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THE NAMES PROJECT
Quilt Tours Black Colleges
Coretta Scott King Slams Homophobia
ATLANTA (AP) - During the AIDS Quilt tour of
historically Black colleges and universities, Coretta
Scott King told those viewing the memorial that
homophobiahas prolonged and worsened the epidemic
within the Black community.
"It is particularly sad tome when I hear Black people,
includiug some in leadership positions, making
homophobic comments and attacking t.he humm] rights
of Gay and Lesbian people," the widow of die Rev.
Martin Luther King Jr. said Monday during the tour’s
opening ceremonies at Clark Atlanta University,
Regardless of sexual orientation or gender, Blacks
have a signiticantly higher risk of becoming infected
with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Stati-stics show
ntost new HIV infections occur among people 25 and
younger. The Black community has been hit particularly
hard. According to the Centers for Disease Control and
Prevention, Blacks account for about half the new HIV
infections, AIDS cases and AIDS deaths, though they
represent only 13% of the U.S. population,
"With the stigma on homosexual behavior mthe
African-American coxmnunit~¢, ¯ see Ki.,t~, ~9.: 15
Matthew Shepard
Murder Trial Update
LARAMIE, Wyo. (AP) - Gay college student Matthew
Shepardwas pumaneled to deathby Aaron McKirmey in
a drunken, drug-induced rage after Shepard made a pass
at him, McKirmey’s attorney Said as: his trial began.
"’Did Matthew Shepard deserve to die? No, that’s
ridiculous-. No manslaughter victim deserved to die,"
Jason Tangeman said in opening statements. "That’s
what Aaron McKirmey is guilty of, manslaughter."
The roofer’s judgment that night Vas affected bv
alcohol, methamphetamines and "~ome sexuall}
traumatic and confusing events in his life," Tangeman
told jurors.
Prosecutor Cal Rerncha said his case against
McKinney will not deal with Shepard’s Gayness. "It
will simply be about the pain, suffering and death of
Matthew Shepard at the hands of the defendant, Aaron
James:McKimaey," he said." The Human Rights
Campaign, a national Gay civil rights organization
strongly condenmed the use of the.’’blame the victim"
defense in the trial.
Shepard, McKinney and Henderson met in a Laramie
bar about a year ago, where Shepard asked McKinney
for a ride home, humiliating him in front of friends
because McKinney believed Shepard was Gay,
Tangeman contended. Tangeman said McKinney, 22,
was confused by three homosexual encounters that
occurred when he was 7, 15 and 20: In one case,
McKinney was forced into an oral sex act with a
neighborhood bully, Tangeman said.
Rerucha said McKirmey and Henderson drove
Shepard, 21, to a remote area, where they robbed, lashed
him to.the fence and pistol-whippinghim into a coma.
Opening statements were made after ajury of 10 men
and:six women, including four alternates, was seated in
McKinney’s trial on charges of first-degree murder,
kidnapping androbbery. Thejury includes three students
at the University of Wyoming, where Shepard was a
freshman. McKinney could receive the.death penalty.
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World AIDS Day
Memorial Service at Historic Mt. Zion
Baptist Church Dedicated to the
Memory of HIV/AIDS Activist Phil Wiley
TULSA - The 10th annual World AIDS Day Candlelight March
and Memorial Service will be held at one of Tulsa’s most
historical traditionally African-American churches, Mt. Zion
Baptist Church, led b~ the Rev. Calvin McCutcheon. The march
will begin gathering at 6:30 near St. Monica’s Churchjust south
of Carver School east of Greenwood Avenue This is just south
of Pine.
The march will begin about 7pm and will continue about a mile
south on Greenwood to John ttope Franklin Bottlevard which
travels west through the Oklahoma State University at Tulsa
campus to Elgin. Mt. Zion is on FJ~n just across the OSU-Tulsa
parking lots near 1-244.
The theme for the march and memorial is "Fa~d the Silence"
and the service will feature the music of Ernestine Dillard, the
Council Oak Mens Chorale and the Mr. Zion church choir. Tiffs
Tulsa service is dedicated to the memory of 1o"cal ttIV AIDS and
Gay civil rights activist Phil Wiley who died of kidney failure last
summer.
Orgamzers note that all tilnes are approximate aud that lhey
will provide candles and matches but encourage marchers to
bring banners and bells to nng on the march.
For more information, call Interfaith ..\ IDS Mira stries at 438-
2437.
Also on World AIDS Day, an organization called "\Vc The
Peopl.e Li.ving .with AIDS/HIV’" will join with thousm~ds of other
orgmuzatlons m remembering, fiercel3, those the~ lmvc !ost to
the AIDS epidemic.
They will do this through the posting of the manes of their
members, friends and loved ones lost to ,A IDS on the. \ IDS \Vatch
webpage, which will display the .,aan]es of tens of thousands of
people who have died from :kIDS. one at a mnc in the 48 honrs
before and after December ist.
They request that readers consider adding the uames of those
whom they have lost to AIDS to the list. The page is localed m
http:/iwww.aidswatch.org. Click on "’Add a name "’ to include the
name, of~v°ur loved one, friend or colleague to the li st.
Community Center News
All Community Meeting, Nov. 16, 6:30pm
TOHR Meeting, 11/9: Carol Petersen,
Author, Poet + Gay Man in Hitler’s Navy
TULSA - The third all community meeting will be held at the
Communiiy Center on Tues., Nov. 16th at 6:30pm. About 35
individuals attended the last meeting in Sept. and the
representatives of a number of organizations, churches and
businesses decided to convene a community council with TOHR,
Tulsa Oldahomans for Human Rights, the parent organization of
the Tulsa Gay Community Services Center, coordinating the
exchange of information.
Local attorney and original meeting co-convener Dennis Neill
will present a draft contract to clarify the relationship between the
various groups. For more information about the next conmaunitv
meeting, call the Community Center at 743-4297.
On Tues. Nov. 9th at 7:30pro, TOHR will hold its montlflv
membership meeting. The meeting, which is open to the publiC,
will feature remarks by Carol Petersen, a Romanian born poet,
biographer and educator. Petersen, a Gay man.~ even found
lfimself serving in the German Navy during the N~i government
of Adolf Hitler.
Petersen has-published works on Albert Camus, Andre Gide,
John Steinbeck, Goethe, Spanish poet Lorca, Thomas Mann as
wall as works of poetry. He has taught French and German
literature and awarded one of the highest honors in France, the
Chevalier de L’oi’dre des Palmiers Academique de France.
Other News: House of the Holy Spirit Calls Pastor
House of the Holy Spirit Ministries announces that they have
selected a new full-time pastor, Chuck Breckenridge.
Breckenridge served in a pastoral capacity in a Wichita
congregation where he formerly resided. Breckenridge is also
known for having published and edited The Parachute, a now
defunct regional publication. He also started The Triangle Of
which he has recently served as general manager. Breckenridge
was installed as pastor on October 17th. Troy McGoveran,
spokesman for House of the Holy Spirit notes, "the entire
congregation is very excited about the movement going on in our
church.., we.. welcome Pastor Breckemidge to our church.. ?’
Falwell MeetsWith Gays
LYNCHBURG, Va. (AP)-The Rev. Jerry Falwell,
who has denounced homosexuals for years, held an
.unprecedentedmeeting with GayChristians recently
m an attempt to reduce violent acts against Gays
and Christians. Both sides said the gathering was
productive.
Dozens of anti-Gay protesters denmnstrated
outside, yelling at Gay supporters as they entered
the church parking lot. The Rex’. Fred Phelps of
Topeka, Kan.. whose congregafiou also taunted
Gays at the funeral of slain Gay college studcm
Matthew Shepard. said Falwdl is a hypocrite for
ineeting with the Rev. Mel White, a Gay minister
and his followers.
"Falwell used to teach the Bible word for word.
now he’s going off and meeting with these fags and
going against everything he’s ever taught," Phelp,~
said. "He always says ’hate the sin. bnt love the
simmr,’ but it’s ~mpossible to separate the t~o
Does ajudge send the crime or the crintinal tojail’?"
Falwell. who has long believed lha~
homosexuality is a sin, insists he will not change
Iris views, but has agreed to tone down tfis anti
language that Gay civil rights activists
encourages hatred and violence towar~t
homosexuals.
"’We are here because ihnocent people ol vari~
faiths, racial and ethnic groups and sexual
preferences have increasingly had their live~
abruptly mid violently ended by people ~vilh
opposing vie~\s.’" Fah~ell told th~ group of 4
delegates in ~velcomiug then] to the anti "~ml,,ncc
fortun Saturday afternoou
x~q]itc brought 200 Gays mid Lesbians l’rom 3~*
slates to p~ticil)atc in the forum. They were ]t)]ncd
by 2~)evm~gelic~d Chnsfians who supjmrt Fid~ cEstmacc
"q hi s is the first step iu ourjoume3 tm~ auct~
reconciliation." s~d White, who held a pra3 e~ ~ ~gil
Ffida3 mght for 20 Gay men or gm~sgcndcred
people killed because of their sexu~ oneutation.
see Fahvell, p. 10
France OK’s Gay and
Non-Gay Partnerships
The British Broadcasting System (BBC) reported
in October that the French Parlimnent has approved
a controversial bill that gives Gay couples mare of
the rights enjoyed by married people. The NatiOnal
Assmnbly passed the Civil Solidarity Pact (PACS)
by 315 votes to 249.
The PACS allows unmarried couples to register
their umon and enjoy some of the tax, legal and
social welfare benefits associated with marriage. It
is intended to allow Gay and heterosexual couples
who are not married to "’organise their common
life". Partners who want to separate will be able to
do so via a letter of separation. According to Justice
Minister Elisabeth Guigou, the bill will improve
the lives of more than five million people.
Conservative opponents immediately said they
would ask the Constitutional Council to role whether
the law was unconstitutional. Religious leaders
have strongly denounced the law, saying it enables
a form of homosexual marriage.
The PACS wasintroduced by the riding socialists
and the government’s majority made approval
virtually certain. It has been one of themostbitterlycontested
pieces of social legislation for years,
opposed by conservatives and by leaders of the
Christian, Jewish and Muslim faiths in France.
see France, p. 15
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EDITORIAL P. 3 ~I~ US & WORLD NEWS P. 4
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~ ENTERTAINMENT P. 8 COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9
READ ALL ABOUT IT P. 10 Z DO-IT-YOUR-SELF DYKE P. 11
DYKE PSYCHE P. 12
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P. 13
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
*Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston
*Empire Bar, 1516 S: Peoria
*Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th
*Gold Coast Coffee House; 3509 S. Peoria
*Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria
*The Mix, 2630 E. 15th
*Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd
832-1269
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744-4280
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Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Advanced Wireless & PCS, Digital Cellular 747-1508
*Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 5231 E. 41 665-4580
Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122
*Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955
*Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313
Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
L:m Daniel. Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
" ~_~eco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
*Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S Peoria 744-5556
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
*Ross Edward Salon 584-0337, 712,-9379
Events Unlimited, 507 S. Mai~’ 592-0460
*Floral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595
Four Star Import Automotive, 9906 E. 55th P1. 610-0880
Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709
Gay & Lesbian Affordable Daycare 808-8026
*Gloria Jean’s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E 21st 742-1460
Leanne M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning 459-9349
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*Sandra J. Hill, MS. Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skellv 745-1111
*International Tours 341-6866
Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750
*Jared’s Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582-3018
David Kanskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236
The Keepers, Housekeeping & Gardening 582-8460
*Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-~-!-66
*Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brad3,’ 585-1234
*Midtown Theater. 319 E. 3rd 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951
Puppy Pause II, 1060 S. Mingo 838-7626
*Peace Of Mind Bookstore, 1401 E. 15 583-1090
The Pride Store. 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor 743-4297
Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932
Richard’s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617
Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921, 747-4746
*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
Paul Tay, Car Salesman 260-7829
*Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 48t-0558
*Venus Salon, 1247 S. Harvard 835-5563
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733
*W~hittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767
Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities
AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593
All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria 743-2363
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159 587-7314
Bless The Lord at All Times Christian Center, 2207 E. 6 583-7815
*B/L/G/T Alliance. Univ. of Tulsa United Min. Ctr. 583-9780
*Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston 585-1201
*Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence
*Church ofthe Restoration UU, 1314N.Greenwood 587-1314
*Community ofHope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale 747-6300
*Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595
Coundl Oak Men’s Chorale 748-3888
*Dela}vare Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware 7!2-t511
*Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31 742-2457
Dignity!Integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics &
Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475 355-3140
*Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
*Free Spirit Women’s Center, call for location &info: 587-4669
918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615
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Publisher + Editor:
Tom Neal
Writers + contributors:
James Christjohn, Barry Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche, Lamont
Lindstrom, Bob Rounsavell, Esther Rothblum, Mary Schepers
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Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
Friends in Unity Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438
*HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-6611
*Tulsa C.A.R.E.S., 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194
*Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378
*House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood
Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
*MCC United, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral P1. 748-3111
NOW, Nat’l Org. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658
OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157
*OSU-TUlsa
PFI~AG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901
*Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674
Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152
*R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
*Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 584-2325
O’RYAN, support group for 18-24 LGBT young adults
O’RYAN, Jr. support group for 14-17 LGBT youth
St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincim~ati 425-7882
St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140
*St. Jerome’s Parish Church. 205 W. King 582-3088
*Tulsa Area United Wa3,, 1430 S. Boulder 583-7171
*TNAAPP (Native American men), [udiat~ Health C0a’_¢- _582-7225
Tulsa County Health Department. 4616 E. 15 595-4105
Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only
Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, cio The Pride Center 743-4297
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 298-0827
*Tulsa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule
*Tulsa Community College Campuses
*Tulsa Gay Community Center. 1307 E. 38, 74105 743-4297
Unity Church of Christianity, 3355 S. Jamestown 749-8833
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TAHLEQUAH
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Audra Sommers:
To All .My Friends
Tiff s ruessage brings to youinformation
about my up-coming benefit called
’~onnecting The Hearts of Tulsa" Friday
November 5th, at 10:30 p.m. at the Silver
Star. This eventfocuses onthe Prescription
Assistance Program which as youknow is
very, very important to many.
As a community of caring individuals I
ask all ofyou once again to come together
as compassionate and sympathetic
members of our community and show
your support. Without fai! every year, you
pull out all the stops and arrive in droves.
My heart shines with delight to see all of
your faces as we raise the much needed
money to keep those who can’t afford the
necessary medications alive and well.
Come, meet new people and see some
new faces. Uniting together_we make the
difference.
Please join all my guests:
Miss Gay America
- Catia Lee Love
Miss Gay Oklahoma America
- Bridgett Lee
Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA
- Kris Kohl
Miss Fish-Lake Nevada
- Slutisha Swamppussy
Miss Midwestern Plains USofA
- Victoria Turrell
Miss Tulsa USofA 1998
- Jasmine Turrell
Miss Gay University Of Tulsa
Homecoming Queen 1999
- Audriana Sommers
The Green Country Cloggers
Miss Silver Star USofA 1996
- Tera "T" Neil
Miss Gay Oklahoma At Large USofA 96
- Domonique Daniel’s
Miss Feticia Winters
Miss Ebony Hall
Miss Tabatha Taylor
Miss Gain A Pound
Miss Miranda McMillian
Miss Tore McMillian
Miss Audra Sommers
and her special "Grab Bag Segment"
Mr. Steve Sludder
And Mr. Brock Masters - video star
along with many, maaay others.
I look forward to seeing everyone at the
StarFriday NovemberSthat 10:30p.m. It
is going to be the best show ever!
With love and respect,
- Audra Marie Sommers
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Editorial: Singing Those Millennium March Blues
To March or Not March?
That is the question - ok, ok, yes that’s tired and
perhaps, even trite but I couldn’t help it. The millennium
does indeed approach and with it, the next great Gay
march scheduled for next April.
Called by Robin Tyler, Lesbian event organizer par
excellence, taken up by the Gay community’s
organizational 800 pound gorillas, the Metropolitan
Community Church (MCC) and the Human Rights
Campaign(HRC), the Millennium Marchhas beenfraught
with controversy from its beginning.
No one doubts that these events are tremendously
ehapowering for those ofus who attend. I can attest to that
from my experience.at the last march. My long-suffering
ex (just ask him ;-) and I organized a group mostly of
students and others on limited incomes from Texas to
travel bybus to DC. Since this was a budget trip we stayed
about 12 to a room, 3 or 4 to a bed with some on the floor
of a hotel in the Virginia suburbs.
But the moment ofmy epiphany was when weboarded
the Metro (subway) at the 2nd to the last stop that far out
into the suburbs, and everyone waiting, and everyone on
the train but for perhaps one or two per car, w,as Gay, or
Lesbian, or Bi, ornon-Gays whomwe’ddearly welcomed
into our tribe.
For once tobe safe, for once to be inOUR space is a rare
and precious thing. There we could hold hands in the
street without the fear that we Were taking our !ives
literally in our hands. For once, we could say that we
don’t mind "straights" as long as they "behave"
themselves.
Formany this was alife transforming experience¯ From
it, they came back and became active in the organizations
of their hometowns. This clearly is go6~l:
And yet, some questions remain. First of these i.s
whether, this march will even come off at all. Because
MCC and HRC proclaimed that a march was going to
happened before they consulted the many other
organizations which make up the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual
and Transgendered civil fights and cultural movement,
the March was immediately caught up in controversy.
This "movement" is-tremendously diverse and building
consensus is long hard work. Prior march organizers did
do so through long and sometimes painful (I write this
Do you know where a number of Tulsans have been
during the last 18 months? Buried in trash. We studied
different curbside recycling programs from around the
state and from across the country. About 100 cities were
looked atby theTAREboard’ s subcommittee onrecycling.
Ourmost important discovery: each community is unique
in its requirements for recycling.
In Tulsa, most of the trash we generate is incinerated at
the trash-to-energy plant. The burning process results in
waste by-products that can mad do pollute our air. For
example, some substances like plastic can be harmful
when burned. Recycling will take them out of the trash
collection burned at the Walker Hall recovery plant. The
more Tulsa recycles, the more we improve Tulsa’s air
quality for our young, our elderly, and most significantly,
our chronically ill. And let us not forget that we are
breathing the same air.
Recycling does not ouly helpinmaking the environment
cleaner and healflfier; it also has economic benefits other
than quality of life. Once Tulsa citizens recycle enough
items that can be reused, a recycling industry will be
created an become a viable part of the economy with
added job opportunities,
In the beginning, Tulsans, will be able to recycle four
types of items. Newspapers, includin°g the slick
advertisement sections, compose the first recycling
category. Now you cannotrecyclemagazines and business
forms; these are another category which may be added at
a later date. However, you can still take them to MET
recycling centers.
The second category acceptable for recycling in Tulsa
will be aluminum. Drop all aluminum beverage cans inj
the recycling container; however, you cannot recycle
other forms of aluminum. Please rinse them immediately
after use. Remember that recycling pick up is every other
: from serving as a representative) meetings.
¯ And according to the Nov. 9th i°ssue of The Advocate,
¯ control of the event has _been shifted from Robin Tyler to
~ Malcolm Lazin, interim executive director. Kerry Lobel,
executive director of the National Gay & Lesbian Task
Force (NGLTF), earlier resigned from an oversight board
for the March because of concerns about event
"...the moment of my epiphany was
when we boarded the Metro (subway) at
the gnd to the last stop that far out into
the suburbs, and everyone waltln~, and
everyone on the train but for perhaps one
or two per ear, was
Gay, or Lesl~ian, or Bi, or non-Gays whom
we’d el rly we6om l into our tdl . "
organization and raised the question of whether the event
would need to be rescheduled or dropped.
But another question to ask is this: is this the best use
ofour communities’ resources? NGLTFhas been arguing
that we, as a movement, should be putting more of our
energies into local and state efforts at change. This
doesn’tmean abandoning federal level efforts but working
harder locally.
In Oklahoma, we’ve started to see some results from
just such efforts; the Cimarron Alliance has substantially
changed somelegislative attitudes in theOklahomaHouse.
FundingforHIV/AIDS care andprevenfionhas benefited
from lobbying by Tulsan Steve Eberle. These things
would not have happened unless some Oklahomans
decided to invest in local efforts.
According to Kelly Kirby, former Tulsa Oklahomans
for Human Rights (TOHR) president, longtime activist
and current Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and
Gays (PFLAG) board member, at least 40-50 Tulsans
stopped by a reception Marty Newman gave at the last
march. And likely there were some from the city who did
not attend.
So I have to ask, as another former TOHR president
who begged for money for that organization and for the
community center, what would happen if some of those
week. Besides, you will make it so much easier for those
separating our recyclables.
Plastic is one of the most important things to recycle.
As petroleum-based products, these items release toxins
when burned. You can recycle all plastic beverage bottles
including mostpop, milk, and water containers, as well as
soap and detergent bottles. Rinse our the container to
prepare these items for recycling and dispose of the lids.
It is easy to remember which plastic items are acceptable.
Look for the number "1 "or "2" inside the little triangle on
the bottom of the container.
.The final or fotu:th category for Tulsa’s new recycling
program is glass. Both clear and colored glass bottles and
jars will be accepted. Nounbroken glass will be taken, nor
will the program accept other housewares or plate glass
from windows. Since the glass before putting out for
collection and discard the lid. Because of the once-everytwo-
weeks collection, you may want to rinse after use, if
it contains food.
Curbside recycling is a great addition to Tulsa’s solid
waste disposal program. Now it is up to us to make it
succeed. Begin sign up for this new service. Just call the
Mayor’s Action Center at 596-2100 and tell them that you
wish to sign up for curbside recycling. It is scheduled to
start on Nov. 1st. The cost is only $2/month; it will be
added to your city utility bill. Recycled items will be
collected twice a month on an every other week basis.
Before the program begins, you will be informed about
your curbside pickup days.
You can also sign up by clicking on www
cityoftulsa.org/recycle or www.tulsarecycles.com.
Remember this program can succeed only ifenough ofus
participate. So sign on now!
Bob D. Rounsavell is a freelance Tulsa writer who
specializes in environmental education.
dollars did stay here in Oklahomainstead of adding to the
profits of American Airlines, or United, or Marriott or
Hilton?
Let’s guess that many of those 50 attending spent about
$500 to $1000 for their visit. A few who traveled as I did
with my student group perhaps spent as little as $200-
300¯ One might argue that an average expenditure might
be about $600 for a total of $30,000. But on the other
hand, $30k would pay the current rent on the Community
Center for almost two years !
Now that other TOHR ex-president argues that while
many in our community are willing to spend that money
on whatis in essence an extraQueer vacation, he feels that
few would be willing to mm around and invest that
amount into our community if there’s no immediate gain
for themselves. And sadly, I would like to argue with him
but as a community organizer, I can’t - because I’ve seen
that what he claims is mostly true. What if we did value
our rights and invested in our communities as much as we
did our fabulous vacations, great clothes, stylish homes
and cars?Whatcould we accomplish then? After all, ifwe
don’t take care of ourselves, who is going to? "Straight"
people? - Tom Neal
PS: those of you who’ve already got this message,
thanks! Keep up the good work and drag a friend along.
Tom Neal, publisher & editor ofTulsa Family News,
helped tofound and direct the Coalition of Lesbian/Gay
Student Groups and the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against
Defamation, Dallas Chapter andhelped iofoundGLAAD
National. He also served as co-chair ofthe University of
Oklahoma Gay & Lesbian Association, and helped to
found the Rice University Gay Alumni group as well as
serving on Tulsa’s Pride committeefor several years.
On Nov. 9th, Tulsans will have the opportunity to vote
on a $109 million bond package to invest in the needs of
Tulsa Public Schools and the children of the district. The
Citizens Bond Development Committee has identified
more than $600 million in building, facilities, teaching
materials and transportation needs for the District in a
comprehensive, strategic plan that covers 20 years. The
bond issue to be presented to voters on Nov. 9th will be
m~ important step in adequately addressing the need of the
District and in creating a District ofunparalleled excellence
in the state... - Sincerely, Ruth Ann Fate
President, Tulsa Public Schools Board of Education
Chair, Citizens for Better Education
2121 So, Columbia, Suite 103, Tulsa
: by Tom Neal, editor/publisher
¯ Some Gay readers will likely look at the excerpted
¯ letter above and respond: "yeah right, why should I care
~ - I don’t have kids"and"TPS is ahomophobic institution
¯
which doesn’t deserve my support." Some non-Gay
~ readers will likely read this and also wonder why Gay
people should care about education issues.
But the reality is that many Gay people (using the term
broadly to include LGB and T folk) do have children,
some by marriages to non-Gay folk before coming out,
and some by adoption, and some creative Lesbians and
Gay men are having our own children. Even those of us
who do not have children directly of our own, like me,
have no fewer than eight nephews and nieces about half
of whom were educated in Tulsa Public Schools. And we
have friends with children too.
.My pointis that despite the an.ti-Gay stereotypes which
paint Lesbians and Gay men as anti-family, we have a
strong interest in providing a good educational system to
the children of our community. We also have some selfinterest
in that there tends to be a correlation between
education and the lessening of anti-Gay prejudice. And if
we insist that TPS, an educational system which we help
fund, seek to teach the values of respect and tolerance for
all citizens, to teach that the diversity of our city makes us
stronger, then we, Gay and Lesbian citizens, regardless of
whether we have children who directly benefit from TPS,
will gain. Therefore, on Nov. 9th, please consider voting
yes: do it for kids.
Friends Mourn
Murdered Gay Pastor
SACRAMENTO, Calif. (AP) - Calling him a "an
oversized angel inhumanform,"mourners andfriendsof
a slain pastor and Gay civil rights activist led
tributes to him. The Rev. Edward R. Sherriff, 68, an
associate pastor at the Cathedral of Promise
MetropolitanCommtmity Churchin Sacramento was
found stabbed to death in his home Oct. 20 in what
police believe was a robbery. More than 300 friends
andfzraily crowded into the church where Sherriff
served as co-pastor for 11 years. Later in the day,
mourners filled the sidew~ilks to "celebrate the
home~zoing" of the slain activist.
A t~ndf-ul.of local religious leaders paid tribute to
Sherriff, including Sister Catherine Connell, director
of the Catholic Wellspring women’s center, and the
Rev. Isaiah Muhammad of the Nation of Islam.
Sherriff’s daughters were als0 among the crowds.
"It’s amazing to me the people who love him, who
truly love him," said Scharlene Sheriff.
Sherriff’s other daughter Marsha Lanier said she
does notbelieve her father’s murder was ahate crime.
Helikely died because he went out ofhis way to help,
Lanier said. ’That’s one thing he would have been
proud of," she said.
Court to Reconsider
Religious Bias Ruling
SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - The federal appeals court
that allowed religious landlords to deny rentals to
unmarried couples agreed to reconsider recently at
therequest of states, cities andcivil rights groups. The
9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals said an 11-judge
panel will decide whether property owners with
religious objections to certain types of tenants are
entitled to exemptions from housing discrimination
laws. The case involves state and local laws in
Anchorage prohibiting housing discrimination based
on marital status. The ruling would also al’fect
discrimination based on sexual orientation, where
barred by law, and possibly other categories covered
by laws in the nine states of the nation’s largest
federal circuit.
A panel of the court ruled 2-1 in January that
enforcement of the discriminationlaws would violate
the rdigious freedom of two Anchorage landlords
who had religious objections to providing homes for
unmarried couples. With no compelling state interest
at Stake, the landlords could not be forced to choose
between their businesses and their religious beliefs,
the courtmajority said. The court said a majority ofits
21 activejudges had voted to set the January decision
aside and order a new hearing before the 11-judge
panel, at a date not yet scheduled.
Requests by Alaska and Anchorage for a reheating
were supported by national civil liberties and Gay
civil-rights orgamzations, cities including Los_Angeles
and San Francisco, and the states of California,
Nevada, Washington, Oregon, Montana and Hawaii.
California Attorney General Bill Lockyer, who
enlisted his counterparts in the other states, said
discrimination laws would be affected in every state.
"q’here’s no inherent conflict between state antidiscrimination
laws and the private religious view s of
a landlord," he said. "Fhe issue is whether they can
discriminate in their commercial and business
activities."
Kevin G. Clarkson, lawyer for the Anchorage
landlords, said he wasn’t surprised by the rehearing,
but argued that his clients’ ’interests were more
important than those of the state or would-be tenants.
’%Vhat’s at stake is the First Amendment right of
property owners to manage their property consistent
with their religious beliefs," Clarkson said. He said
there was no evidence that unmarried couples in any
state have had trouble finding housing because of the
religious objections of a small number of landlords.
Conservative religious organizations such as Focus
on the Family and the American Center for Law and
Justice, as well as the more liberal National Council
of Churches, have filed arguments supporting the
landlords.
The Supreme Courts of Alaska and Californiahave
upheld their state discrimination laws against
challenges .by religious landlords. But if the federal
appeals court sides with thelandlords, property owners
throughout the circuitcould sidestep statecourtrulings
and go into federal court for religious exemptions.
The suit was filedby KevinThomas and Joyce Baker,
who each own several rental properties in Anchorage
and said they had consistently refused to rent to
unmarried cohabitants because of their Christian
beliefs. They have not been accused of violating the
state or local laws but asked the court to bar" their
enforcement.
In the January ruling, Judge Diarmuid O’Scannlain
said the law not only placed an unconstitutional
burden on landlords’ religious practices but also
violated freedom of speech, by prohibiting owners
from asking about a tenant’s marital status, States can
imposesuchrestrictions onbusinesses for compelling
reasons, such as preventing discrimination based on
race or sex, O’Scannlain said. But he said
discrimination on the basis of marital status isn’t
banned by the Constitution, federal law or the laws of
many states, and no compelling interest has. been
shown for its elimination. The case is Thomas vs.
Anchorage Equal Rights Commission, 97-35220.
Methodists Attack Boy
Scouts’ Anti-Gay Policy
tIACKENSACK, N.J. (AP) - The Boy Scouts of
America could lose an important ally as it prepares to
appeal a New Jersey Supreme Court ruling that the
group couldnotremove aNew Jersey manbecausehe
is Gay.
The United Methodist Church, which sponsors
about 15% of the 3.3 million Scouts in the United
States, has scolded the group and is threatening to halt
its sponsorship if things don’t change. Although the
church "would like to enthusiastically affirm and
encourage this continuing partnership of the church
and Scouting, we cannot due to the Boy Scouts of
America s discnmanat~on agmnstGays; the Gener
Board of Church and Society said earlier this month.
The board is a top policy-making body of the
Methodists. It also encouraged the Boy Scouts to stop
the policy barring homosexuals. ’"We further, for the
sake of our continmng partnership, call upon the Boy
Scouts of America to discontinue this exclusion of
Gays," the board concluded in the Oct. 10 statement.
The Methodists earlier had said the church wanted to
triple the number of Scouts it sponsors.
But the Boy Scouts say the threat won’t dissuade
themfrom appealing to the U.S. Supreme Court. Greg
Shields, a spokesman for the Boy Scouts, said the
organization hopes the case will be heard before next
year’s summer recess. Shields also said he believes
the Boy Scouts’ longtime relationship with the
Methodists will endure. "We feel like we have a
¯ strong base of support within the congregations,"
¯ Shields told The Record of Hackensack.
¯ The appeal plan follows aunanimous Augustruling
: by the state Supreme Court that says the policy of
keeping out homosex~mls violates the state’s anti-
" discrimination law. The court said the Boy Scouts
¯ organization constitutes a "place of public
accommodation" because it has a broad-based
membership and forms partnerships with public
¯ entities such as police and fire departments.
¯ James Dale, 29, ofMatawan inMomnouth County,
¯ was an assistant scoutmaster whe was kicked out of
the Boy Scouts nine years ago whenleaders found out
¯ he is Gay. He sued., seeking reinstatement. Dale
¯ earned 30 merit badges, seven achievement honors
¯ and other awards, and became an Eagle Scout during ¯
his 12 years in the organization. He was expelled by
¯ theMoumouthCouncilin 1990 after the group leamed
from a newspaper article that he was Gay. The Irving,
¯
Texas-based organization has said if forced to accept
¯
Gays, the organization would not be able to build
¯ moral character in boys.
The New Jersey ruling contrasted with a March
¯
1998 decision by the California Supreme Court inthe
¯ Boy Scouts’ favor. In that ruling, alsounammous, the
¯ court said the organization was not abusiness and was
: therefore free to exclude Gays, as well as atheists and
¯ agnostics. The U.S. Supreme Court refused to hear an
: appeal of that decision.
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Boeing ExtendsBenefits
to Same-Sex Partners
SEATTLE (AP) - The Boeing Co., citing the need to
maintain a quality work force and the benefits of
diversity, plans-to extend health-care benefits next
year to same-sex domestic partners of salaried nonumon
employees. The decision, announced to
company managers by electronic mail, was praised
by Gay civil rights advocatesl It was criticized by
unionleaders, however, for leaving outtheirmembers
and nnmarried heterosexual partners. Company
officials did not say how many employees would be
affected. RoughlyhalfofBoeing’s 202,000 employees
worldwide are salaried and non-union.
A recent Forbes Magazine survey indicated
unmarried partners are covered by health benefits in
10% of the businesses with at least 200 employees.
Companies that provide same-sex-partner benefits
include Lotus Development Corp., Microsoft Corp.,
IBM, Walt Disney Co., U S West, Honeywell and
Xerox.
In the e-mail, James B. Dagnon, Boeing’s senior
vice president for personnel, said the move was made
for two reasons: ’~First to attract and retain talented
employees, and second to walk the talk on diversity.
"Diversity, with a capital D, means acknowledging
employees have different backgrounds, preferences
and interests."
A task force of personnd managers and minority
employees w.asformedto study theissue last year, bu.t
consii~eration of an initial proposal was stalled until
the company’s financial performance improved in
recent months, Boeing spokesman Peter Conte said.
The decision is long overdue, said Charles Fay,
chairman of Hands-Off Washington in Snohomish
County and Dennis Rybicki, a spokesman for the
SnohomishCountyElections Committee., which,r~an~__. s
political candidates on Gay and Lesbian xssues, q’his
should send a signal to other employers, large and
small, that it’s goodbusiness to recognize the value of
all families," Fay said.
Charles Bofferding, executive directorof the Society
ofProfesSional Engineering Employees inA.erospa.~,
said the move seemed to be designed to sabotage ,his
group’s contract-negotiations, which begin soon.
SPF.EA, formerly the Seattle Professional Engineering
Employees Association, is the second-largest imion
at Boeing, representing 23,000 scientists, engineers,
manual writers and technical workers. SPEEA
negotiators will seek the benefit but don’t want to
sacrifice other potential contract gains to obtain it,
Bofferding said. ’This attitude, that management
knows best and employees will take whatever is
dished, out, this is outrageous ,"he said. "Is the Boeing
Co. going to discriminate againstheterosexuals now?"
Conte said health-care benefits will not be offered
tO unmarried heterosexual partners because they can
get married, an option from which same-sex parmers
are barred by law.
Tim Flynn, a spokesman for the International
Association of Machinists and Aerospace Workers,
which r~ep~resents hourly producuon workers and is
Boeings largest union, said Machinist leaders may
discuss same-sex benefits before expiration of the
three-year contract that was ratified in September.
Annetta Small, director of the West Coast office of
Kerusso Ministries, which seeks to persuade Gays
and Lesbians to become heterosexual through
Chrsfianity, said she opposes any extension ofbenefits
to non-married partners. "We are giving benefits to a
behavior that I believe is wrong and that I believe is
immoral," she said. "I don’t believe that we should
extend these benefits to people who are not married."
Hate Letters Sent to
Rhode Island Politicos
PROVIDENCE, R.I. (AP) - Threatening letters with
anti-Gay sentiments have been sent to the Providence
mayor, the city’s liaison to the Gay community and
two men who were recently assaulted in a Gaybashing
attack.
One letter, which Mayor Vincent A. Cianci Jr.
received, described Providence as a ’Tag lovin’ city".
Leaflets that said "Fake Action Against Queer’s,
¯ were also scattered downtown and placed on cars.
¯¯ City and police officials said they are taking the
threats very seriously because they appear to be part
¯ ofan organized effort. Inresponse, thepolice assigned
¯ extra officers downtown. "In this day and age, this
’- should not be. We’re not going to tolerate it," Cianci
~ told The Providence Journal.
¯ W. Fitzgerald Himmelsbach, the city’s liaison to
the Gay and Lesbian community, also received a
" death threat over the telephone. He received a call at
¯ his business from aman who said, "Die, you fagg.ot .
~ All the letters said ’~omosexuality is a sin against
¯ humankind and God," and all were signed "The
¯ Trench Coat Mafia" - the name used by a group of
"- students at Columbine High School, in I.ittleton,
¯
Colo., that .included the two gnmmen who killed 13
¯ people there last spring. -
Himmelsbach saidletters receivedby the twoassault
". victims threatened that they would"endup inhell like
[ Matthew Shepard," the Wyoming college student
¯ who was beaten to deathlast fall because he was Gay.
¯ The letters were sent to Ed Webb, 34, and Noah
] Schwartz, 41, both of Providence. On Sept. 19 in
: downtownProvidence, themensaid about20college-
" aged men yelled "faggots" and then five of the men
¯ beat them up.
¯ Both Himmelsbaeh, who has been the liaison for
~ two years,and Cianci saidreceiving threats is nothing
¯ new but both are worried that this is part of an
~ organized effort. ’~Eianci vowedto fred the "cowards"
.. who are the perpetrators and then prosecute them for
. hate crimes. Police do not have any suspects yet.
: Denver Considers
:: Couples Registry
¯ DENVER (AP) - City Council members are
: considering a proposal that would create a registry to
~ record the relationships of Gay and Lesbian partners
and other committed but unmarried couples. The
¯ proposal, heard by the city council, would allow
Denverites to officially record their partnerships to
¯
qualify for insurance benefits some companies offer
¯ to the "domestic partners" of their workers. And, for
¯ same-sex couples, it would allow their unions to be
: acknowledg?,.d,, if only nominally, by local
" government. It sfinallytimeforthecitytorecognize
." committed relationships," said Councilman Ed
¯ Thomas, who, along with Councilwoman Cathy ¯
Reynolds, has beenplanning such aregistry for several
¯ years. .
¯ To qualify, both members of a couple would have
¯ to be unmarried, 18 years or older and sharing the ¯
¯ same household with a partner who is not a blood
relative. A filing fee at the city’s clerk and recorder’s
¯ office is expected to be about $20. Couples would be ¯
¯ required to notify that office if their relationships
dissolve. The plan had tentative approval by most
members ofthe city s Safety and Personnel Commatt
¯ except council member Ted Hackworth, who said it
¯ "doesn’t make sense." ¯ Itis slated for further discussionby council members
¯
in the coming weeks. Advocates hope to have the
registry in place by Valentin~ s Day. If approved,
¯ filing with the registry wouldn t constitute amarriage
or common-law marriage, nor would it affect
¯ inheritance rights.
¯ Still, advocates say itwouldprovide documentation ¯
¯ for couples seeking benefits from United Airlines,
Coors, Denver city government and other employers
¯ who insure domestic partners of workers. Proponents
¯ also hope it would help advance rights whenit comes
¯ to visiting partners in the hospital ormaking medical ¯
decisions on their behalf. Theregistry would similarly
¯ benefit seniorcouples who choosenot to marry because
¯ they would lose Social Security or other benefits.
~ Boulder has a similar registry program, as do the state
¯ of California and 35 cities in 25 states nationwide.
¯ Irish Jury Convicts
Writer’s Assailants
: PHILADELPHIA (AP)- Ajury in Irdand convicted
¯ two men in the near-fatal beating of a well-known ¯
Philadelphia writer of Gay-themed books who was
¯ overseas researching a novel see News, p. 13
Magic Johnson
Plays in Sweden
BORAS, Sweden (AP) - Magic Johnson
entertained a sellout crowdTuesday night
with some of the trademark skills he used
to help the Los Angeles Lakers win five
NBA rifles.
The 40-year-old star, 10 years older
than the second oldest player on the court,
had 14 points and 11 rebounds as Magic
M7 beat Sallen 84-60 in.the Swedish
basketball league.
"The first half was a little tough, but the
second was easier.,"Johnson told the 3,319
spectators after,the game, his first nonexlfihition
contest since leaving the NBA
for good in 1996.
Johnson missed some easy layup
attempts. "That’s easy when the
atmosphere was as charged and the
euphoria as high as it was tonight," he
said. After a standing ovation before the
game, Johnson drew further cheers when
he promised to return to play more games
for Magic MT.
MT, which missed the playoffs last
season, is 7-0 this season,.with Johnson’s
appearance generating great interest in
the sport in Boras, a city of 110,000 in
western Sweden.
Johnson, who led Michigan State to the
1979 U.S. National Collegiate Athletic
Association rifle, learned he had tested
positive for the HIV virus that can cause
AIDS in 1991. He retired for the first rime
justbefore the startof the 1991-92 season.
After returning to play on the U.S.
Dream Team that won the gold medal in
the 1992 Olympics, he made a brief
comeback before the !992-93 season, but
quit again after several players expressed
concerns about playing against him.
In January 1996, he returned to the
Lakers and played the remaining half of
the season, retiring again, at age 37, after
the Lakers were eliminated from the
playoffs.
Louganis in
Nun-Drag?
HOLLYWOOD, Fla. (AP) - Greg
Louganis has picked up a new habit. The
Olympxc gold medal-winning diver is
starring in the musical comedy, ’~lunsense
A-Men," which runs through Dec. 5 at the
Hollywood Playhouse.
Lougams, who wonfour gold medals in
two Olympics and later disclosed he was
Gayand HIV-positive, will pull on a habit
six rimes a week for his role as Sister
Robert Ann, a streetwise nun who always
wanted to be a star. All the nuns in this
production are men.
The former diver, author and
motivational speaker says he likes working
in an ensemble cast. "There’s always
someone there to hold your hand," said
I_ouganis, 39. "It feels more supportive, I
guess.’"
Thou.gh Louganis now has AIDS, he
looks and feels healthy. He says he does
not think aboutbeing arole model. "We’re
all haman. We all make mistakes," he
said "Role model, in my mind, is
perfection and one can’t be that. I try to
encourage young people to be their own
heroes and their own role models."
AIDS & So. Africa
JOHANNESBURG, South Africa (AP) -
After the end of apartheid, South Africa
pushed to get patients out of overcroWded
hospitals and into preventive care clinics.
But as fast as the country has built 700
¯
new clinics since 1994, traditional state
¯¯ hospitalshavefilledupwithAIDS patients
who occupy up to 60% of the beds, South
: African Health Minister Manto
¯ Tshabalala-Msimang said recently.
¯ ’’We expected the demand for hospital
¯ caretodrop,"shesaidatanews conference
; at theheadquarters oftheAfrican National
¯ Congress. "But the HIV and AIDS
¯ epidemic has increased the burden." The
¯ briefingwas one ofa series by theANCon
¯ its progress in ruling the country.
¯ Tshabalala-Msimang chairs the party’s
¯ health committee.
-" Some 3.6 million South Africans are
¯ infected with AIDS, roughly one in eight
." adults, and the government says 1,500
¯ new :infections occur every day in one of
." the world’s fastest rates of infection. A
¯ narionalAIDS councilwillbefunctioning
: by year’s end, Tshabalala-Msimang said.
¯ ’’We should have had the council in place
: already," she said.
: Controversial proposals, such treating
: pregnant women with HIV with a drug
¯ therapy to prevent transmission of the
¯ virus to infants, will be discussed next
¯ month at a meeting of regional health ¯
ministers, she said. The government so far
: has rejected the proposal as too expensive
: and possibly even dangerous in terms of
¯ long-term side effects.
¯ The healthministers fromthe Southern ¯
African Development Community will
¯ also discuss blood safety anddevelopment
¯ of an HIV vaccine.
: AIDS Threatens
Asia’s Prosperity
KUALALUMPUR, Malaysia (AP) -The
AIDS epidemic in Asia could erase the
region’s economic gains over the last two
decades unless governments maintain
funding for social programs, aWorldBank
expert warned late last month.
In Indonesia, Thailand, Cambodia,
Myanmar, Malaysia, Vietnam and
Southern China, AIDS had gained a
"strong foothold," even before the
economiccrisis struckin 1997, saidMartha
Ainsworth, a senior World Bank
economist.
The dreaded virus "threatens to slowly
unravel the progress in improving the
human condition.and to diminate if not
reverse the benefits of the economic
miracle,’’ Ainsworth told the 5th
International Congress on AIDS in Asia
and the Pacific.
The region’s two-year economic crisis
may have further hurt Asia’s fight against
AIDS, said Ainsworth. Cash-strapped
governments wereforced to slash budgets
and lower wages. The crisis also pushed
thousands of families into poverty and
many women into prostitution.
"’Even before the crisis, political
commitment to AIDS prevention in the
region was weak," said Ainsworth. "Many
policy makers are still in denial."
Development policies before the crisis
channeled funds into education and health
¯ care budgets, resulting in higher life
expectancies and reduced poverty:
¯ "The full impact of the crisis on HIV
: depends critically on how well
~ governments and households succeeded
¯ .in maintaining socialsafety nets," said
: AJnsworth, an expert on the effect of
¯ AIDS on households. Ainsworth said
: AIDS hadalready subtracted several years
¯
offtheaveragelifeexpectancies ofcertain
¯ countries.
A U.N report released at the four-day
¯ conference esrimates that by 2010, the ¯
overall death rate will be 20% higher in
OECE~%
WorldAIDS Day 1999
Candlelight March & Memorial Service
sponsored by Interfaith AIDS Ministries
Wednesday, December 1st
End the Silence
Mount Zion Baptist Church
419 North Elgin (next to OSU-Tulsa)
Gather 6:30 at St. Monica’s, Marshall Place at
Greenwood (just south of Pine), March at 7pm,
Service at 7:30, all times approximate! Bring
banners & bells; candles provided. Info: 438-2437.
Are You Gay or Bisexual?
Are You Native American~.~
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¯
Support Group ~s here for you!
¯ Evening support group meetings
¯ Relationship workshops
¯ Short trips, outings and retreats
¯ Free HIV testing
For information call Tulsa Native.American AIDS Prevention Project
at 582-7225 Ext, 208 or 218
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Oklahoma NARAL cordially invites you
to a chocOlate and champagne fete in
support of abortion and reproductive
rights in Oklahoma.
Celebrating 26 Yedrs.of Choice
Sunday, November 7, 1999, 1:30 - 3:30 p.m.
to be held at Resonance
1608 S. Elwood, Tulsa, Oklahoma
Champagne, Coffee, Chocolates
$25 per individual
Please R.S.V.P. to the NARAL Office: 494-9585
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Myanmar due to AIDS fatalities. In
Cambodia and Thailand, it may rise 15%
because of AIDS. The United Nations
estimates that 7 million people in Asia are
infected with the HIV virus or AIDS.
Speakers at the conference, which ends
Wednesday, have urged Asia to act fast to
curb the epidemic or risk the devastation
now facedby Africa, which has 21 million
AIDS-related cases.
Experts areparticularlyconcemedabout
the effects of AIDS on Indonesia, the
world’s fourth largest country, where the
regional economiccrisis was compounded
by political upheaval. It diverted attention
and funding from the AIDS epidemic,
Aiusworth said. ’~olitical turmoil nodoubt
increased risky behavior for the spread of
HIV," Ainsworth said.
She said countries such as Thailand
one of the high-risk areas in Asia, had
proved that maintaining commitment to
AIDS -prevention programs paid
dividends. HIV cases dropped among
prostitutes,menwith sexually-transmitted
diseases and blood donors in Thailand
despite the economic crisis, she said.
"Many governments in this region have
a window of opportunity to act early and
prevent an epidemic," Ainsworth said.
Children at Risk
in South Africa
JOHANNESBURG, South Africa (AP) -
Seeking to help young children deal with
a soanng number of sexual assaults,
national health and education officials are
considering an education program for
primary students to teach about rape and
HIV infections, a newspaper reported
Sunday.
A pilot program was tested in the
Nor~ern and F~ee State provinces, where
about 700 children received the lessons,
the Sunday Times of Johannesburg
reported. About 14,000 children are
sexually violated every year, police reports
say, but a large number of rapes go
unreported, anti-rape activists say.
About 8% of the adult population is
HIV positive. One factor that experts
belie,ve has contributed to child rape is the
persxstent myth that sex with a virgin can
cure the disease.
Abraham Seckle, an Education
Department official, was quoted assaying
the program would "empower learners to
protect themselves." A consultantinvolved
in the project, Darleen Edwards,
said that children are taught to "run, yell
and tell" in the program.
PLWA to Race in
Iditarod Next Year
MESA, Ariz. (AP)-The first Arizonan to
enter Alaska’s most grueling sled dog
race faces two major obstacles before he
even steps to the starting line. Chuck
Kin.g, 39, of Tempe, has no experience
racang. He has only 100 miles actually
riding a dog sled. And King is. HIV
positive. Every day, he takes fisffuls of
anti-viral pills just to stay alive.
But he doesn’t see this as a setback. He
views his illness and the March 4 Iditarod
sled-dog race as a chance to prove that
people with AIDS don’t have to
concentrate on survival alone. "In the last
seven years, I was supposed to have died
three times and I made it through all of
that," King said in a telephone interview
from Wasilla, Alaska.
The Iditarod this year will stretch 1,152
miles fromWasilla to Nome, takingracers
" at least 10 days to complete. And that’s
: only if the expected 80 participants keep
up a good pace. The snow layers the trail
¯ in multiple feet, not mere inches.
¯" Temperatures dip deep into thenegatives,
numbing hands and lungs. At night;
¯ Sections of the woods-darkened course
." are lit only by the aurora borealis, which
¯ crackle and cast shadows in the trees and
: snow. Switchbacks get so steep in some
¯ areasthatdrivers can’tseetheleadoftheir
¯¯ 16-dogpack.A driver unlucky enough to
fall off gets left in a cloud of snow and
¯
regret. ’q~here ain’t no waitin’ in this
." race," said Raymond "Raymie"
¯ Redington, King’s sled-dog trainer. ’q’he
¯" huskies are bred to go. They’ll bolt off the
." starting line even if you say halt."
." Redington should know. The 54-year-
. old Alaska native’s father founded the
¯ racein 1973. He has been in 111ditarods;
: his highest placing was seventh. Since
: September, Redington has trained King
¯ on a four-wheeler that simulates a sled-
: dog team. King will work with the dogs as
¯ the snow starts to fall.
¯ King began training last year, gaining ¯
¯ about 100 miles of mushing experience.
Oddly, being a native Arizonan could
give him a boost: King was trained as a
bo.y to handle amule drawn wagon, which
¯ ~mrrors mushing techniques, Redington
¯ said. King will have to be up to speed by
: Jan. 1, whenthelditarod’sfirstqualifying
race, the Knik 200, takes place. The 2nd
~ qualifier is a week later.
¯ Only after the 500 miles of racing will
’ Redington know whether King is ready
: for the Iditarod. "I don’t know how he’s
¯" going to do when it gets real freezing,"
¯ said Redington, who remembers the 38-
below zero wind chill he endured in the
¯ 1974Iditarod. "Buthelooks healthynow. "" ¯
That hasn’t always been the case for
¯ King. Six years ago, the 6-foot man had
¯ wastedto 118pounds. Doctors gav,eKing, ¯
a former respiratory physician, 90 days to
live after diagnosing him with multidrug
¯ resistant tuberculosis. At one point, his Tcell
count, a measure of the body’s
¯ resistance to disease, bottomed out at 40;
~ a virus-free, healthy person’s T-cell coun!
usually reaches 1,000.
Kinghad one wish: to see Alaska before
¯ he died. Two years ago he took a cruise
." there, and he caught another bug. This
time, it was mushing. "That’s all he could
¯ talk about," said his father, Dick King.
¯ "He was suicidal, depressed at times. BUt
this brought him out."
Science lent a hand, too. Strong anti¯
viral drugs called protease inhibitors
became available. King was soon on a
¯ five-drug ’.’cocktail"prescribed to him by
Scottsdale’s Dr. Thanes Vanig. He began
¯ popping about 26 pills a day. He said he ¯
has to smoke marijuana to beat down the
¯ nausea caused by themedieation. He also
,- has to take percocet, and even morphine,
¯ to numb the neurological pain to his lower
¯ legs that was caused by the tuberculosis
¯ and AIDS drugs. His T-cell count has
¯ jumped to 560, the lower side of normal.
¯ He’s also gained 44 pounds, thanks in
¯ large part to injections of human growth
: hormone, a $4,000-a-month drug that he
; said was donated by a pharmaceutical
¯ company.
¯ WhenKingrecentlyreturned to Alaska,
¯
his spirits were high, His po~c,k,etbook is
¯ - the opposite. King is feveris!!) lining up
¯ sponsors, such as Tempe Mayor Neil
¯ Giuliano, to make it through the race and
¯ bring AIDS awareness to a new level,
¯ "It’s not just for people with AIDS," he
¯
s.aid. ’q~hemessageis for everyone: Don’t
¯ g~ve up. Don’t ever give up."
L
by James Christjohn
Upon viewing the PBS production of
"Spirit: A Journey in Dance, Drum, and
Song" on PBS, I contacted Peter Buffett,
the composer and creator. Upon learning
that there would be a National Tour with
a stop in Tulsa at the Brady
Theatre on January 3,
2000; I had the opportunity
to askafew questions. You
can get the video of the
production that originally
aired on PBS, as well as
theCDat areamusic/video
stores. It’s powerful in
those mediums (reviewed
previously), and one can
only imagine the impact of
the piece live.
JC: Hello, Peter!
PB: Hello! Well...
finally I’m answering your
questions. I was frantically
finishing a record for a
friend. It had to be done by
yesterday (which it was)
so I can go to New York
today to start all the
mechanics it’s going to take to get the
"Spirit" showon the road by the Fall. At
somepoint, you’11 have to get the’’making
of" part of the video. I think you’ll really
enjoy it. "(Note: The "Making of..." is
included on the retail vide~’Of the show.)
JC: It’s such an amazing piece that
works on so many diffdrent levels, l was
wondering whatinspired the idea to bring
together the different elements - dance.
song, etc. - to create the show?
PB: I wanted to bring all the elements
together for two main reasons. One,
"A hundred years ago
people sang
the Ghost Dance
songs in the hopes
that the world would
return to the way
it once was,
Now, the choir in
some of the Spirit
songs are singing those
very same words in
hopes that the world
can become
what it could be. ""
- Peter Buffett
because in Native cultures, song anddance
are usually linked. You can’t have one
without the other. They both contribute to
the telling ofthe story. Andthe projections
help bring the natural (or unnatural.., or
supernatural) worldinto the theatre. That’s
the "art" reason.
The "commerce" reasonis
that I knew my show
would be competing with
larger and larger events.
Not only theatrical, but
lmaxmovies,hugebudget
movies and all sorts of
entertainment that tugs at
the consumer. I wanted to
try and create something
thatpeople could honestly
say they hadn’ t seenbefore
(no small feat). So this was
my attempt..
JC: Well,judgingfrom
the response at the taping
from the audience, and the
incredible response I’ve
seen to the video, l’d say
you achieved your goal.
PB: It’s important to
note that I’m not in the "bigger is better"
: camp (as it may sound) but people want
and deserve their money’s worth. Andit’s
getting harder to "outdo" the last thing ~n
[ terms ofp0werful soundandimagery. My
[ hope is that the message of the show has
as much effect on people as anything else.
JC: I can only speak from my own
¯. experience, and that oflistening to others
¯ who have seen the video, to say that it was
very powerful in that regard, and
¯ communicated its message wonderfully.
see Buffett, p. 14
couNciL
Is proud to present
gie Hall veteran soprano, Floxane La Combe.
nature "COMC Sound" has attracted sold out audiences.
Order your tickets in advance.
November 19 & 20
JOHN WILLIAMS THEATRE
TULSA PERFORMING ARTS CENTER
Call 596-7111 for tickets
www.counciloak.org
~’~#Made possible in part oy a grant from the Tulsa Pedorming Arts Center Trust.
by That Entertainment Guy
Livin La Vida Loca Tour, the Divine
king, Ricky Martin appears in Dallas al
Reunion Arena, Dallas, Thursday, Nov
4, 1999, at 8:00PM. Now this would be
the concert to take binocnlars to - and the
telephoto mini-camera. Ticket prices for
the Prince ofPop: $35.00- $75.00 Charge-
By-Phone #: 214-373-8000.
The Divine Queen of All Things is also
performing in Dallas in November. No,
not Stevie, although she is the otherQueen
of All T’nings Divine; but the Divine Ms.
Millennium Tour: Bette Midler in Concert,
A Beaver Production takes place Sunday,
Nov128,1999 at8:00prn at ReunionArena.
As she said in one early concert tour,
’qTais ain’t no cheap meat you’re lookin’
at!": Ticket prices run $50.50 - $150.50,
Charge-By-Phone at 214-373-8000.
Peter Buffett’s "Spirit - A Journey in
Dance, Drums and Song" is a music,
dance and percussion spectacle that
combines the power of contemporary
music with the songs, chants and dances
of Native American culture. The release
of the CD coincides with the PBS
Broadcast ofthe live show of Spirit, which
features over 80 performers - including
twenty dancers with both modem and
traditional training, an orchestra withboth
modem and ancient tribal instruments, a
flits choir and percussionists pounding
outheart-stopping rhythms on a variety of
drums.
The show runs in Tulsa, January 4-9, at
the Brady Theatre; and if you miss that,
then you can catch "Spirit" in Dallas,
March 7-12 at the Majestic Theatre.
You really didn’t think I’d let you get
away without the obligatory mention of
Stevie Nicks herself, did you? Yes, La
Diva nicks is performing three shows:
Two in California’s HOuse of Biues in
December, and one in Las Vegas HOB on
New Year’s eve. Tickets went for an
outrageous $127 (balcony seating) and
$227 (Orchestra - STANDING!). There
only a few floor spaces left for the New
Year’s show.. All others sold out. Believe
it or not.
Anyone wishing to contribute to the
"Send the obsessed reviewer to see S tevie
and not come back fund" can send
contributions to TFN. Just make sure my
name’s in big letters on the envelope, or
I’ll never see the money. It’ll end up in the
"buy the publisher new household
gimmicks" fund.
The Divine Ms. Nick’s new album
should be out the 1st of the year, if not
sooner. And hopefully, with a more
affordable tour. Apparently the cost of
chiffon has risen - a lot.
Fight Clubis.amovie that under ordinary
circumstances, I would have never gone
to see. However, I was not under ordinary
circumstances, and was swept along to
see it. I thought I’d hate it. After seeing it,
I think everyone should see it. The acting
is dynamic, the pace is breathless, and the
intellect behind it is tremendous. The
violence is not that bad, one scene aside,
and the points the movie makes are well
worth the viewing. The humor is well
done, and the homoeroticism between Ed
Norton and Brad Pittmakes it worthwhile.
see Fight, p. 15
.Parade of Ligh! s.
Come celebrate the spirit of the holiday season
at the PSO Christmas Parade of Lights.
Saturday, December 11, Downtown Tulsa at 6 p.m.
View parade floats up close, Friday, December 10,
at the HolidayFest (Brady Arts Distriot) fl om 6-9 p.m.
Pubfic Service Company of Oklahoma
A Central and South West Company
I B B (I T Z
"emotionally and visually rich ..."
-Performing Arts Review, Taiwan
"unforgettable scenes of disparate beauty"
-Davar
"intense in feeling ...
deep in intellectual content"
-The Plain Dealer
"bold, flLnging athleticism"
-The Kansas City Star
November 16 at 8 p.m.
Chapman Music Hall
Tulsa Performing Arts Center
3rd & Cincinnati
Tickets: $15, $22, $25
Call: (918) 596-7111
Outside Tulsa: 1-800-364-7111
Online: www.tulsapac.com
Presenting
by Rami Be’er
Co-presented bj,:
Oklahoma Israel Exchange
"Dazzling," "Pounding," "Unsettling," "Erotic"
"The dancing--real, vital dancing--of these 18 people
becomes a dyfiamo for transforming experience and
recharging the spirit." The Village Voice
Sponsored in part by:
"You don’t
have to know
ballet to
love ballet.
You just have
to try it."
-- MARCELLO ANGELINI
ART ST C D RECTOR
:Mixed Repertory includes two Oklahoma premieres
FRIDAY 8 PM
NOVEMBER 5
SATURDAY 8 PM "
NOVEMBER 6
SUNDAY 3 PM
NOVEMBER 7
Be one of the first anywhere to witness Tulsa Ballet’s first commissioned
piece. Tailored to the strengths of the Company by an international
genius. Classical ’roots, contemporary movements A prime-time
performance of2Oth-century choreography. The way people dance today.
Andwili tom0rrow: "
Tickets start at $8.
THE 199.9 - 2000 SEASON IS SPONSORED IN PART BY:
Order tickets,by calling The Tulsa Ballet Ticket Office at 749-6006, PAC at 596-7111
or Carson Attractions at 584~2000 * 4512 S. Peoria Ave. ¯ Tulsa, OK 74105-4563
Visit our web site at www.webtek.omitulsaballet
~ SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Community of Hope (Welcoming), Service - 6pro, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800
Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation
Service - 1 lain, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595 (Welcoming)
Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist
Service - 1 lam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314
Metropolitan Community Church United
Service, 1 lain, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc.
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210b So. Norwood
Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangdical Anglican Church in America)
Mass - 1 lam, 205 W. King (east of N. Denver), Info: 582-3088
Unity Church of Christianity
Services: 9:15 & 11:00 am, 3355 S. Jamestown, 749-8833
University of Tulsa Bisexuai/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance
6:30 pm, Meets at the United Ministry Cir., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780
~ MONDAYS
Mixed Volleyball, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 6pm, call Shawn at 243-5190.
HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard)
HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
7:30pm, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays
2nd Mordeach mo. 6:30pro, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard
Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551
Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals - call for thnes, info: 748-3888.
~ TUESDAYS
AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, call, for next meeting date. 1430 S. Boulder, 585-5551
Live And Let Live, Community of Hope U~fited Methodist, 7:30pm, 2545 S. Yale
Multicultural AIDS Coalition, call for next meeting date.
Urban League, 240 East Apache, 584-0001
PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE)
Tuesdays, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E 38th, info: 743-4297
~ WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
House of the Holy Spirit Ministries,. Inc. Service - Vpm, 3210b So. Norwood
Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225
TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632.
Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft.
~ THURSDAYS
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194
~ FRIDAYS
SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, l st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th
~ SATURDAYS
Narcotics Anonymous, I 1 pm, Community o!~ Hope, 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585;-1800
Lambda A-A, 6.pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd fl.
~ OTHER GROUPS
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 298-0827
Gal-A-Vanting, Womens Social & Cultural Group
Call for info: Kathy at 322-6322, or Barb at 459-6825.
OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Long rides & short rides from
Zcigler Park. Long & short rides from Tulsa Gay Community Center. Write for info:
POB 9165, Tulsa, OK 74157
Ifyour organization is not listed, please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615.
reviewed by Barry Hensley : substanceabuse and, now, a sympathetic
Tulsa City-County Library : wife with a decidedly un-Christian like
Whathappens whena"radical Lesbian" ¯ penchant for screaming and yelling. The
goes undercover to infiltrate the " author’s interaction with this member of
organizations of the religious Focus on the Family is most
right? She writes a book, of
course! Fortunately, this isn’t
"jnstaanotherChristianbashing
book, as Minkowitz is able to
see past her obvious
disagreements with these
groups and find some real,
human common ground. Life
is full ofgray area, as this book
shows.
Ferocious Romance is a
humorous but serious lookinto
religious fight organizations,
such as Promise Keepers and
Focus on the Family.
Minkowitz dons a fake
monstachc and lowers her
voice to attend a Promise
Keepers weekend that really
opens her eyes. In addition to
experiencing the fully
expected propaganda of men
itaking charge of the familyi
and making women submissive, she al~o
witnesses burly mencrying,hugging each
other andexpressing words offorgiveness.
She enjoys discussing this absurdity of
the feminization of the Christian Men’s
movement~
Her discussions with James Dobson’s
Focus on the Family are of more concern.
She has long conversations with a cute
voung man named Bobby, who is an
~tthappy "ex-Gay." It becomes evident
that Bobby’ s life is in a shambles due to
the cumulative effects ofchildhood abuse,
"The a.thor’s
interaetion with
this member of
Focus on the
Family is most
;nsi~htful. She
also meets with
several high level
exeeutlves in the
or~anlzatlon
whose arguments
t~t they are not
homophone are
astoundln~ in
their h~oe~sy."
insightful. Shealso meets with
several high level executives
in the organization whose
arguments that they are not
homophobicareastoundingin
their hypocrisy.
After these encounters with
the religious right, the author
inexplicably dives into an
account ofthe International S/
M Leather Fetish Celebration
that she attended inNew York
City to-celebrate the twentyfifth
anniversary of the
Stonewall Riots. We really
learn more than we ever
wanted to know about her
involvement in S/M. This
topic surfaces occasionally
throughout the book and her
comparison of conservative
Christians and S/M
practitioners is humorously
¯¯ enlightening.
As the 2000 elections approach, the
: religions right will undoubtedly take center
.. stage to promote their candidates and
, agenda. It is in everyone’s best interest to
: understand what these groups have in
¯ store for the country, should their ¯
candidates be elected. This book gives a
: bit ofinsightinto what’ s going onin these
¯ organizations. Check out Ferocious
Romance at your local branch library or
¯
call the Reader’s Services department at
: Central library, at 596-7966.
Members of each group were paired
together at the tables and encouraged to
gettoknow each other. Before the meeting,
the groups agreed to disagree on whether
Gays can be Christians and to focus on
ways to deter violence against Gays and
Christians, Falwell cited the September
shootings at a Texas church and recent
school shootings inwhichChristians were
targeted.
At a news conference following the
meeting, Falwell andWhite apologized to
each other for harsh words they have said
about the other’s groups over the years.
"I’ve been a preacher for 47 years, a
preacher of the gospel.., but in the end
homosexuality is. wrong," Falwell said.
’’It is my hope that evangelicals might
build a bridge of friendship -to Gays and
Lesbians as we have to alcoholics and
unwed mothers."
White, an author and minister with the
Metropolitan Community Churches, was
the ghost writerofFalwell’s autobiography
before White acknowledged being Gay.
Delegates from both groups thought the
meeting was good.
The same weekend, many of Mel
White’s groups listened to Falwell’s
Sunday sermon. Falwell, 66, began the
serviceby welcoming White andhis guests
and briefing his congregation on the antiviolence
forum conducted at the church
the day before. At that meeting, both sides
apologized for harsh words said over the
years and discussed ways to reduce
vio~lence against homosexualS.
¯" ’His sermon was amazang, said David
¯ Chandler, 36, a Gay man from San
: Francisco and one of the more than 4,000
: worshippers who jammed into Thomas
¯ Roads BaptistChurch. "Hesentamessage
: to parents to love their children no matter
." what.... I admire and respect Falwell for
¯ taking that stand." In his sermon, Falwell
¯
stressed that he will hot change his belief
¯ that homosexuality is a sin. But he added, ¯
"That has nothing to do with the love
: factor involved. We are to be lovers of all
menand women."Falwell’ s sermon came
¯" from Proverbs 13, which offers advice on
¯ successful living in the eyes of God. He
¯ spoke on the importance of working hard,
¯ living with integrity and not focusing on ¯
material things. He also talked at length
: about the importance of parents loving
: their children unconditionally.
¯ "For him to invite these fags here and
¯
into his church is an abomination,"Phelps
: said outside the church. "Now, Jerry
¯ Falwell is just as much a sinner as Mel ¯
White and both will bum in hell."
: Theservice endedwiththe congregation,
." singing the hymn "Only Trust Him.
¯ Falwell interrupted the song to reiterate to
: worshippers that what he or anyone else
: thought of them did not matter, but what
¯ was important is their relationship with
¯ God. White said it was "a shame" that
: protesters like Phelps brought hostility to
¯
aplace of worship. "What we have hereis
¯ a great moment for our country, Gays and
¯ Falwell worshipping together," White ¯
said. "It’s a small start, but it’s a start."
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by Mary Schepers, Do-It- Yourself-Dyke
Hey, baby, it’ s coldoutside. Andbefore
you start heating it up in front of the
fireplace, take some precautions. Notjust
theustml ones, ducklings! Thehouseneeds
some love and attention,
too. And by attending to a
few simple details, not
only will your house o’
love be snug, but safer,
too. You know what a
raving bitch your DIYD
is about safety, but she
does it out of a place of
love. Which place, she
demurs to answer..
The first order of
business is to keep the
winter winds and drafts
outdoors where they
belong. Inthe oftrepeated
words of the Oracle, ’We
don’t have a heating
contract with the great
outdoors,’ although you
may feel that way when
you get the first heating
bill for the winter. And
the side benefit is that if
you can keep the house
warm, you won’t have to
bundle up, and neither
will your schnookie,
unless,ofcourse, youfred
the layers of sweats and
sweaters an erotic
challenge. From thereon,
you’re on your own!
Try to take care of your outside heat
sinks (places you lose heat) before the
weather dips to 45 degrees during the day.
Mostofthematerials you will useperform
better when it’s warm - that’s a life
philosophy worth adopting! Checkaround
windows and doors for loose or cracked
caulking and replace where needed.
Around pipes or conduits that enter the
house, use an expanding foam product
like Good Stuff or better yet, Daptex,
which can be tooled, painted and cleaned
up with water, It costs a little more but is
worth it. Use this also to seal any gaps
between your foundation and the siding of
your house. It’ s like mousse with attitude.
Work it, girl[ If you’re really hard core,
make a trip under the house and seM up
around the pipes coming up into your
house, and the same from the garage. This
also discourages unwanted visits from
mice, who use pipe and conduit holes like
a superhighway to the supermarket. And
darlings, there’s no way to make trapping
mice attractive. Think about it.
It is also a good idea to insulate behind
switch and wall outlet plates. Special foam.
cutouts can be bought at your local home
repair store, so that all you have to do is
unscrew the plate, fit the cutout in and
replace the plate. It is amazing how much
cold air leaks in that way, especially in
older houses. Occasionally, thefitbetween
the plate is too tight, but not often. The
foam cutouts are cheap and it takes little
time to do this.
Before firing up the furnace for the first
time, it is advisable to have a contractor
come and give it a gogd cleaning and
inspection - the older your unit, the more
important this step is. Most heating and
cooling contractors will do a combined
winterandsummerservice forareasonable
sum, resulting in increased efficiency and
¯ reduced chance of injury. Heater
¯ malfunctions can result in explosions or
¯
fires, and sweeties, we have worked so
¯¯ hard to make your house into a fabulous
home.- It’s worth your peace of mind and
personal safety. If you
have a fireplace, 6all a
licensed sweep to clean
thechimneyandto inspect
and repair the firebox and
flue: Your DIYD prefers
to do this in the spring,
when scheduling is less
hectic for the sweep, and
then the fireplace is ready
togo as soonas inspiration
and a little cool weather
hits. This should be an
annual event for masonry
fireplaces, and every two
years if you have a metal
flue.
If you’re the intrepid
sort who doesn’t mind
scampering out on the
roof like a rabid squirrel,
get a good extension
ladder and do some
maintenance and cleaning
on the roof..Be sure that
the ladder has firm, steady
footing and is not placed
near any powerlines. Get
a hose with a power
nozzle or a blower and
blast those gutters clean,
especially at the
downspouts. Clean any
; leaves, sticks or debris offthe valleys and
¯ gables of the roof, and look for any loose ¯
shingles. Use an appropriate kind of roof
¯ goo or caulking to repair, and use this also
¯ around any flueflashings thatmightbenefit
¯ from some extra sealant. This is a good
¯ time to evaluate if you will need to repair
¯ or replace your roof in the spring. Be
: careful up there, and never crawl around
¯ on the roof without having someone at
¯ home in case you need help or get hurt.
Make sure she or he is not glued to a ball
¯ game or otherwise out of contact. At a
¯ time like that, you deserve the extra ¯
attention, pookie!
~" This is a good time of year for a lube
¯ job, or perhaps several. No, we’re not
back in front of the fireplace with Baby
¯ justyet-patience,my impetuous darlings !
¯ Borrow Dorothy’ s oil can and put a drop
on door hinges and garage door chain
¯ drives to keep things smoothly operating
¯ and silent in the winter, when the metal ¯
¯ contracts and squeaks. You know your
DIYD considers the aesthetics as well as
¯ the practical matters.
If you have storm windows, give them
¯ a good cleaning to let in as much winter ¯
sunlight as possible, and check for any
necessary repairs. Ifyoudon’ t haveenergy
¯ efficient windows,consider getting ~torms
¯ or even using the heat shrink film to
¯
provide some dead air spacq on your
¯ windows and to keep your house toastier.
0 : Now that the DIYD has planned your
: social life for the next couple of weekends,
¯ you can get busy making your nest cozy
¯. and snuggly for the winter: And if you’re
¯ very lucky, perhaps you will get yourjust ¯
reward- and we’re not only talking about
." a lower bill! Why don’t you go get a
; couple pairs of silk boxer shorts,just to be
¯ prepared? Be hot, not frigid, this winter! ¯
Ciao, ducklings!
"This is a good tlme of
year for a lube job, or
perhaps several. No,
we’re not back in front
of the fireplace with
Baby just yet -
patience,
my impetuous darlings!
Borrow Dorothy’s oll
can and put a drop on
door hinges and garage
door ehaln drives to
keep things smoothly
operating and silent in
the wlnter, when the
metal contracts and
squeaks. You know
your DIYD eonslders "
the aesthetles as well as
the practleal matters."
by Esther Rothblum, Ph.D.
Coming out as a Lesbian is difficult
enough, but is even more stressful when
the woman is an
immigrant and is
struggling to come out in
anew countryand using a
new language.
For several years now,
Dr. Oliva Espin, a
professor of women’s
studies at SanDiego State
University, has been
studying the lives of
immigrant and refugee
Lesbians. The topic had
to do with her own life
experience as an.,
immigrant and with the
imm.!granteli.ents she was
seeing m her
psychotherapy practice
for over twenty years.
"I saw that there were
some experiences that
.were common to
immigrant women," Dr:
Espin .told me. "A major
theme I found most
interestingwashow often
the woman would be
talking to me in Spanish~
for example, and then
switch to English when
she began talking about
being a Lesbian. There
seemed to be something
about using a second
language that helped
distance Lesbians from
whatever they had been
told was bad in their
i also think that
women who have come
outas Lesbians when they
were still children, may
have more disruptions
about theirownidentity,"
Dr. Espin said. ’q’hey
ask ’who am I?’ or ’What is wrong with
me?’ For .them, coming out so young gets
mixedup with other issues ofidentity. For
girls who also fecl that they are not ’rexd
Americans,’ or who as immigrants are
different in color or in language or in
cultural traditions - being Lesbian is one
more thing that strains their relationship
with their parents."
Furthermore, the parents may feel that
their daughter’s Lesbianism is something
she has "caught from those Americans."
When immigrant Lesbians come out as
adults, they have a stronger sense of
identity and coming outdoes not getmixed
up with the turmoil of adolescence
although it may get mixed up with the
turmoil of migration if they are recent
immigrants.
Dr. Espin has been conducting research
and interviewing immigrant women. She
found two types of immigration
experiences. Some women were Lesbian
before the migration, or else where
somewhatdissatisfied with what they were
even if they had no language for this.
’~2oming to anew countrymadeitpossible
for them to come out. This is true for
women from all countries, not just those
from traditional cultures. Being awayfrom
the familiar environment gave them
permission to come out; being I_~sbian
Dr. Espln has
been.., interviewing
immigrant women...
"Coming to a new
country made it
possible [or them to
come out.
This is true for
women from all
countries, not just
those from
traditional cultures.
Being away from the
familiar environment
gave them
permission
to come out;
being Lesbian was
very freeing
in this way.
I’ve even spohen with
Lesbians born in the
U.S. who have told
me that they had to
move all the way
across the country in
order to come out."
was very freeing in this way. I’ve even
spoken with Lesbians born in the U.S.
who have told me that
they had to move all the
way across the country in
order to come out."
The other group of
women Dr. Espin
interviewed was actively
Lesbian in their home
country, immigrated to
the U.S., and found that
the U.S. Lesbian culture
was different and had to
adjust their way of being
to the new culture. That
was sometimes very
difficult. "Some women
who were used to playing
roles very actively," Dr.
Espin continued, "if they
were used to being ’the
man,’, they couldn’t
understand why their
partner did not want to
cook their meals, for
example. Or, vice versa,
women who lived lives
that were ve~ closeted in
their home countries,
foundit terribly offensive
when I would use the
word ’Lesbian’ and were
threatened by not having
a cover-up."
In general, Dr. Espin
has found that immigrant
communities focus very
much on the "decency"
and "purit.y" of the
women in their
community. "Because the
communities are
experiencing difficulty
adjusting to the U.S., they
want to prove that they
are good people. It is the
behavior of women that
describes the family. So
: when you have a Lesbian daughter, how
¯ are you going to explain that to yourself
: andto your community? They may think
: , that this is what happens to all women
¯ when they come to America."
Dr. Espin has also found that Lesbian
: daughters tend to be more educated than
: their parents or their heterosexual sisters.
¯ As a result, the Lesbian daughters tend to
: bemaking more money andin many cases
: runmng the community centers and
¯ activities. "So coming out is also difficult
: for the Lesbian immigrant in terms of the
: community losing their mast in her. The
community doesn’t have the language
skills, the education, and the access to the
dominant culture that she does."
Dr. Espin has written about her
experiences intwo recent books. Formore
information, see Women Crossing
Bbundaries: The Psychology of
Immigration and the Transformation of
Sexuality (Routledge, 1999) and Latina
Realities: Essays on Healing Migration
and Sexualities (Westview, 1997).
Esther Rothblum is Professor of
Psychology at the University of Vermont
and Editor of the Journal of Lesbian
Studies. She can be reached at Dewey
Hall, Univ. of Vermont, Burlington, VT,
email: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
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at the time of the assault. A Circuit Court
jury in northwestIreland deliberated about
two hours before finding 20-year-old Ian
Monaghan and 21-year-old Glen Mahon,
both ofSligo, guilty of "recklessly causing
serious harm" in the Jan. 31 attack on
Robert Drake, at his apartment. The
defendants were convicP,xlofIrishcharges
equivalent to aggravated assault in the
U.S.
Barely conscious, Drake lay for more
than 12 hours in a pool of blood before a
friend, Ciaran Slevin, discovered him. A
police officerwhorecordedDrake’s words
as he lay motionless inhis blood-spattered
kitchen with a severe head injury told the
jury that he believed he was recording
Drake’s "dying declaration."
Thedefensecontended thatDrakemade
acrudehomosexual pass atone ofthemen
and that the other then struck Drake in the
face to make him stop.
Doctors had to open a hole in his
windpipe to ease his breathing; he also
experienced pneumonia, kidney failure
and other complications. Drake returned
to Philadelphia by medical transport in
March to undergo five months of
rehabilitation to learn to walk and speak
again. Though he was released from the
hospital two weeks ago, his speech and
mobility remain seriously impaired. He
uses a wheelchair to get around, and a
letter board to assist in communicating.
Drake was in the middle of a speechtherapy
session at his Center City
apartment when word of the verdict
reached him. Through a friend, he said
that he was pleased with the verdict, ’"out
not surprised."
Monaghan and Mahon are free on bail
awaiting sentencing Jan. 10, when they
could get up to 10 years in jail. "It speaks
volumes that Robert, eight months after
¯ theincident, needs round-the-clock care,"
said Slevin, an Irish physician now living
with Drake in philadelphia. "I hope the
severity of the punishment meets the
severity of the crime."
Brattleboro Offers
Partners Benefits
BRATI’LEBORO, Vt. (AP) - Selectmen
have voted to extend health benefits to
same-sex domestic partners of town
employees. TownAttorney Robert Fisher
said the decision to extend the privileges
to same-sex parmers, but not unmarried
partners of the opposite sex, followed the
trend of law in Vermont and other states.
The University of Vermont extends
benefits to same-sex couples, Fisher said.
The city of Winooski is planning to as
well after an employee filed a complaint
with the Vermont Labor Relations Board.
