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Jan. 15 - Feb. 14, 1997, vol. 4, no. 2
Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual & Trans Communities
Marriage Update
Wash. St. Governor
Supports Gay Marriage
OLYMPIA (AP) - As one of his final acts, out~goi.ng
Gov. Mike Lowry is sponsoring legislation to a_utho.nze
same-sex marriages. The bill is doomed in the Legislature,
wheremajority Republicans intendtopass abanon
same-gender unions. But a Lowry spokesman said
Thursday the governor considers the ban blatant bias
and hopes to begin a dialogue that will eventually end
discrimination against gays and lesbians.
Rep. Ed Murray, D-Seatde, the only openly Gay
member of the Legislature, will introduce the Lowry
bill.in the House. The senator from his district, Democrat
Pat Thibaudeau, will sponsor an identical bill in the
Senate. Their 43rd District includes Seattle’s Capitol
Hill,whichhas the state’ s heaviest concentrationof gay
couples.
Murray and Thibaudeau also will sponsor legislation
aimed at barring discrimination in employment based
onsexual orientation. Lowry also has givenhis endorsement
to the bill, which is a pordon of a perennial antidiscrimination
bill that Gay civil rights activists long
have sought.
Rep. Bill Thompson, R-Everett, will again sponsor a
bill to ban same-gender marriages. His plan would
I N.O..W. Plans
Gay::Arkansas c,v,, Rights
¯ Ma r r! ag,e. Panel
Proposed for Gays
TULSA Tulsa s newly rewved chapter of
ii
gions, legal and political aspects. Those attending wi,ll have an
opportunity to ask questions. Northeastern Oklahoma .s.contac.t
person for the National Freedom to Marry Coalition will attend
¯ also. The National Freedom to Marry Coalition is co-ordinated
: by Lambda Legal Defense and Educational Fund, the national
: legal organization that helped the Hawaii litigants and their
: attorneys. The Coalition includes groups working on same-
. gender marriage issues across the US.
: Formoreinformation or to become a co-sponsor, please call or
: write NOW at 365-5658 or POB 14068, Tulsa 74159.
’the National Organii,
zation for Women will host a post-Valentine’s Day panel focus-
: ing on same gender marriage as part of a national campaign by
: NOWto raise awareness about marriage issues. TheNOWpanel
will be held at Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 So.
: Harvard at 3pro on Sat., Feb. 15. The panel is.co-sponsored by
: Fellowship Congregational Church, PFLAG - Parents, Families
: and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, and by The Pride Center and
¯ Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights. A number of other Tulsa
congregations will likely also be co-sponsors.
." NOWmembers note that they are still finalizing some details
of the program but it will feature a same-gehder couple who’ve
¯ had a marriage ceremony, as well as speakers addressing reli-
Pride Center Begins
i Pledge ’97 Program
: TULSA- President ofthe-PrideCenter, Deb Shames, announced
¯¯ thekickoffofPledge’97,aongoingmembershipandfundraising ¯
campaign to support the Pride Center, Tulsa’s home for the
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans communities. Statues notes
¯ that that Centeris in sound financial shape due to the kindness of :
: groups like the Prime Timers, thegenerosity of individuals and :
¯ the sound management of the ’96 board of directors. However, :
." she adds that utilities.and minor repairs remain and as more ,
¯ community groups nse the facility, thecostrises and the need f0r "_
¯ suPportinereases. ¯
: Communityleaders, DennisNeillandtheRev.LesliePeurose, :
: have agreed to serve as two of the honorary chairpersons of "
i Pledge ’97. Neill who helped found Tulsa Oklahomans for :
¯ Human Rights, the parent organization of the Pride Center, is :
: well respected for his leadership with the City of Tulsa’s Human ,
¯ Rights Committee and the Rev. Leslie Penrose, pastor of the :
¯ United Methodist Community of Hope see Pledge, page 3 :
simply declare marriage to be a union between a man " .
and a woman, mirroring both new federal legislatign " Say No TO Hate Did NOT :
and a 20-year-old state court ruling: The issue was the No. l priority of religious conservatives in the Legisla- :AnnroveCallforWorkplace ture last year, but Thompson’s bill died in the Senate, :--rr -----
" Protections for Gays!
Republicans took over the Senate in the November " ¯
elections, and Majority Leader Dan McDonald, R- ¯ TULSA - Contrary to earlier reports, Tnlsa’s Say No To Hate
Coalition did not adopt a statement calling forjob anti-discrimination
protections that included sexual Orientation along with
race, religion, disability, gender, etc.
According to Deborah Levine with the Community Relations
Committee of Tulsa’s Jewish Federation, the member organizations
of the Coalition did not reject the statement but some
members did havequestions about some of tli~ language. These
objections put the statement on hold until the Coalition can meet
again and revise the language.
Whenasked, Levine stated that she did not think the objections
were to the inclusion of the term, "sexual orientation". This
phrase is needed in order that Gay and Lesbian persons be
protected from anti-Gay bias in the workplace, see Jobs, page 3
: IXITLEROCK (AP)-Twolegislators have agreed
: to help a gay fights groupget basic civil rights for
¯ gays and lesbians written into state law. Sen. Mike ¯ Everett, D-Marked Tree, and,Sen. Jim Argue, D-
¯ Litde Rock, are joining with the Arkansas Noni
Discrimination Alliance tomake it illegal to dis-
. criminate against someone because of their sexual
¯ orientation in such matters as jobs and housing.
: "It’s the right thing to do," said Everett. "I know
: this issue. I have some experience with it because
¯ my son’s gay." Arguesaid it was an issue of basic
: fairness. "And I think there’s substantial public
: support that a person’s employment ought to hinge
: on their job performance rather than their sexual
¯ orientation."
: The alliance was formed after proposals to ban
~ same-sex marriage were filed for the legislative
¯ session. The alliance opposes the proposals but
." discovered through apoll that there’s little support
¯. for same-sex marriage. "Sowedon’tintend to press
¯ that issue," said DebraBailey ofLittle Rock, devel-
¯
opment coordinator of the Arkansas Gay and Les-
: bian Task Force, a founding member of the alli-
¯ In 1995, Attorney General Winston Bryant is-
" sued an opinion that people of the same sexmaynot
: marryin Arkansas, althoughArkansas law does not
." expressly prohibit or permit same-sex marriages.
Ms. Bailey said that the alliance will focus on
¯ discrimination in jobs and housing. Everett and
~ Argue plan to offer the alliance’s proposal as an
¯ amendment to the legislation to outlaw same-sex
: marriages, see Bill, page 3
Revision of OK Hate
Crimes Laws Proposed
TULSA- It’s that time again. The Oklahoma Legislature
is about to re.convene and Lesbians and
Gay political observers in thestate anticipate that
several well known Gay-hating legislators will
introduce one or another bill attacking Lesbian and
Gay citizens as they usually do..
Longdme observers of the Legislature are particnlarly
concerned that new Speaker of the Oklahoma
House of Representatives, Loyd Bensen,
.may allow more anti-Gay legislation to get a hearlng.
Typically any anti-Gay bill only loses if it is
bottled up in committee. Many legislators believe
that any vote that could be characterized as pro7
Gay is enough to get a legislator defeated and
therefore, vote for anti-Gay bills even though they
may not really support them. And then, there are
enough who really are hostile to Lesbian and Gay
citizens.
While Tulsa has no formally organized political
action committee, several Tulsa area political activists
have identified see Hate, page 3
Coming Soon!
Activist Honored:
¯
Community Unitarian Universalist Church will
¯
host a workshop on operating by consensus. The
: workshop will belead by C.T. Butler, the author of
¯ On Conflict and Consensus. The first session will
: be on Sunday, Jan. 19 from 9-10:30am and the
¯
second will be on Monday, Jan. 20 following a
¯ poduck dinner that begins at 6pm. The workshops
¯ will be held at Community of Hope, 1703 East
Second Street. For more information, call Judy
McCormick at 298-4495. see Coming,page 12
INSIDE
Bellevue, says passage ofthelegislationis certain. "We ¯
are hoping it will be a litde less confrontational this ~
year," he said in an interview. "We’re not out to bash .
anybody, butwefeel theinstitutionofmarriageis avery :
fragile thing.andwewantto shore itup." He said the bill ¯
will be sent to the new governor, Gary Locke, who is ;
sworn in next Wednesday. Thompson said he hopes
Locke will follow the lead ofPresident Clintonand sign :
the measure. If Locke vetoes it, it’s quite-possible ¯
enough Democratic votes can be rounded up to over- :
ride, Thompson said. .
The last resort would be #acing the measure on the ¯
fall ballot as a referendum for the people to decide, he
said. "Wedon’twantto go thatway ifwedon’t have to,7 :
Thompson said. He said he sympathizes with critics’ ;
worries that it would be a divisive issue if it goes to the ¯
balloL AtaThursday news conference in Seattle, Locke "
repeated his distaste for the ban bill, but stopped short "
of saying he would veto it, saying he would want to see ."
its exact wording. During the campaign, Locke said he ¯
would sign a Murray-style bill.
Murray conceded his own bill is not acceptable to a "
majority of voters, but predicted ~e,ban wouldn’t pass ¯
muster, either. But he said he didn t want to cede the
legislative arena to the foes of same-sex marriage. "I
realizethis willbe seen as extremeby some, but the anti- "
same sex mamage bill is also extreme," he said in an."
interview, see Marriage, page 3
TULSA - Longtime fundraising activist and Follies Revue ¯
founder and performer, Linda Stevens, was honored by Wash- :
ington, DC’s Whitman-WalkerClinic this fall. The Clinic, which :
provides HIV/AIDS care for the nation’s capital, recognized ¯
Lesbians across theUS for their long-term role, an.d their strength
and commitment, in fighting the battle against HIV/AIDS. "
Stevens’ name was added to the Lesbian Honor Role which is ¯
permanently displayed at Whitman-Walker Clinic.
Stevens Was nominated by John Coney, who s been part of the ¯
Follies since their first performance.. Follies Revue, Inc. which "
raises funds for local HIV/AIDS care andprevention will hold its .
9th performance in 1997.
EDITORIAIJLE’R’ERSR)IRECTORY P. 2
US & WORLD NEWS P. 4
HEALTH NEWS P. 6
ENTERTAINMENTIARTS P. 8
COMMUNITY CALENDAR P. 9
BOOK REVIEW/MEANTTO BE FIT P. 10
RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 11
HIWAIDS & THE LAW/MINDSPACE P. 12-1:3
CLASSIFIEDS P. 14-15
918.583.1248 Publisher + Editor: Tom Neal
Entertainmeqt Writer + Mac Guru:
fax: 583.461.5 James Chris~ohn
PUB 4140 Writers + contributors:
Tulsa, Oklahoma - Phyl Boler-Schmidt, Barry Hens]ey
74159-0140 Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche
Stephen Scott, PME, Gerald Miller
tulnews@ionet.net Lance Brittain, Kerry Lewis
by Tom Neal, publisher/editor
It’s that time again when the Oklahoma
Legislature begins its periodic, absurdist
comedy. This performance usually ends
in disgrace for the people of this state,
especially those of us who are Lesbian or
Gay, Bi orTransgendered. It ismosttragic
for People Living with AIDS (PLWA’s).
One issue that’s come to light from
TFN’s coverage of the HIV Resource
Consortium (I-IIVRC), is that the State of
Oklahoma through our legislature, provides
a tiny, tiny amount of funding
($206,000 according to HIVRC Executive
Director, Sharon Thoele) for HIV/
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So, it al?pears that the
State of Oklahoma is
spending fewer dollars
annually on HIV/AIDS
care than it spent to put
AIDS eare/services. Though this amount
must not include the budget for the HIV/
STD SectionoftheOklahoma State Dept.
of Health, who help administer federal
HIV/AIDS dollars, the amount is hardly
adequate to the need.
Thoele stated that this amount was
contributed begrudgingly, because the
State of Oklahomahad to give something
in order to receive the federal dollars.
And almost all of the dollars going to
HIV/AIDS care are federal. Thocle also
notes that this amount has not increased
since the early 90’s, although the case
see next column
Guy. Frank Keatlng on
his leather overed
airborne toilet seat!
832-1269
744-0896
749-1563
749-4511
749-5678
745-9998
585-2221
834-4234
585-3405
660-0856
584-1308
585-3134
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
*Gold Coast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
*Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st
*Samson & Delilah, 10 E. Fifth
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston
: Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
" AIDS Walk Tulsa, PUB 1071, 74101-1071 579-9593
¯¯ Black & White, lnc. POB 14001,Tulsa74159 583-7314
*Bless The Lord... Christian Center, 2627b E. 11 628-0594
¯ *B/L!G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
¯ *Chapman Student Ctr., University ofTulsa, 5th Pl. &Florence ¯
*CommtmityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703 E.2nd 585-1800
_" Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595
¯ Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648
: *Family of Faith MCC, :5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441
¯ *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777
: *Free SpiritWomens Center,.call forlocation &info: 587-4669
¯ Friend For A Friend, PUB 52344, 74152 747-6827
; Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-Ameiican mens group),
PUB 8542, 74101, call e/o HOPE @ 712-1600
: HOPE, H]VOutreach, Prevention, Education, 1307E.38,2ndfl.
¯ 712-1600, HOPE Anonymous HIV Testing Site, 742-2927
¯
Indian Health Care, TNAAPP 582-7225
: Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437
¯ *MCC of Greater Tulsa, 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715
¯ *HIV Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 749-4194
; NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H- 1 748-3111
: NOW, Nat’lOrg. forWomen, POB 14068,74159 365-5658
¯ *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960
¯ PFLAG , PUB 52800, 74152 749-4901
: *Planned Parenthood, 100.7 S. Peoria 58%7674
¯ *The Pride Center, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor, 743-4297
¯ Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118, 74152 583-1410
¯ *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4195
: Rainbow Business Guild, PUB 4106, 74159 665-5174
: Red Rock Mental Center, 302 S. Cheyenne #108 584~2325
¯ St. Aidan’s Episcopal Church, 4045 N. Cincinnati 425-7882
~ St. Jerome’s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, 646-7116
~ *Shanti Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services 749-7898
_, Tulsa Okla. for Human Rights, PUB 2687, 74101 743-4297
:
Technicians (leather organization) 584-1308
¯ T.U.LS.A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
~ *Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor
¯ *Tulsa Community College, Metro & NE Campuses ¯
*Rogers University (formerly UCT)
: EUREKA SPRINGS ¯
Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy 23 South 501-253-7734
~ *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457
: DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-
¯ 6807 see Jim, page 12
", *Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445
; Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, PUB 429 501-253-2776
¯ King’sHi-Way,96KingSHighway,Hwy.62W 800-231-1442
-" MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 ¯
McClung Realtors 501-253-9682
¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-253-2401
¯ Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659, 800-624-6646 ¯
¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001
OKLAHOMA CITY
: Face Beautiful Day Spa, 7108-D2 N.Westem 405-840-3223
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620
*Assoc. in Med. & Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Baleh & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
*Borders Books & Music, 2740 E. 21 712--9955
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272
*Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 592-1521
Cherry St. Psychotherapy, 1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E 15th 749-3620
*Devena’s Gallery, 13 Brady 587-2611
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria 744-5556
Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial 665-6595
Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial 622-3636
*Elite Books & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337
Express Pools & Spas, 6310 S. Peoria 743-9994
Foxlinx, Computer Consultation 690-2974
Leanne M. Gross, Financial Planning 744-0102
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney 744-7440
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
Robert Holland, Attorney 494-0484
*International Tours. 341-6866
Jacox Animal Clinic, 2732 E. 15th 712-2750
Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, PUB 14011, 74159 747-5466
I_angley Agency, 1104 S. Victor 592-1800
Lean Ann Macomber, Realtor Associate 671-2010
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-3112
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31st 663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Pl 664-2951
*Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard- 747-6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672
Pet Pride, Dog & Cat Grooming 584-7554
’The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2rid floor 743-4297
Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626
Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations, 743-2351
*Scribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
Southwest Viatical 747-3322, 800-305-6384
Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counsding 743-1733
: 10ad has increased by.four times. She also
: noted that even if the amount were in-
¯ creased proportionally to the caseload,
: the original amount wasnot adequate.
: So, it appears that the State of Okla-
¯ homa is spending fewer dollars annually
: on HIV/AIDS care.than it spent to put
¯
Gov. Frank Keating on aleather-covered
¯ airborne toilet seat[ And claims of bud:
¯ getary shortfalls to the contrary, there
¯ seems to be some state money left some-
" where.
¯ A reporter for The Daily Oklahoman
i .(OK.C’s daily newspaper), :who special-
, lzes mcomputer analysis of slate government
records, toldTFN that in addition to
the couple of billion in our state’s regular
budget, that there are "special" accounts
of state dollars that are not included in the
regular accounting. Unless, my middleaged
brain slipped a digiL he said these
special accounts amounted to $800 million.
That’s in addition to other billions!
$800,000,000 versus $206,000. Imagine
a tiny fraction of $800 million, sayg8
million, to makesure that PLWA’s could
actually get these new lifesaving drug
combination therapies, or to see thathousing
and food needs were met. Sadly, you
and I know that this is not likely.
Contrast the State.ofNew Jersey under
rising Republican star, G0v. Christine
Todd Whitman. New Jersey has a budget
just for drug assistance alone of $9 million.
Yes, they are a wealthier and more
populous statebut still thatamountdoesn’t
include any of the other State of New
Jersey dollars for other HIV/AIDS care
needs.
So why don’t we, as a commlmity of
Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals, Transgendered
persons, our friends .and allies
set as our goal for this legislature to try to
increase our state’s contribution, at least
in proportion to the increasein caseload.
Thatwouldbearound $800,000. Whatthe
hell, let’s just round it up to one million.
Imagine a million Oklahoma dollars for
HIV/AIDS care!
But for this to work, eachand every one
Of you reading this will have to stop waiting
for someone else to do this work. You
can’t just wait for Nancy McDonald or
Kelly Kirby or Janice Nicklas to speak ou.t
on these issues. Each of you Will have to
call your representative and your senator
to say that you care about this issue and
thatyou want to see an increasein State of
Oklahoma funding for HIV/AIDS care.
Ifyou don’tknow your representatives,
just call the Election Board at 596-5780
and give them your address. And after
you’ve called your representative (or better,
write them; best ofall ask tomeet with
them.), askyour friends, family and acquaintances
to do the same. I’ve talked
withmy representative and meet withmy
senator next week. Please do the same.
Tulsa Family. News will continue to
provide coverage of issues of concern to
Lesbians, Gay men, Bisexuals, Transgenderedpersons,
ourfriendsand allies
during this upcoming session ofthe Oklahoma
Legislature.Readers should expect
thatOneOr another ofour representatives
will introduce bills, attacking our communities.
We encourage you to develop a
relationship with your representatives to
help prevent these bills’ success.
’~Sometimes the only way to answer a~!
extreme measure is to introduce anoth~
extreme measure." Mtirray said citizerts
might react by urging lawmakers to write
middle-groundlegislation such as theantiemploymentdiscriminationbill.
Murray’s
bill would authorize a civil marriage contract
to provide the same marital benefits
that heterosexual couples get, such as the
rightofinheritance, health coverage, or to
visit a spouse in the hospital.
Lowry’s press secretary, Jordan Dey,
said the governor believes the civil contract
approach avoids some of the moral
or religious overtones of church weddings.
HesaidLowry doesn’tmindlaunching
an uphill fight. ’q’he governor has
stood against discrimination ever since
taking office, and this is another case of
discrimination, pure and simple; denying
people a legal benefit that is-available for
heterosexual couples," Dey said. "It is
important to do the right thing, whether
you lose the first time, the second time,
the third time. This may take a year, 5
years, 10 years, but at some point we will
be free of discrimination."
MississippiAgainst i
Gay Marriage
JACKSON, Miss. (AP) - Mississippi’s
constitution, which once barred people of
different races from marrying, may be
changed to also prohibit same-sex marriages.
The House andSenate are working
onproposals thatwouldkeep Gay couples
frofn wedding. The legislation is m response
to a homosexual rights case in
Hawaii. While a bill that unanimously
cleared a Senate committee Wednesday
makes same-sex marriages illegal, the
HouseConstitutionCommitteeis expected
to go even further, putting a ban before
voters in a constitutional amendment.
"I don’tthink there’s athreatthatpeople
are going to flock to Mississippi to solemnize
a same-sex marriage any more than
they would flock to Minnesota or North
Dakota," said Rep. John Reeves. But
Reeves saidmostMississippians wantthe
state to be on record as supporting only
heterosexual marriages. He said the constitutional
change would preclude gay
couples from filing suit claiming a marriage
law is unconstitutional. The Senate
bill would ban gay marriages in Mississippi
and bar the state from recognizing
marriages from other states.
Rep. Pat Miller said she is not convinced
the issue is important enough to
become part of the constitution but she
expects theHouseand Senatetoban samesex
marriages because "people... will
consider it a vote against homosexual
relationships."
Gov. Kirk Fordice, in anticipation of
that ruling, signed an executive order in
August banning recognition of same sex
marriages. Senate Judiciary Chairman
Bennie Turner, D-West Pint, asked if the
bill was needed, said: "95 percent of what
wepass is notneeded." Rep. MarkFormby,
R-Picayune, said lawmakers are following
public sentiment. "It’s not a fear factor,
or any kind of phobia. To me, it’s not
even finances. It’s a pro-family matter.
The majority of Mississippians do not
approve of that kind of thing"
: port MOnday in the Legisla-tur~ in0nti~-
¯¯ afterCongresspassedalawallowingstates
torefuse to recognize same-sex marriages
: from other states.
¯ HouseMinority Leader Steve Sviggum,
¯ and the sponsor of aHouse bill, noted that
¯
US Sen. PaulWellstone, andPres. Clinton
¯ both endorsed a ban on same-sex mar-
: riages. "I can’t imagine the legislators of
¯ Minnesota getting to the left of Sen.
¯ WellstoneorPres.Clinton,"Sviggumsaid.
¯ State law requires marriages to be be-
: tween members of the opposite sex, al-
: though it doesn’t specifically prohibit
¯¯ same-sex marriages.
¯ Sen. Tom Neuville, who sponsored a Senate banbill, said the Minnesota Legis-
¯ lature should act so it will not be forced
¯ under the U.S. Constitution to rex~gnize
-" gay marriages performedinHawaii. "Mar- "
: riage is an institution between men and
: women . . . it’s the best institution for
¯ raising children and avoiding poverty."
¯ Marriage also is a contract, which
: Nenville believes could be exploited if
" same-gender marriages were legal. For
¯ example, if a man had cancer, he could
¯ marry a male friend for health insurance
: benefits, Neuville said. "It will cause all
¯ sorts of social chaos," he said.
¯ , BuLAm-~-D~,ui.....ecuuve alrector
of the Gay and Lesbian Community Action
Council, said abuse is unlikely be-
: cause of the harassment gay couples face.
¯ "Peoplearen’t going tojnst do this so they ¯
get some sort of a deal," she said and
¯
, added that the council would vigorously
fight the proposed bans. Both she and
¯" Senate President Allan Spear, who is gay,
¯ believe the matter ultimatdy will be de-
: eided by the U.S. Supreme Court.
Minnesota Too?
ST. PAUL (AP) - Proposals to ban gay
marriages were winning high-profile sup-
: Wyoming Anti-Gay
i Marriage Bill
¯ CASPER, Wyo. (AP) - About one-tenth
~ ofWyoming’s lawmakers have filed abill
¯ that would explicitly declare same-sex
." marriages void in Wyoming and sped.fy
¯ such marriages from other states are m-
: valid in the Equality State. One of the
: bill’s sponsors, Rep. Rodney "Pete"
¯ Anderson, R-Pine Bluffs,triedunsuecess-
¯ fully to introduce a bill last year barring
: same-sex marriages.
: Wyoming’s bill - House Bill 94 -
: wouldn’t viol.ate Wyoming’s Constitu-
¯ tion, which guarantees equal political and
: civil rights to men and women, Anderson
¯ said. That’s because state statutes already
: make specific that marriage is between a
¯ man and a woman, he said. "We’ve de,
¯
fined marriage," Anderson said. "We’re
justsaying our defmitionis going to stand."
¯ Same-sex marriage should be illegal
: because of the economics involved and
: because "I don’t feel it’s according to
¯ nature," saidbill co-sponsor State senator
¯ Dick Erb. "As I told a group of high ¯
school kids, ifyou were arancher and you
: had a gay bull, what would you do with
; him?" said Erb. "One kid said, ’I’d take
¯ the sucker to the packing plant,"" ¯
Anderson said he believes homosexu-
: als shouldhave equal rights under thelaw.
; But he said his main reason for sponsor-
, ing the bill was economics - "so our
¯ companies will not have to give health
: insurance to (spouses in) those kind of
: marriages." "I like those people," said
¯ Anderson. "I don’t like their lifestyle but
I don thave aproblem w~th~t.., we re not
: saying they can’t live together, we’re
¯ just saying they can’t have the same privileges
or responsibilities a man and a
¯
woman have in marriage in the state of
~ Wyoming."
Theamendment would say that nothing
in the legisl~ition would prevent employer~
from "extending benefits to persons
v~ho are domestic partners of employees
or allow employers to discriminate against
employees because ofsexual orientation."
People discriminated against "because of
sexual orientation, real orperceived," shall
have the same rights to seek redress as
employees covered by the state’s civil
rights law, which was adopted in 1993.
David Ivers of Little Rock, an attorney
and founder of the Gay and Lesbian Alliance
Against Defamation, said he gets
calls from people saying they were fired
for being gay. "They are simply amazed
or shocked to find out there is no legislation
protecting them. They assume that if
they haven’t done anything wrong, that
they have a right to file a lawsuit and get
reinstated," he said.
reform of Oklahoma’s Hate Crimes Stat-
¯
ute as akey part of their !e~slative agenda
for the Lesbian]Gay community this year.
These activists also mentioned increased
funding forHIV/AIDS carefrom the State.
Oklahoma’s Hate Crimes Statute penalizes
crimes against individuals or organizations
that are motivated by racial or
religious bias but does not recognize
crimes that target individuals or groups
because oftheiractual orperceived sexual
orientation.
: One state representative, speaking on
¯ condition of anonymity, recalled that the
: original hate crimes bill may have included
sexual orientation but that that
: language was removed to help get the bill
¯ passed. She noted that just getting a bill
," addressing racial and religious issues was
¯ an accomplishment given what she char-
: acterized as a lack of much tolerance by
¯
Oklahoma legislators for minority citi-
¯ zens. She added the bill’s passage was a
~ much a testament to the skills and charac-
¯ ter of former representative Vicki Miles-
: Lagrange who’s now a federal judge.
: A spokesperson for Tulsa Oklahomans
¯ forHumanRights (TOHR) stated that the
: organization which is a member of the
¯ Say No To Hate Coalition will be asking
¯ other Coalition members to lobby ae- ¯
tively for an expansion of the Oklahoma
¯
Hate Crimes Statute. Other members of
¯ the Coalition include the National Con-
¯ fereuce (of Christians and Jews), Tulsa
: Metropolitan Ministry, the City of Tulsa
¯ Human Rights Commission, the Jewish
¯, Federation and several others.
¯ The Pride Center has agreed to act as a
: contact point for those who are interested
¯ in addressing these issues. Callers should
¯ leave their names and numbers for the
¯" Hate Crimes issues list with Deb Trevino
¯ at 743-4297.
i Related Stories:
Colorado Hate Crimes Bill
DENVER (AP) - A bill to expand
Colorado’s hate crimes law to protect
: homosexuals has been introduced in the
¯ Senate. It’s the second session in a row
¯" such legislation has been filed by Sen.
¯ Dorothy Rupert, D-Boulder. "It’s going
¯ to be tough fight, but I think weneed to do
this," Rupert said Monday. The bill died
; last year under election-year pressure to
¯ protect moderate Republicans.
¯ "I wanted so much last year to have a
¯
floorvotebutwas persuadednottodoso,"
state’s 1988 ethnicinlimidationlaw makes
it a crime to single out anyone for criminal
action because of race, color, ancestry,
religion or national origin. SB 10ft
would expand the law to include sexual
orientation, age, and physical or mental
disabilities.
Wyoming to Consider
Hate Crimes Issues.
CASPER, Wyo. (AP) - Religious and
humanrights groups that wereunsuccessful
in past attempts to pass a law enhanc-
¯ ingpenaldesforhatecrimes will try again
this year. Janet deVries of the Natrona
: County Grassroots Project said the Wyo-
¯ ruing Grassroots Coalition ~ a group of
¯
human rights organizations with offices
: in Natrona, Albany, Laramie, Sheridan
¯ and Teton counties - has teamed up with
¯ the Wyoming Church Coalition to sup-
, port a bill in the legislative session.
," Thegroups are seeking lawmakers from
¯ both sides of the aisle to sponsor abill that
would increase penalties for people who
¯ commit crimes motivated by bias based
," on race, religion, disability or sexual ori-
¯ entation, she said. The Wyoming Church
: Coalif!on~dpressed simil~ bills in the
: 1994 and 1995 legislative sessions.
¯ Chesie Lee, vice chairwoman of the
: Church Coalition said the proposal has
¯
gained bipartisan support. She said she
¯ believed the bills offered in the 1994 and
¯ 1995 sessions could have passed if they
: had made it to a final vote.
¯
Ms. DeVries said increased penalties
¯ for hate crimes are justified because such
¯ offenses affect groups of people rather
than individual victims. "If a Jewish fam-
¯
ily has a swastika painted on their house,
¯ it terrorizes the entire Jewish commu-
¯ nity," she said. She noted the bill applies ¯
only to crimes and not speech, which is
¯ protected by the First Amendment.
: The state Department of Investigation
¯ said there were 13 crimes in Wyoming
¯
involving bias in 1995. Casper Public
¯ Safety Director Art de Werk said a hate
: crime law would give officers a new tool
¯ to help reduce crime while "making a ¯
statement by warning people that there
: are enhanced penalties" for committing
¯ such crimes.
¯ on Lesbian]Gay and HIV/AIDS issues.
¯ Several others have beeninvited tojoin as
¯ wdl.
¯ Individuals, families,andorganizations
: are encouraged to become members.
: While the Center is open to all who share
¯ the values of the organization, only mere-
¯
bets may vote and will receive informa-
~ tion, newsletters,etc.Thosememberswho
~ make a pledge will be recognized at the
¯ Pride Center unless they specifically pre-
: feranonymity. For apledgepacket, please
¯ call the Pride Center at 743-4297.
¯ term would also protect heterosexuals
: against workplace discrimination but it
," is rare for heterosexuals to be.the target
¯ of workplace bias.
¯ At press time, the Coalition did not ¯
have any meetings scheduledbuthadbeen
¯: asked by a representative of member or-
: ganization, Tulsa Oklahomans for Hu-
¯ man Rights, to schedule a meeting to
: address this issue.
is also well knownfor her advocacy work
Strictly speaking, the inclusion of the
City,to Businesses:
Equal Benefits Required
SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - San FxTmcisco is about to
make a unique demand on thousa~tds of companies -
extend health insurance and other benefits to their
employees’ same-sex partners, or forget about doing
business with the city.
A new ordinance will affect many of the roughly
10,000 U.S. companies that contract with the city to
provide everything from banking services to office
supplies. Critics call the policy ill-conceived and
costly, approved without ample study or public notice.
"We don’ t think it’s good public policy for the
city to tie its hands in the way this ordinance mandates,"
said Dennis Wyss, a spokesman for Bank of
America, the nation’s third-largest. "We think San
Francisco taxpayers get the highest-quality services
for theirmoney when the city keeps its options open."
SupporterssaY it’ s abasic anti-discriminationmeasure
aimed at granting all unmarried domestic partners
- although most of them in San Francisco are
same-sex couples - the same rights enjoyed by wedded
couples. "It would be important to me even if I
dida’ t have a partner, simply as a moral matter," said
Joe Leslie, a 52-year-old assistant vice president at
Bank of America who, with his partner Michael,
stands to benefit from the policy. Leslie said he and
Michael are "as loving as any married couple that
ever walked this Ear~," --.rod.for co-workers’
to receive better benefits is simply unfair. "We do the
same work, our spousal status is virtually the same.
(Yet) they get benefits I don’ t get," Leslie said.
