, also a leading member
of the Blair Cabinet. Ms. Mowlam said she and
other panelists on a Friday nightBBCradio talk show
were told not to mention Mandelson and the Gay
remark. "I’m not about to be unfair or unjust to
colleagues, but we’ve all state~,,very clearly that to be
given guidelines is insulfing~ she said during the
show.
The BBC altered.anews quiz program last week to
remove a running joke about Mandelson, but the TV
¯ satare program .Ha. e I Got Ne~ws For You.’?" was
¯ allowed to broadcast a Clip of the Parris comment.
i Schools LawSuits Help
"Prevent Gay-Bashings
¯ OAKLAND, Calif. (AP) - In the wake of the recent
~ death ofaGay collegestudeut, administrators, teach-
¯ ers and students methere this weekend to diSCUSS Gay
~ bashingin schools. They say lawsuits are a powerful
¯ weapon in the ending name:calling, harassment and
: violence agMnst young Gay people. S.chool districts
¯
that have ignored the problem are being held liable.
¯ No federal anti-discrimination laws cover sexual
: orientation, and Massachusetts is the only state to
¯ mandate such protection. But officials-fro_re, the U~S.
¯ Department of Education saidthat under T~tle IX of
theCivil RightsAct,new legal groundis being carved
; out to help Gay youth.
¯" For instance, a boy who is harassed by other boys
¯ because he is.effeminate may have a valid claim that
¯ he’ s being discriminated against because of his gen- ¯
der. Agency officials said they werelooking into such
¯
a case at a private school in the San Francisco Bay
; area. ’Tm n0t saying we came to tell you we’ve got
¯ all the magic bullets and fight answers," said Art
i¯ CCiovlielmRanighotfs.,,D’F~rpa~narktmlye,ntwoef.aErdeusctarutigognl’isngOfwfiicthe aosf
; many questions as you have."
¯ The issue has taken on new urgency since the Oct.
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fence to die, officials said. "When you don’t deal with ¯
sexual harassment, it leads to society accepting it, and
that leads to tragedies like that," said Gloria Estolano, "
who works in the agency’s San Francisco office.
Those attending the second annual conference hosted
by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network "
said lawsuits should be a last resort. "The last time "
students needed lawyers ,to g~t them through high
school was in the ’50s and 60s’ during the civil rights
movement, said Kate Frankfurt, an organizer of the ¯
gathering. What’s needed instead, she said, is organiza- ¯
tions that can stimulate dialogue on the issue.
Learning how to better run her own such group ¯
brought Veronica Lopez, 22, from Stockton to the ¯
conference. Lopez, a college student who works full
time in a day care center, said homophobia starts early.
She said a 4-year-old boy recently came to her in tears .
because a 5-year-old had just called him an anti-Gay "
epithet. "It shows the parents are talking about it, ."
because kids don’t even know what (Gay) is," Lopez ¯
said. "I thinkit’ s important that people realize we’re not "
sick people... I consider myself pretty normal."
Gay Man in NY SenateI
ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Thomas Duane, openly Gay ¯
and HIV-positive, describes himself as "distinctly "
progressive." TheDemocraticNew YorkCity Council- "
man is running for a seat m the state Senate that has ¯
rarely, if ever, been described in those terms. If Duane ¯
is elected - and the heavy Democratic makeup of his "
Manhattan district makes that very likely - he will ¯
become the state Senate’s first openly Gay member and
only the second openly Gay member of the state Legis- ¯
lature.-"I’m hoping to add something that has been "
missing from the debate in Albany," Duane said.
He runs as the recent beating death of Gay University ¯
of Wyoming student Matthew Shepherd focuses national
attentiononhatecrimes legislation, one of Duane’ s "
key issugs. Known for his outspoken support of issues ¯
relating to Gays, women and the disabled in.the rough ¯
and tumble city council, Duanehas said that the absence ¯
of hate crime statutes permits and, ina sense, encour- "
ages violence against homosexuals. This-year, he called
for can-cellation-of the annual GreenwiEii Village Halloween
Parade, clting rising anti-Gay violence in the "
traditionally tolerant New York City enclave. "
Such abate crimes law has been blockedinNew York ¯
by the very Republican-controlled state Senate Duane ¯
hopes to take a seat in. Senate Majority Leader Joseph ¯
Bruno opposes the law, saying it creates a special class "
of victim. "
’‘The state Senate has been absolutely backward,"
Matt Foreman, executive director ofEmpire State Pride ¯
Agenda, New York’s largest Gay advocacy group. ¯
"Someone like Tom is desperately needed there."
It is highly unlikely that Duane he will have any luck "
pushing legislation through the highly-regimented Senate
from the Democratic side of the aisle. Still, support- ¯
ers say his status is likely to hold sway in debates. "To ¯
have someone who lives with HIV talking about HIV- :
related bills will be quite powerful and I think his "
opinion willcarry real weight," said state Sen. Catherine ¯
Abate.
Duane is running for Abate’ s seat after she vacated it "
to nm unsuccessfully for the Democratic nomination ¯
for state attorney general. The district winds from the ¯
Upper West Side through Times Square downtown to
Greenwich Village and the Financial District. Voter
registration is 67 percent Democrat and only about 11 "
percent GOP. His opponent, Republican Karol Murov, ¯
has failed to mount mu’ch of a challenge, observers said.
Bruno spokesman John McArdle refused to discuss
Duane’ s candidacy. But in response.to criticisms about "
the chamber’s attention to Gay issues he said "the ..
Senate has responded to concerns of New Yorkers as a
whole." ."
Duane’s election would bring New York even with ¯
Arizona and California, which both have two Gay ¯
members in their state Legislature. Only Oregon and "
Maine have more. ."
AssemblywomanDe_borah Glick, the-New York’s
first openly Gay legislator, points to legislation r~quiring
AIDs testing for newborns and this year’ s mandate :
that people who test positive for HIV notify their "
: partners as si.gns that New York’ s Legislature is ill-
" informed on issues important to Gay groups. Yet
she sounds a cautionary note for Duane, saying to
expect at least some hostility. "I’m sure he will
encounter homophobia. I did and still do," Glick
said.
Gay MayorforWinnipeg
WINNIPEG, Manitoba (AP) - A city councilman
once featured in a documentary about Gay foster
fathers has won the mayoral race in Winnipeg,
becoming the first openly Gay mayor of a major
Canadian city. "It was a history-making night,"
said Glen Murray after returns showed him winning
easily over six other candidates. Winnipeg is
Manitoba’s capital and, with 667,000 residents, is
the largest Canadian city between Toronto and
Calgary, Alberta.
Murray, 41, became one of Canada’s betterknown
Gay politicians six years ago when, with his
troubled foster son Michael Curtis, he was featured
in a film documentary called "A Kind of Family."
Murray did not make his sexual orientation a focus
of the campaign, concentrating instead on economic
issues and moderating some of the left-ofcenter
positions he espoused during three terms on
the city council.
His main opponent, grocery-store executive
Philip Kaufman, did not raise the homosexuality
issue explicidy, thoughhe made references early in
the campaign to family values. Late in the campaign,
a local minister organized a prayer vigil and
urged voters to oppose Murray. "This is not a
matter ofhating anyone," said Bruce Martin, pastor
of Calvary Temple Pentecostal Church. "It’s a
matter of biblical interpretation."
Murray’s victory was celebrated by Gays in
Winnipeg. "It’ s apotent symbol that an openly Gay
person should be elected to a high post like this,"
said Chris Vogel, a Gay rights activist. "It contributes
to the growing sense that there’s nothing
wrong with being homosexual."
Murray, seeking to portray himself as mainstream,
said he would follow the practice of previous
Winnipeg mayors and refuse .to officially proclaim
a Gay Pride week in the city. In fact, he said
he _will try to avoid issuing such proclamations on
behalf of any group or cause. "We’re a city of such
diversity, of so many cultures," he said. "We’re a
city of great tolerance, ofhope and Ijust think all of
those values were reaffirmed tonight." There are
only a couple of dozen openly Gay politicians in
Canada, including two members of the federal
Parliament.
Bishop in Bind
COLUMBUS, Ohio (AP) - A bishop who performed
two same-sex ceremonies when he was a
Columbus pastor said it was an agonizing decision
for him to file a complaint against a minister for
performing a Gay ceremony. Bishop Joseph
Sprague, head of the Chicago United Methodist
Church, said he performed services for two men
and two women.
Sprague charged Rev. Gregory Dell, pastor of
Broadway United Methodist Church in Chicago,
with "failure to uphold the order and discipline of
the United Methodist Church." Sprague said he
:’ chose to write the complaint to avoid inflammatory
language he expected others might use.
Dell will be tried before a 13-person jury of his
peers. Dell said he didn’ t talk with Sprague before
conducting the recent service, but knew the bishop
would be required to file charges.
Sprague said before he performed the Gay ceremonies
he first discussed it with Bishop Judith
Craig of the West Ohio Conference, which has
jurisdiction over Columbus. "I told him he could
not use the marriage ceremony in that setting... I
toldhim that in terms of any ceremony he designed,
I wouldleave it to his pastoral discretion to do what
was necessary to providepastoral care," Craig said.
Sprague has refused to remove Dell from his
duties pending the trial, and said he isn’ t sure what
he will do if the jury votes to oust Dell.
Jocelyn Elders:
No Regrets
COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) - Jocelyn Elders,
who lost her job as U.S. surgeon
general four years ago, says she does not
regret taking such controversial stands as
advocating se~x education for kindergartners
and conitoms in teen-agers’ pockets.
"You look back on things like that more
than once, and I have tried to think how I
would have said things differently or
should I have said those things, and I have
to say I have no regrets," she said at an
annual state conference on sexually transfnitted
diseases and HIV, the AIDS virus.
Even the invitation for her to speak
stirred controversy. The state Department
of Health and Environmental Control last
month withdrew its sponsorship and
$40,000 in funding, saying Elders’ presence
would distract from the issues. That
left AIDS service organizations as the
primary sponsors, with funding frompharmaceutical
companies.
Eiders, who drew bursts of applause
and cheers from the audience of nearly
650, said she advocates explaining sex to
youngsters so they can protect themselves
from abuse. "We want tO teach our children
early that there are places that people
should not touch," she said in an interview.
What about leaving sex education to
parents? "We don’t let the parents teach
physics," Eiders said. "Your health is far
more important than physics." And if site
had a teen-age daughter? "I would never
want my teen-ager to go out on a date
without a condom in her purse," Elders
said, saying vows ofabstinence"are easier
to break than a latex condom.’"
Elders, the first black woman to be
surgeon general, held the job 15 months
until she was forced to resign in December
;t-994: ~Her downfall came. when she
said Gays and Lesbians must help save
children from the un-Christian religious
right.
Needle Exchange
Program Prevails
WASHINGTON (AP) -Even before a
congressonal bahon funds for needleexchange
programs became law, anAIDS
clinic in the nation’ s capital had set up a
private group to supply drug addicts with
clean needles. "This law is intrusive,"
said Jim Graham, executive director of
the Whitman-Walker Clinic. "It not only
tells D.C. how we can spend ourownlocal
tax dollars, but it tells charities like
Whitman-Walker how we can spend pri:
rate funds."
Congress, as part of the $520 billion
spendingpackage signedintolaw Wednesday,
banned use of local and federal funding
for any needle-exchange program in
the District of Columbia. That was on top
of a permanent ban on federal funding of
needle exchanges anywhere in the country.
The Whitman-Walker Clinic, one of
the nation’ s largest, has created a private,
nonprofit group to run theprogram, transferring
equipment, supplies and $50,000
in private funds to the new operation. The
Washington-based Drug Policy Fotmdation
gave the new group, Prevention
Works, an additional $25,000. "Sounds
like they’ ve. got some pretty sharp lawyers,"
said Rep. Todd Tiahrt, R-Kan.,
who sponsored the ban.
The clinic gets $7 million a year in
federal and local government dollars and
has operated a clean-needle exchange for
three years. It got $210,000 from the dis- -
trict last year for the effort and raised
$50,000 from private donors. Last month,
its van disU-ibuted 17,000 needles. Prevention
Works should have. enough resources
to keep the needle-exchange van
rnnning for four or fivemoremonths, said
Graham, who is running for City Council.
Needle exchanges are operatingin about
100 U.S. cities. Supporters say such programs
help prevent the spread ofAIDS by
allowing addicts to exchange contamimated
needles for dean ones. Opponents
contend the programs encourage drug
abuse.
Eleanor Holmes Norton, the distriCt’ s
delegate to Congress, called the provision
"callous... (and) ignorant, because the
entire scientific establishmenthas reached
the same conclusion: Needle exchange
markedly reduces AIDS infection and
deaths without spreading drug abuse." Its
racial implications are inescapable, she
said, because AIDS is hitting black and
Hispanic populations the hardest. Last
year, she said, the District’s AIDS rate
was nine times the national average.
Tiahrt and Sen. Jolm Ashcroft, R-Mo.,
the Senate sponsor of the ban, cite Canadian
studies they say demonstrate that
. clean needle programs have failed to reduce
the spread of HIV. "’Wherever the
needle exchange programs took place,
theybecame hubs for drug activity," Tiahrt
said. Addicts~ need "help ~o get off drugs,
not help to get new needles." A possible
White House contender, Ashcrofl likens
needle exchange programs to the idea
"that providing bulletproof vests to bark
robbers would make it safer for them to
rob banks."
The authors of the Canadian studies
have said congressional leaders misinterpreted
their report. Because the programs
served inner-tory neighborhoods, they
served users.already at the.greatest risk of
infection, they said, and the programs did
not provide enough syringes to be effecfive.
Investors Suing
¯ PLWA’s Not Dying
: wEsT PALM BEACH, Fla. (AP) - A
¯ group of mvestors has sued two compa-
¯¯ nies that buy and sell life insurance policies
ofterminallyill patients, saying medi-
¯ cal advances are keeping AIDS patients
¯ alive longer. ¯
¯ The two companies targeted in the lawsuits
broker what arb known as viatical
¯ settlements. A terminally ill person, usu-
¯ ally an AIDS patient, sells his life insur-
¯ ance policy for less than the death benefit
to get the cash. The person who buys the
¯ policy becomes the policy’s owner and
¯ beneficiary and collects the full benefit ¯
when the patient dies.
¯ The deals were invented in the 1980s as
¯ thenumberofAIDS cases exploded. They
¯ have been controversial since their incep- ¯
lion because, in .crass terms, they are an
: investment in someone else’ s death. But
: the deals are touted as making the best of
¯ a bad situation. They often help AIDS ¯
patients pay for treatment and live out
¯ their final days in relative comfort.
¯ However, the lawsuits filed recently in ¯
Palm Beach County Circuit Court con-
" tends the system is falling apart. Medical
¯ progress means AIDS patients whomight
_- have expected to live only for another
¯ year are living for three, four or five years.
¯ Thelonger a patient lives, the lower the
¯ return. If an investor buys a $110,.000
: policy for $100,000, and the patient dies
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in a year, that’ s a $10,000 or 10% return.
If the patient lives two years, the annual
return falls to 5%, in uncompounded interest.
At three years, it’ s 3.3%.
So for the investor, the deals are no
longer viable, said Mitchell L. Perlstein, a
Boca Raton attorney who is representing
the investors. The deals now amount to
deception on the ,part of the two companies
in the lawsuits, he said P6rlstein said
there’ s no longer areasonable certainty as
to the projeqti~n Of life expectancy. The
lawsuits seek a~jury trial and unspecified
damages. A Judge must certify them if
they are to become class actaon.
Officials at Accelerated Benefits in
Orlando and Dedicated Resources Inc. of
Delray Beach said they had not seen the
lawsuits and could not comment on the
Specific charges. "It’ll be interesting to
see what they have to say," said Michael
Zadoff, presidentofDedicated Resources.
HIV & Elder, Sex
TAMPA, Fla. (AP) - Sue Saunders is 65
and has AIDS. As far as she’ s concerned,
the more people who know it the better.
Saunders pioneered aproject in herhometown
of Fort Lauderdale to educate Flori~
ans over age 50 about therisk ofde¯eloplng
acquired immune deficiency syndrome.
Her first challenge was getting the
attention of an age group largely ignored
when it comes to AIDS education.
"Yes, there is sex after 50. After 60.
After 70. People think after 50 we die
from the neck down," Ms. Saunders said.
"People look at you like you’re crazy.
What?You mean, Grandma and Grandpa
are still having sex?"
Ten% of all AIDS cases in the country
are people over age 50, according to the
Florida Department of Elder Affairs. In
Florida, the figure is higher - ranging
between 12% and 14%. One in eight Floridians
living with AIDS is 50 or older,
state health officials said. Yetwhengroups
are addressed that are considered.at risk of
contracting the virus that causes AIDs,
older Americans are often left out.