"Winooski hasn’t come out with a policy
just yet," Fisher added. "They’re still
researching insurance issues. But if they
don’t follow the arbitrator’s decision,
they’ll likely wind up back in court."
He said Burlington, Vermont’s largest
city, extends health benefits to all the
domestic partners of city employees,
whether the rdationship is same-sex or
opposite sex. The town of Middlebury
also offers benefits to same-sex couples,
said Steve Jeffrey, the executive director
of- the Vermont League of Cities and
Towns.
TheVermontSupremeCourtis deciding
whether to legalize same-sex marriages in
Vermont. If it does, the towns’ policies
: will be irrelevant, Fisher said. The policy
: passed tmanimously. The issue wasn’t
¯¯ controversial, Fisher said. "It’s one of
these things where they’re wiseenough to
¯ realize that if there were a grievance with
¯ respect to this sort of an issue, that based
: on the case law both around the country
¯ -and the Labor Relations Board here in
¯ Vermont, that they would be fighting an
: uphill legal battle," Fisher said of the
: select board. "I think they look at it as an
¯ opportunity to perhaps steer clear of
¯ possible legal pitfalls in the future."
" Blue Cross-Blue Shidd of Vermont,
: which supplies health insurance to most
Vermont municipalities through the
¯ VermontLeagueofCities andTowns,has
: offered domestic partner benefits to large
¯ groups for a few years now, said Leigh
Tofferi, a company spokesman. Those
benefits were available to same-sex and
different-sex partners.
Lesbian & Gay
Seniors Sought
: BOSTON (AP) - Targeting an older
: generation open about its sexuality and
¯ thinking about its golden years, some
developer~ are looking to build Gay-
" friendly retirement communities.
: "We want to create something that
¯ mirrors the life they’re living now," said
¯ BoSton real estate agent John Goode, part
¯ of9gr°up planning .an urban homosexual
¯ reUrement commumty in Boston.
~ In generations past, societal pressures
¯ forced many Gays and Lesbians to keep ¯
their sexual orientations under wraps.
: Today,developers think those who helped
¯ pave the wayfor vibrantGay communities
¯ will want to continue living in Gay
¯ communities after retirement.
¯ "In the mainstream aging community,
there is the assumption that everyone is
¯ straight," said Terry Kaelber, executive
¯ director of the New York-based Seniors
Active in a Gay Environment. ’’We have
: a place that does not assume that. In fact,
¯ it assumes that old people can be attracted
: to old people of the same gender."
¯ Kaelber’s group is working with a real
estate development company to locate a
¯ site and investors for a 100-unit, mixed-
: income assisted living facility. Current
options for Gay- and Lesbian-themed
¯ retirement housing consist primarily of a
¯ handful of mobile home parks and small
¯ resorts in Florida and Arizona.
Goode’s group of seven partners wants
¯ to build a 75- to 100-unit retirement
community somewhere in Boston. The
project, called Stonewall Communities,
¯ is named after aGay bar inNew York City
¯ where a 1969 police raid sparked what
many say is the begimfing of the modem
¯ Gay civil rights movement. ¯
Other entrepreneurs across the country
¯ also have begun thinking about how the
¯ Gay and Lesbian baby boomers pushing
¯ into their 50s will want to spend their ¯
retirement years. "I’m looking for the
¯ active retirement market," said Peter
Lundberg of San Francisco, who is trying
to round up capital to build a Gay
¯ retirement community in California.
¯ Gay retirement housing options will
: likelyincreasedramaticallyinthecoming
¯ years, said Laura Connolly, who chairs
¯ theLesbianandGayAgingIssues Network
¯ for the San Francisco-based American
¯ Society on Aging. "I think it will grow ¯
over the years," slie said. "They will be in
¯ a variety ofconfigurations, from the more
: affordable trailer park options on upto the
¯ more upscale and expensive models."
How did the story develop?
PB: Many years ago whilereading "Son
of the Morning Start’ I was struck by what
we all may have lost by the greed and ego
of relatively few men. I wasn’t so much
taken by Native history as I was the belief
system behind the firstpeople of.this land.
JC: One of the things that struck me
while viewing the show was that this was
much more than a show, this was a ritual,
what theatre started out as. And ritual
that worked successfully to bridge past
andpresent.
PB: I alsoknew thatmostpeople (myself
included) thought of Indian history asjust
that.., history, museum pieces etc. So it
was important to do a couple of things.
Bring the culture into the present and
future tense. And incorporate a mythical
story about aman"sjourney tofindhimself.
By understanding his past - better
understanding his role in this life. I was
hoping to bridge worlds for people on
both sides. Wemight be able to accept, as
_ opposed to feel guilty or angry. And if we
can get to acceptance, we can progress to
learning.
JC: I like that philosophy
PB: A hundred years ago people sang
the Ghost Dance songs in the hopes that
the world would return to the way it once
was. Now, the choir in some of the Spirit
songs are singing those very same words
in hopes that the world can become, what
it could be.
JC: What a lovely vtsion.
PB: Pretty lofty goals., but hey,
somebody’s got to try.
JC: !’d say, from what l’ve seen and
heard, you’ve succeeded admirably.
Before I wear out my welcome, one last
question: What inspired you to utilize
Native American music in 3,our works ?
PB: To me, almost all Native tribes on
may land have the true connection and
understanding of that land. Here, not only
can we learn things about how we fit into
the fabric of the physical world through
Native American culture. But we can also
learn a thing or two about the spiritual
world.
PB: I’m really glad that you hear the
music staying true to the ancient as well as
the modem. The show (and the music)
can’t work any other way. It’s where the
two worlds combine that the magic
happens.
JC: That is so true. in more ways than
one. It’s a dzfficult balance, and rarely
have I heard it done so well.
PB: If you liked the video, I’m sure
you’ll love the live version!
JC: Having seen the video and the
impact it had on people, 1 can barely
begin to imagine the effect ofseeing it live.
I can’t wait. Thank you, Mr. Buffett.
© 1999J. Christjohn, all fights reserved
A unique opportunity to view and
purchase art works and hand crafts from
local women artists occurs Nov. 5 - 6.
Hosted by local artists Kathleen
Pendergrass andMary Schepers, the show
and sale will also highlight works by
Susan Norris, Robin Dunn, Donna
Richardson, Cara Liggett, Nicolasa
Kuster, Gayla Norman and others.
"We want to showcase the incredible
talent that we have in the Tulsa area,"
Schepers said. "There ’are a lot of very
talented artisans here who are not
represented in galleries or who are just
starting their careers. We’re having the
show at my house and studio to keep the
whole setting fun and relaxed, as well as
making these exciting works accessible to
a broad audience.
’~lt’s a good time to consider buying a
special gift for the significant people in
~our life, or for adding an original piece of
art to your own home, or even for buying
something practical likehath salts, candles,
display cases or smudges. Prices are
reasonable, especially compared to the
premiums paid for works shown in
galleries or higher priced venues such as
Eureka Springs. We’ll have clayworks
and sculptures, paintings, etchings, and
many other fun items."
The preview for the show is Friday,
Nov. 5 from 7:00 pm to 9:00 pm. The
show and sale continues Saturday Nov. 6 .
from 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 pro. The address
is2727E. 56thSt. (51sttoColumbiaAve,
South on Columbia to 56th St) in Tulsa.
For details or directions, please call Mary
at 743-6740.
The Kibbutz Contemporary Dance
Company, an Israeli arts group will present
....Aide Memoire"," a full-length
contemporary dance by renowned
choreographer and KCDC Artistic
Director Rami Be’er at the at Tulsa
Performing Arts Center’ s Chapman Music
Hall on November 16 at 8 pm. Tickets are
$15, $22, and $25 with discoants for
groups of 10 ormore and student discounts
at the door (call (918) 596-711 lot order
online: www.tulsapac.com).
Choreographer Rami Be’er states that
....Aide Memoire.... is not about the
Holocaust nor does it describe the
Holocaust; it deals neither with
documentation nor a historical account.
Rather, "Aide Memoire" introduces the
maaner in which the remembrance of the
Holocaust can be approfiched and
expressed in an inspired, artistic medimn.
The subject of Holocaust remembrance is
relevant to present-day life and reality as
it lurks in the background of mundane
existence, penetrates deep
subconsciousness, and dwells forever in
personal and collective memories.
"’Aide Memoire" presents the audience
with a sequence of scenes moving about
the stage just like a cinematic flashback.
Theproduction conveys afleeting glimpse
of images which.the audience must face in
a lfighly personal manner. The audience
has ne alternative but to use its senses to
impart meaning to the images. "Aide
Memoire" has no central narrative, nor do
two opposing sides face each other.
Cruel stormtroopers are absent, yet there
exists a reminder of the struggle by those
who were there and experienced those
atrocities firsthand. Within this conflict,
we observe their efforts to continue the
fabric of human relationships, whether as
: individuals, couples or xn groups, and to
express the fundamental right of every
¯ person to continue to dream.
Be’er joined Kibbutz Contemporary
: Dance Company in 1981 as a dancer and
¯ choreographer. His works have won
¯ several international awards and have
~-become the trademark of KCDC’s
: repertoire. He became the company’s
Artistic Director in 1996.
¯ The Kibbutz Contemporary Dance
: Company was founded in 1970 by
_" Holocaust survivor Yehudit Arnon.
: Although based in Kibbutz Ga’aton near
¯ the Lebanese border, see Dance, p. 15
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said Dr. Helene Gayle, director of the
CDC’s National CenterforHIV, STDand
TB Prevention.
AIDS experts say injection drug use is
commonly perceived as a major factor in
the spread ofAIDS among Blacks, but sex
is the primary method of transmission.
They say bisexual behavior among Gay
Black men who feel pressured to have sex
with women accounts for a significant
number of the infections among
heterosexuals.
Black preachers and politicians have
been criticized for letting the problem go
unaddressed. "Black communities have
been so overburdened that the idea of
adopting another burden is not appealing,"
said Cornelius Baker, executive director
of the National Association of People
with AIDS.
Slowly, leaders say, more attention is
being focused on the issue. Earlier this
month, Black churches in Atlantagathered
for the first National Black Church HIV/
AIDS Institute. Thegathering was an effort
to help pastors learn how to deal with the
disease.
Last Thursday, faith leaders, policy
makers, commumty activists and AIDS
researchers met in Atlanta to discuss
combating AIDS among Blacks. On the
same day, the National Association for
the Advancement of Colored People,
announced a series of educational films
aimed at raising HIV awareness.
The CDC has also awarded $39 million
in federal funds to 100 national, state and
local organizations to help prevent HIV
infections in minority communities. "We
must mount prevention and treatment
strategies that deal with people where
they are now, not where we want them to
be or where we imagine them to be," said
Phill Wilson, director of the AIDS Social
Policy Archive.
Nonetheless, the statistics continue to
upset AIDS activist Denise Stokes, who
has been HIV-positive fo~ 17 years. "One
day, this is ultimately where I’m going to
end up," she said pointing to the quilt.
"I’m going to be a panel on some wall in
some library. "I just hope the library isn’t
full of people with AIDS."
A lot of straight folk are going to go into
this thinking it’s aboutbeating otherpeople
up, and come out thinking about a lot of
things.
Some of you, due to the timing of the
paper will have seen it - don’t ruin the
ending for those that haven’t. And if you
haven’t seen it because you don’t think
it"s your kind of movie, go see it. You’ll
be surprised. Brad Pitt’s bod is well worth
seeing. Amd since I work in a football
sized building filled with cubicles, I could
relate well to Ed Norton’s plight in the
beginning of the film- living life to support
things he’s bought, working in a mindless
dronin.gnumbness of cubicality. Anyway,
go see It.
Oh yeah, Helena Bonham Carter turns
in a magnificent performance as well. I
kept wondering why her character was
sleeping with guys, though.
In the interest of a public service
announcement, I will pass this along:
Warrior Way Martial Arts is offering a 3
hour class on selfdefense againstpunches,
kicks, and grab attacks; knife and gun
attacks; and club attacks. This takes place
on Saturday, November 13 from 12 - 3
PM at Warrior Way martial Arts, 2717 S.
Memorial. The cost is $25 in advance;
$35 after Nov. 6. Call to register at 664-
9100.
These guys are serious and know their
stuff, and with the violence against Gay
folk on the rise, I think everyone should
make an investment in something like
this. Knowledge is power, and in this case
could mean the difference between life
and death. Literally. Learn, and practice
what you learn, and stay safe.
And my final words for this column:
life is notabout surviving orjobs orl’mding
love, although it’s nice if it happens. It’s
about facing fears and making dreams
come true, struggling against yourselfand
others to find your strength and make
things happen. Being ready, and in the
right place and time for opportunity to
strike is important. Butifyou’re notready,
or are afraid, it will pass youby before you
know it, and that’s when regret sets in,
which leads to bitterness. So try all the
things you can, and do all the things you
wanted to do - and it’s never too late.
- James Christjohn
its members come from settlements all
over Israel. The dancers rehearse five
days a week at Ga’aton Studio, but on
weekends return home to work on their
various kibbutzim. Not only is KCDCone
of Israel’s foremost companies, it has also
earned an international reputation of
renown and is invited to perform at
numerous festivals worldwide.
Kibbutz Contemporary Dance is copresented
by the Oklahoma Israel
Exchange. Sponsors for this event include
the Oklahoma Arts Council, Heartland
Arts Fund. The National Endowment for
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KCFM 94.1 and ONEOK Foundation.
Opponents fear it will eventually lead to
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Wisconsin Lesbian Elected
To United States House
WASHINGTON (AP) - Wisconsin voters elected the
first opeuly Lesbian woman member of Congress on
Tuesday. But an acknowledged Lesbian House challenger
lost in Washington state and another was behind
in California. In Wisconsin’ s open 2nd District, Democratic
state Rep. Tammy Baldwin defeated Republican
Josephine Musser, the former state insurance commissioner,
to replace retiring GOP Rep. Scott Klug.
Baldwin, 36, made healtheare a cornerstone of her
campaign, saying the United States should adopt a
~national, publicly funded system like that in Canada.
’°Tammy Baldwin is a solid representative who happens
to be a Lesbian," said Elizabeth Birch, executive
director of the Washington-based Human Rights Campaign,
a Gay civil rights group that helped bankroll the
Baldwin campaign. "She has broken down a very large
door," Birch added.
see Baldwin, p. 10
Hawaii.+Alaska Voters
Reject Gay. Marriage
’Th~As;oc;’atedPress ~Stri~ggiingt; satisf~y~l~ot~.~0ei-al
conservatives and the law of the land, Hawaii on Tuesday
took another step toward banning same-gender
marriage, giving its Legislature the go-ahead to write a
new law. Elsewhere, Alaskans voted a Gay-marriage
ban into their constitution, and voters in Fort Collins,
Colo., defeated a measure to protect Gays and Lesbians
from discrimination.
News was more hopeful for Gay civil rights advocates
in Maine, whereindividual communities are fielding
anti-discrimination bills to circumvent this year’s
statewide vote that overturned protections on the basis
of sexual orientation. South Portland approved a Gay
rights initiative; Ogunqult’s vote on a similar proposal
was too close to call early Wednesday.
The Hawaii initiative was lawmakers" latest try to
sidestep the state Supreme Court’s 1993 ruling that the
state had no constitutional right to ban same-gender
marriages because that would deny some citizens the
rights provided to others. Because the U.S. Constitution’ s
Full Faith and Credit .Clause requires states to honor
each other’ s statutes and legal bonds, the 1993 ruling set
off some furious preemptive legislating around the
country. At least 30 states have now banned Gay marnage,
and Congress passtd the Defense of Marriage
Act, which denied federal recognition ofGay marriage
and allowed states to ignore same-sex tmions licensed
elsewhere.
The two sides in Hawaii spent millions of dollars in a
relendess media campaign. "It’s really sending aclear
message, a strong message, that the people of this
community will not allow homosexual marriages;" said
Mike Gabbard, a leader of the Save Traditional Marriage
group, seeVote, p. 10
UJ DIRECTORY/LETTERS P, 2/3
US & WORLD NEWS P. 4 ~ HEALTH NEWS P. 6
ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8
~ COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 8
BOOK REVIEW P. I 0
DO-IT-YOURSELF P. 11
DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P. 12/13
~ CLASSIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P. 14
¯
200 Attend Tulsa Vigil
For Hate Crime Victim
Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends
Tulsa’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaper Available In More Than 75 City Locations
¯ The Associated Press & TFN- Matthew Shepard, a 21 year old
¯ Gay University of Wyoming freshman, was found severely
¯ beaten Oct. 7. He died Oct. 12 in a Fort Collins, Colo., hospital.
¯
His deathsparkedanintemational
"[your vi$11 represents]
a eommhment to an
end of vlolenee and
[to] appropriate
proteetlon under the
law... Matthew
Shepard’s death was
horrible and senseless;
it would be more so if
it. was in vain."
- Drew Edmondson
OkLaltom Attorney General
. .," outpouring of sympathy for vic-
¯ ¯ tims of hate crimes and calls for
~: a-federal hate crime law from
Clinton.
All across the US, communities
heldvigils andrallies tohonor
and mourn the slain student. In
¯
Tulsa, a group of about 150-200
¯ persons gathered at the Civic
Center Plaza. Anumberofclergy
¯ spoke, including the Rev. Father
: Rick Hollingsworth of the Parish
¯ Church of SaintJerome, the Rev.
¯ Leslie Penrose of Community of
: HopeUnited Methodist, the Rev.
¯ Helen Calloway of the Unity
: Church and the Rev. Russell Bennett of Fellowship Congrega-
¯ tional Church.
: Oklahoma’ s Attorney General, Drew Edmondson, sent a state-
: ment which was read by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
vice president, Greg Gatewood: "[your vigil represents] a commitment
to an end of violence and [to] appropriate protection
¯ under the law.. see Hate, p. 11
:
- Fayetteville Civil Rights
¯ Measure Overturned
FAYEFFEVILLE, Ark. (AP) -.Voters here rejected a resolution
: that backers said would have protected Gay people against job
¯ discrimination in city government. Final but unofficial results
¯ from Tuesday’. s .balloting 8howed7~811" v_otes against the measure,
6r58pe~-cent~ whil~ 5,731,or_42 percenL.we~_e cast in favor.
Known as the human-dignity resolution, the measure was passed
¯ by the Fayetteville City Council earlier this year, vetoed by the
¯ mayor, then passed by the council again in overriding the veto.
: It wouldhave required that all applicants for city staffpositions
¯ have equal access to employment, regardless of race, sex, reli-
: gion, color, national origin, age, ancestry, familial statUS, disabil-
¯ ity or sexual orientation, A group opposed to including "sexual
¯ orientation" on the list successfully petitioned to get the resolu-
¯ tion.on the ballot. ¯
Claudette’s Leaving!
Longtime AIDS Activist
Moving to Aggieland
¯
TULSA - For half a decade, anyone seriously involved with
¯ HIV/AIDS, knew Claudette Peterson. For a nu~nber of years, a
¯ Tulsan being tested for HIV anti-bodies likely had their blood
¯ sample taken taken and results given by her when she ran Tulsa
¯ Oklahomans for Human Rights HIV Testing Clinic.
¯ More recently, Persons Living with AIDS (PLWA’s) have
¯ benefited fromher tireless (and initially unpaid) efforts to establish
Food Chain, a food pantry and more. However, since her
¯
spouse, Tim Peterson has recently been taken a teaching job at
¯ TexasA&Mwherehe received his ph.D, Tulsa is losing Peterson
¯ to College Station.
Another prominent figure amongTulsaHIV/AIDS fundraisers
¯ and caregivers, Janice Nicklas, bemoaned Peterson’ s departure.
¯ "It’ s a major loss for our community.., she has tireless energy for
¯ developing resources for HIV prevention and care and we owe ¯
her a lot . . . anyone’s fortunate to have her living in their
community."
¯ Peterson noted that her work has been a labor of love, and is ¯
proud of the fact that she and Foo~t Chain have never had to turn
; away a client and they are now. serving over 100 PLWA’s a
¯ month. She notes that donating food has brought very diverse
: people together- drag queens working right next to conservative
church people. Peterson also recognizbA Audra Sommers for her
¯ very generous support ofFood Chain and other care programs as
¯ wall as support from the National AIDS fund, Tulsa Comm
¯ AIDS Partnership, the Rath Foundation, &Philip Morris Co. Inc.
: Tulsa Library Rever,s,es
Anti-Gay Paper Poltcy
¯ TULSA- Fornearlyfiveyears,Tulsa’sCity/County
¯ Library System (TCCLS) had refused to allow the ¯
distributionofGaynewspapers,TulsaFamilyNews
¯
in particular, in its lobbies. Early in October, TFN
¯ received a letter inviting the newspaper to provide
¯ copies to be distributed at the Central and each of
¯
the four regional libraries. Tulsa Family News is
¯ now found in those locations.
¯ The dispute over distribution privileges began ¯
when TFN publisher, Tom Neal, was representing
_" a now defunct out-of-town Gay paper and re-
" quested equal distribution access as magazines like
¯ TulsaKids, TulsaPeople and Urban Tulsa enjoyed ¯
a number of library lobbies. The response of the
." then TCCLS director, Pat Woodrum and the
¯ library’.s board of trustees was to change the rules
; to ban "out of town" publications.
Shortly after that decision, Neal began Tulsa
¯ Family News and reapplied as a local publication.
¯ Once again, TCCLS changed the rules to continue
to grant access to non-Gay publications and not to
." aGay one. Thesenew rules required that50% ofthe
¯ content of the publication be "local."
¯ TFN challenged TCCLS to clarify how it was ¯
defining and connting local content. Neal notes,
¯
"we had issues where it appeared that we met the
~ 50% standard as we understood it and yet we were
¯ told we didn’ t have enough local content. Further-
." more, we documented multiple violations of that
: rule by other publications but the library administration
refused to respond to our requests to clarify
the policies and to explain their seeming tolerance
¯ for rule-breaking by other publications."
see Library, p. 12
World AIDS ¯ IAM Director Decides to Step Down ¯
TULSA~interfaithAIDS Ministries is sponsoring
¯
its annual World AIDS Day Candlelight March.&
¯ Memorial Service. As is customary, the event is on
¯ December 1 st,Tuesday andwill beginat 6:30 at the
parkinglot of Centenary United Methodist Church
¯
(631 North Denver) just north of downtown. The
¯" march begins to the Parish Church of Saint Jerome
(205 West King) at about 7pro and the memorial
service will start about 7:30. There is a reception
¯
following the service. Marchers are asked to bring
: banners & bells, but candles & matches will be
¯ provided. St. Jerome will be accessible to the
disabled at the east entrance.
¯ Also, this will be the last World AIDS Day for
which ]AM’ s executive director ofmany years will
¯ serve. Diane Zike, who helped found the organiza- ¯
fion when it was part of the Episcopal Diocese of
¯ Oklahoma’s AIDS care, will be stepping down at
¯ the end of the yearforpersonal reasons. Zike stated,
"my work in AIDS ministry has been a very impor-
¯
taut and meaningful part ofmy life fore the past 12
years. I regret the need to step down now from my
role as director but I will continue to be active and
supportive in any way I can."
TFN publisher, Tom Neal, noted, "Diane is one
of the unsungheroes of the TulsaAIDS community
- she has worked long and hard at great personal
cost." Info: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437.
: Blues Concert for AIDS
¯ TULSA-Walkfor Life will presentits 2ndannual
." blues concert later this year (the date will be an-
¯ nounced). Last year’s event was held at at
¯" Streamroller Blues and featured a surprise visit
from Hanson. The tickets to the event will be $5 at
~ the door and will benefit local AIDS care organizations.
For info., call 918-579-9593.
see Editorial, p. 3
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*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston
*Jason’s Deli, 15th & Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
*Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114S. Memorial
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*Affinity News~ 8120 E. 21 610-8510
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor
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*Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15
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*Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S.-Peoria
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Cherry Sf. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742:9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
*Devena’ s Gallery, 13 Brady .
587-2611
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S~.’Peoria 744-5556
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
*Ross Edward Salon, 2447 E. 15th 584-0337, 712-9379
*Iqoral Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595
Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq: Med. Ctr. 628-3709
Gloria Jean s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21st 742-1460
Learme M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning
459-9349
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney.
744-7440
*Sandra J. I-Iill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
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*International Tours
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712-2750
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David Kanskey, Country Club Barbering
747-0236
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599-8070
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*Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brady
585-1234
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd
584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31
663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Place
664-2951
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747-6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633
747-7672
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583-1090
The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor
743-4297
Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74t01
747-5932
Richard’ s Carpet Cleaning
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Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921. 747-4746
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*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square
749-6301
*Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria
697-0017
*Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria
742-2007
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481-0558
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743-1733
*Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis
592-0767
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Coors Donation Condemned
Imagine a Lesbian or Gay activist who
left the country a few years ago and just
recently returned back to our community.
Talk about culture shock! She or he would
witness a brave new’queer world, one in
which GLAAD has accepted $110,000
from Coors, theHumanRights Campaign
(a Lesbian and Gay PAC) has endorsed
D’Amato for Senator in New York, and a
young Gay man was tortured and murdered
in Wyoming. Importantly for us,
these three things are not unrdated -
appeasement comes at a price - and that
price is not acceptable to us.
Weare writing (respectively) as aformer
taffer and former board member of
GLAAD/SFBA. Therefore we will focus
rathe GLAAD-Coors connection.
GLAAD (the Gay and Lesbian Alliance
Against Defamation) has accepted
$110,000 from the Coors Brewing company
to support its new "sexual orientation
in the workplace" training effort.
GLAAD was founded by activists such as
Vito Russo (author of The Celluloid
Closet) with a single, very spedfic rmssion:
to watchdog and critique the media’ s
coverage of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and
Transgendered issues.
It has strayed from that mission often to
deal with the substance of issues rather
than how they are covered. We believe
that conducting sexual orientation in the
workplace trainings is outside GLAAD’ s
niche.
No other organization in our community
focuses on anti-defamation. There is
plenty of defamation (some have lately
taken to calling it hate speech) runmng
around loose these days. GLAAD has
plenty enoughmediaanalysis andresponse
to do and litde enough money to do th.at
vital work, without implementing a new
: project with dirty money.
Much has already been said about the
politics of Coors and the politics of accepting
money from Coors. We would
like to emphasize our dismay thatGLAAD
would accept money from such a source.
When we were with GLAAD, RJR
Reynolds (Big Tobacco, a key backer of
powerful, homophobic North Carolina
Senator Jesse Helms) was also offering
the community money and some were
considering taking it!
So, we in GLAAD/SFBA back then
"did the math" and realized that taking
money from people trying to kill youjust
doesn’t add up to anything that makes
sense. Same for Coors once removed -
that is the Coors Foundations.
- Tom di Maria, Exec. Director, 1993-95
- Jessea Greenman, Co-Chair, 1990-94
GLAAD/San Francisco Bay Area
[Editor’s note: the Coors family wealth
has been closely associated with a number
of the most ultra rtght wing and anti-
Gaypolitical causes. Coors Brewing Company
was once the target ofa boycott due
to anti-Gay company policies. Coors
Brewing now boasts a non-discrimination
policy that includes sexual orientation
and. supports Gay organizations.
Coors Brewing has supported the Tulsa
Pride Picnic for a number ofyears.]
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At the present time. there are only 25 states that have laws against
homoffexuals, most nbted are; Alabama 20 years, Georgia 20 years, l~hode
Is and ant ess than 7 years nor more than 20 years, Oklahoma 10 years. The
homosexuals are working hard to get these laws changed to permit their
perversion ofour country, and it appears they are successfuq at it. "
A great many laws have been changed. Until 1990
our country. In 1986the U.S. SupremeCourtuph,
(in a 5 to 4 vote), noting that "prohibitions again
jurisprudence since the colonization of the countr
the laws of’he original thirteen states when they r~
outlawed sodomy. Noah Carolina’s original sodl
the abonimable and detestable crime against natur
adjudged guilty of a felony and SHALL SOl:
CLERGY".
the U.S. barred admission ofsexual deviants into
d the constitutionality of Georgia’s sodomy law
homosexuality have been a part of Ainerlcan
" Sodomy was a criminal offense forbidden by
fiodtheBillofRights. Until 1961, allb0states
ay statute nut: "Any person who shall commit
not fit tb be named among Christians... Shall be
ER DEATH WITHOUT THE BENEFIT OF
Without proper punishment of these, perveRs, u( great comitxy has become like Sodom &
Gomorrah. It’s gotten pretty sad when we allo’~ mmosexuals to teach our children that there is
nothing wrong with being *gay".- ttawthome I ementary public school, Madison, Wisconsin,
where lesbian TummY" Boldwln is Distriet Cotmty ~upcwisor, bes just one ofmany pilot programs
to teach against homophobia, At the direction of~[hoir teachers, Ist and 2nd graders made a book
titled "Everybody is Equal, A Book About Gay &. Lesbian." The book teaches our very young
chiltlrcn respect for homos, a.s well as the Ga~ Pride chant’Hay-Hay-Ho-Ho-Homophobia’s got to
go’and"Wewant rigbl,~tao*: 1ST&2..NDGRADERS!!! OneolderstudenL whenaskedwhatshe
had learned, statedshe’loaksatitlnadifferentlight. Toknowwhatbeinggay isallabout, it’snot
actually diffcrent from anybody else".
Cambridge Mass. schools hold functions like a Gay Family Photo Exhibit on school grounds, and
another celebrates Gay Pride Day as a holiday. Third graders n New York earn tolerance for
borons, tlomosexuals argue that wbat consenting adults do in the privacy oftbeir home is protectod
under lhe tight to privacy. Vsctlmless crimes, sucKas the possession and distribution ofillegal drugs
do not escape the law where they are committed at home; right to privacy in no way allows one to
break the law. Not State law and not God’s !aw...sodomy is a crime and must be prosecuted. By
dolng nothing and allowing sodomites to run amuck, just look around and see where our morals are
today. Prison terms for sodomy are designed to punish persons who undertake by unatural and
indecent methods to gratify a perverted and depraved sexual appetite which is an offence against
public dccancy and morality. To i mprison a conlinnod homosexual is like throwing Brer Rabbit i nto
the briar patch To ~ve our nation we need the DEATII PENALTY to put an end to the sodomites
~erverslon ofour country.
Can honmsexuals repent and be saved I I Corinthians 6:1 I)? A few are, but this still
does not mean society eannol INSTITUTETHE DEATI I PENALTY for this crime, just
as it has for the crime of murder. No one says a murderer cannot repent and come to
Christ, nor does society allow such a conv~’sion to stop the death penalty from being
carried out. Lev. 20:13: "Ira man lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman both of
.them have committed an abominatiott. They shall surely be put to death".
Asa did that which was right in the eyes ofthe I.ord, and hc tookaway the sodimites out
of the hind (IKings 15:12). ]-lad Asa execu~.d these sexual deviants, Jehnsaphat
wouldn’t have had to remove the remaining sodomites out ofthe land (I Kings22: 46).
The Death Penalty is our only answer to ensure these pe~’erts are out ofour contr~’ and
stay out for good. ]
But God is love, oh yes, God is love ~nd if you love God, you will keep his
commandment {Matt 22:37 and Jol~ 14:15). So for our people to keep the
commandment of l.ev. 20:13 is tO love Grd. Romans 1:2~-32: :,re have changed.the .
troth ofGod into a lie. worshippingand se~ing the creature more than the Creatbr. God
has given us up to qle afflictions, even our woman go against nature, ~nd likewise also
the men burned in their lust one toward another, They \vhich commit such things arc
worthyofdeath, SodomandGomorrahwcredestro.vedforsuchthings. Ourendcould
be #n uch worse ifwe don’t follow God’s law’.and uphold the Death Panahy forsodom):
Pastor Pete Peters points out in his book,"Death Panalty for Homosexuals" that the top
6 leading scrialki||ers in the U.S- are: Donald | larvt:y - 37 killed. John \Vay’ne Gaq." - 23
killed. Patrick Keamev - 32 killed, Bruce Davis - 28 killed. Core Henley Brooks - 27
killed. Juan Corona -’25 killed, al! of which were homosexuals; add to that Jeffrey
Dahalcr.
In closing. I would like to poinrout that God has the answer to all our problems. God
has Ills law and the law is good tfa man use it lawfully( I Timothy 1 :g-I 0).
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"To save our nation, we need the DEATH PENALTY t~
put an end to the sodomites perversion of our country." No
doubt, your reaction is much like mine was - this is ludicrous,
almostlaughable! Andthatreactionis increasedwhen
we note the source: the extremely disreputable, publicityhungry
ex-Klansman, the "Reverend" Jonny Lee.Cleary.
But just as the extremist rhetoric of anti-abortiomsts has
created a climate in which extremists murder in order to
"save lives," this adds to a climate in which Lesbian and Gay
lives .(and those of our non-Gay friends who shand by us) are
already devalued and at risk.
Though ultra conservative political groups, like the Family
Research Council, Focus on the Family and the Republican
Party now distance themsdves from recent violence
against Lesbians and Gay men, their systematic attacks onus
and their exploitation of anti-Gay fear for political gain also
have helped create a climate ripe for violence.
Murdered University of Wyoming student Matthew
Shepard’ s death was horrible but it was not the only one of
its type, nationally or even locally. According to Kelly
Kirby, 1ongtimeTulsacivilrights activist, therewas one Gay
man murdered each .year from 1991 to 1996. And yet when
Tulsans held a public vigil for Shepard, not one elected
official came or sent a representative. Mayor Savage was out
of town but surely some one member of her staff could have
shown up? What about the district attorney? Only former
DA Bill LaFortune came and that reflects not only on his
decency and compassion see Penalty, p.14
Ray of Light Campaign Invites Gay People To Tellof Experiences With Ex-Gay Ministries
by Wayne Besen . Of course, you would never see a cover story about a
HRC Associate Director of Communications ".
It is morning once again, and as you rub your tired
eyes and peer into the unforgiving bathroom mirror, the "
shiny reflection of your head is a painful reminder that
you look just as much like Kojac as the day before.
Although your friends say you should learn
to accept your baldness, you desperately
want to change and have spent years pursu-
: ing the latest hair growth remedies to no
: avail. But today is your lucky day. While
: sipping the morning coffee, you pick-up a
¯¯ copy of a respected news magazine and a
bold, splashy headline proclaims: BALD
: FOR LIFE? Underneath the headline, two
¯ smiling, bushy haired people, who look en-
~ thralledby their new hair-dos, claim to have
: been "cured" by a miracle hair tome, corn-
: blued with bible study.
Ecstatic, you excitedly turn the pages un-
: til youf’md the story about this new "miracle
." cure." But as you read on, your enthusiasm
¯ quickly begins to diminish. First, you find
that the smiling mop-tops on the cover-page
: are full-time, paid employees for acompany
: marketing this product. Next, even the most
: fervent supporters claim that the success
¯ rate of this so-called panacea is a paltry
:
Currently, ~alse
notions about
Gay Amerleans
are beln~
perpetuated hy a
media whleh
erroneously
believes it is
honorable
journalism to
simply
regurgitate
sound bltes rom
both sides in the
name of bahnee.
30%. What about the other70%? According
to the company, the hair tonic is not working for these
folks because they are "not praying hard enough."
As you skim down the page, you perkup because you
read there is still hope! A competing company claims
that their hair tonic has a miraculous success rate of
71.6%. But when asked by the magazine reporter for
hard data to corroborate the claim, the company spokes-
person gli"bly repli¯es,. "I don’t have time to conduct
follow-up studies." How then, you wonder, does the
¯ company come up with a specific number like 71.6%
without ~’011ow-ti~ studies to document whether or not
: the patients sprouted hair?
~ The article then points out that the two scientists who
¯ founded the hair tonic formula have feverishly traveled
" to science conventions around the world to declare that
~ their invention.does not work as they once said it did.
~ They say that many people would he harmed psycho-
. logically if they pinned all ,of,their ho.p~,s a~,d dream~,on~
what they now Call a"fraud. The article atso states mat
"- all respected medical and mental health organizations
agreed with the inventors that the hair tonic was no more
i likely to help one grow hair than dipping ones head in
~ a vat of Ben and Jerry’ s ice cream.
¯ If that isn’ tbad enough, the companies promoting the
¯ hair tonic have taken out full page ads in major newspa-
: pers which have distorted a baldness study by one of the
¯ premier hair loss specialists in the nation. The ac-
"_ claimed expert retorted acrimoniously to the lies by
¯ saying, "It was a complete misrepresentation of what
~ the research actually said. It was taken completely out
~ of context. I am horrified and angry and they are
¯ spreading an awful and destructive message."
¯ Your dreams of looking like Fabio are dashed for ¯
good when you read that of the people lumped in the
¯ 30% success rate category, the majority believed that if
~ thehairtonicdidnot work, biologicalbaldness couidbe
¯ overcome bywearing atoupee. The article ends with the ¯
testimony of angry ex-ex bald people who claim that
] they were misled and cheated by the hair tonic compa-
¯ rues. One company’s spokesperson dismisses the in-
] convenient complaints of the ex-ex-bald people by
~ saying: "Some p~.ople fall of the wagon."
~ You now sit m your living room, enraged by the
¯ misleading story, wondering how a respected news
~ outlet would g~ve this "snake oil" that has been so
~ thoroughly discredited, the slightest bit of legitimacy,
~ no less a cover story. Shouldn’t the ex-ex-bald people
~ have been on the cover, or at least been the focus of the
¯ story instead because their experiences are a more
~ representative of the vast majority who took the tomc?
~ Dojournalistic ethics and standards exist anymore, you
¯ wonder? Whoops, you almost forgot, it is 1998, ’‘The
: Year of the Journalist."
discredited, unsubstantiated, cure for baldness, or anything
rise for that matter.., except homosexuality.
When it comes to a so-called cure for Gay people, (as if
one were wanted or needed) veracity does not seem to
be of much importance to the media. In the following
passa~, all of the shenanigans attributed to
the ex-bald movement actually occurred in
the so-called ex-Gay ministries, from the
bogus statistics to the distortion of scientific
research, to the founders of the ex-Gay ministries
marrying each other and repudiating
these "cures." Yet, despite these gross irregularities,
the media still unwittingly legitimizes
"ex-Gay" ministries by not holding
them to the same standard of scientific
proof that they would demand from any
other group.
Advocates for Gay equality believe
these ministries should have an opportunity
to voice their opinions. However, the media
has a duty to research the accuracy of statements
made or statistics reported. Currently,
false notions about Gay Americans are being
perpetuated by a media which erroneously
believes it is honorable journalism to
simply regurgitate sound bites from both
sides in the name of balance. While balance
is important, it is not an excuse to eschew
accuracy and tough, fact checking. All statements are
not equally valid and it is the media’ s responsibility, to
distinguish factfrom fiction. Inmost of the news stones
about the "ex-Gay" mimstries or the Right wing ad
campaign in which these mimstries are highlighted,
fiction has been the norm and the truth has been a
For example, ex-Gay leader Anthony Falzarano recently
said dn television that nearly 80% of Gay people
were:molested as children. This is factually incorrec~by
any objective standards, withGaypeoplenomorelikely
to be molested as children than heterosexuals. Unfortunately;
because he is talking about Gay people, the
lethargicmediafelt there was noneed to hold Falzarano
¯ iecountableforhis lie. IfFalzaranowouldhave mad.e .a9
outrageous claim about any other minority group, ~t ~s
guaranteed the media would have followed-up and
excoriated him for his hysterical statement.
At the Human rights Campaign, our biggest challengeis
not countering political religious activist ~oups
whoexistmdeny us equal rights. The toughest battle we
face is getting the media to accurately follow-up on
outrageous statements made by these groups. As it
stands, our opponents can say anything they want about
Gay people, no matter how despicable, and they never
. havemanswer for it~Through lazy reporting, the media
has becomean accomphcemthe Right s discnnnnalao
campaign against Gay Americans by giving bald faced
lies equal stature to documentedfacts. It is our hope that
as the news media begins to evaluate some of their
glaring ethical lapses in 1998, they will consider stopping
the harmful practice of printing false information
about Gay people perpetuated by the Right without first
verifying the outrageous claims.
This perpetuation of myths by the media has forced
the Human Rights Campaign to start the Ray Of Light
(ROL) project. TheROLseeks to shine the spotlight on
these ministries so people can see beyond the rhetoric
andhearfromthe vast majority ofpeoplewhohave been
through these ministries and now call their techniques
psychological terrorism. This project will invite former
¯
ex-Gays from around the nation to share their stories
¯ with the Human Rights Campaign and lift the veil of
¯ secrecy surrounding these mimstries. The Ray of Light
¯ will:
¯ *Seek and chronicle the stories of former ex-Gays;
¯ *Share these smiles with the public and the media; ¯
*Compile information by leading mental health and
¯ medical experts on the most recent studies; and
¯ *Examine the literature of the ex-Gay ministries to
¯ look for flagrant abuses and fraudulent claims.
If you have been through these ministries, please
¯
submit your story so we can share it and help others.
~ Stories can be submitted, to: www.hrc.org/ncop/rol
Churches Create Hate
MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - Mainstream Christian denominations
are to blame for a climate of hate and
bigotry that fostered the fatal beating of a Gay University
of Wyoming student, a United Methodist
Church pastor says. "It’s not just the fight-wing
conservatives" who are teaching that homosexuality
is a sin and that Christian churches should shun Gays
and Lesbians, the Rev. Jimmy Creech said while in
Minneapolis recently. "I hold the church accountable
for helping to create a culture that allows violence
against Gays and Lesbians," he said. "Churches don’ t
intend for the violence to happen, but they lay the
groundwork for it."
Creech gained national notoriety" for officiating at
a same-sex covenant ceremony in his Omaha, Neb.,
congregation. In August, he was narrowly acquitted
of violating church law. He subsequently resigned
from his Nebraska congregation.
Creech argues that when the church denies clergy
members the right to perform same-sex ceremonies,
it is preventing them from "being a pastor to all
members of the congregation.r’ For him, "’This is the
denial ofmy freedom to be a pastor to everyone, and
that’s very offensive."
Crecch was in Minneapolis to preach at two services
at All God’s Children Metropolitan Church.
Theday before, hemetwith several Minnesota United
Methodistclergy andlaity. Recently,22United Methodist
members from Minnesota joined 344 other
Methodists around the country in asking the national
bishops to address the issues of treatment ofGays and
Lesbians in the church.
Non-Biological L sbian
Mom Shares Custody
NEWARK, N.J. (AP) - A woman who stayed home
[o raise a 2-year-old boy while her Lesbian partner
earned a living can share custody of the child, even
though she isn’ t the biological mother, a judge has
ruled. The partner, identified only as R.E.M., stayed
home to take care of the boy while herpartngr, S.L..y.,
worked at a hospital. The Lakewood couple decided .
to have the child together, chose a sperm donor to
inseminate S.L.V. and sent out birth announcements "
with both women’ s fingerprints on them.
Experts who follow Lesbian custody battles say the ¯
decision goes further than any other in granting bro,a,d ,"
custodial rights to a woman who is not the child s
birth mother. "-
"The court is satisfied that R.E.M. has been able to ¯
show that she stands in the shoes of a parent to the
child and should be accorded the status of parent in "
parity with S.L.V.,’7 Superior Court Judge Vincent ¯
Grasso wrote inhis decision issued Monday in Ocean
County.
Kate Kendell, who heads the National Center for
Gay and Lesbian Rights in San Francisco, called the
decision "an enormous victory ." "Our children have
as much right to a continuing relationship with both
parents as any other child of two parents," she said
Tuesday,
Thejudge’ s declsxon, however, lsn t binding stat -
wide and is inconsistent with an opinion issued in
Essex County in September. Two other similar cases
have yet to be decided in Mercer and Union counties.
"Right now, you have a situation that really cries out
for an appeal," said Paul Urbania, S:L.V:’s attorney.
’q’he law in New Jersey shouldn’t depend on where
geographically you’ re located."
One woman in Essex County, who said she helped
raise 4-year-old twins with her ex-partner, lost custody
of the children and vowed to appeal. Attorney
Robin Wernik said the woman will use the Ocean
County opinion to bolster her case.
Lawyers are stillformalizing thedetails, butR.E.M.
will likely be able to care for the boy for three or four
12-hour days each week while S.L.V. isat work, as
well as on alternate weekends, said her attorney,
Bettina Munson. R.E.M., a former bartender, does
notworkbecause ofapermanentdisability toher arm.
Both women must share the cost of supporting the
boy, identified only as A.J.M.V., thejudge said. The
boy, who was born on March 2, 1996, goes by the
surname of both women.
The couple, who met in 1989 and moved in to-
¯
gether in 1991, chose a sperm donor together with a
¯ geneticprofilethatwas compatible to theirs once they
decided to have a child. S.L.V. was inseminated
¯
because R.E.M. had had a hysterectomy, the opinion
¯ satd. The women went by mommy and mamere,
¯¯ and drew up respective, detailed family trees for the
baby. The relationship ended in November 1996,
¯
although S.LV. remained in the home until Septem-
¯ ber 1997, the opinion said. R.E.M. sued for castody a
¯ month later.
"BBC Apologizes For
¯ Calling Politician Gay
LONDON (AP)-TheBritish Broadcasting Corp. has
apologized to a Cabinet minister who was described
as Gay during a news program. Aides to Trade Secretary
Peter Mandelson said Monday he had received
~ a letter of apology from BBC chairman Sir Christo-
¯ pher Bland. Mandelson, who prefers not to make an
¯ issue of his sexual orientation, planned no comment
: on the letter, the aides said.
The controversy beganwhen newspaper columnist
Matthew Pards saidonalate-nightBBCprogram that
¯ Mandelson was "certainly, Gay. The remark came ¯
during speculation about the sexuality of another
¯ Cabinetminister, RonDavies, whoresigned as Welsh
¯ Secretary last weekbecause ofwhathe called a"lapse
¯ of judgment" with a stranger who robbed him after
the two met at London’ s Clapham Common, a popu-
: lar Gay hangout, and left together. Davies has given
: no clear explanation of what happened. But he has
¯ denied he was seeking Gay sex or drugs, even after
days of banner headlines and tabloid stories.
: Meanwhile, the BBC added to the controversy by
¯ ordering staffmembers never to repeat the remark by
¯ Parris, who is openly Gay, on any of its programs.
¯
That move provoked charges of clumsy censorship
¯
and of giving special treatment to Mandelson, a close
¯ adviser to Prime Minister Tony Blair and among the
¯" country’ s most influential politicians.
¯
Protesters included the opposition Conservative
~arty., severa! 9f whose.politicians were pursu.,e,d.by
the media over extramarital affairs when the party
was ~n power.
Also opposed to the BBCrs move was Northern
Ireland Secretary Mo Mowlam, also a leading member
of the Blair Cabinet. Ms. Mowlam said she and
other panelists on a Friday nightBBCradio talk show
were told not to mention Mandelson and the Gay
remark. "I’m not about to be unfair or unjust to
colleagues, but we’ve all state~,,very clearly that to be
given guidelines is insulfing~ she said during the
show.
The BBC altered.anews quiz program last week to
remove a running joke about Mandelson, but the TV
¯ satare program .Ha. e I Got Ne~ws For You.’?" was
¯ allowed to broadcast a Clip of the Parris comment.
i Schools LawSuits Help
"Prevent Gay-Bashings
¯ OAKLAND, Calif. (AP) - In the wake of the recent
~ death ofaGay collegestudeut, administrators, teach-
¯ ers and students methere this weekend to diSCUSS Gay
~ bashingin schools. They say lawsuits are a powerful
¯ weapon in the ending name:calling, harassment and
: violence agMnst young Gay people. S.chool districts
¯
that have ignored the problem are being held liable.
¯ No federal anti-discrimination laws cover sexual
: orientation, and Massachusetts is the only state to
¯ mandate such protection. But officials-fro_re, the U~S.
¯ Department of Education saidthat under T~tle IX of
theCivil RightsAct,new legal groundis being carved
; out to help Gay youth.
¯" For instance, a boy who is harassed by other boys
¯ because he is.effeminate may have a valid claim that
¯ he’ s being discriminated against because of his gen- ¯
der. Agency officials said they werelooking into such
¯
a case at a private school in the San Francisco Bay
; area. ’Tm n0t saying we came to tell you we’ve got
¯ all the magic bullets and fight answers," said Art
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sexual harassment, it leads to society accepting it, and
that leads to tragedies like that," said Gloria Estolano, "
who works in the agency’s San Francisco office.
Those attending the second annual conference hosted
by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network "
said lawsuits should be a last resort. "The last time "
students needed lawyers ,to g~t them through high
school was in the ’50s and 60s’ during the civil rights
movement, said Kate Frankfurt, an organizer of the ¯
gathering. What’s needed instead, she said, is organiza- ¯
tions that can stimulate dialogue on the issue.
Learning how to better run her own such group ¯
brought Veronica Lopez, 22, from Stockton to the ¯
conference. Lopez, a college student who works full
time in a day care center, said homophobia starts early.
She said a 4-year-old boy recently came to her in tears .
because a 5-year-old had just called him an anti-Gay "
epithet. "It shows the parents are talking about it, ."
because kids don’t even know what (Gay) is," Lopez ¯
said. "I thinkit’ s important that people realize we’re not "
sick people... I consider myself pretty normal."
Gay Man in NY SenateI
ALBANY, N.Y. (AP) - Thomas Duane, openly Gay ¯
and HIV-positive, describes himself as "distinctly "
progressive." TheDemocraticNew YorkCity Council- "
man is running for a seat m the state Senate that has ¯
rarely, if ever, been described in those terms. If Duane ¯
is elected - and the heavy Democratic makeup of his "
Manhattan district makes that very likely - he will ¯
become the state Senate’s first openly Gay member and
only the second openly Gay member of the state Legis- ¯
lature.-"I’m hoping to add something that has been "
missing from the debate in Albany," Duane said.
He runs as the recent beating death of Gay University ¯
of Wyoming student Matthew Shepherd focuses national
attentiononhatecrimes legislation, one of Duane’ s "
key issugs. Known for his outspoken support of issues ¯
relating to Gays, women and the disabled in.the rough ¯
and tumble city council, Duanehas said that the absence ¯
of hate crime statutes permits and, ina sense, encour- "
ages violence against homosexuals. This-year, he called
for can-cellation-of the annual GreenwiEii Village Halloween
Parade, clting rising anti-Gay violence in the "
traditionally tolerant New York City enclave. "
Such abate crimes law has been blockedinNew York ¯
by the very Republican-controlled state Senate Duane ¯
hopes to take a seat in. Senate Majority Leader Joseph ¯
Bruno opposes the law, saying it creates a special class "
of victim. "
’‘The state Senate has been absolutely backward,"
Matt Foreman, executive director ofEmpire State Pride ¯
Agenda, New York’s largest Gay advocacy group. ¯
"Someone like Tom is desperately needed there."
It is highly unlikely that Duane he will have any luck "
pushing legislation through the highly-regimented Senate
from the Democratic side of the aisle. Still, support- ¯
ers say his status is likely to hold sway in debates. "To ¯
have someone who lives with HIV talking about HIV- :
related bills will be quite powerful and I think his "
opinion willcarry real weight," said state Sen. Catherine ¯
Abate.
Duane is running for Abate’ s seat after she vacated it "
to nm unsuccessfully for the Democratic nomination ¯
for state attorney general. The district winds from the ¯
Upper West Side through Times Square downtown to
Greenwich Village and the Financial District. Voter
registration is 67 percent Democrat and only about 11 "
percent GOP. His opponent, Republican Karol Murov, ¯
has failed to mount mu’ch of a challenge, observers said.
Bruno spokesman John McArdle refused to discuss
Duane’ s candidacy. But in response.to criticisms about "
the chamber’s attention to Gay issues he said "the ..
Senate has responded to concerns of New Yorkers as a
whole." ."
Duane’s election would bring New York even with ¯
Arizona and California, which both have two Gay ¯
members in their state Legislature. Only Oregon and "
Maine have more. ."
AssemblywomanDe_borah Glick, the-New York’s
first openly Gay legislator, points to legislation r~quiring
AIDs testing for newborns and this year’ s mandate :
that people who test positive for HIV notify their "
: partners as si.gns that New York’ s Legislature is ill-
" informed on issues important to Gay groups. Yet
she sounds a cautionary note for Duane, saying to
expect at least some hostility. "I’m sure he will
encounter homophobia. I did and still do," Glick
said.
Gay MayorforWinnipeg
WINNIPEG, Manitoba (AP) - A city councilman
once featured in a documentary about Gay foster
fathers has won the mayoral race in Winnipeg,
becoming the first openly Gay mayor of a major
Canadian city. "It was a history-making night,"
said Glen Murray after returns showed him winning
easily over six other candidates. Winnipeg is
Manitoba’s capital and, with 667,000 residents, is
the largest Canadian city between Toronto and
Calgary, Alberta.
Murray, 41, became one of Canada’s betterknown
Gay politicians six years ago when, with his
troubled foster son Michael Curtis, he was featured
in a film documentary called "A Kind of Family."
Murray did not make his sexual orientation a focus
of the campaign, concentrating instead on economic
issues and moderating some of the left-ofcenter
positions he espoused during three terms on
the city council.
His main opponent, grocery-store executive
Philip Kaufman, did not raise the homosexuality
issue explicidy, thoughhe made references early in
the campaign to family values. Late in the campaign,
a local minister organized a prayer vigil and
urged voters to oppose Murray. "This is not a
matter ofhating anyone," said Bruce Martin, pastor
of Calvary Temple Pentecostal Church. "It’s a
matter of biblical interpretation."
Murray’s victory was celebrated by Gays in
Winnipeg. "It’ s apotent symbol that an openly Gay
person should be elected to a high post like this,"
said Chris Vogel, a Gay rights activist. "It contributes
to the growing sense that there’s nothing
wrong with being homosexual."
Murray, seeking to portray himself as mainstream,
said he would follow the practice of previous
Winnipeg mayors and refuse .to officially proclaim
a Gay Pride week in the city. In fact, he said
he _will try to avoid issuing such proclamations on
behalf of any group or cause. "We’re a city of such
diversity, of so many cultures," he said. "We’re a
city of great tolerance, ofhope and Ijust think all of
those values were reaffirmed tonight." There are
only a couple of dozen openly Gay politicians in
Canada, including two members of the federal
Parliament.
Bishop in Bind
COLUMBUS, Ohio (AP) - A bishop who performed
two same-sex ceremonies when he was a
Columbus pastor said it was an agonizing decision
for him to file a complaint against a minister for
performing a Gay ceremony. Bishop Joseph
Sprague, head of the Chicago United Methodist
Church, said he performed services for two men
and two women.
Sprague charged Rev. Gregory Dell, pastor of
Broadway United Methodist Church in Chicago,
with "failure to uphold the order and discipline of
the United Methodist Church." Sprague said he
:’ chose to write the complaint to avoid inflammatory
language he expected others might use.
Dell will be tried before a 13-person jury of his
peers. Dell said he didn’ t talk with Sprague before
conducting the recent service, but knew the bishop
would be required to file charges.
Sprague said before he performed the Gay ceremonies
he first discussed it with Bishop Judith
Craig of the West Ohio Conference, which has
jurisdiction over Columbus. "I told him he could
not use the marriage ceremony in that setting... I
toldhim that in terms of any ceremony he designed,
I wouldleave it to his pastoral discretion to do what
was necessary to providepastoral care," Craig said.
Sprague has refused to remove Dell from his
duties pending the trial, and said he isn’ t sure what
he will do if the jury votes to oust Dell.
Jocelyn Elders:
No Regrets
COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) - Jocelyn Elders,
who lost her job as U.S. surgeon
general four years ago, says she does not
regret taking such controversial stands as
advocating se~x education for kindergartners
and conitoms in teen-agers’ pockets.
"You look back on things like that more
than once, and I have tried to think how I
would have said things differently or
should I have said those things, and I have
to say I have no regrets," she said at an
annual state conference on sexually transfnitted
diseases and HIV, the AIDS virus.
Even the invitation for her to speak
stirred controversy. The state Department
of Health and Environmental Control last
month withdrew its sponsorship and
$40,000 in funding, saying Elders’ presence
would distract from the issues. That
left AIDS service organizations as the
primary sponsors, with funding frompharmaceutical
companies.
Eiders, who drew bursts of applause
and cheers from the audience of nearly
650, said she advocates explaining sex to
youngsters so they can protect themselves
from abuse. "We want tO teach our children
early that there are places that people
should not touch," she said in an interview.
What about leaving sex education to
parents? "We don’t let the parents teach
physics," Eiders said. "Your health is far
more important than physics." And if site
had a teen-age daughter? "I would never
want my teen-ager to go out on a date
without a condom in her purse," Elders
said, saying vows ofabstinence"are easier
to break than a latex condom.’"
Elders, the first black woman to be
surgeon general, held the job 15 months
until she was forced to resign in December
;t-994: ~Her downfall came. when she
said Gays and Lesbians must help save
children from the un-Christian religious
right.
Needle Exchange
Program Prevails
WASHINGTON (AP) -Even before a
congressonal bahon funds for needleexchange
programs became law, anAIDS
clinic in the nation’ s capital had set up a
private group to supply drug addicts with
clean needles. "This law is intrusive,"
said Jim Graham, executive director of
the Whitman-Walker Clinic. "It not only
tells D.C. how we can spend ourownlocal
tax dollars, but it tells charities like
Whitman-Walker how we can spend pri:
rate funds."
Congress, as part of the $520 billion
spendingpackage signedintolaw Wednesday,
banned use of local and federal funding
for any needle-exchange program in
the District of Columbia. That was on top
of a permanent ban on federal funding of
needle exchanges anywhere in the country.
The Whitman-Walker Clinic, one of
the nation’ s largest, has created a private,
nonprofit group to run theprogram, transferring
equipment, supplies and $50,000
in private funds to the new operation. The
Washington-based Drug Policy Fotmdation
gave the new group, Prevention
Works, an additional $25,000. "Sounds
like they’ ve. got some pretty sharp lawyers,"
said Rep. Todd Tiahrt, R-Kan.,
who sponsored the ban.
The clinic gets $7 million a year in
federal and local government dollars and
has operated a clean-needle exchange for
three years. It got $210,000 from the dis- -
trict last year for the effort and raised
$50,000 from private donors. Last month,
its van disU-ibuted 17,000 needles. Prevention
Works should have. enough resources
to keep the needle-exchange van
rnnning for four or fivemoremonths, said
Graham, who is running for City Council.
Needle exchanges are operatingin about
100 U.S. cities. Supporters say such programs
help prevent the spread ofAIDS by
allowing addicts to exchange contamimated
needles for dean ones. Opponents
contend the programs encourage drug
abuse.
Eleanor Holmes Norton, the distriCt’ s
delegate to Congress, called the provision
"callous... (and) ignorant, because the
entire scientific establishmenthas reached
the same conclusion: Needle exchange
markedly reduces AIDS infection and
deaths without spreading drug abuse." Its
racial implications are inescapable, she
said, because AIDS is hitting black and
Hispanic populations the hardest. Last
year, she said, the District’s AIDS rate
was nine times the national average.
Tiahrt and Sen. Jolm Ashcroft, R-Mo.,
the Senate sponsor of the ban, cite Canadian
studies they say demonstrate that
. clean needle programs have failed to reduce
the spread of HIV. "’Wherever the
needle exchange programs took place,
theybecame hubs for drug activity," Tiahrt
said. Addicts~ need "help ~o get off drugs,
not help to get new needles." A possible
White House contender, Ashcrofl likens
needle exchange programs to the idea
"that providing bulletproof vests to bark
robbers would make it safer for them to
rob banks."
The authors of the Canadian studies
have said congressional leaders misinterpreted
their report. Because the programs
served inner-tory neighborhoods, they
served users.already at the.greatest risk of
infection, they said, and the programs did
not provide enough syringes to be effecfive.
Investors Suing
¯ PLWA’s Not Dying
: wEsT PALM BEACH, Fla. (AP) - A
¯ group of mvestors has sued two compa-
¯¯ nies that buy and sell life insurance policies
ofterminallyill patients, saying medi-
¯ cal advances are keeping AIDS patients
¯ alive longer. ¯
¯ The two companies targeted in the lawsuits
broker what arb known as viatical
¯ settlements. A terminally ill person, usu-
¯ ally an AIDS patient, sells his life insur-
¯ ance policy for less than the death benefit
to get the cash. The person who buys the
¯ policy becomes the policy’s owner and
¯ beneficiary and collects the full benefit ¯
when the patient dies.
¯ The deals were invented in the 1980s as
¯ thenumberofAIDS cases exploded. They
¯ have been controversial since their incep- ¯
lion because, in .crass terms, they are an
: investment in someone else’ s death. But
: the deals are touted as making the best of
¯ a bad situation. They often help AIDS ¯
patients pay for treatment and live out
¯ their final days in relative comfort.
¯ However, the lawsuits filed recently in ¯
Palm Beach County Circuit Court con-
" tends the system is falling apart. Medical
¯ progress means AIDS patients whomight
_- have expected to live only for another
¯ year are living for three, four or five years.
¯ Thelonger a patient lives, the lower the
¯ return. If an investor buys a $110,.000
: policy for $100,000, and the patient dies
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If the patient lives two years, the annual
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At three years, it’ s 3.3%.
So for the investor, the deals are no
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HIV & Elder, Sex
TAMPA, Fla. (AP) - Sue Saunders is 65
and has AIDS. As far as she’ s concerned,
the more people who know it the better.
Saunders pioneered aproject in herhometown
of Fort Lauderdale to educate Flori~
ans over age 50 about therisk ofde¯eloplng
acquired immune deficiency syndrome.
Her first challenge was getting the
attention of an age group largely ignored
when it comes to AIDS education.
"Yes, there is sex after 50. After 60.
After 70. People think after 50 we die
from the neck down," Ms. Saunders said.
"People look at you like you’re crazy.
What?You mean, Grandma and Grandpa
are still having sex?"
Ten% of all AIDS cases in the country
are people over age 50, according to the
Florida Department of Elder Affairs. In
Florida, the figure is higher - ranging
between 12% and 14%. One in eight Floridians
living with AIDS is 50 or older,
state health officials said. Yetwhengroups
are addressed that are considered.at risk of
contracting the virus that causes AIDs,
older Americans are often left out.
Eighteen months ago, Ms. Saunders
began inviting herself to small South
Florida groups to discuss prevention, promote
education and warn seniors to abstain
from sex or use condoms. "You’ re
telling people 50 to 90 years old: ’You are
at risk for a fatal disease. Youjust went to
bed with aguy and y,oudon’ tknow where’ s
he’ s been.’"
Ms. Saunders was healthy and active.
She was divorced, in love and in a longlime
relationship. HerBahamianboyfriend
was the spark of her life. They spent lazy
days on the water, fishing. Life was good.
That was in 1990: Suddenly, her boyfriend
was diagnosed HIV positive. Nine
months later, he was dead. She feared the
same thing would happen to her and began
saying goodbye to her four grown
children.
A son took herto an HIV-infected doctor
in Laguna Beach, Calif. That visit
helped change her life. She dropped the
self-pity and went to the Broward County
Health Department but found little informarion.
After six months doing research,
she went to Bentley Lipscomb, elder affairs
secretary, who found $170,000 to
fund SHIP, the Senior. HIV Intervention
Project.
Ms. Saunders worked long and hard
getting into the crowded retirement condominiums
along Florida’ s Gold Coast to
give her message. In these building complexes,
women outnumber men seven-toone,
she said. "The women are starved for
affection. The men are having a ball. They"
can have all the women they want. "Ev~
erybody says ’it can’t happen to me. I’m
uot aprostitute. I don’ t fool around,’" she
said. "You’ie never too old. And all it
takes xs one partner - if he or she is
infected.’"
Older people are rarely targeted for
prevention. The health care system, including
doctors, often is reluctant or uneasy
about discussing AIDS and sex with
them, said Dave Bruns, elder affairs
spokesman. "Not only is it an insult, it’ s
rampant ageism," Bruns said. "Just who
do they think is buying all this Viagra?"
There are 67,282 cases of AIDS cases
statewide and 8,400 of those infected are
age 50 or older, according to the Florida
Department of Health.
When Ms. Saunders left the SHIP program
recently, the demand for lectures
was enormous. "Everybody wanted us to
come talk to them," she said. They were
scheduling 20to30 presentations amonth.
The project was so successful, a second
program was launched in the Tampa Bay
area under Edith Ellerson in June. She
encountered similar apprehension as she
started talking at senior centers, assistedliving
residences, senior nutritional programs.
Gradually, the audiences became more
receptive and willing to listen. She brings
condoms, urges listeners to be tested and
find out firstabout themselves, then question
their partners. "You’ re not only sleeping
with your partner, but with whomever
your partner slept with for the past five
years, and whoever they slept with - like
a pyramid or domino effect," she said.
Hemophiliacs to
Get Compensation
WASHINGTON (AP) - Last-minute lobbying
led to deceptively easy approval of
a plan to allow the government to compensate
hemophiliacs infected with HIV
during the early days of the AIDS epidemic.
The bill, passed by the Senate on a
voice vote, authorizes payments of
$100,000 apiece to compensate hemophiliacs
or their survivors for the
government’s failure to aggressively
screen tainted blood products.
The measure, which President Clinton
is expected to sign, does not put the checks
in the mail, though, because it does not
allocate any money. However, with the
authorization in hand, the bill’s backers
can lobby Congress to appropriate the
estimated $750 million it would cost.
The bill, named after Ricky Ray, a 15-
year-old hemophiliac from Florida who
died from AIDS in 1992, became controversial
late in the legislativeprocess, when
others who contracted the .disease from
tainted bloodtransfusions argued thatthey
deserved to be included.
Sen. James Jeffords, R-Vt., took up the
cause of the transfusion victims, and at
one point blocked consideration of the
Ricky Ray bill in an effort to force action
on a more encompassing authorization.
Sen. Mike DeWine, R-Ohio, said he
spent the weekend on the phone pressing
Senate leaders to move the bill to the floor
and dealing with the last-minute objections
of other senators.
Jeffords’ spokesmanJoe Karpinski said
he never planned to hold up the legislation
altogether, and dropped his objections to
the House bill after it became clear thathe
could not develop consensus to include
the.transfusion victims, potentially dou-
\
¯
b.ling the cost. Hemophiliac,~ m~d tra:>/;usxon
recipients were infected wifl~.~~,--,.,.,~.,..~.
¯
donated by people who carried th6 AIDS
¯ virus.
The Institute of Medicine, a scientific
¯ organizationthatadvises the government,
¯
later concluded that government caution.
¯ fear of criticism and inadequate leadership
delayed effective screening of donors
and proper blood testing.
¯
Hemophiliacs already have won
: $100,000 each from the blood industry
¯ through the settlement of a class action
lawsuit. Transfusion court victories have
¯
been more sporadic.
¯ Karpinski said Jeffords will try again
¯ next year toinclude transfusion victims, a ¯
move DeWine backs. "We should work to
¯ see that justice is done for this group of
¯ victims as well," said DeWine. "Wemade
¯ the decision that it was better to deal with
part of the problem than none of the prob-
" lem." "I think the precedent of this bill
¯ willmakeit easier to address the concerns ¯
ofthosewhohaveAIDS because oftrans-
¯ fusions."
School NamedAfter
Boy with AIDS
WESTMINSTER,Colo. (AP)-Ten years
¯¯ ago, a little boy from Broomfield began
first grade while 30 children stayed home
¯
in protest. Threatening statements and
¯ letters from parents demanded a separate
: bathroom and eating area for Ryan
¯ Sheridan, who was infected with HIV. He
¯ died ofcomplications fromAIDS in 1993.
Public perception of the disease has
¯ changed since 1988, but misunderstand-
, ings still exist. Reminding students, teach-
¯ - ers and admimstrators ol~the hard lessons
¯ learned about Ryan is a school named
¯ after him: Ryan Elementary School in
¯
Westminster. His picture, a plaque and a
¯ red ribbon hangin thelobby of the school.
"It’s tough to remember. People were
¯ backed in a corner and forced to deal with
¯
something they didn’ t want to deal with,"
¯ said Tim Sheridan, recalling the events
¯ leading up to his son’s first day in first ¯
grade. When the Shefidans, now divorced
¯
and bothlivingin ~Ihornton, told adminis-
: trators Ryan was infected, the Jefferson
¯ County school boarddecided to inform all
parents by letter that a student with HIV
¯
would attendJuchem Elementary School.
¯. Juchem closed in 1994 after being replaced
by a new school named Ryan Elementary.
¯ The letter caused a firestorm of controversy
that forced the school board to have
¯ a number of secret meetings with Ryan’ s
¯
teacher and publicmeetings to discuss the
¯
issue. Throughout, Ryanremained anony-
¯ mous to everyone but his teacher, the
principal and the school board.
¯
Ryan contracted HIV when he was 2
¯ years old from a blood transfusion during
¯ 9Pen-heart surgery. Teachers and admin-
¯ lstrators say Ryan taught everyone at the
¯
school difficult lessons about tolerance
; and courage, but AIDS educators say the
public still has a long way to go in understanding
the disease. "in my opinion, we
¯ haven’t gone all that far in 10 years. Our
¯ homophobia is what gets in the way of
¯ hearing about HIV," said Katy Fleming,
education director at the Boulder County
; AIDS Project. "Studies have shown that
¯ manytimes peoples’ attitudes towardchildren
(with AIDS) have been negative
¯
because of issues of sexual orientation "
¯ Although HIV and AIDS education is
¯ better today, moral issues still need to be
¯ separated from medical issues, Fleming
¯ said.
by James Christjohn : they would get the in-jokes peppered
ff there is a movie that I would heartily ¯ throughout the film.
recommend to all folks this Halloween,,it ; And speaking of magic, The Divine
is Practical Magic. It has something for ¯ Miss M’ s new release, "Bathhouse Betty"
everyone: laughter, tears, sus- is a must-have for any gifting
pense, horror, magic, and
Stevie Nicks (betcha were
wondering how I’d work her
in, huh?). A comedy about a
family of hereditary witches -
that actually gets the gist of
Wicca correct for a change,
even if adding a few "eyes of
newt and a liberal dose of
frogs" - and romance, the favorite
line will be the one
where one of the townsfolk
says of one of the witches
"Goodnews - she’ s come out!"
And, tomy delight, Stevie~ s
reworked "Crystal" is a major
theme in the film in the score
as well as sung. The advice
given in the film to those considering
or afraid of relationships
is well worth the price of
admission. Stockard Channing
and Diane Weist are absolute magic as the
Annties who pass on the family traditions
with liberal doses of love and laughter.
One of the lovely things about the film
is .that it deals with being perceived as
different, inhuman, "other" in the ’~mainstream"
world, and being a magical film,
how the wOmen of this family transcend
that difficulty. It very much has a Gay
sensibility to it and thus would be enjoyed
by those in our community especially, for
"I’m Beautiful,
Dammlt"
[Bette Midler’s
new recording]
is a standout
track that
should he a hit
in the dance
clubs, being an
anthem to
being-different
and eelebratln~
that dlfferenee
in .spite of the
flak it brin~s.
this season. It is Bette at her
best, full of everything from
tearful ballads ("One True
Friend") to bawdy blues (my
personal favorite, and new
theme song, "One Monkey
Don’t Stop No Show"), to
comedic with a message (another
theme song, a hiphoppin’
’Tm Beautiful,
Dammit!").
It marks a return to the
eclecticism that was one of
Bette’ s most delightful qualities,
whereyoumightdiscover
songs you’ d never find otherwiseifyouhadn’
t been liste~ning
to her albums. ’Tm Beautiful,
Dammit" is a standout
track that shouldbe a hit in the
dance clubs, being an anthem
to being differentand celebrat-
¯ ing that difference in spite of the flak it
¯ brings.
¯ Know someone that Loves Bette
¯ Midler? Perfect gift. Know someone that
has never heard of Bette? Perfect intro-
¯¯ duction.
James Christjohn, actor, writer, poet
¯ and Mac-guru extraordinaire provides
¯ TFN with entertainment news, commen-
~ tary and can be counted on for regular
¯ Stevie Nicks updates.
Gal-A-Vanting, Tulsa’ s new
tivities network specializing
in Ms-adventures for women,
kicked off its program with a
WomenIn the Arts nightat the
Pride Center on October 23.
While attendance was somewhat
thin, with approximately
20 women in the audience,
Gal-A-Vanting founders Joan
and Mary were still quite
happy with the event.
"Wedidn’ t takeinto account
Oktoberfest," Mary explains,
"And we are still developing
our mailing list and contacts.
The artists were really outstanding,
each with a style and
media that was quite unique~
We’re hoping to do a week
long show in the spring so that
the art exhibits can be stationary
and serve as an anchor for
performing arts such as readings,
music and so forth. And
this will give people a better
chance to see the works of
these fine women artists, and
support them by purchasing
their worl~ You don’ t have to
go to Eureka Springs or to Ptown
to find exceptional artwork
for your home."
social ac-
The
long-awalted
dance will be
held at the
Pride Center
on Saturday
November 14
from eight
p.m. tll ??? and
will be D.J.’d
by
Sue Knause,
who promises
to play a wide
array of tunes
for the
danelng
pleasure of
Tulsa’s
" play a wide array of tunes for the dancing
pleasure of Tulsa’s women.
With the smaller lounges in
the Pride center, opportunities
for a quiet conversation are
also available. Light refreshments
will be available and
the entry fee is $3 for singles
and $5 for couples.
"We’ ve had a lot of interest
in this dance, because somany
women like to dance but for
whatever reason don’ t care to
be arbund smoking or drinking.
It will also provide a nice
venue for women to meet new
friends and make new contacts."
says Mary.
The December Gal-AVanting
event will be a movie
night on December 16 at the
Pride Center, beginning at6:30
p.m. A feature film and a
couple of documentaries will
be shown.
We’re getting ready to prepare
our schedule of events
for the first of the year and
we’ d really like some ideas
from the women in the Tulsa
area of what they’d like to
do," explains Mary. "Please
feel free to call me with your
The long-awaited dance will be held at : wish list of activities at 743-6740. And if
the pride center on Saturday November . you’re not on our mailing/call list, please
14 from eight p.m. til ??? and will be : let us know, This information is strictly
D.J.’ d by Sue Knause, who promises to ¯ confidential and will not be shared."
Humperdinck’s
nse
rete
Parade of Lights.
Come celebrate the spirit of the holiday season
at the PSO Christmas Parade of Lights.
Saturday, December 12. Downtown Tulsa at 6 p.m.
View parade floats up close, Friday, December 11,
at the HolidayFest.(Brady Arts DistriCt) from 6-9 p.m.
Public Service Company of Oklahoma
A Central and South West Company
World AIDS Day 1998
Candlelight March & Memorial Service
sponsored by
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
Tuesday, December 1st
6:30, Gather at
Centenary United Methodist Church Parking Lot
631 North Denver
7:00", March Begins to Saint Jerome
7:30*, Memorial Service at the
Parish Church of Saint Jerome. 205 West King
Reception following seine.ice. *time approximate
Bring banners & bells~ candles & matches provided
st. Jerome will be accessible to the
disabled at the east entrance.
Into: 438-2437 or 800-284-2437
THE NOON NEWS NEVER
LOOKED SO TASTY.
The big news is Warren Duck Club’s new lunch menu. And the Horseradish Orange
Crusted Halibut with Apricot Basil Sauce is just one of the tastiest stories. From familiar
favorites, to late-breaking dishes hot from Chef Dan Broyles’ creative kitchen,
this is news to truly savor. Call 495-1000 for the whole story and for reservations.
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In the Doubletree Hotel At Warren Place
6110 S. Yale / Tulsa OK / 918-495-1000
~ SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Community of Hope (United Methodist), Service - 6pro, 2545 S. Yale, 585-1800
Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation
Service - 1 lam, 2545 S. Yale, 749-0595
Church of the Restoration Unitarian Universalist
Service - 1 lam, 1314 No. Greenwood, 587-1314
Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church
Service - 1 lam, Childrens Ministry also, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc.
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 10:45am, 3210e So. Norwood
Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa
Service, 10:45am. 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
Parish Church of St. Jerome (Evangelical Anglican Church in America)
Mass - 1 lam, 205 W. King (east of No. Denver), Info: 582-3088
University of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/Transgendered Alliance
6:30 pm, Meets at the Canterbury Ctr., 5th & Evanston, 583-9780
Council Oak Men’s Chorale, rehearsals at 5pm, Info: 743-4297
~" MONDAYS
nIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appointment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm, 834-TEST (8378) 3501 E. Admiral (east of Harvard)
HIV Rap Sessions at Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
7:30pm, 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians.& Gays
2nd Monicach too. 6:30pro, Fellovcship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard
Mixed Volleyball, Helmerich Park, 71st & Riverside, 7pro, call Shawn 491-2036.
Women/Children & AIDS Committee, call for meeting date, noon, 585-5551
~ TUESDAYS
AIDS Coalition of Tulsa, 11 i 10, noon, United Way Bldg. 1430 S. Boulder
H!V+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium l:30pm
3507 E. Admiral (east of Harvard), lnf6: Wanda @ 834-4194
Multicultural AIDS Coalition, 11/3, 12:30pm, Urban League, 240 East Apache
Rainbow Business Guild, Business & prof. networking group, Info: 743-4297
PrimeTimers, mens group, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
Coming Out Support Group (TOHR/HOPE)
Tuesdays, 6 pro, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, info: 743-4297
!~ WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2207 E. 6th, 583-7815
Family Of Faith MCC Praise/Prayer - 6:30pm, 5451-E S. Mingo. 622-1441
¯House of the Holy Spirit Ministries, Inc. Service - 7pm, 3210e So. Norwood
Tulsa Native American Mens Support Group, more information, call 582-7225
TCC Gay & Lesbian Association of Students (GLAS), Call for info: 595-7632.
Lambda A-A, 7 pm, 1307 E. 38th, 2nd ft.
~ THURSDAYS
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pm 834-8378, 3507 E. Admiral
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adult Network (O’RYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’ s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS, Info: 834-4194
I~" FRIDAYS
SafeHaven, Young Adults Social Group, 1st Fri/each mo. 8pm, Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th
~" SATURDAYS
Narcotics Anonymous, 11 pro, Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
Lambda A-A, 6 pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th, 2rid ft.
~OTHER GROUPS
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222
Womens Supper Club, Call for info: 584-2978
OK Spoke Club, Gay & Lesbian Bike Organization. Info: POB 9165, Tulsa 74157,
Short rides, 6:30pro, Long rides, 7am: Meet at Z~igler Park,.3903 West 4th. Pride
Rides from the Pride Center, 3749 S. Peorial Write for dates.
Ifyour organization is not listed~ please let us know. Call 583-1248 orfax 583-4615.
Barry Hensley
~sa City-CountyLibrary
~lany Gay and Lesbian families have
rallies finding materials for children
h depict their family sire-
... In the past few years,
., has been a slow change
te publishing world and
re beginning to see a few
~ for children, early school
and .under, which depict
and Lesbian families.
ae trailblazer ~as Heather
Two Mommies, by Leslea
man, which stimulated
di "~
8t~’~
the
in
we
tifl
ag~
Ne
dis~ usslons across the country
and ’opened a new line of attad
~.on theGay community by
the Religious Right. A simple,
short book, it depicts a young
girl and her family: two pets
and two mommies. Heather
suddenly realizes that she
doesn’t have a daddy and becomes
upset. She is gently
shown other children who, for
a variety ofreasons, don’thave
fathers. Heather realizes that
there are many different family
situations and that she is
lucky to have two mothers.,
A companion book "i§
Daddy’s Roomate,by Michael
Wi!lhoite, depicting a boy
Willholte has a
third,
hilarious book,
Uncle What-ls-h
Is Comln~
To V;s;t.
It concerns a
youn~ brother
and sister who
.have just learned
that their Gay
uncle, whom they
have never met,
is eomln~ to visit.
They ask older
kids what it
means to be
Gay and are
horrified as the
stereotypes of
leather queens
and Carmen
Miranda look~alikes
spew forth.