The Gap, Levi Strauss & Co. and the Walt Disney
Co. already have started domestic parmer policies. In
San Francisco, Bank of America officials have discussed
such a policy but have not enacted it. "If it’ s
good enoughfor Mickey Manse, it’ s goodenonghfor
San Francisco," said city SupervisorTomAmmiano,
the measure’ s co-author. The city’ s Board of Supervisor
gave the ordinance unanimous approval after
considering it sincelastFebruary. MayorWillieBrown
signed it in early November. Brown and .Amrniano
said it is the first such city ordinance in the nation.
Ammiano said politicians in some other cities, including
New York and Seattle, have inquired about
the measure.
HateCrime Protections?
COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) - Protecting gays from violence
is the right thing to do, one lawmaker says. But
a lobbyist for a top state official says adding such
language to ahate crime bill would divide the General
Assembly and torpedo the legislation.
Lawmakers, who open the 1997 session in two
weeks, are expected to consider two versions ofabate
crime bill. One offers protection against crimes motivatedbyhatred
ofgays’ sexual orientation; the other
does not. Both bills, which are expected to be introduced
early in the session, would stiffen prison sentences
when prosecutors prove the crime was moilvated
by hatred because of race or religion.
Crimes against blacks, including recent church
bumings, prompted the legislation. But state Sen.
Darrell Jackson, a black Columbia Democrat, says
the measure should go one step further. "I look
forward to convincing people that you don’ t have to
be a supporter of gay rights to believe no one should
have crimes committed against them because of their
sexual orientation," Jackson said.
CamCrawford, lobbyist for state Attorney General
Charlie Condon, said Condon does not want to inelude
gays because the issue is so divisive it would
kill the legislation. "Nobody has demonstrated to us
that there’ s a problem with (people being attacked
because of) sexual orientation," Crawford said. "If
they can show us a problem, then we’ll cross that
bridge when we come to it."
Federal statistics show four South Carolina hate
crimes against gays in 1994, compared with 23 racial
hate crimes, two motivated by religion and one motivated
by etlmicity. Tony Snell, co-chairman of the
South Carolina Gay and Lesbian Pride Movement
Said the group is gathering information for legislators.
Many gays either do not report attacks to police
or do notreport themotivation for the attacks, Snell
¯ said. Some gays arein the closet, while others expect
," to encounterbias from police. "I know people who
: havebeen attacked, and even shot, whowill notreport
¯ it as a hate crime," Snell said. =
¯ HIV+, Gay aWmaker
-" CHICAGO (AP) - Being gay and HIV-positive has
." shaped some of Larry McKeon’ s views, but the state
¯¯ representative-elect says there’ s alotmore to him. "I
¯ bring a lot of things to the table. Being HIV-positive
isjust one ofthem," says McKeon, who willbe sworn
: in as a member of the House when the 90th General
¯ Assembly opens Jan. 8. Gay activists, who say
: McKeon is the state’s first openly gay legislator,
: cheer his election as the start of a new era in Illinois
: politics.
¯ Rich Garcia, executive director of the Illinois Fed-
: eration for Human Rights, said McKeon won the
: respect of many as Mayor Richard Daley’ s liaison to
¯ gay andlesbianleaders. "I predicted either the mayor
¯ would hate him or he would deny this community," ¯
Garcia said. But McKeon won the mayor’ s trust and
¯ the trust of divergent factions within the city’ s gay
¯ and lesbian community, Garcia said.
McKeon, 52, a former lieutenant in the Los Ange-
: les County Sheriff’ s Department, says he just wants
¯ to be seen as a hard-working man whose sexual
¯" orientation is irrdevant. That may be difficult in the
,,
¯ o~m,._~,^ut,._.,..............h,.=.,-,.=..la.w..m.n..k.e.r~. roufinely re’’3e~t Pr.ogay
legislation, but McKeon’ S straightforward sty|e
." andworkhabits shouldhelp, friends say. "Justbybim
¯ being there, he’ll be saying to people, "Look at me, ¯
rmjnstlike everybody else," said Rep. Carol Ronen,
: D-Chicago.
". McKeon says fears of some constituents that he
¯ will represent ouly a"gay agenda" are unfounded. He
: says he cares most about healiug society’ s problems
¯ - the focus of his campaign literature. And while
¯ living with the shadow of AIDS has helped shape his
: opinions, McKeon says, "it isn’t the essence of who
: Gay Dad Wins Court Fight
: SEATTLE(AP)-Orderingagayfathernot to display
: affection with a partner in front of his four children
¯ was going too far, a state appellate panel has ruled in ¯ overturning portions of aWhatcom County Superior
¯ Court decision. "We hold that the trial court erred by
¯ restrictingWard (Wicklund)’ s conduct based on his
sexual orientation," said a Monday ruling from the
: state Court of Appeals’ Division 1 bench.
¯ ’q’he evidence showed only that the children expe- ¯
rienced difficult), adjusting after their parents’ sepa-
¯" ration," three justices wrote. "But where the only
: harm is adjustment, the remedy is counseling, not
¯ restrictions on the parents’ lifestylein terms of sexual
: orientation." The court reversed those restrictions,
¯
and similar ones imposed on the children’s mother,
¯ Corrine Wicklund. She had been ordered not to par-
¯ ticipate in displays of affection-"handholdiug, ldss-
¯ ing, etc." - with a significant other in front of the
: children"unless the parent is married to the person."
: The appellate judges found the trial court had
abused its discretion by restricting parental rights on
¯" grounds of sexual preference. There was no evidence
~ thatWicklundbehaved inappropriately in front ofhis
¯ children, they noted. "Problems with adjustment are
¯" the normal response to any breakup ofafami ly," they
: wrote. "But restrictions on a parent’ s conduct de-
" signed to artificially ameliorate changes in a child’ s
¯ life arenotpermissible. "Iftheproblemis adjustment,
: the remedy is counseling.... The trial court should
¯ have considered whether to order counseling and
¯. should not have entered improper restrictions on
Ward’ s conduct."
" Psych.ologists Support
¯ Gay H=gh School Groups
¯ TUCSON, Ariz.. (AP) - Gay high school students
¯
need support groups, and school officials should
¯ adopt anti-discrimination policies that includehomosexual
students, a statewide group says.
¯ In letters sent Wednesday to 360 high school coun-
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selors across the state, the Arizona Psychological
Association urged school officials to allow gay student
support groups. "Even if students do not attend
support groups, just the knowledge that there is support
for them is a ben~fi~,~.~, said Tucson psychologist
Jean Baker, a mem156r of the association’s Gay and
Lesbian Issues Task Force.
Theletters were sent one day after Republican Rep.
Dan Schottel announced he intends to sponsor legislation
requiring public schools to ban gay support
groups from access to campuses. The veteran Tucson
legislator said his bill would apply from kindergarten
through university levels. Theproposal is expected to
be patterned after legislation approved in Utah last
year. That law allows.school districts to deny access
to clubs that "materially or substantially encourage
criminal or delinquent conduct, promote bigotry or
involve human sexuality.Y
Baker said banning gay support groups effectively
sanctions harassment against homosexuals. "It could
take away the one place where gay students can talk
to someone," she said. Gay teens are at high risk of
depression and suicide because they feel isolated, the
association said. ’‘The purpose of the support group is
to provide a safe place- a place to be who you are,"
saidTam De Witt, aTucson High School nurse. "It’s
a group for people to gain support and friends."
Schottel’s proposal targets groups like those at Desert
View High School in Sunnyside Unified School
District and Tucson High Magnet School in Tucson
Unified School District. Both groups were studentinitiated.
Montana’s First Lesbian
(or Gay) Legislator
HEI .ENA (AP)- Rep. Dianesands, longtime activist
for. homosexual and women’s rights, wants to be
known for more than being Montana’s first openly
gay legislator. "This may be naive," the Missoula
Democrat said, "but I think it’s irrelevant."
Listing her partner, former legislator and Missoula
CountyCommissionerAnnMaryDussault, in abooklet
summarizing the background of all 150 lawmakers
shouldn’t be a big deal, Sands. said. "I am who I
am." "I guess I’ll wait and see if it’s going to be a
problem," she added in the midst of her first week as
legislator. "Hopefully, people will realize I’mjust an
effective legislator and a nice person."
Sands, 49, grew up in a cauldron of discrimination
and injustice on an eastern Montana Indian reservation.
Shehas made acareer out ofbattling thoseforces
ever since. After three decades of advocating civil,
racial and sexual rights, Sands was appointed to the
House District 66 seat vacated by Mike Kadas last
year after he was named mayor of Missoula. She was
unopposed in the November election.
House Minority Leader Vicki Cocchiarella, DMissoula,
said Sands’s familiarity withissues and the
Legislature is impressive. So is her ability to get
along, she added. "Diane is one of thefew people that
I have encountered who, as a lobbyist, has always
been real receptive to others’ ideas," Cocchiarella
said. Her openness about her sexual orientation "will
be a liability if other people don’t give her a fair
chance," she said. "If people want to make a b,!g issue
of it, then that’s the kind of people they are.
Montanans Still Want
to Ban Gay Sex
HI~.! .ENA (AP) - A majority of Montanans want to
keep on the books a state law prohibitinghomosexual
sex, and a plurality favor a law banning so-called
partial-birth abortions, anew poll has found. The poll
was conducted for the Lee Newspapers of Montana
on issues likely to face the Legislature that convened
Monday.
The Lee poll indicated that Montanans don’t want
to strike from the books a law prohibiting homosexual
sex. Fifty-seven percent of those polled want
the law to remain intact, compared to 31 percent who
wantitrepealed. The poll also showed that 52 percent
of those queried want the 1997 Legislature to enact a
law outlawing homosexuals from getting married,
while 39 percent opposed such a measure. It showed
¯ that 46 percent of those questioned ~avor, a gtate’law
¯ to ban late-term or So-called partial-birth abortions,
while 32 percent oppose such a measure
:Harassed Teacher Dies
GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (AP) - The stress from
¯ months of anti-homosexual sentiment in a small, ¯
conservative town could have contributed to the
¯ death of a gay teacher, apathologist says. Dr. Stephen
: CoMe said Gerry Crane, 32, had a floppy heart valve,
¯ a condition that usually is not fatal. He died Jan. 3, a ¯
week after suffering a heart attack. "In a small per-
: centage of patients, (the valve) can be lethal," said
¯ Cohle,. who performed an autopsy. CoMe also found
¯" scars in the heart muscle. As for Crane’s experience
: inByronCenter, aGrand Rapids suburb, "itmay have
." put him over the edge," the doctor said Tuesday.
¯ Crane resigned last summer as music teacher at
: Byron Center High School, saying the anti-gay atmo-
¯ sphere in town was like "ingesting poison." The
¯ school board had considered firing himinDecember ¯
1995. Instead, itcondemnedhomosexualityandprom-
" ised close scrutiny.
[ Morethan900people, including some students and
¯ teachers, attended Crane’s funeral Tuesday at
: Westminster Presbyterian Church in Grand Rapids..
: "He taught our children to sing, and in a world where
: ugliness is gaining on us, can you think of many
¯ greater gifts?" the Rev.WilliamEvertsberg said. He ¯
said Crane and partner Randy Block had a strong
¯
relationship. In a subtle jab at Crane’s opponents,
: many of them religious conservatives, Evertsberg
¯ said: "Maybe we’ll learn family values from people
: who aren’t supposed to have any."
¯ Crane’s friends advised Byron Center Principal
: William Skilling to stay away from the funeral. In
¯ Skilling’s evaluations of Crane, before his homosexuality
was learned, the teacher was praised as a
¯" "role model for our students." But by last June, a
¯ monthbeforeCraneresigned, Skillinghadthreatened
¯ to recommend his firing if he mentioned anything in
: class about homosexuality.
"Ellen" Comes Out
- Sort Of
NEW YORK (AP) - At a rock ’n’ roll fantasy camp
with David Crosby, Bonnie Raitt and Aaron Neville,
theTV character"Ellen" belts out a song with an eyeopening
last verse: "By the way, I’m gay. It’s OK. I’m
gay!" Just don’t expect to See this particular episode
on ABC anytime soon.
ABC executives have confirmed the monthsdong
rumor that they are considering a story line on"Ellen"
where comedian Ellen Degeneres’ character reveals
she is a lesbian. During a show taping Friday,
Degeneres cut three takes of a segment where she
sings a song, "I’m Scared of Being Afraid," according
to Touchstone Productions, which makes the
show.The third take included the unscripted "coming
out" declaration, which sources said was greeted by
wild cheers.
ATouchstoneofficial saidprivately thatDegeneres
was blowing off some steam after hearing that her
show was-being taken off the air during March and
April to make room for a new Arsenio Hall comedy.
"It’s not intended for a telecast. It is not going to be on
any telecast," said ABC spokeswoman Janice
Gretemeyer. ABC Entertainment President Jamie
Tarses said last week that a"coming out" episode was
being worked on, but that the network wants to see if
it works creatively beforemaking a decision on going
ahead.
The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation,
whichmaintains an"Ellen watch" pageon the Worldwide
Web, criticized Tarses for "waffling" on the
story line since rumors began last fall. "We hope they
stop dragging their feet," alliance spokesman Alan
Klein said Monday. ’’The American public is ready,
willing and able to see this as soon as possible."
cnentust to earcn
for AIDS Vaccine
CAMBRIDGE, Mass. (AP) -~Ever since
the HIV virus and AIDS were detected,
thebulk of scientificresearch has focused
on treating those already infected- not or
finding a way to halt the spread of the
disease. Now, the National Institutes of
Health has commissioned a Nobel prizewinning
MIT professor to help breathe
new life into the search for an AIDS
vaccine. "There are thousands of people
infected daily and our goal would be to
prevent thoseinfections," said David Baltimore,
who will spearhead the new NIH
committee.
About a year ago, a study by 114 scienfists
who supportedAIDS research set out
a series ofguidelines for theNIHresearch
program. Tops on the list was reinvigorated
AIDS vaccine research, said Dr.
William Paul, director of the NIH’ s Ofrice
of AIDS Research. "We will only be
able to conquer this disease ifwe are able
to devdop a vaccine," Paul said. "We
need good drugs, but we recognize that
treatment isn’ t going to solve our problems."
New drugs to treat symptoms of
AIDS have shownpromiserecently. Combinations
of drugs called protease inkibitors
have been slowing symptoms and
giving hope to HIV-infected patients.
Still, there’ s been no sign of a cure.
Since 1988, more than 15 AIDS vaccines
have been tested, but so far none has
proved successful. Although several vaccines
are in early stages of clinical trials,
it’s too soon to tell whether they will
work, Paul said. "But our position is that
we cannot rely on that. This is too important
a problem not to be planning for the
eventuality that these vaccines maynotbe
as effective as we would wish," he said.
Enter Baltimore, who won the Nobel
Prize in 1975 for his discovery of the
reverse transcriptase enzyme - the basic
enzyme by which HIV is able to multiply.
NIH’s top AIDS scientists hope Baltimore
will help guide them to a cure. "He
combines both rare insight with a very
strong technical background," Paul said.
Attempts to find a vaccine have so far
followed the approach of vaccine developmentforothermajorillnesses.
Butwhat
worked for polio andmumps has not been
working for AIDS, said Didier Trono, a
molecular biologist at the Salk Institute
for Biological Studies in San Diego.
Baltimore plans to assemble a panel of
experts to come up with new approaches
to finding a vaccine. It’ s something Baltimore
has been thinking about already for
more than a decade; in 1985, he headed a
national AIDS panel that recommended
an increased research effort. The Nobel
laureate will continue as a professor at the
Massachusetts Institute of Technology,
splitting his time between Cambridge and
the NIH.
In 1996, N!H spent $109 million on
AIDS vaccine research and has increased
funding to $129millionfor 1997; theNIH
spends $400 million each year on research
for AIDS treatment.
Since the onset of the AIDS epidemic
more thanadecade ago, 29millionpeople
worldwide have become infected, Paul
said. Currently, theleading cause ofdeath
in the world is tuberculosis, with an estimated
3 million people dying annually.
But with 3.1 million new HIV infectious
each year- and still no cure-it’ s simply
amatter of timebeforeAIDS becomes the
world’s number one killer, Paul said. In
the United States, roughly 80,000 new
AIDS cases are diagnosed each year.
For his part, Baltimore remains opti-
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¯ found. But,he said,"Ihavenoidea whether
¯ we’regettingcloseornot.It’ soneofth..os~
¯ things that you only know you have v~e~
: you have it."
i More Moms with
i AIDS But Fewer
i Babies with HIV
¯ COLUMBUS,Ohio (AP)-Manyexpect-
¯ ant women infected with the AIDS virus
." now are being treated with the drug AZT
¯¯ duringpregnancy, labor and delivery, and
that has contributed to a drop in the hum-
; ber of babies born with HIV, state health
¯ officials said.
~ "This is one of the few true preventive
¯ strategies thatweactually have," Dr. Tho-
." mz.~ Halpin, chief ofpreventive medicine
¯ for the Ohio Department of Health, said
: last week.
¯" But thenumberofwomendiagnosed with
HIV still is increasing. Health officials
¯" said screening, testing and education also
have contributed to the decrease in HIV
: births.
"We are seeing mixed (rends here,"
said Carol Lyune O’ Neil, health program
¯ coordinator with the Columbus Depart-
. ment of Health. ’‘There is a low rate in
." pediatric cases ... but more and more
." women are being diagnosed."
¯ A 1994 study by the National Institutes
of Health showed that AZT could reduce
¯" HIV transmission during pregnancy by as
¯ much as 70 percent. In November, the
¯ state Health Department released guide-
," lines for preventing perinatal HIV transmission
and HIV testing of pregnant
women.
¯" The department recommended that all
: pregnant women and any women considering
becoming pregnant should receive
¯ HIV educationandcounseling. Also, they
: should be encouraged to be tested for the
¯ AIDS virus.
¯ Dr. Michael Para, director of theAIDS
clinical trials group at Ohio State Univer-
¯
sity Medical Center, .said although AZT
¯ appears to prevent transmission, the
: mother has to be diagnosed with HIV in
¯ the first place. ’’This is one of those things
." that will require vigilance," he said. "One
: has to stay on top of it to make sure
: infections in kids doesn’ t go up."
¯ HIV-infected pregnant women should
not be coerced into receiving AZT, but
: they should beinformed ofits potential to
.. reduce the risk of HIV transmission, authorities
said.
¯ HIV can be transmitted from mother to
: baby during pregnancy, labor, delivery
¯ and during breast-feeding, and transmis- ¯
sion occurs about 25 percent of the time.
¯ Physicians will have to better screen pa-
: tients and provide HIV testing, Para said.
¯ ’‘The number of infected kids are down ¯
this year," he Said. "But they won’t be
: down next year if you don’t watch it
; closely."
i AZT &Cancer Link?
WASHINGTON (AP) - A study that
found high doses of the AIDS drug AZT
can cause cancer in the pups of pregnant
mice has prompted federal health officials
to re-evaluate the use of the drug
among pregnant women who are infected
with the virus.
A committee of AIDS and cancer experts
will meet next week at the National Iustitutes
of Health to develop recornmendadons
on the use of AZT. But for now,
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health officials said Tuesday, pregnant
women who,are infected with the AIDS
virus should’continue taking the drug.
,-:hVhether the drug will have the same
effect on human babies is uncertain because
pregnant women take much lower
doses of the drug, she said. A panel of
experts will evaluate the issue at a meeting
Tuesday and come up with recommendations,
she said. Federal health officials
now recommend AZT for pregnant
women who are infected with HIV, the
virus that causes AIDS. Thedrughas been
shown to significandy reduce the transmission
of HIV to newborns.
Randall said that babies born towomen
taking AZT .are being medically monitored
and none has been found to have
developed cancer. But she said the children
are no older than 4 and must be
monitored for many more years to get
definilive answers about the effects of
AZT.
Dr. Jack Killen, director of the AIDS
division of the National Imdtute of Allergy
and Infectious Diseases, Said, "At
this point, we’ re trying to figure out what
these findings mean, precisely, and what
the implications are... I think it remains
very, very clear that the benefit ofAZT in
this setting vasty outweighs the hypothetical
or potential risk."
Another recent study, at Mount Sinai
School of Medicine in New York, indicated
that HIV-infected women reduce
theirrisk oftransmitting HIVduring childbirth
by two-thirds if they take AZT.
AIDS Drugs for Kids
WASHINGTON (AP) - A special program
from a drug company offers children
infected with the AIDS virus free
doses of an experimental drug known as a
"protease inhibitor." It is the first time
American children could get this type of
medicine outside small doctor-run tests.
Agouron Pharmaceuticals is seeking
Food and Drug Administration approval
of its Viracept, known chemically as
nelfinavir. If approved, the drug could
become the nation’ s fourth protease inhibitor,
a powerful class of AIDS drugs
credited with revolutionizing AIDS care.
Yet none of these drugs is available in
pediatric form, sparking protests from
parents who say they’ re watching their
~hildren die.
Agouron last month became the first
company to seek simultaneous FDA approval
for adult and child forms of a
proteaseinhibitor. While theFDAisevaluating
the drug, it gave Agouron permission
to run an "expanded access" program
offering Viraceptfree to any HIV-infected
child age 2 to 13.
The pediatric version is apowder that can
be mixed into milk, formula or soft foods
such as pudding.
Right to Die Case
WEST PALM BEACH, Fla. (AP)- The
last living patient in a lawsuit seeking the
right to diesurvived to take the stand and
tell of indescribable pain and suffering
and why he should be allowed to die with
Charles Hall is, suing the state for the
right to die. Herolled his wheelchairup to
a courtroom microphone Monday to tell
his story of pain and a ravaged immune
system. ’:I can’ t even describe the pain," a
haggard and pale Hall said. ’q’here are
some days I don’ t even remember. I don’ t
think anybody should have to suffer."
Hall barely survived a bad bout with the
¯ A 128-year-old law is the only thing
: standingbetwecn Hall andadoctorwhois
¯ willing to give him alethal dose of drugs.
: The doctor isn’ t willing to violate the law
¯ - a felony punishable by up to 15 years in
¯ prison- and Hall t01d aWest Palm Beach
-" judge he shouldn’t have to. Circuit Judge
¯ S. Joseph Davis will decide whether or
not Hall and his doctor should be able to
decide to end the AIDS patient’ slife.
’q’he resolution will have a profound
impact onhow people die in our society,’"
said Michael Gross, the Florida assistant
attorney general representing StateAttorney
Barry Krischer of the 15th Circuit in
WestPalmBeach. Suicideremains acommon
law crime for good reason, Gross
said. The state has no way of evaluating
theindividual’ s motives andcompetency~
and it must protect vulnerable citizens
from abuse, he said.
The U.S. Supreme Court sent a message
when it allowed the removal of life
support and noted that such action was
disdncdy different from introducing alethai
agent to hasten death, Gross said.
Extending the right of assisted death to
terminally ill patients could later be applied
to minors and the mentally incompetent,
he warned.
Hall, who contracted acquired immune
deficiency syndrome through a blood
transfusion, takes up to 40 pills a day for
pain and to stave offpneumonia and other
viruses that routinely attack his weak immune
system. During his testimony, Hall
listed the health problems that promise to
cut his life short: a brain cyst, hepatitis B,
no feeling in his bladder, herpes, arthritis
andpartial blindness. Hall wants thejudge
to issue an injunction to stop prosecutors
from charging Dr. Cecil Mclver with a
crime if he assists in Hall’ s suicide.
"The two of them want to be left alone
and free from government interference,"
said Hall’ s attorney, Robert Rivas.
Hall and his lawyer are arguing that the
Florida Constitution grants special privacy
rights entitling him to choose physician-
assisted death.
Coincidentally, the U.S. SupremeCourt
will hear similarlegal argumentsWednesday
in two right-to-die cases.
The trial is taking place in West Palm
Beach before Davis because it’ s the seat
of thejudicial circnit where Mclver pracrices
medicine and would be prosecuted.
The trial, which began Monday, is expected
to wrap up next week.
Elizabeth Taylor
Benefit for AIDS
PASADENA, Calif. (AP) - Elizabeth
Taylor’ s upcoming 65th birthday will be
celebrated with a televised star-studded
bash fcaturing never-before-seen footage
of the actress’ s life and career. But Miss
Taylor said Wednesday that it~s neither
her life nor her career that will be the toast
of the night.
The black-tie gala- "Happy Birthday,
Elizabeth" - "A Celebration of Life" -
will benefit the Elizabeth Taylor AIDS
Foundation for distribution to a varie~ of
AIDS research and treatment orgamzafions.
Among the celebrities will be !ongtime
pal Michael Jackson, who is composing
a song entitled "Elizabeth" especially
for the event. Other celebrities taking
part include Whoopi Goldberg, John
Travolta, MagicJohnson, Roseanne,Tim
Allen and Ellen DeGeneres. The twohour
gala will be taped Feb. 16 at the
Pantages Theatrein Hollywood. It will be
broadcast on ABC later in February.
by James Christjohn ~
Happy New Year! Hope eeeryone survived
their familial visitations over the
holidays, if you had to make them. Going
home to my family is much akin to appearing
as Saturday Night Live’s Smart
Smalley in "Smart Saves his Family".
Well, maybe not quite that bad, but dose
enough. Let’s just say I have gotten in
: last 5 years.
¯¯ Arrive at the B~ady Theatre at 7p,m£or....
cabaret seating ($75.00 per persod, in-
" dudes buffet and 2 drinks), and 8pro for
¯ regular seating ($25.00 per person). The
: show begins at 8pro,andCDsofRichard’s
." recordings will be sold. $10.00 of each
¯ CD purchased will be donated to Inter-
: faith AIDS and Our House. Tulsa Opera
touch with my "Inner.
Stuart". Truthbe told, IAM
Stuart Smalley...without
the sweater. Which is kind
of scary, but that’s...OK.
Because I own my
scariness...Andthat’ s...OK.
Told you I was scary. And
no comments from the peanut
section! (And that indudes
you, Mr. Editor!)
Philbrook Show
The Philbrook Museum
ofArt,2727S. Rockford, is
pleased to present
"America Unseen: People
& Place", on exhibit Jan.
19- March 9.
The exhibit explores aspects
ofAmericanpictorial
art from the ’20’s - ’50’s,
and includes works by
Norman Rockwell, John
SteuartCurry,Thomas Hart
Benton, Edward Hopper,
Walker Evans, Dorothea
Lange, Isabd Bishop, &
others.
TheSentimental Journey
Big Bandwill perform Feb.
2at3pminthePatti Johnson
"America Unseen:
P oph & Place",
on exhibit
Jan. 19- March 9.
The exhibit
explores aspects of
American
pictorial art from
the ~20’s -’50’s,
and inehdes
works by Norman
Roekwefl, John
Steuart Curry,
Thomas Hart
Benton, Edward
Hopper, Walker
Evans, Dorothea
Lange, Isabel
Bishop, & others¯
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las. I enjoyed
can provide more info at
582-4035.
Local Author Mark
Shepherd
Local author Mark
Shepherd has been kind
enoughtoinformTFNthat
the first book in a new
fantasyanthology series he
has partidpated in, specifically
created for the
gay/lesbian audience, will
be arriving in bookstores
this year. WhiteWolfPublishing
will be releasing
the "Bending The Landscape"
series. March 1997
will see the release of
’.’Bending The landscape:
Fantasy", followed by
"BendingTheLandscape:
Science Fiction" in March
1998; and "Bending The
Landscape: Horror" in
March 1999. (Saving the
family holiday stories for
last, eh?). Markhas abook
out, ’~Elvendude", that is a
great read, especially if
you’re familiar with Dalhall.
Ticketsmay bepurchased at the door it immensely, and it has
for $6.00.
Two gallery talks will be given for
"America Seen", Feb. 27 at 5:30pm &
March 7 at noon. Each Sunday in February,
"America Seen" will bepresented via
guided tour at 2pro by experienced docents.
On Thursday, Feb. 27, a special
evening of entertainment is planned. A
lecture/performance by Dr. Guy Logsdon
on the life and times of Woodie Guthrie
will take place at 7pro. A print sale will
occur on that evening and Friday as wall.
For info, call 748-5307.
Tulsa Ballet Theatre
Tulsa Ballet Theatre presents "Le
Tricorne: ACelebration of Spain", staged
by Susanna Della Pietra, premiering in
OklahomaFeb. 7-9 at the PAC, accompanied
by the Oklahoma Sinfouia. Also on
the bill are The Four Temperaments by
Balanchine, and the Pas de Denx from
Sylvia, staged by Victoria Simon and
Frederic Franklin, respectively. Tickets
range from $9 to $57. For reservations/
info call TBT at 749-6006, or the PAC at
596-7111.
Tulsa Opera
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
Our House
Mark February 15 on your calendar for
the "Cabaret Night with Richard Lalli &
GaryChapman: Songs in theKeyofLove"
concert, benefiting the Tulsa Opera. Mr.
Lalli and pianist Gary.Chapman will be
performing songsfromthe 20’s -40’s,and
may feature the works of Cole Porter,
Irving Berlin, the Gershwius, Harold
Aden, Sondheim, Kern, Weill and
Bernstein; as well as Ives, barber, Copland,
and Carter. Both Mr. Lalli and Mr.
Chapman have performed at Jessye
Norman’s annual holiday, party for the
_- become a favorite addition to my perma-
¯ nent collection. He has also co-written a ¯
fantasy book with another local favorite,
Mercedes Lackey. Check them out, er,
¯ better yet, purchase them (Sorry Mark,
: Mercedes, bad choice of words) at the
¯ local bookstores. Mark also has a new
¯ book0fhis ownon the way, and I willpass
¯ along that info as soon as I know more.
: Support our local authors!!!
: Borders Books & Entertainment
: Borders Books and Music has a lovely
," series of musical performances in their
_" care lined up for January. On the 17th at
¯ 7pm, TirkWilder, known for writing the ¯
theme to "Walker: Texas Ranger", will
¯ make an appearance; on the 18th, The
: Light Crust Doughboys, the oldest country
band in the world, will perform west-
: em swing at 3pro, and at 7, the Larry
HammettTrio willjazz things up a bit. On
¯ the 19th at lpm, David Flores and Steve ¯
¯ Bake. r provide their comtemporary jazz
¯ stylings, and at 4pm, the Steve Hamm
¯ String Quartet will provide a classical
." atmosphere. Onthe24th, Whirligig whirls
¯ into town at 8pm, and the Will Campbell
: trio perform at 2pm on the 26th. Poets, on
." the 30th at 8pro, bring your stuff to the
¯ cafe for Poetry Reading night. On the
: 3 lst, dosingoutthefirstmonthofthenew
." year, the Mimsies will givesus some
: acoustic funk at 8pm. Best of all,it’s free!
¯ Broken Arrow
¯" Community Playhouse.
¯ BACP presents "Laundry and Bour-
-" bon" & "Lonestar", two one-act corn-
; edies, lmnning 2/7-2/16. Tickets are $6-
¯ $10, and can be reserved at 258-0077.
: Community Support Groups?
: If anyone in the community is inter-
: see Jim, page 12
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Songs in the Key ofLove
Saturday, February 15, 1997
8:30pm, Brady Fheater
A Cabaret Night with
Baritone Richard Lalli &
Pianist Gary_ Chapman
to benefit
TULSA OPERA
Cabaret Seating at 7pm, $75 with Buffet
Call Tulsa Opera at 582-4035
Regular Seating, $25 thro’ Brady Box Office
582-7239 & Dillard’s, 800-654-9545
ALSO
CD’s by Richard Lalli will be available
& a portion of sales will benefit
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
and Our House
~/~o FOUR TEMPERWAiMthENthTeS ba,rtdillPiaasndtedeDseiguxnsfroomfPiScYaLsVsIAo
Tulsa Performing Arts Center. with the Oklahoma Sinfonia
TICKETS $9 - ~57 Discounts available
For tickets call: 749-6006, 596-7111, 584-2000
Performance sponsored in part by The John Steele Zink Foundation,
Sarkeys Foundation and Texaco, Inc.
1996-97 Season sponsored in part by
T U L S A PHILHARMONIC
~SUNDAYS
Bless the Lord At All Times Christian Center
Sunday School - 9:45am, Service - 11 am, 2627b East llth, 583-7815
Community of Hope (United Methodis0, Service - 6pro, 1703 E. 2rid, 585-1800
Community Unitarian Universalist Congregation
Service- 1lain, 1703 E. 2nd, 749-0595
Family of Faith Metropolitan Community Church
Adult Sunday School, 9:15 Service, 11 am, 5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
Metropolitan Community Church of Greater Tulsa
Service, 10:45am, 1623 North Maplewood, Info: 838-1715
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Network (ORYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
PrimeTimers
Social group for men, 1st Sun/each mo. 4-6pm, Pride Center, 1307 E. 38th
University, of Tulsa Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay/T’ransgendered Alliance
6:30 pm at the Canterbury Center, 5th & Evanston, 583-9780
~ MONDAYS
HIV Testing Clinic, Free & anonymous testing. No appoinlment required.
Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm Results: 7-gpm, Info: 742-2927
PFLAG, Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays
1st Monday/each mo. 6:30pro, Fellowship Congregational Church, 2900 S. Harvard
PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group
2rid Monday/each month, 6:30 pm, 4154 S. Harvard, Info: 749-4901
I~- TUESDAYS
HIV+ Support Group, HIV Resource Consortium 1:30 pm
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-l, Info: Wanda @ 749-4194
Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. H!V/AIDS Support Group, and Friends & Family H!V/AIDS
Support Group - 7 pro, Locafious, call: 749-7898
Alternative Skating 8:30 - 11 pro, 241-2282, $4, Sand Springs Skate
Pride Center Community Meeting Feb. !8, 7 pm
1307 E. 38th, 2nd floor. Info: 743-4297
(=IP WEDNESDAYS
Bless The Lord At All Times Christian Center
Prayer & Bible Study, 7:30 pm 2627-B Fast llth, Info: 583-7815
Family Of Faith MCC Praise & Prayer - 6:30 pro, Choir Practice - 7:30 pm
5451-E South Mingo. Call 622-1441 for info.
TNAAPP, Tulsa Native American AIDS Prevention Project
Support group for Gay & Bi Native American Men - 6 pm
Community of Hope,1703 E. 2nd, 582-7225 or 584-4983
I~" THURSDAYS
Co-Dependency Support Group - 7:30 Family of Faith, 5451E S. Mingo, 622-1441
HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education
Anonymous HIV Testing, Testing: 7 - 8:30pro, Results: 7 - 9pm, Info: 742-2927
Oklahoma Rainbow Young Adults Network (ORYAN)
Support/social group for 18-24’s, call Red Rock Mental Health at 584-2325
Tulsa Family Chorale, Weekly practice - 9:30pm, Lola’s, 2630 E. 15th
PFLAG Family AIDS Support Group, 1st & 3rd Thurs. 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901
Substance Abuse Support Group for persons with HIV/AIDS
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G, 3-4:30 pro, Info: 749-4194
l~" FRIDAYS
SafeHaven, YoungAdults Social Group, 8pm, 1 st Fri/eaehmo. Pride Ctr., 1307 E. 38th
I~" SATURDAYS
Mixed Volleyball, No winter games - call 58%6557 for more info. "
St. Jerome’s. Church, Mass - 6 pm Garden Chapel; 3841 S. Peoria, Info: 742-6227
Narcotics Anonymous, Confidential support forlrecowering addicts -~ 11 pm,
Community:of Hope,1703 E. 2rid, Info: 585-1800 . " -
I~" OTHER GROUPS
The Technicians, Leather organization, info: 621-5597
T.U.L.S.A. Tulsa Uniform & Leather Seekers Association, info: 838-1222
TCC Gay & Lesbian Student Association, Southeast Campus. Info: 631=7632
SWAN-Single Women’s Activity Network, info: 832-2121
Womens Supper Club, info: 584-2978
Enjoy "A Musical~"with the
Tulsa Philha,vrronic on Thursday, Fe~eary 6 or
Saturd~ F~,ua~y ~.~at ~p.m. ink
Patti Johnson Wilson Hall of the Phil~ook
Conductor Search FinalistAndre’ Raphel
Smith will lead the TulsaP~in selections
from Mozart, Res~/_’~.~ (The Birds) and
Britten. Call 747-PHIL to reserve your seat,
READ ALL ABOUT IT
Reviewed by Barry Hensley
Tulsa City-County Library
The simple action of moving
to a new neighborhood
results in profound ramifications
for the attractive protagonist
of Greg Bills’ new
novel Fearful Symmetry. Peter
Keith, the artistic
twentysomething heroandnarrator,
has finally found a new
condo in Los Angeles within
his budget. On moving day,
Peter is intrigued with ahandsome
neighbor, Chaz Lambent,
who is shamelessly hosing
himself down after a run
with his dog in the California
su~ Chaz,andhis wifeMuriel,
immediately latch on to Peter
and begin showering himwith
generosity.
Unaccustomed to such attention,
and on the rebound
from afailed romance, Peter’s
emotional state allows him to
be drawn into the Lambent’s
world of fashion, theater and
high dollar collecting. The
Lambents are the darlingsof
the in-crowd, throwing excitingparties
and relishing their
position as an admired, and
"desired, couple. Their appeal,
though, has a darker side.
Peter’s infatuation with the
" he becomes entangled in their eccentric
¯¯ sexual web, and he begins to realize that
they are mentally disturbed and danger-
On moving
day, Peter is
intrigued with
a handsome
neighbor,
Chaz Lambent,
who is
shamelessly
hosing himself
down after a
run with his
d~.o$ in.the
Calilorma sun.
Chaz, and his
wife Muriel,
immediately
latch on to
Peter and
begin showering
him with
generosity.
ons. They are so engaging,
however, Peter foolishly allows
the Lambents to take advantage
of him and only by
finally cutting off all communication
with them does Peter
save his sanity and his life.
This book is a page-turner,
as thereader sympathizes with
Peter’s character as he becomes
embroiled in the
Lambent’s destructive lives.
But, occasionally, given what
Peter knows about his neighbors,
and considering how
bright he apparently is, it is
improbable that he would allow
himself to be continually
controlled and abused, physically,
sexually and mentally.
If the reader can overlook this
unlikely scenario, and simply
enjoy the bizarre events that
keep Peter absorbed, this is an
intoxicating read that is reminiscent
of some of Dennis
Cooper’s writings.
Check for Fearful SymmetryandGreg
Bills’ othernovd,
Consider This Home, at the
Readers Services department
of the Central Library, or give
them a call at 596-7966. You
can also order it through your
Lambents slowly rams to distress when " local branch library.
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by Stephen W. Scott, PME
Did the holidays get to you?Amassage
may be just what the doctor ordered to
reliveyouofthis problem. The
holidays mayhavebeen a seasonfor
giving but don’tforget
to give to yourself. Massage is
one of the most useful and
easily obtainedforms oftreatment
in the field of physical
spatherapy andoverall health.
Let’s consider the benefits of
massage therapy.
In this post-holiday season;
treat yourself to one of the
f’mest experiences life has to
offer- agreattherapeuticmassage.
Once you have had one,
it’s easy to get hooked, and
soon becomes difficult to
imagine life without a massage
on a regular basis.
A therapeutic massage is
simply the systematic healing
art ofmanipulating soft tissue
(skin and muscle). This manipulationcanresultin
arange
of benefitS to your 0ver-idl
health and well-being. Studies
conducted in the united
States and throughout the
A therapeutle
massage is
simply the
systematle
healing art
of
manipulating
soft tissue..¯
This¯¯¯
eall rP~odt
in a range of
benefits to -
your over-aft
health and
well-being.
¯ When used as a consistent, systematic
~ regimen prior to emergency conditions,.
¯ therapeuticmassagewillprotectthebody’s
own natural prevention and
healing processes.
Benefits of therapeuticmassage
include an increased efficiency
of the immune system,
increased blood and
lymphfluids, increased respiratoryefficiency
throughdeep
breathing, substantially reduced
effects of stress and
stress related problems, a reduction
in blood pressure and
reduced tension-relatedhead--
aches. Massage also reduces
muscle spasms and stiffness,
reduces the healing time of
pulled muscles, sprains an
swelling and speeds the removal
of metabolic waste
products, allowing more nutrients
to reach the cells, Massage
promotes better posture,
helps to provide complete
body and mind relaxation,
improves muscle tone and
helps preventordelaymnscular
atrophy resulting from
forced inactivity; hdps return
worldhavefactuallydocumentedtheben- : venous blood to and reduces strain on the
efits of therapeutic massage: feeling bet- ¯ heart, and helps to eliminate edema
ter. That, in fact, is the goal of every : (dropsy)of the extremities.
,h,ea~i_~g art known to man. With all the : This is just a sample of the many benbody
scoinplexsystemsinworkingorder ." efits of therapeutic massage therapy. In
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healthy and, consequently, feels good. ." quality massage.
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by Jean-Pierre Legrandbouche
TFN Food Critic
Days of snow and ice and brisk prairie
winds canmake even themost
devoted Oklahomaphile a bit
testy, and this Januaryhas been
one of those more challenging
times¯ The people of Europe
often f’md the need to escape
winter’s grasp as well, and they
most generally go on holiday
to the sunny Mediterranean.
A Mediterranean cruise
might not be in the budget for
an evening s entertmnment, so
we have to just pretend, and
look for a Mediterranean regional
restaurant to get that je
ne sins. qua atmosphere for a
relaxing, fun evening. When
we thinkofMediterranean, we
think of Greece, Italy, Spain,
and France: We’re really not
in the mood for a gyros sandwich,
so there goes the Greek
option, andTulsadoesn’thave
a-Spanish restaurant (Mexican
isn’t the same, and, by the
way, for those ofwho going to
seeEvitaand then doingMexican,
Argentine isn’t the same,
either). French would be a
wonderful comfort food in the
winter, but, alas, the talented
culinary triumvirate of Curt
Herrmama, Marjorie Alexander,
and Thomas Radcliffe
had their last weekend at
Montrachet, and have left the
restaurant to develop theirown
gourmet take-out food concept.
So, there isn’t a decent
French restaurant in town any
more.
That leaves us with Italian. Shall we go
to the faux-Italian, market study driven, ¯
Olive Garden for cardboard pasta and
wallpaperpaste sauces (theydohavegood
salad and breadsticks)? Maybe a little ¯
overcooked spaghetti at a pizzajoint?We :
think not. But, voila!, there is a rathe "
secret,unknownItalianrestaurantinTulsa
whichoffers delicious, madeto orderfood
with trained staff and elegant service.
And, surprisingly, it is hidden away in a
shopping center in east Tulsa.
Ti Amo hides on the end ofa strip mall, ¯
east of the Albertson’s grocery store at :
21st and Memorial. It’s a bit hard to f’md,
but it’s well worth the effort. ¯
With a menu having a wide variety of
styles "representing the whole of Italy," ."
Ti Arno’s forteis Sicilian style cuisine. As "
you know, the island of Sicilly is in the
Medit.err~ean, offthe boot of Italy. It has "
an ancient culture and cuisine, and due to
it’s island isolation, has preserved more
authentic old Roman style cooking techniques
than the main country of Italy.
And, sitting in a major ancient shipping :
lane, Silicianos have ofthadexotic spices,
such as saffron and curries, toincorpomte ¯
into theirrecipes. Seafood tins also played
an Important role in the Sicilian diet. :
All diners are greeted with a comple- ¯
mentary dish ofbmscetta,, whichis a slice
oftoast topped with agarlicky tomato and :
olive oil salsa. Fresh soups aremadedaily-
-the zuppa di giomo--and lovely fresh, ¯
green salads are served family style.
Thebiggestchallengeis seleetingone’s
entree. Just want a simple plate of spa-
Ti Amo
8151 E. 21st
Cuisine:
Italian
Ambiance:
Dressy
Luncheon:
Mon.-FrL 11-2
Evenings:
Mort-Thurs. 5-9
Fri-Sat. til 10
Sundays ll-9pm
Reservations
advised on
weekends.
Smoking Area?
Not distinct
enough from
non-smokind.
Full bar aria
wine list.
Payment:.
Cash, Amencan
Express,
Diners’ Club,
Visa,
Mastereard.
No cheeks.
Rating: A list
ghetti? Well, which sauce? Pesto?
Napolitana? Bolongese? Marinara?
Carbonara? Aglio? These are the authentic
recipes. And, as with any
respectable Italian restaurant,
pastaisn’tlimited to spaghetti.
the tortellini alla pauna is a
delicious pocket of pasta
stuffed withricottacheeseand
sauteed in a cream-cognac
sauce ($8.95). Particularly
mouth-wateringin therigatoni
con gorg.onzola, big tubes of
macarom sauteed with fresh
broccoli and served in a
creamy gorgonzola cheese
sauce ($9.50). You can get a
fettucine Alfredo ($8.95) or a
fettucine vongale ($8.95),
whichis sauced with ared or a
white clam sauce. Keep in
mind that all of these sauces
are made the traditional way,
with fresh cream and butter
and freshly graied Italian
cheeses - none of the thickeners
and extenders you see in
lesser restaurants.
The lasagna al fomo is a hit
controversial. It is dry. But,
it’s supposed to be dry, because
that is the Sicilian way.
So, don’t expect one of tho~e
huge, gooey mounds like they
serve at the Spaghetti Warehouse.
Whilerecognizing their
salute to lasagna tradition,
personally, we don’t care for
the lasagna. Especially, since
there are so many other truly
wonderful dishes from which
to choose. Meat based entrees
alsoabound. Thechickendella
casa ($10.95) is a flavorful
chicken breast with green peppers,mushrooms,
and asparagus in a white wine
~?mesancream sauce. Vitello allaTiAmo
12.95) is a fork-tender piece of veal
sauteed in a cream sauce with artichokes
and walnuts. Worth every calorie. The
shrimp coriana ($12.95) features figs and
¯ peppercorns. An orange roughy fillet
: ($12.95)is preparedmeuniere and topped
-" with pesto butter. One can also have the.
exquisite filletto bordelaise ($14.50), a
gently preparedbeeftenderloin withmushrooms,
burgundy, sundried tomatoes, and
herbs and spices.
For dessert, several selections are always
available, but the signature item is
strawberries alia TiAmo. Much like a
cherries jubilee, the strawberries-are
cookedin a variety ofliqueurs andpoured
over a big scoop ofvanillaice cream, then
topped with whipped cream. Always save
room for the strawberries.
Service at Ti Amo is generally pretty
good. They strive foranefficient andwall
trained work staff appropriate to a"white
tablecloth" restaurant. The ambiance is a
little on the/.,as Vegas side, with large,
round, red vinyl booths lining the walls of
the main dining room, but regular tables
are available, as well. There is a full bar,
and a decent wine list, though one not
featuring as many Italian wines as one
might.
Ti Amo is a restaurant well-deserving
of it’s name, which in English, is translated,
"I love you." Once you fred and
experience this place, yon’ll loveit. It’s an
Italian adventure well-worth the search.
Who Decides What
Happens to Your Body?
Disposition ofbodily r~ains canbe an
emotionally difficult subject. Many biological
families agree to carry out the
expressed wishes of their family members
withHIV/AIDS. Unforttmately,family
members sometimes disagree about
the disposition of bodily remains, espedally
whether to be buried or cremated
and whether or not ashes should be interred.
Such disagreements can be very
stressful both for the person with H!V/
AIDS and to his or her survivors.
Oklahomalaw has no specific law governing
instructions for the disposition of
bodily remains. However, generally, the
legal spouse or next of kin holds the right
to possession and custody of the body for
burial o~ cremation. Other states have
specificlaws designed to givepersons the
right to express a preference for disposition
of the body after death.
In light of these practical and legal
problems, if you have a preference about
the disposition of your body, you should
make a dear, written expression of your
wishes. You may choose to include funeral
and burial instructions in your Will.
While such instructions may not be leers;
or a suicide survivor’ s group (for who
have suffered the loss of a loved one due
to suicide), let me know: Any mental
health care professionals who might care
to offer advice or suggestions on starting
up any oftheabovegroups wouldbemore
than welcome to call me at 583-1248.
Actually, I have an affirmation for the
column : "I have the choice to livemy life
in wellness., or to get sick and wallow in
all that attention." - Shanti Goldstein.
(and it s so appropriate for a friend I ve
been dealing with lately - meow! .I must
stop, reading the restaurant rewews -
they rehaving aterribleinfluenceonme! )
But seriously folks, I have had a major
go-round withamajor depressive episode
recently and it was not fun. And while
there are many wonderful support groups
out there, I would feel much more comfortable
with Gay/Lesbian comrades.
Here is some information regarding
depr.essio.n I’ve found helpful. What depress~
on ~s:
* Depressionis anillness, in the same way
that diabetes orheart disease are illnesses;
* Depression is an illness that affects the
entire body;
* Depression is an illness that I in 5
people will suffer during their lifetime;
* Depression is the leading cause of alcoholism,
dru~ abuse and other addictions;
* Depression is an illness that can be
successfully treated in more than 80% of
the people who have it;
* Depression is an equal-opportunity illness
- it affects all ages, all races, all
economic groups and both genders, and
all orientations. Women, however, suffer
from depression twice as muchasmendo,
as do Gay folk compared to straight.
* About half of the people suffering from
depression do not get proper treatment;
* Untreated depression is the number one
cause of suicide; and
* Depression is second only to heart diseasein
causinglostworkdays inAmerica.
What depression is not:
* Depression is not something to be
¯ gaily binding, it is a written, witnessed
: and notarized Statement of the client’s
: wishes which puts the personal represen-
¯¯ tative of your estate in a much stronger
position tomake sure that your wishes are
." carried out. Oneproblemwiththis method
¯ is that theWillmay notbe available at the ¯
time of death and may be discovered too
¯ late to be useful.
: Anotheropfionis to express yourwishes
"~ in a separate signed and witnessed docu-
: ment whichnotonly contains instructions
¯ as to what is to be done with your bodily
~ remains, but also provides someone with
: the authority to carry out your instrac-
: lions. The designate person should then
¯ be given a copy of the document, which ¯
should be put in a place that is easily
"- accessible twenty-four hours a day. Fur-
"¯ therprotection canbeprovidedbypreparing
aburial orfuneral plan, andby making
~ specific arrangements with a particular
¯ funeral home.
: If you are HIV positive or have AIDS,
¯ and you would like legal help with the ¯
Disposilion of Bodily Remains or other
: HIV/AIDS-related legal issue, ask for
¯ Darlene Shadid at the AIDS Legal Re-
: source Project at (405) 521-1302 (collect
: calls accepted).
¯ ashamed of;
¯ * Depression is not the same thing as
feeling blue or down;
¯ * Depression is nota eharacterflaw orthe
signbf a weak personality;
¯ Depression is not a mood someone can
snap out of, (Would you ask someone to
sndp out ofdiabetes?) and
¯ Depression is notfully recognized as an
illness by most health care insurance providers.
Clinical depression is sometimes referred
to as a major depressive episode.
Episodes are usually a result of Major
Depressive Disorder, but they can also be
associated with other disorders. It appears
that clinical depressions can be caused in
¯ a number of ways.
¯ Clinical depression is not j.’ust feeling
¯ unhappy. A clinical depression can inelude
a low mood, hopeless feelings, and
¯ loss of interest or pleasure in almost all
¯ usual activities andpastimes. Some of the
¯" common symptoms are a feeling of deep
¯ sadness for at least two weeks without
¯ letup and any five of the following:
¯ * Trouble sleeping or sleeping toomuch; ¯
* Not caring anymore about work, hob-
" bies, friends or sexual activity;
¯ * Self-recrimination for things in the past
¯ or present;
." * Feeling tired all the lime or finding
: everything an effort;
¯ Having trouble concentrating ormaking
¯ decisions; ¯
* Loss of appetite or loss of weight;
: * Eating more than usual and gaining
¯ weight;
: * Thoughts of suicide or considering a
¯ way of dying;
: * Frequently ~eeling on the verge of tears
¯¯ or weepy;
* Waking up early in the morning, with
¯ difficulty returning to sleep;
¯ * Feeling worse in the morning;
¯ * Feeling anxious or irritable;
~ * A gloomy view of the future;
~ * Physical pain or headaches; and
¯ * Cravings for certain foods ;
¯ Most people experience these syruptoms
for months before seeking treat-
¯ ment. Being depressed is painful and it
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" the bottom is expected to have a will of
¯ his/her own and to know when to express
¯ ’itas well as whento relinqnishit,a"Daddy/
¯ boy" relationship is probably what you
¯ want. The participants are allowed to, by
¯ the parameters of their relationship, show
¯ genuinely their love for one another.
Age is not a determining
factor in this type of
relationship. "Daddy"may
be the passive or active,
dominant or submissive
partner. It is all open to
negotiation and discovery.
A"Daddy"may havemore
than one "boy" as well as
the "boy" havingmorethan
one "Daddy".
scott smithertun, who
is no longer with us, had
this to say in Leathersex, "i
have the freedom to play, a
safe place to do it, and a
’Daddy’, whichmeanslots
of love and a nurturing relationship
wiih a lot of
growth." A "boy" can be
any age. Part of being a
"boy" is giving up decisions.
"Daddy/boy" rela-
SM at all. What is needed
¯ -is a strong figure - a"Dad"
and someone who wants to be more like
¯
"Dad". "Daddy/boy" relationships cannot
: exist without love. A "Daddy/boy" rela-
¯ tionship can take you right up to the edge ¯
of a Master/slave relationship. But it
¯ doesn’ t have to go that way. In order for a
_" man to be a "boy" he must have honesty,
¯ a sense of fun, and a need for a strong ¯
"father figure" in his life even if he has a
¯ good relationship with his father and a
: desire to learn from and be like "said
¯ strong person".
¯ The satisfaction a "boy" gets out of
: being a"boy" is thejoy of ajob wall done
¯ and the love of a good"Daddy". In terms ¯
¯ of collars, a"boy" shouldwearwhat their
"Daddy" tells them to. A "boy" should
¯ never wear someone else’s collar or locks
¯ without"Daddy’s" permission. Ifyou are
: happy being a "boy", and you are a man,
¯ your manhood is assured. Manhood sire-
¯ plymeans youare ahuman male, and you
¯ ~ need to be that "boy". A "boy" is not
always in "boy mode". There are times
: when Daddy doesn t need me in
: mode", but it is dependent on "Daddy’s"
¯ needs, not mine. A "Daddy" can expect ¯
undying loyalty from a "boy".
¯ There will be two or three more col-
* unms in this series and i hope this series
: will help you better understand one view
: of leather relationships. Until next time...
lance brittain
(editor’s note: in this column, the terms
"boy", "girl ", etc. are used symbolically
to refer to the balance ofpower in relationships
only between consenting adults.
Neither the writer nor this newspaper
encourage or condone any inappropriate
or illegal behavior involving
minors.)
One would be surprised
at thenumerous versions of
relationships in the leather
community as wall as the
characteristics. One thing
that is of importance is the
fact that there is no one set
definition for how these relationships
should be defined.
The parties involved
make the rnles as they go
along for what is right for
them may not be right for
others. Also, gender is not
specific. Leatherpeople
people can choose to live
together, choose toberoommates
with no sexual contact
or other, more formal
relationships. Some of the
posslolnue~ ~C: .........
Mistress/slave","Mommy/
Daddy/boy/girl", "animal/
owner" and leather families.
One of the situations may involve two
people who only participate in leather in
private. Another may be the couple who
participate in leather on and off. They
might have leather weekends as well as
"vanilla" weekends. Sometimes, one
memberof acouplemay develop an interest
in leather and after talking it over with
his/her partner, may decide to venture out
to take care of their needs. Another possibility
is to bring a third into the relationship
which can be on the same level of
commitment or not.
The "Daddy/boy" arrangement seems
to be the relationship of choice for many
leathermen. Joseph Bean, author-of
"Leathersex", feels that people who are
destined to he"Daddies" tend to bepeople
who do not have a deep need to be perceived
as extremists or outsiders. He also
feels that a person destined to be a "boy"
must share their"Daddy’ s" willingness to
be in a leather relationship that does not
seek outwardly to outrage.
If you want a relationship where the
"Top" is dominant not only "by definition,"
but also because of his strengths
and the admiration the "bottom" has for
him; where there is respect flowing both
ways within the relationship; where one
party admits to learning and both parties
are accepting ofgrowthandchange; where
may feel like it will never end. Without
treatment symptoms can last for months,
or years. Proper treatment can help over
80% of those who sufferfrom depression.
Some depression will disappear eventually
without any treatment,, though this
can takemanymonths or sometimes years.
.Currently there is no sure way of predicting
when an episode of depression will
end. Treatment may be recommended,
rather than simply waiting.
Since depression may be caused by a
combination of factors, a combination of
One would
surprised at the
numerous versions
ot~ relationships
in the
leather eommunlty
... the {act [is]
that there is no
one set de~nltlon
for how these
relationshi.~s
should be ddined.
The parties involved
make the
ru!e~ ~ they do
¯
treatments may be necessary. Some of
¯
theseare psychotherapy, behaviortherapy,
¯¯ and medication. An individual treatment
is organized between patient and doctor.
: Psychotherapy is a method of talking
¯ about your concerns with your therapist to
: identify problems and seek solutions.
¯¯ Cognitive-behavioral therapy focuses on the negative beliefs and behaviors com-
" monly seen in depression. Antidepressant
¯ medication is prescribed to get the mind ¯
and body working in a,reasonable way
¯
again, allowing you to think clearly about
: problems in your life that may be contrib-
¯ uting to the depression.
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Every person being pierced has the right...
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- to be pierced with a brand-new, completely
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- to be touched only with freshly sterilized, appropriate
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- to know that ear-piercing guns are NEVER appropriate,
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Do you have enough information to
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These written interpretations are a
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Dec. 15, 1996- Jan. 14, 1997, v. 4, #1
Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual & Trans Communities
Dr. Elders Urges Black
Churches to Fight AIDS
OKLAHOMA CITY (AP)- Black churches must join
forces to educate their communities about the dangers
of AIDs and the need to practice safe sex, Dr. Joycelyn
Elders said Saturday.
Elders, the former surgeon general:, told a gathering at
Mount Carmel Baptist Church that one out of every 350
black men is infected with the HIV virus, compared to
one of every 800 white men and one of every 650
Hispanic men. Among women, one of every 1,000
black women is infected, compared to one of every
15,000 white women, she said.
New medicines and treatments have nearly turned the
deadlyvirus into more of a chronic disease people can
live with for years, Elders said, but the numbers will
keep g~owing unless youfig people are educated. Beside~
education, Elders emphasized the use ofcondoms
and providing dean needles to drug addicts as deterrents
to transmitting the disease.
She applauded four teen-age girls who told the group
they took vows of abstinence, but said 70% of those
vows are broken by the time high school is finished.
’I’he vows ofabstinence are broken far more easily than
the latex condom is," Elders said. "When I was your
surgeon general, I tl~ink you remember people would
call me th~ condomqueen. Well, I Want you to know, I
put the crown on my head and sleep in it:"
see Elders, page3
:HAWAII HONEYMOON? ¯ HONOLULU (AP) - Joseph Melillo believes waiting six years
¯ to get ,m,arried is long enough. "That’s an awfully long engage-
¯ ment," Melillo said.Wednesday ~p~r~0judge put on hold the first ruling inAmericanhistory that all’~ws g~y marriages. Melillo and
¯ his partner, Pat Lagon, will have to wait at least another year: The
¯ staywill remainineffectuntil arulingby the state’s highestcourt. ¯
That court ruled in 1993 that Hawaii’s ban is unconstitutional
¯
unless the state could, show a compelling government interest in
¯ preventing gay mamages.
¯ In. issuing the stay to his own ruling, Circuit Judge Kevin
Chang said there would be confusion if gay couples got married
¯ and then the high court overturned his decision. "We kind of
¯ expected it, but we’re not happy with it," said Melillo, who sued
¯ the state along with Lagon and two lesbian couples.
Chang said Tuesday that the state had failed to show any
¯ compelling state interest in denying gay couples the right to
¯ marry, and he ordered the state to begin issuing themlicenses. It
was the first such ruling by a judge in the United States.
¯ The dispute prompted passage of a federal law signed by
¯ President Clinton that says the federal government will not
¯ recognize gay marriages and allows states to refuse to recognize ¯
such unions licensed in other.states. In addition,16 states have
’ passed laws denying recognition of gay marriages.
¯ DeputyAttorney General Rick Eichor sought the stay, arguing
¯ that allowing couples to marry immediately would undermine
the state’s case. "If hundreds, or even thousands, of gay mar-
" riages take place, the Supreme Court probably won’t even hear
¯ the appeal," he said. Eichor also argued that the three gay couples
who sued for the right to marry would suffer no real harm if their
: right to marry were delayed.
Dan Foley, the lawyer who represented the couples, said he
¯ found that argument incredulous. He said his clients already had
suffered from delays in the case. "I hope it won’t take long to
¯ convince the Supreme Court that Judge Chang’s ruling was i correct," Melillo said.
And nearly two months before the opening of the state Legis-
¯" lature, same-sex marriage already has become an issue.
: Newly-elected Rep. Bob McDermott on Thursday called for
¯ Senate President Norman Mizuguchi to replace Matt Matsunaga
¯ and Avery Chumbley as co-chairs of the Senate Judiciary Corn-
: mittee. Matsunaga and Chumbley both opposed a constitutional
¯ amendment banning same-sex, marriages. Matsunaga, who won
re-dection despit~e being targeted for his stand on the issue, says
: the matter should be left to the courts.
," McDermott said heis concerned .that legislation prohibiting
¯ same-sex marriage will not be given a fair hearing in the Senate
¯ Judiciary Committee. Samer~ex marriage was a factor in
McDermott’s ouster of Democrat Len Pepper in the Nov. 5
: general election, see next column
¯ US & World Reaction: Arkansas
¯ LHTLE ROCK (AP) - Moving to follow a new
federal law, lawmakers filed legislation Friday that
¯ would ban same-sex marriages in Arkansas. The
¯ measure was among the first bills pre-filed in the
: House to be ,introduced in the Arkansas General
Assembly that convenes Jan. 13.
¯ Arkansas family law defines marriage as a civil
¯ contract between consenting parties. A provision
relating to issuing a marriage license to under age
¯
persons contain age requirements for the male and
¯ female, the only reference to gender. The proposed
¯ bill would declare that "marriage shall be only
: between a man and a woman" and would void
¯ marriage betweenpeople of the same sex. The state
¯ wouldnotrecognize same-sex marriages performed
out of state by people who move to Arkansas.
"What (gays) do in the privacy of their own
¯ bedroom is their business, but I don’t feel like it’s
: something that I want to recognize as being legal
¯ and right" said the lead sponsor, Rep. Doug Kidd,
: D-Benton. "The state of Arkansas should not rec-
¯ ognize that as a marriage."
¯ Dehra Bailey of the Arkansas Gay and Lesbian
¯ Task Force said the state’s homosexual community ¯
Was not surprised by Kidd’s bill and would fight it
: as a matterof social justice. She said homosexuals
¯ "absolutely" have a moral right to marry. Ms.
¯ Bailey said. "Whether or not a person chooses marriage to sanction their relationships, all people
¯ should have that right."
¯ Colorado
¯ DENVER (AP) - A Colorado state lawmaker has
¯ announced plans to reintroduce a bill in the 1997 ¯
Legislature that wouldbanrecognition of same-sex
marriages in Colorado.
¯ The announcement by Rep. Marilyn Musgrave, ¯
¯ R-Fort Morgan, came just a day after a Hawaiian
court ruled that state must issue marriage licenses
¯ to same-sex couples. The same bill was approved
last yearby the Colorado Legislature, but vetoedby
: Gov. Roy Romer. The Hawaii ruling still must be
appealed. But that doesn’t matter to Musgrave.
¯ Musgrave’s bill banning same:sex~ marriages
¯ was appr0vedinbothho~es earlierthis yearlarge.ly
¯ on a partisan=line vote with most Democrats in ¯
Opposition. Gov: Roy Romer-vetoed it in March,
¯ saying it was unnecessary because Colorado law
didnotrecognizesuchmarfiages, see Hawaii, p. 8
Murderer Gets 50 Years ¯ Evergreen SpiritAwardsGiven " Coming Soon! PONTIAC, Mich..(AP) - The man convicted of killing " TULSA - The AIDS. Coalition. of Tulsa presented its 1996 *
Evergreen SpiritAwards recognizing individuals fortheir contributions
to HIV/AIDS care. The organization recognized Amy
Graham and Nancy Nelson of the American Red Cross, Jack
Arnold of Tulsa Public Schools, Anne Kozak and Jean Derry of
the Oklahoma State Dept. of Health, Claudette Peterson of
HOPE, Patti Handyof Associates in Medical & Mental Health,
Sharon Thoele of the HIV Resource Consortium with Spirit
Awards. The Richard Shackelford Award went to Derrick Davis
of FUSO and the Truman Geren Award went to the late RF
Renfro. These awards were presented by Phil Wiley. The award
to RF Renfro will hang in the Renfro Room inThe Pride Center.