Eighteen months ago, Ms. Saunders
began inviting herself to small South
Florida groups to discuss prevention, promote
education and warn seniors to abstain
from sex or use condoms. "You’ re
telling people 50 to 90 years old: ’You are
at risk for a fatal disease. Youjust went to
bed with aguy and y,oudon’ tknow where’ s
he’ s been.’"
Ms. Saunders was healthy and active.
She was divorced, in love and in a longlime
relationship. HerBahamianboyfriend
was the spark of her life. They spent lazy
days on the water, fishing. Life was good.
That was in 1990: Suddenly, her boyfriend
was diagnosed HIV positive. Nine
months later, he was dead. She feared the
same thing would happen to her and began
saying goodbye to her four grown
children.
A son took herto an HIV-infected doctor
in Laguna Beach, Calif. That visit
helped change her life. She dropped the
self-pity and went to the Broward County
Health Department but found little informarion.
After six months doing research,
she went to Bentley Lipscomb, elder affairs
secretary, who found $170,000 to
fund SHIP, the Senior. HIV Intervention
Project.
Ms. Saunders worked long and hard
getting into the crowded retirement condominiums
along Florida’ s Gold Coast to
give her message. In these building complexes,
women outnumber men seven-toone,
she said. "The women are starved for
affection. The men are having a ball. They"
can have all the women they want. "Ev~
erybody says ’it can’t happen to me. I’m
uot aprostitute. I don’ t fool around,’" she
said. "You’ie never too old. And all it
takes xs one partner - if he or she is
infected.’"
Older people are rarely targeted for
prevention. The health care system, including
doctors, often is reluctant or uneasy
about discussing AIDS and sex with
them, said Dave Bruns, elder affairs
spokesman. "Not only is it an insult, it’ s
rampant ageism," Bruns said. "Just who
do they think is buying all this Viagra?"
There are 67,282 cases of AIDS cases
statewide and 8,400 of those infected are
age 50 or older, according to the Florida
Department of Health.
When Ms. Saunders left the SHIP program
recently, the demand for lectures
was enormous. "Everybody wanted us to
come talk to them," she said. They were
scheduling 20to30 presentations amonth.
The project was so successful, a second
program was launched in the Tampa Bay
area under Edith Ellerson in June. She
encountered similar apprehension as she
started talking at senior centers, assistedliving
residences, senior nutritional programs.
Gradually, the audiences became more
receptive and willing to listen. She brings
condoms, urges listeners to be tested and
find out firstabout themselves, then question
their partners. "You’ re not only sleeping
with your partner, but with whomever
your partner slept with for the past five
years, and whoever they slept with - like
a pyramid or domino effect," she said.
Hemophiliacs to
Get Compensation
WASHINGTON (AP) - Last-minute lobbying
led to deceptively easy approval of
a plan to allow the government to compensate
hemophiliacs infected with HIV
during the early days of the AIDS epidemic.
The bill, passed by the Senate on a
voice vote, authorizes payments of
$100,000 apiece to compensate hemophiliacs
or their survivors for the
government’s failure to aggressively
screen tainted blood products.
The measure, which President Clinton
is expected to sign, does not put the checks
in the mail, though, because it does not
allocate any money. However, with the
authorization in hand, the bill’s backers
can lobby Congress to appropriate the
estimated $750 million it would cost.
The bill, named after Ricky Ray, a 15-
year-old hemophiliac from Florida who
died from AIDS in 1992, became controversial
late in the legislativeprocess, when
others who contracted the .disease from
tainted bloodtransfusions argued thatthey
deserved to be included.
Sen. James Jeffords, R-Vt., took up the
cause of the transfusion victims, and at
one point blocked consideration of the
Ricky Ray bill in an effort to force action
on a more encompassing authorization.
Sen. Mike DeWine, R-Ohio, said he
spent the weekend on the phone pressing
Senate leaders to move the bill to the floor
and dealing with the last-minute objections
of other senators.
Jeffords’ spokesmanJoe Karpinski said
he never planned to hold up the legislation
altogether, and dropped his objections to
the House bill after it became clear thathe
could not develop consensus to include
the.transfusion victims, potentially dou-
\
¯
b.ling the cost. Hemophiliac,~ m~d tra:>/;usxon
recipients were infected wifl~.~~,--,.,.,~.,..~.
¯
donated by people who carried th6 AIDS
¯ virus.
The Institute of Medicine, a scientific
¯ organizationthatadvises the government,
¯
later concluded that government caution.
¯ fear of criticism and inadequate leadership
delayed effective screening of donors
and proper blood testing.
¯
Hemophiliacs already have won
: $100,000 each from the blood industry
¯ through the settlement of a class action
lawsuit. Transfusion court victories have
¯
been more sporadic.
¯ Karpinski said Jeffords will try again
¯ next year toinclude transfusion victims, a ¯
move DeWine backs. "We should work to
¯ see that justice is done for this group of
¯ victims as well," said DeWine. "Wemade
¯ the decision that it was better to deal with
part of the problem than none of the prob-
" lem." "I think the precedent of this bill
¯ willmakeit easier to address the concerns ¯
ofthosewhohaveAIDS because oftrans-
¯ fusions."
School NamedAfter
Boy with AIDS
WESTMINSTER,Colo. (AP)-Ten years
¯¯ ago, a little boy from Broomfield began
first grade while 30 children stayed home
¯
in protest. Threatening statements and
¯ letters from parents demanded a separate
: bathroom and eating area for Ryan
¯ Sheridan, who was infected with HIV. He
¯ died ofcomplications fromAIDS in 1993.
Public perception of the disease has
¯ changed since 1988, but misunderstand-
, ings still exist. Reminding students, teach-
¯ - ers and admimstrators ol~the hard lessons
¯ learned about Ryan is a school named
¯ after him: Ryan Elementary School in
¯
Westminster. His picture, a plaque and a
¯ red ribbon hangin thelobby of the school.
"It’s tough to remember. People were
¯ backed in a corner and forced to deal with
¯
something they didn’ t want to deal with,"
¯ said Tim Sheridan, recalling the events
¯ leading up to his son’s first day in first ¯
grade. When the Shefidans, now divorced
¯
and bothlivingin ~Ihornton, told adminis-
: trators Ryan was infected, the Jefferson
¯ County school boarddecided to inform all
parents by letter that a student with HIV
¯
would attendJuchem Elementary School.
¯. Juchem closed in 1994 after being replaced
by a new school named Ryan Elementary.
¯ The letter caused a firestorm of controversy
that forced the school board to have
¯ a number of secret meetings with Ryan’ s
¯
teacher and publicmeetings to discuss the
¯
issue. Throughout, Ryanremained anony-
¯ mous to everyone but his teacher, the
principal and the school board.
¯
Ryan contracted HIV when he was 2
¯ years old from a blood transfusion during
¯ 9Pen-heart surgery. Teachers and admin-
¯ lstrators say Ryan taught everyone at the
¯
school difficult lessons about tolerance
; and courage, but AIDS educators say the
public still has a long way to go in understanding
the disease. "in my opinion, we
¯ haven’t gone all that far in 10 years. Our
¯ homophobia is what gets in the way of
¯ hearing about HIV," said Katy Fleming,
education director at the Boulder County
; AIDS Project. "Studies have shown that
¯ manytimes peoples’ attitudes towardchildren
(with AIDS) have been negative
¯
because of issues of sexual orientation "
¯ Although HIV and AIDS education is
¯ better today, moral issues still need to be
¯ separated from medical issues, Fleming
¯ said.
by James Christjohn : they would get the in-jokes peppered
ff there is a movie that I would heartily ¯ throughout the film.
recommend to all folks this Halloween,,it ; And speaking of magic, The Divine
is Practical Magic. It has something for ¯ Miss M’ s new release, "Bathhouse Betty"
everyone: laughter, tears, sus- is a must-have for any gifting
pense, horror, magic, and
Stevie Nicks (betcha were
wondering how I’d work her
in, huh?). A comedy about a
family of hereditary witches -
that actually gets the gist of
Wicca correct for a change,
even if adding a few "eyes of
newt and a liberal dose of
frogs" - and romance, the favorite
line will be the one
where one of the townsfolk
says of one of the witches
"Goodnews - she’ s come out!"
And, tomy delight, Stevie~ s
reworked "Crystal" is a major
theme in the film in the score
as well as sung. The advice
given in the film to those considering
or afraid of relationships
is well worth the price of
admission. Stockard Channing
and Diane Weist are absolute magic as the
Annties who pass on the family traditions
with liberal doses of love and laughter.
One of the lovely things about the film
is .that it deals with being perceived as
different, inhuman, "other" in the ’~mainstream"
world, and being a magical film,
how the wOmen of this family transcend
that difficulty. It very much has a Gay
sensibility to it and thus would be enjoyed
by those in our community especially, for
"I’m Beautiful,
Dammlt"
[Bette Midler’s
new recording]
is a standout
track that
should he a hit
in the dance
clubs, being an
anthem to
being-different
and eelebratln~
that dlfferenee
in .spite of the
flak it brin~s.
this season. It is Bette at her
best, full of everything from
tearful ballads ("One True
Friend") to bawdy blues (my
personal favorite, and new
theme song, "One Monkey
Don’t Stop No Show"), to
comedic with a message (another
theme song, a hiphoppin’
’Tm Beautiful,
Dammit!").
It marks a return to the
eclecticism that was one of
Bette’ s most delightful qualities,
whereyoumightdiscover
songs you’ d never find otherwiseifyouhadn’
t been liste~ning
to her albums. ’Tm Beautiful,
Dammit" is a standout
track that shouldbe a hit in the
dance clubs, being an anthem
to being differentand celebrat-
¯ ing that difference in spite of the flak it
¯ brings.
¯ Know someone that Loves Bette
¯ Midler? Perfect gift. Know someone that
has never heard of Bette? Perfect intro-
¯¯ duction.
James Christjohn, actor, writer, poet
¯ and Mac-guru extraordinaire provides
¯ TFN with entertainment news, commen-
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¯ Stevie Nicks updates.
Gal-A-Vanting, Tulsa’ s new
tivities network specializing
in Ms-adventures for women,
kicked off its program with a
WomenIn the Arts nightat the
Pride Center on October 23.
While attendance was somewhat
thin, with approximately
20 women in the audience,
Gal-A-Vanting founders Joan
and Mary were still quite
happy with the event.
"Wedidn’ t takeinto account
Oktoberfest," Mary explains,
"And we are still developing
our mailing list and contacts.
The artists were really outstanding,
each with a style and
media that was quite unique~
We’re hoping to do a week
long show in the spring so that
the art exhibits can be stationary
and serve as an anchor for
performing arts such as readings,
music and so forth. And
this will give people a better
chance to see the works of
these fine women artists, and
support them by purchasing
their worl~ You don’ t have to
go to Eureka Springs or to Ptown
to find exceptional artwork
for your home."
social ac-
The
long-awalted
dance will be
held at the
Pride Center
on Saturday
November 14
from eight
p.m. tll ??? and
will be D.J.’d
by
Sue Knause,
who promises
to play a wide
array of tunes
for the
danelng
pleasure of
Tulsa’s
" play a wide array of tunes for the dancing
pleasure of Tulsa’s women.
With the smaller lounges in
the Pride center, opportunities
for a quiet conversation are
also available. Light refreshments
will be available and
the entry fee is $3 for singles
and $5 for couples.
"We’ ve had a lot of interest
in this dance, because somany
women like to dance but for
whatever reason don’ t care to
be arbund smoking or drinking.
It will also provide a nice
venue for women to meet new
friends and make new contacts."
says Mary.
The December Gal-AVanting
event will be a movie
night on December 16 at the
Pride Center, beginning at6:30
p.m. A feature film and a
couple of documentaries will
be shown.
We’re getting ready to prepare
our schedule of events
for the first of the year and
we’ d really like some ideas
from the women in the Tulsa
area of what they’d like to
do," explains Mary. "Please
feel free to call me with your
The long-awaited dance will be held at : wish list of activities at 743-6740. And if
the pride center on Saturday November . you’re not on our mailing/call list, please
14 from eight p.m. til ??? and will be : let us know, This information is strictly
D.J.’ d by Sue Knause, who promises to ¯ confidential and will not be shared."
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Parade of Lights.
Come celebrate the spirit of the holiday season
at the PSO Christmas Parade of Lights.
Saturday, December 12. Downtown Tulsa at 6 p.m.
View parade floats up close, Friday, December 11,
at the HolidayFest.(Brady Arts DistriCt) from 6-9 p.m.
Public Service Company of Oklahoma
A Central and South West Company
World AIDS Day 1998
Candlelight March & Memorial Service
sponsored by
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
Tuesday, December 1st
6:30, Gather at
Centenary United Methodist Church Parking Lot
631 North Denver
7:00", March Begins to Saint Jerome
7:30*, Memorial Service at the
Parish Church of Saint Jerome. 205 West King
Reception following seine.ice. *time approximate
Bring banners & bells~ candles & matches provided
st. Jerome will be accessible to the
disabled at the east entrance.
Into: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437
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The big news is Warren Duck Club’s new lunch menu. And the Horseradish Orange
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~ SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pro, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800
Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation
Service - 1 lam, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595
Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist
Service - 1 lam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314
Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church
Service - 1 lam, Childrens Ministry also, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc.
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210e So. Norwood
Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa
Service, 10:45am. 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America)
Mass - 1 lam, 205 W. King (east of No. Denver), Info: 582-3088
University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance
6:30 pm, Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780
Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals at 5pm, Info: 743-4297
~" MONDAYS
nIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard)
HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
7:30pm, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians.& Gays
2nd Monicach too. 6:30pro, Fellovcship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard
Mixed Volleyball, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 7pro, call Shawn 491-2036.
Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551
~ TUESDAYS
AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, 11 i 10, noon, United Way Bldg. 1430 S. Boulder
H!V+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium l:30pm
3507 E. Admiral (east of Harvard), lnf6: Wanda @ 834-4194
Multicultural AIDS Coalition, 11/3, 12:30pm, Urban League, 240 East Apache
Rainbow Business Guild, Business & prof. networking group, Info: 743-4297
PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE)
Tuesdays, 6 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297
!~ WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Family Of Faith MCC Praise/Prayer - 6:30pm, 5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441
¯House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pm, 3210e So. Norwood
Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225
TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632.
Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft.
~ THURSDAYS
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’ s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194
I~" FRIDAYS
SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, 1st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th
~" SATURDAYS
Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pro, Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2rid ft.
~OTHER GROUPS
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222
Womens Supper Club, Call for info: 584-2978
OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Info: POB 9165, Tulsa 74157,
Short rides, 6:30pro, Long rides, 7am: Meet at Z~igler Park,.3903 West 4th. Pride
Rides from the Pride Center, 3749 S. Peorial Write for dates.
Ifyour organization is not listed~ please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615.
Barry Hensley
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~lany Gay and Lesbian families have
rallies finding materials for children
h depict their family sire-
... In the past few years,
., has been a slow change
te publishing world and
re beginning to see a few
~ for children, early school
and .under, which depict
and Lesbian families.
ae trailblazer ~as Heather
Two Mommies, by Leslea
man, which stimulated
di "~
8t~’~
the
in
we
tifl
ag~
Ne
dis~ usslons across the country
and ’opened a new line of attad
~.on theGay community by
the Religious Right. A simple,
short book, it depicts a young
girl and her family: two pets
and two mommies. Heather
suddenly realizes that she
doesn’t have a daddy and becomes
upset. She is gently
shown other children who, for
a variety ofreasons, don’thave
fathers. Heather realizes that
there are many different family
situations and that she is
lucky to have two mothers.,
A companion book "i§
Daddy’s Roomate,by Michael
Wi!lhoite, depicting a boy
Willholte has a
third,
hilarious book,
Uncle What-ls-h
Is Comln~
To V;s;t.
It concerns a
youn~ brother
and sister who
.have just learned
that their Gay
uncle, whom they
have never met,
is eomln~ to visit.
They ask older
kids what it
means to be
Gay and are
horrified as the
stereotypes of
leather queens
and Carmen
Miranda look~alikes
spew forth.
Uncle What-Is-It Is Coming To Visit. It
¯ concerns a young brother and sister who
¯ have just learned that their Gay uncle,
¯ whom they have never met, ts coming to
visit. They ask older kids what
it means to be Gay and are
horrified as the stereotypes of
leather queens and Carmen
Miranda look-a-likes spew
forth. Their fears are shattered
when Uncle Brett shows up
and tunas out to be a normal,
everyday kind of guy.