Uncle What-Is-It Is Coming To Visit. It
¯ concerns a young brother and sister who
¯ have just learned that their Gay uncle,
¯ whom they have never met, ts coming to
visit. They ask older kids what
it means to be Gay and are
horrified as the stereotypes of
leather queens and Carmen
Miranda look-a-likes spew
forth. Their fears are shattered
when Uncle Brett shows up
and tunas out to be a normal,
everyday kind of guy.
Other appropriate books for
young children include The
Duke Who Outlawed Jelly
Beans, a satire on today’s polirical
scene. In it, the Duke
issues a proclamation: "I had
exactly one mother and one
father, and I turned out so well,
I thinkall children shouldhave
exactly one mother and one
father. Any that don’t- why,
we’ll throw ’em in the dungeon."
Fortunately, the Duke
learns the error of his ways.
For slightly older children,
ages 6-12, tryHow Would You
Feel If Your Dad Was Gay?
by A~n Heron and Meredith
Maran. Written by two Lesbian
mothers with help from
their sons,it depicts three chilwho’s
divorced father is in a long term,
canng Gaymlationship. AnotherWillhoite
rifle, not owned by the public library, is
Daddy’s Wedding, which continues the
saga of Daddy’s Roomate. Ask your librarian
to interlibrary loan Daddy’s Wedding
for you from another library system.
Willhoite .has a third, hilarious book,
"She has created an arch of hope that
future Gay and Lesbian candidates will be--
able to walk through." Baldwinis also the
firstwomanever elected to Congress from
Wisconsin.
Another openly Lesbian Democrat,
former Army colonel Grethe
Cammeremeyer, was defeated by incumbent
Republican Rep. Jack Metcalf in
Washington state. A third, Democrat
Chrisline Kehoe, was trailing in her bid to
upset California Republican Rep. Brian
Bilbray.
Gay Republican Rep. Jim Kolbe of
Arizona, bidding for an eighth term, held
a solid l(ad with more than three-quarters
of the votes counted in his race against
Democrat Tom Volgy.
In an Oklahoma rematch, Republican
Rep. Frank Lucas easily won. a fourth
term against Democrat Patti Barby, an
openly Gay OklahomaCity businessman.
Another openly Gay member of Congress,
Democratic Rep. Barney Frank of
Massachusetts, was unopposed for a 10th
term. Frank is an outspoken member of
the House Judiciary Committee, which
will consider impeachment charges
against President Bill Clinton.
In most cases, the Gay candidates and
their opponents kept sexual orientation
out of the campaigns. But 6ational Gay
civil rights organizations poured money
into the races, notably $1 million spent t~y
the Human Rights Camp~gn.
: drenwithGayparents.Ithasmulticultural
¯ characters andcompassionately shows the
¯ reality of different types of families.
¯¯ Don’t forget to check your local library
for information regarding Gay and Les-
¯ bianfamilies. Also youmay call the Read-
. ers Services department of the Central
¯ Library at 596-7966.
"People are taking a stand for traditional
mamage." Not surprisingly, Joseph
Mdillo, who with his partner and two
Lesbian couples sued the state when they
were denied marriage licenses in 1990,
felt differently. "It’ s putting into our state
constitutaon a discriminatory clause that
will distinguish us from other people," he
said.
Alaska’s constxtutional amendment
defines marriage as the union of one man
and one woman. The Legislature put the
question on the ballot after a Superior
Courtjudge ruled infavor oftwo Gay men
who challenged the state ban on same-sex
marriage. The judge said choosing a life
partner was a fundamental right and the
state had to prove a compelling reason to
regulate it.
In Fort Collins, a civil rights proposed
had become especially emotional since
the beating death of Matthew Shepard, a
Gay student from the University of Wyoming
who died in a Fort Collins hospital.
Ordinance 22 would have prohibited discrimination
in housing, employment and
public accommodations on the basis of
sexual orientation.
"National Gay civil rights advocacy
groups built this up as an important watershed
and I think it was," said Fort Collins
lawyer Jon-Mark Patterson, an opponent
of the ordinance. "I ~hink tonightitshowed
most people here don’t want the government
to take a side in a controversial
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by Mary Schepers, DIYD
Your.DIYD is fired and cranky, so let’s
snap to xt, get this fence up and get it over
with. After all, you’ve been waiting three
months to finish this project and it is
getting sooo tiresome. You’ve bought all
of your materials, put
up your posts and assembled
all your tools.
Your beverages have
been cooling and
you’ve got a pile of
pickets stacked in the
yard, and the neighbors,
the Nosey Parkers, are
still muchtoo interested
in your private life. So
put on that toolbelt
you’ve been breaking
in, and let’s work it.
The fence stringers
are the backbone of
your fence. If they are
on the inside of the
fence, you’ll want to
channel" your anal retentive
side and take
Your DIYD is
tired and cranky,
so let’s snap to it, get
this fence ~p and get
it over with.
After all, you’ve been
waitin~ three months
to finish this project
and it is getting sooo
tiresome... So put
on that toolbelt
y.ou’ve been breaking
m, and let’s work it!
particular pains to get everything level
and true. If your neighbors are getting that
side of the fence, one can be somewhat
more cavalier, though not messy, about
stringer placement.
For the perfect stringer array, you will
need enough string to stretch from one
end of the fence to the other, a spare body
for help, and a level. A chalk line won’t
hurt, either. There are small levels that
attach to your string and they are not
expensive; but if you’re tired of waiting,
we’ll make do with a regular level. Measurefrom
the groundup abouteightinches
and make a mark on the fence post on
either end. This will be where the bottom
edge of your bottom stringer will go.
Don’t worry, the tops (and the middies)
will get their chance momentarily. You
can no either stretch and attach a string
line from end to end, using a level to
ensure eveness, and mark the other posts,
or you can use a chalk line and snap the
mark across the posts. This saves time, if
you know how to use one. Attach your
bottom stringers withNo-Co-Rode screws.
drilling a pilot hole slightly smaller than
the diameter of the screw.
You will need help with this if you are
going for the perfect look. ff not, then you
can attach a 1x4 so that the top is even with
your bottom line. Do this on both posts
and use them to support your board while
you drive the two screws into each end of
the stringers. You can remove and reuse
the lx4’s as you go down the fence. The
stringers will meet in the middie of each
post, so if you’re over the length a bit,
measure carefully (twice!) and remove
whatever is necessary; if it isn’t long
enough, have you got trouble! The only
solution-is to b.uy a board two feet longer
and saw off the extra, and darling, that is
going to hurt.
Once your swingers are all attached,
you are ready to start putting up your
pickets, ff you are using Cedar pickets, the
wood is soft enough that drilling pilot
holes are not necessary, but they will be
for any other type of wood; otherwise, it
will split your pickets, and the possibility
of screw head cam-out is very much enhanced.
News Flash: your pickets will not
be even, square, or straight. Sorry, but this
would actually be desirablein wood. Keep
that level handy and use it when setting
each picket unless you want your fence to
develop a curious slant in a hurry.
Set up your first picket so that it is about
1/4 to 1/2" off the ground; put the square
in the middie of one side and move it
gently until the bubble is between the two
middie lines. Attach picket with the first
screw, in the middie.
This frees up your
hands,for attaching the
top and bottom screws.
Put two screws into the
picket at the top and
bottom stringer, about
3/4" from each outer
edge. Do the same for
the remaining pickets,
leveling each as best
you can.
As you approach the
end of your fence, you
will, unless most fortunate,
discover that the
last picket will not fit
perfectly, being either
too wide or too narrow.
Start paying attention
to this about a half
dozen pickets from the end. If you will not
be off by much, you can adjust the spacing
between the last few pickets so they come
out fine, otherwise, you’ll have to find a
way to np cnt an end picket, or to get
sneaky. You know what the DIYD prefers:
sneaky ways are deliciously evil and
always appeal, especially if they equate
with less work. On the DIYD’s last fence
project ( which is also the current fence
project...), a lx4" picket was used in the
last space, and the other pickets were
spaced ever so slightly wider apart without
being the least bit obvious. You’ll
have to play around with it, but if vou
haven’ t got access to a table saw to rip’cut
a picket, it is well worth it, and safer as
well. Rip cuts have a nasty reputation.
Now youare asking yourself what there
was about this project that took so long,
and the answer is the same as so many
others - prep work makes the difference
in any home project. It is well worth the
investment of your ume to measure, level
mad true up any part of your fence before
it becomes regrettably permanent. And it
looks so much more beautiful - mad darlings,
you are worth it!
There. Your DIYD is less cranky now
that you’ve built your privacy fence so
well. Rest up. We’ll have more fun next
month when we freShen up those fired old
kitchen cabinets with a bit of sanding,
some paint, and some more stylish pulls.
Matthew Shepard’s death was horrible
and senseless; it would be more so if
it was in vain."
Kelly Kirby, longtime civil rights activist
and Gay community leader spoke of
his family’s direct experiences with hate
crimes, including an assaultonhis spouse,
Ric, which resulted in over 100 stitches
being required. Kirby also claimed that
each year from 1991 to 1996, a Gay man
was murdered in Tulsa.
In New York City, participants of the
recent Fifth Avenue rally to remember
Shepard alleged that police beat them
with batons and ran into them with mopeds
and that police horses kicked them
because they had no permit for the event.
Police were dispatched to themarch when
about 4,000 people flocked to the event.
see Hate, p. 14
by Esther Rothblum
At a time when sexual orientation and
gender are being viewed as more continuous
categories, there is renewed interest
in the fluidity of who is a "woman" and
whois a"Lesbian." InmanyNativeAmerican
cultures, gender and sexuality have
not been as fixed as in western
cultures.
Recently, a number of
books have appeared on
"two-spirit¯ people," a term
coinedby Native Americans
for individuals in their cultttres
who are Gay or Lesbian,
or who are transgendered,
or who have multiple
gender identities. The term
"two-spirit" is an attempt by
Native American commttnities
to re-define their past
from the way in which it has
been depicted by white male
anthropologists,and also to
distinguishNativeAmerican
concepts ofgenderandsexuality
from those of the.western
Gay and Lesbian communities.
I recendy spoke with Sue-
Ellen Jacobs, one of the coeditors
of the book, Two-
SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican
GendertIdentity, Sexuality
and Spirituality. She
-said: ’¢Fhere are a number of instances
where there are Native women, living on
reservations, who don’t stand out, who.
don’t come forward. The Gay white men
who are out there studying Native American
men don’t see the women because
these.researchers don’ t recognize, these
Women as Who they are with~n their cul~
ture. Not many Native women use the
words ’Lesbian’ or ’dyke’ to describe
themselves. The researchers didn’t realize
that there was a movement going on
within the Native American communities,
the two-spirit movement."
Sue-Ellen Jacobs described instances
of"male-bodiedwomen"or "female-bodied
men" who took on the roles and became
known as being of the "other" genderin
NativeAmericancultures. AsJacobs
and the other editors state in the introduction
to their book: "Using the word ’two-
Spirit’ emphasizes the spiritual aspect of
one’ s life and downplays the homosexual
persona."
After experiencing several years of "discriminatory
treatment," and many efforts
to work out the differences with TCCLS,
Neal contacted Tulsa County Commissioner
John Selph to discuss what Neal
called"theseblatant violations ofthe First
Amendment" and his intention to file a
lawsuit to resolve the matter.
While Neal neverreceived any response
fromhis letter to Selph, shordy afterward,
TCCLS banned all free publications from
its lobbies- withthe exceptionofaLatino
publication, Imagen in the 3rd Street Library
which serves an increasingly Spanish-
spealdng neighborhood.
According to Neal; lmagen blatenfly
violated the 50% local content nile but
said he was told that TCCLS director,
Linda Saferite, approved that violation
because having the publication helped to
traditions
acknowledge that
the he-shes
and she-hes
. . . were amon~
the ~reatest
eontrlhutors to the
well-heln, and
advancement of
their eommunltles.
They were
(and we are)
the Sreatest probers
into the ways of the
future, and they
qulekly assimilated
the lessons of
ehan~in~ times
.... and people..."
." In the chapter "I am a Lakota womyn,"
¯ Beverly Little Thunder writes: "Most
¯
tribes that I have had the honor of know-
" ing have specificnames formenwholove
¯ men and women who love women... I
¯" can understand that theremay be a need
¯ by some to findapan-Native term that can
be used as a marker for the
general population of Native
Lesbians and Gays. We
are all so different in somany
ways, however. Culturally
and physically, we are all
different. Each tribe has its
own name, its own structure.
How canwe all even be
called ’Natives’?... The
words I would like to see
written about me and read
fifty years from now should
be words that reflect who I
am as an individual.’"
Came House, of Navajo!
Oneida descent, writes: "Our
oral traditions acknowledge
that the he-shes and she-hes
(those who hold in balance
the male and female, female
and male aspects of themselves
and theuniverse) were
among the greatest contributors
to the well-being and
advancement of their communities.
They were (andwe
are) the greatest probers into
¯ the ways of the future, and they quickly
¯ assimilated the lessons of changing times
and people. Recent studies into the lives
¯ of she-hes and she-hes have recovered
¯ models or near models of this rich, inven-
¯ tive, reverential, and highly productive
¯ approach t.o k.eg,ping balance within a s~-
¯ ciet~ viewed as an extension of nature."
Further reading, see: Sue-Ellen Jacobs,
¯
Wesley Thomas & Sabine l_xtng (’97).
¯ Two-SpiritPeople: NativeAmerican Gen-
: der Identity, Sexuality and Spirituality.
¯ Urbana, IL: Univ. of Blinois Press. Will
: Roscoe (’98). Changing Ones: Third and
¯ FourthGendersinNativeNorthArnerica.
¯- NY: St. Martin’s Press. Lester Brown
" (’98). Two-Spirit People. NY: Haworth
: Press.
: Esther Rothblum teaches Psychology
¯ at the Univ. of Vermont and edits the
: Journal of Lesbian Studies. She can be
¯ reached at John Dewey. Hall,Univ. of
: Vermont," Burlington, VT, email:-
¯ esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
¯" serve a special needs population. Neal
¯ said his arguments about the Lesbian and
: Gay communities’ special needs were ig-
¯ nored.
¯
Neal adds, "I have no illusion that
¯ TCCLS made this change to accomodate
¯ Tulsa Family News. It’ s likely that given"
¯
the’society’ make-upoftheTCCLSboard,
¯ that the rifles were changed to keep Tulsa ¯
People happy rather than to be fair -
¯
however, I’m pleased with the result. I
: guess it means if you wait long enough
¯ andarepersistentenough, youwillacheive ¯
fairness."
¯ PFLAG - Parents, Family &
." Friends of Lesbians & Gays
¯ Tulsa Area Chapter
: POB 52800, Tulsa 74152
¯ 749-4901
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A Lesbian friend recently complained ¯ .ties. Women may not touch men’s bows
about the organizational shortcomings of " or arrows. Few women anywhere in
"Gay boys - They’re hopeless!" she ¯ Vanuatu drive vehicles. The night before
fumed. That same day, an- any important event, such as
other friend griped about A Lesblan a dance performance or socpacks
of Lesbians invading 17rlend recently cergame, menleavewomen
his favorite bar, poisoning
its atmosphere. Pleas for eomplalned about
behind in the village to sleep
by themselves. TheTaunese
Gay/Lesbian unity ("why the orffanlzatlonal practice the samesex taboos
can’t we all just get along")
shorteomln~s ot7
demanded by many Ameriare
perhaps as common as can football coaches: No sex
jokes that poke fun at this "Gay boys - before the big game! Every
continental divide in our They’re
. hopeless!" evening, men also go off by
commumty, themselves to prepare and
Public constemation about she ~ttumed. That drink kava (Piper
relations between women same day, another methysticum) - the traditional
South Pacific drug
differemntaennd -_good,evokedbad,memoi_nO-r t~rlend gaped substance that is becoming
ries ofmy years in Vanuatu. about pael~s o17 increasing popular in the
ThiSlocatedtropictahline archipelagOsouthwespta-iS Lesbians invadln~ U.S. as a natural relaxant.
Men assert that women can
cific-aculturalregioncalled h~.s 17avor~.te bar, strip away the potency of
Mdanesiathat also includes polsonln~ its kavamerely by touching the
the islands of New
atmosphere,
plant before it is prepared;
Caledonia, the Solomons, and drinkers bitterly blame
and New Guinea. RitualiZed hostility be- ¯ women, talking too loud back in the viltween
men and women is a cultural curi- " lage, for spoiling their kava high.
osity of much of Melanesia. Anthropolo- " Women endanger men notjust because
gists who first analyzed the phenomenon ¯ of their polluting vaginal fluids. Men are
labeled it "sexual antagonism," though " also threatened by naturally female crenowadays
we’d more likely call it"cross- " ative powers. Women are mothers. The
gender opposition" or the like. ¯ children they bear sustain the cycle of
Full-fledged sexual antagonism exists " human life and death. Women’s vaginas
notably in the highland valleys of New " are powerfully dangerous openings back
Guinea. My village neighbors on an is- " into the spiritual world inhabited both by
land called Tanna, on the eastern edge of ¯ the ancestors and the unborn. Men per-
~ Mdanesia, practice only an attenuated " haps fear the vagina as muelx for its lifeversionofgenderopposition.
Still,likeall ". giving as for its deadly powers. It’s a
Melanesians, they have’great ~ear and ¯ psychological commonplace that men are
suspicion of the body fluids of the oppo- ¯ jealous of natural female creativity. This
site sex. Men believe that contact with drives us, so the story goes, to various
menstrual blood and other vaginal fluids " sorts of "cultural creativity" - art, literacan
make them seriously ill. An anthro- ¯ ture, politics, business - as a sort of corn-
" pologistlonceknew, who worked among pensation for our inability to bear chil-
- the Enga of Papua New Guinea, attracted dren. .
much attention with his magnificent and ¯ Throughout much of Melanesia, along
luxuriant red beard, much admired by all. ¯ theselines,meniusistthatalthoughwomen
When people asked for hair-growing ad- ¯ give birth, only men can make boys into
vice, he liked to disgust and appall them men. On Tanna, fathers arrange male iniby
claiming that the secret was to rub ° tiation ceremonies for their sons. They
menstrual blood on his face. : circumcise these boys who then spend six
In many Melanesian cultures, women ¯ Weeks in the bush, isolated from all conretii’etomenstrualhutslocatedinthebush
" tactwithwomen.ElsewhereinMelanesia~
(outside the Village) during their periods. ¯ people believe that precious semen itself
One can imagine that many women look ¯ transforms boys into men. Male initiaforward
eagerly to these monthly vaca- ¯ dons include practices of ritual fellatio -
dons from thedailydrudgeryofcooking, ." young .boys masculinize themselves by
childcare, and farming. Nomenstrual huts : consnm|ug the semen of older, already
exist on Tanna, though men and women ¯ initiated youths. (Gil Herdt describes one
here rarely share the same sleeping mat. " such societyin his book The Sambia:
And a menstruating woman stops prepar- ° Ritual and Gender in New Guinea.)
ing her husband’s dinners. Men, particu- : So, next time those Lesbians (or, alterlarlythosewithrockymarriages,
aresome- ¯ natively, those Gay boys) invade your
times suspicious that angry wives may be " favoriteclub, whatis that sudden chill you
poisoning themby dripping bloodinto the ¯ feel -- is this the "death threat of sexual
cooking pots. : pollution," or a contentiousjealousy over
And if vaginal fluids don’t kill you, sex ¯ human creativity?
itselfmay. Melanesians also shareabelief " Lament Lindstrom teaches anthropol-
- one that reaches back into Asia - that ¯ ogy at the University of Tulsa.
men are born with a finite amount of ¯
semen. Worse, the faster one uses up his " NOW NOV, Meeting lifetime supply of semen, the faster he
ages and dies. Have too many girlfdends : at Pride Center
or too .much masturbatory fun, and you
die young! Fathers warn their sons about " The Tulsa Chapter of the National Orthe
deadly dangers of sex. Dry, flaky skin " ganization for Women will feature Lucy
Tamayo of DVIS, Domestic Violence
~s an early sign of semen depletion, and . Intervention Services, speaking about
those teenagers withunforttmate skinprob- ¯ methods of empowering women at its
lems get teased mercilessly for messing ¯ Nov. meeting, 12:30 pm at The Pride
around. ¯ Center, 1307 E. 38th St. 2rid floor. NOW
Men (and women, too) believe that ¯¯ will .also hold elections for its executive .
female substances may pollute, or other- : board at the meeting. Info: 365-5658.
MY KITTY
but also his leadership on Tulsa’ s Say No
to Hate Coalition. Nor have any other
officials ofOklahoma’ s establishment spoken
out. Our governor says our "hate
crimes" law doesn’t need to address violence
agai.’nst Gay people, though note
that he hasn’t suggested removing it for
Oklahoma Jews or Blacks 7,,.or Catholics
like him.
None of our congressional delegation
has exemplified the compassion which if
they were the Christians they claim to be,
they might show. For example, a few
months ago, I askedPam Pryor, JC Watts,
Jr.’ s press secretaryhow many Gaypeople
needed to die before JC would speak out
against, anti-Gay violence? Obviously,
Shepardi~not enough. Maybeifone ofus
were crucified on the South Oval of the
OU campus, Watts (and that other disappointing
Oklahoma politician, David
Boren) might take the issue seriously.
Butat least withWatts, I still believehis
spokesperson’s claims of some decency
in the man to bother to ask. With The Evil
Steve and his good buddy and roommate,
Tom Cobum, there’s no point in wasting
my breath.
However, given the desire of Matthew
Shepard’s family and friends that some
bit of good come out of the horror of his
tormentand death,let us resolveto change
our state to reduce the chance that this will
happen here.
Passing an amendment to our hate
crimes (Oklahoma statutes, 21:850, Malicious
intimidation...) has got to be the top
priority for Lesbian and Gay Oklahoroans,
our families and friends. Find out
who your representatives are and talk to
them now.
Furthermore, we must demand that all
those groups that claim to be working for
justice andfairness, must end their convenient
silences. For example, if the Methodist
Bishop of Oklahoma can work so
hard to ban same-gender marriage ceremonies,
surely he can finally open his
mouth to say something against anti-Gay
violence. But he must be joined by OklahomaPresbyterians,
theOklahomaCouncil
of Churches, Tulsa Metropolitan Ministries,
our Catholic bishops and all others
who claim to value human life. Imagine,
maybe even human rights groups like the
National Conference for Community and
Justice, and others, like the Jewish Fed:
eration and African-American organizations
will standup to say that Gay Oklahomans
have a right to live too. Imagine.
8LAH BLAH
: police arrived, organizers said scores of
¯ arrestsbegan.Mostoftheorganizers were
taken away first, leaving the marchers
: adrift, participants said.
¯ And at the University of Wyoming, a
¯¯ visiting professorwhois teaching acourse on hate crime received a first hand view.
¯ "I reacted with shock-and disbelief," said
¯ Graham Baxendale, a Ph.D. student at ¯
England’ s Reading University. "I certMnly
¯ was not prepared for such an event here.
¯ One can read many textbooks and the
: academic literature, but until you are ac-
¯
tually confronted by something like this
¯ within your own community, you recog-
¯ nize that you really don~t understand this
¯
Baxendale said hate Crimes rarely end
Only 500 people were expected. Once
¯ in murder and usuallyinvolve low-level
¯ violence or intimidation. The victims of
¯ such crimes typically are selected at ran-
" dom because they represent a particular
¯ group. "Gay males are one of the largest
¯ victim catego.rie,s. for thrill hate crimes,
but ethnic rmnonty groups such as His-
" panics, Blacks, and Jews also are tar-
" geted," he said. The perpetrators of such
¯ crimes againstGays,Baxendale said, typi- ¯
cally are young male adults or youths who
¯ are experiencing the emotions that come
¯ with emerging sexuality. To demonstrate
: to theirpe~rs that they are wholly hetero-
¯
sexual, these people may express vie-
¯ lance and hatred toward Gays.
.. Hate crime victims,’he said, usually are
¯ chosen because they are available, not
¯ because of any individual characteristics
¯ or actions, and because of what they rep-
¯ resent to the perpetrators. Hatred towards ¯
the victim’s group is often manifested in
¯ exceptignal violence. "The perpetrators
: often despise and de-humanize their vic-
¯ rims, so such crimes typically are more ¯
violent than corresponding crimes that
¯ are not hate-inspired," he said. "Displayr
¯ ing the victim (Shepard) by tying him to a
fence is amanifestation ofsuch dehuman-
¯
ization."
¯ Baxendale, who has studied violence
¯ perpetrated by groups, such as the Irish
Republican Army, said it is important that
: the university, Laramie and Wyoming
¯ communities continue to be vocal in their
¯ condemnation of the crime and to show ¯
that the community fosters diversity and
¯
understanding, rather than intimidation
¯ and discrimination.
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Fayetteville Civil Rights
Measure Gains Support
FAYEI II~VILLF~ Ark. (AP) - A "hmn~ dignity"
ordinance that Ires d~vided city residents hexe has won
Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulesns, Our Families + Friends
Tules’s Largest Circulation CommunityPaperAvallable In More Than 75 City Locations
PublicAwareness Campaign
Begins: Gay or Straight,
Everyone Deserves a Job
¯ by Tom Neal, TFN reporter
.’ TULSA - In eleven l~.atiom aro~md Tulsa, Tulsa Transx bus
: stop benches are carrying the message: "Gay or Straight, Every-
: public awareness campaign by Oklahoma’ s Clmarron Alliance
: Group. Cmmrro~fis
¯ cfiminafion based
sMp in Tulsa and which now has two Tulsa board members.
: 4959 So. Memorial. 4400 So. Mcmorinl. 4506 E, I l, 3607 N.
Supportexs quoted the pre~tdmt of the county league -¯ Peoria ~md 60"27 So" Mem.orial.... ¯
t , . ¯ T~x dedueJabl¢ ¢onmbut~ons to suppog. Cimatton s public
Colorado Gov,’s Report:
Gays Due Equal Rights
M~
DIRECTORY/LE~FERS P, 2~
US & WORLD NEWS P. 4
~1~ HEALTH NEWS P. 6
ENTERTAINMENT NOTES P. 8
Z~
COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 8
BOOK REVIEW P. 10
DO-IT-YOURSELF P. 11
DYKE PSYCHE/GAY STUDIES P, 12/13
m CLASDIFIEDS + WEERWOLF P, 14
Circuit Court Reverses "Don’t
Ask, Don’t Tell" Decision
NEW YORK (AP) - Six members of the nfilltarv are in line for
Lesbians: At Higher
Risk of Breast Cancer?
SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - A limited study of
afients at a women’s health clime found Lesbians
1~ a higher risk of breast cancer than beterosextml
patients, according to a report in the Journal oft/w
Gay and Lesbian Medical .4ssociation.
An analysis of 1,019 women seeking services at
Lyon-Martha Women’s Health Services in San
Francisco bet~veen 1995 arid 1997 showed thai
Lesbians bad a higher body mass index and fewer
pregnancies, both previously idenli fled as risk fac
tars for breast cancer.
Eageula Calle. director of epidemiology for the
American Cancer Society. said the study was onl)
a prelimiq,~ look at risk factors and was not wide
enoughin scope to draw general conclusions aboul
Lesbians. "The real question is, ’Is the population
large enough and is it similar enough to the entire
population of L~sbia~ women and the entire popuhifion
of heterosexual women?’ " seeBreost, p. 3
Walk for Life 1998
’,VEST COAST & TIJLSA (AP & TFN) Thousands
of l~ophi turned out in the Puget Sound itrca
to raise money to help fight AIDS. Ten3’ M. Stone.
)’ear, he said.
Als0, an estimated 1 A00 people participated in
y~ffs old Colin Cadarette received the Crystul
Apple award, the highest honor the AIDS Project
Eureka Springs
Diversity Weekend
EUREKA SPRINGS Organizers of Eureka
Springs" secoed Dl~ersit) Celebration \Vcekcnd
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*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
*Boston Willy’s Diner, 1742 S. Boston
*Concessions; 3340 S. Peoria
*,Empire Bar, 1516 S. Peoria
*Full Moon Cafe, 1525 E. 15th
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston
*Jason’s Ddi, 15th & Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
*Polo Grill, 2038 Utica Square
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114S. Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd
832-1269
592-2143
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583-6666
749-4511
585-3134
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749-1563
744-4280
745-9998
834,4234
585-3405
660-0856
584:1308
*Umbertos Pizzeria, 21st west of Harvard 599-9999
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Advanced Wireless & PCS,.Digital Cellular 747-1508 ¯
*Affinity News, 8120 E. 21 610-8510 "
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620 ~
*Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000 ¯
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506 "
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034 "
Body Piercing by Nicole, 2722 E. 15 712-1122 :
*Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712-9955
*Borders Books & Music, 8015 S. Yale 494-2665 "
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 S. Peoria 743-5272 "
*CD Warehouse, 3807c S. Peoria 746-0313."
Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700 "
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504. 800-742-9468 "
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620
*Devena’ s Gallery, 13 Brady .... 587-2611 "
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556 "
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503 "
*Ross Edward Salon, 2447 E. 15th 584-0337, 712-9379 ¯
*Horal Design Studio, 3404 S. Peoria 744-9595 "
Cathy Furlong, Ph.D., 1980 Utica Sq. Med. Ctr. 628-3709 "
*Gloria Jean’ s Gourmet Coffee, 1758 E. 21 st 742-1460
Leanne M. Gross, Insurance & financial planning 459-9349 ¯
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, PsyChotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
*International Tours 341-6866
Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750
*Jared’ s .Antiques, 1602 E. 15th 582-3018
David Kauskey, Country Club Barbering 747-0236
*Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, 4021 S. Harvard, #210 747-5466
Langley Agency & Salon, 1316 E. 36th P1. 749-5533
Laredo Crossing, 1519 E. 15th 585-1555
*Living ArtSpace, 19 E. Brady 585-1234
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3rd 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31 663-5934
*Mohawk ~v~usic, 6157 E 51 Place 664-2951
*Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard 747-6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672
*Peace of Mind Bookstore, 1 40 1 E.~ 15 583-1090
The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor 743-4297
Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626
Rainbowz on the River B+B, POB 696, 74101 747-5932
Richard’ s Carpet Cleaning 834-0617
Teri Schutt, Rex Realtors 834-7921, 747-4746
Christopher Spradling, attorney, 616 S. Main, #308 582-7748
*Scribner’ s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
*Sedona Health Foods, 8220 S. Harvard 481-0201
*Tickled Pink, 3340 S. Peoria 697-0017
*Trizza’s Pots, 1448 S. Delaware 743-7687
*Tulsa Book Exchange, 3749 S. Peoria 742-2007
*Tulsa Comedy Club, 6906 S. Lewis 481-0558
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733
*Whittier News Stand, 1 N. Lewis 592-0767
Tulsa Agencies, Churches, Schools & Universities
AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB 4337, 74101 579-9593
743-2363
587~7314
583-7815
583-9780
585-1201
&Florence
587-1314
747-6300
749-0595
743-4297
712-151
742-2457
*All Sonls Unitarian Church, 2952 S. Peoria
Black & White, Inc. POB 14001, Tulsa 74159
Bless The Lord at All Time~ Christian Center, 2207 E. 6
*B!L!G/T Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr.
*Chamber of Commerce Bldg., 616 S. Boston
*Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th PI.
*Church ofthe RestorationUU, 1314N.Greenwood
*Cornmunity of Hope United Methodist, 2545 S. Yale
*CommunityUnitm’ian-Universalist Congregation
*Council Oak Men’s Chorale
*Delaware Playhouse, 1511 S. Delaware
*Democratic Headquarters, 3930 E. 31
918.583.1248, fax: 583.4615, POB 4140, Tulsa, OK 74159
e-mail: Tulsanews@earthlink. net
website: http:t/users.aol.comITul ~aNews/
Publisher + £ditor: Tom Neal, Writers + contributom: Adam West,
James Christjohn. Jean-Claude de Flambeauchaud, Barry
Hensley, J.-P. Legrandbouche. Lamont Lindstrom, Esther
Rothblum MaD’ Schepers, Member oI The Associated Press
[ssued on or before the 1st of each month, the entire contents ofthis
~u~blication are protected by US copyright 1998 byT~
~ and may not be reproduced either in whole or in part without
written permission from the publisher. Publication of a name or
photo does not indicate a person’s sexual orientation. Correspondence
is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted,_rgust
.be signed & becomes the sole property of T~
Each reader is entitled to 4 copies of each edition at distribution
points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248.
*R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network
Rainbow Business Guild, POB 4106, 74159
¯ New President
¯ Takes PFLAG Helm
Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa - Lesbian & Gay Catholics &
Episcopalians, POB 701475, 74170-1475~ 355-3140
*Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 ¯
*Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 "
*Free Spirit Women’ s Center, callforlocafion&info: 587-4669
¯
Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827 ¯
Friends in Unity, Social Org., POB 8542, 74101 582-0438 .
*HIV ER Center, 4138 Chas. Page Blvd. 583-661 ! "
*HIV Resource Consortium, 3507 E. Admiral 834-4194 ¯
*Holland Hall School, 5666 E. 81st 481-1111 ¯
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education 834-8378
HIV Testing, Mort/Thurs. 7r9pm, daytime by appt. only "
*House of the Holy Spirit Minstries, 3210e So. Norwood :
Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 ¯
*MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 "
NAMES Project, 3507 E. Admiral PI. 748-3111 ."
NO\~, Nat 10rg. for Women, POB 14068, 74159 365-5658
OK Spokes Club (bicycling), POB 9165, 74157
*Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960
PFLAG, POB 52800, 74152 749-4901
*Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674
*The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 74105 743-4297
Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152
749-4195
665-5174
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¯ *Red Rock Mental Center, 1724 E. 8 O’ RYAN, support group for 18-24 I[GBT young adults
¯ O’RYAN, Jr. support gronp for 14-17 LGBT youth
St. Aidan’ s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882
¯
*St. Dunstan’s Episcopal, 5635 E. 71st 492-7140
¯ *St. Jerome’s Parish Church, 205 W. King 582-3088
¯ *TulsaArea UnitedWay, 1430 S. Boulder 583-7171
¯ TNAAPP(Native American men), Indian Health Care 582-7225
¯
Tulsa County Health Department, 46 16 E. 15 595-4105
¯ Confidential HIV Testing - by appt. on Thursdays only
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¯ T.U.LS.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222 ¯
*Trisa City Hall, Ground Floor Vestibule
°. *Tulsa Community College Campuses
*Rogers University (formerly UCT)
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* is Where you can find TFN. Notall are Gay-owned butall are Gay-friendly.
W~SHINGTON, D.C. - Parents, Families
and Friends of Lesbians and Gays this
month named as its new president National
PFLAG Board Member Paul
Beeman. An ordained minister who lives
in Olympia, WA, Beeman is the father of
four, aGay son and Lesbian daughter, and
two non-Gay children. In addition to serving
as a United Methodist pastor for many
years, Beeman also has a strong backgroundinfundraising,
marketing andjournalism.
He has served on PFLAG’ s board
since 1994.
Beeman, who was elected Sept. 12 by
PFLAG’s National Board of Directors,
says he is eagerly looking forward to lead
the group as it presses ahead nationally
and locally in its fight for equal civil
rights. "What a dynamic time this is for
PFLAG," Beeman said. "With two years
to prepare, will the year 2000 be a turning
point for welcoming Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals
and transgendered persons into
full equality in our society? I believeit can
be!"
"PFLAG is all about being able to give
kids back to their parents," Beeman emphasized.
"As with slavery and women’s
rights, barriers to equality will eventually
fall in our communities of faith and in our
whole society. It will happen as we family
members tell the stories of our children
and families and explain their commitment
to stable family relationships," he
said.
Beeman also hailed PFLAG’s tremendous
growth in membership over the last
few years. "Our influence in more than
420 communities across all 50 states is the
result of so many members in countless
rural towns and big cities across the country-
working on the frontlines of change."
Among .his. goals are to assure safe
space foi: all children in school and at
worship and to enhance the education of
¯ the majority of middle Americans who
¯ don’ t yet understand how natural homo-
" sexuality truly is. Beeman will be work-
" ing closely withPFLAG ExecutiveDirec-
] tor Kirsten Kingdrn, who is based in the
¯ group’s national office in Washington,
DC.
Beeman strongly praised his predeces-
¯ sor, Tulsan Nancy McDonald, who dur-
: ing her two-year termrepresentedPFLAG
¯ in Washington, DC, in giving testimony before the U.S. Congress and meeting
¯ with federal officials, as well as criss-
¯" crossing the country to speak out for Les-
¯ bian and Gay loved ones and their fami-
¯ lies.
¯ Members of Parents, Families and
] Friends of Lesbians and Gays voted over-
. whelmingly earlier this month in favor of
¯
a proposal to include Transg.endered
¯ peopleintheorganization’ s mission state-
¯. merit.
The near unanimous vote, which came
¯ during PFLAG’ s Sept. 12 annual meeting
¯ in San Francisco, followed a recommen-
~ dation by the group’s national Board of
: Directors last May to amend the group’ s
¯ bylaws to include Transgendered people
¯ in its mission statement, which covered
~ Lesbians, Gays and Bisexual people.
¯ Letters Policy
¯ Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on ¯
issues which we’ ve covered or on issues
~ you thinkneed to be considered. Youmay
¯ request that your name be withheld but
¯ letters must be signed &have phonenum-
" bers, or be hand delivered. 200 word let-
." ters are preferred. Letters to other publi-
¯ cations_will be printed as is appropriate.
At a 45-minute news conference, Colorado for Family
Values, Concerned Women for America, the Christian
Coalition of Colorado, Where Grace Abounds~ Family
First and the American Jewish Assembly all roundly
condemned the commission’ s report and suggested there
were other motives involved.
Chuck Gosnell of the Christian Coalition said "overwhdming
evidence" proves "a loving, committed marriage
between one man and one woman is the most
beneficial toward raising children and encouraging a
healthy society." "Romer," he said, ,’has used a taxpayerfunded
commission in an attempt to force affirmation of
his personally skewed vision of marriage and the family.
The governor’s already tarnished legacy will only be
damagedfurther ifhe continues to imposehis anti-family
values on mainstream Coloradans."
A statement by Nancy Sutton of Family First said there
is no basis for the claim "committed relationships" are
beneficial to society. ’q~here is no basis for much of what
the commission found." Colorado for Family Values
spokesman Dr. Paul A. Jessen said "without evidence or
support, the claim is made same-sex couples have been
unfairly denied the samerights as normal married couples,
and this denial calls for a redress of inequity, but will not
diminish the rights and benefits enjoyed by married
persons." "Parallel fights and responsibilities," he said,
"is a disguise for homosexual marriage."
ButSueAnderson, executivedirector ofEquality Colorado,
and a member of Romer’ s commi ssion, listened to
the complaints of the groups and said she wasn’t surprised
at their attack. "We’re here," she said ofherself and
other Lesbians, "We’re living our li~,.e.s. We’re trying to
protect our relationships. We’re trying to protect our
families." "We’re looking for basic economic rights. SO
what happens to me if my partner dies? Do I have access
to her pension? No. Do I have access to her health
insurance, likemy colleagues and their wives have? No."
"What we are looking for is something to protect ourselves
when something bad happens,"
She said she was not surprised at their remarks.because
she had heard their position againsthomosexuality often.
"I didn’ t wake up in the morning, put on a lavender shirt
and say: ’I’mgoing to be a Lesbian today.’ That’ s just not
how it works."
While the groups said flatly they had not been asked to
participate in the commission’s studies, Anderson said
she understood a variety ofpeoplefromColorado Springs
were invited, "and everybody said no." But the commission
did go to Colorado Springs and met with conservative
groups, and the commission did do public forums,
whichtheGay community attended, she said. "They were
included as much as anybody else," she said. "I don’t
agree with them and their basic premise. Am I angry?
No."
The report by Romer’s commission recommended
granting same-sex couples the same legal rights and
benefits as married heterosexual couples, but stops short
of endorsing same-sex marriages. Romer made it clear in
response to two bills banning same-sex marriage, he had
established his own position: that marriage in Colorado
should be reserved for the union of a man and a woman.
"That is current law, and it should remain a law," he said.
He wants communities to address the legal and ethical
issues posed by same-sex relationships, he said. "But
there should be no conclusion as to what the end result is."
The 16-member comrmssion was charged with comparing
the legal and economic rights, responsibilities and
benefits of same-sex couples and married couples: The
commission was at that time criticized by people on both
sides of the issue. Some critics say there were no conservative
members who are unalterably opposed to samesex
marriages. Several were invited to serve on the panel,
Romer said, but they declined to serve.
In his 4 years of participating, Colin has raised nearly
$47000. The boy stole the show from luminaries like
Madonna, actor Nathan Lane and a gaggle of politicians.
During the ceremony, Madonna criticized spending millions
of dollars to investigate President Clinton, saying
the money could be better spent on research.
whenColin took the podium, hejust said~"Hi." "It was
so cute. He was very shy," see Walk, p. 10
by Tom Neal, editor & publisher
A week or so ago, I received a call from a reader, telling
me about how she’ d had a very negative experience with
a Hillcrest associated physician. As a part of the discussion
about her treatment, she shared with the
physician and staff that she is Lesbian. Indeed
for a number of medical conditions,
not just the issue of HIV, sexual orientation
can be relevant (see The Associated Press
story about Lesbians and breast cancer on
page 1). The physician.and staff’ s response
was to ask her if she wanted to be prayed for.
And as a person of faith, she said yes -
assuming that the prayers would be for
good health. Instead she found the doctor
and staff praying for her "release from homosexuality"
where all she wanted was release
from a minor infection.
Last year, two acquaintances wound up at
St. John Emergency Room after one took a
duding claims that the highest level ofmanagement have
Perhaps, Lesbians
and Gay men will
have to create our
own institutions to
meet our needs.
Thls is what we
did all over thls
country in
response to the
HIV/AIDS erlsls.
fairly serious fall with a blow to his head. Although this
couple has been together for a number of years, even
raising children, St. John staff refused to recognize the
relationship, denying the very worded partner any informarion
about his spouse’s condition and also denying
access that would have been routinely provided to a
heterosexual couple. This went on until emergency room
staff had a shift change and a nurse, a Gay man, whom
they knew, came on duty and corrected the situation.
Back during the GulfWar and the debate about Gays in
the military, my father, now a retired physician, heard a
few of his St. Francis colleagues say that they,i e we Gay
and Lesbian folk, should all .just be killed. This from
professionals allegedly devoted to the health and well
being of humankind.
¯ Granted these are anecdotes, possibly only isolated
incidents. But they suggest a fai_lure ofTulsa’ s health care
¯
delivery system to deal seriously with providing Lesbian
¯ and Gay citizens with fair, adequate and sensitive medi-
¯" cal care. Not one ofTulsa’s majormedical institutions haS
: adop/ed a non-discrimination policy which would indi-
¯ cate both to patients and to providers that discrimination
¯ based on sexual orientation will not be tolerated.
Now in their defense, St. John officials responded with
¯ speed and concern when they became aware of the
¯ discriminatory treatment which the two men mentioned
: above experienced. Those officials have stated that they
¯ will not tolerate this behavior and also, have reached ot[t ¯
to Tulsa’ s Lesbian, Gay and Bi communities by advertis-
¯ ing in this newspaper.
¯ In contrast, St. Francis, Hillcrest, and Tulsa Regional/
: Doctors (the various ColumbiaJHCA ownedinstitutions)
¯ have done nothing to addregs possible bias in their insti-
~ tutions or to manifest any commitment to serving the
¯ needs of Gay and Lesbian Tulsans
¯ Hillcrest in particular continues to have allegations of
anti-Gay employment practices brought against it, in-
The Polo Grill ¯
by Tom Neal, publisher
¯ Local publicity guru, Tracey Norvell, of Arts Society,
¯ along with The Polo Grill owners, Ouida and Robert
¯ Merrifield, definitely have the right notion about getting ¯
the attention of members of the press wine them and
¯
dine them - quite literally. The already award winning
~ restaurant has two new distinctions, awards from The
¯ Wine Spectator and the Unipro Cully Award. ¯
At a recent lunch, Tulsa media types sampled five
¯ courses of exquisitely fresh and well prepared food and
~ three California white wines, and a lovely Merlot. The
¯ stars of the lunch were fresh North American rainforest ¯
salmon and a very low fat cut of Piedmontese beef filet
¯ grown near Tulsa (though the point of alow-fat cut when
¯" it’s served with a fat-rich bernaise sauce eludes me, or
¯ maybe that is the point, so that you can have the bemaise).
." Service was gracious and attentive, from several of
: Tulsa’s best-looking and delightfully everrso-gay staff.
¯ The Polo Grill is, of course, not cheap but unlike many ¯
wanna-be restaurants in this town, is worth it when the
¯
restaurant lives up to this high standard it’ s set.
: Check it out whenever your budget permits.
¯
openly expressed bias against Lesbians and Gay men. If
¯ these allegations are true, then certainly I, as a health care ¯
consumer, would have questions about the safety and
quality of my health care at Hillcrest.
And a related issue is that of finding a
Lesbian or Gay, or Gay-friendly physician.
You can call the physician referral lines and
find, if you want, a Black physician or a
"Christian" physician but if you ask for a
Gay or Gay-friendly physician, you’ re just
out of luck.
Now if you have lived here for a while and
start to network in the community a bit,
eventually you’ll find that there’ s a Lesbian
gynecologist, a Lesbian general practioner.
a number of Gay physicians from Owasso
to south Tulsa as well as the better known
doctors who’ve specialized in HIV/AIDS
care like Drs. Beal and Peake. But most of
these physicians are closeted, fearing repercussions to
their practices.
Indeed I’ ve only, just found out aboutmore two dentists,
one Lesbian, the other Gay and it’ s my job as newspaper
publisher to know who’ s who in the community even if I
don’t write about them. Contrast this with Dallas, certainly
a conservative place in many respects but whose
community newspaper is filled with choices for health
care providers.
Perhaps, Lesbians and Gay men will have to create our
own institutions to meet our needs. This is what we did all
over this country in response to the HIV/AIDS crisi s. The
Los Angeles Community Center has begun its own clinic
in recogmt~on of the community’s needs.
Last spring Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights"
(TOHR) HIV anti-body testing clinic (HOPE) split off
under the direction of clinic director, Kristi Frisbie.
However, a few members of thatTOHRboard suggested
that the clinic should broaden its health care services for
Lesbians.and G0y-men, remaining true to its origins as a
Gay & Lesbian organization, instead of trying to become
a broader based HIV prevention orgmfization..After all,
while Tulsa has a number of other prevention groups
addressing non-Oay aspects ot ~]\’~IA]~)~, there is no
one looking at non-HIV related Gay & Lesbian health
care, other than perhaps Drs. Peake & Beal.
Even now that HOPEis independent, there is no reason
that TOHRand The Pride Center could not be the site of
a free clinic, perhaps monthly, where Tulsa’ s Lesbian and
Gay physicians could volunteer to do basic examinations
and consultations. Obviously anything requiring specialized
equipment or testing would have to be referred to the
physicians regular office, and some kind of legal waivers
would be needed as well to protect the physicians and the
Center. Maybe one or another ofourGay lawyers rtmning
around could help there? What do you tlfink? Do any of
you care? Let us know via e-mail, post, tdephone or tax.
Ms. Calle asked. "All women should be concerned about
breast cancer and getting age-appropriate breast cancer
screening," she added.
Still, researchers said the study shows a need for more
research that compares Lesbian women to heterosexuals
of various ages, economic and geographic groups. The
study was conducted by the clinic’s medical director,
Stephanie Roberts, and Suzanne Dibble, an associate
professor at the University of Califomia at San Francisco.
"It’s still too early for us to develop specific
mammography guidelines for Lesbians, but our study
shows the importance of encouraging Lesbians to seek
medical care on a regular basis," Roberts said. Roberts
and Di’bble found no significant differrnces between the
two groups on risk factors such as family history of breast
cancer or alcohol use. Nearly all of.the women surveyed
for the study were low-income and lacked health insurance.
Of the 1,019 women studied, 57.6 percent identified
themselves as heterosexual and 42.4 percent as
homosexual.
"For far too long Lesbians have had more questions
about than answers about their health," said Kathy Oriel,
president of the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association,
whose group funded the study.
California Politician to-
Try to Ban Gay Marriages "
NORWALK, Calif. (AP) - A group that wants to .
keep Cnlifornia from recognizing Gay marriages "
collected 675,000 signatures to place the measure on ¯
the state ballot - more than enough signatures to
qualify the Defense of Marriage Act for a future "
election, Sen. Peter Knight announced. "
The measure is designed "to protect our definition
of marriage from being undermined by liberal judges ¯
from other states," Knight said. "Given the push for "
"same-sex’ marriage across the nation, Califorma
must prepare by making it clear we only recognize
iraditional marriage." Courts in Hawaii,Vermont and "
Alaska are considering rulings that "could legalize
same-sex marriage.
Knight was on hand as volunteers hauled boxes ¯
containing 144,000 Signatures collectedinLos Ange- "
les County into the office of the county registrar of
voters here. Signatures gathered elsewhere w,,ere submitted
to registrar offices in other counties all over
the state," said Matthew Cnnningham, a member of
the Orange County-based Californians for the Defense
of Marriage.
The initiative states: "Only marriage between a
man and a woman is valid or recognized in California."
Twenty-six states have passed similar laws and
five are considering such laws. Alaska voters will
consider an initiative on the November ballot that
wouldamend the state constitution to define marriage
as being "between one man and one woman."
Knight, R-Palmdale, introduced bills in 1996 and
1997 in the Legislature to bar recOgnition of Gay
marriages. Both times the legislation was defeated.
He will face a fierce fight this time, critics vowed. "If
that measure is qualified, we’ll beat it back as we have
every time," Assemblywoman Carole Migden, DSan
Francisco, said last week. "It is gratuitous and
polarizing and unnecessary," she said. "The community
will beat it back at the polls."
The measure cannot make the upcoming November
election. It will take several weeks for the secretary
of state’ s office to determine whether supporters
gathered the necessary 433,269 valid signatures of
registered voters. The .measure could qualify" in time
for the March 2000 state primary or for any earlier
statewide special election next year, said AndS" Pugno,
a Knight spokesman.
Assembly Speaker Pro Tern Sheila Kuehl, D-Santa
Monica, who helped lead legislative efforts to defeat
Knight’s anti-Gay mamage bills, said sh’e thinks the
initiative can be defeated again in California. "They
better be prepared for a fight," she said. But she
added: "I think that it is a very difficult thing for a
community tO be forced to prove its own humanity
over and over and over."
only states to do so.
Adoption decisions in Indiana are based on what is
best for the child, and the sexual orientation of prospective
parents isn’ t considered, said Andrew Stoner,
spokesman for the state Family and Social Services
Administration, which regulates adoption and.f.oster
care. The Madison County case is not necessarily the
first in Indiana in which Gays or Lesbians have been
considered as adoptive parents, Stoner said. "It’s
likely it has occurred, although it’ s not something that
people always disclose and there’s no requirement
that they do so.’"
The case has sparked sharp reactions from those on
both sides of the issue. The child’s foster parents,
Butch and Sandy Kimmerling of Anderson, have said
they will seek to adopt the child because they say it
would be destructive to have her raised in a homosexual
environment. U.S. Rep. David Mclntosh, RInd.,
called the adoption proposal "egregious and
¯ morally unacceptable" and urged Gov. Frank
¯ O’B~on to support any propos.ed.legislation bar-
¯ fing homosexuals from adopting children. Opponents say Burton and Lutz’ proposed bill is an
¯ unconstitutional and unnecessary infringement on
¯ the privacy of the adoption process that will deprive
: children of needed homes. "It’ s a completely unnec-
¯ essarv law. More than 25 years of research has dem-
¯ onstr~ted that a person’s Sexual orientation makes ¯
absolutely n,o, difference in his or her ability to be a
good parent, said John Knfll, executive director of
¯ the Indiana Civil Liberties Union. "A lot of children
¯ who need homes are going to be left in foster care."
" ,nti-Gay Attacks Up 81%
NEW YORK (AP) - Anti-Gay attacks citywide are
up 81% this year, and a spate of 27 such attacks since
late August has a civil rights for Gay people group
demanding increased police presence in areas where
the assaults have been prevalent. As of Sept. 13 - the
latest figures provided by the pol.ice department -
there have been 76 anti-Gay attacks citywide, com-
. ,ared with 42 attacks last year during the same time
period. However, overall bias attacks citywide are
down3.4%. There were368bias attacks as of Sept 13,
compared with 38 t last year. Bias crimes are slurs or
attacks that include an element of race, religion,
stxual preference or gender.
Christine Quinn; executive director of the New
York City Gay and Lesbian Anti-Violence Project,
said the Police Department’s bias unit was doing an
dmirable job responding to the crimes, but more
¯ ~olice presence still was needed, especially in the
Greenwich Village area, where most of the attacks
have occurred. Since Aug. 25, there have been 27
such attacks citywide, she added. "The attacks, harassment
and threats against our community have
continued in full force since Labor Day weekend,"
Ms. Quirm Said. "Almost every day a New Yorker is
the victim of violence because he or she is perceived
to be Gay.’"
Police Commissioner Howard Safir said the department
is aware of the increase in anti-Gay attacks
and has dispatched additional officers to the Village.
Buthe saidhe does not think the attacks are prevalent.
"We don’t see an epidemic throughout the city," he
said.
The Gay and Lesbian anti-violence group is planning
a community demonstration Oct. 3 to condemn
the attacks and teach people how to better protect
themselves;
Indiana May Ban
Adoption by Gays
INDIANAPOLIS (AP) - The proposed adoption of
an 8-year-old gift by a Gay couple has sparked a
campaign to bar Gays and Lesbians from becoming
adoptive or foster parents in Indiana.
Word that the Madison County Office ofChildren
and Family Services was considering letting an Indianapolis
couple adopt the girl prompted two lawmakersto
announce Friday they wonld sponsor a bill
making Indiana the third state toban such adoptions.
Opponents called the proposed ban unconstitutional
and unnecessary.
"Their lifestyle is their business, but when they
start using government to promote their lifestyle, It
ta.me.to s.tep I.n, Rep. Woody Burton, R-Greenwood,
said Monday. Burton said he and Rep. Jack Lutz, RAnderson,
proposed the ban to protect children from
the abuse and discriminationmany homosexuals suf:
~er "’What’ s ~oin~ to happen to those kids when they
o ~o school a~nd tl~e othe]: kids at school find out about
~t?" Burton asked. "It actually invites discrimination
against those kids.’"
Burton and Lutz say they plan to introduce legislation
in next year’s General Assembly session. If it
passes, Indiana would become the third state to bar
homosexuals from adopting Children or being foster
parents. FloridaandNew Hampshireare currently the
Controversial Play
Draws Protesters
NEW" YORK (AP) - Theatergoers flocked to the
¯ debut performance of an off-Broadway play, ignor-
¯ ing angry protesters who believe it depicts a Gay
: Christlike figure who has sex with his apostles. As
~ patrons passed through a metal detector to see the
¯ Terrence McNally play "Corpus Christi," about 100
¯ protesters held a prayer vigil across the street, led by
". members of the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal.
¯. Police said one protester was arrested Tuesday night
¯ for disorderly conduct.
¯ "We are inviting people to get. up a~d 1~eTa,ve.w,h~en ¯ blasphemies are enunciated in the play, sam me
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praying for the conversion of people attending the
play."
Theatergoer John Friedman, 34, of Greenwich, Comi.,
saidhe understood why the show is controversial. "It
may not be for everybody, but I thought it really brought
out the transcendental nature of Jesus," he said after the
preview performance. "It emphasized that he was an
outcast."
While theater officials and patrons were tightlipped
about the content of"Corpus Christi," published reports
have said the play depicts a Gay Christlike character
who has sex with his apostles. A brochure released
earlier this year described the play this way: "From
modem day Corpus Christi, Texas, to ancient Jerusalem,
we follow a young Gay man named Joshua on his
spiritual journey, and get to know the 12 disciples who
choose to follow him.’"
In May, the Manhattan Theater Club canceled plans
to produce the off-Broadway play after receiving anonymous
death threats against its actors, audience and
McNally, a multiple Tony Award-winner. Days later,
theater executives reversed their decision, saying police
promised to ensure safety if the play was staged. The
official opening is scheduled for Oct. 13; Tuesday was
the first night of previews, in which a play is generally
fine-tuned before its official opening. No tickets were
provided to reviewers, The New York Times reported.
A statement from the theater Tuesday’ reaffirmed its
support of"McNally’ s right to express his artistic vision
freely" as well as the right of protesters to object "in a
peaceful and law-abiding manner." Most theatergoers
were not dissuaded by the commotion. "It’s all about
free speech," said Candace Simon of Newark, N.J.
"They have the right to protest. The theater has aright
to stage it. I have the right to see it.’"
Churches Re|ect
Pro-Gay Pastors
OMAttA, Neb. (AP) - Two rural United Methodist
churches are telling denomination leaders that they will
not accept appointments ofpastors who snpported former
Omaha Rev. Jimmy Creech in his decision to perform a
Lesbian marriage. The Nehawka and \Veeping Water
United Methodist churches told Omaha District Superintendent
Ronald Croom that they will not accept the
Rev. Doyle Burbank-Williatns as their new pastor.
Burbank-Williams was an early supporter of Creech.
who created a furor when he performed a same-sex
marriage at his Omaha church last September.
Burbank-Williams was pastor of Dietz .\Iemorial
United Methodist Church and of homeless people in
downtown Omaha. He also was one of about 200
pastors nationally who pledged to. defy the United
Methodists" prohibition against same-sex mamages.
Weeping Water church officer Farley Amick said the
rural churches want a conservative pastor.
Burbank-Williams said he would keep Iris name on
the pledge list but would not perform a covenaut ceremony
in churches that are on record as opposed to such
ceremomes. Amick said that was not good enough. He
said the churches do not want a pastor who believes that
same-sex mamages are OK. He said it is a bad influence
for young people.
Meanwhile, a second pastor in Omaha has presided
over a satne-sex mm-riage The Rev. Nancy Brink said
it was the first she had performed at the North Side
Christian Church in Chnaha. The church is affiliated
with Disciples of Christ. which does not have prohibitions
against covenant ceremomes. Brink noted the
ceremony was given near unmnmous approval last
spring bf the church’s board of elders. But the event has
caused dissensmn within the 300-member congregation.
Brink declined to say how man~ members had left
the church over the issue~ Brink said covenant ceremonies
are in line ~vith Christ’s admonition to love one’s
neighbor as oneself.
Utah Group is Anti-Gay
But Suppo.rts Polygamy
SALT LAKE CITY (AP) - \~qfile Gov. Mike Leavitt
has changed his tune regarding polygamy, Eagle Forum
President Gayle Ruzicka still sings the original notes.
The conservative Utah Eagle Forum has campaigned
against civil rights for Gay people, which
Ruzicka says is a question of morality, but she says
men who live with several women in polygamy
"may find support in the Bible.
"For polygamous folks - it is a religious belief
and at least through their religious ceremomes they
think they are married before God," Ruzicka said.
"Homosexuality is not part of somebody’s religion."
Ruzicka said she would urge Utah polygamists
to lobby to change the state’s constitutional
provision outlawing polygamy. "Polygamy has
been blown totally out of proportion," she said.
"These people out there living polygamous lives
are not bothering anybody."
In July, Leavitt acknowledged his polygmnist
ancestors and said he knew many polygamists and
"for themost part, they were hardworking and good
people." While the pracace is baamed by the state
constitution, Leavitt first said there were religious
freedom questions that could prevent prosecuuon
of the tens of thousands of practicing polygmnists
believed living in Utah. Within four weeks, his
position had changed to: "I believe polygamy is
against the law, and it should be." Polygamy has
come under renewed scrutiny due to reports of
child abuse, incest and welfare fraud within some
polygamist groups.
Some legislators may address the issue in the
1999 legislative session. "The next legislative session
will bring a healthy discussion about polygamy
that Utah needs," says Rep. Sheryl L.
Allen, R-Bountiful. "This has been postponed for
too long. It is past due."
Gay Family Struggles
for Acceptance
WATERTOkVN, Minn. (.-\P) - In this insular \ll
lage of 2,400. where bird feeders and American
flags h~g on front ~rches and cl~ldreu ride their
.bikes to,tl~e O~fl) grocery store ~ound, XV atcrto~ n
is grappling with the most di~ isive question
encountered in ve~s: How to) deM wi t!~ opeul
p~ents? Aboui 100 residents attended a
two-ho~ town meeting Sept. 10 at Waterto~
Nement~ School to discnss the issne. Or~mn zer~
stud they ~’anted to create awareness of violence
and hate crones and to invite di~dogne about
and ~sbi~s. ~ae meeting ~ne mnidst ~dlc~ations
that for the p~t two ye~s Robert Protomastcr.
35; Ns p~tner, Brian C~Isou, 35: and their three
teen-age sous have been the t~gets of verb~d and
physicM h~assment because Protomaster and
C~lson ~e Gay.
~e clmms ~e disturbing: Epithets hurled at the
fanfil~, as they drove tl~ough to~vn. Statues m their
front v~d smashed at mght. Homophobic notes
stuck haside their front door. And, most troubling,
stud the fanfilv, repeated h~sment of the boys
wNle they attended Watertown Middle School in
1996 and 1~7. ~ev stud that they repeatedl3
were cMled "’queei" and "’faggot" and that other
students refused to sit b~ them be~ansc they lc~ged
that "’they .. would become Gay,’" said "lqmoth~.
13. "’So f~r a long time no one ~votdd come ne;g us.’"
Michael. 14, stud he was held down b~ studcnts
~vNle one wrote "’faggot" ou lfis :ran. S~hool offitins
did little to stop the harassment, the fiunil~
says.
~e school district issued a statement on the da~
of the town zneeting saying that the district "has a
record of responding appropriately to comphunts
of h~sment." The Watertown mayor’s office
and C~ver County officiMs issned statements the
day before the meeting saying that Watertown
stands agmnst Violent, hate crones and harassment
of ~v kind.
The bow - Jo~, ~vho"s 16. Michael and "l’imo~
thv - spent most of their [iveg in and out of foster
hdmes before Protom~ter mad C~Mson adopted
them about 3 years ago. Although the boys no
longer attend s~hool in Watertown School Distnct.
their p~ents filed a discfinfinatiou complmnt last
ye~ agmnst ~e dis~ct w~th the state lluman
~ghts Dep~tlnent. The case is no~v on appeM.
More HIV Drugs,-
More Errors
..\I.BAN’f. N.Y (AP) - Two ’,ears ago,
o~fl\ a few drugs were availatJle to treat
tti’{’. Now. 14 types of ~nedicatton ,°re
used to treat the disease. And while the
chmaces for survi,,al have increased, so
have the chances for error in the prescribing
of these drugs, hi fact, mistakes in
prescriptions wntten for people with HIV
arc much more counnon than for other
hospital patients, according to a recent
two ‘.ear study. Fortunately, most of the
time the wrongly prescribed medicines
aren’t actuMly given to the patients. They
usu-all,. oaflv make it tothe pharmacist’s
desk. said l)r. Bonnie Purdy, the stud\"s
author ,’rod AI ban’~ *ledical Center cli~lical
phmanacist.
"Without may doubt, there ,are physicians
who don’t’understm]d therapies ~orrectlv.’"
said Paul Volberding, director of
S~m i:rancisco Geueral’s AIDS program.
And because HIV patients can become
resxst,’mt if not treated correctly the first
time. he added. "There’s not very much
margin for error.’" Johi] Bartlett. ~:hief of
itffectious disease and AIDS ser‘.tce at
Jolms ttopkins .Medical Center. said the
stud} findings show a needfor more HIV
specialists. Other studies have suggested
that 3% of Ml prescriptlous written b’,
physicim]s coutai n an error, Purd’, said.
f~ors m ItIV prescnptions rose from
about 2c} iu 1~)6 to 14% this ",ear. Rapid
chmtges in treatments are conhtsi,ng doctors..
Some doctors have even written potentiall
y deadl y formulas for medical care
at the .-\Ibm]} hospital over the last two
vein’s, the report said
()he lily specMist, whose practice was
not studied for the report, admits that the
increase in treatmcuts has been tough to
follo\~. "’it .~ccm> cvcrx three or four
months a ne~ drag is rel~.ased. The drugs
have unforeseen side effects." said Dr.
l)avid l !ermm]. of the \Vhitne‘. .X i. Young
!tcalth (’cater. The :\lb,’m,. c’linic ser,.-es
1 it} lilY patients. Additiouallv. "’patients
mc living longer, mM as the‘. live longer
the} require more ,’rod ntore complicated
drug rcgmmns said I)r. Douglas Fish.
acting director of the lilY medicine divistun
at .-\tbmav Medic,’d College.
Purdx said :730 of the prescription errors
were "’serious" or "’se,.ere. meamng
they could bc fatal or increase resistance
IO dlllgs.-The most connTlon error was
either prescribing doses that were either
too high or too lmv. Most of the mistakes
were made by people who weren’t HI\-
svccialists, the report said. Herman warned
that the nuntber of errors may be higher in
hospit~fls where interus and students can
~vnte prescriptions. The rates of error have
decreased at :\lbany Medical since Purd,.
revealed the results of the stud,, With the
hospital staff., she said. "’We ~]ow pauents
li,.e longer with these regimens,"
third,. stud. "’But if we don’t prescribe
thcm’correctlv, we ha,an the patient."
FDA Approves
New Treatment
W.\SHINGTON (AP) - AIDS patients
got an easier-to-swallow drug as the Food
and l)rug Administration approved a new
once-a-day medicine that offers the first
good alternative foF patients who cannot
take today’s best AIDS treatment.
l)uPout Pharmaceuticals" Sustiva appears
to be about as effective as protease
nfllibitors, the landmark medicines that
have helped thousands of HIV patients
rebound from their disease, tile FDA said.
Ahd because it’s taken only. once daily,
Susti,.’a conld significantl‘.’ cut the number
of pills AIDS patients’now swallow.
:’It really gives soane flexibilit,. ~md some
new options for patients," said Dr. Heidi
Jolson. FDA’s antiviral chief.
But the FDA warned that patients
shouldn’t race to switch to Snsti,.a if
they’re doing well on other AIDS medic,ations.
The HIV virus relentlessl,. mutates
to overcoane drug treaunent, metaling
patients must take a drug until it qmts
working- not switching on the spur of the
~noment - so file’, don’t exhaust their
options too quickl}:, stressed AIDS expert
Dr. Anthony Fauci of the National Iustitutes
of ttealth. But for newly diagnosed
patients, or those whose current cocktail
of AIDS medicines is failing or causmg
too many side effects. Susti,.’a offers a
good option, he said.
In a sixqnonth stud’, of 450 patients
taking the standard drugs AZT mid 3TC
plus either Susti,.a or the most popular
protease inllibitor, Crixivan, both theraptes
were equally effecti,.e. The FDA
approved Susti,.-a. kalown chemically as
efa,.irenz, for both adults and children]. It
is to be taken with a protease inhibitor
and or older AIDS medicines.
The Sustiva portion of that cocktail will
cost almost $4,000 a ‘.ear. DuPont says
the price is.midrange f6r AIDS drugs, ai~d
that Sustiva therapy could sa,.’e up to S500
avear over Crixivan cocktails. DuPont
al~o promised a treatment assistm]ce program
for poor patients, but would not
reveal details. But some AIDS activists
attacked the price; the group Act Up wrote
DuPout this week threatening protests to
"’reveal your greed." Sustiva "addresses
some imporumtissues in the lives of people
with HIV. including the complexity of
taking a large number of drugs," said
D,’ufiel Zingale of AIDS° Action. "But I
.don’t think the company went far enough
m fair pacing... The‘. could pfi.ce this
lower mid still make a ~rofit.’"
T,.pical HI\ pauents s~,. allow some 20
pih~ throughout the day to combat the
virus, timed carefully to take some with
meals and some without. The,, may also
take additional medicines to pre,.ent HIVcansed
refections. Missing e,.eu a few
,’mtiviral pills, however, allows the HIV to
mutate and become more difficult to treat
Sustiva is taken just once a day, in three
capsules, whenever it’s convenient.
DuPonl also is de,.eloping a formulation
that will require only a single tablet a day.
Easing patients" "pill burden" ma,. be
Sustiva’s main" ad,.’ance. With it, some
patients may get by onjust five pills a day.
"I have some patients who absolutely will
only take medicine twice a day," said Dr.
Do~aald P0retz of Virginia’ s Inova Fairfax
Hospital. ’This is a race addition."
Half of Susti,.’a pattents suffer dizziness,
insomnia, impaired concentrauon,
abnormal dreams and drowsiness. Therefore,
patients should consider taking
Sustiva at bedtime, the FDA said, and
definitely avoid driving or operating machinery
if they suffer the side effects.
TheSe are milder side effects than many
AIDS drugs cause, and unlike other drugs
they usually disappear over time, theFDA
said.
But FDA’s Jolson cautioned that Sustiva
can also cause some severe side effects,
and that it has been studied for only six
months. Longer use of AIDS drugs typically
turns up more problems. Sustiva’s
cautions include:
- Some patients - usually those with a
histoU of substance abuse or mental illness
- suffer severe depression or delu-
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- 40% of children and some adults
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Insurance for
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LOS ANGELES (AP) - Unemployed
people living with HIV want to work but
fear they’ll lose .their health insurance if
they become employed, according to a
new study. "Discrimination is still very
much an issue for those Seeking employment,"
said Dr. Ronald Brooks, a researcherfrom
Los Angeles County Harbor-
UCLA Medical Center. Brooks and
Dr. ,David Martin of AIDS Project Los
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said was the first one to analyze employ:
ment issues for LOs Angeles residents
living with HIV and AIDS.
In July and August, the doctors surveyed
5,685 people with HIV or AIDS
who were case-managed by LOs Angelesarea
AIDS service organizations. An estimated
13,000 people in LOs Angeles
County are infected with HIV, Brooks
said. The survey released in September
found about 37% of respondents were
working. More than half of them had fulltime
.jobs. Some of the 67% of those
unemployed said they were disabled. The
majority said they were thimkmg about
retumilig to work ~o increase their tncoxne
and feel useful to society.
, Mayor Richard Riorcl~m vowed to encourage
health insurers to cover all employees,
including those with AIDS. Their
medications alone can cost S12.000 to
S16,000 a )’ear. The law states no HIVinfected
person may be deified employment
because of the disease. But m,’my
sufferers are afraid they will lose their
current health insurance~including Medi-
Cal, and will not obtain adequate insurance
from a new employer, said Los Angeles
City AIDS Coordinator Ferd Eggan.
",’AIDS remains a highly stigmatized disease,"
Eggan said.
Jusfina Thompson, an HI\’-infected
Venice resident, blames her honesty for
her inability to find work. "’If you’re infected
and ):ou tetl people you’r~ infected,
they won’t ~ve you a job," said Thompson,
who now works with Women Alive,
a drop-in center in Los Angeles for women
with HIV or AIDS.
Craig Thompson, executive director of
AIDS Project Los Angeles, said retunfing
HIV-i~ffected people to the workplace
actually would have a positive effect on
society. If employed, they would pay into
social security and pay taxes which are
lost when th@ are uot working, he said.
"It’s actually revenue-positive for the taxpayers
in the long rim,’" Thompson said.
Monkeys and the
Origin of HIV
COVINGTON, La. (AP) - Preston Marx
is still gettiug settled, and it shows. Books
are heaped in stacks, and boxes of all sizes
- some unpacked, manynot - crowd the
floors of his office at Tulane University’s
primate center. Despite the helter-skel ter
appearance of his office, the center’s new
headofAIDS researchknew exactly where
to look for what he wanted. From a pile of
plaques and framed photographs, Marx,
54, pulled out a picture that, perhaps more
than anything else, sums up the nature of
his work. The photograph, which he shot
nearly a decade ago in Liberia, shows a
brightly clad girl 9-year-old girl and her
pet monkey, a sooty mangabey, clutching
each other as tightly as possible. The
monkey’s forepaws and prehensile toes
are wrapped tightly around the girls’ left
arm.
Sunny at first blush, the picture has a
sinister side: It symbolizes the easy passage
between monkeys and humans of a
.simple vires that has developed into the
microorganism that causes AIDS, said
Marx, a New Orleans native who was at
the Aaron Diamond AIDS Research Center
in New York before coming this summer
to the primate center in rural St.
Tammany Parish. ":My work has shown
that the viruses carried by these monkeys
are closely related to the viruses earned
by people in the local villages," he said.
Marx, whosucceeded Michael Murphy-
Corb at Tulane, also has studied the way
AIDS infection develops, and he has con’-
ducted vaccine research. He will continue
in both fields at the primate center and at
the Diamond center, which shares him
with Tulane. In return for letting Marx
move south, Diamond gained access to
what is, with 4,500 monkeys, the country’s
biggest primate center. The two institutions
plan to co_ltaborate on .-kIDS research.
"I’m not onlyOK with that; I think
it’s a tremendous opportunity,’" said Peter
Gerone, director of the Tulane Regional
Primate Research Center. "’Talk about
sometlfing being mutually beneficial." As
part of the agreement, Marx received a
professorship of tropical mediciue - and
the enthusiastic welcome from Dr. Paul
\Vhelton, dem~ ofTulane’s S cbooi of Public
Health and Tropical Medicine "’He
has provided fltndamental underpinmng
of the sinuan innnunodeficiencv virus
and the origin of AIDS.’" said \\~elton.
For Marx, named the primate center’s
senior scientist, flats is his first priority: to
trace the history of the iucurabte illness by
detennimng the origin of the virus that
causes ~t "%’obodv else is doing that,"
Ronald Desrosier,~. imcrobiologist and
molecular geneticist at Harvard Medical
School and Harvard’s New Fmgland Primate
Center. "’I tlm~k he ki~ows mo~tkevs
and monkey natural history very we~l.
This is a niche where he can contribute
and he tries to make the most of it ""
The work, wlfich Marx conducts in the
United States and Africa, may lead to a
vaccine and better ways to fight.AIDS,
said Dr. Andrew Lach~er, a pathologist at
Harvard Medical Center and ~ts pinnate
center, "-[’he tnore you le,’~t about these
viruses. . will provide very significant
clues to what’s different in sooty
mangabeys, where the virus can be
haudled, and humans, and humans, where
it’s not," Lackner said. Which leads back
to Marx’s photograph of the ~fl and her
pet, and the potential for monkey viruses
to leap the species barrier. In villages like
the ~fl’s, monkeys bite people and people
hm~t and eat monkeys. And angry farmers
have clubbed to d~th sooty mangabeys
that devoured their crops, said Dr. Beatrice
Hahn of the University of Alabama at
Birminghana.
Through such incidents, the simian
nmnunodefiency virus, "known as SIV,
regularly invades human bloodstreams,
said Marx, who has worked in :\frica
since 1987. Under normal circumsumccs,
he has found a huntan can elinmmtc il
wi~n 12 weeks. The mo~ev vm~s. Much
has been in Africa more than 100,000
ye~s, c~~nutate in ml attenlpt to survi vc,
but he s~d, the body’s defenses gencrall3
work f~ter. HIV, an offshoot of thc
IN vires, is relatively nee in human~
M~x stud, dating b£ck to about 1950
"~at t~t me~s, in a sense, is thal
there’s a mo~ey out ~ere that donated
vires to people," Marx stud. ’The question
becomes, "X~at’s the mechmfism ’
.. Some~ng ~p~ned in 1950 that caused
tNs vires to st~t crossing over. I kmm
what it is, but I ~n’t prove it.’" ttis hunch:
widespread use of hypodenmc ucedlcs.
wNch beg~ about the s~e ti~nc injectable
~gs ~c~e available to fight dise~
es such as tonga. In countries that
~’t ~forda new needle for each pattern.
ne~les ~e often reused, picNng up Inicr~
rg~sms ~ong the way.
A ~ad~te of 1 ~uisi~a ~tatc Iuivcrsitv
in New ~leans (now the Univcrsit~
of ~’ew Ofl~s) and~1" Mcdic~fl Center
, M~x beg~ ~s quesl for the ofigiu of
AIDS in 1987. ~e quest h~ U~en him
~ound ~e world, including a remote Affi~
b~ where he and a colleague stopl~,d
for a beer ~ter a frustrating day of collecting
blo~ smnples from redcap
m~gabeys in a hunt for a r~e SIV strain.
H~ picked up the stor~, w~ch has bccome
p~t of the Marx lebend: "Thcv
a redcap monkex tied to the b~, ~ating
pe~uts. ~esto~ stud, "We could blccd
that one as well." "" After a pause. !l~dm
delivered the puuch line. ’Thin happcncd
to be the monkey that was i~fl~ctcd with
that vm~s.’" she stud "’Preston told mc
later. "As you can see. I do my best work
m b~.""
HIV+ Prisoners
To Be Separated
GREENVII.I.1L S.(’. {.-\P) - With ntorc
than 600 S. Carolina prison inmates about
to be segregated because they tested postfive
for &e AIDS-casuing virus, one AII)S
expert says the state has far underesu
mated the cost. The state esdmalcs it will
cost St,Q00 wr ~mnate l~r ~eatment. Tha~
is more likely.to k S15,000. Dr. Rick
Altice. ~ AIDS expert m Yale-New ttayen
HospitN in New Haven. Conn.. u)ld
The Greenville News.
In a prison system of 21.0~) lmnmcs.
~ of them t~IV-positive, a system of
providing condoms, sex eduction and
drug rehabilitation wouldbe more effective.
sav some of those who speciNize in
tracing ~edise~e. [nprotccted consensu~
sex~drapes remmn prev~ent mnong
prisoners, m~v of whom don’t know
HIV ~ be transmitted bv unsafe ratercourse,
sMd Steve Nesselr~th of the AIDS
m Prison Project.
17 states have m~datory testing, lto~vever,
one-time testing ~ give pnson
officiM s a fMse sense of secuntv, sMd Dr.
Jo~ Miles, of the Centers f~r Disease
Con~ol & ~evenfion. Without lbllowup
testing, i~ates who~~ey ~c
sine~fur~er spread H1V, Miles sMd. It
~es ~ long ~ six months tbr ~e vires to
be det~mble. ~ficiMs pl~ follow-up
tests ~d say i~ates will ~tested ~fore
¯ey l~ve prison st~ngnext ye~. "AVith
the follow-up ~gsfing, we feel like we’ll
~tch~yone~o~’ttest ~sifive whea
we test~ or when they c~e into the
system," B~Mey sMd.
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~, sweeping tale of prince gels gift. Where between
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DEATH AND THE MALDEN
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Oct. 30-Nov. 1, 1998
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We all love Auntie Marne. It’s pracfiv~
V a orere~uisite; it’s possibly genetic.
~t’-s’not t~ love in a s-tory @’out a bo.y
growing up with a bohemian’, eccenmc
and rich aunt for a guardian? But if you
ever wondered where all of
Marne’s gay friends were (oh,
of course she had them!), you
will definitely adore Say Uncle
by Eric Shaw Quinn. Although
the whole plot rests on a gruesome
tragedy, this comedy has
enough absurdity and sardonic
humor to keep you smiling for
weeks. The characters are so
engaging that they become a
part of your family -even
when you hate them; and
Quirm’s evocative style will
rivet you with your own emo~
tional reactions.
InSav Uncle, Michael Reily
finds l~s life turned inside out
when his sister and her husband
are killed tragically ,leaving
Michael the guardian of
their baby, Scott. Urged on by
his mother and challenged by
the baby’s patemal grandfather,
a conservative former
Senator, Michael’s fights
anaidst a media blitz as his
homosexnality and Suitability as a parent
are "called into question.
The most noticeable aspect of this brilliant
first novel is certainly its brand of
humor. Part Congreve, part Dickens, part
Fierstein, Quinnmanages a seamless blend
of Restoration comedy, bitter irony and
modem disillusioned idealism. The resul_t
is a classic style in today’s language.
Qmma clearly wanted to go for the literary
throat with his debut. The scope and
scheme of Say Uncle is of Shakespearean
proportions. ~a,s an actor lfimself, the author
was possibly hoping for a movie deal
with a cast on the level of Steel Magnolias
(of wlficli this is also reminiscent). Say
said Nicole Russo, spokeswoman for
AIDS Project Los Angeles, which organizes
the event every year. Colin’ s mother
got him started when he was four to learn
about helping others, Ms. Russo said.