HIVRC Records Turned
¯ Holiday services will be held at Saint Jerome at ¯
11:30 on Christmas Eve with Mass at midnight.
: Family of Faith and Greater Tulsa MCCs will join
¯ together for a candlelight service at Family ofFaith
¯ at 1 lpm. Also Community of Hope United Meth- ¯
¯ odist will hold its candlelight service at llpm.
Ongoing till mid-January, Community of Hope
: will offer a grief support group that meets on
¯ Tuesdays from6-8pm. Forinfo. call Leslie Peurose
¯" at 585-1800 or Bob Hulsey at 749-4194.
"- RAIN, the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network
: will provide volunteer training on Jan. 13-15 from
¯ 5:30- 9pmatHarvardAve. ChristianChurch,5502 ¯
S. Harvard. $25 with some scholarships available.
¯ Registration by Jan. 10. Call Stephen or Kathy at
i Over On Nov. 20- More 749-4195 for info. Another training will beat
¯ Conners State College.in the Classroom Building ¯
Documents to. Follow #210onJan.24-25.Registrationisrequiredby Jan. :21.CallStephenorKathyat749-4195orPhiTheta
¯ TULSA-The H-IV Resource Consortium (HIVRC) provided its ¯ Kappa in Warner at 918-463-6302 for info.
¯ minutes to Tulsa Family News’ attorney on Nov. 20 and has ,
: - agreed to provide accesstoother public documents this month as "
INSIDE
: well as agreeing to futherinterviews with counsel for theHIVRC :
¯¯ - and Tulsa Family Newspresent. ¯ ¯ . .
TFN publisher, Tom Neal, appl,auded the agency fo~ its coop- :
EDITORIAL/LETTERS/DIRECTORY P. 2-3
" eration. "It has ialways been Tb2q s hope that the agency could " NEWS .... P. 4
HEALTH P. 6
provideexplanatiousfortheallegatiousofthepersonslivingwith HIV/AIDS & THE LAW P. 10
AIDS (PLWA’s)," Neal added. ,We hope that the problems ¯ BOOK REVIEW P. 10
really just turn out to be communications difficulties rather than : EUREKA SPRINGS P. 11
anything more serious. We expect to provide followup coverage : RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 12
next month." , CLASSIFIEDS P. 14-15
a gay admirer who revealed a crush on him on "The
Jenny Jones Show" will serve at least 20 years in prison
before he is eligible for parole, lawyers said. Judge
Francis X. O’Brien on Wednesday sentenced Jonathan
Schmitz to 25 to 50 years for murdering ScottAmedure.
DefenselawyerJames Burdick saidhe’ll appeal. Schmitz
shot the 32-year-old Amedure to death three days after
they attended the show’s taping on March 6, 1995. The
show was not aired at the time but was played in court
and televised as part of trial coverage.
Amedure’s family said Schmitz, 26, Should spend his
life in prison to make up for each day they will. spend
withoutAmedure. "Thereisn’taday that goes by where
I don’t mourn for my sonrs life," Amedure’s mother,
Patricia Graves, told O’Brien. "I hope every time he
opens his eyes he will See Scott’ s body as he lay dying.~’
AllynSchmitz, Schmitz’s father, said thejudge didn t
consider thedamageto his son’s psychefrom appearing
on the show. Witnesses said Schmitz believed he was
going to meet a woman.admirer on the show and was
humiliated when the admirer turned out to be a man..
"He was the guy who .,. was basically hauledinto (an)
... imraoral,.sexual-perverted thing that totally devastated
him mentally to the point-that he couldn’t even
function anymore."
Schmitz had been fighting alcoholism, .depression
and a thyroid condition when the show’s producers
¯ambushed him.., the defense said. "I don’t disagree
with counsel that you are suffering some medical illness,"
O’Brien told Schmitz. But, he added, "You still
have to be accountable to society."
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age, were a recovering alcoholic, or simply didn’t know where
any of these places were, you were out of luck. Because of
significantly different editorial and advertising policies, from
T.H.sa Family News.(TFN) has my .a,pp~re-
." ciauon, support and gratitude forit s Oc-
¯ tober article focusing upon failures of
: Tulsa’s HIV Resource Consortium
-" (HIVRC) and for following up with both
: ’pro’ and’con’ responses appearing in the
¯ November issue¯
: However, I also applaud any and every_
: one who word volunteer themsdves to
i public oversight by serving on any Board
of Directors of any service group such as
the HIVRC.
This is the first issueofour fourthyear. During these years., our Also, HIVRC’s salaried Director,
goal has been to bring the Tulsa Lesbian, Gay, Bi & Trams
communities (and our families andfriends, and any other inter~
ested readers out there), the best community newspaper we can
achieve. We strive for fair and accurate reporting. We strive to
cover all of our very, very diverse communities. That means we
are a newspaper for "’bar" people, the wealthy and well-connected,
drag divas and leather folk - in short, for all. We are a
newspaper for those who are way out of the closet, as well as for
those still hiding.
¯ One of the tl~ngs which has helped to make us a paper for all
ts our accessibility across the city. Prior to TFN, if you wanted a
Gay newspaper (albeit one from out of town), your options were
to go to an "erotic" bookstore,, a dub, or one or two other
locations. There’s nothing wxong with these establishments (and
we’re very grateful that they welcome us) but if youwere under
." ,OtherP..,~in,the, ragion (policies now being imitated in Okla_ i SharonThoe.le, certainlyhasmydeserved
¯ nomat:~ty),TulsaFamilyNewsiswelcomeandavailableaeross .appreciation for even attemptingto per-
." the city, in locations accessible to many more people. Havinga ¯ form the undo,ubtedly impossible tasks of
¯ paper available and visible is progress for a community that has i Serving Tulsa s PLWA’s and HIV with
: ~forced traditionally to be hidden.
¯ complete satisfaction to all. It will.never : sprogressh not come ily. For door w:eopened,. ! happen.
: tac~ ano msenmmauon mtrying to get the paper in moreplaces; ! ...IfI dneverbeen amemberofaboardof
: in trying to get more advertising, and in trying to buy basic : ddinryecotofrsth,neoerxepveenredxitpuerreieonfcepdumbleidcifausncdrus-,
¯" services for the newspaper. We also continue to face diserimina_ :. then I might be somewhat less under-
: lion from.some in our commRuity. ¯
¯ ¯ standingof the feelings of theboardmem-. Itisnotaneasyjob.NorisitweHpaid.Manyofthefolkswh~se . bersor~eservicegroup,sadmlnistrator
¯ work you see in this paper donate their efforts. Certainly, as : when an "outsider’ brings them to task as
: publisher.and editor, I could go out and get a job doing almost : TFN’s publisher has done.
:. anything else andmake bettermoney- and actually get benefits, i ~ But, whomevermaybe connected with
_" not to mention major stress reduction, see Editorial, page3 : HIVRC who may be fceling insecure and
¯ unappreciated due the criticism (whether
: justified or not) there are those Tulsan’s
Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities : who feel much, much worse- every day
¯ ¯ - those persons living with AIDS/HIV ¯ AIDS Walk Tulsa, POB "1071, 74101-1071 579-9593 .. and those of us who love them and are ¯ Black&White;Inc. POB 14001,Tulsa74159 583-7314 . scared to death oflosing them ¯
*Bless The ¯Lord... Christian Center, 2627b E. 11 628-0594 ¯ : :B,-,_/_L/_G___Alli_’,,.an,ee, U~v.°..fTulsaCanterburyCtr. Nevertheless, simply stated, it is public 583-9780 i money that HIVRC is spending, andtax_ ." ~.Alapmml ~maent t.lr.,University of Tulsa, 5th P1. & Florence . payers and benefactors can reasonably
¯" *CommunityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703~ 2rid 585-1800 "
~ C_ommunityUnitarian-UniversalistCongragation 749-0595 i expeetaccouhtabilityofservicesandmost
: Dignity/Integrity-Lesbian/Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648 : certainly to be given access to public
: *Family of Faith MCC, 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441 . information upon request. It is both un-
¯ :~ello_ws.l~.’p_Congreg.-Church, 2900-S. Harvard necessary and unfortunate that such a
747:7777 : .simple matter had to become a public ¯ rree~pmtWomeusCenter, callf0rlocation&info: 587-4669 ¯ ;¯ Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 ¯ ~ssue at all. But, if that’s what takes then ¯ 747-6827 ¯. so be it! Tulsa needs a responsive AIDS Friends in Unity SocialOrg. (African-American mens group) . consortium, or none at all.
POB 8542, 74101, call cJo HOPE @ 712.1600. : I have no doubt that TFN’s focus upon
: HOPE, HIV Outreach, Prevention, Education, 1307 E.38, 2ndfl. ¯
¯ and inquiry ofHIVRC is fullyjustified if
d~12-1600’ HOPE Anonymous HIV Testing Site, 742-2927 ¯
: In--.’an Health Care, Save the Nation 584-4983 "
the newspaper is to fulfill its own ¯ sibility to it’s readers. And, TFN’s pub- . Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438-2437, 800-284-2437 : lisher has proven his commitment to the
: *MCC of Greater Tulsa,. 1623 N. Maplewood 838-1715 ¯
." *HIVResourceCtr.,4154S. Harvard, Ste. H_l 749-4194 : .cbosmenminunTiutlys..at.hlrohuagvheonuetvtehrehtaidmtehehoechcaas-
.." NHAMEHSouPsRe,O1J1E1C4l1S".,4Q.1u5a4koSe.rHarvuard, Ste.r
: PFLAG , POB 52800, 74152 584-7960748-311I .: Slon to.talk with Mr. Neal about such ¯ 749-4901." matters,bu[disappointmentswithHIVRC Planned Parenthood, 1007 S Peoria ~o~,.-,~,,, ¯ were being-publicly expressed long be-
*The Pride Center,- 1307 E "38, 2nd floor,
~’~ i fore TFN beg.an its ~,s_tribution in Tulsa.
¯*~R.A.I.N..R~Onal AIDS Interfaith Network 749-4-195-: s----~ -~ ’ :’ g : ~nsmer commencing
Rainbow Business Guild; POB 41067415~ r.~iT~: ¯ ¯ om.~ ~aamagegontro~ measures as soon as
.S~,JerOm_e’s Catholic Church, 3841 ~. Pe~ia, ~:~ i .fPo°rS~le’ -by:pr°vidin,g the,m!nutes in.a ~hanti Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services 749 "moe ¯ ’, un~.gnt ~n),~nn.e_r; acknowledging inad-
.Tu.ls.a O.k.la..fo.r H. uman Ri.ghr.s.. POB 2687, 74101. _ ..74-3--.4.2.9.7 .." ~".~.eq...ua.c~es ot the Consortium in the past; lecnmcmus ~ , . . ~~, : "~ ,, 584_~ar~o e,- ~mu, comini’.".u.ng" -to i"mprove m-.e.s.lm.a.uo" n
TULSA Tuls .... :"~: ...... :.. ! ,-,,,o ~. "m the future. :She, other memberS of the
: ..... a. um~orm/Leamer ~eeKers AssoC.’" 838-1222 ~,.: ~ . . - .... ~
¯ :, ..~oard, the HIVRC Director and the
Tulsa Clubs & Restaurant~
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E Pine
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria
*Lola’s, 2630E 15th
*GoldCoast Coffee House, 3509 S. Peoria
*Ground Floor Cafe, 51st & Harvard
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L ~ 31st
*Silver Star Saloon; 1565 Sheridan
*Samson & Delilah, 10 E. Fifth
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main
*TNT’s, 2114 S. Memorial
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd -
*InterurbanRestaurant, 717 S. Houston
832-1269
744-689(
749-1563
749-4511
749-567~
745-9998
834-4234
585-2221
-585-3405
584-130~
585-313,
Tulsa Businesaes,lServices, & Professionals
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 746-4620
*Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E. 71 250-5034
*Borders Books & Music, 274OE. 21 712-9955
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-527~
*CreativeColleetion, 1521 E. 15 592-1521
Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates
1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Community Cleaning, Kerby Baker 622-0700
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468 ."
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. 15th 749-3620 ."
744-5556i
"
665-659 .
622-3636
838-8503
743-9994
690-2974.
744~0102
744-7440
Doghouse on Brookside, 3311 S. Peoria
Don Carlton Mitsubishi, 46th & Memorial
Don Carlton Honda, 4141 S. Memorial.
*Elite Books &Videos,821 S. Sheridan
Express Pools &.Spas, 6310 S. Peoria.
Foxlinx, Computer Consultation
Leatme M. Gross, Financial Planning
Mark T. Hamby, Attorney, .
*Sandra J. Hill, MS; Psychotherapy, 2865 E Skelly
Imaginations, Lincoln Plaza, 15th& Peoria
*International Tours
Ken’s Flowers, 1635 E. 15
Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 140H, 74159i -
Lean Ann Macomber, Real~.r Associate
*Midtown Theater,319 E, 3
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31st ¯.
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51. PI
*Novel Idea Bookstore, 5.1st & Harvard
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S Peoria, Ste~ 633
Pet Pride, Dog & Cat Grooming
The Pride Store, 1307 E. 38, 2nd floor.
Puppy Pause II, llth & Mingo
*Ross Edward Salon, 1438 &Boston 584-0337
*Seribner’s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
Scott Robison’s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations 743-2351
Southwest Viatical 747-3322, 800-305-6384
Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959
Fred Welch, LCSW, Counseling 743-1733
745-1111
584-~1606
341-6866
599-8070’
747-5466’
671~2010
584-3112
663~593"4
664-2951
747-6711
747-7672
584-7554
743-4297
838-7626
: ’ *Tulsa COmmunity Coll6ge; Metro.8~ NE Campuses
: *Univ.ersity Center at Tulsa
....EUREKA SPRINGS -
: AutumnBreeze Restaurant, Hwy 23 South 501=253-7734
: Beaver Dam Store, 1/2 mi~ N. of Dam Hwy. 187.506253-6154
: *Jim&Brent’s’Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457 ¯ DeVit&s Restaurant, 5 Center St. -501=253-6807. ¯" *Emerald-Rainbow, 45 &U2 Spring St.
¯" Geek ~oGo!,PC Speciali_sL POB 429 501-25325445
501.-253-2-776
i King’sHi-Way,96Kings.IJighway,Hwy.62W 800-231.-.1442
¯ MCC of the Living Spring - :501-253-9337 ¯ McClung Realtors -- ¯ 501:253-9682
Positive Idea Marketing Hans
i Rock CottageGardens. 501-253:2401 50i-253-8659, 800-624-6646
¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East " 50L253-6001
¯: The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281
¯ OKLAHOMA CITY
Face Beautiful Day Spa, 7.108-D2 N. Western 405~840-3223
".’ *Tulsa CityHalL Cafetei’ia Vestibule, ~round Pltor
: ¯ HIVRC staffcan then regain ourgratitude -
: ’ and~e~peci. Anyless risks theloss to all of-
. ¯ .us of any value HIVRC does indeed pro-. .
" vide ifan alreadyangry Tulsa politicos of: -
¯ ,.’Conservative’ persuasion seizes the op- : :
portunity fo eliminate it like TCAA.
¯ In any case, itseems tomethatHIVRC’s:
: aftempts tointimida~, to silence, to make~"
¯ threats oflawsnit and/or exercise policies "
: ofstone-.walling requests for information--
:" doesn’t serve anyone ~ and is certainly
: not in the best interests of an already
under-funded Consortium. Weall have to
take our lumps occasional.lyand then go
on - it justgoes with the job. Most frequently,
we grow a little in the process.
- Vernon L. Jones, Tulsa
ForUnto Us a child tsbbrnl
:Midnight .M s
Service begins. at. 11:30 pm-=-Mass at Midnight
Celebrate the birth of Our Lord in the liturgical
-tradition ofthe ancient Catholic Church. . -~
..... parish church of st, JerOme -
" Meeting at the Garden Chapel ..
- ~.-.... : 384t SouthPeoda, Tuisa " ’
tt i~,not, thej~c[g~"ents ~fme~ which .open or Shut fhe.G~tes ofHeaven. St. Jerome
.. :However, this -doesn’t mean that
the agency is perfect nor that it should be
. : REi HiVRC Covaraga .... -above all scrutiny or criticism -as it
~ ! am Writing~in*egard tO your coverage seems yowimpty. .
ofthep£obleniswiththeHIVRC.Iwantto We’re ihclined’:to believe thai those
thattk’~’~bry0~r continued efforts to " working at the:HIVRCare likely under-
’expose p~Oblen]s’with the ageixcy so that ,. paid t~bugh lye don’t have any proof of
they:will.be cor~ectegl~ While at_ the Pride " ~hatl yet. TFNalsa knows other Tulsans
Ce~ter rec~ntly~ i 0v~rheard .one of the " who do equallycr~tica! workfor Pers.ons
people involved refer to your ego as your : Living with AIDS at even lower sa~qries
reasonforpfintingthe~le~;soi U~tl’ei~ : : thdn some oftl~.f~ht ~e_.,_.H....l=V~R~.~Sh~i~lv.
~t~.d ihat" vimr’ ate ~rob~ibl.v Xecelvi’-~ ’~ Servic~worlq unJormnatefy !?.~U~t~ ~."~" Y
~V-~~ ~-~" d---- ~--- x- . .. ~. .:.., " . .~ ’ ~ " " . " " - " " " ¯ " " "
eoflsiderable resistance from certain fac- . valued tn our soctely as otl~er worr.
tibns.
¯ As for TFN’s response to letters, it is
"I am~nOt directly inv01y~l" oraffe~(ed ¯ - - . see Esli~ck, page 12
~by thi~ issue, ~o I have nothing Of imp0tt
{3contribute. I an~ writing primarily io iet
y0ii know thatyour conviction reassures .
me that if it was an issue that directly ¯
affected me; you would be just as thorbtigh
in your coverageand I thankyou for
- name Withheld by request
-HIVRe Director Responds
Your recent diatribe against the. HIVRC
i~s board ofdirectors, and exectrfive director-
appears wholly without factual basis..
¯(Spacefor.your"editorial’? ~omments sure
Thework I and our writers do isalabor of
¯ love. It’s done because we care that this
¯ r community get a qualitynewspaper.. .
As we beginout fourth year, we plextge
¯" that we will continue to improve Tulsa
Family News. We will, .to paraphrase
"..~ MotherJones, comfort the afflicted and at
:. least, ,challenge (if not-afflict) the ~.om-
¯ fortable. We will try to look at.all parts of
.:.-the’communities. We will- cOntinue tO
-tO appear in letters’withwhichyou are not : write both about- the suecesses in-out
to me "our ~ _commumuesasweatways~ave,anuaoout
time Would be mueh obettet’ spent inan-.~ .me ~auures as .were
i effort to unite rather than diwdeTulsa s o ¯ - ff Y’ou ’think. .w.e n.e.ed.towrite about a¯n
" .’-" ~.....-’"- *....mber ’ issue; let us know. Youcan contact us wa
of the board of directors of ttIV.RC, I can
.... ~’: out ul~ocationtha~thdr[sic] ¯
eallorfaxusattJaeaauressesontmspage~
s¯ tatemth eq ¯ ~’ " " ..... OU ---~ ~ ~ " "~....... :’~ ^--. of this If you hke what we redomg,.or if y
or-ani~atibus [xiO activitids or to thwart " aon t, memetus ~now.
2.h0urintefview shouldb;- pr g . . :
~f that- I-meimits [sid] nst llke she does " rather you &lit your letters for length than
for us to do so.
- - ho~g~ave anything;else, to d0. - .- ."
- ~ .’,: .The staff and volunteerso[ the.HIVRC ¯
.~ :at_e~ d.espit.e’ your,90rfim~n’t~ a ~oup nodf :
" extremely dedicated,. overworked, . an .~ ~
~md~rpaidindi~idfials trying t0 do~th~ beast° :
job ~ey can wi.thfimited resources against .~
~ ~m d~,e~’whelnfing situation. I should thi~-:
ttm.ty0gand ev-~e~9thern~ember 0fTulsa’s :
-gay and .iesbian comm.uni.ty would be ¯
th~lkful that tl~is group o.f perpl~ are out
there trying to.secure every ounce, of as- ;
sistance to fight.the effects of this disease ;
for those in need of that assistance. "-
I would grant, you that the staff and "
volunteers are .all hummi’ and therefore :
subj.ect to mistakes. I also~ believe that :
when any ofthem makes a-mistake that it :
would-be corrected without prejudice or .
vindictiveness towards the one who corn- "
. plained. A tremendous need for services
~xists that is.impossible to meet with
existing resources. I would assume you
would be wall aware of the.gap between
needand the resources available and consider
the possibility’that some of the corn-
;plaints .you have .heard would be from
individuals thatjust do not think they are
getting enough of those resources.
As a professional investigator it appears
t0me that you,are woefull~ short of
"making your c,~se I believe ~ou could
better useyour time and newspap,er lob-
" bying for additio.nal resources tofight this
disease and aid those who suffer from it,
Ti,m’othy W. Danl
" " -AttOrney at Law.
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. -.~.- ~ Gays &Lesbians -
Domestic Partnership¯ Planning,
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1128 EaSt Broadway,~ Drumright; .Oklahoma
weekend and evening appointments are available.
President Climon appointed her to’become
thenatiori’gtop docior, butfiredhet
in 1994 after- she-was criticized for remarks
~i~ut mastUrbation;as an element
of htmian s&ualit~. - --
. Elders pointed" fo her willingfiegg °to,,
speakabout "unmentionables,’r’Which
evenmallyTgot her,dismissed. "I Saidt felt
masturbation Was a normal part ofhuman
sexualityLthat90 percent ofmen masturbate,
80 percent of women, masturbate
and the rest lie," Elders said.
Elders denied shehadencouraged teaching
masturbation, as was Widely reported,
but had only acknowledged it as a means
: of-prdventing unsafe sex..;’Nobody needs
¯ to teach.anybod3i thehow to," she said.
¯ "God taught u.~ how-to]’
: She Said black churches were initially
~ resistant to takeonthebattleagainstAIDS’
¯" because some- found immorality within
the .disease.. She recalled one Church in
: 1981which wrote in its bulletin that be- ¯
cause the dis ease Was mainly among
¯ white men, there was no need to worry.
¯ She also criticized the polidcs involved
in not distributing dean needles to drug
:
addicts, whichshe said is proven to reduce
the’ transmission of the virus that
¯ eaUsesAiDS. ButElders saidshehas seen
¯ andtopromotetmj’tY andharmonyamong ¯ ,aturnaround fimong churches andindeed,
Tulsa’s ~ay’ahd:lesbian cdmmunity. Af- : some positive things that have come from
terall, ~ie niune Of thi.’s paper-is Tulsa ¯ th,e,~sease’... " ’ i .... .-’
Family,News... ; ¯ , .-..Mike ;,E,sq.ck " I ve seen more-real true integration
"Eititor"’s note: manypeople wouta ats- ~ and harmony ardund HIV disease, than
agj,~e ~bith your.contention that taking 4 .
" monthstoptovlddm~nutesfortheHIgRC
I’ve Seen.around anything else in-this
¯ . . - - country~" Elders said. "Maybe it’s going
is getting the "fUll cooperatiqn of. the " . to take this disease to make us come to our
- agent. Regarding you~" 6ther comments,
¯
:[don "tth)nkTFNhasever’suggdstbdthat
knees and begin to deal with real prob-
. lems and real. people."
t: k; DOn’t ¯" ~eju~ had b~n sch~to be~n ~nsidefing
N~ YO~ (AP) - ~en it ~mes to sex, ~e " ~ages We~es~y, before ~e settlement w~ ~-
military has two different policies - and that violates
the Consttufion’s equal protection mandates, according
~to a lawyer for six,~hom,osexuals currently
serving in the armed forces. %Ve d like aplay-by-the
rules policy for everyone," said Beatrice Dohrn, after
arguments Monday before U.S. District Judge Eugene
Nickerson: "(Military officials) have admitted
that lesbians or gay men are no more likely to violate
the rules than anyone else."
Dohm, an attorney with the Lambda Legal Defense
and Education Fund, and Matt Coles, lesbian and gay
fights project director for the American Civil Liber:
ties Union, are representing the anonymous homosexuals
in their challenge ofthe military’s "don’t ask,
don’t tall" policy.
Last year, Nickerson declared the"don’t ask, don’t
tell" policy unconstitutional. But on July 1, a threejudge
panel of the 2ud U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals
sent the case backfor review, saying itdisagreed with
the judge’s conclusion that the policy violated the
First Amendment’s free.speech protections.
"It is plain to u~ that governmental restrictions on
speech that would run afoul of theConsdtution ff
imposed in ci,~ilianlife can pass constitutional muster
in the-military context," the appeals court said.
Justice Department attorney Mark. T. Quinlivan
defended the current policy, telling Nickerson "the
military does not have to take ’the risk" that sexual
tension might result if an open policy toward homosexuals
is permitted to exist.
He said testimony in Congress by Colin Powell and
Norman Schwartzkopf- both retired Army generals
- as well as others, found that the sexual tension could
have "a degrading impact on unit cohesion."
Sexual tensionbetween heterosexuals is prevented,
Quiulivan said, because troops are kept in segregated
housing by gender, creating what he called "a buffer
zone." Alluding to recent mihtary scandals involving
¯heterosexual men allegedlyabusing women, Dohrn
said, "The government’s obsession on.focusing on
sexual tension really belies a rather liberal policy
toward Sexual behavior. ’ROmantic relationships are
allowed to go on.’"
Nickerson, who .asked mmaerous questions of ~e
attorneys during Monday’s.50-minute hearing; did
not immediately rule on thecase. He asked lawyers
for both sides to.provide additional evidence.
The New York case is one of several around the
nation challenging the policy, which the Clinton
administration adopted-in 1993 as a compromise
between.the Views of gay-rights advocates and those
taffy opposed to homosexuals inthe military.
The policy survived its first Supreme Court test last
month when the court rejected the appeal of a former
Navy officer dismissed for declaring his homosexuality,
The justices rejected former Lt. Paul
Thomasson’s argument that the policy is unlawful
discrimination and violates homosexual servicemembers’
free-speech rights.
Gay Man Wins School
Harassment Case .
EAU CLAIRE, Wis, (AP) ~ ’Because he is gay,
Jamie Nabozny was regularly spaton andbeaten up "
in school, subjected tea mock rape and kicked in the "
belly so many times he needed surgery. :
OnWednesday, the 21 :year:old Nabozny accepted
a $900,00Oout-of~court settlement, ending the first "
federal trial ofaschool districtfornotprot~,cting agay ~:
student from harassment. - ¯
Nabozny says the settlement will help gay youths "
in the future. "I think this will send a-very clear "
message to school districts," lie said Wednesday. "It "
is time it’s stopped.".
The agreement cameaday after afederal courtjury ¯
found that three school administrators violated-his ¯
rights, although it found the district as a whole was
not guilty of discrimination. -
The verdict marked the first" time .school officials "
have ever .been held liable for anti-gay violence
against a student, said Peg Byron, public education
director for theLambdaLegal Defense andEducation
Fund, a-gay-fights organization that represented
¯ nounced by Byron andTimothy Yanacheck, an attor-
¯ ney who defended the district on behalf of Wausau
¯
Nabozny claimed in,.~is,,lawsuit ’that the abuse
¯ ranged from name-calliilg to being shoved, beaten,
~ spat upon and even having his head pushedin a urinal
¯ and being urinated upon. The harassment started
: whenheentered Ashland MiddleSchool in 1988 until
: he dropped out of Ashland High School as ajumor in
¯ 1-993.
¯ Nabozny’s lawyers used Grande’s testimony in an ¯
effort to show tlmt school officials weren’t consistent
¯ in punishing students for harassing others. Grande
: was suspended for violations such as calling his
¯ girlfriend names, yet he was never punished for ¯
tormenting Nabozny. His parents said they had many
¯ meetings with school officials only to see their son
¯ suffer further abuse: ¯
¯ The jury ruled against. Ashland Middle School
Principal. Mary Podlesny and two. administrators at
: Ashland High School,Principal William Davis and
¯¯ Assistant Principal Thomas Blauert: Timothy
Yanacheck, an attorney who defended the district on
¯ behalfofWausau Insurance, said they were "hurt and
: disappointed" by the ruling.-"Despite the verdict,
¯ they continue to believe that they responded appro- ¯
priately to the plaintiffbased on the limited iuforma-
¯ tion that they hadavailable at thetime,"-Yanacheck
¯ said. -
: -Nabozny earned a general equivalency degree in ¯
Minneapolis after leaving the Ashland schools, al-
¯ though he said Wednesday he hopes to still get some
¯ sort of real high school degree so he can hold an
¯ unOfficial graduati"on ceremony,
¯ Homoseximls have paid a high ,p,~ce in abuse, Lambdaattorney PatriCia’Logu~ said. Now the tables
¯ have turned, and it is prejudicethat h~ proved so ¯
costly," she said.
¯ Yanacheck said the ruling sends a me~sage to
¯
school @nistmtors across the country about legal
liability where they migh~ not now suspect that they
have any. ’.’School administrators are sympathetic to
¯ kids whoar~harassed by Other kids in school. But for
¯ themost part that’smisbehavior that school adminis¯
trato~s cannot 15revent or control," he sai&
The case went to trial afte~ theTth U.S. Circuit
Court of Appeals in Chicago ruled last summer that
¯ Nabozny did-have enough evidence-to take the dis¯
trict to court, overturning a lower court decision. Lambda is a New York City-based civil rights orga-
¯ nization that represents gays, lesbians and people
with HIV.
: Gay Alumni Fund
¯ Lesbian &Gay Studies
¯ CHAPEL HILL, N.C. & MINNEAPOLIS (AP) - A
¯: $200,000 bequest by,a UNC-Chapel Hill alumnus is
: providing the university’s first courses that focus
¯ primarily on gay andlesbian the.mes; .
The new.courses were made possible by a bequest
¯ from Charles Williamson, a 1968:graduate of the
School of Medicine at the University of North Carolina
at Chapel Hi!l.:Williamson;..’~ ,-S.an: F_ranci.~~cO
physician, died of AIDS ifi. 1.992 H~e ,lef~ UNC.rCH
¯ half.of his estate, with specificin~truc.tions on.h0w it
should beus.ed. .... . , - ~ . ¯- ,
AlSO, ~e University of.Minnesota has.receivbxt a
$500,000 .gift .to support ._the development of.gay,
lesbian, bisexual and transgender~studies: The.endowment
will help create .the. Steven 4-. Schochet
Endrwed Center for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and
Transgender Studies and Campus Life.
Schochet, a retired computer consultant, created
the.fund,to.enco~age "a moreih.umane cultur.eY for
gay, lesbian; bisexual and transgendered unigersity
students, facult3~ and staff, he sai.d. - .-
"Back Whdn I wasin cbllege, th~ecampus climate
was hostile tO gay-men,"~he said..’q2tis is my way bf
ensuring th~itthings contmue.t0-get better for GLBT
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attack as a security ~d~sto0d by won a $10
million judgment from Pihl~t~s Sec’ffrity and Investigation,
the gnard?s employer. Sean McBride, 28,
was shot six times and beaten outside his apartment
building in Jamlary 1994 by three men who had
taunted him for being gay. His lawyer, Carol
McNeilage, said the 20-year-old female security
guard watched as. McBride was harassed several
times during a half-hour period, and eventaughed at
some of the insults.
A spokesman for Pinkerton’s, Dereek Andrade,
said the company would appeal Thurs.day’~s.v,erdict.
"Our position has been and remains that tanrerton
acted appropriately and could nothave prevented the
incident from occurring," he said.
McBride testified he first encountered the three
men in the apartment building lobby as he returned
from work, then passed them twice more when he
went out for a snack. Each time, the men swore and
shouted slurs at him. When McBride realized he had
forgotten part of his snack, he went back through the
lobby. The men followed him outside and attacked
him.
One of the three.attackers was never caught. A
second was convicted of assault and firearms charges
and sentenced to up to four years in prison. The third,
a juvenile at the time, pleaded no contest to assault
and firearms charges and will remain in custody until
he turns 21 in July.