Other appropriate books for
young children include The
Duke Who Outlawed Jelly
Beans, a satire on today’s polirical
scene. In it, the Duke
issues a proclamation: "I had
exactly one mother and one
father, and I turned out so well,
I thinkall children shouldhave
exactly one mother and one
father. Any that don’t- why,
we’ll throw ’em in the dungeon."
Fortunately, the Duke
learns the error of his ways.
For slightly older children,
ages 6-12, tryHow Would You
Feel If Your Dad Was Gay?
by A~n Heron and Meredith
Maran. Written by two Lesbian
mothers with help from
their sons,it depicts three chilwho’s
divorced father is in a long term,
canng Gaymlationship. AnotherWillhoite
rifle, not owned by the public library, is
Daddy’s Wedding, which continues the
saga of Daddy’s Roomate. Ask your librarian
to interlibrary loan Daddy’s Wedding
for you from another library system.
Willhoite .has a third, hilarious book,
"She has created an arch of hope that
future Gay and Lesbian candidates will be--
able to walk through." Baldwinis also the
firstwomanever elected to Congress from
Wisconsin.
Another openly Lesbian Democrat,
former Army colonel Grethe
Cammeremeyer, was defeated by incumbent
Republican Rep. Jack Metcalf in
Washington state. A third, Democrat
Chrisline Kehoe, was trailing in her bid to
upset California Republican Rep. Brian
Bilbray.
Gay Republican Rep. Jim Kolbe of
Arizona, bidding for an eighth term, held
a solid l(ad with more than three-quarters
of the votes counted in his race against
Democrat Tom Volgy.
In an Oklahoma rematch, Republican
Rep. Frank Lucas easily won. a fourth
term against Democrat Patti Barby, an
openly Gay OklahomaCity businessman.
Another openly Gay member of Congress,
Democratic Rep. Barney Frank of
Massachusetts, was unopposed for a 10th
term. Frank is an outspoken member of
the House Judiciary Committee, which
will consider impeachment charges
against President Bill Clinton.
In most cases, the Gay candidates and
their opponents kept sexual orientation
out of the campaigns. But 6ational Gay
civil rights organizations poured money
into the races, notably $1 million spent t~y
the Human Rights Camp~gn.
: drenwithGayparents.Ithasmulticultural
¯ characters andcompassionately shows the
¯ reality of different types of families.
¯¯ Don’t forget to check your local library
for information regarding Gay and Les-
¯ bianfamilies. Also youmay call the Read-
. ers Services department of the Central
¯ Library at 596-7966.
"People are taking a stand for traditional
mamage." Not surprisingly, Joseph
Mdillo, who with his partner and two
Lesbian couples sued the state when they
were denied marriage licenses in 1990,
felt differently. "It’ s putting into our state
constitutaon a discriminatory clause that
will distinguish us from other people," he
said.
Alaska’s constxtutional amendment
defines marriage as the union of one man
and one woman. The Legislature put the
question on the ballot after a Superior
Courtjudge ruled infavor oftwo Gay men
who challenged the state ban on same-sex
marriage. The judge said choosing a life
partner was a fundamental right and the
state had to prove a compelling reason to
regulate it.
In Fort Collins, a civil rights proposed
had become especially emotional since
the beating death of Matthew Shepard, a
Gay student from the University of Wyoming
who died in a Fort Collins hospital.
Ordinance 22 would have prohibited discrimination
in housing, employment and
public accommodations on the basis of
sexual orientation.
"National Gay civil rights advocacy
groups built this up as an important watershed
and I think it was," said Fort Collins
lawyer Jon-Mark Patterson, an opponent
of the ordinance. "I ~hink tonightitshowed
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Your.DIYD is fired and cranky, so let’s
snap to xt, get this fence up and get it over
with. After all, you’ve been waiting three
months to finish this project and it is
getting sooo tiresome. You’ve bought all
of your materials, put
up your posts and assembled
all your tools.
Your beverages have
been cooling and
you’ve got a pile of
pickets stacked in the
yard, and the neighbors,
the Nosey Parkers, are
still muchtoo interested
in your private life. So
put on that toolbelt
you’ve been breaking
in, and let’s work it.
The fence stringers
are the backbone of
your fence. If they are
on the inside of the
fence, you’ll want to
channel" your anal retentive
side and take
Your DIYD is
tired and cranky,
so let’s snap to it, get
this fence ~p and get
it over with.
After all, you’ve been
waitin~ three months
to finish this project
and it is getting sooo
tiresome... So put
on that toolbelt
y.ou’ve been breaking
m, and let’s work it!
particular pains to get everything level
and true. If your neighbors are getting that
side of the fence, one can be somewhat
more cavalier, though not messy, about
stringer placement.
For the perfect stringer array, you will
need enough string to stretch from one
end of the fence to the other, a spare body
for help, and a level. A chalk line won’t
hurt, either. There are small levels that
attach to your string and they are not
expensive; but if you’re tired of waiting,
we’ll make do with a regular level. Measurefrom
the groundup abouteightinches
and make a mark on the fence post on
either end. This will be where the bottom
edge of your bottom stringer will go.
Don’t worry, the tops (and the middies)
will get their chance momentarily. You
can no either stretch and attach a string
line from end to end, using a level to
ensure eveness, and mark the other posts,
or you can use a chalk line and snap the
mark across the posts. This saves time, if
you know how to use one. Attach your
bottom stringers withNo-Co-Rode screws.
drilling a pilot hole slightly smaller than
the diameter of the screw.
You will need help with this if you are
going for the perfect look. ff not, then you
can attach a 1x4 so that the top is even with
your bottom line. Do this on both posts
and use them to support your board while
you drive the two screws into each end of
the stringers. You can remove and reuse
the lx4’s as you go down the fence. The
stringers will meet in the middie of each
post, so if you’re over the length a bit,
measure carefully (twice!) and remove
whatever is necessary; if it isn’t long
enough, have you got trouble! The only
solution-is to b.uy a board two feet longer
and saw off the extra, and darling, that is
going to hurt.
Once your swingers are all attached,
you are ready to start putting up your
pickets, ff you are using Cedar pickets, the
wood is soft enough that drilling pilot
holes are not necessary, but they will be
for any other type of wood; otherwise, it
will split your pickets, and the possibility
of screw head cam-out is very much enhanced.
News Flash: your pickets will not
be even, square, or straight. Sorry, but this
would actually be desirablein wood. Keep
that level handy and use it when setting
each picket unless you want your fence to
develop a curious slant in a hurry.
Set up your first picket so that it is about
1/4 to 1/2" off the ground; put the square
in the middie of one side and move it
gently until the bubble is between the two
middie lines. Attach picket with the first
screw, in the middie.
This frees up your
hands,for attaching the
top and bottom screws.
Put two screws into the
picket at the top and
bottom stringer, about
3/4" from each outer
edge. Do the same for
the remaining pickets,
leveling each as best
you can.
As you approach the
end of your fence, you
will, unless most fortunate,
discover that the
last picket will not fit
perfectly, being either
too wide or too narrow.
Start paying attention
to this about a half
dozen pickets from the end. If you will not
be off by much, you can adjust the spacing
between the last few pickets so they come
out fine, otherwise, you’ll have to find a
way to np cnt an end picket, or to get
sneaky. You know what the DIYD prefers:
sneaky ways are deliciously evil and
always appeal, especially if they equate
with less work. On the DIYD’s last fence
project ( which is also the current fence
project...), a lx4" picket was used in the
last space, and the other pickets were
spaced ever so slightly wider apart without
being the least bit obvious. You’ll
have to play around with it, but if vou
haven’ t got access to a table saw to rip’cut
a picket, it is well worth it, and safer as
well. Rip cuts have a nasty reputation.
Now youare asking yourself what there
was about this project that took so long,
and the answer is the same as so many
others - prep work makes the difference
in any home project. It is well worth the
investment of your ume to measure, level
mad true up any part of your fence before
it becomes regrettably permanent. And it
looks so much more beautiful - mad darlings,
you are worth it!
There. Your DIYD is less cranky now
that you’ve built your privacy fence so
well. Rest up. We’ll have more fun next
month when we freShen up those fired old
kitchen cabinets with a bit of sanding,
some paint, and some more stylish pulls.
Matthew Shepard’s death was horrible
and senseless; it would be more so if
it was in vain."
Kelly Kirby, longtime civil rights activist
and Gay community leader spoke of
his family’s direct experiences with hate
crimes, including an assaultonhis spouse,
Ric, which resulted in over 100 stitches
being required. Kirby also claimed that
each year from 1991 to 1996, a Gay man
was murdered in Tulsa.
In New York City, participants of the
recent Fifth Avenue rally to remember
Shepard alleged that police beat them
with batons and ran into them with mopeds
and that police horses kicked them
because they had no permit for the event.
Police were dispatched to themarch when
about 4,000 people flocked to the event.
see Hate, p. 14
by Esther Rothblum
At a time when sexual orientation and
gender are being viewed as more continuous
categories, there is renewed interest
in the fluidity of who is a "woman" and
whois a"Lesbian." InmanyNativeAmerican
cultures, gender and sexuality have
not been as fixed as in western
cultures.
Recently, a number of
books have appeared on
"two-spirit¯ people," a term
coinedby Native Americans
for individuals in their cultttres
who are Gay or Lesbian,
or who are transgendered,
or who have multiple
gender identities. The term
"two-spirit" is an attempt by
Native American commttnities
to re-define their past
from the way in which it has
been depicted by white male
anthropologists,and also to
distinguishNativeAmerican
concepts ofgenderandsexuality
from those of the.western
Gay and Lesbian communities.
I recendy spoke with Sue-
Ellen Jacobs, one of the coeditors
of the book, Two-
SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican
GendertIdentity, Sexuality
and Spirituality. She
-said: ’¢Fhere are a number of instances
where there are Native women, living on
reservations, who don’t stand out, who.
don’t come forward. The Gay white men
who are out there studying Native American
men don’t see the women because
these.researchers don’ t recognize, these
Women as Who they are with~n their cul~
ture. Not many Native women use the
words ’Lesbian’ or ’dyke’ to describe
themselves. The researchers didn’t realize
that there was a movement going on
within the Native American communities,
the two-spirit movement."
Sue-Ellen Jacobs described instances
of"male-bodiedwomen"or "female-bodied
men" who took on the roles and became
known as being of the "other" genderin
NativeAmericancultures. AsJacobs
and the other editors state in the introduction
to their book: "Using the word ’two-
Spirit’ emphasizes the spiritual aspect of
one’ s life and downplays the homosexual
persona."
After experiencing several years of "discriminatory
treatment," and many efforts
to work out the differences with TCCLS,
Neal contacted Tulsa County Commissioner
John Selph to discuss what Neal
called"theseblatant violations ofthe First
Amendment" and his intention to file a
lawsuit to resolve the matter.
While Neal neverreceived any response
fromhis letter to Selph, shordy afterward,
TCCLS banned all free publications from
its lobbies- withthe exceptionofaLatino
publication, Imagen in the 3rd Street Library
which serves an increasingly Spanish-
spealdng neighborhood.
According to Neal; lmagen blatenfly
violated the 50% local content nile but
said he was told that TCCLS director,
Linda Saferite, approved that violation
because having the publication helped to
traditions
acknowledge that
the he-shes
and she-hes
. . . were amon~
the ~reatest
eontrlhutors to the
well-heln, and
advancement of
their eommunltles.
They were
(and we are)
the Sreatest probers
into the ways of the
future, and they
qulekly assimilated
the lessons of
ehan~in~ times
.... and people..."
." In the chapter "I am a Lakota womyn,"
¯ Beverly Little Thunder writes: "Most
¯
tribes that I have had the honor of know-
" ing have specificnames formenwholove
¯ men and women who love women... I
¯" can understand that theremay be a need
¯ by some to findapan-Native term that can
be used as a marker for the
general population of Native
Lesbians and Gays. We
are all so different in somany
ways, however. Culturally
and physically, we are all
different. Each tribe has its
own name, its own structure.
How canwe all even be
called ’Natives’?... The
words I would like to see
written about me and read
fifty years from now should
be words that reflect who I
am as an individual.’"
Came House, of Navajo!
Oneida descent, writes: "Our
oral traditions acknowledge
that the he-shes and she-hes
(those who hold in balance
the male and female, female
and male aspects of themselves
and theuniverse) were
among the greatest contributors
to the well-being and
advancement of their communities.
They were (andwe
are) the greatest probers into
¯ the ways of the future, and they quickly
¯ assimilated the lessons of changing times
and people. Recent studies into the lives
¯ of she-hes and she-hes have recovered
¯ models or near models of this rich, inven-
¯ tive, reverential, and highly productive
¯ approach t.o k.eg,ping balance within a s~-
¯ ciet~ viewed as an extension of nature."
Further reading, see: Sue-Ellen Jacobs,
¯
Wesley Thomas & Sabine l_xtng (’97).
¯ Two-SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican Gen-
: der Identity, Sexuality and Spirituality.
¯ Urbana, IL: Univ. of Blinois Press. Will
: Roscoe (’98). Changing Ones: Third and
¯ FourthGendersinNativeNorthArnerica.
¯- NY: St. Martin’s Press. Lester Brown
" (’98). Two-Spirit People. NY: Haworth
: Press.
: Esther Rothblum teaches Psychology
¯ at the Univ. of Vermont and edits the
: Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be
¯ reached at John Dewey. Hall,Univ. of
: Vermont," Burlington, VT, email:-
¯ esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
¯" serve a special needs population. Neal
¯ said his arguments about the Lesbian and
: Gay communities’ special needs were ig-
¯ nored.
¯
Neal adds, "I have no illusion that
¯ TCCLS made this change to accomodate
¯ Tulsa Family News. It’ s likely that given"
¯
the’society’ make-upoftheTCCLSboard,
¯ that the rifles were changed to keep Tulsa ¯
People happy rather than to be fair -
¯
however, I’m pleased with the result. I
: guess it means if you wait long enough
¯ andarepersistentenough, youwillacheive ¯
fairness."
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about the organizational shortcomings of " or arrows. Few women anywhere in
"Gay boys - They’re hopeless!" she ¯ Vanuatu drive vehicles. The night before
fumed. That same day, an- any important event, such as
other friend griped about A Lesblan a dance performance or socpacks
of Lesbians invading 17rlend recently cergame, menleavewomen
his favorite bar, poisoning
its atmosphere. Pleas for eomplalned about
behind in the village to sleep
by themselves. TheTaunese
Gay/Lesbian unity ("why the orffanlzatlonal practice the samesex taboos
can’t we all just get along")
shorteomln~s ot7
demanded by many Ameriare
perhaps as common as can football coaches: No sex
jokes that poke fun at this "Gay boys - before the big game! Every
continental divide in our They’re
. hopeless!" evening, men also go off by
commumty, themselves to prepare and
Public constemation about she ~ttumed. That drink kava (Piper
relations between women same day, another methysticum) - the traditional
South Pacific drug
differemntaennd -_good,evokedbad,memoi_nO-r t~rlend gaped substance that is becoming
ries ofmy years in Vanuatu. about pael~s o17 increasing popular in the
ThiSlocatedtropictahline archipelagOsouthwespta-iS Lesbians invadln~ U.S. as a natural relaxant.
Men assert that women can
cific-aculturalregioncalled h~.s 17avor~.te bar, strip away the potency of
Mdanesiathat also includes polsonln~ its kavamerely by touching the
the islands of New
atmosphere,
plant before it is prepared;
Caledonia, the Solomons, and drinkers bitterly blame
and New Guinea. RitualiZed hostility be- ¯ women, talking too loud back in the viltween
men and women is a cultural curi- " lage, for spoiling their kava high.
osity of much of Melanesia. Anthropolo- " Women endanger men notjust because
gists who first analyzed the phenomenon ¯ of their polluting vaginal fluids. Men are
labeled it "sexual antagonism," though " also threatened by naturally female crenowadays
we’d more likely call it"cross- " ative powers. Women are mothers. The
gender opposition" or the like. ¯ children they bear sustain the cycle of
Full-fledged sexual antagonism exists " human life and death. Women’s vaginas
notably in the highland valleys of New " are powerfully dangerous openings back
Guinea. My village neighbors on an is- " into the spiritual world inhabited both by
land called Tanna, on the eastern edge of ¯ the ancestors and the unborn. Men per-
~ Mdanesia, practice only an attenuated " haps fear the vagina as muelx for its lifeversionofgenderopposition.