The event raised an estimated $3 million
that will provide care for the nearly
7,400 people with AIDS in l_~,s .Angeles
County. Participants asl~ people to sponsor
them for every mile they walk. The
course, about 6.2 miles long, started at
Paramount Studios in Hollywood, looped
onto Melrose Avenue and then back to the
studio through Hancock Park.
Craig Thompson, executive director of
AIDS Project Los Angeles, said he was
encouraged to see so many.young people
taking part in the fund-raiser this year.
’q’hat’s good because half of all .new
infections of HIV occur among 18- to 25-
year-olds," he said.
Here in Tulsa, however, local HIV/
AIDS andcivil rightactivist,Jimmy Flowers,
bemoaned what he called the shamefully
low turnout at Tulsa’ s 6th nnn~al
AIDS walk, Walk For Life held Sat. sept.
26th. Flowers claims therewere only about
80 persons participating in the 2 mile
walk along the Riverparks and that some
The most
notleeable aspect
of this brilliant
first novel is
eertalnly its
brand of humor.
Part Congreve,
part Dickens,
part Fiersteln,
uhn manages
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of Restorat;on
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Uncle’s beauty shines through, covering
~ a span of over twenty years and doing so
¯ without neglecting continuity or cohe-
¯ siveness.
¯ Even thOugh half of the book is told
¯ mostly from Scott’s perspective, the clear
star of the novel is Uncle Michael.
Michael’s straight-forward
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the story and you adore him
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a perfect man, but he"s close
enough, and his flaws just endear
you to him more¯ His
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rapport with his meddling
mother is so similar to somany
of us that you’ll surdy find
new realizations m your own
maternal rdationship. Best of
all, .kfichael fights for respect
the way we all would like to:
withh~nor, ~ace and tremendous
gumpuon.
The circumstances of Say
Uncle wouldn’t happen to
mare of us. \~2tile overall you
mav~ehappy about that, there
will also be a part of you that
longs for it. Michael Reily is a
tree hero in so many ways -
Iris di~mfity, his selfish selflessness,
his passion for life¯
\Xqao ,’unong us doesn’t want
to star ~n a life of feature film quality. Say
Uncle has its realism, and even its absuiditv
is plausible, but in the end what gets
us ior at least gets me) is thejourney of the
characters from letters on a p0ge to human
beings we would like to kaaow..Say Uncle
is the story we would have if we got the
option - and the strength - to enjoy it.
You can request Say Uncle from your
nearest’l"ulsa City-County library br~ch
or by calling th~ Reader’s Services department
of the Central Library.
Adam West is an associate with lulscl
City-County Library S3wtem and an OSU
ah~mus. Hets m)t now and,ever has bee,
Batman.
agencies whi,c,h serve People Living with
AIDS~(PLWA s) werenot represented by
their staff.
However, Community Service Council
AIDS f~mdraiser and organizer, Janice
Nicklas claimed about 100 attended and
that, for Tulsa, that’ s a good turnout. According
to Nicklas, about $5,000 was
raised which will be matched by an addi-
¯
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LongtimeHIV/AIDS activist/volunteer,
¯ Claudette Peterson, noted that she was
¯ unable to attend the event because The
¯ Food Pantry of Tulsa CARES (formerly ¯
¯ theHIV ResourceConsortium)whichshe directs was scheduled to getalargeamount
¯ of donated food that morning.
¯ Walker, Nancy Smith, and walk team, i Soles for Souls brought in the highest
donations. Street School student Kat
¯ Morgan won a prize for her HIV/AIDS
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~ andTerry Russell of Planned Parenthood
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by Ma~. Schepers, Do-It-YourselfDyke
Announcingfencing lessons for the nonathlethic
members of the family! Like the
wise creatures you are, you heeded your
DIYD’s sage advice in the last column
and selected the picket type and size that
suits your needs and
budget, made your measurements,
purchased
your posts and stringers
and are ready to get
nailed. Pardon. To get
nailing. Or, the DIYD’ s
preference for fencing,
to get busy screwing,
because screws are always
the preferred fastener
for fence construction.
They hold
better, won’t pull out,
and make any future
repairs oh so much
eas~er - and we love
easier, don’t we?
The DIYD has certain
other preferences
when it comes to
screws, and the primary
one is for square drives
(as opposed to standard
or - shame-on you for
smirking - Phillip’s
head). -Ihex do not
"’cam out" easily, which
means they don’t get
all cheered’up and ratty
mad unusable, and yoffl,azow by now what
aesthetics does for the DI’YD~ Order the
catalogue from McFeelv’s (800 443-
7937) and you will be ifi square driv~
heaven; of course, youcan order the square
drives from them as well. The quality is
lfigh, the service good and the delia:err
prompt - mad most of us can’t say that
about our exes. can we?
You will be using a #8 scre~v. 2 1 2"
long, to attach stringers t.o posts. ,and \ou
will need to order the"No-Co-Rode’" ty"pe.
The’* will We you good rust resistance
along with strength. For attaclfing 3our
pickets to the stringers, you wi!l need #8
scre~vs. 1 1 4." long; the wood ’*ouve
chosen for the pickets will deterrrdue the
type of screw. For wKite wood or treated
pickets, use the No-Co-Rode screws, but
for cedar, vou must_use stainless steel
because thd acids and volatile oils in the
cedar will seriously corrode an\ other
fastener you use. Tt~e DIYD realizes that
some of this informaUon is a rehash, but
speaking for herself, the old memory isn’ t
quite what it used to be. Remember also
that you will need4 screw s for each stringer
and 5 screws for each picket.
Now that you’ve assembled all ’,our
raw material s, it is time to gather up ’,’our
tools. The DIYD is delighted to inform
you that this is the perfect project for that
stunning leather tool belt, so if you haven’t
indulged yourself yet, do so now. You’re
paying so much for the fence, at this point
you canjustify the few extra dollars for an
accessory that will give years and years of
good use and satisfaction. In adcfition to
the .tool belt, you will need the following:
a good level (bigger really is better here;
don’t settle for an.vthin~ under 12"); a
drill and drill bits (2 drills are better); a #2
square driver for the screws; a wheelbarrow
or very large tub to mix concrete in
(there is an nnapproved method to cheat
this, which will be passed along forthwith);
a hoe and shovel for mixing and
scooping concrete; and a device for dig-
Trust me darll-nCs, you do
not want to d;~ a post
hole wlth a shovel.
too much work, and
requires more
mater~al to fill it.
Oh., dear, there ~oes the
ex factor a~aln...
The standard method is
to use a post hole di~¢er.
but thls too is much too
painful, and you will use
an entire 80 lb. ba~ of
quiekrete to fill the hole.
It is not laziness that will
drive you at thls point to
the E-Z equipment
rental, but efficiency!
ging the holeS.
Trust me darlings, you do not want to
dig a post hole with a shovel. Ugly, too
much work. and reqmres more material to
fill it. Oh, dear, there goes the ex factor
again.. : The standard method is to use a
post hole digger, but
this too is much too
painful, and yon will
use an entire 80 lb. bag
of quic"krete to fill the
hole. It is not laziness
that will drive you at
this point to the E-Z
Equipment rent,d, but
efficiencv! Go rent an
auger and forget the
Ph.D. altogether. You
have two options: a
hand operated auger,
which is just fine in
soils that arc not rocky,
or a gas powered auger.
Hm Bet we’ve
made a choice already.
Get a bit instruction ~n
how to rev the little
darlin" up and you’ll
be sinking more holcs
that an Oklahoman
wildcatter in July. Besides,
power to~ls arc
fl~n, and you’ll get yonr
job dgne quicldy. And
you "ll use less
Quickrete, too.
In order to buy your materials, you have
already measured your fence li~]e. ()nce
again, you will space 3"our posts 8 feet on
6enter for treated pickets and 10 feet on
center for cedar pickets. You will rarely
come out perfectly, so plan on splitting
the difference ou either end of the fence
unless the distance left over ~s over a few
~’eet. In other words, you may have ten
posts 10" apart and have 3" at the end, so
put nine posts 10" apart, and at the ends
have the posts 61 2’ apart. More than that.
put the short section of fence on the cud
you won’t see as often. If this confuses
you. draw ~t out on paper first. It never
hurts to have a visual.
Drill your holes Zccording to your spacing
plan. Go ahead and give yourself an
inch or so less between the posts for a bit
of a fudge factor (you can cut a board, but
stretching it is ~mpossible). Drill the holes
2".deep. Center 3our posts in the holes,
using the level to get the post as level as
possible in the horizontal as well as the
vertical plane. If you" ve never used a level
before, ask someone who has for a few
pointers. It’s reall,v quite easy. Do not skip
this step or the fence will be a disaster and
you’ve paid too much for that. After centenng
the post in the hole, add your mixed
concrete until the hole is filled level with
the ~ound. Use a stick to work the concrete
mix down and the air bubble out.
Always put the post in the hole and fill
around it. The moisture needs to be able to
drain away from the bottom of the post. If
you drill your holes with an auger, you
shonld only need about 3/4 of an 86 lh
bag of quickrete per hole. Let the concrete
sit for at least 12 hours before proceeding.
Cheater’s method: Pour a bag of quikrete
into the hole, add water to fill. Let sit for
24 hrs. Results not guaranteed.
Once again, your beloved DIYD has
waxed eloquent to the point of being verbose,
so join us next month when we will
finish this project. Promise. Until theu,
enjoy the tool belt.
by Esther Rothblum
I recently met with three members of
the Crones, a group for old Lesbians in
Vermont. "We were at a dance one night,"
said.Alverta, "and I asked the woman l
was with, where are all the Lesbians our
age?" They put an ad in the local Lesbian
newspaper, and had to drop
the minimum age to 40 because
there were so few Lesbians
older than that who
were out in the community
at that time. They started as ~
political group, butit quickly
became a social group because
so many women
wanted just to meet someone
their age.
"’And even now," added
Mary Wallmyn, "here we all
sit together in your living
room and wonder where are
the Lesbians in their 60s and
70s like us.’" The women
agrecd that some of the~e
older Lesbians are extremely
closeted or out to only one
"It’s even hard
for older
Lesbians
to meet someone
to be a friend
or just someoue
to han~
out wlth."
sald Alverta.
’%Vhere do
older Lesbians
disappear to?"
other person. They lived through times
that were very hostile to Lesbians and
aren’t willing io be too out, eve!.13o other
old l~esbians..klan3 don’t even hse the
word "Lesbian"- they refer to themselves
as "that wax" or use other euphemisms.
I asked ~’hat Alverta, Mary, and Joy
thought the major issues were facing Les’-
bians over 60. Getting a job mad facing
ageism, said Alverta. Leaving a husband,
coming out as a Lesbian, andbeing thought
too old for full-time work yet not old
enough for social security, said Mary.
Beiug closeted on the job and needing 1o
move in order to live near a lover, said
Joy. Working for a non-profit organization
that has no retirement benefits. Getung
sick in old age.
In fact, thewomen agreed that discrimination
due to age was more severe than
discmninauon due to being a Lesbian.
And many have found this hideaway in
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Early reservations for the weekend are
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Friday, November 6, 8:30pm-12:30am
Kick off the weekend with a dance in
the Basin Park Hotel Ballroom to benefit
¯the Metropolitan Comnmnity Church of
the Living Springs & the Eureka Springs
R.A.I.N. Team. Music by Sisters II. $3
single; $5 couple. 12:30-2: 00am, after the
dance, head over to Center Street So. for
more "family’" fun !
Saturday, November 7, 8:00-10:30am
Meet Charlotte for a trout fishing adventure
on die beautiful, crystal clear
White River. Arkansas fishing license is
required. Meet at the Beaver Dam Store
by 7:45am. Fxtuipment rentals & licenses
available: Reservations: 501-253-6154.
1 l:00am-l:00pm, Take a leisurely float
trip down the White River. Enjoy the fall
colors mad peacefulness of the Ozarks.
Mary had noticed that even the personal
¯ ads in thelocal newspapers had "seniors"
¯ under a special section. They mentioned a
; Lesbian friend who had stated her age in
; apersonaladandgotalmostnoresponses.
¯ "’It’ s even hard for older Lesbians to meet
someone to be a friend or just someone to
hang out with,’" said,Mverta:
"Where do older Lesbians
disappear to’?" the women
wondered. Perhaps some
leave to take care of families
of origin, the)’ thought.
The Crones talked about
interacting with younger
Lesbians. When older and
younger Lesbians become
lovers, people may assume
that one is the other:s mother.
It’s hard to go to the health
care center mad have a 20-
year old woman do the in-
. take extort.
Old women are "called
wise, said Alverta. vet they
are ignored iu meetings that
include yOtmger women. Joy
found that the younger women go off to
socialize together mid don’t iuclude old
Lesbians. But the women did feel that
the) have become more outspoken as they
have become older.
The women remiaisced about living
through extremely homophobic times.
They talked about bein_o in the ntilitary
and Working as school teachers. But now.
as older women, they were living in times
that were more affirming of Lesbians, but
hostile to old women. Yet ever.vone agreed
that ageism was worse in the Gay male
mid in the Heterosexual co~mnunitv.
For more information about the C~’ones.
write to 143 RoIlin Irish Road, .\lilton. VT
05468. Esther Rothblum is Professor of
Psychology at the Umversitv of Vermont
affd Editor ofthe Journal ofLesbian Studies.
She can be reached at John Dewey
Hall, Univ. of Vermont, Burlington. VT.
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Reservations apprecmted
1 l:30am- 1:00pm,Take an historic walking
tour throu~.da downtown. Meet at Sweet
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2:00-4:00pm, Be a part of nature on this
easy hike on the Dogwood Trail. Take in
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the splendid views of Beaver Lake. Meet
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Last summer, I visited Carl, an old high
school friend who lives near Princeton,
New Jersey. Carl and I grew up together in
the same small California town but I did
not learn he was Gay until
years after we had both
moved away. The previous
time I ran into Carl, back in
California for the holidays, I
thought he was straight. Eccentric,
but straight. I looked
forward to seeing him again
in this different light, and in
his own place- a condo that
he and his lover had purchased
a few years before
AIDS cuthim down, leaving
Carl single once more.
We sat digesting our dinner
around the kitchen table
joined by Richard, a recent
acquaintance from New
York City. Contemplating
the dr~gs of my wine, I was
startled when Carl and Richard
began comparing the
relative merits of the sadomasochist
clubs inNYC that
tfiey both frequent. Not just
merely Gay, I also hadn’t a
clue that my boyhood buddy was into ¯
whips and chains and fit-clamps. Carl ¯
enthused that his peak sexual experience ."
had come when once he was "sewn up." ¯
Don’t ask - I didn’t. I preferred to let a
heated imagination race through the pos- ¯
sibilities of exactly WH_AT was sewn up .
HOW, and WHERE. (If anyone cares to ¯
enlightenme, my email address is below.) ¯
Richard advised
ttmt the best place
to acquire such
paraphernalia
cheaply is
your local
hardware store.
Waltdn~ those
TrueValue
aisles, the SIM
eye sparhles at
exeltln~ possibilities
brought to
mind by hoohs,
clamps, struts,
braehets, and
power tools.
~ added leather and clamps to his interests
¯ in music and math. A previous artist boy-
" friend had even recruited him to model for
¯¯ a drawing; and Carl stands there in full
leather and chains illustrating the SADOMASOCHISM
sectxon of
Silverstein and Picano’ s New
Joy of Gay Sex -a volume
that Ihad often meticulously
studied without recognizing
my old high school friend!
As an old-fashioned anthropologist,
I’ ve sometimes
made fun of contemporary
identity politics that begets
aperfusionofculture claims.
Nowadays, everyone has to
have his or her own culture:
Gay-culture, Lesbian-culture,
deaf-culture, black-cultin’e,
Polish-American culture,
skater-culture, it goes
on. However, because all of
us continue to speak English
and to eat the same Burger
Kings, the stodgy anthropological
term for these various
yet connected spheres is
"subculture." But whatever
you want to call it, listening
to Carl and Richard chat
merrily together, it was clear to me that S/
Minvolves a closecommunity with shared
understandings of its sexual world.
These shared S/M understandings in-
" clude well-defined statuses (all those vanetaesof
tops and bottoms ),andrule
governed practices for combining sexual
pleasureandpain. Americans like to regularize
and institutionalize the world as
Carl and Richard attend several well- ¯ much as ~auyone, and at s no s~nse tha
~eir doo~ abour9 p.m. ~~oWo ms~a¢ . corona: i~¢opnytCs ~ ~~ ~/~v~-~mthen
wiles away~~ght ho~s by orga- ¯ ~ on ~ Intem¢t, or even by ~ng
m~ng what I t~¢ to be a series of im- ¯ semin~s: P~n 101.
promptu demonstrations and skits. Up on
stage a leather daddy whips his boy. A
rough dyke strings up the bottom she has
just met. Guys dripping hemp rope enthusiastically
demonstrate, likemyBoy Scout
troop master of long ago, a plethora of
complicated knots. Someone whohas visited
the supermarket unpacks boxes of
plastic wrap and wraps his partner in
yards and yards of plastic, poking holes
here and there in the bulging saran cocoon
for purposes of breathing and so forth.
From all corners chains rattle and hand-
"cuffs clank.
Richard advised that the best place to
acquire suchparaphernalia cheaply is your
local hardware store. Walking those
TrueValue aisles, the S/M eye sparkles at
exciting possibilities brought to mind by
hooks, clamps, struts, brackets, andpower
tools.
This all was a revelation to me. My
image of Carl, dating back to high school,
was of a shy, quiet, reservedboy whom, of
all of us, I would have bet on to die a
virgin. He had outstanding talents in both
music and mathematics-that odd, not uncommon
mixture of aptitude that lends
support toAmericanpop theories ofrightbrained
versus left-brainedpeople. Iknew
that Carl was wall into a second decade of
work on a Princeton University PhD thesis
in musicology-one that was tracing, in
tortuous-detail, a chronicle of 17th century
German organ music. Twenty years
academic slavery in the music archives -
this all made sense to me, knowing Carl.
But years of sexual slavery inNew York
S/M clubs-that came as a shock.Carl had
: A message on an Internet list-serve, in
: fact, recentlycomplainedbitterlythatpro-
¯ liferating confusion in the "hanky code"
was undermining S/M cultural unlfor-
: mity. And one can think up amusingly
[ horrible scenarios where someone sport-
. ing a mustard yellow hankie (seeking the
: well-endowed) ends up witha2am"golden
." shower" instead. (editor’s note: or as our
¯ First District US Congressman Steve
". Largent likes to refer to them. "yellow
". showers.")
: Carl talked enthusiastically about his
¯ vocationasagingleather-boy.Itooknotes.
." Gay-culture mightbe rich and elaborated,
: but the number of roles it allows us 40-
." somethings is limited. What comes next
¯ after "sweet young twink"? Bear, queen,
: leather-daddy - there really isn’t much
¯ ~hoice. I’m heading down to my neigh-
"borhood TrueValue soon.
Lamont Lindstrom is a professor of
anthropology at the University of Tulsa.
Contact him at: lamont_.tu@ionet.net
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Sapulpa Teen Flees Bias
SAPULPA, Okl~ (AP) -The 17-year-old son ofa local
school board member has faced threats and harassment
because of his sexual orientation, but the boy’s father
said his other children will remain in the suburban
district. Will .Allen, a junior at Sapulpa High School,
will attendTulsaW~hingtonHigh School whenthefall
semester begins Aug. 12. The family requested the
transfer in February, his father, Sam Allen, said.
Allen said Will has been vexed and tormented by his
~.2assmates for the past two years because of his sexual
Orientation. ;The Allen family appeared recently on
NBC’s "The Today Show"; and Will encouraged other
young Gay men and women to confide in people with
whomtheyfeltcomfortable. ’Tvehadmany Gayfriends
who have been kicked out of their homes, treated very
poorly - physical abuse," he said. "The first thing you
should do .is find somebody, maybe,not your parents,
who you know and feel positive that ~hey can give you
the support that you need."
Will was inMichigan atamusic academy andwas not
available for comment.
Sapulpa school officials issued a news release that
! US House Votes t.o Limit City’s
!Partner Benef,ts to Gays
: WASHINGTON (AP) -Despite charges of bigotry and interfer-
~ ence in local government, the House in July voted to prohibit the
: s.pe.nding .of fed.eral, money o.n programs implementing a civil
: rights o_r.dinzncem.S.an Francasco. The measure, offered by Rep.
o Frank Ri.g.gs, .R.-Calif., was approved 214-212 as an amendment
: to a sPe~.ding bill forhous..rag, veterans programs, environmental
¯ protecaon, space and funding for the arts.
: Supporters said they hoped to get the provision removed
¯ during negotiations to reconcile the House bill with a yet-to-be
" approved Senate version. The Riggs amendment prohibits any
¯ money in the $94 billion spending bill to be used to implement
a San Francisco ordinance that requires employers doing bus|-
¯ ness withthecity toprovidehealthandotherbeuefits to same-sex
¯ partners. "We should not force or coerce (private business) to
¯ adopt policies they t-rod morally objectionable," Riggs argued in
¯ a heated debate.
¯ Rep. Patrick K.,e~n,edy, D-R.I., called it a "mean-spirited,
bigoted amendment’ and other opponents said it was an assault
¯ onlocalautonomy."Italtacks homernleinevery city in America,"
¯ declared Rep. Dennis KucinidL D-Ohio, a former mayor of
: Cleveland. "It’s a move back to the days of witch hunting, back
¯ to the days oftellingpeople what they should and should not do,"
¯ complained Rep. Danny Davis, D-Ill. He said the amendment
¯ threatens programs in San Francisco that help the homeless and
¯ thetreatment ofAIDS patients as well as scores ofotherprograms
: that rdy in part on federal support.
¯ Rep. Nancy Pelts|, D-Calif., said the city negotiated with
~" Catholic Charities, which had balked at the ordinance, and
¯ reached an accommodation, and compromises were expected to
be worked out with other businesses. "I don’t know why Mr.
¯ Riggs wants to create a war," she said in strong opposition to the
¯ measure. Pelts|,whorepresents SanFrancisco, called theamend-
" ment an affront to home rule and Said "the city of San Francisco
’~ is not forcing anyone to act against their principles?’
¯ More than adozen lawmakersspoke emotionally against the
.: amendment, . see Attack, p. 3
¯¯ Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual + Transgendered Tulsans, Our Families + Friends Tulsa’s Largest Circulation Community PaperAvailable In More Than 75 City Locations
stated the district"does not condoneor tolerate harass- ~. ment of students foranyreason)’"We have comprehen- Surgeon .G,:e=,. neral Compares
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Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays,
arranged for the television appearance. Will’s situation
is cotfimon for homosexual teen-agers, Ms. McDonald
said. "Some (schools) are doing a great job, and some
are sticking their heads in the sand," she said. "We’re
just beginning to work with Tulsa-area schools."
Allen said he had no complaints about the Sapulpa
district and said his two other children will continue to
attend Sapulpa schools. He also has no plans to step
down from the school board. ’‘The community support
has been wonderful," he said.
: WASHINGTON (AP) - Recalling his childhood in the segre-
¯ gated South, Surgeon General David Satcher compared the fight
: against AIDS, which is hitting the Black community hard, to the
-’: struggle for civil rights. Speaking to one of nation’s oldest civil
.: rights groups, he called on Black leaders to reject stereotypes
¯ around AIDS, overcome shyness about sex and confront the
[ issue. ’‘This is anareawhere weagain need to mobilize," Satcher,
." who is Black and grew up in Alabama, told the Southern Chris-
: tian Leadership Conference in a speech Tuesday. ’Tm talking to
¯ you about you."
While Blacks make up 13% of the U.S. population, they
¯ account for 57% of the new infectious, according to the federal Family of Faith to Present : CentersforDiseaseControlandPrevention.Amongsomegroups,
¯ the statistics are even more striking: Blacks and Hispanics make Noted Christian Singer
TULSA -Marsha Stevens, composer of For Those
Tears I Died (Come to the Water), will perform a free
concert at Family of Faith Metropolitan Commlmity
Church on Saturday, Sept.. 5th at 7:30 at 5451e South
Mingo as wall as at Family of Faith’s regular Sunday
evemng service on Sept. 6th at 5pm.
Stevens’ song, For Those Tears... has become a
standard of evangelical Christian hymnals since 1972
even though the songwriter experienced rejection and
scorn from part of the church since she came out as a
Lesbian. Active in the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan
Community Churches (UFMCC), Stevens performs
over 150 concerts a year and has recorded six solo
albums and a concert video on her independent BALM
(Born Again Lesbian Music) labd. She now ministers
with the SW UFMCC district. Info: 622-1441.
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: up 82% of HIV-positive women ages 13 to 24. Andlife-prolong-
" ing AIDS drugs are helping whites more than Blacks. In 1996,
¯ deaths among whites with AIDS were down 28%; for Blacks, it
¯ was just 10%.
¯ The Southern Christian Leadership Conference’s new presi-
¯ dent, Martin Luther King III, underscored the difficulty ofAIDS
¯ education, saying he is not comfortable promoting use of con-
" doms. "The only way is abstinence," he said in an interview after
¯ Satcher’s speech. "Sex should not be something that we just
: casually engage in and take lightly." The solution, King said, is
¯ restoring fundamental values to society. He said AIDS is an
¯ important issue, although it is not among his top priorities.
Satcherdid notrecommendany particularprevendon strategy.
" But he and other public health experts agree that use of condoms"
¯ is essential to halt the spread of HIV among people who are not
: likely to abstain from sex. The surgeon general will hammer the
~ AIDS message in upcoming speeches to Black journalists and
¯ doctors, and he plans to reach out to other groups such as Black
¯ fraternities, sororities and newspapers.
¯ But his speech to church leaders was particularly important.
¯ Churches play a central role in many Black communities, and
¯ ministers are,often among the most prominent community lead-
,: ers. But church leaders have been reluctant to talk about AIDS
¯ because it relates so closely to sex and homosexuality, Satcher
¯ says. The issue is also thorny because of its relationship to drug
¯ use, amajorprobleminside the Blackcommunity withits ownset
¯ of taboos, see Surgeon,p.ll
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AMSTERDAM, Netherlands (AP) - From skimpily
clad revelers to Bible-toting evangelists, the
Gay Games are drawing an eclecdc crowd for
weeklong festivities ce,!ebrating Gay pride and
culture. With the,,theme Friendship Through Culture
and Sports, the quadrennial Olympics-style
sports festival begins Saturday, offering competitors
everythingfrom ballroom dancing to wrestling
and more cerebral pastimes such as bridge and
chess.
This is the
first time the Gay
Games are being
held in Europe
since they beganin
San Francisco in
1982. New York
City was the site
¯ of the last Games
¯ in 1994; Sydney,
¯ site of the Summer
Olympics in 2000,
¯ will have the first
¯ Tulsan CliffBaileyis compet- southern hem|-
¯ ing in this year’s Gay Games .sphere Gay Games
¯ in Amsterdam, accompanied in 2002.
¯ by his spouse Chris Ritthaler. The opening
night’s ceremony
¯ will feature the Israeli transsexual pop star Dana
¯ International, who gained fame- and notoriety-in
¯ May after winning the 25-nation Eurovision song
¯ contest and incensing Orthodox Jewish leaders at
¯ home.
¯ Some 30 competition sports will be available at
¯ these games, which run through Aug. 8. But with-
" out top-level athletes, they threatened to be eclipsed
¯ by the many parties outside the stadium.
¯ Amsterdam is renowned for its tolerance and its
¯ lively Gay community, so these games are almost
~:. inconspi~ug~s, ap.ar~ [rg~ so,me posters and a few
~ more same:~e~couples than USUal-:strolling arm-in-
¯ arm a!Orig the canals.
With up to 14,000 participants and 200,000 visi-
¯ tors in town, the Dutch capital is about to be
¯ transformed into the ultimate Gay hangout with
¯ enough temptations to satisfy even the most vigor-
. ous partygoer. There are transvestite shows and
¯ drag queen contests. For the more athletic, there’s
¯ even oil wrestling.
One top attraction officially has nothing to do
¯ with the Gay Games: Saturday’s yearly canal pa-
: rade of decorated boats. Games organizers prom-
- ised a flotilla of Gays and Lesbians on the city’s
¯ famous medieval waterways. But not everyone
¯ will be party-hopping. For the straight-laced and
intellect’ual types-; there are plenty of alternatives,
including art exhibits, symposiums on Gay and
¯ Lesbian issues, and cooking shows.
¯ Participants might get a dose of religion. Up to
¯ 100 representatives from the international evange-
¯ lism group Youth With a Mission plan to stage
[ C.hristian-themed street dramas and pray with par-
¯ Uopants. "God wants to care for people whether
¯ they are homosexuals or heterosexuals," YWAM
¯ spokeswoman Nelleke Bosshardt said.
Sigrid Johannisse of the Netherlands, who will
". be competing in the badminton competition, said
¯ she’s searching for fun and friendship. Even so, she
¯ hopes the Gay Games one day will disappear as
Gays become more accepted.
¯ Although heterosexuals are welcome to com-
" pete, few do, triggering criticism within the Gay
¯ community that the games createneedless segrega-
¯ don. "! hate all the separation," said Johmmisse, a
¯ 33-year-old art historian. "in sports, there isn’t so
¯ much integration.., it was just easier to play with
¯ Gay people."
¯ Eddy Feenstra has a more carefree attitude as he
¯ prepares to compete in ballroom and Latin Ameri-
¯ can dancing with partner Tonny Aliens. Girding
¯ for victory, Feenstra says "I am doing it for the
¯ fun," he said. "I would also like to show off what I
¯ am good at."
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Keep Up the Good Work
Thanks for your paper. It is a welcome
relief from the crosstown neo-fascist
infotainment weekly, i particularly enjoyed
last issue’s cover story about SenatorNickles,
presumably the selfsame Senator
once knownfor closeting himself with
a reputedly Gay [Oklahoma] . fellow politico,
but who now wishes to protect the
Luxembourgians from the possibility of
an "immoral" ambassador. From what I
understand, the Luxembourgians aremuch
less concerned with the comings and goings
.in an ambassador’s, boudoir than is
Sen. Nickles.
As a politically leftist straight older
male, I naturally fmd common cause with
the Gay community: when the good Senator
and the Right good Rev. Phelps get
finished with the queers, they’ll be after
me next. I applaud your efforts to establish
dialogue with straightminority groups
who have themselves been the targets of
bigotry an discrimination. Ifwelearnnothing
more from History, at least we should
know that solidarity is the only hope for
the oppressed, and perhaps the best defense
from the excessively repressed.
This town needs a paper that gives
voice to all those outside the power elite,
performing the traditional role of the
Fourth Estate: to hold our governments
accountable for their actions, and to protect
the liberties of the individual. Keep
up the good work. - Keith Bolton, Tulsa
: A Letter from RAIN Oklahoma
," Thank you for providing me with providing
me with a way to address some
questions and concerns I’m aware of re-
"¯ garding a policy for volunteers that
RAIN’ s Board of Directors approved and
¯ that RAIN Staff are now charged with,
’ implementing. The policy in question is
". in regard to criminal history reports now
¯ being performed (with the volunteer’s
¯ permission) for all new volunteers effec¯
tive June 1, 1998 and gradually incorporating
such reports on all volunteers by
: March 1, 1999.
¯ I ask readers to consider the nature of ¯
¯ RAINvolunteers’ service topeopleliving
with HIV/AIDS [PLWA’s] and those in
; theirhouseholds. Volunteers provide non-
¯ medical,non-technical careto [PLWA’s],
"- most often in the RAIN client’s home.
¯ The services vary, depending on the ex-
." pressed needs and the volunteerrs avail-
- ability, but can include transportation,
¯ meal preparation, housecleaning, child
; care, pet care, and social outings. Emo-
; tional support is often a Valuable compo-
¯ nent of the relationship between RAIN
¯ Client and volunteer.
¯ RAIN’s Board of Directors and staff
¯ realized that we have a tremendous responsibility
to do what we can to ensure
¯ thesafety ofchildrenandvulnembleadults
¯ that volunteers contact: The policy was
: not-initiated naively or without regard to
¯ potential negative consequences. In a fo- ¯
cus group with volunteers many months
¯ ago, responses ranged from "against it
¯ -under any circumstance" to "yes, absoi
lutely, I support this fully." see RAIN, p.3
: Letters Policy
¯ Tulsa Family News welcomes letters on ¯
issues which we’ve covered or on issues
¯ you think need to be considered. Youmay
¯. request that your name be with/add but
¯ letters mustbe signed&have phone num-
" bers, or be hand delivered. 200 word let-
. ters are preferred. Letters to other publi-
¯ cations will be printed as is appropriate.
Rev, Howard vsthe Evil Steve
by Tom Neal, editor & publisher ".
Severalyears ago whenUS Congressman Steve Largent "
firstranforoffice, this newspapermet withLargent, athis ¯
request, andafterwards I argued, despiteLargent’s record ¯
of bigoted,.anti-Gay comments and his association with "
radical extremist religio~political groups, for an initial ¯
policy of tolerance for Herr Largent. I’d hoped that ¯
Largent might just really believe in real Christian and "
American values of loving and respecting not only your "
neighbor but also the US Constitution. He sure tried to
sweet-talk us that way.
And to be fair, Steve did agree to a town hall meeting "
with Tnlsa’s Lesbian and Gay community - something "
none of his predecessors had ever done, certainly not the ¯
Idiot Congressman Inhofe (now US Senator and in competition
with Ernest "
Istookfor mostembar- "
rassing Oklahoman in
Washington) but not ¯
even the Democrat, "
Jim Jones, who’d held "
the seat before. ¯
But obviouslyI was "
wrong. Nomatterhow "
Largent may want to
see himself as just a
nice guy, he’s chosen "
to promote rdigious "
extremism and to surround
himself with "
folks so bigoted that "
they make him look a "
littlebit~m,oderate. His ."
chief of staff, Terry
US Rep. Steve Largent making Allen, thepoliticalex- "
those endorsement dollars by tremist calling the "
showing offhis son in his Hanes plays for our football ."
underware. Yep, Steve andsome hall-of-famer, comes ¯
of those Republicans sure know to mind. Actually "
about thosefamily values. Steve’s not moderate ¯
but his staff is openly
hate~:.t.o~ir Lesbian aod Gay constituents while Steve
.... a~’[d.~t~tu§~ly is polite. "
Now Steve et al will argue that their radicalism is just
repres.enting the views of the First District (which is more
or less Tnlsa county). But as a nearly lifelong Tnlsan (my
f,am~ly moved here from Oklahoma City in 1960), I just
don t ihink So. Yes, wedo have a sufficiency of Baptists,
Methodism, and also those no-name, make-it-up-as-yougo-
along~they-claim-they-areChriStians, many ofwhom
seem to think that their faith demands that they hate their
nexgt~bor as tlaey would be loved. Or.who engage in the
profoundly insincere rhetoric of claiming "to love the
person and to hate the ’sin’:" Often one wonders if these
types on meeting Christ would not reject Him as a "longhairedcommie,
pinko-fag."
But I don’t believe that these types represent the
majority of Tulsans, and regardless, given the values of
the Declaration of Independence and our Constitution, ¯
minority civil fights are not supposed to be subject to the
tyranny of the majority. And I believe that many Tulsa "
Baptists, Methodists, Jews, Muslims, Pagans and non, "
believers recognize that once the power of the govern- ¯
merit is used to promote a particular religious agenda, ¯
each tradition could be targeted just as Lesbian mad Gay "
citizens are the target du jour. ’
So, it is with some relief to learn that a brave soul, the ’
Reverend Howard Plowman, retired Methodist pastor,
has announced his willingness to face the football bully..
According to The Yellow Dog Democrat, the newsletter ¯
of the Oklahoma Democratic Party, Rev. Howard will ¯
challenge the ,hard-core Christian Coalition which has ¯
done a disservice to all political parties..." He adds, "1 "
resent them taking a Christian name and pretending-to: ]
have no other agenda..." Plowman, 73 years old, with ..
kids and grandkids, went to Tulsa Public Schools,TU and "
SMU’s Perkins School of Theology.
This newspaper certainly agrees that the so-called ¯
Christian Coalition has done a disservice to all Ameri- ¯
cans who believe in real religious freedom and have "
respect for America’s rich diversity. And I applaud Rev. "
Howard and his spouse and family for being willing to ¯
stand up against the Evil Steve. Tulsa deserves better. ¯
Editor’s note: More information is available about ¯
Plowman ’for Congress by writing to 3617 East 48th "
Place, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74.135. ¯
by James Christjohn
Greetings! Welcome to a new occasional colunm, one
that I hope you will fred interesting. The focus is to
comment on the world around us with the perspective of
being a Gay man in a diverse world. Topics will have a
wide range, from frivolity to high drama to serious issues
that affect us all. In this exploration, the question will
always be: What exactly is a Gay lifestyle?
I had an acquaintance once remark to me
"I don’t approve of your lifestyle, but I like
you." My first thought was "Well, I don’t
approve of your lifestyle, but I accept it as
part of you without comment: Who the hell
are you to judge me?" Before I did so, I
thought to myself, ’q’hat is not her rational
mind speaking, it’s her brainwashing coming
through. She doesn’t know any better.
She knows not what she speaks." I had to
ponder thatfor awhile. Itwas terribly tempting
to ask, "Does your brainknow what your
mouth is saying?"
I began pondering: what the hell is a Gay
lifestyle, anyway? There are perceptions,
usually starting witha"mis", that the straight
world has of Gay folk, and our so called
lifestyles, such as apparently we spend 90%
of our time in Gay bars in the pursuit of sex.
I know.that there are some folk who like to
go clubbing, straight and Gay, I know some
folk who do drugs, straight and Gay, I know
some folk who are promi.scuous (yes, even x
years into the AIDS epidemic), again, both
straight and Gay, - and I know many folk
who do none of those things. Yet, in the
straight world, we are all lumped under a
stereotype of eternal drugging, drinking,
slutty behaviors. Why is this, and.do we
need to hire publicity firms to turn theimage
around?
Thus I
dragged,
kicking and
sereamina, out
of the closet
by two very
curious Baptist
women from
Q)dessa-latlon,
Texas¯
And despite all
" my f~ars~
notlang
happened.
In fact, when I
leh, they were
very qulch to
tell me I
replaced
another
Gay man . . .
¯ and they still want me. Another time, I was copying some
¯ recipes out of a book in the office, when the same sister
; noticed and said, "Oh, you like to cook? You’ll make
¯¯ some wo - person a wonderful hus - mate."
Well, the cat was definitely coming out of the closet
¯ then. Shortly thereafter, I met my future mate, and all of ¯
a sudden, there was much curiosity about my life, which
I kept sidestepping, still fearing I could lose
ajob. It came to ahead one evening when I
was drawing plans ofTom’ s apartment, and
trying to figure out how to combine stuff,
furniture, etc. Cyndee, the boss, came over
and was looking over my shoulder. She
noted I had not drawn another bed, and
remarked "So, where ya golma put your
bed? or are ya gonna sleep with him?" It
was so surprisingly I my only response was
-- ..u..hhh ~ ana men to oraw in a bed real fast.
It was utterly silly, and she was letting me
know that she knew and it was no big deal,
.she had known, and now I knew she knew.
After that, the questions were exhausting.
The next year was one big Gay 101
Question and Answer session, as I ,demythified
Gayhood (Gaydom?) to them and
did no small amount of education. Cyndee
even shielded me from a stalker who’d
become obsessed with me, and nearly had
him arrested for calling the business repeatedly.
That was not fun, but it was notable in
the way she was ready to defend me. They
came from Irish stock, and Cyndee mad was
a sight to avoid.
And I became the one to turn to when
Annie, the other sister, was planning parties.
Which she did. A lot. I was the one
draftedinto helping herdo artsy-crafty things
for her parties, and when she was selecting
new furniture, I was always asked for de-
¯ I tend to think that theimagecanbe turned
arotmd,though it will mked~ne, ~aad lots ofpatiehee:The
¯ woman I referred to before may have a different image of
: Gay people than what she’d been brainwashed into be-
¯ lieving because we knew each other. Maybe not a magic
." transformation, but a little logic, here and there,:can add
¯ For example, I worked for three years in a physical
¯ therapy office, for two small.town Baptistwomenl It was ¯
a nice job, and I liked them, so I didn’t talk about myself
¯ much for fear oflosing thejob:! was rather silly. TI~first
¯ day f worked there, "a client came in and demanded that
¯ one of the "purty wimmin" do his therapy because he
didn t want no pansy-assed faggot to touch him. Well,
¯ we were both nonplused. I thought I was pretty low key,
¯¯ having left the bright, hotpinkneon"QueerHere" sign at
¯ home.
After h~ left, one of the sisters begged me not t6 quit,
saying their clients were not all like that, and he was an
exception, not a rule. Wall, I thought, at least they know,
¯ sign opinions. I guess it’s part of the Gay gene, that interior d(sign comes with it. (I really had no
talent forit, but it was a misconception that wouldil’t die.
No matter how hard I tried to dispel the myth that not all
Gay men had impeccable taste, even to the extent of
describing my past relationships.)
Thus was I drug, kicking and screaming, out of the
closet by two VerY curious Baptist women from Odessalation,
Texas. And despite all my fears, nothing bad
happened. In fact, when I left, they were very quick to tell
me I was being replaced with another Gay man, who’d
actually made a pass at their very handsome but terribly
straight brother. Apparently, the strategy worked.
I had a point in all this somewhere. Oh yes, it is by
events like these - and not being afraid to be who we are
- that this whole mythification of what we are can be
¯changed. It’s not always the loud voices that help create
change, sometimes it’s the whisper on the wind. And in
that way, everyone can help make long-lasting changes
for.the benefit of all.
characterizingit as an attack on the rights of Gay citizens
and a federal imposition on local rule. Only Riggs-vigorously
supported it during the debate,
"It’s a message amendment.... It will unquestionably
encourage intolerance," said Rep. Henry Waxman, DCalif.
The San Francisco ordinance has been criticized by
some businesses as well as nonprofit orgamzadons including
Catholic Charities and the Salvation Army. "The
SalVation Army, which refused to buckle to city policy,
forfeited $3.5 million of its $18 million budget," said
Riggs, because it didn’t want to comply with the city
ordinance on domesdc partner benefits.
The Human Rights Campaign, the largest national
Lesbian and Gay political organization, called theamendment
"the latest salvo in fight-wing attacks .against Gay
people." "The amendment is a thinly veiled attempt to
attack San Francisco and micromanage the city," said
Winnie Stachelberg, the political director for the Human
Rights Campaign.
In another action ofinterest to the Gay community, the
House decided to reduce money it had allocated
see Attack, p. 13
There were concerns expressed regarding the cost ($15/
report) and it was decided to handle it similar to the way
we handle our $25 volunteer training fee. Scholarships
are offered for training to anyone who request one and
RAIN will pay the report fee for any volunteer, so that no
one is prevented from volunteering due to the cost.
All decisions for volunteer eligibility are made at the
discretion of the RAIN coordinator and any grievances
against the policy or any decision made my the RAIN
coordinator may be taken up with me. I hope that current
RAIN volunteers will understand RAIN’s mission of
providing a compassionateresponse to HIV/AIDS through
education and service has not changed. We appreciate the
love and concern shown by our volunteers and we are
grateful that men, women and children living with HIV/
AIDS are willing to risk letting strangers into their lives
by asking for a RAIN team.
- Pam S. Cross, MPH, Executive Director
No Gays or Singles to
Adopt in Arkansas
LITTLE ROCK (AP) - A state board that sets standards
affecting foster care has approved a requirement
that prohibits private agencies from placing
children with homosexual.or unmarried heterosexual
adults. The new rule must undergo a public comment
period before becoming effective. Rules have not
been written for public foster care agencies, said Joel
Landreneau, alawyerfor the licensing unit ofthe state
Human Services Department. The state has some
2,700 to 2,800 children in foster care. In the past, the
ruleshave been silent on homosexual or single heterosexual
foster parents.
Along with passing the new rule, the Child Welfare
Agency Review Board discussed the possibility of an
exemption for unmarried heterosexuals. Board member
James Balcom of Paragould said agencies could
use single people by applying for an exemption called
alternative compliance.
Bob West of Little Rock, also a board meml~er and
the only dissenter, said he believes there will be many
requests for exemptions. "I don’t think you can exclude
anyone just because they’re single," he said. "I
really think it should be up to the local agencies who
is qualified to be a foster parent. I just think it has to
be done on a case-by-case basis.’"
Board member Robin Woodruff of Little Rock
proposed the prohibition, saying "I would like for our
children to have a mom role model and a dad role
model." After the meeting, Ms. Woodruff said she
had been told that the Centers for Youth and Families
had placed at least one child with a Gay family and
had other such families waiting.
Kay Kimbrough, the centet"s service administrator
for adolescent services, said her agency doesn’t inquire
rote foster parents’ sexuality. "That is not an
issue for us, asfar as gender of parents. We don’ t have
a policy or practice that dictates whether we place
kids in that type family," Ms. Kimbrough said. "We
don’t make a practice to determine whether a family
is heterosexual or homosexual."
At the board meeting, Chris Pyle, family life issues
Aiai.~.On f~o~ Q.o,v..~Mike Huckabee~ said the. govemgr
supports-applying the principle of foster parents being
heterosexual married couples. Pyle said Arkansas
law prohibits marriages between members of the
same sex. He said Huckabee believes "it is not in the
best interest of children for them to be placed in an
environment that.the Legislature has specifically and
purposely removed from legal sanction and recognition."
"I think there are a lot of foster children out there
and not enough foster parents, and we may run into
trouble if.we try to limit it to couples only," said West,
apediatric medical consultant who works for the state
Health Department. AssistantAttorney General Karen
Wallace, a lawyer for the board, had recommended
the board stick with the standards as written. She said
she.had concerns about equal protectionand discrimination.
New England Lesbian
Wins Bias Lawsuit
BOSTON (AP) -Ajudge has awarded $906,000 to a
Lesbian who managed a state social services agency,
ruling she was the victim of job discrimination.
Middlesex Superior Com’tJudge Sandra Hamlinruled
that Lowell-based Community Teamwork Inc., the
state’s second-largest .anti-poverty agency, had no
good reason fire Patrica Weber. Hamlin added that
Weber was "eminentlymorequalified" man the CTI’ s
director, the man who was picked over her by the
agency’s board of directors. Hamlin, who said a
"sexist attitude" prevailed at CTI, also ruled that the
reasons given for Weber’ s firing were "a pretext."
"I feel vindicated," Weber, 49 told the Boston
Herald. "What they did tomewas wrong. I’m glad the
!aw feels thatway too. Employers can’ t firepeoplefor
nothing-because they don’tlike them, or they’re the
wrong sex or whatever."
Cheryl Cronin, CTI’s lawyer, said the agency is
appealing. !~We are c~,,n~,~dent that CTI will ultimately
prevail in this matter,’ she said. CTI provides a range
of services,including housing, education and daycare
to low-income residents of 38 communities from
Lowdl to Framingham.
Weber, who worked for CTI for 18 years, was fired
in March, 1996 during a meeting with Executive
Director Jim Canavan. A month later, when she
applied for unemployment benefits, she learned the
reason for her dismissal was listed as "inability to do
her job." Hamlin said inca 38-page ruling that CTI
retaliated against Weber for filing a complaint with
the Massachusetts Commission Against Discriminationbyrefusing
to provide her areference. Weberwas
turned down for dozens of jobs, before accepting one
that cut her pay nearly in half.
"Weber’s past work history while at CTI reveals
only a dedicated, bright, hardworking employee,".the
judge wrote. "Nothing whatsoever in the evidence
supports defendant’ s contention that Weber’ s inability
to perform led to her termination.’"
Tennessee Lesbian
Wins Child Custody
NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP)-Gay activists hope the
case of a Wilson County Lesbian who was granted
custody of one of her children marks a trend in
Tennessee. Pat Finn was awarded sole custody of her
9-year-old daughter this month by ajudge in Wilson
County. Her second child, a teen-age son, chose to
live with his father, who was awarded sole custody of
the boy.
’Tm glad this has been brought to light," said Bev
Clendenen of Nashville, director of the Lesbianand
Gay Community Center. "This reconfirms that Gay
mothers are good mothers. Like everything, there are
good apples and bad. You should be judged not on
your sexuality, but rather what kind of mother you
are.;"
Pa~ck Sullivan, Finn’s ex~husband, plans to appeal.
I thought it was the greatest injustice in the s/ate
of Tennessee," he said. ’q-his case is about her being
a neglectful mother and very little about the homosexuality."
He said he opposes:his ex-wife’ s Lesbian
relationship and does not wanthis daughter exposed
to it "It is about discrimination of me as a father
trying to get custody of his children," he said of the
ruling.
Finn, a registered nurse, was married to Sullivan
for 17 years. She and her female partner have formalized
their relationship with a commitment ceremony
and exchange offings. Finn believes she won custody
of her daughter because she was judged on the facts
and not politics, public sentiment or the judge’s
personal preferences about family life.
"I realized the odds were against me, but I told my
" daughter I wasn’t doing anything wrong and I needed
to show her I would fight to keep her," Finn said. ’Tm
thesame mother. I’m the same woman who has been
raising children for 16 years."
Can A Lesbian Win A Seat in Congress?
MOUNT VERNON, Wash. (AP) - Grethe
Cammermeyer, a daughter of the Nazi resistance in
Norway and a decorated Vietnam veteranwhobattled
her owngovernment, hasjumpedheadlonginto anew
challenge: The retired Armycolonel, who wryly calls
herself "one of the most famous Lesbians in the
country" after her successful fight to stay in the
military, is rtmuing for Congress.
Cammermeyer, 56, has never held public office.
Her Gay civil-rights fight - recounted in "Serving in
Silence," a book and made-for-TV movie = made her
a celebrity. Glenn Close, who starred in the movie, its
producer Barbra Streisand and other show-business
notables have contributed to her campaign.
She’s favored to win the Democratic nomination
Sept. 15. That would pit her against two-term Republican
Rep. Jack Metcalf on Nov. 3. Metcalf, who says
this is his last campaign, was boosted to victory two
years ago by absentee voters in the traditionally
Democratic 2nd District.
No openly Lesbian candidate has been elected to
Congress, but Caramermeyer is one of four Democrats
hoping to break the barter this year along with
Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin, Christine Kehoe of
California and Susan Tracy of Massachusetts. ’q’his
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Kathleen DeBold, polifical director ofthe Victory Fund,
a Washington, D.C., group that backs Lesbians and
Gays for public office. "Grethe is so admired, both for
her record in the military and for her willingness to stand
up and fight homophobia," says state Rep. Ed Murray,
. a Seat-de Democrat who’s Gay.
Cammermever earned national attention with her
fight to stay in~eWashington National Guard. She was
f!red, in 1992.after disclosing her sexual orientation
aunng a 1989 Interview for a security clearance as chief
nurse of the National Guard.Afederaljudge orderedher
reinstated in 1994; the government did not appeal.
On the campaign trail, she doesn’t talk Gay civil
rights. At an ice cream social held by Skagit County
Democrats earlier this month, Cammermeyer spoke
about education, health care, the environment and countering
a Republican Congress she considers radical and
heartless. "I am not a politician," she told The Associated
Press. "I’m an everyday person who has a healthcare
background and an education background. I am a
mother, a grandmother and served in Vietnam. I have
had thebest and the worst of social experience."
Cammermeyer was born in Oslo, Norway, to a doctor
and a nurse who sheltered undergroundresistance fighters
in World War II. A now familiar tale has her mother
shuttling weapons to the Nazi resis,_t~_,ce by hiding them
beneath the mattress in Grethe s baby buggy.
Cammermeyer was 9 when she came to the United
States with her parents and three brothers. She became
a eitizen in 1960. Ntlrsingmeshed well with her military
ambitions, she has said, because it was a job she could
take to the batflefront. She served in the military 31
years, including active duty in Vietnam. She earned the
Bronze Star. for treating wounded soldiers in the. Tet
Offensive in 1968. She has four grown sons from her
marriage to a fellow officer she met while serving in
Germany.
She’s wall aware why she.has such ready name
recognition. :But the personable, 6-foot-tall
.Cammermeyer-whosefirstname, shortforMaxgarethe,
is pronounced Greta- bdieves most voters are ready to
move past her sex,,,u~,, ori,entadon to the issues affecting
their own lives. Whats.most difficult is suddenly
realizing there are some people who don’t want you to
approach them or shake their hand or even say hello,"
she said of experiences on the campaign trail.
-State Democratic Chairman Paul Berendt, neutral in
the primary, says Cammermeyer needs to let voters
know the range of issues she cares about. "If people see
her as one-dimensional,it’s over," agrees Murray. "We
don’ tknow how big ofanegative it is" to be openly Gay
in a district with no major homosexual enclaves and a
sizablenumber ofreligious conservatives, Berendt says.
Cammermeyer’s lone primary opponent, businessman
and environmentalist Fran Einterz, 44, makes apoint of
telling audiences he’s been in the district for 17 years.
Einterz plans to raise only $100,000 for the primary
election. Cammermeyer has raised $502,801 so far.
Neither Einterz nor Metcalf has made an issue of
Camm.ermeyer’ s sexual orientation, althoughthe Metcalf
campaign sent out a fund-raising letter that said the
Cammermeyer campaign is being underwritten by the
national Gay movement.
Boy Scouts-Feud
with Unitarians
BOSTON (AP) -A feud between the Boy Scouts of
America and the Unitarian Universalist Assocaation
over homosexuality has led to cries of outrage by the
Boston-based branch of the church. 2~he Unitarian Universalist
Association, a long-standing New England
liberal denomination that~supports civilrights for Gays,
has condenmed in a church manual the Boy Scouts’
rejection of homosexuality. As a result the youth orgamzation
has ordered the association to stop honoring
Unitari.~an scouts with religious awards.
But the president of the Boston-based 250,000-member
association called the order "’outrageous" and said
the Unitarians do not intend to honor the Boy Scouts’
emand., They simply can t tell us how to teach our
children ’ John Buehrens, a former Boy Scout, told The
Boston Globe. "Telling us we can’t give out awards to
our boys is blatant discrimination against children.
That’s not in the Boy Scouts’ tradition," Buehrens said.
¯ The religious emblems awarded by Unitarimas
¯
are also presented by several other religious groups,
¯¯ including the Roman Catholic Church, ant many
¯ Protestant, JewishandMuslim denominations. The emblems differ from the merit badges that are
¯ earned for mastering a specific task, but can still be
¯ worn on scouts’ ufiiforms as badges of honor.
In recent years, the Boy Scouts has drawn fire
¯ from human rights groups and a number of reli-
¯
gious organizations for its view of homosex,u~l,ity
¯ and refusal to admit Gay scouts and leaders. We
resp.ect other people’ s rights to disagree with us and
: we simply ask people to respect our rights as a
¯ private voluntary orgamzation," Gregg Shields. ¯
national spokesman for the Scouts, said.
¯
But in its manual distributed to tecn-agers, the
: associadonmakes it clear thatit does not agree with
¯ the Boy Scouts’ view. The manual describes the
Unitarians’ "ongoing concern regarding the
¯
homophobic and discriminatory attitudes of the
: nationalleadership of the Boy Scouts ofAmerica.’"
¯ Since then, letters have gone back and forth
between the two sides, leaving Buehrens wi th the
¯ hope that the dispute can be resolved by a mee.ting
¯ with Boy Scouts officials this fall.
¯ "I’m perfectly willing to sit down with the Boy
Scouts, but I also need to be very clear that they are
¯ in grave danger of having much of America’s
: mainstream religious community concerned abom
: the way in which they are acting," Buehrens said.
¯i Anti-Gay Hawaii TV
Ads Criticized ¯
HONOLULU (AP) - Opponents of a proposed
: state constitutional amendment that would ban
same-sex marriage are criticizing a pro-amend-
, ment television ad featuring professional football
: player Reggie White.
¯ Jaekie Young, coordinator of the Protect Our
¯ Constitution campaign, said this isn’t about letting
¯ the people decide but about "political extremists"
coming to Hawaii to argue anissue aboutbasic civil ¯ rights and dividing the community.
¯ Noelani Foster, spokesman for a group called
¯ Save Traditional Marriage, said White, defensive hneman for the Green Bay Packers, "feels a con-
; nection to theislands" because he has played in the
: Pro Bowl in Honolnlu for the past 12 years.
¯ White, an ordained minister, filmed the TV spot
¯ re~enfly as part of a broader advertising campaign
¯ to educate Hawaii voters about the ballot question.
: Hawaii voters will decide during the Nov. 3 Gen-
¯ eral Election whether to ratify an amendment that
¯ would restrict marriage to opposite-sex couples.
¯
¯ Alaska Lawmakers Sue
Over Ballot Language ¯
¯ JUNEAU (AP) - Republican lawmakers are suing
Lt. Gov. Fran Ulmer, claiming she distorted the
¯
meaning of a proposed constitutional amendment
." banning same-sex marriage when she summarized
it for the November ballot. As part of her duties,
¯ Ulmer, a Democrat, must compose impartial summanes
of proposed amendments-and initiatives.
Thefirst sentence ofher summary ofSenate Joint
¯ Resolution 42 read: "This measure would amend
¯ the Declaration of Rights section of the Alaska
¯
.Co.nstitution to limit marriage." "The word ’limit’
¯ is incorrect because as of this date no nation in the
.. world and no state in this country recognizes or has
¯ ever recognized homosexual same-sex marriage,"
¯ attorney Kevin Clarkson wrote on behalf of the
¯ Legislative Council, a committee of lawmakers
¯ that acts for the Legislature between session, M0ng
¯ with Sen. Loren Leman, R-Anchorage and Rep.
¯ Pete Kelly, R-Fairbanks.
¯ In the lawsuit, the.lawmakers accuse Ulmer of
¯ altering the language at the behest of opponents of the measure, bqmers position was spelled out in a
¯ July 20 letter to the Legislative Council. "’The
¯ proposed constitutional amendment restricts the
¯ cour! .from "interpreting Alaska’s constitution as ¯ reqtunng a broader definition of marriage than that
¯ which is defined by statute," seeBriefs, p.]l
HIV Creates
Infection Resevoir
WASHINGTON (AP) - New research
shows th~it the AIDS virus takes as little as
little as 10 days to establish a stronghold
inimmunecells of thebody that could last
for years, waiting to erupt into disease.
Researchers at the National Institute of
Allergy and Infectious Disease say a study
of 10 patients show that alatently infected
pool of immune cells quickly established
following infection by HIV, the virus that
causes AIDS. Drug treatment apparently
does not easily clear out the pool of infected
cells, the experts said. A report on
the study was published in the Proceedings
of the National Academy of Sciences.
Evenif the active HIV disease is held in
check by a three-drug combination of
antiviral drugs, the researchers say, the
virus continues to lurk in resting CD4 Tcells
in the blood. These are immune ceils
that detect and lead the attack on infections,
but the CD4s are also the primary
target of the HIV.
CD4 T-cells are usually resting. They
are activated only when they detect some
pathogen invader in the blood. When this
happens, the cells attack the invader and
prompt otherimmunecells to dothe same.
Dr. Anthony S. Fauci, director ofNIAID
and co-author of the study, said that studies
of the blood from the 10 HIV patients
showed that their resting CD4 T-cells
became infected as earl,y~ as 10 days after
their initial HIV infection symptoms appeared.
Earlier studies had shown that the
re.sting CD4 T-cells continued to contain
v~rus even when the antiviral drugs suppressed
the virus elsewhere in the body.
" The new study, said Fauci, shows that
these reservoirs of virus are established
very early in the infection. Such reseryoi~
s.’.’Presentafo~dableobstacle to the
Ultimate~ 0ntrbland possible eradication
of HIV from an infected person’ s body,"
saidTae-Wook Chun, aN!AID researcher
and co-author of the study.
Activists Urge
Better Prevention
WASHINGTON (AP) - Lulled by lifeprolonging
AIDS drugs, the nation has
slacked off vital efforts to keep Americans
- especially young people - from
catching the deadly virus in the first place,
say AIDS activists who are demanding
major increases in HIV prevention work.
.Activists called formillionsmorein spending
on HIV education, televised condom
ads and outreach to at-risk teen-agers via
the Interuet, saying such AIDS prevention
programs are a "virtual vaccine.’"
"If there were a medical vaccine for
AIDS, imagine the forces mobilized to
deploy it," said Daniel Zingale of AIDS
Action. "The irony is that today we have
a virtual vaccine- prevention and education
- and those forces are paralyzed."
Saving lives isn’t the only issue. At
least 40,000 Americans every year catch
HIV, adding add $6.2 billion in lifetime
treatment costs to the nation’s health care
bill, the Centers for Disease Control and
Prevention announced recently. "AIDS
drugs cost $40 a day" and do not cure the
disease, added Zingale. "This condom
costs .40 cents. Our plan today will not.
only save lives, it would save dollars."
The CDC hash’ t won.a budget increase
to fight new infections in three years, and
some people most at risk of HIV have
become complacent, activists said. For
example, two-thirds of Gay men say
¯ they’ve had unsafe sex at least once in the
: last 18 months, concluded a study pre-
¯ sented at last month’s World AIDS Con-
" ference.
." Also, Secret Service agents arrested 10
; other AIDS activists who briefly chained
¯ themselves to desks in the office of Presi-
" dent Clinton’s topAIDS adviser to protest
¯ the administration’s refusal to federally
: fund needle exchange programs. Experts
¯¯ say 33 people a day catch HIV fromdirty
drug needles or sex with addicts. Seien-
¯ tific studies show letting addicts swap
¯ used needles for dean ones lowers the
¯ risk of HIV’s spread. Some 110 U.S.
¯
needle exchanges operate with local or
¯. privatefunding,but communities say they
¯ need federal tax dollars to reach more ¯
addicts. Clinton refusedin April, side-
" stepping a political fight. ’’To have the
¯ United States government play politics.
¯ with people’s lives - it’s just not OK
¯ anymore," said Kenneth Vail, who rims a
¯ needle exchange program in Cleveland,
¯ after his arrest.
¯ Separately, AIDS Action gatheredpub~
liehealthofficialsandAIDS workers who
¯ called for a 25 percent increase inCDC’s
¯ $634 million budget for AIDS education
¯ and prevention. Congress has addedmil,
lions to government programs thatpay for
¯ drugs for AIDS patients, but increasing
AIDS prevention money significantly is
¯ considered a tougher fight, particnlarly in
~ view of a new conservative campaign
¯ against homosexuality.
¯ But HIV ,infects across:the-board, Dr~
: Helene Gayle, CDC’s AIDS chief, said
¯ Monday. Some 26 percent of HIV-infected
young people caught the v~rus
¯ through heterosexual intercourse, she
: notea.. "If people in leadership positions
: care about thefuture of this nation, you’ ve
¯ got to care about H’IV prevention," she
¯ said. ¯
Activists also called for:
: - TV networks that air programs rated
¯ "S" for sexual content to also allow
¯ condom ads to air during those programs.
- Doctors, clinics and hospitals to begin
." using a new 10-minute HIV test immedi-
: ately. An older test takes about a week to
¯ get results, and thousands of Americans
¯
who get tested each year never return to
¯ leamifthey’reinfected. Pcoplewhodon’t
¯ know they are infected can unknowingly
spread HIV to others.
- AIDS education to reach more teen-
" agers by .creating an AIDS prevention
¯ web site that links to popular teen Internet
sites.
¯ - CDC to launch a campaign persuad-
¯ ing more people to get tested. An esti-
¯ mated 50,000 people in New York State ¯
have HIV and don’t know it, says a corn-
: puter model by Gay Men’s Health Crisis.
! HIV+-Teacher Can
: Be Transfered
¯ ATLANTA (AP) - An order prohibiting ¯
¯ the DeKalb County School District from transferring a teacher infected with HIV,
¯ the .virus that causes AIDS, has been re-
¯. versed by the EleventhU.S. Circuit Court
of Appeals. Last year, a district court
¯ granted the teachcr, known as "John Doe"
: in court documents, a permanent injunc-
¯ tion disallowing his transfer under the ¯
Americans with Disabilities Act.
¯ Doe worked with children with severe
¯ behavioral disorders at the district’s
¯ Shadow Rock Psychoeducational Center. ¯
The school district says the students are.
¯ violent and teachers often suffer bruises
: and scrapes. "Because district officials
¯ feared thatviolence and subsequentblood-
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to-blood contact between Doe and one of
his psychoeducation students might lead
to transmission of HIV, the District transfenced
Doe to an ’interrelated’ classroom
at a different school in April 1995," the
appeals court wrote. After being transfenced,
Doe worked with students with
mild disorders that are often in mainstream
classrooms for most of each day.
The school district and Doe are disputing
whether or not the Wansfer was voluntary.
Although Doe’s salary, benefits and
seniority all remained the same after the
transfer, the move requires him to take an
additional 10 hours of course work to
obtain an interrelated certificate.
Doehadinformed Shadow Rock’ s principal
of his illness in February 1995. He
spent the months following his transfer
trying to convince school officials to return
him to his psychoeducation class or
assign him to a group of children who are
’self-contained’ or too ’disordered’ to
participate in the ’interrelated’ program,
the court wrote. Doe eventually filed a
lawsuitclaiming the districtdiscriminated
against him. The district court supported
Doe’s assertions in August 1997.
"The district court, however, failed to
make explicit findings of fact regarding
any dangers that Doe’ s illness might pose
to violent psychoeducation students," the
appeals court ruled. "In addition, the district
court erred by applying a subjective
standard for determining whether Doe’s
transfer was adverse." The three-judge
panel said the district court should take a
. second look at the case and make a decision
following the guidelines of its reversal.
City Approves
Needle Exchange
SPRINGFIELD, Mass. (AP)-After years
of heated debate and flip-flopping, the
city council has approved a needle exchange
program. After two hours of publiccommentand
debate, the council voted
5-4infavor oftheprogram. Council memberWilliam
Foley received applausefrom
the crowd of 100 people when he cast the
swing vote.
MayorMichael Albano, whohas pushed
for an exchange program for two years,
said there was an AIDS epidemic in
Springfield. "This is not a political issue,
this is a medical issue," he said. "We are.
getting people into treatment and stopping
people froin getting a deadly disease."
But Hampden District Attorney William
Bennett accused the council of "giving
out tools to commit a crime with."
After the vote, council member Timothy
Rooke asked the board to consider an
amendment that would require health officials
to test all needles to seeif they were
used by more than one person or if they
contained any viruses. "It is not a stalling
tactic," he said. "Now it’ s a matter of fine
tuning the #an."
Theneedle exchangewouldoperate out
of a!-Iigh Street building of the Bay State
Medical Center. Drug users can turn in
used needles for clean needles in an even
exchange. They would all’be referred to
drug treatment programs and be asked
questions so city officials could track the
program.
The city council first rejected the plan
5-4 in 1996. It agreed to reconsider after
the city’ s Public Health Council declared
a health emergency in May and tried to
launch the program on its own.
Springfield Health Director Helen
Caulton said thenumber ofAIDS cases in
the city had reached epidemicproportions
and most had been caused by addicts
sharing needles. However, city lawyers
ruled that only the city council could seek
state funding for the program.
State law provides funding for 10 programs
to hand out clean syringes to drug
users, but, so far, they have been established
only in Boston, Cambridge,
Northamptonand Provincetown. The state
pitches in about $200,000 for the programs.
TheClinton administmtionhas endorsed
needle exchanges. Still, Health and Human
Services Secretary Donna Shalala
said the federal government would not
help pay for the programs. The House of
Representatives voted in April to ban using
federal money for such programs.
New Eyesight
Saving Drug
WASHINGTON (AP)- Scientific advisers
are recommending approval of a new
¯¯ The code also outlaws any form of job discrimination against a worker infected
¯ by the HIV virus, and requires that any
¯ employee too ill to performnormal duties ¯
be reassigned, the newspaper said.
According to 7fiord Health Organiza-
¯ tion figures released in June, one-fifth of
¯ Namibia’s population of 1.8 million is ¯
infected with HIV. Some densely popu~
¯ lated areas are estimated to have an infec-
_" tion rate of as high as 40%.
i Inmates Being
i "rested for HIV
¯ GREENVILLE, S.C. (AP) - Now that
¯ South Carolina is testing all state prison
inmates for the AIDS virus, some law-
" makers and others want to know how the
¯ .information will be used. The federal
¯ Bureau of Prisons and 17 other states
: already have mandatory testing for HIV,
¯ the virus that causes AIDS, according to
¯ the American Civil Liberties Union’s
: National Prison Project.
¯ State Sen. Kay Patterson, D-Columbia,
genetic drug therapy to help save AIDS ¯ likes the idea of testing all prisoners, but
patients’ eyesight. Isis, Pharmaceuticals’ : is concemed about how prison officials
Vitravene is the first antisense" drug to -" will use the information. "What will the
be reviewed by the Food and Drug Ad- ° department do once they find out they’re
ministration. This novel class of drugs is
created from DNA coding, working at the
genetic level to block production of disease-
causing proteins. Thebioteclmology
industry is stressing development of
antisense drugs against myriad diseases.
Isis says Vitravene slows the progression
of cytomegalovirus retinitis, an infection
that destroys AIDS patients’ rednas.
Advisers to theFDAvoted 5-2Wednesday
to recommend approval of Vitravene,
saying that although powerful new .anti-
HIV drugs have prevented many AIDS
patients from getting the eyeinfection in
recent years, some still fail standard
therapy.
¯ Chinese HIV
¯ Infections Increase
¯ BEIJING (AP)-Chineseauthorities urged
¯ greater efforts to slow the spread ofAIDS
¯ as the official tallyofpeopleinfectedwith
: the virus that causes the disease topped
10,000, an official newspaper said Tues-
" day. The newspaper said the actual num-
" ber of people infected with HIV may be
¯ as hi.gh as 300,000 - 100,000 more than
¯ previous estimates.
That figure could pass 1 million by
¯ 2000 if more is not done to check the
¯ spread of HIV, Xiao Yan, an official with
the Department of Disease Control, told
¯ state television.
¯ Loc~ health authorities have been or-
¯ dered to speed up education and preven-
¯ tion campaigns, the newspaper said. The
¯ disparity between official numbers and
¯ estimates is likely due tO undenceporting,
the lack of government resources to perform
tests and the stigma attached to ac-
: knowledging HIV,infection.
: Namibia Bars HIV
¯resting for Jobs
WINDHOEK, Namibia (AP) - Namibia,
: whichhas one of the word’s highest HIV
: infection rates, has made it illegal for
¯ employers to require tests for the virus
: that causes AIDS. The country’s new
¯
AIDS testing code binds both public and
private employers. It says HIV-infected
employees are under no obligation to inform
their employer of their condition.
infected? That’ s the missing piece to me,’"
¯ said Patterson, a member of the Senate
¯ Corrections and Penology Committee.
: Jackie Walker, an AIDS expert for the
¯ National Prison Project, is skeptical. I’ve
¯ never seen them say, ’OK, we’ll test you
¯ and you’ll be provided with correct level
¯ of care, medications and access to outside
¯ specialists whenit’ s neededand appropriate.’
It has just not happened across the
¯ board," she said.
¯ The $126,000 mandatory screening of
¯ about 21,000 prisoners should be done by ¯
Aug. 31, Corrections Department spokes-
¯ woman Linda Davis said. Correctional
¯ officers can use minimal force to ensure ¯
all inmates comply, including holding
¯
them down while blood is drawn, Davis
¯ said. So far no one has objected, she said.
"It’s a public safety issue. Considering
¯ the nature of our population and the
~ lifestyle, there’s a potential for health-
" related problems," she said. "It gives us a
¯ gauge to measure potential problems." ¯
However, Steve Bates, executive direc-
¯ tor of the state ACLU, worries that HIV-
¯ positive inmates will be segregated and
denied educational and vocational train-
. 1rig opportunities.
: Davis said the department does not yet
¯ haveapolicy onhousingforHIV-posltive
¯ inmates. State Sen. David Thomas, R- ¯
Fountain Inn, who heads the corrections
¯ committee, said the department could see
: roughly how many inmates are infected
¯ by doing a random sampling of 250 pris-
¯ oners. "They may have some reason to
." believe there is an accelerating number of
¯ cases and they need to segregate thepopu- ¯
lations. Given how AIDS usually spreads,
¯ they may have somereason to believe that
: they need to look very, very carefully at
¯ what is happening in that population,"
¯ Thomas said.
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Lars Eiglmer’s novel Pawn to Queen
Four is pretentious, disturbingly campy
and fantastically absurd. That’s exactly
what makes it so much fun to read. This is
a gay novel that does not take
itsdf any more seriously than
it does the ’moral majority.’
But Eighner keeps his tacky
brand of~humor from getting
tedious by plying his skill at
intricate plot twists, quick-andquirky
characterizations and a
unique insight into the fears
and desires of both the Gay
commnnity and ourdetractors.
As the story opens, Agnes,
the six-foot seven,350lb. drag
queen is facing quite the dilemma.
As ruler of the Court
of the Jade Chimera, she must
faithfully oversee the ’Gay
agenda’ throughout her territory
which covers most of
Texas and part of Oklahoma,
including the tiny town of
Osage. Osage is home to Holy
Word of God University and
Technical Institute, the headquarters
of the charismatic
Brother Earl, Agnes’ old enemy.
Agnes has been able to
keep Brother Earl’s violently
anti-gay rhetoric in check for
years, but now Earl has the
upper hand. Agnes has lost a
certain set of photographs of
Brbther Earl engaged in his
favorite bad habit - namely, seducing his
male students. Now Brother Earl has rejuve~
ted his homophobic campaign and it
is Agnes’ duty as Empress of the Jade
Chimera to stop him. Her mission: retrieve
the photographs or, failing that.
make new ones.
Enter Jim, our reluctant hero. Through
various types of bribery, appeals to his
duty as a Gay man and assurances of
lifelong sexual satisfaction by the finest
men in Houston, Agnes convinces Jim to
undertake this desperate, dangerous mission.
Now the fun’begins as Jim, his new
boyfriend Phil and eventually Agnes herself
infiltrate HWOGUTI, the Ku Klux
Klan and the sleepy town of Osage.
Eiglmer has a refreshing talent for creating
characters so natural and detailed
that you forget they are unbelievably stereotypical.
Jim is a typical clone; Phil is a
twink; Agnes is the UltimateDrag Queen,
but you never doubt that any of them
could be real. Even Brother Earl, though
hopelessly two-dimensional, seems to be
an exact replica of the kind of people we
elect to Congress all the time. This kind of
stereotyped hyper-neo-virmal-realism almost
makes Pawn to Queen Four an
EverYman play for the modem Gay individual.
The characters are so typical, yet
so real, that you could plug yourself into
whichever one fits best and pretend that
you are a part of this grand adventure.
There’s even a Lesbian (yes, only one)
who shows up with the Hell’s Fairies, a
Gay motorcycle gang.
There are more admirable things going
onJaere however¯ The three main characters
have a point in-their stereotyping.
Jim’ s uncertainty about his role in such an
exotic world draws you in. You begin to
refreshing talent
for ereat~g
characters so
natural and
detailed that you
forget they are
unbelievably
stereotypical...
Agnes is the
Uh~-nate Drag
Que n... Even
Brother Earl...
seems to
exact re~|~ea of the
klnd~mpeople we
elect to Congress
all the time. Th~s
kind of stereotyped
hyper~neo-wirtualrealism
almost
makes Pawn to
¯ been Four an
Everyman play for
the modern Gay
~dl,ad~l.
wonder how much of our culture is controlled
by a marginalized minority of our
society. You start to wonder, "how much
does that drag queen control what club is
’ in’ or’ out?’ "or"am I on the A-list for all
the best partiesT’ Though the true extent
of an underground society’s
control is questionable,
Eighner wants you to question
the image we have and
who gives it to us.
Even more infectious than
Jim’s trepidation is his admi=
ration of Phil. Phil’s angelic
beauty and innocent devotion
give the story apeaceful wonder
missing from most Gay
novds. Oh, there are plenty of
beauties, plenty of innocents
and plenty of devoted lovers
in Gay literature, but how
many characters really have
all three traits? Phil reminds
us thatwe canretain ourchildlike
fascination with the world
no matterhow adverse the cir=
cumstances and still beresponsible,
capable, respectable
human beings. This is a quality
of life that so much of the
gay community neglects in
favor of that oh-so-chic snide
cynicism. Though Jim is the
protagonist, Phil is the one
youwill involve yourself wi~.
You will be proud when he
comes into his own destiny;
you will admire him as Jim
does, because Phil is that beatl-
¯ tiful person that would actually talkto you
¯ in a bar.
¯ Alas, Agnes... with the resourceful-
" hess and style of a true pageant-winner,
¯ the Queen of the Jade Chimera inspires
¯ belief in the impossible, faith in the unbe-
¯ lievable . . . and that she does just by
¯ carrying 350 pounds of drag queen in
¯ seven-inchheels! Regency and flare have
¯ never been in better form. She can imper~
¯ sonate a grtmgy old gardener or a Klan
¯ member and never break a two-inch-long
: nail. Truthfully, any respect and dignity
¯¯ wehave neglected to allow drag queens to
haveis broughtforth with no apologies by
¯ the glorious Agnes. She is a true heroine
in the vein of those queens who started
¯ this most groundbreaking era of our
¯ struggle for equal rights. I wouldn’t be
¯ surprised tolearn thatAgnes or some real¯
life equivalent was actually at Stonewall.
Her Highness is controlling, deceptive
¯ and stubborn but you can’t help but love
¯ her .... and you can’thelp but watch her.
¯ Ultimately,whatmakes Pawn toQueen
Four a good read is what it teaches (al-
¯ though I think Eighner might hate me for
: saying that). For all its outlandish hijinx
¯ and biting wit, this book has a serious, ¯
though probably unintentional, message
¯ - we in the Gay community have become
" so obsessed with fighting our enemies
¯ that we forget to have fun, or the exact
: opposite. Pawn to Queen Four is ulti-
: mately aboutbalance. Agnes doesn’twant
Brother Earl out of the picture. She has
¯ plenty of chances to ruin him, but she
¯ knows that he has every right to exist that
¯ she does. Surprisingly, Brother Earl feels
: the same, although he gets a little threatening
when he leads the Klan in a true
" Oklahomabackroads see Queen4,p. 14
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The DIYD admits the following with a
red face: a blatant act of voyeurism. After
a visit at the Oracle’s, this author spied
their neighbor through the window. The
studly, shirtless fellow was busy painting
the trim and causing the
DIYD no end of fussy
fascination. Good grip
on the brush. No, no,
long, smooth strokes..
¯ and dip your brush
NOW! Oureditorcame
to mind, and while he
would have probably
agreed about the Strok-
Ing technique, the paint
job wouldhavebeenhis
least concern. But not
you, loyal reader! Over
the past few months,
you too have come to
admire the beauty of
paint.
As promised, last
month, when the cart of
exterior painting was
put before the workhorse
of window
reglazing, the DIYD
will now enhance your
skills even more. Window
reglazing is only
done on the older wood
framed single paned
windows, andis amust
ff you% doing all
your windows, and
usually you will,
do yourself a favor
and buy the Prazi
Putty Cha.er...
It attaches to any
drift chuck.., and
with one simple adjustment
the carbide
cutter is set so that it
won’t harm the
Turn on the drift and
remove the old putty
fa~ter than Dorothy
can click her heels
three times, and it
won’t slit or chip the
wood frame eitker.
before starting that outside paint project.
It will also make your winter heating bills
more. palatable when you stop the coldair
seeping in around.the pane. And aesthetics
! Don’t forget the aesthetics ! Curling,
peeling and cracking glazing putty is just
¯ tired and frumpy2 Lose it.
¯ Traditionally, this job has been a lot of
uresome work, but the DIYD will pull a
few tricks out of her pocket that will have
you simply melting with delight..First, the
old, dried putty must be removed to the
wood. If you’re doing all of your windows,
and usually you will, do yourself a
"We need your help," Satcher told the
organizationformedby ministers in 1957.
"We need the church to help us to deal
with the prejudice and the bias that-we
face as we’re trying to fight this epidemic."
Ministers are uneasy talking about
AIDS, said the group’s chairman, Dr.