Topeka Anti-Bias Group
TOPEKA, Kan. (AP) - Leaders hailed a year of what
they called solid accomplishments by a groupformed
in the fall of 1995 to combat the picketing of anti-gay
crusader Fred W. Phelps.
Concerned Citizens for Topeka Friday re-retted
as president during its first annual meeting former
Secretary of State Jack Brier, who s,ai,,d, the organization
has provided the capital citY with thepromise of
a better tomorrow" in fighting "bigotry and hatred."
Re-elected with Brier was Topeka banker. Frank
Sabatiui, a former president of the state Board of
Regents, as chairman of the board. Other officers are
Roy Menninger, vice chairman; Jane and Otto
Schnellbacher, vice presidents; John Rosenberg, secretary;
Bill Hemmen, treasurer, and Randy Austin,
president-elect.
"A common goal brought us togem"’ er," Brier told
about 60 people attending the annual meeting at
Washburn Law School. "Fighting bigotry and hatred
is not a spectator sport... It’s because there are a
thousand of us standing up and confronting these
problems that we have succeeded..I thimk., we c.an
stand a little taller now and say there ~s nothing to be
History: The Struggle for Gay and Lesbian Equal
Righnts." ,
Hooker s, controversial study published in 1957
was dtled, The Adjustment of the Male Overt Homosexual."
During a three-year study prompted by
herfriendship to a gay student, Hooker used grant
money from the National Institute of Mental Health
to prove a hypothesis that was shocking to prevailing
thinking. Hooker’s theory was that there was little
statistical difference between the psychological test
results of heterosexuals and homosexuals.
¯ Hooker’s research andher leadership of theNIMH ¯
¯ Task Force on Homosexuality, led to the removal of
homosexuality as a psychological ,disorder from the~
: American Psychiatric Association s Diagnostic ana
¯ Statistical Manual III inDecember 1974. In 1992, the
: American Psychological Association awarded her its
¯ prestigious Lifetime Achievement award.
: Biased dudge Removed
¯ MONTGOMERY, Ala. (AP) - An Etowah County
¯ judge will appeal an appeals court order that he step
aside in a lesbian mother’s divorce case. The Ala-
¯ bama Court of Civil Appeals ruled Tuesday that
¯ Circuit Court JudgeRoy Moore should allow another
¯ judge to take over the case. ¯
The woman, Susan Scott Borden, argued Moore’s
overt Christianity makes him a poor choice to preside
in the case. But Moore’s lawyer, Stewart Roth of the
Montgomery-based American Center for Law and
Justice, blasted the decision. "I believe this sounds a
warning to everymanandwomanwho sits on abench
in Alabama to not discuss their religious bdiefs, not
to discuss their views and not to stand up in church
and share their beliefs because it can come back to
haunt you," he said.
Moore had twice rejected requests to step aside
filed by Mrs. Borden, who is trying to regain custody
of her two children from her husband, James Christopher.
Borden. Mrs. Borden rimmed Moore s fai
wouldkeep himfrompresiding fairly and thathemay
be prejudiced against her lawyer, Janice Hart of
W~rior, because of her prior American Civil Liberties
Union work. Ms. Hart said she does not expect the
case will be reassigned to a judge more amenable to
her client’s views, but said she does expect they will
¯
be fair.
¯ In a January ruling that gave temporary custody to ¯
¯ the childrens’ father, Moore said he "strongly feels
that the minor children will be detrimentally affected
¯ by the present lifestyle of (Mrs. Borden) who has
¯ engaged in a homosexual relationship during her
¯ marriage forbidden both by the laws of the state of
¯
Alabama and the laws of nature."
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Thegroup,whichhasenlisted l:007membersin, : May Lose Funding
firstyear andplmis furtherefforts;has wonreversai oI ¯
apolicepoliey ofnotarresdngPhelpsandhis bandof : MADISON, ,Wis. (AP~ - Three students .who o_bpicketers;-
gotten the City. Council and Shawnee -~ jected~to the use of fee money to fund groups tot
County BoardofCommissioners to adopt ordinances :- homosexuals and environmentalists hav~ wgn ~fo~
limiting picketing, and provided legal assistance to : eral court ruling in their favor. U_.S. Di,s,m,.,,ct.c.o ,,
people who had trouble with Phelps.
, JudgeJohnShabazruledinfavorof three. Christian
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Tope ~ ¯ -.... . The oupsindud~d Lr~r Greens andthe Lesbian,
1990, he began Dcketing businelsasre-se; cshiu~rchtehsataantd-..".G.a.y garnd B~. sexual Campus .Center. U~. s"mg f.e: es to¯
xnmwauats homes, msptaymg ,,.g. ~-~...... : ~,,hola;~. or,~,,n~ whosemainobiecfive~s toaavance
-o~’i~l~.~iogical goals vio’lates students~ con~
~fitufionalfightsdespite.the’."viewpointneutral!’way
inwhichfees aredistributedtO studentgroups, Shabaz
said.
imon¢xum,tX.: :.,: ate.~-ofStudents.RogerHoward,Buttlaejuage:s....." " ’-:
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SANTA.MONICA,- Calif,-(AP) - Evelyn.Gentry .:-_ Pete Anderson~ the attorney: who-representext me
Hseoxoukaelirt,yaaUndCfLoAundpsiytcwhaoslong0its-at mwenh~otLas!~tu.ddii.esd0rh;odmero~-. ::~ tfmacitvs.eUrsWityB,soaaidrdthoefRruelginegntws_t’arsebs.taas.eend:to.nM..auc,naa,c_oe,n.tt,~,esrteedb,e~e¯
died;affiendsaidThursday.Shewas~v-tiooKerm ¯ ~aid he had.not had-a chance to:rewew:51aaoaz,s.
. MondayatherSantaM0ni’cahomeofnaturalcauses, :’ decisionortalktotheuuiversity~slawyers~Hedidn~t
said documentary filmmaker David Ha~,g,l,_~d, w.~ : know whether the universitywould appeal.
in 1993 produced the Oscar-nominated-t_;nang~ g ¯
Nobel Winner:AIDS
Vaccine in 10.Years
STOCKHOLM, Sweden (Ap) - A ’winher
of this year’s Nobel Prize in medicine
predicted Saturday that within 10 years
there will be a vaccine sharply slowing
the outbreak of full-blown AIDS in in:
fected people.
Rolf M. Zinkernagelalso said the vaccine
.he envisioned would vastly reduce
chances that an HIV-infeeted person
would transfer the virus to other people’.
But 7inkemagel said it would not completely
eliminate chances of contracting
¯ tional Institute of Dental Research.
: "I like to think of it as a scientific
¯ kibbutz, a place where science is appreci-
: ,ated and nurtured for its own rewards,"
: said Dr. Edmund C. Tramont, a longtime..
¯¯ friend of Gallo who asked the scientist
about starting a new laboratory in Balti-
"- more:
¯ The institute,which will be part of the
: i UniversityofMaryland.system, will fo-
:~ .ens most of its work on AIDS research.
But Gallo said he was:interested in other
: viruses as well, including minor, leuke-
¯ mia, hepatitis.and papilloma virtmes.
: If AIDS ~reeedes a~ a human threat, Jeffrey A; : Beal,-MDthe
infection. -~ . - .~ . : Galld: said ;.the institti,.te: would shift its
’ Zinkemagel, a SWiss researcher, spoke : empha~!s."Ithinkacritlealmassofpeople
at a news conference with co=winner.Pc- ¯ working on virology is nice to have,"
ter C. Doherty~.an Australian wh0.is a :~ Gallosaid. ~’YOuwantt0bringabunchof
professorinthe Department o,f Immmiol- : people t~ge~er Who do basic’re~arch
ogy at the St; Jude’sChildren s Research : witl~ elinlcal ~tpl~fiCafions;~,ith~ all kinds
HospitalinMemphis,Tenn:Thetwoman ¯ "bfdiseaseSinnnnd:" : ~ ....
were awarded, the prize in :Octobe~ -for ."~ _I-Iis~valsignal~thet~.~ngofnew
their studies into.the body’s immune sys~ i";riva!ry’wi~2°hm Hop~’Medieal lnstite~,~
inthe 19"10s..’~. ~. ~::: .... o.~ ’, ,~ . "’iuti0ns;whiehisentrenchedas’aninferna-
-. ,HiVwill.notbea~virus~tlmtwe-ean :-t~dnail~;ader’inAIDS~r~sear~hTTheimtieliminate_
~p!e.tely from,an,. :infected :-.~tdte is still~gfumi~h~lwi~,l,M) equipperson,"
-Zink~a;said~" ::.,-W* wil! : :.~t;:Whi~.:~ exI~..ts:_W~tia~-
nOt~be ablereadily toprevent the inftmtion : m~tei2.SQ. ’,~’m~loyee;S! Wi~::sev~ral
completdy, and wewill not-be ~able: to .:years~ !I:,I77,9~..., i. i .". .; ii.?, "
~control the vtrus completely. He sal
vaccine would only greatly delay the Outbreak
of the AIDS, which ravages the
.b~,~y’s natural ability to ward offdisease.
~ ~’ ’I would think.that within the next 10
years, wewill have sdmething reasonable
in :termsof thistype: of:vaccine,"~hesaid.
--At presenL~ the incubation period of
: ~A~IDS.,-can._ b~~ l~0:: ye~s ::or.longer,
7:~nkemagel said.thatany vaccine wbuld
keep the viral infection in:check~s0 that
full[blown AtDSwouldtake between 20
tO4Oyearsto develop., ~ "’
’:- Dohetty saidanew cl’affsof.._d~zg,.S called.
prOtease inhibitors,now :l~ng used to
manage AIDS in wealthy Western countries,
are tooexpensivefor vietimsin poor
and developing nations.He said that ’qt’s
very hard to know" how successful the
AIDS vaccine research will be. "But, of
course, a vaeca’ ne is the only possibility
forcontrollingA~IDS worldwide,"Doherty
Gallo AIDS
Research Center
BALTIMORE (AP) - Months behind
schedule and eagerly anticipated, a premiere
research center rtm by renowned
AIDS researcherDoctorRobertGallo.was
opened in late November in Baltimore.
The Institute of Human Virology Was
dedicated with.two days of. lectures featuring
a lineup of Sci~fitific luminaries,
with four Nobe!laureates: Dr. David Baltimore,
Dr. Manfred Eigen, Sir Aaron
King and Dr. Hamilton O. Smith. The
opening follows twoyears of courtship by
state offieials to lure theprestigious Gallo,
a co-discoverer of.the AIDS virus, to
Baltimore from the federal National CancerInstitutein
Bethesda, whereheworked
for 30 years. Gov. Parris Glendening and
Mayor Kurt Schmoke have promised $12
million over the next three years to launch
the center.
Gallowill be joined at theinsdmte by
other prominent scientists ~dubbecL’Mae
Dream-Team of AIDS research" :by
Glendening. They are epidemio!ogist
William Blattuer, formerly with .the National
Cancer Imtimte, clinicianRobert
Redfield,who headed the cancerresearch
program atWaiter ReedArmy Institute of
Research and Dr. Joseph L,Bryant; who
headed the animal program at-the Nai
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i ~:,Mil, fOr-AIDSCare
i .OKLAHOMA CITY (AP.) ~- A group of
. :dO~tors at the Universfty of Okiahbma
:, ~ Health SciencesCenterh~been,awarded
:.. a $1.5 million gr..~t .to provide services
- !.::.;forindigent;pedpie with~HIVand ~AIDS.
¯...;t.,~:<~Dr:, Ronald A., Greenfield,: professor
: :a9.d’chief ofthe’center’:s.otlegeofMedi-
, e~ne,.was awarded.the’three,year grant to
:o implement the program.-He. Said the goal
: ~ in:tke:first yearis to provide comprehen-
............. care services~to a
¯ mlmmum of 200 indigent, and. lowAn-
:~ come people living withHIV and AIDS.
: :- ,"Some ofthese patients workbutdo not
¯ -earn enough to afford health insurance.
~ -This. grant .will help cover the costs, of
~. providing medical .care to people who
: "desperately need it," he said Friday, The
: , proposed program seeks.to help people in
¯ the Oklahoma City at.ca and surrounding
: .-counties. 12-06-96
i Doc Says HIVDrugs
:Needed for Kids
¯" MILWAUKEE (AP)-Aph;sician using
: experimentalAIDS drugs onchildren says.
¯ the government should make pharmaceu-
~ tical companies market products for pa-
¯ tients of all ages, not justadults who can
pay more for them. Two Milwaukee-area
:. children about 8 years old began receiv-
¯ ing protease inhibitors amonth ago with
, the help Of pediatric AIDS physician Pc-
¯ ter Havens: A third child traveled to the
National Institutes of Health (NIH)’ in
Bethesda, Md., the only placein the coun-
¯ try studying such drugs for children~
¯ Protease inhibitors are a new class of
: AIDS drugs. Pharmacelitieal companies
;. have obtained-licenses: to.use them only
’. for adults. ’q3rug companie~ need to work
:. to develop .drugs for .use .in-children as
: wellas adults,"-~Havens said. ,I~ey don’t
¯ because there’s nomoney jnit." Havens
: -said he- contacted.NIH -researchers. and
: .then ~prescribed treatment, for the two
¯ -Milwaukee-area .boys with indinavir,
~- brandname Crixivan. ~
¯ "By calling the people Who.have been
: doing these (clinical) trials, wehave been
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able to approximate the doses," he said.
Heblames drug manufacturers for having
no prior information about dosage, metabolism
or the effects on patients who
may not be adhlts, but could use the protease
inhibito~s.
Havens said the U.S. Food and Drug
Administration should require pharmaceutical
companies to test products on all
age groups and have information available
on dosage and effectiveness before
the product goes on the market.
: plied will be able to participate in the
¯ program and that no one at this time will
have to be placed on a waiting l.is,t,~" Ron
: Cates, acting health director, said tnurs-
: day. At first, the agency thought it would
: have only .enough money to cover the
¯ estimated $10,000 anmlal costs for "/5 ¯ people. But additional federal money ini
creased that to 132 people. -.
The department received 89 apphca-
: lions frompeoplewhodon’treeeiveMed-
¯ icaidassistance don’thaveprivateinsur-
¯ ance, earn less-than $14~19 a year and
: had a physician’s referral. -Kentu.cky A!DS i Department spokeswoman Nanci
~atul
Gonder said officials today would go :. Vaccine T a i through the formality of a lottery - draw.- I.VXINGTON~Ky.(AP)’K n kyp - : ing.nfimbers’andassigningth.emtoea.cla
tients will particil~ate in testing, of a new : applicant - because agency rm~ reqmre
Vaccine thdt mightkeeppegp_le whohav.e . it. .The state came up with the idea for
HW from developing AIDS. Abouto~J ~ lottery when it f’LrSt thOUght therewasn t
patients ate being recruited by doC_t.o~s.to : .enough money to. cover all appficants.
takepart in tes(~ng o.f th_e,v~.~cc’,mo,,at ~he :’ Health.officialssaidthey feltit Was.the
Uni¢ersi~ of Kentucky M.e~.~,~1.~r~. falrestwaytoparce!0utthefunds. Butthe
They ~wifi b¢~ ~ai-t qf a nati~nwi.d~.^s,~ y i lottery idea was criticized by many, ininvoicing
3,000..~en..tsata~.t~.ut~s,x.w~,’i ._ cludingDavidPeters,directorof~e,,.,AIDS
~ Half will ~v,e .,the v,accme,. W~cn . .~j,~ of theOzarks~’in SpringfiekL~ .
~willl~ agailablein Kentueky,0nly atUK, ~:~ ~- ’I,mthrilledw~menot~going to do this
~ andhalf will get an~utd,ty bgo~" ~t.ey. but . lottery, It wouldhave beena poor way to
~ novadcifie.Dr.RidmrdGre~nberg~~d~r.ec- ~ vrovidehealthcare,"Peterssaid.’L-’hoostot
of the Kentucky AIDS Consortium, ~ ~ng people basedon a lotte~ really isn’t
-saidTuesday thathe .and0ther~s,ear.fihers ¯. looking.at, those_ who ha,~e- the critical
~:were"franghfwithSkepticism.ye.tlaopp.- ~ needfirst.... . ’
ful that the Vaccinemightwork, atieastin ¯ , Gonder. said..the appficants can start
"~ alimited way: : ~" " " ’ ¯ : receivin~ the ~ov,emment~paid-medica-
¯ ...Thecousortiumismadeupof.do~..t.orsat i ~o--~onM~ondayTTheirphysi~’ianwill write
,UK and the University of, I~oms,ville, as.. thepreseriptio~and the p.h"m-ma.cist will
, v~ell ,as physicians fromother, parts: ot ! sendthebillditectly to the Health Depart-
Kentucky,. Greenberg i,s an associa..te P.~ . ment; Ther~g43 openings-w.ill.be
:-.fessor of-internal medicine at the.oh . filledonafirst-come, firS.t£set~,ebasxstor
,medical school. ’‘i’ don’t :Want anybody ! as longas the moneylasts. .....
,.goingawaythinkingit’sg6ing,towork,": . : Sinee.this is the first time the state has
Oreenbergsaidatonepointduringameet- offered financial assistance for protease
ing withreporters;atthe_UKeeuter.’Buthe ¯ inhibitors,; it’~S not -dear, whether the
later added, ~,‘ifit ,works, it will prevent : $10,000~ annual:imit will,be enough t~
AIDS in H1V ,patients. They would not ¯ cover the costs. ’We arelooking to see if
’develop AIDS:~ ’ ~- " thisisanappropriateeapforthe~program.
It’s the first such clinical study everin i Thecapcouldberaisedandwearetalldng
Kentucky, where more than 2,100 AIDS to phai-maeeuti,ca~l,~ companies about getcases
have beenreported sin~ce reco~ tin~ discounts,’ Gondersaid.
keeping began in 1982. Greenberg sat ~eters said he would prefer a medi.cal
the vaccine willnot Cure HIV-thehuman review board to determine.who gets me
immunodeficiencyvirusthatcausesAIDS, new medication and would like to :see
He said the most he could hope for at the income limits raised for individuals. He
end of the three-year study would be that also said the state needs to spend more
the health of HIV patients getting the money on AIDS treatment. He said the
vaccine would not have deteriorated, protease inhibitors, while not a cure-all,
So far the vaccine has been tested on are welcome news for people withHIV or
small numbers of people, and those stud- AIDS. ’‘it really is lifesaving treatment.
ies have indicated some increase in the We can look at it more as a manageable
body’s immune response to the virus. It critical illness than a death sentence,"
~as developedin 1987 by Dr. Jonas Salk. Peters said.
"it is an uninfecting viral materi~; ~t~at
hopefully i.. will boost immunity. :.i.ne. ~Man Sues Over material, he said, is "an absolutely killed
form of the (HIV) virus." Status Disclosure Patients eligible for the study must be
generally healthy, with no "AIDSMiDLAND,
Texas(AP)-Amanstricken
def’mining illnesses" except for Kaposi’s with the virus that causes AIDS is suing
sarcoma, which is a cancer tumor that " Memorial Hospital and Medical Center
develops among people with HIV. ¯ for alledgedly revealing his condition.
FreddieLeeHawkinsJr. alsohas filedsuit
Missouri Has $ for : against diandCounV.ospi al s=ct
and Angola Shaw, a nurse at the hospital. HIV/AIDS Drugs ¯ .aw suing for over ,000 in ¯
punitive and actual damages.
JEFFERSON CITY, Mo. (AP) - The ¯ After testing positive for H_IV on May
Missouri Department of Health says it " 13, he coutends in his lawsult that friends
willbeabletoprovidepotentiallifesaving ¯ and relatives of Ms. Shaw began calling,
new AIDS treatmentforallofthosesigned : expressing condolences because he was
up to get the g0vernment-paid mediea- : "dying of AIDS."
tion. The department will have $1.3 rail- Hawkins accuses Ms. Shaw of rev.eal~
lion in state and federal funds to pay for i ing his conditio~ Whenword got out that
the new drugs, known as protease inhibi- hehadthedisease, Hawkins claims helost
tots, which are used in combination with i manyfriendsandwas unabletofindwork.
older medication. ¯ Hospital officials declined to comment
’’We’re very pleased that all who ap- ¯ on the matter.
But a few months later, President
Clinton signed the Defense of Marriage
Act (DOMA) giving states the ~iuthority
not to recognize same-sex marriages that
are performed legally in other states.
Romer has indicated he likely would sign
a bill that was in line with the federal
legislation, and his spokesman, Jim Carpenter,
said Wednesday that the governor
still felt that way.
Mississi ppi
JACKSON, Miss. (AP) - People who
want to outlaw same-sex marriages in
Mississippi are monitoring a court ruling
in Hawaii.
Gov. Kirk Fordice has signed an executive
order banning same-sex marriages,
but family activists say the orderfrom this
summer cannot withstand a legal challenge.
State Sen. Dean Kirby, R-Pearl,
plans to push abill in the state Legislature
to outlaw the marriages. "I just can’t believe
the state should recognize same-sex
marriages," Kirby said.
Massachusetts
BOSTON (AP) - Gov. William F. Weld
said he would veto any Massachusetts
proposal to ban gay marriages.
Weld, however, said that if Hawaii’s
decision to grant the licenses is upheld by
its own Supreme Court, Massachusetts
would have no choice but to offer gay
couples married in Hawaii the same legal
rights and obligations it extends to straight
couples.
Wisconsin
MADISON,-Wis. (AP) - State Rep.
Tammy Baldwin, D-Madison, said
Wednesday that she will introduce a bill
¯ to recognize same-sex.marriages in Wis-
: consxn. "This is a simple matter of fair-
¯ ness, justice and equal rights," Baldwin
said. Sen. ScottFitzgerald, R-Juneau, said
¯ he will propose a constitutional amend-
" ment declm-ing marriage in Wisconsin
¯ be the union of one man and one woman.
Alabama
¯ MONTGOMERY,Ala. (AP) - State Sen.
Bill Armistead, R-Columbiana, said
Wednesday he has a "marriage protection"
bill ready for consideration when
¯ the Legislature convenes Feb. 4. It would
make Alabama the 17th state to ban same-
" sex marriages. Gov. Fob James signed an
executive order saying gay marriages are
notrecognized as validin the states. When
¯ James signed the executive order in Au-
: gust, he said same-sex marriages violate
¯ public policy and God’s law.
.. Nebraska
¯ OMAHA,Neb. (AP)-Acourtdecisionin
Hawaii allowing same-sex marriages may
¯ lead to legal ramifications for Nebraska,
¯ according to the state attorney general.
¯ Nebraska has no legislation that recog-
: nizes or refuses to recognize gay mar-
" riages performed in other states. "We still
¯ need action from the State Legislature,"
¯ said Stenberg, who in March pushed un- ¯
successfullyforalaw topreventsame-sex
¯ couples married in other states from hav-
¯ ing their marriages recognized there..
¯ Montana
HELENA (AP) -A Republican legislator
says the Hawaii court decision under-
. scores the need for alaw prohibiting them
¯ in Montana. Rep. Bill Boharski, R-
¯ Kalispell has drafted a bill for the next ¯
Legislature to ban gay marriage, saying
¯
the Hawaii decision proves "states will
¯ recognize homosexual marriage."
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THURSDAYS
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Music,andletmetell you,itis awondrous
place. A book, music, and video lover’s
delight. And on top of that, for the first
time in TFN’s history with booksdlers,
were were wdcome to place papers there
from the first time we spoke with them. In
almost all other media venues, we have
had trouble with local management, having
to contact corporate
headquarters,who then said , I just got
"Of course you’re wel- Borders
¯¯ ! bigger, better pieces in "Return of the "
Jedi"in March. "
¯ However, at this year’s Defcon (the "
¯ Tulsa science-fiction/fantasy convention), ¯
: I had the chance to ask Star Wars author, :
¯ Kevin Anderson and Lucasfilm spokes- "
." person, SteveSansweet, aboutthe chances ¯
¯ of seeing gay characters in the new films
¯ TherespousefromAnderson: "NO! There "
won’t be any gay charac- ¯
lmck from ters in the Star Wars urn- "
Boobs& verse because Lucas "
doesn’twantany sexuality ¯
in the series." ¯
Excuse me? I pointed
out that in "Return" Leia "
ran about kissing almost "
everyonebutthe Wookiee, ¯
and in the novels, she and
Han Solo are married and
have children! Certainly ¯
that didn’thappen without :
some kind of sex! The response
was a muffled re- "
ply, and I explained that "
the question was more one ¯
of relationships that just a "
simple matter of sexuality. :
I, at the risk of having
my idea plagiarized, sug- ¯
gested my own story to
AndersOn: ThatHancomes "
out of the closet, divorces _"
Leia, who really loved
¯ Chewbacca anyway, professes his love ¯
¯ for the still single (and not dating anyone : ¯
ofanysex/species)LukeSkywalker.They "
decide to run amok in the galaxy fighting
prejudice everywhere, with C3PO and "
R2D2 starting "Droids for Gay Rights" "
groups allover thegalaxy. ContactGeorge ¯
Lucas at Lucasfilm, POB 2009, San ¯
Rafael, CA 94912-2009, Phone: (415) ¯
662-1700, to register .your thoughts. ¯
May the Force be with you!
In the meantime, go see MARS ATTACKS!,
a great new camp space film -"
fromTim Burton. Atleast he hires openly "
gay production designers, as detailed in ¯
the Advocate article onWynn Thomas in ¯
the magazine’s current issue (# 723). ."
Tulsa World regularly does so where ap- ".
propriate. And unlike The World, which ".
restricts letters to 200words, TFNran the ¯
letters criticalofour coverage essentially :
withoutany editingfor length. Becauseo "
those letters’ length, TFN responded at :
the relevant points rather than at the end, ¯
TFN is happy to help make ourreaders
aware of the inadequacies ofHIV/AIDS
commonjournalisticpractice to respond
editorially. Likelyyou’ve noticed thatThe
come!", andthenhadto deal
with the hassles of local
management and an unfriendly
attitude. Infaet,one
bookstore still is refusing
us a spot in their store,
though they allow almost
all the other local papers.
~<-Theresa Lynch, General
Manager, and the staff at
Bordershavebeenmostgracious
and wdeoming, and
it was interesting to note
thatmany ofthe store’s first
day customers were members
of the Tulsa Gay community.
In fact, it looked
likewew~eatapartyrather
than a bookstore, as many
folks as we saw who we
knew. Borders has a nondiscrimination
clause on
Music, & let me tell
you, it is a wondrous
place. A book, music, &
video lover’s delight.
Theresa Lynch... and
tire staff at Borders
]rave been most gracious
& welcoming, & it was
interesting to note that
many d tLe store’s
day customers were
members d the Tulsa
Gay community. In
fact, it looked like we
were at a party rather
than a bookstore...
their employment applications that indudes
sexual orientation as well. Butdon’t
bother applying, I’mfirst on the list! TFN
welcomes Borders and encourages all of
our readers to. patronize their business.
Their sections on gay studies and fiction
arewell stockedandwell rounded. Tell’em
we sent
If you are avoiding your dysfunctional
~anily this year, Icanrecommendacouple
of videos to watch withfriends and family
of choosing. Smart Saves His Family was
an excellent portrayal of such madness as
those of us from this background deal
with. It is less acomedy andmore adrama
with eomedic moments. The studio marketed
it as a eomedy, whichparts of it are
but the film flopped largely due to the
expectation that it would be a laugh a
minute. I came away from this film with a
soft spot in my heart for Smart Smalley,
and the "Smart Within" myself, as well as
an insight that we are all struggling on our
own paths, doing the best we can with
what we’ve got. And a few laughs.
"Home For The Holidays", Jodie Fospaean
to dysfunctional holidays, was
tan%ther enjoyable film to hole up .with; in
much the same vain, with a lovely moral
to boot. I do think Robert Downey, Junior
was annoying, however. Get gay men to
play gay men.
by Jep~n-,Bierre Legrandbouche
TFN Food Critic
It’s hohday time! Sugarplum.~ andfrnitcakes
and egg hog and office parties and
big family dinners and all sorts of low
calorie opportunities abound! And, of
course, even though they aren’t prepared
this way the rest of the year, all of the
recipes must be made with lots of real
butter and ofhcavy cream.
December is a perfect
time to turn to the rather
healthier and lighter foods
of Asia. Counterbalancing
all those rich, Western European
artery doggers, Oriental
recipes are traditionally
lightonthemeat,heavy
on the vegetables, have
plenty of variety, and overfiow
with great flavors.
Now, toomuchoily stir-fry
can defeat the purpose, so
therestauranthas to bechosen
carefully for the skill
andartistry ofthechef. And,
Tulsa is blessed to have a
particularly f’mechefatKim
Long, a Vietnamese and
Chinese restaurant in far
southeast Tulsa, which is
probably the best in town.
Located in a shopping
center which includes the
." fluence in the sauces and presentation.
¯ The French were, formany years prior to ¯
American involvement, colonial over-
" lords, and brought French culture to the
¯ East.Agood example ofthe Frenchinflu-
: ence is the ever popular Vietnamese iced
: coffee, a strong, distinctive roast brewed
¯ with an individual drip container, and
-" served with .weetened condensed milk
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infamous Ocean Club at 81st and Memohal,
Kim Long is a huge restaurant which
took over the location of the former
southside attempt of Tulsa’s historic
Louisiane. Thedecorhas notbeenchanged
much, so there is a open and casual ambiance
to the multi-tiered and multi-roomed
establishment, yet it still maintains a nice
restaurant feel. None of those little lanterns
hang around, and the place is quiet,
even on busy nights.
All of the standard Chinese-American
foods are offered, and done well. But, so
many traditional Chinese regional dishes,
.especially fromHnnanandSzechuanpmv-
~nces, appear on the large menu, that it
would take a diner months to sample
every dish. Prices for the Chinese foods
are qnitereasonablefor a restaurant ofthis
quality, and only slightly more than one
would expect to pay in a Chinese. fastfood
type place. Most of the standard
chicken, beef, and pork dishes hover
around the $7 mark, and-seafood dishes
are $9 or $10: These names will all be
familar--cashew chicken, kung pao beef,
shredded pork with garlic sance, shrimp
with lobster sauce.
We highly recommend that the more
¯ adventurous diner order from the list Of
Chinese specialties. Prices areabithigher,
: ranging from $8.55 to $12.95, but the
over ice.
ThedassicBdChhGi6,
$5.95, is a bowl of
vermicelli noodles topped
with chopped eggrolls,
grilled beef, pork, and
chicken,andmounds oflettuce,
cucumbers, and bean
sprouts, all topped with
chopped peanuts. A small
bowl of fish sauce accompanies
the dish as a condiment,
andtheknowing epicure
will dump the sauce
into thebowl andmix all of
the contents around with
the chopsticks. Pho Diic
BiSt is a delicious Hanoi
style soup with slices of
rare steak, beeftendon, and
meatballs. Thesmall bowl,
$4.95, is agoodfirstcourse,
and the large bowl, $5.95,
is almost big enough for a
meal by itself. We also like
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¯ the G~ Xho Xht, which at $6.95, is a
: chicken dish flavored with the pungent
: spiciness oflemon grass, accompaniedby
¯ steamed rice and a bowl of.onion soup.
: Another delicious example of Vietnam-
: ese flavors is in the B6 Tfii Chanh, $7.95,
¯ - which is a combination of thinly sliced
beef cooked in lime juice and flavored
with mint leaves, onions, and peanuts.
The truly brave will try L~uTh[ip CAm,
ahugeundertaking for two ormore, where
plate after plate of different vegetables,
shaved beef, shrimp, crab legs, andsquid
are brought to the table, raw. A large pot
of boiling soup stock is placed in the
middle of the table, and the diners use
their chopsticks to select and cook their
own dinner in the stock, sort of like a
French fondue. It’s a $22.95 investment~
but well worth the fun. Just as a matter of
etiquette, when eating With chopsticks;
one uses the smaller ends of the sticks to
convey foods to the mouth. However,
when working with a common bowl or
pot, one. switches the ends and uses the
largerends ofthesticks to bring foodfrom
the common pot to the plate.
If all of these individual dishes aren’t
wonderful enough, this place .has prob-
: ably.the best Asian buffet in this part of
¯ the state. A steal at only $6.95 per person,
: a full range of salads, soups, desserts,
: condiments, .and.countess Chinese .and
¯ : Vietnamese dishes are featured. Entrees
¯ are rotated, and not thesame.old things
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" real treat tO see such a realistically positive
andinnocent film. It was wellwritten.