Still,likeall ". giving as for its deadly powers. It’s a
Melanesians, they have’great ~ear and ¯ psychological commonplace that men are
suspicion of the body fluids of the oppo- ¯ jealous of natural female creativity. This
site sex. Men believe that contact with drives us, so the story goes, to various
menstrual blood and other vaginal fluids " sorts of "cultural creativity" - art, literacan
make them seriously ill. An anthro- ¯ ture, politics, business - as a sort of corn-
" pologistlonceknew, who worked among pensation for our inability to bear chil-
- the Enga of Papua New Guinea, attracted dren. .
much attention with his magnificent and ¯ Throughout much of Melanesia, along
luxuriant red beard, much admired by all. ¯ theselines,meniusistthatalthoughwomen
When people asked for hair-growing ad- ¯ give birth, only men can make boys into
vice, he liked to disgust and appall them men. On Tanna, fathers arrange male iniby
claiming that the secret was to rub ° tiation ceremonies for their sons. They
menstrual blood on his face. : circumcise these boys who then spend six
In many Melanesian cultures, women ¯ Weeks in the bush, isolated from all conretii’etomenstrualhutslocatedinthebush
" tactwithwomen.ElsewhereinMelanesia~
(outside the Village) during their periods. ¯ people believe that precious semen itself
One can imagine that many women look ¯ transforms boys into men. Male initiaforward
eagerly to these monthly vaca- ¯ dons include practices of ritual fellatio -
dons from thedailydrudgeryofcooking, ." young .boys masculinize themselves by
childcare, and farming. Nomenstrual huts : consnm|ug the semen of older, already
exist on Tanna, though men and women ¯ initiated youths. (Gil Herdt describes one
here rarely share the same sleeping mat. " such societyin his book The Sambia:
And a menstruating woman stops prepar- ° Ritual and Gender in New Guinea.)
ing her husband’s dinners. Men, particu- : So, next time those Lesbians (or, alterlarlythosewithrockymarriages,
aresome- ¯ natively, those Gay boys) invade your
times suspicious that angry wives may be " favoriteclub, whatis that sudden chill you
poisoning themby dripping bloodinto the ¯ feel -- is this the "death threat of sexual
cooking pots. : pollution," or a contentiousjealousy over
And if vaginal fluids don’t kill you, sex ¯ human creativity?
itselfmay. Melanesians also shareabelief " Lament Lindstrom teaches anthropol-
- one that reaches back into Asia - that ¯ ogy at the University of Tulsa.
men are born with a finite amount of ¯
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MY KITTY
but also his leadership on Tulsa’ s Say No
to Hate Coalition. Nor have any other
officials ofOklahoma’ s establishment spoken
out. Our governor says our "hate
crimes" law doesn’t need to address violence
agai.’nst Gay people, though note
that he hasn’t suggested removing it for
Oklahoma Jews or Blacks 7,,.or Catholics
like him.
None of our congressional delegation
has exemplified the compassion which if
they were the Christians they claim to be,
they might show. For example, a few
months ago, I askedPam Pryor, JC Watts,
Jr.’ s press secretaryhow many Gaypeople
needed to die before JC would speak out
against, anti-Gay violence? Obviously,
Shepardi~not enough. Maybeifone ofus
were crucified on the South Oval of the
OU campus, Watts (and that other disappointing
Oklahoma politician, David
Boren) might take the issue seriously.
Butat least withWatts, I still believehis
spokesperson’s claims of some decency
in the man to bother to ask. With The Evil
Steve and his good buddy and roommate,
Tom Cobum, there’s no point in wasting
my breath.
However, given the desire of Matthew
Shepard’s family and friends that some
bit of good come out of the horror of his
tormentand death,let us resolveto change
our state to reduce the chance that this will
happen here.
Passing an amendment to our hate
crimes (Oklahoma statutes, 21:850, Malicious
intimidation...) has got to be the top
priority for Lesbian and Gay Oklahoroans,
our families and friends. Find out
who your representatives are and talk to
them now.
Furthermore, we must demand that all
those groups that claim to be working for
justice andfairness, must end their convenient
silences. For example, if the Methodist
Bishop of Oklahoma can work so
hard to ban same-gender marriage ceremonies,
surely he can finally open his
mouth to say something against anti-Gay
violence. But he must be joined by OklahomaPresbyterians,
theOklahomaCouncil
of Churches, Tulsa Metropolitan Ministries,
our Catholic bishops and all others
who claim to value human life. Imagine,
maybe even human rights groups like the
National Conference for Community and
Justice, and others, like the Jewish Fed:
eration and African-American organizations
will standup to say that Gay Oklahomans
have a right to live too. Imagine.
8LAH BLAH
: police arrived, organizers said scores of
¯ arrestsbegan.Mostoftheorganizers were
taken away first, leaving the marchers
: adrift, participants said.
¯ And at the University of Wyoming, a
¯¯ visiting professorwhois teaching acourse on hate crime received a first hand view.
¯ "I reacted with shock-and disbelief," said
¯ Graham Baxendale, a Ph.D. student at ¯
England’ s Reading University. "I certMnly
¯ was not prepared for such an event here.
¯ One can read many textbooks and the
: academic literature, but until you are ac-
¯
tually confronted by something like this
¯ within your own community, you recog-
¯ nize that you really don~t understand this
¯
Baxendale said hate Crimes rarely end
Only 500 people were expected. Once
¯ in murder and usuallyinvolve low-level
¯ violence or intimidation. The victims of
¯ such crimes typically are selected at ran-
" dom because they represent a particular
¯ group. "Gay males are one of the largest
¯ victim catego.rie,s. for thrill hate crimes,
but ethnic rmnonty groups such as His-
" panics, Blacks, and Jews also are tar-
" geted," he said. The perpetrators of such
¯ crimes againstGays,Baxendale said, typi- ¯
cally are young male adults or youths who
¯ are experiencing the emotions that come
¯ with emerging sexuality. To demonstrate
: to theirpe~rs that they are wholly hetero-
¯
sexual, these people may express vie-
¯ lance and hatred toward Gays.
.. Hate crime victims,’he said, usually are
¯ chosen because they are available, not
¯ because of any individual characteristics
¯ or actions, and because of what they rep-
¯ resent to the perpetrators. Hatred towards ¯
the victim’s group is often manifested in
¯ exceptignal violence. "The perpetrators
: often despise and de-humanize their vic-
¯ rims, so such crimes typically are more ¯
violent than corresponding crimes that
¯ are not hate-inspired," he said. "Displayr
¯ ing the victim (Shepard) by tying him to a
fence is amanifestation ofsuch dehuman-
¯
ization."
¯ Baxendale, who has studied violence
¯ perpetrated by groups, such as the Irish
Republican Army, said it is important that
: the university, Laramie and Wyoming
¯ communities continue to be vocal in their
¯ condemnation of the crime and to show ¯
that the community fosters diversity and
¯
understanding, rather than intimidation
¯ and discrimination.
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Sapulpa Teen Flees Bias
SAPULPA, Okl~ (AP) -The 17-year-old son ofa local
school board member has faced threats and harassment
because of his sexual orientation, but the boy’s father
said his other children will remain in the suburban
district. Will .Allen, a junior at Sapulpa High School,
will attendTulsaW~hingtonHigh School whenthefall
semester begins Aug. 12. The family requested the
transfer in February, his father, Sam Allen, said.
Allen said Will has been vexed and tormented by his
~.2assmates for the past two years because of his sexual
Orientation. ;The Allen family appeared recently on
NBC’s "The Today Show"; and Will encouraged other
young Gay men and women to confide in people with
whomtheyfeltcomfortable. ’Tvehadmany Gayfriends
who have been kicked out of their homes, treated very
poorly - physical abuse," he said. "The first thing you
should do .is find somebody, maybe,not your parents,
who you know and feel positive that ~hey can give you
the support that you need."
Will was inMichigan atamusic academy andwas not
available for comment.
Sapulpa school officials issued a news release that
! US House Votes t.o Limit City’s
!Partner Benef,ts to Gays
: WASHINGTON (AP) -Despite charges of bigotry and interfer-
~ ence in local government, the House in July voted to prohibit the
: s.pe.nding .of fed.eral, money o.n programs implementing a civil
: rights o_r.dinzncem.S.an Francasco. The measure, offered by Rep.
o Frank Ri.g.gs, .R.-Calif., was approved 214-212 as an amendment
: to a sPe~.ding bill forhous..rag, veterans programs, environmental
¯ protecaon, space and funding for the arts.
: Supporters said they hoped to get the provision removed
¯ during negotiations to reconcile the House bill with a yet-to-be
" approved Senate version. The Riggs amendment prohibits any
¯ money in the $94 billion spending bill to be used to implement
a San Francisco ordinance that requires employers doing bus|-
¯ ness withthecity toprovidehealthandotherbeuefits to same-sex
¯ partners. "We should not force or coerce (private business) to
¯ adopt policies they t-rod morally objectionable," Riggs argued in
¯ a heated debate.
¯ Rep. Patrick K.,e~n,edy, D-R.I., called it a "mean-spirited,
bigoted amendment’ and other opponents said it was an assault
¯ onlocalautonomy."Italtacks homernleinevery city in America,"
¯ declared Rep. Dennis KucinidL D-Ohio, a former mayor of
: Cleveland. "It’s a move back to the days of witch hunting, back
¯ to the days oftellingpeople what they should and should not do,"
¯ complained Rep. Danny Davis, D-Ill. He said the amendment
¯ threatens programs in San Francisco that help the homeless and
¯ thetreatment ofAIDS patients as well as scores ofotherprograms
: that rdy in part on federal support.
¯ Rep. Nancy Pelts|, D-Calif., said the city negotiated with
~" Catholic Charities, which had balked at the ordinance, and
¯ reached an accommodation, and compromises were expected to
be worked out with other businesses. "I don’t know why Mr.
¯ Riggs wants to create a war," she said in strong opposition to the
¯ measure. Pelts|,whorepresents SanFrancisco, called theamend-
" ment an affront to home rule and Said "the city of San Francisco
’~ is not forcing anyone to act against their principles?’
¯ More than adozen lawmakersspoke emotionally against the
.: amendment, . see Attack, p. 3
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Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays,
arranged for the television appearance. Will’s situation
is cotfimon for homosexual teen-agers, Ms. McDonald
said. "Some (schools) are doing a great job, and some
are sticking their heads in the sand," she said. "We’re
just beginning to work with Tulsa-area schools."
Allen said he had no complaints about the Sapulpa
district and said his two other children will continue to
attend Sapulpa schools. He also has no plans to step
down from the school board. ’‘The community support
has been wonderful," he said.
: WASHINGTON (AP) - Recalling his childhood in the segre-
¯ gated South, Surgeon General David Satcher compared the fight
: against AIDS, which is hitting the Black community hard, to the
-’: struggle for civil rights. Speaking to one of nation’s oldest civil
.: rights groups, he called on Black leaders to reject stereotypes
¯ around AIDS, overcome shyness about sex and confront the
[ issue. ’‘This is anareawhere weagain need to mobilize," Satcher,
." who is Black and grew up in Alabama, told the Southern Chris-
: tian Leadership Conference in a speech Tuesday. ’Tm talking to
¯ you about you."
While Blacks make up 13% of the U.S. population, they
¯ account for 57% of the new infectious, according to the federal Family of Faith to Present : CentersforDiseaseControlandPrevention.Amongsomegroups,
¯ the statistics are even more striking: Blacks and Hispanics make Noted Christian Singer
TULSA -Marsha Stevens, composer of For Those
Tears I Died (Come to the Water), will perform a free
concert at Family of Faith Metropolitan Commlmity
Church on Saturday, Sept.. 5th at 7:30 at 5451e South
Mingo as wall as at Family of Faith’s regular Sunday
evemng service on Sept. 6th at 5pm.
Stevens’ song, For Those Tears... has become a
standard of evangelical Christian hymnals since 1972
even though the songwriter experienced rejection and
scorn from part of the church since she came out as a
Lesbian. Active in the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan
Community Churches (UFMCC), Stevens performs
over 150 concerts a year and has recorded six solo
albums and a concert video on her independent BALM
(Born Again Lesbian Music) labd. She now ministers
with the SW UFMCC district. Info: 622-1441.
P. 2/3
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: up 82% of HIV-positive women ages 13 to 24. Andlife-prolong-
" ing AIDS drugs are helping whites more than Blacks. In 1996,
¯ deaths among whites with AIDS were down 28%; for Blacks, it
¯ was just 10%.
¯ The Southern Christian Leadership Conference’s new presi-
¯ dent, Martin Luther King III, underscored the difficulty ofAIDS
¯ education, saying he is not comfortable promoting use of con-
" doms. "The only way is abstinence," he said in an interview after
¯ Satcher’s speech. "Sex should not be something that we just
: casually engage in and take lightly." The solution, King said, is
¯ restoring fundamental values to society. He said AIDS is an
¯ important issue, although it is not among his top priorities.
Satcherdid notrecommendany particularprevendon strategy.
" But he and other public health experts agree that use of condoms"
¯ is essential to halt the spread of HIV among people who are not
: likely to abstain from sex. The surgeon general will hammer the
~ AIDS message in upcoming speeches to Black journalists and
¯ doctors, and he plans to reach out to other groups such as Black
¯ fraternities, sororities and newspapers.
¯ But his speech to church leaders was particularly important.
¯ Churches play a central role in many Black communities, and
¯ ministers are,often among the most prominent community lead-
,: ers. But church leaders have been reluctant to talk about AIDS
¯ because it relates so closely to sex and homosexuality, Satcher
¯ says. The issue is also thorny because of its relationship to drug
¯ use, amajorprobleminside the Blackcommunity withits ownset
¯ of taboos, see Surgeon,p.ll
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AMSTERDAM, Netherlands (AP) - From skimpily
clad revelers to Bible-toting evangelists, the
Gay Games are drawing an eclecdc crowd for
weeklong festivities ce,!ebrating Gay pride and
culture. With the,,theme Friendship Through Culture
and Sports, the quadrennial Olympics-style
sports festival begins Saturday, offering competitors
everythingfrom ballroom dancing to wrestling
and more cerebral pastimes such as bridge and
chess.
This is the
first time the Gay
Games are being
held in Europe
since they beganin
San Francisco in
1982. New York
City was the site
¯ of the last Games
¯ in 1994; Sydney,
¯ site of the Summer
Olympics in 2000,
¯ will have the first
¯ Tulsan CliffBaileyis compet- southern hem|-
¯ ing in this year’s Gay Games .sphere Gay Games
¯ in Amsterdam, accompanied in 2002.
¯ by his spouse Chris Ritthaler. The opening
night’s ceremony
¯ will feature the Israeli transsexual pop star Dana
¯ International, who gained fame- and notoriety-in
¯ May after winning the 25-nation Eurovision song
¯ contest and incensing Orthodox Jewish leaders at
¯ home.
¯ Some 30 competition sports will be available at
¯ these games, which run through Aug. 8. But with-
" out top-level athletes, they threatened to be eclipsed
¯ by the many parties outside the stadium.
¯ Amsterdam is renowned for its tolerance and its
¯ lively Gay community, so these games are almost
~:. inconspi~ug~s, ap.ar~ [rg~ so,me posters and a few
~ more same:~e~couples than USUal-:strolling arm-in-
¯ arm a!Orig the canals.
With up to 14,000 participants and 200,000 visi-
¯ tors in town, the Dutch capital is about to be
¯ transformed into the ultimate Gay hangout with
¯ enough temptations to satisfy even the most vigor-
. ous partygoer. There are transvestite shows and
¯ drag queen contests. For the more athletic, there’s
¯ even oil wrestling.
One top attraction officially has nothing to do
¯ with the Gay Games: Saturday’s yearly canal pa-
: rade of decorated boats. Games organizers prom-
- ised a flotilla of Gays and Lesbians on the city’s
¯ famous medieval waterways. But not everyone
¯ will be party-hopping. For the straight-laced and
intellect’ual types-; there are plenty of alternatives,
including art exhibits, symposiums on Gay and
¯ Lesbian issues, and cooking shows.
¯ Participants might get a dose of religion. Up to
¯ 100 representatives from the international evange-
¯ lism group Youth With a Mission plan to stage
[ C.hristian-themed street dramas and pray with par-
¯ Uopants. "God wants to care for people whether
¯ they are homosexuals or heterosexuals," YWAM
¯ spokeswoman Nelleke Bosshardt said.
Sigrid Johannisse of the Netherlands, who will
". be competing in the badminton competition, said
¯ she’s searching for fun and friendship. Even so, she
¯ hopes the Gay Games one day will disappear as
Gays become more accepted.
¯ Although heterosexuals are welcome to com-
" pete, few do, triggering criticism within the Gay
¯ community that the games createneedless segrega-
¯ don. "! hate all the separation," said Johmmisse, a
¯ 33-year-old art historian. "in sports, there isn’t so
¯ much integration.., it was just easier to play with
¯ Gay people."