Claud Young, a family doctor in Detroit.
’qqaey speak about sex in any form as if
it’s a form of cancer," he said, recalling
preachers asking him not to use the word
"condom" inside the church. "I said, ’Not
only is the word condom being usedinthe
church; I can assure you condoms are
being used in the church.’" Young added
thatin Michigan,Blackorganizations have
received little of the grant money available
for prevention.
Today’s fight presents challenges that
did not exist during the 1960s, Satcher
said. During the civil rights movement, he
said, people had hope that they could
effect change. Today, too many young
people are hopeless about their futures so
they do not try as hard to avoid risky sex
and other health threats, he said. But that
can change, he said. "Leadership is critical,"
he said. "I don’t think we’ve found
any~substitutes for good leadership."
favor and buy the Prazi Putty Chaser. It is
available only by mail and is worth all ,of
the $19.95+shipping/handling (McFeely s
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catalog - it’s worth i0. It attaches to any
drill chuck 1/4" oflarger (3/8 is standard),
.and withone simple ad=
justment the carbide
cutter is set so that it
won’t harm the glass.
Turn on the drill and
remove the old putty
faster than Dorothy can
dick her heels three
times, and it won’t slit
or chip the wood frame
either.
With the old
putty gone, make a
mixture 50/50 of paint
thinner and linseed oil
to coat and nourish the
old, exposed wood,
then wait a day before
proceeding. TheDIYD
gently urges you to restrain
your passion for
neatly glazed windows
and not omit this step.
Then youhaveoptions:
one, you can use the
old putty in the can and
putty knife trick; or
two, you can use the
new latex compoundin
the tube, like caulk.
Unless you are an old pro, please opt for
the latter. Not only will it be easier~ the
latex material will last longer and it may
be the last tame you have to do this.
The tube comes with a specialized
nozzle that applies the compound at the
proper angle and it fits a standard catdk
gun, Though it isn’t necessary, your job
will look heater if you mask the glass
about 1/3" above the wood, with the compound
filling in. Leave the tape on for
p.ainting, then strip it off 24 hrs. later for a
crisp, unsmeared edge. The tube material
costs a bit more than, the putty, but is
worth every penny of it. Apply the material
moving smoothly and slowly along
the frame at about a 33 degree angle; the
nozzle will do this for you. Smooth with a
wet finger, if desired. Wait another day,
then paint; with the premasked windows,
this isn’t painful. Your house will be gor=
geous and snug and, with the two above
techniques, done days ahead of those who
do not heed the DIYD’s advice.
Next month: take up your PHD’s and
pickets - it’s time’to build that privacy
fence (PHD = Post Hole Digger). Any
questions or cqmmentary? The DIYD
accepts your praase, chastisement or suggestions
care of this paper!
Ulmer wrote. "In other words, the proposedamendmentlimits
marriage to what
it has been and currently is by statute in
Alaska. Because that is themeaning of the
amendment, I believe the ballot summary
should say so."
The lawsuit seeks to force Ulmer to use
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would add an amendment to the-
Alaska Constitution on marriage." The
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Dr. Marny Hall is a San Francisco Bay
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experienee speeializing
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In her book, The
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How to Survive
Everything from
Heartthrob to Heartbreak,
she tackles issues
of Lesbian relationships,
sex, breakups,
rituals, and jeab
ousy.
"I had had a painful
break-up," she told me
m a recent interview,
"and-decided to find
somelongterm couples
who had managed to
weather the difficulties
that had undermined
my relationship. I was particularly interested
in finding couples who had survived
outside affairs." She located a.handfu!:0f
long term Lesbian couples and contacted
them periodically over anumber of years.
She asked, how they met, how their relationshipprogressed,
andhow they handled
difficult situations:such as jealousy, conflict,
desire, homophobia, work, and illness.
"I was searching for a formula," said
Mamy, "but I didn’t find anything. Then
five years into this experiment, two of the
model couples I had been tracking broke
up. I had come to think of them as perfect
couples. I felt a bit shell-shocked but I
decided that I wouldcontinue to interview
both ex-partners. It was then that I found
the answers I was looking
for. Now the ex-
.partners started talking
about their relationships
in entirely different
ways. One woman,
who had said that she
was really in lust now
told me that they had
never had any passionate
chemistry! Another
womanused to say that
her community of
friends kept them together;
now she said
that she never felt a
sense ofcommtmity ! A
third said she wanted to
be with her partner until
her breath was no
: longer in her body. After the break-up she
¯ told me that even if her partner were
available, she wouldn’.t go back. These
¯ 180 degree turns made me realize that so
¯ much of how we process relationships is ¯
through the tales that we tell. The tales do
¯ all sorts of things - they certify legit1-
¯ macy, they heal broken hearts, and they ¯
explain betrayals."
: After this revelation, Mamy decided to
¯ go back and reread the transcripts from
the interviews she had conducted with the
¯ couples that were still together. Now she
¯ could see shifts in their stories too, over
: time. Their stories had kept them going
Dr. Marny Hall
through hard times. For example, if one
partnerhadhadan affair, .theother discovered
a motive that explained everything.
Perhaps the straying partner had been
depressed about her job or angry at her
partner. The affair had been a coded way
of announcing these dissatisfactions. In
other words, the two partners collaborated
on a story that turned an unpardonable
betrayal into a forgivable misdemeanor.
By reconstruing the potentially
damaging revelation in more positive
ways, they were able to stay together.
"So I thought, why not think of more
stories?" said Marny. Her book focuses
on stories that provide alternatives to the
"master stories" ab0utforever-after, about
terrible betrayals, about bad times. "If I
could tell stories about small break-ups or
trivial passions or benign other women
then I could contribute to partners’ flexibility
and givethemmore staying power,"
Maruy told me.
Originally planned as a book about successful
long-term couple relationships,
The Lesbian Love Companion took on a
life ofits ownl "I love the story of ~happily
ever after," Marny said, "but we. can tell
other stories, too. Everyday stories about
contentment instead of epics about do-ordie
love affairs. Stories of downsized disenchantments
instead of major dyke dramas.
The first time you realize that your
.lover snores and you love her anyway is
not exactly a swash-buckling bodice-ripper.
But it does qualify as a modest tale
about a small turning point. Our lives are
packed with all kinds of minimalist ro-
: mances. We just have to tune in to them.
: "The same thing is true about sex,"
¯ Mamy continued. "We’re all so familiar
¯ with the story about the earth-moving sex.
: But we can tell a lot of different stories
: about sex- maintenance sex that depends
¯ on cultivating orgasmic habits, sex for ¯
comfort or fun, psychodrama sex that
exorcises old demons. Even the fond
sexual memories we share with ex-lovers
is anotherform of sex. Wemight call it exsex.
These stories aren’t the mainstream
favorites so they aren’t heard, they’re
inaudible, private." As Marny putsit, her
book puts some "amplification" on the
stories that many of us are already telling.
’q’he bookis for long-term couples. It is
also for the sluts and passionate friends,
the celibates andthecommunally minded,"
Mamy added. "All of us are affected by
¯ the traditional stories. Uncoupled Lesbi-
: ans often feel as though they have failed
¯ some crucial test. And long-term couples
: may feel such pressure to live up to these
¯ stones that, as aresult, they feel they must
¯ conceal anything thatisn’t congruentwith ¯
’perfect coupledom.’ Such self censor-
" ship makes~thard for partners to be play-
" ful .or spontaneous. The perfect couple
¯ ideal exacts a toll on everyone- Ltgbians ¯
who are coupled,unpartnered or who have
¯ multiple partners."
"It tends to turn us all into intimacy
¯ overachievers," said Mamy. "The pur- ¯
pose of my book is to counteract that
¯ sense of performance anxiety. Almost
: everybody has doubts, and forbidden passions,
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I met brown-eyed Burt one summer
when I was working in Hawai’i. Burt had
grown up near Manila in the philippines.
He taught English for some years at a
Catholic high school. Then
he came to Honolulu to work
on a Ph.D. in philosophy at
the University of Hawai’i
In his thesis, Burt planned to
reexamine traditional Asian
philosophy in light of the
work of post-modernists
suchas Foucault and Derrida.
When I met Burt, he was in
his mid 30.s and solidly built,
just runmng to chunk. But
you could still look through
those added pounds to see
that he had been a graceful
young man.
In Honolulu, Burt found
an American boyfriend- an
older man retired from the
telephone company. Burt
movedinand tookovercooking
and cleaning for the two
of them. His lover’s elderly
mother came to stay and he
took care of her too. Burt
kept purposely missing his
thesis deadlines to maintain
his relationship. His student
visa and US Immigration
demanded that, after finishing
a degree, he return to the
Philippines and not come
back to America for three
years, even as a tourist. His
Ph.D. thesis wa~ already four
Throughout
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especially the
Muslim south
- there aretraditional
roles
in which men
take on tTemlnlne,
eharaeteristles
and clothing.
In Tagalog,
the main Filipino
language,
these men are
cafled ba/da.
Traditionally,
many bakla
¯were dancers.
actors, and
entertainers.
years overdue.
~-Since that summer, I’ ve met a number
of American/Filipino couples - the Filipino
half typically keeping house.
Throughout much of the Philippines -
especially the Muslim south = there are
traditional roles in which men take on
.feminine characteristics and clothing. In
Tagalog, themainFilipino language, these
men are called bakla. Traditionally, many
bakla were dancers, actors, and entertainers.
MarkJohnson’snew bookabout transvestites
in Sulu, Beauty andGender (Berg
1997), describes numbers Of feminine,
cross-dressing Filipino boys who are .on
the prowl for masculine (i.e., ’straight
acting’, even married) boyfriends. In recent
years, these guys have taken overand
developed the hairdressing and beauty
business sectorthroughoutthe Philippines.
Most reject, however, a traditional bakla
identity and embrace instead the label
"gay." Our Western term here continues
to extend its global’ spread. Burt, too, was
horrified when I asked if he was a bakla.
This term today resonates too many sour
tones of backwardness, effeminacy, and
male prostitution.
There is a straight parallel to Butt and
his boyfriend in Hawai’i. In any romance
magazine sold at Quiktrip, one can find
advertisements touting the merits of submissive,
yet sexy, Asian women. You,
too, can easily send away for a mail-order
Oriental bride! One ofmy second cousins
had a fairly successful marriage with an
able woman from Vietnam until his warrelated
post traumatic stress syndrome
worsened one day and he attacked an old
lady gassing her car up at a California
service station.
Feminists decry the Ameriean stereotype
ofsexy Suzy Wongs who serve white
° men in bed, serve them dinner - who
¯ meekly serve all their needs whatever.
," But the international marriage marketl
." place works to bring women out from the
Philippines, and other Southeast Asian
countries, into the US.
Ainerican wealth allows at
leastsome ofus to shop overseas
and purchase our sexual
fantasies, even if we don’t
always get what we think we
are buying. And Americans
.profit, too, from positive
images that encourage at
least some Asians to hop a
plane and fly into the arms
of an unknown Occidental
spouse. Obviously, just as
many Filipinas (and Filipinos)
are 1.ooking for Americans
as vice versa.
The market for gay Asian
fianc6s is constrained by the
inability of homosexuals to
marry legally and thereby
obtain green cards for our
~mported boyfriends. Still,
I’ve had interesting email
correspondence with several
guys in Indonesia, Malaysia,
and the Philippines. They
wonder if I can set them up
with American lovers. One
gayboy in Jakarta, a civil
servant whose nom de email
is Koko, asked my advice
about accepti.’ng a one-way
air ticket from an American
Internet correspondent. I
counseled him to take care
lest he end up a sex slave, bound up in
somebody’s basement. The Hollywood
~mage of the United States is very powerful
overseas. Even Tulsa can seem urbane
and sophisticated to somebody in
Zamboaga or Chiangmai or Penang.
Mostrecently, I havebeenin touch with
a sad, young Filipino in the port city of
Dubai, United Arab Emirates. Joe moved
to Dubai from Saudi Arabia severa! months
ago. He had broken up with his 50-something,
bald American lover whom he was
with for three years. Joe, understandably,
is depressed. He emails me that he misses
fixing dinners for the two of them. He
misses fussing about his ex-lover’s various
medical conditions. Gay life in Dubai
is no doubt grim. Joe nowadays appears to
live mostly on the Internet. The American
boyfriend, perhaps because he was at the
end of an employment contract or perhaps
becauserelations with Joehadlanguished,
returned here to Tulsa by himself. Well,
almost by himself. He brought their eat
back to Tulsa but he left his Filipino
boyfriend behind in the Arabian deserts.
for housing programs earmarked for
people with AIDS. The $21 million was
shifted to help f’mance state extended care
programs for veterans. Rep. VanHilleary,
R-Tenn., said the reduction was justified
because of a 6 percent decline in the
annual number of AIDS cases. Opponents
of the amendment argued that the
decline is attributed to the wider use of
¯ new drugs and the success ofsuch drug
tr~tments often depends on patients having
decent housing.
Almost everybody wo~nders about the
paths not taken. By telling our untold tales
and making them normal, I hope that our
sense of failure will be reduced.’" As a
psychotherapist, Marny has been witness
to many stories by Lesbians. An example
of the man3’ excerpts from The Lesbian
Love Companion: "You might ~’ant to
develop your other-woman fantasy. Install
her as your permanent muse. Pay
attention to her. She’ll tell you whether t~
sign up for scuba class or just buy some
new lingerie. And after you do what she
suggests, check in with her from time to
time. Has she changed? Is she suggesting
another direction? You are entitled to
keep her toyourself: ,She is, after all,
purely 3"our playmate, soul mate - combination
projection, reflection, guide. And,
:Aphrodite forbid, ifanything should ever
happen to ),our partner, ’*our fantasy lover
";~q]l be there for you. SlOe will shoe 3"our
’memories and your tears. She will con-
~ble and commiserate. And, one chy, when
the time is right, she will lead You back to
~E world.’" As Mamv writes i’n the book:
"V~qlen it comes to ou~ lives and loves, we
need a generous supply of alternative stoi~
es: Instructive sci-fi fabIes and twilight
zone mysteries, endless sequels and whitel~
uckl~ exploits. \Ve ~e both hearth
buggers and voyagersl We must make
room in our lives for the dream of foreverafter
and the determination to never look
back."
Early reactions to Marny’s book? Rumorhas
it that Lily Tomlin loves it ! Alison
Bechdel, creator of the comic strip Dykes
To Watch Out For, calls it".., a veriiable
Karma Sutra of emotional possibility."
For further reading: Mamy Hall (1998),
The Lesbian Love Companion: How to
Survive Everything from Heartthrob ~o
Heartbreak. HarperCollins, I0 East 53rd
St., New York, NY 10022.
Prof. Esther
Rothblum
is teachek psy-
6hology at the
University of
Vermont 6nd is
Editor of the
Journal of Lesbian
Studies.
She can be
reached at Jo,"n
Dewey Hail,
University of Vermont, Burlington, VT
05405. e~ail: esther.rothblum@uvm.edu.
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Jan. 15 - Feb. 14, 1997, vol. 4, no. 2
Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual & Trans Communities
Marriage Update
Wash. St. Governor
Supports Gay Marriage
OLYMPIA (AP) - As one of his final acts, out~goi.ng
Gov. Mike Lowry is sponsoring legislation to a_utho.nze
same-sex marriages. The bill is doomed in the Legislature,
wheremajority Republicans intendtopass abanon
same-gender unions. But a Lowry spokesman said
Thursday the governor considers the ban blatant bias
and hopes to begin a dialogue that will eventually end
discrimination against gays and lesbians.
Rep. Ed Murray, D-Seatde, the only openly Gay
member of the Legislature, will introduce the Lowry
bill.in the House. The senator from his district, Democrat
Pat Thibaudeau, will sponsor an identical bill in the
Senate. Their 43rd District includes Seattle’s Capitol
Hill,whichhas the state’ s heaviest concentrationof gay
couples.
Murray and Thibaudeau also will sponsor legislation
aimed at barring discrimination in employment based
onsexual orientation. Lowry also has givenhis endorsement
to the bill, which is a pordon of a perennial antidiscrimination
bill that Gay civil rights activists long
have sought.
Rep. Bill Thompson, R-Everett, will again sponsor a
bill to ban same-gender marriages. His plan would
I N.O..W. Plans
Gay::Arkansas c,v,, Rights
¯ Ma r r! ag,e. Panel
Proposed for Gays
TULSA Tulsa s newly rewved chapter of
ii
gions, legal and political aspects. Those attending wi,ll have an
opportunity to ask questions. Northeastern Oklahoma .s.contac.t
person for the National Freedom to Marry Coalition will attend
¯ also. The National Freedom to Marry Coalition is co-ordinated
: by Lambda Legal Defense and Educational Fund, the national
: legal organization that helped the Hawaii litigants and their
: attorneys. The Coalition includes groups working on same-
. gender marriage issues across the US.
: Formoreinformation or to become a co-sponsor, please call or
: write NOW at 365-5658 or POB 14068, Tulsa 74159.
’the National Organii,
zation for Women will host a post-Valentine’s Day panel focus-
: ing on same gender marriage as part of a national campaign by
: NOWto raise awareness about marriage issues. TheNOWpanel
will be held at Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 So.
: Harvard at 3pro on Sat., Feb. 15. The panel is.co-sponsored by
: Fellowship Congregational Church, PFLAG - Parents, Families
: and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, and by The Pride Center and
¯ Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. A number of other Tulsa
congregations will likely also be co-sponsors.
." NOWmembers note that they are still finalizing some details
of the program but it will feature a same-gehder couple who’ve
¯ had a marriage ceremony, as well as speakers addressing reli-
Pride Center Begins
i Pledge ’97 Program
: TULSA- President ofthe-PrideCenter, Deb Shames, announced
¯¯ thekickoffofPledge’97,aongoingmembershipandfundraising ¯
campaign to support the Pride Center, Tulsa’s home for the
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans communities. Statues notes
¯ that that Centeris in sound financial shape due to the kindness of :
: groups like the Prime Timers, thegenerosity of individuals and :
¯ the sound management of the ’96 board of directors. However, :
." she adds that utilities.and minor repairs remain and as more ,
¯ community groups nse the facility, thecostrises and the need f0r "_
¯ suPportinereases. ¯
: Communityleaders, DennisNeillandtheRev.LesliePeurose, :
: have agreed to serve as two of the honorary chairpersons of "
i Pledge ’97. Neill who helped found Tulsa Oklahomans for :
¯ Human Rights, the parent organization of the Pride Center, is :
: well respected for his leadership with the City of Tulsa’s Human ,
¯ Rights Committee and the Rev. Leslie Penrose, pastor of the :
¯ United Methodist Community of Hope see Pledge, page 3 :
simply declare marriage to be a union between a man " .
and a woman, mirroring both new federal legislatign " Say No TO Hate Did NOT :
and a 20-year-old state court ruling: The issue was the No. l priority of religious conservatives in the Legisla- :AnnroveCallforWorkplace ture last year, but Thompson’s bill died in the Senate, :--rr -----
" Protections for Gays!
Republicans took over the Senate in the November " ¯
elections, and Majority Leader Dan McDonald, R- ¯ TULSA - Contrary to earlier reports, Tnlsa’s Say No To Hate
Coalition did not adopt a statement calling forjob anti-discrimination
protections that included sexual Orientation along with
race, religion, disability, gender, etc.
According to Deborah Levine with the Community Relations
Committee of Tulsa’s Jewish Federation, the member organizations
of the Coalition did not reject the statement but some
members did havequestions about some of tli~ language. These
objections put the statement on hold until the Coalition can meet
again and revise the language.
Whenasked, Levine stated that she did not think the objections
were to the inclusion of the term, "sexual orientation". This
phrase is needed in order that Gay and Lesbian persons be
protected from anti-Gay bias in the workplace, see Jobs, page 3
: IXITLEROCK (AP)-Twolegislators have agreed
: to help a gay fights groupget basic civil rights for
¯ gays and lesbians written into state law. Sen. Mike ¯ Everett, D-Marked Tree, and,Sen. Jim Argue, D-
¯ Litde Rock, are joining with the Arkansas Noni
Discrimination Alliance tomake it illegal to dis-
. criminate against someone because of their sexual
¯ orientation in such matters as jobs and housing.
: "It’s the right thing to do," said Everett. "I know
: this issue. I have some experience with it because
¯ my son’s gay." Arguesaid it was an issue of basic
: fairness. "And I think there’s substantial public
: support that a person’s employment ought to hinge
: on their job performance rather than their sexual
¯ orientation."
: The alliance was formed after proposals to ban
~ same-sex marriage were filed for the legislative
¯ session. The alliance opposes the proposals but
." discovered through apoll that there’s little support
¯. for same-sex marriage. "Sowedon’tintend to press
¯ that issue," said DebraBailey ofLittle Rock, devel-
¯
opment coordinator of the Arkansas Gay and Les-
: bian Task Force, a founding member of the alli-
¯ In 1995, Attorney General Winston Bryant is-
" sued an opinion that people of the same sexmaynot
: marryin Arkansas, althoughArkansas law does not
." expressly prohibit or permit same-sex marriages.
Ms. Bailey said that the alliance will focus on
¯ discrimination in jobs and housing. Everett and
~ Argue plan to offer the alliance’s proposal as an
¯ amendment to the legislation to outlaw same-sex
: marriages, see Bill, page 3
Revision of OK Hate
Crimes Laws Proposed
TULSA- It’s that time again. The Oklahoma Legislature
is about to re.convene and Lesbians and
Gay political observers in thestate anticipate that
several well known Gay-hating legislators will
introduce one or another bill attacking Lesbian and
Gay citizens as they usually do..
Longdme observers of the Legislature are particnlarly
concerned that new Speaker of the Oklahoma
House of Representatives, Loyd Bensen,
.may allow more anti-Gay legislation to get a hearlng.
Typically any anti-Gay bill only loses if it is
bottled up in committee. Many legislators believe
that any vote that could be characterized as pro7
Gay is enough to get a legislator defeated and
therefore, vote for anti-Gay bills even though they
may not really support them. And then, there are
enough who really are hostile to Lesbian and Gay
citizens.
While Tulsa has no formally organized political
action committee, several Tulsa area political activists
have identified see Hate, page 3
Coming Soon!
Activist Honored:
¯
Community Unitarian Universalist Church will
¯
host a workshop on operating by consensus. The
: workshop will belead by C.T. Butler, the author of
¯ On Conflict and Consensus. The first session will
: be on Sunday, Jan. 19 from 9-10:30am and the
¯
second will be on Monday, Jan. 20 following a
¯ poduck dinner that begins at 6pm. The workshops
¯ will be held at Community of Hope, 1703 East
Second Street. For more information, call Judy
McCormick at 298-4495. see Coming,page 12
INSIDE
Bellevue, says passage ofthelegislationis certain. "We ¯
are hoping it will be a litde less confrontational this ~
year," he said in an interview. "We’re not out to bash .
anybody, butwefeel theinstitutionofmarriageis avery :
fragile thing.andwewantto shore itup." He said the bill ¯
will be sent to the new governor, Gary Locke, who is ;
sworn in next Wednesday. Thompson said he hopes
Locke will follow the lead ofPresident Clintonand sign :
the measure. If Locke vetoes it, it’s quite-possible ¯
enough Democratic votes can be rounded up to over- :
ride, Thompson said. .
The last resort would be #acing the measure on the ¯
fall ballot as a referendum for the people to decide, he
said. "Wedon’twantto go thatway ifwedon’t have to,7 :
Thompson said. He said he sympathizes with critics’ ;
worries that it would be a divisive issue if it goes to the ¯
balloL AtaThursday news conference in Seattle, Locke "
repeated his distaste for the ban bill, but stopped short "
of saying he would veto it, saying he would want to see ."
its exact wording. During the campaign, Locke said he ¯
would sign a Murray-style bill.
Murray conceded his own bill is not acceptable to a "
majority of voters, but predicted ~e,ban wouldn’t pass ¯
muster, either. But he said he didn t want to cede the
legislative arena to the foes of same-sex marriage. "I
realizethis willbe seen as extremeby some, but the anti- "
same sex mamage bill is also extreme," he said in an."
interview, see Marriage, page 3
TULSA - Longtime fundraising activist and Follies Revue ¯
founder and performer, Linda Stevens, was honored by Wash- :
ington, DC’s Whitman-WalkerClinic this fall. The Clinic, which :
provides HIV/AIDS care for the nation’s capital, recognized ¯
Lesbians across theUS for their long-term role, an.d their strength
and commitment, in fighting the battle against HIV/AIDS. "
Stevens’ name was added to the Lesbian Honor Role which is ¯
permanently displayed at Whitman-Walker Clinic.
Stevens Was nominated by John Coney, who s been part of the ¯
Follies since their first performance.. Follies Revue, Inc. which "
raises funds for local HIV/AIDS care andprevention will hold its .
9th performance in 1997.
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US & WORLD NEWS P. 4
HEALTH NEWS P. 6
ENTERTAINMENTIARTS P. 8
COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9
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RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 11
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CLASSIFIEDS P. 14-15
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by Tom Neal, publisher/editor
It’s that time again when the Oklahoma
Legislature begins its periodic, absurdist
comedy. This performance usually ends
in disgrace for the people of this state,
especially those of us who are Lesbian or
Gay, Bi orTransgendered. It ismosttragic
for People Living with AIDS (PLWA’s).
One issue that’s come to light from
TFN’s coverage of the HIV Resource
Consortium (I-IIVRC), is that the State of
Oklahoma through our legislature, provides
a tiny, tiny amount of funding
($206,000 according to HIVRC Executive
Director, Sharon Thoele) for HIV/
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So, it al?pears that the
State of Oklahoma is
spending fewer dollars
annually on HIV/AIDS
care than it spent to put
AIDS eare/services. Though this amount
must not include the budget for the HIV/
STD SectionoftheOklahoma State Dept.
of Health, who help administer federal
HIV/AIDS dollars, the amount is hardly
adequate to the need.
Thoele stated that this amount was
contributed begrudgingly, because the
State of Oklahomahad to give something
in order to receive the federal dollars.
And almost all of the dollars going to
HIV/AIDS care are federal. Thocle also
notes that this amount has not increased
since the early 90’s, although the case
see next column
Guy. Frank Keatlng on
his leather overed
airborne toilet seat!
832-1269
744-0896
749-1563
749-4511
749-5678
745-9998
585-2221
834-4234
585-3405
660-0856
584-1308
585-3134
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
*Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Samson & Delilah, 10 E. Fifth
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston
: Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
" AIDS Walk Tulsa, PUB 1071, 74101-1071 579-9593
¯¯ Black & White, lnc. POB 14001,Tulsa74159 583-7314
*Bless The Lord... Christian Center, 2627b E. 11 628-0594
¯ *B/L!G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
¯ *Chapman Student Ctr., University ofTulsa, 5th Pl. &Florence ¯
*CommtmityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703 E.2nd 585-1800
_" Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595
¯ Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648
: *Family of Faith MCC, :5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441
¯ *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
: *Free SpiritWomens Center,.call forlocation &info: 587-4669
¯ Friend For A Friend, PUB 52344, 74152 747-6827
; Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-Ameiican mens group),
PUB 8542, 74101, call e/o HOPE @ 712-1600
: HOPE, H]VOutreach, Prevention, Education, 1307E.38,2ndfl.
¯ 712-1600, HOPE Anonymous HIV Testing Site, 742-2927
¯
Indian Health Care, TNAAPP 582-7225
: Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
¯ *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
¯ *HIV Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 749-4194
; NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 748-3111
: NOW, Nat’lOrg. forWomen, POB 14068,74159 365-5658
¯ *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960
¯ PFLAG , PUB 52800, 74152 749-4901
: *Planned Parenthood, 100.7 S. Peoria 58%7674
¯ *The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 743-4297
¯ Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 583-1410
¯ *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
: Rainbow Business Guild, PUB 4106, 74159 665-5174
: Red Rock Mental Center, 302 S. Cheyenne #108 584~2325
¯ St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882
~ St. Jerome’s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, 646-7116
~ *Shanti Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services 749-7898
_, Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, PUB 2687, 74101 743-4297
:
Technicians (leather organization) 584-1308
¯ T.U.LS.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
~ *Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor
¯ *Tulsa Community College, Metro & NE Campuses ¯
*Rogers University (formerly UCT)
: EUREKA SPRINGS ¯
Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy 23 South 501-253-7734
~ *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457
: DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-
¯ 6807 see Jim, page 12
", *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445
; Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, PUB 429 501-253-2776
¯ King’sHi-Way,96KingSHighway,Hwy.62W 800-231-1442
-" MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 ¯
McClung Realtors 501-253-9682
¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-253-2401
¯ Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659, 800-624-6646 ¯
¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001
OKLAHOMA CITY
: Face Beautiful Day Spa, 7108-D2 N.Westem 405-840-3223
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620
*Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Baleh & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
*Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712--9955
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272
*Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521
Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E 15th 749-3620
*Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556
Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595
Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial 622-3636
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337
Express Pools & Spas, 6310 S. Peoria 743-9994
Foxlinx, Computer Consultation 690-2974
Leanne M. Gross, Financial Planning 744-0102
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
Robert Holland, Attorney 494-0484
*International Tours. 341-6866
Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750
Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, PUB 14011, 74159 747-5466
I_angley Agency, 1104 S. Victor 592-1800
Lean Ann Macomber, Realtor Associate 671-2010
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31st 663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Pl 664-2951
*Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard- 747-6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672
Pet Pride, Dog & Cat Grooming 584-7554
’The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor 743-4297
Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626
Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations, 743-2351
*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
Southwest Viatical 747-3322, 800-305-6384
Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counsding 743-1733
: 10ad has increased by.four times. She also
: noted that even if the amount were in-
¯ creased proportionally to the caseload,
: the original amount wasnot adequate.
: So, it appears that the State of Okla-
¯ homa is spending fewer dollars annually
: on HIV/AIDS care.than it spent to put
¯
Gov. Frank Keating on aleather-covered
¯ airborne toilet seat[ And claims of bud:
¯ getary shortfalls to the contrary, there
¯ seems to be some state money left some-
" where.
¯ A reporter for The Daily Oklahoman
i .(OK.C’s daily newspaper), :who special-
, lzes mcomputer analysis of slate government
records, toldTFN that in addition to
the couple of billion in our state’s regular
budget, that there are "special" accounts
of state dollars that are not included in the
regular accounting. Unless, my middleaged
brain slipped a digiL he said these
special accounts amounted to $800 million.
That’s in addition to other billions!
$800,000,000 versus $206,000. Imagine
a tiny fraction of $800 million, sayg8
million, to makesure that PLWA’s could
actually get these new lifesaving drug
combination therapies, or to see thathousing
and food needs were met. Sadly, you
and I know that this is not likely.
Contrast the State.ofNew Jersey under
rising Republican star, G0v. Christine
Todd Whitman. New Jersey has a budget
just for drug assistance alone of $9 million.
Yes, they are a wealthier and more
populous statebut still thatamountdoesn’t
include any of the other State of New
Jersey dollars for other HIV/AIDS care
needs.
So why don’t we, as a commlmity of
Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals, Transgendered
persons, our friends .and allies
set as our goal for this legislature to try to
increase our state’s contribution, at least
in proportion to the increasein caseload.
Thatwouldbearound $800,000. Whatthe
hell, let’s just round it up to one million.
Imagine a million Oklahoma dollars for
HIV/AIDS care!
But for this to work, eachand every one
Of you reading this will have to stop waiting
for someone else to do this work. You
can’t just wait for Nancy McDonald or
Kelly Kirby or Janice Nicklas to speak ou.t
on these issues. Each of you Will have to
call your representative and your senator
to say that you care about this issue and
thatyou want to see an increasein State of
Oklahoma funding for HIV/AIDS care.
Ifyou don’tknow your representatives,
just call the Election Board at 596-5780
and give them your address. And after
you’ve called your representative (or better,
write them; best ofall ask tomeet with
them.), askyour friends, family and acquaintances
to do the same. I’ve talked
withmy representative and meet withmy
senator next week. Please do the same.
Tulsa Family. News will continue to
provide coverage of issues of concern to
Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals, Transgenderedpersons,
ourfriendsand allies
during this upcoming session ofthe Oklahoma
Legislature.Readers should expect
thatOneOr another ofour representatives
will introduce bills, attacking our communities.
We encourage you to develop a
relationship with your representatives to
help prevent these bills’ success.
’~Sometimes the only way to answer a~!
extreme measure is to introduce anoth~
extreme measure." Mtirray said citizerts
might react by urging lawmakers to write
middle-groundlegislation such as theantiemploymentdiscriminationbill.
Murray’s
bill would authorize a civil marriage contract
to provide the same marital benefits
that heterosexual couples get, such as the
rightofinheritance, health coverage, or to
visit a spouse in the hospital.
Lowry’s press secretary, Jordan Dey,
said the governor believes the civil contract
approach avoids some of the moral
or religious overtones of church weddings.
HesaidLowry doesn’tmindlaunching
an uphill fight. ’q’he governor has
stood against discrimination ever since
taking office, and this is another case of
discrimination, pure and simple; denying
people a legal benefit that is-available for
heterosexual couples," Dey said. "It is
important to do the right thing, whether
you lose the first time, the second time,
the third time. This may take a year, 5
years, 10 years, but at some point we will
be free of discrimination."
MississippiAgainst i
Gay Marriage
JACKSON, Miss. (AP) - Mississippi’s
constitution, which once barred people of
different races from marrying, may be
changed to also prohibit same-sex marriages.
The House andSenate are working
onproposals thatwouldkeep Gay couples
frofn wedding. The legislation is m response
to a homosexual rights case in
Hawaii. While a bill that unanimously
cleared a Senate committee Wednesday
makes same-sex marriages illegal, the
HouseConstitutionCommitteeis expected
to go even further, putting a ban before
voters in a constitutional amendment.
"I don’tthink there’s athreatthatpeople
are going to flock to Mississippi to solemnize
a same-sex marriage any more than
they would flock to Minnesota or North
Dakota," said Rep. John Reeves. But
Reeves saidmostMississippians wantthe
state to be on record as supporting only
heterosexual marriages. He said the constitutional
change would preclude gay
couples from filing suit claiming a marriage
law is unconstitutional. The Senate
bill would ban gay marriages in Mississippi
and bar the state from recognizing
marriages from other states.
Rep. Pat Miller said she is not convinced
the issue is important enough to
become part of the constitution but she
expects theHouseand Senatetoban samesex
marriages because "people... will
consider it a vote against homosexual
relationships."
Gov. Kirk Fordice, in anticipation of
that ruling, signed an executive order in
August banning recognition of same sex
marriages. Senate Judiciary Chairman
Bennie Turner, D-West Pint, asked if the
bill was needed, said: "95 percent of what
wepass is notneeded." Rep. MarkFormby,
R-Picayune, said lawmakers are following
public sentiment. "It’s not a fear factor,
or any kind of phobia. To me, it’s not
even finances. It’s a pro-family matter.
The majority of Mississippians do not
approve of that kind of thing"
: port MOnday in the Legisla-tur~ in0nti~-
¯¯ afterCongresspassedalawallowingstates
torefuse to recognize same-sex marriages
: from other states.
¯ HouseMinority Leader Steve Sviggum,
¯ and the sponsor of aHouse bill, noted that
¯
US Sen. PaulWellstone, andPres. Clinton
¯ both endorsed a ban on same-sex mar-
: riages. "I can’t imagine the legislators of
¯ Minnesota getting to the left of Sen.
¯ WellstoneorPres.Clinton,"Sviggumsaid.
¯ State law requires marriages to be be-
: tween members of the opposite sex, al-
: though it doesn’t specifically prohibit
¯¯ same-sex marriages.
¯ Sen. Tom Neuville, who sponsored a Senate banbill, said the Minnesota Legis-
¯ lature should act so it will not be forced
¯ under the U.S. Constitution to rex~gnize
-" gay marriages performedinHawaii. "Mar- "
: riage is an institution between men and
: women . . . it’s the best institution for
¯ raising children and avoiding poverty."
¯ Marriage also is a contract, which
: Nenville believes could be exploited if
" same-gender marriages were legal. For
¯ example, if a man had cancer, he could
¯ marry a male friend for health insurance
: benefits, Neuville said. "It will cause all
¯ sorts of social chaos," he said.
¯ , BuLAm-~-D~,ui.....ecuuve alrector
of the Gay and Lesbian Community Action
Council, said abuse is unlikely be-
: cause of the harassment gay couples face.
¯ "Peoplearen’t going tojnst do this so they ¯
get some sort of a deal," she said and
¯
, added that the council would vigorously
fight the proposed bans. Both she and
¯" Senate President Allan Spear, who is gay,
¯ believe the matter ultimatdy will be de-
: eided by the U.S. Supreme Court.
Minnesota Too?
ST. PAUL (AP) - Proposals to ban gay
marriages were winning high-profile sup-
: Wyoming Anti-Gay
i Marriage Bill
¯ CASPER, Wyo. (AP) - About one-tenth
~ ofWyoming’s lawmakers have filed abill
¯ that would explicitly declare same-sex
." marriages void in Wyoming and sped.fy
¯ such marriages from other states are m-
: valid in the Equality State. One of the
: bill’s sponsors, Rep. Rodney "Pete"
¯ Anderson, R-Pine Bluffs,triedunsuecess-
¯ fully to introduce a bill last year barring
: same-sex marriages.
: Wyoming’s bill - House Bill 94 -
: wouldn’t viol.ate Wyoming’s Constitu-
¯ tion, which guarantees equal political and
: civil rights to men and women, Anderson
¯ said. That’s because state statutes already
: make specific that marriage is between a
¯ man and a woman, he said. "We’ve de,
¯
fined marriage," Anderson said. "We’re
justsaying our defmitionis going to stand."
¯ Same-sex marriage should be illegal
: because of the economics involved and
: because "I don’t feel it’s according to
¯ nature," saidbill co-sponsor State senator
¯ Dick Erb. "As I told a group of high ¯
school kids, ifyou were arancher and you
: had a gay bull, what would you do with
; him?" said Erb. "One kid said, ’I’d take
¯ the sucker to the packing plant,"" ¯
Anderson said he believes homosexu-
: als shouldhave equal rights under thelaw.
; But he said his main reason for sponsor-
, ing the bill was economics - "so our
¯ companies will not have to give health
: insurance to (spouses in) those kind of
: marriages." "I like those people," said
¯ Anderson. "I don’t like their lifestyle but
I don thave aproblem w~th~t.., we re not
: saying they can’t live together, we’re
¯ just saying they can’t have the same privileges
or responsibilities a man and a
¯
woman have in marriage in the state of
~ Wyoming."
Theamendment would say that nothing
in the legisl~ition would prevent employer~
from "extending benefits to persons
v~ho are domestic partners of employees
or allow employers to discriminate against
employees because ofsexual orientation."
People discriminated against "because of
sexual orientation, real orperceived," shall
have the same rights to seek redress as
employees covered by the state’s civil
rights law, which was adopted in 1993.
David Ivers of Little Rock, an attorney
and founder of the Gay and Lesbian Alliance
Against Defamation, said he gets
calls from people saying they were fired
for being gay. "They are simply amazed
or shocked to find out there is no legislation
protecting them. They assume that if
they haven’t done anything wrong, that
they have a right to file a lawsuit and get
reinstated," he said.
reform of Oklahoma’s Hate Crimes Stat-
¯
ute as akey part of their !e~slative agenda
for the Lesbian]Gay community this year.
These activists also mentioned increased
funding forHIV/AIDS carefrom the State.
Oklahoma’s Hate Crimes Statute penalizes
crimes against individuals or organizations
that are motivated by racial or
religious bias but does not recognize
crimes that target individuals or groups
because oftheiractual orperceived sexual
orientation.
: One state representative, speaking on
¯ condition of anonymity, recalled that the
: original hate crimes bill may have included
sexual orientation but that that
: language was removed to help get the bill
¯ passed. She noted that just getting a bill
," addressing racial and religious issues was
¯ an accomplishment given what she char-
: acterized as a lack of much tolerance by
¯
Oklahoma legislators for minority citi-
¯ zens. She added the bill’s passage was a
~ much a testament to the skills and charac-
¯ ter of former representative Vicki Miles-
: Lagrange who’s now a federal judge.
: A spokesperson for Tulsa Oklahomans
¯ forHumanRights (TOHR) stated that the
: organization which is a member of the
¯ Say No To Hate Coalition will be asking
¯ other Coalition members to lobby ae- ¯
tively for an expansion of the Oklahoma
¯
Hate Crimes Statute. Other members of
¯ the Coalition include the National Con-
¯ fereuce (of Christians and Jews), Tulsa
: Metropolitan Ministry, the City of Tulsa
¯ Human Rights Commission, the Jewish
¯, Federation and several others.
¯ The Pride Center has agreed to act as a
: contact point for those who are interested
¯ in addressing these issues. Callers should
¯ leave their names and numbers for the
¯" Hate Crimes issues list with Deb Trevino
¯ at 743-4297.
i Related Stories:
Colorado Hate Crimes Bill
DENVER (AP) - A bill to expand
Colorado’s hate crimes law to protect
: homosexuals has been introduced in the
¯ Senate. It’s the second session in a row
¯" such legislation has been filed by Sen.
¯ Dorothy Rupert, D-Boulder. "It’s going
¯ to be tough fight, but I think weneed to do
this," Rupert said Monday. The bill died
; last year under election-year pressure to
¯ protect moderate Republicans.
¯ "I wanted so much last year to have a
¯
floorvotebutwas persuadednottodoso,"
state’s 1988 ethnicinlimidationlaw makes
it a crime to single out anyone for criminal
action because of race, color, ancestry,
religion or national origin. SB 10ft
would expand the law to include sexual
orientation, age, and physical or mental
disabilities.
Wyoming to Consider
Hate Crimes Issues.
CASPER, Wyo. (AP) - Religious and
humanrights groups that wereunsuccessful
in past attempts to pass a law enhanc-
¯ ingpenaldesforhatecrimes will try again
this year. Janet deVries of the Natrona
: County Grassroots Project said the Wyo-
¯ ruing Grassroots Coalition ~ a group of
¯
human rights organizations with offices
: in Natrona, Albany, Laramie, Sheridan
¯ and Teton counties - has teamed up with
¯ the Wyoming Church Coalition to sup-
, port a bill in the legislative session.
," Thegroups are seeking lawmakers from
¯ both sides of the aisle to sponsor abill that
would increase penalties for people who
¯ commit crimes motivated by bias based
," on race, religion, disability or sexual ori-
¯ entation, she said. The Wyoming Church
: Coalif!on~dpressed simil~ bills in the
: 1994 and 1995 legislative sessions.
¯ Chesie Lee, vice chairwoman of the
: Church Coalition said the proposal has
¯
gained bipartisan support. She said she
¯ believed the bills offered in the 1994 and
¯ 1995 sessions could have passed if they
: had made it to a final vote.
¯
Ms. DeVries said increased penalties
¯ for hate crimes are justified because such
¯ offenses affect groups of people rather
than individual victims. "If a Jewish fam-
¯
ily has a swastika painted on their house,
¯ it terrorizes the entire Jewish commu-
¯ nity," she said. She noted the bill applies ¯
only to crimes and not speech, which is
¯ protected by the First Amendment.
: The state Department of Investigation
¯ said there were 13 crimes in Wyoming
¯
involving bias in 1995. Casper Public
¯ Safety Director Art de Werk said a hate
: crime law would give officers a new tool
¯ to help reduce crime while "making a ¯
statement by warning people that there
: are enhanced penalties" for committing
¯ such crimes.
¯ on Lesbian]Gay and HIV/AIDS issues.
¯ Several others have beeninvited tojoin as
¯ wdl.
¯ Individuals, families,andorganizations
: are encouraged to become members.
: While the Center is open to all who share
¯ the values of the organization, only mere-
¯
bets may vote and will receive informa-
~ tion, newsletters,etc.Thosememberswho
~ make a pledge will be recognized at the
¯ Pride Center unless they specifically pre-
: feranonymity. For apledgepacket, please
¯ call the Pride Center at 743-4297.
¯ term would also protect heterosexuals
: against workplace discrimination but it
," is rare for heterosexuals to be.the target
¯ of workplace bias.
¯ At press time, the Coalition did not ¯
have any meetings scheduledbuthadbeen
¯: asked by a representative of member or-
: ganization, Tulsa Oklahomans for Hu-
¯ man Rights, to schedule a meeting to
: address this issue.
is also well knownfor her advocacy work
Strictly speaking, the inclusion of the
City,to Businesses:
Equal Benefits Required
SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - San FxTmcisco is about to
make a unique demand on thousa~tds of companies -
extend health insurance and other benefits to their
employees’ same-sex partners, or forget about doing
business with the city.
A new ordinance will affect many of the roughly
10,000 U.S. companies that contract with the city to
provide everything from banking services to office
supplies. Critics call the policy ill-conceived and
costly, approved without ample study or public notice.
"We don’ t think it’s good public policy for the
city to tie its hands in the way this ordinance mandates,"
said Dennis Wyss, a spokesman for Bank of
America, the nation’s third-largest. "We think San
Francisco taxpayers get the highest-quality services
for theirmoney when the city keeps its options open."
SupporterssaY it’ s abasic anti-discriminationmeasure
aimed at granting all unmarried domestic partners
- although most of them in San Francisco are
same-sex couples - the same rights enjoyed by wedded
couples. "It would be important to me even if I
dida’ t have a partner, simply as a moral matter," said
Joe Leslie, a 52-year-old assistant vice president at
Bank of America who, with his partner Michael,
stands to benefit from the policy. Leslie said he and
Michael are "as loving as any married couple that
ever walked this Ear~," --.rod.for co-workers’
to receive better benefits is simply unfair. "We do the
same work, our spousal status is virtually the same.
(Yet) they get benefits I don’ t get," Leslie said.
The Gap, Levi Strauss & Co. and the Walt Disney
Co. already have started domestic parmer policies. In
San Francisco, Bank of America officials have discussed
such a policy but have not enacted it. "If it’ s
good enoughfor Mickey Manse, it’ s goodenonghfor
San Francisco," said city SupervisorTomAmmiano,
the measure’ s co-author. The city’ s Board of Supervisor
gave the ordinance unanimous approval after
considering it sincelastFebruary. MayorWillieBrown
signed it in early November. Brown and .Amrniano
said it is the first such city ordinance in the nation.
Ammiano said politicians in some other cities, including
New York and Seattle, have inquired about
the measure.
HateCrime Protections?
COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) - Protecting gays from violence
is the right thing to do, one lawmaker says. But
a lobbyist for a top state official says adding such
language to ahate crime bill would divide the General
Assembly and torpedo the legislation.
Lawmakers, who open the 1997 session in two
weeks, are expected to consider two versions ofabate
crime bill. One offers protection against crimes motivatedbyhatred
ofgays’ sexual orientation; the other
does not. Both bills, which are expected to be introduced
early in the session, would stiffen prison sentences
when prosecutors prove the crime was moilvated
by hatred because of race or religion.
Crimes against blacks, including recent church
bumings, prompted the legislation. But state Sen.
Darrell Jackson, a black Columbia Democrat, says
the measure should go one step further. "I look
forward to convincing people that you don’ t have to
be a supporter of gay rights to believe no one should
have crimes committed against them because of their
sexual orientation," Jackson said.
CamCrawford, lobbyist for state Attorney General
Charlie Condon, said Condon does not want to inelude
gays because the issue is so divisive it would
kill the legislation. "Nobody has demonstrated to us
that there’ s a problem with (people being attacked
because of) sexual orientation," Crawford said. "If
they can show us a problem, then we’ll cross that
bridge when we come to it."
Federal statistics show four South Carolina hate
crimes against gays in 1994, compared with 23 racial
hate crimes, two motivated by religion and one motivated
by etlmicity. Tony Snell, co-chairman of the
South Carolina Gay and Lesbian Pride Movement
Said the group is gathering information for legislators.
Many gays either do not report attacks to police
or do notreport themotivation for the attacks, Snell
¯ said. Some gays arein the closet, while others expect
," to encounterbias from police. "I know people who
: havebeen attacked, and even shot, whowill notreport
¯ it as a hate crime," Snell said. =
¯ HIV+, Gay aWmaker
-" CHICAGO (AP) - Being gay and HIV-positive has
." shaped some of Larry McKeon’ s views, but the state
¯¯ representative-elect says there’ s alotmore to him. "I
¯ bring a lot of things to the table. Being HIV-positive
isjust one ofthem," says McKeon, who willbe sworn
: in as a member of the House when the 90th General
¯ Assembly opens Jan. 8. Gay activists, who say
: McKeon is the state’s first openly gay legislator,
: cheer his election as the start of a new era in Illinois
: politics.
¯ Rich Garcia, executive director of the Illinois Fed-
: eration for Human Rights, said McKeon won the
: respect of many as Mayor Richard Daley’ s liaison to
¯ gay andlesbianleaders. "I predicted either the mayor
¯ would hate him or he would deny this community," ¯
Garcia said. But McKeon won the mayor’ s trust and
¯ the trust of divergent factions within the city’ s gay
¯ and lesbian community, Garcia said.
McKeon, 52, a former lieutenant in the Los Ange-
: les County Sheriff’ s Department, says he just wants
¯ to be seen as a hard-working man whose sexual
¯" orientation is irrdevant. That may be difficult in the
,,
¯ o~m,._~,^ut,._.,..............h,.=.,-,.=..la.w..m.n..k.e.r~. roufinely re’’3e~t Pr.ogay
legislation, but McKeon’ S straightforward sty|e
." andworkhabits shouldhelp, friends say. "Justbybim
¯ being there, he’ll be saying to people, "Look at me, ¯
rmjnstlike everybody else," said Rep. Carol Ronen,
: D-Chicago.
". McKeon says fears of some constituents that he
¯ will represent ouly a"gay agenda" are unfounded. He
: says he cares most about healiug society’ s problems
¯ - the focus of his campaign literature. And while
¯ living with the shadow of AIDS has helped shape his
: opinions, McKeon says, "it isn’t the essence of who
: Gay Dad Wins Court Fight
: SEATTLE(AP)-Orderingagayfathernot to display
: affection with a partner in front of his four children
¯ was going too far, a state appellate panel has ruled in ¯ overturning portions of aWhatcom County Superior
¯ Court decision. "We hold that the trial court erred by
¯ restrictingWard (Wicklund)’ s conduct based on his
sexual orientation," said a Monday ruling from the
: state Court of Appeals’ Division 1 bench.
¯ ’q’he evidence showed only that the children expe- ¯
rienced difficult), adjusting after their parents’ sepa-
¯" ration," three justices wrote. "But where the only
: harm is adjustment, the remedy is counseling, not
¯ restrictions on the parents’ lifestylein terms of sexual
: orientation." The court reversed those restrictions,
¯
and similar ones imposed on the children’s mother,
¯ Corrine Wicklund. She had been ordered not to par-
¯ ticipate in displays of affection-"handholdiug, ldss-
¯ ing, etc." - with a significant other in front of the
: children"unless the parent is married to the person."
: The appellate judges found the trial court had
abused its discretion by restricting parental rights on
¯" grounds of sexual preference. There was no evidence
~ thatWicklundbehaved inappropriately in front ofhis
¯ children, they noted. "Problems with adjustment are
¯" the normal response to any breakup ofafami ly," they
: wrote. "But restrictions on a parent’ s conduct de-
" signed to artificially ameliorate changes in a child’ s
¯ life arenotpermissible. "Iftheproblemis adjustment,
: the remedy is counseling.... The trial court should
¯ have considered whether to order counseling and
¯. should not have entered improper restrictions on
Ward’ s conduct."
" Psych.ologists Support
¯ Gay H=gh School Groups
¯ TUCSON, Ariz.. (AP) - Gay high school students
¯
need support groups, and school officials should
¯ adopt anti-discrimination policies that includehomosexual
students, a statewide group says.
¯ In letters sent Wednesday to 360 high school coun-
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selors across the state, the Arizona Psychological
Association urged school officials to allow gay student
support groups. "Even if students do not attend
support groups, just the knowledge that there is support
for them is a ben~fi~,~.~, said Tucson psychologist
Jean Baker, a mem156r of the association’s Gay and
Lesbian Issues Task Force.
Theletters were sent one day after Republican Rep.
Dan Schottel announced he intends to sponsor legislation
requiring public schools to ban gay support
groups from access to campuses. The veteran Tucson
legislator said his bill would apply from kindergarten
through university levels. Theproposal is expected to
be patterned after legislation approved in Utah last
year. That law allows.school districts to deny access
to clubs that "materially or substantially encourage
criminal or delinquent conduct, promote bigotry or
involve human sexuality.Y
Baker said banning gay support groups effectively
sanctions harassment against homosexuals. "It could
take away the one place where gay students can talk
to someone," she said. Gay teens are at high risk of
depression and suicide because they feel isolated, the
association said. ’‘The purpose of the support group is
to provide a safe place- a place to be who you are,"
saidTam De Witt, aTucson High School nurse. "It’s
a group for people to gain support and friends."
Schottel’s proposal targets groups like those at Desert
View High School in Sunnyside Unified School
District and Tucson High Magnet School in Tucson
Unified School District. Both groups were studentinitiated.
Montana’s First Lesbian
(or Gay) Legislator
HEI .ENA (AP)- Rep. Dianesands, longtime activist
for. homosexual and women’s rights, wants to be
known for more than being Montana’s first openly
gay legislator. "This may be naive," the Missoula
Democrat said, "but I think it’s irrelevant."
Listing her partner, former legislator and Missoula
CountyCommissionerAnnMaryDussault, in abooklet
summarizing the background of all 150 lawmakers
shouldn’t be a big deal, Sands. said. "I am who I
am." "I guess I’ll wait and see if it’s going to be a
problem," she added in the midst of her first week as
legislator. "Hopefully, people will realize I’mjust an
effective legislator and a nice person."
Sands, 49, grew up in a cauldron of discrimination
and injustice on an eastern Montana Indian reservation.
Shehas made acareer out ofbattling thoseforces
ever since. After three decades of advocating civil,
racial and sexual rights, Sands was appointed to the
House District 66 seat vacated by Mike Kadas last
year after he was named mayor of Missoula. She was
unopposed in the November election.
House Minority Leader Vicki Cocchiarella, DMissoula,
said Sands’s familiarity withissues and the
Legislature is impressive. So is her ability to get
along, she added. "Diane is one of thefew people that
I have encountered who, as a lobbyist, has always
been real receptive to others’ ideas," Cocchiarella
said. Her openness about her sexual orientation "will
be a liability if other people don’t give her a fair
chance," she said. "If people want to make a b,!g issue
of it, then that’s the kind of people they are.
Montanans Still Want
to Ban Gay Sex
HI~.! .ENA (AP) - A majority of Montanans want to
keep on the books a state law prohibitinghomosexual
sex, and a plurality favor a law banning so-called
partial-birth abortions, anew poll has found. The poll
was conducted for the Lee Newspapers of Montana
on issues likely to face the Legislature that convened
Monday.
The Lee poll indicated that Montanans don’t want
to strike from the books a law prohibiting homosexual
sex. Fifty-seven percent of those polled want
the law to remain intact, compared to 31 percent who
wantitrepealed. The poll also showed that 52 percent
of those queried want the 1997 Legislature to enact a
law outlawing homosexuals from getting married,
while 39 percent opposed such a measure. It showed
¯ that 46 percent of those questioned ~avor, a gtate’law
¯ to ban late-term or So-called partial-birth abortions,
while 32 percent oppose such a measure
:Harassed Teacher Dies
GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (AP) - The stress from
¯ months of anti-homosexual sentiment in a small, ¯
conservative town could have contributed to the
¯ death of a gay teacher, apathologist says. Dr. Stephen
: CoMe said Gerry Crane, 32, had a floppy heart valve,
¯ a condition that usually is not fatal. He died Jan. 3, a ¯
week after suffering a heart attack. "In a small per-
: centage of patients, (the valve) can be lethal," said
¯ Cohle,. who performed an autopsy. CoMe also found
¯" scars in the heart muscle. As for Crane’s experience
: inByronCenter, aGrand Rapids suburb, "itmay have
." put him over the edge," the doctor said Tuesday.
¯ Crane resigned last summer as music teacher at
: Byron Center High School, saying the anti-gay atmo-
¯ sphere in town was like "ingesting poison." The
¯ school board had considered firing himinDecember ¯
1995. Instead, itcondemnedhomosexualityandprom-
" ised close scrutiny.
[ Morethan900people, including some students and
¯ teachers, attended Crane’s funeral Tuesday at
: Westminster Presbyterian Church in Grand Rapids..
: "He taught our children to sing, and in a world where
: ugliness is gaining on us, can you think of many
¯ greater gifts?" the Rev.WilliamEvertsberg said. He ¯
said Crane and partner Randy Block had a strong
¯
relationship. In a subtle jab at Crane’s opponents,
: many of them religious conservatives, Evertsberg
¯ said: "Maybe we’ll learn family values from people
: who aren’t supposed to have any."
¯ Crane’s friends advised Byron Center Principal
: William Skilling to stay away from the funeral. In
¯ Skilling’s evaluations of Crane, before his homosexuality
was learned, the teacher was praised as a
¯" "role model for our students." But by last June, a
¯ monthbeforeCraneresigned, Skillinghadthreatened
¯ to recommend his firing if he mentioned anything in
: class about homosexuality.
"Ellen" Comes Out
- Sort Of
NEW YORK (AP) - At a rock ’n’ roll fantasy camp
with David Crosby, Bonnie Raitt and Aaron Neville,
theTV character"Ellen" belts out a song with an eyeopening
last verse: "By the way, I’m gay. It’s OK. I’m
gay!" Just don’t expect to See this particular episode
on ABC anytime soon.
ABC executives have confirmed the monthsdong
rumor that they are considering a story line on"Ellen"
where comedian Ellen Degeneres’ character reveals
she is a lesbian. During a show taping Friday,
Degeneres cut three takes of a segment where she
sings a song, "I’m Scared of Being Afraid," according
to Touchstone Productions, which makes the
show.The third take included the unscripted "coming
out" declaration, which sources said was greeted by
wild cheers.
ATouchstoneofficial saidprivately thatDegeneres
was blowing off some steam after hearing that her
show was-being taken off the air during March and
April to make room for a new Arsenio Hall comedy.
"It’s not intended for a telecast. It is not going to be on
any telecast," said ABC spokeswoman Janice
Gretemeyer. ABC Entertainment President Jamie
Tarses said last week that a"coming out" episode was
being worked on, but that the network wants to see if
it works creatively beforemaking a decision on going
ahead.
The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation,
whichmaintains an"Ellen watch" pageon the Worldwide
Web, criticized Tarses for "waffling" on the
story line since rumors began last fall. "We hope they
stop dragging their feet," alliance spokesman Alan
Klein said Monday. ’’The American public is ready,
willing and able to see this as soon as possible."
cnentust to earcn
for AIDS Vaccine
CAMBRIDGE, Mass. (AP) -~Ever since
the HIV virus and AIDS were detected,
thebulk of scientificresearch has focused
on treating those already infected- not or
finding a way to halt the spread of the
disease. Now, the National Institutes of
Health has commissioned a Nobel prizewinning
MIT professor to help breathe
new life into the search for an AIDS
vaccine. "There are thousands of people
infected daily and our goal would be to
prevent thoseinfections," said David Baltimore,
who will spearhead the new NIH
committee.
About a year ago, a study by 114 scienfists
who supportedAIDS research set out
a series ofguidelines for theNIHresearch
program. Tops on the list was reinvigorated
AIDS vaccine research, said Dr.
William Paul, director of the NIH’ s Ofrice
of AIDS Research. "We will only be
able to conquer this disease ifwe are able
to devdop a vaccine," Paul said. "We
need good drugs, but we recognize that
treatment isn’ t going to solve our problems."
New drugs to treat symptoms of
AIDS have shownpromiserecently. Combinations
of drugs called protease inkibitors
have been slowing symptoms and
giving hope to HIV-infected patients.
Still, there’ s been no sign of a cure.
Since 1988, more than 15 AIDS vaccines
have been tested, but so far none has
proved successful. Although several vaccines
are in early stages of clinical trials,
it’s too soon to tell whether they will
work, Paul said. "But our position is that
we cannot rely on that. This is too important
a problem not to be planning for the
eventuality that these vaccines maynotbe
as effective as we would wish," he said.
Enter Baltimore, who won the Nobel
Prize in 1975 for his discovery of the
reverse transcriptase enzyme - the basic
enzyme by which HIV is able to multiply.
NIH’s top AIDS scientists hope Baltimore
will help guide them to a cure. "He
combines both rare insight with a very
strong technical background," Paul said.
Attempts to find a vaccine have so far
followed the approach of vaccine developmentforothermajorillnesses.
Butwhat
worked for polio andmumps has not been
working for AIDS, said Didier Trono, a
molecular biologist at the Salk Institute
for Biological Studies in San Diego.
Baltimore plans to assemble a panel of
experts to come up with new approaches
to finding a vaccine. It’ s something Baltimore
has been thinking about already for
more than a decade; in 1985, he headed a
national AIDS panel that recommended
an increased research effort. The Nobel
laureate will continue as a professor at the
Massachusetts Institute of Technology,
splitting his time between Cambridge and
the NIH.
In 1996, N!H spent $109 million on
AIDS vaccine research and has increased
funding to $129millionfor 1997; theNIH
spends $400 million each year on research
for AIDS treatment.
Since the onset of the AIDS epidemic
more thanadecade ago, 29millionpeople
worldwide have become infected, Paul
said. Currently, theleading cause ofdeath
in the world is tuberculosis, with an estimated
3 million people dying annually.
But with 3.1 million new HIV infectious
each year- and still no cure-it’ s simply
amatter of timebeforeAIDS becomes the
world’s number one killer, Paul said. In
the United States, roughly 80,000 new
AIDS cases are diagnosed each year.
For his part, Baltimore remains opti-
¯
misdcanAiDS vaecine will eventuallybe
¯ found. But,he said,"Ihavenoidea whether
¯ we’regettingcloseornot.It’ soneofth..os~
¯ things that you only know you have v~e~
: you have it."
i More Moms with
i AIDS But Fewer
i Babies with HIV
¯ COLUMBUS,Ohio (AP)-Manyexpect-
¯ ant women infected with the AIDS virus
." now are being treated with the drug AZT
¯¯ duringpregnancy, labor and delivery, and
that has contributed to a drop in the hum-
; ber of babies born with HIV, state health
¯ officials said.
~ "This is one of the few true preventive
¯ strategies thatweactually have," Dr. Tho-
." mz.~ Halpin, chief ofpreventive medicine
¯ for the Ohio Department of Health, said
: last week.
¯" But thenumberofwomendiagnosed with
HIV still is increasing. Health officials
¯" said screening, testing and education also
have contributed to the decrease in HIV
: births.
"We are seeing mixed (rends here,"
said Carol Lyune O’ Neil, health program
¯ coordinator with the Columbus Depart-
. ment of Health. ’‘There is a low rate in
." pediatric cases ... but more and more
." women are being diagnosed."
¯ A 1994 study by the National Institutes
of Health showed that AZT could reduce
¯" HIV transmission during pregnancy by as
¯ much as 70 percent. In November, the
¯ state Health Department released guide-
," lines for preventing perinatal HIV transmission
and HIV testing of pregnant
women.
¯" The department recommended that all
: pregnant women and any women considering
becoming pregnant should receive
¯ HIV educationandcounseling. Also, they
: should be encouraged to be tested for the
¯ AIDS virus.
¯ Dr. Michael Para, director of theAIDS
clinical trials group at Ohio State Univer-
¯
sity Medical Center, .said although AZT
¯ appears to prevent transmission, the
: mother has to be diagnosed with HIV in
¯ the first place. ’’This is one of those things
." that will require vigilance," he said. "One
: has to stay on top of it to make sure
: infections in kids doesn’ t go up."
¯ HIV-infected pregnant women should
not be coerced into receiving AZT, but
: they should beinformed ofits potential to
.. reduce the risk of HIV transmission, authorities
said.
¯ HIV can be transmitted from mother to
: baby during pregnancy, labor, delivery
¯ and during breast-feeding, and transmis- ¯
sion occurs about 25 percent of the time.
¯ Physicians will have to better screen pa-
: tients and provide HIV testing, Para said.
¯ ’‘The number of infected kids are down ¯
this year," he Said. "But they won’t be
: down next year if you don’t watch it
; closely."
i AZT &Cancer Link?
WASHINGTON (AP) - A study that
found high doses of the AIDS drug AZT
can cause cancer in the pups of pregnant
mice has prompted federal health officials
to re-evaluate the use of the drug
among pregnant women who are infected
with the virus.
A committee of AIDS and cancer experts
will meet next week at the National Iustitutes
of Health to develop recornmendadons
on the use of AZT. But for now,
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health officials said Tuesday, pregnant
women who,are infected with the AIDS
virus should’continue taking the drug.
,-:hVhether the drug will have the same
effect on human babies is uncertain because
pregnant women take much lower
doses of the drug, she said. A panel of
experts will evaluate the issue at a meeting
Tuesday and come up with recommendations,
she said. Federal health officials
now recommend AZT for pregnant
women who are infected with HIV, the
virus that causes AIDS. Thedrughas been
shown to significandy reduce the transmission
of HIV to newborns.
Randall said that babies born towomen
taking AZT .are being medically monitored
and none has been found to have
developed cancer. But she said the children
are no older than 4 and must be
monitored for many more years to get
definilive answers about the effects of
AZT.
Dr. Jack Killen, director of the AIDS
division of the National Imdtute of Allergy
and Infectious Diseases, Said, "At
this point, we’ re trying to figure out what
these findings mean, precisely, and what
the implications are... I think it remains
very, very clear that the benefit ofAZT in
this setting vasty outweighs the hypothetical
or potential risk."
Another recent study, at Mount Sinai
School of Medicine in New York, indicated
that HIV-infected women reduce
theirrisk oftransmitting HIVduring childbirth
by two-thirds if they take AZT.
AIDS Drugs for Kids
WASHINGTON (AP) - A special program
from a drug company offers children
infected with the AIDS virus free
doses of an experimental drug known as a
"protease inhibitor." It is the first time
American children could get this type of
medicine outside small doctor-run tests.
Agouron Pharmaceuticals is seeking
Food and Drug Administration approval
of its Viracept, known chemically as
nelfinavir. If approved, the drug could
become the nation’ s fourth protease inhibitor,
a powerful class of AIDS drugs
credited with revolutionizing AIDS care.
Yet none of these drugs is available in
pediatric form, sparking protests from
parents who say they’ re watching their
~hildren die.
Agouron last month became the first
company to seek simultaneous FDA approval
for adult and child forms of a
proteaseinhibitor. While theFDAisevaluating
the drug, it gave Agouron permission
to run an "expanded access" program
offering Viraceptfree to any HIV-infected
child age 2 to 13.
The pediatric version is apowder that can
be mixed into milk, formula or soft foods
such as pudding.
Right to Die Case
WEST PALM BEACH, Fla. (AP)- The
last living patient in a lawsuit seeking the
right to diesurvived to take the stand and
tell of indescribable pain and suffering
and why he should be allowed to die with
Charles Hall is, suing the state for the
right to die. Herolled his wheelchairup to
a courtroom microphone Monday to tell
his story of pain and a ravaged immune
system. ’:I can’ t even describe the pain," a
haggard and pale Hall said. ’q’here are
some days I don’ t even remember. I don’ t
think anybody should have to suffer."
Hall barely survived a bad bout with the
¯ A 128-year-old law is the only thing
: standingbetwecn Hall andadoctorwhois
¯ willing to give him alethal dose of drugs.
: The doctor isn’ t willing to violate the law
¯ - a felony punishable by up to 15 years in
¯ prison- and Hall t01d aWest Palm Beach
-" judge he shouldn’t have to. Circuit Judge
¯ S. Joseph Davis will decide whether or
not Hall and his doctor should be able to
decide to end the AIDS patient’ slife.
’q’he resolution will have a profound
impact onhow people die in our society,’"
said Michael Gross, the Florida assistant
attorney general representing StateAttorney
Barry Krischer of the 15th Circuit in
WestPalmBeach. Suicideremains acommon
law crime for good reason, Gross
said. The state has no way of evaluating
theindividual’ s motives andcompetency~
and it must protect vulnerable citizens
from abuse, he said.
The U.S. Supreme Court sent a message
when it allowed the removal of life
support and noted that such action was
disdncdy different from introducing alethai
agent to hasten death, Gross said.
Extending the right of assisted death to
terminally ill patients could later be applied
to minors and the mentally incompetent,
he warned.
Hall, who contracted acquired immune
deficiency syndrome through a blood
transfusion, takes up to 40 pills a day for
pain and to stave offpneumonia and other
viruses that routinely attack his weak immune
system. During his testimony, Hall
listed the health problems that promise to
cut his life short: a brain cyst, hepatitis B,
no feeling in his bladder, herpes, arthritis
andpartial blindness. Hall wants thejudge
to issue an injunction to stop prosecutors
from charging Dr. Cecil Mclver with a
crime if he assists in Hall’ s suicide.
"The two of them want to be left alone
and free from government interference,"
said Hall’ s attorney, Robert Rivas.
Hall and his lawyer are arguing that the
Florida Constitution grants special privacy
rights entitling him to choose physician-
assisted death.
Coincidentally, the U.S. SupremeCourt
will hear similarlegal argumentsWednesday
in two right-to-die cases.
The trial is taking place in West Palm
Beach before Davis because it’ s the seat
of thejudicial circnit where Mclver pracrices
medicine and would be prosecuted.
The trial, which began Monday, is expected
to wrap up next week.
Elizabeth Taylor
Benefit for AIDS
PASADENA, Calif. (AP) - Elizabeth
Taylor’ s upcoming 65th birthday will be
celebrated with a televised star-studded
bash fcaturing never-before-seen footage
of the actress’ s life and career. But Miss
Taylor said Wednesday that it~s neither
her life nor her career that will be the toast
of the night.
The black-tie gala- "Happy Birthday,
Elizabeth" - "A Celebration of Life" -
will benefit the Elizabeth Taylor AIDS
Foundation for distribution to a varie~ of
AIDS research and treatment orgamzafions.
Among the celebrities will be !ongtime
pal Michael Jackson, who is composing
a song entitled "Elizabeth" especially
for the event. Other celebrities taking
part include Whoopi Goldberg, John
Travolta, MagicJohnson, Roseanne,Tim
Allen and Ellen DeGeneres. The twohour
gala will be taped Feb. 16 at the
Pantages Theatrein Hollywood. It will be
broadcast on ABC later in February.
by James Christjohn ~
Happy New Year! Hope eeeryone survived
their familial visitations over the
holidays, if you had to make them. Going
home to my family is much akin to appearing
as Saturday Night Live’s Smart
Smalley in "Smart Saves his Family".
Well, maybe not quite that bad, but dose
enough. Let’s just say I have gotten in
: last 5 years.
¯¯ Arrive at the B~ady Theatre at 7p,m£or....
cabaret seating ($75.00 per persod, in-
" dudes buffet and 2 drinks), and 8pro for
¯ regular seating ($25.00 per person). The
: show begins at 8pro,andCDsofRichard’s
." recordings will be sold. $10.00 of each
¯ CD purchased will be donated to Inter-
: faith AIDS and Our House. Tulsa Opera
touch with my "Inner.
Stuart". Truthbe told, IAM
Stuart Smalley...without
the sweater. Which is kind
of scary, but that’s...OK.
Because I own my
scariness...Andthat’ s...OK.
Told you I was scary. And
no comments from the peanut
section! (And that indudes
you, Mr. Editor!)
Philbrook Show
The Philbrook Museum
ofArt,2727S. Rockford, is
pleased to present
"America Unseen: People
& Place", on exhibit Jan.
19- March 9.
The exhibit explores aspects
ofAmericanpictorial
art from the ’20’s - ’50’s,
and includes works by
Norman Rockwell, John
SteuartCurry,Thomas Hart
Benton, Edward Hopper,
Walker Evans, Dorothea
Lange, Isabd Bishop, &
others.
TheSentimental Journey
Big Bandwill perform Feb.
2at3pminthePatti Johnson
"America Unseen:
P oph & Place",
on exhibit
Jan. 19- March 9.
The exhibit
explores aspects of
American
pictorial art from
the ~20’s -’50’s,
and inehdes
works by Norman
Roekwefl, John
Steuart Curry,
Thomas Hart
Benton, Edward
Hopper, Walker
Evans, Dorothea
Lange, Isabel
Bishop, & others¯
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las. I enjoyed
can provide more info at
582-4035.
Local Author Mark
Shepherd
Local author Mark
Shepherd has been kind
enoughtoinformTFNthat
the first book in a new
fantasyanthology series he
has partidpated in, specifically
created for the
gay/lesbian audience, will
be arriving in bookstores
this year. WhiteWolfPublishing
will be releasing
the "Bending The Landscape"
series. March 1997
will see the release of
’.’Bending The landscape:
Fantasy", followed by
"BendingTheLandscape:
Science Fiction" in March
1998; and "Bending The
Landscape: Horror" in
March 1999. (Saving the
family holiday stories for
last, eh?). Markhas abook
out, ’~Elvendude", that is a
great read, especially if
you’re familiar with Dalhall.
Ticketsmay bepurchased at the door it immensely, and it has
for $6.00.
Two gallery talks will be given for
"America Seen", Feb. 27 at 5:30pm &
March 7 at noon. Each Sunday in February,
"America Seen" will bepresented via
guided tour at 2pro by experienced docents.
On Thursday, Feb. 27, a special
evening of entertainment is planned. A
lecture/performance by Dr. Guy Logsdon
on the life and times of Woodie Guthrie
will take place at 7pro. A print sale will
occur on that evening and Friday as wall.
For info, call 748-5307.
Tulsa Ballet Theatre
Tulsa Ballet Theatre presents "Le
Tricorne: ACelebration of Spain", staged
by Susanna Della Pietra, premiering in
OklahomaFeb. 7-9 at the PAC, accompanied
by the Oklahoma Sinfouia. Also on
the bill are The Four Temperaments by
Balanchine, and the Pas de Denx from
Sylvia, staged by Victoria Simon and
Frederic Franklin, respectively. Tickets
range from $9 to $57. For reservations/
info call TBT at 749-6006, or the PAC at
596-7111.
Tulsa Opera
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
Our House
Mark February 15 on your calendar for
the "Cabaret Night with Richard Lalli &
GaryChapman: Songs in theKeyofLove"
concert, benefiting the Tulsa Opera. Mr.
Lalli and pianist Gary.Chapman will be
performing songsfromthe 20’s -40’s,and
may feature the works of Cole Porter,
Irving Berlin, the Gershwius, Harold
Aden, Sondheim, Kern, Weill and
Bernstein; as well as Ives, barber, Copland,
and Carter. Both Mr. Lalli and Mr.
Chapman have performed at Jessye
Norman’s annual holiday, party for the
_- become a favorite addition to my perma-
¯ nent collection. He has also co-written a ¯
fantasy book with another local favorite,
Mercedes Lackey. Check them out, er,
¯ better yet, purchase them (Sorry Mark,
: Mercedes, bad choice of words) at the
¯ local bookstores. Mark also has a new
¯ book0fhis ownon the way, and I willpass
¯ along that info as soon as I know more.
: Support our local authors!!!
: Borders Books & Entertainment
: Borders Books and Music has a lovely
," series of musical performances in their
_" care lined up for January. On the 17th at
¯ 7pm, TirkWilder, known for writing the ¯
theme to "Walker: Texas Ranger", will
¯ make an appearance; on the 18th, The
: Light Crust Doughboys, the oldest country
band in the world, will perform west-
: em swing at 3pro, and at 7, the Larry
HammettTrio willjazz things up a bit. On
¯ the 19th at lpm, David Flores and Steve ¯
¯ Bake. r provide their comtemporary jazz
¯ stylings, and at 4pm, the Steve Hamm
¯ String Quartet will provide a classical
." atmosphere. Onthe24th, Whirligig whirls
¯ into town at 8pm, and the Will Campbell
: trio perform at 2pm on the 26th. Poets, on
." the 30th at 8pro, bring your stuff to the
¯ cafe for Poetry Reading night. On the
: 3 lst, dosingoutthefirstmonthofthenew
." year, the Mimsies will givesus some
: acoustic funk at 8pm. Best of all,it’s free!
¯ Broken Arrow
¯" Community Playhouse.
¯ BACP presents "Laundry and Bour-
-" bon" & "Lonestar", two one-act corn-
; edies, lmnning 2/7-2/16. Tickets are $6-
¯ $10, and can be reserved at 258-0077.
: Community Support Groups?
: If anyone in the community is inter-
: see Jim, page 12
Exhibition made possible by the Helmerich Foundation
and the Oklahoma Arts Council
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Songs in the Key ofLove
Saturday, February 15, 1997
8:30pm, Brady Fheater
A Cabaret Night with
Baritone Richard Lalli &
Pianist Gary_ Chapman
to benefit
TULSA OPERA
Cabaret Seating at 7pm, $75 with Buffet
Call Tulsa Opera at 582-4035
Regular Seating, $25 thro’ Brady Box Office
582-7239 & Dillard’s, 800-654-9545
ALSO
CD’s by Richard Lalli will be available
& a portion of sales will benefit
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
and Our House
~/~o FOUR TEMPERWAiMthENthTeS ba,rtdillPiaasndtedeDseiguxnsfroomfPiScYaLsVsIAo
Tulsa Performing Arts Center. with the Oklahoma Sinfonia
TICKETS $9 - ~57 Discounts available
For tickets call: 749-6006, 596-7111, 584-2000
Performance sponsored in part by The John Steele Zink Foundation,
Sarkeys Foundation and Texaco, Inc.
1996-97 Season sponsored in part by
T U L S A PHILHARMONIC
~SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2627b East llth, 583-7815
Community of Hope (United Methodis0, Service - 6pro, 1703 E. 2rid, 585-1800
Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation
Service- 1lain, 1703 E. 2nd, 749-0595
Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church
Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Service, 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa
Service, 10:45am, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Network (ORYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
PrimeTimers
Social group for men, 1st Sun/each mo. 4-6pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
University, of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/T’ransgendered Alliance
6:30 pm at the Canterbury Center, 5th & Evanston, 583-9780
~ MONDAYS
HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appoinlment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm Results: 7-gpm, Info: 742-2927
PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays
1st Monday/each mo. 6:30pro, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard
PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group
2rid Monday/each month, 6:30 pm, 4154 S. Harvard, Info: 749-4901
I~- TUESDAYS
HIV+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-l, Info: Wanda @ 749-4194
Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. H!V/AIDS Support Group, and Friends & Family H!V/AIDS
Support Group - 7 pro, Locafious, call: 749-7898
Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pro, 241-2282, $4, Sand Springs Skate
Pride Center Community Meeting Feb. !8, 7 pm
1307 E. 38th, 2nd floor. Info: 743-4297
(=IP WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2627-B Fast llth, Info: 583-7815
Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer - 6:30 pro, Choir Practice - 7:30 pm
5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info.
TNAAPP, Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project
Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men - 6 pm
Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, 582-7225 or 584-4983
I~" THURSDAYS
Co-Dependency Support Group - 7:30 Family of Faith, 5451E S. Mingo, 622-1441
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pro, Results: 7 - 9pm, Info: 742-2927
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Network (ORYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
Tulsa Family Chorale, Weekly practice - 9:30pm, Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group, 1st & 3rd Thurs. 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901
Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G, 3-4:30 pro, Info: 749-4194
l~" FRIDAYS
SafeHaven, YoungAdults Social Group, 8pm, 1 st Fri/eaehmo. Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th
I~" SATURDAYS
Mixed Volleyball, No winter games - call 58%6557 for more info. "
St. Jerome’s. Church, Mass - 6 pm Garden Chapel; 3841 S. Peoria, Info: 742-6227
Narcotics Anonymous, Confidential support forlrecowering addicts -~ 11 pm,
Community:of Hope,1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 . " -
I~" OTHER GROUPS
The Technicians, Leather organization, info: 621-5597
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222
TCC Gay & Lesbian Student Association, Southeast Campus. Info: 631=7632
SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network, info: 832-2121
Womens Supper Club, info: 584-2978
Enjoy "A Musical~"with the
Tulsa Philha,vrronic on Thursday, Fe~eary 6 or
Saturd~ F~,ua~y ~.~at ~p.m. ink
Patti Johnson Wilson Hall of the Phil~ook
Conductor Search FinalistAndre’ Raphel
Smith will lead the TulsaP~in selections
from Mozart, Res~/_’~.~ (The Birds) and
Britten. Call 747-PHIL to reserve your seat,
READ ALL ABOUT IT
Reviewed by Barry Hensley
Tulsa City-County Library
The simple action of moving
to a new neighborhood
results in profound ramifications
for the attractive protagonist
of Greg Bills’ new
novel Fearful Symmetry. Peter
Keith, the artistic
twentysomething heroandnarrator,
has finally found a new
condo in Los Angeles within
his budget. On moving day,
Peter is intrigued with ahandsome
neighbor, Chaz Lambent,
who is shamelessly hosing
himself down after a run
with his dog in the California
su~ Chaz,andhis wifeMuriel,
immediately latch on to Peter
and begin showering himwith
generosity.