~ and r well’ dixected.-Hopefnlly it.will be
available on video or:at a Film Festival
.... ., near us~soon:. I highly.recommend it~
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Sept, 15 - Oct. 14, 1996, vol. 3, no. 10
Serving Tulsa’s Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual & Trans Communities
ENDA
DOMA WASHINGTON- The U.S. Senate voted on the Defense
of Marriage Act (DOMA) and the Employment
Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), two key pieces of
legislation affecting gay, lesbian, bisexual and
transgender Americans. The Senate passed the anit-
Gay DOMA bill, 85-14, as was expected. The Senate
then voted 49 to 50 to defeat ENDA.
Oklahoma’s senators, Don Nickles and Jim Inhofe,
both noted for their hostility to their Lesbian & Gay
constituents, voted against ENDA and for DOMA.
Nickles was the Senate sponsor of DOMA and Inhofe
an original co-sponsor.
TulsaOklahomans for H~_~man Rights (TOHR) issued
a statement strongly condemning their votes, particularly
criticizing Inhofe for his refusal to meet with
Lesbian and Gay constituents, community leaders or
Gay press. Sen. Nieldes sent a letter to colleagues
calling for a vote against ENDA because it would
"promote sexual promiscuity". He also equated homosexuality
and bisexuality with bestiality, pedophiliaand
adultery, and suggested that local school boards should
be able to fire or not hire staff who express opinions
advocating homosexual or bisexual relationships.
The measures had became hopelessly entangled in a
series of political moves, counter-moves, and countercounter-
moves. DOMA, which has already cleared a
House vote, would define marriage as a legal commitment
between one man and one woman. The effect
would be to deny any federal benefits to married samesex
couples.
No state currently recognizes such marriages, but a
lion of the work of several
TOHR boards and longtime
community supporters. Tim
Gillean, former president of
the organization, was recognizedinparticularforhis
leadership.
’‘This project has been
the dream of many but without
Tim Gillean, we would
not be where we are today,"
noted pres. Debbie Starnes.
The Pride Center will be
open to all community organi
zations andindividtmls who
share its goals which include
ending discrimination and oppression
based on sexual orimany
but without
oR.]DE CENTER N ON BROOKSIDE OCT. 4TH ¯
Officer ’ - ..... _" Many community organizations have enabout
to i dorsed this project. Prime Timers has donated
Bisexual
i $1,000 for The Pride Center and Rainbow
Brookside Business Guild, The Black &White Charities,
Rights (TOHR) and Inc., PFLAGleaders, Bill &Kathy Hinkle and
foot center open in October. pastors of the churches that reach out to the
A spokesperson for the or- community support The Pride Center.
ganization noted that The " Part of the 3,500 s. f. of The Pride Center
Pride Centeris theculmina- been the dream o~" " will provide offices for HOPE, HIV Outreach,
¯
Prevention, Education which are the preven-
¯ tion programs of TOHR. HOPE’s director,
T;m G;llean,
[former pres.],
we would not
be where we
are today,"
- Deb Starnes
Pride Ctr. Pres.
entation. Officials stated that The Pride Center opens with a modest
budget and will be supported by individual and organizational mem-
.berships, as well as byindividual pledges. Membership is $20/yearfor
individuals and $35/year for couples. Pledges range from $3-5/month
up to $100/month with most at about $15 to $25
Statues added, ’"dais is a way for each and every member of the
community to make a difference. We appreciate those individuals
who can pledge hundreds but the support of those who can just help
with a few dollars a month are equally important. This is a center for
all."
Fellowship Congregational
i Welcomes Lesbians & Gays ¯ Another Tulsa "mainline" Protestant church has become an offi- ¯
cially welcoming congregation to Lesbians and Gay men. Fellowship
¯
Congregational Church joins a number of "open and affirming"
¯ churches that are part of the United Church of Christ (UCC) denomi-
¯ nation.
¯ The leaders of this church of about 200 near 31st and Harvard
¯
characterized the year and 1/2 process of becoming a welcoming
¯ congregation as both stressful and as exciting. The issue first seemed
¯ to rise about 3 or 4 years ago. The church which as a tradition ofbeing ¯
involvedin socialjusticeissues realized that they had a certainamount
¯ of ignorance about homosexuality. Over the year and 1/2, at a series
¯ of events, the congregation had the opporttmity to personalize the
: issues. A divinity student who had ties to the congregation came back
¯ to preac.h and also came out as Gay. see Fellowship, page 3
¯ Claudette Peterson, was estatic at finally hay-
¯ ing adequate space for her staff. The highly
" successful programs now have seven staff
¯ members and additional volunteers who can
: not fit.into the current spaces near the HIV
¯ Resource Consortium (HIVRC). Peterson ¯
notes, however, that HOPE will continue its
: HIV antibody testing program at ’the HIVRC
¯ with which it works closely.
¯ A workroom and a conference room of The
". Pride Center will be available for community
¯ organizations that do not have their own of-
. rices. The site has adequate parking at the
¯ building which is unusual for Brookside with
: even more overflow parking nearby. The Cen-
¯ ter will be accessible to those with mobility
¯ disabilities. ¯
Additionally, ThePride Center will behome
¯ to The Pride Store. The Pride Store will serve
¯ community needs rangingfromgreeting cards,
¯ rainbow stickers, flags and other Pride items, ¯
news magazines, t-shirts, etc. Gay business
: owner Tom Neal is volunteering as a consult-
: ant and is donating merchandise from his store
¯ tomfoolery] see Pride Center, page 3
¯ Community Leader Lost
:
see Community Notes, page 9
National Coming Out Day
Workshop, Leatherstuff,
Bible + Homosexu,a,lity
Study Group, Two Splrlted
Mens’ Group + TU/BLGTA
Safe Haven, RBG Dinner
Gay Comedy Jam, IAM
Street Carnival, Lesbian
Comedian, AIDS Mastery
ComingSoon : OKLAHOMA CITY- Oklahoma’s Gay community is in shock from
¯ repo~tsofabrutalkillingofagaymaninthesmalltownofWoodward,
¯ near the Oklahoma Panl~mdle, by two men whom witnesses say later
: bragged they had ’~ust killed that queer." It is the second vicious anti-
: gay murder in the state this year. Police say Albert J. Bixler was
¯ apparently beaten to death with a car fire jack and his body dumped
." inatrashbinby Shannon LeeJones, 23, and MarkJones,30. Bothmen
¯ live in Woodward but are not related to each other. One witness at an
i apartment building where the two suspects were staying told police
¯ she overheard Shannon Lee Jones say, "The queer son of a bitch got ¯
what he deserved." Shannon Jones is being sought by police on
murder charges. Mark Jones, 30, is being held on murdei charges.
¯ Authorities have also issued amaterial witness warrant for a thirdman
whom they identified as Clifford Green, who sometimes goes by the
name of Clifford Beard.
Only a week earlier, two Guthrie, Okla., teenagers, identified by
police as skinheads, appeared in court in Oklahoma City to face
¯ charges of murdering Charles Meers earlier this year. Alexis N.
Perryman, 18, and Nicholas J. Karlin, 15, have been charged with
¯ brutally beating Meers, stabbing him, shooting him, and then dousing
his body and home with gasoline and setting them on fire in an effort
: to cover up the killing.
case pending in Hawaii see ENDA/DOMA, p. 3 " Oklahoma’s ’96 Anti-Gay Murders
INSIDE EDITORIAIJLETrERS/DIRECTORY P. 2
NEWS BRIEFS P. 4
HEALTH BRIEFS P, 6
CALENDAR P. 9
EUREKA HAPPENINGS P. 11
BOOK REVIEW/ENTERTAINMENT P. 12
RESTAURANT REVIEW P. 13
CLASSIFIEDS P. 15
¯ " Robert Fitzgerald Renfro, known as RF or
¯ just as Renfro, one of Tnlsa’s most respected
¯ community leaders and HIV/AIDS educators
¯ died at St. Francis Hospital on August 23 after
¯ a brief, though severe, illness.
¯ A Celebration of Eternal Life was held at
Shiloh Baptist Church with the Rev. Eddie
¯ Cook preaching and the Rev. Melvin Bailey,
: host pastor, see Renfro, page 3
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by Phyl Boler-Schmidt
A number of months ago, I reported on a rather suspicious
death that occurred here in Eureka Springs. It was a death that
struck terror in the hearts and minds of many lesbigay cidzens
because the victim was known to be aGay man, andhe was killed
by a teenager who suggested tO police that he did the deed in selfdefense
againstacts the description of whichI Would probably
incite major homophobic responses from the police. It.appeared
at that time that investigation of the.death was being permanently
swept under the rug.
However, Iamhappy to reportthat the death ofChris Klein will
not go unpunished, or at least untried. Anthony Fleetwood was
arrested in August .and charged with 2rid degree homicide, some
seven months after the slaying. Bond was set at $30,000, and if
the bond is raised, Fleetwood risks losing the services of the
Public Defender appointed by the court. DNA and serum test
results were finally completed and failed to back up Fleetwood’ s
story, a story that said, in part, that after polishing off a 12 pack
see Justice, page .3
by G. Miller, M,A.
Last month I gave some simple advice on dealing with the
outside forces in your life. The aim of that little treatise was to get
you thinking positively about ways to improve you daily existence
byhandling the external forces you confront This month I
want to spend a little time on how to get your personal force into
the positive mode.
This will sound way too simple but the truth usually is simple¯
Youcan either choose to see your life as positive or negative. You
. make that choice every morning of every day, When you head to
work, understand what it is you are doing. If you’ re lucky you go
to ajob that challenges and fulfills you, or you are going to ajob
which permits you to earn a living. The income from that job
provides the where with all.which allows you to do the things you
want to get enjoyment out of life. So while thejob itselfmay not
be the most enjoyable thing in the world, it is the springboard to
enjoying the other areas of your life. If you can make that logic
stream work in your favor then you can stop bitchin’ about your
job and start making each day mean see Life, page 3
Tulsa Clubs-& Restaurants
*Bamboo Lounge, 7204 E. Pine 832-1269
*Concessions, 3340 S. Peoria 744-0896
*Lola’s, 2630 E.. 15th 749-1563
*St. Michael’s Alley Restaurant, 3324-L E. 31st 745-9998
*Silver Star Saloon, 1565 Sheridan 834-4234
*Samson & Delilah, 10 E. Fifth 585-222.1-,
*Renegades/Rainbow Room, 1649 S. Main ... 585-3405
*TNT’ s, 2114 S. Memorial 660-0856-
*Tool Box, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308.
*Interurban Restaurant, 717 S. Houston 585-3134
Tulsa Businesses, Services, & Professionals
Dennis C. Arnold, Realtor 7464620
*Assoc. in Med.& Mental Health, 2325 S. Harvard 743-1000
Kent Balch & Associates, Health & -Life Insurance 747-9506
*Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 8620 E: 71 250:5034
Brookside Jewelry, 4649 So. Peoria 743-5272
*Creative Collection, 1521 E. 15 - ¯ - 592-1521
Cherry Street Psychotherapy Associates
1515 S. Lewis 581-0902, 743-4117
Tim Daniel, Attorney 352-9504, 800-742-9468
*Deco to Disco, 3212 E. lSth - .749-3620
Don Carlton Mitsubishi; 46th & Memorial 665-6595
Don Carlton Honda, 4i41 S.’Memorial- 622-3636
*Elite Books. & Videos, 821 S. Sheridan 838-8503
Express Pools & Spas, 6310 S..Peoria 743-9994
Foxlinx, Computer-Consultation- 690-2974
Leanne M. Gross, Financial Planning 744-0102
*Sandra J. Hill, MS, Psychotherapy, 2865 E. Skelly 745-1111
Imaginations, Lincoln Plaza, 15th & Peoria .584-4606
*International Tours 341-6866
JD Images, Photography 621-5597
Kerfs Flowers, 1635 E. 15 599-8070
Kelly Kirby, CPA, POB 14011, 74159 747-5466
Loup-Garou, 2747 E. 15 742-1992
Lean Ann Macomber, Realtor Associate 671-2010
*Midtown Theater, 319 E. 3 584-311-2
Mingo Valley Flowers, 9720c E. 31st 663-5934
*Mohawk Music, 6157 E 51 Pl 664-2951
*Novel Idea Bookstore, 51st & Harvard 747-6711
David A. Paddock, CPA, 4308 S. Peoria, Ste. 633 747-7672
Puppy Pause II, 1 lth & Mingo 838-7626
*Ross Edward Salon, 1438 S. Boston 584-0337
*Scribner’ s Bookstore, 1942 Utica Square 749-6301
Scott Robison’ s Prescriptions, see ad for 3 locations 743-2351
Southwest Viatical 747-3322
Thomas Chiropractic, 4138 S. Harvard, Ste C-1 742-8868
Kellie J. Watts, attorney 493-1959
Fred Welch, LCSW; Counseling 743:1733
¯ Tulsa Organizations, Churches, & Universities
¯¯ AIDS Walk Tulsa; POB 1071,74101-1071 579-9593
Black & White, InC.-POB 14001,Tulsa74159 583-7314
¯ *Bless The Lord... Christian Center, 262To E. 11 628-0594
¯ *B/L/G Alliance, Univ. of Tulsa Canterbury Ctr. 583-9780
*Chapman Student Ctr., University of Tulsa, 5th Pl.. & Florence
¯ *CommunityofHopeUnitedMethodist, 1703 E. 2rid 585-1800
~..Community Unitarian-Universalist Congregation 749-0595
: Dignity/IntegrityrLesbian!Gay Catholics/Episcopal. 298-4648
¯ .*Fmnily of Faith MCC; 5451-E So. Mingo 622-1441
¯ *Fellowship Congreg. Church, 2900 S. Harvard 747-7777 ¯
*Free SpiritWomens Center, call forlocation &info: 587-4669
¯ Friend For A Friend, POB 52344, 74152 747-6827
. Friends in Unity Social Org. (African-American mens group)
: POB 8542, 74101, call c/o TOHR @ 742-2927
Indian Health Care, Save the Nation 584 4983
¯ Interfaith AIDS Ministries 438:2437, 800-284-2437
¯ ~MCCbfGreaterTulsa, 1623 N:Maplew0od 838-1715 ¯
*I-IiV Resource Ctr., 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H-1 7494194
:. NAMES PROJECT, 4154 S. Harvard, Ste. H’-I 748-3111
: *Our House, 1114 S. Quaker 584-7960
¯ PFLAG ,POB 52800, 74152 7494901
¯ *Planned Parenthood, 1007 S. Peoria 587-7674
." Prime-Timers, P.O. Box 52118 74104
: *R.A.I.N., Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 7494195
.~ Rainbow B,usiness Guild, POB 4106, 74159 " 665-5174
"" St.Jerome s Catholic Church, 3841 S. Peoria, 646-7116
," .~Shand Hotline & HIV/AIDS Services 749-7898
¯ Tulsa Oklahomans for Human Rights, (TOHR)
POB 52729, 74152 7434297
! Technicians, 1338 E. 3rd 584-1308
¯ T.U.L.S:A. Tulsa Uniform/Leather Seekers Assoc. 838-1222
¯ *Tulsa City Hall, Cafeteria Vestibule, Ground Floor
¯ *Tulsa Community College, Metro & NE Campuses
: *University Center at Tulsa
: EUREKA SPRINGS ¯
Autumn Breeze Restaurant, Hwy 23 South 501-253-7734
¯
Beaver Dam Store, 1/2 mi.N, of Dam Hwy. 187 501-253-6154
: *Jim & Brent’s Bistro, 173 S. Main 501-253-7457
¯ DeVito’s Restaurant, 5 Center St. 501-253-6807 ¯
*Emerald Rainbow, 45 &l/2 Spring St. 501-253-5445
¯
Geek to Go!, PC Specialist, POB 429 501-253-2776
: King’sHi-Way,96KingsHighway,Hwy.62W 800-231-1442
¯ MCC of the Living Spring 501-253-9337 ¯
McClung Realtors 501-253-9682
¯ Positive Idea Marketing Plans 501-253-2401
¯ Rock Cottage Gardens 501-253-8659 800-624-6646
¯ Sparky’s, Hwy. 62 East 501-253-6001
The Woods, 50 Wall St. 501-253-8281
Opposes School Tax Increase
Tulsans who pay property taxes just
felt a significant bump this spring, and if
the October 8 bond issue passes, we’ 11 get
ajolt. Renters, you won’ t escape either-
.your landlord will have to pass on the cost
increase to tenants. But isn’t the bond
issue for a worthy cause - Tulsa schools?
The school district’ s demanding $94.5
million for a district with about half as
-" many students as ithad 20 years ago. Last
¯ year they said they needed $89 million
: from us, but they have "upped the ante"
¯ because they claim buildings have dete-
-" riorated that much since last year. Yet
¯ they have sold two of their 18 unused
¯ properties in the meantime- where are
¯ the millions from those? They also claim
¯ that they need chairs and textbooks, but
." many parents tell me the P.T.A.’s have
¯ provided those since last year in various
..
school~. They made dire predictions, that
our property taxes would fall if we didn’ t
"support our schools"- but values are up.
And does each classroom really need tele-
¯ communications and a telephone as re-
, quested? I’ think not, We all want our
¯ schools to be fine ones. But each person
has to ask, "What benefit will I see from
," yet another tax hike?" Vote NO Oct. 8.
- Leah Farish
Editor’s note: TFN neither endorses nor
¯ Opposes this vote. We encourage readers
tb consider carefully and to vote.
¯ We applaud those represented by the
¯ letter above [or reaching out to Lesbian ¯
and Gay voters. This community is usu-
¯ ally simply ignored though we are af-
¯ fected- as parents, as teachers, as
¯ homeowners and tenants. In a tight race,
¯ minority communities can make a differ-
"~ ence. The writersees that. Thesupporters
:. of the bond vote have made no effort to
¯ reach out to this community.
¯ Carbon Copy - Full Text
¯ Editors, The Tulsa World
~ Why are we afraid of same-sex mar-
" riage? Is it change? Without change, we
¯ can not grow. Why are we afraid of any¯
one or anything that is different fromus or
our views? What would the world be like
¯ if we were all the same?
~ Marriageis acommitmentbetweentwo
¯ people who love one another. Single-par-
" ent homes, illegitimate children, abusive
: spouses, alcoholism, joblessness and
: multiple marriages are aspects that are
¯ tearing the family and marriage apart.
Please tell me where same-sex marriage
." will destroy the institutions of marriage
_. and family. And is it wrong for a married
¯ couple not to have children and go against
the marriage is for.pro-creation theory?
: Heterosexual couples enjoy the right to
¯ tax breaks, spousal benefits, and hospital ¯
visitations. Same-sexcouples donot. Isn’ t
." this discrimination? Have we forgotten
~ about the Constitution? Doesn’t it give
¯ every American the same basic rights?
." When will the politicians realize they
." arenotsupporting every American?When
¯ will they realize they are teaching hate
~ and discrimination? Where is the love
¯ they supposedlyhavefor Americaandit’ s
¯ people?Whyhas the government decided
¯ it should dictate what our morals will be
¯ and how we will define marriage and
¯ family?
." We are all human beings. The hatred
¯ and discriminationhas to stop. I urge each ¯
of you to please look deep into your soles
¯ and bring out the love God intended us to
¯ share with one another and bury the hate.
¯ America will be a much better place.
" - Lance Brittain. Collinsville
something in terms of what else it is you want to ¯
accomplish. "
The same thing is true of your personal rdationship.
If you spend all your time finding fault with ",
your companion, then each day will be a trial. If on ¯
the other hand you recognize what good things
come from the relationship, and understand how "
important that contributionis,thenyour daily inter- "
action will become more positive and enjoyable.
Don’t forget the reverse of that statement is also ¯
true. If you are doing some trivial thing which ¯
obviously makes your co.mpanion nuts, quit doing
it! Making a concession m a triviality is nothing ¯
compared.to slowly poisoning a rdationship over ¯
sbmething which is probably of little meaning to "
you anyway.
Sit down in a quiet moment and start looking at
your reactions to the things you experience each
day. If you are spending most of your time being
angry or upset or unhappy, figure out why. Is it that
someone is purposefully trying to make your life
miserable, or are you doing it to yourself? There
was a time when the slightest suggestion that I was
not competent enough, or smarL or clever or handsome
or whateverwould sendmeinto ablack funk.
Finally I ~at down and took stock ofwhat was rea~_ly
going on.
No I am not the smartest person in the world, but
I’m smart enough: Yes there are some things at
which I am totally incompetent. No, I am not the
most handsome person, but then neither am I Frankenstein.
What I lack in smarts, I make up for in
common sense. What I am incompetent at, I make
up for by being very competent in other areas.
While I may not be Porno Star material, I have an
excellent dry wit! Make your own inveiitory of all
the positive things about yourself and recognize
that everyone is deficient in some area.
You don’t have to become a Saint, but if you will
start to be reasonable about who and what you
really are and quit trying to be something else, then
life gets much less complicated and much more
fun. Better than that, you will begin to feel better
about yourself and life in general. Then you can
start doing the things in your everyday world which
actually make things better for yourself and others
around you.
Now here is the biggest secret abouthow to make
your life more fulfilling and enjoyable. Learn
to say, ’I was wrong!, sorry. My mistake, sorry!"
Whenyou screw up,just admityou screwedUP and
get down to work correcting the screw up. Fixin.g a
mistake is much less time and energy consmmng
than trying to cover up that you made a mistake.
Admit that everyone screws up from time to time.
Quit trying to cover up your mistake, or bludgeon
someone rise for their mistake. If you fall into the
trap of the one-upmanship game, you will regret it
in the end.
There is nothing hard about finding the enjoymeat
in Life. It is only when.we set unreasonable
expectations of ourselves and others that we make
life hard. I had some very wise people try to get this
across to me years ago, but I couldn’t grasp the
concept then~ Perhaps it is only with lime that we
come to these realizations. Or maybe it’s because
we are so ego-centered that we can’t see the simple
truths in front of us. I don’t know, maybe I’m not
smart enough to figure that one out. But I have
figured out how to be more positive about myself,
about my place in the word and about how to get
the most out of enjoying the word as it exists
around me.
I remember a short quote from a 19th Century
Americanpoet, possibly Stephen Crane or Stephen
Foster, I could be wrong about the name. I may
have the exact quote a little wrong, but don’t miss
the point. A man said to the Universe, "Sir I exist."
and the Universe replied, "Sir, that fact does not
createmmea sense of Obllgatton . Your exlsten
is up to you to make ofit something. Youcanmake
it negative, combative and endlessly hard, or you
can make it something else. What you make it is up
to you.
Copyright © 1996 Gerald Miller
Organizers and featured speaker at the recent fundraisin~g
dinner are: Martin Newman, MarkGoldman, and[3ill Stoskopf
of Black & White Charities, Nancy McDonald, of PFLAG,
speaker Elizabeth Birch, executive director of the Human
Rights Campaign, Kristie Suttee, Steve Wright, and Mark
Wright, also ofBlack & White Charities.
This yearPFLAGbeganitsSWANawards to recognize those
in Tulsa who have stood up for fairness and for justice. The
recipients are the Rev. Russell Bennett, pastor of Fellowship
Congregational Church. His congregation has recently become
an officially wdcoming one for Lesbians and Gay men. Eddie
Faye Gates, a wall respected educator &writer is honored for
herleadership ontheHumanRights Commission. Dennis Neill,
an attorney, also served on the Human Rights Commission and
with the ACLU and was founding president of TOHR. Lisa
Pottorf of Youth Services was recognized for her heroic work
with and for Lesbian and Gay young adults. Sharon Thoele,
director of the HIV Resource Consortium, is known for her
commitment to HIV/AIDS issues &THE NAMES PROJECT.
That business successfully served the community for
two years from a space leased from The Silver Star. The
Pride Store will-benefit The Pride Center and HOPE
prevention programs~ Director Peterson anticipates that
the Store will be staffed by volunteers but that The Pride
Store possibly also may be able to provide appropriate
work opportunties for persons living with HIV/AIDS.
Other office space will be available for seminars, video
showings and exhibits. While not all details have been
: resolved, it’s hoped that part of the space can be used for
"_ Lesbian and Gay young adults who have few other safe
: places to go.
Pride Center organizers note that volunteers are needed
for clean-up, painting, minor repairs to get the Center
ready to open. Later, those with strong backs and a few
vans and pick-up trucks will be asked to help move the
prevention program offices. To volunteer or for more
infolmation, call 743-GAYS (743-4297).
is expected to lead to the legalization of gay marriages in that
state in the next year or two. Civil libertarians have argued that
" DOMA is highly questionable because marriage has always
: been a state issue that Congress has never before touched. The
¯ Constitution’s "full faith and credit" clause makes it question-
¯ able whether federal legislation can impose such restrictions.
¯ Activists and several members of Congress were quick to
¯ criticize DOMA as election-year political maneuveringaimed
¯ at embarrassing President Clinton, noting that one of the origi-
¯ hal Senate co-sponsors of the measure was Bob Dole, the
: Republican presidential candidate. Clinton drew fire from
: rights activists when he quickly said he would sign DOMA - at
¯ leastas itwas introducedin theHouseearlier this year. But since
: then, the measure has gone through several changes in the form
: of a bewildering set of amendments. The capper in all this, of
¯ course, was ENDA, the anti-discrimination amendment that
¯ was supposed to be tacked on to DOMA by Seas. Edward M.
: Kennedy (D-Mass.), James Jeffords (R-Vt.), and Joseph
: Lieberman (D-Conn.).
¯ Inan 1 lth-hourmmof events, Senate Majority Leader Trent
¯ Lott of Mississippi announced that ENDA would be voted on
: separately from DOMA. The eomplex political mish-mash the
: Republicans and Democrats had made of DOMA and ENDA
¯ had created so many objections from both sides of the aisle that
: Lott moved to extricate the two measures from each other.
¯ Richard Tafel, executive director of Log Cabin Republicans
¯ noted of the close vote onENDA, "I’his sends the message that
: the 105th Congress will be ready to pass some form of non-
: discriminationlaw to protectgays andlesbians." said. ’q’he real
¯ surprise is we now have 8 Republicans who support ending
: discnnnnalaonagamstgays mthe workplace. We rebegium g
¯ to see what happens when the gay community works with both
: parties. I’m sure we can bring on more Republicans in the next
¯ Congress, we had a couple on the fence on this vote. This vote
¯ proves working with Republicans instead of writing them off
¯ benefits the entire gay and lesbian community."
¯ MelindaParas, executive director, National Gay and Lesbian
¯ Task Force commented, ’~foday is a historic moment for
¯ lesbian and gay people, despite the outcome of the Senate votes.
: In spite of the intolerance of many Republican and Democrat
_" lawmakers, weknow wehavefinally broken the legislative log-
; jam that has blocked Congress from even discussing our civil
¯ rights in aserious manner. Weknow we will have tolose a few i votes.before we win the battle. We lost ENDA by only two
votes. We know that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender
¯ equal rights have taken center stage in American politics, and
¯ we can never go back to the days of silence."
Renfro was a founder and leader of FUSO, Friends in
Unity Social Organization, Inc. a non-profit that seeks to
educate African-American men of diverse sexual orientation
aboutHIV/AIDS. Healso served withmany groups,
including TulsaAIDS Walk, AIDS Coalition,TOHR, the
Community Planning Group, Tulsa Pride Picnic and
more. He was an ordained minister, active in his congregation,
Bless the Lord at All Times Christian Center.
Friends and family expressed shock and sorrow at his
sudden death. Most did not know RFhad been living with
HIV/AIDS for 10 years. Donations inhonor ofhis memory
may be made to FUSO, c/o TOHR, POB 2687, 74101.
At other events, they had the chance to meet parents of
Lesbians and Gays.
The task force for this issue lauded the leadership of
their pastor, Russell Bennett. They praised, in particular,
his balancing the need to push the church forward but
without getting too far ahead of it as wall. The group
noted also that Pastor Bennett had performed, with their
knowledge, a couple of holy unions, or blessings of same
gender couples.
The United Church of Christ is the only mainline
Protestant denomination that ordains openly Lesbian and
Gay persons as amatter ofpolicy, and therefore shouldbe
expected to be friendly to Lesbians and Gay men. However,
in the Congregationalist tradition, it is up to the
individual congregations to implement these policies and
to call individuals to ministry. Fellowship is the only
UCC church in Tulsa though there are some others in the
staie_.
Some members of Fellowship Congregational asked
why it was necessary to adopt an official policy of being
open and affirming since they felt that that was what
they’d practiced all along. Other noted that in these days
when politics and religion are so mixed togeth,, r, that
their congregation needed to stand up and be counted.
That is since so many ugly thingswere being presented in
the name of religion, they hope to counter that ugliness.
They hope that their actions will inspire others to have the
courage to do something similar.
Services are at 10:30 am. Info: 747-7777
of beer with Klein and falling asleep on the couch,
Fleetwood awoke to find Klein ejaculating on his face
and tee shirt. This was his motivation, he said, for pointing
a .410 shotgun at Klein’s face and pulling the trigger.
Tests showed that sperm found on Fleetwood’s tee
shirt, confiscated the night of Klein’s violent death,
"...could not have been that of the victim but instead was
consistent with the blood" of Fleetwood.
Newly appointed Eureka Springs Police Chief Earl
Hyattwas aninvestigator withthe Carroll County Sheriff’ s
Office at the time of the slaying and worked with Eureka
Springs Investigator Morris Pate at the crime scene. If
convicted, Fleetwood faces a five- to 20-year prison term
for the Class B felony.
Lesbians’ Killer: It"
Was ’Hate Crime’¯
MEDFORD, Ore, (Aug. 20)- Rol~rt J.
Acrement, the California man who is
charged with the December 1995 execu:
tion-style killings of lesbian activists ¯
Roxanne Ellis and Michelle Ab’dill, told "
the San Francisco Chronicle in a prison
interview that he killed the two women
because they were lesbians, not in a
botched robbery attempt as he had first
claimed.
Acrement also sent aletter to the Stockton
(Calif.) Record telling the paper in the
city where he was arrested that he had
earlier in the year killed Scott George
because themanhadmadea sexual pass at
him. In his letter, Aerement, 27, said he
Lesbian Loses
Child to Killer Dad
TALLAHASSEE, Fla. (Aug. 30) - The
Florida Court of Appeals has upheld a
lower court ruling that ordered Cassey
Ward, age 12, removed from the home of
Mary Ward,~her lesbian morn, andhanded
¯¯ over to the custody of her father, John
Ward.
. The father called the court .ruling a
"victory for my daughter and every other
child in this nation ffho may be faced with
~ being raised in a household in whichho-
¯ mosexual role modeling distorts.and per-
" verts, or is like to distort or pervert,.soci-
¯ etal norms thathave been established and ¯
recognized from the beginning of eivili-
¯
zation."
had invented the robbery .motive in the ~ : Mr: Ward was convicted of killing his
slayings Of Ellis arid Abdilli who were ¯ fir~twffein 1974;firing.12bullets,during
,f,_0und shot througla tile head, b~.cau~e he : aright over their daughter. He-pleaded
¯ was nervtus about inmate reacti0n~ to. : guiity to.sec0nd degree~urd~ran~] ~erved
my reason fbrkilling~’ whiehhe said was - ¯ .eightlyears.in.prison. - ~ . .. ~ .
a "hate crime." - i ~ , = ~ ~ " The~thr~e-judge appeals_ panel ins~stexl
Acrem~nt wen’t ori in th~ letter to say, " that its =decigionwasn"t based on mother
however, that now he doesn tcare wha
.anyone thinks - :inclbdingthe’ji~ that
Will decid,,e his-fate~ "They cankilt me forall
!care,. the letter:s~y~i ":/i" :)
Neo-Nazi" -Judged
Guilty of Murder
HOUSTON (Aug: 29) = After deliberating
fortess than 3 hours; a jury has found
Daniel C. Bean, 19, guilty.of the January
4 kilting of Frederick Mangi0n~ merry
because he was gay.~Bean, who pblice
said belongs to a neo-Nazi group known
as the German Peace Corps in Washington
state, was found guiltt of stabbing
Mangione 35 times with a large knife
outside a suburban bar where they met.
Evidence given during the trial indicated
that Bean and his stepbrother, Ronald H.