¯ Eddy Feenstra has a more carefree attitude as he
¯ prepares to compete in ballroom and Latin Ameri-
¯ can dancing with partner Tonny Aliens. Girding
¯ for victory, Feenstra says "I am doing it for the
¯ fun," he said. "I would also like to show off what I
¯ am good at."
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Keep Up the Good Work
Thanks for your paper. It is a welcome
relief from the crosstown neo-fascist
infotainment weekly, i particularly enjoyed
last issue’s cover story about SenatorNickles,
presumably the selfsame Senator
once knownfor closeting himself with
a reputedly Gay [Oklahoma] . fellow politico,
but who now wishes to protect the
Luxembourgians from the possibility of
an "immoral" ambassador. From what I
understand, the Luxembourgians aremuch
less concerned with the comings and goings
.in an ambassador’s, boudoir than is
Sen. Nickles.
As a politically leftist straight older
male, I naturally fmd common cause with
the Gay community: when the good Senator
and the Right good Rev. Phelps get
finished with the queers, they’ll be after
me next. I applaud your efforts to establish
dialogue with straightminority groups
who have themselves been the targets of
bigotry an discrimination. Ifwelearnnothing
more from History, at least we should
know that solidarity is the only hope for
the oppressed, and perhaps the best defense
from the excessively repressed.
This town needs a paper that gives
voice to all those outside the power elite,
performing the traditional role of the
Fourth Estate: to hold our governments
accountable for their actions, and to protect
the liberties of the individual. Keep
up the good work. - Keith Bolton, Tulsa
: A Letter from RAIN Oklahoma
," Thank you for providing me with providing
me with a way to address some
questions and concerns I’m aware of re-
"¯ garding a policy for volunteers that
RAIN’ s Board of Directors approved and
¯ that RAIN Staff are now charged with,
’ implementing. The policy in question is
". in regard to criminal history reports now
¯ being performed (with the volunteer’s
¯ permission) for all new volunteers effec¯
tive June 1, 1998 and gradually incorporating
such reports on all volunteers by
: March 1, 1999.
¯ I ask readers to consider the nature of ¯
¯ RAINvolunteers’ service topeopleliving
with HIV/AIDS [PLWA’s] and those in
; theirhouseholds. Volunteers provide non-
¯ medical,non-technical careto [PLWA’s],
"- most often in the RAIN client’s home.
¯ The services vary, depending on the ex-
." pressed needs and the volunteerrs avail-
- ability, but can include transportation,
¯ meal preparation, housecleaning, child
; care, pet care, and social outings. Emo-
; tional support is often a Valuable compo-
¯ nent of the relationship between RAIN
¯ Client and volunteer.
¯ RAIN’s Board of Directors and staff
¯ realized that we have a tremendous responsibility
to do what we can to ensure
¯ thesafety ofchildrenandvulnembleadults
¯ that volunteers contact: The policy was
: not-initiated naively or without regard to
¯ potential negative consequences. In a fo- ¯
cus group with volunteers many months
¯ ago, responses ranged from "against it
¯ -under any circumstance" to "yes, absoi
lutely, I support this fully." see RAIN, p.3
: Letters Policy
¯ Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on ¯
issues which we’ve covered or on issues
¯ you think need to be considered. Youmay
¯. request that your name be with/add but
¯ letters mustbe signed&have phone num-
" bers, or be hand delivered. 200 word let-
. ters are preferred. Letters to other publi-
¯ cations will be printed as is appropriate.
Rev, Howard vsthe Evil Steve
by Tom Neal, editor & publisher ".
Severalyears ago whenUS Congressman Steve Largent "
firstranforoffice, this newspapermet withLargent, athis ¯
request, andafterwards I argued, despiteLargent’s record ¯
of bigoted,.anti-Gay comments and his association with "
radical extremist religio~political groups, for an initial ¯
policy of tolerance for Herr Largent. I’d hoped that ¯
Largent might just really believe in real Christian and "
American values of loving and respecting not only your "
neighbor but also the US Constitution. He sure tried to
sweet-talk us that way.
And to be fair, Steve did agree to a town hall meeting "
with Tnlsa’s Lesbian and Gay community - something "
none of his predecessors had ever done, certainly not the ¯
Idiot Congressman Inhofe (now US Senator and in competition
with Ernest "
Istookfor mostembar- "
rassing Oklahoman in
Washington) but not ¯
even the Democrat, "
Jim Jones, who’d held "
the seat before. ¯
But obviouslyI was "
wrong. Nomatterhow "
Largent may want to
see himself as just a
nice guy, he’s chosen "
to promote rdigious "
extremism and to surround
himself with "
folks so bigoted that "
they make him look a "
littlebit~m,oderate. His ."
chief of staff, Terry
US Rep. Steve Largent making Allen, thepoliticalex- "
those endorsement dollars by tremist calling the "
showing offhis son in his Hanes plays for our football ."
underware. Yep, Steve andsome hall-of-famer, comes ¯
of those Republicans sure know to mind. Actually "
about thosefamily values. Steve’s not moderate ¯
but his staff is openly
hate~:.t.o~ir Lesbian aod Gay constituents while Steve
.... a~’[d.~t~tu§~ly is polite. "
Now Steve et al will argue that their radicalism is just
repres.enting the views of the First District (which is more
or less Tnlsa county). But as a nearly lifelong Tnlsan (my
f,am~ly moved here from Oklahoma City in 1960), I just
don t ihink So. Yes, wedo have a sufficiency of Baptists,
Methodism, and also those no-name, make-it-up-as-yougo-
along~they-claim-they-areChriStians, many ofwhom
seem to think that their faith demands that they hate their
nexgt~bor as tlaey would be loved. Or.who engage in the
profoundly insincere rhetoric of claiming "to love the
person and to hate the ’sin’:" Often one wonders if these
types on meeting Christ would not reject Him as a "longhairedcommie,
pinko-fag."
But I don’t believe that these types represent the
majority of Tulsans, and regardless, given the values of
the Declaration of Independence and our Constitution, ¯
minority civil fights are not supposed to be subject to the
tyranny of the majority. And I believe that many Tulsa "
Baptists, Methodists, Jews, Muslims, Pagans and non, "
believers recognize that once the power of the govern- ¯
merit is used to promote a particular religious agenda, ¯
each tradition could be targeted just as Lesbian mad Gay "
citizens are the target du jour. ’
So, it is with some relief to learn that a brave soul, the ’
Reverend Howard Plowman, retired Methodist pastor,
has announced his willingness to face the football bully..
According to The Yellow Dog Democrat, the newsletter ¯
of the Oklahoma Democratic Party, Rev. Howard will ¯
challenge the ,hard-core Christian Coalition which has ¯
done a disservice to all political parties..." He adds, "1 "
resent them taking a Christian name and pretending-to: ]
have no other agenda..." Plowman, 73 years old, with ..
kids and grandkids, went to Tulsa Public Schools,TU and "
SMU’s Perkins School of Theology.
This newspaper certainly agrees that the so-called ¯
Christian Coalition has done a disservice to all Ameri- ¯
cans who believe in real religious freedom and have "
respect for America’s rich diversity. And I applaud Rev. "
Howard and his spouse and family for being willing to ¯
stand up against the Evil Steve. Tulsa deserves better. ¯
Editor’s note: More information is available about ¯
Plowman ’for Congress by writing to 3617 East 48th "
Place, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74.135. ¯
by James Christjohn
Greetings! Welcome to a new occasional colunm, one
that I hope you will fred interesting. The focus is to
comment on the world around us with the perspective of
being a Gay man in a diverse world. Topics will have a
wide range, from frivolity to high drama to serious issues
that affect us all. In this exploration, the question will
always be: What exactly is a Gay lifestyle?
I had an acquaintance once remark to me
"I don’t approve of your lifestyle, but I like
you." My first thought was "Well, I don’t
approve of your lifestyle, but I accept it as
part of you without comment: Who the hell
are you to judge me?" Before I did so, I
thought to myself, ’q’hat is not her rational
mind speaking, it’s her brainwashing coming
through. She doesn’t know any better.
She knows not what she speaks." I had to
ponder thatfor awhile. Itwas terribly tempting
to ask, "Does your brainknow what your
mouth is saying?"
I began pondering: what the hell is a Gay
lifestyle, anyway? There are perceptions,
usually starting witha"mis", that the straight
world has of Gay folk, and our so called
lifestyles, such as apparently we spend 90%
of our time in Gay bars in the pursuit of sex.
I know.that there are some folk who like to
go clubbing, straight and Gay, I know some
folk who do drugs, straight and Gay, I know
some folk who are promi.scuous (yes, even x
years into the AIDS epidemic), again, both
straight and Gay, - and I know many folk
who do none of those things. Yet, in the
straight world, we are all lumped under a
stereotype of eternal drugging, drinking,
slutty behaviors. Why is this, and.do we
need to hire publicity firms to turn theimage
around?
Thus I
dragged,
kicking and
sereamina, out
of the closet
by two very
curious Baptist
women from
Q)dessa-latlon,
Texas¯
And despite all
" my f~ars~
notlang
happened.
In fact, when I
leh, they were
very qulch to
tell me I
replaced
another
Gay man . . .
¯ and they still want me. Another time, I was copying some
¯ recipes out of a book in the office, when the same sister
; noticed and said, "Oh, you like to cook? You’ll make
¯¯ some wo - person a wonderful hus - mate."
Well, the cat was definitely coming out of the closet
¯ then. Shortly thereafter, I met my future mate, and all of ¯
a sudden, there was much curiosity about my life, which
I kept sidestepping, still fearing I could lose
ajob. It came to ahead one evening when I
was drawing plans ofTom’ s apartment, and
trying to figure out how to combine stuff,
furniture, etc. Cyndee, the boss, came over
and was looking over my shoulder. She
noted I had not drawn another bed, and
remarked "So, where ya golma put your
bed? or are ya gonna sleep with him?" It
was so surprisingly I my only response was
-- ..u..hhh ~ ana men to oraw in a bed real fast.
It was utterly silly, and she was letting me
know that she knew and it was no big deal,
.she had known, and now I knew she knew.
After that, the questions were exhausting.
The next year was one big Gay 101
Question and Answer session, as I ,demythified
Gayhood (Gaydom?) to them and
did no small amount of education. Cyndee
even shielded me from a stalker who’d
become obsessed with me, and nearly had
him arrested for calling the business repeatedly.
That was not fun, but it was notable in
the way she was ready to defend me. They
came from Irish stock, and Cyndee mad was
a sight to avoid.
And I became the one to turn to when
Annie, the other sister, was planning parties.
Which she did. A lot. I was the one
draftedinto helping herdo artsy-crafty things
for her parties, and when she was selecting
new furniture, I was always asked for de-
¯ I tend to think that theimagecanbe turned
arotmd,though it will mked~ne, ~aad lots ofpatiehee:The
¯ woman I referred to before may have a different image of
: Gay people than what she’d been brainwashed into be-
¯ lieving because we knew each other. Maybe not a magic
." transformation, but a little logic, here and there,:can add
¯ For example, I worked for three years in a physical
¯ therapy office, for two small.town Baptistwomenl It was ¯
a nice job, and I liked them, so I didn’t talk about myself
¯ much for fear oflosing thejob:! was rather silly. TI~first
¯ day f worked there, "a client came in and demanded that
¯ one of the "purty wimmin" do his therapy because he
didn t want no pansy-assed faggot to touch him. Well,
¯ we were both nonplused. I thought I was pretty low key,
¯¯ having left the bright, hotpinkneon"QueerHere" sign at
¯ home.
After h~ left, one of the sisters begged me not t6 quit,
saying their clients were not all like that, and he was an
exception, not a rule. Wall, I thought, at least they know,
¯ sign opinions. I guess it’s part of the Gay gene, that interior d(sign comes with it. (I really had no
talent forit, but it was a misconception that wouldil’t die.
No matter how hard I tried to dispel the myth that not all
Gay men had impeccable taste, even to the extent of
describing my past relationships.)
Thus was I drug, kicking and screaming, out of the
closet by two VerY curious Baptist women from Odessalation,
Texas. And despite all my fears, nothing bad
happened. In fact, when I left, they were very quick to tell
me I was being replaced with another Gay man, who’d
actually made a pass at their very handsome but terribly
straight brother. Apparently, the strategy worked.
I had a point in all this somewhere. Oh yes, it is by
events like these - and not being afraid to be who we are
- that this whole mythification of what we are can be
¯changed. It’s not always the loud voices that help create
change, sometimes it’s the whisper on the wind. And in
that way, everyone can help make long-lasting changes
for.the benefit of all.
characterizingit as an attack on the rights of Gay citizens
and a federal imposition on local rule. Only Riggs-vigorously
supported it during the debate,
"It’s a message amendment.... It will unquestionably
encourage intolerance," said Rep. Henry Waxman, DCalif.
The San Francisco ordinance has been criticized by
some businesses as well as nonprofit orgamzadons including
Catholic Charities and the Salvation Army. "The
SalVation Army, which refused to buckle to city policy,
forfeited $3.5 million of its $18 million budget," said
Riggs, because it didn’t want to comply with the city
ordinance on domesdc partner benefits.
The Human Rights Campaign, the largest national
Lesbian and Gay political organization, called theamendment
"the latest salvo in fight-wing attacks .against Gay
people." "The amendment is a thinly veiled attempt to
attack San Francisco and micromanage the city," said
Winnie Stachelberg, the political director for the Human
Rights Campaign.
In another action ofinterest to the Gay community, the
House decided to reduce money it had allocated
see Attack, p. 13
There were concerns expressed regarding the cost ($15/
report) and it was decided to handle it similar to the way
we handle our $25 volunteer training fee. Scholarships
are offered for training to anyone who request one and
RAIN will pay the report fee for any volunteer, so that no
one is prevented from volunteering due to the cost.
All decisions for volunteer eligibility are made at the
discretion of the RAIN coordinator and any grievances
against the policy or any decision made my the RAIN
coordinator may be taken up with me. I hope that current
RAIN volunteers will understand RAIN’s mission of
providing a compassionateresponse to HIV/AIDS through
education and service has not changed. We appreciate the
love and concern shown by our volunteers and we are
grateful that men, women and children living with HIV/
AIDS are willing to risk letting strangers into their lives
by asking for a RAIN team.
- Pam S. Cross, MPH, Executive Director
No Gays or Singles to
Adopt in Arkansas
LITTLE ROCK (AP) - A state board that sets standards
affecting foster care has approved a requirement
that prohibits private agencies from placing
children with homosexual.or unmarried heterosexual
adults. The new rule must undergo a public comment
period before becoming effective. Rules have not
been written for public foster care agencies, said Joel
Landreneau, alawyerfor the licensing unit ofthe state
Human Services Department. The state has some
2,700 to 2,800 children in foster care. In the past, the
ruleshave been silent on homosexual or single heterosexual
foster parents.
Along with passing the new rule, the Child Welfare
Agency Review Board discussed the possibility of an
exemption for unmarried heterosexuals. Board member
James Balcom of Paragould said agencies could
use single people by applying for an exemption called
alternative compliance.
Bob West of Little Rock, also a board meml~er and
the only dissenter, said he believes there will be many
requests for exemptions. "I don’t think you can exclude
anyone just because they’re single," he said. "I
really think it should be up to the local agencies who
is qualified to be a foster parent. I just think it has to
be done on a case-by-case basis.’"
Board member Robin Woodruff of Little Rock
proposed the prohibition, saying "I would like for our
children to have a mom role model and a dad role
model." After the meeting, Ms. Woodruff said she
had been told that the Centers for Youth and Families
had placed at least one child with a Gay family and
had other such families waiting.
Kay Kimbrough, the centet"s service administrator
for adolescent services, said her agency doesn’t inquire
rote foster parents’ sexuality. "That is not an
issue for us, asfar as gender of parents. We don’ t have
a policy or practice that dictates whether we place
kids in that type family," Ms. Kimbrough said. "We
don’t make a practice to determine whether a family
is heterosexual or homosexual."
At the board meeting, Chris Pyle, family life issues
Aiai.~.On f~o~ Q.o,v..~Mike Huckabee~ said the. govemgr
supports-applying the principle of foster parents being
heterosexual married couples. Pyle said Arkansas
law prohibits marriages between members of the
same sex. He said Huckabee believes "it is not in the
best interest of children for them to be placed in an
environment that.the Legislature has specifically and
purposely removed from legal sanction and recognition."
"I think there are a lot of foster children out there
and not enough foster parents, and we may run into
trouble if.we try to limit it to couples only," said West,
apediatric medical consultant who works for the state
Health Department. AssistantAttorney General Karen
Wallace, a lawyer for the board, had recommended
the board stick with the standards as written. She said
she.had concerns about equal protectionand discrimination.