Unaccustomed to such attention,
and on the rebound
from afailed romance, Peter’s
emotional state allows him to
be drawn into the Lambent’s
world of fashion, theater and
high dollar collecting. The
Lambents are the darlingsof
the in-crowd, throwing excitingparties
and relishing their
position as an admired, and
"desired, couple. Their appeal,
though, has a darker side.
Peter’s infatuation with the
" he becomes entangled in their eccentric
¯¯ sexual web, and he begins to realize that
they are mentally disturbed and danger-
On moving
day, Peter is
intrigued with
a handsome
neighbor,
Chaz Lambent,
who is
shamelessly
hosing himself
down after a
run with his
d~.o$ in.the
Calilorma sun.
Chaz, and his
wife Muriel,
immediately
latch on to
Peter and
begin showering
him with
generosity.
ons. They are so engaging,
however, Peter foolishly allows
the Lambents to take advantage
of him and only by
finally cutting off all communication
with them does Peter
save his sanity and his life.
This book is a page-turner,
as thereader sympathizes with
Peter’s character as he becomes
embroiled in the
Lambent’s destructive lives.
But, occasionally, given what
Peter knows about his neighbors,
and considering how
bright he apparently is, it is
improbable that he would allow
himself to be continually
controlled and abused, physically,
sexually and mentally.
If the reader can overlook this
unlikely scenario, and simply
enjoy the bizarre events that
keep Peter absorbed, this is an
intoxicating read that is reminiscent
of some of Dennis
Cooper’s writings.
Check for Fearful SymmetryandGreg
Bills’ othernovd,
Consider This Home, at the
Readers Services department
of the Central Library, or give
them a call at 596-7966. You
can also order it through your
Lambents slowly rams to distress when " local branch library.
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TFN Food Critic
Days of snow and ice and brisk prairie
winds canmake even themost
devoted Oklahomaphile a bit
testy, and this Januaryhas been
one of those more challenging
times¯ The people of Europe
often f’md the need to escape
winter’s grasp as well, and they
most generally go on holiday
to the sunny Mediterranean.
A Mediterranean cruise
might not be in the budget for
an evening s entertmnment, so
we have to just pretend, and
look for a Mediterranean regional
restaurant to get that je
ne sins. qua atmosphere for a
relaxing, fun evening. When
we thinkofMediterranean, we
think of Greece, Italy, Spain,
and France: We’re really not
in the mood for a gyros sandwich,
so there goes the Greek
option, andTulsadoesn’thave
a-Spanish restaurant (Mexican
isn’t the same, and, by the
way, for those ofwho going to
seeEvitaand then doingMexican,
Argentine isn’t the same,
either). French would be a
wonderful comfort food in the
winter, but, alas, the talented
culinary triumvirate of Curt
Herrmama, Marjorie Alexander,
and Thomas Radcliffe
had their last weekend at
Montrachet, and have left the
restaurant to develop theirown
gourmet take-out food concept.
So, there isn’t a decent
French restaurant in town any
more.
That leaves us with Italian. Shall we go
to the faux-Italian, market study driven, ¯
Olive Garden for cardboard pasta and
wallpaperpaste sauces (theydohavegood
salad and breadsticks)? Maybe a little ¯
overcooked spaghetti at a pizzajoint?We :
think not. But, voila!, there is a rathe "
secret,unknownItalianrestaurantinTulsa
whichoffers delicious, madeto orderfood
with trained staff and elegant service.
And, surprisingly, it is hidden away in a
shopping center in east Tulsa.
Ti Amo hides on the end ofa strip mall, ¯
east of the Albertson’s grocery store at :
21st and Memorial. It’s a bit hard to f’md,
but it’s well worth the effort. ¯
With a menu having a wide variety of
styles "representing the whole of Italy," ."
Ti Arno’s forteis Sicilian style cuisine. As "
you know, the island of Sicilly is in the
Medit.err~ean, offthe boot of Italy. It has "
an ancient culture and cuisine, and due to
it’s island isolation, has preserved more
authentic old Roman style cooking techniques
than the main country of Italy.
And, sitting in a major ancient shipping :
lane, Silicianos have ofthadexotic spices,
such as saffron and curries, toincorpomte ¯
into theirrecipes. Seafood tins also played
an Important role in the Sicilian diet. :
All diners are greeted with a comple- ¯
mentary dish ofbmscetta,, whichis a slice
oftoast topped with agarlicky tomato and :
olive oil salsa. Fresh soups aremadedaily-
-the zuppa di giomo--and lovely fresh, ¯
green salads are served family style.
Thebiggestchallengeis seleetingone’s
entree. Just want a simple plate of spa-
Ti Amo
8151 E. 21st
Cuisine:
Italian
Ambiance:
Dressy
Luncheon:
Mon.-FrL 11-2
Evenings:
Mort-Thurs. 5-9
Fri-Sat. til 10
Sundays ll-9pm
Reservations
advised on
weekends.
Smoking Area?
Not distinct
enough from
non-smokind.
Full bar aria
wine list.
Payment:.
Cash, Amencan
Express,
Diners’ Club,
Visa,
Mastereard.
No cheeks.
Rating: A list
ghetti? Well, which sauce? Pesto?
Napolitana? Bolongese? Marinara?
Carbonara? Aglio? These are the authentic
recipes. And, as with any
respectable Italian restaurant,
pastaisn’tlimited to spaghetti.
the tortellini alla pauna is a
delicious pocket of pasta
stuffed withricottacheeseand
sauteed in a cream-cognac
sauce ($8.95). Particularly
mouth-wateringin therigatoni
con gorg.onzola, big tubes of
macarom sauteed with fresh
broccoli and served in a
creamy gorgonzola cheese
sauce ($9.50). You can get a
fettucine Alfredo ($8.95) or a
fettucine vongale ($8.95),
whichis sauced with ared or a
white clam sauce. Keep in
mind that all of these sauces
are made the traditional way,
with fresh cream and butter
and freshly graied Italian
cheeses - none of the thickeners
and extenders you see in
lesser restaurants.
The lasagna al fomo is a hit
controversial. It is dry. But,
it’s supposed to be dry, because
that is the Sicilian way.
So, don’t expect one of tho~e
huge, gooey mounds like they
serve at the Spaghetti Warehouse.
Whilerecognizing their
salute to lasagna tradition,
personally, we don’t care for
the lasagna. Especially, since
there are so many other truly
wonderful dishes from which
to choose. Meat based entrees
alsoabound. Thechickendella
casa ($10.95) is a flavorful
chicken breast with green peppers,mushrooms,
and asparagus in a white wine
~?mesancream sauce. Vitello allaTiAmo
12.95) is a fork-tender piece of veal
sauteed in a cream sauce with artichokes
and walnuts. Worth every calorie. The
shrimp coriana ($12.95) features figs and
¯ peppercorns. An orange roughy fillet
: ($12.95)is preparedmeuniere and topped
-" with pesto butter. One can also have the.
exquisite filletto bordelaise ($14.50), a
gently preparedbeeftenderloin withmushrooms,
burgundy, sundried tomatoes, and
herbs and spices.
For dessert, several selections are always
available, but the signature item is
strawberries alia TiAmo. Much like a
cherries jubilee, the strawberries-are
cookedin a variety ofliqueurs andpoured
over a big scoop ofvanillaice cream, then
topped with whipped cream. Always save
room for the strawberries.
Service at Ti Amo is generally pretty
good. They strive foranefficient andwall
trained work staff appropriate to a"white
tablecloth" restaurant. The ambiance is a
little on the/.,as Vegas side, with large,
round, red vinyl booths lining the walls of
the main dining room, but regular tables
are available, as well. There is a full bar,
and a decent wine list, though one not
featuring as many Italian wines as one
might.
Ti Amo is a restaurant well-deserving
of it’s name, which in English, is translated,
"I love you." Once you fred and
experience this place, yon’ll loveit. It’s an
Italian adventure well-worth the search.
Who Decides What
Happens to Your Body?
Disposition ofbodily r~ains canbe an
emotionally difficult subject. Many biological
families agree to carry out the
expressed wishes of their family members
withHIV/AIDS. Unforttmately,family
members sometimes disagree about
the disposition of bodily remains, espedally
whether to be buried or cremated
and whether or not ashes should be interred.
Such disagreements can be very
stressful both for the person with H!V/
AIDS and to his or her survivors.
Oklahomalaw has no specific law governing
instructions for the disposition of
bodily remains. However, generally, the
legal spouse or next of kin holds the right
to possession and custody of the body for
burial o~ cremation. Other states have
specificlaws designed to givepersons the
right to express a preference for disposition
of the body after death.
In light of these practical and legal
problems, if you have a preference about
the disposition of your body, you should
make a dear, written expression of your
wishes. You may choose to include funeral
and burial instructions in your Will.
While such instructions may not be leers;
or a suicide survivor’ s group (for who
have suffered the loss of a loved one due
to suicide), let me know: Any mental
health care professionals who might care
to offer advice or suggestions on starting
up any oftheabovegroups wouldbemore
than welcome to call me at 583-1248.
Actually, I have an affirmation for the
column : "I have the choice to livemy life
in wellness., or to get sick and wallow in
all that attention." - Shanti Goldstein.
(and it s so appropriate for a friend I ve
been dealing with lately - meow! .I must
stop, reading the restaurant rewews -
they rehaving aterribleinfluenceonme! )
But seriously folks, I have had a major
go-round withamajor depressive episode
recently and it was not fun. And while
there are many wonderful support groups
out there, I would feel much more comfortable
with Gay/Lesbian comrades.
Here is some information regarding
depr.essio.n I’ve found helpful. What depress~
on ~s:
* Depressionis anillness, in the same way
that diabetes orheart disease are illnesses;
* Depression is an illness that affects the
entire body;
* Depression is an illness that I in 5
people will suffer during their lifetime;
* Depression is the leading cause of alcoholism,
dru~ abuse and other addictions;
* Depression is an illness that can be
successfully treated in more than 80% of
the people who have it;
* Depression is an equal-opportunity illness
- it affects all ages, all races, all
economic groups and both genders, and
all orientations. Women, however, suffer
from depression twice as muchasmendo,
as do Gay folk compared to straight.
* About half of the people suffering from
depression do not get proper treatment;
* Untreated depression is the number one
cause of suicide; and
* Depression is second only to heart diseasein
causinglostworkdays inAmerica.
What depression is not:
* Depression is not something to be
¯ gaily binding, it is a written, witnessed
: and notarized Statement of the client’s
: wishes which puts the personal represen-
¯¯ tative of your estate in a much stronger
position tomake sure that your wishes are
." carried out. Oneproblemwiththis method
¯ is that theWillmay notbe available at the ¯
time of death and may be discovered too
¯ late to be useful.
: Anotheropfionis to express yourwishes
"~ in a separate signed and witnessed docu-
: ment whichnotonly contains instructions
¯ as to what is to be done with your bodily
~ remains, but also provides someone with
: the authority to carry out your instrac-
: lions. The designate person should then
¯ be given a copy of the document, which ¯
should be put in a place that is easily
"- accessible twenty-four hours a day. Fur-
"¯ therprotection canbeprovidedbypreparing
aburial orfuneral plan, andby making
~ specific arrangements with a particular
¯ funeral home.
: If you are HIV positive or have AIDS,
¯ and you would like legal help with the ¯
Disposilion of Bodily Remains or other
: HIV/AIDS-related legal issue, ask for
¯ Darlene Shadid at the AIDS Legal Re-
: source Project at (405) 521-1302 (collect
: calls accepted).
¯ ashamed of;
¯ * Depression is not the same thing as
feeling blue or down;
¯ * Depression is nota eharacterflaw orthe
signbf a weak personality;
¯ Depression is not a mood someone can
snap out of, (Would you ask someone to
sndp out ofdiabetes?) and
¯ Depression is notfully recognized as an
illness by most health care insurance providers.
Clinical depression is sometimes referred
to as a major depressive episode.
Episodes are usually a result of Major
Depressive Disorder, but they can also be
associated with other disorders. It appears
that clinical depressions can be caused in
¯ a number of ways.
¯ Clinical depression is not j.’ust feeling
¯ unhappy. A clinical depression can inelude
a low mood, hopeless feelings, and
¯ loss of interest or pleasure in almost all
¯ usual activities andpastimes. Some of the
¯" common symptoms are a feeling of deep
¯ sadness for at least two weeks without
¯ letup and any five of the following:
¯ * Trouble sleeping or sleeping toomuch; ¯
* Not caring anymore about work, hob-
" bies, friends or sexual activity;
¯ * Self-recrimination for things in the past
¯ or present;
." * Feeling tired all the lime or finding
: everything an effort;
¯ Having trouble concentrating ormaking
¯ decisions; ¯
* Loss of appetite or loss of weight;
: * Eating more than usual and gaining
¯ weight;
: * Thoughts of suicide or considering a
¯ way of dying;
: * Frequently ~eeling on the verge of tears
¯¯ or weepy;
* Waking up early in the morning, with
¯ difficulty returning to sleep;
¯ * Feeling worse in the morning;
¯ * Feeling anxious or irritable;
~ * A gloomy view of the future;
~ * Physical pain or headaches; and
¯ * Cravings for certain foods ;
¯ Most people experience these syruptoms
for months before seeking treat-
¯ ment. Being depressed is painful and it
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" the bottom is expected to have a will of
¯ his/her own and to know when to express
¯ ’itas well as whento relinqnishit,a"Daddy/
¯ boy" relationship is probably what you
¯ want. The participants are allowed to, by
¯ the parameters of their relationship, show
¯ genuinely their love for one another.
Age is not a determining
factor in this type of
relationship. "Daddy"may
be the passive or active,
dominant or submissive
partner. It is all open to
negotiation and discovery.
A"Daddy"may havemore
than one "boy" as well as
the "boy" havingmorethan
one "Daddy".
scott smithertun, who
is no longer with us, had
this to say in Leathersex, "i
have the freedom to play, a
safe place to do it, and a
’Daddy’, whichmeanslots
of love and a nurturing relationship
wiih a lot of
growth." A "boy" can be
any age. Part of being a
"boy" is giving up decisions.
"Daddy/boy" rela-
SM at all. What is needed
¯ -is a strong figure - a"Dad"
and someone who wants to be more like
¯
"Dad". "Daddy/boy" relationships cannot
: exist without love. A "Daddy/boy" rela-
¯ tionship can take you right up to the edge ¯
of a Master/slave relationship. But it
¯ doesn’ t have to go that way. In order for a
_" man to be a "boy" he must have honesty,
¯ a sense of fun, and a need for a strong ¯
"father figure" in his life even if he has a
¯ good relationship with his father and a
: desire to learn from and be like "said
¯ strong person".
¯ The satisfaction a "boy" gets out of
: being a"boy" is thejoy of ajob wall done
¯ and the love of a good"Daddy". In terms ¯
¯ of collars, a"boy" shouldwearwhat their
"Daddy" tells them to. A "boy" should
¯ never wear someone else’s collar or locks
¯ without"Daddy’s" permission. Ifyou are
: happy being a "boy", and you are a man,
¯ your manhood is assured. Manhood sire-
¯ plymeans youare ahuman male, and you
¯ ~ need to be that "boy". A "boy" is not
always in "boy mode". There are times
: when Daddy doesn t need me in
: mode", but it is dependent on "Daddy’s"
¯ needs, not mine. A "Daddy" can expect ¯
undying loyalty from a "boy".
¯ There will be two or three more col-
* unms in this series and i hope this series
: will help you better understand one view
: of leather relationships. Until next time...
lance brittain
(editor’s note: in this column, the terms
"boy", "girl ", etc. are used symbolically
to refer to the balance ofpower in relationships
only between consenting adults.
Neither the writer nor this newspaper
encourage or condone any inappropriate
or illegal behavior involving
minors.)
One would be surprised
at thenumerous versions of
relationships in the leather
community as wall as the
characteristics. One thing
that is of importance is the
fact that there is no one set
definition for how these relationships
should be defined.
The parties involved
make the rnles as they go
along for what is right for
them may not be right for
others. Also, gender is not
specific. Leatherpeople
people can choose to live
together, choose toberoommates
with no sexual contact
or other, more formal
relationships. Some of the
posslolnue~ ~C: .........
Mistress/slave","Mommy/
Daddy/boy/girl", "animal/
owner" and leather families.
One of the situations may involve two
people who only participate in leather in
private. Another may be the couple who
participate in leather on and off. They
might have leather weekends as well as
"vanilla" weekends. Sometimes, one
memberof acouplemay develop an interest
in leather and after talking it over with
his/her partner, may decide to venture out
to take care of their needs. Another possibility
is to bring a third into the relationship
which can be on the same level of
commitment or not.
The "Daddy/boy" arrangement seems
to be the relationship of choice for many
leathermen. Joseph Bean, author-of
"Leathersex", feels that people who are
destined to he"Daddies" tend to bepeople
who do not have a deep need to be perceived
as extremists or outsiders. He also
feels that a person destined to be a "boy"
must share their"Daddy’ s" willingness to
be in a leather relationship that does not
seek outwardly to outrage.
If you want a relationship where the
"Top" is dominant not only "by definition,"
but also because of his strengths
and the admiration the "bottom" has for
him; where there is respect flowing both
ways within the relationship; where one
party admits to learning and both parties
are accepting ofgrowthandchange; where
may feel like it will never end. Without
treatment symptoms can last for months,
or years. Proper treatment can help over
80% of those who sufferfrom depression.
Some depression will disappear eventually
without any treatment,, though this
can takemanymonths or sometimes years.
.Currently there is no sure way of predicting
when an episode of depression will
end. Treatment may be recommended,
rather than simply waiting.
Since depression may be caused by a
combination of factors, a combination of
One would
surprised at the
numerous versions
ot~ relationships
in the
leather eommunlty
... the {act [is]
that there is no
one set de~nltlon
for how these
relationshi.~s
should be ddined.
The parties involved
make the
ru!e~ ~ they do
¯
treatments may be necessary. Some of
¯
theseare psychotherapy, behaviortherapy,
¯¯ and medication. An individual treatment
is organized between patient and doctor.
: Psychotherapy is a method of talking
¯ about your concerns with your therapist to
: identify problems and seek solutions.
¯¯ Cognitive-behavioral therapy focuses on the negative beliefs and behaviors com-
" monly seen in depression. Antidepressant
¯ medication is prescribed to get the mind ¯
and body working in a,reasonable way
¯
again, allowing you to think clearly about
: problems in your life that may be contrib-
¯ uting to the depression.
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=21111
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=2 ! 939
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=20092
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(Tulsa) =17693
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= 17745
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are secure, masculine, fun, outgoing, and
down to earth, call me. I’m looking for
friendship and maybe more. (Tulsa)
=15031
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loving, caring, generous, and fun. (Tulsa)
=14845
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=12824
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meet men who want to date. (Tulsa)
=10937
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=I 1841
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professional for a discreet relationship. (Tulsa)
=I 1846
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=8406
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=8871
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2091bs. I’m looking for men wholove to play.’
Call me. (Tulsa) =10561
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=10886
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=7! 37
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A Home for Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgendered Community
Announces
A PledgeCampaign to Support the Center
The Dream of a Community Center Finally
.Came True - Won’t You Support Your Center?
The Pride Center provides a meeting place for the Prime Timers, Friends in
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and others, with new groups everyday.
Your membership and your pledge helps to keep the doors open:
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Aug. 15-sept. 14,1996, vol. 3, no. 9
Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual & Trans Communities
Congressman Comes Out
WASHINGTON - Rep. Jim Kolbe, an Arizona Republican
and influential member of the House Banking
Committee has acknowledged that he is Gay.
Confronted with the prospect of an upcoming report
in The Advocate about his sexual orientation, Kolbe
beat the news magazine to the punch by coming out.
Kolbe, who has been a representative to C6ngress
since 1984 and has been a frequent GOP point-person
on the North American Free Trade Act and critic of
White House budget proposals, told the Arizona Daily
Star, "I think it’s unfortunate for our society that things
have to happen this way." But the 54-year-old Kolbe
added, "I’m the same p~rson I was yesterday, and I’ll
legislatejust the same way. This should b,e. as irrelevant
as the fact that Iambloe-eyed, right-handed &balding."
Theupcoming Advocate story reportedly was spurred
at least partly by Kolbe’s vote in July for the so-called
Defense of.Marriage Act (DOMA), which rights activists
had adamantly opposed. In late July, a collection.of
activists also took out a full-page ad in the Washington
LACK & WHITE
PRESENT TOP US GAY LEADER
Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Human Rights Campaign
(HRC), will give the keynote address for this year’s Black & White
Charities, Inc. Gala dinner fundraiser. Birch leads the Human Rights
Campaign which is the largest Lesbian and Gay political organization
in the US. Birch formerly was legal counsel for Apple Computer, Inc.
and also for Claris Corporation. Prior to joining Human Rights
Campaign, Birch served as co-chair of the Board of Directors of the
National Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF). .
Over 260 patrons attended last year’s Gala at Philbrook Museum
and a comparable numberis expected to attend the Sept. 7 event at the
Downtown DoubleTree Hgtel. Over the years, Black & White Charities,
Inc. have raised and donated over $31,000 in grants to other local
charities. The HIV Resource Consortium will be the major recipient
of this year’s grant. The HIV RC helps to provide services to
"approximately 200 clients" with case management, transportation,
Another part of the program will be the presentation of the first
annual SWAN awards, ajoint program of PFLAG, parents, Families,
and Friends of Lesbians and Gays and Black & White Charities, Inc.
The awards will recognize individuals "who through action and
example, are helping to create a society see B & W, page 3
HOPE A New Namefor HIV Programs
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education is the new name for
an health program that began in the Gay community more than 14
years ago. Claudette Peterson, director of what was known as Tulsa
Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR) HIV Testing Programs,
announced the new name along with program’s success in getting
funding for several critical new outreach programs.
Peterson noted that the program had received funding for a"rural"
HIV education outreach to "MSM’s" (men who have sex with men,
regardless if.they identify as Bi, Gay see HOPE, page 3
Blade ur,gi,’ng "closeted gay and lesb!an members of
Congress. to c0me out.. ,Headlined. ,~’A ,calL.to.. con~ ,.
science," the ad didn’t threaten to out any closeted : uommunity of Hope Speaks
members, butitwas the first timein5 years that closeted ¯
gays in Congress had become a national issue.
Kolbe is the fourth member of Congress to publicly
admit tobeing Gay - along with Reps. Gerry Studds, DMA,
Barney Frank,. D-MA & Steve Gunderson, R-WI.
Although Kolbe voted for DOMA, he also supports
benefits for same-sex partners, and last year voted to
keep the District of Columbia’s Domestic Partnership
Act that gives some benefits to the partners of district
employees. For Kolbe’s comments, see Kolbe, page 3
Military HIV Discharge
Provision Dropped
WASHINGTON -.A joint House-Senate conference
committeehas unceremoniously dropped a provision in
the 1997 defense authorization bill that would have
required the discharge of service personnel infected
with HIV.
The HIV discharge provision was included in the
House version of the $265.6 billion defense spending
measure by Rep. Bob Doman (R-Calif.), despite objections
of Pentagon officials. The Senate version of the
bill included no such amendment.
"Congress spoke on.this issue already when it repealed
Dornan’ s HIV discharge measure in April," said
Winnie Stachelberg, HRC’s’ legislative deputy. "Spite
and bigotry are th~ only conb,eivable rehsons why Bob
Dornan would have reintroduced this; measure after
seeing itresoundingly defeated."
Thejoint conference committee also :dropped a orovzszon
that would have topI~led the don t ask, don t
tell" policy in favor of an outright ban on Gays and
Lesbians in the armed forces.
Out In Sunday Tulsa World
¯ Community of Hope, a
: United Methodist congre-
¯¯ gation, took $1,650 advertisement
in The Sunday
¯ Tulsa Woddto speak out
¯ as a Christian community ¯
of faith "to call all Chris-
" tians to stop using hateful
¯ language" against Lesbi-
: ans and Gay men (see ad to
¯ right). The ad specifically
: cites the language used by
¯ members" of Congress in
¯ recent debates on the"De-
: fense of Marriage Act"
¯ which was co-sponsored
¯ by Tulsa Rep. Steve
Largent and overwhelm-
" ingly supported by
¯ Oklahoma’s House mere-
¯ bers.
! Acc°rdmg to a statemen=t
¯ gee Ad, p. 11
¯ Elizabeth Birch, former counsel for Apple,
now leads DC’s Human Rights Campaign.
Coming Soon!
Womens Supper Club
RBG Business Fair
Gay Comedy Jam
Feast With Friends
IAM Street Carnival
RBG Lake Retreat
see Coming, page 11
WE CALL ALL
CHRISTIANS TO
STOP USING
HATEFUL LANGUAGE!
UNITED METHODIST COMMUNITY OF HOPE
¯ audience with,over 400 attending on, two nights~. , ¯
: The largest grant ($3,500) went to,the HIV Resource consortium, " ¯
the second largest ($2,500) to the Medication Fund Of the Visiting "
¯ Nurse Association and grants of $1,500 went to Interfaith AIDS
¯ Ministries AIDS information line, Shanti=Tulsa Storehouse, Our " ¯
House, Regional AIDS Interfaith Network, see Follies, page 11 "
Sid Spenser
Singer Dies Unexpectedly
¯ : , " 1 and died ~’n hospital, see Sp
¯ Follies ReVue Beneficiaries i ’ ’ "
~ Follies Revue, Inc. has announced,the.distrib~tti0n ,of net proceeds
t.rom its annu,gl, fundrais~ng peffom!,ance. Thislyear s event raised 4
$14,000 to hel~ l~d agencies that p~ovide direr support t~ persons.,~
~AL~.Err~I~S/DIR~TO~Y p. ¯ liviongwithAIDS orvHIV ipfe~tion. Fedllies Revoe~ Irnc. has rais.ed ¯ ... . -- . . . ., . :! NEWS’BRIEFS ! $115,000 m its ezght years of servzce. This year s event which was . ,
P. 4
: hdd at the Doubletree Hotel, Warre~ Place attracted the largest ever " HEAL’rI~ BRIEFS i P. fi
¯
’ CALENDAR P. 9
Many Gay Oklahomans were surprised and
shocked by the news of the death in July of
native singer, Sid Spencer, from complications
fromAIDS in Calgary, Canada. Spencer,
who performed regularly in Tulsa at the Silver
Star Saloon, was performing Ot the Alberta
Gay Rodeo. He was,~tficken wi,lh pneumoma
P. 11
P. 12
P. 13
P, 15
EUREKA SPRINGS ADS
BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT
RESTAURANT REVIEW
CLASSIFIEDS
918.583.1248 Publisher/Editor, Tom Neal
POB 4140 Assistant Editor, James Christjohn
Writers/contributors
Tulsa, Oklahoma Phyl Boier-Schmidt
74159-0140 Barry Hensley
Jean=Pierre Legraridbouche
Leanne Gross
TulsaNews@aol.com Gerald Miller
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Publication of a name or photo does not indicate that person’s sexual orientation.
Correspondence is assumed to be for publication unless otherwise noted, must be
signed & becomes the sole property_of Tulsa Family News. All correspondence
should be sent tO the address above. Each reader is entitled to one free copy of each
edition at distribution points. Additional copies are available by calling 583-1248.
by Phyl Boler-Schmidt
Last December, I decided to take on an impossible project. I
knew it was impossible from the outset, but I was determined to
be a.voice of reason inthe midst of many voices of confusion.
What, you ask, am i talking about?
With the brutal murders of Roxanne and Michelle, two lesbian
activists in Oregon,my sense ofneeding to do something tobring
the warring parties over lesbigay civil rights to the same tablewas
literally pushed over the edge. I just had to do something. So, I
decided to begin a dialogue on an Internet’.newsgroup called
alt.org.promisekeepers.
What I wanted to accomplish was nothing different than
lesbigay civil rights activists have been working toward since the
beginning of our movement. I wanted Christian fundamentalists
(and everyone else for that matter) to begin to see us as human
beings, to stop villifying us insearch of political advancement, to
STOP the violence.
Knowing full well I am only one person, see Enemy, page 3
by G. Miller. M_4.
Peoplehavekiddedmefor along-time about having an answer
for every problem or situation. But it occurred to me lately that
what I see as common sense answers are somehow often overlooked
by other people. So the following is a beginning set of
things for the reader to consider in terms of how to make your
daily life less complex and run more smoothly.
1. Don’t go where you are not wanted! Sounds simple and it is.
If there are places or people who go out of their way to make you
to less than comfortabl~, DON’T GO THERE. DOn’t go to
businesses which treat you or your friends badly.
2. Stay away frompeoplewho try to make your life miserablet
That includes, parents, siblings, or any form of relative. This also
includes associates of friends, or coworkers in your work place.
That’s right, COWORKERS. You may have to be around them
to work but otherwise steer dear whenever possible.
3. Don’t say you’ll do something when you reall~ don’t want
to do it! I used to make myself see Life, page 3
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Why are we afraid .of same-sex marriage?
Is it change? Without change, we
can not grow. Why are we afraid of anyone
or anything that is differentfromus or
our views.’? what would the world be like
if we were all the same?
Marriageis acommitmentbetweentwo
people who love one another. Single-parent
homes, illegitimate children, abusive
spouses, alcoholism, joblessness and
multiple marriages are aspects that are
tearing the family and marriage apart.
Please tell me where same-sex mamage
will destroy the institutions of marriage
and family. And is it wrong for a married
see Eetters, page 3
Rev. Nancy J. Horvath M. Div., Pastor
Sunday
9:15 am Christian Education
11:00 am Worship Service.
Wednesday
6:30 pm Midweek Service
7:30 pm Choir Practice
Thursday
7:30 pm Codependency
Support Group
5451-E S. Mingo ¯ Tulsa~ OK ¯ 74146
(918) 622-1441
why I decided to take on the Promise
Keepers is Something I really can’t explain.
I just needed to do something.
My experiencepleasantly surprisedme.
And, I’d like to share this experience with
you because I think if it worked once, it
can work again.Ifmore of us step out and
try to communicate with those we perceive
as the enemy, perhaps we will make
a difference, if not for our generation, at
least for those that follow.
My original note posted was entitled
Opinions on Hate Speech. In it, I asked
these simple questions, after outlining the
events that had transpired in Oregon:
"What are your feelings about this? Can
you see why gays and lesbians are horrified
when those among you villify us, call
us child molesters, say that God hates us,
and use other extremely derogatory terminology
to describe who we are? Isn’t
there some other way to disagree on the
subject ofcivil rights legislation?Canyou
see why somein yourmovementmightbe
resp°nsiblealruenasdtyablef°r incitingpeople ~loe~eC~l~l~’~
for someone to hurt anyway? Isn’t there
another alternative?"
The immediate response by o~er 20
men who frequent the newsgroup was a
defensive knee-jerk reaction. They accusedme
of trying to blame Christians for
everything. They toldme that a crime had
been committed, and it didn’t matter if it
was brought about by hatred of gays and
lesbians. They tried every conceivable
way to convince me that it had nothing
whatsoever to do with their faith. It was
only one unstablemancommitting a crime
see Enemy, page 7
:
¯ sued by Rep. Jim Kolbe (R-Ariz.) on his
". announcement that he is Gay:
: ’q’wenty years ago, when I first sought
¯ public office, I made a decision that my
: commitment to civic involvement would
: mean my public life would have to come
: ahead of my personal and private life.
¯ I have, in the intervening 20 years,
: sought to fulfillmypublicresponsibilifies
¯ in a manner that benefits all those I have
:. represented in either the Arizona Legisla-
¯ ture or in Congress. I will continue that
: commitment as long as I am in public
: Service. Ilookbackon whatlhaveaccom-
: proud of the record I have compiled.
: NAFTA was the capstone of this vision. I
¯. have fought to lower the crushing tax
¯ burden on our families by reducing taxes.
: I have worked for six years as a member
_" of the budget committee to achieve a
¯. balanced budget so we can relieve our
¯ children of the burden of a crushing na-
: tional debt. I have worked to keep
: Arizona’s reputation as the astronomy
i cOatapdivtaanlces intheawssourrlidngbaystrwonilolmgyotnheaWtforward
: here. I have argued and won funds to
: protect our natural heritage, including the
¯ "expansion of Saguaro National Park. And
: justthis weekweachievedthemostsweep-
: ing, most important reform of welfare in
: decades. There is, of course, much more
¯ but this is a record I believe I can point to
: with justifi-able pride.
The following ts a press statement is-
¯. [ am just as proud of my record in the
¯ area ofhumanrights andindividual right.s.
: I abhor and vigorously oppose discrinu-
: nation in the workplace based on race,
¯ religion, gender, or sexual orientation -
." any treatment that is not based on merit. I
: foug.h,t to repeal thepr.ovision inlaw which
’. armed seravnicaeus tmomemaubcerdwishcohiasrHge oIfVany-posi-reqmres
: five. I support health benefits for domes-
". fie parmers.
¯ I also believe that if the citizens of
~ Hawaii believe it to be in their public
." interest to permit same-sex mamages,
¯ they should be permitted to do so. By the
¯ same token, other states - as Arizona has
: done - should be allowed to define mar-
: riage differently, and not be required to
accept the.definition adopted by others. It
.¯ is for this reason that I voted for the so-
." called Defense of Marriage Act when it
¯ was before the House a few weeks ago.
°. Now, however, there are some who
: have decided that theirdisagreement with
: this particular vote warrants their making
: public information aboutmy privatelife -
¯ information they may have heard second
: or third-hand about my sexual onenta-
." tion. That I am a Gay person has never
¯ affected the way that I legislate. The fact
". that I am Gay has never, nor will it ever,
: change my commitment to represent all
: the people of Arizona’s 5th District.
¯ I am the same person, one who has
: spentmany yearsstruggling torelieve the
: tax burden for families, balance the bud-
~ get for our children’ s future, andimprove
¯ the quality of life we cherish in Southern
: Arizona. I intendto continue that mission
: if the voters of the 5th District, in their
¯ wisdom, decide that I should represent
them in the 105th Congress.’"
¯ versity",
: The Black&White Charities, Inc. Gala
: will begin with a reception at 7pro fol-
¯ lowed by the dinner at 8pro. The highly
~ regarded, Follies Revue Singers will pro-
: vide entertainment. Valet parking will be
: provided. For more info., call 587-7314.
: orheter0sexual) in smallOkl.ahomatowns
: and rural areas. In particular, this effort
¯. will target Muskogee, Okmulgee,
¯ Tahlequah and Bartlesville. While it’s
". estimated that the majority of HIV trans-
~ mission/infection is these areas is still
¯ -through male to male contact, a small
: survey by the Oklahoma State Dept. of
: Health indicates that AIDS cases in rural
: Oklahomans is still rising but that men in
¯ these areas may perceive themselves as at
: lowerrisk. AndMSM’s whomay be mar-
: ried to women may face challenges in
: incorporating safersex practices into their
¯ relationships, and even in just getting
"¯ condoms in a small town where anonym-
: ity is not likely.
¯ The program will work to provide sup-
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Zimbabwe Gays
Harrassed by Govt
HARARE, Zimbabwe (Aug. 2) - Gays
and lesbians won a legal battle over the
government of Zimbabwean President
Robert Mugabe in their on-again, offagain
efforts to participate in the nation’s
International Book Fair, the largest publishing
showcase in sub-Saharan Africa.
The country’s High Court overturned a
government ban on the Gays and Lesbians
Association of Zimbabwe (GLAZ),
saying the country’ s censorship laws were
being improperly applied. The court said
the government had exceeded its authority
when it banned the organization withouteven
exzmining theliterature the group
intended to display at a booth at the fair.
The government promptly said, however,
that it would examine whatever books,
pamphlets or otherliteratureGLAZbrings
to the fairand would press charges against
the group and its members if the material
was believed to be "promoting homosexuality."
For the 2rid year in a row, the government
tried to block the only lesbian and
gay group in the country from participating
in the Fair. OnJuly 22, Joyce Mujuru,
the country’s information minister, said
the government wouldn’ t intervene in the
fair to block GALZ from participating.
But the next day, government spokesman
Bornwell Chakaodza said gays and lesbians
"have absolutely no right to publicly
display literature and material at a public
and cultural event where..,children visit."
The Zimbabwean government, last year
faced intenseinternational cfiticismwhen
it banned the GALZ from the fair.
Organizers of the event managed to
keep the event in Zimbabwe this year,
after making commitments that GALZ
would be allowed to set up an exhibit
stand at the fair to distribute literature. A
spokespersonforGALZhassaidthe group
plans to go ahead with its plans to set up a
booth at the fair, despite the government’s
decision.
Organizers of the fair said they were
still concerned about the possibility of
violence because of the GLAZ booth.
Among other things, shortly before the
High Court ruling, a leader of Uniyersity
¯" of Zimbabwe student group With close
¯ ties to the President Robert Mugabe told
¯ the fair organizers that gays and lesbians
¯ that-show up at the event will "face public
¯ genocide."
In fact, a mob of between 60 and 100
¯¯ angry students mostly from the University
of Zimbabwe showed up on the final
¯ two days of the fair.
¯ On the final day of the fair, a group of
students again showed up, and GLAZ
¯ members quickly left the booth for safety.
Unsatisfied with simply driving theGLAZ
volunteers away, however, the student
¯
mob proceeded to thoroughly trash the
¯ booth and bum the pamphlets that had
¯ been left behind.
Although book fair staffers quickly put
¯
the fire out, many of the nearby
¯ publishing booths" also felt threatened
¯ enough to pack up their own displays and
¯ leave the fair, complaining that they were
¯ losirig enormous amounts of money
¯ because of the continued disruptions.
: Congressmen’s
i Spouses Gang Up
¯ -on Anti-Gay Rep.
WASHINGTON (July 30) - Just how
¯ disliked by gays and lesbians is Rep. Bob
¯ Doman, the Orange County, Calif., Republican?
Well, earlierin JulyHerbMoses,
¯ the longtime companion of Rep. Barney ¯
Frank (D-Mass.) toldreporters in thecapi-
¯ tal that he has. been helping raise cam-
" paign funds for Loretta Sanchez, the
¯ Democratwhois trying to unseat Dornan.
¯" Now Moses has now been joined by
Dean Hara, the partner of Rep. Gerry
," Studds (D-Mass.) and Rob Morris, the
¯ companion of Rep. Steve Gunderson (R- ¯
Wise.), in helping raise money for
: Sanchez’ campaign to oust Dornan, who
¯ has a fondness for referring to gaymen as ¯
¯ "homos.,Morris told reporters.that the 3
openly gay members of Congress may
_" attendanupcomingfundraiserforSanchez
¯ but hadn’t been asked to be involved in
¯ planning the event. "I think Herb and
¯
Deanand I want to keepBarney and Gerry
¯ and Steve out of it," Morris told The Hill.
’q’his is our project."
Scottish Gays
Can Adopt
EDINBURGH, Scotland (July 29) - A
Scottish gay man has won a court appeal
that will allow him tO adopt a 5-year-old
severely handicapped boy whose morn
has told child welfare authorities she
doesn’ t want the child.
The unnamed man, identified only as a
34-year-old nurse, had earlier this year
been told by a lower court that he could
not adopt the boy because he is gay, even
though the man and his lover have cared
for.the 5-year-old for the past 18 months.
But a 3-judge Scottish appeals court reversed
that ruling, saying there was no
legal reason prohibiting gays andlesbians
from adopting children.
The court said that all the information
gathered about the two men and their
lifestyle and relationship with the boy
"’pointed strongly in favor of the proposed
adoption." The child, who was put up for
adoptionby his motherjust weeks afterhe
was born, is both deaf and unable to talk,
and can walk only with assistance.
California
Hate Crimes
OAKLAND, Calif. (July 17) - California
has just released its first full-year of data
about hate crimes in the state, although
authorities and anti-violence advocates
agree it probably doesn’t reflect biasbased
crimes very accurately. According
to the state justice department summary,
there were 1,754 hate crimesin California
in 1995, involving more than 2,600 vierims.
The only previous report for the
state coveredjust the last half of 1994 and
reported only 672 such crimes.
Justice department officials were quick
to acknowledge "holes" in the report.
Among other things, only 215ofthe state’ s
750 law enforcement agencies reported
any information on hate crimes. Some
cities reported disproportionately higher
numbers of hate crimes, possibly because
police there have been more sensitized to
reporting such acts of violence. San Francisco,
for example, reported 290 biasbased
crimes for 1995, while Santa Clara
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¯ County - which has more than twice the ¯
population - reported just 47 such crimes
¯ during that year.
¯ Some 69% of the reported incidents ¯
included in the report were based on race
¯ or ethnic background; about 18% of the
¯ hate crimes reportedwerebasedonsexual
¯
orientation; just over 12% were based on
: religion. According to the state report,
¯ gay men were 4 times as likely as lesbians
to be the target of attacks.
Lesbian Speakers
at Political Conf.
WASHINGTON (July 18)- According
¯ to the Washington Post, tennis superstar
Martina Navratilova says she’ s head over
: heals in love with model Hunter Reno,
¯ who also happens to be a niece of U.S.
Attorney General Janet Reno. The Post
¯ quoted Navratilova as saying she loves
the blond L’Oreal model "in a way I
haven’t loved before" and that Hunter
¯ Reno said the tennis ace is a"very special
: person" to her.
The younger Reno will be one of sev-
¯ eral noted women slated to address the
¯¯ Human Rights Campaign’s OutVote ’96
scheduled to be held in Chicago in Au-
¯ gust.-Along with Reno will be Chastity
¯ Bono, Candace Gingrich and U.S. golfer ¯
Muffin Spencer-Devlin.
¯ Trans Ex-Husband
¯ Seeks Child Visits
¯ LONDON 0nlY 19) - A [emale-to-male
¯ transsexual who has been married to a
¯ woman for 17 years is appealingaBritish
¯ court ruling that refuses him visitation
rights with the couple’ s children.
¯ A court earlier this year declared the
¯ marriage of the couple, who are not being ¯
named, annulled because of "a profound
deception" on the part of the husband.
¯ During the divorce proceedings, the wife
¯ in the case told the court that she"always
believed he was a man" and had undergone
artificial insemination in order to
have their children.
¯ But the husband, who is 50, has ap-
¯ pealed the court’s ruling that he has no
¯ visitation rights with the couplers children
because he had perjured himself in
order to get married in the first place.
During the divorce proceedings, the
wife, whois 49 years oldnow,had told the
court that when she and her husband had
had sex, she believed he either had a very
small or deformed penis. But, She told the
court, they never discussed it and that she
never reMized the man was using an artificial
penis during sex.
¯¯ accidentally, killin~ Smith.
But prosecuting attorney Lee Davis
questioned Butler about why she had not
: tried to give any aid to the shot.woman or
even call an ambulance. Davis also intro-
" duced forensic evidence that Smith had
: been shot by a pistol that had been held.
¯ only about an inch fromhermouth at the
time it was fired.
Tennessee Murder Chaplain Booted
Trial Winds Up for Bad Att,tudes
ORLANDO, Fla. (July 24) - According
CHATtANOOGA, Tenn. (July 19)-As to the Orlando (Fla.) Sentinel, John B.
the-murder trial of Adriana Butler, 23, ¯ Book, ahighlyvisibleanti-gayministerin
drew to a dose, the college honors gradu- ."
ate and mother of a 3-month-old infant, "
testified ,,that she "never intended to kill ¯
anybody in the October 1994 shooting "
death of Cathy Smith, even though she
wanted the woman to stop having a les- ¯
bian relationship with her mother, Donna
Evans. ¯
Butler said she was opposed to the "
"’unnatural relationship" between Smith "
and her mother, but socialized with the
two women in order to maintain her faro- ¯
ily contacts. Under cross-examination, "
Butleracknowledgedthat the three women "
had in fact taken vaeatious in Atlanta and "
Alabama together, and that they had also °
gone-to a local bar popular with lesbians "
and gay men.
She insisted, however, that her mother "
’~gave in to, Cathy [Smith] in order to keep
the peace’ and told the court that Evans"-"
was ashamed of her relationship with "
Smith but was afraid of losing her job if "
she broke it off.
According to Butler, the night of the °
killing, Smith had shown up at her home,
where Evans was staying, and an argu-
: ment hadbroken out during which Smith
had punched Evans in the stomach and "
knocked her glasses off. The woman tes- "
lifted that she also was hit by Smith when "
she tried to break up the senffle outside
the house between the two women. ¯
She told the court that at this point she
went and got a gun and returned to the
driveway where Smith and Evans were, "
butbeganwalkingawayfrom Smithwhen ¯
the woman grabbed her and twirled her
around suddenly and that thegun Went off "
central Florida, has been fired from his
post as a volunteer chaplain with the Orange
County Sheriff’s Dept. afterhe publicly
criticized a deputy sherifffor attending
a gay pride parade earlier in June.
The Sheriff’s office declined to daborate
on Book’s firing except to say that his
"inabilityandunwillingness" to workwith
gays andlesbians in the department and in
the communi,ty at large made him unacceptable
in the post.
Gay Videos End
Coach’s Career
ASHBURN, Va. (July 19) - When Jeff
Bruton’s wife Melanie sued for divorce,
among the evidence presented were accusations
that her husband had appeared in
a number of popular gay pornographic
videos under the name Ty Fox. When
Bruton’s employers learned of the reason
forthe divorceproceedings, they launched
thmeir own.inves.tigation and say that if the
enare indeedone and the same, Brnton
will.have to resign as aphysical education
teacher and assistant coach for football,
baseball and wrestling at a Sterling, Va.,
high school - and possibly his Virginia
state teaching certification.
Edgar Hatriek, superintendent of
schools for Loudoun County, told reporters
that teachers"are C"hOSen to bemstmc-"
tors as welJ as leaders of our young
people...in their professional as wall as
~edesoinsaalnlivaellse.g"aHtieoandodfeda,l"iWfeshtaytlewethhaatvies
not in keeping with that." School officials,
however, said they have been unable
to contact Bruton directly because of
the summer vacation, and also said that
the gym coach’s phone number has been
disconnected.
But Steve Thompson, who is Bruton’s
agent, confirmed for reporters that his
client is in fact Ty Fox and, in addition to
modding swimwear and athletic clothing,
Bruton also made gay pornographic
videos. Thompson also said that Brnton
plans to resign his teaching post, which
he’s held since 1993, "whether it’s fair or
not."
Choral Festival
Concludes
TAMPA, Fla. (July 15) - Festival V,
described as the largest gay and lesbian
gala in the world, drew to a dose after
what organizers considered a highly successful
8 days ofsinging, singing, and still
more singing.
The Gay & Lesbian Association of
Choruses, which sponsors the annual
showcase of choruses from around the
world, said more than a hundred choruses
participated in Festival V, drawing more
than 5,000 lesbian, gay and bisexual singers.
Poet Maya Angelou gave an openingnightaddress,..
and although therehadbeen
,cgncerns that anti-gay protesters might
disrupt the festivities, only a handful of
prot,esters showed up at one of the earlier
opemng day events. The festival also saw
the premiere of several works commissioned
for Festival V.
¯ answer you want to hear but...". You will
.save.yourself a lot of anxiety and grief by
¯ just being truthful. This includes the so-
" cial WHITE LIE. If this is too large a step
¯ then begin with simply saying you prefer
not to answer, and stick to your guns.
¯
5. Quit worrying ~b~.ut what happened
yesterday. You can t fix what is already
¯ done. Equally, don’t worry about future situations over which youhaveno control
¯ anyhow.
¯ 6. Start living inside the moment you
are in. If someone makes you angry, let
¯ them know it. If someone hurts your feel-
¯ ings, let them know it. If someone mis-
¯ treats you, don’t put up with it. Take
action, even if that only means removing
¯ yourself from their presence.
¯
. 7. Us.e some common sense about deal-
. mg with everyday life. You are in control
of y.our, life far more than you ima "he
n t let others take the ~mttattve of dic-
¯
ta.ting your life. They will try to get away
¯ wjth as much as possible. Learn to recogm.
ze what you, can effectively handle and
what you can t.
¯ Most importantly keep inmind that you
¯ don’t have to win every battle to win the
¯ war. Don’t let others sap your energies.
Pick and chose the right time and right
¯ place. Truly you are the Captain of your ¯
ship and the Master of your own fate.
.* We make life far more difficult than it
¯ really is and we usually fall into that trap
by letting others set the situation and start
¯ the game. Remember the famous "It’s my
ball and I make the rules!"? Start thinking
¯ of your life as your"ball" and when others
¯ insiston making thegamemiserable, take
¯ your ball and go home. You can always
¯ find someone else to play ball with.
Keep inmind some people aren’thappy
unless they are making someone else unhappy,
and usually that will mean you.
Don’t waste a scintilla of time or effort on
those types. Move on and let them eat
themselves up. ff they have so little self
esteem that they have to tear someone
down to feel important, @#$%^ them.
Only you can start making your life
easier and morerewarding. You have to
start today, because each day that passes
brings you closer to the great black nothingness
which probably awaits us all.
Copyright © 1996 Gerald Miller
miserable going to social gatherings I
.didn’t really want to attend because I felt
~t was my duty. BS! Now I only go where
I really want to beand Ihaveamuchbetter
time. This also includes favors for other
people, just learn to say No in a polite
fashion.
4. Don’t lie! Tell the truth when asked
a question, even if you know the questioner
won’t like the answer. Just preface
your reply with, "I know this isn’t the
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Clinton Pledges
More forAIDS Care
SAN FRANCISCO (July 23) - Ending a
2-day campaign swing through California,
PresidentClinton saidduring a$1,000-
per-person fund-raising dinner thathehas
asked Congress for an additional $65 million
for the AIDS Drug Assistance Program
to help people with the disease pay
for expensive new and-HIV drugs.
Nearly 70,000 people get assistance for
AIDS drugs through the program, which
is largely paid for with federal funds. The
Clinton budget proposal would increase
federal spending - about two-thirds of the
total program - from $115 million this
year to $195million during the next fiscal
year.
Theomove comes in the wake of medical
reports at the international AIDS conference
in Vancouv& earlier in July that
indicate the new class of protease inhibitors,
combined with already-approved
anti-HIV drags, show enormous potential
for completely suppressing the virus.
Patients andAIDS advocates, however,
have increasingly warned that despite the
heartening news about the new drugs,
most people with AIDS in this country
would not be able to afford the expensive
new treatments. "While new drug treatments
offer enormous hope to people living
with HIV," Clinton said at the fundraiser,
"it is also clear that our work is far
from complete."
Reform Party’s
Lamm Suggests
Cut Care for PWA’s
NEW YORK (July 21) - Although it got
little notice by the media, former Colorado
G0v. Richard Lamm, who has declared
his desire to be the 1996 presidential
nominee of the Reform Party, said on
a television news program Sunday, July
21, that the government should virtually
write off people who already have AIDS.
"I think in a world of limited resources
weshould spendmoremoney onresearching
the cause ofAIDS and how to prevent
it than we should treating the people that
are going to die anyway," Lammsaid on
the CBS-TV program "Face the Nation."
Mark Sturdevant, vice chairman of the
Reform Party who has urged Lamm’s
candidacy, later insisted the former Colorado
governor wasn’t actually saying the
country should "pull the plug" on people
who are sick, but said that as the country,,,
increasingly faced "limited resources
Americans "need to start talking about
these issues."
Lamm raised hackles in-1984 for similarremarks
whenhe said the elderly "have
a duty to die and get out of the way."
Gene Defect May
Protect from AIDS
WASHINGTON (Aug. 8) -Two separate
teams of researchers have identified a
genedc mutation that appears to protect
some people against AIDS. The finding
may-explain why some people infected
with HIV remain healthy and virtually
symptom-free of the disease for years.
The teams of U.S., European and Japanese
scientists have found that people
with two copies of a certain defective
gene - one each from their mother and
father - appear to be resistant to the most
common strain of HIV in Western countries,
the one which is transmitted sexually
most commonly. They estimated that
¯¯ only about 1% of the Caucasian populalion
has both defective genes.
: Theteam tookblood samples from 1,800
¯ healthy U.S., European, African andJapa-
¯ nesevolunteers.Theyexposedthe samples
~ to the most common strain of HIV in test
: tubes. Reporting in thejournal Nature, the
¯ researchers found that all the blood
: samples were infected after exposure -
¯ except those from white people with two
: copies of the mutated gene.
¯ The second team of scientists, from the
: Aaron Diamond AIDS Research Center
: in New York, found the same double
; genetic mutations in the blood of two
¯ white males who knowingly had unpro-
: tected sex with infected partners, yet re-
: main uninfected themselves.
." As these researchers report in thejour-
¯ hal Cell, they could not infect blood
¯
samples from these two men - even with
¯ 1,000 times the amount of HIV it usually
: takes to trigger an infection.
¯ The researching findings suggest that
: drugs to do this would probably have no
; side effects, since the lack of the protein
: target in the Caucasians appears to have
¯ caused them no known negative health-
: problems.
: Heterosexual HIV
: Showing Up in UK
: LONDON (Aug. 1)-A much more vim-
. lent strain of HIV, believed to be more
: likely to spread by heterosexual contact,
." has ~pread from Thailand to Great Brit-
" ain, researchers reportin the Britishinedi-
: cal journal New Scientist.
¯
The virus .subtype E is widespread
throughout Asia, where most of those
¯ infectedareheterosexual,nothomosexual. ¯
As a result, researchers and epidemiolo-
: gists believe the virus subtype is more
: easily spread via heterosexual sex than
¯ subtype B, which has mainly affected gay
: and bisexual men in North America and
~ Europe. Since the first case of subtype E
¯ infection in England was announced earlier
this year~ British health officials have
since identified 72 additional subtype E
infections. ¯
Report" Herpes : ¯
: Virus Linked to KS
¯ CHICAGO (July 30)-Two studies in the
: healthmagaT.ineNatureMedicinestrongly
¯ suggests that Jhe human herpes virus 8
; (,I-IHV8) isthecauseofKaposi’s sarcoma,
¯ a cancer that strikes many people with
: AIDS. Using a recently devdoped blood
¯" test for HHVS, researchers say they most
." often found the virus in blood samples of
~: people with sexually transmitted diseases,
¯ a Strong implication the virusis also sexu-
." ally transmitted.
2nd HIV Home Test
¯ Approved; States
¯ Fight Availability
¯" CHICAGO (July 24) -~A 2nd HIV home-
: testing kit has now gone on sale after
¯ being approved by the Food & Drug Ad-
¯ ministration. Like the already-approved
: Confide test by Johnson & JOhnson, the
¯
Home Access Express test, sold by Home
¯ Access Health, is available via a toll-free
¯ number. But in spite of federal approval ¯
now of2 suchhome tests, themanufactur-
: ers sdll face batdes with healthofficials in
¯ some states who are s.harply critical of
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Atlanta Braves to
Hold AIDS Benefit
ATLANTA (July 25) - The San Francisco
Giants starteditin professional sports
2 years ago when it teamed up with the
Until There’s a Cure Foundation to hold
the first AIDS benefit pro game.
This year the Atlanta Braves will become
the 2nd pro baseball team to sponsor
such an event when it hosts a "Stepping
Up to the Hate Day" in Sept: at the
Atlanta-Fulton Co. Stadium benefiting
AIDS organizations in the Atlanta area.
At the first Until There’s a Cure Day in
1994, opposing team Colorado Rockies
wouldn’t even join the S.F. Giants on the
field to form ahuman AIDS ribbon until
they were brow-beaten into it by Giants’
teammembers andcatcalls from the stands.
of violence, not a s.ymbol of a larger
societal problem that lS exascerbated by
like-minded individuals who blindly follow
the ramblings of the likes of Pat
Robertson, Jerry Falwell, Patrick
Buchanon, etc.
And of course, I was bombarded with
Bibfieal quotations about the sinfulness
of my ways.
I knew this would happen, and since I
had gone in with my eyes wide open, I
knew I was not going to act defensively to
protect my position. I wanted dialogue,
not an argument.
,So, with each and every note from one
of these men, I responded with the same
basic premise: "Yourpremisesmaydiffer
from mine, and that’s okay.We just need
¯ There are some more modern texts that
:
to put those on the table sowecan actually
know what weare talking about.
"Our premises on the Bible probably
differ... I don’t know yours, but I win tell
you mine. I read the Bible as a historical
work. I try to read it in the context of the
time it was written and to know which
people were being addressed so that I
have a context to base my reading upon. I
also read other works of the time thathave
notbeenincluded in the Canon, and many
of these I find just as much validity in.
I
University Reports ¯
Condom Usage
BOSTON (July 17) - According to a
survey ofBrownUniversity students,74%
of the women who dropped in at the
campus clinic in 1995 said their sexual
partners used acondom"always or almost
always’~ when having sex. A similar survey
at the school 6 years earlier found that
only41% of the women visiting the clinic
rel~rted such high usage of condoms by
their sexual partners.
rely on as well. In other words, I don’t
¯ think God stopped talking when his book
: went to print. I also know that, it is more
~ than possible that the works included in
¯ the Canon have been misinterpreted
¯" through language interpretors and ver-
¯ sion editors, and there is a high probabil-
." ity that the men who chose which books
¯¯ were likely candidates to include in the
Canon had their own prejudices and could
¯
have excluded some worthwhile works
: and included a lot of repetition.
¯ "This does not mean that I negate the ¯
teachings of the Bible. I just feel that it, in
and of itself, is an incomplete guide for
my spiritual understanding."
¯ The responses I received after simply
: laying my cards on the table about my
: own interpretation of the Bible are what
~ surprised me the most. There were no
¯ more Biblical quotations used to try to ¯
sway me. There was no more using of
i Chrisdan theology tojustify the villifying
¯ of the homosexual lifestyle.What hap-
~ petted is that we settled into a reasoned
: debate. No tempers flared.No hateful
¯ names wereealled. Ibelieve that, although
: I did not think my one voice would make
~ a difference, it did.
¯" And, I believe this is why: "I like being
able to live my life to its fullest, and I ~ expect you to have that very same fight. It
~ is a free country in which we live, and
i freedom of and from religion is one of our
hallmarks of liberty...
"Our ability to disagree on what God
~ thinks of my lifestyle is one of the ~eat
¯ things about this place we call America.
¯" And, I want to keep that ability for both of
us. I don’t want *anyone* to try to tell me
:~ I can’t have my way of life, and I sure
¯ would defend your choice as well.Wonld
you do the same for meT’
i I would like to propose to all ofyou that
: reason really does work. I think it is high
¯ time we appeal to reason in our political
¯" endeavors, not to high emotion. And, I
: thinkitis time we quit assuming weknow
: howtheothersidewillrespond.Thelouder
". weget, themorethe other sideresponds in
¯ kind. There are reasonablepeople onboth
¯ sides of the lesbigay civil fights debate,
i andI,for one, wouldlike to see more ofus
.... " step forward ,an~ take leadership roles.
Pitcher’s Refusal to
Join Game Benefit
Causes Uproar
SAN FRANCISCO (July 30) - The refnsal
ofSanFrancisco Giants pitcherMark
Dewey to join with the baseball team m
support of an AIDS benefit being sponsored
by.the team has outraged political
leaders here and at least oneAIDS activist
has called on the Giants to giveDewey his
walking papers or trade him to another
teal!L
With nearly 35,000 fans attending the
Giants-AtlantaBraves game,Dewey,who
is 3-2 with a4.10 earned-run average with
36 strikeouts in 53 innings, refused tojoin
players from the two teams on field for a
demonstration of support in fighting the
AIDS epidemic.A fundamentalist Christian
who is outspoken in calling homosexuality
a sin. He also turned his red
AIDS ribbon sideways in imitation of the
ancient "fish" symbol of Christianity.
Dewey said he decided to opt out of the
on-field display with teammates because
some of the funds raised for the "Until
There’s a Cure" day event go to promote
safer-sex education and prevention programs,
which he says are contrary to his
religions beliefs. Jon Prevna, who works
withProject Open Handin San Francisco,
later wrote to Giants president Peter
Magowan saying, "I seriously hope you
will consider trading him [Dewey] or giving
him his unconditional release." The
Giants managementhas so far declined to
comment on the incident.
Black & White Charities, Inc. & PFLAG
Lookforward to the pleasure ofyour companyfor
The 1996
Black & White Gala
with keynote speaker
Elizabeth Birch
Executive Director, Human Rights Campaign, Washington, DC
and
Presentation of the first annual Swan Awards
Saturday, September 7th
Cocktails & Conversation at seven o’clock, Concourse
Dinner at eight o’clock, International Ballroom
Entertainment by The Follies Revue Singers
$125 each, checks may be sent to POB 14001, Tulsa, 74159
Visa or MasterCard, call 587..7314 or 800.458.4682, or e-mail: blkwhtprty@aol.com
The Downtown Do.ubleTree Hotel, 616 West Seventh
Benefiting the 1996 Black & White Grant Recipient, The HIV Resource Consortium, Inc.
TULSA FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CALEND R
SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All
Times Christian Center
Sunday School, 9:45 am
Worship Service, 11 am
2627b East llth 583-7815
Community ofHope
(United Methodist)
Worship Service, 6 pm
1703 E. 2rid, 585-1800
Family of Faith
Metro. Comm. Church
Adult Sunday School, 9:15
Worship Service, 11 am
5451-E South Mingo.
Info: 622-1441
Metro. Comm. Church
of Greater Tulsa
Worship Service, 10:45am
1623 N. Maplewood
Info: 838-1715
Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay
Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa
6:30 pm at Canterbury
5th & Evanston, 583-9780
MONDAYS ¯ TUESDAYS
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Mixed Volleyball for
Fun & Competition
Hclmerich Park, 6:30 pm
71st & Riverside
Info: 587-6557
WEDNESDAYS
Agape’ Christian
Fellowship
Service, 7 pm
Sheridan Center, Suite H
: 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482
¯ Bless The Lord At All
Times Christian Center
¯ Prayer & Bible Study
¯ 7~30pm 2627-B East llth
Call 583-7815 for info.
PFLAG Family AIDS
Support Group
2nd Mon. of month
6:30 pro, 4154 S. Harvard
Info: 749-4901
: HIV/AIDS Support Group
¯ &
Friends & Family
¯ HIV/AIDS Support Group ¯
7 pro, call for location: "
749-7898
: Alternative Skating
: 8:30 - 11 pro, 241-2282
¯
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." OTHER GROUPS -.
¯ The Technicians, Leather "
: org., Info c/o 621-5597 "
¯ T.U.L.S~4. Tulsa Uniform.
: & Leather Seekers Assoc. ¯
¯ Info: 838-1222 "
. Gay & Lesbian Student "
Association ¯
TJC Southeast Campus, "
Iflfo: 631-7632 ¯
¯
SWAN-Single Women’s ¯
¯ Activity Network
Grief Group
Butler/Stumpff
Funeral Home
2103 E. 3rd St.
Call for time: 587-7000
: Family Of Faith MCC
: Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm
¯ Choir Practice 7:30 pm ¯
545 I-E South Mingo.
" Call 622-1441 for info.
¯ Community of Hope
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Service for Peace, 6:30 pm
: Bible Study, 7 pm
¯ 1703 E. 2rid, 585-1800
: THURSDAYS
16-Step Empowerment
¯ Group For Women ¯
Community of Hope
¯ 1703 E.2nd, Info: 585-1800
¯ Co-Dependency
; Support Group
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¯ 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
¯ HIVTestingTOHRClinic
¯ Walk in testing: 7- 8:30 pm
¯ Results hours: 7 - 9 pm
Info: 742-2927
Tulsa Family Chorale
Weekly practice, 9:30 pm
Lola’s 2630 E. 15th
PFLAG Family AIDS
Support Group
1st & 3rd Thursdays
4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901
¯ TNAAPP Alternatives ¯
¯ Tulsa Native American " Weekly social events for"
AIDS Prevention Project ¯ LGBT men & women, 7 pm
¯
Support group ¯ Info: 646-5503 ¯ for Gay & Bi Native :
¯ American Men, 6 pm Substance Abuse
at ~Community of Hope Support Group "
¯ 1703 E. 2nd " for persons with HIV/AIDS ¯
SATURDAYS
St. Jerome’s Church
Mass, 6 pm
Garden Chapel
3841 S. Peoria
Info: Father Rick
at 742-7122
Narcotics Anonymous
Meets weekly at 11 pm
Confidential support for
recovering addicts.
Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
NAMES Project
AIDS Memorial Quilt
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According to The Gayly Oklahoman,
Spencer was born in Ada, and was raised
in Tulsaand in Seminole. He attended the
University. ofOklahoma and builta career
as a country western entertainer, touring
the Southwest and working on the Gay
rodeo circuit.
Friends of Spencer are holding a Celebration
of Life on August 17, at the
Bunkhouse in Oklahoma City, according
to friend and organizer, Mike Busby. The
event will feature Sonja Martinez, Deb
Roberts,BradRiggins and videos ofSpencer
performing. The event will include an
auction of memorabilia to benefit HIV/
AIDS organizations.
The Gayly also noted that Spencer’s
family has requested that donations to
HIV/AIDS organizations be made in lieu
of flowers. Those who wish to honor the
memory of Sid Spencer may do so to the
organization of their choice or may send a
donation care of Spencer’s father, Sid
Spencer, Sr. (RR2, Box 69-G, Seminole,
74868-9614) who will donate those in his
SOn’S naule.
and two grants of $1,000 each to TOHR
Testing Clinic (HOPE) and Catholic
Charities’ St. Joseph’s House.
On-September 28, Follies Revue performers
will recreate this year’s show to
benefit RAIN in Enid, Oklahoma. For
information about booking Follies singers
for corporate or private events, call
437-020L
testing. Initially, events for the program
will be held in Tulsa because of the conterns
individuals may have about attending
a "Gay" event near their homes.
Petersonadded that attendance is not necessary
and that they would like to hear
from individuals in rural eastern Oklahoma
about what it is like in those areas
and how best to get education and services
to the areas. HOPE has set up a
telephone number, 800-282-8165, to allow
individuals to call anonymously. Local
callers may ring 742-2927.
Peterson also announced that HOPE
has .been chosen as one of 75 HIV agencies
in the US to participate in a program,
"Parmers in Prevention", sponsored by
the Center for AIDS Intervention Research,
(CAIR) of the Medical College of
Wisconsin. The program is funded by the
: National Institute of Mental Health andis
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The NAMES PROJECT wants you to
help by hosting a Feast with Friends on
Sat. Sept. 14. Call 748-3111 for info.
¯ Tulsa Womens Supper Club will meet
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." Info: 584-2978. Thenext AIDS Coalition
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: Do not miss Interfaith AIDS Minis-
: tries Old Fashioned Street Carnival on
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dignity without fear of violence or persecution,
to have their committed relationships
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Penrose told TFN that so far there has
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reviewed by Barry Hensley
Tulsa City-County Library
In "Immortal, Invisible," editorTamsin
Wilton has compiled a lengthy collection
¯ of original essays and interviews analyzi~
ig the history and current state of the
lesbian moving image, including f’rims
and, to a lesser extent, television. From
Marlene Deitrichin"Morocco" in 1930to
1994’s "Woman of the Wolf," this volume
explores the important differences
between "gay films" and "le:s.bik.a~ film,s"
and why lesbian and gay male ,tim mar-
.....~rs will probably never agree on a generic
"queer cinema." "
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reviews. The contributors explore the.s.ocial,
political, historical and, in some mstances,
religious aspects of these films
and the text is not always light reading.
Obvious popular films, such as "Personal
~ Best" and the notorious "The Children’s
Hour" are supplemented ,b,y true~hous,e,
lesbian films, including Desert Hearts
and "Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit.!’
The seventeen contributors exhibit a
wide variety of qualifications, frofi~film
makers"and producers (Penny Florence
and Susan Ardill) to a postgraduate student
(Louise Allen) whose research is
concerned with "lesbian readings of kd
lang, and the emergence of country and
westernlesbian culture."The authors endlessly
debatewhatconsritutes lesbianform
: and content. Should only films which
’ have lesbian relationships and characters
beindudedin"lesbian cinema," or should
: an"out" lesbian film maker also have her
: film included even though the subject
¯ matter or treatment is not lesbian-spa-
¯ eific?Thereis averyinterestinginterview
¯
with lesbian film maker Greta Schiller,
¯ whoserecent efforts haveindudedawon-
: derful documentary, "Maxine Sullivan:
¯ Love To Be in Love," about the hetero-
~ sexual jazz legend.
: Some wall knownnames are ignored or
¯ marginalized in this volume. Barbara
¯ Hammer, whose short films have raised
: more than one eyebrow as they challenge
". the "heterosexist authority system," ¯ is
mentioned only a couple of rimes and
given one short quote.
¯ There are many unfamiliar but intrign-
~ ing films discussedhere. They are ones to
¯ keep in mind as you are traveling to other
: cities where progressive theaters may be
: taking the opportunity to broa..den~ the h~o-
~ rizons of their communities, veruaps me
¯ ThirdAmmalTulsaGay andLesbianFilm
~ Festival organizers willincorporate some
". of these rifles into their schedule next
¯ snring. "Immortal, Invisible" is one of the
~ few books published that specifi-
: cally discuss lesbiancinema, but there are
¯ also many other books regarding gay/
¯ lesbian topics at your local branch library
: orat the Readers Services department at
: theCentralLibrarydowntown(596-7966).
James Christjohn
ybYeal Gaycomedyis comingback to:Fulsa
on S~pt.’16th& 17th, at thePAC. The Gay
Com~:ly Jam. Freedom Tour features acclaimed
openly Gay comics,, Scott
Kennedy and Kevin Maye, who ve been
seen on HBO’s Comedy Channel and
-written of in The Advocate. Their show,
Gaylapalooza (last February with two
other comics) played to a full house at th~
PAC’s Williams Theater and benefited
Black&White Charities as does aportion
of this appearance. Tickets are $12 in
advance and $15 day of the show, and are
available by calling 481-0558.
Broken Arrow Community Playhouse
announces that auditions for its Halloween
producrion, two one-act plays, will be
held Sund,a,,,,,y, August 18, at 6pro;, The
pIays¯.are . Sorry, wrong Number , directed
by Todd Murray, & "Black Comedy",
directedby Jenny Jackson. Theoneacts
will be performed October 11 - 20.
"Sorry Wrong Number" requires afemale
character, and 3-4 addirioual actors
who can perform a variety of character
voices. It will be staged as a radio
drama. "Black Comedy" requires 5 men
&3 women. Audj’rious will consist ofcold
readings from the scripts and someimprov.
Audirious willbeheld at the playhouse,
1800 S. Main in the Main Place complex.
For more info, call 258-0077.
see Notes, page 15
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Flavors, fills out the space in a strip mall M;ebael Fi15co ~ enne pepper, but it was
alsohome to Novel Idea
Bookstore & Mexicali
Border Cafe, near 71st
and Sheridan. The wellknown
Fusco used to
be chef at Bodean’s,
and openedFlavors this
summer as his own
place.
Halfofth~ restaurant
is a section of dinerstyle
booths with white
tablecloth covered
tables. The post-modem
decor features a
black and white checkerboard
floor, a visible
kitchen window, and
popular music playing
over the speakers. The
other half, behind a
wainscotted glass wall,
is aformal dining room
with pale purple walls,
carpeted, formal tables
and place settings, and
more sedate, classical
music playing in the
background. There is
.also anotherformal din-
Hollr$:
IX/Ion. - Fr~., 11 to
Dinner
3/][on. - Sat., 5 to 10:30
dosed Sundays
Cuisine:
New Amerlean
Dress: Dressy
Prices:
Very Expensive
Plastic:
Non-Smoldn$
Section: Yes
Alcohol:
FMI bar and w~ne
mgroom behind French
doors for private par_
ties. The samefood and
menu is available on
either side, and there is
no official difference,
though we noticedmost
gendemen in our section
wereinjackets and Ratln~:
ties, while the diner Side patrons were more ca_ A l;st sually attired.. Even
though our visit was on
a Monday night, both sections of the restaurant
were nearly full.
In addition to the small menu ofregular
items, a blackboard reminiscent of
Bodean’s announces the specials of the
evening. Several selections of fresh fish
are available, plus offerings of beef, veal,
pork,and duck. Entrees include a choice
no.t what we would call
spray. Our salads came FLAVORS on huge plates (larger
~a~a~n the service plate!)
6104 E~st 71st Street wedgceosnsisted of large of iceberg lettuce
with a.scattering
of .thinly sliced purple
omon tings, cherry tomatoes,
anddiagonally
sliced cucumbers,
dressed in a pleasan~--
balsamic vinaigrette&
crumbled S til ton
cheese dressing (Stilton
is the English version
of bleu cheese or
roquefor0.
After the salad
course, we were mortified
to see our waiter
remove our salad knife
from our salad plate
and set it on our bread
and butter plate. One
expects that fora $4.50
salad, the kitchen can
wash an additional
knifet
Our entree was a delicious,
and large servl.
n.g of sauteed, thinly
sliced veal hver ($9.95)
presented with caramelized
onions and~r2~r_
kansas bacon, withpo_
tatoes Lyonnaise. Very
tasty and an excellent
value. Our companion
had a strikingplate that
looked pretty enough
to be a woman’s hat--
a bed of mashed potatoes
surrounded by a
panopoly of grilled
i avepgeertfaeMctelys agnrdilmleud,shthroicokm, sb,ecerfotwenndederwloiittni
¯ ($21.95), sauced with a red wine reducL
: tionhunter sauce, and withahuge sprig of
.. fresh rosemary stuck in like a feather.
; au¯Hgirsadtienssdeirsthwoafscmreomreembruunldeaenwe:hiaclharwgee
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thought rather nondescript. We had a flourless chocolate
cake that was filled with chocolate mousse, served on a
mirror of raspberry puree, and decorated with fresh strawberries,
fresh blueberries, mint leaves, and real, freshly
whipped unsweetened cream. Good, but we couldn’t eat it
all, and.the gateaux was everso slightly overcooked.
Alas, there was no espresso machine on the premises, so
after dinner, we walked across the parking lot to the Novel
Idea cafe to linger over cappuccinos and leer at the cute
clerks selling books. Flavors also features a full bar and the
wine list is interesting, emphasizing less encountered small
California wineries.
The food at Flavors, as one might expect from a Michael
Fusco venture, is excellent, though it tends toward tile
expensive (a veal chop with polenta was $28.95--but it
looked divine!). Fusco is one of those chefs who has mastered~
the art of doing new & creative things with food in
combinations which work, rather than shock. One can expect
a pleasant & memorable dining experience from this
exciting, new establishment. Just be sure to make reservations
on the weekends.
For film buffs who happen to be computer literate, I just
received notice,of anew website, called "Popcorn Q", billed
as the ultimate onlinehomefor the queermovingimage. The
address is http://www.popeornq.com..According to my
sources, it offers thousands of film & video descriptions
(need help figuring out whatmovie to rent tonight?), sources
for acquiring these films/videos, of course, graphics and
photos, a directory of G/L film rests, a "Homo Home Film
Fest", books to watch out for, Queer top tens, and lots o’
links. The programmer/author ofthe site is Jenni Olson, who
also wrote the "Ultimate Guide toLesbian & Gay Film &
Video", published in June. Not only an author, programmer,
and Queer film archivist, she also produces for film and
television. Hey Jenni ! Need a cheap actor/columnist-writer/
professional college student?
Last but not least: if you saw the Academy Awards, you
may have seen STOMP, an extraordinary dancing peicussion
performance. They have come to Tulsa several times
and make a point to see them if you have not done so. They
will be at the PAC, Sept. 6-8 and tickets can be had from the
PAC at 596-7111 or Carson Attractions at 584-2000.
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Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities - Our Families of the Heart
Lesb, ian Couple
Appl=es for Tulsa
Marriage License
TULSA, OK - Kharma Amos & Debbie
Harding raised eyebrows and awareness
with their application for a marriage license
at the Tulsa County Courthouse.
AccompaniedbyTulsaFamily News publisher,
TomNeal andreporters from channels
2, 6 & 8 as well as radio KVOO,
KRMG and The Tulsa World, the two
women presented their blood tests and
requestedamarriagelicense. TulsaCounty
Clerk staffrefused the application, stating
that Oklahoma statutes limit marriage to
opposite gender couples.
see License, page 5
Black & White Inc,
Dining & Dancing
For Charity Dollars
TULSA, OK - Black & White Charities,
Inc. will again throw the parties of the
summer, all to raise funds for worthy
community charities. This year’s event
will gather dollars to benefit Project Open
Mind of Parents, Friends & Family of
Lesbians & Gays (PFLAG), The HIV
Resource Consortium and Tulsa’s Lesbian/
Gay Community Center project.
Project Open Mind is a public education
media campaign by PFLAG National
See Black & White, page 5
Britain May End Military
Ban on Lesbians & Gays
LONDON - The London Telegraph
reports that Britain’s ban
against homosexuals, in the
country’s armed forces, just upheld
by Great Britain’s High
Court, appears to be headed toward
an end nonetheless.
According to the paper, Armed
Forces Minister Nicholas
Soames has recommended to
Defense Secretary Malcolm
Rifkind that an independent
panel review the policy andwork
out some "compromise" of the
outright ban currently in place.
The Telegraph quoted an unnamed
senior Defense Ministry
source as saying, "Although in
theory the team wil!~ start with a
blank sheet, it will be the means
b~ which a compromise is
achieved. We need a way out of
this, mad commissioning the
smdy is the way.A possible com~
promise would be to end the ban
in support areas but mainiain it
where service personnel are operating
in close confines and in
dangerous circumstances." Defense
Ministry officials apparently
feel that the complete ban
against gays and lesbians in the
armed forces is no longer sustainable.
In June, the High Court upheld
the ban, but even so the
justices expressed discomfort
with the prohibition. "’It seems to
See British. page 10
OKC Parade, Tulsa
PhotoS: JD Jamett & Tom Neal
Rainbow Village
Housing for PLWA’s
TULSA, OK - Over 40 people worshiped,
planted a tree and worked in the
sweltering Oklahoma sturtmer heat to get
Rainbow Village, a 60+ year old house
ready for its first residents
Saturday, July 8 was the final"work
day" for volunteers, Lesbian, Gay, Bi and
Straight, who came together under the
leadership of volunteer co-ordinator,
see Village, page 5
Supreme Court Rains
on Boston’s Parade
WASHINGTON - The U.S.
Supreme Court has rnled that
private organizations that hold
parades have a constitutional
fight to exclude any group they
want to from participating in the
event.
In a setback for gay and lesbian
rights activists, the unanimous
decision ruled that organizers
of private parades are allowed
under the Constitution’s
free speech guarantees of the
First ,amaendment to keep any
.group they wantfrom participating
m a parade. The decision
insists that parades are inherently
a form of free expression
and that states cannot require
sponsors to alter their message
by including any group thatwants
to participate.
The case the cottrt ru!ed on
started in !992 when the Irish-
American Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual
Group of Boston was refused
permission to march in the
£1ty’s annnal St. Patrick’s’ Day
Parade.
The Supreme Court’s ruling
on Monday, June 19, overturned
the lower court decisions, saying
that the veterans have the
right to select parade contingents
and to determine whether each
unit’s message is ]n agreement
with theoverall theme and aims
of the parade.