Gauthier, 21, both bragged to patrons in
the bar that they were going to assault
someone who was gay. Police also told
the court that the two menlater boasted of
brutally stabbing Mangione. Beanfaces a
maximum life sentence for the killing.
Gauthier is still awaiting trail.
¯ Mary Ward’s- sexual, orientation, but on
¯ the"best interes~ts of thelchild ’: Activists
: -were quick ’.to point ,out,-howe~er, that
] Judge Joseph Tarbuck, whosetowercourt
¯ ruli~gwas beittg revie~ved by the appeals
:. cour~,.clearly istated in hivcustody decision.
thathe wanted the gift takenfromher
. " .morn and handed over to heri convicted-
¯ kiil~r dad to give bet a chance to live in."a
¯ non-lesbian world.’"
John~ .Ward ctiallenged the mother’s
¯ custody after.she applied for anii~crease
¯ in child support. Attorneys representing
MrS. Ward have Said slle Will pr~obably
¯
appeal the ruling to the state supreme
¯
court. ¯
D.P.’ Benefits Come
¯ From Court Ruling
PORTLAND, Ore. (Aug. 9) - AnOregon
". statejudge has given the gay rights movement
a surprising victory in partnership
¯ benefits. Thejudge has ruled that Oregon
¯ must offer insurance benefits to gay domestic
partners of state employees. In
¯
issuing the ruling, the judge said it was
~ "beyond debate" that gays and lesbians
hav~ been discriminated against. Law- ¯
yers for the state and attorneys for the "
three lesbian couples who filed a lawsuit ]
on the issue say they believe the ruling ~s ¯
the first of its kind in the nation.
¯ State Rep. George Eighmey, who is "
¯ gay, praised the decision, saying "it’s a
¯ big step in the fight direction." But Lon "
¯ Mabon, the leader of the anti-gay-fights "
: group the Oregon Citizens Alliance ira- ¯
¯ mediately said the judge is "flat Out prohomosexual"
and was trying to destroy
¯ the notion of family. The statehas 30 days
to decide whether to appeal.
¯ SchOol Censorship
i=. EffortsContinue :
: -WASHINGTON.(Sept. 4).-According to
¯
¯ the 14tk annual report on school, censor- "
ship; People for the American Way says
¯ there were a record 475 attempts last year ¯
¯ to restrict books, classes or educational "
proced_ures that opponents claimed were .. too sexually explicit, too violent,too raciM,.
anti-religious,, an,ti-family,
¯¯ .unAmerican. ~ or all these things.
. A~cording to.the report, the things~bjected,
to last year ranged from accep.ted
¯ classics inliterature to Halloween partles.
" _In-.41% .of the,cases, .th6 rep0rt~ .says,
: -school officials bowed to Objections and
¯ rembved matelials or restricted activities.
¯ The" report, "Attacks on the Freedom to,
¯¯ _ Learn~" cites-conservative Christians mid
especially members of the Christian Coa-
¯ lition as chief objectors in mostof the
¯ . cases it reported on.
California, which has the largest num-
" ber of public school students of any state
¯ in the country, also led in the number of ¯
¯ attempts to restrict materials or classes,
with 56 incidents reported by the group.
¯ Carole Shields, president of People for
¯ . theAmericanWay, noted thatmany ofthe
¯ school.materials objected to mirrored ha-
¯. tional debates on issues, such as racism
poverty, homosexuality, crime, drug and
alcohol abuse, and AIDS.
: "We must analyze this report and de-
" cide as a nation: Will we bequeath to our
¯ children the tools and information they
¯ need to address these complex issues as
¯ they growinto adulthood?" Shields asked.
"Or will our gift to them be ever-narrowing
horizons of thought and speech?"
California to Ban
Gay Adoptions?
SANTA ANA,~ Calif. (Sept. 5) - At a
public hearing, the state department of
social services listened to testimony on
Tire 22, aproposed regulationthat would
recommend adoptions in California only
for married coul~les. Despite the ob_vio.us
¯ restrictions ongay andlesbiancouples the
¯ proposed regulation would impose, state
Officials denied it was anti-gay. "We’re
not talking about sexual orientation," said
Janice Ploeger of the state health and
welfare departme.n,t. "This has to do with
marriage andwhat s in the best interest of
the child."
Butrights advocates strongly disagreed.
Tara Rose,31, testified at the hearings on
the regulations that she was raised by two
¯
mothers’, but adoption was impossible
while shewasgrowingupand she sees the
regulation as abig step backward in Call-
- fornia. "ff we’re talking about-marriages
-. only.that’s one issue/’ said Rose. "But
this is’ discriminating agaiast gay and les-
¯
bian parents."
¯ The new rule could go into effect next
-- October around the time partners Lisa
"" Pratt and Julie Thompson .will be adopt-
" ing a second child, six-month-old Katy.
¯ They told the hearing that they’re con-
- cerned the child won’t get the same ben-
" efits as. their daughter Elizabeth. Even if
¯ the regulation goes into effect, the final
¯ decision will bemadeby thejudgein each
¯ adoption case, state officials say. There
were some6,000 adoptions in the state in
¯ 1995 according to state officials,andabout
a fourtli of them were by single parents,
¯ straight and gay.
:City OK’s $1.2 m
for Gay Center
: SAN FRANCISCO (Aug. 12) - The San
¯ Francisco board of supervisors voted
: unanimously to lay out $1.2 million in
~ city funds to buy property for a 5-story
¯ proposed Lesbian & Gay Center. The
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center backers will renovate to house the
community facility. Total costs for the
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and a 200-seat auditorium, are expected
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¯ The religious group charged that Disney
: had abandonedits "commitment to strong
¯ moral values" and was promoting gay-
. themed books and films. Walt Disney
¯ Company officials declined to comment
: on the group’ s call for a boycott. Earlier
¯ this year, the Southern Baptist Conven-
¯ tion called for a boycott of Disney be-
¯ cause the firm has recently extended do-
Calif. County OKs ". mestiClesbian workers.Partnerbenefits to its gay and
Intel Offers Benefits
: SANTA CLARA, Calif. (Aug. 16)- Intel
¯ Corporation, the computer chipmanufac-
: turer whose Pentium processors run rail-
¯¯ lions of computers throughout the world,
has announced that starting in 1997 the
: same-sex parmers of its workers in this
: country will be eligibleforthesamemedi-
¯ cal, dental and other employees benefits
: thatthe spouses ofits workers have access
: to through the giant computer firm.
¯ The company said it had jbined with ¯
¯ scores of other U.S. high-tech firms in
extending thebenefits package to thepart-
: hers ofits gay andlesbian workers to help
¯ "attract top talent and retainkey perform-
" ers" in the very competitive industry.
i HRC Fights Helms
: DURHAM, N.C. (Aug. 24) - The Wash-
" ington, D.C.-based lobbying group Hu-
¯ man Rights Campaign has launched a
: campaign in North Carolina to persuade
¯ undecided voters in the state’ s U.S. Senate
race this November to dump Jesse
Helms.
HRC says it will be operating phonebanks
and direct mail campaigns to convince
swing voters in the state to vote
lently anti-gay memberofCongress. HRC
xs expecting to spend some $220,000 on
the anti-Helms campaign in North Carolina.
Town Reconsiders
Rights Measure
SAUGATUCK,Mich. (Aug. 26)-Months
after the city council tabled a proposed
ordinance that would add sexual orienta-
Dom. Partnerships
SAN JOSE, Calif. (Aug. 14) - Following
a tense, prolonged and sharply divided
late-night debate, the Santa Clara County
board of supervisors refused to bow to
organized conservative religious opposi-
’tion andunanimously approved settingup
a county-wide domestic partners registry.
Religious opponents lined up to speak
out against the proposed registry during
the nearly 6 hours of public testimony,
charging that it would undermine the traditional
family, and said immediately after
the board vote that they would launch
a petition drive to put the issue before the
voters this November. Nearly 2,000 people
attended the packed board chambers, an
adjoining auditorium, and spilled onto the
sidewalks outside the county government
building.
SantaClara County, with some 1.4 million
residents, is the home of many highteclmology
firms that already extendbenefits
to the same-sex partners of their
employees. Approval of the measure
makes Santa Clara County the largest
government entity in the state to OK a ."
parmership registry. "" :
2nd Church Calls !
for Disnev BOVe_ott
though it’ s best known for its wholesome "
family films likeAladdin, theWaltDisney ¯
Company is facing another threatened :
boycott by a conservative religious orga- .
nization. :
The Assemblies ofGodis urgingits 2.5 :
million members to stop going to Disney ¯
films, buying Disney products and going "
to the company’s popular theme parks. ¯
’tion to its anti-bias protections, the council
has now voted by 6-1 to undertake the
issue once again. The council voted to
create a committee of 3 council members
and 10 city residents to discuss including
sexual orientation in its anti-bias protections
and to report back to the council.
Anti-Gay CO Org.
Opposes Partners’
Health Benefits
DENVER (Aug. 28) - Will Perkins, the
used-car dealer and head of Colorado for
Family Values which backed the state’s
unconstitutional Amendment 2, told
Denver’s city council that they shouldn’t
extend health benefits to the partners of
gay and lesbian city workers, calling the
move an "economic jihad."
Perkins broughtwithhim Paul Cameron,
the discredited psychologist who was removed
from the American Psychological
Assn. forfudging statistical data. Even so,
Cameron insisted studies he did using
obituaries indicates gay~ and lesbians are
high health and violence risks.
A spokesperson for Equality Colorado,
a gay rights organization, said Perkins’
group is a "fringe anti-gay organization"
and said Cameron offers nothing but ’*oogus
anti-gay statistics." The council will
take up the question in a vote in September.
Lawsuit. Follows
" PBS/NPR Extend
"Partner Benefits
¯ City Distributing Inc.
: River City Distributing was targeted
¯ for the boycott, bar owners and activists
¯ said, because of Mrs. Shedd’s involve-
" ment in Kentucky’s Eagle Forum, the
¯ anti-gay groupheadedby Phyllis Schlafly.
: They also noted that Mrs. Shedd served
¯ on the state Republican Party’s executive
¯ committee the year before when it unanii
mously passed a resolution in favor of
reeriminalizinghomosexuality inthe state.
In addition to the popular bars and res-
¯ taurants involved in the protest, the boy-
: cott was also being supported by
Kentucky’s Fairness Campaign, the Pro-
. Choice Coalition, the Metropolitan Community
Church and the Louisville Chapter
: of Parents-Friends of Lesbians and Gays.
¯ Organizers said at the time that the
, boycott could cost the distribution company
as much as $15,000 per week in lost
¯ sales. Just months after the River City
¯ boycott was announced, Miller Brewing
: severed its relationship with Shedd, who
¯ has also sued Miller. The boycott itself
¯ was ended earlier this year after the orga-
: nizers declared it had been a success.
: Now the Shedd family has filed a wide-
¯ ranging suit, charging the bars, restaurants,
and organizations with conspiracy,
interference with contractual relations,
criminal harassment, defamation of character,
and other aetious that the family is
seeking unspecified damages for.
¯ Sucessful Boycott : WASHINGTON(Aug.20)-Without.any
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¯ areaover a 1995 boycott launched against
¯ a firm co-owned by the family with the Miller Brewing Company of Milwaukee.
Nine local gay bars and restaurants
launched the boycott in August 1995 because
of what activists called the "right
wing activities"of Donna Shedd, whose
husband David was president of River
¯ agencies to offer such benefits.
¯ Donald Wildmon, president of the farright
anti-gay American Family Assn.,
: immediately denounced the move by the
: two public broadcasters as a "misuse of
¯ tax money". "Bill Clintonis willing to use
." tax dollars to support the radical homo-
. sexual agenda and promote homosexual
¯ marriage," Wildmon said in a press state-
. ment condemning the PBS-NPR move.
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HIV May Be Eliminated
CHICAGO (Aug. 10) - A report in the
Journal of Infectious Diseases suggests
that HIV could eventually be "flushed
out" of its hiding places in the body’s
lymph nodes] Researchers at the Chalucet
Hospital in France reported that after intensive
treatment with antiviral drugs, the
amount of HIV identified in blood and
lymph nodes of patients had decreased
significantly. The French scientists said
that ff HIV replication in the body can be
halted entirely through medical therapies,
they believe infected lymph .node and
other body cells will eventually be replaced
by new, uninfected cells. The finding,
if substantiated by other research,
could be important because one concern
AIDS experts have expressed recently is
that even with powerful new anti-HIV
drugs that appear to dramatically reduce
infection, continual drug treatment might
be needed if the virus cannot be entirdy
eliminated from the body..
HIV Infects More Blood Cells
LONDON (Sept. 6) -According to a
report in the medical journal Lancet, researchers
at the University of Edinburgh
in Scotland have confirmed that a second
set of blood cells - CD8 cells - is also
vulnerable to infection by HIV and may
play a crucial role in how the virus develops.
It has for some time been know that
HIV progressivdy destroys CD4 T-lymphocytes,
the cells that the body produces
to fight off infections. But scientists had
previously believed that CD8 cells were
immune from HIV infection,,,possibly
because of structural differences in the
cell itself. The Scottish researchers re-
¯-,~r+ however, that 5 of 16 people with
AIDS that they studied had CD8 cells
infected with HIV at high levels. The
researchers said the next step is to discover
whether the virus destroys thebody’ s
CD8 cells or simply invades them until
they become active later.
British Rights Group Wants
Aversion Therapy Ended in UK
LONDON (Aug. 9) -The British say
rights organization OutRagehas formally
asked the Royal College of Psychiatrists
and theHome Ministry’s health secretary
to issue guidelines barfing the use of aversion
therapy, to set up a board of inquiry
into how extensive the treatment has been
and continues to be as an attempt to "cure"
homosexuals, and to offer a public apologyandcompensationforindividuals
who
have been harmed by such treatment, either
physically or psychologically.
The continuing use ofaversion therapy,
often involving electro-shock treatment
and psychrtropic drugs, was the recent
subjectofaBBC-TVprogram and shocked
many in the country who were unaware
that such attempts to "cure" homosexuals
were still being used, at least occasionally.
In a letter to the health secretary,
OutRage called the government sanctioned
use of aversion therapy "scandalous"
and"barbaricpseudo-medicine" that
had "caused untold suffering and harm to
ual~own numbers of gay and bisexual
people."
Twins Studies Suggests Genetic
Factors in Sexual Orientation
TORONTO (Aug. 12) - Researchers reported
at the annual convention of the
AmericanPsychological Assn. thata new,
large-scale study of twins in Australia
adds further suggestive indications that
sexual orientation among gay men is in
fact a hereditary factor, although it failed
to find a similar pattern among lesbians.
The findings were based on a study of
some 4,500 sets of twins, fraternal and
identical, in Australia.
Lead researcher Dr. J. Michael Bailey
of Northwestern University reported that
about 20% of the twins studied identified
their sexual orientation as other than
"strictly heterosexual." Of the 312 sets of
men who were identical twins, who are
formed from a single egg, nearly half had
the same sextml orientations. Among fraternal
twins, who are from 2 separate
fertilized eggs, having the same sexual
orientation was significantly less likely,
Bailey reported, saying that the f’mdings
were "consistent with the idea that there is
a male gene for sexual orientation." Although
the study was one of the few that
have included women, the researchers
reported that they could not find enough
identical twin lesbian sisters to indicate a
statistical relationship between possible
genetic factors and lesbianism.
Oral Sex Riskier Than
Previously Believed
PHILADELPHIA (Aug. 14) - According
to a study published in the Annals of
Internal Medicine, University of Washington
researcher Timothy Schacker reports
that even people who are engaging
in lower-risk sexual behavior are continuing
to become infected with HIV. The 3-
year study of 46 people found that while
nearly halfhad had sex withjust 1 partner
during the month prior to infection, oral
sex, which has been generally considered
lower risk for transmission, was the most
common form of sexual contact among
the patients in the research. Schacker and
his ~olleagues in fact were abi~ ~6 ;~3,~’~[~.-
cally pinpoint 4 cases in which oral sex
was the only possible route of transmission.
The report is the 2nd recently to
indicate that oral sex appears to be a
higher-risk behavior than has been previous
believed.
NJ Offers 3 Protease
Inhibitors Free
TRENTON, N.J. (Sept. 4) - New Jersey
state health officials have announced that
the state will make3 importantnew AIDS
drugs available withoutcharge to patients
who earn lessthan $30,000 a year and are
either tmiusured or do not have policies
that will cover the costs of the new drugs.
The drugs include 3 of the new protease
inhibitors: saquinavir (Invirase by
Hoffmann-LaRoche),indinavir (Crixivan
by Merck & "Co.), and 3TC (Epivir by
Glaxo Wellcome). The drugs have been
shown to be able to reduce detectable
levels ofHIV dramatically inmanypeople
infected with the virus. State health officials
warned, however, that ifdemand for
the new drugs outstrips the state’s ability
tounderwrite the giveawayprogram, some
restrictions - such as co-payments or
deductibles - may be added later. The free ~rug plan is being paid forfrom the state’ s
9 million AIDS Drug Distribution Program.
About 1,700 state residents currently
getAIDS drugs withoutcostthrough
the program.
More Women Being Tested
ATLANTA (Aug. 3 i)-The federal Centers
for Disease Control and Prevention
reports that the number of women in the
U.S. who are being tested for HIV has
been rising dramatically for the past few
years. Between 1991 and 1993, the CDC
reports, the percentage ofwomen 18 to 44
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~,ears of age who had been tested for the
virus increased some 60% overall. The
agency reported that a 1993 survey of
more than 6,000 women indicated that
31.8% said they had been tested. A similar
surveyin 1991 of 13,000womenfound
.that just 18.8% said they had been tested
at the time.
HIV Programs Widespread in
Schools, but Often Don’t
Teach About Condoms
ATLANTA (Sept. 5) - According to a
survey by the federal Centers for Disease
Control and Prevention, some 85% of the
nation’s public middle and high schools
teach required HIV prevention classes in
39 states plus the District of Columbia.
That’s the goodnews fromtheCDCstudy.
The less-than-good news was that only
about61%ofthe school districts provided
in-service training for teachers; about54%
said they taught students the "basic facts
about HIV/AIDS"; only about a third of
all the teachers involved in school AIDS
education programs said they had any
training about HIV prevention during the
2-year period before the survey; and only
37.1% of the instructors said they taught
their students the "correct use of
condoms."
In issuing the report, the CDC said one
obvious and important area that needs
improving in the country’s HIV/AIDS
school education programs is increasing
the percentage of teachers who both teach
preventioninhealth education classes and
who regularly receive in-service training
on the subject.
Younger Inner-City Women at
High Risk for HIV Infection
CHICAGO (Aug. 15) - Two just-published
studies in the American Journal of
Public Health report that younger urban
women are at very high risk ofHIV infection.
A Medical College of Wisconsin
study estimated that about a third of all
younger inner-city womenare at high risk
ofHIV infection, mainly because of risky
behavior like IV drug use by their sexual
partners. The researchers also reported
that while most of the women had a fairly
good knowledge of HIV transmission
risks, they were poorly informed about
the correct use of condoms and lubricants
during sex. Another study of younger
urban women in the same issue said that
high rates of syphilis among thesewomen
who are drug users is an indication of the
high-risk sexual behavior they are also
engaging in. Both groups of researchers
said HIV prevention programs aimed at
theseinner-city womenare needed tohelp
reduce growing infection rates.
: ’Playboy’ Surveys College
¯ Students Attitudes on AIDS
¯ CHICAGO (Aug. 25)-A Haybo.y maga-
: zine survey reports that 9 out of 10 college
¯ students are sexually active, that sligh.tly
: more than half say their sexual behavior
: wouldn’t change if the AIDS epidemic
: disappeared, and thatjust over a third say
¯ they’ve been tested for HIV.
: The survey, published in the October
: issue of the magazine, reports that 66% of
¯ women and 49% of men in the more than
¯. 1,000 students surveyed say they wouldn’t
: change their sex lives much if the epi-
: demic wasn’t a factor. The magazine also
¯ reports that 39% of the males and 35% of
: the females in the survey said they had
¯ been tested for HIV, and that 27% of the
: men and 19% of the women said they
¯ knew someone with the disease. Some
: 63% of the males and 79% of the females
: surveyed also said they believe their
¯ chances of contracting HIV/AIDS was
". either unlikely or barely likely. The sur-
: vey also reported that 57% of men and
¯ 71% of women said they had only one
¯¯ sexual partner during the previous year.
¯ The magazine also found that condom
use appears very highly corrdated with a
¯ steady relationship. While 41% of the
¯ males and 54% of the females reported
: being in a steady, monogamous rdation-
¯ ship,40% of these students also said they
: do not use condoms. Only 6% of the
¯ students surveyed who are not in a too- ¯
nogamous relationship said they don’t
: use condoms.
: Psychologists Delve Further
¯" into Sex & Biology
TORONTO (Aug. 13)-Dr. James Dabbs,
¯ a psychology professor at Georgia State
¯ ~Uuiversity, reported at the annual Ameri-
: can Psychological Assn. convention that
¯ in studying testosterone levels of 28. les-
; bian couples,it was the sdf-definedbutch
¯ partner in the relationship who consis- ¯
tently had the higher levels of testoster-
¯ one, the "male" hormone that all women
¯ also have in smaller amounts. Dabbs re-
: ported, however, that despite the higher
: levels when compared to their partners,
: none of the women in the study had sig-
¯ uificandy higher testosterone levels than
: women in general.
¯ In another study presented at the APA
; conventionby RayBlanchardofthe Clarke
¯ Institute ofPsychiatry inToronto, aniden-
~ tifiable group of men are predominately
¯
or exclusively attracted to genital males
¯ who dress and act like women- transves-
: rites or pre-operative transsexuals. A1-
¯
though Blanchard said that these
¯ "gynadromorphile" men he studied were
." sexually attracted to cross-dressers, they
¯ were not attracted to post-operative trans-
¯
sexuals - men who have been surgically
] and hormonally changed into genital fe-
¯ males - and considered themselves "bet-
: erosexuals of some stripe."
Ex-Boxing Champ Says HIV
Not ’That Big a Deal’
: KANSAS C1TY, Mo. (Aug. 26) - In an
¯ interview with the Kansas City Star,
"¯ former heavyweight boxer Tommy
¯ Morrison said being infected with HIV
"doesn’ t seem like that big a deal" and
: that he is not taking drugs his doctor has
¯ prescribed to combat the virus. Morrison,
¯ who has also appeared in a few films
; including "Rocky V" where he played a
~ featured role as a boxer, announced that
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AIDS FederalHousing Grants.
WASHINGTON (Aug. 24) - The U.S.
Dept. of Housing & Urban Devdopment
(HUD) has announced some $7.8 million
inhousing grants to non-profitagencies in
communities in9 states that offer housing
assistance for low-income people with
AIDS. Community-based non-profits in
Baltimore, West Hollywood, Calif., San
Francisco, Savannah, Ga~, SantaFe,N.M.,
Tucson, Ariz., New York, Philaddphia,
Burlington, Vt., and Seattle are expected
to receive HUD grants of various sizes
The federal funding was established in
1992 as part ofHUD’ s Housing Opportunities
for Persons with AIDS (HOPWA)
program to help agencies that provide
housing assistance and related support
service to people with HIV/AIDS.
The AIDS Legal
Resource Project
by Darlene Shadid
Being HIV positive means facing new
challenges and new issues. In addition to
the personal, medical, and other quality of
life issues, youmay face extraordinary (or
evenmundane) legal demands for the first
time. The AIDS Legal Resource Project
may offer a solution.
The AIDS Legal Resource Project was
created more than three years ago to empower
people with HIV/AIDS with the
knowledgeand assistance needed to maintain
control over their lives. The Project
offers free and effective legal assistance
to those who qualify by connecting them
to one of the more than 150 attorneys
statewiad wh6 have agreed to serve on a
Pro Bona Panel.
Attorneys on the Project’s Panel offer
help in several critical areas. Perhaps one
of the most important (yet one of the
easiest) is estate planning. For example, a
Power ofAttorney can be drawn up which
allows you to choose exactly who can
make decisions about almost any matter
related to your care. Other documents
include an Advance Directive For Health
Care (Living Will), a Final Will and Testament,
and Disposition of Bodily Remains.
ffyou have been de~ed Social’Security
benefits, an attorney can l~elp collect the
necessary documentation for the Administrative
Hearing. In fact, havin an attarhey
present at the Hearing increases the
chances of being awarded benefits by
more than 50%. We also give advice regarding
other state and federal entitle-
In the past three
years, the AIDS
¯ Legal Resource
: Project has provided
: legal assistance to ¯ more than 584 ellents
i with attorneys from
¯ around the state.
i One of the recent
i successes is a preee-
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¯i in .which a FtIV n.ega- txve man sued
: former employer after
i being fired because
¯ his partner was HIV+.
ment programs.
We also assist clients who have been
unfairly denied health, life or disability
insurance. Informationis available onhow
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¯ after work is no longer possible.
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If you are fired from a job, denied
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Clinton Wows ’Em
CHICAGO - This year’s politicking got
underway in Chicago with theAug. 16-18
OutVote ’96. The Human Rights Campaign,
sponsor of the gathering, called it
the "first lesbian and gay national political
convention." Just a week before the
Democrats held their convention in Chicago,
the President addressed the some
500 OutVote in a pre-taped video speech.
"l’mproud ofthe accomplishments we’ve
made," Clinton said. Tacidy acknowledging
the sometimes strained relationship
between Clinton and the gay and
lesbian community, he said: "All Americans
face a critical choice this Nov. I
believe we must put aside our differences
and focus on what unites us, on our common
ground....in 1992, I told you about
my vision forAmerica - a vision you were
and are verymuchapart of. I’m especially
proud to be the first president ever to
endorse a civil rights bill that specifically
includes gay and lesbian Americans."
Community Events
BAPC Quilt Performance
If you missed this highly acclaimed
performance as part of the Summer Stage
Festival, you can see it on Sunday, Sept.
29 at 2pm at the Tulsa Community College,
Southeast Campus Performing Arts
Center on 81st St. near Hi. 169. Tickets
are $S/adults, $5/students. Info: 595-7182.
Wro~tling Enthusiasts Sought
A wrestling enthusiast seeks similar
individuals interested in forming a wresfling
club for recreational matches. He is
also seeking an experienced coach. Call
Keith at 918-438-8340.
Direct From Her HBO Special
,On Tour Fro,u Her Sold-Out
P-Town Su,u,reer Shows!
ALL blEW SHOW!
IN CONCERT ONE NIGHT ONLY!
SATURDAY OCT. S 8 PM
110 East second St.
TULSA
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(91 8) $96-71 1 1
Advance Ticket Purchase
Is Strongly Recommended
Tickets Available At:
The Tulsa Performing Arts Center
Box Office Location And Al!
Carson Attractions Locations
A Portion Of The Proceeds Benefit Black & White Charities, Inc.
TULS FAMILY NEWS COMMUNITY CALENDAr,
SUNDAYS
Agape Christian
Fellowship
Services, 10:30 am
6540H East 21th
pager: 594-9692
Bless the Lord At All ¯
Times Christian Center ."
Sunday School, 9:45 am "
Worship Service, 11 am ¯
262T0 East 1 lth 583-7815 "
Community of Hope ."
(United Methodist)
Worship Service, 6 pm .. ¯
1703 E. 2nd, 585-1800 ."
Family of Faith
Metro. Comm. Church
Adult Sunday School, 9:15
Worship Service, 11 am
5451-E S. Mingo, 622-1441
Metro. Comm. Church
of Greater Tulsa
Worship Service, 10:45am
1623 N. Maplewood
Info: 838-1715
HIVMTOeNstDinAgYCSlinic TUESDAYS WEDNESDAYS I-HV+ Support Group ¯ Agape’ Christian : Free & anonymous testing " HIV Resource Consortium "
¯ using fingerstick method. Fellowship 1:30 pm . Service, 7 pm
’" WalkNa°prpeoteiqnsttiumngei:nrt7e-8d:3.0inrm :: 41 54 S. Harvard, Ste. H_I
Sheridan Center, Suite H
¯ Results hours: 7-9 pm
Info: 742-2927
Bisexual/Lesbian/Gay .
Alliance. Univ. of Tulsa "
6:30 pm at Canterbury .
5th & Evanston, 583-9780
Mixed Volleyball for
Fun & Competition
Helmerich Park, 6:30 pm
71st & Riverside
Info: 587-6557
PFLAG Family AIDS
Support Group
2nd Mon. of month
: 6:30 pm, 4154 S. Harvard
¯ Info: 749-4901
-" OTHER GROUPS
¯ The Technicians, Leather
¯ org., Info c/o 621-5597
¯
T.U.L.S~4. Tulsa Uniform
¯ & Leather Seekers Assoc.
¯ Info: 838-1222 ¯
Gay & Lesbian Student
Association
TJC Southeast Campus,
SWANI~2.."oS:in6g3l1e-7W6o3m2 en,s
Activity Network
Call 832-2121
THURSDAYS
Co-Dependency
¯ Support Group
7:30, Family of Faith MC(
Info: Wanda @ 749-4194 ¯ ¯ 5451-ES.Mingo,622-1441 21st & Sheridan, 747-2482 "
¯ HOPE ¯ Shanti-Tulsa, Inc. ¯ Bless The Lord At All
¯ HtV/AIDS Support Group " Times Christian Center " PrevHeInVtioOnu, tErdeauccha,tion
¯ & .¯ Prayer & Bible Study " Anonymous HIV Testing
¯ Friends &Family " 7:30pm 2627-B East llth ¯ Walk in testing: 7-8:30pm
" " HITV/AIDScpaml,lSupp°lrotfcoatrion:Gr°up Call 583-7815 for info.
¯ Results hours: 7 - 9 pm
749-7898
¯ Info: 742-2927
Alternative Skating
8:30 - 11 pm, 241-2282
$4, Sand Springs Skate
Grief Group
Buder/Stumpff
Funeral Home
2103 E 3rd St.
Call for time: 587-7000
Family Of Faith MCC :
Praise & Prayer 6:30 pm "
Choir Practice 7:30 pm :
5451-E South Mingo. .
Call 622-1441 forinfo. :
TNAAPP
Tulsa Native American
AIDS Prevention Project
Support group
for Gay & Bi Native
American Men, 6 pm
at Community of Hope
1703 E. 2nd
582-7225 or 584-4983
Tulsa Family Chorale
Weekly practice, 9:30 pm
Lola’s 2630 E. 15th
PFLAG Family AIDS
: Support Gl:oup
¯ 1st & 3rd Thursdays
¯ 4154 S. Harvard, 749-4901
¯ Alternatives
¯ Weekly social events for
¯ LGBT men & women, 7pm
Info: 646-5503
Substance Abuse
Support Group
: for persons wi th HIV/AIDS
4154 S. Harvard, Ste. G
¯ 3-4:30 pm
: Info: 749-4194
: SATURDAYS
: St. Jerome’s Church
¯ Mass, 6 pm
Garden Chapel
: 3841 S. Peoria
¯ Info: Father Rick
: at 742-7122
¯
Narcotics Anonymous
¯
Meets weekly at 11 pm
¯ Confidential support for
¯ recovering addicts. ¯
Community of Hope
¯ 1703 E. 2nd, Info: 585-1800
¯ NAMES Project
AIDS Memorial Quilt
: Sewing Bees
: 3rd Sat. of each month
¯ Info: 748-3111
Community Events
Interfaith AIDS Ministries
Old Fashioned Street Carnival
I_AM will hold the 2nd of these fun
events on .Sat. Sept. 21 from 10 am to 6pro
.at SouthminsterPresbyterian Churchparkmg
lot (near Concessions) at 3500 So.
Peoria. JoinIAMfor this day offun for all
ages. Info: 438-2437.
Rural Men’s Group
H.OPE,H1V Outreach, Preven’tion, Edu_
cation, is sponsoring social/discnssion
group formen whohave sex withmenand
who live-outside Tulsa. The group will
meet the2nd&4th Saturdays each month,
7-gpm at the Gathering Place, 4154 So.
Harvard, Suite E-3. Upcoming dates are
9/28, 10/12, 10/26, 11/9, 11/23, 12/14 &
12/28. Call Brian or Jeremy at 918-742-
2927 or 1-800-282-8165..