New England Lesbian
Wins Bias Lawsuit
BOSTON (AP) -Ajudge has awarded $906,000 to a
Lesbian who managed a state social services agency,
ruling she was the victim of job discrimination.
Middlesex Superior Com’tJudge Sandra Hamlinruled
that Lowell-based Community Teamwork Inc., the
state’s second-largest .anti-poverty agency, had no
good reason fire Patrica Weber. Hamlin added that
Weber was "eminentlymorequalified" man the CTI’ s
director, the man who was picked over her by the
agency’s board of directors. Hamlin, who said a
"sexist attitude" prevailed at CTI, also ruled that the
reasons given for Weber’ s firing were "a pretext."
"I feel vindicated," Weber, 49 told the Boston
Herald. "What they did tomewas wrong. I’m glad the
!aw feels thatway too. Employers can’ t firepeoplefor
nothing-because they don’tlike them, or they’re the
wrong sex or whatever."
Cheryl Cronin, CTI’s lawyer, said the agency is
appealing. !~We are c~,,n~,~dent that CTI will ultimately
prevail in this matter,’ she said. CTI provides a range
of services,including housing, education and daycare
to low-income residents of 38 communities from
Lowdl to Framingham.
Weber, who worked for CTI for 18 years, was fired
in March, 1996 during a meeting with Executive
Director Jim Canavan. A month later, when she
applied for unemployment benefits, she learned the
reason for her dismissal was listed as "inability to do
her job." Hamlin said inca 38-page ruling that CTI
retaliated against Weber for filing a complaint with
the Massachusetts Commission Against Discriminationbyrefusing
to provide her areference. Weberwas
turned down for dozens of jobs, before accepting one
that cut her pay nearly in half.
"Weber’s past work history while at CTI reveals
only a dedicated, bright, hardworking employee,".the
judge wrote. "Nothing whatsoever in the evidence
supports defendant’ s contention that Weber’ s inability
to perform led to her termination.’"
Tennessee Lesbian
Wins Child Custody
NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP)-Gay activists hope the
case of a Wilson County Lesbian who was granted
custody of one of her children marks a trend in
Tennessee. Pat Finn was awarded sole custody of her
9-year-old daughter this month by ajudge in Wilson
County. Her second child, a teen-age son, chose to
live with his father, who was awarded sole custody of
the boy.
’Tm glad this has been brought to light," said Bev
Clendenen of Nashville, director of the Lesbianand
Gay Community Center. "This reconfirms that Gay
mothers are good mothers. Like everything, there are
good apples and bad. You should be judged not on
your sexuality, but rather what kind of mother you
are.;"
Pa~ck Sullivan, Finn’s ex~husband, plans to appeal.
I thought it was the greatest injustice in the s/ate
of Tennessee," he said. ’q-his case is about her being
a neglectful mother and very little about the homosexuality."
He said he opposes:his ex-wife’ s Lesbian
relationship and does not wanthis daughter exposed
to it "It is about discrimination of me as a father
trying to get custody of his children," he said of the
ruling.
Finn, a registered nurse, was married to Sullivan
for 17 years. She and her female partner have formalized
their relationship with a commitment ceremony
and exchange offings. Finn believes she won custody
of her daughter because she was judged on the facts
and not politics, public sentiment or the judge’s
personal preferences about family life.
"I realized the odds were against me, but I told my
" daughter I wasn’t doing anything wrong and I needed
to show her I would fight to keep her," Finn said. ’Tm
thesame mother. I’m the same woman who has been
raising children for 16 years."
Can A Lesbian Win A Seat in Congress?
MOUNT VERNON, Wash. (AP) - Grethe
Cammermeyer, a daughter of the Nazi resistance in
Norway and a decorated Vietnam veteranwhobattled
her owngovernment, hasjumpedheadlonginto anew
challenge: The retired Armycolonel, who wryly calls
herself "one of the most famous Lesbians in the
country" after her successful fight to stay in the
military, is rtmuing for Congress.
Cammermeyer, 56, has never held public office.
Her Gay civil-rights fight - recounted in "Serving in
Silence," a book and made-for-TV movie = made her
a celebrity. Glenn Close, who starred in the movie, its
producer Barbra Streisand and other show-business
notables have contributed to her campaign.
She’s favored to win the Democratic nomination
Sept. 15. That would pit her against two-term Republican
Rep. Jack Metcalf on Nov. 3. Metcalf, who says
this is his last campaign, was boosted to victory two
years ago by absentee voters in the traditionally
Democratic 2nd District.
No openly Lesbian candidate has been elected to
Congress, but Caramermeyer is one of four Democrats
hoping to break the barter this year along with
Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin, Christine Kehoe of
California and Susan Tracy of Massachusetts. ’q’his
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Kathleen DeBold, polifical director ofthe Victory Fund,
a Washington, D.C., group that backs Lesbians and
Gays for public office. "Grethe is so admired, both for
her record in the military and for her willingness to stand
up and fight homophobia," says state Rep. Ed Murray,
. a Seat-de Democrat who’s Gay.
Cammermever earned national attention with her
fight to stay in~eWashington National Guard. She was
f!red, in 1992.after disclosing her sexual orientation
aunng a 1989 Interview for a security clearance as chief
nurse of the National Guard.Afederaljudge orderedher
reinstated in 1994; the government did not appeal.
On the campaign trail, she doesn’t talk Gay civil
rights. At an ice cream social held by Skagit County
Democrats earlier this month, Cammermeyer spoke
about education, health care, the environment and countering
a Republican Congress she considers radical and
heartless. "I am not a politician," she told The Associated
Press. "I’m an everyday person who has a healthcare
background and an education background. I am a
mother, a grandmother and served in Vietnam. I have
had thebest and the worst of social experience."
Cammermeyer was born in Oslo, Norway, to a doctor
and a nurse who sheltered undergroundresistance fighters
in World War II. A now familiar tale has her mother
shuttling weapons to the Nazi resis,_t~_,ce by hiding them
beneath the mattress in Grethe s baby buggy.
Cammermeyer was 9 when she came to the United
States with her parents and three brothers. She became
a eitizen in 1960. Ntlrsingmeshed well with her military
ambitions, she has said, because it was a job she could
take to the batflefront. She served in the military 31
years, including active duty in Vietnam. She earned the
Bronze Star. for treating wounded soldiers in the. Tet
Offensive in 1968. She has four grown sons from her
marriage to a fellow officer she met while serving in
Germany.
She’s wall aware why she.has such ready name
recognition. :But the personable, 6-foot-tall
.Cammermeyer-whosefirstname, shortforMaxgarethe,
is pronounced Greta- bdieves most voters are ready to
move past her sex,,,u~,, ori,entadon to the issues affecting
their own lives. Whats.most difficult is suddenly
realizing there are some people who don’t want you to
approach them or shake their hand or even say hello,"
she said of experiences on the campaign trail.
-State Democratic Chairman Paul Berendt, neutral in
the primary, says Cammermeyer needs to let voters
know the range of issues she cares about. "If people see
her as one-dimensional,it’s over," agrees Murray. "We
don’ tknow how big ofanegative it is" to be openly Gay
in a district with no major homosexual enclaves and a
sizablenumber ofreligious conservatives, Berendt says.
Cammermeyer’s lone primary opponent, businessman
and environmentalist Fran Einterz, 44, makes apoint of
telling audiences he’s been in the district for 17 years.
Einterz plans to raise only $100,000 for the primary
election. Cammermeyer has raised $502,801 so far.
Neither Einterz nor Metcalf has made an issue of
Camm.ermeyer’ s sexual orientation, althoughthe Metcalf
campaign sent out a fund-raising letter that said the
Cammermeyer campaign is being underwritten by the
national Gay movement.
Boy Scouts-Feud
with Unitarians
BOSTON (AP) -A feud between the Boy Scouts of
America and the Unitarian Universalist Assocaation
over homosexuality has led to cries of outrage by the
Boston-based branch of the church. 2~he Unitarian Universalist
Association, a long-standing New England
liberal denomination that~supports civilrights for Gays,
has condenmed in a church manual the Boy Scouts’
rejection of homosexuality. As a result the youth orgamzation
has ordered the association to stop honoring
Unitari.~an scouts with religious awards.
But the president of the Boston-based 250,000-member
association called the order "’outrageous" and said
the Unitarians do not intend to honor the Boy Scouts’
emand., They simply can t tell us how to teach our
children ’ John Buehrens, a former Boy Scout, told The
Boston Globe. "Telling us we can’t give out awards to
our boys is blatant discrimination against children.
That’s not in the Boy Scouts’ tradition," Buehrens said.
¯ The religious emblems awarded by Unitarimas
¯
are also presented by several other religious groups,
¯¯ including the Roman Catholic Church, ant many
¯ Protestant, JewishandMuslim denominations. The emblems differ from the merit badges that are
¯ earned for mastering a specific task, but can still be
¯ worn on scouts’ ufiiforms as badges of honor.
In recent years, the Boy Scouts has drawn fire
¯ from human rights groups and a number of reli-
¯
gious organizations for its view of homosex,u~l,ity
¯ and refusal to admit Gay scouts and leaders. We
resp.ect other people’ s rights to disagree with us and
: we simply ask people to respect our rights as a
¯ private voluntary orgamzation," Gregg Shields. ¯
national spokesman for the Scouts, said.
¯
But in its manual distributed to tecn-agers, the
: associadonmakes it clear thatit does not agree with
¯ the Boy Scouts’ view. The manual describes the
Unitarians’ "ongoing concern regarding the
¯
homophobic and discriminatory attitudes of the
: nationalleadership of the Boy Scouts ofAmerica.’"
¯ Since then, letters have gone back and forth
between the two sides, leaving Buehrens wi th the
¯ hope that the dispute can be resolved by a mee.ting
¯ with Boy Scouts officials this fall.
¯ "I’m perfectly willing to sit down with the Boy
Scouts, but I also need to be very clear that they are
¯ in grave danger of having much of America’s
: mainstream religious community concerned abom
: the way in which they are acting," Buehrens said.
¯i Anti-Gay Hawaii TV
Ads Criticized ¯
HONOLULU (AP) - Opponents of a proposed
: state constitutional amendment that would ban
same-sex marriage are criticizing a pro-amend-
, ment television ad featuring professional football
: player Reggie White.
¯ Jaekie Young, coordinator of the Protect Our
¯ Constitution campaign, said this isn’t about letting
¯ the people decide but about "political extremists"
coming to Hawaii to argue anissue aboutbasic civil ¯ rights and dividing the community.
¯ Noelani Foster, spokesman for a group called
¯ Save Traditional Marriage, said White, defensive hneman for the Green Bay Packers, "feels a con-
; nection to theislands" because he has played in the
: Pro Bowl in Honolnlu for the past 12 years.
¯ White, an ordained minister, filmed the TV spot
¯ re~enfly as part of a broader advertising campaign
¯ to educate Hawaii voters about the ballot question.
: Hawaii voters will decide during the Nov. 3 Gen-
¯ eral Election whether to ratify an amendment that
¯ would restrict marriage to opposite-sex couples.
¯
¯ Alaska Lawmakers Sue
Over Ballot Language ¯
¯ JUNEAU (AP) - Republican lawmakers are suing
Lt. Gov. Fran Ulmer, claiming she distorted the
¯
meaning of a proposed constitutional amendment
." banning same-sex marriage when she summarized
it for the November ballot. As part of her duties,
¯ Ulmer, a Democrat, must compose impartial summanes
of proposed amendments-and initiatives.
Thefirst sentence ofher summary ofSenate Joint
¯ Resolution 42 read: "This measure would amend
¯ the Declaration of Rights section of the Alaska
¯
.Co.nstitution to limit marriage." "The word ’limit’
¯ is incorrect because as of this date no nation in the
.. world and no state in this country recognizes or has
¯ ever recognized homosexual same-sex marriage,"
¯ attorney Kevin Clarkson wrote on behalf of the
¯ Legislative Council, a committee of lawmakers
¯ that acts for the Legislature between session, M0ng
¯ with Sen. Loren Leman, R-Anchorage and Rep.
¯ Pete Kelly, R-Fairbanks.
¯ In the lawsuit, the.lawmakers accuse Ulmer of
¯ altering the language at the behest of opponents of the measure, bqmers position was spelled out in a
¯ July 20 letter to the Legislative Council. "’The
¯ proposed constitutional amendment restricts the
¯ cour! .from "interpreting Alaska’s constitution as ¯ reqtunng a broader definition of marriage than that
¯ which is defined by statute," seeBriefs, p.]l
HIV Creates
Infection Resevoir
WASHINGTON (AP) - New research
shows th~it the AIDS virus takes as little as
little as 10 days to establish a stronghold
inimmunecells of thebody that could last
for years, waiting to erupt into disease.
Researchers at the National Institute of
Allergy and Infectious Disease say a study
of 10 patients show that alatently infected
pool of immune cells quickly established
following infection by HIV, the virus that
causes AIDS. Drug treatment apparently
does not easily clear out the pool of infected
cells, the experts said. A report on
the study was published in the Proceedings
of the National Academy of Sciences.
Evenif the active HIV disease is held in
check by a three-drug combination of
antiviral drugs, the researchers say, the
virus continues to lurk in resting CD4 Tcells
in the blood. These are immune ceils
that detect and lead the attack on infections,
but the CD4s are also the primary
target of the HIV.
CD4 T-cells are usually resting. They
are activated only when they detect some
pathogen invader in the blood. When this
happens, the cells attack the invader and
prompt otherimmunecells to dothe same.
Dr. Anthony S. Fauci, director ofNIAID
and co-author of the study, said that studies
of the blood from the 10 HIV patients
showed that their resting CD4 T-cells
became infected as earl,y~ as 10 days after
their initial HIV infection symptoms appeared.
Earlier studies had shown that the
re.sting CD4 T-cells continued to contain
v~rus even when the antiviral drugs suppressed
the virus elsewhere in the body.
" The new study, said Fauci, shows that
these reservoirs of virus are established
very early in the infection. Such reseryoi~
s.’.’Presentafo~dableobstacle to the
Ultimate~ 0ntrbland possible eradication
of HIV from an infected person’ s body,"
saidTae-Wook Chun, aN!AID researcher
and co-author of the study.
Activists Urge
Better Prevention
WASHINGTON (AP) - Lulled by lifeprolonging
AIDS drugs, the nation has
slacked off vital efforts to keep Americans
- especially young people - from
catching the deadly virus in the first place,
say AIDS activists who are demanding
major increases in HIV prevention work.
.Activists called formillionsmorein spending
on HIV education, televised condom
ads and outreach to at-risk teen-agers via
the Interuet, saying such AIDS prevention
programs are a "virtual vaccine.’"
"If there were a medical vaccine for
AIDS, imagine the forces mobilized to
deploy it," said Daniel Zingale of AIDS
Action. "The irony is that today we have
a virtual vaccine- prevention and education
- and those forces are paralyzed."
Saving lives isn’t the only issue. At
least 40,000 Americans every year catch
HIV, adding add $6.2 billion in lifetime
treatment costs to the nation’s health care
bill, the Centers for Disease Control and
Prevention announced recently. "AIDS
drugs cost $40 a day" and do not cure the
disease, added Zingale. "This condom
costs .40 cents. Our plan today will not.
only save lives, it would save dollars."
The CDC hash’ t won.a budget increase
to fight new infections in three years, and
some people most at risk of HIV have
become complacent, activists said. For
example, two-thirds of Gay men say
¯ they’ve had unsafe sex at least once in the
: last 18 months, concluded a study pre-
¯ sented at last month’s World AIDS Con-
" ference.
." Also, Secret Service agents arrested 10
; other AIDS activists who briefly chained
¯ themselves to desks in the office of Presi-
" dent Clinton’s topAIDS adviser to protest
¯ the administration’s refusal to federally
: fund needle exchange programs. Experts
¯¯ say 33 people a day catch HIV fromdirty
drug needles or sex with addicts. Seien-
¯ tific studies show letting addicts swap
¯ used needles for dean ones lowers the
¯ risk of HIV’s spread. Some 110 U.S.
¯
needle exchanges operate with local or
¯. privatefunding,but communities say they
¯ need federal tax dollars to reach more ¯
addicts. Clinton refusedin April, side-
" stepping a political fight. ’’To have the
¯ United States government play politics.
¯ with people’s lives - it’s just not OK
¯ anymore," said Kenneth Vail, who rims a
¯ needle exchange program in Cleveland,
¯ after his arrest.
¯ Separately, AIDS Action gatheredpub~
liehealthofficialsandAIDS workers who
¯ called for a 25 percent increase inCDC’s
¯ $634 million budget for AIDS education
¯ and prevention. Congress has addedmil,
lions to government programs thatpay for
¯ drugs for AIDS patients, but increasing
AIDS prevention money significantly is
¯ considered a tougher fight, particnlarly in
~ view of a new conservative campaign
¯ against homosexuality.