See Boston, page 10
July 15 - August 14, 1995, Volume,2, Issue 8
& Muskogee0 Pride
Green Country Human Rights League
TOHR Follies Draw
Crowd & Net $1700+
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
(TOHR) held its 15th Follies, a volunteer
revue to raise fnnds for the human rights
organization, see TOHR Reporter, page 8
Task Force Endorses
Proposed Anti-Bias Law
WASHINGTON-The National
Gay & Lesbian Task Force released
the following statement
about the re-introduction of proposed
legislation barring dis-
’crimination in the workplace
based on sexual orientation.
The statement is attributed to
Melinda Paras, NGLTF’s executive
director, "On behalf of the
National Gay and Lesbian Task
Force, I am pleased to endorse
the Emp!oyment Non-Discrimination
Act (ENDA) of 1995. The
bill would ban employment discrinnnation
onthe basis of sexual
orientation. Such a measure
would permit all Americans to
work without regard to sexual
orientation.’"
"This long overdue legislation
would make illegal the discfinfination
present in the lives of
Americans everyday. The fight
to work is the co’rne~stone of the
American dream., yet far too
many hard working people are
refused work, fired, or harassed
because of theirperceived sexual
orientation.’"
"Sexual orientation does not
effect a person’s ability to contribute
in the workplace yet gay,
lesbian, and bisexual people continue
to be’isolated, stigmatized
and persecuted in and out of the
workplace. Without this measure,
the threat of legal discrimi-
See Task Force, page lO
New Community
Group Organizing
TULSA, OK - FIGHT FOR YOUR
RIGHTS - A community meetingfor Civil
Rights for Lesbians and Gays, was held
on Thtirsday, June 29 and attracted over
25 community activists to discuss the
stalled City of Tulsa HumanRights Committee
Report on Civil Rights based on
sexual orientation and more.
The gathering was remarkable for havingmuchmorediverse
representation than
is typical a.t meetings ofTulsa community
orgamzataons. Women and men were
nearly equally represented and members
ofFUSO, Tulsa’s African-American men’s
group and several Tulsa’s Lesbian/Gay~
Bi youth attended as well.
The purpose of the forum was to create
.a venue wh.ere representatives from exist~
mg orgamzauons and members of the
Gay/Lesbian community at large could
meet to discuss publically goals and strategies
for the communities. Several action
areas emerged and participants volunteered
according to their interests. These
sub-committees included: political action
organizing (contact: Laurie Cooper),
speakers bureau (contact: Tom Neal),
youth issues (contact: Thomas Knott &
John Ayers) as well as several others:
These meetings are open to all who
share these goals. The next meeung is
July 20.7pro also at the Central Library.
For more information, call 838-2121.
Incident at White House
Prom pts Official Apology
WASHINGTON - The \Vhite
House issued a letter from President
Clinton addressed to the 45
gay and lesbian officials who
had attended ameeting with high
level administration officials at
the Executive Offices in June,
The Clinton letter apologized for
what the president called "inappropriate
and insensitive treatment"
after White House guards
put on blue rubber gloves ~o admit
the guests.
Althoughit was somewhat tarnished
and overshadowed by the
glove flap, the meeting with administration
officials was an
unprecedented occasion. With
nearly half the country’ s elected
openly gay officials there, it was
the first time such a delegation
had been invited to the White
House to meet with top adininistration
officials President
Clinton himself was not present.
The 4-hour private discussion
included Housing Sec. Henry
Cisneros, Health & Human Services
Sec. Donna Shalala, White
House Counsel Abner Mikva,
and Clinton aide G~orge
Stephanopoulos. Officials promised
support for many issues but
said that change is slow.
Aside from the glove flap, gay
and lesbians leaders expressed
disappointment with the administration’s
failure to stand up
see White House, page 3
Safe Space on the
Internet for Gay Youth
by Chris Thomas
OutNOW.t- San Jose, California
The "Dmnien Starr case" has
called attention to some of the
pitfalls awaiting teenagers who
use computer networks to communicate
with faceles s strangers
around the world. For a young
person beginning to question
their sexual orientauon, such
anonymity can sometimes be a
liberating factor. Butcyberspace
is filled with diversions and traps
that can engulfa naive net- surfer,
and the challenge is to find those
spots which offer genuine help
and safety. One such place is the
Youth Assistance Organization,
see Youth Net. page 3
INSIDE LETTERS, PAGE 2
DIRECTORY, PAGE 2
NEWS BRIEFS, PAGE 4
HEALTH BRIEFS, PAGE 6
CALENDAR, PAGE 9
FINANCES, PAGE 12
HOROSCOPES, PAGE 12
PERSONALS, PAGE 15
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Carbon Copy: S. Savage
200 Civic Center
Tulsa OK 74103
Mayor Savage:
Let me take the opportunity to.
introduce myself. My name is
Timothy J. Miller, & I am representing
myself along with many
others like myself in not only
Tulsa, but the metropolitan area.
In the past I have worked for a
very prominent Tulsa family in
the property management fields
as Director of Administration,
successfully managed a .distinguished
apartment community,.
& am currently a manager for a
large regional restaurant chain. I
consider myself to be fair, openminded,
& objective.
I am writing as a concerned
constituent, & feel I am not being
fully represented in City
.Government. About 5 to 6
months ago, a report was sent to
youwith recommendations dealing
with the Civil Rights of Lesbians
& Gays: As of yet, I have
seehlittle response to tiffs report,
not onlyby the City Council, but
the Mayor’ s office as well It is
time to see these issues as critical.
Executive orders must be
given to ban discri.mination of
any kind, including sexual orientation,
pertaining to city hirragas
well as those aireaay employed
by the city, including the
police & fire departments. The
time has also come to add the
words "sexual orientation" to our
human fights ordinance. I believe
this measure would easily
pass with you actively supporting
the issue.
With your active support of
these issues, I believe that not
only would Tulsa benefiL but
the metropolitan area as well.
.Othercity governments seeTulsa
as a guiding light. It is time tbr
Tulsa to move boldly ahead &
become the forenmn~r it has always
been.
Timothy J Miller
The Savage response:
Dear Mr. Miller:
Thankyoufor your letter about
the recommendations from the
Human Rights Commission. As
you may know under the terms
of the Tulsa City Charter all
changes to the ordinance must
be approved by the council.
Members of the Sexual Orientation
Committee of the Human
Rights Commission who have
spoken to council members do
not share your belief that the
changes would pass easily.
see next col. below Youth Speak
Youth Speak Out on Bias
All cultures or groups of
people have a stereotype. We’ ve
all heard how Blacks are lazy;
Jews are stingy; Women are too
emotional; and. especially how
Gays are perverts or pansies.
Well, while in some cases these
may betrue, not everyone is like
that.
Stereotypes help perpetuate a
negative image. The images everyone
gets, even some Gays,
persuade them to avoid the fact
that we a re all human. We, as a
group, need to form a bond and
stick together, helping each
other.
Something that the Gay youth
needs to understand is that they
can be anyone they want to be.
Anyone can be feminine or masculine;’
male or female; just as
long as they have a mentor gniding
them, giving sports tips,
make-up tips & mainly emotional
support.
The main point is ~that we are
all a diverse group of people, &
this is why we need’ to value our
friends & family; yet not base
our lives on stereotypes alone...
Thomas Knott,
A.K.A. Terra Starr
Editor’s note: Thomas is a
youth activist in Tulsa.
Selective ID’ing at Bars?
As a semi-regular patron ofall
Tulsa bars, itbothers me greatly
that "selective carding" still
seems exists in 1995. I have no
problem at all producing my
driver’s license when asked to
do so, but I feel (out Of respect)
that all members ofmy party be
asked to do so. Furthermore, as a
courtesy to all bar patrons, everyone
should be required to
show identification.
There are times that I have
seen people who I know are underage
allowed into bars without
showing ID while I have
been asked to show mine. It really
angers me to be told by a
doorperson that "He looks 21 &
you don’t." Could you please
tell me what a 21-year-old looks
like?
It is my hope that this letter
will bring an important issue to
the eyes of barmanagers &owners
before it gets out of hand.
Sincerely, K. Green
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receive discreet home delivery
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$8 for 6 months.
Theexisting City ofTulsapersounel
policies specifically ban
discrimination & encourage all
hiring to be on the basis ofmerit.
Our 4000 employees are a diverse
representative group &we
work diligently to encourage an
accepting workplace.
M. Susan Savage, Mayor
Editor’s note: the Mayor implies
current city policies provideprotections
basedon sexual
orientation - they do not do so.
Personnel policies do not require
action by the City Council
butcan bechangedby the Mayor.
Or at least that is what many right wing activists claim, and can we
blame them? being gay certainly is not immoral, however the Gay
community could definitely stand some xmprovement.
Take for instance Riverside drive, almost every night one can spot
at least three or four different men cruising the walk for a one night
trick. I have even had the unfortunate experience of seeing two men
engaged in sex with one another right there in the mens room. This
hardly speaks well for the commumty.
And how many men find themselves employing the term "fish"
when in reference to women. A lack of sexual attraction is not just
cause for such vile disrespect. Sexism isjust as wrong as homophobia,
yet it appears to be more prevalent in the Gay community than in the
general community.
Hear any good racist jokes recently? I have and they are absolutely
disgusting. I think that it is apalling that one can rant and rave about
how they want equal rights, and then make racial slurs that would put
KKK members to shame.
Members of our community are constantly demanding equal rights
for themselves, but it is very rare to see a Gay-or Bisexual male take
a strong and firm stand againstsexism; or to see someone who is white
stand up and fight racial predjudice And the thing that d~fines Gay
men is not tricking in the bathrooms of Riverside. If we don’ t want
critism from the general public, then we shouldn’ tgive them anything
to criticize in the first place. "It is hard to give respect to someone who
does not return it to others." - John Ayers
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bad Boys Club, 1229 S. Memorial 835-5083
*Wild Nights, 2405 E. Admiral 582-4340
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th 749-1563
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234
*Renegades, 1649 S. Main 585-3405
*TNT~ s, 2114 S. Memorial 660-0856
*Time n’Time Again, 1515 S. Memorial 664-8299
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-!308
*Whittier Cafe, 416.S. Lewis 582-2400
*Interurban, 717 S. Houston 585-3134
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Associates in Medical & Mental Health, 1560 E. 21 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 74325272
Budget Window Treatments, 7116 So. Mingo, Ste. 102 254-2100
*Columbia Place, 1519 E. 15 587-5803
Creative Collection, 1521 E: 15 592-1521
Cherry St. Psychotherapy Assoc. 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Devena’ s Gallery for Photography, 13 E. Brady 587-2611
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
Fidelity Home Health Care, Inc. Coweta 486-1174
Leaune M. Gross, Financial Planning 744-0102
*Heirloom Designs, 2814 E. 15 742-5665
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotheral~y, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
*Imaginations, Lincoln Plaza, 15th & Peoria 584-4606
International Tours 341-6866
Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 14011, 74159 747--5466
Loup-Garou, 2747 E. 15 742-1992
Major Affairs 587-8108
Massoud’s Jewlery, The Farm, 51st & Sheridan 663-4884
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-3112
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 P1 664-2951
*Mohawk Pride Center, 3910 Park .Rd. 425- !354
Mortgages by Design 342-4252
Pounds & Francs, 1706 S. Boston 587-8333
Puppy Pause II, l lth & Mingo 838-7626
Royal Travel, 6927 S. Canton 496-2410
*Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337
*Scribnef s Bookstore, 1942 UticaSquare 749-6301
Southwest Viatical, 4146 S. Harvard, Ste. F-5 747-3322
*Tomfoolery, 1565 S Sheridan 832-0233
Westcopa Salon, Lincoln Plaza 583-1500
Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
*Bless The Lord At All Times Cluistian Ctr. 2627B E. 11 628-0594
B/L!G Alliance, University of Tulsa 583-9780
*Canterbury Ministry Center, University of Tulsa 583-9780
*Chapman Student Center, University of Tulsa
*Community of Hope, 1347 N. Yale 838-7232
Dignity/Integrity 298-4648
*Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441
Friend8 in Unity, POB 8542, 74101 425-4905
Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
*MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
*HIV Resource Consortium, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H:I 749-4194
NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 748-3111
P-FLAG, POB 52800 74152 749-4901
Prime-Timers, P:O, Box 52118 74128
R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
Rainbow Business Guild 254-2100
Rainbdw Village, POB 50403, 74150-0403 599-8423
Save the Nation, Indian Health Care 584-4983
Shanti Hotline 749-7898
TulsaOklahomans for HumanRights, (TOHR) POB 52729 74152
TOHR Gay HelpLine (Info.) 743-4297
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
*Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor
*University Center at Tulsa
DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St.
*Emerald Rainbow, 45&1/2 Spring St.
~King’s Hi-Way, 96 Kings Highway, Hwy. 62W
*Purple Iris Inn, Route 6, Box 339
*Southern Rose Bed & Breakfast, 9 Benton
*The Woods, 50 Wall St.
501-253-6807
501-253-5445
800-231-1442
501-253-8748
501-253-2204
501-253-8281
*The Diner, 2124 NW 39th
*Jungle Red, The Habana Inn
*Oasis Community Center, 2135 NW 39th
*Triangle Associaiion, 2136 NW 39tb
405-528-5133
405-524-5733
405-525-2437
~ q5-843-8378
White House cont’di omp. I
for several gay rights issues and bluntly
warned that millions of gay voters ~ay sit
out the next election unless the predident
takes concrete steps to show his support.
"We’re saying, give us areason to go back
and have our people vote for you," said
SanFrancisco Supervisor Susan Leal, who
organized the meeting."
Nearly an hour of the meeting time
involved a"heated dialogue" with Mikva
about the Clinton administration’s decision
earlier in June not to join in a legal
challenge of a Colorado anti-gay rights
measure now up for review by the U.S.
Supreme Court. The measure bans laws
and policies designedto protect homosexuals
from discrimination.
Bruce Lehman, commissioner of the
U.S. Patent and Trademark Office and
one ofthe Clinton admini stration’ s openly
gay officials, said he had urged the White
House to attack the Colorado measure.
Even¯ so, Lehman said, the meeting itself
was "just another one of the many firsts"
in the Clinton administration that benefit
the gay and lesbian community. Meanwhile,
the White House announced that it
had appointed Marsha Scott - a close
Clinton associate - to a new, first-ever
post as liaison to the gay community.
White House officials were both embarrassed
and exasperated by the glove¯
incident that marred the first-ever "goodwill"
meeting June 13 with the gay and
lesbian officials from around the country
at a time when President Clinton’s standing
among gays and lesbians is probably
lower than it has ever been.
~ Eljay Bowron, director of the Secret
5ev¢i~c~, apologized for a "regrettable"
mistake when _guards blue rubber gloves
to allow the delegation in for the meeting.
Bowron said AIDS education efforts in
the agency would be stepped up.
The guards put on the gloves after they
learned the gay group was scheduled to
pass through ~the eastern entrance of the
White House. Oregon state Rep. George
Eighmey later said a guard had told him,
when asked why the guards wore gloves,
that they were wearing them "to protect
ourselves" - apparently from HIV.
Reaction among the lesbian and gay
officials attending theWhite Housemeetrag,
which actually took place at the ExecutiveOfficenearby,
ranged frompolitical
perplexity to livid outrage. "It’s a
mixed bag,’" said Susan Leal, a county
supervisor from San Francisco, who
helped to arrange the meeting. She said
having the meeting with top-level administration
officials was a breakthrough in
itself, but added that she wasn’t overwhelmed
by any concrete results.
Tom Ammiano, another San Francisco
supervisor attending the .meeting, was
more blunt: "If the Clinton administration
can’t take care of its own people, if its
level of understanding is so low, how can
they take care of us? I’ve lost my own
lover to AIDS, and this is one of the
basest, ignorant, homophobic reaction to
AIDS I can imagine. A first-grader will
tell you that you’re not going to get AIDS
by putting someone’s camera through a
metal detector...."
Pride-Photos
The Rev. Leslie Penrose, Brad Mulholland & volunteers plant
a tree to honor the memory ofRainbow Villagefounder, Mark
Vickers. Photo: Neal
Metropolitan Community Church ofGreater Tulsa booth at
Tulsa’s Pride Picnic in Mohawk Park. Photo: JD Jamett
Family ofFaith Metropolitan Community Church at the statewide
Lesbian/Gay Pride Parade in Oklahoma City.
Photo: Neal
Black & White Charities, Inc. booth at Tulsa’s Lesbian/Gay
Pride Picnic in Mohawk Park. Photo: JDJamett
Youth Net cont’dfromp. 1
a group with several Bay Area connections.
"We give youth questioning their sexuality
an option; rather than run away to a
city hoping to find others like themselves,
youth will have a safe place to turn to one
another," says Christian Williams, 19, a
co-founder ofYAOand a student intern at
SunMierosystems Inc. in Mountain View.
YAO, which also goes by the name
"youth.org" for its Intemet site, went online
in February with the donation ofthree
computer workstations from Sun.
YAO didn’thappen over mght; it was a
project long envisioned by co-founder
Reid Fishler, 19, owner of Long Island
Information Inc.,. a New York-based
Intemet services provider. "We are special
because of one thing," says Fishler.
"We are teens helping teens. We are not
adults who have decided that we should
"give some thing back to the community’;
we are teens who have all made it through
or are making it through, life as a gay,
lesbian, or bisexual teenager."
While recent media focus has been on
the negative aspects of what can happen
when gay youth roam the Internet, people
at YAO see a positive side to all the
attention.
"We feel such incidents only reinforce
theimportance of services like ours," says
Williams. "For youth who have been abandoned
by their families or, worse, thrown
out for who they are, YAO can serve as
both aresource ofagencies and services to
turn to for help, as an alternative to the
streets, and as a place to receive the emotional
healing and support - the understanding
that comes from another .young
pelson."
Many of the YAO volunteers are involved
in other safe spaces for gay teens
on the Internet. Mary L. Gray, 25, is a
graduate student at San Francisco State
University and is a co-moderator of the
Usenetnewsgroup soc.support.youth.gaylesbian-
bi, which was formed in 1994
following the largest vote ever in support
of a new newsgroup in the more than 10-
year history of Usenet.
Fishier, Williams, and others also moderate
areal-time Relay Chat channel called
#gayteen. The channel is moderated to
ensure that "’net sex" doesn’t take place,
and that it remains asafe place for gay and
questioning youth. Over 500 us’ers have
registered on the channel, which is protectedby
several "bots," automatons which
help enforce the policies of the elaannel
and keep undesirable or disruptive individuals
from violating the space.
And YAO is teaming up with other gay
youth groups to make evenmore resources
available. OutProud is a San Jose based
youth service which recently established
an Internet presence after two years on
America Online. The group has developed
a database of over 3,500 contacts for
gay and questioning youth, and YAO has
indexed the database and made it availsee
Youth Net, page 13
Open Arms
Open Minds
Open Hearts
Saint Aidan’s
4045 No. Cincinnati, 425-7882
Saint John’s
4200 So. Atlanta PI., 742-7381
Trinity
501 So. Cincinnati, 582-4128
The Episcopal Church
Welcomes You
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Anti-Bias Law in Florida
PT. LAUDERDALE Following
a heated 5-hour Broward
County Commission meeting,
the body voted to adopt an antibias
measure prohibiting discrimination
based on sexual orientation
in the county by a 6-1
margin. Anti-gay fundamentalists
immediately said they would
launch an effort to gatherenough
signatures to repeal the ordinance.
Britain’s Ch. 4 -
Premieres ’Dyke TV’
LONDON - The chief executive
of Britain’s Channel 4 TV,
Michael Grade, has defended the
station’s increasingly controversial
lineup ofprogramming after
it premiered the latest in a string
of programs dealing with sexual
issues that culminated in mid-
June with the debut of "Dyke
TV.’" a 15 hour-long late-night
show specifically aimed at the
country’s lesbian community.
Grade denied charges that the
independent network was prorooting
pornography or appealmgto
prurient interests inlaunchlug
the programs and said it was
all part of the station’s responsibility
to "’reflect society."
"’People are fascinated by sex,"
Grade said. "’It’s a question of
whether you take a healthy interes~
mad explore that in a seriousminded
way, or whether you do
it in an unhealthy way, which is
to exploit people."
Technicality Allows
2 BritishWomento Wed
IJONDON - The London tabloid
The People has reported on
what it called the country’s first
sanae-sex marriage sched’uled for
Junc 28
The paper reported that t’he
marriage between Tracie-Mme
Scott mad Tina-Louise Dixon was
possible because Scott, a former
merchant semnan mad the father
of 3 children, is still technically
male under British regulations -
even though he has had a sexchange
operation.
Victory Fund Gets New
Chief Announced
WAStllNGTON David
Clarenbach, a former Wisconsin
state representative who held a
seat in the state legislature for 9
tcrms, has been named to repl
acc William Waybourn as exc~
tivc director of the Gay &
Lcsbian Victory Fund.
In a press statement,
C arenbach said "One of my
goals as to bring an outsxde-the-
B’eltway wake-up call to the
nation’s .capitol. The rest of the
country is way ahead of Washington
in recognizing the contributions
of gay and lesbian citizeus.
In a related matter, the Gay &
Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation
(GLAAD) announced
that Waybourn had joined the
mediawatchdog group as its new
managing director.
Lesbian Launches
Mayoral Bid
SAN FRANCISCO - Roberta
Achtenberg, who left a post as
undersecretary for civil rights in
the Department of Housing and
Urban Development in the
Clinton Administration earlier
this year, officially launched her
campaign to become the first
openly gay mayor of San Francisco.
Achtenberg, a lesbian rights
attorney and former county supervisor,
faces an uphill battle in
a crowded fidd that includes incumbent
Mayor Frank Jordan
andformer CaliforniaAssembly
Speaker Willie Brown, perhaps
the state’s most influential
Democrat.
"She will be the first lesbian
big-city mayor in the country,"
said Christine Kehoe, a San Diego
city councilwoman who
hdped kick off the campaign
drive here. "And that’s why
we’re here this morning. Roberta
shows whatwe can achievewhen
we participat e fully in the life of
our community."
Rights Measure in N.H;
CONCORD, N.H. - A measure
has been introduced in the New
Hampshire Legislature that
would prohibit discrimination
based on sexual orientauon in
the state. A similarmeasure failed
when introduced in the legislature
2 years ago after strong objection
from church leaders.
Hearings are not expected to
begin on the proposed legislation
until the end of this year.
One Aussie Leader:
Pro Gay Marriage
SYDNEY - Governor-General
Sir Bill Hayden, Queen
Elizabeth’s appointed Crown
officer in Australia, drew wildly
mixed reactions for a recent
speech in which he endorsed the
idea of same-sex marriages,
adoptions by gay and lesbian
couples, and legally allowing
euthanasia for terminally ill patients
who want it.
Some church 1e~leYg~md p61iticians
in the country denounced
Hayden’s suggestions, whichare
considered the most progressive
made by any major government
official anywhere in the world to
date. A government spokesperson
said Hayden’s speech reflected
his own views, and not
those of either the Australian
government or Queen Elizabeth.
Hayden’s recommendation
that gay men be routinely tested
for HIV, however, drew harsh
criticism from AIDS groups in
the country as unnecessary for
proper healthcare safety.
Other Aussie Leader:
Against Gay Marriages
SYDNEY - The Australian gay
publication Brother Sister reports
that Prime Minister Paul
Keating has rebuffed a recent
call by Australian Governor
General Bill Hayden to legally
recognize same-sex relationships
and to extend adoption rights to
gays and lesbians in the country.
Keating is quoted as saying in
Parliament,"I havemy own personal
views; social views on
these things, but these are not a
matter ofgovemmentpolicy.We
don’tmakelaws governing these
things."
Hayden, who represents the
British Crown as the nominal
head of state in the Commonwealth
country, earlier endorsed
both same-sex mamages and
legal adoption rights for gays
andlesbians. "When society took
the decision to no longer regard
the practice of homosexuality as
a threat to established, monogamous
marriage, regarded as the
cornerstone ofsociety for so long,
certain inevitable consequences
followed." Hayden said during a
speech. "Certain rights flowed
to homosexuals in the wake of
that decision and unanticipated
changed to community Standards
followed.’"
The Governor General’s office
later made it clear, hrwever, that
Hayden was not speaking for the
government orQueen Elizabeth,
whom he represents in the ountry.
Town Nixes ’Gay Pride’
ALAMEDA,Calif.-A normally
"routine" proclamation designating
June as Gay Pride Monthhas
been rejected in this community
on the east side,of the San Francisco
Bay after anti-gay conservatives
turned out in the hundreds
to pack a city council
meeting. The resolution, usually
anuncontroversial matter, failed
even to receive a second at the
council meeting The council
hearing on the proposed proclamataon
lasted nearly 4 hours.
Religious conservatives claimed
the rejected proclamation was
victory for "traditional family
Values."
Canadian Province May
Allow Joint Adoption
VICTORIA, British - Canadian
news sources report that the provincial
government in British
Columbia has introduced legislation
that would permit same
sex couples to adopt children the
same as heterosexual couples.
The proposed change in the
province’s adoption regulations
would let both partners legally
adopt a child, giving them joint
parental rights and responsibilities.
Quebec and Saskatchewan
provinces both permit gay and
lesbian couples to adopt children
already, and an Ontario provincial
court has declared that
province’s restrictaons against
same-sex couples adopting children
to be unconstitutional.
Coors Adds Domestic
Partners Benefits
BOULDER, Colo. - The University
of Colorado newspaper,
the Colorado Daily, has reported
that the Coors Brewing Company
of Golden, Colo., once the
objectof an intensenational boycott
by gays and lesbians, has
voted unanimously to extend
employee benefits to the samesex
domesticpartners ofits workers.
Since the widespread boycott
of the 1970s and 1980s, the
company has added non-discrimanation
protections based on
sexual orientation to its employment
guidelines, and the brewcry
also has a company-sanctioned
gay andlesbianemployee
group.
"’There are still a lot of unanswered
questions about the relationship
between the Coors family,
the [Coors] Foundation, and
the company," Sue Anderson of
Equality Colorado. told the paper.
"But if we’re ’just talking
about the corporation, this is a
great move forward." Members
of the Coors family and its private
Coors Foundation have
backed a wide variety of archconservative
and anti-gay groups
and politiciahs for decades,
which led initially to the boycott.
The Coors Brewing Company,
however, has since gone
out of its way to distinguish itself
from the financial giving of
the family and the foundation.
Amnesty International
Cites Police Abuses
LONDON - The London-based
human rights watchdog group
Arunesty International has publicly
called on the govermnent
of Albania to live up to its obligations
and agreements under
international law and put a halt
to abuses of its citizens, including
political prisoners, Greeks
living in the country, and homosexuals.
"In certmn cases the ill-treatment
has been so severe that it
has amounted to torture," a statement
from AI said. "In at least
five cases the victim died, apparently
as a result of the injuries
they suffered." The organization
also called on the government to
set up methods of responding to
citizen complaints of police
abuse and brutality to deal with
the problem.
Guinness To Do Gay Ads
LONDON - The Financial
Times of London has reported
that Guirmess, the famed British
brewery best known for its stout
ales,, plans to begin using a gay
male couple in some of its future
TV ad campaigns in the United
Kingdom to promote its popular
alcoholic beverages. Although
the firm did not give details of
the TV advertising, it did indicate
that the TV spots would
make it clear that the 2 men in
them were gay men.
The finn also said it would use
the popular conntry-western tune
"Stand By Your Man" in the ads.
ILGA World Conference
RIO DE JANEIRO - The 17th
world conference of the International
Lesbian & Gay Association
ended in Brazil on Sunday,
June 25, with a gay pride parade
along Rio’ s Copacabana beach.
During the week-long conference
of more than 300 delegates
representing countries from
around the globe, ILGA took the
following actions:
- Denounced anti-gay violence
in Latin America - including
Brazil itself - and condenmed
the execution of gays and lesbians
in some Islamic countries;
- Praised the decriminalization
of homosexual sodomy in the
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- Announced plans to launch
campaigns to draw attention to
the continued criminalizing of
gay and lesbian sex in Chile,
Ecuador and Nicaragua;
- Said the organization had ratified
all the international treaties
and conventions of the United
Nations to help assure its recogration
as a consulting Non Governmental
Organization (NGO)
with the UN.
The organization also elected
Jordi Petit of Barcelona, Spain,
and Inge Wallaert of Antwerp,
Belgium, as its new secretariesgeneral.
D’Emilio Takes Over at
NGLTF Policy Institute
WASHINGTON-The National
Gay & Lesbian Task Force has
almounced the noted historian
and author Dr. John D’Emilio
has joined the civil rights organization
as director of NGLTF’s
Policy Institute. D’Emilio’, ahistory
professor with the University
of North Carolina, has the
task of transforming the Policy
Institute imo a full-fledged research
organization by recruiting
gay rights theorists, academics,
researchers, activists and
others to the rese arch "think
In apress statement, D’Emilio
said: "I am committed to building
the NGLTF Policy Institute
into an indispensable source of
reliable, useful and necessary
information, on gay/lesbian/bisexual
public policy issues. We
want to use the wealth of expertise
in our community to build a
reservoir of materials for activists
in the fidd.’"
No. Cal. LesbiGay Prom
HAYWARD, Calif. - This unlikely
community, just east of
San FranciSco, was the spot on
Friday evening, June 30, of t!}..e
first gay and lesbian prom in
Northern California "Pride: A
Deeper Love" took place at the
Ceutemtial Hall here, replete with
with an espresso and soft drinks
bar, potted palms, anindoorfountain,
and a miniautre replica of
tile. Eiffel Tower to recreate the
ambiance of a Paris sidewalk
cafe. The youth prom was sponsored
by the I_ambda Youth
Group and drew several hundred
lesbian, gay and bisexual
youths - mostly high school studeuts
- from throughout the San
Francisco bay area.
Couples May Ado pt in DC
WASHINGTON - The District
of Columbia’s Court of Appeals
has ruled that unmarried couples
- including same-sex couples -
can legally adopt children the
same as married couples. The
court made its rifling in the case
of 2 gay men, identified in court
documents as BruceM. andMark
D., overturning a lower court
ruling that denied the men the
right to adopt a young girl.
The court found that "unmarried
couples living together in a
committedpersonal relationship,
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whether of the same sex or of
opposite sexes, are eligible to
petition the cou~t for a decree of
adoption" and the capital’ s adoption
law "expressly authorizes
adoptions by any person without
limitations.’"
Toronto Parade Largest
in North America
TORONTO - Demonstrating a
level of gay pride that most
Americans only associate with
cities like Los Angeles, SanFrancisco
and New York, Toronto"s
annual Gay Pride Parade this
year apparently became thelargest
such event in North America,
outstripping the gigantic gay
pride celebrations of its southern
neighbor for the first time.
Police estimated that between
500,000 and 600,000 spectators
showed up for the Sunday, July
2 parade that also drew more
than 50~000 participants. Police
estimates of the 3 largest gay
pride parades in the U.S. put
spectator numbers at between
300,000 a nd 500,000. The
Toronto parade first started in
1980 when it drew only 2,500
people. Politicos in this year’s
eventincluded openly gayMember
of Parliament Svend
Robinson and Toronto Mayor
Barbara Hall.
California Court Upholds
Hate Crime Law
SAN FRANCISCO - California’s
Supreme Court has upheld
the state’s hate crimes law
as constitutional and has ruled
thatit does not violatefree speech
rights. The unanimous court ruling
rejected the arguments by
the attorney of2 women charged
in the beating of 2 gay men in
San Francisco in 1990.
The appeal argued that the
state’s hate crimes law violated
the women’s free speech guarantees
because it was vague. The
state high court rejected the argument,
saying thatwords which
indicate an "intent to inflict evil,
injury or damage on another"
are not protected by constitutional
free speech guarantees.
"Violence and threats of violence
.. fall outside the protection
of the First Amendment because
they coerce by unlawful
conduct, rather than persuade by
expression," thecourtruled. "As
such, they are punishable because
of the state’s interest in
protecting individuals from the
fear of violence, the disruptio~
fear engenders and the possibil-
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Gay Marriages:
Tale of Two Cultures
AMSTERDAM-Twoindependent
polls {eleased on the same
date- onein the U.S., the other in
Holland - give an indication of
the difference in attitudes in the
2 countries. In Holland, 73% of
those polled said they thought
gay and lesbian couples should
be allowed to legally marry - an
astoundingly largeportion ofthe
population that surprised even
many Dutch activists.
The U.S. poll, conducted by
EPIC-MRA-Mitchell Research,
found that only 33% of Americans
thought same-sex couples
should be allowed to get married,
while 63% opposed gay
and lesbian marriages.
Lesbian Camp
Ruled Not a Nuisance
OVEIT, Miss.-Chancery Court
Judge FrankMcKenziehas ruled
thatCamp Sister Spiritwas not a
"private nuisance" in rejecting
the caseofa group oflocal townspeople
who had accused the lesbian-
feminist retreat of causing
disruptions an d trying to "recruit"
their daughters into a"lesbian
lifestyle." McKenzie said
in his ruling that seminars and
music festivals at Camp Sister
Spiritmayhave disrnptedneighbors
to a degree, but that the
retreat’s activities did not constitute
a "nuisance." The attorney
representing the townspeople
who brought the complaint
against the camp said all
the ruling meant was that the
camp just "hasn’t gotten out of
hand at this point."
’Gay Gene’
ResearchQuestioned
SAN FRANCISCO - Dr. Dean
Hammer, the openly gay National
Cancer Institute researcher
who reported finding a genetic
marker associated with male
homosexuality, is apparently
under government scrutiny for
possibly manipulating datain the
study. Hammer confirmed for
news sources that his 1993 study
was being reviewed by the federal
Office of Research Integrity
and that he had been ordered not
to comment further.
Genetic scientists, however,
have reported that a colleague in
Hammer’s NCI lab had looked
through the data in Hammer’s
reports and found that the government
researcher had not included
some of the material in
his final report. Theomitted data
could we aken the statistical
significant of Hammer’s finding
or possibly have changed the
findings altogether.
The question of the reliability
of Hammer’s findings .could be
even more crucial because a
neurogeneticist at the University
of Western Ontario in
Canada finished a similar study
recently of more than 40 sets of
gay brothers and found no link
between the genetic marker and
sexual orientation.
Village cont’dfromp. 1
Rusty Langley Stumpff, to make
real the vision of Rainbow.Village
founder Mark Vickers.
Rainbow Village is a non-profit
dedicated to providing housing
for persons living with AIDS
(PLWA’s). After months of delays
and difficulties in raising
funds for the renovations of the
house, work was able to completed
because of donated materials
from Cowan Construction
and donated labor from many
folks,in particular, LeonKubian,
a professional contractor.
At mid-day, the work crew
stopped to join the Rev. Leslie
Penrose in a blessing of the
house, room by room and to plant
a tree in remembrance of Mark
Vickers who died just in May of
this year. Brad Mulholland,
Mark’s spouse, remarked on the
bittersweetness of finally seeing
Mark’s dream realized.
Midway though the ceremony,
aneighborhoodresident stopped
to complain abouthaving ahouse
for people with AIDS, which for
him equalled "Gays" in the neighborhood.
Ironically, the first residents
of this house happen to be
heterosexuals living withAIDS,
not Gays. Though the neighbor
refused to give his name, he
threatened to complain to the
city because he felt the house
would violate zoning restrictions.
Rainbow Village board president,
Cathy Mulholland, responded
that up to 8 unrelated
individuals could live in a single
family zonedhouse and that there
should be no problems.
Cathy Mulholland also noted
that Tulsa has a significant need
for housing for PLWA’s. There
may be as many as 90 persons
needinghousing and Mulholland
added that up to 84% ofPLWA’s
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applications are continuing to be
made, no major grants have yet
to be secured. Donations of
money, materials and time/labor
are welcome. For information,
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taffy cont’dfrom p. 1
to counter anti-Lesbian/Gay
prejudice. Some of the seed
money for the project was do~
nated by Barbra Streisand and
Tulsa is one of three test sites for
shaping the campaign.
The HIV Resource Consortium
is an umbrella organization
that seeks to provide
comprehesive HIV/AIDS services,
ranging from case management
to providing space for
other organizations, such as the
TOHR HIV Testing Clinic and
RAIN, Regional AIDS Interfaith
Network which organizes care
teams for persons living with
AIDS (PLWA’s).
The Lesbian/Gay Community
Center is a project spearheaded
by Tulsa Oklahomans for Human
Rights (TOHR). The goal is
to rent or buy a facility where all
parts of the communities and
organizations can meet formally
or informally.
Black & White Charities, Inc.
will hold two events: a patrons
appreciation on Friday, July 28
at Philbrook Museum and the
Black & White Party itself on
Saturday, July 29 at the Pavilion
on Expo Square. Black & White
Charities, Inc. began as a private
party but was later incorporated
as a tax-exempt non-profit dedicated
to sponsoring social events
which celebrate the unity and
the diversity of the communities,
promote group&individual
self-esteem and create awareness
and. funding for our communities
issues andconcerns. For
more information, see page 16.
License cont’dfrom p. 1
After being turned away,
Amos and Harding spoke with
reporters about the effort. The
couple acknowledged that they
were not really surprised to be
denied the license, but that they
hoped people aware of the desire
of many Lesbian & Gay couple
for legal recognition and protection
of their relationships.
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situations whether single or as couples.
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A significant number of people state
they would use a home test to determine if
they are infected with HIV, it the Food
and Drug Administration (FDA) licenses
the diagnostic kits, according to a University
of California San Francisco (UCSF)
study published in the May 11 issue of the
New England Journal of Medicine
(NEJM).
If thehomekits are approved, the easier
access and greater privacy they provide
wouldincrease thenumberofpeople tested
forHIV infection, says a UCSFresearcher
who co-authored a separate essay on this
subject published in the same NFJM issue.
The FDA currently is considering
whether or not to approve test kits that
would allow blood collection at home,
according to Kathryn Phillips, PhD, a
researcher at the UCSF Center for AIDS
Prevention Studies (CAPS) and lead author
of the UCSF study,
The over-the-counter test kits would
likely be sold atdrug stores and, or through
mail order. After pricking a finger and
putting a drop of blood on a filter paper,
users of the home test would mail the
sample to a laboratory and call to find out
their results They wouldreceive telephone
counseling after providing a codenumber
from the test kit. The entire process would
be anonymous.
UCSF researchers examined how the
availability of home-access HIV tests
.might change the numbers and character-
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where they went to be tested. Data came
from a large household survey conducted
by the Centers for Disease Control and
Prevention (CDC) of more than 20,000
Among other questions, respondents
were asked how likely they would be to
use home HIV testing and, if it were
available, whether they would choose to
use a home test, go to a doctor’s office or
clinic, or not be tested.
29% stated that they wouldbe "very" or
"somewhat" likely to use home tests. Of
this group,7%percent said they had never
been tested (excluding testing for blood
donation). 42% of the respondents with
HIV risk factors said they wouldbe"very"
or "somewhat" likely to use home tests;
63% of this group said they had never
been tested (excluding testing for blood
donation). 22% of all respondents and
31% of those at risk; said+they would
choose a home test over the alternatives.
In comparison, 18% of the respondents
and 34% of those at risk reported having
been tested for HIV infection (excluding
testing for blood donation)between 1985
and the time the survey was conducted.
The survey defined persons ’at risk’ as
.hemophiliacs, men who have sex with
men, intravenous drug users, those who
trade sex for money, sex partners of persons
at risk, those who had blood transfusions
between 1977-1985, and those who
have a self-perceived chance of having or
contracting AIDS.
Respondents more likely to .state they
would use home HIV tests were male,
younger, non-white or non-Hispanic, and
had less than a college degree, income
levels lower than the poverty index, risk
factors for AIDS+ a self perceived.risk of
AIDS, previously donated blood in order
to be tested, or no prior testing because
they did not know where to go, according
to the UCSF study, see Test, page 11
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Reporter .Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights ¯ P.O. Box 52729 Tulsa, OK 74152
July/August 1995 Volume 15 Number 7
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TOHR Follies Thank You’s
from the Executive Board
Lynn Smith - Chairperson
Renee Anthony - CO-Chairperson
Sheryl Dagang for being the fabulous Master/Mistress of
Ceremonies.
The Entertainers
A Special Thank you to Bill Lewis a!k/a/Lola, Russlyn
Moore, Paris Grey, Victoria Towers, Emma Zahn, Anita
Richards, Kelly Green, Diannah Nacole, Vivian & Tara TNeal
for their creative and fabulous costumes and renditions
that set the stage tbr our Priscilla themel
Thank you to Linda Stevens for bringing friends from the
Follies Revue. Jennifer Sanco, Kris Rittanaier & Tracy
Watson
Our addilional thank vous to other performers
including:
t.tell’en Back, Jessie Scott. Beverly Ball, Jimnaie H0ose.
llelga, The Tulsa Family Chorale, Miriam Childers, Kevin
Barentine, Kharma Arnos, and friends Danny Hale. Steve
Eberle, David Parsons & Kathlene Golden.
Thanks to Raghena for making the trip from Dallas to
share her talents with her Tulsa Family.
The Volunteers
Without the tireless energy, of our volunteers this event
could not have been the success that it was. Thanks to:
Pamela Newberry and Terry, Rich Webb, Gemini, Joseph
Chavez, David Haynes, Wes Waggoner, Charles Campbell,
Kathlene Golden and Jill Hoyt. Tulsa’s own youth group
including Thomas, Edgar, Antwaine & John.
The Donors
John Rothrock and Steve Walley from the Silver Star,
Gregory and Wayne from Floral Design of Tulsa, Kathlene
Golden from Unity Center, Gourmet on the Go, Whittier
Care, Promenade General Cinema, Merle Norman Studios
and Anthony Klatt of the Perspective.
We would like to thank the businesses who sold advance
tickets for the Follies: Tomfoolery, Floral Design of Tulsa
and Budget Window Treatments.
All Soul’s Unitarian for the use of their facility.
To ever3., one \vho attended this years Follies you were a
great audience. Thank you.
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by local mtist Kelly Vandiver. The cost of the classwill be $75 not including
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TOHR - August meeting will be on Bartlett Square. Bring a picnic basket and
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Quick Note: 1 ~vould like to thank Tom Neal and the Tulsa Family News for
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has been established to serve TOHR’s community center and other non-profi|
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Bless the Lord At All
Times Christian Center
Sunday School, 9:45 am
Worship Service, 11 am
2627-B East 1 lth.
Info: 583=7815
Community of Hope
(United Methodis0
Worship Service, 6 pm
1347 No. Yale, 838-7232
Family of Faith
Metro. Comm. Church
Worship Service, 11 pm
5451-E South Mingo.
Info: 622-1441
Metro. Comm. Church
of Greater Tulsa
Worship Service, 10:45am
1623 No. Maplewood
Info: 838-1715
TheBanned,OKGay Band
Practice weekly in OKC
Info: 838-2121
Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay
Alliance - Univ. of Tulsa
Meeting, 6:30 pm
Canterbury, 5th&Evanston
Info: 583-9780
MONDAYS
HIT Testing
TOHR Clinic
Free & anonymous testing
using fingerstick
method.
No appointment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30 pm
Results Hours: 7-9 pm
Info: 749-4194
Lambda Bowling League
Bowling begins at 8:45.
Sheridan Lanes
3121 South Sheridan
TUESDAYS
Minister’s Class"
Bless the Lord at All
Times Christian Center
7:30 pm
2627-B East 1 lth
Info: 583-7815
WEDNESDAYS
Authority OfThe Believer
Bible Study, 7 pm
MCC of Greater Tulsa
1623 North Maplewood
Call 838-1715 for info.
Bless The Lord At All
Times Christian Center
Choir Practice 7 pm
2627-B East 1 lth
Call 583-7815 for info.
Family Of Faith MCC
Potluck 6:30 pm
Bible Study 7 pm
Choir Practice 8 pm
5451-E South Mingo.
Call 622-1441 for info.
THURSDAYS
16-Step Empowerment
Group For Women
Women’s support group
Community of Hope
1347 North Yale
Call 838-7232 for info,
Co-Dependency
Support Group
Weekly meeting, 7:30.
Family.of Faith MCC.
5451-E South Mingo
Call 622-1441 for Info.
HIT Testing
TOHR Clinic
Free & anonymous testing
using fingerstick
method.
No appbintment required.
Walk in test hours:
7 - 8:30 pm
Results Hours: 7 - 9 pm
Call 749-4194 for info.
Prayer Time
MCC - Greater Tulsa, 7 pm
1623 North Maplewood.
Call 838-1715 for info.
Tulsa Family Chorale
Weekly practice, 9:30 pm
Lola’s 2630 E. 15th St.
SATURDAYS
Narcotics Anonymous
Meets weekly at 11 pm
Provides confidential
support for
recovering addicts.
Community of Hope.
1347 North Yale
Call 838-7232 for info.
SUNDAY, JULY 16
1995 Miss Gay Northeastern
Oklahoma USofA Pageant
Silver Star Saloon, 10 pm
1565 So. Sheridan, Info: 838-3701
TUESDAY, JULY 18
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
Board Meeting, 7 pm (open to members)
TOHR Office, 40th & Harvard, 2nd fl.
Info: 743-4297
WEDNESDAY, JULY 19
Family AIDS Support Group, 6:30 pm
4154 South Harvard, Gathering Room
Info: 583-5147
THURSDAY, JULY 20
FIGHTFOR YOUR RIGHTS
Community Civil Rights Meeting
YOU NEED TO BE THERE
7-9 pm, Downtown Library, ground
level meeting room, info: 838-2121
SATURDAY, JULY 22
Community ofHope Dance Class, 8 pm
1347 North Yale, Info: 838-7232
TUESDAY, JULY 25.
Rainbow Business Gui/d, 7 pm
Olive Garden, Utica Sq. Info: 832-0233
FRIDAY, JULY 28~
Black & White Charities Patron Gala
Philbrook Museum, Info: 587-7314
SATURDAY, JULY 29
Community ofHope Feed the Homeless
1347 North Yale, 5:30 pm
Info: 838:7232
Black & White Saturday Night Dance
Pavilion at Expo Square, Fairgrounds
$20 advance, $25 door, Info: 58%7314
TUESDAY, AUGUST 1
TOHR Party on the Square
Picnic, 7-10 pm, Bartlett Square
Info: 743-4297
WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 2
Family AIDS Support Group, 6:30 pm
4154 So. Harvard, Info: 583-5147
SATURDAY, AUGUST 5
Community ofHope Dance Class, 8 pm
1347 North Yale, Info: 838-7232
TUESDAY, AUGUST 8
Log Cabin Republicans, 7 pm
Tulsa Centrai Library, Ground Floor
Info: 832-0233
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SUNDAY, AUGUST 13
1995 Miss Gay Oklahoma USofA
At-Large Pageant
Silver Star Saloon, 9 pm
1565 So. Sheridan, Info: 838-3701
MONDAY, AUGUST 14
PFLAG 1011102, 6:30-7:30 pm
4154 So. Harvard, Ste. H, Info: 749-4901
SPOUSES
For spouses of Gay/Les/Bi/Transgenders
7:00 pm social, 7:30-8:30 meeting
Sponsored by PFLAG, Info: 749-4901
TUESDAY, AUGUST 15
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights
Board Meeting, 7 pm (open to members)
TOHR Office, 40th & Harvard, 2nd ft.
kffo: 743-4297
WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 16
Family AIDS Support Group, 6:30 pm
4154 So. Harvard, Info: 583-5147
SATURDAY, AUGUST 19
Community ofHope Dance Class, 8 pm
1347 North Yale, Info: 838-7232
TUESDAY, AUGUST 22
Rainbow Business Guild, 7 pm
Dinner Meeting, Info: 832-0233
SATURDAY, AUGUST 26
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Feast with Friends
The NAMES Project Tulsa Area
Finale at So. Hills Marriott, 748-3111
TUESDAY, AUGUST 29
Community ofHope Feed the Homeless
1347 North Yale, 5:30 pm
Info: 838-7232
Gay & Lesbian Student Association
TJC Southeast Campus, Info: 631-7632
Lesbian & Gay Pol. Action Committee
Info: 838-1222
SWAN-Single Women’sActivityNetwork
Call 832-2121
TOHR Anonymous HIT Testing Clinic
Daytime testing by appt. M:Th., 10-5 pm
Info: 749-4194
TOHR Helpline, Daily 8-10 pm
For info. or to volunteer: 743-GAYS
Tool Box Technicians
Leather organization,
Info c/o The Tool Box: 584-1308
T.U.L.S~4,
Tulsa Uniform &LeatherSeekersAssoc.
Info: 838-1222
Wed. Night Women’s Supper Club
Varying locations 2nd or 3rd Wed. each
month. Info: Helpline: 743-GAYS
Task Force co. diromp. 1
nation paralyzes us in our jobs and prevents
us from living as full and ,~qual
citizens. "At the National Gay and Lesbian
Task Force, we often work with
activists lobbying their local and state
governments to pass anti-discrimination
legislation. While many states and muuicipalities
have banned discrimination
based on sexual orientation, some opponents
have pointed to the lack of federal
legislation when justifying their own inaction
or opposition to such measures.
Weseekfederal action through passage of
ENDA that would send a message across
the country that discrimination is unacceptable
and illegal. "Discrimination on
the basis of sexual orientation violates the
American values of equality and fairness.
The Employment Non-Discrimination
Act of 1995 recognizes discrimination
and would alleviate the fear of many
Americans in the workplace. It is an important
step toward full equality for lesbian,
gay, bisexual and transgender
people."
Editor’ s note:no Oklahoma Congressman
has endorsed ENDA, though Cong.
Largent is now reviewing the legislation.
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me improbable, whatever this court may
say, that the existing policy can survive
much longer," said Lord Justice Simon
Brown, one of the judges in that ease.
Boston cont’dfrom p. 1
The court’ s decision said that gays and
lesbians have a fight to march in parades
a;s individuals, but italso ruled thatno one
can force parade sponsors to alter their
message by including the views of another
group.
by Pat Morehead that Ralphies’ world cuts into their own mess? So, save your money either at the
For those readers who are looking for
the standard fare of Political Correctness
relative to the Gay Community in TUlSa,
look elsewhere. Summer is here and it’ s
just too damn humid to worry with political
correctness. I was politically incorrect
when I failed to attend the Mohawk Pride
Picnic. But I spent a lovely afternoon on
the patio with several cool Bloody Bulls
and my latest copy of Field and Stream.
I did take a few minutes to scan theJune
Family News. I have to tell you I’m not
really concerned about the court ruling
regarding the Boston St. Patricks Day
Parade. So gays can tmarch, big deal. We
seem to have missed the point somewhere
along the way. If you’re not welcome
somewhere, then stay the hell away! I’ve
used that simple formula for decreasing
stress, I highly recommendit to everyone.
Besides, if we want to have a parade, we
may wantto exclude certain types, fight?
I’m not trying to be bitchey about this
but I mean really, give it a rest. Thanks to
Rush Tunbaugh and Newtie and Ralphie
Reed, common civility has gone the way
of the DODO. I was raised to at least
pretend to be civil to people I don’ t care
for or about. It was calledCommon Courtesy.
Everything has become so "in your
face" these days.
Every dog has his day, and today Rush,
Newtie and Ralphie are ha,v,ing,~eirs.
Unfortunately I expect their day to go
on for some while to come. We are not
going to stop these guys from making our
lives miserable for awhile. So, back off!
Let them make asses out of themselves
and their followers. As soon as people see
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regularlives, people will get sick and tired
of him and his sort and dump them for
something different.
Speaking of something different, can
anyone explain "Legends of the Fall"? I
rentedit expecting to see something inter-
So, here’s my plan for our
eommunlty. Let’s start our
-own Ch~eh. We’ll do eorrespontienee
tie~rees anti
we can all become Ministers.
That Way we can ~et
every tax ~vantage aveable,&
we can du~ ~ple
out of v~t sums of ~o~ey
in the name of~n~ng our
m~ssxons . ~nee we all
have money, then ~e can
make the ~uled Let me
knowffyou have any ide~
for the ~hureh name.
esting from Brad Pitt. Ifnot acting wise, at
least his butt! Pitt has been very interesting
since I first noticed him in "Thelma
and Louise". But I haven’t the slightlest
idea about what was going on in Legends.
I don’t even think the Director had the
slightest idea about what was going on
there.
I mean, at least if you’ ve got Brad Pitt,
use his sex appeal if nothing else. All we
got was a poorly composed 3 second
medium wide group shot of Pitt in the
middle of what I presume was supposed
to be a menage a tois. Jeez, at least give us
Pitt butt. Three seconds out that whole
video store or on TCI and give Legends a
pass. Unless you’ reintoAnthony Hopkins,
at least, he he did some acting. I suggest
you rent "Thelma and Louise" and eatch
Pitt in the motel scene.
WhichbringsmetoTCI. Whenitcomes
to TCI,just bend over and expect it rough.
Rather than worrying about parades in
Boston we ought to be spending time
getting any other cable outlet in here.
Why is it that there is no Cable Access
available to the public, but 158 religious
programmers can monopolize half the
damn channels? That’ s a rhetorical question.
Weall know why, the pray-a-vision
folks buy all the available time.
So, here’ s my plan for our community.
Let’s start our own Church. We’ll do
correspondence degrees and we can all
become Ministers. That way we can get
every tax advantage available, and we
candupepeople outOfvastsums ofmoney
in the name of funding our "missions".
Once we all have money, then we can
make the rules ! Let me know if you have
any ideas for the Church name.
On a serious note though, we could
invest some time in setting up a Non-
Profit Arts Group which is designed to
serve Gay and Lesbian area artists, writers
and performers. That would be something
that could actually have an impact
on the local communityin terms ofgiving
Gay and Lesbian Artists a fair shot. Let
me know your thoughts on that one also.
As for me, I’m heading to kitchen to
mix up some more Bloody Bulls, then get
naked in the hot tub and ponder the real
meaning of Pitts’ butt. Hummm, maybe
we could do a fund raiser based on a best
l~utt contest. Now there’ s an idea perfect
for summer in Tulsa. As soon as I find the
limes, I’ll put some more thought into
that!
Pat Morehead is a Tulsan whose commentaries
focus on art, politics & more.
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Phillips says these findings are "counter
intuitive" because preventive services and
other home tests are usually morelikely to
be used by people with more education
and higher incomes.
"It’s striking that people who may have
the greayest need for testing but the least
access to HIV testing and medical care
may bemorelikely than someother groups
to use home tests," she says.
Theavailability ofhometests may cause
a shift.in the locations where HIV testing
is conducted in the United States, Phillips
says. About 20 percent of tests (excluding
tests before blood donations) are performed
at public clinics; 31 percent in
doctor’s offices, health maintenance organizations,
or employer clinics; and 25
percent athospitals and outpatient clinics,
according to the study.
"The use of home tests by people who
would otherwise have been tested at public
clinics may free up resources for other
activities," Phillips says. "However, testing
should still be available at public
clinics."
It is estimated that users of the home
test would pay between $30 and $40,
whereas it costs the federal government
approximately $50 per test at public clinics
andprivate doctors may charge clients
$50 ormore for HIV testing. Counsding
and testing consumed the largest portion-
$103 million - of the HIV prevention
budget of the CDC in 1992.
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One of the biggest controversies surrounding
the gay rights movement today
is the act known as outing- one person.
publicly identifying another, closetedperson
as homosexual, against their wishes.
Although this trend seems to be winding
down, there are still many people, young
and old, who are unable to identify .themselves
as lesbian or gay. Because they are
not prepared to acknowledge their orientation,
they lead double lives to disguise
the truth from friends, families and coworkers.
"Outing Yourself," by
Michelangelo Signorile, recognizes the
difficulty of these situations and provides
a step-by-step program for making the
journey from "Identifying Yourself" to
"Not Thinking About It at All."
Signorile outlines 14 steps, under six
general parts whichinclude"OulingYourself
to Yourself," "Outing Yourself to
Other Gay People," "Outing Yourself to
Your Straight Friends," "Outing Yourself
to Your Fanfily," "Outing Yourself to
Your Coworkers," and, finally, "Coming
Out Every .Day," which includes ways to
help others undertakethe same journey.
Signoril’e examines the most difficult
steps in the first chapter, where he presents
the thoughts of other authors, including
film historian Vito Russo, who
said, "The truth will set you free, but first
it will bea pain in the neck," and Mark
Thompson, who commented, "Basically,
coming out is a death and rebirth experience.
To come out, something has to diewhatever
itwas you thought your were...In
a sense, you’reldlling aformer constructed
identity and creating a new one." Also in
this chapter are exercises to do whichmay
seem simplistic to some, but helpful to
others,, depending on how comfortable
one is with the coming~out process.
"Basicafly, coming out is
a death and rebirth
experience.
To come out, something
has to die- whatever it
was you thought your
were...In a sense, you re
killing a form.er construeted
identity and
creating a new one.
As the journey continues, the author
documents ~ue experiences which reveal
the common frustrations related to
homophobia and the act of
"deprogramming yourself" from stereotypes
and the myths that cause lesbians
and gays to feel out of place in a straight
society. In "Meeting Other Gay People,"
the reader is .reminded that today, with
gay community centers, organizations,
newspapers and computerbulletin boards,
the gay baris no longer the primary gathering
place. Thereis alist ofrelated books,
many of which are in the library, which
should be consulted to further explain the
sometimes complex and contradictory
fedings that many people experience.
In’What First Talk," Signorile prepares
readers for the inevitable questions and
concerns that arise when having that important
chat’with parents orother family
members. He acknowledges that it is not
always wise to come out to parents immediately.
Timing is everything, and i.t may
be best to postpone your conversalaon.
As you get near the end of the book,
which dea~s with coming out at work and
helping others to come out, it is apparent
that a common thread has been woven
through chapter after chapter: maintaining
a positive approach. Regardless of
who is being addressed, people coming
out are urged to ignore neg~itive comments
and concentrate on having a truthful,
uplifting and educational conversation.
Signorile has also authored "Queer in
America" and numerous colnmns for national
periodicals.Afew years ago,hehad
a notorious reputation for outing public
figures, but he has mellowed considerably
and.this book is a patient and understanding
guide, free from harsh judgements
or urgings to Sacrifice oneself for
"the cause.+’ Check for"Outing Yoursdf"
and other related books in the Readers
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ARIES ’~’ .....
March 2J-April 20
Passion runs high and you are tempted by -
a sexy new lover; or you are tempted to
pick fights with your present lover, just so
you can have the pleasure of making up.
Business travel is both likely and rewarding
this month.
TAURUS
April 20-May 21
Partners and family members seem unusually
bossy this month, and their disapproving
attitudes can really get on your
nerves. A good time for do-it-yourself
projects around the house. It’s better to
work on your home than to work on the
people in it.
GEMINI
May 21-June 22
You’ re always a bit of a party animal, but
now you have the opporttmity to go into
social overdrive. You may have some
minor battles with co-workers and employees,
but your recreational activilaes
will definatdy make you forget any jobrelated
stress.
CANCER
June 22-July 23
You have been involved with an odd
bunch ofpeoplefor quite awhilenow, and
this has maderelationships a struggle. It’ s
time to take an honest look at your beliefs
about romance, love and sex. If you’ re not
getting what you want and it can’t be
fixed, time to say "bye bye."
LEO
July 23-August 23
You are likely to experience power
struggles with family members and with
anyone who shares your home. You want
to be your flamboyant, generous self;
they’ d apparently prefer you to be a dull
and stifled slave. Try not to be an unreasonable
drama queen. With a little sdfcontrol,
you’ll win out.
VIRGO
August 23-September 23
You’re great at being the power behind
the throne because you intuitively know
how to provide just the right kind of
support. However, now is the time for you
to stand in the limelight yoursdf. Tremendously
creative ideas can come to you
now..Just lighten up, let them in, and put
them to use.
LIBRA
September 23-October 23
You may receive a financial offer you
can’ t refuse, but look at the situation with
an honest and critical eye. Someone is
likely to be playing hot and heavy with
your emotions. If you act without think=
ing carefully first, you’re liable to do
things you’d never consider otherwise
and you’ll regret it.
SCORPIO
October 23-November 23
Passion rears its head at work, and you
may be Crazed with desire for the sweet
thing who shares your shifL Think it over
before you lunge. It may not be a great
idea to mix business with pleasure. Working
with friends on a money-making venture
can bring success; divert your obsession
into your work.
SAGITTARIUS
Nov. 23-Dec. 22
Existing relationships have an eerie quality
of familiarity to them. Yes, you’re
being manipulated in the same old way
and no, it’ s not your imagination. A new
relationship started now is likely to turn
out the same way. Think about why you
keep attracting this mistreatment. Isn’ t it
getting boring?
CAPRICORN
Dec. 22-January 21
Life has not exactly been easy for you
lately, but you only have to pass one more
hurdle before you get a break. Someone is
likely to appear’with a "fool prool~’ investment
scheme thatplays onyour desire
for status. Don’ t get crazed with greed
and say "yes." You’ll only be starting a
new drama.
AQUARIUS
Jan. 21-February 20
Old conflicts may reappearnow, but don’ t
worry; they’re only resurfacing so you
can have the chance to resolve and diminate
them once and for all. It’ s a good
time for you to get rid of all your hidden
fears and addictions. You’ re about to start
a new cycle; you may as well do it on a
level playing field.
PISCES
February 20-March 21
Now is the best possible time to use visualization
to achieve your goals, but how
much thought have you given to what you
actually want? Come out of the fog and
create your long,term wish list. You have
a natural gift for creative thought. Add a
little structure and put your gift to use.
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Melissa Etheridge
by L. Cooper, roving groupie
In May of 1989, I attended a concert at
the Cain’s Ballroom - the singer’s name
was Melissa Etheridge and her debut album
was a self titled work which was
released in 1988 on Island Records. Rumor
had it that she had been discovered
while playing in the Lesbian bars of Los
Angeles. The issue of her sexuality has
finally been resolved to many women’s
satisfaction (particularly after her fans
suffered through the femme phase of the
"’Never Enough" album). Since the Cain’ s
experience, I have had the privilege of
seeing four additional MEperformances.
Her Grammy nominations, four albums
and an appearance at Woodstock II have
resulted in media exposure and main
stream visibility. As acknowledgement of
her popularity, Etheridge serves as the
cover girl for the June 1995 issue of Rolling
Stone. It is a rare opportunity for our
generation to watch the development of
such a talented and, now, out artist.
I wondered whether Etheridge could.
gracefully survive the transition to large
capacity arenas. Her ability to intimately
connect with her audience in smaller venues
has been legendary. On June 25th,
Etheridge did not disappoint her fans as
she provided her usual kick ass, high
energy performance during an appearance
at the Nissan Pavilion located in
Stone Ridge, Virginia. The threat of rain
did not dampen the spirit of the audience
who travdled from MD, VA, WVA, DE,
NJ, NY, DC, PA, and, of course, OK. In
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fact, Mother Nature’ s thunder and lightning
served as an additional special.effects
background for the evening’s performance.
Opening for Etheridge was Paula Cole,
a talented, unusual and quirky performer.
Cole, whose 1994 debut album "Harbinger"
provides a good listen, primed the
Pavilioncrowd with support from her two
memberband. Her30 minute, six song set
Alexander Graham
Bell could not have
possibly pereelved
what a hot, seduetlve,
sexually ehar ed
woman could do with
his invention.
ended with a tribute to all the women in
the audience. "Watch the Woman’s
Hands", written by Cole, brought the audience
to its feet and resulted in a standing
ovation for the singer.
After a fifteen minute intermission and
equipment swap, the main show actually
started on time. This disproved common
wisdom that concerts and lesbians cannot
meet intended schedules. At the stroke of
9 pm, Melissa burst onto the stage and
charged into arousing rendition of "All
American Gift’. The Pavilion stage is
flanked by a big screen on either side. A
memorable sight is ME’ s sly smirk and
bedroom eyes magnified about a thousand
times. Ably backed by John Shanks
on guitar and keyboard, Mark Browne on
bagg~tttar, aiid Dave Beyer on drums,
ME used a well mixed play list which
included songs from all fouralbums spiced
with a sampling of new material.
One of these new songs, "All the Way
to Heaven" is a cut from her next album
which is due to be released in November
of this year. Etheridge also covered AC.
DC’s classic hormone pounding "You
Shook Me All NighrLong" and, with the
line, " ...she knocked me out with those
American thighs....", the Pavilion female
factor howled and screamed in umson.
Her song "You Used to Love to Dance"
segued into an extended play which utilized
a telephone as a prop. Alexander
Graham Bell could not have possibly perceived
what a hot, seductive, sextmlly
charged woman could do with his invention.
Our butts barely touched the seats
during the foot stomping 2 1/2 hours.
Etheridge ended her 18 song performance
with "Bring Me Some Water"; we were
not ready to let her go and we brought her
back for two encores. The first encore was.
a rocking "Like the Way I Do" from the
1988 album MeliSsa Etheridge and her
second encore was the more gentle and
almost lullaby-like ’Walking to My Angel"
from the 1993 album Yes I Am. Her
energy and her connection with her fans
has certainly not decreased with time nor
has it been reduced by the larger venue -
Melissa Etheridge is a proven performer
who continues to stimulate, captivate and
mesmerize her audience. (Her current tour
ends in Houston on July 9th.)
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able on the World Wide Web, searchable
by both ZIP code and area code.
YAOis also working with the Lavender
Youth Recreation and Information Center,
a gay youth resource group based in
San Francisco, to bring them onto the
Internet and to make LYRIC’ s staff of 25
trained peer counselors available for
YAO’ s own peer support service.
"Two years ago, this was all a dream,"
says Fishier, "a place where I would feel
welcome on the Interact, where I would
not feel as though I was different or that I
was a piece of meat. Now, youth.org is a
reality.’"
Coming to terms with one’ s sexual orientation
is always difficult, and Williams
says it can become a matter of life or death
for teens, as evidence suggests that as
many as 30 percent of the youth to emigrate
to urban areas such as San Francisco
and New York are attempting to escape
persecution because of their sexual identity.
"Just one step of intervention could
make all the difference in the world," he
says. "Together, we can drown out the
destruction of society’s hatred and
homophobia."
YAO can be reached on the World
Wide Web at the URL http://
www.youth.org/
Gay and questioning .youth can receive
counseling through e-mail by sending to
help@youth.org
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Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Communities - Our Families of the Heart May 15 - June 14, 1995, Volume 2, Issue 6
400 Expected at So. Central
MCC District Conference
Precious in God’s Sight: Sacred Earth, Sacred People
The Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community
Churches (MCC) will hold tlie 1995 annual conference
for its South Central District on May !8-21 at Tulsa’s
Southern Hills Marriott. 1902 East 71st Street, 493-7000.
During the conference, participants will elect a District
Coordinator at the District Business meeting as well as
worshiping together. The Reverend Elder Nancy Wilson,
pastor ofMCC Los Angeles will speak at the opening and
see Conference, page 3
Family of Faith Welcomes
New Pastor Nancy Horvath
The Reverend Nancy Horvath began as pastor ofMCC
Family of Faith Sunday May 7. Horvath, recently pastor
of MCC Joie de Vivre in Baton Rouge, Louisiana is
joined in Tulsa by her spouse, Barb Horvath-Zurn and
their3 year old son,Zach. TFNrecently had the opportunity
to discuss her background, her experiences in Baton
Rouge and hopes for and challenges of Tulsa with Pastor
see Horvath. page 3
Tulsa Gay Churches Honor
44th National Day of Prayer
TULSA, OK - The Metropolitan Community Churches
ofTnlsa, Family ofFaith MetropolitanCommunity Church
and°the Metropolitan Community Church of" Greater
Tulsa honored the 44th National Day of Prayer Thursday,
May 4 in a ceremony at Bartlett Square in downtown
Tulsa. Pastors Alice Jones and Nancy Horvath with a
small number of lay people prayed for greater tolerance
and respect for.all persons...... ;
Thefollowing is of the statement read to the participants
and onlookers: "We pray for an end to the hatred of which
the Oklahoma City bombing, the most recent massacre in
see Prayer, page 11
Pride ’95 Logo - Artist: Kelly Vandiver
Tulsa Pride Picnic- Sunday
June 18th, Mohawk Park
OKC Parade- June 24th
TOHR Follies- June 30th
The Tulsa Pride Picnic will be held on Sunday, June 18,
at Mohawk Park in Shelter #6 off of Cherokee Drive.
Beginning at noon, the picnic will offer free drinks, food
will be available at low cost and community organizations
and businesses will offer information and goods at booths
under the trees During the afternoon, volleyball and
softball games will be.held and atz2pm; Tulsa Family-
Chorale and the OklahOma city Gay Marching Band will
perform. Volunteers are needed to help with food and
with clean-up. Community organizations or businesses
see Pride, page 14
Lesbian Clinton Official
to Run For SF Mayor
WASHINGTON - The Clinton
administration has lost its highest
ranking openly gay official with
the announcement that Roberta
Achtenberg would resign her
post as an assistant secretary in
the Department of Housing and
Urban Development. In her letter
of resignation to Presiden!
Clinton, Achtenberg said she
would step down effective April
30. Achtenberg will return to her
home in San Francisco where
she is expected to run for mayor
see Lesbian Mayor, page 3
Researchers: AIDS
Education Efforts Work
SAN FRANCISCO- According
to health researchers at the
University of California at San
Francisco, there is growing
evidence that a substantial
decrease in the rate of ttlV
infection can be and has been
achieved through intensive
prevention efforts aimed at those
most at risk in the AIDS
epidemic, and that the major
stumbling block to curbing the
spread of the virus among
vulnerable populations are
outmoded social policies. The
report, published,in the Journal
see Education, page 7
Civil Rights Protections
Proposed in Poland
WARSAW - Prompted by pressures
toconform to the mandates
of the European Union, which
the country wants to join, a
special commission that is
working on drafting a post-
Communist constituuon for
Poland has included legal
protections th at would extend
protections based on sexual
orientation. Sixteen of the 29
parliamentary deputies who are
drafting the constitution voted
to include the constitutional
see Poland, page 7
Major Victory in Oregon
SALEM, Ore. - The Oregon
Court of Appeals has ruled that
local and county governments
cannot pass laws that discriminate
against gays. The
ruling strikes down ann-gay
rights ordinances passed in some
27 Oregon cities and counties
during the past 2 years and
upholds alaw passed by the state
legislature prohibiting such local
measures.
The appeals court panel
unanimously ruled that the state
legislature has preemptive rights
over matters of "substantive
policy" issues such as civil rights
legislation.
Ex-Klan Leader Wants
PWA’s to be Tattooed
LOS ANGELES - David Duke,
the former Ku Klux Klan leader
who also served as a Lomsiana
state representative, recently told
The Advocate that people
infected with AIDS should be
tattooed in the genital area,
"maybe even with glow-in-thedark
ink." Duke, ~vhois currently
considenngrunningforgovernor
of Louisiana, explained that the
AIDS tattoos would serve as a
warning to prospective sexual
partners. Duke also said he
see Duke. page 3
Work Equality Project
NE\V YORK - New York state
Assemblywoman Deborah
Glick, the state’s only openly
gay le~slator and the co-chair of
the International Network of
Lesbian & Gay Officials,joined
withNew York City Councilman
Tom Duane and San Francisco
Supervisor Carol Migden and
the Wall Street Project in
launching a program to promote
non-discrimination policies by
businesses and institutions
throughout the country. Known
as the "Equality Principles on
Sexual Orientation," the
guidelines are designed to
see Work Project, page 3
Hope Candle Light Tour:
Big Bucks for AIDS Care
& OK HIV/AIDS Conference
TULSA, OK - Organizers of the fifth Hope Candlelight
Tour hope to raise nearly $100,000 for two AIDS service
organizations: St. Joseph’s House and tLaAN, Regional
AIDS Interfaith Network of EaStern Oklahoma. Despite
heavy rains that lowered attendance on May 6 & 7.
respectable crowds made their way from several elegma~
homes that had been opened in one of Tulsa’s most elite
neighborhoods, see Hope, page 11
TOHR Endorses Lesbian/
Gay Marriage Resolution
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR)
unanimously endorsed at its April membership meeting
a resolution calling for Lesbians and Gay men to marrx
legally. The resolution reads:
Because marriage is. a fundamental right under our
Constitution, and becasue the Constitution guarantees
equal protection of the law,
see Resolution, page 3
Rainbow Business Guild
Chooses 1995 Officers
Tulsa’s Lesbian/Gay & Lesbian/Gay friendly business
organization, Rainbow Business Guild, elected new
officers at its April meeting. Founding officers, Tim
Gillean, Frank Going & Kevin Palmer turned over
leadership to Leanne Gross, and Bud Wharton, co-chairs,
Barbara Bellar, secretary, and Tom Neal, treasurer.
RBG will hold its next meeting on Monday, May 22 at
7pm at the. O!iveGarden Restmarant at Utica Square.
Dinner dues fi~e $10. Rainbow BuSiness Grild ig~open to
business owners, professionals, company empl~.~;e~~
students and others interested in business with a Lesbian
Gay perspective. For more info. call 832-0233.
Virginia High Court Rules
Against Lesbian Mom
RICHMOND, Va. - The
Virginia Supreme Court split 4-
3 in ruling that Sharon Bottoms
could be denied custody of her
3-year-old son Tyler because she
is a lesbian and her sexual
orientation could lead to the child
facing social condemnation
growing up. The court overturned
a state appeals court ruling
that wouldhave allowed Bottoms
to get custody of her son, whose
custody is being challenged by
the woman’s mother. In the court
majority decision, Justice A.
Christian Compton said, "The
mother is an unfit custodian at
this time, and the child’s best
interests would be promoted by
awarding custody to the
grandmother.’"
Elizabeth Birch, executive
director of the Human Rights
Campaign Fund, said of the
decision, "’Anyone who truly
cares about families should be
morally outraged that the
government has taken a child
from his own loving mother
because of ether people’s pre
judices. This is an anti-famil v
decision that is clearly notin th~
best interests of the child."
Virginia activists are
see Mom, page 7
Military Update
Court Victory for Sailor
AI,EXANDRL~, Va. - Navy Lt.
Paul Thomasson has become the
latest member of the U.S. armed
forces to challenge the "don’t
ask, don’t tell" policy.
Thomasson’s lawyers argued in
court that the policy not only is a
violation of constitutional
guarantees of free speech, but
that the Navy by enforcing it
against Thomasson would be
kicking out "one of its finest"
service members.
Thomasson, in addition to his
stellar record first as a pilot and
later in a Washington, D.C. staff
post, has received glowing
commendations from former
Joint Chiefs of Staff Chairman
Gen. Colin Powell whom he
hel.ped prepare for congressional
testimony, among other Navy
brass. The Navy is trying to
discharge Thomasson, however,
because the day after the new
see Military, page 7
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Civil Rights For Tulsa Lesbians & Gay Men
Who Decides What’s Best for Us?
by Tom Neal. publisher i’diversity"training that includes followed up to see what Savage
Many of you remember the
raucous and bruising public
hearings held almost a year ago
by the City of Tulsa’s Human
Rights Commission and its
Standing Committee on Sexual
Orientation. Some of you may
know that these two bodies
revised their report and sent it to
our Mayor, M. Susan Savage
and to our City Council. Few of
you probably know what, if
anything, has happened since
then.
The report had several
recommendations. One called on
the City Council to mnend our
current human rights ordinance
to add the words, sexual
orientation. This would protect
heterosexuals, homosexuals and
"bisexuals from invidious
discrimination. Court rulings
thus far have held that
discrimination based on actual
or perceived sexual orientation
is illegal only where the term,
sexual orientation or its
equivalent, affectional orientation,
etc. is explicitly used. At
this time, our City Council is
overwhelmingly hostile to such
protections. .
The other recommendations,
however, were not directed at
the City Council. These recommendahons
call for our Mayor
to issue executive orders banning
discrimination in c~ty hiring, to
order our police dept. to begin
Issues of sexual orientation and
to collect hate crime statistics
for attacks based on actual or
perceived sexual orientation
Officially, at least, none of these
actions have been taken now five
months later.
...we, as a community,
must learn how to
get involved in the
polltleal
proeess....while we’re
waiting for the
[Sexual Orientation]
Committee sehmoaze
civil rights
protections into
being, call your
councilperson
and the mayor...
You may be thinking of many
of the same questions Tulsa
Family News has been asking,
i.e., what progress has been
made, and if nothing, why not?
You may want to know who’s
representing us, and what kind
of job are they doing.
You may be surprised at how
little is going on. Afew members
of the Standing Committee on
Sexual Orientation met with the
Mayor, but apparently haven’t
has done. Apparently they didn’t
even ask her to do much, i.e.,
implement the reco~rmiendations
of the report that call for action
on the part of the Mayor, not the
City Council.
Savage has since refused to
protect city employees from
discrimination (seeTFN v.2 #4).
Savage also promised toissue a
generic condemnation of
discrimination. These sorts of
statements rarely do Lesbians
and Gay menany good, since the
statements are usually seen as
applying to "legitimate"
minorities and women. Where
we’re not explicitly included,
we "re usually excluded.
Committee members should
have rejected this idea as soon as
Mayor Savage said it.
So who are the folks
- representing us? They i~n,c.lude
Dennis Neill and Kelly Kirby,
past presidents of Tulsa
Oklahomans for Human Rights
(TOHR); Nancy McDonald of
local & regional PFLAG; Bill
Hinkle, also of PFLAG, and
others. These folks are individuals
of courage who have
histories of fighting for fair
treatment of Lesbians and Gay
men. It seems we have goodfolks
trying to represent our interests,
but are they?
Some of this group seem to
have selected a stealth strategy.
see Who Decides, page 3
by Robert Bray
Right aroun~l this time of year
I get my annual reminders that
my loving relationship with my
partner John is not worth much
in the eyes of society.
Perhaps it’s my income tax
returns, which givemeno opdon
except to file single because our
union is not "valid." Or maybe
it’s the mailbox of invitations
atmouncmg the June weddings
of my straight friends and
relatives. Or it could be all those
glowing bride and groom
advertisements just in time for
the upcoming nuptial season.
Marriage has been onmymind
a lot lately. To be honest, I’m
not certain if it’s my wedding
I’mpondering (wehaven’tbegun
those discussions ye0. But the
subject of same-sex marriage is
rapidly rising into the consciousness
of many Americans
and has already made national
headlines and front-page news
around the country. And it’s
clearly in the cross-sights of the
Radical Right.
Aggressive pre-emptive
strikes against same-sex marriage
have already been launched
in at least three states with more
attacks expected. Alaska, Utah
and South Dakota have or are
now facing pro-active bans on
same-sex marriage. They clearly
are designed to head off an
affirmative ruling expected later
this year or early 1996 on a
pending gay marriage casein
Hawaii.
A Congressional threat may
be forthcoming, too. Newt
Gingrich rarely misses an
opportunity to demean gay
relationships. In 1992, the
Republican Party specifically
stated an oppositaon to same-sex
marriages in its Platform. The
issue is sure to be raised as we
enter a new election cycle.
The Radical Right plans to
capitalize on society’s vigorous
opposition to same-sex marriage
and use it as a fundraising and
political orgamzing weapon to
streng~en its "traditional family
values agenda. Expect more
attacks on not only same-sex
marriage but also gay, lesbian,
bisexual and transgender families,
including foster parenting,
adoption and child custody.
It’s time for our side to sound
the alarm. We are asking for the
equal right to marry the one we
love and care for, just as non-gay
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Americans do. Many same-sex
couples share the same responsibilities
as married couples.
However, nowhere in the United
States do they receive the same
recognition or benefits, not even
in communities with domestic
partnership laws.
Of course, gay, lesbian and
bisexual people are as diverse as
non-gay people. Many would not
choose to marry even if they
could. However, virtually all gay
see Marriage, page 3
Lesbian & Gay Civil Rights, Who Decides?
They seem to propose that if we
all just keep quiet about these
issues, we can sneak them
through city government.
Interestingly, these same folks
said similar things prior to the
human rights commission
hearings last spring. They
suggested that if wejust kept the
public and the press uninformed,
that we could avoid conflict and
get this ordinance passed.
Obviously neither happened.
We would argue that this
approach is not only undemo~
cratic, but is politically naive.
Tulsa Family News recognizes
that the members of the Standing
Committee on Sexual Orientation
have no legal obligation to
meet with our community
organizations, nor to solicit the
breadth of opinion from those
I
whom they proport to represent.
j However, we suggest that the
Standing Committee has a
powerful ethical obligation to
discuss their strategies with those
whose rights remain denied.