Tulsa AIDS Mastery Project
This group will present Tulsa’s 1st
Mastery workshop on Friday, Sept. 20 -
Sunday, Sept. 22. This is anintense week- "
end experience designed to assist those ¯
individiduals who have been affected’by "
HW/AIDS tocome to terns withtheimapct "
faaflc~c~!.l.flltaaetvoirrsuswhaeslcroamdoenitnhdeiivrliidvueasi.sTrlaivininegd ¯"
with ,HIV/AIDS, family, loved ones, ¯
friends, earegivers, and HIV/AIDS professionals.
The weekend is free because ¯
this event is sponsoredby a grantfrom the ¯
Tulsa Community AIDS Partnership
(TCAP) but donations offood, beverages
are needed. Info: Melissa @ 584-2325.
Two Spirited Mens Group :
The Tulsa Native American AIDS Pre- "
vention Project is sponsoring a group of
Gay, Bisexual or Two Spirited men f-or a
weekly group to explore their roles in
traditional Native American culture and
i I~v~i~.g-heal.~y lives. Tommy Chesbro, "
¯ ~xx~ coordmatoreforindianHealthCare
¯ Resources Center of Tulsa, notes that the ,
: group helps provide peer suport forliving
: a life in balance physically, mentally, "
." emotionally and spiritually. The group is
¯ open to men living with HIV/AIDS as
¯ well as those not infected. It is specific to
men but Indian Health Care would like to
, work with women also if there’s interest¯
¯ The Two Spirit Mens Group meets on "
¯ ~W~ednesdays at 6:30 pmat Commtmity of
r~ope Church at 2rid & Utica¯ Info: "
¯ Tommy, 918-582-7225, or write, ¯
¯ TNAAPP,915 S. Cincinnati,Tulsa74119. ¯
¯ Bible & Homosexuality Study
¯ Community of Hope will pilot a new
interdenominational Bible seminar, on .
Wednesdays from 6:30 to 8:30for4weeks
beginning on Sept. 18. The study has been
developed by the United Methodists Rec- ¯
onciling Congregation Program with "
.Welcoming & Affirming Baptists, Dig-
" nity/Integrity (Catholic & Episcopali~t~), "
GLAD (Disciples of Christ), Reconciled
in Christ (Lutheran), Supportive Congregation
Network (Mennonite), and More
Light (Presbytwerian).
Leather and Healing Workshops
The weekend of October 19 and 20 will
be a busy one in Tulsa as lance brittain,
Mr. Alameda County Leather 1994;
H.O.P.E., formerly TOHR, and the Silver
~aaCh" le~,,der, w_ith special guest Duncan " rows, tools for application, the power of
19a9c6L. aAcms aGnu, yMBr.aldLweainth,earmutahnorToofroTnietos ¯ positive thinking, how to avoid the pitThat
Bin.d, states ’~f you try to find your falls (New Age and otherwise), andmore.
way in the SM/leather scene by yourself, The workshop will include meditation,
you are doing it the wrong way--there is ritual, storytelling, group exercises, and
opportunities for sharing. no need".
¯ ¯ The suggested offering is $5.00 for
~ikTehisw.whoorkasrehoipntiesrefostrewd timneonrancudrmioeuns ¯ reiaaclsh, winoforkrmshaotpiotno, caonvdefruwtuorerkwshoorkpsmhoaptes-,
anout leather/SM. "It’s an educational but no one will be turned away for lack of
oppormmty you will not want to miss. ¯ funds. It is suggested that the participants
Whether it’s your cup of tea or not, the _bring a cushion for comfortable seating.
information will be valuable for under- ¯
Juice, coffee, and water will be provided.
standingthediversityofourcommunity,,, . Please free to bring a snack, pencil, or
heralds Larry Everett, International Mr 7pa~p,er.t~F_or more information please call
Leather 1995¯ "So co.~.~.,u.o.ut.an.d ex-" " plore with us", sa s lan ’+~-zv2/, 371-0496, or e-mail
S " Y ce" " mrac194@aol.com.
unday, .O,c,t. 20, Duncan Ma~c,,La,chlan
will present ’Healing The Spirit ,. It will Dignity/Integrity of Tulsa
be held 1-5pro. Duncan states, ’Native D/I, agroupforLesbianandGayCatho_
American teachings and other spiritual lies and Episcopalians will meet on Oct.
12, and then on Nov. 9th at 5 pm at St.
learnreS°urceStolivehaVebettermUChwitht° offerHiV. USspirituawlaeS
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Dunstan’s Episcopal Church, 5633 E. 71 st
traditions teach us that the source of all " TO National Coming Out Week ¯
h.ealin.g.is spiritual." He also asks, "What ¯ Oct. 8: A Roundtable discussion of
does t!us mean? How can this knowledge "Sexuality: Nature vs. Nuture" 7:00 pmin
¯ be applied in practical ways?" ¯ the Chouteau Room of Allen Chapmafi ¯
Duncan is a workshop leader, group ¯ Activity Center
facilitator, counselor, and educatorliving ¯ ,Oct. _9: Panel discussion concerning
in Toronto. He describes his living with aoout Gay Marriage, 7:00 pm in the
~IV. since 1983.,asahealingandamiracle. " President’s Loun e, Cha man
,-, g P
r~e is very enthusiastic about passing on uct. 10 (National Coming Out Day):
¯ what he as learned and likes to make the Unity Party on Sharp Chapel Plaza, TU
Star, .Sal~oon combine community spun- " ~work,s,hop a safe andnurturing experience " Campus. All campus groups are invited to
,s°rsmp Ior two,, very,,different, workshops,.
Ior ml participants with his warm and .a,tt.end and will receiv.e letters concerning
’~’Le.ather 101 and Heahng The Spirit" inclusive style. He does ask that all par-
/~oth workshops will be held at 4f58 SI .ticipants wear loose, comfortable cloth- ~m~ event. 3:00 pm w~th speakers at 5:00
.Harvard, suite E-3 in ’The Gath~,q,,
" mg and to please bring a small obj~t of " During Naffonal Coming Out Week,
Place" at the H.O.P.E. and R-e~o~r’~C~’~a~_ pers,o.hal significance. Duncanadds, ’This " BLGTA will be taking donations in supsortium
building. " womshop will be useful for people who ¯ port of Breast ~2ancer Awareness Month,
~ ’Teather 101" will .be held Saturday, " are affected by HIV includi,n~ caregivers
in October. Info: BLGTA at the Canteroct.
19, 12-6pm and will be facilitated by and health care professionals ’. bury Center for United Ministry at 583-
¯ Duncan will be offering the teachings " 9780 and leave a message for Maureen
lance, Brian Jackson, a H.O.P.E. out- . of the medicine wheel and the seven ar- ¯ Curtin or Rob Crenshaw.
WHAT IS VIATICATION?
Viaticafion is the process through which a person
living with an terminal illness canreceive a cashpayment
from the face value of their insurance policy.
WHO IS ELIGIBLE FORA
VIATICAL SETTLEMENT?
Generally, to be eligible for a viatical settlement you
must have a documentable terminal illness, and life
insurance coverage in either an ~hdividual term, whole
life, or a group policy.
HOW MUCH IS MY
POLICY WORTH?
The value of your life insurance policy in a viatical
settlement is determined by the specifics of your policy
and your unique medical situation. Not every policy is
suitable for viatication, but settlement offers typically
rangefrom 60% to 90% of a policy’s face value, depending
on the specifics of your policy and medical history.
HOW DOES A SETTLEMENT
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With your written pernfission, we gather medical and
insurance records with which to determine your policy’s
value. Then, a settlenmt offer is presented to you. You
may always decline the offer with no obligation whatsoever.
Should you accept the offer, payment is made
directly to you. Youpay nothing else on your policy, and
you owe us nothing.
IS VIATICATING MY
POLICY THE RIGHT
CHOICE.FOR ME?
Many factors influence whether viaticating your life
insurance is the best financial alternative available for
you. Southwest Viatical can discuss all of the factors with
you and your family in person, in detail and can recommend
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you in planuing the best outcome from your unique
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HOW IS SOUTHWEST
VIATICAL DIFFERENT?
Today, many companies offer viatical settlements,
doing business only by bulk advertising and 1-800 numbers.
They transfer your insurance and medical records
by mail, and do business from another state.
At Southwest Viatical, we believe you should be assured
of complete confidentiality and the best poss~le
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directly to our local community.
By working with you in person, but at the same time
having access to nationwide financial resources, we are
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today. And because of our established resources, we can
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companies take by mail, typically in fewer than 30 days.
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to find the best solution for you.
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Oklahoma Representative
4021 South Harvard, Suite 210
Tulsa, OK 74135
918-747-3320
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Services held
Sunday evenings at 7 o’clock
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Gay Mecca. ofthe Ozarks
by Phyl Boler-Schmidt " able, or you can bring your own. The Gay
It’s Jazz Festival timein Eureka Springs, ¯ Family Reunion is always a fun event, a
and the excitement is building as the 12th great way to meet and greet new folks and
annual event approaches. This year’ s dates ¯ to spend lime with family toward the end
are September 19th - 22nd, and both big ¯ ofthehectictouristseason. Plan toattend.
name and local talent will be performing , For those of you looking for complete
all over town.
hair styling and other sa-
Featured artists for
JazzFest include Stanley
Turrentine & Band,
Allmad Aladeen & The
Deans of Swing, Emie
Durawa & Los Jazz
Vatos, andGrady Nichols
& Moment’s Notice. All
will be performing at the
Historic Eureka Springs
City Auditorium
Small clubs will host a
number of local and big
name performers as well,
and nightly there will be a
post-performanceparty at
the top of the Basin Park
Hotel in the ballroom.
These events are hosted
by the Eureka Springs
Jazz Society and will feature
performers from the
JazzFest ticket.
There is still time to get
tickets for the scheduled
events though JazzFest is
always one of the hottest
tickets tobehadduring the Eureka Springs
season. For reservations and information,
call the Jazz Festival Hotline at 501-253-
6258.-TheJazz Festival canalso bereached
via e-mail atjazz@nwark.com. Complete
information about the 12th Annual Eu-
.--_~bo q.,qn.~ t.~’~’7 Festival is available
online at: http://www.eureka-usa.com/
events/creative/index.html
Also coming up fast is the annual Eureka
Springs Gay Family Retmion, to be
held this year on Sunday, October 6th
starting at 2 pm at Beaver Dam Site Park.
A canoeing event will be held that morning
beginning at 11. Rentals will be avail-
It’s Jazz Festival
time in Eureka
t....
year s dates are
September 19th -
9.2nd....AnOther
musical hot
ticket hits town
the weekend
followina
JazzFe t. The
~gth Annual
Ozark Folk
Festival comes to
Eureka SprlnCs
from September
96th- 99th.
Ion services, we have a
new family cutterin town.
Tymythy Aieran is affiliated
with the Holiday Island
Hair Salon at 92
Woodsdale Drive and
performs the full range of
salon services - haircuts
& styles, perms, color,
manicures, pedicures,
w.axin.g, facials, and ear
piercing. To contact
Tymythy, call 501-253-
9712.
Another musical hot
ticket hits townthe weekend
following JazzFest.
The 49th Annual Ozark
Folk Festival comes to
EurekaSpringsfrom September
26th - 29th. A full
board of performers is
scheduled, including: Peter
Rowan, Townes Van
Zandt, Joe Cart & Alan
Munde, Crow Jolmson,
Still on the Hill, the Jones
: Brothers, Charles C. Hammer, Doe Broth-
. ers, Jim & Kim Lansford, and Richard
¯ Johnson & Doug Reid.
For more information on the 49th An-
: nual Ozark Folk Festival, call the Eureka
¯ Springs Chamber of Commerce at 501-
¯ 253-8737.
]ae season IX wlaum~ u,,,,u, .....
¯ biggest Ozark attraction of them all is yet
¯¯ to come. Plan to visit ourVictorian utopia
in October to watch Mother Nature show
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off in all her spendor. There’ s nothing to
" compare with the autumn colors in the
¯ Ozarks.
: See you in Eureka!
Exciting
Reaching OUT
to all People
Rev. Clay Cody Sunday Services, 10:30 am
6540-H East 21st
. pager: 594-9692
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or ~onduct such cer- I " [
marriage._D~.et . .: ]~e ~ree to take posl- itspositiononotherre- | |
tivities of me rtawan ¯ ¯ "1.1 li ons or on cmzens
Supreme Court, same- tlon$ on issues l~ke
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sex mam:a_ge may same-sex marrxa e~ religion." /
be legal m that state. " ~ ~ :,, "tally there is a "
The backlash against_ and the state cannot
trom
this, the Defense of
portion of the Lesbian
MarriageAct, willsoon require religions to and Gay community
approve of or
eo~duet such
become law and will
prevent other states
from having to recognize
same-sex marriages
fromHawaii.The
debate, however, will
not end there.
Author William
Eskridge, a Washington
DC professor and
lawyer, has addressed
the issue as aproponent
of same-sex marriage.
Hisbookexamines constitufional
issues, court
eeremonles.
Butnelther can one
religion force its
pos~.tlo.n on other
relldions or on
clt e following no
organized ren~on.
decisions, the history of
Lesbian and Oay commumty~ .-.reranstream"
objections to same-sexmamages.
Eskridge discredits many of the standard
arguments agains__t. same-s.ex
fiages, including one ot- me most popmar
viewpoints which concerns the ihability
of same-sex couples to conceive children.
It is hard,to, dispute the author’s logic in
this area: A state could and, to be consisthat
also is against the
idea of same-sex marriage,
though not for
the above reasons.
They feel thattheimtitution
of marriage is a
flawed,patriarchal system
that Gay and Lesbian
couples should
avoid. Eskridge gives
a good overview of
thesepositions, exploring
not only the ,marriage-
is-rotten" argument,
but also the "alternatives
tomarriage"
view (domestiepartnerships) andthe antiassimilation
perspective which suggests
that formal marriage would "dedaw the
~radieafism of the gay liberation moveand
has an appendix tiffed "Letters from
the Faithful on the Legal Recognition of
Same-Sex Marriage." It includes selected
tent, should prohibit mamages in which__..,"..le.t.te.r..~..£.r..~..~...m....l.,.~.~ r~X-.V-~,~-d-o-~,~m~,u~,
~Or:bo~p~~r~~-t~rii~ qr-impo~ " inducting those representing Catholics,
tent. If procreation is the essential goat ot Methodists, Presbyterians and the Jew.ish
marriage, why should postmenopausal ; faith.Theselettersdefendsame-sexumons
women be allowed to marry? Surely, discrimination
against sterile, impotent or
aged couples would be lmaeceptable to
citizens of many different perspectives."
The often used religious argument i.s
also addressed. Eskfidge’s reasomng is
that "state espousal of one religion’s beliefs
risks state supression of another
: by citing avariety ofreligious doc.u~ent.s.
¯ The battle over same-sex mamage ~
: sure to continue for years to come an
: Eskridge’s book is an informative and
¯ interesting addition to the debate. Check
: for ’q’he Case for Same-Sex Marriage" at
~ the Readers Services dept. of the Central
: Library (596-7966) or at thelocallibrary.
by James Christjohn "
SUZANNE WESTENHOEFFER
brings her umque brand of queer comedy
to Tulsa 10/5 at 8pm in the Williams
Theatre, PAC. An outspoken (no pun intended)
Lesbian, her humor has a broad
appeal (sorry, that one really w.as un~conscions).
Her resume is ~mpress~ve, irqm
her own ground breaking HBO show
(nominatedfor anACEaward, thel~,mmies
of cable), ’Out there on Comedy Central",
’mainstream’ shows such as
"evening at ~,e Improv" & ’X~aroline’s
Comedy hour , and more. She is hilarious,
so this is the must-see for October!
Info. call the PAC at 596-7111.
CAROL CHANNING will be appearing
in Hello Dolly! at the PAC 9/27-29,
and trust me, this is a show that must not
ben~,’_ssed! Forgetall the disp..~g~ng things,
you. ve ever heard about tins snow, ana
completely disregard any other version.
Ms. Channing is the real thing, and this
show is magic! I was surprised at how
effective it was when Ms. Channing took
the stage. Only one lady has the charm
and charism~a to pull it off, and this is a
chance that shouldn’tbe missed. Tickets:
596-7111. And Ms. Channing is as gracious
& charming offstage as she is on!
CAROL BURNEIff comes to town
October 13 for a question and answer
session at thePAC. I’m sure I’mnot alone
in claiming that her show was a bright
spot in an otherwise dark childhood/adolescenee.
It was the Carol Burnett Show
that fueled in me a fire to perform, and to
take people out of their troubles, even if
only for an hour or two, and make them
laugh and think. Thank you, Carol, for the
inspiration, the dream, and the laughter.
GUYS & DOLLS will be presented by
the University of Tulsa’s theatre department
October 17 -27 at the Chapman
Theatre. For ticket info, call’. 631-2567.
BACP presents ’ffhe Taffetas" a 50’s
girl-group musical revue, 9/13 - 22. Info:
258-0077 Andthey have a web site: http/.
/ WWW.Geocities.com]Broadway/1646
TheatreTulsapresents ’q’heTorchBearers"
starting 9/20. Info: 596~7111. (Got
that number memorized by now? I do.)
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Nested ataprimecomer ofUticaSquare ¯ remove the entire shell from the shrimp.
next door to the Polo Shop is a long time ¯ How is one expected to gracefully eat a
popular restaurant site, in this declension " dish with a thick sauce and an incomknown
as Capistrano. Previous on-site ¯
eateries have included Santa Fe, French, plet,ely shelled shellfish? Does one dip one s fingers into the hot sauce to grasp
and Italian cuisines, and
those ghosts continue to the shrimp by the tail and
haunt the current menu.
It’s hard to categorize
Capistrano, though, since
it bills itselfas arotisserie
.(a restaurant specializing
in roasted or .broiled
meats), but only has one
rotisserie item on the
menu. It bears-a passing
allegian.ce to F~en~hfoods
due to its close a~sociations
with its Owner’s
other Tulsa restaurant,
The.FTe.nch Hen, but the
preparattons are certainly
not, French (of course,
we’ ve also made that observation
about the
French ’HEn, but that is
the subject of another review)..
We can 6nly call
Capistrano eclectiC.
Ecldcfic might also describe
the service here,
too, though esoteric also
fits. Certain customers
and tables seem to get a
lot ofattention, while others
are left to flounder unattended.
The al fresco
tables are particularly a
service wilderness. Some
of the staff is definitely
friendlier than others,and
all of them seem to be
lacking in training in the
finer points of service.
Our waitress was also totally
ignorant as to the
.preparation technique and
Ingredients of the menu
items. Nevertheless,
Capistrano remains a busy restaurant
filled with upseale Utica Square shoppets.
Where to start? Try to think of every
cuisine and every culinary fad item, and
then expect it to appear on the Capistrano
menu. Soups include a limed chicken tortilla,
a clam chowder, and a soup du jour,
which on the evening of our visit was a
spicy tomato, which we found rather thin
and tart. Appetizers include baked brie
with sun-dried tomatoes, snails, and a
brick oven pizza. Salads include the Caesar,
a broiledmozzarella, nicoise, oriental
duck, andalderwoodsmokedsalmon, plus
a vegetarian medley presented on a bed of
greens. The nicoise, duck, and salmon
salads come in two sizes, small for $8.95,
and large for $14.95.
Pastas are important menu items, including
fettucine ticino, a pesto, and an
angel hair with salmon. We chose to split
the fettucine Riviera ($12.95) as an appetizer
course, and were generally pleased
with the result. The fettucine was cooked
to the proper degree of al dente doneness
and was sauced in a rich and delicious
lobster cream, redolent with parmesan
cheese, and sprinkled with bits of lobster
meat, scallops, and three whole shrimps.
The dish was marred only by the presence
of the tail shell on the shrimps. One of our
Capistrano
Rotisserie
171~8Utlca Square
¯ Hours:
Lunel,, 11 to 2:30
Dinner 5 to 9:30
closed S.nd~ys
.Cuisine:
Eclectic
Dress:
’C~uM
Prices:
Expensive
Pa~ent:
A~ ~o~
No~-Smo~
Section:
Alcohol:
Ratln~:
convey it dripping to the
mouth? Or does-one use
one’ s fork, riskingmouth
lacerations from sharp
bits of tail shell, and then
later gracefully and elegantly
spit out the offending
bits?
This .wasn’t the first
time we’d been to
Capistrano, so we passed
up the signature Santa Fe
Blue Corn Plato ($9.95),
the rotisserie chicken
($10.95), the pan grilled
brooktrout ($12.95), and
theloin oflamb daily special
($21.95). We wish
we hadn’t. Instead, we
tried theGuthriepanfried
steak ($15.95), which is
the Capistrano answer to
traditional Oklahoma
chicken fried steak. This
"dish" was a piece of
round steak served with
new potatoes and sliced
mushrooms, absolutely
drowned in the most offensive
brown gravy
we’ve ever tasted. Flavored
with Worcestershire
sauce, the gravywas
overpowering with the
anchovy-vinegar
Worcestershire flavor,
and the taste would not
leave the mouth, even
afternumerous washings
with the $6.50 a glass
wine. Our companion
tried the toumedos au
¯ poivre ($17.95), ordered
medium rare and received medium and
¯ almost cold. It was a small piece of dead
¯ cow with pepper on it.
Our dessert was a bread pudding in a
: Jack Daniels sauce, which our waitress
.- announced was a Jack Daniels "bourbon"
¯ sauce, even though our table all knew that
." only Bourbon County, Kentucky, pro-
. duces bourbon - Jack Daniels is Tennes-
¯ see whiskey. But, good whiskey notwith-
¯ standing, thebreadpuddingwas dry, bland,
¯ and rubbery. We also tried the creme
¯ brulee. Creme brulee is a milky custard
with a sugar crust that is caramelized and
¯ toasted under the broiler immediately be-
¯- fore serving. Our sugar crust was burned
¯ black. But, the underlying custard was
smooth and very tasty.
¯ Ah, the sacrifices we make for our
¯ readers! This simple little dinner for two ¯
endedupcosting us $76. Wewere shocked
and appalled. Shocked and appalled not
¯" only because of the price, but because of
¯ the quality of food we received on the
night of the review. We’ ve never been so
¯ disappointed with their food before.
¯ If one is shol~ping and hunga3, while on
¯ the west side o[ Utica Square, stop in at ¯
Capistrano for a bite to eat. The outside
¯ eafe seating can be pleasant. Just hope
¯ that those legendary birds drop by laden
: with cash.
Black boots,jeans, black belt, tank top ."
and armband, i am ready to go and the,¯
nerves are setting in. Will i be accepted?
What will it be like walking into a leather "
¯ ¯ bar?Will ~bemovermy head.9"These are °
a few of the thoughts that raced through ¯
myhead as i embarkedonmy first venture ¯
to a leather bar. i knew i had to fulfill this "
yearning that was growing deep in my "
soul. Little did i know that i was about to ",
begin the journey of my life with no ,
turning back.
Upon arriving at The SF Eagle, i saw a :
line ofhuge,beautifnl motorcycles, i never ;
knew a sight, such as this[could get my
heart to racing so. i made iny way to the :
patio and all i could see was a sea of ]
leatherdad.men. The day was hot and the ¯
air smdled of sweat, leather and cigars, i "
was in heaven. But then reality set in. :
What was i supposed to do? Look? Ap- :
proach someone?i waslost. Thisis where ¯
my training began, i had foundmy home. ~
My family. ¯
Basic training taughtmethat not every- :
oneinleatherwas intoSMand vice-versa. ¯
Leather relationships ran’the gamut from "
monogamous with leathersex only, to "
Daddy/boy or Mistress, Master/slav.e and :
that these relationships did not always
involve pain..Leather involves scenes "
which Race Bannon, author of1~earning "
the Ropes, says, a scene is a comblnatton ¯
of mental, physical and/or environmental ~
components, with an exchange of power .
as a key element, thatmix in such away as
to produce a satisfying experience for all
participants. Scenes canhappen anywhere
as the focus inSMis the mind. Sexmay or
may not be part of a Scene. SM has been :
defmed as theater, where you create your
own fantasy and as music, where you ~
..... create your own score". ¯
i learned about networking, negotiat- ".
ing and feedback. Networking is about ¯
finding out who is safe and who is not, :
building a circle of friends and acquain- :
tances to help you and attending parties, :
workshops and club events. Educating
oneself is important and no question is ~
ridiculous. Negotiating a scene helps "
both parties get what they want, feel each
other out and not get in over their head.
Feedback, such as safe words, helps everyone
involved to know how thin.gs are
going. Safe words such as red, yellow, or
green can be used for checking out the
scene, halting the momentum for a while,
or stopping the scene all together.
"Safe, Sane and Consensual" is the
leather creed. Safety is of utmost importance
inleather and includes not exchanging
body fluids, getting to know your
partner and not trying anything you are
not ready for. Sane means trusting your
gut instinct and not involving alcohol or
..... drugs as they can impair your.j.ud,gment,
causeharmandincrease yourriskoI sexually
transmitted disease. Consensual stems
from all parties involved should consent
to everything that is transpiring. Communication
is the key. But most of all, have
fun.
Through my experien~s, i came to
realize leather is lovemaking. It is safe
and non-demeaning as it is a carefully
....negotiated, safe, and caring exchange between
partners. Leather is not about pain,
but sensation. Leather has helped me become
a stronger person and to understand
the true meanings of trust, honor and love.
Lastly, leather h,a,s taken me to a heigh,t,.
see lance, Mina ~pace, no. one, page 1~
World War II seems to be when
leathermen emerged. The men, coming
back from war, were used to strict orders
of rank and respect; the camaraderie, and
theman-to-manbonding in the absence of
women. Some were able to adjust while
others yearned for the unspeakable.
Themenbeganhanging out at the shipping
yards, loading docks, and the bars of
the larger port cities. Soon, groups of men
begancoming together and "hanging their
colors" in their "home bar". Motorcycles
came onto the scene largely due to the
appreciation the American soldier~ devdoped
while serving’in Europe. rBike
clubs emerged and the followers came
from far and wide. Uniforms had their
beginning when themenwore them out to
display their rank for those who understood
their insignia and would give them
the respect they called for.
Between the 1960’ s and 1980’ s organization,
less secrecy, and the leather network
helped increase the growing numbers
of leatherpeople. From the 1980’ s to
the present the Old Guard, which is well
defined, and the New Guard have been
combining the two philosophies resulting
in a stronger leather community. Fetishes
and the educating of others have grown
and brought about a more diverse and
stronger tribe.
SM stands for sadomasochism or the
deriving of enjoyment from the infliction
and/orreceiving ofpain. SMencompasses
¯ many forms. Pain is not the key clement
¯ here, but the exchange of power is. This. ¯
exchange is totally voluntary. It defines
¯ the roles and the relationship. The bottom
relies on trust then expresses his desires
and finally gives up his power to the Top.
This exchange continues throughout the
scene as the Top watches the reactions of
the bottom. The bottomis controlling with
his/her actions.
Areyounow asking yourselfhow I take
action with my curiosity? Joseph Bean,
author ofLeathersex, describes it as: Taking
action is like lowering yourself into a
tub of hot water, one timid body part at a
time, only to discover it Wash’ t all that hot
after all. Sojustgoforit. Leatherlifestyles
celebrate and affirm sexuality. Be honest
andlisten until youunderstand the image!
reality, fantasy/foreplay give-take flows.
Also realize that you are play~ng a ro!e
and wearing a costume. Leatlaerpeopie
are playing their roles for themselves, for
something powerful within and are looking
for aproper counterpart. Please donot
wear cologne, loud colors, use a loud
voice, or disturb a scene. It is not proper
etiquette.
Dressing for Action is not all that involved.
A tight fitting t-shirt, jeans, black
belt, and black boots will suffice. Leather
and accessories are expensive so play by
the motto "Performnow, reward yourself
later". Do not be afraid to ask questions
about what is appropriate for you and
your role. Collars are worn to imply that
you are owned or taken. If you are not
¯ owned, but would like to be, thread the
¯ collar under the right epaulet of your
¯ jacket. ¯ Communicating with clothing can be
¯ misinterpreted. Please take the time to
¯ learn thehankie colors and their meaning.
¯ Do not mistake interests for requirements
" and don’ tassume that yourmessages have
: notbeen misread. Take all these things as
¯ points to be considered and discussed
see lance, Mind Space, no. two, page 15
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We all want to look our best. If notjust
for our health, looking our best can make
an incredible difference in our own selfesteem
and how we view others around
us...in short, Gay or not, it’ s a must.
Maybe you have never wanted to be a
competitive body builder, but you may
still want to feel better about yourself.
There are a variety of ways to do that but
this month, I am discussing one I truly
have passionfor- weight training. Maybe
_y.ou already life weights but you can’t
figure out why you don t looklike that hot
guy (or girl) dancing next to you on a Sat.
night. Many times the difference can be
narrowed down to a few basic points.
1. Lackofintensity. Too often, many of
us just go through the motions of exercise
without fully understanding the importance
of intensity. I’m sorry to break it to
you but weight lifting hurts. You must
work out hard and consistently, pushing
.yourself to add more weight while keepmg
a perfect a form as possible. Intensity
is simply trying hard enough.
2. Too much intensity & not enough
rest. The number that fall into this category
is significantly smaller than the
previous one. Unless you’rejuiced to the
gills (steroids) or on supplements, you’re
not going to be able to work out every day
of the week. Normal guys and gals need to
Mind Space, no. one
¯ recuperate. The trick is finding out the
right amount that suits you. For some,
¯ working out 2-3 per week is best. For the
: more advanced, 5 per week is optimum.
¯ 3. Inconsistency. You must commit ¯
¯ YOurself toworkingout on aregularbasis. If you make working out a priority, put-
¯, ling it ahead of social engagements, you
¯ will make progress. And if you’re only
working out three times a week (5 max.)
¯ that lives plenty of time for other things.
¯. 4. Too much time on "shaping" exercises.
Unless you’re a professi-on~l body-
" builder, there’s little need to concentrate
¯ on various parts of the body. Stick with
¯ the powermovements like bench presses, ¯
squats, leg presses, etc. These are exer-
¯
cises that build size andstrength overall.
¯ 5. Inadequate rest and/or nutrition. If
¯ you follow all these tips yet fail to get ¯
¯ enough sleep or you eat poorly, what
you’re doing is equivalent to swimming
¯ in a cement overcoat. You must sleep an
¯ amount that’s right for you. Eat lots of
¯ whole-grainfoods, vegetables, fruits, and ¯ low-fat protein sources.
¯ 6. Rottenform and time in between sets.
¯ There are various ways to make an exer- ¯
cise easier. Almost all of them constitute
¯
cheating and waiting too long in between
¯ sets. Swinging a barbell up, using your
¯ body weight, momentum and maybe a ¯
¯ eatapnltmaymakecurling aweight easier, but it will do absolutely nothing to make
¯ your muscles grow. Wait more than 30
¯ seconds (45 max.) in between sets and ¯
you lose your fatigue/tension and your
: muscles can cool down to where you’re at
: the starting point all over again.
¯ There are plenty-of other pitfalls to ¯
achieving your best physical shape, but
¯
~we’vecoveredthemostimportantofthem..~.
: Despite the image that weight-lifters ofened
awareness of my inner self and has
allowed me to stand tall and be proud of
whoi am.
i would like to here your comments,
.any questions you may have, or any subjects
you wouldlikeme to talk about. You
can e-mail me at mrac194@aol.com or
write tomein care of Tulsa Family News.
Mark your calendars for September 20.
RonGreenwoodproduces ’q"he Mr. Tnlsa
l_xather Contest" at The Silver Star Saloon.
Until next time......
Author’s note: in the leather community
Tops are recognized in upper case
and bottoms as lower case.
Mind Space, no. two
with a possible partner. Here is a tip to
remember: A Top flags left and a bottom
flags right.
You do not have to be all dressed and ."
have no place to go. There are the bars, ."
dubs, events, dub runs and more. There ¯
are many national events that happen annually
and local events you can find out
about through the local papers, the community,
leather magazines, and the
intemet. Always ask. The information is
there for your disposal.
The world is for your ialdng. Don’ t be
afraid. Take one step at a time until you
feel comfortableandremember, theleather
community is there for you with open
arms. This .tribe will help you with your
journey. After all, we are all on this journey
together.
i aminterestedin yourcomments, questions,
or topics you would like to see
discussed. Please e-mail me at
mrac194@aol.com or write to me in care
of Tulsa Family News. In October i will be
discussing leather relationships. Until
then...Play Safe, Play Sane, Play Consensually,
but most of all Have Fun!
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