¯ But HIV ,infects across:the-board, Dr~
: Helene Gayle, CDC’s AIDS chief, said
¯ Monday. Some 26 percent of HIV-infected
young people caught the v~rus
¯ through heterosexual intercourse, she
: notea.. "If people in leadership positions
: care about thefuture of this nation, you’ ve
¯ got to care about H’IV prevention," she
¯ said. ¯
Activists also called for:
: - TV networks that air programs rated
¯ "S" for sexual content to also allow
¯ condom ads to air during those programs.
- Doctors, clinics and hospitals to begin
." using a new 10-minute HIV test immedi-
: ately. An older test takes about a week to
¯ get results, and thousands of Americans
¯
who get tested each year never return to
¯ leamifthey’reinfected. Pcoplewhodon’t
¯ know they are infected can unknowingly
spread HIV to others.
- AIDS education to reach more teen-
" agers by .creating an AIDS prevention
¯ web site that links to popular teen Internet
sites.
¯ - CDC to launch a campaign persuad-
¯ ing more people to get tested. An esti-
¯ mated 50,000 people in New York State ¯
have HIV and don’t know it, says a corn-
: puter model by Gay Men’s Health Crisis.
! HIV+-Teacher Can
: Be Transfered
¯ ATLANTA (AP) - An order prohibiting ¯
¯ the DeKalb County School District from transferring a teacher infected with HIV,
¯ the .virus that causes AIDS, has been re-
¯. versed by the EleventhU.S. Circuit Court
of Appeals. Last year, a district court
¯ granted the teachcr, known as "John Doe"
: in court documents, a permanent injunc-
¯ tion disallowing his transfer under the ¯
Americans with Disabilities Act.
¯ Doe worked with children with severe
¯ behavioral disorders at the district’s
¯ Shadow Rock Psychoeducational Center. ¯
The school district says the students are.
¯ violent and teachers often suffer bruises
: and scrapes. "Because district officials
¯ feared thatviolence and subsequentblood-
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to-blood contact between Doe and one of
his psychoeducation students might lead
to transmission of HIV, the District transfenced
Doe to an ’interrelated’ classroom
at a different school in April 1995," the
appeals court wrote. After being transfenced,
Doe worked with students with
mild disorders that are often in mainstream
classrooms for most of each day.
The school district and Doe are disputing
whether or not the Wansfer was voluntary.
Although Doe’s salary, benefits and
seniority all remained the same after the
transfer, the move requires him to take an
additional 10 hours of course work to
obtain an interrelated certificate.
Doehadinformed Shadow Rock’ s principal
of his illness in February 1995. He
spent the months following his transfer
trying to convince school officials to return
him to his psychoeducation class or
assign him to a group of children who are
’self-contained’ or too ’disordered’ to
participate in the ’interrelated’ program,
the court wrote. Doe eventually filed a
lawsuitclaiming the districtdiscriminated
against him. The district court supported
Doe’s assertions in August 1997.
"The district court, however, failed to
make explicit findings of fact regarding
any dangers that Doe’ s illness might pose
to violent psychoeducation students," the
appeals court ruled. "In addition, the district
court erred by applying a subjective
standard for determining whether Doe’s
transfer was adverse." The three-judge
panel said the district court should take a
. second look at the case and make a decision
following the guidelines of its reversal.
City Approves
Needle Exchange
SPRINGFIELD, Mass. (AP)-After years
of heated debate and flip-flopping, the
city council has approved a needle exchange
program. After two hours of publiccommentand
debate, the council voted
5-4infavor oftheprogram. Council memberWilliam
Foley received applausefrom
the crowd of 100 people when he cast the
swing vote.
MayorMichael Albano, whohas pushed
for an exchange program for two years,
said there was an AIDS epidemic in
Springfield. "This is not a political issue,
this is a medical issue," he said. "We are.
getting people into treatment and stopping
people froin getting a deadly disease."
But Hampden District Attorney William
Bennett accused the council of "giving
out tools to commit a crime with."
After the vote, council member Timothy
Rooke asked the board to consider an
amendment that would require health officials
to test all needles to seeif they were
used by more than one person or if they
contained any viruses. "It is not a stalling
tactic," he said. "Now it’ s a matter of fine
tuning the #an."
Theneedle exchangewouldoperate out
of a!-Iigh Street building of the Bay State
Medical Center. Drug users can turn in
used needles for clean needles in an even
exchange. They would all’be referred to
drug treatment programs and be asked
questions so city officials could track the
program.
The city council first rejected the plan
5-4 in 1996. It agreed to reconsider after
the city’ s Public Health Council declared
a health emergency in May and tried to
launch the program on its own.
Springfield Health Director Helen
Caulton said thenumber ofAIDS cases in
the city had reached epidemicproportions
and most had been caused by addicts
sharing needles. However, city lawyers
ruled that only the city council could seek
state funding for the program.
State law provides funding for 10 programs
to hand out clean syringes to drug
users, but, so far, they have been established
only in Boston, Cambridge,
Northamptonand Provincetown. The state
pitches in about $200,000 for the programs.
TheClinton administmtionhas endorsed
needle exchanges. Still, Health and Human
Services Secretary Donna Shalala
said the federal government would not
help pay for the programs. The House of
Representatives voted in April to ban using
federal money for such programs.
New Eyesight
Saving Drug
WASHINGTON (AP)- Scientific advisers
are recommending approval of a new
¯¯ The code also outlaws any form of job discrimination against a worker infected
¯ by the HIV virus, and requires that any
¯ employee too ill to performnormal duties ¯
be reassigned, the newspaper said.
According to 7fiord Health Organiza-
¯ tion figures released in June, one-fifth of
¯ Namibia’s population of 1.8 million is ¯
infected with HIV. Some densely popu~
¯ lated areas are estimated to have an infec-
_" tion rate of as high as 40%.
i Inmates Being
i "rested for HIV
¯ GREENVILLE, S.C. (AP) - Now that
¯ South Carolina is testing all state prison
inmates for the AIDS virus, some law-
" makers and others want to know how the
¯ .information will be used. The federal
¯ Bureau of Prisons and 17 other states
: already have mandatory testing for HIV,
¯ the virus that causes AIDS, according to
¯ the American Civil Liberties Union’s
: National Prison Project.
¯ State Sen. Kay Patterson, D-Columbia,
genetic drug therapy to help save AIDS ¯ likes the idea of testing all prisoners, but
patients’ eyesight. Isis, Pharmaceuticals’ : is concemed about how prison officials
Vitravene is the first antisense" drug to -" will use the information. "What will the
be reviewed by the Food and Drug Ad- ° department do once they find out they’re
ministration. This novel class of drugs is
created from DNA coding, working at the
genetic level to block production of disease-
causing proteins. Thebioteclmology
industry is stressing development of
antisense drugs against myriad diseases.
Isis says Vitravene slows the progression
of cytomegalovirus retinitis, an infection
that destroys AIDS patients’ rednas.
Advisers to theFDAvoted 5-2Wednesday
to recommend approval of Vitravene,
saying that although powerful new .anti-
HIV drugs have prevented many AIDS
patients from getting the eyeinfection in
recent years, some still fail standard
therapy.
¯ Chinese HIV
¯ Infections Increase
¯ BEIJING (AP)-Chineseauthorities urged
¯ greater efforts to slow the spread ofAIDS
¯ as the official tallyofpeopleinfectedwith
: the virus that causes the disease topped
10,000, an official newspaper said Tues-
" day. The newspaper said the actual num-
" ber of people infected with HIV may be
¯ as hi.gh as 300,000 - 100,000 more than
¯ previous estimates.
That figure could pass 1 million by
¯ 2000 if more is not done to check the
¯ spread of HIV, Xiao Yan, an official with
the Department of Disease Control, told
¯ state television.
¯ Loc~ health authorities have been or-
¯ dered to speed up education and preven-
¯ tion campaigns, the newspaper said. The
¯ disparity between official numbers and
¯ estimates is likely due tO undenceporting,
the lack of government resources to perform
tests and the stigma attached to ac-
: knowledging HIV,infection.
: Namibia Bars HIV
¯resting for Jobs
WINDHOEK, Namibia (AP) - Namibia,
: whichhas one of the word’s highest HIV
: infection rates, has made it illegal for
¯ employers to require tests for the virus
: that causes AIDS. The country’s new
¯
AIDS testing code binds both public and
private employers. It says HIV-infected
employees are under no obligation to inform
their employer of their condition.
infected? That’ s the missing piece to me,’"
¯ said Patterson, a member of the Senate
¯ Corrections and Penology Committee.
: Jackie Walker, an AIDS expert for the
¯ National Prison Project, is skeptical. I’ve
¯ never seen them say, ’OK, we’ll test you
¯ and you’ll be provided with correct level
¯ of care, medications and access to outside
¯ specialists whenit’ s neededand appropriate.’
It has just not happened across the
¯ board," she said.
¯ The $126,000 mandatory screening of
¯ about 21,000 prisoners should be done by ¯
Aug. 31, Corrections Department spokes-
¯ woman Linda Davis said. Correctional
¯ officers can use minimal force to ensure ¯
all inmates comply, including holding
¯
them down while blood is drawn, Davis
¯ said. So far no one has objected, she said.
"It’s a public safety issue. Considering
¯ the nature of our population and the
~ lifestyle, there’s a potential for health-
" related problems," she said. "It gives us a
¯ gauge to measure potential problems." ¯
However, Steve Bates, executive direc-
¯ tor of the state ACLU, worries that HIV-
¯ positive inmates will be segregated and
denied educational and vocational train-
. 1rig opportunities.
: Davis said the department does not yet
¯ haveapolicy onhousingforHIV-posltive
¯ inmates. State Sen. David Thomas, R- ¯
Fountain Inn, who heads the corrections
¯ committee, said the department could see
: roughly how many inmates are infected
¯ by doing a random sampling of 250 pris-
¯ oners. "They may have some reason to
." believe there is an accelerating number of
¯ cases and they need to segregate thepopu- ¯
lations. Given how AIDS usually spreads,
¯ they may have somereason to believe that
: they need to look very, very carefully at
¯ what is happening in that population,"
¯ Thomas said.
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Lars Eiglmer’s novel Pawn to Queen
Four is pretentious, disturbingly campy
and fantastically absurd. That’s exactly
what makes it so much fun to read. This is
a gay novel that does not take
itsdf any more seriously than
it does the ’moral majority.’
But Eighner keeps his tacky
brand of~humor from getting
tedious by plying his skill at
intricate plot twists, quick-andquirky
characterizations and a
unique insight into the fears
and desires of both the Gay
commnnity and ourdetractors.
As the story opens, Agnes,
the six-foot seven,350lb. drag
queen is facing quite the dilemma.
As ruler of the Court
of the Jade Chimera, she must
faithfully oversee the ’Gay
agenda’ throughout her territory
which covers most of
Texas and part of Oklahoma,
including the tiny town of
Osage. Osage is home to Holy
Word of God University and
Technical Institute, the headquarters
of the charismatic
Brother Earl, Agnes’ old enemy.
Agnes has been able to
keep Brother Earl’s violently
anti-gay rhetoric in check for
years, but now Earl has the
upper hand. Agnes has lost a
certain set of photographs of
Brbther Earl engaged in his
favorite bad habit - namely, seducing his
male students. Now Brother Earl has rejuve~
ted his homophobic campaign and it
is Agnes’ duty as Empress of the Jade
Chimera to stop him. Her mission: retrieve
the photographs or, failing that.
make new ones.
Enter Jim, our reluctant hero. Through
various types of bribery, appeals to his
duty as a Gay man and assurances of
lifelong sexual satisfaction by the finest
men in Houston, Agnes convinces Jim to
undertake this desperate, dangerous mission.
Now the fun’begins as Jim, his new
boyfriend Phil and eventually Agnes herself
infiltrate HWOGUTI, the Ku Klux
Klan and the sleepy town of Osage.
Eiglmer has a refreshing talent for creating
characters so natural and detailed
that you forget they are unbelievably stereotypical.
Jim is a typical clone; Phil is a
twink; Agnes is the UltimateDrag Queen,
but you never doubt that any of them
could be real. Even Brother Earl, though
hopelessly two-dimensional, seems to be
an exact replica of the kind of people we
elect to Congress all the time. This kind of
stereotyped hyper-neo-virmal-realism almost
makes Pawn to Queen Four an
EverYman play for the modem Gay individual.
The characters are so typical, yet
so real, that you could plug yourself into
whichever one fits best and pretend that
you are a part of this grand adventure.
There’s even a Lesbian (yes, only one)
who shows up with the Hell’s Fairies, a
Gay motorcycle gang.
There are more admirable things going
onJaere however¯ The three main characters
have a point in-their stereotyping.
Jim’ s uncertainty about his role in such an
exotic world draws you in. You begin to
refreshing talent
for ereat~g
characters so
natural and
detailed that you
forget they are
unbelievably
stereotypical...
Agnes is the
Uh~-nate Drag
Que n... Even
Brother Earl...
seems to
exact re~|~ea of the
klnd~mpeople we
elect to Congress
all the time. Th~s
kind of stereotyped
hyper~neo-wirtualrealism
almost
makes Pawn to
¯ been Four an
Everyman play for
the modern Gay
~dl,ad~l.
wonder how much of our culture is controlled
by a marginalized minority of our
society. You start to wonder, "how much
does that drag queen control what club is
’ in’ or’ out?’ "or"am I on the A-list for all
the best partiesT’ Though the true extent
of an underground society’s
control is questionable,
Eighner wants you to question
the image we have and
who gives it to us.
Even more infectious than
Jim’s trepidation is his admi=
ration of Phil. Phil’s angelic
beauty and innocent devotion
give the story apeaceful wonder
missing from most Gay
novds. Oh, there are plenty of
beauties, plenty of innocents
and plenty of devoted lovers
in Gay literature, but how
many characters really have
all three traits? Phil reminds
us thatwe canretain ourchildlike
fascination with the world
no matterhow adverse the cir=
cumstances and still beresponsible,
capable, respectable
human beings. This is a quality
of life that so much of the
gay community neglects in
favor of that oh-so-chic snide
cynicism. Though Jim is the
protagonist, Phil is the one
youwill involve yourself wi~.
You will be proud when he
comes into his own destiny;
you will admire him as Jim
does, because Phil is that beatl-
¯ tiful person that would actually talkto you
¯ in a bar.
¯ Alas, Agnes... with the resourceful-
" hess and style of a true pageant-winner,
¯ the Queen of the Jade Chimera inspires
¯ belief in the impossible, faith in the unbe-
¯ lievable . . . and that she does just by
¯ carrying 350 pounds of drag queen in
¯ seven-inchheels! Regency and flare have
¯ never been in better form. She can imper~
¯ sonate a grtmgy old gardener or a Klan
¯ member and never break a two-inch-long
: nail. Truthfully, any respect and dignity
¯¯ wehave neglected to allow drag queens to
haveis broughtforth with no apologies by
¯ the glorious Agnes. She is a true heroine
in the vein of those queens who started
¯ this most groundbreaking era of our
¯ struggle for equal rights. I wouldn’t be
¯ surprised tolearn thatAgnes or some real¯
life equivalent was actually at Stonewall.
Her Highness is controlling, deceptive
¯ and stubborn but you can’t help but love
¯ her .... and you can’thelp but watch her.
¯ Ultimately,whatmakes Pawn toQueen
Four a good read is what it teaches (al-
¯ though I think Eighner might hate me for
: saying that). For all its outlandish hijinx
¯ and biting wit, this book has a serious, ¯
though probably unintentional, message
¯ - we in the Gay community have become
" so obsessed with fighting our enemies
¯ that we forget to have fun, or the exact
: opposite. Pawn to Queen Four is ulti-
: mately aboutbalance. Agnes doesn’twant
Brother Earl out of the picture. She has
¯ plenty of chances to ruin him, but she
¯ knows that he has every right to exist that
¯ she does. Surprisingly, Brother Earl feels
: the same, although he gets a little threatening
when he leads the Klan in a true
" Oklahomabackroads see Queen4,p. 14
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by Mary Schepers, the D-I- Y-Dyke
The DIYD admits the following with a
red face: a blatant act of voyeurism. After
a visit at the Oracle’s, this author spied
their neighbor through the window. The
studly, shirtless fellow was busy painting
the trim and causing the
DIYD no end of fussy
fascination. Good grip
on the brush. No, no,
long, smooth strokes..
¯ and dip your brush
NOW! Oureditorcame
to mind, and while he
would have probably
agreed about the Strok-
Ing technique, the paint
job wouldhavebeenhis
least concern. But not
you, loyal reader! Over
the past few months,
you too have come to
admire the beauty of
paint.