Practically speaking, this
"behind the scenes maneuvering"
will not be enough at
some point and they will need
us. You would think that these
folks would be going to TOHR,
toour churches, to Prime Timers,
to the Women’s Supper Clubs
and other groups to let our
communities know where we
stand and what’w~ need to do to
help.
Besides giving them the
support they need, we, as a
community, must learn how to
get involved in the political
] process.Wehave the opportunity
cont’dfrom p. 2
to show the city that we’re part
of this city. In the meantime,
while we’re wa~ for the
Committee schmooze civil fights
protections into being, call your
coun-cilperson and the mayor.
Ask to meet with your connselor
and the Mayor. It’s your right.
Mayor Savage: 596-7411, fax:
596-9010, City Council: 596-
1990.
For those interested in getting
involved in theseissues, TOHR
has established a Civic Affairs
committee to organize community
efforts. It will meet next
on Monday, June 5 at 7pm at the
Gathering Room of the HIV
Resource Consortium.
TFN editorials represent the
views of the writer- not those of
advertisers nor other contributors.
Letters are welcome.
Marriage cont’dfrom p. 2
people prefer that they -- and
not the state should have the
right to decide whether and
whom to marry. The subject of
same-sex marriage offers many
political challenges and
organizing opportunities and
numerous questions for gay,
lesbian, bisexual and transgender
activists. It’s time for that
dialogue to begin.
Questions that may need to be
considered as we move this issue
forward:
¯ Do we really need or want
the right to marry?
¯ Do bisexual activists have a
different view ofthis subject than
gay and lesbian people?
¯ Are there differences in the
way gay men and lesbians
analyze the institution of
marriage?
¯ What about concerns that the
institution of marriage itself
gay or straight -- perpetuates a
moral hierarchy with different
economic and social privileges?
-- Those in couples (viewed as
"’monogamous") receive social
and economic rewards because
of their implied moral status.
Meanwhile, single people
(viewed as "’promiscuous") do
not.
This community discussion
and dialogue must also include
an awareness of the orgamzing
and education efforts of
grassroots groups, including the
Hawaii Equal Rights Marriage
Project and NaMamoo Hawai’i.
Na Manlo, a new statewide civil
rights group of indigenous gay,
lesbian, bisexual aud transgender
people, is doing work around
homophobia, racism and
classism and how they connect
to the marriage issue.
As we advance the issue of our
right to marry, we must not
perpetuate themyththatmarriage
is the only way that "true"
families are organized. Weneed
To have and to hold.
It’s about havlnd
the rights andresponsibilities
of
leSM and soeietal
reeognltlon of our
loving unions.
to advance simultaneously both
our right to marry and a redefinition
of "family" that is an
honest reflection of the diversity
of family structures extended
families, step-families, single
par.e.nt households, grandparents
rinsing grandchildren, divorced
parents, adopted children, foster
families. Wemust nnite with-the
majority of others who do not fit
the model that is considered
"traditional."
What is your role in the samesex
marriage battle? There are
manyways togetinvolved. First,
help get the word out. Educate
the public. Tell your faniily,
friends and coworkers about
same-sex marriage issues.
Sponsor a community forum on
tllis topic. Write letters to die
editor and get the press to cover
the subject. Also, you can take
action. Consider organizing a
marriage license "’refuse-in" at
your local city clerk office. Get
an organization you are involved
in to sign on to the Lambda
Marriage Resolution a
document supported by
numerous national organizations,
including Lambda Legal
Defense and Education Fund, the
National Gay and Lesbian Task
Force (NGLTF), Latino/a
Lesbian & Gay Organization,
National Center for Lesbian
Rights, Gay & Lesbian Parents
Coalition International, and
many more.
Tohave andtohold. It’s about
having the rights and responsibilities
of legal and societal
recognition of our loving umons.
It’s about holding close not only
our loved ones, but also the
democratic principles of fairness
and equality often denied us
because ofwho we are and whom
we love. And most of all, it’s
about creating and strengthening
diverse families and forming
relationships free of discrimination
and prejudice.
Robert Bray is longtime staff
member of the National Gay &
Lesbian Task Force.
TOHR co,,edfrom p.
Resolved, the State should
permit Gay cmd Lesbian couples
to marry and share fully and
equally in the rights and
responsibilities ofmarriage.
This resolution sponsored by
Lambda Legal Defense and
Education Fund, the National
Gay & Lesbian Task Force, Na
" " seenext column to right
Work. cont’dfrom p. 1
"provide a framework for an
ethical standard that all
corporations, universities, and
other institutions can voluntarily
-embrace in their business
practices." Businesses that sign
the principles would commit
themselves to not discriminating
on the basis of sexual orientation
orH1V status in sales, purchasing
or employmentpractices. The 8-
point non-discrimination policy
statement states:
"To become successful in the
ever-competitive world of
business, a company must strive
to create anenvironment in which
all employees are treated with
respect. Through the cultivating
of diversity in the wprkplace, a
company can draw fully upon
the potential, for creativity and
commitment represented by all
its employees. Implementation
of these Equality Principles on
Sexual Orientation are an
important step in that direction.
1. Explicit prohibitions against
discrimination based on sexual
orientation will be included in
the company’s written employment
policy statement.
2. Discrimination against HIV
positive employees or those with
AIDS will be strictly prohibited.
3. Employee groups, regardless
of sexual orientation, will be
given equal standing with other
employee associations.
4. Diversity training will
include sexual orientataon issues.
5. Spousal benefits will be
offered to domestic partners of
employees, regardless of sexual
orientation, on an equal basis
with those granted to married
employees.
6. Company adve.rtisi~ag policy
will bar negative sexual
orientation stereotypes and will
not discriminate in media
advertising on the basis of sexual
orientation.
7. Companies will not
discriminate in the sale and
purchase of goods and services
on the basis of sexual orientation.
8. Written non-discrimination
policies on sexual orientation
must be disseminated throughout
the company. A senior company
official will be appointed to
monitor compliance corporate
wide.
Mamo o Hawaii mid the Hawaii
Equal Rights Marriage Project.
A Hawaii court decision may
legalize same gender marriage
by the end of this year or early
next vear.
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Mayor cont’dfromp. 1
in a race already crowded with a
number of candidates. In her
letter to Clinton, Achtenberg, a
former city supervisor, said she
was stepping down from her
HUD post in order to "become a
candidate for mayor of San
Francisco" to bring a "workable,
reform-minded city government
that recaptures. San Francisco’s
greatness." In 1993, Clinton
............... to oversee
the fair housing and equal
opportunity division of HUD.
She was confirmed to the post
afteralongandoften nasty debate
on the Senate floor, with
conservatives, led by Sen. Jesse
Helms (R-NC) portraying her as
a "’dangerous radical" and "dmnn
lesbian." In her letter to the.
President, Achtenberg thanked
Clinton for his support in "’a
challenging confirmation
process." But she went on to say
that "I feel the need to return to
the city I Call home.’"
Conf. cont’dfrom p. l
closing services onThu~sdav and
Sun.day. Others leading worship
services are the Reverend Sandi
Robinson, president, Samaritan
College, Judy Dale, district
coordinator, Great Lakes
District-UFMCC, the Reverend
Renee Phillips, pastor of MCC.
Lubbock and the Reverend
Dexter Brecht, pastor of Vieux
Carre MCC New Orleans.
Saturday night,afterabanquet,
there will be a dance. Both Tulsa
congregations, MCC Greater
Tulsa and MCC Family of Faith.
plan hospitality suites for
conference participants: The
Reverend Elder Nancy Wilson
will speak on Sunday evening,
May 21st at Family of Faith. For
more information about the
conference, call 838-1715 or
622-1441.
Duke cont’dfrom p. 1
believed HIV was first
transmitted when a human had
sex with a monkey in Africa.
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UK Gay Military Ban and controversial exception. Feinstein (D-Calif.) and Rep. anti-bias policies in their offices, tojunior and senior lfigh schools, Becomes Political Issue~
LONDON - A spokesman for!
the British Defense Ministry told
Parliament that the country’s
policy of excluding gays from
the British armed forces had the
full support of the Conservative
Party government and that
,allowing gays in the nation’s
military was "not compatible
with securing the ailns of the
armed forces." The Labor Party
had earlier called for ending the
ban on gays and lesbians in the
country’ s military as part of the
party’s official platform. David
Clark, the defense spokesman
lbr the Labor Party, called the
exclusionary policy an"infringement
on civil liberties" and
added, "’It is important in the
modern world that military law
is as near as possible in accord
with civilian law. ""
Bias Charged at N.M.
Job Corps Center
ALBUQUERQUE, N.M.-
Despite complaints to
adininistrators of harassment,
threats and assaults aimed at gay
and lesbians students and staff,
acuvists in the Lesbian Avengers
.charge that the managers of the
U.S. Job Corps in Albuquerque
have refused to do anything to
put a halt to the anti-gay
activities. The National Gay &
Lesbian Task Force has ~lso
charged that administrators of
thc Job Corps center there have
not returned repeated phone calls
about the on-going troubles at
the center. The Job Corps is a
division of the U.S. Labor
Department and teaches young
people various employment
skills.
NEA Nixes Grant for
Lesbian-Themed Play
SANFRANCISCO - The
National Endowmentforthe Arts
has rejected the recommendation
by its peer advisory panels and
voted against funding a stage
adaptation of a novel by San
Francisco-based lesbian writer
Jewell Gomez. The $13,000
grant was to have gone to pay for
the African-American performance
troupe Urban Bush
Women’s production Of
Gomez’s "’Bones and Ash: A
Gilda Story.’" Peer review panel
recommendations are rarely
rejected. The case of the "NEA
Four"- Andreas Serrano, Holly
flughes, Tim Miller and Karen
Fiuel v - was a highly publicized
Gomez herself said she believes
the endowmentrejected the grant
because her story has a lesbian
protagonist. "We were pretty
much ~xpecting [approval of the
grant] because we had gotten
Phase.Two approval, and to not
get Phase Three is weird, unless
you really screwed up or
something,’" she said.
Waybourn Leaves
Victory Fund
WASHINGTON - Gay rights
activist William Waybourn,
founder of the Gay & Lesbian
Victory. Fund. has announced he
will retire as the head of the
Washington, D.C.-based PAC.
A long-time Dallas activist,
Waybourn said in a prepared
statement that he had no
irmnediate plans, but was leaving
the 4-year-old Victory Fund to
promote new ideas in the agency.
"It is my philosophy that
organizations tltrive .best when
new leadership and fresh ideas
are enconraged,’" lie said.
’Creating Change’
Conferen ce Announced
WASHINGTON-The National
Gay & Lesbian Task Force has
annotmced that its 8th annual
Creating Change conference will
take place Nov. 8-12 in Detroit.
Among the issues slated to be
covered durin.g.the conference
are: orgamzlng in rural
communities, organizing people
of faith, same-sex marriage
rights, anti-violence work, and
organizing in the workplace. For
additional information and
registration, contact NGLTF at
(202) 332-6483, ext. 3329.
Lesbians at White
House Conference
WASHINGTON-Attending the
White House Conference on
Aging as delegates May 2-5 are
long-time lesbian activists Del
Martin and Phyllis Lyon, cofounders
of the Daughters of
Bilitis. The couple will introduce
a resolution during the
conference calling for for greater
vis!bility, for lesbian and gay
aging issues in future
conferences. The White House
conference agenda had originally
included lesbian and gay issues
when published in October 1994;
but when the final agenda was
published this February, the item
had been dropped. Martin and
Lyon were named as delegates
to the conference by Sen. Dianne
Nancy Pelosi (D-Calif.)
respectivel,W.
Sexually ’Ambiguous’
UK Bishop Elevated
LONDON - David Hope, the
Bishop of London who recently
ackalowledged under pressure
from British activists that he is
sexually "an~biguous", has been
named by Prime Minister Jolm
Major as the next Archbishop of
York, the 2ndhighest clergy man
in the Church of England.
"People should not be
stereotyped sexually and sonle
may describe themselves as
being homosexual," Hope said
in March after being urged by
the fights ~oup Outrage to co~ne
out. "For some the area is slightly
grayer, and that is the sort of area
I find my self in." Following the
azmouncelnent of his elevation,
Hope said he would use his new
position to resolve differences
about homosexuality within the
church. "It is my business to
insure that all who are involved
are given a proper voice and a
proper ear, and there is a proper
process of listening to the
debate," he said. "At the present
_ time I am just a little concerned
that the debate is causing rather
mor e heat than light. "’
Members of Congress
Keep Anti-Bias Policies
\VASHINGTON - The Human
Rights Campaign Fund
announced at a press conference
that 287 of the 535 members of
the U.S. Congress do not
discriminate against gays and
lesbians in employment in their
staff office positions. The HRCF
survey reported that 223 of 435
House members and 64 of 100
senators had signed nondiscrimination
affirmations.
Absent from the HRCF list were
House Speaker Newt Gingrich
(R-Ga.) and House Majority
Leader Dick Armey (R-Texas).
GOP presidential candidate and
Senate Majority Leader Bob
Dole of Kansas, however, was
included on the non-bias listing.
Speaking at a news conference,
Elizabeth Birch, HRCF’s
executive director, said it was
"encouraging that the critical
bloc of moderate swing votes in
this Congress supports the
concept ofequal treatment."Last
year a similar HRCF survey
reported that 296 members of
Congress - 225 House members
and71 senators - agreed to similar
Jury Rejects
AIDS Fear Defense
BROWNSVILLE, Texas -
Jurors hearing a murder case
rejected the defense offered by
attorneys for Edgardo Arrona,
21, that he had shot a gay man,
Oscar Anderson, 53, to death
because he feared he had been
exposed to HIV ,and been forced
into years of sex and drugs by the
older ~nan. Arrona confessed to
shootinv Anderson last Auoust
bnt claruled lie had done so
beeause the older man, a teacher,
had lured lfim into sex and drug
use as a teenager and lie was
concerned about contracting
AIDS. Although Anderson in
fact was HIV positive, Arrona
has continued to test negative
for the virus. Prosecutors, whom
the jury a~eed with in finding
Arrona gnilty, had argued that
the younger man had continued
to return to Anderson’s
apartment for several years
withont showing any indic,~tions
he wasn’ t a willing participant.
Philly Woos Gay Travel
Assn. Convention
PHILADELPHIA -
Philadelphia’s Convention and
Visitors Bureau has joined with
PrideFestin an effort to draw the
1997 annual convention of the
International Gay Travel
Association to the "City of
Brotherly Love." The IGTA
convention is expected to bring
more than 1,000 travel agents
and tourism specialists to
wherever it holds its annual
meeting. The city’s Convention
& Visitors Bureau is one of a
handful around the country -
including New York and San
Francisco - that have in the past
few years begun actively luring
gay and lesbian tourists and
travelers-. PrideFest, the city’s
annual gay pride celebration, is
slated for May 7-10 in 19~7.
Apple Settles Dispute
SANJOSE, Calif,-The SanJose
Mercury Newsreports that Apple
Computer has agreed to keep a
CD-ROM history textbook that
it will be distributing after a
public outcry that Apple wascensoring
material about
abortion and homosexuality. In
the reported agreement with the
VoyagerCompany ofNew York,
Apple with include the CD
textbook "Who Built America?"
in bundled software it distributes
but will not include it in bundles
it sells to elementary schools.
Apple got caught in the
embarrassingPRflap inFebnmry
when Voyager charged that
Apple had insisted it remove
"cOntroversial" material .about
abortion and homosexuality.
Spokespersons-for both Apple
and Voyager said they were
reasonably happy with the
agreement they had reached on
distributing the CD textbook.
Death Threat Against
Journalist Deb Price
SANJOSE, Calif.- OutNowL the
San-Jose gay and lesbian
uewspaper, reports that the
announcement of a scheduled
Jnne 24 visit by syndicated
columnist Deb Price for a
booksigmng has led to a
telephone death tlweat. The paper
reports that the death threat,
which has been handed over to
police, was called in to the
answering machine at the
Sisterspirit Bookstore in the
city’s Billy DeFrank Lesbian &
Gay Community Center after the
upcoming booksigning was
announced.
OutNow! quoted part of the
phone threat as saying, "I just
want to say, if Deb Price appears
at your bookstore on June 24th,
I’ll personally colne in and shoot
her. I tlfink fags are wrong. I
think this is the stupidest thing
that ever happened; feminist
rights groups, f ing gay rights
groups make me sick; f ing I’ll
shoot her; got that?" The paper
said Price had been informed of
the threat and had no intention of
altering her plans for the
booksigning for her new book,
And Say Hi to Joyce: America’ s
First Gay Column Comes Out."
Gingrich to Lead HRCF
’Coming Out Day’ Job
WASHINGTON - Candace
Gingrich, the lesbian half-sister
of House Speaker Newt
Gingrich, has been hired by the
Washington D.C.-based gay aud
lesbian lobbying group the
Human Rights Campaign Fund
to head up its National Coming
Out Project. The project
culminates Oct. 11 with National
Coming Out Day, an event that
got launched several years ago
in New Mexico and has since
become a popular event
nationwide to encourage gay and
lesbian visibility. Gingrich, 28,
kicks offhernewjob on April 25
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participation in National Coming
Out Day.
School Board Member
Defeats Opponents
LOS ANGELES - Openly gay
Los Angeles school board
memberJeffHorton, targeted for
defeat by religious rightsupported
opponents, handily
won reelection, garnering 61%
of the vote, more than his 2
fundamentalist-backed
candidates combine d. His
opponents, Peter Ford who was
being backed by the Traditional
Values Coalition, and Linda
Jones, the Christian Coalition
candidate, had focused on
unseating Horton because of his
support for gay-positive
programs in the city’s huge
school system.
Students Protest
Mel White Speech
GREEN BAY, Wisc. -
Conservative student Republicans
at the University of
Wisconsin have objected to
school officials over using
student fees to payfor an
upcoming speech to be given by
the Rev. Mel White, a minister
with the Metropolitan Community
Church and one-time
ghost writer for Pat Robertson.
TheRepublican students charged
that the $4,000 fee for White’ s
speech was "’fiscally inappropriate"
because of tight budgets
at the school. But representatives
of the unive.rsity.’ s lesbian and
gay orgamzatlon said the
conservative students just didn’ t
"want the lifestyle discussed."
The school says it hasno plans to
cancel White’ s scheduled May 4
appearance on campus.
Another Idaho Anti-Gay
Ballot Measure
BOISE, Idaho - The Idaho
Statestnan reports that the Idaho
Citizens Alliance will soon
introduce another anti-gay
initiative only 5 months after
voters in the state rejected the
organization’ s first anti-gay
measure. The paper quoted an
!CA spokesman who said the
new anti-gay ~neasure would not
deal with employment but would
aim at restricting how public
libraries and schools deal with
materials relating to
homosexuality. Rights activists
say such a ballot measure would
be a waste of time and money
after last November’s voter
initiative.
’Morality Police" Attack
Gays in Palestine
NABLUS, West Bank - The
Reuter news service reports that
3 Palestiman men kidnapped a
51-year-old man from his shop
and shot him in the legs 6 times
because they believed him to be
gay. The news agency quoted
unnamed sources that said the
men were part of a group of
"morality police" who had
recently begun kidnapping gays
and prostitutes in the WestBank,
2 others of whom were also shot
in the legs.
Serial Killer’s Victims
May Have Been Gay
SAN FRANCISCO- Police say
they believe a British man,
already suspected of crisscrossing
the globe under false
identities in a string of killings,
may have targeted victims who
were.gay or bisexual ina series
of grisly torture-murders with
links from Mexico to Thailand
to San Diego and San Francisco.
Authorities say John Martin
Scripps, 35, of Hertfordshire,
England, traveled around the
world after escaping from a jail
in Great Britain on drug charges
and is wanted in connection with
at least three murders - and
wanted for questioning about the
mysterious disappearances of
others. Singapore police say they
believe Scripps, who was
arraigned in Singapore on April
18 on charges of killing Gerard
Lowe, a South African man
whose dismembered remmns
were recovered from a harbor in
March, used a 10,000-volt stun
gun on his victims before killing
and mutilating them. Authorities
say Scripps is also a suspect in
the murders of Timothy
McDowall,32, in Mexico; Sheila
Damude and her 22-year-old son
Darin in Thailand; and Tommy
Wenger, 25, in San Francisco.
Gay Poet Immortalized
BOSTON- Earlier this year, the
opera. "Ha?r.vey Milk" had its
premiere ~n Texas, memorializing
the openly gay
politician’ s life. In April, another
opera got its world premiere ~n
Boston immortalizing another
gay icon - Civil War poet Walt
Whitman. ComposerPeter Child
says his new opera, "’Reckoning
Time: A Song of Walt
Whitman," represents the
struggle of an artist to live and
work with in3e~g.~ty during an
era of turmOl£.With librettist
¯ Alan Brody, Child has fashioned
Whitman’.s life intoanallegorical
opera written for the concert
stage, making generous use of
the poet’s own essays, letters,
poetry and other writings.
In "Reckoning Time: A Song
of Walt Whitman," the tide role
is sungbyabaritone. PeterDoyle,
Whitman’s longtime working
class lover, speaks his part, with
the exception of one simple love
song. The plot of the work
evolves through the dialogue
between the two performers.
Aussie ’Gaymes’ Hit By
Far-Right Protesters
ADELAIDE, Australia - The
Australian gay newspaper
Brother/Sister reports that anti--
gay protesters broke into a public
pool where the annual Australian
National Gaymes was slated to
hold a swimming event and used
a dye to stain the pool purple. An
anonymous caller phoned local
newspapers and television
stations and said the vandalism
was the responsibility of the farright
National Action
orgamzati’on.
’Consumer Reports’
Rates Condoms
WASHINGTON - The May
Issue of Consumer Reports
includes the findings of its test of
reliability of condoms. The
consumer magazine tested 6,500
latex condoms, representing 37
brands. The magazine reports
sbme surprising findings:
Several types of theTrojanbrand,
for example, frequently failed
the air-inflation test, a basic
check of condom elasticity. The
magazine also found that some
brands that advertise as being
"’stronger" were in fact not as
strong as others in its tests. Others
that promote themselves as
"thin" weren’t particularly thin,
the magazine reports, and some
of the thinnest broke more easily.
The best performing brands,
according to Consumer Reports,
were Sheik Excita Extra Ribbed,
Ramses Extra Ribbed and Sheik
Classic. The magazine named
Protex’s Touch condom as the
"’best buy.’"
Cal. Legis. Punts Gays
SACIL~kMENTO, Calif. - The
California Assembly" s education
committee refused on a party~
line split 8-8 vote to send to the
legislature a bill spousored by
lesbian Assembly Member
added sexual orientation to the
state’s educational anti-bias
laws. Opponents of the measure
objected that the measure would
give "special rights" to gays and
lesbians and denounced homo~
sexuals as "ungodly" and "dirty."
Kuehl urged the committee to
send the measure on to the
Assembly, declaring that the
"witnesses for the opposition
make our argument for us. Listen
to what they said here. This is
exactly the hatred we face every
day. This is the .reason we need
this bill. This is the moral decay
at the heart of our society, that
breeds hate and division.’"
Domestic Partners OK’d
CHAPEL HILL, N.C. - The
Chapel Hill Town Council has
unanimously passed a domestic
partners measure covering
municipal employees. The
measure, the second of its kind
in North Carolina, provides for
family leave and sets up limits
on the work relationships of city
workers and their domestic
partners. The measure also
allows city residents to register
their domestic partnerships,
whether same-sex or oppositesex,
for a $50 fee but extends no
direct benefits.
Kansas City Considers
Gay Rights Measure
LAWRENCE,Kan. -Lawrence,
seat of the Umversity of Kansas,
has become the first city in the
state to extend anti-bias
protections based on sexual Orientation.
The Lawrence City
Commission voted 3-2 to ad~t
sextud orientation to the city’s
existing anti-discrimination
ordinance, which bars bias in
employment, housing and public
accommodation. The measure
must still pass a 2rid reading
before the commissioners, but
there have been no indications
the vote is likely to change when
the added language comes up
again in early May.
Calif. Lobbying Offices
Target of Bomb Threat
SAC1La,MENTO, Calif. - The
offices of the LIFE Lobby, a gay
and AIDS lobbying organization
in Califonfia’ s state capital, were
evacuated after an anonymous
caller telephoned a bomb tllreat
and warned the lobby’ s workers
to "’get out of the building unless
you want to die." Following
closely on the April 24 mailbomb
killing in Sacrmnento of a
blocks from LIFE Lobby’s
offices and the tragic bombing
in Oklahoma City, authorities
took no chances and evacuated
the entire building. No explosive
device was found. Laurie
McBride, LIFE’s executive
director, said the caller had
"wanted to let us kiaow that in
tiffs climate of political violence.
we are hated.’"
Kentucky Mayor Refuses
to Sign Anti-Bias Order
LOUISVILLE, Ky. - Louisville
Mayor Jerry Abramson has
refused to sign an executive ordcr
extending anti-bias protectious
to city workers based on scxnal
orientation. Abramson said statc
law restricts control over
personnel policies and practiccs
in Kentucky to city councils.
boards of aldermen and other
legislative bodies, not chicf
executives of the cities. He citcd
a legal.opinion by the city" s law
director in refusing to sign the
executive order. But gay rights
activists disagreed and chargcd
that Abramson was ducking thc
issue. Eric Graninger, legal
counsel for the Fairness
Campaign~ said, "While thc
aldermen can set minimum job
requiremerits for city employees,
the mayor~legally add more."
Graninger.said the city’s law
director was "’building a legal
closet for the mayor to hide in.’"
Far-Right Group Wants
’Pro-Famil y Contract’
WASHINGTON-TheCllristim~
Action Network held a press
conference in the nation’ s capital
and proposed a "Pro-Family
Contract with America." The-
CAN "’Contract" calls for
reviving a total ban On ~ays mid
Iesbians in the armed forces and
would restrict federal funds from
going to school districts tlial
provide positive counseling for
gay or lesbian students. CAN
called on Congress to enact its
’:’Contract" or face the prospect
Of a 3rd ~arty being formed.
Rich Tafel, execunve
directory of the Gay lobbying
group Log Cabin Republicans,
warned the GaP leadership,
however, that the far-right wing" s
agenda would divide the party
and undermine the GaP’s
prospects for keeping its narrow
congressional majority. "If the
Christian Action Network is
trying to pick a fight, they’ll get
one," Tafel saidl
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Researchers Find No HIV Risk
from Health Care Worl~ers
ATLANTA - In the largest study of
AIDS transmission from health care
workers to patients done to date, scientists
found.no evidence that the vires was passed
to pataents, according to a report in the
Annals oflnternal Medicine. Many people
in the U.S. have been concerned about the
possible risk of infection after the Centers
for Disease Control & Prcvenuon
determined 3 years ago that a Florida
dent[st., transmitied HIV to 6 ofhis patients.
The new study by the CDC covered more
than 221,000 ~a~ients of 64, physicians,
dentists and other health care.workers
who are infected with the virus. The
researchers found only 113 infected
patients out of the 22,000 examined, and
of those epidemiological and genetic
evidence showed that all came from other
sources, not from any of the health care
workers.
2 Pilots Sue United Airlines
LOS ANGELES - T~vo pilots have filed
an employment discrimination lawsuit
against United Airlines, charging that the
airline barred them from flying because
they are infected with HIV. The case is the
first of its "kind filed by commercial airhne
pilots under the" Americans With
Disabilities Act, according to the pilots’
lawyers and some AIDS organizations.
United, the largest airline in the U.S.,
!nsists.that, in the interest of public safety,
it acted correctly in grounding the pilots
under regulations set by the Federal
Aviation Administration. The suit, filed
infederal courtby R. Christopher Prilliman
of Dallas and PaulRafalowski of Laguna
Beach, Calif., c6ritends that the pilots
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were grounded after the airline learned
they were HIV-positive, despite the fact
that they passed physicals given by United~.
and the FAA earlier in 1994. Uuited~S
medical director, Dr. Gary Kohn, said the
airline received information from the
pilots’ doctors last year "that led us to
believe they had a disqualifying condition"
under FAA standards. Although he
declined to comment on the case, an FAA
spokesperson said that being HIV-positive
does not preclude a pilot from being
approved for flying.
CMV Retinitis Drug Effective
CHICAGO -Small injected doses.of an
experimental drug. have proven to be
effective in checking the devastating eye
damage common among people with
AIDS, according to researchers at the
Uuiversitv of California. According to
reports i’n Ophthalmology and the
American Journal of Ophthalmology, 3
small diuical trials showed the anti-viral
drug cidofovir, which is also -known as
HPlVlPC, stopped the progress of CMV
retinitis for months. Dr. William R.
Freeman, an ophthalmologist at the
University of California at San Diego,
and his colleagues reported in thejournals
that the drug has proven so effective at
this stage in the limited diuical trials that
more than ~ hundred patients, in San Diego
are now receiving "maintenance"
injections regularly. What is not known
yet, however, is whether cidofovir will be
effective over a prolonged period of time
or if patients may begin to develop a
resistance to it.
Dentists and HIV Infection
CHICAGO - According to a survey
published in the Journal ofthe American
Dentcd Association, while more dentists
are willing~o treat patients whoare infected
~"with HIV, many are still reluctant to have
such patients. The survey reported that
67% of the dentists surveyed would treat
such patients, even if they could refer
them to other health care workers..A
similar survey in 1986 found only about
47% of the dentists said they would trea!
infected patients. But the survey alsofound
that32% said they wouldnot pick dentistry
again as a medical career because of fears
of being exposed to HIV. And 75% of the
dentists also said they were afraid to show
any willingness to treat HIV-positive
patients .out.of concerns they might lose
other patients.
Hormone May Curb KS Tumors
LONDON -Ahormone found inpregnant
women, known as human chorionic
gonadotropin, may have an important role
in treating Kaposi’s sarcoma, a skin and
blood vessel cancer that affects ma~.y
patients with HIV, according to a report ~n
the British journal Nature. Dr. Robert
GaHo and other researchers with the
National Cancer Institute report that the
hormone kills KS in the test tube, and that
in experiments with mice it reduced tumors
caused by injections of KS cells. The NCI
scientists found that the injected KS cells,
which normally cause tumors in mice,
were not able Xo do so if they had been
exposed to the hormone before being
injected. Mice that had been treated with
the hormone for a week prior to being
injected with KS cells also did not develop
tumors or developed small ones, the
researcher reported. The scientists also
presented cases of 2 women who had KS,
but whose cancer lesions inexplicably
disappeared during or after pregnancy.
"This is the first demonstration of an antirumor
property of (the hormone), and
offers a new strategy for treating patients
with Kaposi’s sarcoma," the scientists
said.
Condom Breakage Questioned
WASHINGTON - Tests of the new
polyurethane Avanti condom have
produced conflicting results, and the Food
&Drug Administration, which approved
Avanti for sale in the U.S..in 1991, has
called for further testing: Regular latex
condoms break in about 2% of the cases,
according to FDA tests, and Avanti’s
manufacturer London International/
Schmid Labs had presented the FDA with
its o.wn studies that showed breakage rates
ran~ng between 0.4% and 2.1% when it
applied for approval to sdl the condom ~n
the U.S. But 5 subsequent studies by the
National Institute of Child Health &
Human Development and conducted by
the Los Angeles Regional Family Planning.
Council found failure ratesfor the Avanti
ranging from 4% to 15% with an overall
breakage rate of 9.6% - so high a rate that
the council stopped testing the Avanti in
1994 even though all its studies had
involved fairly small numbers of couples.
Dr. Susan Alpert of the FDA, however,
defended the agency’s approval of the
Avanti polyurethane condom, even if it
turns out to have a higher breakage rate,
because up to 7% of the American
population is allergic to latex.
Cancers Linked to Virus
BOSTON - A newly discovered type of
herpes virus causes 2 cancers associated
with AIDS according to a report in the
New England Journal of Medicine.
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According to scientists from Columbia
University, both B cell lymphoma and
Kaposi’s sarcoma, are caused by a herpes
. vmas known as KSHV, 1st discovered in
skin lesions of patients with KS. Drs.
Yuan Chang and Patrick Moore report
that the newly identified virus causes all
KS cancers, not just those in people with
¯ AIDS. They.also report f’mding the cancer
virus cells in 8 patients who suffered from
AIDS,associated B cell lymphoma, a
canCer of the body’s immune system.
’Reasonable,Pricing’
Requirement Dropped
WASHINGTON-TheNational Institutes
of Health (NIH) has dropped its~
requirement that U.S. drug manufacturers
charge a "reasonable" price for products
developed in conjunction with
government-sponsored research. NIH
Director Harold Varmus said the agency
found that "the pricing clause has driven
the industry away from potentially
beneficial scientific collaborations" with
government researchers "without
providing an offsetting benefit to the
public?’Under the clause, adoptedin 1989
amid protests over the price of the AIDS
drug AZT, the public was supposed to
benefit from drugs produced with the
advantage of taxpayer-funded research.
Once the policy was implemented,
however, companies held backfrom using
NIH research because they could not
guarantee that they would regain an
investment in product development, said
Carl Feldbaum, president of
Biotechnology Industry Organization.
HIV Protein Discovery
WASHINGTON - Researchers have
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discovered how an HIV protein, called
Vpr, forces its way into ceils. Vpr enters
the cell’s nucleus more quickly than other
proteins andmakes the cell help do itsjob,
found Univ. of Pennsylvania pathologist
David Weiner. Vpr hijacks a protein
naturally present in human cells, one that
moves specific steroid hormones through
calls: Tests showed that some of these
steroids activate HIV production and
suppress immune cells, Weiner reported
in the April 11 issue of Proceedings ofthe
NationalAcademy ofSciences. W~en Vpr
was, added, the protein used the steroids’
cellular pathway to getto the call nucleus
and prompted steroid overproduction to
help it produce HIV. Weiner found that
the abortion drug RU-486, which is known
to block steroid overproduction in other
diseases, also blocked Vpr. HIV-infected
cells treated with RU-486 produced 70
percent less virus than untreated cells, he
found. Weiner warned, however, that it is
still too early to know whether the drug
would work in humans. ~
Test to Predict AIDS Onset?
PITTSBURGH, Pa. - Scientists at the
University of Pittsburgh reported in the
Annals oflnternal Medicine that theyhave
developed a new HIV test that may help
doctors predict how soon people infected
with the virus will develop AIDS.
According to Dr. John Mellors, director
of the Pitt Treatment Evaluation Union
that developed the "branched DNA signal
amplification" test, it may also .help
physicians decide whatcourse oftreatment
is best for each patient. The new test
measures the amount of HIV in the blood
stream, a reliable indicator ofhow rapidly
the individual will become ill with AIDS.
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’b~the American MedtcalAssoctatton, was
prepared by scientists at the Center for
AIDS Prevention Studies-at UC-San
Francisco, directed by Thomas Coates
and Jeff Stryker. "Carefully tailored,
targeted, credible, and. persistent" AIDS
education eampaigus; the report says, haveproven
highly successful in dramatically
reducing-the spread Of HIV. The report
says thai in San Francisco, an estimated
8,000 people were infected with HIV in
1982 when the epidemichad barely begun~
But 10 years Iater- with intehse preverition
efforts, particularly-among gay.and
bisexual-men, in ethnic communities and
among intravenous drug users - the annual
infection rate had dropped to 1,000,
according to the city’s health department.
As many as 40,000 to 80,000 new HIV
infections are reported annually in the
United States, and the numbers are rising
steadily inmostothercities because"AIDS
is largely a disease of behaviors" and few
communities have faced the problem
candidly, the report’s authors argue.
"Education and prevention efforts for.
AIDS continue to be limited by society’s
unwillingness to explore and discuss
frankly sexual and drug-use behaviors
that risk the spread of HIV infection,"
they say.
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policy wentinto effect last year he notified
his c.ommanding officer in writing, "I am
gay’.
Gay Sailor to Remain In Navy=
BALTIMORE’- U.S. District Judge
Joseph Young has ordered the Navy not to
discharge Lt: Richard Selland, who told
.his commanding officer in 1993 that he
was gay. Judge Young granted Selland
an injunction ~that orders the Navy allow
the gay sailor toremain in the Navy while
he continues his court battle againstthe
Pentagon,s "’don’t ask, don’t tell" policy
that continues to exclude gay and.l~sbian
military personnel.
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collecting letters denouncing the decision.
In addition, the Metropolitan Connnunity
Church (MCC) had declared this Mother’s
Day, May 18, a "national day of prayer"
for Bottoms and her partner, April Wade.
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protections; 6 opposed the prohibitions; 7
deputies abslained. The commission has
recently added a number of liberal
provisions aimed at bringing Poland’s 43-
year-old constitution up to date and more
in line with requirements of the European
Parliament, which already mandates
nondiscrimination based on sexual orientation.
Only one other nation - South
Africa - has included constitutional
protections specifically aimed at barring
bias agaxnst gays and l~sbians.
Accepting Medicare, Medicaid.
private pay andprivate insurance.
Oklahoma owned and operated.
Where have people living with AIDS in the
Tulsa area gone to receive skilled nursing
care in a homelike, loving setting?
Until now - no where......
Announcing the opening of Mohawk Living Center, a facility
specializing in caring for people living with AIDS. Overlooking
beautiful Mohawk Park in North Talsa, our facility is dedicated
to caring for PLWA’s and improving their quality of life through
skilled nursing care delivered by a staff of dedicated professionals.
The staff at Mohawk Living Center invite you to come & tour our new facility.
To arrange a tour or for more information, call our offices at 918-425~1354
Mohawk Living Center
3910 Park Road ¯ Tulsa, OK- (918) 425-1354
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Reporter Tulsa Oldahomans for Human Rights. P.O. Box 52729 Tulsa, OK 74152
May/June 1995 Volume 15 Number 5
The views e.~pressed elsewhere in Tulsa Fame.Iv News are not necessarily the views ofTOHR. Permission is
granted to reprint information contained within the TOHR Reporter page along with other itemv, under the
b.vh’ne. "submitted by TOHR ". contained elsewhere in Tulsa Family Ne~,s.
~ Letter from the President:
Another month has gone by and what a great one it has benn. I would like to thank everyone who has made a monthly pledge or donation to the Community
Center. We .are still working very hard to make this vision a reality. Remember the monthly pledges are an integral part of our financing package so please give it
some thought as we can all benefit from a Community Center.
T.O.H.R. is continuing to grow and our programs are expanding. We have appointed Claudette Peterson as directorof HIV Programs. Claudette will supervise the
additiona employees and administer Ihe grants currently in place as well as the ones we are still waiting to hear from. Let’s all welcome Claudette and give her a big
THANK. YOU for her hard work, Claudette has already proven herself to be an invaluable asset to T.O.H.R. through her previous position as Clinic Director,
I would like to thank Rob Hill for the educational Seminar presented to the Helpline volunteers. We plan to repeat thisseminar inthe very near future so that those who
were unable to attend will have the ability to participate. Thanks again Rob. ¯
picnicThperideever~picniCLet youjrUiSstpRiDEaroundshowthe comethrfiosarndfestiveWe needdayinV°luntepearSrkth.e to man the .T.O.H.R. booth and help clean up the park. Your participation will insure this to be the best
T.O.H.R; FOLLIES 1995 is well into the planning stage with the date setfor June 30th at All Souls in Emerson Hall. This will be one of our largest fundraisers of the year
so let’s all come out and support the 6rganization as well as the performers. The money from the Follies goes to supporting ortgoing programs of T.O.H.R.
Please attend the monthly meeting or a T.O.H.R. sponsored event, we rely on your participation to continue these programs.
Thanks,
Tim
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2ISUNDAYS
BLESS THE LORD AT ALL TIMES
CHRISTIAN CENTER - Sunday School
9:45, Moming Worship Service 11:00.
2627-B East 11th. Call 583-7815. for Info.
BLGA - University of Tulsa. 6:30 p.m.
Canterbury Center.
COMM.UNITY OF HOPE (United
Methodist) - Evening Worship Service
6:00. 1347 North Yale. Call 838-7232 for
Info.
FAMILY OF FAITH MCC - Morning
Worship Service 11:00. 5451-E South
Mingo, Call 622-1441 for Info.
MCC OF GREATER TULSA - Morning
Worship Service 10:45 - 1623 North
Maplewood. Call 838-1715 for Info.
THE BANNED - Gay Band - Practice
weekly in OKC. Call 838-2121 forlnfo.
I MONDAYS
LAMBDA BOWLING LEAGUE - Bowling
begins at 8:45. Sheridan Lanes 3121
South Sheridan.
ITUESDAYS " ¯
MINISTER’S CLASS - Bless the Lord at All
Times Christian Center. 7:30 p.m. 2627-
B East 11th. Call 583-7815 for Info.
IWEDNESDAYS
AUTHORITY OF THE BELIEVER - Bible
Study 7:00. MCC of Greater Tulsa 1623
North Maplewood. Call 838-1715 for Info.
BLESS THE LORD AT ALL TIMES
CHRISTIAN CENTER - Choir Practice
7:00. 2627-B East 1 lth. Call 583-7815 for
Info.
FAMILY OF FAITH MCC - Potluck 6:30.
Bible Study 7:00. Choir Practice 8:00.
5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for
Info.
ITHuRsOAYs
16-STEP EMPOWERMENT GROUP FOR
WOMEN - 7:00. Women’s support group.
Community of Hope. 1347 North Yale.
Call 838-7232 for Info.
CO-DEPENDENCY SUPPORT GROUPWeekly
meeting 7:30. Family of Faith
MCC. 5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-
1441 for Info,
HIV TESTING - TOHR Clinic. Free and
Anonymous testing using flngerstick
method. No appointment required. Walk
in test hours: 7:00 - 8:30 pm. Results
Hours: 7:00 - 9:00 pm. Call 749-4194 for
Info.
PRAYER TIME - 7:00 p.m. MCC of
Greater Tulsa. 1623 North Maplewood.
Call 838-1715 for Info.
TULSA FAMILY CHORALE Weekly
practice 9:30 pro. Lola’s. 2630 E. 15th St.
!SATURDAYs I
NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS - Meets
weekly at 11:00 pm. Provides confidential
support for recovering addicts.
Community of Hope. 1347 North Yale.
Call 838-7232 for Info.
IMAY 13 I
CAR WASH - To benefit Family of Faith
MCC. Quik Trip on 71st across from
Sam’s. Donations only.
DANCE CLASS - Community of Hope.
8:00 p.m. 1347 North Yale. Call 838-7232
for Info.
IMAY 15 I
RESCUING THE BIBLE -6:30 - 8:30 p.m.
.Community of Hope - 1347 North Yale.
Seventh of an eight week course.
Sponsored by TOHPJCommunity of
Hope/BLGA (TU). Call 838-7232 for Info.
IMAY 16 I
TOHR BOARD MEETING. 7:00 p.m.
TOHR Office. 41st & Harvard. Call 743-
4297 for Info.
IMAY 17 I
FAMILY AIDS SUPPORT GROUP
Meeting. 6:30 p.m. PFLAG. 4154 South
Harvard - Lower Level. Call 583-5147 for
Info.
IMAY 18-21 I
MCC DISTRICT CONFERENCE - South
Central District IOK, TX, LA, AR) Southern
Hills Marriott at 71st and Lewis.
Workshops/Services/Banquet. Keynote:
Rev. Elder Nancy Wilson. Call 622-1441
for more Info.
IMAY ls-21 I
HERLAND SPRING RETREAT - Women’s
Retreat. Roman Nose State Park.
Sponsored by Heriand of Oklahoma City.
Call 405-720-0044 for Info.
IM,Y 21 I
INT’L AIDS CANDLE LIGHT MEMORIAL
SERVICE. Call 438-2437 for more info.
REV. ELDER NANCY WILSON - Evening
Service - 6:00 p.m. at Family of Faith MCC
- 5451-E South Mingo. Also featuring
Tulsa Family Chorale. Call 622-1441 for
Info.
IM, Y =2 I
RAINBOW BUSINESS GUILD - Monthly
Meeting 7:00 p.m. Call 254-2100 for
location.
RESCUING THE BIBLE - 6:30 - 8:30 p.m.
Community of Hope. 1347 North Yale.
Final week of an eight week course.
Sponsored by TOHR/i3ommunity of
Hope/BLGA (TU). Call 838-7232 for Info.
IMAY 26 I
WOMEN’S COFFEE HOUSE Java
Dave’s. 3310 South Peoria. 6:30 - 9:00
p.m. Call Beeper 646-6455 for more info.
IU,Y 26 - 28 I
GREAT PLAINS REGIONAL RODEO - OK
State Fairgrounds in Oklahoma City. Call
405-943-0543 for more Info.
DANCE CLASS - Community of Hope.
8:00 p.m. 1347 North Yale. Call 838-7232
for Info:
IMAY 29
FEED THE HOMELESS - Community of
Hope. 1347 North Yale. Meet at church at
5:30 p.m. and caravan to Day Center for
the Homeless. Call 838-7232 for lnfo.
IJ u N E 3
WOMEN’S SUPPER CLUB - Hong Kong
Restaurant - 4307 B South Sheridan Road.
6:30 p.m.
PFLAG BOARD MEETING.. 7:00 p.m.
Call 742-8565 for more info.
IJUNE 5
LAGPAC - The Gathering Place.. ~,154
South Harvard. Meets directly following
TOHR Ad Hoc Meeting. Call 838-1222 for
more Info.
TOHR AD HOC COMMITTEE ON CIVIC
AFFAIRS - Organizational Meeting. Need
~volunteers from other organizations. 7:00
p.m. The Gathering Place. 4154 South
Harvard. Call 838-2121 for more Info.
TOHR MEMBERSHIP MEETING. Monthly
Meeting. 6:30 Social 7:00 p.m. Meeting.
The Gathering Place. 4154 South
Harvard. Ste. H. Call 743-4297 for lnfo.
FAMILY AIDS SUPPORT GROUP
Meeting. 6:30 p.m. PFLAG. 4154 South
Harvard - Lower Level. Call 583-5147 for
Info.
IJ u N E 8 !
GREEN COUNTRY FOR HUMAN
RIGHTS LEAGUE. Muskogee Library.
6:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Call 682-8204 for
more Info.
IJUN. 10 I
DANCE CLASS - Community of Hope.
8:00 p.m, 1347 North Yale. Call 838-7232
for Info.
OK FLAMES WOMEN’S BASKETBALL -
Union High School. $5/ticket. 7:30 p.m.
Call beeper 646-6455 for more info.
iJ U N E 1 2 I
PFLAG PICNIC. 6:00 p.m. - 10:00 p.m.
Call 749-4901 for more info.
IJUN. 1= 14 I
OKLAHOMA HIV/AIDS CONFERENCE -
Sponsored by HIV Resource Consortium.
Workshops, Speakers, etc. Space is
limited to first 300. Doubletree at Warren
Place. Call 74g-4194 for more info.
IJu. 14 I
WEDNESDAY N;GHT WOMEN’S
SUPPER CLUB- La Nortena. 6408 South
Peoria. 6:30 p.m.
IJ u N E 21
COMMUNITY CHURCH SERVICES. MCC
of Greater Tulsa. Special for Gay Pride
Week. Also includes Family of Faith MCC
and other area churches. 1623 North
Maplewood. Call 838-1715 for Info.
FAMILY AIDS SUPPORT GROUP
Meeting. 6:30 p.m. PFLAG. 4154South
Harvard - Lower Level: Call 583-5147 for
Info. ~
IJuN~ 24 --,-
DANCE CLASS - Community of Hope.
8:00 p.m. 1347 North Yale. Call 838-7232
for Info.
I u.. 25
GAY PRIDE PARADE. Oklahoma City.
Assemble from 12:00 - 2:00 at the park.
Parade ends at Habana Inn with a party.
IJUN 2S I
RAINBOW BUSINESS GUILD - Monthly
Meeting 7:00 p.m. Call 254-2100 for
location.
IJUNE 29 I
FEED THE HOMELESS - Community of
Hope. 1347 North Yale. Meet at church at
IJ u N E 17
COMMUNITY-WIDE GOSPEL SING - Kick
off pride week with a gospel sing at Family
of Faith MCC 5451-E South Mingo. WIll
include MCC Tulsa and other area
churches. Call 622-1441 for more info.
OK FLAMES WOMEN’S BASKETBALL -
McLain High School. $5/ticket. 7:30 p.m.
Call beeper 646-6455 for more info.
IJ UNE 18
TULSA PRIDE PICNIC - Annual Gay Pride
Celebration held at Mohawk Park.
Food/DrinWFun/Games/EntertainmenL
Also booths and information distribution.
Minimal charges for food this year, Beer
still free. 12:00 - 6:00. Call 832-0233 for
Info.
IJu. 20
TOHR BOARD MEETING. 7:00 p.m.
TOHR Office. 41st & Harvard. Call 743-
4297 for Info.
5:30 p.m. and caravan to Day Center for
the Homeless. Call 838-7232 for Info.
ROU P MEETINGS
LAGPAC - Lesbian and Gay Political
Action Committee. Call 838-1222 for Info,
LOG CABIN REPUBLICANS - Gay and
Lesbian Republican Group. Call 832-0233
for Info.
SWAN - Single Women’s Activity Network.
TOHR CLINIC - In addition to Thursday
Clinic Hours (see Thursdays), offers
daytime testing by appointment Monday -
Thursday from 10 am - 5 p.m. Call 749-
41 94 for appointment.
.TOHR HELPLINE - Staffeddaily 8:00 p.m.
- 10:00 p.m. Call 743-GAYS.
TULSA- Tulsa Uniform and Leather
Seekers Association, Call 838-1222 for
Info,
WEDNESDAY NIGHT WOMEN’S
SUPPER CLUB - Meets at varying
locations the 2nd or 3rd Wednesday of
each month.
¯ . Do you have a group or event that should be listed in the TOHR Community Calendar? If
so, please call us at 838-2121.
Every. effort was made to ensure the accuracy and completeness of this calendar; however, neither Tulsa Family News nor TOHR assumes responsibility for errors or omissions.
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READ ALL ABOUT IT
by Barry Hensley
Supervisor, Circulation Department
Tulsa City-County Library
Author Robert Donaghe’s first novel,
Common Sons, is just the thing if you’re
looking for some light, spring reading
with a message. In the
small town of Common,
New Mexico, in 1965,
Joel Ree~is going to high
school and workingon the
family farm. A strong,
bright boxer, Jot strikes
up a friendship with Tom,
the quiet son of the new
preacher. Eventually,
straight laced Tom makes
a very public, drunken
pass at Joel and they both
must come to terms with
feelings that they don’t
understand. Joel, an
agnostic, rather easily
accepts the realization of
his homosexuality as
normal, while Tom, after
years of very strict
indoctrinatxon, is torn
apart emotionally.
Eventually, through the
support of the school
coach, Joel’s family, a
Unitarian mimster and a
younger classmate, Joel
and Tom realize that their
dedication and love for
one another is more
important than what the
rest of the town thinks.
The pivotal characters
in this story are the boys’
fathers. Joel’s dad at first assumes that
Joel i~ just going through a phase, but
soon realizes the seriousness of the
relationship between Jot and Tom. He
also understands that his boy has not
changed, only the perception of his son
has changed, and Joel’s courage and
character are still intact. Tom’s father,
howeve{, is a rather simplistic stereotype
of a ruthless patriarch whose religious
belief controls every fiber of his being.
Tom is ultimately banned from his family
and virtually adopted by Jod’s parents.
The thought processes of these characters
may help readers understand what some
families go through when these situations
By c.hoosln~ to
remam...Joe.and
Tom make the
important
statement that
runrdn~ to the
coasts is not the
way to chan~e
hearts and minds
and prove t~e
relationship.
T~s is an
uplfftln ovel that
emph~zes the
im~rtanee o~
f mlhes and
eommunltles
reeo nlzln the
dfffergnt forms of
love and
eommhment.
arise.
In contrast to Tom’s
father, the Unitarian
minister is also an
important character. He
tries to convinceTomthat
the biblical references to
homosexuality refer to a
lack of commitment or
binding in relationships.
Tom soon realizes that
his relationship with Joel
does not fit this criteria,
since they are loyal and
dedicated to each other.
The interesting setting
of this book, not in an
urbanareaoragay ghetto,
but in a rural village,
makes this book unique
among current gay
fiction. At the end of the
book, a younger classmate
has moved to San
Francisco and writes Joel
andTom, chastising them
for staying in their "hick
town." By choosing to
remain in Common, Joel
and Tom make the
important statement that
running to the coasts is
not the way to change
hearts and minds and
prove the validity of their
relationship.
This is an uplifting novel that
emphasizes the importance of families
andcommunities recognizing the different
forms of love:and commitment. Common
Sons is an old fashioned love story with
humor and some interesting plot twists
that make an entertaining read.
Other authors of Lesbian and Gay fiction available at the Tulsa City-County
Library include: JosephHansen, Katherine V. Forrest, Robert Ferro, Isabel Miller
and Paul Russell. Check for rifles by these authors at the ~ Readers Services
department of the Central Library, or call 596-7966.
These bookstores welcome Tulsa Family News & your trade:
Barnes & Noble, 71st near Memorial
Media Play, 71st near Mingo
Scribner’s, Utica Square
Can’t find us at your favorite bookstore? Ask them why.
Horvath cont’dfrom p. 1
Horvath.
Before g~ing to Joie de Vivre, Horvath
,kad .prayed; "send me anywhere, but not
the South, Lord." Originally from
Minneapolis, and coming into the
Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan
Community Churches from a Presbyterian
background, Horvath had some culture
shock amving in South Louisiana, in the
heart of Jimmy Swaggart ministry. Joie
de Vivre’s congregation was diverse. Part
French Catholic, part Baptist with some
Pentacostal thrown in, Horvath found
herself merging traditions- empowering
Baptists and Pentacostals to genuflect and
Catholics to raise their hands in praise as
each felt moved to do so.
Horvath said that local Catholic priests
had fewer objections to their parishioners
being involved with a Gay/Lesbian
inclusive congregarion than to those folks
leaving the Catholic Church - Gay was ok
but if you leave the Catholic Church,
you’re going to hell! Pastor Horvath adds
that the Universal Fellowship of
Metropolitan Community Churches
(UFMCC) allows joint membership in an
MCC church as well as another - such
another Protestant or Catholic
congregation.
Horvath is committed to a "strong
empowermentof the laity" and to growing
the churches she leads. In Baton Rouge, a
city of about 350,000, attendance rose
from an average of 19 per Sunday to 70
per Sunday.
While Horvath notes that MCC’s are
not a "Gay churches," they are open and
affirming of all, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual,
Transgendered, and Heterosexual. She
adds that while the Church cannot be
closeted and fill its mission of a healthy
way to be Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual or
Transgendered, individuals who cannot
be open can be part of the church.
?Sexuality and sex are gifts from God.
God created sex to be pleasureful though
it can be abused to hurt ourselves andto
hurt others..." Horvath and her spouse,
Barb hope to serve as role models of
healthy ways of being Lesbian and Gay.
Family of Faith services are held on
Sundays at l lain, on Wednesdays a
potluck dinner is held at 6:30, followed by
Bible study at 7pm.
Prayer p. 1
Rwanda, and the ongoing violence in
Bosnia are the most .horrible examples.
We also pray to end the more subtle forms
of hate that poison our communities. We
condemn the anti-Arab sentiment thai
began to show its ugliness just after the
Oklahoma City bombing. We are grateful
that our Lesbian and Gay communities
were not falsely accused because we know
that such an accusation would provide the
excuse for violence based on the hate that
already exists. While we pray for fair
treatmentforall people, wepray especially
for an end to the prejudices of
heterosexism, sexism and racism in the
Church. We pray that the Church will no
16nger allow itself to be used as men’s and
women’s means of oppressing others who
are different from themselves."
The National Day of Prayer was
coordinated by Focus on the Family, a
radical right religious/political
organization. Tulsa Congressman Steve
Largent serves on the advisory board for
the effort. Other groups in Tulsa marked
the day With a lunch at a downtown hotel
attended by Cathy Keating, wife of
Oklahoma’s governor and Terry Largent,
the wife of Congressman Largent.
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FAMILY FINANCES
Your Credit Record
by Leanne Gross
Cash worked just fine for our
ancestors. They would go to the
market, select what they needed,
& hand their dollars, rubles, or
plasters over to the merchant. In
some societies, barter was the
practice: a bushel of corn for a
bucket of fish. A receipt or a
paper trail for tax purposes was
not part of the transaction.
Today, it’s not unusual to carry
just enough cash to make it to the
next automated teller machine.
Credit has evolved into the
currency of choice. Between gas,
groceries, department stores and
major credit grantors like VISA,
Master Card & American
Express, most of us are toting an
ever-growing ~senal of shiny
plastic debit car~.s in our wallets.
That, no matter how you feel
about the phenomenon, makes
your credit ’history more
important than ever.
Because creditors are in the
business of making money, they
issue cards only to people
deemed worthy credit risks.
Before granting approval, your
application is always screened
by a commercial credit bureau.
There are three major national
companies with offices in most
large cities: Equifax Credit
Information Services, Trans-
Union Credit Information Corp.
& TRW Corp.
All creditors have slightly
different criteria for granting
credit. Generally, it’s based on a
point-scoring system keyed to
factors such as income, level of
education,how long you’velived
at your present address, what
kinds of assets & checking/
savings accounts you have, your
promptness in paying bills and
similar socio-economic information.
CCCS, a non-profit
organization supported by major
credit grantors & corporations,
offers free counseling service and
budget planning through office
across America. Call 800-388-
CCCS to find out where the
nearest office is.
If it looks like you’re going to
fall behind to the point where
you may not be able to meet you
monthly minimum payments,
you should immediately notify
the credit grantor. If you have a
good reason & you expect to be
able to solve the problem in a
reasonable amount of time, most
~orantors are open to working
mething out. Thecredit grantor
wants to collect his/her money at
the least cost possible. If he/she
knows up front what the problem
. tlbe
~ltAccomrnodatio~
Frank Green, J.r. Host
50 Wall Street
Eureka Springs, Arkansas 72632
501/253-8281
"for a Taste ofLocal Flavor"
Jim & Brent Invite.You to
Chelsea’s
Corner
Cafe &
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Care: Gay-owned Bar: Gay-friendly
253-7457 273-6723
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Historic Downtown Eureka Springs Arkansas
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Eclectic Menu * Moderate Prices
is & when he/she can reasonably
expect to be paid, hetshe.won’t
have to invest ~ap.~ore time or
money into g~d~"’that ~count
collected.
The U.S. Federal Trade
commission cautions against
relying on commercial credit
repair companies that offer to
miraculously clear up any
financial troubles you might run
into. The only thing that can
repair a credit history is time &
the reconciliation of your debts.
Credit repair companies may be
able to help you to manage your
debts (for a fee), but so can nonprofit
groups like CCCS, credit
unions, & community extension
services affiliated with local
tmiversities.
Though they utilize massive
data banks & sophisticated
computer systems, creditbureaus
are run by human beings. An
occasional mistake in your credit
historyis possible. Ifyou’vebeen
denied credit for no apparent
reason, you have the right, under
the fair credit reporting act, to
ask the bureau for an explanation
& a copy of your file if you act
within 30 days. ffyou choose to
dispute the accuracy of anything
~n your file, you need to notify
the bureau in writing, explaining
the diso:epancy. The credit
bureau then investigates the
matter. If their claim cannot be
verified or is found to be
inaccurate, the information
you’ve challenged will then be
deleted from your report. On the
other hand, if you disagree with
the results of their investigation,
you have the right to have a brief
statement explaining your side
of the story added to your file.
For this reason,many financial
counselors recommend that you
examine your credit bureau
report every 3 - 4 years. All credit
bureaus are required to forward
a copy of the consumer’s file
upon request. If the request isn’t
tied to a specific appeal, there is
usually a $10 - $15 charge.
Like it or not, the mountain of
junkmail credit card solicitations
we receive every week is
evidence thatthe credit culture
is here to stay. In many ways,
cash&barter systems weremuch
simpler. Stuffing a fish in those
envelopes would be impractical.
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Call: 596-7111
Winner, 1992 International Nautnburg Piano Competition
His sold-out Tulsa debut last year was among the
most talked about performances of the season.
RAIN-Oklahoma, an interfaith AIDS service organization, is
seeking an Executive Director (position based in Oklahoma
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to work within and across cultural lines and within the
religious community. Otherrequirements include aBachelor’s
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The Homefront I
BUD WHARTON
Author of SellTrac 2000, a
¯sales training programfor loan
officers and Realtors, Bud
Wharton is a national speaker,
sales trainer and mortgage
banker. Bud addresses thousands
of industry professionals
each year, training in the areas
of business development,
technical expertise and motivation.
Buying a home is something
mostofus look forward to. All to
often, the "looking forward to"
ends in a reluctance to pursue the
dream based on our assumed
knowledge ofhow bad our credit
.report looks. This is so prevalent
in American thinking that
consumers continue to believe
their credit rating will be the #1
reason for credit denial. The gay
andlesbianculture is notimmune
from this notion either and it is
often compounded by the ~’vSinCgOnbcaedpticornetdhiattabreeinsgogmaeyhaonwd
synonymous terms.
Nothing could be further from
the truth. Yes, credit is important
but it is not all-important! In fact
the real problem in dealing with
credit issues in the mortgage
process is not so much how bad
the creditis, but rather the lenders
inability to help the borrower
understand just how to address
.the problem successfully. This
~s somewhat philosophical in
nature, the difference being
attitude: why vs. why not or basic
solution orientation.
A good analogy as to how to
deal with credit issues (or at least
our perception of what equals
unacceptable credit) is to understand
the common denominator
between some forms of religion
and credit. An excellent analogy
as both subjects yield a reward
based on the assumption of
goodness, acceptance or
approval. Becausewe sometimes
screw-up, we find ourselves in
need of forgiveness. Religion
advocates prayer and contrition
to reconcile ourselves, thus
fulfilling the forgiveness
equation and the slate is wiped
clean. Credit on the other hand
offers a similar concept as
absolution for bad credit can be
achieved using similar principles,
except the prayer part
must be written as opposed to
spoken. Who are we writing to?
The underwriter (God) of course
who has the power to grant
understanding and c’onciliatibn
based on circum~anees, ones
pattern of credit use or abuse and
what is being done or has been
done since the last incident to
correct the problem. The power
is really in your argument!
Easy-does-it! Simply pray in
writing vs. orally. Your ability
to articulate in writing is
important, but not to the degree
that you need to be a Pulitzer
"Rdi~ion advocates prayer
and contrltlon_Credlt
on the other hand offers
a similar concert, as
absolution for ba~l eredlt
can be aehleved..."
Prize winning author. This.is
where your lender can help.
Think of them as your attorney
presenting your case before a
judge. They should know how to
do flaeir job and represent you;
articulatingin terms andmethods
of argument acceptable to reason
and logic compelling the
underwriter to understand and
accept your viewpoint.
Why bring it up? Your goal is
home ownership. Standing
between you and that goal may
be your credit report or your
perception of your credit
standing. If there is an obstacle,
any obstacle, it’s important to
understand that the obstacle,
whatever it is, does not mean an
automatic no. When confronting
this situation it is important to
think in terms of over, under,
around or through! That’s how
problems are solved. Andif your
loan officer doesn’t understand
that ~e you need another loan
officer. After all, who do they
think you are anyway, the
customer?
If you’ve been staying away
from exploring the opportunity
of owning your own home
because of what you think your
credit looks like; stop and get it
together. Here’s what you need
to do. First of all, contact your
mortgage lender and ask to be
prequalified for a home loan
Make an appointment to meet
with them. If they want to do it
all over the phone, they obviously
don’t care enough about you, the
customer, to invest the time in
meeting with youpersonally. The
personal meeting is important.
You’ve got a sales job to do and
part of that is being comfortable
that this loan officer is capable
of understanding your circumstances
and needs and your
developing confidence in them.
Not all loan tracers are created
equal.*
Second, you want them to pull
a credit report and there are two
types of reports. The first is a
basic credit profile pulled from
three different bureaus and
should be done for you at no
cost. The second type of report is
more extensive and involves the
reporting agency verifying
employment, checking public
records and interviewing you the
borrower for accuracy of data.
This report costs about $60.00.
Anyone who’s up to speed in
today’s business environment
can have your full credit report
(the first type mentioned) in a
matter of a minute or two and
again, there should be no cost for
this service. If the lender wants
to charge you, again it’s time to
find a service oriented lender
willing to invest in you as their
prospective customer.
As you review the report with
your loan officer be open and
candid about whatever might be
disclosed. This will allow you
both to brainstorm strategies in
structuring your explanation of
any derogatory information. If
you have experienced a
bankruptcy, don’t worry about
it, just explain it. Solutions to
this are commonplaceand it
doesn’t take an entire lifetime to
recover.
Included in this prequalification
will be an analysis of
your income and employment
history. Combined with your
credit profile, you may qualify
formore than youever imagined;
and sooner too[ But then there’s
the cash requirements. How
much do you need and do you
really have to save it up? This is
the subject ofournext discussion
here on THE HOMEFRONT.
(Editors Note: Bud Wharton
is Vice President ofMortgages
By Design, Inc., Claremore. OK;
serving all ofGreen Country.)
WE
UNDERSTAND.
TWO WORDS
TOO SIMPLE
TWO SECONDS 2
That’s all the time it takes to say "We Understand"
But how often do you hear your real estate agent
say them?
Experience the power of T~O! The Nicholas Team.
Jonathan & Dee Nicholas and their team of licensed
associates will make buying and selling a home a
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So, TAKE TWO and call us in the Morning[
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(918) 749-3000
"Selling the Dream, the Nicholas Team!"
RE/MAX Metropolitan, REALTORS 6400 S. Lewis, Tulsa, OK 74136
PRIDEoyo mp
Renting and considering Buying? Moving up or
Investing?Credit Problems?
i t~ ~" Mortgages By Design will
custom fit the right home loan to
YOUR needs!
No Cost Credit Counseling
1st Time Home Buyer
Lock & Shop
0% to 3% Down
Financing the AllAmerican Dream
No Cbst Pre-Qualifying
Construction
Best Interest Rates
Refinancing
Mortgages By I~ign Gives Back To Our Community
For each10an closed, we will donate $100.00
to Tulsa 0klahomans For Human Rights or
tolthe foundation of your choice.
ForDetail~ CalL"
BUD WH,ARTON
Vice President~./Branch Manager
(918) 342-4252
Serving Tulsa and
SurroundingCommunities
Sat. 5/13, 11pm Bad Girls Are Back!
Robbie Walker, K~is Kohl, Natasha Hall & GuesL,
Sun. 5/14, Tim’s 8th Annual 36th Birthday
Taurus, Mother’s Day & Full Moon Blowout
Sat. 5/27, Hollywood Creations
(5 hot guys!)
BAD BOYZ CLUB
1229 So, MEMORIAL, 835-5083
TU SA’S HUGE PATIO BAR
MO.RE
" New CDs $16.99-I 1.99 "
pre-owne.d. CDs $7.99-8.99
W.e II give you $4,88
TOr your used Cds.
Pride cont’dfrom p. 1
interested in having a booth should contact
Tomfoolery! at 832-0233.
....Follies~ A TOHR tradition continues. The
plans for the 1995 TOHR follies are well
under way. Follies has been one of
TOHR’s largest fund-raisers. This year’s
theme is "Priscilla: Queen of the Desert",
& it will mark the follie’s 15th year.
The Follies will be held on Friday, June
30th, at All Souls Unitarian Church, 2952
S. Peoria. The doors open at 7:30pm with
the show starting at 8:00pm. Advance
tickets are $8.00, & they can be purchased
at Tomfoolery (in the Silver Star Saloon
at 1565 S. Sheridan); Floral Design
Studios, 3404 S. Peoria; & Budget
Window Treatments, 7116 S. Mingo.
Tickets will also be available the day of
the Gay Pride Picnic at the TOHR booth.
It’s not too late to be a part of this
wonderful event. For more information,
call the TOHR helpline at 743-4297.
u
...,_,o~e cont’dfrom p. 1
Several of Tulsa’s most well known
community volunteers, Joan Flint, Terry
Williams, and Peggy Helmerich lent their
names and energy to the event.
Businessman Charles Faudree came up
with the idea originally and was joined by
P.S. "Pat" Gordon, Judy Fisher, Francis
Fisher, Julie Kruger, Ouida Merrifield,
Sally Minshall, Monnie Mooberry, Patty
Orbison, Nancy Renberg, Francesanne
Tucker and Nancy Vaughn on the
organizing committtee.
Patrons were entertained at a May 4
event held in several homes that were not
on the general tour. The final patrons
event will be held at George Kravis’ new
home on June 21. Many, many businesse
contributed to this event but Michael
Bennett, Steve Wright, Rusty Brumble,
and Mark Lackey (Lackey of Cuisine by
Design) were recognized for their
contributions.
The 1995 Oklahoma .HIV/AIDS
Conference will be presented by the HIV
Resource Consortium. on June 12-14 at
the Doubletree Hotel, Warren Hace. The
conference title is "Caring...for each other,
sharing...our stories, and nurturing...our
spirit." Space is limited. Call Beverly
Stanley at 749-4194 formore information.
Gay Mothers’ Support Group
A self-led support group for Gay morns is
meeting to deal with the ma~y challenges
and issues facing Lesbian mothers.
The group is free and open to all Gay
morns. It meets Thursdays at 7pro at
member’s homes. Call for info. 742-1313.
Sat. dune 3, Pride Pteni¢ #enefit Show, IO:3O#m
$3 cover includes beer bust, $I dud Dry Dottles all nitel
2405 E. 4dmlral O.oeu Tues.-Sun. $g2-434# Parking in #~¢k
Responsible
Roommate
Wanted
South Tulsa
area
NONSMOKER,
GWM has
room to rent in
large 3
bedroom
house,
preferably to
same. Must be
employed,
clean,
trustworthy and
discreet.
References,
first month’s
rent & deposit
required. $250
per month,
washer/dryer,
cable TV, all
utilities & basic
phone
included.
Call 493-2868.
Tulsa FRIEND AND COMPANION:
Robert, GBM, 26, Ikg for GM to be my
friend and companion- =38530
Oklahoma City DANNY, 22, 6’2,
blk/brn, looking for GWM 20-30, for
friendship, pass tel if ur interested, like
swimming going out having fun- give me a
call- =38627
Oklahoma City DAVID 27, stable,
secure, looking for a basic honest guy
interestecl in a tel- =38757
THAT PHONE!
HERE’S HOW IT WORKS:
1 ) To respond to these
ads & browse others
Call: 1-900-786-4865
2) To record your FREE
Tulsa Family Personal ad
Call: 1-800-546-MENN
(We’ll print it here)
3) To pick-up messages
from your existing ad
Call: the 900 number &
Press the star key (.)
Due to our large volume of calls;
if you can’t get thru, simply try
your call later.
900 blocked? Try 1-800-863-9200.
VISAiMC.
Questions Call: 1-415-281-3183
Oklahoma City OUTDOOR LOVER:
Greg 25, GWM iso fun and love
outdoors, 6’3, professional, g~ve me a call,
looking for someone no games, like to go
out and have fun but not really into the bar
scene- =38923
Oklahoma City ANDRE 20 looking for a
gay man, in the area, give me a ca11-
=38049
Oklahoma Cily SHE MALES: Tracy, int in
meeting 1V’s She Males, in the area give
me a call- bye! =39139
OK TONY 24 6 215 brn/brn, mustache,
goatee bind hair, hairy, love 3 stoogeslooking
for a father figure, Marlboro man,
very romantic, Iv a message and VII get
back to you as soon as I can, hopingMr.
Right Ikg for monog tel only- =39172
Recording your ad:
Figure out what you want to say
before calling in. Write down ,what
you want to say. Keep it short and
simple. Just describe yourself and
what you’re looking for. Our
computerized system will walk you
through the rest. Have a pen ready to
write down your box number.
Oklahoma City BOB, like to have same
fun, 47, looking for 18-50, give me a ca11-
=39484
OK DISCREET FUN: John,i6’, 172
bm/bm, Ikg for married guys who are
looking for discreet fun, givelme a ca11-
=39557
Tulsa LIKE TO MEET: Mike, 35, 6’1,
brn/bm 195. like to meet talk to people, if
ur int, like to have fun and a good time,
give me a call- =39587
Tulsa BRIAN 21, GWM, 6’I, 220,
like romance, vers, Ikg for long term
monog tel, someone to start one with, iso
profq GWM open minded, ages 20-40,
Ikg for someone who likes to have a good
time, would have intell conversation-
=39693
Oklahoma City CAMPING AND
COMPUTERS: Robert 28 BIWM married
looking for someone int in a discreet rel, if
that’s you Iv a message-int are camping,
computers, really int in hearing from you-
=39721
Mcallister LASTING RELATIONSHIP:
Gene, WM, 50, 190, blu/blnd, int in a
lasting rel, down to earth, not into bars,
like video photography camping fishing
and quiet eves at home gardening, just
relaxing and enjoying each other- u be
30-50- =39758
Oklahoma CityLOOKING FOR A
---FRIEND:-35, looking for pass rel;-friends,~ -
and just be honest, will reply to allblk/
gm reed build attr- Thanks! =37313
Oklahoma Ci~/LOOKING FOR A
LOVER: Mark looking for someone
to have a rel with, 24, give ~ a
call- thanks- =37392 ~
Bay PEN PAL: Ricki, 29, int in
males, 18-30, 6’I 150, int in
any guy writing to me -write asap-
=37660
Tulsa FUZZY CUDDLER: looking for a
fuzzy cuddler, WGM 36 bm/blu 155
vers (+) hlthy attr, isa fun with another pas
attitude person,if this sounds good Iv a
message- =37586
E. Tulsa GWM 19, 5’!0, 140, dk
blnd/grn, isa young cln cut companion,
18-26- =37612
Oklahoma City DISCREET FUN: 36 Brn
grey hair 170 6’1 good shape like to
meet 18~30 for discreet fun, give me a
call- inexp a plus- wanna have some
fun, call me- =37691
Oklahoma City WANNA DATE?
Lance looking for someone in the area
28 145 sandy bind blu; med build,
iso somearie be~veen 18~30 nice
looking like to go out to movies, go do’
something, or stay here and watch movies,
give me a call- =37738
Oklahoma.City FRIENDS AND FUN:
WM, 40s Masc iso str ading guys with
slim musc builds for friendship fun,
=37776
AR FONE,FUN: Kenny int in meeting
other guys,~ and doing interesting things
and lone fen, give mea call- =37906
Tulsa POSSlB~ LOVER: Alan, 6’2 17.5,
dk bm/blu hairy defined build, looking to
get together for good times, pass
relationship- =37945
Tulsa PART~ BOY: GBM 33, musc
build, seeks masc men, 25-40 race
unimpt, party boy, likes to pan’y- =38092
Tulsa NEW TO AREA: 34, want to meet
new guys, new to the
area, for
friendship,
5’10
bm/bm,
Ikg for
friends
first, Ikg for
good caring
people to share
times with give me
a call- =38169
Tulsa DISCREET FUN: 27, 6’ 180 med
build, professional looking for same
private discreet fun,w/someane 18-29 fit,
bm/.blu grn~ int give me a call- =38255
N. Uttle Rock CAMPING AND
HIKING: Cliff bm/bm, WM, fun to be
around, camping hiking, isa a guy to have
fun or friendship- =38463
Tulsa PROFESSIONAL GWM 30 6’3
180, bin/bin, iso guys between 21-30 for
friendship loss tel, attr, like outdoors,
movies reading and dining out if ur
intereasted give me a tall- =38358
Tulsa INUJ~RIENCED: Mitch, bmgrey/bm
35, ve~ smooth, inexperienced, eager to
meet similar, smoker, thats abeut iF =22668
Mcallister CAMPING AND FISHING:
GWM, isa a tel, 50, 190, blu/blnd, Ikg
for someone 30-50, love photography,
camping, fishing, gardening, qual time
with my lover, only those ~incere need
apply- =36350
W, Memphis LOOKING FOR A
FRIEND: Donfiy, int are spending time
with my companion, dinner,
shopping,looking for a friend, I’m 20 isa
18-40, long sh6rt brn hai~’, 5’6, attr, Ikg to
have a good time and spend time
together- =36404
Tulsa PROFESSIONAL SEEKS
SAME: GWM Ran, 6’,
blnd/gn, 185 44c 30w,
so GWM non
smoker, 25-40 Iv a
message- =36407
Oklahoma City
FRIENDS OR
MORE: GWM 26
5’0 bm/hzl, vers
likes bowling
movies tired of bar
scene iso GWM
for friendship
maybe more-
=36590
Stillwater BI WM:
Virgin WM iso other bi
wm to have fun with, give me
a call Bill- ~36630
Oklahoma City DON 47, want a hot
guy, give me a call- =36792
Tulsa MITCH: 35 5’10, 165, bm/bm,
Smoker, very smooth and very inexp
and Ikg to meet with someone for
friendship loss rel, g~ve me a ca11-
=22668
Ft. Smith NEWLY SINGLE: Joe, just
ended a 6 yr tel, looking to meet new
friends, 37, bm/blu, 6’, 175, if ur
interested, give me a call- work nights,
home days- =36985
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What be~ter way to spend your
summer than with someone special?
Personal ads. like these, are one of
the most effective and affordable
ways to meet new people,
Place Your FREE Ad Now.
And get.ready to introduce yourself-.
to a whole new summer. ~o
Muskogee JB, if u would like Iv a message
I’m professional 6’1 190, Ikg for someone
to have some good times with, =37018
AR SHARE MY UFE: Kenny, looking for
a man to share my life with, talk to and get
to know, give me a call- =37263
Tulsa DISCREET FRIENDS: Randyl attr
35 married bi wm, iso daytime fun, 25-
40, discreet friends-=28807
AR HAIRY HAWG RIDERS: Eric,
recently divorced 6"2 200~ brn/blu, like
hairy men and cowboys, like to ride
hawgs to like to get~gether with you too-
=29005
Tulsa ENTERTAINMENT TONIGHT:
Bob, GBM 33, 5’7, 155, iso sim WM to
date and much more Fm bright;honest
handsome like life and learning, like most
entertainment, give me a call- =29444
FRI ~*~AT
DANCE PARTY!
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Live DJ & Light Show
Mr. Robbie Walker & The Sunday Slam
(Pa~ris Grey, Kris Kohl, Ivana B. Real & Michde Ross)
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Gay Pride Picnic Benefit
Variety Show
Sunday, 5/28 10:30pro
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Show Night at the Star
Beginning Sunday, 6/4
With FaHon Scott & Friends
No Cover, Out of State Entertainers
$4 Beer Bust 9pro-lain, $1 Rattlesnakes
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Thur. - MaLe Dancers ~1 Beer Bust & Dance Music
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1995
AIDS/HIV
AIDS/HIV drugs
AIDS/HIV education
AIDS/HIV research
anti-bias law
Apple Computer
arts and entertainment
attorneys
Australian National Gaymes
Barry Hensley
Bars
blindness
businesses
cancer
Candice Gingrich
censorship
children
churches
civil rights
condoms
Consumer Reports
contraception
Convention and Visitors Bureau
Creating Change
custody
David Duke
Deb Price
domestic partners
Don't Ask Don't Tell
editorial
employment discrimination
employment protection
estate planning
Family Finances
Family of Faith
Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church
Follies Revue
Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund
gay bashing
Great Plains Regional Rodeo
homophobia
Hope Candlelight Tour
Human Rights Campaign Fund
Kaposi's sarcoma
Leanne Gross
LGBT clergy
LGBT politicians
marriage
Mel White
Metropolitan Christian Church of Greater Tulsa
military inclusion
Murder
National Endowment for the Arts
OutNOW!
Parents
People Living With AIDS
performing arts
personals
PFLAG
picnic parade
Pride
protests
RAIN
Rainbow Business Guild
Read All About It
Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN)
representation
restaurants
Robert Donaghe
sexual orientation discrimination
threats
TOHR Reporter
Tom Neal
torture
Tulsa Family News
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights (TOHR)
Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights HIV Testing
Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches
viatication
Victory Fund
violence