As promised, last
month, when the cart of
exterior painting was
put before the workhorse
of window
reglazing, the DIYD
will now enhance your
skills even more. Window
reglazing is only
done on the older wood
framed single paned
windows, andis amust
ff you% doing all
your windows, and
usually you will,
do yourself a favor
and buy the Prazi
Putty Cha.er...
It attaches to any
drift chuck.., and
with one simple adjustment
the carbide
cutter is set so that it
won’t harm the
Turn on the drift and
remove the old putty
fa~ter than Dorothy
can click her heels
three times, and it
won’t slit or chip the
wood frame eitker.
before starting that outside paint project.
It will also make your winter heating bills
more. palatable when you stop the coldair
seeping in around.the pane. And aesthetics
! Don’t forget the aesthetics ! Curling,
peeling and cracking glazing putty is just
¯ tired and frumpy2 Lose it.
¯ Traditionally, this job has been a lot of
uresome work, but the DIYD will pull a
few tricks out of her pocket that will have
you simply melting with delight..First, the
old, dried putty must be removed to the
wood. If you’re doing all of your windows,
and usually you will, do yourself a
"We need your help," Satcher told the
organizationformedby ministers in 1957.
"We need the church to help us to deal
with the prejudice and the bias that-we
face as we’re trying to fight this epidemic."
Ministers are uneasy talking about
AIDS, said the group’s chairman, Dr.
Claud Young, a family doctor in Detroit.
’qqaey speak about sex in any form as if
it’s a form of cancer," he said, recalling
preachers asking him not to use the word
"condom" inside the church. "I said, ’Not
only is the word condom being usedinthe
church; I can assure you condoms are
being used in the church.’" Young added
thatin Michigan,Blackorganizations have
received little of the grant money available
for prevention.
Today’s fight presents challenges that
did not exist during the 1960s, Satcher
said. During the civil rights movement, he
said, people had hope that they could
effect change. Today, too many young
people are hopeless about their futures so
they do not try as hard to avoid risky sex
and other health threats, he said. But that
can change, he said. "Leadership is critical,"
he said. "I don’t think we’ve found
any~substitutes for good leadership."
favor and buy the Prazi Putty Chaser. It is
available only by mail and is worth all ,of
the $19.95+shipping/handling (McFeely s
800/443-7937. Don’t forget to ask for a
catalog - it’s worth i0. It attaches to any
drill chuck 1/4" oflarger (3/8 is standard),
.and withone simple ad=
justment the carbide
cutter is set so that it
won’t harm the glass.
Turn on the drill and
remove the old putty
faster than Dorothy can
dick her heels three
times, and it won’t slit
or chip the wood frame
either.
With the old
putty gone, make a
mixture 50/50 of paint
thinner and linseed oil
to coat and nourish the
old, exposed wood,
then wait a day before
proceeding. TheDIYD
gently urges you to restrain
your passion for
neatly glazed windows
and not omit this step.
Then youhaveoptions:
one, you can use the
old putty in the can and
putty knife trick; or
two, you can use the
new latex compoundin
the tube, like caulk.
Unless you are an old pro, please opt for
the latter. Not only will it be easier~ the
latex material will last longer and it may
be the last tame you have to do this.
The tube comes with a specialized
nozzle that applies the compound at the
proper angle and it fits a standard catdk
gun, Though it isn’t necessary, your job
will look heater if you mask the glass
about 1/3" above the wood, with the compound
filling in. Leave the tape on for
p.ainting, then strip it off 24 hrs. later for a
crisp, unsmeared edge. The tube material
costs a bit more than, the putty, but is
worth every penny of it. Apply the material
moving smoothly and slowly along
the frame at about a 33 degree angle; the
nozzle will do this for you. Smooth with a
wet finger, if desired. Wait another day,
then paint; with the premasked windows,
this isn’t painful. Your house will be gor=
geous and snug and, with the two above
techniques, done days ahead of those who
do not heed the DIYD’s advice.
Next month: take up your PHD’s and
pickets - it’s time’to build that privacy
fence (PHD = Post Hole Digger). Any
questions or cqmmentary? The DIYD
accepts your praase, chastisement or suggestions
care of this paper!
Ulmer wrote. "In other words, the proposedamendmentlimits
marriage to what
it has been and currently is by statute in
Alaska. Because that is themeaning of the
amendment, I believe the ballot summary
should say so."
The lawsuit seeks to force Ulmer to use
an earlier version that began: "This measure
would add an amendment to the-
Alaska Constitution on marriage." The
Legislature passed the amendment in the
final minutes of the session after Judge
Peter Michalski ruled against a 1996 law
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Dr. Marny Hall is a San Francisco Bay
Area psychotherapist with twenty years
experienee speeializing
in Lesbian relationships.
In her book, The
Lesbian Love Companion:
How to Survive
Everything from
Heartthrob to Heartbreak,
she tackles issues
of Lesbian relationships,
sex, breakups,
rituals, and jeab
ousy.
"I had had a painful
break-up," she told me
m a recent interview,
"and-decided to find
somelongterm couples
who had managed to
weather the difficulties
that had undermined
my relationship. I was particularly interested
in finding couples who had survived
outside affairs." She located a.handfu!:0f
long term Lesbian couples and contacted
them periodically over anumber of years.
She asked, how they met, how their relationshipprogressed,
andhow they handled
difficult situations:such as jealousy, conflict,
desire, homophobia, work, and illness.
"I was searching for a formula," said
Mamy, "but I didn’t find anything. Then
five years into this experiment, two of the
model couples I had been tracking broke
up. I had come to think of them as perfect
couples. I felt a bit shell-shocked but I
decided that I wouldcontinue to interview
both ex-partners. It was then that I found
the answers I was looking
for. Now the ex-
.partners started talking
about their relationships
in entirely different
ways. One woman,
who had said that she
was really in lust now
told me that they had
never had any passionate
chemistry! Another
womanused to say that
her community of
friends kept them together;
now she said
that she never felt a
sense ofcommtmity ! A
third said she wanted to
be with her partner until
her breath was no
: longer in her body. After the break-up she
¯ told me that even if her partner were
available, she wouldn’.t go back. These
¯ 180 degree turns made me realize that so
¯ much of how we process relationships is ¯
through the tales that we tell. The tales do
¯ all sorts of things - they certify legit1-
¯ macy, they heal broken hearts, and they ¯
explain betrayals."
: After this revelation, Mamy decided to
¯ go back and reread the transcripts from
the interviews she had conducted with the
¯ couples that were still together. Now she
¯ could see shifts in their stories too, over
: time. Their stories had kept them going
Dr. Marny Hall
through hard times. For example, if one
partnerhadhadan affair, .theother discovered
a motive that explained everything.
Perhaps the straying partner had been
depressed about her job or angry at her
partner. The affair had been a coded way
of announcing these dissatisfactions. In
other words, the two partners collaborated
on a story that turned an unpardonable
betrayal into a forgivable misdemeanor.
By reconstruing the potentially
damaging revelation in more positive
ways, they were able to stay together.
"So I thought, why not think of more
stories?" said Marny. Her book focuses
on stories that provide alternatives to the
"master stories" ab0utforever-after, about
terrible betrayals, about bad times. "If I
could tell stories about small break-ups or
trivial passions or benign other women
then I could contribute to partners’ flexibility
and givethemmore staying power,"
Maruy told me.
Originally planned as a book about successful
long-term couple relationships,
The Lesbian Love Companion took on a
life ofits ownl "I love the story of ~happily
ever after," Marny said, "but we. can tell
other stories, too. Everyday stories about
contentment instead of epics about do-ordie
love affairs. Stories of downsized disenchantments
instead of major dyke dramas.
The first time you realize that your
.lover snores and you love her anyway is
not exactly a swash-buckling bodice-ripper.
But it does qualify as a modest tale
about a small turning point. Our lives are
packed with all kinds of minimalist ro-
: mances. We just have to tune in to them.
: "The same thing is true about sex,"
¯ Mamy continued. "We’re all so familiar
¯ with the story about the earth-moving sex.
: But we can tell a lot of different stories
: about sex- maintenance sex that depends
¯ on cultivating orgasmic habits, sex for ¯
comfort or fun, psychodrama sex that
exorcises old demons. Even the fond
sexual memories we share with ex-lovers
is anotherform of sex. Wemight call it exsex.
These stories aren’t the mainstream
favorites so they aren’t heard, they’re
inaudible, private." As Marny putsit, her
book puts some "amplification" on the
stories that many of us are already telling.
’q’he bookis for long-term couples. It is
also for the sluts and passionate friends,
the celibates andthecommunally minded,"
Mamy added. "All of us are affected by
¯ the traditional stories. Uncoupled Lesbi-
: ans often feel as though they have failed
¯ some crucial test. And long-term couples
: may feel such pressure to live up to these
¯ stones that, as aresult, they feel they must
¯ conceal anything thatisn’t congruentwith ¯
’perfect coupledom.’ Such self censor-
" ship makes~thard for partners to be play-
" ful .or spontaneous. The perfect couple
¯ ideal exacts a toll on everyone- Ltgbians ¯
who are coupled,unpartnered or who have
¯ multiple partners."
"It tends to turn us all into intimacy
¯ overachievers," said Mamy. "The pur- ¯
pose of my book is to counteract that
¯ sense of performance anxiety. Almost
: everybody has doubts, and forbidden passions,
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I met brown-eyed Burt one summer
when I was working in Hawai’i. Burt had
grown up near Manila in the philippines.
He taught English for some years at a
Catholic high school. Then
he came to Honolulu to work
on a Ph.D. in philosophy at
the University of Hawai’i
In his thesis, Burt planned to
reexamine traditional Asian
philosophy in light of the
work of post-modernists
suchas Foucault and Derrida.
When I met Burt, he was in
his mid 30.s and solidly built,
just runmng to chunk. But
you could still look through
those added pounds to see
that he had been a graceful
young man.
In Honolulu, Burt found
an American boyfriend- an
older man retired from the
telephone company. Burt
movedinand tookovercooking
and cleaning for the two
of them. His lover’s elderly
mother came to stay and he
took care of her too. Burt
kept purposely missing his
thesis deadlines to maintain
his relationship. His student
visa and US Immigration
demanded that, after finishing
a degree, he return to the
Philippines and not come
back to America for three
years, even as a tourist. His
Ph.D. thesis wa~ already four
Throughout
muck of the
Philippines -
especially the
Muslim south
- there aretraditional
roles
in which men
take on tTemlnlne,
eharaeteristles
and clothing.
In Tagalog,
the main Filipino
language,
these men are
cafled ba/da.
Traditionally,
many bakla
¯were dancers.
actors, and
entertainers.
years overdue.
~-Since that summer, I’ ve met a number
of American/Filipino couples - the Filipino
half typically keeping house.
Throughout much of the Philippines -
especially the Muslim south = there are
traditional roles in which men take on
.feminine characteristics and clothing. In
Tagalog, themainFilipino language, these
men are called bakla. Traditionally, many
bakla were dancers, actors, and entertainers.
MarkJohnson’snew bookabout transvestites
in Sulu, Beauty andGender (Berg
1997), describes numbers Of feminine,
cross-dressing Filipino boys who are .on
the prowl for masculine (i.e., ’straight
acting’, even married) boyfriends. In recent
years, these guys have taken overand
developed the hairdressing and beauty
business sectorthroughoutthe Philippines.
Most reject, however, a traditional bakla
identity and embrace instead the label
"gay." Our Western term here continues
to extend its global’ spread. Burt, too, was
horrified when I asked if he was a bakla.
This term today resonates too many sour
tones of backwardness, effeminacy, and
male prostitution.
There is a straight parallel to Butt and
his boyfriend in Hawai’i. In any romance
magazine sold at Quiktrip, one can find
advertisements touting the merits of submissive,
yet sexy, Asian women. You,
too, can easily send away for a mail-order
Oriental bride! One ofmy second cousins
had a fairly successful marriage with an
able woman from Vietnam until his warrelated
post traumatic stress syndrome
worsened one day and he attacked an old
lady gassing her car up at a California
service station.
Feminists decry the Ameriean stereotype
ofsexy Suzy Wongs who serve white
° men in bed, serve them dinner - who
¯ meekly serve all their needs whatever.
," But the international marriage marketl
." place works to bring women out from the
Philippines, and other Southeast Asian
countries, into the US.
Ainerican wealth allows at
leastsome ofus to shop overseas
and purchase our sexual
fantasies, even if we don’t
always get what we think we
are buying. And Americans
.profit, too, from positive
images that encourage at
least some Asians to hop a
plane and fly into the arms
of an unknown Occidental
spouse. Obviously, just as
many Filipinas (and Filipinos)
are 1.ooking for Americans
as vice versa.
The market for gay Asian
fianc6s is constrained by the
inability of homosexuals to
marry legally and thereby
obtain green cards for our
~mported boyfriends. Still,
I’ve had interesting email
correspondence with several
guys in Indonesia, Malaysia,
and the Philippines. They
wonder if I can set them up
with American lovers. One
gayboy in Jakarta, a civil
servant whose nom de email
is Koko, asked my advice
about accepti.’ng a one-way
air ticket from an American
Internet correspondent. I
counseled him to take care
lest he end up a sex slave, bound up in
somebody’s basement. The Hollywood
~mage of the United States is very powerful
overseas. Even Tulsa can seem urbane
and sophisticated to somebody in
Zamboaga or Chiangmai or Penang.
Mostrecently, I havebeenin touch with
a sad, young Filipino in the port city of
Dubai, United Arab Emirates. Joe moved
to Dubai from Saudi Arabia severa! months
ago. He had broken up with his 50-something,
bald American lover whom he was
with for three years. Joe, understandably,
is depressed. He emails me that he misses
fixing dinners for the two of them. He
misses fussing about his ex-lover’s various
medical conditions. Gay life in Dubai
is no doubt grim. Joe nowadays appears to
live mostly on the Internet. The American
boyfriend, perhaps because he was at the
end of an employment contract or perhaps
becauserelations with Joehadlanguished,
returned here to Tulsa by himself. Well,
almost by himself. He brought their eat
back to Tulsa but he left his Filipino
boyfriend behind in the Arabian deserts.
for housing programs earmarked for
people with AIDS. The $21 million was
shifted to help f’mance state extended care
programs for veterans. Rep. VanHilleary,
R-Tenn., said the reduction was justified
because of a 6 percent decline in the
annual number of AIDS cases. Opponents
of the amendment argued that the
decline is attributed to the wider use of
¯ new drugs and the success ofsuch drug
tr~tments often depends on patients having
decent housing.
Almost everybody wo~nders about the
paths not taken. By telling our untold tales
and making them normal, I hope that our
sense of failure will be reduced.’" As a
psychotherapist, Marny has been witness
to many stories by Lesbians. An example
of the man3’ excerpts from The Lesbian
Love Companion: "You might ~’ant to
develop your other-woman fantasy. Install
her as your permanent muse. Pay
attention to her. She’ll tell you whether t~
sign up for scuba class or just buy some
new lingerie. And after you do what she
suggests, check in with her from time to
time. Has she changed? Is she suggesting
another direction? You are entitled to
keep her toyourself: ,She is, after all,
purely 3"our playmate, soul mate - combination
projection, reflection, guide. And,
:Aphrodite forbid, ifanything should ever
happen to ),our partner, ’*our fantasy lover
";~q]l be there for you. SlOe will shoe 3"our
’memories and your tears. She will con-
~ble and commiserate. And, one chy, when
the time is right, she will lead You back to
~E world.’" As Mamv writes i’n the book:
"V~qlen it comes to ou~ lives and loves, we
need a generous supply of alternative stoi~
es: Instructive sci-fi fabIes and twilight
zone mysteries, endless sequels and whitel~
uckl~ exploits. \Ve ~e both hearth
buggers and voyagersl We must make
room in our lives for the dream of foreverafter
and the determination to never look
back."
Early reactions to Marny’s book? Rumorhas
it that Lily Tomlin loves it ! Alison
Bechdel, creator of the comic strip Dykes
To Watch Out For, calls it".., a veriiable
Karma Sutra of emotional possibility."
For further reading: Mamy Hall (1998),
The Lesbian Love Companion: How to
Survive Everything from Heartthrob ~o
Heartbreak. HarperCollins, I0 East 53rd
St., New York, NY 10022.
Prof. Esther
Rothblum
is teachek psy-
6hology at the
University of
Vermont 6nd is
Editor of the
Journal of Lesbian
Studies.
She can be
reached at Jo,"n
Dewey Hail,
University of Vermont, Burlington, VT
05405. e~ail: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
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